Welcome to Tuesday Tips, a weekly handbook on ways to feel good as a conscious creator. This week’s focus is on letting go of the things that are holding you back, while taking the time to deliberately raise your vibration. We are like radio tuners projecting a signal, and we have the power to switch to any station we like. Crank your mood up to 11 and you’ll hear your favorite song begin to play!

1. Say FUCK IT.
If you are experiencing the same contrast over and over, or just can’t seem to shake a particular concern or negative thought, just let it go. It is so empowering to allow yourself to stop holding onto that one thing that makes you feel bad. When you let it go, it will clear itself right up. Fuck it! We’re here to have fun!

2. Give up.
The only action you can take to get what you want is giving in. Let go of the desire. Feel good even though you don’t have it. Quit trying to crawl back up the water slide and enjoy the ride! As soon as you start having fun, you’ll see what you wanted was right in front of you all along.

3. Let go.
Every time you notice something you don’t want, let it go. Count, breathe, or write–anything you can do to stop thinking and drop the thought. Say to yourself, “I can do it. I can do it. I can feel good no matter what.” You can drop a thought just as easily as you picked it up.

4. Breathe better in your sleep.
Kelly and I have started listening to the universal breathing room while we sleep and it has totally transformed us! I have amazing conceptual dreams illustrating the flow of life. Kelly says her sleep is actually calm now. Try it!

5. Use that magick wand!
Did you make a magick wand yet? If you did, here are further instructions: make a wish, then believe it will come true when you forget about it. You have to be having so much fun you forget about what you wished for.

6. Look past what is.
This is the key to manifesting what you want. Let yourself stop thinking about what is for 10 seconds. Then start telling your new story. The Life Story worksheet can help you focus on your new story quickly and easily.

7. Don’t care about what anyone thinks.
This goes for you too! You are not a victim of your thoughts. Any time you feel a resistant thought, or catch yourself caring about what someone else thinks of you, reply with a hearty “I DON’T CARE!”

8. If you know what you don’t want, think about what you do want.
If you are experiencing contrast that makes you know exactly what you don’t want, all you have to do is take one second to imagine what you’d prefer instead. Feel fat? Say to yourself, “I love it when I feel good in my body.” Feel uninspired? Say “I love it when I want to work on my projects.” Then find another way to feel good (basically, distract yourself), and before you know it, you’ll have what you want.

9. Read the Flower of Life books.
Watch the video below, and if you’re intrigued, read the books mentioned in the video notes. It’s weird, it’s super out there, but it resonated with me to the core.

10. Suck it up and do the work to feel good.
Your mood is your work. Your mood is the only thing that matters. Sometimes I go for days without focusing too much, thinking I’ve mastered the art of feeling good. But it’s not something you achieve; it’s a practice. You have to stay after it, every day. Write, meditate, count, breathe, nap, exercise, play, lifestream, or do worksheets. Just stay after those high vibrations and make them your home. Such cool things are happening there!

11. Appreciate your reality to appreciate yourself.
Sometimes it’s hard to focus on things we like about ourselves. But if you consciously find things to appreciate about your reality, you’ll end up finding more to like about yourself. Since your reality is a reflection of you, anything you choose to expand externally will be expanded within as well. Turn it into a game: find one thing to appreciate about everything you see. “I like your shirt. Nice stroller. Great hair. Pretty smile.”

12. Remember love really does conquer all!
Choose to love and not care about anything else, and everything will work out perfectly.

13. Be an inspiration.
Lorra Fae wrote an absolutely stellar post about choosing to better oneself for the good of others. If you feel like you have no purpose, this will give you one. “Your purpose, now, is to transform for the good of everyone, not just you.”

14. Stay in the Now.
Here’s how: don’t think, don’t speak, and don’t act, unless you’re divinely inspired. It takes some practice, but you’ll know it when you’re there.

15. Show up for practice.
Kelly and I like to think of conscious creation as a pro sport, like we’re playing in the NBA. Basketball players practice for 2.5 hours a day, and they have a ton of games. Directing your thoughts and intentionally raising your mood (i.e., vibration) is the practice, preparing you for all the exciting games you want to play–relationships, travel, work, etc. Put in the practice time to play your best.

16. Raise your vibration easily, effortlessly, literally.
You can use your breath to take a hot air balloon ride up the emotional scale. Just breathe and say to yourself, “Breathe in and raise your vibration. Breathe out and release your resistance.” Repeat until you can actually feel your mood rising. Things will begin to look very different from your new perspective.

Enjoy the rest of your week! I love you, you’re doing great! Keep up the good work!

Welcome to Tuesday Tips, the best ways to feel good on the Internet. This week’s edition totally stressed me out because I thought I was going to write about things I learned from my job. But then I thought about it too much and started freaking out about how to be funny, what to include, how personal can I get, etc. So I had a mild panic attack, started resisting writing these hoes, and then woke up late this morning because I was dreading writing this post so much.

But life is supposed to be fun, and I’m just here to play. So anytime I get stressed out, I just remind myself that I shouldn’t do something unless it’s fun, and if it’s not fun I have to make it fun.

So when I’m freaked out, under pressure, want something really badly, AND want it to be fun, I remind myself to stop thinking, because thoughts are the only thing that can block the flow of well-being that makes life so fun and magickal. Then I do everything I can to stop thinking. Here’s what works.

1. Stay busy.
Start immediately. Chip away at your projects. Just keep going. Whether you’re inspired or not, just keep moving. If you have a deadline, just start stream-of-consciousness creating. Just DO IT. You only have to take one step in the right direction for the flow to pick you up.

2. Make a magick wand.
Use it. It might take a while to get used to, but you’ll figure it out.

3. Stop talking.
Omg, stop talking. If you’re talking, you’re definitely thinking, and you can’t hear what life is whispering to you. Just shush up. Shh. Zip it.

4. Write.
If you aren’t talking, but you’re still thinking, those thoughts are like unflushed turds in a toilet. Flush them out. Get rid of them, stat! I like to use prompts to keep me focused on the good thoughts. These always work for me:

• “I’m so grateful…”
• “I appreciate…”
• “I am…”
• “Dear Jessica…”
• “I intend…”

5. Keep your cool.
Tell yourself that if you fail, if that person leaves you, if you lose a limb, if your pet dies, if your house burns down, if you write a shitty Tuesday Tips, if your head falls off, no matter what happens, YOU’LL BE OK. Life is just a game. Whatever you’re stressed about, just let it go. If it happens, you’ll survive. Let go. It’s not scary. There’s nothing to be afraid of. Anything that happens is trying to help you. It’s a solution. Promise.

6. Just breathe.
Focus on your breath. Focus on your breath. Focus on your breath. There are no thoughts in the present, because thoughts are physical things, and the present is just a line between past and future. You can’t have a physical object in a line. There is no space. Focus on your breath, keep your focus on the line between past and future, and wake up in this crazy dream called life. Look around, and you’ll find your answer. You can listen to this song while you do it:

You may have noticed things are changing. You are aware of your thoughts. You are aware of your hand in this. You are aware that your thoughts create.

It was scary at first, getting over the guilt and fear of looking conceited or powerful or delusional. But thanks to the experiences shared on the Internet, it has become common knowledge that feeling good feels good and leads to good things. As a society, we’ve collectively begun to understand that the meaning of life has a lot more to do with having fun than making money or repenting for sins.

Congratulations my friend! We have made it to the next level of life experience. We are aware. We have woken up from the trance of being mind-identified. We have stepped into our role as conscious creators, with a permanent hotline to infinite intelligence.

Some call this transition period entering the “fifth density“, which is a vibrational frequency of consciousness. In this density, we operate from the standpoint of unconditional love and unity with all-that-is. We can zoom out and see a bigger picture of life. The fifth density is where we become aware of our own vibration and our creative power. In fifth density, you exist in flow, or in sync with the universal rhythm or pulse of life. Learning to live in flow marks the transition from fourth to fifth density.

Divine inspiration. Knowing. Confidence. Tripping. Thought-free focus. Letting life live you. Walking the tightrope, trusting the big picture of life to care for you. By choosing to tune ourselves and our moods into the vibration of unconditional love, we access an awareness of flow. Access to the fifth density depends on your mood. Are you in the mood for love?

There is nothing weird or scary about this transition. It’s what we have been collectively striving for. We are entering a period of joy, of fun, of play, and of unconditional love. You don’t have to do anything to be part of the process. You only have to choose it. However, below are a few general principles that may ease that head-exploding feeling of “holy shit, life is deep.”

5 Useful Rules to Live by in the Fifth Density

1. Listen for the flow.
To live in flow, your mind must be quiet enough to hear it. As you make your decisions throughout the day, ask yourself if the choice is a “fuck yeah”. If you have to think about it, it’s not. You can always feel the right decision, which the flow provides, because it will feel good and you will have zero doubt.

2. Up your tolerance for feeling good.
There’s nothing to be embarrassed about feeling good. Everyone gets it. Stay conscious and aware of your mood and thoughts, listen to your body and the indicators in your reality. Find your balance. Keep your cool. Life is like a 360º tightrope. If you were on a tightrope, would you give your attention to what you’re giving it to currently? Choose what you focus on. Choose to ignore everything you don’t want. Let the negative go. Your awareness creates it. What you resist, persists.

Notice particularly when you start reaching your upper limits of feeling good. In The Big Leap, Gay Hendricks explains there are four ways in which we prevent ourselves from reaching our ideal conscious state: feeling fundamentally flawed (how could someone as imperfect as me achieve unconditional love?), feeling disloyal to our roots (how could I choose success without abandoning those who made me who I am?), feeling like a burden (if I reach my highest potential, I’ll be an even bigger burden than I am now), or fear of outshining (how can I allow my perfection when it might make those around me feel bad?). If you start feeling bad, ask yourself if something really good just happened. If so, you’re upper-limiting yourself.

You don’t have to perfect your mood in one day. You don’t have to clean up all your thoughts at once. It’s an iterative process that happens with each new thought. Just practice observing your thoughts and watch as the light of your consciousness evaporates the illusion of darkness. In fifth density, your mood is your only work. Do the work. Feel the feeling you want to feel right now, and you have instant access to the vibration where your manifestation resides. It feels almost like shapeshifting, or teleporting.

3. Up your tolerance to other people feeling good.
If you want to live at a higher vibration, you have to be ok with the people around you being on your level. Choose to appreciate the success of the people around you, instead of fearing their success will give you less access to them. You can only perceive their success because you are projecting success.

4. Focus on the feeling of what you really want.
Being able to desire and then manifest anything you want is part of the fun of this density. If you know exactly what you want, you don’t have to think about your desire anymore, because the moment you had the desire, it was created. You don’t water your seed by thinking about it every day, you do it by paying attention to your mood. It will come when you feel as good as you would if you had received the manifestation. Basically, it will come when you don’t care about it anymore, because you found another way to feel good.

The only thing you can actively do to manifest your desire is to focus your energy on feeling good, regardless of whether you receive what you want or not. Tell yourself you have it, and live as if you do. You must become it before you see it. You must believe that it already is, and when you look for it, you’ll see everything already is reflecting that truth.

5. Practice feeling good even though you don’t have everything you want.
Feel good anyway. Act as if. Distract yourself from thoughts that keep you away from what you want. By saying “I want” you are vibrating “I don’t have.” Instead, say “I am.” There are infinite ways to feel good right now, without ever receiving that which you perceive to be lacking. You can exercise, meditate, do mood-boosting worksheets, read Tuesday Tips, or play with flow toys. But the easiest, fastest, and most reliable method for feeling good right now is your breath.

Our breath connects us to each other, to the world, and to the flow of life. Focusing on one’s breath is an instant connection to source energy and can be used at any time to stop thought and feel good. To practice conscious breathing, you can join others in the DoAsOne.org universal breathing room online (thanks Katharine!), or download the Prana Yama breathing app. For fantastic instructions on breath and meditation, read The Practice (thanks Sunny!).

Breath is the holy grail of feeling good. It’s the tool that will always work. It’s the secret ingredient we all have instant, easy access to.

Join in World Liberation Day!

At 10:30pm central time tonight, at the time of the biggest full moon of 2012, we’re all going to meditate for an hour, visualizing the world we want to live in. (See here for your timezone and more detailed instructions).

If you’re in the flow, you have the power that creates worlds in your hands. Life design is consciously directing that flow to create whatever you want. What happens is your decision. Do you want world peace? Do you want alien contact? Do you want all debts canceled? Do you want eternal life? Do you want to fly? What happens next for the world is up to you, and everyone gets to choose the version they want to live.

And y’all? Just remember this is all just for fun. None of this serious, and none of it matters. Enjoy the ride! I love you, and you’re doing great.

Emotions are indicators of alignment with source energy. The better you feel, the more aligned you are. The more aligned you are, the more effortless and joyful your life becomes. Feeling good is the only thing that matters, because when you feel good, you are working with the flow of life instead of against it. When you are living in the flow, there is only synchronicity, fun and love.

Consciously choosing to feel the way you want to feel is your work as a vibrational being. Your mood is your work. It comes before your job, or your family, or your health. If you align your mood first, your job, family and health will reflect your chosen vibration. You have the power to choose how you feel, which means that you have the power to choose alignment at all times. Discovering how to feel good no matter what is your challenge in this life.

As we flow through the ups and downs of life, sometimes we forget that we hold the power to feel good within. One of the most common questions anyone on the path of conscious creation may ask is, “But how do I feel good?”

Finding the answer to that question is your job here on Earth. But while we all must seek our own ways of feeling good, there are shortcuts to get there faster. Stopping thought is one way to instantly feel good, and practicing the feeling of having what you want works too.

Introducing: Software for Your Mind

In our endless quest to feel better, Kelly and I like to come up with tools that help us feel good when we forget how to do it ourselves. Our latest creation is a mental program that helps you replace negative thoughts with the version of reality you want to live.

This worksheet is designed in flow-chart format to emulate a software program. It’s not fun in a board game sense. It’s fun in an “I’m tripping my balls off, why didn’t anyone tell me I could do this!” sense. It’s realtime shapeshifting, realtime switching to the reality you prefer. It’s extremely powerful. It feels like being in an infinite loop of leveling up, consciously and intentionally.

We’re offering this mind software as a digital PDF download for $5, which you can purchase by clicking the link below. After paying with Paypal, you will receive an email with a link to download the file. Print out as many copies as you like, and run the program in your mind until you feel better. It works every time.

Click here to buy the “I Want to Feel Better” mind software worksheet now

Handwritten with love, this 3.4-Mb PDF will spiral you upwards into higher vibrations than ever before. No matter how you feel right now, you can always feel better. Just imagine what incredible experiences are waiting for you at those higher vibrations!

Tuesday Tips is a May Day basket full of helpful hints I gather throughout each week. When I notice something working in my own life, I add it to my list of gems to share with you. There are infinite ways to feel good; below you will find 17 that work for me.

1. You know when to act. Listen.
The other day Kelly gave me the best advice I’ve ever heard. “You know when action is being pulled through you because you ain’t thinking about whether you should be doin’ it or not.”

2. Read other lifestreamers.
Katja has a major epiphany: she realizes she actually does know how to make herself happy. Lynn encourages herself to give what she perceives to be missing. For more, check out this list of lifestreams in the School of Life Design Facebook group.

3. Count, especially if you think you don’t need to.
Feeling really good and want to stay there? Milk your good feelings by stopping thought to stay in the Now.

4. Lifestream!
The more people lifestreaming about how good their lives are, the more people get to see it and believe it, the more they see evidence in their own lives. Make the choice to share first, and be amazed by what people begin to share with you.

5. Notice it, get more of it.
Look for the tiniest speck of evidence, a grain of sand, that represents evidence that you have what you want. You have to be in the flow of looking to get the bigger, better manifestations. You have to expect them. You can twist the tiniest things to look like evidence. It’s all a matter of shifting your perspective intentionally.

6. Meditate before you medicate.
Do you believe you need someone outside of you to fix you, or do you believe you can heal yourself?

7. Cast spells on your life.
Spellcasting is a fun way to think about what you want and trust it’s coming. You are a magickal being who can be or do or have anything you want. Spellcasting is one way to practice believing that. Bonus points for using a magick wand, lighting candles, or brewing elixirs.

8. Read Osho.
Osho provides a fantastic perspective on time, space, past and future. If you want to be in the Now, let your thoughts go.

The present is just a dividing line, that’s all. It has no space. It divides the past and the future; just a dividing line. You can be in the present but you cannot think; for thinking, space is needed. Thoughts need space, they are just like things — remember it. Thoughts are subtle things, they are material; thoughts are not spiritual, because the dimension of the spiritual starts only when there are no thoughts. Thoughts are material things, very subtle, and every material thing needs space. You cannot be thinking in the present; the moment you start thinking it is already the past.

9. Ask yourself what you want as often as you can.
Sometimes I get what I want then have no idea what to do because the old things that used to make me feel good just don’t work anymore. Every day I want new things. Every day I want to feel something slightly different to become a match to what I’ve expanded to. Every day I want a new mantra, a new method, a new thought, a new perspective that helps me feel good. That’s the work: to wake up every single day and find the perspective that feels good.

10. Ask yourself how you want to feel.
Ask yourself in the morning. I usually want to feel light, confident and playful. Ask yourself again after work. I want to feel energized and inspired. Ask yourself again before bed. I want to feel exhilarated. The only way to get from here to what you want is to feel the way you want to feel, now. Read Danielle Laporte for more detailed instructions.

11. Play Astrojax!
Astrojax is like an invisible friend that encourages you to lighten up and have a good time. Allow yourself to play along and the flow will surprise, delight, and inspire you.

12. Feel the flow with drawing.
Let the pen tell you a story about how everything is connected.

13. Love every Now equally like your children or pets.
Just because one kid is a star athlete doesn’t mean you love the reclusive loner any less. Like children, each Now has something uniquely divine to offer. Look for it.

14. Look for evidence that you’re receiving what you wanted.
If you’re unhappy in the Now, you’re avoiding receiving something that you wanted. Let yourself be in the moment and know that this moment was created to give you something you wanted. Just be in the Now for five minutes, try to do whatever is there for you for five minutes, just say yes for a few minutes. You only have to take one step in the right direction and the flow will carry you away.

15. Surrender.
Life lives you whether you let it or not. You either struggle, or enjoy. Let go! You can’t be any more enlightened than you are right now. Accept that. Enjoy where you are. You truly are in the right place at the right time. It can be no other way.

16. Live a high-contrast life, get bright solutions.
My creative output is only good when I go through contrast. I only have new things to share when I experience what I don’t want, because that’s the only way to find new things to want, new ways to expand, and new things to learn. Be willing to explore more of what you don’t want to see more of what you do want.

17. Choose change, or change will choose you.
You know what you need to do. You always have life on your side. You’re not alone in this. Listen to your heart, feel for the instructions your gut is giving you. Take the leap you know you need to make. Just face the way you want to go, dip your toe in the water, and let that which made you carry you downstream.

Welcome to Tuesday Tips, a weekly breath of fresh air for your mind. This week we keep it simple and remember that none of this is serious. Just let go of those things that bother you and keep your focus on your dreams. You’re already living the life you want; all that’s left to do is play!

1. Keep busy.
It’s a lot easier to avoid negative thoughts when you’re too busy to think. When you have downtime, read a book (here are my suggestions), create, exercise or socialize. Plus, the more time I spend working on my projects, the more money flows in.

2. Die with $2.
Enjoy what you have now.

3. Embrace change.
Change is always good. When you know the universe is always trying to bring you what you want, you learn not to resist when things aren’t exactly as you expect them to be. If something breaks, or goes wrong, it is always a solution. It’s like shuffling the deck—you can never get a new hand if you don’t let go of the cards you’re holding.

4. Get a Rabbit Hole reading.
Rabbit Hole is a life design tarot deck Kelly and I are making. When you go to the site, a card is randomly selected and displayed for you. Since you can only see what you are a vibrational match to, whatever card you draw will give you a little piece of advice that is relevant to you right now. Click on the card to find more answers.

5. Write yourself a welcome-back letter to read when you wake up.
Remind yourself that this life is just a dream, it’s not serious, and it’s all for fun. Kelly has a wonderful version:

welcome back
you are experiencing a simulation
you are the creator of the simulation

you are, in essence, the dreamer
you chose to be here
you chose this creative experience
because it’s the most
creative experience imaginable

you chose to be here and create
you are safe here
any desire you are able to conjure
is created in the moment you have that
desire

your creative power is in your thoughts
what you think about
in that little mind of yours
is what you create

it’s totally up to you

6. Ask yourself: Is your dream yours or inherited?
Is it your wish or your father’s? Would you still wish it in 14 years? Mia Astral changed my life forever when she posed that question. I realized that my dream to be skinny and rich is just a dream of conditioned society, and not something I actually care about. Of course the two areas in life I struggle with the most are not my true desires, because if they were, they would be easy and fun to work towards, not torturous. If you want something and you hate working towards it, ask if it’s really you who wants it, or is it your parents’ wish?

7. Make peace with the pain of contrast.
My new friend Donna gave me a brilliant view on the creation process: “I love catching up and lagging behind mustering up more goodies to catch up with.” She went on to remind me of an awesome Abraham concept: I’m either contributing to my vortex, or I’m in it. This means that when you feel bad, your desire for something different is creating a new reality for you to enjoy. You simply can’t create anything new if you don’t experience the contrast that makes you ask for something different. Abraham reminds us that if we didn’t have contrast, we would die:

As you diminish contrast, you diminish your ability to decide, and as you diminish your ability to decide, you diminish your ability to focus, and as you diminish your ability to focus, you do away with your reason for existing.

8. Be here.
As I learn to stop obsessing over weight and money and things that don’t matter, I find myself with a lot of empty space in my head. It seems like it’s getting easier for everyone to just enjoy being alive. To stay anchored in the Now, I’ve been using a simple mantra that keeps it all in perspective: “I’m here.” What a miracle. I’m so grateful you’re here too.

Tuesday Tips is a weekly collection of ways to feel good. There are infinite ways to feel good, you just have to find the ones that work for you. You can do it by taking action, directing your thoughts, practicing specific emotions, or just allowing yourself to be. This week’s edition includes lots of inspirational quotes and ways to play your life to the next horizon of success. Time to level up!

1. Count, or lifestream.
I lifestream to consciously create my reality. I choose the thoughts I want to be true, write them down and savor them, and then I stop thinking and start counting. I no longer find myself thinking contradictory thoughts to my new story, and now I’m always living my new story. It rules.

2. Manually restart your creative flow.
Just like meditating every day or taking the garbage out every day, if you make yourself do 15 minutes of a creative activity every day, you’ll get in the flow of creating. I used to wait around to be inspired to create (e.g., worksheets, art, articles) and always felt a little sick at how little I felt like creating. Now Kelly and I make it a point to work on our projects a little bit every day and we’ve been creating our best work every night for over a week. Wee!

3. Keep your patterns sustainable.
Once you get in that creative flow, you’ll be tempted to stay up late milking your fresh inspiration. But if you stick to your bedtime and save some for tomorrow, you won’t burn out and you’ll always have a reason to feel excited when you get up.

4. Have a writing costume.
Rings, tiaras, special jewelry—find something that holds power and keep it on your desk, wearing it only when you write. If it makes you feel good to wear it, it will bring you good fortune.

5. Let music raise your vibration.
I dreamt that I was wearing an iPod, dancing and flying on a big hill. I waltzed into my home and thought “listening to music on headphones should be a Tuesday Tip!” Seems obvious, but maybe, like me, you could use the reminder!

6. Listen to the Dawn and Drew Show.
Oh man, I listened to several episodes of my favorite audio podcast last Friday at work, and I swear it made me funnier just laughing along with them. Dawn and Drew have been doing their hilarious podcast about every-day adventures since 2004 and it’s piss-your-pants funny. Start with the eps that are just Dawn and Drew (like #984, #983 & #100), they’re the best!

7. Sensationalize your lifestream.
If your thoughts create, and all you have to do to live the life you want is to think you already do, then why not GO BIG?! Tell it like you want it! Admit you’re already a pop star! Admit you’re already a millionaire! Admit you’re the best hula hooper in the nation! Only you can make these things real!

8. Write a rap song about your wealth.
Just start talking about your abundance and you’ll see evidence instantly. Talk about how much money you have, talk about all the delicious things you buy with it, make it all up, just start talking about it. As Abraham says, “You will notice that those who speak most of prosperity, have it.”

9. Trust.
Really the only feeling you ever need, trust is the feeling of knowing life will take care of you. You can use your universal trust fund to pay for things, just trust life will foot the bill. You can walk tightropes and fallen trees, just trust life will keep you balanced. It’s easy to trust if you don’t take anything too seriously! You just have to not care if life doesn’t do exactly what you want. Trust that whatever happens is exactly the solution you need.

10. Keep your mood high with lifestreaming.
My lifestream output directly correlates with my mood. When I stream, I feel good. When I don’t, I’m blocking the flow! Find your outlet, whether it’s lifestreaming or journaling or whatever, and let that flow through you, all day every day. If you’re not directing your constant creative flow, what is?

11. Appreciate!

If all you did was just look for things to appreciate you would live a joyous, spectacular life. If there was nothing else that you ever came to understand other than just look for things to appreciate, it’s the only tool you would ever need to predominantly hook you up with who you really are. That’s all you’d need.
~ Abraham

12. Never feel bad for spending the money you have.

If a man has an apartment stacked to the ceiling with newspapers we call him crazy. If a woman has a trailer house full of cats we call her nuts. But when people pathologically hoard so much cash that they impoverish the entire nation, we put them on the cover of Fortune magazine and pretend that they are role models. ~ B. Lester

13. Identify as your experience.
Can you see how everything you experience is a reflection of your vibration? It’s easy to feel like you are one with everything when you see that your mood and thoughts are puppeteering everything you see. Zoom out and watch your life like a movie, and you can see the elaborate, beautiful connections. Look for them and poof! There they are.

14. Literally look for the flow.
Look for evidence your reality is visually playful. You can access the same visual games and delights that you can with psychedelics on your very own, just by asking for them and looking for them. When I was a kid I was obsessed with anything shiny, sparkly, or prismatic. I carried the love through adulthood but forgot why. The glimmers, the sparkles, the shines—that’s life playing with your eyes. It catches your eye when you think a positive thought. The universe loves to play with you visually. What do you think it did before you thought in words? Life is playing the most beautiful game right in front of your eyes, if you have the eyes to see it.

15. Change, by not trying to change.
Gretchen Rubin came up with this particular gem, and she is spot on. As long as you’re trying to change yourself, you’re resisting what is. Accept who you are. Accept what you like. Accept your body and your place in life. You’re here for a reason. Every moment ever created lead up to who you are right now! It can be no other way! Let yourself be at peace with who you are, and the path to the person you want to be will light up before you. Abraham has a great perspective on this too:

The reason you want every single thing that you want, is because you think you will feel really good when you get there. But, if you don’t feel really good on your way to there, you can’t get there. You have to be satisfied with what-is while you’re reaching for more.

16. Keep up the good work.
Your mood is your only work. Keep at it! You’re doing so great, and life is so, so grateful to you for taking the chance at being alive and expanding the universe. Be light, be brave, be playful, smile and keep going! You’ve come so far! We all love you so much!

Lately in my lifestream I’ve been switching the focus from talking about what I want, to talking about what I already have. Since time is an illusion and every possibility already exists, I can choose to perceive I already have what I want at any given moment. If you believe your thoughts create, then whatever you are thinking is true until you think a contradicting thought.

The theory is simple enough, but how do we go about perceiving we already have what we want, especially when there is clear proof in physical reality that it’s not true? All it takes is consistent practice and a little faith in your own creative power.

Telling your new story, step by step

1. Decide what you want.
Instead of thinking about what you don’t want, or what you don’t like, just take 5 minutes to ask yourself what you want. It could be a lifelong goal, or it could be what you want to have for dinner. If you don’t know what you want, you’ll never get it.

2. Deliberately practice the thoughts you would think if it was true.
Imagine you have what you want. What would you think? How would your thoughts be different from what they are currently? Take the time to train yourself into those thought patterns. I like to write about how grateful I am that I have what I want already. For an extremely detailed view of my thought direction practice, read my lifestream. This post is a good example.

3. If you’re not thinking in alignment with your new story, stop thinking with silent counting.
I try to count to 10,000 every day. If I’m idle or involved in an activity that allows my thoughts to wander, I simply count to prevent thoughts that contradict my new story from popping up. It’s the only truly effective way I’ve found to stop thinking when I’m not actively directing my thoughts.

4. Be in the present moment, vigilantly looking for evidence.
Whatever you notice, you get more of. So be ready to see evidence that your new story is true. The only way your new story will snowball into actual reality is if you are in the present, paying attention to each sign that you’re getting what you want.

5. Repeat every single day, multiple times a day.
Thought direction only works with practice. We’ve trained ourselves into realities we don’t want simply by thinking about them. All it takes to live the reality you desire is consistently thinking you already do. Your reality is created by your expectations. Your expectations are formed by your beliefs. And your beliefs are just thoughts you think a lot. Whatever you believe is true, so you can just train yourself to believe what you want to be true. Trust in your own power! You can be or do or have anything you want.

Stay inspired with the new Earcandy audio lesson

Last night Kelly and I published a new audio discussion about consciously choosing new thoughts and seeing them manifest. Our adorable second edition of Earcandy life design lessons, Thinky Thoughty Creations: How to Sugar-Sand Your Thoughts, is teeming with practical examples and our own experiences in thought direction. You can download the $2, 31 minute mp3 to hear our own methods and solutions for telling the stories we wanted to be true, and that we’re now living.

Click here to continue to the Earcandy website.

Tuesday Tips is a weekly handbook on going with the flow. The more we practice listening to what life tells us, the more fun it gets to be alive. We all have access to the flow 24/7, and these tips are just ways to remember we already hold the keys to any door we want to open. Be easy on yourself and life will be easy on you.

1. Have a bedtime.
I’ve always known it was important to go to sleep and wake up at the same time every day, but I resisted it like a petulant child every single night of my adult life. My sleep habits have always felt like total chaos. It is with great relief that I admit, yet again, that my dad was right. A consistent sleep schedule adds a calming rhythm to daily life.

2. Make life design patterns.
On the same note as a consistent sleep schedule, try keeping life-maintenance activities in a pattern. When you decide that you’re going to do something regularly, you don’t have to think about it, and therefore you resist less. Do the grocery shopping the same day every week. Make your lunch at the same time. Go to the car wash every Sunday. Automating basic life tasks makes them feel like flow instead of work.

3. Tell the version you want.
This applies to everything. It doesn’t matter whether you believe your story or not, only that you practice telling it. Your mind is so easy to trick! The more you say things are the way you want them to be, the more evidence you’ll find that it’s true. Listen to your thoughts and words for times when you are clearly saying “Why is it the way I don’t want it to be?” and just decide to think differently.

4. Take care of your physical needs.
Life design is only fun when you’re healthy and rested. Sleep 8 hours a night. Eat what you know is right. Exercise 5 days a week. Have plenty of orgasms. Drink lots of water. Until we stop believing these things are important, we just have to accept them and move on. (Thanks for this one, Jen!)

5. Follow Chalene!
Chalene Johnson is the creator of Turbo Kickboxing (my FAVORITE workout), and she lives the healthy lifestyle she promotes. (Not to mention, she’s a self-made millionaire and hot as hell.) Her Twitter and Instagram are mega-inspiring and it’s fun to watch someone practicing what they preach.

6. Just stop doing that one thing that keeps you out of the vortex.
For me it’s eating too much before bed. Just stop. Give it up. You can just drop it from your life, right now. One of my favorite Carlos Castaneda quotes always helps me believe in my power to do this: “People hardly ever realize that we can cut anything from our lives, any time, just like that. For example, smoking and drinking are nothing. Nothing at all if we want to drop them. Only one thing is indispensable for anything we do; the spirit. One can’t do without the spirit.” Read Adrienne’s take on action and the law of attraction for more inspiration.

7. Decide you’re winning.
Betty gave me my favorite mantra of the week: “I’m winning!” It helps me focus on success instead of failure.

8. Think of one thing to compliment about every person you see.
When you criticize others, you criticize yourself. Make the choice to compliment others, and you’ll find those same qualities within.

9. Measure only your joy.
We are here for fun, not to grow or make progress. Those things come naturally with joy. Every time I find myself writing about how grateful I am for the progress I made in my work, I remember to think that I am much more grateful for the joy I felt while working.

10. Remember, nothing is serious.
Whenever shit seems serious and you feel stressed, remember this is all just for fun.

11. Practice the feeling of trust.
Sometimes when riding my bike in traffic, I have to go between the curb and cars in a teeny little area with no room for error. If I waver, I’ll crash. I’ve found that every time I do it, I feel this feeling in my head that I now recognize as flow, or trust. It’s the same feeling as riding a bike with no hands, or walking a tightrope, or jumping off a cliff. You just have to trust that you can do it, or you’ll hurt yourself. It’s the feeling of perfect balance. If you can find physical ways to practice this feeling (like on a bicycle), it gets way easier to feel it throughout your daily life.

12. Be your remembering self with your pets.
Pets are so easygoing and obedient that it can be easy to ignore them. This week I’m practicing listening to my kitties. Whenever they come up to me wanting to play, I listen. I stop doing what I’m doing, and I appreciate the time I have with them. Not only do I feel more deeply connected to them, but the interruptions always lead me to solutions I’ve been looking for.

13. Your power is in letting go.
Whenever I start worrying about a situation, and wondering what action I should take to fix it, I must remember that the easiest way to deal with things that bother me is to let them go. Ignoring them, and finding a way to feel good anyway is the fastest way to resolve contrast.

In the School of Life Design group, Lynn asked “What are your mantras/tricks for staying in the moment and not freaking out (about uncertainty, especially)?” Halcyon responded with, “Byron Katie has a great phrase about not getting too caught up in an imagined story: Remind yourself of what is real by saying, “Woman sitting in chair.” Everything else is story (aka just thoughts).”

I was able to find reference to this idea in Katie’s book online, but my imagination took the idea and ran away with it, so I left it alone for a day or so.

Last night Kelly and I were lounging in bed, when she brought up something in the future that may or may not happen, but that we both want to happen. She said something to the effect of “We get to meet those people this week!” We’ve been practicing not speaking about things outside of the Now, so I replied with “Ok… here is my reply… I don’t care. I’m in the Now.” She didn’t get offended, because she knows it’s for the best to stay in the Now too.

We chilled for a minute, not saying anything, which turned into some quality cuddling. Being in the Now FTW! The next thing Kelly said to me was, “Girl lying in bed with her hand between another girl’s legs. Hey, that’s pretty awesome!” By choosing to stay in the Now and focus only on what was going on in the present moment, Kelly found herself receiving something that she had previously wanted and was trying to obtain by thinking about the future: human connection.

Being in the Now as an artform

I spent much of today directing my thoughts by describing to myself only what I was doing in the Now. “Girl driving a new car listening to Nicki Minaj on full blast. Girl peeing while looking at the sun filter through the trees. Girl taking photographs for UCllc.” On that last one, I actually heard my mind respond with, “Hey, I want to do that!”

WTF? By describing my Now reality to myself, I succeeded in making my mind want to be in the Now. After working at UCllc for over 6 months, I’ve become something of a staff photographer. I’m pretty used to it, definitely good at it, and you could say I nearly take it for granted now. But if you would have told me about someone else being their staff photographer a year ago, I definitely would have felt jealous of that person, and coveted the position.

Not only did this little trick make my mind want to join the Now, but the description “Girl peeing while looking at the sun filter through the trees” made me feel like I was living in a painting. Suddenly, I understood how painters could paint such mundane scenes. In the Now, nothing is mundane. Everything is magickal.

Being in the Now is power

When we meditated today, I began by thinking “Girl meditating.” I immediately started enjoying myself, thinking about how great it was that I meditate every day. As the meditation continued, I remembered the reason why I started meditating in the first place.

When I was 15 or so, I attended Catholic high school. You could say my parents “made me” go there. I sure as hell wasn’t about to buy into all the garbage that came with Catholicism, so I very actively sought out other belief systems that might make more sense. Fortunately, all the heavy metal, goth music and horror movies I was into lead me to the occult.

I dabbled in Satanism, Wicca, and plain ol’ magick. In one of my readings, I came across a spell that, when combined with meditation, would get me anything I wanted. As you might imagine, my 15-year-old self had a lot of burning desires and the idea that I could just sit still and get what I wanted was rather compelling.

So I started meditating every night, focusing on making my desires reality. I didn’t spend a lot of time thinking about my practice, I just sort of trusted it. And it always, always worked.

As I meditated today, I remembered again my teenage self gathering so much power from meditation. Deciding to bring that bitch back, I looked for a specific desire to focus on to make it come true. But now that I know what I know, my only real desires are to feel good and live in flow.

I realized that this “describing what I’m doing in the Now” practice is a way to live in flow, and that the more I do it, the more power I draw to myself. Every single time I stop to observe “girl typing article on keyboard” I get a surge of well being and knowing, and I feel like I’m charging up.

I look at this method of being in the Now like casting a spell on my life. The more time I spend in the present moment, appreciating the beauty and perfection of what I’m doing right now, the more power I draw to myself. The more magickal the events in my life become. The more I feel like smiling. The more things go my way. The more confident I feel. I am a girl typing an article on a computer. I wanted this.

Tuesday Tips is a weekly roundup of ways to act, think, feel and be like the god(dess) you already are. Imagine that we’re all playing a game of life together and just now discovering our superpowers. How do you access your divinity?

1. Read The Fool’s Journey.
The story uses tarot cards as a metaphor for the journey through life. “Each major arcana card stands for a stage on that journey – an experience that a person must incorporate to realize his wholeness.” Where are you on your journey?

2. Ignore everything you don’t want.
Abraham says, “Anything you do to overcome or prevent, causes a spotlight on the very thing you are wanting to overcome and prevent.” Just pretend it’s the way you want it to be already. Anything else perpetuates what you don’t want.

3. Take up an abandoned hobby.
Think of all the things you wanted to be good at or liked to do, but gave up because you could never really be great at them. Ask yourself if thoughts like “I don’t know if I can do this” got in the way. With what you know now about managing thought and getting in the flow, could you be a great guitar player? Or programmer? Or athlete? Now that you have awareness of your thoughts, you can pwn anything you want. Just say “I don’t care” to the resistant thoughts that get in the way.

4. Find a mantra that works for you every day.
It’s a lot easier to manage my thoughts when I have a mantra to pivot away from negative thoughts. I usually have to find a new mantra every few days, but what’s working for me today is I don’t care, I’m in the Now.

5. Look at the people in your life as design projects.
You’re designing your version of their lives, so think whatever you want to think about them. Focus on the things you like about them. Decide what parts of them to amplify. They are characters in your story, so tell the story the way you want it to be.

6. Take time to write about your epiphanies and you’ll always find more.
When things click into place and you feel like you “get it” a little more, try writing about it. I used to think I wrote articles to attract an audience of readers, but now I know the point is only to appreciate what I learn, so I’m always attracting new lessons.

7. Appreciate exactly where you are, right now.
Those moments when you are getting what you want but you already want something else make up every moment of your life. You always have the choice in each moment to feel good because you’re getting what you wanted, or you can feel bad because you still want more. You will always want more. That’s the point of being alive. So instead of thinking “duh, of course I’m getting this right now, it makes sense, that’s great. But now I want something else,” try thinking “I’m getting what I wanted! Holy crap, this really works! Let me take a minute to enjoy having what I want, knowing that I deliberately created it and allowed it to flow into my life experience!”

8. Go to bed feeling good.
Every day, I groom my mood like a show pony. It’s a lot easier to maintain a consistent vibration when I pay attention to my mood all day, instead of getting lazy in the evening. If I go to bed feeling good, I wake up feeling good, allowing myself to feel better and better every day, instead of working to get out of a bad mood each morning.

9. Pretend you are god.
You know you are god, but sometimes it can be hard to remember. Imagine yourself as god stepping into your body. If god is animating your body, you have access to perfect health, ease of movement, and feats of unimaginable strength. Let god live through you and your body will thank you. If it helps, imagine the feeling of god stepping into you like a wave in the ocean pushing you towards shore.

10. If you crave sex, practice the feeling of “oneness”.
Why do I always want to have sex with everyone I like?! Because I want to feel connected to and in harmony with my reality. If I practice the feeling of being one with my experience, I feel harmony with my world without having to take physical action. Then the sex comes naturally.

11. Literally practice being in the Now.
My goal is to enjoy being alive right this second. All I have to do to accomplish that is stop thinking. My current working methods are to reply to each thought with I don’t care, I’m in the Now (this works because I know that the Now is perfect the way it is) and silent counting (it’s like measuring the seconds I’m in the Now).

12. See yourself how you want to be seen.
Envision the person you want to be and embody that person right now. Here’s my vision of hotness:

I am deeply tanned, toned, and in a bikini top with denim cutoffs. I have a leather pouch of essentials, with feathers and jewels adorning my body. My eyes are fiery, blue and brown and orange. I am smiling but look hungry, like I’m looking for something to devour in each moment. Like a hunter of joy. I am a warrior. I have Astrojax in my hands, and I can stop time with them. I am at the springs in late afternoon, engaged in the Now. Everything is just so funny. I am free. I am a spark. I reflect the light like a diamond. When you look away, you can see me flying out of the corner of your eye.

13. Know you are god.
You are infinitely powerful. You can have whatever you want. Step into the Now and claim your power.

Here’s a new game for you to try. It’s called the I Don’t Care game. As you go about your day, observe what you think about. Any time you are aware of a thought, say to it, “I don’t care.” Say it to any thought, positive or negative. Bonus points for actually feeling like you don’t care.

The next level of the game is to say “I don’t care” to anything you observe in your reality that you don’t want. If something is annoying, angering, or scaring you, think, “I don’t care.” Again, bonus points if you actually feel like you don’t care.

This game will train you to remove emotional attachment from form. When you think a thought that feels bad, saying “I don’t care” to it helps you let the thought go. When you think a thought that feels good, saying “I don’t care” helps you avoid getting attached to that idea and using it as your reason to feel good. Ruminating on good experiences will cause you to feel worse and worse as you move away from them in time, because you aren’t in the Now, allowing even better experiences in. When you say “I don’t care” to something bothering you in your Now reality, it helps you remove your attention from it, so you stop creating it.

The only time you should ever “care” about anything is when you are caring about how you feel. And you can only care in the Now. When you remove your “caring” or emotional attachment from all thought and negative experience, you free your attention to be placed on the only thing worth caring about: appreciating the good things in the present moment.

The difference between apathy and knowing

When you say “I don’t care” to thoughts and negative experiences, the point is to feel “I don’t care, because everything is great,” instead of “I don’t care, because everything sucks.”

An example of the game

Picture yourself taking a walk.

Thought: I still have so far to go.
Response: I don’t care.

Thought: Did I lock the door?
Response: I don’t care.

Negative experience: Tripped on a crack and skinned your knee.
Response: I don’t care.

Thought: Did I look stupid?
Response: I don’t care.

Positive experience: Find $100 on the sidewalk.
Response: I’m getting what I want! I appreciate this so much! I am so blessed to be alive! (This is the only time you will ever get to enjoy getting what you want—if you are in the Now, paying attention to the good you have right now.

Thought: $100! What a manifestation!
Response: I don’t care. (This opens you up to more manifestations if you stay in the Now instead of keeping on thinking about the experience, even though it was good.)

Tuesday Tips is a weekly collection of ways to embrace the power of thought. Just the simple act of seeing life from a new perspective gives your mind new pathways for creation. The following suggestions can help you accomplish more with less work, think with less pain, feel with more purpose, and be at more peace.

1. Set up passive income streams.
When you forget about them, they’ll start making money. Some that have paid out big for me are digital downloads (which are easy to fulfill with EasyKiss), donations, Clips4Sale, affiliate products like Bluehost, Amazon Associates affiliate links, advertising on video sites like Blip, and publishing on Lulu.

2. Don’t fight.
It’s like putting a dent in a car. You can try to get the dent out, but you’ll always know it’s there.

3. Do it for fun, not to get it done!
If it isn’t fun to begin with, make it fun. If you can’t make it fun, don’t do it.

4. Know your upper limits so you can move past them.
In The Big Leap, Gay Hendricks tells us that there are four hidden barriers to greater success. They are: feeling fundamentally flawed, feeling disloyal and subsequently abandoned, fearing more success will bring more burden, and fear of outshining others. Any of these sound familiar? Then this book will really help.

5. Write a list of things that define you.
Then add to it all the things that you WANT to define you. Mix them in. Print it out. Bask in your greatness.

6. Remember how much you’ve already achieved.
Aurora has an awesome idea: when life gets you down, ask yourself, “Would twelve-year-old me think my life is awesome?” The answer’s generally yes.

7. Laugh off your “flaws”.
Also in The Big Leap, Gay Hendricks writes, “If you’re willing to adopt a playful attitude toward yourself and your shortcomings, you can make extraordinarily rapid progress.” The less serious you are about the things you don’t like about yourself, the faster they go away.

8. If you’re missing someone, pay more attention to yourself.
In the School of Life Design group, Katharine asks how to avoid feeling depressed when she misses her boyfriend.

9. If you think too much and can’t seem to stop, start training yourself into new thoughts.
When you’re hit with a mysterious depression, remember that you thought your way into that feeling, and you can think yourself out of it. More advice on dealing with depression in the group.

10. See everything in your life as a reflection of you.
If there is something you don’t like, it’s something you don’t like about yourself. If someone says hurtful things to you, you have been thinking hurtful thoughts about yourself. It’s scary to take responsibility for your reality, but much easier to navigate if you understand you are creating everything you experience.

11. When good things happen, say thank you and let them pass.
Just like negative experiences, there’s no need to dwell on the positive either. Because if you’re outside of the Now, thinking about the past, you’re blocking the things that want to get to you right Now. Allow the abundance to keep flowing.

12. Believe you’re in the right place at the right time.
The best advice on Twitter this week comes from Mia Astral: “You may not see it, but life gives you what you need exactly when you need it. Pushing for more, pushes away. Stay out of your way.”

The other day I felt creatively stifled because I had no idea what I should work on. I have a lot of things I know I could do to feel good, but had no plan or priorities. I used to be an obsessive to-do list maker, but I purposely let go of that habit over the last year. But without a to-do list, how do I know what to do?!

I spent some time thinking about what I want, and found that my desires could be broken into four categories: what I want to do in each Now, what I want to do every day, what I want to accomplish every week, and what I’d like to achieve this month. I’ve tried making lists of things I should do every day before, to no avail. But this is less about feeling like I need to do things, and more of a list of options to try because I know they always work.

I created this worksheet to remind me of the things that help me feel good, whether in this moment, in this day, in this week, or in this month. I’ve kept up with it for a whole two days now, but it’s not really supposed to be a lifestyle time management system. It’s just something that reminds me what I want and that helps me focus on those things, instead of aimlessly clicking through Facebook or sleeping in too late.

This worksheet also helps me think less—I don’t have to ask myself “what should I work on?” every morning. I have a list of things I know will keep me in the flow. If I can’t deal with any of the Daily items, I just look at the Now list. I can always breathe. I can always smile. And I can always think about what I want. By having a list of things to do now, I open myself up to the more in-depth Daily items, and then the weekly and monthly items just seem to do themselves. Focus on the Now first, and the rest starts to seem easier.

The Daily list becomes a sort of scavenger hunt. Once I’ve done five of the eight on the list, it’s hard for me to ignore the remaining three. Thus I spend more time focusing on the activities I know I really want to do, and less time dicking around.

What do you want to do in each Now moment? What would you like to do every day? Every week? This month? Focus on those things, hang them on your wall, make them your phone wallpaper, and stay in the flow where you want to be.

Download the 8.5×11 PDF worksheet here

Tuesday Tips is a weekly roundup of suggestions for harmonizing with the natural flow of life. Whether you access the flow with action, thought, emotion or stillness, it gets easier every day. The more you practice, the more fun it becomes, and the more you’ll find you had the knack for it all along.

1. Hang out with your friends.
That’s when all the good stuff happens in the background. You forget about whatever it is you want but don’t have, and you feel good because you’re with people you love. It creates the perfect weather for manifestation.

2. Speak only of things in the Now.
Talk only in present tense. Try “I like bowling,” which is about a feeling of “I have this” versus “bowling was fun,” which is about “I now lack and miss that and want the memory to make me feel good.” If you talk about the past, make it because you’re telling a funny story. You only get to tell it once!

3. Look for evidence that life is good.
Look for people kissing, hugging, laughing, and playing. Look for flowers and animals and ice cream and music. The more you look, the more you see; love actually is all around!

4. Take pictures of everything.
The more photos you take, especially of things you take for granted and the mundane, the more practice you get at looking at things from a different perspective. If you turn the camera around enough, you’ll find just the right angle to make your boring coffee cup look exciting. That’s the whole idea behind positive thinking—keep looking for the good until you find it.

5. Think of technology in a positive light.
We’re in a pivotal time in human history. Things are speeding up and more is becoming possible. Guide this transition with your thoughts. Instead of lazily reacting in fear or skepticism, think about what you want. For example, do robot car intersections scare you? Figure out why and what you might want instead. Alternatively, remember that the things we fear are usually the things we need most.

6. Stop trying to understand.
The mind can’t quite keep up with the evolution of consciousness, and it wasn’t designed to. Have you ever found yourself creating in flow (i.e., playing music, exercising, making art, or playing with flow toys) and then stopping your own flow because you’re trying to figure out how you did it? I do this all the time when playing guitar. I’ll mesmerize myself with my own fingers then stumble because I don’t understand how the flow works. But the mind will never understand. All we can do is gratefully experience the gift.

7. Use your stable reality as an opportunity for constant iteration.
Just as each day is a chance to start fresh, each moment in your home, with your partner, or at your job is a chance to iterate. The most stable parts of your reality are the easiest to take for granted, but also the easiest to improve with iteration since you’re around them all the time. Practice appreciating all the tiny details you like about your partner, home and job and you’ll find new things to appreciate every day. You never have to experience boredom or ennui if you’re always looking to expand what you like that you already have. It’s just like having a fully-grown garden, then choosing which plants to grow more of. Collect the seeds of your favorites and plant more.

8. Count to stop negative thoughts.
I have posted about this so many times, and I will continue to do so because every week it works better and better. When I first started silent counting, I wouldn’t do it very often because it seemed boring. I realized that was just my mind telling me thinking negative thoughts is more productive. Then one day I asked Kelly what to do when I was trapped in a negative thought pattern. She told me to count, because it always, always works. I asked, “What if I can’t count?” and she replied, “If you can’t count, you’re retarded.” Enough said.

9. Walk the tightrope of life.
As I learn to live in harmony with the flow of life, I become more aware of the feeling it produces in my body. It literally feels like walking on a tightrope. It’s the feeling of perfect balance, of being in the right place at the right time, and of trusting something outside of my mind to help me across. Walking a tightrope is a leap of faith. The more I practice, the more I think the rope is made out of “saying yes”. The more I say yes, the longer I walk the rope, the higher I go, the better I feel.

10. Practice feeling like you’re the shit.
You are. You’re the best. No one can replace you. You are amazing. You are perfect. You are in the right place at the right time. You are brave and beautiful and nothing can stop you but yourself. Feel the way you want to feel! Feel like you are the best! YOU ARE!

11. Use the Force.
I had no idea George Lucas and my ex-boyfriends were so right. The Force is the same as flow, the same as god, and the same as you. You have access to it at all times. It truly is magick beyond comprehension. How you use it is something only you can know, and something you must practice. But I bet watching Star Wars would give you a few pointers!

12. Just SMILE!
If you force yourself to do it for long enough, your vibration will raise. Fast. It works so well. It may tire your face but it’s way easier than feeling bad. You may think you look weird, but I know that personally, I look my best when I smile!

Tuesday Tips is a weekly collection of ideas that make me feel better about being alive. There are things to do, thoughts to think, emotions to feel and people to be. Whatever you believe is true, and these tips are designed to help convince your mind what your soul already knows.

1. Watch Rainbow Brite and love being alive.

“Everybody’s got a part to play to start each day in a beautiful way.”

2. Bulk delete photos from your iPhone!
Speed up your lifestreaming and help your phone run faster by trashing all your saved pix. No more importing to iPhoto necessary!

3. Don’t care about what anyone else thinks.
Whenever I find myself feeling bad around other people, I ask myself if it’s because I’m caring about what they think. Usually it’s a yes.

4. Rewrite your About page.
Define who you want to be and it’s a lot easier to get what you want. Check out the School of Life Design Lesson 1: Introduction to Life Design if you want help getting started.

5. Don’t feel scared.
Bashar says, “The only thing any of you will ever discover in the unknown is more of you, so what’s to fear?” The Now can feel scary, like an emergency, because often the only time we allow ourselves to experience the Now is during an emergency.

6. Practice the feeling of how you would feel when you weigh what you want.
Do you have some weightloss goal? Why? What is the reason you want to lose weight? Usually it’s because you want to feel light, flexible, free, playful, or confident. Practice feeling those feelings now and your weight will reflect that. Be it, see it!

7. Pretend you’re waking up in someone else’s body.
“Being in the Now” is a mysterious topic, but every day I find new ways to do it. One trick is to look around as if inhabiting your body for the first time. It’s alien as hell!

8. Be home, so the things you want can find you.
Another Bashar gem: “If you’re not living in the present by being who you are, then how can anything that is representative of the vibrations of the things you prefer find you if you’re not home?”

9. Trust the Now.
Trust that it’s perfect, that it’s what you wanted, and that it contains exactly what you need. This moment is a gift, handcrafted specifically for you. Don’t take it for granted.

10. Savor.
The best Twitter advice I read all week was “Savor whatever is in your Now Moment, and you will experience the Flow State.” If I remind myself in each moment to look for something to savor, I find so much that it’s overwhelming. So many of us fear the Now because if we were to all sit around appreciating the beauty of life all day, we’d pretty much all be crying tears of joy and hugging each other. It’s scary to feel such strong love for life, because what happens when the moment is gone? If you’re afraid to savor because it’ll hurt when it’s over, just remember that the next moment will be even better.

Welcome to this week’s edition of Tuesday Tips, a collection of the best-feeling ideas in the world. You don’t have to actually do anything to apply these suggestions to your own life, you only have to consider them with an open mind. Then whenever you need a little nudge in the right direction, the most resonant thoughts will be there to help you.

1. Sit up straight.
Push your shoulders back, tighten your core and be the boss that you are. The flow can’t get through very easily when you’re hunched over.

2. Fill your tank.
Pay attention. When you start noticing your vibration drop, you’ll notice it reflected in all of your reality. Your gas tank will be low. You’ll need to go grocery shopping. Your home will be messy. You’ll be tired. Even if you don’t want to deal with all the lack, even if you start getting nervous about how to pay for everything, just FILL YOUR TANK. Buy the groceries. Clean the house. Keep the momentum going. Don’t wait to run out of gas before you tend to your mood.

3. Stop trying too hard.
Let it come to you. Give up. Let go. If there is something you want to happen in this moment, stop thinking about it by counting in your head.

4. Tell a different story.
Listen to what you’re saying, in your thoughts or out loud. Are you telling it how it is, or how you want it to be?

5. Say yes.
Then look for evidence that saying yes will pay off. Try it as a game. Say yes to something you wouldn’t normally say yes to, then be on the lookout for surprisingly awesome situations. For more inspiration, watch Yes Man!

6. Get life design tips from other people.
Emma Wilson asks the SoLD group, “what is the most valuable lesson you have learned this week?”

7. Program your thoughts.
Make it easier to think the thoughts you want to think by taking time each day to write down the thoughts you want to be thinking. I like to think of lifestreaming as my programming language. It’s my source code—the code I use to talk to source energy.

8. Think of the best praise and highest compliment you’ve ever received.
Alyssa reminds us in the School of Life Design group that praise is especially important when we have trouble believing in ourselves.

9. What’s the most memorable piece of advice you’ve ever received?
If it’s still with you, it’s probably still relevant. I always remember my dad telling me “pay attention!” which I now realize to be integral to maintaining my mood. And every time I get stressed out, I hear him saying “relax!” What words have always stayed with you?

10. Aim to count to 10,000 every day.
Your ability to focus on counting is a litmus test of how much your thoughts are controlling you. If you can count to 10,000 in a day, I promise it will be the best day of your life! Apparently the founder of Second Life tries to count to 10,000 every day too.

11. Don’t make a decision if you’re feeling bad.
Often people will ask you to do things when you aren’t in the best mood. Instead of answering “no” on the spot, just tell them you’ll think about it. Then go get in a good mood and the right decision will come to you.

12. Don’t feel bad for wanting what you want.
Let yourself have it. Don’t deny your Self. Even if you don’t think you should have it, go for it. Saying yes to your most exciting desires is how to walk your optimal path.

13. Project certainty and others will listen.
When you know what you want with 100% certainty, don’t ask someone if it’s a good idea or if they want to do it. TELL THEM what you are doing and they’ll be more likely to join. When you ask someone “do you want to do this?” you’re saying, “am I sure I want to do this?”

14. Stop feeling paranoid by understanding that you can change the past.
You never have to worry if you blew out the candle or turned off the stove if you can change the past by changing your present.

15. Be impulsive.
Take risks and trust your gut. If you’re nervous or scared, remember anxiety is excitement with the brakes on! As Bashar says, “If you always act on the thing that contains the most excitement at every given moment to the best of your ability with zero expectation as to what the outcome ought to be, you will be walking the optimal path no matter how it looks.”

16. Lighten up.
None of this is serious. We’re just here to have fun. Smile, take a deep breath and say “fuck it!”

17. Know that everything is working out for everyone.
Love actually is all around!

I love remembering that the meaning of life as I currently know it is simple: ask and it is given. We’re here to enjoy being alive, not struggle with endless, painful, secret desires and overwhelming, nagging, illogical worries. Life experience causes us to have desires, and when those desires are launched, source energy creates them. Anything you can imagine is not only possible, but already exists. Have the desire, and the desire becomes real.

Accessing the manifestation of those desires is a learning process. Finding the formula for living the lives we want to live is the eternal task of the living. Through the filter of “ask and it is given,” the formula is simple. Think about what you want, and then believe it will be given to you.

What does it mean to believe it will be given to you? It means to have 100% certainty that your desired manifestation is on the way, so you act like you already have it. For example, you may have 100% certainty that you’ll get a paycheck every two weeks, so you behave accordingly. You might not have the money to spend right this instant, but you can still spend the money you already have, because you trust there is more coming.

How do we act “as if” when we don’t yet have 100% certainty? We figure out how it feels, otherwise known as “practicing the feeling.” If you don’t know the feeling of riding a bike, you keep practicing riding until you get it. Learning to ride a bike is the same exact thing as learning to practice the feeling of having what you want.

An exercise I love to do every few weeks is to redefine my desires. I ask myself, “what do I truly want?” And then I ponder the desires behind the physical manifestations I want. I want money, but why? I want success, but why? I want those things because they will produce a specific feeling.

Exercise: What Do I Truly Want?

To practice the feeling of having what you want, try this simple exercise. Write about what you want in each major life category, and then ponder the feeling you want behind the physical manifestation. Afterwards, collect the “feelings” and turn them into affirmations. Focus all of your energy on feeling those feelings, day and night. Forget about the physical manifestations, and don’t take action to try to make them happen. Just feel the way you think you’ll feel when you get them, and you’ll have what you want without the manifestation. This is how you “act as if” or train yourself into believing what you ask for is already yours.

My example is below.

What Do I Truly Want?

Body/health
To be thin and svelte and look smokin in a bikini while playing at the Springs. I want to feel free and light and playful.

Money
To never worry about money. To have enough to buy anything I want. To trust I will always have what I need. To feel secure and like I’m taken care of. Like I’m loved. I want to be a millionaire because I want to feel loved.

Relationships
To be part of a family in a deep, sensual and thrilling way. I want to feel invested in and committed to my reality. I want to feel like I’m part of something bigger. I want to feel like every day is filled with excitement and thrills. Going boldly where no one has gone before. Exploring. Taking risks. Taking the risk of being vulnerable and reaching out with love. Taking the risk of giving love. Feeling the flow with multiple people at once. Like playing on a team.

Work
To be the best lifestreamer in the world and to lead by example. I want to feel with 100% certainty that the work I do is the work I came to this reality to do. I want to feel 100% confidence in myself.

Love
To love and support my partner in every way possible. To give my all to those closest to me. To find new ways to show my love. To open up more and more. To see the perfection in my partner. To see the best in my partner. To create new worlds with my partner. To be one with my partner and yet retain my uniqueness and independence. To let my partner give to me. To let myself receive. To help my partner receive the gifts I give her. I want to feel supportive and supported. I want to feel generous and receptive.

Affirm that you feel the way you want to feel already.

• I feel free and light and playful.
• I feel loved.
• I feel the flow with everyone around me.
• I feel like I’m on the same team as everyone else, part of something bigger than myself.
• I feel excited and thrilled.
• I feel bold, confident and spontaneous.
• I feel 100% certainty about every decision.
• I feel love and generosity towards those around me.
• I feel open, receptive, and uplifting.

The kaleidoscope is a metaphor for reality. The mind is the center point on the ‘scope, and the mind chooses what passes through that center. Whatever passes through the center is then reflected through the entire available view, just as whatever thought passes through your mind is reflected through your entire reality.

The mind will never see the big picture, because it has a very limited perspective of a single point. Whatever shape it chooses, it chooses based on a linear perspective of time. It wants so bad to create the big picture pattern, but it can never see the pattern. So it chooses shapes to the best of it’s ability with limited perspective.

Consciousness sees the bigger picture, the entire kaleidoscope view. When you zoom out to become consciousness, instead of just your mind, you get a sense of the overall pattern of things, how they’re all connected. But if you stay mind-identified, you will try and try and try to pick the right shape to make the big-picture pattern you want, but with a time-based linear perspective, you will never be able to see the patterns you’re creating.

The mind wants to choose the right shape to make the big picture pattern, but mostly it just wants to keep passing through shapes. The trick is to zoom out and see the big picture and know that the mind cannot logically select the proper shape to create the big-picture pattern. Only broader consciousness can do that.

The mind may try to force the shapes it thinks will create the pattern. It will select the same shape over and over, trying to make it work, but forcing a logically selected shape (i.e., experience) will only cloud and dim the big picture. We must surrender the task of choosing experiences to the broader perspective of consciousness. We must surrender our need to logically decide what’s best for us and let the flow provide us with the shapes or experiences we need to create the big picture pattern we want.

When a shape passes through the center of the kaleidoscope, it happens Now. But shapes that have previously passed through the center are still being reflected through the big picture view. What shape passes through the center Now affects the shapes that have already passed through the center. This is a way to understand how what thoughts or experiences the mind chooses right now affect the past and future. The current shape moves the other shapes not currently passing through the center. Our present thoughts affect our past and future.

Using your mind to decide what to do will always produce weak results because the mind cannot see the big picture. The mind is the single point of perspective that allows us to experience reality in the way we do, but it is just a single point. Our lives are the big picture kaleidoscope view, which we are capable of seeing when we step outside of our minds to the perspective of broader consciousness.

My point is this: allow the flow to determine what shapes pass through your mind. Whatever desires, experiences, or thoughts come to you, say yes to them. The flow is giving them to you because the flow sees the bigger picture pattern, and knows exactly what shape to give you next to create the pattern you want to live. Don’t let your mind trick you into believing it knows what’s best for you. Your rules, limiting beliefs and resolutions are only resisting the gifts the flow provides. Say yes to whatever passes through the center of your kaleidoscope and watch the exact pattern you desire unfold, more perfect and beautiful than you ever imagined.

If I were to stop and care about what you think
I would shrivel up and combust
If I were to pause and consider the outcome of my actions
I would be paralyzed

If I were to judge my own actions,
I would start a 30 day trial
If I were to overthink my behavior
I would lose the fun that comes so naturally to me

I say yes. I can do whatever I want, whenever I want to do it.
If it causes me consequences,
see, there I go thinking outside of the Now
I have no problems, only thoughts

I will not question whether I turned off the stove
blew out the candle
let Pwny out of the bathroom.
I will be who I want to be and the past will adjust accordingly.

I will not wonder what you thought of me
What you’d think of me
Whether you think of me
I will be who I want to be and people will adjust accordingly.

I am the present to you. My present self,
my Now Self,
determines who I am.
Past. Present. Future.

Every possibility exists Now.
I change the future, I write the past
Just like everyone else
did before me.

I am the girl who has always been perfect.
I’ve always been a terminal.
And I always say yes.
Want to take some pictures together?