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How to triple your memory skill by using this trick

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Sun, 06 Dec 2020 07:44:00 +0000

How to triple your memory skill by using this trick

Tanya Cushman:

So, I have a little test for you. Don't panic.

I'm not here to judge you. It's just a little test, OK?

First, you get 30 secondsto memorize 10 words in the right order.

After that, you get 30 secondsto write down what you remembered.

And then finally, you get 30 secondsto check your answers

So, are you guys ready? Well, we're going to start anyway.

So, memorize 10 wordsin the right order in 30 seconds in three, two, one, go! Word in picture above

OK. Stop. Now write down what you remember.

OK, and stop. Now quickly check your answers. OK, and stop. Very exciting; I hearda lot of grunting and moaning. So I hope I didn't stressyou out too much. Now a moment of reflection.

I'd like you to ask yourself, "How did I memorize this,and was it the best way to do it?" Now, for the generationof my parents and grandparents, being able to memorize something like thiswas an absolutely essential skill.

But nowadays, why would anyonewant to remember a list of anything? You just take a picture of the screen,and you're done, right? it seemed as if memorizinghas somehow become less important.

So why should we then,in today's day and age, still want to get better at memorizing? Well, to answer that question,I'd like to tell you a little story. In high school, I flunked a grade, twice.

After seven years of torture,I finally got my diploma. Sweet, sweet freedom! What would I do with it? I didn't know. One thing I did know, however, was that I didn't wantto go back to school because that old learning business, it wasn't cut out for me.

So instead, I wentto sunny California for nine months, and there I worked as a bagger,not beggar - bagger. So in a supermarket, I had to put people's groceries in bags,and then I'd get a little tip. Surprisingly, that year I learned so much

I learned how to bag a bunchof groceries really, really quickly. I learned how to drive a car. And in California, people are a little bit more openthan they are in Amsterdam.

So I also learned how to havea little chat with a stranger, just for the hell of it. That year I discoveredthat I don't hate learning, just the specific way of doing it. So I decided to go and study psychology.

Now for the first time ever, I was getting informationthat I absolutely wanted to know. Now I was spendingmore time in the library than I spent skipping schoolas a teenager, voluntarily.

The only problem was that I wasspending all of my time in the library because I'd never learned how to learn. So I started experimentingwith different methods of reading texts, of memorizing texts, and I got my reading timeof three hours per chapter down to one.

This way of studyingenabled me to do an honors program, to get my degree, and to fall in love with learning. And now I happily workfor a company called Remind, in which we teach peoplethe science and art of learning.

We're trying to bring back into educationwhat we ourselves missed. Now for the past three years, we've also organizedthe Dutch National Memory Championships for high schoolers.

We do this to show that everybodyis capable of amazing feats of memory, but also to show that memorization is about a lot more than just learningyour French or your Spanish words. And today I'd also liketo share this with you.

So, in the beginning, I made you do this little test, just to make you awareof how you're memorizing things right now. Next, I'd like to give youa new type of memory experience. This time you can even sit back and relax.

So I'm going to ask youto find a comfortable position to sit, to close your eyes,and to take a deep breath. Now, I want you to thinkof someone you know called John, and I want you to see him. Now, John just grabbed the sunout of the sky, and he just threw it on your feet.

And now your feet are gettingreally big and red and swollen because John justthrew the sun on your feet. Now you look to your knees, and on your knees, you see10 little guys playing basketball - very strange sight. And on their shirts, you can see in brightlycolored letters the "New York Knicks," so you have some Knicks on your knees. Next, you look to where your thighs are, but they're gone. Your thighs have been replacedwith Fords, the cars

They could be Ford Focusesor Ford Mustangs. Your thighs have been replaced with Fords. Now, with your bottom, you feel a hard plastic seatof a go-kart vibrating. With your bottom, you feelthe hard plastic seat of a go-kart. Your belly starts rumbling very loudly.

So you follow your belly,and it leads you to McDonald's, and there Ronald McDonaldstarts shooting rays of light at you with a ray gun. Ronald McDonald is shooting rays of lightat you with a ray gun. He hits you on your chest, and now from your chest,a big bush of gray hairs is growing.

A huge bush of gray hairis growing from your chest. So obviously, you hurry hometo shave it off, and on your doormat, you see a letter. So you open it and it has good news. As you read it, you feel a huge weightfalling off your shoulders. A huge weight falling off your shoulders. Your shoulders get all light and tinglybecause you just paid all of your bills. Big bills, little bills, each and every bill has been paid for,and you have plenty of money to spare.

Now you proceed to the bathroom, because now on your neck, a bunch of tiny bushesof thin blonde hairs have appeared. On your neck, a bunch of tiny bushesof thin blonde hair.

As you look in the mirror, suddenly your mouthjust starts talking all by itself, and it's saying, "Yes, we can;yes we can; yes we can." Now you turn around,and now suddenly your eyes are, ah, because Donald Duckjust poked out both of your eyes with a trumpet made of pure gold. Now you can open your eyes againand come back to this place.

Luckily, it's a lot safer herethan where you just came from. So, I just made you guys memorize the past 10 presidentsof the United States of America in the right order. Now I'm going to show you, and then you can seehow many of these you still know. So with each body part, I'm goingto ask you what happened there, and then you could think of it. Even better would beif you just shout it out.

Now, what happened to your feet? John threw the sun, yeah -President Johnson. (Laughter) Now, what happened on your knees?Knicks, yes - President Nixon. OK. So what were your thighsreplaced with? Fords - President Ford. OK, and what did you feelwith your bottom? OK, President Carter, yes. Some people are ahead of the game

Now, your belly led you to McDonald's; what happened? OK. Ronald McDonald shooting rays of … So Ronald Reagan. He hits in your chest, and you got what? Big bush of gray hairs - Bush senior. (Laughter) Now, your shoulders got light, why? Paid all your bills - Bill Clinton.

Now, what did you have on your neck? OK, a bush of thin blonde hairs. Bush junior. What was your mouth saying? "Yes we can" - President Obama. And what happened to your eyes? Yeah, Donald Duck, trumpet, pure gold. Who else but Donald Trump? So, if you memorized more this timethan the first time, please stand up. OK. So we have almosteveryone standing up; that's awesome.

Now, if you think this way of memorizingis more fun than the last way you used, please stand up or remain standingif you're already standing. Oh whoa, now we almost have everyone.

I'm very pleased to see this. OK. You guys can sit back down. Thank you very much. Now, when you makebizarre images to memorize, suddenly it becomes a lot easier. If you tie these bizarre imagesto a place you know well, like your body, suddenly memorizing things in orderbecomes a lot easier. OK. Well, cool.

But I asked you guys in the beginning, "Why should we, in today's day and age, still want to get betterat this - at memorizing?" Well, because by getting betterin a skill like this, you can also get betterat a different skill: the skill of experimentation. By experimenting with differentmethods of doing things, I found out that I canget better at anything.

I found out what worksfor me and what doesn't. What if I'd never learnedthe skill of experimentation? I may have never gone back to school; I may have never enjoyedstudying psychology, and I probably would nothave been standing here today, because one of the things I thoughtI really couldn't do was public speaking.

Now, there are people of every generationnot doing things that they might love, that they might even be great at because they think they can't do it. So how beautiful would it be if in schools we can teach kidsthat they can get better at anything, and they can even get betterat getting better at things, get it? But not just the kids, because the older generationis often seen as too old to learn. But they're not too rusty. Anyone can improve themselvesby experimenting, and I hope you experienced that today.

Now at Remind, we break up this processof experimentation into three steps: the check, the experienceand the experiment. The check is all about becoming awareof what you're doing right now.

So maybe during the first test,you became aware of the fact that you just repeatthe words over and over and that that doesn't work too well. The second step: the experience is all about being opento new possibilities and trying them out. So maybe during the visualization, you realize that this works a bit betteror at least you like it more.

And the third step is the experiment. This is about taking somethingfrom that new experience that you had and applying it in your own lifeto see how it works for you. So, maybe you're one of those people that when someoneintroduces themselves to you, you just immediately forget their name.

Yeah, sound familiar? And you want to use visualizationto do something about that. So far I've only taken you guysthrough the first two steps. The final step is up to you. So when I'm done here,I'd like you to take a moment for yourself and to write down an experimenton the little card we've given you and to put thatin your wallet as a reminder.

By continually followingthese steps of experimentation, you discover what you're doing; you keep yourself opento new possibilities, and you allow yourselfto continually transform. And regardless of what you're learning, be it memorizingor martial arts or mathematics, you'll get better not only in the skillthat you're trying to develop, but you'll get betterat the process of learning itself.

And that's something that sticks. It's something you could take with youto your new job, your new hobby, your new relationship, your new whatever. So this is somethingabsolutely everyone should know, and I believe we shouldteach it in schools.

But let's not just wait for itto be implemented in schools. I also believe that the most importantchange starts with the individual. It starts with you. So, go out there and experiment. Learn something new or a new way of approaching something old because there are few skillsas valuable as the art of learning. Thank you.

The Psychology of self motivation | Scott Geller

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Tue, 24 Nov 2020 06:01:00 +0000

The Psychology of self motivation | Scott Geller

Scott Geller

Beyond boundaries. What a theme, huh? Now, when I think of boundaries, I think of rules, regulations,and restrictions. And I think of the parents,and the teachers, and the supervisors, who hold us accountablewith regard to those boundaries.

That's not a bad thing. Yeah, I know, if you're like me,I need supervisors, I need someone holding me accountableto do the right thing. But beyond boundariesis something different.

I think of those leaders, those teachers,those supervisors, those parents who inspire usto go beyond the call of duty, to do more than we have to, to do it not because they tell us,but because we want to. I would like to share with you what the research saysabout how to make that happen. And not just for other people,but for yourself.

Here is the deal, how could we inspirepeople and ourselves to be self-motivated? There is another word.It's called "empowerment". You've heard that word, right? Now, the management definitionof empowerment is, "Get it done. Just get it done.

With fewer resources and less time,I empower you, make it happen." I'm talking about feeling empowered. That's different. Feeling empoweredis when you're self-motivated. Now, if you want to knowif you feel empowered, or if your child, your student,your worker feels empowered, ask them three questions.

If they say yes to these three questions,they will feel empowered. And by the way, this is not based on common sense, this is based on research. But you've all been there,so it'll feel like common sense.

Question number one:

can you do it?Albert Bandura calls it self-efficacy. Do you believe you can do it? Do you have the time,the knowledge, and the training to do what we are asking you to do? If you answer yes, good.

Second question

will it work? Do you believe that what we're asking youto do, the process, will work? Albert Bandura calls thatresponse-efficacy: believing that the behaviorwould lead to the ultimate outcome.

By the way, that takes education. We have to show them the data,we might show them some theory, we show them, teach themwhy this might work. I just used the word 'education'.

Earlier, I used the word 'training'. Is there a difference? In elementary school,we call it education. Middle school: education.High school: education. College: higher education.

Then you go to industry,what do you call it? Training. You have your training department.There must be a difference. Well, you know the difference.

Do you want your kids to havesex education or sex training?

And your kids might answerthe question differently. Because you know that training meansyou do the behavior and you get feedback. That's powerful.

Powerful. Have you ever heard this word'online training'? It's an oxymoron, isn't it? I mean training is to watch the behavior, but online training islike plastic silverware, jumbo shrimp, legal brief, country music.

I mean, it doesn't work. OK, so if you answer yes,till it will work, third question: is it worth it? So we've had a training question,we've had an educational question; this is the motivational question.

Do you believe the consequences--This is about the consequences. B.F. Skinner taught us this:"selection by consequences". Dale Carnegie quotedB.F. Skinner and said that from the day you were born, everything you did was because youwanted something for doing it.

it worth it?

So you have to convince peoplethat it's worth it. Now, by the way, if you answeryes to those three questions, you feel competent, am I right? You feel competentat doing worthwhile work. You've all been there. When you feel competentat doing worthwhile work, you're more likely to be self-motivated. You've been there.

No one has to look over you. Here is the challenge leaders, teachers. How do you inspire peopleto feel competent? Well, you give them feedback.You give them recognition.

You show them they are competent. OK. I got one more another C word: choice. Your common sense will tell you. When you believeyou have a sense of autonomy, a sense of choice in what you're doing,you feel more self-motivated. B.F. Skinner taught us that, too,in his book "Beyond Freedom and Dignity", way back in 1971. Reading that book changed my life, because I realizedthat I am controlled by consequences.

But sometimes I don't feel controlled. When I'm workingfor a pleasant consequence, it feels good, it feelslike I'm working to get something. When I'm working to avoidan aversive consequence, I feel controlled.

That is called negative reinforcement. So here is a challenge, leaders: how do we get peopleto become success seekers, rather than failure avoiders? First day of Introductory Psychology class - I teach two classes of 600 students, maybe some of you've beenin that class and remember - the first day I say,"How many are here to avoid failure?" And 80% raise your hand. I say, "Well, thanks for coming,I know you're motivated, but you are not happy campers. You probably told your friends, 'I've got to go to class.

It's a requirement.' Not 'I get to go to class.It's an opportunity.' You probably woke up to an alarm clocknot an opportunity clock." (Laughter) It's all in how you see it.

Really, it's all in how you see it. It's your paradigm. It's how you communicate to othersand how you communicate to yourself. So, Ellen Langer saidin her book "Mindfulness", - and psychologists know - "When you perceive choice,you perceive motivation." You're more motivated. So the deal is, for yourselfsit back and reflect, be mindful of the choices you have. And talk about being a success seeker,rather than a failure "avoider".

It's all how you talk, how you communicateto yourself and to others. I got a fourth C word: community. Powerful word. Psychologists knowthat social support is critical. People who perceivea sense of relatedness, a sense of connection with other people,feel motivated, and they are happier.

I want to recite a poem. It's called "The cookie thief"by Valerie Cox. And as I recite this poem, - there is only two characters,a men and a lady - put yourself in the situation. Be mindful, think about the situationand what you would do. OK? Here we go.

A woman was waitingat an airport one night With several [long] hoursbefore her flight. She hunted for a book in the airport shop Bought a bag of cookiesand found a place to drop.

She was engrossed in her bookbut happened to see That the man beside heras bold as could be [Grabbed] a cookie or twofrom the bag between Which she tried to ignore to avoid a scene She read, munched cookies,and watched the clock As this gutsy cookie thiefdiminished her stock

She was getting more irritatedas the minutes ticked by Thinking, "If I wasn't so nice,I'd blacken his eye." With each cookie she took, he took one too When only one was leftshe wondered what he'd do With a smile on his faceand a nervous laugh He took the last cookieand he broke it in half (Laughter) He offered her a half as he ate the other She snatched it from himand thought, "Oh, brother.

This guy has some nerve,and he’s also rude. [Why] he didn't even show any gratitude." She had never knownwhen she had been so galled And sighed with reliefwhen her flight was called She gathered her belongingsand headed for the gate Refusing to look backat the thieving ingrate She boarded the plane and sank in her seat Then she sought her bookwhich was almost complete As she reached in her baggage,she gasped with surprise There was her bag of cookiesin front of her eyes

"If mine are here,"she moaned with despair "Then the others were his,and he tried to share." "Too late to apologize,"she realized with grief That she was the rude one,the ingrate, the thief. So, where were you, when I was-- Where were you? Who's side were you on? Were you thinking independent?Or interdependent? I don't blame youif you think independent. That's how we are raised.

Nice guys finish last.Squeaky wheel gets the grease. Gotta blow your own horn. Independent. We come in this life of oursdependent of others, and then we can't waitto become teenagers. We are too old to do what kids do.Too young to do what adults do. So that we will do that nobody elsewould do to assert our independence. And some of us gets stuck there.We are stuck. I'll do it myself.

I don't need you. Not good. We need each other.We have to have each other's back. We need a sense of community. This independence culture that we got,we have to move to interdependent. OK, four "C" wordsthat can fuel self-motivation, and I think can fuelactively caring for people. Let me tell you a storyto put it all together. It happened over 60 years ago.

I remember it like yesterday. My parents asked me, "Hey, Scott. How would you like to get drum lessons?How would you like to play the drums?" Oh man! Would I ever? I'm thinking of Buddy Richand Gene Krupa. Most of you guys don't know those names,but they were the drummers. In those days, the drumwas in front of the band.

They had White Pearl drum sets,and I saw it myself. That was my vision. I had a vision: consequences.That was my vision. And I said, "Yeah, I wantto take drum lessons." So the teacher would bringhis drum set next to mine.

I didn't have a nice drum like this. My parents bought mea beatable drum at an auction. And they said to me, "If you get better,if your teacher tells us you get-- - they are holding me accountable - teacher says you are getting better,we will get you a better snare drum, and then a bass drum,and then some cymbals.

" And that was my vision,and that kept me going: consequences. So the teacher would come in,and he would show me stuff: this is how--, left hand; this is how Buddy Rich playswith his left hand and his right hand. and then he'd do things like a flam.

Can you hear that at the back? You OK?And this is a rimshot. (Drum) He would show me stuff.I was just 10 years old, remember? And when he showed me stuff,I felt, "Wow!" He showed me this little simple drumbeat,"Watch me, Scott, watch this." (Drum) And I practiced it. And I did it.I am feeling competent. He showed me a paradiddle, "Listen.

Paradiddle, paradiddle." "You go home and practice; next week,I want to see your paradiddling. I said, "Watch this." (Drumming) And I said, "Watch this." (Drumming) He said, "That's a double paradiddle.We didn't get there yet." I am really ahead. (Laughter)Because I'm self-motivated.

I feel competent. I'm walking through Newberg High School,Allentown, Pennsylvania. I see the music teacher, and he says, "I've heard you're learningto play the drums." I said, "Yeah! I'm getting good." He said, "You can march in the band.You can be the snare drummer.

" Wow! That felt good. Another vision. Then the teacher comes into my-- - these are private lessons, by the way,two dollars, that was a long time ago - He said, "Scott! Ready to do a drum roll." I said, "Of course,I'm ready for a drum roll." And he says, "Watch this, Scott!Here you go. Watch this." "Hmm... could you do that again?" "Scott. This is easy. Watch me. "Now, you practice that, and next week,I want to see your drum roll." He comes back the next weekand says, "How is your drum?" "Hmm... I can do a paradiddle.

"That's regression. Ha-ha.I want to see a drum roll." Week after week,now we're talking about distress. Now we're talking about apathy

. Now we are talkingabout learned helplessness. That's what psychologists call it. I remember walkingthrough that elementary school and seeing the music teacher who said, "So, Scott, how are you doing?How are the drums?" "Huh, not so good.I can't do a drum roll." You know, like adultsalways say, " Never say can't. You can be anythingyou want to be, Scott." "No. I can't do a drum roll.

I've tried and I tried,and I've kind of given up." And he says, "Scott, when you everget overwhelmed, break it down." Break it down. Can you do a paradiddle?" "Yeah!" (Drumming) "OK, what's the second beat?""Two beats." "Yeah. Well, that's a drum roll, Geller.

It's two beats." You go home and practice,and you say, "Dad and mama," - remember I was just 10 - "You go 'dad and mama, dad and mama'." ) It's a drum roll. That teacher came back the next week, "OK, Scott. I guessyou can't do a drum roll." I said, "Watch this." ) He said, "Wow!How did you learn to do that?" And I showed my teacher.

I taught my teacher. 10 years old. He said, "I've forgotten.I got into the habit of just doing this and I forgot that it is two beats.

You taught me how to teachthe drum roll, Scott. There is a lesson there:we can always learn from each other. We need to have the humilityto accept feedback, and the courage to speak up.

And we need to help each otherfeel self-motivated. How? Give them the perception of competence.Teach them about 'consequences drive us'. Let them perceive choice,and let them know it's community. We're all in this together.And we need each other.

Dr A.P.J Abdul Kalam | Inspirational lesson | How to manage failure and success

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Thu, 19 Nov 2020 15:39:00 +0000

How to manage failure and success

This is a great lesson which no universitytaught me no book taught me but that one person that institution taught me such abigger lesson so I thought of sharing with you how to manage Success mostimportantly the failure i had to repeated a number of times I don't mind repeatingthat one incident that incident for me is a university education I'm not ready anywhere i have a so far ihave gone around the orbit 71 times around the Sun i have not gone through anyeducation such a beautiful education i got in seven 1979 1980.

i thought ofsharing

with you on this occasion it is like this 1979 august 17th we wereready for launch of the satellite launch vehicle with 44 subsystem and thousandsof thousands of the components it was built in Vikram Sarabhai Space Center andat that time professor Satish dhawan was the Chairman space Commission andis also Space Center and he gave me the task 1973 to build a satellite launchvehicle to put a satellite in the orbit

1973 he gave me this task in 79 wewere ready thousands of engineers ten thousands of workers and staff they allwork together then we moved that satellite that satellite launch vehicle from vikramSarabhai Space Center to the now Satish dhawan Space Center at sriharikota those so the launch vehicle was was in the launchpad and that days 17th August 1979 and I am the mission director project directorand you're all the control center and computer takes over at t-minus eight minutescomputer take over it was very difficult for me as a mission director to checkhundreds of parameters so it has to be checked computer we handover the wholelaunch of the Rocket system system to the computer so when t-minus eight minutes came

i handed over to the computer for the launch on 17 august seven 1979 and thousands ofpeople are waiting for the launch mission centers and they're workingthroughout the country and some down train stations exactly at T-minus eightminutes computer tookover and then at t-minus four minutes computer put ahault it says don't launch

so we're all because at that time the wholerocket system alive and everybody is a closed system propallent system electronicsystem all around ready to launch computer says don't launch at t-minusfour minutes that immediately a computer printout comes out there is some problemin the second stage control system there is a leakage so you don't launch behind me thereare number of experts six -seven experts my experts ten years twenty years experienced people

i talk to them and they are there computers to find out what happened andthey tell me within a within a minute they say there's a problem in the secondstate control system and we cannot launch computer says but we believe as experts that the ignitor that is oxidizer sufficiently more there eventhough there is a leakage in system you can launch they asked me to launch that is ican say the computer shut off the computer

I can manually launch therocket system I took that i discussed with my experts Ibelieved in them i agree with them and responsible for it I immediately put the rocket in themanual mode so rocket took off hundred seconds beautiful launch and the rocketfirst stage did it's job its a four stage rocket system then thesecond stage took off with in a minute within a second it recorded to spin thatmeans which we study is control rocket system by guidance system but it wasgoing to spin

I knew I lost the rocket system within few seconds instead ofputting the satellite into orbit the whole system went to Bayofbengal so it wasa failure and then how do you handle a failure is very important for theentrepreneurs life is not so simple is a we have to handle the failures with stoutheart my chairman with that is that professor Satish dhawan exactly 6 :30

i was very tired ofcontinuously working he come to my room you join me for a press conference onthat day press call in the morning there is a press conference hundreds of Pressreporters media people have assembled just Professor Satish Dhawan toldme I am going to handle the press conference you're going to come with me he tookme there was a press the national press international press they asked lot of questions how can he put 20 cores in Bayofbengal one guy asked and likethat so many serious questions after all people will ask us questions

people's moneyso like that number of questions were there and professor Satish Dhawan said yes it's afailure first time we launched we have gained a lot of system and definitely wewill succeed i will give all the support , technologies and give the whole supposedto my scientist i will be will succeed in a year's time he said friends did youobserve what happened there I am the mission director i am theproject director I have failed the mission with me 5,000 people worked but chairmanIndian space research organisation

he take the responsibility the failure hecompletely switched my failure to his failure this is the leadership quality ex-exactly after one year that is eighteenth july 1980 we go to the launch pad and countdown starts t-minus eight minutes i handover to the computer computer checks out first stage you need it for it initiates the rocket system first stage gives the required velocity second stage givesthe required velocity third state gives the required velocity and four stagerequired the escape velocity for to put the satellite in the orbit,

i amseeing in front of me what is performance taking place i took themicros with the mic announce all the station here is your mission directorthe satellite is into orbit and we congratulate you I told them no that'snot the important that's one of the important things happen but after 30minutes Satish dhawan called me go to the press conference you conduct the pressconference he said can you see the significance failure he took it and success

he gave me to my team just a great lesson is a great lesson yeah this is a great lesson which no university taught me no book taught me but that one personthat institution that taught me such a bigger lesson.

self-confidence tips | THE SKILL OF SELF CONFIDENCE

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Tue, 17 Nov 2020 15:56:00 +0000

self-confidence tips;

Self-confidence

Transcriber:

Jaime OchoaReviewer: Elisabeth Buffard In my past life as a soccer coach, once you won a national championship, everyone wants to come play for you. Really not true. Once you paid them$ 25,000 a year in scholarships, everybody wants to come play for you. And parents would alwayscome to me and they'd say: "Okay, my son or my daughterwants to come play at your university, what is it that we have to do? You know, what are you looking for?" And being the Socraticprofessor that I am, I say, well, what doesyour son or daughter do? What do they do really wellthat we'd be interested in? And typically their answers are,well, they've got great vision. They're really good. They can see the entire field. Or, my daughter is the fastest player,there's nobody that can beat her. Or, my son's got a great left-footer.

Really great in the airand can hit every ball. I'm like: "Yeah, not bad; but to be quite honest with you, those are the last thingsI'm looking for. The most important thing? Self-confidence." Without that skill, and I usethe word skill intentionally, without that skill, we areuseless as a soccer player. Because when you lose sightor belief in yourself, we're done for. I use the definition of self-confidence to be the ability or the belief to believe in yourself,to accomplish any task, no matter the odds,no matter the difficulty, no matter the adversity. The belief that you canaccomplished it, self-confidence. Some of you are saying,"Great, I don't have it. I'm so shy. I'll never do that, bla, bla, bla." And you start to dragall the way down here. But, I use the word skill because I believe it can be trained. And I'll show you a coupleof ways in which we do. Hopefully I won't run out of time. I don't use any slides because my speech always goeshere, or here, or here. So we'll see which way we get to. The easiest wayto build self-confidence: there's no magic button. I can't say: "Hey, this planeis going down, who can fly? Put your hand up." "I can, I'm confident!" (Laughter) Repetition, repetition, repetition. Right? What does Malcom Gladwell call it,the 10,000-hour rule? There's no magic button. I recruited a goalie from Colombia,South America one year. Big, tall 6'3" man.

You know, he had hands like stone. I thought he was like Flipper. Everytime I threw him the ball,down, onto the ground. I was like, oh my god,we're in trouble. Simple solution: get to the wall, kick a ball againstthe wall and catch it. kick the ball againstthe wall and catch it. His goal was 350 a dayfor eight months. He came back,his hands were calloused, the moisture on his handswere literally gone, he is now playing in Europe. Magic? No. Repetition, repetition, repetition. The problem is, we expectto be self-confident but we can't be unless the skill, or the task we're doing, is not novel, is not new to us. We want to be in a situation where we have somuch pressure in that and what I mean, causepressure builds diamonds, we want to be in a situation where "hey, I've done thisa thousand times". I did my speech, and I practiced in front of a mirror:bla, bla, bla, bla, bla, bla. Hey I'm sounding good. And then I wentin front of my kids, and my wife. I said, oh gosh, I got a little nervous. Then I'd get in front of Glenn Gould, Oh my goodness,I am a little more nervous! By the time I get to the ACG, where 2,500 people,can't say anymore, right? Twenty-five hundred people, where twenty-five hundredpeople are there, I won't have a singleounce of nervousness because of my ability to practice. Right? Over, and over, and over, again. The problem with repetition is: how many of us bailafter the first bit of failure?

How many of us bail afterthe first bit of adversity? Edison was on that video, and it depends who you ask, there's anywhere from 1,000 to 10,000 triesto build that light bulb. 1,000 to 10,000. J.K Rowling should be on that video. Do you know how many publishersshe took her Harry Potter book to? I believe the number was 12 or 13... I am pretty confident butafter two or three noes I'd be like: "damn it!". After six or seven, I'm like: "maybe not!" Definitely after nine or ten I'd be looking to be a soccer coach or something else besides an author. (Laughter) Right? I mean, twelve times somebody said no. But, practice, practice, practice,and do not accept failure. Maybe it shouldn't be repetition, maybe the answer should be persistence. Because we all repeat something butvery few of us really will persist. So that's one way to build self-confidence. Get out there. Do what you want to doand do not accept no. The other one is self-talk.

We all have a self-talk tapethat plays in our head. Anybody go shopping andput on a pair of pants this week? If you're a woman, the first thing that always comes: "damn I look fat in these pants!." And if you're a man,it's the opposite: "Oh god, I got no muscle,I'm so flabby!" Right? We all have this tapethat plays in our head. As a student,if they asked me the question, it was like: "Oh, gee please professordon't pick me, I don't know the answer." I'd look down. Right? If you're in the b...when I,let me tell you something, and the VP of business adminis.here, I shouldn't repeat this, but when they hired meas an Athletics director, I sat in an architect's meeting, and I am as dumb as a post when it comes to anything to dowith numbers and angles.

And they are like: the fundibulator valve of the architectural, uh, what do you think doctor Joseph? Uh, let me look into that for youand get back to you. (Laughter) Right? I was in a, oh god god, please don'task me, please don't ask me. We all have this negativeself-talk that goes in our head. Guess what? There's enough people that are telling us we can't do it. That we're not good enough. Why do we want to tell ourselves that? We know for a fact thatthoughts influence actions. We saw it there with the videoSheldon, Dr. Levy showed. We know that ourthoughts influence actions, why do we want to say thatnegative self-talk to ourselves? We need to get our own self-affirmations. Muhammad Ali, what washis self-affirmation? I am the greatest! Who else is going to tell you? There need to be quietmoments in your bedroom, quiet moments whenyou're brushing your teeth.

That we need to reaffirm: "I am the captain of my shipand the master of my fate!" That is my affirmation. I came from a schoolof one thousand people, I lived in a town of one thousandpeople for fifteen years; there's no reason that I should bein charge of an Athletics department, building maple leaf gardens. But I am the captain of my shipand the master of my fate. If I don't say it, if I don't believe it, no one else will. How do you build self-confidence? Get away from the peoplewho will tear you down. There's enough of that. Muhammad Ali, I am the greatest!There is no one better than me. There's a difference betweenhubris, and ego, and false pride. It's just reminding yourselfin quiet silent moments, I put it down on a list, it's right beside my mirror, right? about all the things thatmake me who I am. Because I make enough mistakes, and the newspapers will recognize it, and people around mewill recognize it; and they'll tear me down, and pretty soon I'll begin to believe it. There was a time whenmy confidence was really low.

There was a time when I took this job when I came from Iowa, I don't know if I could do it. I had to bring outmy self-confidence letter. A letter I wrote to myselfwhen I was feeling good. Ivan, congratulations ongetting your PhD before 40. Congra...I am 40, under. (Laughter) Congratulations on winninga national championship. Good job on raising three good kidsand marrying the right woman. I wrote a letter to myself, it was my own brag sheet. My own letter aboutthe things I was proud of. Because there are moments, and we'll all experience themin our career, in our lives, in our job hunting, in our relationships; when we are not feeling good about who, and what, and where we are. And I had to bring out that letterand read it time and time again, for a period of about two weeks,to weather me through that storm.

It was important. Stop the self-talk,the negative self-talk. If you watch you'll see some athletesthat have a little bandage, or a little brand around them. Lance Armstrong is a perfect one. What's his self-affirmation? Livestrong isn't a brand,it was to remind him of who he was. Live strong.Then it became a brand. He would move that fromone arm to the next arm, when doubt and fearcame into his mind. Live strong, put it on there, let's go. We'll all have it, we place it. Two ways to build self-confidence. I'm worried about my time I'm gonna tell you of one way you can buildself-confidence in others. We are coaches and educators, we are teachers, we are people who will create value in the world; and in doing that, we are criticalby the nature of what we do. I am a coach, I want you to score a goal. The ball went over high.

"Dang it!" The ball went high! "Thank you coach, I know that.Feedback tells me that." So what do we do? I need you to put your elbow here, I need you to putyour knee over the ball, I need you to follow through. Boom. Land. Great. Notice, I never made itas a professional. (Laughter) What can we do? We fix mistakes. When I'm fixing that mistake: "Johnny, this is terrible, you need to bend your knee,you need to do this, this." What have I done to Johnny'sself-confidence? Bend your knee,then do this, then do this. Next thing you know, Johnny's crushed. Ignore what Johnny does wrong and find Bob or Sally or Freda over here. Great goal Freda, I love howyou kept your knee low, you followed through,and you landed like this. Great job! Johnny: "Oh?" Great! Johnny's not demoralized. His confidence isn't shot, and what I've done is,I've built up Freda's. Imagine how we could changethe way we parented kids. Instead of: "get that glass off the counter,what's wrong with you?" (Laughter) If we catch the mother, good. Great job! Great job. Thank you Alice for takingyour glass to the counter. It sounds simple butwe forget about it. Or as educators,or as somebody as a team, if we manage to praise the positive behaviour thatwe wanted to reinforce. We forget it. It sounds so simple. Catch them when they're good. We forget it.

It's simple. Here's what they did. There was a studyin Kansas that did this. They did video, and we all do video. And we show the video of themdoing the run of the play: "Um, this goal happened becausethe basket wasn't protected, we didn't rotate here, right? We needed to do thisand then cover the slot." And, if that's the baseline, improvement of the KansasState team went like this. Then, they said they ignored all of that and they just showed themthe times they did it right. The times they did it perfect. That presented no goals,spoke to the same points, improvement went like that. It changed and revolutionizedthe way we as coaches interact with our student athletes. We can apply that to the business world, we can apply thatto our student group works, we can apply thatto our management teams.

Easily: catch them when they are good. Last and certainly not least. My son is really good at this. Self-confident people interpret feedback the way they choose to. I ask my son who isby the far a terrible, terrible athlete, gets it from his dad. (Laughter) The game's... How's the game? Oh great! I scored three goals,I got two assists. I'm like: "I did not see him touch the puck!" But he has his own perception of how he did! (Laughter) I love it! (Laughter) Right? I'm the...I'm that guy! I'm like: "I remember when I was taking when I met my wife, it was in the commons.

"Paulie, would you like to go to the movies? Ladies? Tingly, tingly, tingle." (Laughter) And she goes: "Ah, no." I asked her again. Cause I think that she justhasn't seen me in the right light. (Laughter) Maybe, that's not the wrong shirt on. Right? Cause I'm interpreting thatthe way I want to interpret it. Finally I asked her out again. She gave me this one comment, right?Or, she sent it to her friend. Cause that's the way you did it back then. "She wouldn't date you unless there was the last person on Earth, hell was freezing over, there was a small chancewe had to save the planet Earth. Some people, it's like, there's no chance. I'm like: "You're sayingthere's a chance." (Laughter) Right? Because that's how I'm gonna interpret it. If I could give youone thing to take from this, it is: no one will believe in you unless you do.

Listen to the words of that video, here's to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes. We're supposed to be different, folks. And when people look at us, believe in yourself. Thank you.

JUDGING OTHERS

HOW TO GET YOUR BRAIN TO FOCUS

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Mon, 16 Nov 2020 17:25:00 +0000

Translator: Viviane P.Reviewer: Amanda Chu A few years ago, I began to observesomething in my own behavior that made me a bit uncomfortable. And that was that from the momentthat I woke up to the end of the day, my life was a series of screens. I started the day with the thing that woke me upfirst thing in the morning, my phone, and so I sat there in bed watchingvarious cooking videos on Instagram and bouncing around between a bunchof different applications. But then it was timeto get out of bed and cook breakfast, and so the thing that I focused then on, in addition to the omelette in the pan, was the iPad that wasright next to the oven.

And then it was time to do some work, and so I went to a different screen which was attachedto another screen itself. All the while, this little devil on my wrist was tapping and beepingand blooping and distracting me as I was tryingto get important stuff done. But there was one particular offenderout of all of these different devices that I wasted more time onthan anything else. That was this dastardly thing: my phone. I could spend hourson this thing every single day. And so I decided to essentially,for all intents and purposes, get rid of the thing for a month. As an experiment, I thought, "I'm going to live on this thingfor just 30 minutes every single day at a maximum." And so this is the amountof time I have for maps, this is the amount of timeto call my mother, this is the amount of time I have for everything that I couldpossibly want to do, to listen to music, to listen to podcasts, and I observed what happenedduring this time. It took about a week to adjust downward into a new,lower level of stimulation, but once I did, I noticed that threecurious things began to happen. First, my attention span grew.

It was like I could focus on things, not effortlessly, but with much more ease than I couldbefore this experiment started. In addition to this, though,as I was going about the world and especially when my mindwandered a bit, I had more ideas that my mind arrived at, and on top of this, I had more plans and thoughtsabout the future. Getting rid of one simple deviceled to these three effects. Why? Noticing this a few years backled me on this long journey to get to the bottom of what it takesto focus in a world of distraction.

I pored over hundreds of research papersfrom front to back at my office. I don't know if you've ever watchedone of those crime shows where somebody's solving a murder. And so they have this big Bristol board, and there's string attached to papers attached to memosattached to newspaper clippings - this is like what the stateof my office was. I flew out to meet expertsaround the world who study focus; I conducted more experiments on myself until the point I had25,000 words of research notes about why this is the case. How does technology influenceour attention and our ability to focus? I want to start with the attention spans that we have.

This is how we pay attentionto the world around us and how much controlwe have over our focus. The research aroundthis particular area is fascinating. It turns out that when we do workin front of a computer, especially when our phone is nearby, we focus on one thing for just 40 seconds before we switch to doing something else, and when we have things like Slack openas we're doing some work, this lowers to 35 seconds. But the reason that this is the caseis not what we might think, after looking at the research.

We think the problemis that our brains are distracted. But after looking at the research, this is what I've come to knowas a symptom for the deeper problem, which runs much more deeply -it's the root cause of this distraction. It's not that we're distracted;it's that our brains are overstimulated. It's that we crave distractionin the first place. Our brains love these tiny little nuggets of information and social media and email and these things that we doover the course of the day. There's even a mechanism in our mindcalled the "novelty bias," by which our mind rewards uswith a hit of dopamine, one of those wonderful pleasure chemicals, the same one we get when we eat and ordera whole medium pizza from Domino's, you know, the same onethat we get when we make love. We get that same stimulationwhen we check Facebook.

We get this dopaminecoursing through our mind. And so we not only crave distraction, but our mind rewards us for seeking out and findingdistraction in the first place. So, this is the state of our minds today. We're at this hyperstimulated state where we bounce around between these bunchof different objects of attention that are very, verystimulating for our mind. And so I thought, "Okay, if the phonehad this impact on my attention span, what if I lowered how stimulatedI was even more, still?" And so, you know,this feeling that we experience when we go from beingin a state of high stimulation into a state of low stimulation, it has a name.

That name is called "boredom," (Laughs) you know, this restlessness that we feelwhen we have this super busy week and then we're lying on the couchon a Sunday afternoon, thinking, "Alright, well, what am I doing now?" So, I put out a call to the readersof my website and I asked them, "What is the most boring thingthat you can think of doing? I'm going to make myself boredfor an hour a day, for a month." And so I did some stuff that I still amupset about from my readers, to this day. Day one, I read the iTunesterms and conditions for one hour. (Laughter) It's actually shorter and more readablethan you might think.

Day four, I waited on hold withAir Canada's baggage claims department. It's very easy - This is the trick: if you want to make yourself bored, don't call the reservations department,call the baggage claim people because you're going to wait hours,if you ever get through at all. Day 19, I countedall the zeroes that I could in the first 10,000 digits of pi. Ugh. Day 24, I watched a clock tick, tick for one hour. And 27 other activities this month. Jeez. I still think back. But curiously, I noticed the exact same effectsas I did during the smartphone experiment.

It took about a weekfor my mind to adjust downward into a newer, lower level of stimulation, and this maps, curiously,on top of research that shows that it takesour mind about eight days to fully calm down and rest, like when we're on vacation,as an example. Our vacations need to be longerthan they are today. But I also noticedthat my attention span expanded. I was able to focuseven more effortlessly because I wasn't surroundedby fewer distractions, but my mind was so much less stimulated that it did not seek the distractionin the first place.

But the fun part were these ideasand plans that struck me that didn't before, and the reason that this is the case is because my mind had a chanceto wander more often. There's a great quote that I lovethat you might be familiar with from J. R. R. Tolkien, where he says that"not all those who wander are lost," and the exact same thing is true,it turns out, with regard to our focus, with regard to our attention.

If you think back to when your best,most brilliant ideas strike you, you're rarely focused on something. Maybe this morningyou were taking a shower, or maybe some morning in the past, and then your mind had a chance to connectseveral of the constellations of ideas that were swirling around in your mind to create an idea that wouldnever have materialized otherwise if you were focused on something else, on your phone, for example.

This is a mode, especially when we do this deliberately,when we deliberately let our mind wander; I call this mode "scatter focus." And the research shows that it lets our mind come up with ideas,it lets our mind plan because of where our mind wanders to. This is fascinating. It turns out that when we justlet our attention rest, it goes to three main places: We think about the past,we think about the present, and we think about the future.

But we think about the pastless than we might think, only about 12% of the time, and often we're recalling ideasin these thought-wandering episodes. But the present, which is a much moreproductive place to wander - we wander to thinkabout the present 28% of the time. And this is, you know, somethingas simple as you're typing up an email and you can't find a wayto phrase something because it's very delicate,maybe it's political, you go and walk to another room,to another room of the house, the office, and the solution hits you because your mindhad a chance to approach it and prod at that problemfrom different directions.

But here's the thing: our minds wanderto think about the future more than the pastand the present combined. Whenever our mind is wandering,we think about the future 48% of the time. This is why when we're taking a shower,we plan out our entire day, even though it hasn't started yet. This is calledour mind's prospective bias, and it occurs when our mind wanders.

If you're good with math, or maths, I should say - not in Canada anymore - these numbers don't add up to 100. It's because the rest of the time,our mind is dull, it's blank, or it doesn't have an idea inside of itthat is rooted in time. But whatever it is for youthat lets your mind wander, something that's simple, something that doesn'tconsume your full attention. Mine happens to be something that is not necessarily stereotypicof my age and gender demographic, but I love to knit.

Knitting is one of my favorite hobbies; I knit in planes, I knit on trains,I knit in hotel rooms. I was knitting in the hotel roombefore this event today because it helps calm you down,it helps settle your nerves. And I come up with so many ideaswhen I knit, I have a notepad next to me. But whatever it is for you - it might be taking that extra long shower,it might be taking a bath, upgrading your shower to a bath so you can soak not just with your bodybut with your ideas as well.

It could be simple; if you're at work walkingfrom one room to another in the office - very simple change - but if you don't use your phoneduring that walk, your mind will go to the meetingthat you're about to attend, it'll go to the callthat you were just on, it'll wander to the ideasthat are circulating, and it'll make youmore creative in this way. It could be somethingas simple as waiting in line and just, I don't know, waiting in line. It could be getting a massage.

You know, whatever it isthat lets your mind - I love this picture so much - (Laughter) whatever you love doing. Here's a pro tip: Ask your masseuse to let youhave a notepad in the session because ideas always come to youand you're always incubating things, so capture them so you can act upon them later. But I think, after doingthis deep dive into the research, we need to make two fundamental shifts with regard to how we thinkabout our attention.

We think that we need to fit more in - you know, there's all this talkabout "hustling." I'm an anti-hustler. I'm one of the laziest peopleyou'll ever meet, and I think that's what gives meso many ideas to talk and write about. We don't need to fit more in. We're doing enough; we're doing too much. We're doing so muchthat our mind never wanders anymore.

It's sad. This is when our best ideasand plans come to us. We need more space. If you look at what allows trafficto move down a highway, what allows it to move forwardisn't how fast cars are moving, as you might expect, it's how much spaceexists between the cars that allows traffic to move forward. Our work and our life are the same way. The second shift: we like to think of distractionas the enemy of focus. It is not.

It is a symptom of whywe find it difficult to focus, which is the factthat our mind is overstimulated. I have a challenge for you. It's a two-week challenge, but it's a challenge to make your minda bit less stimulated and simply notice: what happens to your attention? How many ideas do you get? How does your focus change? How many plans do you make? So, for two weeks,make your mind less stimulated. There are so many great featureson phones, on devices that'll let us eliminate a lot of the timewe waste on our devices.

Use those features, not only to become awareof how you spend your time but how you can spend lessso you have more ideas. Have a disconnection ritual every evening. One of my favorite daily rituals: I disconnect from the Internet completely from 8pm to 8am. My fiancée and I, we havea weekly disconnection ritual, a technology Sabbath every Sunday, so we can disconnectfrom the digital world and reconnect with the physical world,the real, actual world.

Rediscover boredom -you don't have to do it for an hour. Please don't call Air Canada.It's just a world of hell. But rediscover boredom,just for a few minutes. Lay on the couch,and where does your mind go? And scatter your attention. You'll find someremarkably fruitful things in that attentional zone. If there's one thingthat I have found to be true after doing this deep diveinto this world on how we focus, it's that the state of our attentionis what determines the state of our lives.

If we're distracted in each moment, those moments of distractionand overstimulation build up and accumulate to create a life that feelsmore distracted and overwhelming, like we don't have a clear direction. But when we become less stimulated,when we make our mind more calm, we get the benefits of added productivityand focus and ideas and creativity, but we also livea better life because of it.

JUDGING OTHERS:

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Sat, 29 Dec 2018 05:17:00 +0000

A man once called for his four sons and sent each of them to go and look at pear tree that was miles away from their home.

1) One son goes to that tree in winter season.

2) The second in spring.

3) The third in summer.

4) And the youngest son goes in autumn.

After a year passed father asked four sons. If they visited the tree and could describe to him what they have seen,

1) The first son said tree was ugly, bent, twisted,

2) Second son said are you kidding. The tree was covered with fresh green buds,

3) Disagreeing from two brothers the third son said it was full of blossom that smell so sweat. It is the most beautiful thing i had ever seen in my life,

4) Last son said they are all wrong dad. The tree was ripe and drooping with fruit It was so full of life.

Dad explained to his sons they were all correct each of them had seen only one season in life of tree and then they taught them a lesson that you cannot judge a tree or a person by only one season or by only one phase of their life. The essence of who they are can only be measured at the end when all seasons are ended.

If you give up when it's winter, you will miss the promise of your spring, the beauty of your summer and fulfillment of your fall or autumn .let's not allow pain of one season to destroy joy of rest. Let's not judge life by one difficult season. Judge life as better time are sure to come sooner or later.

Vision

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Wed, 13 Jun 2018 09:20:00 +0000

1. A guy came and was grumbling about the problems, difficulties that he was going through, his relationship were in a deep mess, nobody was trying to understand him. Everything was going wrong and he had done nothing.

2. All through conversation he was asking that why this happening to me. Do what you can do to sort it out , If its your fault, correct it, if its someone else's fault and that person is with in your access discuss with him communicate to them.

3. Often what we go through is neither our fault nor of someone. For example; A serious disease that we go through. we didn't do anything wrong to get it and nobody else did anything wrong to have us get it.

4. So how to deal with it. here what we do. A little boy once came running to his mother and asked her, What are you doing , mom ?. She replied, "I am making beautiful embroidered design on this nice cloth. little boy looked up to the cloth and said, A design? all I can see is just some colored threads yellow, blue, green, all tangled up, messed up into each other, All complications and you call it a design?.

4. The mother picked up the little boy, put him on her lap and said to him, "now look at it my son" and boy saw a beautiful design, an incredible pattern, a systematic plan and a layout evolving on this cloth.

5. The mother said to boy, when you look at cloth from downside all you see mess, when you look at the cloth from upside all you see is a beautiful design, a plan, a pattern.

6. Ladies and gentlemen overwhelming challenges in our life for no fault of ours or no fault of anybody else and we cannot do anything to sort it out.

7. If we see and look at it from our point of view. all we see is a mess. But when we look at the same situation from life's point of view from God's point of view we see a beautiful design, a pattern, a plan evolving in our life.

8. In fact for a beautiful design of embroidery to happen on the other side you can not avoid mess on the other side. It not just the nature of embroidery such is the nature of life as well.

9. This outlook actually gives us a very deep sense of inner strength and fortitude to face such helpless, overwhelming challenges in our life.

THANK YOU

Empowerment:

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Wed, 06 Jun 2018 10:22:00 +0000

1. Some things don't just happen, they happen because somebody decided to make them happen.

2.Do you want to know who you are? Don't ask. Act! Action will delineate and define you.

3.Life has got all those twists and turns. You've got to hold on tight and off you go.

4.The past is a place of reference, not a place of residence; the past is a place of learning, not a place of living.

5.Everything falls just in place when you continue to do the thing you love doing, irrespective of what the world says.

6.Be happy with who you are and what you do, and you can do anything you want.

Caring:

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Fri, 01 Jun 2018 17:25:00 +0000

1. Sometimes people put up walls not to keep others out ,but to see who cares enough to break them down.

2. In life have a friend that is like mirror and shadow. Because mirror doesn’t lies and shadow never leaves

Forgiveness:

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Wed, 30 May 2018 09:35:00 +0000

1. A man who say sorry when he is wrong is called Honest.
2. A man when he says sorry when he is not sure is called wise.
3. A man says sorry even when he is right is called husband.
4. When we learn to be servant in our attitude and serve others and transform into humility a lot of relationship are saved.

Rules for success;

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Wed, 30 May 2018 09:29:00 +0000

1. Think about what's next.
2. Empower people.
3. Ideas matter.
4. Take risk.
5. Be an optimist.
6. Solve problems.
7. Follow your dreams.
8. Do what you love.
9. Push yourself.
10. Learn how to handle failure.
11. Imagine the outcome.
12. Be righteous.
13. Fight to be you.
14. Break through limitations of imagination.
15. keep learning gives creativity leads to thinking provides knowledge makes you great.
16. Be a teacher.
17. Works with integrity.
18. Follow your dreams.
19. Inspire others.

Journey of life;

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Wed, 30 May 2018 04:13:00 +0000

1. In journey of life, the take-off which is our birth is completely beyond our control we didn't choose our parents, we didn't choose which nation we were born, we didn't choose in which city we are born in , we didn't choose the socio-economic class we are born, we didn't choose are looks, we didn't choose the religion we are born in, our take off ,of journey of our life is completely beyond us and the landing, death, even that will be completely beyond us.

2. Many people say that they love to die by getting massive heart attack and dropping dead, no hospitalisation, no trouble in one shot go, no matter how much we might wish that its also beyond us.

3. The turbulence during journey or the problem in our life some of then which we can solve .

4. So what is in our control however is the choice we can make when we learn to make those right choices we learn to live happy, fulfilled life despite of all our turbulence going.

5. It is said when we are beautiful it's God gift to us, when we live our life beautiful, it's is our gift to God.

6. So being a male is matter of birth, being a man is a matter of age, being a gentleman is a matter of choice and a corollary to that being a female is matter of birth, being a women is a matter of age, being a gentlewomen is a matter of choice.

7. Last but not the least, by making right choice it's our gift to God.

Foundation for building out any relationship:

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Thu, 24 May 2018 03:50:00 +0000

Forgiveness is the foundation of a meaningful, deep, true relationship. To let go if somebody has hurt us and to say a sorry if we have hurt somebody and letting things go, is what makes relationships profound meaningful and deep. Which is why, when we say a sorry it doesn't mean that you are wrong it just mean that you value the person and relationship more than being right. you have to choose what you want, being right or love and if you want love sometimes you to say sorry even if you are right.

Motive of life :

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Tue, 22 May 2018 15:52:00 +0000

1. Travel as much as you can because to learn and to explore more about yourself.
2. Make your own way let others people follow it.
3. if This opportunity is lost other more beautiful opportunity is waiting for you.
4. We should be self dependent.

Nature Beauty:

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Tue, 22 May 2018 15:42:00 +0000

You are never alone, nature is with you every time in your joy and sorrow. If nature is against you instead of all people of world is with you no one can save you from your destruction, but if nature is with you then you need no one with you, nature has all the things. nature will always help you at the right time when you really need her.

Good and Bad time :

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Mon, 21 May 2018 04:03:00 +0000

We don't have to blame bad time. After bad good comes like in a toffees packet if their blue, green, white toffees and you like blue and green toffees and hate white. you will eat all blue and green toffees . In last white will left you have to eat it without any choice. But if you eat randomly white, blue and green you will get all the taste and you will enjoy it . now consider white toffee as bad time and blue, green as good time. its on you whether have to use it randomly or continuously.

Different:

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Sun, 20 May 2018 15:14:00 +0000

Whatever you do, Be Different that was the Advice My mother gave me, And i can't think of Better Advice for an entrepreneur. If you're Different you will stand out.

Failure:

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Sat, 19 May 2018 10:25:00 +0000

You learn more from your failures than from success. Don't let it stop you. failure builds characters. It will help you to make best out of it.

Never Give Up:

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Sat, 19 May 2018 09:59:00 +0000

In life you should never give up because that is just the place and time that the tide will turn and you will succeed.
Picture Best explains the success.

Reality;

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Fri, 18 May 2018 06:50:00 +0000

Every thing is flat( No joy No sorrow ). We have come with nothing and will go with nothing . So what to loose because it doesn’t belongs to us .

What we think isn’t Greatness what we practice is Greatness;

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Fri, 18 May 2018 04:10:00 +0000

Learn from every moment because life never stops teaching.

Patience

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Thu, 17 May 2018 15:28:00 +0000

Always remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck because something much better is waiting for you. Be patient.

Life Quotes:

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Wed, 16 May 2018 10:56:00 +0000

Life:

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Wed, 16 May 2018 10:50:00 +0000

Everyone gets a chance to life to make a difference and to make it happpen we have live example of this like Bill Gates , mark Zuckerberg , Sundar pichai and many more .Two of this are college dropper yet they are successful in life . Life can go you round anytime . Or life simply happiness, consciousness , existence , and keeping learning from your past and present experiences and nurturing yourself..

Silence is the answer of all of your question;

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Tue, 15 May 2018 16:20:00 +0000