Nepotism gets a bad reputation, but here’s a truth that’s existed since cavemen lived in caves: people give opportunities to people they know and like. Life is rarely a meritocracy, and that’s okay. In this episode, I’m sharing soundtrack number 29 from my new book, The Three Minute Mindset: Friends Hire Friends. I’ll walk you through three practical things you can do right now, burn fewer bridges, be friendly, and give without keeping score, plus a true story about running into an old coworker 22 years later at FedEx headquarters. I’ll also share why I’ve started being wide open with my cell phone number (thanks to a billionaire who taught me this lesson) and leave you with a simple question and action that could change how you show up for the people in your life.

You’ve already won before, so why aren’t you using that success? In this episode, I’m sharing a soundtrack I’ve been teaching for years: win the way you’ve won before. I’ll walk you through a real moment from a podcast interview where a host had presented at Oxford twice but still felt intimidated by writing a book, and how I helped him see he’d already done something harder. You’ll learn why your brain remembers failures but forgets victories thanks to negativity bias, and why people trying to lose weight often ignore the exact tools that helped them get out of debt or finish nursing school. I’ll also share how pastors who struggle to write books already have the process inside them, they just need to translate their sermon writing skills forward. Your homework today: think of a time you won, make a list of what made it possible, and bring those same tools to your next goal. Plus, I’m talking about my new book, Three Minute Mindset, out in early November, and how you can get the audiobook free when you preorder.