tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76922233168297153232019-04-08T06:08:34.365-07:00A sexual abuse journey blog; Note: Older entries on other abuse topics are now on You-Have-Issues.comJulie U.S. Writerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04504625744409787301noreply@blogger.comBlogger120125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7692223316829715323.post-79513316496941993762016-01-13T20:11:00.003-08:002016-01-13T20:11:24.493-08:00

#MyAlterEgo wants to remind people that there’s no reason – no need at all – to #drug anyone to have sex. If you need to do that, you are desperate. Not to mention, you are committing an act of sexual abuse against another person, and it's also considered rape.  It would be a shame if the allegations against #BillCosby are true, considering his tarnished reputation in all. However, several

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People often pass judgment when they need to feel better about the fact that their lives are not what they want them to be. I admit I’ve been guilty of this just as much as the next person who thinks he/she would never look down on anyone. What about every time we make a remark about someone not holding down a job? What do we say about the ones who’ve slept with more people in one year than we

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Top Love All's stand against premarital sex and sexual abuse invoked both strong and mild reader responses yesterday. This online group wrote a status message that referenced Vanessa William's recent decision to go public about past sexual victimization.  "You are supposed to be virgins until you get married," said Love All. Both this statement opposing fornication and the astounding 90%

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If there's one thing that women who've been sexually abused as a child hate the most, it's not being in control in their adult life. When females who've suffered this type of traumatic experience often become engulfed in the church clichés passed around with the collection plate (or bowl, or cup, or whatever your church does).  One of my ex-favorite clichés is that "God is in Control" I even

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If you can't accept someone for who he or she is, decide to move on. Otherwise, don't make the other person miserable.

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I hesitated to post this on Valentine’s Day. I don’t want you to think I’m feeling sorry for you. However, I figured today is the day – the one day all year – when both married and single people need compassion. Okay, so here’s my online hug in the shape of a heart. Let us all ban together and love one another even when other people don’t think we’re worth the time of day. Let us all love

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A few weeks ago, I posted an entry about my “Kryptonite” when referring to people who put me down. Concerning that, I have this update: No matter what people say to me, they’re not the real problem. I am. Who’s Responsible for my Self-Esteem? It’s me who’s responsible for how I feel about myself. If I’m unhappy, I can’t blame anyone else for those feelings in spite of hurtful things they have

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You'll make further progress in your recovery if you allow another person in who really does accept you for who you are. It makes a huge difference.

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In an effort to cheer myself up, I provide a rebuttal on a comment a guy I used to date made. I wasn’t the one for him because I’m “not what he’s looking for physically or mentally.” So, I came to the conclusion that maybe I was just too good for him. I have to think that, because if I keep thinking I wasn’t good enough, I will never be good enough for anyone. It could set my emotional recovery

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Your “Kryptonite” is a person you’re drawn to no matter how low you feel when speaking to him/her. Otherwise it could be a parent who’s approval you desperately want but never will get. It could also be a co-worker who has more skills than you or that friend of yours you think is more attractive than you. Examples from My Own Life One of my main Ktryptonites is one of my past past high

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If I’m in a relationship, I would feel loved if I know the person will still be in my life after he learns I’m not perfect. I say this because I have never had an easy life and need someone who can accept that. I don’t want to hurt anyone, and I don’t think loving someone means I will always get what I want. I also don’t think it means I should be able to do whatever I want. However, I really

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The survival of the fittest are the ones who make it. Use your determination to carry on for as long as you can. You'll be an inspiration to others.

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Eckhart Tolle says, “To love is to recognize yourself in another.” However, to me, that sounds incomplete. I think we have to also like what we see in others. If we don’t, then maybe we don’t love ourselves. One point about this I do agree with, and that is this: We recognize our own traits in someone else. Now, whether we like those traits or not tells us how we fell about ourselves. If we

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You might see quite a few of the same quotes on my other relationships blogs – some of which are in a different color with the same text, and some of which include a similar introductory message yet with something unique to say. I was just having so much fun creating a new design of heart I made that I wanted to put the sayings on as many of my blogs as possible. Anyway, if you respect

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The J.B.’s Epic Life Journey just changed its name to My Alter Ego and is now moved from the Jabsfreelanceworld.com domain to Hannahjoypublishing.com. We moved this publication to separate business writing from personal writing. We will have more information about these networks posted soon.

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We moved this post to here. Sorry about the inconvenience.

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I don’t want to sound like a downer when I talk about free will and following God. I’m just trying to share the reality of Christianity that most churches don’t want you to hear. I remember when I went out street witnessing. I had to give people a reason to want to accept Christ and follow God. Sometimes I believed the message I told to people, and other times it felt like a canned sales speech.

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Churches may have your best interest at heart. However, many times they deceive you. They tell you all kinds of things to get you to “follow God”-- and usually what they mean is they want you to follow them. Watch out, because this kind of love they teach is only conditional. The Lies They Told Me “You will get everything you want.” It's one thing for a church to tell you that you'll be

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For most of my life I always had faith I’d come out ahead – that God would help me achieve emotional and financial stability despite all that has happened to me not only during the stage when it was still going on but for decades afterward. However, I confess one major area of weakness for me. I always lacked faith in my ability to sustain a lasting, loving relationship. I even went out of my

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For a long time, I wondered why women would get married even though they knew it wasn’t “the one” or wasn’t sure it was “the one.” I always though if a person isn’t sure, they just shouldn’t make that kind of commitment. After all, marriage is supposed to be forever, right? Most of my life I was always so fixated on being sure because I never wanted to become another divorce statistic. However, I

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Part of my healing process as a sexual abuse survivor is to realize that I'm unfortunately not the only one who's been hurt. I want to make myself and others aware of sexual abuse statistics around the world.  The easiest way to do that is create a hopefully no-too-pretty-for-such-a-serious subject infographic. I'm doing this to express to the world that this issue still needs attention and

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The toughest part about having gone through abuse is not even actually the abuse itself. No, rather, it is the way people treat the abused person for years after.  I almost in a way wished in my case people didn't believe the abuse happened to me. That to me at this point would've (almost) been better than being treated like a helpless victim.  I've been felt sorry for and told I was a "

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A broken home seems so normal So together When you view it from the outside With the curtains over the windows Which are shut from the inside  Not revealing the real truth And no one knows the real Picture when viewing from the side Instead of the front

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The only thing that's going right at this time is my "job." For the past six months, I've been working for a client who sustained me very well since then. I also enjoy the periodic odd jobs that I do for client when they come up. I don't recall being happy but one day within the past two years -- not truly happy but just daydream to be happy. --My grandma died two years ago. --My dad went MIA

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I just found out from a friend of my dad's that my dad disappeared, but that my autistic teenage sisters are in a home in Cadott, Wisconsin. I feel bad that my dad just disappeared, but I anticipated that this might happen even up to 10 years ago already. My twin sisters are supposedly safe, though. From what I understand, he actually found a home for them and then took off. If that's the case

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