It's Always Today

Take a Step Back Before Moving Forward

2012-01-11T20:28:00.001-05:00

Yes, I wrote about this last January, too, because I just can’t stress how important it is. Please, Please, Please….Back Up Your Files! Don’t do it for me, do it for you. There is no need of forging full steam ahead without securing what you already have. Invest the time and the money into protecting your projects, pictures, music, and any other data that you like having around. If not, you run the risk of never seeing it again. Check around for an external USB hard drive, preferably one that does not need and external power source. Go for a solid-state hard drive if your budget allows. CDs and USB flash drives are cheaper options. Keep your back-up drives in a waterproof and fire resistant container just in case. Depending on your tolerance for sharing your data, online back-up services offer the greatest solution for making sure your files are cared for.

Also, what’s in your wallet? If you looked for your wallet right now only to find that it was lost or stolen, could you recall everything that’s in it? Do you know the policy or membership numbers on your cards? Do you have vital business contacts or discount codes in your wallet? How about a photo that may be the last one in existence? Well I do. But…I have the things that are in my billfold listed and photocopied in a separate secure location just in cast I lose my wallet…AGAIN. It’ll take a little time to get it done but it may cost you more time if you don’t do it now.

Taking this essential step now will prevent you from having to reacquire or recreate your files in the future.

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Now Year’s Resolutions

2011-12-20T16:26:00.001-05:00

Nope. Not a typo. It’s always today which means your time is now. Have you had a chance to read “It’s Always Today?” Well if you have then you understand how having clear directions can expedite the achievement of your goals. Setting your GPS (Goal Procurement Strategy) then applying focus, effort, and discipline to the tasks or resolves contained within that strategy is essential for success.

Even luck favors the prepared. I’ve heard it said that New Year’s resolutions are a waste of time since most people are great at starting, mediocre at persevering, and poor at finishing, if quitting doesn’t become a better idea first. This time, scrap the New Year’s resolutions and make your Now Year’s resolutions. Face it; if you can’t start now then waiting until the New Year won’t make much difference. Spend the next 10 days or so setting your GPS. Write out your one year plan for 2012 and your one month plan for January. Go ahead and use January 1^st as your starting point only for ease of record keeping. Live everyday in the now. Review your resolutions, and your budget, often if not daily to maintain your focus. It’s always today. Yesterday this was tomorrow but come New Year’s Day, right now will be last year.

-- Wood Butler, Jr.

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Avoiding an Audit?

2011-12-08T16:22:00.000-05:00

An IRS audit can be scary. Especially for those who are unprepared or who knowingly have discrepancies and deceitful information on their tax returns. The IRS is a force to be reckoned with. However, there are many who do not fear being audited. These are the people who prepare their taxes timely with honesty and integrity. They keep accurate and detailed records to back their claims. Their paperwork is neatly packaged, labeled and filed where it can be easily accessed upon request. They even have backup copies in a separate secure location just in case something happens to the originals. So when faced with an order to be audited by the IRS, “Bring It On!”

Well…is your life plan prepared for an audit? Of all the things you said you wanted to do, are you prepared to prove you have done them or are at least well on your way? Even if you’ve set your GPS, can you prove your progress? You may have faith in yourself but can others have faith that you are doing what you proclaim. Faith without works is dead. We all need to get to a point where our work can be easily seen and audited. An athlete that wants more money with his contract renewal can’t just say, “I will do better.” He has to show what he has been doing to deserve more money. The team audits his worthiness using his current and previous statistics. No outstanding play, no outstanding pay.

It’s time we step our game up. We all want more, so why not act like it. Show what you know. Prove your moves. Don’t say it if you can’t display it. Give your very best effort in all you do. Have a good friend audit your plans periodically to keep you honest on your quest for success. The whole purpose of an audit is to make sure things are being done in the correct manner. If changes need to be made, make them and don’t give excuses. Aim to make your life auditable.

-- Wood Butler, Jr.

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Doable Weight Loss Effort

2011-11-01T00:54:00.001-04:00

There are thousands of weight loss plans and diet trends available to anyone who doesn’t live under a rock. So why do so many people still struggle with their weight and vital statistics? For starters, most people don’t understand how a body works and even less understand how their body works. I’m no expert but I am a student of life so I explore what I don’t understand and devise a way to effectively apply it to my life.

Weight gain happens when you continually take in more calories, especially calories from fat, than your body can use as fuel or send out as waste. Everyone is different. We have different family genetics, physical abilities and limitations, metabolic rates, and lifestyles. So when it comes to diet and exercise, we need to spend some time exploring ourselves in order to derive what will work best for us. There is no one size fits all weight management plan. There are those who can’t do Tai Bo, P90X, or Insanity workouts. There are those who are allergic to honey, cayenne pepper, and/or lemons for crash dieting. There are those who are diabetic or disabled that can do neither. However, each journey begins with the first step – no matter how small that step may be. Here are some tips to help you start.

Diet

· Focus on the timing and distribution of your meals. Eating several small meals evenly distributed throughout your day instead of overindulging 2 – 3 times daily boosts your metabolism. Avoid late night eating, especially unhealthy snacking.

· Keep fluids fresh in your body by hydrating and urinating often. Make water your beverage of choice and drink lots of it. Add a little lemon juice for taste. Avoid sodas and excessive amounts of juice. Alcohol does contain calories. Don’t hold your bladder until the last minute. Go as often as you can or are allowed by your situation.

· Fresh is best. Choose to eat raw fruits and vegetables and consume them as soon as they are cut to preserve their vitamin potency. Eat hot foods and cold raw foods in separate feedings to aid rapid digestion.

· Track what goes in and out. Record everything you eat in a journal even if only for a short period of time. This will keep you mindful of the good and bad things you are eating and easily adjust your diet. Track your bowel movements to ensure that your body is discarding its waste regularly.

Exercise

· Numbers are relative. Don’t worry about how much weight others can lift or how many repetitions they can do. What they can do is relative to their size, experience, and possibly supplements and/or chemicals.

· Focus on execution. Doing 10 optimal weight repetitions through your full range of motion with the correct form is worth twice as many bad reps at twice the weight. Also, injuries can result from incorrect execution.

· Stretching is essential to maintain flexibility and prevent injuries. Stretch before, during, and after exercising. Stretch everyday even if you don’t exercise.

· Education eliminates fear. There are many myth-conceptions about weight lifting and cardiovascular exercise. Attention Women: Lifting weights will not turn you into He-Man. Attention Men: Sit-ups alone will not turn your keg into a six pack. There are many many more but spend some type researching what you want to achieve from exercising and you won’t be scared to go full steam.

These tips are far from everything. With a little focus, effort and discipline, weight management will become more doable.

-- Wood Butler, Jr.

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Quality vs Quantity (of Life)

2011-10-16T21:08:00.000-04:00

Something hit me recently. What’s so good about life? Calm down, I don’t mean it like that. I’m referring to the rules and standards governing what’s good and not so good in and about life. It hit me when having a conversation with a co-worker about career choices and quality of life.

It started with a comment about the security guard in the parking lot of our office. “I sure would hate to be that guy,” she says. “What a waste of life just sitting in a car all night.” I agree; there are better things you can contribute to the world. I said, “Sounds pretty good to me. Getting paid to play Angry Birds and talk on the phone.” She rebuts, “But he ain’t making no money doing that. Besides, how much Angry Birds can you play?” I said, “That guy is probably saying I’d sure hate to be that guy running back and forth past that window all day.” She then says, “That job don’t pay what this job pays. He ain’t got the cool stuff I got.”

Ok, stop. I immediately switched to my objective inverted perspective. While presumably everything my co-worker said may be true, she really does not know. For all she knows that guy may own that security company and the contract may be very lucrative. He may be single with no kids or pets, living with a roommate in a modest apartment without a car note or any other major bills. That means whatever he earns will go much further than what she earns which is split in many directions. He may be an heir to a fortune but just works the security job for healthcare benefits. And most importantly of all, he may get to go home after 8 hours and enjoy his “cool stuff” whereas my co-worker spends 2 hours commuting and 10 -12 working almost every day. Her family rarely sees him.

So who’s doing good? I would trade every dime my father ever made to have him back. The time he spent working or tired from working long hours that he couldn’t be at my basketball practices, track meets, PTA meetings, science fairs, etc. would have meant more than some “cool stuff”. I am very appreciative for what was provided such as food, clothing, and shelter. I don’t know how much money he made so if he made any more or less I don’t know if I would have noticed. I do know he died before he retired and left all his “cool stuff” to people who didn’t work for it.

Quality of life is not in what you earn or what you have. It’s in what you value and what you do to support and appreciate that. Money comes and goes. Time just goes. Don’t confuse having money or things with having a good quality of life. There are many people who grew up without money, things or even parents who turned out to be some of the most successful and generous contributors to our society. There are also those who grew up having everything and wound up depressed, incarcerated, or committed suicide. Take a moment to find out what’s really important to not only you but to your family and others who need you. You may find that you’re doing too much and it’s still not enough.

-- Wood Butler, Jr.

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Why People Lie

2011-09-13T14:46:00.000-04:00

I’d like to believe that I’m a pretty objective fellow. So even though I know right from wrong, I also know that people, including myself, will always do right…and wrong. Therefore I don’t trip over people’s flaws and short-comings as long as they aren’t in denial that they have them. Most of us have heard of the 10 Commandments from the Bible. Some of us even know them by heart. If you’re like me, you’ve probably said to yourself that one or two are either worse than or not as bad as a few others. However, I came to realize that neglecting to follow any of them can lead to the occurrence of any of the others.

Lying is one of those ill-advised actions that seems to have varying levels of consequence if any at all. There are little white lies, perjury to grand jury, conspiracy, pranks, government cover-ups, tabloid stories, deception by silence, and everything in between. However, the truth is truth and is backed up by proof. Lies are just lies. So why? Why do we lie?

Well there is no easy, clear cut answer since each individual uses their own moral code to decide whether to lie or tell the truth. I hear people saying they wish other people didn’t lie. The problem is that most people can’t handle the truth. I heard that…you just said that you can but if you have to say it then you probably can’t. If someone could be completely honest without fear of being judged, condemned, divorced, terminated, shot, evicted, abandoned, or disowned, they would surely choose the high road. We all make dumb decisions and do deeds that if others knew about would land us in hot water. Therefore, some of us lie or at least withhold information in lieu of disclosing the whole truth.

To err is to be human. To judge is to be God. Yet we as humans try to play God and judge other humans. To avoid being judged, humans often lie. We all have a part to play in greatly reducing lying. 1. Tell the truth and be willing to accept the consequences for your actions, whatever they may be. 2. Accept the truth no matter what it is or how much it hurts. This may not eliminate lying but any reduction will be most helpful in making the world a better place.

-- Wood Butler, Jr.

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Give Yourself A Raise

2011-08-31T13:09:00.002-04:00

Before we get started, let me clarify that I do not judge what anyone chooses to do as a social activity. However, a proven model for success is to increase revenue and decrease expenses. Both of these tasks yield the same result: more money in your pocket. Most people only think of expenses as bills such as utilities, child care, car payments, rent, taxes, etc. Actually, an expense is anything that is not an investment; meaning it will not directly bring more money as an end result. We all have hobbies, vices, and social activities we enjoy that require our monetary contribution. We only get one run through life so you should be able to have and/or do many of the things you enjoy. Some of these things are stress relievers which add to your quality of life. Others are things that you could ultimately do without which would spare you the expense, essentially giving you a raise.

Take smoking cigarettes for example. It has been proven that smoking is detrimental to human health and our wallets. The average smoker puffs nearly a pack of cigarettes per day. The average cost per pack varies by state, New York being the highest and West Virginia being the cheapest, making the national average about $8/pack. Just 1 year of smoking a pack of cigarettes per day creates a $2920 expense. While experts agree that stopping is the best option, the reality is that if one wants to smoke, the cost nor the health consequences will deter them. Here's a tip, simply reduce the quantity of cigarettes smoked per day by 50%. That could instantly add $1460 back into your budget before factoring in the fuel cost saved by making half as many trips to the store to purchase them.

Smoking isn’t the only expense that we can remove from our budgets. I have things I’ve had to cut out or reduce in order to get my raise. I could then put that extra money in my IRA, vacation spending allocation, or gym membership. Try it out and come back with your comments so your experience may be a blessing to others.

-- Wood Butler, Jr.

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Caught Sleeping

2011-08-24T08:42:00.000-04:00

I had a truly "eye-opening" experience yesterday morning. The smoke alarm went off at 2:30 am and scared us into a frantic panic. We jumped out of bed like popcorn running around the entire house checking for fire. I was in a deep sleep so my eyes were not adjusted to the dark and I thought I was seeing smoke. My wife told the kids to slip some shoes on and get outside. After a sprint through the entire interior of the house, I ascertained that it was a false alarm and we all returned to bed.

However, before I fell back to sleep I was pondering the lesson in what had just happened. The lesson was that we were not prepared in the case that it was a real fire. We had no official escape route or alternate plan. We had shoes and other items in the floor that we tripped on as we ran to the kids bedrooms. We have dual-sided key deadbolts on the doors and the key is not near them. We didn’t have all of our important paperwork together in a sealed fire/waterproof safe. And evidently we haven’t been checking and testing the smoke detectors on a regular basis. Any of the above could have spelled disaster and unnecessary headache in the aftermath due to a lack of planning and preparation.

I let my mind wander to other areas of my life where preparation may be lacking or non-existent. You should do the same. When was the last time you reviewed your emergency escape plan? When was the last time you reviewed your insurance policies to ensure that you have adequate coverage? As your life changes, your insurance needs may change as well. There are so many other areas of our lives where we all are vastly under-prepared for the unexpected.

Coincidentally, while in the middle of writing this post, we experienced a 5.8 magnitude earthquake in Virginia. Everyone was running around wondering about the right thing to do. Some got under their desks, some went to an interior room, and others ran outside as the managers advised. It caught us completely off guard and by being unprepared we had no clue what to do.

We are ultimately responsible for everything that happens to us in our lives. We can’t predict or prevent everything, but being prepared can greatly reduce, stress, injury, casualties, and recovery time. Plan, prepare, and prevail.

-- Wood Butler, Jr.

Helpers, Hinders, and Haters

2011-07-18T21:46:00.002-04:00

Opinions are like yesterdays, if you’re alive – you have one. Some people keep them private while others spread theirs around like Wilt Chamberlain at Woodstock. And while having and sharing opinions can be fine, the intent is what we need to examine when we hear them. We all know that not everyone in our lives is there to help even though there are lessons that can be learned from anything. I took the liberty of dividing our friends, family, and associates into three groups: Helpers, Hinderers, and Haters.

Note: Just because a person fits in one of these groups does not mean they treat everyone the same nor does it mean they have to remain in that group if they desire to change their behavior.

Helpers

These are the people that know what your goals, dreams, aspirations, likes, missions, or values are and use their words, actions, resources and influence to guide good things in your direction. You know those people who are always plugging someone in when an opportunity arises. These people are always good to keep around and you should make sure they know just how much you appreciate all they do.

Haters

Haters are those who actively make attempts to sabotage your success without valid reason. They purposely speak negatively or withhold information with the intention of distracting your focus and impeding your progress. Often, hating stems from jealousy, envy, greed, lust, pride, anger, and other sinful emotions that drive humans to behave maliciously. These people need help but since they usually do not acknowledge their disposition, help eludes them.

Hinderers

This is a strange group to be in since most people in this group don’t know they are in your way. In most cases, their impedances are non-malicious and semi-unintentional. Hinderers figure what they do, or refrain from doing, is perfectly innocent since technically they are neither helping nor hating. Simple behavior such as gossiping instead of promoting, staying home instead of attending, and avoiding involvement for fear of responsibility all add up to one thing – being in the way of your success. Hinderers usually evolve into helpers or haters.

Rarely do you find someone who treats everyone the same so it’s hard to label someone as a definite hater or hinderer. However, the behavior you exhibit the most will land you in one of these groups. Decide which you want to be known and remembered as.

-- Wood Butler, Jr.

The “Cooler” Choice

2011-06-03T11:48:00.000-04:00

This is for anyone who reads this and thinks it may be about them.

As we all should know, the world works on the 80/20 rule. (Look it up if you are unfamiliar) With that said, 80% of everyone in the world wants to be considered “cool” to some degree. The rest of the people don’t care about that. They are straight priority driven people seeking successful results. For those of us who do like to be cool, where exactly is the line that separates what we are doing and what we should be doing to balance coolness and success?

I know some wealthy people who are cool. I know some losers who are cool. The difference is, whether or not you consider the wealthy person to be cool, it doesn’t matter; they are wealthy. They’ve done what they need to do to achieve their goals and are now able to support themselves and their families. No, I’m not saying money is everything. I’m saying that we all have a purpose in life and it takes resources to fulfill that purpose. If you’re too cool for school, too cool to work, too cool to put your child’s needs in front of your own, then that’s not cool at all. I know guys who live with their parents, have no vehicle, and wear their pants below their hips. If you saw them, you’d probably think they were cool. However, they wonder why it’s hard for them to land a decent job. Listen – Good Jobs Want Good People, Not Cool Peeps. Business is business and not personal. If you really want something out of life, you have to really put something into it.

Being cool has its place, but so does success. Make the cooler choice; do what you have to do to get where and what you need. THEN you can be as “cool” as you want to be.

-- Wood Butler, Jr.

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Until Something Better Comes Along

2011-05-24T16:04:00.000-04:00

I heard it again the other day, “I’m just doing what I gotta do until something better comes along.” NEWS FLASH…It won’t. Opportunities don’t move, You Do!

It may seem like time is the governor of opportunity. In reality, opportunity is the realization of focus and readiness. For example, if you are a nurse and a head nurse position becomes available, that is an opportunity for you. If you are a nurse and a doctor position becomes available, that is an opportunity, just not for you. If you are a nurse who just finished medical school and a doctor position becomes available, that is an opportunity for you. There are doctor and head nurse positions offered everyday but if that is not your aim or if you are not ready to fulfill them, you may not notice them.

Many people have dead-end jobs, jobs they despise, and jobs for which they are grossly overqualified and undercompensated. At times, working these jobs is a necessary evil. Doing something you don’t like year after year can kill your drive, ambition, and morale. Humans can adapt to anything and it’s easy to become comfortable and/or complacent with anything, even if we don’t want to. No one knows what the future holds; therefore, I can’t say there won’t be a time when you or I may have to work a dead-end job to makes ends meet. However, merely reciting to yourself and others that you are just doing what you have to do until something better comes along is the statement that will ensure that you live the rest of your days unfulfilled and retire poor.

Doing what you have to do is what you have to do. While you are doing what you have to do, find ways to set up what you want to do. If you really are truly waiting for something better, make yourself better in the meantime. Focus on what you think you are waiting for so that your senses will be attuned to recognize all the possibilities that exist at every junction in your life. Don’t wait – act, improve and be ready when you see the opportunity you seek.

-- Wood Butler, Jr.

Career Day

2011-05-10T15:56:00.000-04:00

When I was in elementary school, my teachers and parent told me I could be anything I wanted to be if I studied hard and stayed out of trouble. The shining examples of what to be was usually a doctor or a lawyer. To reiterate their point, the school would conduct a “career day” when students were encouraged to have their parents come and tell us about their contributions to society. Even though all parents were invited, usually only the doctors and lawyers had the time, or the interest, to show up. Needless to say I wasn’t paying much attention on that day because I chose to seek a job instead of a profession, which is a discussion for another time.

But what if we viewed career day as a concept and not just an event? On our jobs, we deal with many stressful tasks and situations to can burn us out and make us disgruntle. I’ve heard people say they should have gone to medical school or should have took the Bar exam. Well, people in those careers go through the same things that the rest of us do. Let’s explore. To have success on our jobs, it requires us to have a lot of patience. Ironically, that’s what a doctor needs to have a successful practice…a lot of patients. A micro-managing boss, an inflexible schedule, angry customers are examples of some of the trials we must endure at work. Lawyers make their biggest monetary gains from trials. Other than the paycheck, you can see what they do and what the rest of us may do are essentially the same. We all have a purpose for being here and no one said life would be easy. We have to learn to use the power of perspective to help us get through the tough times. For many of us, everyday is career day.

-- Linwood R. Butler, Jr.

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Moods

2011-05-03T14:50:00.001-04:00

A person’s mood can change at the drop of a hat. A person’s mood can change because they dropped their hat. In fact, any of many things that are done, said, and experienced on a daily basis can change a mood faster than a Ferrari can hit top speed.

By definition, a mood is a state or quality of feeling at a particular time. However, we all know someone who seems to be in either a good or bad mood, well, all of the time. A lot of that has to do with perspective. Our take on an occurrence, a statement, a condition will affect our disposition. It is undoubtedly best to be in a good mood as often as possible. Achieving this is more of a challenge for some of us than for others. Try thinking of the good things in your life at times when it seems everything is going awry. A positive attitude has no choice but to eventually improve a foul mood.

It is imperative to remember that no matter how bad you may feel, you mustn’t spread your gloom or displace your emotions to the innocent people. You may be mad at your boss, but take a deep breath before you go home and allow your mood to affect someone who has not done you any harm. Don’t take the anger you have for your boyfriend out on all males in your vicinity. Avoid yelling at the driver in front of you just because your dog died this morning. Your mood affects my mood then mine affects someone else’s. Emotions can be contagious. Learn to recognize your moods and what triggers their transition to avoid drastic swings. Constant mood swings are buzz killers.

Focus on being in the mood you want others to be in and watch it rub off on the world around you. Laugh as often as you can. Live life like it’s all you’ve got. Stop to smell the roses, then pick a few and give them to some one who’s in a bad mood.

-- Linwood R. Butler, Jr.

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Boys II Men

2011-04-26T13:59:00.000-04:00

Ever heard the phrase “raised by wolves”? If you haven’t, it’s referring to how some people act like wild animals as if they were born and reared in the wilderness where the rules of society don’t apply. We all know a human can’t really be raised by animals, but if you stop think about the concept it actually takes place with more traditional upbringings. A baby born in Spain to Spanish speaking parents will inevitably growing up learning the Spanish customs and language. The same goes for anyone born anywhere. Caucasians who grow up in a predominantly African-American culture will act and speak as witnessed in their daily environment. Some think it’s an act but our minds and bodies are made to gradually adapt to our surroundings.

So, that’s the real answer to what has happened to modern generations, especially young men. They can only mimic what the come in contact with the most. If a boy’s father is more interested in Facebook that seeing their child’s face, the boy will most likely seek attention from other sources or through undesirable behavior. If you are verbally abusive toward your son’s mother, there is a good chance that he will become verbally abusive to other females. If you call out sick from work when you actually well, your son will think that is okay and there lack responsibility in his own life. Our kids are watching us all. Even if you don’t have children, there is still some child who has observed, mentally recorded you behavior and will one day attempt to re-enact it.

We as adults have the right to do what we want within reason. That is a part of our civil rights. However, if real men don’t show boys how to become real men then they will remain boys for an indefinite period of time. If real women don’t show girls how to become real women then there is no incentive for men to hold them to high esteem and value. It’s a give-give situation; the more you have to offer, the more others will offer you.

Having something to offer is more than having money in the bank or and extra car in the yard. It’s having responsibility, integrity, reliability, respect, accountability, education, willingness, and skills among many other positive attributes that are the traits of a true man or woman. As a man, I am specifically challenging all men to raise our son and stop relying on their mothers to do our jobs. Spend as much time with your sons as possible, teaching them about life’s abundant rewards and harsh realities. Show them how to build strong minds and bodies through reading, writing and physical activity. I run into 12 year-old boys who don’t know how to throw a football or hold a hammer correctly and as their father, I would be embarrassed. That means out of 4,380 days no one has taken the time to show them “man stuff”.

Boys II Men may be a singing group, but it’s also what we should be aiming to make of our sons. Real Men! I’m not perfect and I’m sure there are many things I would have, could have, and should be doing with my son, who is a now a pre-adolescence boy. However, when he becomes a man, he will not be able to tell his son that I didn’t try. I’m happy with that.

--Linwood R. Butler, Jr.

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Positively Negative

2011-04-22T09:05:00.000-04:00

Are you wondering how the words positive and negative can exist in the same context? Well believe it or not, you’ve been a participating factor in their coexistence. It’s true. Words have power. The amount of power they have depends on their definition, the person who transmits them, and how they are received. For instance, the word but depreciates the statement that precedes it. “He’s a really nice guy but he just got out of jail.” He just got out of jail but he is a really nice guy.” See how both statements are essentially the same yet one may cause you prejudge him while the other may cause you have compassion for him.

There are many statements that each of us makes on a daily basis that express our lack of faith in what is possible when we focus our efforts in the correct manner. Sayings like “things could be worse”, “it is what it is”, and “at least you have a job”, are all statements meant to be positive but are actually positively negative. Let’s explore why this is.

Things could be worse. True. Things could be worse if you believe or accept that things could not be better. Remember, one man’s trash is another man’s treasure. Whatever happens to you that you think is worse is still better in someone else’s situation. Prepare against the worst and plan for the best.

It is what it is. True. It is what it is but is that how it has to be? When you say it is what it is, you have either accepted that it is not possible to make a positive change or you have given up on your efforts to do so.

At least you have a job. True. At least you have a job to help support yourself and family. Is that where it ends? Is that all life is about? No! Having a job is an excellent thing. However, we were put here to progress and prosper. Whether you are born in a cave or born to Bill Gates, if you have the drive to succeed, it can happen. The phrase at least means just that – the bare minimum. Once you accept the least as okay, you will surely throttle your aspirations of success. A job should be a means to build a successful life experience for you and the world around you. If you are not happy where you work or not working in your field of purpose, continue to do so as long as absolutely necessary. In the meantime, utilize every dollar, moment, resource, and opportunity to transform your life into what you really want it to be.

Beware of how you view and convey your views regarding your possessions and life situations. Your words and perspectives have a direct effect on your actions. Stay positive and blessed.

-- Linwood R. Butler, Jr.

Would You Rather Make a Dollar or a Difference?

2011-04-18T22:09:00.000-04:00

If you’re like me, naturally, you want to do both. But…if you had to pick one and forsake the other, which would it be? We all know you can survive without money but you can do so much more than survive if you have it. However, having money only benefits the person who has it unless they have the conviction to use it to make a difference.

I often hear statements like love don’t pay the bills, which to an extent is the truth. The emotion love, itself, doesn’t pay the bills, but being loved can cause your bills to get paid. Underprivileged citizens, victims of crimes and natural disasters, and those who may have lost their employment all attract support from friends, family, and strangers. Of course you have to have something yourself before you can assist anyone else. Therefore, making a dollar is very important.

Money isn’t the only way we can make a difference in this world. We all have some to offer whether it is our time, our talent, or our treasures. Sharing our gifts with others should be our desire and our duty. Everyone needs help in some capacity. If you are in a position to be a catalyst for positive change you should take the liberty to do so. I hear the term “self-made millionaire”, but no one can truly do it alone.

The bottom line is that it takes a dollar and a difference to keep the world rotating smoothly. Explore ways to balance your money–making efforts with you difference-making actions and you’ll changes many lives, including your own.

Linwood R. Butler, Jr.

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Comfortable or Complacent?

2011-04-12T12:29:00.001-04:00

There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be comfortable. Even when we die we want to rest in peace. While alive, we like Sleep Number beds, Snuggie blankets, deep tissue massages, Dr. Scholl's gel insoles, 18-Hour bras, LazyBoy EZ chairs – if it’s comfortable, we want it.

Has being comfortable impaired our drive and ambition? Has it eliminated our hunger for improvement and our pursuit of absolute greatness? Our ancestors endured many struggles from wars to slavery, famines to stock market crashes, social injustices to natural disasters. All of those hardships made them stronger as humans and more valuable as members of society. Parents often say that they want their kids to have it better than they did. They don’t want their offspring to struggle and endure the problems and setbacks that, coincidentally, were the very things that made those parents the strong survivors that they were.

The world nowadays is based on convenience and comfort. Modern generations need to remember that strength is only gained by perseverance, pushing past what you currently are aware you can handle. To put this in perspective, bodybuilders use a spotter which is someone to make sure they don’t hurt themselves while they lift heavy weight. No spotter is necessary during warm-up sets because the weight is light and they are aware that they can handle it with no problem. When they begin to lift weight which is beyond the load or the number of repetitions they’ve previously done, they use a spotter. Even with the spotter’s help they still strain and struggle to lift the heavy load. If they never lift heavy then they will never struggle, however, they will never get stronger either.

Again, there’s nothing wrong with being comfortable but realize that resting at all times can weaken your body and mind. Without testing the limits of your abilities you may eventually become worthless in the eyes of society, although you should always have self-worth. Stay thirsty for new knowledge and physical challenges as they will inevitably make you a better you.

-- Linwood R. Butler, Jr.

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Does Stress Control How You Roll?

2011-04-08T05:44:00.001-04:00

The hustle and bustle -- the daily rat race -- the price of life; our increasingly busy society has many monikers. However, if not handled effectively, it can be summed up with one word: stress. Stress is an energy that does not posses its own form or power until it assumes a host. Technically, stress is only imaginary. It exists on in the mind even though the effects of stress are evident in the physical body. I used the word imaginary because the situations that cause stress are subjective to the person involved. In most cases, stress is created from fear of not meeting expectations that are set forth. This is why unexpected occurrences often increase levels of stress since they are hindrances to meeting existing deadlines, quotas, or objectives.

So how do we deal with such formidable opposition to our otherwise smooth sail through life? The answer is perspective and precaution. As long as we are alive we will all have our share of ups and downs, wrongs and rights, good times and bad. “For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.” That’s Newton’s third law of motion which contextually applies to physical masses, yet, is also applicable to our lives as well. Our lives are always in motion; moving in, out, around, and about. With all of this movement, it’s easy to see how one can become overwhelmed with all that needs to be done in our 24 hour time allotment. We have to learn how to use perspective to our advantage and precaution as weapon.

Perspective is often confused with perception. Both words mean the way we see things. The difference is that perspective is a choice. Perception is what you interpret or believe to be the case. Put on some dirty, weathered clothing along with a baseball cap turned backward, then go to the Mercedes lot and start browsing. On your watch, time how long it takes to gain some attention from a sales person. After he comes over, tell him you love the car and would like to take it for a spin. Every salesperson is different so I won’t prejudge what the specific answer to that question would be. However, browse the same car lot wearing a suit, clean cut and shaven, holding your Blackberry smartphone. Do you think your experience would be the same? Probably not. The salesman is using perception to gauge the level of service he plans to provide. If you reveal that you are a dressed-down millionaire or a well-dressed vagrant, the strategy changes immediately. Perception can be, and is often, incorrect.

You can choose to view people, places, things, and situations in any manner you choose. This is perspective (which is also one of the conceptions discussed in my book, “It’s Always Today”). One of the most famous analogies for perspective is the half-full or half-empty drinking glass. The amount of liquid does change no matter how you view it. What changes is your strategy. The glass either needs to be filled or finished. Perspective can help you as mush as it can harm you. Anything can be seen from a different angle than your current take on it. Thus the reason that a job, spouse, children, social environment, money, and many other things that cause stress for some seem to bring joy to others. These people of the latter make the most out of the hand they are dealt by looking on the bright side. This is not always an easy task. Do your best to think positive, even in a seemingly bad situation. By doing so you will find that stress will return to its rightful, imaginary place.

Precaution is one of the greatest weapons in the war on stress. Surprises are a major cause of stress as they add to your already overflowing daily expectations. While no one can be prepared for everything, being cautious goes a long way toward avoiding surprises and stressful situations. There is such a thing as being overly cautious which can hinder your progress in achieving your goals. You must learn to leverage the risk you take against what you are trying to win and willing to lose. Then, whether you win or lose, you are better able to deal with the outcome of your moves.

The problem with stress is that it causes us to think, say, and do things that we otherwise would not. Some of these things include swearing, yelling, slamming things, crying, fighting, aggressive driving, and a host of others. Stress breaks us down from the inside out, affecting our relationships, performance, and overall health. Simply changing our perspective and not allowing stress to control how we roll, we and reclaim ownership of our lives. The world is full of surprises; prepare well and prosper.

-- Linwood R .Butler Jr.

Username and Password

2011-04-05T05:44:00.000-04:00

It’s 2011 and if you’ve so much as touched a computer, even if only while dusting, you know what a username and password are; at least as far as technology goes. A username is a word or phrase used to identify someone when logging into an application on a computer. A password is a secret word or phrase helps to prevent unauthorized access to the application or information.

It’s called a username because the person signing into the application is the user; they want to use that particular application for a purpose. Knowing the correct password allows them access to use the system that would otherwise be unavailable to them. A password is a simply a security measure.

There are those who choose to use other people for their purpose. While this is essentially the definition of networking, I am referring to the misusing of people. I have associates that I know only call me because of what I can do for them. Beware of the people you call your friends as some of them are only in your life to use you. They try different passwords until they gain access to your possessions and/or assistance. We should be willing to help our fellow man with what we have, however, being used is not a good feeling. Take note of what people are able to offer if it seems they are always the beneficiary of your kindness. If you are a user, attempt to balance what you give with what you receive. You’ll find that people are more willing to be a real friend than just your sponsor.

-- Linwood R. Butler, Jr.

Preservation vs. Reparation

2011-04-01T05:45:00.000-04:00

Nothing on Earth lasts forever. Even if it does, you won’t be here to verify it. With that said, each of us has an individual responsibility to do what we can to maintain ourselves, hopefully extending the period of time that we are alive. Those who take good precautionary care of their bodies and educate their minds generally live longer, more active lives than those who do not. However, in life there are no guarantees. Eating right and exercising will help with your desire for longevity, but many other factors, events, and circumstances can dramatically shorten your lifespan or even end it abruptly.

Regardless of the odds, we must give ourselves the best chance for healthy life continuance. Our families need us around. Our friends want us around. Our jobs depend on us for success. We don’t want to let any of them down, but what can we do about it? Surely our Creator is the only one who truly controls life and death. Well, while that is true, we were created to be free-thinking and self-healing organisms. If only we would do what is required to promote the self-healing process, we could live as long as we want. This may sound far fetched to some and to a degree it is. The fact that there are so many things that work against the self-healing process is the catalyst to the belief that longevity is a fluke.

So why is preservation better than reparation? That’s simple. Reparation means to restore to good condition. The need to restore something indicates that its condition has deteriorated to an unfavorable state. Preservation means to maintain the current state of something, minimizing the possibility of injury, malfunction, and disrepair. Naturally, preservation should be your obvious choice.

As we mature, our lives become filled with things that require more of our time and attention. This makes living a healthy lifestyle seemingly impossible. I’ve often heard people say, “I don’t have time for that” or “I can’t rest, I work two jobs.” Then, when their body breaks down landing them in the hospital, they have no choice but to make time. We’ve all seen it happen before. So the question we need to ask ourselves is, why wait until it gets to that point? If we have good health now, why not maintain it? We shouldn’t let pride or possessions prevent us from preserving our well-being. Good wealth is useless without good health.

Preservation is a choice. We must decide whether value-sizing our combo meal now is worth the possibility of taking blood pressure medication later. We must choose whether smoking cigarettes today is as pleasurable as the oxygen tank we may have to lug around in the future. No one can predict the future, but each of our present actions are what shape it. Repair is much harder, costlier, and time consuming than preventative maintenance. We must replace the “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it” thinking with “if it ain’t broke, keep it that way.” Make preservation a goal and reparation a resort. Take care of yourselves.

-- Linwood Butler, Jr.

Making the Most of the Meantime

2011-03-29T10:26:00.001-04:00

Often we fail to recognize what we have until it’s gone. If we were to make a list of things that fit in that category, time would surely top most of our lists. Time never stops -- for anyone. The only limit to what we can do with our time is our mental capacity to conceive what can be done and our efficiency at performing or delegating those tasks.

By now, nearly everyone has heard of multitasking. That is the effort to accomplish more than one task at the same time. Multitasking is usually done on purpose. You know you have multiple things to do and only so much time to do them so you multitask. Some people are better multitaskers than others. I have two friends who try to multitask when we are talking on the telephone. I can always tell when this is happening because there will be a long pause after I speak, followed by a general reply that fails to match my previous comment. I usually call them out on it for fun.

Often, there are times when we are waiting for something to be completed and the completion time is beyond our control. This creates what is called meantime, the time between two events. For instance, taking your car to the mechanic for an oil change normally takes less than an hour and does not warrant dropping off your vehicle. So for about one hour you will be sitting in the shop’s lobby while the mechanic does his job. In the meantime, you can choose to do nothing, sleep, read a magazine, talk on your cell phone, or watch TV. All of these activities, though relaxing or entertaining, are essentially non-productive. You can use that opportunity to do some of the things for which you never seem to have the time. Bring your laptop, tablet PC, or smartphone with you to work on your long-term projects or to review your list of goals. Bring some elastic bands and a pair of sneakers to do a quick workout. Bring your copy of “It’s Always Today” and change your life in 24 hours. Planning is the key to capitalizing on your meantime.

Remember, meantime is different than multitasking in that you are not obligated to do anything else but wait for something else to happen. It may be as simple as how my children eat cereal and brush their teeth while they await their clothes to be ironed. It may be as complex as interning or volunteering in the field in which you are seeking your college degree until you graduate. Maximizing your meantime is a choice that is based on how quickly you want to reach your goals. Everything that it takes to accomplish your goals will still need to be done, so why not do those things during the time that is technically delegated to another task?

Rest, relaxation, and recreation are essential elements of healthy living. If you absolutely need to do those types of activities while you await other things to transpire, by all means exercise your liberty. If not, make the most of the meantime and watch how your productivity and efficiency increase exponentially.

-- Linwood R. Butler, Jr.

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Spreading the Good News

2011-03-25T06:30:00.001-04:00

A good deed can be forgotten in less than 5 minutes. On the other hand, the memory of a bad deed may never be forgotten. It’s unfortunate, but bad news travels fast. Now that technology allows global access to anyone at anytime, it travels even faster than the speed of light. The world has always had an inexplicable fascination with extreme fortune and misfortune. We love to devote our attention to the lifestyles of the rich and famous as well as the senseless and centless.

As much as we love to hear rags to riches stories, we seem to be more intrigued by the drama of riches to rags. Jealousy and envy are the main elements responsible for that. Witnessing someone lose their earthly treasures should be disheartening but instead there are usually more sentiments resembling that’s what they get. Think about how many times you’ve heard about a celebrity whose home was in foreclosure and thought, how in the world does one squander all their money? Your next thought was probably along the lines of, why would they spend that much on a house in the first place? Yet, if your neighbor’s home is foreclosed upon, there is immediate empathy which generates acts of charity and hospitality. No thoughts are given to how they may have mismanaged their money or if they overextended themselves to begin with by purchasing that particular home.

We tend to see ourselves as doing the most sensible things. According to our thinking, anyone who has less than us is not doing enough while those who have more are doing too much. People who are on our same level are viewed as “okay,” in our eyes. So, when an affluent person loses what they have, we figure they were doing too much anyway. The part we neglect to recognize is that anyone who experiences misfortune is someone’s neighbor. They are also someone’s son or daughter, and possibly someone’s parent.

Money and time do not know anyone personally. This means you can manage your money and your time in any manner you wish so that they work toward the improving your life. In this world, especially in America, your options for how you earn a living are virtually limitless. You can spend your time washing cars or owning the carwash. You can get paid to stock shelves in a store or from shares of stock in that store. The role you choose determines how successful your life will be considered. I say considered because money and material assets are not the only indicators of success. There are those who give all they have for the benefit of others. For them, helping just one person make something of themselves is a true success.

The preceding paragraphs were a lengthy introduction to the age-old concept of privileged information, or selective secrecy. The Internet, coupled with the increased capabilities of cellular phones, has dramatically expanded our access to everyone’s business. In light of these innovations, the popularity of sites to share personal information has spread like wildfires. The more we hear other people’s news, the more we are desensitized to what is really transpiring. We are allowing our time to be diverted from achieving our goals. We often know more about what someone 3000 miles away is doing than what’s happening in our own homes. The abundance of this information is perpetuated by our hunger to receive it, and share it.

Las Vegas should not be the only place where what you do stays there. Make no mistake; sharing good news is a good thing. However, the time when personal trials and family drama were never discussed in a public forum needs to return. Fussing on Facebook, taunting on Twitter, battling on Bebo, mouthing off on MySpace, lying on LinkedIn, and yelling on YouTube all mean the same thing: putting your business in the street. Prejudice and negative perceptions of you can easily be formed when you constantly broadcast your problems. Be selectively secretive regarding the intelligence you divulge with the world, whether it is on the internet or just a personal conversation.

At times it is necessary to share what ails you in order to secure a remedy. The rest of the time it is not, so keep it to yourself. When someone starts to complain about turmoil in their life, refrain from fueling it by agreeing or interjecting with your own tribulations. Instead, offer words of encouragement or even a solution to their problem. Help them to change their perspective. If they still wish to complain, let them find another outlet. When people post negative comments on a blog or social networking site, erase it immediately if it is within your power, or simply ignore it. Negativity needs fertilizer to grow. Stop feeding it and it will wither away and die. Spread the good news of your existence and accomplishments. Promote positivity and meaningful momentum. The world can be a better place but it’s up to all of us to make it so.

Linwood R. Butler, Jr.

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Proper English: An Endangered Species

2011-03-22T06:26:00.001-04:00

We call cancer the silent killer. In the context of the living body, that is an accurate assessment. However, there is another silent killer out there; one that poses as a friend. We all know it as: Technology. While it has unquestionably made all of our lives easier, created jobs, and increased efficiency, it has also debilitated our desire for retained knowledge. We no longer want to know how to do something we just want to know what can do it for us. For instance, very few people read or even carry paper maps nowadays. Our sense of direction has been replaced with enough sense to follow the directions narrated to us by our Global Positions Systems. Changing the channel by hand, raking leaves in the yard, even remembering someone’s telephone number have all been exchanged for the remote control, the leaf blower, and the Blackberry.

Speaking of cell phones, a massive contact list that is impossible to remember isn’t the only double edged sword technology has helped create. The texting feature available on nearly all cell phones is the wayward offspring of the computer user’s favorite, instant messaging (IM). Instant messaging was invented to be a non-intrusive method for sending low priority messages to another person who subscribed to the IM service and was logged into it. This differed from email since IM’s were significantly shorter in length and usually very casual and conversational. Spelling was not important. Grammar didn’t matter. Diction was non-essential. Abbreviations and missing words didn’t necessarily equate to missed meanings. IM had its own jargon, acronyms, and rules of etiquette. The leaders of the Internet industry created brand names for their IM services such as AIM (AOL Instant Messaging) and Yahoo! Messenger.

As with all things, evolution took its course as we saw the capabilities of cell phones grow so rapidly that they soon needed another category to keep up with them. Smart phones were born and the world hasn’t been the same since. We now have the internet, IM, games, GPS, and 24/7 availability, literally in our pockets. Texting, the mobile version of IM, quickly gained adoration by the young, the young at heart, and the rest of us. Unfortunately, with texting came the rules, or lack thereof, of IM. Misspelled and abbreviated words, slang, acronyms, Ebonics, and just plain old malarkey; you name it, it was fair game. I, too, grew fond of texting although holding a conversation with someone is still my preferred means of communication.

I didn’t realize how much IM and texting had affected my ability to properly create formal compositions until I embarked upon the task of writing my book, “It’s Always Today: Change Your Entire Life In Just 24 Hours”. I was so proud when I finished that I sent it to the editor bragging about how there shouldn’t be much to edit. Man, was I ever wrong? My editor was not only a school teacher but also the daughter of a retired teacher. She tore the book to shreds leaving behind a scene reminiscent of a slaughterhouse. I was in disbelief that my writing was that bad. She assured me that it wasn’t as disastrous as I perceived, just simple mistakes. Sure, they may have been simple mistakes, but there were a lot of them. To top it off, I had actually taken extra English classes during my college years to improve my writing skills. However, that was before IM and texting was invented which had evidently degenerated my knowledge of English composition and grammar. I was thoroughly embarrassed.

Proper English is now a dying form of communication especially in the urban community. Since it’s not “cool” to speak properly, less and less of us feel the need to do it. Speaking or writing improperly in itself is not the problem; allowing it to go uncorrected is. No one knows the rules of any game until they are taught. Once they understand the rules, there should be consequences for non-compliance. Since many speaking and writing errors are charged to context, individuality, intended audience, and/or ignorance, they are allowed to continue. Parents who don’t know or enforce proper communication protocol will raise children who will most likely continue on along that path. While it is not necessary to speak in a manner that is devoid of personality or impact at all times, knowing how and when to use proper English will help the speaker and the writer as well as the listener and the reader.

Texting is texting and IM is IM. It is a modern form of communication that is not going to go away anytime soon. Don’t take this passage to mean that one should compose a novel to convey that they are laughing out loud. However, take the time to learn the correct way to use our versatile language. It will take a valiant effort from everyone to avert the extinction of proper English.

-- Linwood R. Butler, Jr.

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The Divisions of Work

2011-03-18T09:57:00.001-04:00

Doing or having a job often involves participation in a partnership. However, there are distinct divisions of work and partnerships. We should be mindful of these divisions as they dictate what is achieved and received from the collaborative effort. The words at, for, and with indicate the level at which one is involved in the work being performed.

Ever heard someone say they work at XYZ Company? That is exactly what they mean; they do work while they are at the company/on the clock. These people rarely have a sense of ownership for the tasks they are assigned. An easy way to tell if you work at XYZ Company is if you’ve ever said, “As long as my paycheck is right on Friday, nothing else matters.” When the clock’s hands touch quitting time, or maybe even before, you bolt out of the door like suspects during an FBI drug raid. Your loyalty is to the money and not the job you were hired to perform. If another company offers to pay you more money to do something completely different, you’re gone. While there’s nothing wrong with that in essence, you need to figure out if this is what you want for your life and the lives of your children, for those who have children. What were your dreams when you were a child? Was it to spend 8 hours a day taking sandwich orders? Was it to work two jobs, one as a telemarketer during the day and one stocking shelves at night? If not, how much more time will you spend working at these places. We tell our kids they can be whatever they want to be when they grow up; but do we really believe that? What they see us do becomes embedded in their psyche as they mature to where if they get to a point where they no longer believe they can be what the want to be, they can at least be what we were. If we don’t prove to them that the sky is the limit then is it really true?

Working for a company or individual is a bit different than just being on the premises. The context of the word for in this case means “on behalf of.” This is why politicians always say they will work hard for you or your communities. What would happen if a senator just worked at the senate with no further connection to the work he was elected to perform? You know you work for XYZ Company when your superior, or co-worker, can call you on your time to discuss work; and I don’t mean to complain about the job. Your level of engagement is much deeper, giving you a sense of ownership over the tasks for which you are responsible. Your position within the company provides a feeling of pride that motivates you to do more and more to help the company, and yourself, advance. You know the mission, the vision, and the credo of the company like the back of your hand, not because you memorized it, because you live it.

Working with a company is the on the opposite end of the gamut from working at a company. This expresses a true partnership where, in most cases, you are a business yourself. Whether you are a consultant, contractor, confidential informant, community leader, or a customer focus group, you willfully enter into the partnership to work toward a mutually beneficial result. You may or may not be compensated with money. The level of respect for and from each party is much different given the necessity of each side’s contribution. The barrier of entry to this type of work relationship is a bit higher than being employed at or for a particular job. Working with a company requires a proven track record and knowledge in the field of interest on behalf of both parties. A consultant can tell a business owner what to do to improve their business even though the consultant has never done the type of work the company performs. This is because the consultant has an interest in the details of the business itself and not the products or services the business provides. The business owner willingly adheres to the advice of the consultant since what he has tried on his own has previously failed. Confidential informants want their communities exterminated, freed from the criminal element that plagues their tranquility. Therefore, they do the best job at providing complete information that will allow the authorities to do their best. In either case, there is work being performed at a high level due to the results that are expected from both parties.

Working is a necessary element of life. With that in mind, two questions await your answer: Where are you now and where would you like to be? You can work at, for, or with whatever and whoever you choose. Your position in life is determined by your ambition and your effort. Life resembles the game of checkers, whereas any piece can make the move that is in front of it, but the king can make any move it wants. Which piece do you want to be?

--Linwood R. Butler, Jr.

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The Epiphany

2011-03-16T21:10:00.003-04:00

I always dreamed of doing something great for which the world would remember me. I never really knew exactly what it was, but I knew I wanted that for my life. I didn’t have the conviction of a Malcolm X or a Kunta Kinte to stand up and die for my beliefs. I wanted to be a living example of what one could do if they only would put their mind and effort to it.

As time passed, and nothing extraordinarily great happened, I began to doubt myself, my talents, and my ability to realize my dreams. There were many low points when giving in seemed to be the best option. Others, who conformed to the norm, appeared to be getting ahead while I felt like I was just spinning my wheels. I found myself longing to just be regular. Wanting to be able to take whatever life throws my way at face value without questioning it. Wishing I could just go with the flow and make due with what was rationed to me. Internally begging for God to erase my ambition and allow me to be a follower instead of a leader.

It was then I knew, I had to have been put here to do something more than just be regular. My ambition was one of the greatest gifts that my Creator had given me. For me to want to give in, this must have merely been a strengthening phase and a test of my perseverance. All of the trials, tribulations, disappointments, deceptions, setbacks, haters, hurdles and hindrances were divinely and strategically placed in my life to expose me to the worst in preparation for the best. It was then I knew, giving in was not an option. It was enemy’s attempt to supersede God’s plan for me and the people I was put here to help.

I still may not know what great accomplishments I am destined to achieve but, when they reveal themselves, I will be ready. I thought I had two options: give in or give it my all. The epiphany was recognizing that the only option has always been the latter.

--Linwood R. Butler, Jr.

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