Journey with You

our birth plan

2009-04-28T14:44:14Z

This birth plan is intended to express the preference and desires we have for the birth of our baby. It is not intended to be a script. We fully realize that situations may arise such that our plan cannot and should not be followed. However, we hope that barring any extenuating circumstances, you will be able to keep us informed and aware of our options. We would like to be notified before ANY medical intervention is performed. Thank you.

Induction:

I would prefer to use natural methods to start labor and trust my body to progress labor spontaneously
I do not wish to have the amniotic membrane ruptured artificially

First Stage (Labor):

Dim lights.
Peace and Quiet.
Music of our choice.
Would prefer not to have students, residents etc.
Would prefer to keep vaginal exams to a minimum.
Maintain mobility (Walking, rocking, up to bathroom, etc.)
Eat and drink to comfort.
Intermittent Monitoring (ACOG Standards) with an external monitor.
Please do not offer me pain medications, I will ask for them if I want them.
Relaxation techniques (breathing, focusing, etc.).
Positioning as desired.
Massage (back, foot, counter pressure, etc.).
Ultra low dose epidural (walking epidural) if I ask for it
Would like my son to present if he is able
No routine IV

Second Stage (Birth):

I would like to be allowed to choose the position in which I give birth, including squatting.
Prolonged length, if progress is being made
No forceps or vacuums unless absolutely necessary
Spontaneous Bearing Down. Even if I am fully dilated, and assuming the baby is not in distress, I would like to try to wait until I feel the urge to push before beginning the pushing phase.
Birth/Squat Bar
I would like a mirror available so I can see the baby’s head when it crowns.
I would prefer no episiotomy, but please use compresses, massage and positioning. If an episiotomy is necessary to prevent tear, I would prefer pressure episiotomy (Done without anesthesia)
Local Anesthesia for repair a tear
Would like my son to present if he is able
Video/Pictures taken

Immediately after delivery:

I would like to have the baby placed on my stomach/chest immediately after delivery.
Delay the cord cutting until after it has stopped pulsating
Prefer husband to cut the cord
I would like to have the baby evaluated and bathed in my presence.
If the baby must be taken from me to receive medical treatment, my husband will accompany the baby at all times.
I do not want a routine injection of Pitocin after the delivery to aid in expelling the placenta.
I would like to see the placenta after it is delivered.

Baby Care:

I would like to nurse my baby immediately after birth
Breastfeeding exclusively, no formula
No pacifiers or glucose water
I would like to have the baby “room in” and be with me at all times unless required for health reasons or upon my request

Cesarean Birth:

Unless absolutely necessary, I would like to avoid a Cesarean
If a Cesarean delivery is indicated, my husband and I would like to be fully informed and to participate in the decision-making process.
Spinal/epidural anesthesia
Husband present
Video/Pictures taken
Screen lowered to view the birth or mirror
Explain the surgery as it’s happening
Free one hand to touch the baby
If the baby is not in distress, the baby should be given to my husband immediately after birth.
Husband to cut the cord
Breastfeeding in recovery room

Due date

2009-04-27T15:59:02Z

According to the dating ultrasound at my doctor’s, I am supposed to be due today. Other than some braxton hicks, I am not feeling anything just yet.

According to my ovulation chart, however, I can actually be due as late as April 29th which is still 2 days away. DH is getting restless but I am not in a hurry to have the baby yet. I am enjoying my last few days of sleeping through the night and don’t mind making a few more bucks at work.

I am going back to the dcotor’s tomorrow morning. I’ve already made it clear that I don’t want to be induced. We shall see what happens.

Natural Childbirth the Bradley way

2009-04-23T14:38:12Z

When I was researching on my options of birth, I got a recommendation for this book from a Bradley lecture. I was hoping we could at least take a condensed class focusing on the birth part. (Their whole program lasts about three months.) However, I was already two months until due date and the only lecture available said she won’t get to the labor part until May. Therefore, I decided to get a book and self-study.

I was initially thinking about getting the Husband Coached Childbirth by Dr. Bradley. After reading reviews and talking to the lecture, I’ve decided to get the Natural Childbirth the Bradley Way by Susan McCutcheon-Rosegg. Dr. Bradley’s book focus more than just the birth itself and it doesn’t have many illustrations or pictures. The later one focuses mainly on all the relaxation techniques I need for birth and has many helpful pictures and illustrations.

After reading the book, even though this is my second child, I’ve realized how few I knew about childbirth. The birth lesson we took with Cyrus seems totally useless compared to this book. I really learned more about my body’s changes during birth and realized how I should simply relax my body and feelings and let my body do the job. I’ve learned lots of useful relaxtion and pain-relief techniques. A lot of them actually are simple meditation techniques. I also learned the right positions for birth and how I can breath and push efficiently during the second stage.

Like some readers pointed out, some medical information in the book is outdated. However, I still strongly recommend this book simply because the basic principle of natural childbirth doesn’t change, no matter how much the technology has changed. I absolutely love the concept of “husband coached childbirth”. It’s so helpful the book teaches husbands how to handle the whole childbirth process. It’s wonderful to think that my husband and I are a team. I am not giving birth all by myself. We are doing it together!

One reader said she had a smooth, natural childbirth by reading through this book for only once. I am nervous as the first time but am also much more educated and confident that I am in charge with the birth of my child. I am looking forward to doing it “my way”.

bad attitude

2009-04-23T13:55:09Z

It’s not just about saying “No”, it’s an attitude problem. We think, anyway.

Yes, he will say no for pretty much anything, if he is not in the good or cooperative mood, from taking a nap, eat, pee, poo, brush teeth, get changed, or simple wash hands. We know this is the normal behavior among two year olds.

However, saying no is not the only thing for my son.

Ever since he started walking, we always remind him to stay on the sidewalk whenever we’re outside. We told him how the street is for cars and cars are dangerous. Since then, he likes to keep saying “I want to be hit by a car” whenever we are around cars. One time I was holding his hand walking cross a parking lot. He saw a car coming and he suddenly let go my hand and stopped in the middle of the parking lot, said “I want to be hit by a car.”

He also likes to stand at the edge of the bed, says “Cyrus falls down.” Even though we took the bed frame out so it’s fairly low, we do live at the 2nd floor and what if that’s what he thinks when he stands by the windows?

I picked him up from the daycare yesterday. I asked him if he wanted to take the elevator or the stairs. He chose stairs. As we walked downstairs, he started saying: “Cyrus falls downstairs.” I said: “Why do you want to do that? You’ll get hurt and Mommy and Daddy will be very sad.” He answered me: “I want Mommy and Daddy to be sad.” Then he also pointed at t a stranger downstairs and said: “I want that man to be sad.”

See? This is the kind of bad attitude I’m talking about. It’s not simply about saying no to our requests. We’re actually a little bit worried where this is all coming from, how serious he actually is when he says those things, and if there is any potential psychological issues we need to be concerned.

dealing with GD

2009-03-30T14:20:02Z

28 days left! Wow, I can’t believe it. 2nd time around it seems to go very fast. Or maybe because I’ve been so busy at work and tired all the time? It’s definitely harder when there is a two year old running around.

I’ve been dealing with my GD okay I guess. It’s really frustrating and depressing sometimes when people around you are enjoying delicious deserts or when I get those craving for a big bowl of noodle soup! I like the instructions from my dietitian this time better though. First of all, I don’t have to wait for two hours to test my blood sugar. I test my sugar one hour after meal. That’s much easier to keep track and remember. Besides, she basically tells me to look at the “Total Carbohydrate” on the nutritional facts of food package. For three main meals, I should take about 60 grams of carbohydrates and 15 grams for morning and afternoon snacks; 30 grams for bedtime snacks. That’s so much easier than counting “servings” or to weigh the food.

The bottom line for me is to stay away from white rice, noodles, sweets, and juice and the best food for me is meat and fish. Thank God I can still eat as much fish as I want. It’s hard not being allowed to drink juice though. I am not a big pop drinker but I am not too crazy about drinking all plain water either. I am having diet Pepsi for treat for now. The doctor seems to think diet pop in moderation is okay.

Anyways, I already told DH to bring me a BIg bowl of noodle soup to the hospital once the baby is born. There are so many other things on my to-eat-list. I can’t wait!

Mommy lives on Sesame Street?

2009-03-20T14:15:43Z

My conversation with Cyrus last night…

I just realized he pooed in the diaper. I said: “Cyrus, you stink!” He said: “How much?”

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He was building a house with wooden blocks.
“What a nice building. Who lives there?” I said.
“Daddy.”
“Who else?”
“Cyrus.”
“Who else?”
“People.”
“Any people.”
“Yes.”
“How about Mommy? Does Mommy live there?”
“No.”
“Where does Mommy live then?”
“Mommy lives on Sesame Street.”

Vitus

2009-03-11T17:24:55Z

I rent this movie from Blockbuster a couple weeks ago and really enjoyed it.

Vitus is the story of a child prodigy who has everything he wants except the chance to be a normal kid. At six, Vitus is both incredibly talented and wonderfully precocious. When it becomes evident that he has an exceptionally high IQ and can play piano like a young Mozart, expectations run high. His parents love him, his grandfather understands him, but no one knows the truth that his real genius is in his heart.

This movie really made me think. Think how we sometimes put so much pressure on our children. As soon as the baby is born, we have a “schedule” in our mind: when should he smile, crawl, sit, stand up, and walk. When should he start talking, reading, and so on. We tend to forget that everyone child is different and they have each own personality, strengths, and weaknesses. We tend to want our child to do whatever other child is doing.

Raising a child is kind of like offering a child food. You need to offer a variety of food but you can’t make decisions for them. I used to get upset when Cyrus didn’t eat something I offer but I don’t anymore. You can’t make choices for your child, they do. It’s their life and all you can do is to point out all different options available and let them know that you’ll be there for them no matter what.

home birth or hospital birth

2009-03-05T17:51:06Z

I wanted SO badly a home birth this time! I guess it’s not going to happen for me, not for this time anyways.

I am so tired of sitting in the waiting room at the doctor’s office for an half hour and only get to spend 5 minutes with the doctor. They always seem in such a great hurry. A couple times I even need to deal with the residents.

I need personal attention and I am not getting it from the doctors. During Cyrus’ birth, my OB only showed up the last half hour and then disappeared again. All I saw are residents and nurses. When next round of shift came, other unfamiliar faces.

I contacted one nurse midwife that does strictly home birth. We met her at her home office. There was a couch for us and some toys for little ones. She even made a cup of hot tea for us. The whole meeting lasted about 1 hour and it was better than any of my doctor’s visit experience. She was so patient with any our concerns.

However, even after meeting with her, DH still wasn’t comfortable with home birth but she couldn’t really guarantee a hospital delivery. Upon her suggestion, I also contacted the nurse midwife association who delivers at the same hospital I am going to. Unfortunately they wouldn’t accept me as a patient due to my GD. I felt so disappointed.

My plan now is to study on Bradley natural birth method on my own. (Too late to take a class.) If I can’t have a dream home birth, hopefully I can get to have a natural hospital birth.

2.5 years checkup

2009-03-03T19:45:50Z

Height: 35 3/8 inches, about 90 cm
Weight: 30.4 lbs
Head: 51 cm

Overall a very smooth doctor visit other than the time trying to get him to stand on the scale. He had a little nice conversation with the doctor and even remembered the equipment on the wall is for the eyes and ears.

We’ve asked about his weight being a little above average and height below average. We thought maybe that meant his being a little over weight. However, the doctor seemed to think the extra weight is from his above average size head. Well, DH and I are both happy with his head size all along.

We also discussed with the doctor about his running nose, worrying he’s got DH’s allergy to cat and dog hair since our tenant has a cat. Doctor said we need the blood work to find out what he is allergic to. We also notice that Cyrus’ been having some kind of rash on his right arm for a couple months now. We tried a few different lotions and they don’t seem to help any. The doctor took a look and said it could be either Psoriasis or Eczema. He sent us to the dermatologist. So far, even the dermatologist doesn’t have a diagnosis. We are trying the prescribed medicine from the dermatologist and we hope it will help.

wordless 02.04.09

2009-02-04T17:30:48Z

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