Jagjeet Saini :)

Moving Places

2018-04-15T17:08:00.000-04:00

Since the time you became an embryo and attached yourself to the uterus till you are lying dead in the coffin box, you are just moving places. Yes, that’s how I happen to look at it lately. After spending 9 months you’re just set free to adjust in the outside world and survive. You cry you throw tantrums but the reality is that you have to live in the new place you’re in.
Oh you cannot just live there for long, you’re 3 let’s go to school. That’s where it all starts. Then you’re 4,5,6.....21 ah! The workplace (no idea how to get things done) the place most of us hate but hey no looking at it that way, it’s making you successful. You go on and on.

At every place you’ve been, you leave a little part of your heart there because you tried to make it your own. That’s why it hurts and there are tears in your eyes when you’re about to leave it and move to another one. May it be school, high school or even a workplace you never liked.

Now how about being a married girl and moving to a new place altogether. Yes hurts badly right? There can’t be denial because you hear that a new home to you but again survival hacks. Everything changes from the food you ate to the bed you comfortably slipped into when you wanted. But you make it your own though it takes sometime to “feel at home”.

Now just think about moving to a new place in a new country. I hated the thought of it in the whole growing up thing but no way you can deny. Set up a new home choosing little things with precision. Now I have no idea how a man thinks over this but being a woman, I have put in my heart and soul to make it a home. And then after a while you have to leave it all and move forward to another place in another country because- “success awaits “.

The same story repeats and with all the courage and positivism let’s get started. Everything I ever learned in the whole lifetime of 26 years , moving places and losing heart to it is what has made me "ME". It has made me look beyond and given me an outlook to believe in myself and the ability to adjust and rise up to situations. It has changed the way I used to look at life. The empathetic me has made me think how others who move places as refugees to save their lives in terror struck countries would perceive this. The valid thought then arises - “You cannot survive without moving places”.

More power to you!

Connecting Minds Across Miles

2017-01-04T01:08:00.002-05:00

Some call it destiny;others call it fate,

Everything happens through his will maybe early or late.

Never thought of Connecting Minds Across Miles,

Until I heard from you in all the possible styles.

Always thought strangers are dangerous,

But never met someone who was so venturous.

In the world full of vague relationships,

I saw you being so sure giving my heartbeat multiple skips.

The mind fought battles with the heart,

Was it the right thing ever to start.

You stood there firm with welcoming arms,

Being calm we settled things with societal norms.

Yes it was quick but nothing ever felt so right,

We decided on forever and I have been smiling bright.

Why Hate when you can Love??

2016-07-24T06:40:00.004-04:00

Humankind is one such species with a mixture of so many emotions and expressions. I wonder out of so many options why Hatred is chosen as a medium of expression or even thought.

I was reading a book - Best Laid Plans by Sidney Sheldon , a great author with amazing stories we have been reading since years. Out of all the characters in there, there is one which has become my all time favorite - Dana Evans . A remarkable lady with a true hero inside portraying the war in Sarajevo at her own risk. A war which had no reason, no right or wrong. This is not just a situation there but currently in Iraq and neighboring countries as well. Innocent people are killed and children are abandoned on streets, refugee camps are bombed but the question is WHY???

Everyday we hear some or the other news of violence and racism. Why there is no Peace? Is it because the government is too focused on getting profits from the war supplies they offer to the countries in need or is it that war helps to get funding from UN. Talking on a minuscule level, do we have peace within our own selves???

We always hear to the news stories and start wondering how bad the world is but we never tend to peep in our own self and ponder how we have been throughout our lives. Before we think what the world does, have we ever taken out time to think that even we are a part of this very own world? We make the World. Sadly we have our own boundaries. We limit our good self only to those who make us feel happy or to whom we are more attached, but does this make us hate the others who fail to meet this criteria? I would say it doesn't. Why we Hate when we have a beautiful thing called Love?

Ever wondered why some people succeed quickly in life's race than others? Mainly because they don't waste their valuable time in envying the people and thinking about how they don't deserve what they have achieved. "Love all" is not possible always as we are not God but "No Hate" is not at all difficult. We have grown up with the notion that Love solves all the problems but ironically the same was rarely used. A Hindu would somewhere Hate a Muslim and vice-a-versa, A poor would envy the rich, A woman would be jealous of another beautiful woman, A scholar would always look down upon the weak performers, the scenarios are many to list down but why can't we look at our own betterment?

Hate gives you negativity and when it spreads, makes you restless and anxious.The beauty of Love is that it makes you stronger as it gives you Peace and Peace makes you prosper. Love Multiplies as it spreads on and on. The power of love can buy you some of the best people in this world and you can always choose to neglect the few who hinder your growth but never Hate as you will have them in your mind that ways. Love is a tool which helps to repair all your problems and mend broken connections. Love can make an animal be your loyalest companion, Love can cure an ailing being, Love can demolish the stupid societal structure, all in all Love can make you Human!

Spread Love, Spread Positivism. Stop worrying about petty issues and hating others for them. You can change this world because you make it. Hate has never nor will it solve any problems of this world being the only cause of them. World will be a better place to live in if we understand and imbibe this in our daily lives.

Towards Glory

2015-06-07T10:46:00.001-04:00

There comes a time when you have to choose,

To take the less travelled path or the one that's been in use.

Standing amidst the dark i think,

With which of the two paths my life would sync.

There are people and experiences to learn from but no light on the left,

The other has uneven surfaces and uncut bushes but a ray of light with great zest.

Maybe the less travelled path is more promising and comfortable,

People who took the other just learnt from experiences which kept them stable.

Why would people not think of risking themselves towards the ray of light,

There could be a new success story that can make you shine bright.

There is a chaos in my thoughts and mind in a fight,

Standing there aloof throughout the night.

Finally i choose the path that has a ray of light but no success story,

With a believe that this is what i wanted and I walked towards the glory.

- Jagjeet Kaur Saini

Espial

2013-12-06T14:26:00.003-05:00

Walking away from the mess,
Carefully playing in life's chess,
I discovered beautiful and audacious Me.

Closing doors of the past,
winking over the shadows it cast,
I discovered beautiful and audacious Me.

Accepting the reality of broken promises,
healing the outcome of all the losses,
I discovered beautiful and audacious Me.

Wandering alone through the dark roads,
Coming across varied souls,
I discovered beautiful and audacious Me.

Realising how mean people are,
Then too being humble at par,
I discovered beautiful and audacious Me.

Loving myself all over again,
overcoming every sorrow and pain,
I discovered beautiful and audacious Me.

Hoping God provides me some sanity,
To keep going and practice humanity,
I discovered beautiful and audacious Me.

Windfall

2013-11-18T11:30:00.001-05:00

Looking in the past makes me think,

How life changed in a matter of a blink.

At times gazing at the mirror I feel,

There have been so many twists in the life's reel.

Too many sweet memories to cherish lifelong,

But the shadow of bitter one's are bound to come along.

The hands which shook and never departed,

And the souls which met just to be parted.

Few are the beings who came as blessings,

Others are thanked for their valuable teachings.

No regrets for all the happenings,

Every morning brings along new beginnings.

Walking in the dark has made it clear,

I would make my way and there's no fear.

Standing strong overcoming every ordeal,

Forgiving the wrongs helping heart to heal.

People change and so does life that's for sure,

Keep going with a heart that's loving and pure.

- Jagjeet Kaur Saini

Who said Love?

2013-11-09T14:06:00.000-05:00

Looking at the young couples at times throws back the light on times we had been at that tender age. The age of discovering the other aspect of self. The feel of new emotions and commitments. The age when you are not an adult but at the same time not considered even a kid - "The Teenage". As confusing the description is the same is the state of beings in that age group.

At the tender age of 13-14, kids get into mature relations. The liking for each others company starts being called as love. The expectations rise and emotions get to their peak. The couple act as a pillar for each other in the walks of life. The minutest details about each and every aspect of life are shared and discussed. The cute fights and the endless discoveries about your own self. As time passes by, the bonding strengthens and leads to greater expectations from the partner.

There have been studies which concluded that most of the kids nowadays fall in relationships due to lack of emotional support from the family.The nuclear family revolution,working parents,tech savvy kids,lead to deprivation of love and belongingness in the family and thus love has to be hunted outside. In the competitive world,there has to be someone who can share some of your worries and sorrows. A need to have happy moments with someone and cherish little things.

It's not that a decade ago people never fell into relations,they did. But today the age at which it all starts is much lower. Kid's mature before time and so does their thought process. The first relation they fall in is thought to be the basis of life. Either it makes life or breaks it with a lifetime lesson. Most often the first ever relationships are out of fantasies and unusual desires which are not always the same at the end. Most of them end up with bitter fights resulting from compatibility and expectation issues. It gives a greater view of life to the person for future decisions to be made. Some learn at this very point whereas,some take time to understand.

In life there are many great priorities which compete with the rank of a relationship in a person's life. Career at a point of time becomes the greatest concern. A person with a great future perspective,prioritizes a career choice over any relation and thus resulting in a breakup issue. Another issue is Ego. One out of the couple tries to overpower the other. Ego clashes occur and thereby somehow the love ends. There are some people who just fall into a relationship for the sake of it. They are themselves not sure of what they want from the other person and end up being a blunder in other person's life.

Ancestor's said love never dies. But what we see today doesn't seem to go by the saying. Relations are short lived. Why? The reason is simple yet a bit complicated to be understood.

Many Indian families portray successful stories of arrange marriages. A marriage arranged by two families,which eventually develop into love. It is the whole process of getting along and being with each other at every decision of life. Understanding the partner well and stand aside experiencing all ups and downs together. This compatibility and understanding finally develops into love and lasts forever.

However, what we see in today's so called love relationships is a whole opposite story. People first fall in love and then try understanding each other. Relations are short lived because there is commitment made but no clear direction for the relation to flourish well and there is an option to end it up if expectations are not met. No person is ready to adjust and bend down a bit for the other. The mindsets have changed and so did the meaning of love.

The point is not whether a relation is arranged marriage or a love marriage. The main basis for any kind of relation is trust,understanding and commitment. Just saying "I love you" doesn't work, but showing it in every single deed is what makes it going long way. Realizing the value of each other in lives and respecting the existence of the other. Maintaining a balance between the priorities in life and thus living a happy and peaceful life
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God's own Chariot!!!

2013-10-18T14:05:00.000-04:00

"Sometimes it's not about the journey or the destination...

But the people you meet along the way."

18th October 2013, just another day for me as it started. Getting up early morning to the sounds of chirping birds and religious hymns being recited on TV. Day started a bit early than usual due to a scheduled interview. Got ready,had breakfast and left. Gave my interview which was great indeed. The next thing on the plan was to head towards college as usual. Reached station and boarded a slow train from Thane station. Crowded doorway and somehow managing to get in is something what a daily routine is of any person in Mumbai who travels by local trains.

Somehow i managed to get a seat and my earphones plugged in i enter into my own world of thoughts. Watching ladies talk, buy stuff from the hawkers, and everything which i notice everyday. On and off i keep replying to messages on my phone and i reach my destination without even realising. Stepping out of the train, i rush towards the stairs realising i am a bit late. Exiting the station i approach the road to quickly get a Taxi and reach college as soon as possible.

I stood there for a while but could not get a Taxi as there were others standing and waiting for the same. Suddenly i notice a Taxi coming and before me even waving, it stopped in front of me. The taxi driver who was a White bearded sikh man who would be around 60yrs of age, politely asked me "child where you want to go". The shine in his eyes and the charming smile made me think for a while actually where i wanted to go. I got into the cab and told him my destination. He smiled looking at me and said you would reach.

For a moment i forgot everything that was on my mind. I sat quietly and he started asking me about me and my family. He suggested that you should go to gurudwara(sikh temple) and i happen to think how come he knows that i don't go there often. After long convictions by my mom i would someday go and attend the prayers. This man was having some power. He made me think on a lot many aspects. While he spoke, there was a big traffic jam a little ahead of the station road. He said looking at the stranded cars "this is the situation of many,who get stuck in the race of reaching a place where everyone wants to be but in the due course there are things left behind and you cannot take a U-turn." He pointed towards the responsibilities towards parents and the family. In just 15 minutes of my commute in this Taxi, i was made to rethink on my own beliefs.

Somewhere i felt the journey should not end. I wanted to ask him so many things which were obviously related to what he spoke about but definitely would have given me a clearer view of life. We were just about to reach the college gate and i started looking for my wallet in the bag. I took out money to give him and he said he would not like to accept it from me but somehow i convinced him to take it. He returned me the change and told me to wait for a second. He pulled out a pack of biscuits from the dashboard and handed two from it to me saying eat it as an offering and he drove ahead. I stood there watching him disappear in the traffic ahead.

This was not something that happens often with me. It was an incident which certainly changed me a bit if not fully. Whole day there was a thought coming in my mind that was he a human or an avatar of God. Whatsoever it may be, i feel blessed to have come across such a being and my belief in humanity is regenerated. If everyone tries to be a little like this man amidst the dense concrete forests, world would become a heaven to live in.

A Dry Cry

2013-10-13T10:52:00.000-04:00

"Someone asked her what was wrong, she smiled and said Nothing, as she turned and walked away, a tear ran down her cheek as she whispered to herself...Everything!! "

This is a story of every other woman you would meet on the go. Some are better at hiding their feelings behind a fake smile while the others fail at it and end up crying. While she is doing things making someone else feel happy,somewhere she is burying her own happiness. There is always some or the other thing which keeps on taking her mind in a whirl and bothers her. All she needs at times is someone who would just listen to her without any judgement and for the same there exists best friends. People say when you have a partner to share things then you don't need anyone else. But the truth is that most of the problems are such that cannot be understood by them.

I always notice the women around me. While going in the train each morning, there are women who are smiling at each other, some who have kept places for there friend who would get in at the next station, and the journey begins. But behind every smile, there's a hidden sorrow. A pain that is well hidden by some and others make it quite visible. Some discuss the fights they had with their mother in law the last night and some are full of the marks they had on their body given by their husbands. Every eye tells a different story of sadness and despair.

In a second class ladies compartment of a train, you would find some of the amazing personalities that give you courage at times when you are depressed. Once i saw a lady crying and wiping off her tears as she listened to songs on her cellphone. Then the other day a middle aged lady discussing her day over the phone with someone and telling how its been difficult to raise her children and making them stand independent. In the morning there are many mothers accompanying their children to drop them to schools carrying their heavy bags on shoulders and protecting the kids from crowd.

In a ladies special, there is a different environment altogether. Ladies getting in the train in groups laughing and giggling. Sharing mature jokes and laughing off things. Some discuss their daily chores and different styles of cooking a vegetable. There are ladies who seem to be so frustrated with their lives that they tend to throw tantrums at anyone who would even happen to dash them. there are ladies who have started their businesses through these ladies special trains. You would notice ladies with catalogs selling dress materials. You just have to order from the catalog and the dress would be delivered to you the next day in the same compartment of the same train. You would also see ladies with catalogs of Tupperware,Amway,Oriflame and so on. Some female hawkers who sell Kurtis,earrings,bangles and similar stuff. Ladies on board have developed such a rapport with these daily sellers that they have a competitive advantage in bargaining as compared to the new ladies who travel less often in these trains.

There is one particular lady i notice on the matunga station. She gets in the dadar train from matunga and sells bhel puri to the ladies and gets down again at matunga station and waits for the next dadar train to arrive. She prepares everything needed at the station itself while waiting for the train. When asked whether she does this the whole day, she said "I just come in the evening by 4:30 and do this work to earn some extra income to raise my children. I work till 9 in the late evening or sometimes even 10. My husband's income is just not sufficient to fulfill today's needs." and then she resumed cutting onions to serve her customers in a while. And i entered a world of my own thoughts. In our world where we would just burst into tears when something is not going right and in front of me a very simple lady who is working without a single trait of sadness on her face.

Such are the women of India. They would just go on and on without a sigh or complaint about her situation. Maybe we are raised this way or gradually we develop these skills to keep walking and finding our own ways in the darkness of this world. the modern day women who are taught to be independent and live fearlessly in this modern world, are also undergoing the same kind of trauma in some phase of their daily lives. Though the situation has changed a bit from the traditional society but then too emotionally women would be women. That is the reason i prefer travelling in a second class compartment of a local train as i get an opportunity to get exposed to so many different beings who are just like me but yet so different.

Walking Away

2012-10-24T13:46:00.004-04:00

She's gone,she walked away,

Her heart was broken,but not in a sway.

She fell in love being unknown,

But all she got was sorrow and frown.

She got through all hurdles to keep it going on,

but now she can't handle it and moving on.

She never knew her lover was so ignorant,

That the moment she gave up,he walked away as a valiant.

But it hurts every time she look's back,

Thinking when she would again be on track.

She cried her heart out to the almighty,

But the only answer she got was to walk for her entity.

She picked herself and stood up with courage,

With the belief that her heart will soon recover the breakage.

Today she stands up high with a cute smile,

As now she knows being sad is not worthwhile.

The joy ride

2012-08-17T00:43:00.000-04:00

I can't imagine how my life would have been without the local trains of Mumbai.Getting up early morning and rushing up in the bathroom, get ready have breakfast and leave as soon as possible to reach college.I would always be late of course if i would not be having my savior activa to help me reach station on time.Rushing up and parking my vehicle,I proceed to the platform 1 of Thane station where i see the 8:08 A.M CST train halting and ready to leave.Taking a deep breath of relief I move towards the ladies compartment and if i am lucky sometimes get a seat too.

The advantage of staying in thane i find is that you can get a train which starts from here and so is comparatively less crowded than the one's which come from kalyan or badlapur side. You can even take up fast trains which do't stop at small stations and promise to reach faster than the slow one's. However it does't make much difference as fast trains are crowded as hell and your luck if you even get a place to keep your foot.

Sitting in the train and hoping it starts soon,i always imagine how the others would have struggled to get on here. The school children,office going ladies,college girls and even oldies. Sometimes even the beggars who irritate and leave only when you give them a rupee. It has become a routine to see all these things around in a local train. As the time passes the train is full till the foot board and you cannot see outside.People then too step in somehow to reach on time. Its 8:08 and the train whistles and leaves. A sigh of relief and as the stations pass by people keep on getting in even if there is no space. Everyday i get to witness at least 2-3 ladies fighting for a seat and sometimes it gets worse that a lady cop has to be called in. Women curse,humiliate and sometimes it even gets to pulling hair.

somehow all these things have become a part of routine for me so it really doesn't matter.Once in front of me two women were fighting and just a minute after they were normal and started making fun of the whole thing. So its just not a travel but its a medium to learn many things by just observing and interacting with different people from varied walks of life. The ladies who travel together from years form groups and play games and even some of them have kitty parties arranged. Some you would find sharing their life sorrows and some would just go on asking for seats.

The whole 45minutes ride of mine has too many things to learn from. But its worse experience when there's no seat and I have to stand the whole journey. I can't fight like other ladies around which is a disadvantage but somehow i happen to grab a side of the door to stand safely. Stations pass and the 10th station from thane is Matunga. I get up after d previous station passes and breaking through the crowd reach the door and stand behind the already standing women to get down. After getting down the first thing is to take a deep breath and see the train moving.

I have become so used to travelling by train in the past 5 years that now seeing the traffic on the roads i wonder if i would have gone by train. Its not just that its a medium of travel but it has become a part of life. You do face problems when there are heavy rains or breakdown when trains are late and you are stranded between stations for long duration but in these conditions too you would find great things to be learned.

.....DISTANCE.....

2011-12-09T07:32:00.001-05:00

Its been long since we met,

But den too i haven't forgotten a single word of your's yet.

It was so that you were too busy,

But as i cud understand it i took it easy.

Sometimes it happens that i want you with me here,

But den i feel i cant and drop a tear.

I hope i could have a magical power,

So that i cou;d have you always and forever.

you cant Even know the extent of my love,

Its farther than the reach of wings of a dove.

How can i tel u how much i miss u,

As you are the dearest to me of the selected few.

Ma every minute goes in your thought,

and with it the sweetest memories get caught.

I think our loev is so stupid,

that whatever happens everytime we are blessed by a cupid.

No matter how much we fight,

But you would be the sweetest person in my sight...