Heart-zooming is a technique I want to share with you. It’s a way to bypass our differences in thoughts or words and connect at the deepest place with people we come in contact with. And it works great with animals, too!

Here’s how it works:

I’d love to hear how it goes for you. Please let us know by leaving a comment below.

Everybody runs into a snag at some point with deciding — whether it’s a chronic problem or just a once-in-a-while thing. Sometimes it’s a real problem. EFT can be such a big help with the process, so you can get moving again.

Choosing to Not Decide

Let’s talk first about NOT making a decision. Can you see that this in itself is actually making a decision? You’re deciding to NOT decide. And that’s not always a bad thing. Maybe a wise part of you knows that you need more information to make an educated choice. OK. Nothing wrong with that.

Just be willing to see that you’re making a choice to not decide. When you accept that, next you can ask yourself WHY you’re not deciding. The answers will help you move forward. And those answers are all tappable. Cool! I know you’ve heard me say this before, but here it is again: Let go of any self-blame about it. Self-blame really keeps you stuck, and makes issues harder to release.

The Perfect Decision for All Time

Another block to making decisions is the belief that the decision will be chiseled in stone once you make it. If you think you have to make a decision that you can stick by no matter what, that’s a lot of pressure.

That’s why you stall out – you have an inner going on between the part that thinks your decision needs to stand for all time, and the part that knows it may need to change. The answer? Build in a margin of flexibility. That’s what relieves the pressure. It doesn’t mean you’re making a weak decision with no real backbone to it. It means you live in reality and want to bring all your best to what you do – including modifying decisions when called for.

How To Tap On This

Setup (karate chop point)

• Even though I have big concerns about making decisions, and they are getting in my way, I want to love and accept myself anyway.
• Even though I have these negative feelings and beliefs about making decisions, I appreciate who I am and I want to appreciate my feelings.
• Even though I have all this decision stuff that’s been bothering me for a long time, I want to love and accept myself anyway.

Tapping – The Challenge (tap around all the points)

• All this decision stuff holding me back.
• These fears about deciding.
• Afraid I can’t do anything about it.
• Feeling ashamed and embarrassed about it.
• This decision anxiety.
• What’s the matter with me?
• This frustration about deciding.
• This pain about making decisions.
• I’m afraid to make a decision.
• What if I make the wrong choice?
• Maybe if I wait long enough, somebody else will decide.
• I’ve made bad decisions in the past. What if I do that again?
• I need to make the perfect choice.
• Forget about it. I’ll just decide later.
• I feel like such a wimp.
• Why am I so indecisive?
• It’s just a part of who I am.
• What will other people think of my decision?
• It’s all too much pressure. I just can’t decide.

OK. Now you’ve moved out some of the negative thoughts and feelings, and of course if there’s more left, continue tapping on it until the emotional intensity is down to at least a 3 on a scale of 1-10.

When you’re ready, move on to tapping some more affirmative phrases. Here are some to get you started.

Tapping Towards the Positive (tap around all the points)

• This remaining decision stuff – I’m starting to let it go.
• I’m releasing the leftover anxiety.
• I’m letting go of the frustration.
• I’m choosing to trust myself.
• I like the feeling of taking charge.
• I choose to trust my resources.
• I allow myself to maximize all my resources.
• I’m carrying forward my wisdom from past decisions.
• Each decision is giving me more practice.
• I honor my own courage and strength.
• I appreciate my gift and talents for making good decisions

Let’s hear how this works for you! Leave a comment below and share your decisions.

Maybe you experience envy often, or maybe just every once in awhile. For some people it’s almost an automatic response. Whatever the case, it’s an uncomfortable feeling, and EFT is a great way to shift that.

Digging Deeper

Let’s start by digging a little bit deeper into this whole envy thing. It’s actually a form of fear of not having enough. You feel envy when somebody else has something you want and you think that there’s some problem with you getting it — either you’re not going to get it or it’s going to take too long. And then your head can start playing with thoughts like: “They don’t deserve it and I do. Why don’t I have it? Why do they have it?”

It’s a reaction that can run from a mild twinge of envy to being obsessed with it and angry and contemptuous towards the other person, maybe making unpleasant remarks about the person who has what you have – all the way to trying to get other people to join with you on hating the person who has more money or the perfect body or the dream home or whatever it is that you want.

All of this is just a feeling response to an observation. The cool thing about that is that you can choose different feelings – a different response. That’s where EFT can come in handy – to eliminate the unwanted feelings so you’re just left with your observation that somebody has something you want.

It’s Not All Bad

That doesn’t have to be a negative feeling. Envy can be turned on its head where you notice that you’re feeling a little bit of it and just back up. Now you’re just noticing that this is something that you want.

That’s not bad to notice that. Your noticing could turn into a goal or an objective of yours. Or you might ask yourself if you really do want it and why you want it. That’s what we’re going to do with tapping, to put you back in a position of choice about how you emotionally respond to noticing something that you want that somebody else has.

How To Tap On This

Setup (karate chop point)

• Even though I have this envy and all this stuff connected to it, I want to love and accept myself anyway.
• Even though I have this envy and I’m a little embarrassed and anxious and frustrated about it, I still want to accept myself and accept my feelings.
• Even though I have this envy that’s been with me for a long time, I want to love and accept myself anyway.

Tapping – The Challenge (tap around all the points)

• All this envy and everything connected to it.
• This feeling that I can’t help it.
• Feeling embarrassed about it.
• The ways I blame other people and circumstances.
• This painful envy.
• I just want what other people have. Is that so bad?
• I think I should be able to have it too.
• It’s not fair that they have it and I don’t.
• I’m afraid I’ll never get it.
• I deserve things. Why don’t I have them?
• Some people have all the luck.
• What did they do to deserve it?
• Aren’t I as good as they are?
• I should have it instead of them.
• All this envy – it makes me feel like a kid.

Tapping Towards the Positive (tap around all the points)

• I’m choosing to shift my perspective.
• It’s OK to notice what I want.
• That’s helping me to focus my energy.
• I’m choosing to let go of this negativity about what I want.
• I’m in charge, and that’s my decision.
• It’s nice to notice what I want. It’s natural to compare myself to other people.
• That helps me know what I want for myself.
• I’m choosing freedom from the fear of never getting it.
• I say let’s both have it. That feels really good!
• I’m looking forward to the possibility of a whole new perspective on this.
• I can use envy in a positive way.
• That’s what I’m choosing for myself.
• I don’t need to beat myself up for feeling a little envy.
• And I don’t need to get carried away with it.
• I choose to use it as a signal to say, Oh. That’s something that I want.
• Then I can focus on how to make it happen. That’s my choice!

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Feeling blocked with your creative process can be so frustrating and disheartening. Here are some ways to help open up the flow again.

You Can Try EFT Basics

You can use the usual formula for tapping by saying, “Even though I have these creative blocks, I want to love and accept myself.” And say that 3 times.

Then tap on one round of “creative blocks.” Then give them a voice, just saying out loud all the thoughts you have about it. And tap your emotional intensity level down to zero. And if that works for you, great!

But maybe it’s not quite that simple for you. Maybe you need  new approach to the whole topic.

A New Perspective

Consider a new way of looking at your creative process. You can let creativity come the way it wants to instead of boxing it in and controlling it. Give it room to breathe – maybe show up in sort spurts if that’s how it wants to do it. Let it have the perfect way to come through.

Make room for it to change. Quit trying to go back to what worked last time or what works for somebody else. Let it have its own creative expression.

Treat it like a precious child – it really is your baby, isn’t it? – with sweet encouragement and grace and openness of heart and let it take whatever form it wants to take.

Know that your creative process is working quietly in the background. Acknowledge it and thank it for that. Don’t try to bring it out into the light before it’s ready. If it’s not baked yet, leave it in the oven. Thank it for continuing to cook in the oven of your mind and spirit.

How To Tap On This

Setup (karate chop point)

• Even though I have these creative blocks, I want to love and accept myself.
• Even though my creativity is blocked, I want to respect and appreciate myself anyway.
• Even though I have these creative blocks again, the same way I’ve had in the past, I want to accept myself and all my feelings.

Tapping – The Challenge (tap around all the points)

• All these creative blocks.
• These blocks I can’t do anything about.
• All the anxiety and frustration these blocks bring.
• Blaming myself about these blocks.
• These painful creative blocks.
• I can’t come up with anything fresh.
• I feel totally blocked.
• How can I call myself creative?
• I’m afraid this will last forever.
• I don’t know what’s wrong with me.
• Who was I kidding any way?
• I don’t think I’ll ever feel creative again.
• I just get so darned frustrated.
• It sucks all the joy out of what I love to do.
• These familiar creative blocks. I am so sick of them.

OK. Now you’ve moved out some of the negative thoughts and feelings, and of course if there’s more left, continue tapping on it.

When you’re ready, move on to tapping some more affirmative phrases. Here are some to get you started.

Tapping Towards the Positive (tap around all the points)

• I’m open to new ways of experiencing creativity.
• I’m allowing myself to relax into it now.
• I’m confident that the creativity cake is baking now.
• I don’t have to hurry anything.
• I choose to let go of any worry about it.
• It feels so good to encourage my own unique process.
• I love that it’s changing all the time.
• That’s a part of how creative I am.
• The more I trust myself, the more creativity is available to me.
• I appreciate the way my creativity shows up.
• Sometimes in big waves, and sometimes in little trickles.
• The more I relax with it, the easier it all becomes.
• I’m excited to see my next inspiration.
• And I know I can trust that it’s on its way.

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Tapping is usually goal-oriented, right? You’re getting blocks out of the way so you can do something.

But sometimes another approach is what’s called for. And that’s to use EFT to clear your blocks and then just wait. Set the goal aside.

I love hearing how a client experienced a total shift in her business after doing this. Here’s what happened:

How We Tapped

• We focused our tapping on anxiety, frustration and limiting beliefs about a part of her business that wasn’t working.
• We gave her permission during the tapping to set the problem aside for 10 days.
• We reassured her Inner Manager that we would give it all the attention it deserved at that later time.
• We set the problem inside a beautiful imaginary box, closed the lid, and set it on the imaginary shelf.
• We tapped on trusting that her inner and outer resources would bring her the best solutions when the time was right.

Her anxiety and frustration dissolved, and she shifted her focus to other parts of her business. There was no struggle in doing that — it just felt totally natural.

And then…. Surprise! 7 days later, the right people showed up, plans came together easily and a beautiful solution presented itself. There had been no striving, no dogged determination to find the answer. Just getting clear with EFT, planting positive seeds of change, and waiting for a defined period.

Set a Time Limit

Putting the 10-day limit on the set-aside time let the goal achiever in her relax, because she knew she’d be coming back to the issue. And that gave her the space to experience clarity — and the room for solutions to appear. When we checked in at the 10-day mark, she had some remarkable new plans in place. As she put it, “I never took the box down off the shelf. These things just all showed up and came together beautifully!”

Try this for yourself. Try tapping just for clarity and then give yourself a break – a defined waiting period before you come back to the issue. This video I did a few months ago will give you some more step-by-step instructions: EFT Secret.

Let us know your results by leaving a comment below. We’d love to hear about it!

At this time of year, it’s easy to slip into remembering someone who is not around — and it’s not always a good feeling. That’s where tapping can help out.

The point of using EFT for missing somebody is not to let go of the person, but to let go of the heaviness of missing them – the sadness and sorrow that weigh your heart and spirit down.

If you’re blaming yourself or feeling guilty, those emotions anchor other emotions like sadness or sorrow so they’re hard to release. So get rid of the self-blame first.

Another part of working with this issue is that there is a bittersweet element to missing someone. And people don’t want to let go of the sweet part. So they hang onto all of it — which includes the heaviness and sorrow. It’s not an either/or situation where you either erase them from your mind or you hang on to the heartache part of missing them. There’s another option.

Or maybe you’re afraid you’ll forget the person – that they won’t enter your mind. Then there’s some guilt about even considering that possibility. So the sadness is anchored there by guilt and self-blame.

Here are some ways to tap to release the negative aspects of missing someone.

How To Tap On This

Setup (karate chop point)

• Even though I’m really missing them and it’s weighing me down, I want to love and accept myself anyway.
• Even though I really miss them and it makes me sad that they’re not here, I want to respect my feelings and who I am.
• Even though I miss the heck out of them and sometimes it really hurts, I still want to love and accept myself, because I’m doing the best I can with this – just like I always do.

Tapping – The Challenge (tap around all the points)

• I really miss them.
• There’s nobody like them. And there never will be.
• I wish it could have been different. There were things I should have done. There were things I should have said. And now it’s too late.
• I feel so sad when I think about it.
• We were so close and now they’re not here.
• I just want to curl in on myself. I miss them so much.
• It’s like heavy cloud of dark feelings.
• It’s weighing down my heart.
• It’s weighing down my spirit.
• I don’t know if I’ll ever feel different.
• I just want them to be here with me.
• And I know that can’t happen.
• It isn’t fair. I don’t know why this is happening to me.
• Maybe it’s my fault.
• When something reminds me of them, I just miss them so much.
• I’m afraid I’ll forget about them. And they’re so important to me.
• I wish they were here with me now.
• I really, really miss them.
• It makes me so sad to think of how much I miss them.
• Nobody can really know how this feels.

OK. Now you’ve moved out some of the negative junk, and of course if there’s more left, continue tapping on it. When you’re ready, move on to tapping some more positive phrases.

Setup (karate chop point)

• Even though I still have a little sorrow left in missing them, I’m starting to release it and that feels great.
• Even though a part of me is still holding onto some sorrow and pain about missing them, another part of me has let it go, and I appreciate both parts.
• Even though I’m still a little sad about missing them, I’m choosing to release the sadness and heartache. I’m choosing to focus on our good times. And I still love all parts of me.

Tapping Towards the Positive (tap around all the points)

• The disappearing sadness about them.
• The last bit of regret about them.
• I’m choosing to keep them here in my heart.
• I’m choosing to stay connected to the joy of them.
• Any last bit of sorrow -
• I’m making a conscious choice to let it heal.
• I choose freedom from pain.
• I choose to laugh when I think of them.
• I can feel my heart smiling when I remember them.
• It’s such a comfort to have them here with me.
• I allow myself to release the last of the regret.
• I can feel that old self-blame slip away.
• I choose the good stuff.
• I love remembering them and the good times we had together.
• It puts a smile on my face to think of them.
• I do miss them, but it’s in a whole new way.
• My heart feels so light when I think of them now.
• I’m so grateful for the time we had together.
• And I know our connection will always be strong.
• I love it when I think of them now.

Leave a comment and let us know how this works for you!

Smoothing the Path for Creating Changes

These are some common issues that show up to create problems when you’re making changes. Listen and tap along to let go of the resistance that makes change so hard.

(Just click on the white arrow in the black circle of the player below.)

Let us know how this works for you by leaving a comment below.

Let Go of the Pain and Hold Onto the Love

Here are some tips on releasing grief more quickly by moving past hidden resistance factors. Listen and tap along to let go of the heaviness while maintaining your strong connection to the person.

(Just click on the white arrow in the black circle of the player below.)

Let us know how this works for you by leaving a comment below.

Your connection to people you care about can interfere with your tapping. But only when you’re not aware of the possibility.

When someone who is important to you shares your issue or the experience it came from, your subconscious can send up a red alert. It says, “I don’t want to release this issue. I’m afraid it means releasing my connection with that person. And I don’t want to do that. So I’m not going to release this issue.”

And your whole tapping session gets bogged down while you try to figure out the problem with your emotional intensity level staying stuck. Sometimes this hidden loyalty factor can make you think that EFT isn’t working.

Not true! You just need to make some adjustments to your tapping. Here are some simple ways to work with loyalty and EFT so you can get better results:

1. Ask yourself if your issue has connections to anyone you’re close to.
2. If so, acknowledge it in your setup. Say something like, “Even though a part of me is concerned that letting go of this issue means letting go of [the person's name], I want to love and accept myself anyway.”
3. Reassure yourself during your tapping rounds. Say something like, “I’m willing to release this issue, and I know I’m still connected to [the person's name].”

What’s your experience? Have you run into this when tapping? Let us know by leaving a comment.

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