tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6251698334067836806Mon, 27 Feb 2012 13:08:27 +0000personal responsibilitygood newspicturesillnessThe One Year Plangender rolesthings kids sayRed Cross Children's HospitalBotoxdoctorsjealousydeathshoppingguiltbirthpollspecial needssocialisingFelixgrammardisabilitysleepspinal dysraphismQueenybirthdaysmedical stuffcharitycrimepeer pressuregrandparentsfamilyFELIX: THE FIRST PREGNANCYself-esteempetsThreecatheterisationshameless use of bloghappinessstem cell storagetoddlerworkseparation anxietyrantlies parents tellSouth Africanature vs nurtureFELIX: THE SLEEPLESS DIARIESXhosaTVnamesSA Blog Awards 2010THE SECOND PREGNANCYguest postspoliticsbraveryillness. parentinghumourparentinglanguagegrommetsschoolgratitudeconspicuous consumptionbaby milestonestantrumstwo years oldtoiletteethingtoyspottySA Blog Awards 2009birth orderspina bifidafriendshipjohannesburgThe Southsiblingsbreastfeedingrestaurant outingsholidaysfoodshynesssmokingbook reviewhusbandreligionmenindependencechidlren's rightsRichieblogginglovewritingBecause sometimes, mothers should be obscene and not heard.http://joumaseblerrieblog.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.com (Margot)Blogger354125JouMaSeBlerrieBloghttp://feedburner.google.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6251698334067836806.post-6439315345399309748Sat, 25 Feb 2012 11:12:00 +00002012-02-26T20:11:22.323+02:00Richiegood newsspina bifidapictures Richie loves his new splints. I have already mentioned that. He was more than ready for them when he got them; he's been taking great leaps forward with them. And he knows they help him. In the mornings, he takes them into his hands and struggles to get them onto his feet by himself, saying, "Splints ONNN!", "Shoes ONNN!". His nappy/shirt/pants, he could care less. Once the splints are on, he http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~3/QKZMbFDcwFA/one-small-step-for-little-guy.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Margot)6<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~4/QKZMbFDcwFA" height="1" width="1"/>http://joumaseblerrieblog.blogspot.com/2012/02/one-small-step-for-little-guy.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6251698334067836806.post-7015072281059162833Fri, 17 Feb 2012 06:38:00 +00002012-02-17T09:47:08.380+02:00FelixThree Good in parts. As always. I am used to that feeling by now. The trauma of travelling with the short people. The mad running around doing fun stuff on holiday - exhausting, but at least you get none of that hungover-with-no-energy-and-nothing-to-do-malaise of your youth, which if dim memory serves can really spoil things. (There's no balance in life, is there? I'd love one day of http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~3/cDlht3xjLmM/cape-town-was-like-curates-egg.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Margot)15Johannesburg, South Africa-26.2041028 28.0473051-26.3180783 27.8893766 -26.090127300000002 28.2052336<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~4/cDlht3xjLmM" height="1" width="1"/>http://joumaseblerrieblog.blogspot.com/2012/02/cape-town-was-like-curates-egg.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6251698334067836806.post-3001706022651847781Thu, 16 Feb 2012 07:23:00 +00002012-02-16T09:26:06.115+02:00FelixThree Felix is aflame - itching, burning, yearning! - to be back at school this morning after a week's absence (we've spent a week in Cape Town, more on that in tomorrow's post). After a week of let's-be-kind-and-call-it-challenging behaviour, Felix told me this morning, "I'm SO happy!" If you're not getting the message, he was delighted that he could leave his fairly disappointing family behind and http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~3/kYGyHsURaaM/hot-tears-of-shame.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Margot)5<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~4/kYGyHsURaaM" height="1" width="1"/>http://joumaseblerrieblog.blogspot.com/2012/02/hot-tears-of-shame.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6251698334067836806.post-6581305923945536706Mon, 06 Feb 2012 08:44:00 +00002012-02-06T11:24:20.392+02:00Richiespecial needsspina bifidahappinessspinal dysraphismdisabilityTVmedical stuff Richie has been waiting for his new splints since November. In November, we saw a sore on his foot and it became clear the spints were too small for him. What a terrible time of year to grow out of splints! (Except that Richie scored himself bare feet for the three hottest months of the year - clever boy - while his parents were sweating bullets about that precious crucial under-two time, whenhttp://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~3/GQMQ6MjbhqA/richies-new-splints.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Margot)8<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~4/GQMQ6MjbhqA" height="1" width="1"/>http://joumaseblerrieblog.blogspot.com/2012/02/richies-new-splints.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6251698334067836806.post-3081812968187282908Wed, 01 Feb 2012 08:57:00 +00002012-02-16T09:26:27.937+02:00FelixThree Felix is medieval. He's devoted to ritual and is afraid of the strangest things. Imagine my feelings when I wiki-ed "fears in three-year-olds" and discovered he is no rarity but in fact exactly like other three-year-olds in this respect. Who knew? Apparently fear of being sucked down the plug hole of the bath is an extremely common one. Yup, of all the things you could be afraid of, it's like http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~3/npn7-dOGLA4/sum-of-all-fears.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Margot)3<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~4/npn7-dOGLA4" height="1" width="1"/>http://joumaseblerrieblog.blogspot.com/2012/02/sum-of-all-fears.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6251698334067836806.post-6814833543149243764Mon, 23 Jan 2012 18:46:00 +00002012-01-23T20:46:49.315+02:00 This one's about me. The me that's lost in there among the children and home and work. Oh I know it's a terrible cliche to feel like you have forgotten yourself among the long, repetitive hours of looking after others, especially when those others are small and given to elasticating their demands of you according to how much give they sense is left in the elastic. You may say I'm a cliche. http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~3/H9NxRId2Iyo/not-even-one-word-about-kids-almost.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Margot)12<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~4/H9NxRId2Iyo" height="1" width="1"/>http://joumaseblerrieblog.blogspot.com/2012/01/not-even-one-word-about-kids-almost.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6251698334067836806.post-8277794282794828330Tue, 17 Jan 2012 09:07:00 +00002012-01-17T11:21:29.185+02:00independencetoiletFelixThreelove Felix is not a saint. But sometimes I wonder... Felix can be a loud, boisterous, inconsiderate, dictatorial, self-centred three-year-old like any other. But then sometimes, he's so quiet and pensive. Sometimes, he's so shy. Sometimes, he's so overflowing with hugs and love and cuddles and gentleness and kindness. And sometimes, he's - wait for it - self-effacing. I don't know, not knowing anyhttp://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~3/l5BeoGDHPRc/love-letter-to-felix.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Margot)10<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~4/l5BeoGDHPRc" height="1" width="1"/>http://joumaseblerrieblog.blogspot.com/2012/01/love-letter-to-felix.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6251698334067836806.post-8441012913292500938Wed, 04 Jan 2012 07:22:00 +00002012-01-05T13:30:22.224+02:00Richiespecial needsspina bifidatoiletspinal dysraphismcatheterisation Do you remember how permanently watched you felt as an adolescent? I remember feeling as if an uncomfortable bright light was trained on me in any social situation. I lived in a state of perpetual discomfort, acutely aware of being judged, found not good enough. Despite initial evidence to the contrary, I turned out to be a pretty adolescent. This was a terribly double-edged sword: it garneredhttp://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~3/4K0NbkuM-WM/shame-dont-shout-at-cripple.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Margot)4<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~4/4K0NbkuM-WM" height="1" width="1"/>http://joumaseblerrieblog.blogspot.com/2012/01/shame-dont-shout-at-cripple.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6251698334067836806.post-3783204900448368091Sun, 01 Jan 2012 20:22:00 +00002012-01-01T22:22:27.542+02:00 I'm not trying to brag. Richie's verbal acuity has nothing to do with me and I am not responsible for it. I enjoy it. But I don't feel like I created it or that Richie deserves admiration for it or anything like that. Richie's verbal skills simply are what they are. Which is to say, to me, somewhat astonishing. I've been wondering how to write this for weeks now. I'd like to set down for http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~3/u8R1Xfeu450/this-ones-for-you-richie.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Margot)8<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~4/u8R1Xfeu450" height="1" width="1"/>http://joumaseblerrieblog.blogspot.com/2012/01/this-ones-for-you-richie.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6251698334067836806.post-5766392354210462292Fri, 30 Dec 2011 14:05:00 +00002011-12-30T16:05:58.538+02:00 It's been a long year. 'Holidays' this year have consisted of taking time off to go to Cape Town, in April, for Richie's massive back operation to remove the lipoma that was/is (but hopefully was) tethering his spinal cord and stretching it. We went back in September for a follow-up visit. That's three weeks of 'leave' used up right there. And neither trip was relaxing. And when you're bothhttp://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~3/9TvttK-sOAQ/2011-you-rascal.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Margot)5<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~4/9TvttK-sOAQ" height="1" width="1"/>http://joumaseblerrieblog.blogspot.com/2011/12/2011-you-rascal.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6251698334067836806.post-1241436045980766620Tue, 13 Dec 2011 17:13:00 +00002011-12-22T15:20:27.082+02:00 Richie, Richie, Richie. You are going to give your parents seven kinds of hell, aren't you? You, with your shrug-it-off, screw-you houding and your generally gung-ho attitude to life. I shudder to think of the teenage You. For instance: you are getting increasingly interested in exploring your surroundings, and copying your brother. But your legs get in the way. No problem, you'll just go on http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~3/NsoBBhJEWbM/and-for-my-latest-trick-vomit-on-demand.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Margot)3<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~4/NsoBBhJEWbM" height="1" width="1"/>http://joumaseblerrieblog.blogspot.com/2011/12/and-for-my-latest-trick-vomit-on-demand.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6251698334067836806.post-4142117443659578944Mon, 12 Dec 2011 09:34:00 +00002011-12-12T11:48:44.587+02:00 Felix aged 3 years and one month old is unrecognisable from Felix of six months ago. My once chubby, baby-faced boy is lean and tall. He used to cower in my skirts when strangers tried to talk to him. But today, in a toy shop, he happily told the shop assistant about his cousins who live in My Stralia, and that he was three years old, and that Richie bit him and that's why he's got a plaster.http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~3/uSFqEGI4m3w/ch-ch-ch-changes.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Margot)5<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~4/uSFqEGI4m3w" height="1" width="1"/>http://joumaseblerrieblog.blogspot.com/2011/12/ch-ch-ch-changes.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6251698334067836806.post-7024014398311663691Mon, 05 Dec 2011 13:26:00 +00002011-12-05T16:33:51.743+02:00pottytoiletFelixbaby milestones Felix is not potty trained. He is three years old. My parents' generation claim their kids (= us) were potty trained by 18 months. Granted, we were walking around in soggy cloth nappies with the nappy liner hanging out, smearing shit on our legs, and getting pricked with the pin you used to have to use to connect the whole catastrophe together. Our parents had to rinse the shit out of the http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~3/jHKTKmgRM8M/egging-him-on.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Margot)11<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~4/jHKTKmgRM8M" height="1" width="1"/>http://joumaseblerrieblog.blogspot.com/2011/12/egging-him-on.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6251698334067836806.post-6023825372223807324Fri, 02 Dec 2011 07:12:00 +00002011-12-02T09:57:02.611+02:00 So after my last post I got a lot of responses that suggested I was capable of providing an uninterrupted idyll of childhood bliss for my children, and that that was rather irritating. Not true. Firstly, facts were staged and exaggerated, and time condensed, for literary effect. Yes, I left out the TV watching and general 'entertain-each-other'ing because that doesn't justify my fatigue as http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~3/tx5t-bohBjE/its-not-all-supermoms-and-giggles-round.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Margot)7<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~4/tx5t-bohBjE" height="1" width="1"/>http://joumaseblerrieblog.blogspot.com/2011/12/its-not-all-supermoms-and-giggles-round.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6251698334067836806.post-3800068263234188987Wed, 30 Nov 2011 12:22:00 +00002011-11-30T17:35:50.414+02:00 I decided to "gift" myself a little holiday before - the horror! - the schools shut, Queeny went on leave and there'd really be no time for my much anticipated nervous breakdown-cum-pedicure. It's not going so well. First, there's the ever-present guilt thing. Any time - and I mean, ANY time - not spent with the kids leads me to do complicated, exhausting mental loops of justification and selfhttp://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~3/jvgujWGfCgA/why-are-you-so-tired-its-only-9am.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Margot)7<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~4/jvgujWGfCgA" height="1" width="1"/>http://joumaseblerrieblog.blogspot.com/2011/11/why-are-you-so-tired-its-only-9am.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6251698334067836806.post-4884903207859412532Thu, 24 Nov 2011 07:39:00 +00002011-11-24T09:39:42.999+02:00special needsspina bifidaspinal dysraphism I got an email from Huck Walton at Partners Hub in Santa Monica, California, inviting parents of children affected by spina bifida to participate in an online QnA session with an expert. Here are the details: "We can only imagine how challenging, difficult, and even embarrassing it can be to struggle with fecal incontinence on a daily basis. For this reason we would like to invite families and http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~3/RhiE9Oj9LzM/spina-bifida-guys-listen-up-online.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Margot)1<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~4/RhiE9Oj9LzM" height="1" width="1"/>http://joumaseblerrieblog.blogspot.com/2011/11/spina-bifida-guys-listen-up-online.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6251698334067836806.post-262328634719807518Wed, 23 Nov 2011 13:00:00 +00002011-11-23T15:00:55.239+02:00RichieFelixsleepHmmmm. How long is this sleep training thing supposed to take? Because I suspect my typical-second second child is taking me for a bit of a ride here. It's been about two weeks. And he is sleeping a bit better. But he's up at predictable times, twice a night: 12 or 1, then again at 3 or 4. I pat him back to sleep for any wakeup before 4ish. And I suspect he's decided that's his preferred way ofhttp://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~3/Me2MePE7MsY/richie-what-are-you-doing.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Margot)6<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~4/Me2MePE7MsY" height="1" width="1"/>http://joumaseblerrieblog.blogspot.com/2011/11/richie-what-are-you-doing.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6251698334067836806.post-5950581558010343917Mon, 21 Nov 2011 14:44:00 +00002011-11-21T16:44:37.569+02:00RichieFelixsleepThreeMy man has man flu - but like SEEEEERIOUS man flu. Can you say GRUMPY? I am for the record quite worried about him as he's been sick A LOT recently. But I'm not really sure how to help him. He's allergic to taking leave. And as for the Big Stuff that's probably wearing him down, there's not much I can do to fix those things. Anyhow, in the meantime the weekend loomed and on Sunday we were due http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~3/e1uZJGFg2gs/in-which-felix-discovers-his-sociable.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Margot)4<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~4/e1uZJGFg2gs" height="1" width="1"/>http://joumaseblerrieblog.blogspot.com/2011/11/in-which-felix-discovers-his-sociable.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6251698334067836806.post-8781565828710790977Thu, 17 Nov 2011 12:14:00 +00002011-11-17T14:14:39.419+02:00RichieRed Cross Children's Hospitalcharity I sometimes get asked to prostitute myself write favourably about some new, tangentially child-themed product on the market. Usually in a poorly written, misspelt standard-issue press release addressed to Dear JouMa SeBlog, sent to 1000 of "SA's favourite mommy bloggers". Wow. All 1000 of us. That doesn't leave many in the reject corner, does it?When that happens, I take a leaf out of The http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~3/FSPS5cttOCk/entirely-different-kettle-of-fish.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Margot)5<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~4/FSPS5cttOCk" height="1" width="1"/>http://joumaseblerrieblog.blogspot.com/2011/11/entirely-different-kettle-of-fish.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6251698334067836806.post-6813265138231941229Mon, 14 Nov 2011 08:34:00 +00002011-11-14T10:36:19.039+02:00RichiesleepSleep training started on Thursday night - and I told y'all about Night One in blow by blow detail. It is now Monday morning, and three more nights have passed. A little update is due. Yes, I am still sleep training. And it is going as smoothly as I could have possibly expected it to. Friday: Richie goes to sleep, wakes up 20 minutes later, screams, but it's a "come quickly" scream - he's http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~3/zGp3Aq_ZRMI/sleep-training-update.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Margot)5<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~4/zGp3Aq_ZRMI" height="1" width="1"/>http://joumaseblerrieblog.blogspot.com/2011/11/sleep-training-update.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6251698334067836806.post-1849451827089948725Sat, 12 Nov 2011 20:05:00 +00002011-11-12T22:05:41.813+02:00Richiespecial needsspina bifidahappinessspinal dysraphismTaking the piss is working out swimmingly for us. In the three/four weeks we've been draining Richie's urine, our pre-operation Richie has been restored to us. That eerily, insanely chilled, happy chappy is back in our house! I can only imagine how uncomfortable he must have been feeling for 7 months. How a full bladder might have bothered him. How constant infections led to a constantly http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~3/7RkiAjfUIso/taking-piss.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Margot)3<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~4/7RkiAjfUIso" height="1" width="1"/>http://joumaseblerrieblog.blogspot.com/2011/11/taking-piss.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6251698334067836806.post-2288804712767300050Fri, 11 Nov 2011 09:59:00 +00002011-11-11T12:01:04.620+02:00husbandsleeppicturesCO-O-O-O-O-O-O-O-O-O-O-O-FFFFFFFFEEEEEEEEE. (Please.) Ja, it was never going to be an easy night. But after Wednesday night (can you say FULL MOON?) where Richie kept me up ALL NIGHT (really.), Project Sleep Training was definitely back on. Thursday night loomed. I put Richie to bed  at around 8. It was quiet. Sean and I ate supper. We chatted. We were right in the middle of an interesting http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~3/6Pmo3EmcMFQ/morning-after-sleep-training-night.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Margot)5<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~4/6Pmo3EmcMFQ" height="1" width="1"/>http://joumaseblerrieblog.blogspot.com/2011/11/morning-after-sleep-training-night.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6251698334067836806.post-2540005300184437402Mon, 07 Nov 2011 14:12:00 +00002011-11-07T16:12:55.241+02:00RichiebirthdaysFelixbaby milestonesThis weekend Felix turned three. As per his wish, we went out for breakfast with his grandparents and two friends, and it was the best decision ever. He felt safe and comfortable, he loved his presents and his helicopter cake (he's still talking about it!) and his song and everything. He was a real little superstar. Every time another person joined our party, he'd look up and say, "Look who I seehttp://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~3/MKq9EybzscU/little-bit-of-gushing.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Margot)7<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~4/MKq9EybzscU" height="1" width="1"/>http://joumaseblerrieblog.blogspot.com/2011/11/little-bit-of-gushing.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6251698334067836806.post-8833966160550744812Tue, 01 Nov 2011 13:22:00 +00002011-11-01T15:43:25.307+02:00Richiespecial needsspina bifidaindependenceFelixspinal dysraphismcatheterisationYes, I am currently enjoying my embroidered urine metaphor. Just let it pass. (He.) I've been catheterising Richie for a week and a half and haven't reported back - nor have I kept the 'voiding diary' the doctors have told me to keep. See? Piss poor. A voiding diary may sound like something an obsessive-compulsive bulimic keeps but it is in fact a record of how much urine has drained from http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~3/nbWHaw75US4/piss-poor.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Margot)8<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~4/nbWHaw75US4" height="1" width="1"/>http://joumaseblerrieblog.blogspot.com/2011/11/piss-poor.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6251698334067836806.post-4202885671078553413Fri, 28 Oct 2011 09:55:00 +00002011-10-28T11:55:23.579+02:00Richiespecial needsspina bifidabraveryspinal dysraphismdisabilityPart of my coping mechanism has always been to laugh it off. To the extent that I enjoy seeing shock on people's faces if I'm flippant about the serious stuff - death, dread disease, divorce. It's okay, I'm allowed. I have survived being friendless and alone in a borderline-abusive primary school, my parents' divorce, my only brother's death in a car/bike accident a year or four later (when I http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~3/6talgMFek3w/pissing-ourselves.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Margot)11<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JouMaSeBlerrieBlog/~4/6talgMFek3w" height="1" width="1"/>http://joumaseblerrieblog.blogspot.com/2011/10/pissing-ourselves.html