ah! towards intense joy

Situations In Which She Wants Sex

noreply@blogger.com (Kiran) — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 17:44:00 +0000

After exercise

A workout has a number of mood-enhancing physiological effects, and a woman in a good mood is ready for it.

First, exercise releases endorphins that make girls feel happy. Second, a good workout helps detoxify the body from the inside out via the lymphatic system, making all body systems function more effectively -- including the reproductive side of things. Third, your girl is doing something positive for her body; she doesn’t have to feel guilty anymore for the cakes she ate or if she hasn’t been to the gym for a long time.

When she’s angry

Aggression is a strange but powerful aphrodisiac. Ever wonder why make-up sex is so good? Being fired up gets her aggressive side going, and aggressive women love sex. The trouble with angry sex is that if she’s mad at you -- which, let's face it, is highly likely -- she isn’t going to want to let you win by having sex with you. It is a juxtaposition that she will find highly confusing -- her desire undermines her by making her want you even more than she normally does, but if she were to follow through on this desire, she would be voiding the argument.

The best way to take the heat out of her head and re channel it into her knickers is to be exceptionally cute and sexy. Acting like a sweet puppy will take the fire out of her -- who can be angry with a cute little pup? Once you successfully charm her, you can then take full advantage of her passionate rage.

Another good way to let out some pent-up aggression and frustration is to wrestle with each other -- fun wrestling, of course. The good thing about this is that you are probably a lot stronger than her, which means that she gets to really fight you. This will fire her up in no time. It is a fun way to let it all out, and it often ends in sex because of the close body contact and high energy levels involved.

Good luck.

BE CRAZY AND MAKE LOVE...FOR A GOOD HEALTH!

noreply@blogger.com (Kiran) — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 19:10:00 +0000

Many a times I come across this question:
How often should I have sex?

My answer is simple:
As often as you can!

There is a book written by a couple who had sex 101 days non stop-"Just do it".
They planned and just did it!

Though it may depend on a person to person, there are

For a healthy life,
at least 10 reasons to make love. !

1.Exercise.
"Sexual activity is a form of physical exercise," according to Dr. Michael Cirigliano of the University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine. Making love three times a week burns around 7,500 calories in a year -- the equivalent of jogging 75 miles.

2. Heavy Breathing.
A night of love can raise the amount of oxygen in cells, helping to keep organs and tissues functioning at their peak.

3. Strong Bones and Muscles.
"Any kind of physical exercise is going to increase testosterone," states Dr. Karen Donahey, director of the Sex and Marital Therapy Program at Chicago's Northwestern University Medical Center. Testosterone is believed to help keep men's bones and muscles strong.

4. Lowered Cholesterol.
Making love regularly can lower levels of the body's total cholesterol slightly, while positively changing the ratio of good-to-bad cholesterol.

5. Pain Relief.
Sex can lower levels of "arthritic pain, whiplash pain and headache pain," according to Dr. Beverly Whipple, president-elect of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists. Hormones that are released during sexual excitement and orgasm can elevate pain thresholds.

6. DHEA.
Without Supplements. DHEA (dehydroepiandrosterone), a popular supplemental hormone, is released naturally during lovemaking. "Just before orgasm and ejaculation," Crenshaw says, "DHEA spikes to levels three to five times higher than usual."

7. Prostate Protection.
Researchers say prostate trouble may arise or be worsened by fluid buildup within the gland. Regular ejaculation will help wash out those fluids. Be cautious when suddenly changing frequency -- sudden changes may also trigger prostate problems. 8. Stress Relief. "Sex can be a very effective way of reducing stress levels," Donahey told Men's Health.

9. Love Will Keep Us Together.
Crenshaw says affectionate touch will increase levels of oxytocin -- the "bonding hormone." Oxytocin is a desire-enhancing chemical secreted by the pituitary. Regular oxytocin release may help encourage frequent lovemaking.

10. Hormones
Naturally. "Regular lovemaking can increase a woman's estrogen level, protect her heart and keep her vaginal tissues more supple," states Donahey.
SOURCE: Men's Health (November 1997, p. 104-108)

Not necessarily the luckiest, richest, or most successful; are you just the happiest?

noreply@blogger.com (Kiran) — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 07:49:00 +0000

If not, why not?

Most people will reel off their current worries — the job, the kids, the car, the price of fish. I don’t mean to sweep these aside: problems need to be solved, if you can, or waited out until they disappear . But as far as living happily is concerned you have to face a crucial fact. If you can only live happily after all your problems are solved, you are never going to live happily, because when today’s problems are gone and forgotten, others will take their place. So either living happily is just impossible, or you have to do it in spite of your problems.

Being happy depends not so much on external circumstances as on your inner life. This means all your thoughts, perceptions, beliefs, emotions, desires, dreams — your entire mental and emotional scene.

Happiness is about how you react inwardly to events, what you think and believe, how you feel, how problems affect you. It may sound obvious, but like many obvious things it’s something that is often forgotten when it matters most. We focus almost exclusively on our external lives, on getting and spending and having fun, and then wonder why we are not happy.

But it’s when our inner lives are tranquil that we are happiest and we call this inner peace.

To be continued......

Why Men Like Wet Kisses

noreply@blogger.com (Kiran) — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 13:10:00 +0000

Before you Kiss :

Clean your mouth preferably with an antiseptic mouth freshener
Avoid constipation and indigestion
Avoid alcohol and smoking before you intend kissing someone (unless both of you intend getting drunk before kissing)
Avoid foods with garlic and onion before kissing
Don't crush your partner while kissing

Why Men Like Wet Kisses:
Researchers have finally concluded as to why men like wet kisses. According to the study men are looking for more than just passion when kissing. They are looking for the level of estrogen in women thus, to judge their fertility. Men like wet kisses with more tongue action, as revealed by Anthropologist Helen Fisher of Rutgers University. Other possibility could be that men are trying to transfer testosterone to the woman to stimulate her. "Men see kissing early in a relationship directly as a step to copulation," she said. Kisses could also be a means to judge the possible mate, as believed by Wendy Hill, a neuroscientist at Lafayette College in Easton, Pennsylvania. It was also stated by Fisher that the men and women either declared their first kiss as "the kiss of death" or the blossoming of a new relationship.

SO, WHAT DID YOU DO LAST NIGHT?

noreply@blogger.com (Kiran) — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 21:23:00 +0000

The Economics of Infidelity

Even infidelity has its price, new research suggests.
Would-be participants in an extramarital affair tend to calculate both the economic and biological benefits beforehand, researchers from the University of New Hampshire (UNH) and Bryant University report.
But factors that go into the decision differ slightly between men and women, said study author Bruce Elmslie, an economics professor at UNH.
Women weigh factors including financial stability, education and whether the man is a good candidate to father a child, Elmslie wrote in a university news release.

"These factors do not come into play for men who, overall, are 7 percent more likely to cheat than women," he added. "The likelihood of a man having had an affair increases with age, and reaches a peak when a man is about 55 years old. It then decreases with age. For women, the peak is 45 years old." "The benefits of female infidelity reduce after the age of 40 because a woman would no longer benefit in terms of improved gene quality from the affair," he said. "Men also experience a reduction of sperm quality around the age of 45, but the reproductive benefits of an affair extend further into a man's lifetime than a woman's."

The study also found:

Upper-class women are 8 percent more likely to cheat than other women, while men are equally likely to cheat among all economic classes.
Men who have gone to college are 3 percent less likely to have an affair than other men, while educational status has no impact among women.
Unhappy men are 13 percent more likely to have an affair, while unhappy women are 10 percent more likely to do so.
Religious women are 4 percent less likely to cheat, while religion has no impact on whether men have an affair.

Kyklos
Volume 61 Issue 3, Pages 391 - 410; Published Online: 17 Jul 2008
By:Bruce Elmslie 1 and Edinaldo Tebaldi 2 *
1 University of New Hampshire, Department of Economics, 15 College Road, McConnell Hall, Durham NH, 03824, 2 Bryant University, Department of Economics, 1150, Douglas Pike, Smithfield, RI 02917

GOOD SEX EVERYDAY, KEEPS DOCTORS AWAY!

noreply@blogger.com (Kiran) — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 14:48:00 +0000

A kiss could help keeping dental worries at bay or a gratifying sexual act at night make you feel fit and fresh the next morning.

But that's what studies across the web claim.

The key to your mind and heart is fulfilling sex. Even for those who lose their temper or are always in a depressed state of mind, 'sex' can be the solution.

A happy sexual life with your partner not only gets you in shape with better skin texture and silken tresses, it also burns extra calories, keeps you fit, combats asthma, relieves headache, reduces depression and tranquilizes your mind. From make-up experts, hair stylists, sexologists and fitness connoisseurs – there's a common consensus that a vigorous sexual life leads to a healthy life – both physically and emotionally.

Dr. Sanjay Chugh, specialist on sexual issues, states, "Sex contributes to general good health. Any sexual intimacy that is enjoyable and pleasurable promotes well being by providing several physical and psychological benefits. It is believed that sex boosts chemicals in the body that protects us against diseases. Research also suggests that sex and masturbation can help ease joint and muscle pain, combat depression, promote heart health and lengthen one's life span."

Dr. Samir Parikh, clinical physiatrist adds, "The basic fact is that a good sex life also means in a larger picture, a good relationship with one's partner and this makes the partner happier, less stressed and by virtue of that physically healthier."
Not just this, sex also accelerates blood circulation and one's basic metabolic rate, which further enhances the well-being of our mind and soul and helps us calm down. On these emotional benefits, Dr Chugh adds, "A satisfying sexual relationship strengthens the bond between couples, making them feel secure and loved. The feeling of emotional connectedness adds to ones sense of belonging, which in totality helps them achieve a positive physical, psychological and spiritual state that is necessary for one's general health."

Elaborating further, on a scientific angle, Dr Avdesh Sharma, a consultant psychiatrist, and an expert on relationship issues shares, "Sex is a way of bonding at the physical, mental and emotional level and leads to health (including psychological) benefits. If it is used as a mechanical process, it may have limited benefits. There are physiological benefits of positive changes in parameters like pulse, heart rate, reduction in blood pressure (after an increase in B.P. specially if vigourous sex is tried), dilation of blood vessels and capillaries of the skin, leading to a 'glow', burning of a few calories (depending on the duration of the act and vigour), exercising of some of the muscles, thus improving lung capacity (during heavy breathing)."

"The extra edge of sex may be due to the feeling of being wanted, an expression of emotions and certain hormonal and physiological changes that happen as an expression of love for another individual. Unfortunately, the benefits of sexuality are usually quoted out of context and people may look at this as a panacea for everything. But sexuality without emotions have limited value," concludes Dr Avdesh Sharma.
based on:
Good sex everyday, keeps doctors away,29 Sep 2008, 0000 hrs IST, MONIKA RAWAL,TOI

5 TIPS FOR SAFE ONLINE DATING

noreply@blogger.com (Kiran) — Sat, 11 Oct 2008 18:32:00 +0000

There’s a nervousness, thrill, and excitement that occurs when meeting a person
for the first time face to face. But remember to always be on your guard when
going out on a date with someone you barely know.

Here are 5 tips on dating safety to help your online dating experience:

1. You should arrange to meet him.
When meeting for the first time, never allow your date to pick you up from your
home. In fact, your date should not even know your home address at this point!

2. Meet in busy public place.
For your first meeting, always meet in a busy public place where other people
are in close proximity. You may also want to consider going out with a group of
friends, or a double date.

3. Do not be afraid to pay half of the bill.
It's always respectful for the man to offer to pay the entire bill.
Unfortunately, some men ruin the gesture by expecting something in return.
Therefore it may not be a bad idea to pay half the bill so that you won't feel
under any obligation to "return" the favor.

4. Remember that alcohol can affect your judgment.
The largest threat to a person's judgment, when on a date, is alcohol. Not only
does it affect your judgment, but alcohol also lessens your inhibitions..

5. Use your own transportation.
Provide your own transportation to your public meeting place and make sure you
have more than enough gas.

Dating safely is very important. In the initial stages of dating and online
dating, you are still getting to know someone you know very little about. By
creating a safe environment to know the person, you’re creating a better
situation for yourself.(http://www.triplecrownnewsletters.com)

THE SCIENCE OF ECSTASY

noreply@blogger.com (Kiran) — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 22:38:00 +0000

I'm not a firm believer of Tantric Sex. Tantra is far beyond "sex", a divine study and knowledge for the attainment of Nirvana. However, I have kept my mind open. Based on the opinions of practitioners of Tantra in India, other countries and interviewing some subjects known to me personally, I'm giving below the views:

A science of ecstasy?
"Tantra, like yoga or Zen, is a path to enlightenment, which has its roots in India. It is nicknamed the "science of ecstasy" and focuses on heightening and prolonging the special awareness and rapport that exists between lovers during lovemaking. This view holds that the greatest source of energy in the universe is sexual, and places high value on ritualized intercourse. Sexual orgasm is seen as a cosmic and divine experience. Tantric philosophy also teaches that everything is to be experienced playfully, yet with awareness and a sense of sacredness in every gesture, every sensory perception, and every action.

A Spiritual Path
\The path of Tantra is a spiritual one, which includes and appreciates the experience of our sexuality and sensuality as a conscious meditation, as a flowing together of the physical, erotic and cosmic energies. If you were a devoted student of tantric philosophy, you would go through an extensive program of physical, sexual and mental exercises to heighten your sensory awareness. Through slow and thoughtful practice in lovemaking techniques you would learn to comfortably extend the time of lovemaking. In this way you would train yourself to be aware of not only your own feelings but also those of your partner. The spiritual part of tantra is to use your sexual energy to merge ecstatically with your partner and through him or her to become one with the cosmos or god.

How Tantric Sex Works
A heterosexual couple practicing tantric intercourse seeks to prolong their sexual arousal. Following slow sensual touching a couple might move to having very slow intercourse. The man might place his penis just an inch or so inside his partner's vagina and without thrusting allow it to remain in this position for a full minute. Then he may gently withdraw from her vagina and rest his penis softly on her clitoral area. Usually the clitoris is the most sensitive part of a female's genitals and it is located just above the vaginal opening. After resting in this position for another minute the couple may decide to have him again slide his penis back in. During subsequent cycles of resting and entering the vagina, the male would rest outside the vagina and then eventually rest just inside the vagina. During the rest times, the couple might just lie silently together, or gently caress each other as they focus on the experience of their union. Throughout this experience both partners may be highly aroused, hovering close to the point of reaching orgasm on several occasions.

Prolonging the Pleasure
The art of prolonging the pleasures of lovemaking without reaching orgasm is described in the Kama Sutra, the Hindu sex manual written in the 4th century, (and available in many bookstores).

"Karezza" is the term used to define a male's practice of pleasuring his partner and prolonging their intercourse by perpetuating his state of climax without actually ejaculating. These so called "dry orgasms", orgasms without ejaculation, are pleasurable, and still allow the sexual act to continue.

The art of Karezza incorporates breathing control, meditation, work with postures, and finger pressure into the sexual act. Though sexually biased in its description as written (remember it was the 4th Century), the original focus of Karezza, prolonging the state of climax for a couple's mutual enjoyment, easily translates to both partners actively participating in learning to prolong their enjoyment before reaching orgasm."

AH! EROTIC MASSAGE TOWARDS INTENSE JOY

noreply@blogger.com (Kiran) — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 21:44:00 +0000

Have you noticed where some couples are taking their relationships lately?

It's amazing!

Today's couples seem to be getting more open, more loving, and more giving.

They look for ways to enhance their relationships. They attend seminars, read books, look for new ideas.

Regardless if they've been together a day or a decade, they seem to take their love relationships seriously.

These couples enjoy sex. They make it fun. They make it exciting. They experiment.

They place priority of the endless thrill of seduction. They try to seduce, surprise, and delight each other. Sensuous couples love being together. They enjoy each others' company.

They like sharing and tasting delicious foods, sitting in splendid feelings, and seducing each other with different kinds of foreplay.

As long as it makes them feel good, sensuous couples consider it foreplay.

EROTIC MASSAGE

massage is a powerful treatment. Sensuous people love getting aroused through their skin. If you touch them, brush against them, or caress them, they respond.

To best interpret massage and sex, as in the case of erotic massage, is to expand upon its effects in heightening levels of sensual pleasures and sexual gratification. In contrast to traditional massage practices, whereas the individual receiving the massage is draped in towels, the individuals, or, rather, the couple engaged in the mutual eroticism, defined, in plain terms, as massage and sex, are totally nude.

The targeted areas of the body to be massaged are unlike those areas massaged in conventional settings. Erotic massage and sex involves massage of the groin and other intimate regions of the body, such as breasts, chest, armpits, ears, nape of the neck, as well as anal areas. As a result of this nature of sensual application, sexual arousal is highly stimulated and elevated.

Objectives in practicing erotic massage and sex serve two fold:

Initially, libido is highly stimulated, from an enhancement through the erogenous zones. Secondly, erotic massage and sex cultivates an individual ability to react sensually to such erotic stimulation.

Erotic massage and sex can also be portioned into two phases – foreplay, which is the massage portion, and climatic gratification, in the form of the actual act of complete sexual interaction.

To summarize, massage and sex, when engaged in such order, serves to increase the period of intimacy, through heightening sensitivity, increasing the level arousal, enhancing the fulfillment of pleasure, aids in the prevention of premature ejaculation, circulates erotic energy, and relaxes muscularity for prolonged eroticism and a longer period of pleasure.

Massage and sex can be supplement with certain natural oils, creams, lotions and personal lubricants to avoid any degrees of chaffing or irritation in highly sensitive areas.

The Five Massage Basics

Assorted Massage Oils
Essential Oils
Vibe-Massager
Sacred Space
Music

How to Prepare the Perfect Massage Space

1. Keep it Private

It can be anywhere. Your bedroom. Your bathroom. The living room. Even on the floor.

2. Keep it Comfortable

If you have the budget, get yourself a folding massage table. You can also use a sturdy table or surface. Be sure to pad the area and that it's comfortable to lie on. Another way to improvise is to place a twin mattress on the floor.

3. Warmth

Keeping the temperature comfortable is key. Warm the room if necessary. Remember, your beloved will be mostly naked. Try to warm everything possible. Heat towels and linens in the dryer.

4. White

Use only white linens, white candles, and white towels. You should wear white as well.

AROUSE ERROTIC DESIRE IN HER, MAN! HAVE STUBBLE!

noreply@blogger.com (Kiran) — Thu, 07 Aug 2008 14:31:00 +0000

According to the study, which was conducted by Northumbria University researchers, stubble is the way to win a woman’s heart.

As for the reason, why women find men with stubble attractive:

they find them tough, mature, aggressive, dominant and masculine and the best romantic partners.

The findings of the experiment, carried out on British women aged 18 to 44, could explain the appeal of actors such as George Clooney and Brad Pitt who cultivate their unshaven look.

The explanation for the preference is not clear, but experts in human evolution say that that facial hair may be a signal of aggression because it boosts the apparent size of the lower jaw.

“Facial hair, or beardedness, is a powerful sociosexual signal, and an obvious biological marker of sexual maturity. Facial hair may have been sexually selected by females on the basis of associated male success, despite its threatening appearance.

Clean-shaven faces therefore may suggest appeasement, as well as being an obvious sign of sexual immaturity,” (based on an article-Telegraph)

BEYOND ORGASM

noreply@blogger.com (Kiran) — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 07:51:00 +0000

Occasionally I had been asked by my readers on Tantra, Sex and Spirituality.

Leaving aside the debates in various controversy centers, review of hundreds of books and the opinions of Sadhus, Monks and Psychologists, I'm writing below what I think and believe about it.

The sex and spirituality is an elaborate subject (created by so called experts) and to explain it's relevance in few lines would not be possible. Still, I will try to be as simple as possible.

A/ Nobody has come back from heaven and explained "the intense joy of meeting God"

B/ So to claim that sex is like meeting God could be debatable and in my view may not be correct

C/ However, you can't deny the fact that reaching an orgasm in a sexual activity can give you an intense pleasure, a kind not archived by any other human activity.

There could be two approaches in category(C/);

1/ Just a physical activity devoid of anything else
2/ Can we raise this activity to a "super level" to experience something divine?

Where making love can become a giving, expressing, selfless act, which is a form of prayer in itself. Through the body, the hearts are touched; the emotions opened, needs and desire expressed, fears released, security given and souls merged?

This kind of sex probably can take you to a higher level where the genital orgasm is only the beginning and may eventually culminate in ecstatic body-to-body and soul-to-soul communion. It could be an experience to the whole body, the whole being. Where mind stops.
Quite literally "f * * k your brains out"

Tantra:
The word Tantra means "to manifest, to expand, to show and to weave." In this context, sex is thought to expand consciousness and to weave together the polarities of male and female into a harmonious whole.

Now how to reach to that higher "super level"of orgasm in sexual act?

Some of the recommended techniques are:

Welcoming love
Make time for each other every week. Plan a sexual rendezvous at least once per week. Set aside an hour or more of uninterrupted time to be together. Although it may be difficult to find the time or to manage children, you won't be able to benefit if your relationship is not a priority. Create an inviting atmosphere Whether you meet in your bedroom, living room or another space in your house, creating a sacred space for each other will help relax you and bring you into the moment. Candles, fresh flowers, erotic art, finger foods and tantalizing aromas can transform any room into a temple of sexual delight. Even something as simple as dimming the lights and playing erotic music will help create a welcoming environment.

Rituals
Dress provocatively. Or, wear nothing at all. Experiment with clothing or accessories that make you feel sexy and excite your partner. Use ritual to develop intimacy. Begin your journey with a ritual. This may be something as simple as feeding each other delicious foods or sharing a glass of wine in the nude.

Some couples enjoy bathing together in order to attune to each other.more fully. Take time to wash each other with loving care. Water relaxes the body and is a symbol of sexuality.

Massaging each other is also an excellent way to fuse your energies. Or, read poetry to each other, dance, play, listen to music—work on developing new intimacy skills. Most importantly, use this time to communicate, sharing what you adore about each other. The idea is to help each partner feel loved and cherished.

Harmonize your breathing
"The only time we ever think about breathing is when we have trouble doing it, yet conscious breathing can be a powerful aid in sexual growth," according to sex therapist Marty Klein, Ph.D. of Palo Alto, California. Breathing exercises also quiet the mind and help you focus on each other. (Some part is based on “Tantric Sex Techniques to Reinvigorate Lovemaking” By Amy Painter)

HOW TO GET WOMEN EXCITED?

noreply@blogger.com (Kiran) — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 15:31:00 +0000

This may not be applicable in all cases but worth considering:

First impressions really count so if you are in courting stage, you have to trade very carefully.

The most important thing is to take it very slowly.

Take time to get to know her and make her interested in you.

Romantic dinners are always a sure thing, but be creative and take her on the kind of date she's never been on before, something exciting and thrilling, something to remember. Make her feel special but at the same time, tease her. Always make her aware that others want you, but you shouldn't actually go out with them. Let her know you choose to be with her but that if you ever wanted, you could have plenty of action. You will excite the female competitive imagination by being a "catch" desirable to others. Women love guys who make them laugh, if humor comes naturally to you great. If not, try and make an effort. (you can always recite jokes from the Internet).

You should ignite a lady's desire slowly but surely. Female pleasure is like a... flower, it needs water, warmth and sunshine. Trying to jump in bed with her straight away is a big mistake. This will make her feel cheap and make you seem desperate. Delaying foreplay builds up and expands her excitement. Let her know that you desire her in the way you look at her and touch her.

Touching her softly all over the body ... kissing on her nipples for that matter every where ... and of course .. sweet dirty talks .. and lot of roses ..a good smelling man..

at a jewelry shop?

SEX: The First Timer

noreply@blogger.com (Kiran) — Mon, 28 Jul 2008 18:58:00 +0000

Understand it!

1. It will NOT go the way you plan, it is best to plan only the birth control, time and place.

2. If you are a girl; it will not feel very good - if you are a boy; it will be over so fast you won't know for sure how it felt.

3. You WILL be nervous and maybe a little scared - not necessarily in a bad way.

4. You will feel different about yourself and the other person - not necessarily in a bad way

5. . You will NOT suddenly be a woman or a man.

6. You may feel guilty that you are actually wanting to have sex - try to remember sex is perfectly natural and normal and not something to feel guilty about.

7. As long as you know you are ready, and care about the person you are with, you will enjoy yourself.

8. If you don't respect your partner, or you know they don't resepct you, you will have regrets.

9. If you love, or are loved by your partner, you may still have regrets.

10. Regrets are normal. You have lost something - your virginity - it is natural and normal to mourn that loss.
(based on-http://teenadvice.about.com/library/weekly/aa051500b.htm)

NOT BLOWING WELL COULD BE A RELATIONSHIP BREAKER!

noreply@blogger.com (Kiran) — Sun, 20 Jul 2008 14:22:00 +0000

I felt an urgent need to write this post due to two major reasons:

A/ There is an alarming increase of penetrative sex in teens exposing them to the risks of STD, particularly HIV/AIDS.

B/ Lack of understanding of the techniques of oral sex can be a relationship breaker in partners/marriage.

For some, oral sex is considered taboo. For others, it's a critical part of a healthy sexual life.

Here are tips to help men and women with some of the most common oral-sex problems:

Women
Swallowing:
If you don't like to swallow semen, don't feel guilty. The majority of women don't enjoy this (it's estimated that only 25 percent of women swallow semen). Remember this: It's your mouth. If you don't like it, you don't have to. Your partner can still be fully satisfied if you don't swallow his semen.

Gagging Reflex:
If you have a gagging reflex while performing oral sex on your partner, breathing through your nose can help.

Men and women
Feedback:
Be sure to give your partner adequate feedback on his/her sexual performance. It's not good enough to say: "It was fine, or you're doing great." Be more specific so you can be sure to touch your partner in the way he or she likes to be touched.

Stimulation:
Try different types of stimulation to determine which level of pressure makes your partner more aroused. Some women prefer a softer touch, while others like more intensity. The same is true for men.

For the Neck:
Consider resting your chin on your hand or a pillow so you don't exhaust your neck muscles while performing oral sex on your partner.

Pubic Hair:
If pubic hair is a problem, sweep across, part with your hands so you can prevent loose hairs from getting into your mouth.

Taste:
Beer and coffee tend to make semen taste bitter and the more protein a man eats, the thicker and gummier his semen. Vegetarians have the lightest taste of all.

Genital Fluid:
Don't worry about ingesting genital fluid. Realize that genital fluid is hygienic. In fact, it's cleaner than the saliva in your mouth unless, of course, one or both partners have an infection. In that case, flavored or non lubricated condoms should be used to prevent the passage of a sexually transmitted disease (STD).

Don't push too far!:

Don't feel obliged to perform oral sex on a man if he pushes your head down toward his penis. Tell him that's not OK. You'll be doing yourself and other women (should they follow you) a favor. It's only OK if you willingly want to perform oral sex on him, and he wants it, too.

Sex During Menses:
It's perfectly safe to perform oral sex on a woman during her period. There is no risk of endangering your health, unless of course the woman has an infection or an STD.

Relationship Breakers:

If there's an act that's important to your satisfaction and your partner isn't willing to perform it, recognize that it can be a relationship deal breaker. Be open to trying to troubleshoot issues with your partner to help him or her become more comfortable.

Your Choice:
If neither you nor your partner like oral sex, don't be concerned. It doesn't mean your sex life isn't complete. There is more to intense joy and happiness than just oral sex.
( post based on information: http://health.discovery.com/)

"HOT" and "COLD" Sexual partners; a marriage bugbear?

noreply@blogger.com (Kiran) — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 09:48:00 +0000

Lack of understanding of sexual issues can tear a marriage apart. One of the problems that can hurt a marriage includes low or high sex drive. Therefore it’s essential to help to restore balance between HOT and COLD couples.

Well, here are few suggestions
Top of the list is to learn your partner’s language of love and talk in that language. This could be more effective than anything else.

If you are a "cold" partner (low sexual desire-this is relative; for example your partner desires sex daily where as you are satisfied with once a week):

Identify if stress, work, kids, tiredness, finances or any other factor interferes with your sexual desires. If yes, then undertake some sort of meditation or talk to your partner or consult appropriate health provider/counselor.

Take more responsibility for your sexual arousal and make room in your life for sex. Follow through when you do feel in the mood and note the conditions that drive your desire so you can duplicate them

Be clear and reasonable about your sexual preconditions and requests

Exercise regularly

If you choose not to have sex, say so without feeling guilt. If you make an effort to compromise with your partner, you don't have to feel guilty when you say no.Celebrate your mental desire. Your willingness to get into your partner's frame of mind and create more desire in yourself is a reason to rejoice.

If you are a "hot" partner:

Accept the fact that your partner may need extra stimulation to become fully aroused.

Refrain from deliberately heightening your level of desire; this will exaggerate differences in desire.

Honor your partner's sexual preconditions about lovemaking.

Consider satisfying some of your purely physical needs through masturbation.

Redirect some of your sexual energy.

Don't confuse lust with love. Your partner's low sexual desire does not mean a lack of love. If it were, you'd see it played out in all areas of the relationship.

CELEBRITY FANTASISES SEX IN A CAR. It's the safest sex!

noreply@blogger.com (Kiran) — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 15:25:00 +0000

Ah, sexual fantasy. It has one big advantage over sexual reality: You have total control over everything that happens. You won't be humiliated or suffer at the hands of a brutish lover unless, of course, that's what you want.

Consider the possibilities. Your fantasy partner can be a celebrity, the guy who works down the hall, or your best friend's mate. You enjoy complete choice of venue: a tropical island, an elevator, a tree swing. And the activity in question can range from romantic, longing glances to sexual gymnastics that would strain a circus contortionist.

And have no guilt if you really want to enjoy!

Johansson’s secret fantasy:
Scarlett Johansson revealed that she wants to have sex in a car. Johansson told contactmusic,

“I want sex in the car. If I were in a really raunchy frame of mind wanting something crazy and kinky, the back seat would be it.” ANI

ENJOYING SEXUAL FANTASIES!

noreply@blogger.com (Kiran) — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 15:44:00 +0000

Are sexual fantasies bad for your relationship?

Former U. S. President Jimmy Carter was once famously quoted saying,

"I've looked on many women with lust. I've committed adultery in my heart many times. God knows I will do this and forgives me."

Women’s wildest fantasies as reported

Sex between student and teacher
Sex in public or in a public place
Sex with a multitude of partners
Sex in a place where a person might be caught in the act
Having sex outdoors
Sex, pretending you are a prostitute
Acting as if inexperienced sexually or acting as a virgin
Having sex with someone considered inappropriate such as a nun or a priest
Having sex with a famous person or fictional character
Trying sexual positions or approaches a person may not be practicing in real life
Wearing the clothing of the opposite sex or being forced to wear this clothing.

It has to be remembered the sexual fantasies are not the same as sexual realities, and committing adultery in your heart or mind is not the same as going out and sleeping with a stranger, co-worker or with your neighbor.

The research on sexual fantasy points to the fact that a healthy sexual fantasy life goes hand in hand with a healthy overall sex life. People who have sexual fantasies are more likely to be sexually satisfied, and they even have more sex.

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The negative side of sexual fantasies seems to be the emotional problems that come with feeling bad either about the content of your fantasies or the timing of them. 25% of people say they feel guilty about sexual fantasies, and it’s this guilt that can lead to trouble.

Now whether sexual fantasies bad for your relationship?

It depends on how you feel about sex and dreaming sex. What sort of impact it has on your sexual and overall relationship? If these fantasies are getting in the way of you enjoying sex with your partner, then I think there is a problem.

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If, on the other hand, you’re still happy with the level of intimacy and connection, and the kind of sex you’re having with your partner, I’m sure you needn't see the fantasies as a problem.

Also, it has to be kept in mind that to fantasize and enjoy is a better option than to keep your weird desires of sex curbed within yourself-leading eventually to something silly.

SHOULD I CHEAT MY PARTNER? WHY NOT IF I WON'T GET CAUGHT?

noreply@blogger.com (Kiran) — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 14:39:00 +0000

The rational answer from most people would be

Stop! Don't do it

A/ You are both married. If you do this you SHOULD have tremendous guilt.

B/ Once you have done it, you may regret it.

You'll want a clean conscience and you will end up telling your partner. How will she/he feel? Your partner can never trust anyone in her/his life. Your partner loved for "x" amount of years and now you betrayed her/him. The partner will look at the world with scorn and hatred. You could lose all that you have now in a messy divorce- and the children...what will they think? All for what, really?

I share that opinion.

However, falling in love second time with attraction almost unbearable is not uncommon even with the most decent and faithful people. It may happen in your work environment with your colleague, someone in your neighborhood or with your friend's wife or husband. The examples are numerous.

The situation may be-

You know your partner..too well. It's so predictable that you can hardly stand it. This other person, is unknown, exciting, stirs feelings inside you that you thought were in a coma. The thrill of it all. The fantasies, what you would do if this or that happened. It's exciting, it makes you feel young.

So we come back to the question "Should I cheat on my partner?"

My advice if the occasion just occurs, if you can't or don't feel like restraining,...

Proceed with dignity:
1) Make the encounter enjoyable for yourself and for the other one.
2) If you are a man,don't be 'cheap'. That is, pay for a decent diner, night out, hotel room, etc.. should you need one.
3) Do it so well that you can still feel good about yourself afterward. Many of us cheat. It's not a "good thing" but neither is it the end of the world.
4) Afterward, don't go out and look for other occasion. If you do you probably were not really interested in good advice but merely in good excuses.
5) Your partner probably doesn't want to know. Even when you're in an "open" relationship. So don't tell.

Here is a news item today which caught my attention!

"Oz women have 13 sex partners

Melbourne: The average Australian woman has 13 different sex partners in her life, according to a new book based on an anonymous online survey of 2000 women.

The book, Sex Lives Of Australian Women, by Joan Sauers has revealed that women are cheating more on their partners, are becoming more sexually experimental and are exploring porn.

According to the survey, women have rejected the notion of monogamy, with older married women far less likely to feel guilty taking a lover than younger women. ...."ANI

(for complete news read: http://epaper.timesofindia.com, pg 17, July3, 2008)

KICK-START HER SEXUAL AROUSAL.TRY SOME MORE...

noreply@blogger.com (Kiran) — Mon, 30 Jun 2008 07:30:00 +0000

Sexual intercourse and other sex is not ultimate gateways to happiness as we all know but plays a major role in building up happy and lasting relationships. One of the key factors in this game is "foreplay" which is often neglected, some men being a believer of "game set and match".
We continue in our efforts to recommend ways-

3 Prolonged and deep kissing
The long, lingering kiss is the sort of kiss that will moisten up her underwear in no time flat, but is deep and long and slow. She likes it when you prolong, and doing this gets her really hot. Deep tongue kissing is one of many formulas to turning you both on. Apparently, we like deep tongue kissing because it mimics sex -- the wet, writhing, sucking, licking motions get our juices flowing and almost always kick-start our sexual desire. Increased saliva flow is associated with higher arousal, which makes sense.
Caution:
Choose the proper time and place for this long kiss, and not to overpower her with too much tongue or speed. Don't use kiss as a two second start to sex. Instead use it as a moment to share your passion.It's an intimate sport, creating more intimacy and closeness between two people, whether it be an emotional closeness, a sexual one or both.

4 Give her erotic massage
Turn her onto her stomach and start working on her back, it means that you are working to make her feel good and not just want to quickly enter. This will allow her to relax and get her juices flowing more than ever. A good erotic massage will ignite her desire to new heights.
Caution:
Be careful not to put her to sleep! Don't be monotonous in massage techniques. Change moves or after a hard week's work, or partying late nights she may fall asleep. The trick to giving a good erotic massage is to keep it sensuous, which means taking breaks between touches to lick and kiss her, and involving her whole body. Stroke her with your whole hand and enjoy her curves while you do this. The effect of the erotic massage is that it creates occasional deep and delicious feelings while generating light and ticklish feelings as you glide and graze your hands and fingers over her. These feelings keep the brain and skin active and awake, while relaxing and arousing her at the same time.

5 Kissing neck
Women necks are far more sensitive than ours. This is good news for those who aren’t sure what to do to get their girls hot. It is really easy to turn her on if you kiss her neck. It works like magic. Kissing her neck from behind is almost guaranteed to turn her on, and you know when she turns around to face you she is ready for more. The back of her neck and shoulders are great places to start. Progress onto the sides of her neck, and up by her ears, maybe working your way around to the front, near her jugular.
Caution:
Start slowly and be sensuous

UNHAPPY, PARTNER NOT TURNED ON? TRY THIS-

noreply@blogger.com (Kiran) — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 20:32:00 +0000

Many a times you are in a situation where your partner, may be due to various psychological or physical reasons, is in no mood for a sex. These situations may over a period of time lead to discord and unhappiness if not handled intelligently.

Try the following

To seduce a man
Slowly striping can be seductive. If you bent in front of him with your legs close to his face, and kiss his lips, and after kissing him you can pretend you are going to kiss him again but don't!

Play with him, do not let him kiss your lips, just tempt him. Lie on top of him and kiss his neck in the area behind his ears. Then move on to his back and his chest. You can use your hands to massage areas close to his male organs.
Dance on a soft rhythmic music a little and don't let him touch just tempting him is a good foreplay move.

To turn a woman on
The chances are there are tons of things you already do to her that she loves, and luckily for you, none of them require you to be a rocket scientist or a M.A. in sexual foreplay to figure out.

1/ Become a teenager
High school style:
Dry humping is a fun because it takes you right back to when you were a teenager and making out was exciting and adventurous. Couch make-out sessions take the pressure off a girl from having to take her clothes off and be ready for sex, allowing her to relax and enjoy the moment. Women like to be teased. Making out with her for hours and never moving into the bedroom will get her so turned on she’ll be wanting you more than ever before.

Caution: Don't overdo it by prolonging it to infinity. Use the skills you gained in high school. Dry humping is one of the greatest turn-ons known to mankind, because it is so suggestive without the actual skin-on-skin touching. It has an element of driving hard for what is inaccessible. The many layers of clothing provide the padding for the crazed writhing. Keeping clothes on can be very sexy.

2/ Start and stop
When you can't have a sex in a place and want to prepare her till you get to the place:
Light touching in inappropriate places when sex cannot happen right then and there is very hot to women and it warms you both up nicely for later. For example, a warm hand up her top during a movie, or a hand down the side of her pants while you choose a song from the jukebox at a bar gets her feeling tingly in all the right places.
Caution: Stop! Keep her wanting: Give her a taste of it then pull back and watch her rub up against you and begin to purr. The trick with this little baby is she knows you can’t have sex. Reverse psychology is your friend; she wants what she can’t have. By the time you get somewhere you can have sex, she will be tearing at your clothes like a wild woman.
to be continued....

SEX RELATED QUESTIONS ANSWERED BY A SEXPERT

1/ My penis is slightly bent towards the right (by almost 30 degrees). I guess this is because I used to hide it beneath my right leg every time I used to get an erection. Can it be treated? Please suggest a clinic or a doctor.

It can be treated. Contact your doctor

2/ I am a 29-year-old man and my wife is 25 years old. We got married 18 months ago. Now, we are planning a child. In spite of trying various positions, my wife is unable to conceive. Please help.

I would suggest you have your sperm count tested from a pathologist. Your wife should see a gynecologist. Have sex every alternate day starting from the eighth day of her periods. She should continue to lie down for at least half an hour after the intercourse, with a pillow under her buttocks.

3/ I am a 21-year-old bachelor. I am only attracted to married women. There’s a woman in my neighborhood who I fantasize about. She is a mother of two, and very beautiful. I masturbate every time I see her. She has seen me masturbating and is aware of the fact that I like her. However, she hasn’t informed her husband. Hence, I think she likes me as well and I want to talk to her. But I am afraid to approach her. What do I do?

If you must, fantasize in the privacy of your home. Doing this in public can cause great humiliation, physical violence and even jail. So it’s your choice. Besides, you will be damaging an innocent person’s reputation. ("you", mumbai mirror, 06/25/08)

EARLY EJACULATION AND SIZE

noreply@blogger.com (Kiran) — Mon, 23 Jun 2008 12:06:00 +0000

Early ejaculation is a problem with many men depriving them of pleasuring for a reasonable period and with guilt of not satisfying their partner.

Don't use drugs or alcohol. They're distracting and they interfere with the self-awareness crucial to learning ejaculatory control.

Appreciate whole-body sensuality. Men often think sex happens only in the penis and only during intercourse. That view is a one-way ticket to uncontrolled ejaculation (not to mention erection problems, and women with those proverbial headaches).

The best sex involves head-to-toe arousal. Men learning how to approach -- but not arrive at -- their point of no return, need to appreciate whole-body sensuality, the pleasure potential in every square inch of the body. Whole-body sensuality releases tension. Tense bodies that have no other outlet often find release through involuntary ejaculation. But as you learn to appreciate sensual pleasure from head to toe, whole-body arousal takes the pressure off your penis, and you last longer.

Whole-body sensuality means relaxation, but the "relaxation" involved in great sex is not the kind that includes an easy chair, a six pack, and Monday Night Football. It's the kind you feel after a hot bath or a good massage. In fact, bathing or showering together before lovemaking can help men relax and appreciate whole-body sensuality -- and last longer.

Breathe deeply. One very easy way to stay relaxed while making love is to breathe deeply. The body has a natural tendency to breathe deeply during sex. But many men fight it. They think they should stay in control by not breathing deeply and making the little love-moan sounds that go along with it. Try breathing deeply. Let your breath go. Many men are amazed how much this one little change improves their ejaculatory control.

Mastering control over ejaculation:

'STOP & START TECHNIQUE'

Step 1:
Masturbate without lubricant. When you feel you are reaching a point where you could easily ejaculate, STOP. Pay close attention to the feelings of arousal and take a few deep breaths. When your arousal level has stopped significantly, restart stimulation. When you can do this for 15 minutes with only 1 or 2 stops move to step 2.

Step 2:
Repeat step 1, but this time use lubricant. When you can do this for 15 minutes with only 1 or 2 stops, move to step 3.

Step 3:
Do the same as step 1 but instead of stopping, vary your technique (longer or shorter strokes, stroke the shaft rather than the head etc.)

Step 4:
Repeat steps 1-3 with a partner masturbating you. Guide your partner. Step 5:
Repeat previous steps with a partner performing oral sex rather than masturbating you, if you both enjoy oral sex.

Step 6:
Repeat steps 1-3 with penetrative intercourse with a partner.

Penis size

can be a worry for men. In the last few decades, men have become increasingly dissatisfied with their bodies, including penis size. For many men, penis size is equated with masculinity.
In order for a man to be dissatisfied with the size of his penis, he must somehow feel that his does not measure up to other men.

To evaluate his own penis, a man has to see many others. Besides in the locker room, heterosexual men generally have little opportunity to see the real life penises of many other men, especially erect penises.

They can, however, see penises in adult magazines or movies, which are not representative of the average penis. Models in adult magazines or videos are typically selected because they have larger than average penises, so any comparison with these models is not realistic.

As with all body parts, penises come in a variety of sizes and shapes, including curvature. There is no connection between a man’s penis size and his “manliness”.

The size of a flaccid penis does not necessarily predict the size when it is erect. In fact, penis size studies have demonstrated that smaller flaccid penises grow larger proportionally, when they become erect, than larger penises. Worrying about the size of your penis can reduce your self-esteem and body image unnecessarily.

Be proud of your body, and that includes your penis!

DON'T TREAT HER LIKE A PORN STAR!

noreply@blogger.com (Kiran) — Mon, 23 Jun 2008 07:48:00 +0000

Like any other day it was a stressful one. Rushing home you rush through dinner and then rush between the sheets. Start talking dirty and start angling in the dark. You are in a terrible hurry and do not even realize that she is not ready yet. Have you forgotten the rules of the game you learnt when you set out in the first place — that women take time to warm up and cool down. If you don't realize..and stop in in your ungentlemanly tactics now, she will be put off with you for a long time

While sex can be flirtatious and meaningless even among committed people, the best moments are those that have some heart. Understand the value of foreplay.

Remember two things:

Be a gentleman but not too gentle for eternity. She loved that about you right at the beginning. That’s what drew her to you. She loves the fact that you are a conscientious lover; gentle all the way. But women do like it when a man takes charge. So, mix up that gentle-lover attitude with some Tarzan-tactics. Arrive at a middle ground to get anywhere close to her heart.

Secondly, innovate. Create and create! That wonderful atmosphere. Some music, aromatic candles, humor... it could be very flattering and igniting!

SEX RELATED QUESTIONS ANSWERED BY A SEXPERT
1 Eyes are to see and ears to hear, but could you tell me what the function of the navel in our body is? What is need of it in males and females? Please inform, I am curious.

Just as eyes are to see and ears to hear, a significant function of touch is to arouse sexual desire. The navel is an important zone of attraction, especially in females. Some have piercings done there and wear a fancy ring. The navel is the junction where you were separated from your mother by cutting the umbilical cord which contained both the mother's and your blood vessels.

2 I am 22 years old. Whenever I have sex, I feel pain in my penis. Also, I think my penis is too short to satisfy the woman with whom I have sex with. I ejaculate within a minute too. Kindly advise me which medicine I should take to increase my stamina and to get rid of the pain.

You can have pleasurable sex with a short penis but think before you act. Have more foreplay to satisfy her. Learn control to last longer. I have often spoken of the stop and start technique in this column. If you want, you may increase your diet and take a capsule of Fesovit (Iron and B complex) daily.

3 I am 25 years old. I am going to get married in six months. My problem is that once when I had sex with my boyfriend, my hymen had split. I recall reading news that it is possible for the hymen to be rebuilt. Can you please tell me more about it? Is there any medicine available or do I have to undergo an operation? If it has to be an operation, then please tell me how much time it will take and what the cost will be. In how many days will I be able to have normal sex and will my husband ever come to know about it?

You will have to undergo an operation by a gynecologist who agrees to do it.
(you, 22/06/08, mumbai mirror, photo-TOI)

STOP! MEN AHEAD. Proceed with caution.

noreply@blogger.com (Kiran) — Tue, 17 Jun 2008 11:11:00 +0000

Attention all women!

There are some men who must be avoided at all costs. Here are some…

THE CLINGER
He gives you a lot of attention, yes, but the same attention starts suffocating you after a few months.

He is extremely jealous and all hell breaks loose if he sees you even talking to another man. Non-stop inquiries like ‘Where are you?', ‘When will you meet me?’ may seem like true love in the beginning but gradually, it will suck the last bit of freedom out of your life.

THE PARENTAL SEEKER
What he needs is a mom and not a girlfriend. It is true that men are attracted to women who show some motherly traits and take care of them, this category takes it a little too seriously. He seeks protection at all times to cover up his own failure.

Dating a man like him feels more like taking care of a child rather than having a boyfriend to pamper. You need to take care of his wallet, his cell phone, remind him of his office appointments.

Bottom line, if you want to adopt an over-grown kid, he is the one.

THE EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE
He has had a series of failed relationships. And till date, he hasn’t been able to figure out what kind of woman does he really want to be with. He is always with one woman, yet clinging on to his half-hearted feelings for someone else. If you date a man like this, you need to wait for an eternity before he really comes around.

THE MENTALLY ILL
When you meet him for the first time, he seems normal. There are times when his high-funda knowledge of politics and current affairs leaves you bowled. However, only when you know him well, you see the real picture. A relationship with him is extremely time-consuming and emotionally demanding. For him, being involved with someone is an escape route to battle his own insecurities. So watch out!

THE ADDICTED
This one very often shows similar traits like the ‘Mentally ill'. Drugs, alcohol, porn, sex, the list of his addictions is never-ending. Not only is he addicted, but doesn’t mind trying out different addictions that will keep him occupied.

An ideal woman for them is someone who doesn’t mind his addictions and will never confront him on the same, no matter how serious they get.

THE VIOLENT
As your relationship progresses, he starts getting more and more possessive. And the moment you protest, you see the ugly side. His fits of anger can leave you in shock. He is someone who doesn’t mind getting physical to prove his point. Not only do they harm you, they can even harm themselves, only to prove that they are right.

THE SECRET KEEPER
You may feel that you know him extremely well. However, you are wrong. What you know about such men is just the tip of the iceberg. They have many skeletons hiding in the closet that leave you shocked as you gradually come to know about them. From secret relationships to records of crime and even undisclosed diseases, having a relationship with someone like him is like sitting on a time bomb.

He prefers women who are already preoccupied with their lives, so that they won’t have the time to ask questions and demand explanations.

SEX RELATED QUESTIONS ANSWERED BY A SEXPERT

1/ I am 32 years old. I got married two months ago. My wife is 25 years old. Her vaginal opening is very small and my penis is 9 inches long. As a result, we are unable to have intercourse. She experiences a lot of pain. I am very upset. She is uncomfortable consulting a doctor. We used Xylocaine gel 2% for a week but it didn’t help. She also attempted suicide in desperation. Please help us out.

Please ensure that the gel is applied a little inside and on the inner lips of her vagina. She should wait for 20 minutes before trying to insert her finger inside. The vaginal opening may look small but it can expand enough so as to allow a baby’s head to pass through. Hence, a good length penis can be easily accommodated. If not successful (don’t be in a hurry), consult a gynaecologist. Please tell your wife that this is a common problem and there is no need to feel depressed. All will be well.

2/ My child is 14 years old. I think he has started masturbating. How do I go about advising him on sex related issues? Why do children masturbate? How many times in a day (or a week) is it okay for them to masturbate? What are the side effects? How can it be avoided?

Hopefully, you and your husband share a healthy relationship with your son that can allow him to share his concerns (not only sex related) with both of you. Masturbation is common among most young people at this age and even later. If he doesn’t masturbate, he will have nightfall. So, there’s no need to stop him. Rather, you must ensure that he has enough opportunities to develop his skills and divert his mind. The number of times will depend on the sexual excitement. There are no side effects. He will grow into a healthy boy. Both of you should talk to him about the dangers of drugs and alcohol.
("you", mumbai mirrror, 06/14/08)

ANGELINA JOLIE DELIGHTS IN THE LUST HER PARTNER DESIRES-SEX IN PREGNANCY

noreply@blogger.com (Kiran) — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 19:10:00 +0000

Jolie boasts of pregnant sex life: Movie star Angelina Jolie says being pregnant is “great for the sex life”. The actress, who is expecting twins with partner Brad Pitt, says the couple have become “a lot more creative” in bed since she gained her baby bump. “As a woman you’re just so round and full,” she told Entertainment Weekly magazine in the US, “so you have fun”.
(TOI, 06/14/08)

TIPS FOR A GREAT SEX DURING PREGNANCY

1/ Tell your partner what feels good and what doesn't. When your breasts or pelvic organs enjoy touch, welcome it; if not, gently move those massaging hands toward less sensitive areas.

2/ Give yourself a sexy look. Just because your body is getting bigger doesn't mean you shouldn't look your best. Treat yourself to a new hairstyle, change your make-up, and buy a new nightgown revealing what's appealing. This is likely to spark your mate and push your sexual image up a notch.

3/ Physical movements can stir emotions as emotions stimulates physical movements. So, act sexier and you would look sexy and smiling. The brain works that way. If you show disinterest, he may retreat.

4/ Talk sex

5/ Lie nude together watching and feeling baby move. Let him feel your body, the new things.

6/ Innovate new but comfortable positions for sex like sideways or "Doggy". Avoid man on the top position.

The diagrams of some of the comfortable positions are on right

NOTE: It is recommended that you should consult your health provider or gynecologist before you follow the suggestions in this post.

SEX STARVED MARRIAGE-GO FOR A SEXUAL MARATHON?

noreply@blogger.com (Kiran) — Tue, 10 Jun 2008 12:52:00 +0000

Lets presume that you and your spouse haven't had sex for a long time. That you don't even remember the last time you did!

So, what would you do?

1/ Dump her/him and go to somebody else?
2/ File divorce papers?
3/ Talk to her/him.

There are some adventurous couples in this world who would go to the extreme of planning sex for the next 365 days without a gap.

The others would plan to do it may be once or twice a week and be happy.

The third category would be in 1 or 2 as above and try to be happy.

There had been recent examples of two couples who had gone on an adventurous erotica of a daily mission of sex for 365 days to salvage their sex starved marriages.

Charla and Brad Muller and Annie and Douglas Brown from Charlotte, North Carolina and Boulder, Colorado, respectively.

Both these record setting couples have written their exploits in recently published books-'365 nights" and "Just Do It".

Though an interesting reading, I don't know how far this American strategy of goal-setting would help the millions of sex starved marriages. Where as in my view, innovating romance and caring approach along with planned sex drives may be worth considering.

To stimulate sexual desires perhaps simple techniques like practicing humor, trying to look into the eyes, changing venues, expressing gratitude, may work with majority of couples.

Lois Braverman, president of the Ackerman Institute for the Family, cautioned against couples trying to keep up with with the Mullers and Browns. "Some couples are totally satisfied with being sexual one night a week, some twice...there is no number of times that's right"

In my observation, many a times the problem is in communication or lack of it.

Rather than on a sexual marathon, the initial step could be to understand the need for a dialog and then to initiate it. The rest of the things eventually may fall in the slot.
(My comments on an article in NYT NEWS SERVICE and published in The Times of India, page 15, June 8th, 08)

SEX RELATED QUESTIONS ANSWERED BY A SEXPERT

1 Please suggest some tablets that I can use to seduce my wife. She is not interested in having oral or anal sex with me.

No tablets will work. You need to learn the art of seduction. Start with plenty of foreplay. However, in every act, your partner's wish is very important. You must respect that. I would suggest you avoid anal sex.

2 I am 25 years old. I have a problem with the way my wife desires sex. As soon as we begin intercourse, she insists that I stop immediately. Not even once have I been able to have proper sex with her. Please help me.

Indulge in more foreplay till she reaches an orgasm. Also, speak to her and find out the proper reason for her apprehension. Then, visit a sexpert or solve it amicably. In the meanwhile, ensure that every time you have sex, your penis and her vagina are well lubricated.

3 I am a 22-year-old man. I want to know the basic steps involved for intercourse.

Step one:
A willing partner who should take an equal share in the act.
Step two:
Plenty of foreplay till both of you are fully aroused.
Step three:
Of more than 175 positions known, choose any one. Commonly preferred is the man-on-top position. The woman should have her thighs flexed so that the man can have an easy entrance in to the vagina. Before that, slip on a condom so as to avoid any unwanted pregnancy. Enter and stroke till ejaculation. Hopefully, she would also reach orgasm. If not, she should help herself to get one by taking help from your fingers or hers. The finer art will have to be learnt.
("you', mumbai mirror)