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New Book...Practical Philosophy: Words To Live By

noreply@blogger.com (John Owens - JOImethod Hypnosis) — Mon, 07 Nov 2011 20:24:00 +0000

PRACTICAL PHILOSOPHY: WORDS TO LIVE BY

Introduction of the book:

Practical Philosophy: Words To Live By (Formerly: 101 Lessons I Learned From My Clients)...Belief in oneself and living one's true potential are some of the most important ingredients that determine success and happiness. On the other hand, negativity, self-doubt, and emotional turmoil can hinder the positive flow of progress. Practical Philosophy: Words to Live by contains 200 little affirmations - tiny but important lessons or anecdotes - related to all vital aspects of life from emotional, physical and mental health to relationships to career to goal-setting, motivation and success. The goal of this little book is to help anyone in their quest for betterment by stimulating their mind and emotions. Each thought is concise and easy to relate to. The idea is never to underestimate the human spirit. If a person sets their mind to a task with the necessary drive to succeed, anything is achievable--and these affirmations are meant to be used as both an aid in and inspiration for the process.
http://www.amazon.com/Practical-Philosophy-Words-Live-ebook/dp/B00641G7UG/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1320705154&sr=8-1

John Owens
Clinical Hypnotherapist & Life Counselor
http://www.hypnotizeanybody.com

Hypnothoughts.com (The Essence of Hypnosis)

noreply@blogger.com (John Owens - JOImethod Hypnosis) — Sun, 06 Nov 2011 07:38:00 +0000

Hypnothought's question

What is the Essence of Hypnosis?

John's response:

In my opinion, the essence of hypnosis/healing is a 'Transmission of ideas' whether consciously (waking hypnosis) or subconsciously (sleeping hypnosis). Because of my viewpoint, I spend more time with the client in a waking hypnotic state (transmitting idea after idea after idea) and towards the end drive those same messages home via sleeping hypnosis.

For example, if a client comes to me for confidence issues; I would 'transmit the idea' that if I had confidence yesterday due to my being in the zone or having a stellar performance, I cannot permanently 'lose' this confidence today or tomorrow because someone (self included) is making me feel less than human by saying negative things to and about me. At this point in time, my confidence is just not in a position to be expressed (confidence soars in a positive environment). I 'transmit the idea' that my confidence will be affected depending on my conditioning, mood, health, sensitivity to my environment or the people I may encounter.

Another example: I will 'transmit an idea' that a fear of a cockroach isn't rational when taking into consideration that the insect is smaller than me (the larger/most poisonous animal up the chain wins) or cannot physically harm me. When I dig deeper into the mind/emotions of these clients, I find out that many have other irrational fears as well due to a vivid imagination (which needs balancing) and the lack of internal peace - these areas will be taken care of during sleeping hypnosis...with a strong disgust for the insect instead of a true fear. Some would use the term - nasty or an equivalent word - when referring to the cockroach. I let them know that the feeling of something being nasty/disgusting and experiencing true fear are two different emotions - a programmed idea. These ideas/messages transmitted will be the beginning of change even before we start the sleeping hypnosis.

John Owens
Clinical Hypnotherapist & Life Counselor
http://www.hypnotizeanybody.com

Hypnothoughts.com (Advice on PMS/PMDD)

noreply@blogger.com (John Owens - JOImethod Hypnosis) — Sun, 30 Oct 2011 11:46:00 +0000

Hypnothought's question:

Advice on PMS/PMDD?

John's Response:

In addition to what has already been said, I will provide you a different view point – one that I use when I run across these issues. What seems to work for the cases I have had...is a combination of education and hypnotherapy. When I say education, I simply mean how she accepts or doesn't accept this process of life. Some girls growing up (especially those out of a strict home, an abusive situation, orphaned, neglected, etc) were never taught much about their period. Yes, their mom or guardian may have told them what it is and some things to expect but may not have gone into detail because it is such a private affair. Many societies have a thing about not talking too much when it concerns matters beneath the clothes. So many girls growing up may miss out on how important this process of life is. That it is part of the gift to be able to bring life into the world. That if you see it as a wonderful experience, it just may minimize some of the pain/embarassment/shame. After all, the level of pain hinges on how we view it.

If this was the case (and it was with many of my clients who had this issue), she may dislike the process or at best see it as a burden as opposed to seeing it as necessary and an accepted part of life. Think about the mixed messages that she could be sending her brain. Her brain is designed to deliver this process every month but her mind – consciuously and subconsciously abhors the process. The results = more than normal pain/ PMS/PMDD in some cases (of course, this is provided that the doctor has worked his/her magic without finding anything physical).

Speaking of pain...this is another issue and how one looks at pain that needs to be tackled. For example, think about three kids who all have common colds. One kid's mom is at her beck and call. She tells the child to stay in bed and rest and provide juices and soup. Another kid's mom immediately rushes the child to the hospital to get the opinion of the doctor and a prescription. And the last kid's mom tells her kid that I know it is tough but you must get up and move around – this is how you will improve. When the child becomes an adult, chances are she will view a common cold or pain the same way it was taught to her. The mother who waited on her kid with juices and soup will think this is the best medicine. The mother who took her daughter to the doctor will typically have a good relationship with her doctor and have drugs hanging around on her nightstand. And the one who told her child to move around will probably handle it better than the other two simply because she thinks moving around will eventually heal her. This goes for the period as well. If the child grows up seeing mom handle her period negatively/with excess pain or didn't explain much about the process, she just may program the child this way.

Of course I am generalizing and it is my opinion and what worked for me...it doesn't mean it will work in every case...But find out how she views her period and motherhood. The ones I have had were usually in the mid 20s to 30s and were not ready to be a mother for various reasons – single, lesbian, career driven, relationship challenges – imagine the messages going on inside of their brain about getting pregnant/period? This mindset would create much stress. The ones who I have explained these issues to really understood and changed how they viewed life (education). Just informing them made a difference for them. After that, I taught them how to relax and 'let go' of their stress (hypnotherapy).

John Owens
Clinical Hypnotherapist & Life Counselor
http://www.hypnotizeanybody.com

Hypnothoughts.com (The Illusion of Powerful Hypnosis)

noreply@blogger.com (John Owens - JOImethod Hypnosis) — Sun, 23 Oct 2011 15:04:00 +0000

Hypnothought's Question

The Illusion of Powerful Hypnosis

John's Response

In my opinion, a hypnotherapist/healer's power is in his or her humility and the necessary soft skills – compassion, understanding and sensitivity to someone's suffering. Granted, we deal with one of the most important organs – if not the most important in the health profession – the brain. When we are able to heal/fix/repair/administer/assist (or whatever term one would use) the human mind, body and emotions, quite naturally, one may feel a certain power within oneself. And at no other time will this perceived power be so intoxicating than when we are successful with a client where a psychiatrist/psychotherapist was not. Compound these successes over time and his or her perceived power will shoot through the roof.

However, as soon as this hypnotherapist/healer begin to say that he or she is powerful or behave that way because of the successes, he may lose sight of the big picture.

What should he be aware of as he/she feels his/her own power?

Namely, that anyone could learn what he knows with/without any 'formal training'. That he may begin to feel that he could heal everyone or every issue with one session. That he could heal/help 1000s of clients of the same or similar issues but a client may show up one day out of the blue that will throw him for a loop. That a client may 'read' the hypnotherapist/healer's perception of his own power and feel that it is too overwhelming therefore may rebel against him causing instant failure in assisting the client (many clients have shared this kind of experience with me after visiting an arrogant/insensitive hypnotherapist/psychotherapist/psychiatrist). That he may attempt to work with a client's issue that is above his skill level. That he may begin to work on an issue that really isn't the client's issue simply because he didn't totally listen, understand or delved deep enough into the issue. That he may argue/debate/shout at another hypnotherapist/healer for successfully using a different technique/method or having a different definition of hypnosis/trance. That he may become so comfortable in his own power that he forgets to read, study, accept and search for new information to enhance/upgrade his skills.

And I am not saying humility only for hypnotherapists/healers but for psychotherapists/psychiatrists/GPs or any other professional who may get too big for his or her britches because of his own power.

....It is really wonderful (and can be powerful) to appreciate, have confidence and 'high professional esteem' in what one can do in helping others to heal but having Humility is not allowing ones power to get out of control or turn into arrogance.

John Owens
Clinical Hypnotherapist & Life Counselor
http://www.hypnotizeanybody.com

Hypnothoughts.com (Nightmares)

noreply@blogger.com (John Owens - JOImethod Hypnosis) — Sun, 16 Oct 2011 08:47:00 +0000

Hypnothought's question

How to offset/change nightmares from an abused childhood?

John's respsonse
This is my method/how I have worked with these type of issues. One thing to consider first is that dreams (we dream every night whether we realize it or not) are an extension of our daily life and of what we have embedded in our memory center. When a client has suffered abuse, his or her daily life may be filled with negative/depressing memories of the past -consciously or subconsciously. Anything, anyone, any experience, any word, any sound, any smell or phrase could trigger these memories (the embedded abuse) at any given time. There is no conscious control over it.

How can you offset that as a healer?

First, you must defuse his anger towards his foster mom. The anger will keep him stressed-out more than anything. Stress is a major cause of heavy dreaming/nightmares. He needs peace, balance and harmony in his life – focus on these three words in your script if you do scripts. He must accept his past even though he hates his past. Let him know that no amount of therapy can change his past. He has to live with it and accept it the same way as a person born with any bodily flaws or any type of diseases. The more he fights his past, the more the past is his puppet master. Secondly, you must build his esteem, confidence and belief in himself. Abuse destroys the person. And third, you must coach him through life or what he didn't get as a child. Unfortuantely, abuse robs an individual of his or her personal rights and privileges. And lastly, you can offset his dreams by suggesting/conditoning new dreams. Get him in a REM state and make suggestions that he is in control of his dreams. He needs to begin to feel that he has personal control of his life irrespective to what happened in his past.

Most importantly, this is not a one time thing. Many people think they can come to a hypnotist/hypnotherapist one time and they are done. They will go to a psychotherapist for years but a hypnotherapist they think they need only one or two sessions. It is really nice society has this confidence in us but we all need more than one or two sessions with the client to deliver long term change. An adult who suffered childhood abuse is one of those issues that takes time. Let him know this is a journey to build a new life, a new perspective, a new person.

John Owens
Clinical Hypnotherapist & Life Counselor
http://www.hypnotizeanybody.com

HYPNOTHOUGHTS.com (Explain Hypnosis)

noreply@blogger.com (John Owens - JOImethod Hypnosis) — Sun, 09 Oct 2011 03:15:00 +0000

Hypnothoughts' question

Explain Hypnosis in 3 sentences or less

John's Response

Hypnosis whether used positively or negatively needs at least these three components....

Trance – intentionally or unintentionally
Conditioning or seasoning for building new behavior/change/acceptance
Repetition – for the new behavior/change/acceptance to 'stick' long term

This definition could either be used for a client visiting a hypnotherapist or other mental heath professional, a volunteer for a stage/street hypnotist, a parent/teacher teaching a child, a friend consoling another friend on a loss or someone under the control of an abuser (an example: Stockholm Syndrome using fear/manipulation/imprisonment towards their victims) that may or may not know anything about hypnosis.

John Owens
Clinical Hypnotherapist & Life Counselor
http://www.hypnotizeanybody.com

Hypnothoughts.com (Sleep Issues)

noreply@blogger.com (John Owens - JOImethod Hypnosis) — Sun, 02 Oct 2011 09:42:00 +0000

Hypnothought's question:
I have a new client who has been having problems sleeping. He wakes up several times at night unless he takes sleeping pills. He now wants to come for hypnotherapy to deal naturally with his sleep problems that have been bothering him for years.

John's response:

There are a host of reasons people don’t sleep. Here are some of the reasons clients have brought to me for insomnia.

1. The new business hasn’t gotten off the ground inspite of their hard work
2. Relationship issues
3. Overload from helping the family which may consist of 10 people or more
4. Physical pains – headaches, arthritis, backaches
5. Worrying about a son or daughter
6. Worrying about a parent
7. Worrying about mortgages or the repossession of a car
8. A battered wife who was beaten if she slept before her night owl husband
9. Neighbors that made too much noise in an apartment complex a floor above
10. A person’s modus operandi was too limiting and drove them insane
11. The loss of a job or job loss was on the horizon
12. The client had a difficult personality and she didn’t get alone with colleagues.
13. Guilt, shame and embaressment

And there are many, many more reasons why people don’t sleep. With these issues, hypnosis, alone cannot do it. I have to coach these clients through their issues first. Oftentimes people just cannot cope with life! For example, I helped a mother sleep after I got her daughter back in university – she had dropped out. I helped the one with a difficult personality sleep after I advised her to post for a different position – one where she could manage projects and not people. I have helped others sleep when I worked them through their relationship issues.

The idea here is: I use advice, coaching, and behavior modification with many clients. Once some of these problems are solved or they have at least a workable solution to their issue, hypnosis would do wonders for sleep!

John Owens
Clinical Hypnotherapist & Life Counselor
http://www.hypnotizeanybody.com

Hypnothoughts.com (sweating while in trance)

noreply@blogger.com (John Owens - JOImethod Hypnosis) — Sun, 25 Sep 2011 09:57:00 +0000

Hypnothought's question:

What does Extreme sweating while in trance mean?

John's response

Although, I haven’t had one to sweat during trance, I have had them to twitch, scratch their head, laugh, move about in the chair, and my most recent client began to shake uncontrollably as I began deepening the trance. All of these signs were related to nervousness by what they told me (which I suspect the sweating would be as well). On the most recent one, I stopped the session and asked her what was going on with her. She said she felt she was losing consciousness and was about to faint. I told her that yes, she was 'losing consciousness' but wasn’t about to faint but just was going into a deeper state of trance. I told her that we didn’t have to continue if she didn’t feel comfortable and that I would teach her what to do when she got home. She drank some water and wanted to continue. Once we continued, she dropped into delta and I then popped in the suggestions.

I have different clients who sweated when they were around people, outside even when there were no sun, inside when the temperture was normal to others or when they had to make a public speech. All of these clients told me that it was nervousness. Some people are more sensitive than others and don’t like other people to ‘stare’ at them or wanted attention. Find out if this is the case with your student.

Being a student in a classroom demonstrating could have the same affect as being in front a room delivering a speech – most people would rather have a tooth pulled according to statistics. If this is his case, he may or may not feel comfortable being the student. I only do one-on-one sessions and some people are nervous even with that. A classroom could be brutal to many people when they are demonstrating!

Two ways, I would handle it. Either get him alone and put him in trance and give him post suggestions to relax in front of the class or just let him watch if he doesn’t need to participate at this point in your class. Of course, all of this considering nervousness is his issue.

John Owens
Clinical Hypnotherapist & Life Counselor
http://www.hypnotizeanybody.com

Hypnothoughts.com (Test for confirmation)

noreply@blogger.com (John Owens - JOImethod Hypnosis) — Sun, 18 Sep 2011 12:08:00 +0000

Hypnothought's question:

Do you do tests to confirm if your clients are in a hypnotic state or not?

John's response:

I usually don’t convince my clients during the session with specific tests. All of my energy goes into suggestions – coaching/motivation/behavior modification, post suggestions and change. If I convince them at all it is after the session which may be a little unorthodox from the traditional convincers. After I bring them out of trance, I quietly get up from my chair and move about...sometimes, I get on the internet and check my messages, check my calendar or read a book (this is only if my clients went to sleep - which the majority do). Allowing them to get the much needed rest that they need. Also, it gives all of my suggestions time to percolate deep inside of their minds before they go home or back to work.
Of course how long they rest all depends on my schedule and if I am in my home office, their home for a house call or a clinic.

Client convinced? Absolutely! What better way of being convinced than to wake up and see the person who was talking to you (just a few minutes ago) on the internet checking e-mail or looking through a book?

But the biggest convincer of all comes when the client comes back the next week and report the successes from the first session. That’s all the convincing we both really need. The client doesn’t really care what happened in the therapy chair. She is more concerned with the results on what she came in for!

John Owens
Clinical Hypnotherapist & Life Counselor
http://www.hypnotizeanybody.com

Hypnothoughts.com (Guarantees)

noreply@blogger.com (John Owens - JOImethod Hypnosis) — Sun, 11 Sep 2011 05:32:00 +0000

Hypnothought's Question
'is the offer of a guarantee of success something that can be offered by hypnotherapists and if so how is this possible'?

John's response

I have personally made guarantees to clients (only for emotional issues – anger, anxiety, depression, fear, phobia, panic attacks) who have already been to therapy and it failed them. The guarantee would be that they would have to come to at least 10 sessions and if they aren’t satisfied at the end, I will work for them for free.

The longest one came to session was 5 and she stopped because she didn’t feel any more need to come. I had them come to 4 and some to 3 sessions and they stopped which the guarantee stopped as well.

I will never make a guarantee on a consciously chosen issue/habit – smoking, drugs, alcohol, eating chocolate because it is easier to cheat (the hypnotist cannot control their environment) than for an emotional issue.

I have never had one to come back for more sessions after they stopped – some of these sessions were over 3 years ago.

My theory behind this is: generally speaking, people don’t consciously choose to be angry, anxious, depressed, etc. Since it isn’t something they can consciously control giving them guarantees is more a calculated risk - of course there are always exceptions for everything. But even with these exceptions, if you use both deep level trance and behavior modification/coaching on how to deal with the adversities (which is a big issues with emotional issues) of life these types will change as well before the 10 sessions.

John Owens
Clinical Hypnotherapist & Life Counselor
http://www.hypnotizeanybody.com

Hypnothoughts.com (Infertility)

noreply@blogger.com (John Owens - JOImethod Hypnosis) — Sun, 04 Sep 2011 06:33:00 +0000

Hypnothought's question
Seeking advice or script for infertility. Any suggestions appreciated.

John's answer

After my client has convinced me that both parties have been checked out by the doctor for this infertility issue, I go to work with coaching them on how to relax, ‘let go’ of robotic thinking (I explain why it is necessary to let go of science), deprogram negative behavior (if this is necessary) and activate her healing/reproductive center.

The goal here is to put nature in charge!

Of course I make no promises in a situation like this (which I tell them up front), but these clients have reached the end of the line when they come to me or any other hypnotherapist. Most have been told that there isn’t anything that can be done medically for them. Unfortunately, some of these ‘infertile’ women find out they can become pregnant right after they have adopted a child. Usually in this case, they would have ‘let go’ of the stress of getting pregnant and the reproductive process will do what it supposed to do naturally. To me, this says that the medical industry underestimated the power of nature in these specific cases.

Subconsciously, I drop them into delta to help them deeply relax urging nature to flow smoothly. Even though I had one client who didn’t come to me with an infertility issue, she had been told that she could never have children 10 years prior to our session – she was 38 at the time she became pregnant. What I did with her was to deprogram her from the debilitating emotional pains of child abuse – which was part of her stress and it prevented her from becoming pregnant. This was all it took for this client.

Had another client who I coached to stop counting months and days and buying over the counter ovulation and pregnancy tests and thinking of names and furniture before it was time - before conception. I put her in a waking trance and told her that women have had children before modern medicine was invented and without all of the information we have today. Too much information was causing this client’s issues. She too had been abused so I had to iron out these issues. Once she put nature in charge, she became pregnant – she was 39 just weeks shy of 40.

I would say you would need more than a script/metaphor in these cases. Anyone taking on infertility should consider at least these points. Make sure that:

1. They both have been checked out by a medical doctor.
2. Let them know up front that you cannot make promises. In this case it is best to under promise and over deliver
3. Deprogram them from the emotional ups and downs of child abuse if this is part of the client’s issue. It has been in a few of my cases.
4. Coach them on how to relax and ‘let go’ of robotic thinking. If they are counters, get them to stop and let them know that this puts more pressure on them – mentally, emotionally and physically. They need to allow nature to takes its course by taking science out of the equation.
5. If there is tension going on in the relationship between the two, coach them through their issues. This will take out the mental and emotional blocks to help nature flow as it should.
6. Drop them into delta and activate the healing/reproductive center

John Owens
Clinical Hypnotherapist & Life Counselor
http://www.hypnotizeanybody.com

Hypnothoughts.com (Circadian Rhythm)

noreply@blogger.com (John Owens - JOImethod Hypnosis) — Sun, 28 Aug 2011 07:13:00 +0000

Hypnothoughts Question:

I have a client who wants to adjust her sleep cycle and is scheduled for a sleep study. Her MD told her that her circadian rhythm is what is keeping her up late at night and makes it difficult to get up in the morning. Yesterday she asked if there was anything that hypnosis could do to change circadian rhythm. My response was that I have not yet had the opportunity to facilitate this, and that I didn't see why it couldn't be done with hypnosis. We left it that I would do some research and most likely have something for her in 2 weeks when she returns from Antonio;s home of Kauai.

I've worked a lot over the years with insomnia, but never have adjusted the circadian rhythm.I haven't cracked my med books yet but I'm thinking it should be pretty straight forward, go to the control room, adjust the biological clock, hypothalamus, serotonin, body temperature. I probably need to add something about creating the desire to shut of the TV & computer and go to bed.

I'd love to hear from anyone who has actual experience with circadian rhythm and anyone who has additional thoughts and ideas.

Thanks to all of you!

John's response:
Too much adrenaline/cortisol (because of prolonged stress) may deplete the happy messages – serotonin which converts into melatonin for sleep and dopamine for pleasure/natural pain killer.

What I do consciously with these clients:
I teach/coach them how to relax and shut off if they are left brain dominants. When a left brain dom spin out of control, this is usually part of their issue.
If they are right brain dominant, I teach/coach them through their emotional issues, get them to exercise and bring fun into their lives because of their hopelessness.

What I do subconsciously with these clients:
I get as many sessions as I can and drop them into delta every session stimulating their happy messages – serotonin and dopamine if they are left brain dominant (this will get them to sleep and feel good throughout the day) and noradrenaline if they are right brain dominant to offset the droopiness and listlessness. By the way, if you help someone to stay in alpha for any long period of time, it begins to release more endorphins instead of excess cortisol.

Of course for me, this is my rule of thumb..there is always exceptions...

John

John Owens
Clinical Hypnotherapist & Life Counselor
http://www.hypnotizeanybody.com

Hypnothoughts.com blogging

noreply@blogger.com (John Owens - JOImethod Hypnosis) — Sun, 28 Aug 2011 06:14:00 +0000

As a member of Hypnothoughts, I ocassionally respond to questions or concerns related to hypnotherapy, hypnosis or healing from new and experienced hypnotherapists. I thought I would share some of these responses (each week) on my blog site dating back to October 15, 2010. I will provide the hypnotherapist's question (just to give you background on what I am responding to) and then my response/answer to the question.

John Owens
Clinical Hypnotherapist & Life Counselor
http://www.hypnotizeanybody.com

John's Television Appearances

noreply@blogger.com (John Owens - JOImethod Hypnosis) — Thu, 07 Jul 2011 09:11:00 +0000

ANNOUNCEMENT: Until further notice, I will be appearing weekly, live, on NET TV in Malta. My slot is scheduled for every Wednesday during the programme "Kaxxa Jan", which starts at 6.30pm. The topics for discussion shall all be related to hypnosis and how this tool can be used in healing therapy. On July 6th, 2011, the chosen topic was Panic Attacks.

John Owens
Clinical Hypnotherapist & Life Counselor
http://www.hypnotizeanybody.com

New book on hypnosis and healing

noreply@blogger.com (John Owens - JOImethod Hypnosis) — Wed, 13 Oct 2010 09:06:00 +0000

In JOImethod: A Healer's Way, you will experience my transition from being strictly a hypnotist to using hypnotherapy and other tools to heal my clients and help them achieve ultimate well-being on a mental, emotional and physical level.

My method and focus have resulted in my gaining entrance as a consultant with The St. James Hospital Group in Malta (a company which owns one of the major private hospitals on the island, as well as cosmetic and oncology clinics); getting referrals from three pharmacies; and providing my services in the wellness center of a 5 star hotel frequented by international celebrities!

Throughout this book, I walk you through the new JOImethod – sharing important new things I learned in order to effectively work with all the people who walk through my door. This new sleeping hypnosis technique is biologically designed to take any person to coma or hypno-sleep in less than five minutes!

You will see how I use the Triune Brain Model with my clients, oftentimes utilizing it to place them into a waking trance. This model allows me to explain how therapy works – especially to those adult clients suffering from the debilitating experiences of child abuse and to athletes who desire more productivity from their bodies.

In this book, I explain core nature, that is, the importance of understanding the psychology of people. I use this information to help me group clients after identifying their strengths and weaknesses. It is their weaknesses that drive them to seek therapy in the first place! The weaknesses of people manifest themselves in emotional issues – anger, anxiety, depression, fears, obsessive thoughts, phobias and relationship problems.

I also explain the nature of various emotional problems and explain how negative emotions can directly cause physical pain. I will discuss the psychology of smokers and those who seek to lose weight. In addition, I will provide practical insight into the tools needed to provide effective coaching for couples. Understanding the psychology of people in addition to being aware of the impact and functioning of emotions equals the ability to heal!

Last but certainly not least, I will talk about waking and covert hypnosis. I will provide detailed steps about how to effectively use this art. Furthermore, I will share real cases – some of the most challenging ones I encountered – in which I used waking/covert hypnosis with my clients. These include working successfully with a seven year old autistic child; an incarcerated man sitting in a holding prison cell; and an agoraphobia client who had not left his house in the daytime in 3 years. I will also describe how I used covert hypnosis while pretending to be an ‘interior decorator’ to help an octogenarian who suffered from fear and insomnia.

One of the practical results of my work with these people is that it will answer in absolute terms the below questions, which professional hypnotists and hypnotherapists have been weighing and discussing for centuries:

1. Can a person be hypnotized without his or her consent? Yes
2. Can a person be hypnotized without his or her knowledge? Yes
3. Does rapport need to be established for hypnosis to work? No
4. Does a person need to be motivated for hypnosis to work? No

John Owens
Clinical Hypnotherapist & Life Coach
http://www.hypnotizeanybody.com
http://www.hypnotizeanybody.com/joimethodbook.asp

JOImethod: A HEALER'S WAY coming soon!

noreply@blogger.com (John Owens - JOImethod Hypnosis) — Sat, 02 Oct 2010 04:35:00 +0000

In JOImethod: A Healer?s Way, you will experience my transition from being strictly a hypnotist to using hypnotherapy and other tools to heal my clients and help them achieve ultimate well-being on a mental, emotional and physical level.

My method and focus have resulted in my gaining entrance as a consultant with The St. James Hospital Group in Malta (a company which owns one of the major private hospitals on the island, as well as cosmetic and oncology clinics); getting referrals from three pharmacies; and providing my services in the wellness center of a 5 star hotel frequented by international celebrities!

Throughout this book, I walk you through the new JOImethod ? sharing important new things I learned in order to effectively work with all the people who walk through my door. This new sleeping hypnosis technique is biologically designed to take any person to coma or hypno-sleep in less than five minutes!

You will see how I use the Triune Brain Model with my clients, oftentimes utilizing it to place them into a waking trance. This model allows me to explain how therapy works ? especially to those adult clients suffering from the debilitating experiences of child abuse and to athletes who desire more productivity from their bodies.

In this book, I explain core nature, that is, the importance of understanding the psychology of people. I use this information to help me group clients after identifying their strengths and weaknesses. It is their weaknesses that drive them to seek therapy in the first place! The weaknesses of people manifest themselves in emotional issues ? anger, anxiety, depression, fears, obsessive thoughts, phobias and relationship problems.

I also explain the nature of various emotional problems and explain how negative emotions can directly cause physical pain. I will discuss the psychology of smokers and those who seek to lose weight. In addition, I will provide practical insight into the tools needed to provide effective coaching for couples. Understanding the psychology of people in addition to being aware of the impact and functioning of emotions equals the ability to heal!

Last but certainly not least, I will talk about waking and covert hypnosis. I will provide detailed steps about how to effectively use this art. Furthermore, I will share real cases?some of the most challenging ones I encountered?in which I used waking/covert hypnosis with my clients. These include working successfully with a seven year old autistic child; an incarcerated man sitting in a holding prison cell; and an agoraphobia client who had not left his house in the daytime in 3 years. I will also describe how I used covert hypnosis while pretending to be an ?interior decorator? to help an octogenarian who suffered from fear and insomnia.

One of the practical results of my work with these people is that it will answer in absolute terms the below questions, which professional hypnotists and hypnotherapists have been weighing and discussing for centuries:

1. Can a person be hypnotized without his or her consent? Yes
2. Can a person be hypnotized without his or her knowledge? Yes
3. Does rapport need to be established for hypnosis to work? No
4. Does a person need to be motivated for hypnosis to work ? No

John Owens
Clinical Hypnotherapist & Life Coach
Hypnosis & Self-Enhancement Books & CDs: http://www.hypnotizeanybody.com

The Benefits of Hypnotherapy

noreply@blogger.com (John Owens - JOImethod Hypnosis) — Thu, 19 Aug 2010 13:37:00 +0000

The demands of the modern world—juggling career, marriage, children, family, health, and financial woes—are more than sufficient to overwhelm our senses, creating a host of emotional tests on our well-being. In our society, we have been groomed to drive ourselves to work hard and study hard without being given an understanding of how to relax and take off the stress on the road towards success. For this reason, many experience the problems which come from an overloaded brain and a too harsh, oftentimes rigid and clinical, lifestyle.

Within this demanding system that focuses on outer achievement, we are rarely taught how to react when adversity strikes. As we face the many twists and turns of life, our emotions become a burden. Left unchecked, they may spin out of control and lead to such problems as anger, anxiety, depression, fear, lack of confidence, low self-esteem, obsessive thoughts, phobias, stress and ailing relationships. Here is a troubling fact: According to Oxford University scientists, due to their stressful lives, 12% of women are less likely to become pregnant. Another stunning statistic relates to how stress and feelings such as tension, anxiety, fear, health issues, insomnia and nervousness, can cause 65% more likelihood of dementia in women. This is just the tip of the iceberg. Stress is a big challenge that impacts our lives and decisions.

Why should one use hypnotherapy? Eliminating stress is the solution. The mind must be retrained to think differently, more positively. Hypnotherapy is a powerful tool designed to provide us this essential relief and to target the emotional turmoil within us. According to research by Dr. Alfred A. Barrios PhD, a clinical psychologist, hypnotherapy is 93% successful within at least six sessions for depression – the heaviest of all emotional issues. Dr. Tracie O’Keefe, a Sydney based therapist and counselor said that hypnotherapy is the quickest therapy for curing phobias in a society that loves a quick-fix. Also, hypnotherapy has proven successful with methadone and other drug addictions, as well as reducing stress and trauma in children prior to an invasive medical procedure. These are only a few examples to show that hypnotherapy can be effective not only with gaining emotional healing and goal fulfillment, but is also used in the medical field to assist with many types of treatments and conditions – such as easing/managing physical symptoms and post-op recovery.

http://www.timesofmalta.com/life/view/20100812/medical-updates/calm-women-more-likely-to-fall-pregnant
http://www.physorg.com/news201172415.html
Barrios, A. A. (1970). Psychotherapy: Theory, Research, and Practice, Spring issue.
http://www.amazingdom.com/advice_links/Cure%20that%20phobia.pdf?articleID=0008D31F-BD5B-1C6F-84A9809EC588EF21&pageNumber=4&catID=2
Mangianello, A.J. (1984). A comparative study of hypnotherapy and psychotherapy in the treatment of methadone addicts. American Journal of Clinical Hypnosis, 26(4): 273-9.
Potter, G. (2004). Intensive Therapy: Utilizing Hypnosis in the Treatment of Substance Abuse Disorders. American Journal of Clinical Hypnosis; Page, R. A. & Handley, G. W. (1993). The use of hypnosis in cocaine addiction. American Journal of Clinical Hypnosis, 36(2):120-3.
http://stresshealthcenter.stanford.edu/publications/pub_hypnosis_stress.html

John Owens
Clinical Hypnotherapist & Life Coach
http://www.hypnotizeanybody.com

The Highly Sensitive Type

noreply@blogger.com (John Owens - JOImethod Hypnosis) — Sun, 03 Jan 2010 14:28:00 +0000

Anger, Anxiety, Depression, Fear, OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) and phobias among others are emotional challenges that many people face. These issues have the potential of disrupting a person's life time and time again.

Anyone could be vulnerable to these devastating ills: a CEO of a major company, a physics professor, a professional athlete or an Academy Award winner... depending on the twists and turns of life: break up in a relationship, loss of a job, the growing pains of a teenage son or daughter, or just the normal everyday adversities of life.

Nowhere are these emotional issues felt more and for longer periods of time than with people who I consider are the Highly Sensitive Types. People in this category have very complex thinking and may be moved by little things that other people aren't affected by.

If you feel you may be a Highly Sensitive Type but are not for sure, take a free self test at:

http://www.hypnotizeanybody.com/hstype.asp

John
Clinical Hypnotherapist & Life Coach
Hypnosis & Self-Enhancement Books & CDs: http://www.hypnotizeanybody.com
Hypnotherapy Services: http://www.hypnotherapy4health.com
Joimethod: http://www.joimethod.com

HYPNOTIC SUGGESTIONS

noreply@blogger.com (John Owens - JOImethod Hypnosis) — Sun, 08 Mar 2009 02:45:00 +0000

In my last blog, I spoke about the first part of hypnosis – the hypnotic induction. Now, in this blog I want to talk about the second most important part of hypnosis – the suggestions. Most new and some experienced hypnotherapists spend an extraordinary amount of time focused on perfecting an induction… which is understandable considering that this is the way to help their client down the road to a hypnotic trance. However, without the proper amount of suggestions, an induction alone would be like the body of a car without its motor. This creative part of hypnosis is made up of words, metaphors, paraphrases, old folk’s tales, parallelisms or anything the hypnotist could think of to deliver a strong life-altering message to his or her client.

As a hypnotherapist, I never really know what words or set of words will be ‘magic’ for each client until I speak with him or her. Yes, I know what may have worked for others with similar issues but every person is different – they have various experiences, wants, needs and personalities. This is why hypnotic suggestions are the creative part of hypnosis and why all hypnotherapists should spend just as much time on these as on the induction.

Suggestions are so powerful that they can make the difference between just another hypnotherapist and a true healer!

John Owens
Clinical Hypnotherapist & Life Coach
Hypnosis & Self-Enhancement Books & CDs: http://www.hypnotizeanybody.com
Hypnotherapy Services: http://www.hypnotherapy4health.com
Joimethod: http://www.joimethod.com

THE HYPNOTIC INDUCTION

noreply@blogger.com (John Owens - JOImethod Hypnosis) — Sun, 15 Feb 2009 17:38:00 +0000

I receive many queries from both new and experienced hypnotherapists who ask my opinion about the best induction to use (or the easiest way to put a person into trance). They are concerned about which induction is more effective for their clients.

I discuss with them how the hypnotic induction is the single most important factor in hypnosis and if it is done right, the client will leave with a good perception of hypnosis— in addition to a positive feeling that he or she will achieve his or her goals.

Many inductions have been developed over decades. Some examples: the Dave Elman method, Erickson’s conversational method, the arm levitation, the pendulum swing/eye fixation, and the handshake method. The Instantaneous, Rapid or Shock inductions are some of the quicker inductions that many hypnotists may employ.

Since hypnosis is both science and art, every hypnotist has a different style – some want to go for the faster inductions, some like a conversational one and yet others feel the need to test the induction (or the level of trance) on the client such as in the case of the Elman method. Many hypnotherapists think that a light stage of trance as in the pendulum swing/eye fixation is good enough in most cases, and some would rather maintain a medium or deep trance.

In my opinion, many of the inductions out today are more hypnotherapist-driven instead of client-driven.

My theory on the induction is to keep the client in mind when selecting the appropriate induction. Think about it: if you were to go into the office of a hypnotherapist for a one-on-one session – not knowing anything about hypnosis or the hypnotist, would you want this stranger shocking you (rapid or shock induction), snatching on your arm (arm bar/levitation) or boring you into trance with some long, convoluted dissertation? Would you be comfortable enough to let someone shake your hand (handshake method) and shortly after immediately hear the word, sleep, screamed into your ear?! Do you feel you would go to sleep in this manner? Do you feel you would relax enough to be at ease or even speak positively to your friends about your hypnotic experience?

Because many inductions have little consideration for the client in a clinical setting, it is the reason I developed my own induction method – The JOImethod. The goal of this induction is to get the client to a state of somnambulism or deeper (around five minutes is a good speed for the client) in the most relaxed way (so he or she can enjoy the experience) and then install his or her goals while they are at this deep level.

The idea of a great induction is to place the client in a highly suggestible state (my theory is to do it in a comfortable way for the client) so that his or her mind could receive the goals (suggestions) that he or she came in for and leave with a positive perception of hypnosis.

John Owens
Clinical Hypnotherapist & Life Coach
Hypnosis & Self-Enhancement Books & CDs: http://www.hypnotizeanybody.com
Hypnotherapy Services: http://www.hypnotherapy4health.com
Joimethod: http://www.joimethod.com

School Board Nixes Hypnosis for Basketball Team

noreply@blogger.com (John Owens - JOImethod Hypnosis) — Mon, 09 Feb 2009 02:45:00 +0000

Even though hypnosis enhances an athlete’s performance on the court/gridiron, a school board in St. John, Kansas decided against the practice for its varsity basketball team http://www.kwch.com/Global/story.asp?S=9791463

Hypnosis is still seen by many as magic or stage antics grounded in mysticism. Think about it: if your only concept of hypnosis is seeing an old man with a pocket watch walking across a stage seemingly controlling the minds of his volunteers (getting them to act a fool uncontrollably), you certainly wouldn’t want your son or daughter to participate in a school’s program even though the hypnotist may have given a glaring description of how hypnosis works.

What many parents don’t realize is that hypnosis is both science and art. It is so versatile, it is probably one of the only techniques that can be used by various professionals – athletes, dentists, general doctors, anesthesiologists, psychiatrists, psychotherapists, hypnotherapists, counselors, social workers, ministers, teachers, coaches, motivational speakers, magicians and stage hypnotists or anyone dealing with the mind. Its uses are many – as in healing mental and emotional issues, acquiring motivation to achieve goals, as an anesthetic/ to control pain, boost confidence/esteem, stop smoking, lose weight, or enhance one’s performance/talent…just to mention a few arenas of application.

Unfortunately it is the magician or the stage hypnotist – with a larger than life personality – who appears to use hypnosis in a ‘mind control’ type of way for jokes and laughter. Of course, he will receive many oohs and ahs from his audience but the damage in seeing a professional man walking around like a ballerina or a professional woman walking around like a sex crazed maniac is indelible to the minds of many.

In the criminal field, police would say that their job is to protect 99% of the population from the 1% of the criminals. The same can go for many professionals who use hypnosis to enhance their patients’/clients’ lives versus that 1% who uses it for shock value, fun and games.

Because of that 1% of showmanship, perhaps no other therapeutic technique has to defend itself as much as hypnosis has to.

But as the father of one of the St. John’s varsity team players said, “I don’t know how it works, but Jordan says he can feel a difference. He says he loves it.” Shouldn’t that matter most!

Maybe if the parents and the school board of the St. John’s basketball team were told that hypnosis would not only help their sons play better basketball, but it would also enhance their grades, build their confidence and esteem and help them prepare for their future… maybe the school board would have defended hypnosis instead of being against it.

John
Clinical Hypnotherapist & Life Coach
Hypnosis & Self-Enhancement Books & CDs: http://www.hypnotizeanybody.com
Hypnotherapy Services: http://www.hypnotherapy4health.com
Joimethod: http://www.joimethod.com

THE GREAT DIVIDE BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN: HOW TO FIX IT AND BUILD SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIPS

noreply@blogger.com (John Owens - JOImethod Hypnosis) — Mon, 02 Feb 2009 14:20:00 +0000

PART 2

In my last blog I discussed why relationships between men and women are so rocky in today’s world. Today, as promised, I will write about what makes men and women so different from each other and more importantly, how relationships can be successful despite these differences.

NOTE: Keep in mind that I am generalizing from my experience from studying both men and women individually and working with couples. You and your mate may have specific differences that I do not mention here.

MEN:

A man defines himself by what he does for a living or his career. And he is very simple in comparison to women. You can figure him out easily if you study his behavior - he goes to work, puts in his required hours, comes home, eats and does whatever he enjoys - watching television, playing video games, having a beer with the guys, playing with his toys (electronic gadgets, tools for his car or computer), repairing something around the house, talking to his wife (in certain situations this activity may be very limited for various reasons – see top ten reasons for divorce in Part 1)… and at the end of the day, he wants to be sexually intimate with his woman – of course, if there isn’t any arguing, fussing or fighting going on. Everything he does is simple and logical and this is where he puts his meaning and value.

He can do this year-in and year-out without change? Women may look at this as being boring – and it probably is after a while – but this is the way men are genetically wired and environmentally groomed.

Since guys are very logical, they like for things to go according to a logical plan.

Being the left brain types, guys generally cannot handle intense emotions – such as crying or being upset over small things or about what someone said to them or about them negatively - at least not for long. But because of his drive to have sex (a man is biologically designed to procreate), he will tolerate his mate’s emotions more than normal.

On Relationships:

Bonding: The more sex he has with his woman, the closer he feels to her. The less sex he has with her (because of arguments, fights, and emotional battles), the more his mind will wander – which ultimately draws him apart from her. Without the intimacy with his woman, his nature will build up - he can actually feel it in his nether regions - physically - and his thoughts may become stronger (daydreaming about sex, etc.). Thus, one of the top reasons for divorce may rear its ugly head: infidelity (number 1 on the Top Ten list of reasons for divorce).

Weaknesses: Because of his logic (doing the same things year after year), he is very limited in his tastes for clothes, food, conversation and culture. His idea of a night out on the town may be going to the local buffet for the all-you-can-eat menu –he loves to save money! After all, saving pennies is the logical thing to do, right? And he oftentimes may miss the subtle messages that his woman may be sending out about how she feels, which can be a cause for an argument.

Strengths: Being the logical type, he knows how to get things done. This helps his relationship in terms of paying bills, building the bank account, having the car repaired, fixing things around the house, and being good with time management. Since he isn’t fancy, he can stay with the same woman forever as long as she treats him right – which equates to less emotions/arguments and more physical intimacy. While he isn’t emotional, he has learned over the years how to cope with emotions when it comes to his woman.

WOMEN:

A woman defines herself by her relationship or her family. Because of her emotions and intuition, she is genetically wired and environmentally groomed to be in touch with her feelings and has a desire to be different. According to statistics, she speaks 20,000 words per day compared to man’s 7,000 words per day; because of these factors, this makes her the most complex species on earth!

Being the right brain type, she loves beauty, making herself pretty, and has a penchant for shopping. Women generally dislike boredom or doing the same things over and over again like men do.

On Relationships:

Bonding: The more she is moved – i.e., stimulated mentally and emotionally – by her man, the closer she feels to him. Without being shown attention and affection in her relationship, her nature will build up and her thoughts will begin to wander. She will daydream about romance, the need to hear how beautiful she is or how much she is wanted and loved. Because of her dislike for the mundane, she may easily think the 'grass is greener in other pastures' – and this sometimes may lead to infidelity (number 1 on the Top Ten list of reasons for divorce).

Weaknesses: Time management – since she is the right brain type, she is moved by how she feels/her own time and not by man’s clock. Because her emotions make her complex (and her complexity makes her feel unique about herself), she may cause drama in the relationship and hold on to an argument longer than her mate which ultimately causes her relationship more issues. She may use her emotions – intentionally or unintentionally – to control the relationship.

Strengths: She is a nurturing being. Without her love for beauty, culture, fashion, the need to keep up with current events and her penchant to talk, the relationship will become boring. She helps her man when it comes to selecting his clothes and helping him to become more cultured. Her decorations make the house more of a home. With her need to be sociable, she helps him come out of his shell when it comes to having fun. She is good with organizing events, trips and outings for the family.

So now it’s back to the original question: How can a relationship become better or more successful?

Women’s complexity and man’s simplicity may certainly present major issues in relationships. If neither are consciously aware and appreciative of each other’s differences, the relationship would inevitably suffer.

Yet, here’s the clincher: Instead of using your differences as a tool to compete and fight, you can use them as if you are both partners in a card game for high stakes competing against two other partners for the win.

We first have to stop seeing ourselves as separate from each other and embrace the other’s strengths and weaknesses. Because my partner is different than I am doesn’t mean that we aren’t meant to be soul-mates. She has abilities, skills and ideals that she brings to the table and so does he.

This, however, requires growing up and becoming mature! And it also requires… COMMITMENT!

Once we understand and appreciate the differences and ‘let go’ of our ego (it certainly gets in the way in a relationship), only then can we compromise with our wants and needs in relation to our mate’s wants and needs.

We all know we have our own issues and problems (drama, being overly emotional or too analytical, being negative, angry, hostile, competitive, having a need for control, or just natural differences between men and women) and it is these issues that cause our relationship problems. Since we know this, why do we hold on to them? If we have no intentions of letting go of our own issues (or at least move them out of the relationship’s way), why be in a relationship and make ourselves sick, our mate miserable and eventually, contribute to the divorce rate statistics?

John Owens
Clinical Hypnotherapist & Life Coach
Hypnosis & Self-Enhancement Books & CDs: http://www.hypnotizeanybody.com
Hypnotherapy Services: http://www.hypnotherapy4health.com
Joimethod: http://www.joimethod.com

THE GREAT DIVIDE BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN: HOW TO FIX IT AND BUILD SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIPS

noreply@blogger.com (John Owens - JOImethod Hypnosis) — Sun, 25 Jan 2009 18:50:00 +0000

PART 1

”What you can do I can do better! No you can’t, yes I can, no you can’t, yes I can!”

This chant was in a commercial many years ago between the basketball great Michael Jordan and the soccer great Mia Hamm (Mariel Margaret Hamm).

Even though I loved this commercial, it pitted one super athlete against another in many different scenarios; unfortunately, this attitude also embodies how many couples behave in their relationship – as if they were playing a game to see who will be the winner.

In my practice I have worked with many couples. Such problems I hear of: ”Why does he or she behave the way he or she behaves? Why is he or she looking/ wanting to be with someone else? Why are we arguing all the time? I am ‘trying’ to love him or I am ‘trying’ to love her but he or she won’t cooperate. She does this that irritates me or he does that which frustrates me. It is just a constant battle between us!”

After all of the bickering and the going back and forth, and both telling me who’s to blame, ultimately, the question eventually comes to: How can we make our relationship better?

Before I get into that, I will share some information to get your gray cells spinning.

The divorce rate in America is about 50% (and that’s only for the first marriage). Men and women are constantly at each other’s throats over small things.

People, we have a serious problem and we (both men and women) are to blame – there is enough finger-pointing to go around.

Below are the Divorce Rate Statistics of 1st, 2nd and 3rd Marriages.
• Divorce rate in America after first marriage is from 41% to 50%.
• U.S divorce rate after second marriage is from 60% to 67%
• After 3 marriages the U.S divorce rate is from 73% to 74%
http://www.aboutdivorce.org/us_divorce_rates.html

According to a Healthy Living website, here are the Top Ten Reasons for Divorce:

1. Lack of commitment towards marriage, sexual incompatibility and infidelity
2. Lack of communication between spouses
3. Abandonment, alcohol addiction and substance abuse
4. Physical abuse, sexual abuse and emotional abuse
5. Inability to manage and resolve conflict
6. Differences in personal and career goals
7. Different expectation about household tasks and financial problems
8. Intellectual incompatibility and inflexibility
9. Mental instability and mental illness
10. Religious belief, cultural and lifestyle differences

http://women.ygoy.com/top-ten-reasons-for-divorce/

With the exception of point number 9 above, I have experienced each of these issues first hand with the various couples I’ve worked with over the years. By far, lack of commitment, lack of communication, inflexibility, and the inability (or desire) to manage and resolve conflict are the issues I have seen happen the most.

Think of this: why do we (both men and women) spend so much time, money and effort searching for each other – we go to clubs, pubs, and parties, dating services, blind dates and social groups – just to argue, fuss and fight when we finally get with each other? And if the relationship ends in divorce (heaven forbid), we do the same things all over again in search of the next companion, or should I say, the next competitive match. Many times we take our negative issues from one relationship to the next relationship.

Have you ever heard the saying, ‘I am looking for my soul-mate’? It is a very common expression.

What does that actually mean? Does it mean that only one person on the face of this planet has a similar soul as I? Does it mean that I am looking for a carbon copy of myself? Does it mean that if someone thinks differently than I do, I will give that person pure hell? Does it also mean that only 50% of the American population that is still married has been lucky enough to have found their soul mate…or have they just not mustered the courage to leave?

When I think of the word ‘soul-mate’ (by the way, this word is not on the Top Ten list of reasons for divorce), I also think of the word compatibility (and incompatibility is down the list at number eight). Finding my soul-mate is the same as finding someone compatible to me.

Let’s face it, men and women are the most intelligent creatures on this planet. We have the ability to adapt to any surrounding, culture, language, situation or environment; yet we complain about our mate (which means we complain about ourselves because we married or decided to have a relationship with the mate) or a potential mate who comes from the same country, state, town, city, schools, speaks the same language and has the same accent, the same or similar career, lifestyle, goals, educational background, religion, and finally, the same ideals. Could you get any more compatible?

If two people have all of this compatibility (in other words, he or she has found his soul-mate), why do we have so much divorce/separation in our society? Am I looking to date myself?

If I am looking for more of a carbon-copy of me, I need to consider first - have I not been upset with some of the choices that I have made in my life? If so, this would mean that if I find someone who is exactly the same as I am in every way, I will probably be upset with some of her choices as well.

Why wouldn’t I cut my mate some slack?

Here is a secret:

Successful relationships (like anything else) require work from both parties – especially after the Honeymoon Stage is over. This is the stage of the relationship between the time when you first met your mate until about a year or so later, depending on the couple. During this time, your new mate can do no wrong – he or she can walk on water in your eyes.

Do you still remember that time when you felt butterflies in your stomach when you saw, heard or even thought of your mate? The time when you were inseparable – talking on the phone for hours when you were apart, e-mailing and text messaging all day, holding hands, eating out of the same bowl, sipping from the same glass, taking showers together, giving each other massages, feeding each other grapes over a candle-lit fire – you know, those times?

But what happens after the Honeymoon Stage when the couple begins to ‘settle’ in and REALLY get to know each other? Believe it or not, however, even though the Honeymoon Stage may have worn off, the relationship isn’t over – there is still fun to be had.

To make our relationships run smoother, we must first understand who we are and who we are dating or married to. To do this, we need to take a look at the basic differences between men and women to help us appreciate each other more.

But time’s up for this blog – so tune back in next week to learn about what makes men and women so different and how, despite these differences, they can make a relationship work!

John Owens
Clinical Hypnotherapist & Life Coach
Hypnosis & Self-Enhancement Books & CDs: http://www.hypnotizeanybody.com
Hypnotherapy Services: http://www.hypnotherapy4health.com
Joimethod: http://www.joimethod.com

The Most Challenging Client

noreply@blogger.com (John Owens - JOImethod Hypnosis) — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 18:04:00 +0000

Oftentimes I receive questions – whether from a client, a friend, family member or from someone at a social event – on what type of client is the most challenging?

When I am asked this question, I’ve gathered that the person asking is usually talking about the most difficult person to hypnotize. After I find out if this is indeed what he or she means, I let them know that I have no problems hypnotizing anyone. In fact, inducing or hypnotizing someone is the easy part!

Many of these questioners are often surprised when I say this because they have this erroneous view that hypnosis is a mental challenge between hypnotist and client instead of a cooperative relationship.

After I explain what hypnosis is to them, I then let them know that my challenges would come from the Negative Emotional client.

Of course their next question is: how so?

I go on to say: when a person displays Negative Emotions (here I am talking extreme cases or near extreme such as years of depression/suicidal tendencies, obsessive compulsive behavior/thoughts, and eating disorders), his or her nasty habits are so entrenched, I would have to work with them on many sessions (six or more) just to balance out the emotions first. Once their emotions are balanced, inner peace and harmony injected into the mind and emotions just to offset the ‘war’ that is been waged inside of them, only then could we work on their other goals that they came in for.

Where I could see a major difference in a non-emotional or a client with balanced emotions in one to three sessions, the client who suffers from Negative Emotions are so locked in to how she ‘feels’ that she may miss the change. And even if she can see or feel some change, those negative emotions or the experience of anger, guilt, humiliation, shame, embarrassment or some other feeling that have become habit may be reaching in from the past preventing her from enjoying the change.

How did this client get this way? I cannot speak for all of them but I can say from my experience that many of them would have missed a wonderful experience in childhood and instead suffered abuse, neglect or some form of other mistreatment. Or some of them could have lived in a household without strong and supportive parental guidance or with parents/relatives who experienced years of depression or some other Negative Emotion and this behavior ‘rubbed’ off on them.

Because of the years of havoc and turmoil, many of them have little social and career skills – this is another reason why this client is so challenging. With this in mind, I don’t only use hypnosis; I also use advice, mentoring/coaching and encouragement in both their personal and professional lives.

In essence, this client is challenging because I would have to dismantle the dysfunctional mental and emotional system and rebuild a new and functioning one (inner peace, balance, harmony, self esteem/confidence and focus; social, organizational and career skills).

John
Clinical Hypnotherapist & Life Coach
Hypnosis & Self-Enhancement Books & CDs: http://www.hypnotizeanybody.com
Hypnotherapy Services: http://www.hypnotherapy4health.com
Joimethod: http://www.joimethod.com

Are you Hypnotizable?

noreply@blogger.com (John Owens - JOImethod Hypnosis) — Mon, 03 Nov 2008 15:49:00 +0000

I receive many calls from potential clients who think they cannot be hypnotized. They are actually under the impression that to be hypnotized means that one relinquishes mental control to another. In other words, some people think it is a test of will between the hypnotist and the client in a hypnosis session.

This is far from the truth. There are no mental wars or battles between hypnotherapist and client – at least there shouldn’t be anyway.

Some questions potential clients have are: Can I be hypnotized? How do you know if I can be hypnotized? Am I weak if I am hypnotized? What types of people are easily hypnotized?

These questions are asked as though hypnosis or trance is some mystical consciousness that only ‘weak minded’ people can be transformed to. ‘Strong minded’ individuals however, aren’t affected as they may think.

The answer I provide oftentimes surprises them. I tell them, ‘If you can sleep, you can be hypnotized.’ I usually get silence on the other end of the line when I say this to many callers. I go on to tell them that hypnosis is a state of consciousness between being awake and going to sleep. With my induction (The JOImethod), I attempt to get my clients as close to sleep as possible. I do this for a couple of reasons. First, it is very relaxing to the client when they ‘let go’ of their stress and whatever problems they are working on at the time and ‘doze off’ for an hour or so – it is like receiving a mental massage, a release of mental and emotional tension and pressure. Secondly, the closer I get the client to sleep (therefore moving the conscious mind out of the way), the easier it is to layer in their goals (that is, the programs I give to the client according to their specific request).

Would every client go to sleep while in session? No, they will not. I usually get about 98% of my clients into this level of trance. I cannot speak for other hypnotherapists. Even if the client doesn’t make it to this deep level, he or she is still deep enough to have the goals programmed in for success.

John
Clinical Hypnotherapist & Life Coach
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