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India’s forgotten screen crisis: Why older people are becoming the new victims of smartphones, misinformation and fraud

noreply@blogger.com (Saktishree) — Sun, 29 Mar 2026 10:01:00 +0000

Retired men, in particular, are spending long stretches of the day on smartphones. They scroll through WhatsApp forwards, watch political videos, consume sensational news clips, follow health advice from unverified sources, and pass along messages with conviction. In many households, this has become normal. It is even laughed off. The endless stream of “good morning” images and forwarded videos is treated as harmless. But it is no longer harmless. It is shaping opinions, fuelling fears, encouraging unhealthy routines and exposing older Indians to financial scams at an alarming scale.

This shift deserves serious public attention. Older adults are not simply using phones for convenience. For many, the device has become a daily companion, a source of emotional stimulation, a substitute for conversation, and, in some cases, the main window through which they understand politics, society, and risk. That would be less worrying if the digital world rewarded accuracy and restraint. It does not. It rewards emotional reactions, repetition, outrage and trust without verification. In that environment, older users are especially exposed.

India’s ageing population adds to this problem. A recent study by researchers from NIMHANS and IIIT Bangalore noted that India had around 138 million older adults in 2021 and could cross 347 million by 2050. The same study, drawing on national ageing data, noted high levels of psychological distress, frequent loneliness and extremely low social participation among older adults. These are not background details. They help explain why smartphones become so powerful in later life. When daily structure weakens and isolation grows, the screen fills the gap.

The retirement scroll

The smartphone often enters old age as a practical tool. It helps people call family, share photos, join community groups, watch devotional content and access services. For children working in other cities, it can be reassuring to know that parents are digitally connected. In moderation, that is true. Technology can help older adults stay informed and less isolated. But in India, moderation is often not the story.

A News18 survey, based on 2,002 urban Indians aged 55 and above, found that more than 76.9 per cent used smartphones. Nearly 77 per cent used them for messaging and chatting, while over 78 per cent used platforms such as WhatsApp, FaceTime and Telegram to stay connected. This is a major behavioural shift. It means the digital life of older Indians is now central, not peripheral.

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The more detailed problem is not just smartphone use, but the concentration of that use. In the NIMHANS study on older adults and digital platforms, 17 of 19 participants reported using WhatsApp daily. Their reported screen time ranged from 1 to 5 hours a day, with some crossing 8 hours. The reasons were familiar. They used phones to pass the time, fight boredom, stay in touch, watch videos, gather health information and manage loneliness. In other words, the phone was not merely a device. It had become part of the emotional rhythm of the day.

This is where retirement changes the equation. Children and working adults live within schedules. School, work, commuting, and deadlines create boundaries around screen use. Retired life often has fewer fixed structures. That can be liberating, but it can also open a large empty space. The smartphone slips into that space with ease. It offers novelty, opinion, excitement and constant contact. It requires little effort and offers quick psychological rewards. That is precisely why high screen time in old age can become so deeply entrenched.

When connection turns into dependence

Families often assume that if an older person is chatting, watching videos or forwarding messages, they must be socially engaged. But digital contact is not always equivalent to a meaningful social connection. In fact, one can increase while the other declines.

The same Indian study showed that older adults valued physical activity, social connectedness and purposeful engagement as important to mental well-being. Yet many also spent long hours online. This creates a troubling contradiction. The screen appears to ease loneliness, but it can quietly replace the activities that genuinely reduce it, such as walking with neighbours, visiting friends, attending community gatherings, engaging in hobbies or simply sitting with family without a device in hand.

The result is a form of shallow connection. A person may receive dozens of messages each day and still feel alone. They may appear busy while growing more sedentary and socially withdrawn. Digital engagement can become a comforting habit without offering the deeper psychological benefits of real companionship. That matters in older age, when bereavement, retirement, reduced mobility and shrinking social circles already make emotional resilience harder to maintain.

The NIMHANS research also found signs of psychological strain among participants. Seven of the 19 older adults showed mild psychological distress, while four had moderate to severe distress on the PHQ-4 screening measure. This is not a national prevalence estimate, and it should not be treated as one. But it is an important warning sign. It suggests that digital overuse in later life is unfolding alongside anxiety, loneliness and emotional vulnerability, not separately from them.

The body pays too: impact on health

The dangers of high screen time are often discussed in terms of ideas, beliefs and misinformation. But the body pays a price, too.

Long hours on a phone usually mean long hours sitting still. For older adults, that is significant. Reduced movement can worsen existing problems such as stiffness, poor balance, diabetes, obesity, poor sleep and cardiovascular risk. It can also weaken the mood. A day filled with digital content may feel active in the mind, but physically, it is often a day of very little movement.

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Sleep is another casualty. The Indian study found that improving sleep was one of the top priorities identified by participants. This is revealing. It shows that older adults themselves recognise sleep as a fragile part of health. Yet the patterns of smartphone use often work directly against it. Many people scroll late into the night, watch emotionally arousing videos, or keep their phones by the bed, where notifications continue to interrupt rest. Fear-inducing health claims, crime clips, and political rumours can also leave the mind agitated long after the screen is switched off.

For older adults, sleep loss has wider consequences than mere tiredness. It can affect blood pressure, concentration, memory, mood and daytime confidence. In later life, poor sleep and emotional strain often reinforce each other. The more anxious a person becomes, the more they turn to the phone for distraction or reassurance. The more they use the phone, the harder it may become to rest well.

WhatsApp and the collapse of verification

No discussion of this issue in India is complete without WhatsApp. It is the central platform through which many older adults receive information. Its appeal is obvious. It is easy to use, familiar, social and immediate. It feels private and trustworthy because messages come from known people.

That sense of trust is exactly what makes it dangerous.

The NIMHANS study noted that India has about 535.8 million WhatsApp users and that it is the country’s most widely used social platform, with 83 per cent of internet users using it. Among older adults, the app often becomes the first stop in the morning and the last stop at night. Messages come from family, former colleagues, school friends, society groups, temple circles and neighbourhood associations. Each message arrives wrapped in social familiarity. That familiarity lowers scepticism.

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Older users are not alone in believing false information, but they may be more exposed to it and more likely to receive it in emotionally persuasive forms. A report highlighted by SSRC’s MediaWell, drawing on reporting from The Wire, described how elderly users in India were flooded with false or misleading claims during the COVID period, including fake remedies and inaccurate health advice. One older man admitted that repeated exposure left him unable to tell what was true and what was false. That confusion is one of the deepest harms of misinformation. It does not just implant one lie. It weakens confidence in the very process of judging truth.

Repeated forwards also create a false sense of legitimacy. If the same claim appears in five groups, many assume it must have some basis. In reality, repetition often reflects coordination rather than credibility. But for older adults, especially those who grew up in a media culture where publication itself signalled reliability, this distinction is not always obvious.

The political use of older attention

This problem becomes even more serious when politics enters the frame.

WhatsApp has been widely documented as a powerful tool in Indian election campaigns. TIME reported before the 2019 general election that political parties were building large WhatsApp networks and using personal data, including age, location and religion, to send tailored political messaging to specific groups. The report described how users could be sorted into categories based on what they were likely to respond to, making persuasion more precise and more emotionally effective.

The BBC similarly reported that both major national parties were relying on WhatsApp networks during the election and that the platform had become a “black hole” for fake news in India. This mattered not only because false claims spread quickly, but because closed messaging groups made them harder to track, challenge and correct.

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Older people are especially relevant here. Retired men often follow public affairs closely. They may spend more time discussing politics than younger family members. They may also hold moral authority within the family, making their opinions influential beyond their personal screen habits. A politically loaded falsehood believed by one elder can shape the views of children, relatives and neighbours. In that sense, older adults are not just victims of digital propaganda. They can become its unpaid distributors.

To be fair, India still lacks enough age-specific academic research that isolates older adults as a separate target group in political disinformation campaigns. That gap should be stated clearly. But the broader pattern is visible. Political actors use demographic segmentation. WhatsApp is central to message distribution. Older adults are among its most consistent users. The line from targeted messaging to opinion formation is not hard to draw.

Fraud in the age of trust

If political misinformation exploits belief, digital fraud exploits trust.

Senior citizens have become prime targets for online crime in India. The reasons are straightforward. Many have retirement savings or pensions. Many are polite and responsive to authority. Some are still learning the basics of app interfaces, digital payments, and privacy settings. Many also feel embarrassed asking younger relatives for help. Fraudsters understand all of this. They tailor their scripts accordingly.

Official data from the Government of India shows the scale of cybercrime overall. NCRB figures cited by the Ministry of Home Affairs showed that cybercrime cases rose from 27,248 in 2018 to 65,893 in 2022. The government has also stated that age-specific NCRB data for elderly victims are not maintained separately. That absence of detailed national data is itself a policy weakness. It leaves the country without a clear official picture of how deeply seniors are being hit.

Still, survey-based findings and case reports point in the same direction. Reporting on a Safer Internet India assessment said cybercrimes targeting seniors rose by 86 per cent between 2020 and 2022. The same report said 45 per cent of Indian seniors struggled to identify online fraud. Many also found app interfaces difficult to understand. These are not complete national crime figures, but they show clear vulnerability.

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The frauds themselves are increasingly sophisticated. They include fake bank alerts, bogus KYC updates, investment scams, impersonation of police or regulators, and the now infamous “digital arrest” scam, in which criminals terrorise victims by pretending they are involved in legal trouble. In one widely reported case, an elderly Delhi couple allegedly lost around Rs 14 crore after being manipulated by fraudsters posing as officials. Such crimes depend on fear, obedience and prolonged psychological pressure.

The NIMHANS study again brings the issue down to a human level. One participant spoke of losing five to six lakhs after being trapped in an online scam. The financial damage was severe, but so was the emotional damage. Shame often follows fraud. Many victims do not report the crime quickly because they fear blame or humiliation. This silence allows the problem to grow.

A problem families can no longer laugh away

The smartphone is not the enemy. Isolation is. Boredom is. Misinformation is. Manipulation is. But the smartphone is the delivery system through which all of these forces now reach millions of older Indians every day.

There is a habit in many families of laughing at older people’s digital behaviour. The endless forwards. The dramatic rumours. The bad medical advice. The loud political videos. The accidental taps. The gullibility. But beneath that humour is a social, emotional, and deeply national problem.

The old image of the elder as a wise gatekeeper of information is eroding in a digital environment built to exploit attention and trust. That is not a moral failure of older people. It is a failure of preparation. India brought millions of older adults into the smartphone era without giving them the tools to defend themselves against its worst features.

What is needed now is not panic, but seriousness. Families should respond with patience rather than ridicule. Public campaigns should be designed specifically for seniors, in regional languages and in plain speech. Banks, resident associations, clinics and community organisations should treat digital literacy and scam awareness as basic elder care. And public debate must stop framing screen risk as a children’s issue alone.

The phone in an older person’s hand can still be a tool of connection, comfort and usefulness. But only if we acknowledge the danger of leaving that hand unsupported in a digital world that profits from confusion. India’s older people do not need lectures about being “too online”. They need protection, better habits, and a digital culture that does not treat their trust as prey.

Sources

NIMHANS and IIIT Bangalore, “Engagement with digital platforms and perspectives on WhatsApp based mental health self-help solution for older adults”
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC12381335/
Ministry of Home Affairs, Government of India, Lok Sabha reply on cyber crimes targeting elderly people
https://www.pib.gov.in/PressReleasePage.aspx?PRID=2146786
News18, “Boomers are More Tech-savvy Than You Think: 77% Indians Over 60 Prefer Texting, WhatsApp and Facebook Over Calls”
https://www.news18.com/news/buzz/boomers-are-tech-savvier-than-you-think-77-indians-over-60-prefer-texting-whatsapp-and-facebook-over-calls-3310303.html
TIME, “How WhatsApp Is Fueling Fake News Ahead of India’s Elections”
https://time.com/5512032/whatsapp-india-election-2019/
BBC, “WhatsApp: The ‘black hole’ of fake news in India’s election”
https://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-india-47797151
SSRC MediaWell citing The Wire, “Why the Elderly Are More Susceptible to Social Media Misinformation”
https://mediawell.ssrc.org/news-items/why-the-elderly-are-more-susceptible-to-social-media-misinformation-the-wire/
Storyboard18, “45% of Indian seniors struggle to identify online fraud”
https://www.storyboard18.com/digital/45-of-indian-seniors-struggle-to-identify-online-fraud-cybercrimes-on-the-rise-58331.htm
Safer Internet India, “Understanding Senior Citizens’ Experience with Online Fraud”
https://saferinternetindia.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/Digital_Understanding-Senior-Citizens-Experience-with-Online-Fraud-A-Survey-Based-Assessment.pdf
Indian Express, “Why senior citizens in India are prime targets for cybercrime”
https://indianexpress.com/article/technology/senior-citizens-in-india-are-prime-targets-for-cybercrime-how-to-stay-safe-10218480/

Home: Where Even Gods Must Return

noreply@blogger.com (Saktishree) — Thu, 05 Jun 2025 17:24:00 +0000

The time came, as it always does—heedless of prayer, untouched by plea.

Mother never came to the station for goodbyes. That day was no different. She stayed inside, as if resisting the finality of farewell. I walked into her room, bent down, and touched her feet. Her hand rested on my head, fingers gliding softly through my hair—a benediction older than memory, whispered by time itself. Tears welled in her eyes, and she tried, in vain, to hold them back.

“Why are you crying, Maa? I’ll come home every alternate month.”

Even I could barely believe the words as I said them. They were not a promise, but a balm—a fragile comfort offered equally to her and to myself.

She looked deep into my eyes, as though searching for a future I hadn’t yet dared to imagine. Then, in a voice gentle yet unshakably clear, she said:

“Even Lord Krishna could not save Dwarka from the tides of the Arabian Sea. He never returned to Mathura or Vrindavan—the lands of his birth, his childhood laughter. Those places still live in stories, but Dwarka, his magnificent city, lies beneath the waves.”

She paused.

“Even gods falter. But Jagannath returns to Gundicha, his birthplace, each year—walking barefoot on the same road, visiting his old aunt. Because even gods are bound by the laws of nature, by the yearning for home.”

In that moment, I did not see just my mother. I saw time itself—patient, wise, eternal—speaking through her. She reached toward the puja room, plucked a single flower, and tucked it gently into my shirt pocket.

I hugged her then, tighter than I ever had before, as if I could absorb her faith, her strength, her timeless truth. She kissed my forehead and looked skyward, her whisper rising like incense:

“Protect him. Fulfill his dreams.”

And I walked out—not lighter, but steadier. No longer afraid. For I carried with me something stronger than certainty: her belief that one must go, but also, one must return. Just as the tide withdraws only to come back. Just as the gods, too, find their way home.

The Israel-Palestine Conflict: A Historical and Contemporary Analysis

noreply@blogger.com (Saktishree) — Wed, 09 Apr 2025 05:19:00 +0000

The Israel-Palestine conflict is one of the most enduring and intricate geopolitical struggles of the modern era, deeply entwined with historical, religious, and territorial claims. This essay provides a comprehensive overview, tracing its origins from ancient times through key milestones under the British mandate and beyond to the present day, with a particular focus on Jerusalem's pivotal role. It explores the evolution of the conflict, peace efforts, and the challenges that persist to date.

Historical Context and Origins

The roots of the Israel-Palestine conflict extend far beyond the 20th century, embedding themselves in the ancient history of the region. The Jewish connection traces back to the kingdoms of Israel and Judah (circa 1200–586 BCE), with Jerusalem serving as a central religious site, notably the location of the Temple Mount. Conversely, the Arab and Islamic claim solidified with the 7th-century conquest of Jerusalem by Caliph Umar, designating it the third holiest site in Islam, home to the Al-Aqsa Mosque. This dual religious significance has fostered competing narratives of ownership and identity, laying a contentious foundation that spans centuries.

The immediate precursor to the modern conflict emerged in the late 19th and early 20th centuries with the rise of Zionism. Driven by Theodor Herzl amid widespread anti-Semitism and persecution in Europe, particularly in Eastern Europe and Russia, Zionism sought to establish a national homeland for Jews in Palestine, then under Ottoman rule (1517–1917). During this period, Palestine maintained a diverse population of Muslims, Christians, and a small Jewish minority under a relative status quo. However, the decline of Ottoman power and the onset of European colonialism shifted dynamics, as Jewish immigration, supported by land purchases, began to alter the demographic balance and heighten tensions with the Arab majority.

The British Mandate and the Balfour Declaration

The collapse of the Ottoman Empire after World War I ushered in the British Mandate (1920–1948), a pivotal turning point. The 1917 Balfour Declaration, wherein Britain expressed support for a "national home for the Jewish people" in Palestine while vaguely promising to safeguard non-Jewish communities, ignited immediate tensions. Jewish immigration surged, fueled by Zionist aspirations and the escape from persecution, clashing with Arab demands for independence. Violent episodes, such as the 1929 Hebron massacre and the 1936–1939 Arab Revolt, underscored the growing unrest. The British, struggling to mediate, proposed the 1937 Peel Commission partition plan, suggesting separate Jewish and Arab states. However, both sides rejected it—Arabs opposing any Jewish state, and Jews seeking more territory—exacerbating the divide.

The Holocaust (1939–1945) further complicated matters, galvanizing international sympathy for a Jewish homeland while strengthening Arab nationalism. This period of heightened tension set the stage for the United Nations’ intervention in the late 1940s.

Key Milestones: The 1947 UN Partition Plan and the 1948 War

In 1947, the United Nations proposed Resolution 181, a partition plan creating separate Jewish and Arab states with Jerusalem designated as an international city. Jewish leaders accepted the plan, leading to Israel’s declaration of independence on May 14, 1948. Arab states rejected it, prompting the first Arab-Israeli War with interventions from Egypt, Jordan, Syria, Lebanon, and Iraq. Israel emerged victorious, expanding its territory beyond the UN allocation, while Jordan occupied the West Bank and East Jerusalem, and Egypt controlled Gaza. This war precipitated the Nakba, the displacement of approximately 750,000 Palestinians, a defining event in the Palestinian narrative of grievance and the onset of a persistent refugee crisis.

The 1949 armistice lines solidified Israel’s statehood but left territorial disputes unresolved, marking the beginning of a pattern of conflict. The establishment of the Palestine Liberation Organization (PLO) in 1964, under Yasser Arafat, emerged as a response to advocate for Palestinian self-determination, further shaping the struggle.

The 1967 Six-Day War and Its Aftermath

A critical escalation occurred during the 1967 Six-Day War, where Israel preemptively struck Egypt, Jordan, and Syria, capturing the West Bank, East Jerusalem, Gaza, the Sinai Peninsula, and the Golan Heights. The unification of Jerusalem under Israeli control, a move altering its demographic and religious landscape, intensified the conflict. Israeli settlement expansion, particularly in the West Bank, became a major obstacle to Palestinian statehood. The 1973 Yom Kippur War, an unsuccessful Arab attempt to reclaim lost territory, further entrenched Israel’s position. The Camp David Accords (1978) and the 1979 Egypt-Israel Peace Treaty returned the Sinai to Egypt, yet the core issues of Palestinian statehood and Jerusalem’s status remained unresolved.

The Role of Jerusalem

Jerusalem stands at the heart of the conflict, revered by Jews as the site of the ancient Temple and by Muslims as home to the Al-Aqsa Mosque. After 1967, Israel declared it its "eternal and undivided capital," a claim not widely recognized internationally. Palestinians assert East Jerusalem as the capital of a future state, making control over holy sites like the Temple Mount/Haram al-Sharif a persistent flashpoint. This religious and political contention over Jerusalem remains a significant barrier to peace negotiations.

Peace Efforts and Ongoing Tensions

Peace initiatives have been numerous but largely unsuccessful. The 1978 Camp David Accords marked an early effort, leading to Israel’s withdrawal from Sinai, yet a broader resolution eluded grasp. The Oslo Accords (1993–1995) between Israel and the PLO established the Palestinian Authority (PA) and aimed for a two-state solution, addressing issues like settlements, refugees, and Jerusalem. However, the assassination of Israeli Prime Minister Yitzhak Rabin in 1995 and the Second Intifada (2000–2005), a violent Palestinian uprising, derailed progress. The construction of the West Bank barrier and Israel’s 2005 withdrawal from Gaza, followed by Hamas’s 2007 takeover, further complicated matters.

Recent developments, including recurring Gaza conflicts (e.g., 2008, 2014, 2021) driven by Hamas rocket attacks and Israeli military responses, highlight ongoing violence. The U.S. recognition of Jerusalem as Israel’s capital in 2017 and the 2020 Abraham Accords, normalizing relations between Israel and some Arab states, shifted regional dynamics but did little to address Palestinian concerns. International efforts like the Quartet’s roadmap and the 2013–2014 Kerry Initiative also failed to resolve core disputes.

Current Dynamics and Perspectives

As of today, the conflict remains unresolved, with both sides entrenched. Israel’s perspective, rooted in security concerns and historical claims, is bolstered by robust military and Western support, particularly from the United States. Conversely, the Palestinian narrative centres on displacement, occupation, and the right to self-determination, supported by Arab nations and parts of the global community. Mutual distrust, territorial disputes, and Jerusalem’s status continue to fuel violence and hinder peace.

Analysis and Broader Context

The religious dimension of the conflict, with Jerusalem’s sanctity for Judaism, Islam, and Christianity, amplifies its complexity. The Nakba’s legacy, with over 5 million registered Palestinian refugees (per UNRWA), sustains a narrative of dispossession, while Israel justifies its policies with security needs and historical ties. The settlement issue, with over 600,000 Israelis in the West Bank and East Jerusalem (per B’Tselem), is deemed illegal under international law by many, though Israel contests this, citing security imperatives.

Economic disparities exacerbate tensions, with Gaza’s blockade and West Bank restrictions stifling Palestinian development against Israel’s advanced economy. Beyond military engagements, water rights, resource control, and global diplomacy—such as U.S. aid to Israel (over $3 billion annually) and frequent U.S. vetoes of UN resolutions—play critical roles. The Zionist narrative of returning to a homeland contrasts with the Palestinian view of colonization. Yet, colonial legacies and the influence of British and U.S. policies are often underexplored, reflecting a need for a deeper analysis of power dynamics.

Conclusion

The Israel-Palestine conflict is a multifaceted struggle over land, identity, and sovereignty, with origins in ancient history and intensification through modern political decisions. From the Balfour Declaration and the 1948 war to the 1967 occupation and the stalled Oslo process, key events have woven a narrative of displacement, resistance, and negotiation failures. Broader analysis reveals economic, legal, and international dimensions that demand further scrutiny. Without addressing core issues—land, refugees, and Jerusalem’s status—a sustainable resolution remains elusive. As of April 8, 2025, with Jerusalem symbolizing both hope and division, the path forward hinges on addressing historical grievances, halting settlement expansion, and fostering mutual recognition, though entrenched positions and ongoing violence pose significant challenges.

Charvaka Philosophy: My interpretation

noreply@blogger.com (Saktishree) — Tue, 08 Apr 2025 06:57:00 +0000

The Cārvāka (also spelled Charvaka) or Lokāyata school is a radical and distinctive system within Indian philosophy, renowned for its materialism, skepticism, and rejection of metaphysical and spiritual doctrines. Emerging around 600 BCE or earlier, it stands as one of the Nāstika (heterodox) schools, alongside Buddhism and Jainism, distinguished by its outright dismissal of Vedic authority and supernatural concepts. Often attributed to the sage Brihaspati, Cārvāka’s philosophy prioritizes empirical reality, sensory pleasure, and rational critique over the prevailing spiritual and ritualistic traditions of ancient India. Below is a comprehensive analysis of its tenets, famous shlokas, and their significance in the Indian context.

Core Tenets of Charvaka Philosophy

Materialism (Dehatmavada):

Concept: Cārvāka asserts that only the physical world—comprising the four elements (earth, water, fire, air)—is real. The body (deha) is the self (atman), and consciousness emerges from the interaction of these elements, much like alcohol arises from fermentation. There is no eternal soul or afterlife; death marks the end of existence.
Implication: This rejects the Vedic notion of an immortal atman and the Upanishadic quest for unity with Brahman, positioning Cārvāka as a stark counterpoint to idealist schools like Vedānta.

Epistemology (Pratyaksha Pramana):

Concept: Cārvāka accepts only pratyaksha (direct perception) as a valid means of knowledge (pramana), dismissing anumana (inference) and shabda (testimony, including scriptures). For instance, seeing fire confirms its existence, but inferring it from smoke or trusting Vedic claims about the afterlife is unreliable without direct evidence.
Implication: This radical empiricism challenges the epistemological frameworks of Nyāya and Mīmāṃsā, which rely heavily on inference and scriptural authority, respectively.

Hedonism (Sukhavada):

Concept: Pleasure (sukha) is the ultimate goal of life, and pain (duhkha) should be avoided. Cārvāka advocates living fully in the present, enjoying sensory delights like food, music, and companionship, as there’s no evidence of future rewards or punishments.
Implication: This contrasts sharply with the ascetic ideals of Yoga, Jainism, and Buddhism, which prioritize detachment and liberation (moksha or nirvana).

Skepticism and Anti-Religious Stance:

Concept: Cārvāka denies the existence of God, karma, rebirth, and other metaphysical constructs, viewing them as unprovable and exploitative inventions of priests. It mocks Vedic rituals and the caste system as tools of social control.
Implication: This positions Cārvāka as a critique of Brahmanical hegemony, aligning it with rationalist and anti-superstition currents in Indian thought.

Atheism:

Concept: Unlike Sāṅkhya (atheistic but metaphysical) or Buddhism (agnostic), Cārvāka explicitly denies a creator or cosmic order, arguing that the universe is a natural phenomenon without purpose or design.
Implication: This makes it India’s most overtly atheistic philosophy, challenging the theistic leanings of later Vedānta sub-schools like Dvaita.

Famous Shlokas and Their Discussion in the Indian Context

Since original Cārvāka texts like the Brihaspati Sutra are lost, its ideas survive through fragments quoted in hostile works (e.g., Madhava’s Sarvadarshanasamgraha, 14th century) or reconstructed verses. Below are key shlokas attributed to Cārvāka, with analysis in the Indian context:

Shloka: “Yāvat jīvet sukham jīvet, ṛṇam kṛtvā ghṛtam pibet; bhasmībhūtasya dehasya, punarāgamanam kutaḥ?”
(Hindi/Devnagari: "यावत् जीवेत् सुखम् जीवेत्, ऋणम् कृत्वा घृतम् पिबेत्; भस्मीभूतस्य देहस्य, पुनरागमनम् कुतः?"
Odia: "ଯାବତ ଜୀବେତ ସୁଖମ ଜୀବେତ, ଋଣମ କୃତ୍ଵା ଘୃତମ୍ ପିବେତ; ଭସ୍ମୀଭୂତସ୍ୟ ଦେହସ୍ୟ, ପୁନରାଗମନମ କୁତଃ?")

Translation: “As long as you live, live happily; borrow ghee (clarified butter) if needed and enjoy it; once the body is reduced to ashes, where is the question of return?”
Discussion: This encapsulates Cārvāka’s hedonism and materialism, urging enjoyment of life’s pleasures without fear of karmic consequences. In ancient India, where Vedic rituals like shraddha (ancestor worship) and ascetic practices dominated, this was revolutionary. It challenged the grihastha (householder) ideal of disciplined enjoyment within dharma and the sannyasa (renunciant) goal of liberation. The reference to borrowing ghee—a luxury—mocks frugality and suggests a carefree attitude, subversive in a society valuing thrift and spiritual merit.

Shloka: “Agnir hotram, brāhmaṇāḥ svargaḥ, yajño devatāḥ; sarvam pratyakṣagamyaṃ, na anumānagamyaṃ.”
(Hindi/Devnagari: "अग्निः होत्रम्, ब्राह्मणाः स्वर्गः, यज्ञो देवताः; सर्वम् प्रत्यक्षगम्यम्, न अनुमानगम्यम्।"
Odia: "ଅଗ୍ନିଃ ହୋତ୍ରମ୍, ବ୍ରାହ୍ମଣାଃ ସ୍ଵର୍ଗଃ, ଯଜ୍ଞୋ ଦେବତାଃ; ସର୍ଵମ୍ ପ୍ରତ୍ୟକ୍ଷଗମ୍ୟମ୍, ନ ଅନୁମାନଗମ୍ୟମ୍।")

Translation: “Fire is the priest, Brahmanas (claim) heaven, sacrifice (is for) gods; everything is known through perception, not through inference.”
Discussion: This critiques Vedic ritualism and epistemology. In the Indian context, where the Mīmāṃsā school justified yajnas (sacrifices) as eternal duties and Nyāya relied on inference to prove unseen entities (e.g., God), Cārvāka’s stance was heretical. It ridicules priests as self-serving and denies heaven as a perceivable reality, undermining the socio-religious order upheld by the Brahmanical class. This resonated with marginalized groups skeptical of elite authority.

Shloka: “Mṛtaḥ kāyaḥ parityaktaḥ, kva svargo narakaḥ kva vā; na svargo na narakaḥ, sarvam ihaiva loke.”
(Hindi/Devnagari: "मृतः कायः परित्यक्तः, क्व स्वर्गो नरकः क्व वा; न स्वर्गो न नरकः, सर्वम् इहैव लोके।"
Odia: "ମୃତଃ କାୟଃ ପରିତ୍ୟକ୍ତଃ, କ୍ଵ ସ୍ଵର୍ଗୋ ନରକଃ କ୍ଵ ବା; ନ ସ୍ଵର୍ଗୋ ନ ନରକଃ, ସର୍ଵମ୍ ଇହୈବ ଲୋକେ।")

Translation: “Once the body dies and is abandoned, where is heaven, where is hell? There is neither heaven nor hell; everything is here in this world.”
Discussion: This rejects the afterlife, a cornerstone of Indian religions like Hinduism, Buddhism, and Jainism, which promise rewards or punishments based on karma. In a culture steeped in samsara (cycle of rebirth) and moksha, Cārvāka’s denial was radical, appealing to those disillusioned with eschatological promises. It implicitly critiques the fear-based control of dharma-shastras like the Manusmriti, which enforce morality through cosmic consequences.

Shloka: “Yadi śrāddhena tarpanti pitaraḥ svargate sthitāḥ; tataḥ śrāddham na kartavyam, yadi te naiva santi vā.”
(Hindi/Devnagari: "यदि श्राद्धेन तर्पन्ति पितरः स्वर्गे स्थिताः; ततः श्राद्धं न कर्तव्यम्, यदि ते नैव सन्ति वा।"
Odia: "ଯଦି ଶ୍ରାଦ୍ଧେନ ତର୍ପନ୍ତି ପିତରଃ ସ୍ଵର୍ଗେ ସ୍ଥିତାଃ; ତତଃ ଶ୍ରାଦ୍ଧଂ ନ କର୍ତଵ୍ୟମ୍, ଯଦି ତେ ନୈବ ସନ୍ତି ବା।")

Translation: “If ancestors in heaven are satisfied by shraddha rituals, then such rituals need not be performed; or if they don’t exist, they still need not be done.”
Discussion: This satirical verse mocks the Vedic shraddha practice, central to the grihastha stage in texts like the Manusmriti (Chapter 3). In ancient India, such rituals reinforced familial and caste duties, with Brahmanas benefiting economically. Cārvāka’s logic—either ancestors don’t need food (if in heaven) or don’t exist—exposes the absurdity of priestly claims, aligning with its anti-clerical stance. This likely appealed to rationalists or lower castes burdened by ritual costs.

Charvaka in the Indian Context

Historical Emergence:

Cārvāka arose during the post-Vedic period (circa 600 BCE), a time of intellectual upheaval marked by the rise of Shramana movements (Buddhism, Jainism). Urbanization and trade may have fostered its materialist outlook, contrasting with the agrarian, ritual-based Vedic society. Its attribution to Brihaspati, a mythical sage, suggests an attempt to legitimize its critique within a Vedic framework, though it ultimately rejected that framework.

Social Critique:

Cārvāka’s rejection of caste, rituals, and priestly authority challenged the varnashrama dharma upheld by texts like the Manusmriti. While not explicitly egalitarian like Buddhism, its skepticism undermined Brahmanical privilege, potentially resonating with merchants or laborers outside the Vedic fold.

Opposition and Decline:

Orthodox schools (e.g., Vedānta, Nyāya) and even fellow Nāstika systems (Buddhism, Jainism) opposed Cārvāka for its “nihilism.” Its lack of metaphysical depth and institutional support—unlike Buddhist monasteries or Jain ascetic orders—contributed to its decline by the medieval period. Surviving references in texts like the Mahabharata (Shanti Parva) or Sarvadarshanasamgraha portray it negatively, reflecting elite disdain.

Legacy:

Cārvāka’s influence persists in India’s rationalist tradition. Modern thinkers like B.R. Ambedkar and Periyar E.V. Ramasamy echo its anti-superstition stance, though they diverge by emphasizing social justice over hedonism. In contemporary India, its ideas surface in debates on secularism vs. religion, especially amid rising Hindutva (e.g., critiques of temple-centric politics).

Contrast with Other Schools:

Vs. Vedānta: While Advaita Vedānta sees reality as illusory (maya) and seeks Brahman, Cārvāka denies illusion and transcendence, grounding truth in the tangible.
Vs. Buddhism: Buddhism rejects a permanent self but offers nirvana through ethical living; Cārvāka denies both self and salvation, focusing on pleasure.
Vs. Nyāya: Nyāya’s logical realism contrasts with Cārvāka’s perceptual minimalism, highlighting their epistemological rift.

Critical Analysis

Strengths: Cārvāka’s empiricism prefigures scientific skepticism, and its critique of dogma remains relevant in questioning blind faith. Its hedonism offers a rare affirmation of worldly life in a tradition dominated by renunciation.
Weaknesses: Its rejection of inference limits its explanatory scope—e.g., dismissing causality beyond perception weakens its metaphysics. Its hedonism, while bold, risks reducing ethics to self-interest, lacking the moral depth of Jainism or Buddhism.
Indian Relevance: In a society historically shaped by dharma and moksha, Cārvāka’s materialism was a minority voice, yet it reflects an undercurrent of skepticism that persists in India’s pluralistic ethos.

Conclusion

Charvaka philosophy is a defiant outlier in Indian thought, championing materialism, sensory pleasure, and rational critique over spiritual abstraction. Its famous shlokas—mocking rituals, rejecting the afterlife, and celebrating life—capture its irreverent spirit, challenging the Vedic order in ancient India. Though marginalized by orthodox dominance, its legacy endures in rationalist critiques of religion and superstition, offering a lens to question authority in modern India’s complex socio-political landscape. In the Indian context, Cārvāka stands as a testament to intellectual diversity, a bold whisper against the chorus of transcendence.

Manusmriti: A brief analysis

noreply@blogger.com (Saktishree) — Mon, 07 Apr 2025 12:45:00 +0000

The Manusmriti (also spelled Manu Smriti or Manusmruti), often translated as "The Laws of Manu" or "The Code of Manu," is an ancient Sanskrit text traditionally dated between 1200 BCE and 200 CE, though its compilation likely spans centuries. Attributed to the legendary sage Manu, considered the progenitor of humankind in Hindu mythology, it is one of the most prominent Dharmashastras—texts outlining duties, laws, ethics, and social norms in Hindu tradition. Written in verse, it comprises 2,694 shlokas (couplets) organized into 12 adhyayas (chapters), addressing topics like cosmology, social order (varna and ashrama), duties, law, governance, and spiritual liberation.

Below is a detailed summary and analysis of the Manusmriti, chapter by chapter, focusing on its key themes, content, and significance. Note that interpretations vary, and the text has been both revered as a foundational legal and moral guide and criticized for its hierarchical and patriarchal views, particularly on caste and gender.

Chapter 1: Creation and the Purpose of the Text

Summary: This chapter sets the cosmological and philosophical stage. It begins with sages asking Manu about the universe's origin and laws. Manu describes how Brahma, the self-existent creator, generates the cosmos, dividing himself into male and female principles. He creates the elements, divine beings, and humanity, assigning Manu to codify laws. The chapter introduces the four varnas (Brahmanas, Kshatriyas, Vaishyas, Shudras) and outlines the text's purpose: to guide human conduct for societal harmony and spiritual progress.
Key Themes: Creation mythology, divine authority of laws, and the primacy of dharma (duty/righteousness).
Analysis: Establishes a hierarchical worldview rooted in divine will, legitimizing social order as a cosmic necessity. The emphasis on varna foreshadows the text’s focus on caste-based duties, reflecting a stratified society.

Chapter 2: Sources of Dharma and Education

Summary: Focuses on the sources of dharma—the Vedas, traditions (smriti), conduct of the virtuous, and personal conscience. It details the brahmacharya (student) stage, emphasizing education under a guru. Rules include celibacy, Vedic study, respect for teachers, and rituals like upanayana (sacred thread ceremony) for the twice-born (dvija) castes—Brahmanas, Kshatriyas, and Vaishyas.
Key Themes: Authority of scripture, initiation into learning, and moral discipline.
Analysis: Reinforces Brahmanical dominance by prioritizing Vedic knowledge and restricting full access to Shudras. Education is framed as a privilege tied to caste, with strict behavioral codes reflecting an ascetic ideal.

Chapter 3: Marriage and Household Duties

Summary: Covers the grihastha (householder) stage, detailing marriage rules, types of marriages (e.g., Brahma, Daiva, Gandharva), and the duties of a householder. It lists eight marriage forms, preferring arranged unions for higher castes, and outlines hospitality, ancestor worship (shraddha), and charity. Restrictions on food and guests (e.g., avoiding Shudras) are specified.
Key Themes: Sanctity of marriage, caste endogamy, and ritual obligations.
Analysis: Promotes patriarchal control (e.g., women’s subservience) and caste purity, with detailed prescriptions reflecting a society obsessed with lineage and ritual propriety. The exclusion of Shudras from certain rites underscores their marginalization.

Chapter 4: Duties of Householders and Personal Conduct

Summary: Expands on grihastha duties, including earning a livelihood (specific to varna), avoiding sin, and practicing virtues like truthfulness and charity. It advises against usury, gambling, and certain foods (e.g., garlic, onions). Brahmanas are urged to teach, Kshatriyas to protect, and Vaishyas to trade, while Shudras serve.
Key Themes: Occupational roles, ethical living, and ritual purity.
Analysis: Codifies the varna system as a functional division of labor, idealizing a stable but rigid society. The emphasis on purity and avoidance of "impure" occupations or foods reflects Brahmanical anxieties about contamination.

Chapter 5: Dietary Laws and Women’s Duties

Summary: Details permissible and forbidden foods (e.g., beef is condemned except in rituals), purification rites after death or impurity, and women’s roles. Women are to be honored but remain dependent—obedient to fathers, husbands, and sons. Widow remarriage is discouraged, and menstruation rules enforce seclusion.
Key Themes: Purity/impurity, gender subordination, and dietary discipline.
Analysis: The text’s misogyny is stark—women are revered symbolically but denied agency, reflecting a patriarchal framework. Dietary laws align with Vedic ritualism, though beef prohibitions mark a shift from earlier practices, possibly influenced by emerging non-violent sects.

Chapter 6: Renunciation and Asceticism

Summary: Describes the vanaprastha (forest-dweller) and sannyasa (renunciant) stages. After fulfilling householder duties, a man may retire to the forest for contemplation or become a wandering ascetic, focusing on meditation, austerity, and liberation (moksha). Rules for ascetics include detachment and scriptural study.
Key Themes: Spiritual progression, detachment, and liberation.
Analysis: Offers an escape from worldly ties, but only for men of higher castes after completing earlier duties. The ascetic ideal contrasts with the text’s earlier materialism, suggesting a tension between social order and individual salvation.

Chapter 7: Duties of Kings and Governance

Summary: Outlines the Kshatriya king’s role as protector of dharma. Duties include taxation, justice, military strategy, and alliances. The king must consult Brahmanas, maintain a treasury, and punish wrongdoers. War ethics and statecraft (e.g., danda or punishment) are elaborated.
Key Themes: Political authority, justice, and divine kingship.
Analysis: Reflects a monarchical ideal where the king is both warrior and moral exemplar, dependent on Brahmanical guidance. The pragmatic advice on governance contrasts with the text’s otherwise ritualistic tone, showing influences from texts like the Arthashastra.

Chapter 8: Law and Justice

Summary: Provides a detailed legal code covering disputes, debts, property, contracts, and crimes (e.g., theft, assault). It prescribes punishments based on caste—harsher for lower castes—and outlines judicial processes, witnesses, and evidence. Women’s testimony is limited.
Key Themes: Civil and criminal law, caste-based justice, and judicial hierarchy.
Analysis: The caste-differentiated penalties (e.g., a Shudra’s tongue cut for insulting a Brahmana) highlight systemic inequality. The legal system prioritizes social stability over fairness, with women and Shudras marginalized in judicial roles.

Chapter 9: Family Law and Inheritance

Summary: Addresses marriage dissolution, inheritance, and succession. Sons inherit property, with primogeniture favored; daughters and widows have limited rights. It justifies polygamy for men but demands fidelity from women. Punishments for adultery and inter-caste unions are severe.
Key Themes: Patriarchal succession, caste purity, and marital norms.
Analysis: Reinforces male dominance and caste endogamy, treating women as property-like extensions of men. The harshness toward inter-caste mixing reflects a society fearful of blurring boundaries.

Chapter 10: Mixed Castes and Occupational Flexibility

Summary: Describes the origins of mixed castes (sankara jati) from inter-varna unions and their occupations (e.g., charioteers, fishermen). In times of distress (apaddharma), higher castes may adopt lower occupations, but Shudras remain servile.
Key Themes: Social hierarchy, occupational roles, and emergency ethics.
Analysis: Acknowledges social fluidity but frames it as undesirable, preserving the varna ideal. The detailed taxonomy of mixed castes suggests a complex society grappling with diversity yet clinging to stratification.

Chapter 11: Penance and Expiation

Summary: Lists sins (e.g., killing a Brahmana, drinking liquor) and atonements like fasting, charity, or recitation. Penances vary by caste, with Brahmanas receiving lighter penalties. It emphasizes purification to restore dharma.
Key Themes: Sin, redemption, and ritual cleansing.
Analysis: The caste bias in penances reinforces privilege, while the elaborate expiation rituals underscore the text’s ritualistic core. It balances moral accountability with practical reinstatement into society.

Chapter 12: Karma, Rebirth, and Liberation

Summary: Explains the soul’s journey through karma, rebirth, and the three gunas (qualities: sattva, rajas, tamas). Good deeds lead to higher births or liberation (moksha), while sins result in lower births or hell. Liberation comes from knowledge and detachment.
Key Themes: Metaphysics, karma, and spiritual liberation.
Analysis: Synthesizes earlier duties into a cosmic framework, linking social order to spiritual consequences. The promise of moksha offers a universal goal, but its attainment is tied to caste-specific paths, favoring Brahmanas.

Overall Analysis

Structure and Purpose: The Manusmriti progresses from cosmology to practical law to spiritual liberation, aiming to regulate all aspects of life within a dharma-centric worldview. Its encyclopedic scope reflects a society seeking coherence amid diversity.
Social Order: The text’s obsession with varna and ashrama idealizes a rigid hierarchy, with Brahmanas as intellectual and spiritual leaders, Kshatriyas as rulers, Vaishyas as producers, and Shudras as laborers. This structure, while functional in theory, entrenches inequality.
Gender Dynamics: Women are subordinated across chapters, valued as mothers or wives but denied autonomy, reflecting a deeply patriarchal ethos.
Historical Context: Likely composed during a period of social consolidation (post-Vedic era), it blends Vedic ritualism with emerging philosophical ideas (e.g., karma, moksha), possibly responding to challenges from Buddhism and Jainism.
Legacy and Criticism: Revered in Hindu tradition, it influenced medieval law codes and caste practices. However, modern critiques—e.g., by Ambedkar, who burned it in 1927—condemn its casteism and misogyny as oppressive relics. Its relevance today is debated, with some viewing it as a historical artifact and others as a cultural touchstone.

In summary, the Manusmriti is a comprehensive guide to ancient Hindu life, blending law, ethics, and spirituality within a hierarchical framework. Its detailed prescriptions reveal both the sophistication and the limitations of the society it reflects, making it a pivotal yet polarizing text in India’s intellectual history.

Netflix’s Adolescence: not just a must-watch—it is a cultural moment that demands reflection

noreply@blogger.com (Saktishree) — Wed, 26 Mar 2025 12:58:00 +0000

Netflix’s limited series “Adolescence” is a bold and deeply moving exploration of the complex realities facing today’s youth, with a sharp focus on the dangers of online radicalization and its influence on adolescent behaviour. Directed by Philip Barantini, this four-part drama takes viewers on an intimate and tragic family journey, brought to life through exceptional performances and an innovative approach to storytelling.

At the heart of the narrative is 13-year-old Jamie Miller, portrayed with stunning authenticity by newcomer Owen Cooper. Accused of murdering his classmate Katie Leonard, Jamie becomes a chilling embodiment of how the internet's darker forces can entangle and manipulate vulnerable minds. Cooper’s debut is nothing short of extraordinary—he delivers a layered, emotionally charged performance that feels raw and real. Opposite him, Stephen Graham—who also co-created the series—plays Jamie’s father, Eddie Miller. Graham’s portrayal is deeply affecting, capturing the anguish of a parent confronting the unthinkable. One particular moment stands out: in the series’ final episode, his silent act of placing a teddy bear on his son’s bed is heartbreakingly tender, a frame that lingers long after the screen fades to black.

Barantini’s choice to film each episode in a single continuous shot is not just a technical feat—it’s a narrative device that immerses the viewer completely in the unfolding drama. The seamless execution of this method heightens the emotional intensity, making us feel like silent witnesses to the characters’ unravelling lives. It’s a testament to the director’s vision and the cast’s cohesion that these long takes feel effortless rather than performative.

I must commend the creators for their fearless engagement with challenging themes—particularly toxic masculinity, cyberbullying, and the unsettling rise of “incel culture.” For clarity, the term refers to a subculture of disenfranchised individuals, often young men, who identify as “involuntary celibates” and harbour deep-seated resentment—often manifesting as misogyny—toward women. The 2014 Isla Vista shootings by Elliot Rodger remain a disturbing example of this phenomenon. His manifesto, My Twisted World, outlined a worldview steeped in entitlement and hatred, sparking global awareness of the threats posed by such ideologies. “Adolescence” doesn't shy away from this darkness—instead, it confronts it head-on, offering viewers not just a drama, but a wake-up call.

“Adolescence” has already sparked essential conversations in the UK, with growing calls for the series to be used in educational settings to raise awareness about online radicalization. And rightly so.

In sum, “Adolescence” is a masterfully constructed work—gripping, thought-provoking, and profoundly moving. With standout performances from Owen Cooper and Stephen Graham, and a narrative that courageously delves into some of the most pressing issues of our time, it is not just a must-watch—it is a cultural moment that demands reflection.

Parenting tips: its ok if your kid is not the best at everything

noreply@blogger.com (Saktishree) — Thu, 06 Oct 2022 11:27:00 +0000

As a parent, one of the hardest things is seeing your child struggle. Whether they are struggling in school, with friends, or with something they are passionate about, it can be tough to watch.

One of the struggles I have faced as a parent is with my kids in play school. It can be hard to see them not succeeding in something or not being the best at something.

As a parent, you want to see your child excel and be the best they can be. It is important to remember, though, that not every child is going to be the best at everything. They will have their own unique talents and abilities. And that is okay!

It is also important to remember that struggles are a part of life. They help us grow and learn. If we never struggled, we would never know how strong we are.

So, if your child is struggling in play school, try to be supportive. Encourage them to keep trying and remind them that everyone struggles at times. Help them to see that their struggles are not a bad thing, but a chance to learn and grow.

Note: My three and half year son is in play school. The above is a piece from my own experience.

Parenting Tips: What to do when your child is struggling

noreply@blogger.com (Saktishree) — Tue, 04 Oct 2022 12:07:00 +0000

As a parent, one of the biggest struggles is watching your children suffer in school. Whether it’s due to bullying, bad grades, or social anxiety, it’s hard to see your kid go through tough times.

One of the best things you can do as a parent is there for your child, no matter what. Show them that you love them and support them, even when they’re struggling. Help them to find ways to cope with their struggles, whether it’s through talking to a counselor or joining a club or sport. It’s also important to encourage your child to keep trying, even when things are tough. remind them that everyone goes through tough times and that they can overcome anything if they just keep trying. Finally, be there to celebrate your child’s successes, no matter how small. This will help them to feel good about themselves and remind them that they’re capable of great things.

Note: My three and half year son is in play school. The above is a piece from my own experience.

Five tips for parents with kids in playschool

noreply@blogger.com (Saktishree) — Sat, 10 Sep 2022 10:46:00 +0000

It's not easy being a parent, especially when your kids are in play school. You have to juggle your own work and home life with taking care of your kids and making sure they're getting the best education possible. It can be a real struggle trying to balance everything, but it's important to remember that your kids are your top priority.

Here are some tips to help you manage the struggles of being a parent with kids in play school:

1. Create a schedule and stick to it. This will help you stay organized and make sure that you're giving your kids the attention they need.

2. Communicate with your partner. It's important to have a good support system when you're a parent. Talk to your partner about your struggles and work together to find solutions.

3. Seek out help from friends and family. Don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it. Whether it's watching your kids for a few hours or just lending an ear, your loved ones can be a great source of support.

4. Take some time for yourself. It's important to take care of yourself both physically and mentally. Make sure to schedule some time each week to do something that you enjoy.

5. Seek professional help if needed. If you're struggling to cope with the challenges of parenting, don't hesitate to reach out to a professional for help.

Note: My three- and half-year son is in play school. The above is a piece from my own experience.

Parenting Tips: How to choose a school for your kid?

noreply@blogger.com (Saktishree) — Tue, 06 Sep 2022 12:36:00 +0000

As a parent, one of the biggest struggles is finding the right play school for their kids. With so many options available, it can be hard to know which one is the best fit. There are a few things to consider when choosing a play school, such as the educational philosophy, the facilities, and the staff.

The educational philosophy is important to consider because it will impact the way your child learns. If you want your child to be in a more traditional learning environment, then you should look for a play school that follows that philosophy. However, if you are open to a more creative and progressive approach, then you can look for a school that follows that philosophy.

The facilities of the play school are also important to consider. You want to make sure that the school has adequate space for the children to play and that the facilities are clean and safe.

The staff of the play school is also important to consider. You want to make sure that the staff is experienced and that they are good at working with children. You also want to make sure that the staff is supportive and that they are willing to help you with any concerns that you may have.

Note: My three and half year son is in play school. The above is a piece from my own experience.

...then you are alive

noreply@blogger.com (Saktishree) — Thu, 07 Jan 2021 08:28:00 +0000

if you have eagerness in your heart,
then you are alive.

If your eyes are filled with dreams,
then you are alive.

Learn to be free like the wind.
Learn to flow freely like the river.
Embrace every moments with open arms.
See a new horizon every time with your eyes.

If you carry surprises in your eyes,
then you are alive.

if you have eagerness in your heart,
then you are alive.

Disclaimer: Inspired/translated version. Not Original.

Nabakalebara-Eid-Rathajatra: A divine intervention

noreply@blogger.com (Saktishree) — Sat, 18 Jul 2015 17:19:00 +0000

June 18, 2015, 'Nabakalebara-Rathajatra-Eid' on one day: Is it just a coincidence, or a wake up call for the ignorant we. You decide, who am I ?

We, the arrogant so called knowledgeable people debarred 'Salabega'' in the past to meet Jagannath, he came out and and made everything stand still for the devotee without cast/race. The outcome - "We learnt Nothing"

Its still the same and we still restrict the almighty and argue to put him in the Hindu clad and insult his very name 'Jagata ra Natha (God of the World) - Jagannath'. We are testing his patience or the almighty has still faith on his beautiful (?) creation - only he knows, who am I ?

Nabakalebara - The almighty is willingly waking us up to see the reality, the truth, - nothing is constant. Everything has an end, but the Brahma (divine soul). Soul, that neither starts nor ends, neither a Hindu nor a Muslim or anything...what we are learning?- You better know, who am I ?

Eid: An occasions for showing gratitude to God and remembering Him after month long daytime fast. What we are doing, you better know, who am I?

Rathajatra - The very meaning (as I think) is the irresistible force of the almighty that crushes all ignorance on the way to make us reach the final destination. What we are doing, you better know, who am I?

Still, he has not lost his faith on us, and meticulously arranged the planetary motion to make us realize God is one. Nabakalebara-Eid-Rathajatra are the same with varied interpretation and its time to know the truth and embrace all. Is it a deliberate attempt to send us one more symbol, he only knows, who am I?

Dear almighty Jagannath, Wish you a very Happy Eid.

Note: Nabakalebara is a Hindu ritual performed at Jagannath temple, Odisha, India that symbolizes life is a circle of event, death is inevitable if there is life and vice-versa.

I pray God to repeat it again

noreply@blogger.com (Saktishree) — Thu, 23 Apr 2015 10:56:00 +0000

Morning
	The alarm disturbs
	I wake up
	She pushes me for taking bath
	Forces me for breakfast, chawanprash, milk and a long menu
	Clock approaches 9
	She gives me wallet, watch, spectacles, sprout box and bike key
	Wishes me all the best for office
	Waves a lovely good bye
	Reminds me for helmet
	Looks at my exit from the balcony.

Afternoon
	Opens the door before I ring the bell
	Makes me wash my hands
	Serves lunch
	I sense her happiness in her to-n-fro from kitchen
	I sense her happiness in her drops of sweat on forehead
	Makes me eat some extra
	Eats at the same plate…idiot

Evening
	Serves me glucose
	Makes me pray and bow at Gods
	Googles for snacks dish and put her heart on cooking
	Asks me in child like innocence, "Is it ok at least"?
	I fake anger
	She accepts, and I sense her love in it

Night
	Scolds my serials for spoiling my studies
	Bakes roti (bread)
	Makes me eat early
	Forces me to drink the ill smelling milk…yuk
	Orders me-don’t stick to the computer
	Cleans the kitchen
	Makes sure the home is locked
	Loves me
	and I thank God for the wonderful today, and pray to repeat it again

	She is, who she is – the better half

Yashodhara

noreply@blogger.com (Saktishree) — Mon, 26 May 2014 10:38:00 +0000

Yashodhara

Do you know that name?

Prince Siddhartha, Gautama, Sakyamuni, Buddha.

Everybody knows these names...

but...

Yashodhara?

Yashodhara was married to Siddhartha.

She loved him dearly.

One night Siddhartha left her and their son, Rahul ...

while they were sleeping, to seek Enlightenment...

... to become Buddha.

He did not even say a word to her when he left.

Yashodhara has shown compassion for the sick

... and ailing long before Siddhartha ever did!

... long before Siddhartha was even aware of suffering!

Who can say if he owed his Enlightenment to her?

Perhaps Yashodhara wanted to leave Siddhartha and Rahul.

How can we ever know if Yashodhara fell victim to anger ...

... to loneliness or bitterness

... after Siddhartha left her.

Who even thought about her?

What must she have said when Rahul, her son...

...asked that eternal question

Where is my father?

What must she have told him?

How could a mother leave her own child in the middle of the night?

lt is only possible for a man to do.

After that, Yashodhara had no choice.

She had to lead a life of renunciation.

She cut off her hair,

and lived like an ascetic.

lf your thoughts toward Dharma were of the same intensity ...

... as the love and passion you have shown to your teenaged lover or the newly married wife...

... you would have become a Buddha ...

... in this very body

... in this very life.

Inspired by the movie 'Samsara'

It's all over

noreply@blogger.com (Saktishree) — Thu, 08 May 2014 11:06:00 +0000

She came like a breeze

And I was taken

I heard her voice

That still jingles in my heart

She told, sing me with me

And the melody was spectacular

She wrote on me

The novel was bestseller

She smiled at me

Life was beautiful

She was in tears

It was raining heavily

She parted away

There was an eclipse

She told burn all my memories

I hardly know what’s left

She told forget me

I don’t know what I remember anymore

...but I know, it’s all over :(

My name in yours

noreply@blogger.com (Saktishree) — Thu, 30 Jan 2014 05:17:00 +0000

Love to smile when you are there in my thoughts

Love to dream when its about you

Love the time which revolves around you

Love all those places where we spent time together

Love to be in you

And...

My name in yours

She is

noreply@blogger.com (Saktishree) — Sat, 18 Jan 2014 08:02:00 +0000

She

The Strength of my life

Whom I adore

Keys to all my happiness

Fills me with her tender touch

An Inevitable part

Simple but honest

The rare one with enormous excellence

Decent, but always inane

Brighten me with her smile, youthfulness filled with affection

Obscure to many just like the twilight

Incomparable

And with her,

Smile touches my lips...

Dreams come to my eyes...

Happiness besieges and sweet flings encircle me..........

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Read also 'She'

Where do you want to land ???

noreply@blogger.com (Saktishree) — Mon, 06 Jan 2014 11:55:00 +0000

Love can be inconvenient,

perhaps inappropriate.

It can be dangerous.

Make us do things,

we wouldn't dream of doing.

But wrong?

That just depends on

Where we end up, doesn't it?

Dussehra: Are you happy Maa ?

noreply@blogger.com (Saktishree) — Mon, 14 Oct 2013 04:26:00 +0000

Vijayadashami or Dussehra-the day to celebrate the victory of God Ram over the ten-headed Ravana, of Maa Durga over Mahishasura and other demons like Chanda-Munda and Shumbha- Nishumbha; that is victory of good over evil. We, the religious ones do ‘Havans’ and a lot of ‘Daan-Dakshina’, and some of us even invite little girls (Kanya) to our homes and wash their feet and arrange a grand feast for them. The girls are given return gifts and are guided safely to their homes. We go to visit Durga Pooja Pandals with family, bow to the mother goddess and pay reverence. We ask for health, wealth, success and luck for the coming year, eat ‘Prasad’ and go back looking at other beautiful ones on the way home.

We ritually believe that there is no greater power than that of a Woman, the mother goddess, and at the same time we do not forget to turn our heads to take a glimpse of the women standing aside. We close our eyes to sink in the divinity of the deity, and open with pleasure at inhaling the ladies deo; we mesmerize at the beauty of Maa Durga, and the same ‘we’ finds excuses to see the curves of a woman next to us praying with closed eyes. We praise the Goddess for saving the world from devils like Mahisasura and Ravan, and happily nurture the demons inside. Maa, are you really happy at you sons? Or you are eagerly waiting for the Bisarjan to hide your helplessness? I think that’s why the cyclone Phailin came on the Astami Day to make the dry lands full of water so that you will find a nearby place to be dumped at.

We don’t get tired while praising the power of mother goddess, and then we spend the rest of the year expecting that a beautiful baby boy will come out of our pregnant wives ‘this-time’. A part of us, the flag bearers of ‘Khaap Mentality’ looks out for ways to justify female feticide, rapes and molestations in the name of tight fit jeans, skirts, movies, chowmin, mobiles and what not except the ‘male-urge’ to dominate. Some of us will even challenge the right to education for a girl child. We burn the spare candles from kitchen supporting cases like ‘Nirbhays’, but keep a mum on the question about acceptance of a rape survivor in the society.

Dussera night, and we will feel proud after burning the effigy of Ravan cursing his evil spirit, and evidently flaunting our presence at the occasion with newly owned cars or bikes, jewellery and neatly pressed perfumed suits. And then the next Navratri and Dussehra will come and, we the same people will flock in Pandals again asking for health, wealth, success and luck for the coming year. Maa, are you really happy at us?

Maa, it’s your country, India, where ‘women’ are worshiped as ‘deities’, and at the same time the hunger for a boy over a girl leads to countless coldblooded murders. In a country where a woman represents the goddess of wisdom as Saraswati, literacy rate of women is nothing to be proud of. In a country where a ‘woman’ is the goddess of wealth (Lakshmi), of power (Durga), of satisfaction (Annapurna) and of Spirituality (Gayatri), the very women are getting raped in different parts of the country is not infrequent news. Are you happy at us?

We can blame administration, police, politicians, system and on and on…but ultimately it is all about the mind-set that cooling its heel inside our frontal lobe. Killers of the female infants are from amongst us. Rapists are from amongst us. Those who don’t believe in the education of the girl child are from amongst us. They are not criminals; they are the product of society’s collective apathy in stopping them.

What will we do? Simply wait and watch? Show sympathy? Shout for the right of the women at the dining table gossip? March rallies to bunk the office than to support the cause? It’s true, the women are shy and physically weak, but they are never ever without power. They are like the mother Goddess who has not lost hope even on demons like Mahisasura and had allowed to rule the paradise for sometime anticipating a change. We are at the same position, and are happily exhausting our lifelines either by committing or supporting or by not protesting the crimes against women. I am sure the time is not far for the women to rise, find and punish the demons within us.

It’s never the late for walking on the path of change and hope. This Dussehra let’s get rid of male chauvinism, ego and fake pride. Let’s hope for victory, not over others, but over the ones comfortably playing inside us like Lust (Kama vasana), Anger (Krodha), Attachment (Moha), Greed (Lobha), Over Pride (Mada), Jealousy (Matsara), Selfishness (Swartha), Injustice (Anyaaya), Amanavta (Cruelty) and Ahankara (Ego). I hope, Maa Durga surely hope us to get Vijaya (victory) over the Ravan inside us. Let us make our dear mother Goddess a bit happy.

Happy Dussehra!!!

Dear Nirbhaya, you were just a toy with blood and flesh

noreply@blogger.com (Saktishree) — Sun, 01 Sep 2013 09:02:00 +0000

[“In its first verdict in the Nirbhaya case, a Juvenile Justice Board (JJB) on Saturday (31^st August,

2013) held that the minor accused was 'involved' in the gang rape and murder of the paramedical 23-year-old student and sent him to three years in a 'place of safety' at a reformatory home.” The following lines are just to fill the page.]

2013, the last day of the month of August, the same month when mother India got rid of shackles from mighty British rule, and the same month that led her to rethink about her own safety from the emerging juvenile sex players. Dear August, you have the guts to bear the judgement at your last day. I am sure, you must be rushing…but surely failed to judge the speed of our Judiciary System.

Oh yes, he was just a juvenile while he committed the bad act (no…no…It’s not a crime). How can a juvenile do a crime like rape? You insane idiot women of India, go and find the definition, a juvenile is an individual organism that has not yet reached its adult form, sexual maturity or size. He had not reached adulthood, that’s why all other adults gave him the first chance to play; he was sexually immature, that’s why he had opted for unnatural way; and to compensate the size, he simply had used the iron rod. See our justice system is simply going by the definition, word by word. That’s it…. don’t do a drama, you helpless women.

Below the age of 18, rape is not the act of forceful sex; it’s just a way of discovering the latent manhood within. It’s just a play where the plastic doll is simply replaced with the one with flesh and blood. He was just playing….a bit hard on the toy called an adult woman. Have you seen any kid playing with a toy? What does he do when the doll failed to amuse the kid? The kid either throws it away or goes for a better one. In this case, the kid was a little (actually very little) violent, he tore the doll apart, gave it to others to play, inserted an iron rod to make it work. And I am sure, with the experience in hand; he will find a better one in future. The rest of the so called dolls of India, get ready to be played… As I wrote earlier, the juvenile accused was simply discovering the manhood within, with the help of few adults as examiners, while playing the new sex game with the poor girl. What is his fault by the way? That’s it. You sadist citizens, instead of being happy on a child’s play, you are creating ruckus, you all must face the charge of strict Indian Penal Code (IPC).

My dear JJB (Juvenile Justice Board) and fellow citizens, please provide him a better looking toy in the correction home. And my dear women citizens of Republic of India get mentally prepared for this…as you are simply a toy in the eyes of our legal system. Think twice before planting a kiss on the forehead of a kid, seal your lips before smiling at a minor…..or you may curse yourself as usual for being born here which no one listens but you. Don’t even dare to think of suicide, it’s a crime under IPC.

I am happy that Nirbhaya is long dead before witnessing the verdict. What would we say to her? Dear Nirbhay, we have sentenced the juvenile the maximum punishment of three years for mishandling the doll and playing unfair with you. Be happy and feel proud that it’s you for whom the maximum sentence is penned. I know, she must be crying out there looking at our indifference and laziness; the indifference towards the cruelty and the laziness to shout at the verdict on a Sunday. Don’t worry; we will do the protest on a working day just to get rid of our daily routine. It’s a healthy time pass to shout slogans on law against sexual violence, a hot coffee table gossip, a relieving status update on face book, a perfect dinner time news watch…and a selfish kiss on the women we love by saying, be safe. Sorry Nirbhaya, we are a spineless generation unlike you think of us. Please don’t dream to take rebirth here. If you still think so, we are not responsible for your consequence.

As the anger is typed, let’s think why the laws are made? What should we follow, the intent of the Law or the letter of the law? I hope the judiciary system is established to implement the intent of the law, taking the rule book as a guideline and not simply adhering to the black and white letter of the law. Whenever a society follows the letter of the law blindly bypassing the principal intent or motive behind, it turns bureaucratic, and goes to the dogs. We, in India follow the letter of the law, what is written, keeping a blind eye on the motive. I think there lies the root of the problem. That’s why after 66 years of independence, we have led the extra food grains to rot in the warehouse while thousands die in hunger. It’s the time to introspect. To think about our fundamentals, to ponder on the question, ‘what’s gone wrong?’ I hope nobody is listening.

SRT: Welcome to the Forties

noreply@blogger.com (Saktishree) — Wed, 24 Apr 2013 16:12:00 +0000

You came padded and a new era of sports started...

You, the reason for many of us to bunk classes...

You hooked the ball and made the country to breathe in sync...

You inspired millions to think a career beyond a mere Doctor /Engineer...

You, the one who can easily shoulder expectations of a billion people...

You, the walking encyclopaedia of cricket, mentor of coaches, nightmare of bowlers...a run machine, record breaker...little master...

You, the living sports God with a sturdy bat, Sachin...

Happy Birthday, Welcome to the forties ;)

Ramji, I cant wish you a Happy Birthday

noreply@blogger.com (Saktishree) — Fri, 19 Apr 2013 15:01:00 +0000

Dear Ramji,

Today is Ram Navami, your birthday, right!!! Please tell me in private, are you really happy to celebrate your birthday among the ones who are literally and with proven action, million times advanced than the poor Raavan ??? I hope not, but if you still have faith on us and hope that your character can inspire and transform us, I appreciate your sense of humour.

The poor Raavan simply kidnapped your wife, please rewind the events to remember, he did not misbehaved; but we as your favourite follower, love to show our male potency on a kid of 3 years to an old woman of 97 years. And if we are not happy after the act, we love to force some iron rod, or glass bottle or something creative to leave you spell bound.

Ramji, I am sure after watching our creative barbarism you must have regretted your act of killing the nobel Raavan. If, you being a God had killed and ruined the golden Lanka for a simple act of kidnap, what kind of punishment you are cooking in your mind??? Please reveal that on your birthday.

I know, you must be feeling helplessness after seeing the police and other security arrangement in anticipation of a communal riot on your birthday. I was in a belief that your birthday inspires the poor human being to understand the meaning of righteousness and brotherhood...but I am not sure how can we learn to be brothers with shiny knife and bullets in hand. If I remember correctly, you had met the demon king Raavan during inauguration of the India-Lanka bridge without any weapon but a garland. Is it so that he was your enemy and a demon thats why he came without a weapon too, and we as your favourite follower have the liberty to stab each other on your name??? Just a request, please reconsider your view on Raavan, or bear us as we are.

As a God, I am sure you must have tried hard to delete your birth date from calendar... but I warn you, you will fail as we can not afford to lose a holiday to eat and drink on your holy name. I feel pity, as you have no one to pray at to help you...being God has its own price.

Anyways, if you are happy to celebrate your birthday...who am I to object??? With a heavy heart, Happy birthday dear Ramji. May you forgive me for not able to celebrate your birthday. Sorry.

Mobile: A very Happy Birthday

noreply@blogger.com (Saktishree) — Thu, 04 Apr 2013 05:55:00 +0000

Dear Mobile,

A very Happy 40th Birthday. With a growing age, you are becoming younger and sexier.

You came as a bulky black gizmo as a kid, started to read as sms, drew black-n-white painting and added colors over time, gave us 12-50 keys to type and added a screen to feel ur beauty. You grew from mere calling to a horizon of internet...from java to iOS...You made us believe what is it be connected. You are literally unbelievably growing young and young...

I am sure Motorola had never imagined, your impact on our life, in its wildest dream when it made the first call on 3rd April 1973. Thank you for making our lives easier. I cant imagine how the world ll be if you retire.

Happy Birthday ;)

Women's Day: idiot Goddess !!!

noreply@blogger.com (Saktishree) — Fri, 08 Mar 2013 08:29:00 +0000

Wow, it’s your day women...I know you are smiling at the foolish attempt by the world to grant a special day to appreciate your contribution. You know that there won’t be a day to cherish without your help; still you allow the world to pat its own back labeling itself as a caretaker of the women. I know you won’t advertise your superiority; you won’t let the world go to hell despite being molested psychologically, mentally or the worst physically. You are literally an idiot, who only knows how to give and give more forgetting the other part of the balance, to take.

You can do almost everything you dream to, still you nourish others’ to fulfill. You wear high heels, yet don’t loose ground. You are tough as mother earth, yet mellow to see the world smile. You can face all adversity and still walk tall. You are strong, beautiful, and compassionate and much more than the world has ever seen. You can swim across the Mariana trench, climb the Everest as easily as the kitchen steps, still you chose to give us a chance to boast our ego. What material you are made of!!!

You constitute half the population, work for two third of all working hours, paid one tenth, but still happy to serve. Are you completely out of your mind!!! You have got everything to take the world to your side; still you make us feel superior. You have surely mastered in the art of winning through defeat. You are idiotically unbelievable!!!

You can easily surpass, lead and master as a professional. Still you choose to leave all for being a housewife, wash the utensils and choose to be in pain for being a mother. You cook heart, serve love, and become the happiest to see us licking the fingers forgetting to keep a little for you. You allow us to label you as an idiot, still never ask us to think for a while that if being a mother is idiotic, the God almighty would get the 1st prize for that. You are insanely generous!!!

The world is feeling proud with its progress in science and technology. It made a step closer to find how a life is created out of nothing with the discovery of the God particle; a long journey of thousands of years to come a bit nearer to unravel the origin of life. On the other side, you create a life in the labor room and shed a smile to our ignorance. You are idiotically genius!!!

God is always on ears to grant you whatever you wish, yet you always pray for a husband who treats you as his property, for a son/daughter who takes you for granted, a family that treats you as a burden to shed off...How can you really do all this!!! For me, you are idiotically mysterious, as sweet inside as out, but not made of candy.

You were there as a mother when we born, pampered and cared for us as a sister, always there for help in school as a teacher, played to let us win as a friend, offered a shoulder to cry as a beloved, walked with compassion as a life partner, melt us off as a daughter, and hope you will absorb without fail as a motherland when we die. You are what you are...idiot, Goddess!!!

But it's over now

noreply@blogger.com (Saktishree) — Tue, 26 Feb 2013 17:24:00 +0000

Lay a whisper

On my pillow

Leave the winter

On the ground

I wake up lonely

The stare of silence

In the bedroom

And all around

Touch me now

I close my eyes

And dream away

It must have been love

But it's over now

It must have been good

But I lost it somehow

It must have been love

But it's over now

From the moment we touched

Till the time had run out

… a romantic song from the movie ‘Pretty Woman”