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Sanya, an exceptional beautiful and romantic place in China

2013-08-10T18:30:00.000-07:00

Although many North China cities are notorious for the polluted atmosphere, foggy and dusty air, low transparency to see blue sky and white cloud, in Hainan Province, Sanya is an exception.
Sanya is a touring city at south end of Hainan endowed with tropical whether, sunlight, blue sea, and beach, that make it an ideal place for wedding ceremony and honeymoon vocation.

Weekly special wedding dress 02/04

2013-02-04T09:26:00.000-08:00

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[FirstName], check out our weekly special wedding dress AS2762.
Only in the week from February 4 to February 10, 2013.

We are specialized on wedding dresses, serving customers like you worldwide.
The process that we serve a wedding dress is like this:

You watch and compare the wedding dresses on our website Joyousome Wedding Resources
You choose your favorite wedding dress, putting an order which is easy and fun.
With your selected wedding dress style and entered body sizes data, we will fabricate your wedding dress in our wedding-dress-specialized-tailoring plant in Suzhou, China.
We will deliver your totally-customed, brand-new wedding dress to the address you provided in the order, which can be anywhere in most of countries in the world.
You have a memorable moment wearing your unique, fit perfectly, and beautiful wedding dress in the focus of your family, relatives, friends, and visitors.

You may have our product or service before, and you know our service is real. So please let us known when you or your family, relatives, or friends have wedding dress requirement, which we are here to help for.

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转载“婚纱女王中国开店被指歧视国人”

2013-01-31T09:01:00.000-08:00

大牌来中国一般都很傲慢，比如婚纱女王Vera Wang。近日，该品牌在上海开店，婚纱动辄几十万的价格让人咋舌，这还不算，就连试穿都得提前预约，并支付3000元人民币的试穿费。品牌称该举措是为了防止被抄袭。但此举却引发诸多争议。　　

　　　"婚纱女王"的婚纱店落户上海

　　　　为防止抄袭，需提前支付3000元试穿费

　　　　不少网友表示这样的规定"隐含偏见"

　　婚纱是许多女生心目中最美丽的东西，而拥有一件属于自己的婚纱，更是不少女生的梦想。近日，国际知名的"婚纱女王"Vera Wang(王薇薇)的婚纱店落户上海，这家旗舰店内的婚纱件件价格不菲，而光试穿就要3000元试穿费的消息，一经网友爆料就马上在网上引起热议。

　　　　"婚纱女王"的"傲慢与偏见"

　　Vera Wang相关负责人坦言，在国外其他店铺中，并没有这一规定。"我们这么做并不是真的要赚钱，只是希望顾客能谨慎考虑，如果真的想买VeraWang再来店试衣服。"该负责人解释说，之所以收取试衣费，主要是考虑到国内存在的抄袭、拷贝名牌款式等一些不良风气。为了防止被抄袭，店内还规定所有顾客不能拍照和录像。

　　不仅如此，Vera Wang方面还提出，如果顾客想要来店试衣必须提前支付3000元试衣费，并且只能试穿一个半小时，如果试衣结束确定购买，试衣费可在售价中扣除，如果没有选中，这3000元则不予以返还。

　　"每个女孩子都希望有一件独一无二的婚纱，眼下很多年轻人也知道Vera Wang的婚纱就是婚纱中的经典，我们是真心想要挑一件婚纱的，又不是真的像它说来‘盗版’的，这不是给真正想要买婚纱的顾客一种不舒服的感觉嘛。本来我们穿得不合适就换另一家，但现在这样我们买也不是，不买也不是。"这种做法似乎让准新娘倍感纠结，明年打算结婚的康小姐告诉记者。

　　而去年刚结婚的孙小姐更是直言不讳，她告诉记者，去年结婚的时候就没买什么婚纱，只是租了一件，"人生不就结这么一次么，买来穿一次就穿不了了，还不是搁在那里积灰尘，买婚纱这些钱还不如等以后生了孩子花在孩子身上，更不用说什么试衣费了，浪费。"

　　在记者所采访的人群中，大部分都不理解"高昂"试衣费这一做法。他们都认为这是给想结婚、想买婚纱的人泼了一瓢凉水。

　　　　本地设计师坦言不怕抄袭

　　抄袭历来是设计师心中的痛，不过，杭州本地的设计师却表现得很豁达。

　　"我不怕抄啊。" 目前经营着MIJA设计工作室的杭州十佳服装设计师吕青直言不讳。她告诉记者，她会建议客人试穿完礼服后拍照，因为有时候准新娘试穿之后自己拿不定主意，所以工作人员会给她拍照，让她拿回家给家人朋友看，最后再决定。"如果只是过来试穿不订，那我也OK，你拍，没有关系。"吕青大气地说。

　　记者还了解到，虽然在MIJA设计工作室试婚纱要预约，但并不需收费。"我们一天只接受3-4个客人的预约，因为一个客人的试穿时间在1-2个小时，为了让客人在试穿时有一个相对舒适的环境，所以我们会控制客人的数量，保证试穿的质量。"吕青还告诉记者，在他们工作室租赁的款式一般在3000元以下，如果是高级定制的婚纱，会有3000元的设计费，"因为是独家的板子，而且这个款式我们不会再为第二位客人做。"

　　针对"外来和尚"Vera Wang为防止抄袭而收取试穿费这种做法，杭州市服装设计师协会秘书长顾小华认为，"抄袭"其实是一种仁者见仁、智者见智的事情。

　　他直言，抄袭是一直存在于这个行业的，包括全球的大牌也一样，一旦发布流行信息，很多品牌都会争相效仿。"其实相互学习是正常的，能够在别人的作品中汲取能量是好事，当然，抄袭本身是不好的，是我们所深恶痛绝的，关键是在别人的作品中获取灵感，再创新再完善，而不是照搬设计。"

　　"收试穿费是Vera Wang品牌在中国的特例吧，但是怕抄袭的话，那每一季都会有发布会，大家都有拍照，而且现在仿单很多，没有什么好的措施能防止抄袭。"吕青坦言。

　　顾小华也十分认同吕青的说法，他提到，虽然抄袭可恶，但是没有必要采取如此极端的做法，因为这没多大意义，而且在行业里也没什么借鉴的价值。"这样做，很大程度上有炒作的嫌疑。" 　

只有中国加收试衣服原因国人需反思

根据调查，Vera Wang国外店铺试衣免费，而中国试衣收费3000元这一消息属实。Vera Wang相关负责人坦言，在国外其他店铺中，并没有这一规定。之所以收取试衣费，主要是考虑到国内存在的抄袭、拷贝名牌款式等一些不良风气。为了防止被抄袭，店内还规定所有顾客不能拍照和录像。

顾客想要来店试衣必须提前支付3000元试衣费，只能试穿一个半小时，如果试衣结束确定购买，试衣费可在售价中扣除，如果没有选中，这3000元则不予以返还，“我们这么做并不是真的要赚钱，只是希望顾客能谨慎考虑，在别家看好，如果真的想买VeraWang再来店试衣服。 ”

中国制造的力量十分强大，看来就连国际上也是"家喻户晓"了，这样的"特殊条款"也给我们敲响了警钟，中国的市场秩序与市场公平是否需要重视起来，否则一旦在国际上信任度垮掉，那么中国出口也面临着无限的险阻。

　　　　七嘴八舌

　　　　网友分两派

　　　　多数不支持收费

　　针对Vera Wang试穿婚纱要钱的消息，很多网友认为这样的做法是在给普通大众设置门槛。Vera Wang店内的婚纱虽然从3万元到30万元不等，大部分集中在10万至20万元之间，价格本身就比较"小众"，再加上如此高昂的试衣费，让很多人望而却步。

　　一周休七天zdq："还是不要去试了。"

　　Ange酱："无语……第一次听说有试衣费的。"

　　阿喂妈妈："Vera Wang很不大气呀。"

　　周丹同志法律人："有些不着调的外国品牌往往以防止抄袭等为由在中国实施令人费解的规定，这广义上是偏见，狭义上是侮辱消费者人格。工商局、消费者权益保护团体得干预！"

　　但也有一些网友认为这未尝不是一种打击中国"盗版横行、水货猖獗"的好方法。部分网友认为如果真心想买Vera Wang的婚纱，肯定能在店里挑出自己喜欢的，那这3000元就会在婚纱钱里扣掉，那就没白花。

　　凌濛小筑："也是无奈之举啊~~~"

　　伤不起的P民："好事！"

　　williamsze："上海香格里拉早就有了Link Wedding卖，和新加坡一家，试衣收费，预约制，walk in没人搭理的。香港的Central Weddings也收试衣费，不买不退，而且付了全款才能给自己订下的款式照相。莫大惊小怪。"

Weekly special wedding dress Joyousome AS1108B

2013-01-28T16:30:00.000-08:00

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Check out our weekly special wedding dress AS1108B,
original price $299, weekly special price $199.
Only in the week from January 27 to February 2, 2013.

We are specialized on wedding dresses, serving customers like you worldwide.
The process that we serve a wedding dress is like this:

You watch and compare the wedding dresses on our website Joyousome Wedding Resources
You choose your favorite wedding dress, putting an order which is easy and fun.
With your selected wedding dress style and entered body sizes data, we will fabricate your wedding dress in our wedding-dress-specialized-tailoring plant in Suzhou, China.
We will deliver your totally-customed, brand-new wedding dress to the address you provided in the order, which can be anywhere in most of countries in the world.
You have a memorable moment wearing your unique, fit perfectly, and beautiful wedding dress in the focus of your family, relatives, friends, and visitors.

Wedding dresses and evening gowns on sale

2012-12-13T19:14:00.000-08:00

We added some new stock items of wedding dresses and evening gowns in our eshop, Joyousome Wedding Resources this week. The stock items are the clothes that already tailored and stayed in stock. So you don't have much control on the choices of style, color, and size of clothes as the customed ones, but the prices of the stock items are attractive, which include shipping fees as well. Always there is a price discount when you order more than one set of clothes.

If you prefer other payment method, you can surely discuss with us, and get positive respond definitely.

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Far away from shore when dressing bridal gown

2012-11-26T08:08:00.000-08:00

I heard not only one stunning news that, happy bride was taken photos with her groom at shore, such as lake side, sea side, and river bank, wearing her bridal gown, accidentally fallen into water, and miserably got drown to death.

It should be aware that, the bridal gown material are big mass, loose, so absorbing water content very much to a huge weight which can not be bear and got ridden off easily by a lady. The heavy wet wedding dress will drop you to deep water to drown you, which become a killer instead of a beautiful, romantic clothes.

So don't go close to shore when you are wearing bridal gown!

It's time of ending your hunting to wedding dress

2012-11-21T09:18:00.000-08:00

As a bride-to-be, the most important thing to do in preparing your wedding ceremony probably is getting a wedding dress, by which you have many aspects to consider, such as the favorite style, cost under budget, perfect size, and accessibility. You may find it is a hassle to finish this purchasing process.
It is why we stand here to help. We are specialized on providing wedding dresses, serving customers like you worldwide. Let's see how we can solve your hassle on wedding dress preparation.

Wedding dress style: You can watch and choose from dozens of wedding dress styles in our website Joyousome Wedding Resources, in which there maybe your favorite. Even you are not satisfied to all these styles, you still have chance to provide the pictures of your favorite and we can make it.
Cost: The wedding dress price is clearly noted in every item introduction so you can compare, which is the total fee includes delivery to your door. To facilitate your payment, there are various currencies you can choose in the website.
Perfect size: We have 5 (five) sizing categories to determine the clothes size including Bust, Waist, Hips, Skirt waist, and Height, and in each category we have 12 kinds of dimensions to choose to make sure the wedding dress size perfectly suiting you. You can check the table for sizing detail.
Custom made: So you know the wedding dress is custom-made, unique in the world just for you. Your order will be tailor-made in our wedding-dress-specialized-tailoring plant in Suzhou, China.
Accessible: After your ordering, everything is on us. You will get the delivery box after appropriately one month at your front door almost no matter wherever you are.

Check out with free veil

2012-11-09T19:51:00.000-08:00

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Wedding dress sizes choosing and Free veil option!

When you double-clickly open and check a specified style of the wedding dress in Joyousome, you have the control of the dress sizes by choosing the 5 dimensions shown in the illustration above as the following:

Bust
Height
Hips
Skirt
Waist, which is hide at back of Veil extension
Veil (option)

For some of the styles, we present a free veil as you order a wedding dress. Just as shown in the illustration above, you can choose a veil's item number, which is detailed in the veil category. If you don't want a veil, you can just click "n/a".

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Wedding dress style and order procedure

2012-11-09T05:43:00.000-08:00

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Wedding dress style No.ZWD-007

You can find this lovely wedding dress style No.ZWD-007 in our website Joyousome Wedding Resources.

We are specialized on wedding dresses, serving customers like you worldwide.
The process we serve a wedding dress is like this:

1. You watch and compare the wedding dresses on our website Joyousome Wedding Resources

2. You choose your favorite wedding dress, putting an order which is easy and fun.

3. With your selected wedding dress style and entered body sizes data, we will fabricate your wedding dress in our wedding-dress-specialized-tailoring plant in Suzhou, China.

4. We will deliver your totally-customed, brand-new wedding dress to the address you provided in the order, which can be anywhere in most of countries in the world.

5. You have a memorable moment wearing your unique, fit perfectly, and beautiful wedding dress in the focus of your family, relatives, friends, and visitors.

You may have our product or service before, and you know our service is real. So please let us known when you or your family, relatives, or friends have wedding dress requirement, which we are here to help for.

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Wedding Dress Dimensions

2012-11-08T05:58:00.000-08:00

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As we promised you have lots of cloth-dimension-options to personalise your wedding dress, to prove it, now we include a wedding dress dimensions list above for your reference. When you customize your dress online in our website, and click the arrow beside measuring part such as Bust, you can find these numbers in cm unit in downwards list, then just click your's number to choose it.

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What exactly do these clothes-measure-terms mean?

2012-11-07T06:05:00.000-08:00

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When you order your wedding dress, the first thing you should to know is your body dimensions, with which tailor can make your fit-exactly cloth. Generally tailor need to know these measure terms, or the dimensions, by which we ask for 5 types of dimension:

Bust
Waist
Hip
Skirt
Height

To make sure you know what exactly these terms stand for, we attached an illustration picture above. It is clear, straight, which will not probably be misunderstood.
Tip: you can use a string, a cord, or a thread, whichever is long and flexible, to measure your body, then measure the string with a tape. That will be easy and comfortable.

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What do we have in Joyousome website?

2012-11-06T08:08:00.000-08:00

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Left-upper corner of Joyousome website

What do we have? or, what do we sell in our website Joyousome? Let's introduce for you.

When you open Joyousome website, you will find the content, whose left-upper corner is shown above. Under "categories" in the left column, you will find some items with a bracked number, such as, "Custom Wedding Dress(53)", which means there are 53 various styles of custom-wedding-dress you can choose from in the category. When you click any item in the category, for example, the "Custom Wedding Dress(53)", you will see the detailed list of the dress styles.

At present from the illustration you can tell we have the following categories, together with the item numbers in the categories:

Apparel & Accessories(1)
Custom Wedding Dresses(53)
Necklace(11)
Software(1)
Stock Dresses(3)
Veil(11)

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The guest list

2012-07-31T05:46:00.000-07:00

In her book Weddings, Emily Post reminds something to pay attention of the guest list:
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A guest list consists of a magical number of family and friends that 1) suits the size of your ceremony and reception sites, 2) corresponds with the level of intimacy desired for the wedding, and 3) can be accommodated within your wedding budget (an important reality). Traditionally, each family is allotted half of the desired total guest count, a figure largely determined by the person hosting the wedding. A way of starting to decide whom to invite is to combine four lists, thus formulating the master list. Start with lists from the bride, the groom, the bride's parents, and the groom's parents. It is necessary that everyone make up their lists realistically. As acceptances and regrets become known, the "weights" of the lists may vary.

Some decisions that may affect your numbers: Do you plan to include children? To invite single friends to bring guests? Neither inclusion is necessary, but both necessitate "proper etiquette," meaning consideration and sensitivity. If children are not invited, the proper way to communicate this is to write only the parents' names on the outer and inner envelopes. It is inappropriate to write "No Children" on the invitations. For the guest of a single friend, send a separate invitation to the guest, unless he or she lives at the same address.

Use all of the considerations just noted to arrive at a reasonable estimate. Then ask each half (or one-quarter) to compile a rough list of "must-have" guests, supplemented by "hopefuls" to be invited if there should be room. Remember to include in your count the officiant and his or her spouse, yourselves, both sets of parents, and your wedding party.

Cutting down an overambitious guest list is a difficult task requiring great tact, diplomacy, and even-handedness. If you know that distance will prevent certain people from attending, factor this in. To trim the guest list, try to redraw your lines equilaterally, bumping entire groupings of people--second cousins, work associates with whom you've never socialized, friends from the health club--to a "B" List. These people can be invited four weeks before the wedding if guests on the "A" List send regrets. Your list may read something like this:

First Tier: immediate families (parents, siblings, grandparents, the couple's own children)
Second Tier: extended family members (aunts, uncles, cousins, nieces, nephews)
Third Tier: family friends (parents' close friends, long-time friends and neighbors, childhood friends and their parents, if close to you)
Fourth Tier: parents' colleagues (associates, employers, employees)

This guide should be based upon what makes sense in your case. Any planning, of course, must be adapted to your particular circumstances. If you and your intended are established professionally, perhaps marrying for a second or third time, you will probably be paying for all or most of the wedding yourselves. Perhaps your wedding will take place far from your hometown or where your parents live. Under any of these circumstances, it could make sense to switch tiers three and four, as defined above.
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A word about contracts in wedding

2012-07-25T08:20:00.000-07:00

In her book Weddings, Emily Post reminds a word about contracts in wedding:
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While the bride and groom are busy getting their personal documents in order before the wedding, they are also likely to be contracting for myriad services, from the photographer to the reception site to airline tickets and the honeymoon hotel.

How do you make sure that ultimately you get what you pay for? In a phrase: Get it in writing. If your agreement with the florist was to provide 12-inch-round floral centerpieces of roses and lilies and you arrive breathless at the reception to find jelly glasses holding daffodils, you have little recourse for a prive adjustment if what you agreed to is not written clearly in a contract. If your agreement with the caterer was for brandname liquor and you find the bartender pouring from house brand bottles, you will have trouble legally withholding full payment if that specification is not part of a contract.

It is assumed, of course, that you have done your homework carefully and checked references to ensure that you are not contracting with a disreputable or fly-by-night vendor, so you have every right to expect what you ordered. But you will have a hard time collecting if every requirement is not in writing.
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Wedding Insurance

2012-07-01T05:42:00.000-07:00

In her book Weddings, Emily Post introduced wedding insurance:
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Weddings have taken place for centuries without wedding insurance, but no chapter on the legalities of getting married would be complete without including it as a topic of consideration for the bride and groom. In many instances, the cost of a wedding is so astronomical that the additional cost of insurance is worth every penny if it protects such a large investment.

Wedding insurance, offered exclusively by the Fireman's Fund insurance company (800-ENGAGED), may be taken out by a bride and groom to cover wedding catastrophes that are beyond anyone's control. Wedding insurance can also cover any retaking of photographs, replacement of lost or damaged wedding attire or wedding gifts, and public liability.

Wedding insurance is beneficial, for example, when a reception site suddenly cannot accommodate the party because a fire, damage, or a murder or suicide has occurred at the site, or an outbreak of a contagious disease has required a health department quarantine. Insurance will cover the cost of rebooking elsewhere.

If wedding insurance is a possibility, it is wise to consider every contingency when assessing the value and extent of the insurance you want. For example, if the reception site is suddenly not available and the wedding must be canceled because no other site is available on such short notice, other costs may be lost, such as formal-wear rental, car hire, hotel charges for the wedding party, and flower arrangements.
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Wills and Finances

2012-06-30T06:19:00.000-07:00

In her book Weddings, Emily Post introduced wills and finances in wedding:
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When there is no pre- or postnuptial contract, the bride and groom would be smart to put their wills and finances in order so that the disposition of their money and property is clear to each other or, should both die, to their families.

Changing Beneficiaries
Finances include such things as insurance policies and beneficiaries on retirement plan payouts. Assuming the bride and groom want to make each other the beneficiary on any existing policies they own, the couple should call an insurance broker and talk to their payroll coordinator at work to see what documentation is required to make this change.

Decisions about bank accounts
How the couple will manage their finances is purely personal, but they should discuss their thoughts. They may decide to maintain a separate accounts as well as open a new joint account, or they may pool all their finances into a joint account. If the bride is maintaining a separate account but changing her name, she needs to take care of this paperwork when she changes other legal documents. If she is changing her name and has direct electronic deposit into her account, she needs to coordinate the account change at the same time as she changes her name at work.
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Domestic Partnership Affidavits

2012-06-29T06:57:00.000-07:00

In her book Weddings, Emily Post reminds something to pay attention of same-gender marriage:
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Most experts agree that before a same-gender couple enters into a domestic partnership affidavit the two should consult with an attorney. This agreement is intended to create for same-gender couples who cannot legally marry conditions equal to those of married couples of opposite genders. An affidavit can, however, contain clauses that may be unpalatable to the couple. For example, in some cities, the couple is required to live together and to "have a close personal relationship." Critics claim this is discriminatory, arguing that legal marriage does not require that a couple live together or have a close personal relationship. Signing such an agreement brings few real benefits but may include being able to participate in a partner's health insurance plan. If these situations are not a factor, organizations such as the Partners Task Force for Gay & Lesbian Couples suggest that partners desiring validation as a couple instead plan a wedding or other ceremony of commitment.
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Some considerations in Premarital agreement

2012-06-28T21:27:00.000-07:00

In her book Weddings, Emily Post reminds some considerations in Premarital agreement:
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Disclosure
Because one person is usually giving something up by agreeing to a prenuptial contract, both the bride and the groom must fully disclose their finances to each other in advance. Most states require that the premarital agreement include separate listings that describe and show the values of each person's assets. If the couple chooses not to do this, they are preventing one partner from knowing what he or she is losing by signing the contract--and this may constitute fraud, which makes the agreement unenforceable. For this reason, and to ensure that the agreement is written correctly and legally, it is a good idea for both the bride and the groom to seek the advice of his or her own lawyer before entering into the agreement.

The Form of the Agreement
A prenuptial contract or premarital agreement must be in writing to be legally binding. It provides evidence of the terms of the agreement and demonstrates that both people understand and agree to the terms. It is generally legally binding as long as it is entered into voluntarily and without fraud and as long as it is reasonable and fair. It is not binding if a person is unfairly induced to sign the agreement or is coerced under excessive emotional pressure.

The Art of Diplomacy
It is often as difficult for those requesting a premarital contract to broach the subject as it is being asked to sign one. Again, a prenuptial contract may simply be a way of protecting assets you bring into the marriage in the (unlikely) event of divorce or death. A couple who communicates well has a head start in discussing a prenuptial contract. If you are the person requesting a premarital agreement, do so with tact, love, and honesty. Explain exactly why you are making the request and whether it affects the assets you amass as a couple (it shouldn't). Discuss the lifetime of assets you hope to build together as a couple--assets completely separate from the assets protected in the prenuptial agreement.
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Pre- and Post-nuptial contracts

2012-06-27T06:30:00.000-07:00

In her book Weddings, Emily Post reminds the pre- and post-nuptial contracts in wedding:
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The matter of formalizing financial and legal matters through a prenuptial contract or premarital agreement is a sensitive one for brides and grooms, many of whom consider doing so a crass form of hedging bets on the longevity of the marriage. It is definitely an issue that needs to be discussed early in the relationship--and not something you spring on your partner-to-be right before the ceremony. Otherwise, serious doubts, hurt feelings, and even extreme anger can result.

Basically, a premarital agreement is a contract between two people that defines the rights and benefits that will exist during the marriage and after, in the event of divorce. It can expand or limit a person's right to property, life insurance benefits, or support payments upon death or divorce. Usually, it addresses the rights to property that each brings to the marriage, retirement plan assets, and how money accumulated before the marriage will be distributed in case of death or divorce. Without a premarital agreement, state laws define the rights and benefits of marriage. If the couple does not want to rely on state laws to determine their legal and fiscal fate, the premarital agreement allows them to make their own rules.

Although anyone can have a premarital agreement, it is most often used when the bride or the groom or both bring assets to the marriage that they want to protect in the event of divorce or death. This is particularly true for people marrying for the second or third time who want to make sure that certain assets are passed on to their children from a previous marriage.

What a prenuptial contract does nto cover is child custody and support. The courts will disregard the contract on this point and make a decision that is considered in the best interest of the child. The courts will also disregard a premarital agreement that, in essence, leaves one person destitute.

A postnuptial contract is one made after a couple is married. It can include the same categories of consideration, usually having to do with property and money, as those in a prenuptial contract. This contract is usually drawn if the couple realizes that children from a previous marriage or other family members would be unprotected in the case of divorce or death.
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Name Change: Official Notifications

2012-06-26T04:49:00.000-07:00

In her book Weddings, Emily Post reminds the official notifications of name change in wedding:
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When a bride changes her name, she must notify a vast number of people, companies, agencies, and organizations. Use your wedding planner to list these names. Some organizations require proof of the name change and will require a copy of the marriage certificate, which is issued after the marriage. When an address change is occurring as well, it is a good idea to make both changes at the same time. Those to notify include:

Social Security Administration
motor vehicles department
passport agency
employer payroll department
banks
credit unions
mortgage company
voter registration
financial planner (or investment firms/stockbroker)
credit-card companies
religious organizations
magazine subscriptions
school alumni organizations
credit accounts (local stores)
frequent travel clubs
doctors and dentists

Confusion often prevails when the bride decides to retain her maiden name or use some hyphenated form of both her and her husband's name. If you decide to go the nontraditional route, you will need to graciously inform those who assume you will be taking your husband's name as your own. If you need to correct someone, do so politely. Be patient: Realize that the older generation may not understand your reasoning for making a nontraditional choice. Some commonsense ways to do so include using your new name on stationery, in the return address on thank-you-note envelopes, in newspaper wedding announcements, or on "at home" cards enclosed in wedding announcements.
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Difference between Boss & Leader

2012-06-25T07:40:00.000-07:00

Name change considerations

2012-06-22T07:26:00.000-07:00

In her book Weddings, Emily Post told something to be thought over about name change in wedding:
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The matter of changing names is traditionally more of a consideration for the bride than it is for the groom, since it is still rare for a man to change his name upon marrying. If a woman is being married for a second time, she probably has already changed her name once. She may have kept her ex-husband's surname, or she may have reverted to her maiden name. Another marriage can bring about more change. If the bride has kept her married name from her first marriage, it is likely that she will take her new husband's surname--if for no other reason than to avoid confusion for all concerned. She may also do it out of consideration and love for her new husband, who will undoubtedly be pleased that she will be known by his name and not by another man's name.

Professional Versus Social
One way to deal professionally with a name change is for the bride to continue to use the name she has been using in work or professional situations. Therefore, she is known as Ms. Jane Johnson at work, while socially she is Mrs. Franklin Pierce, or Jane Johnson Pierce if she retains her maiden name as her middle name.

Children and Names
If the bride has children from a previous marriage, their last name will very likely be that of their father, while their mother may be using her maiden name or taking the name of her new husband. How this is sorted out is up to each bride and groom, but it is important to let relevant persons and organizations know who is who. You may want to type up a note stating the proper names, phone numbers, and addresses of how you are to be notified in case of any calls or correspondence. Give copies to your child's school, pediatrician and dentist, and any religious and sports groups.
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Name change in wedding

2012-06-21T06:45:00.000-07:00

In her book Weddings, Emily Post told something about name change in wedding:
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There is no law, rule, religious dictate, or mandate that says the bride must take the groom's last name. A bride may take her husband's last name, retain her own surname, or hyphenate both her own surname and her husband's surname. When Linda Graham marries Mark Richards, she may be Linda Richards, Linda Graham, or Linda Graham-Richards. Despite the range of acceptable choices, 90 percent of today's U.S. brides make the traditional choice of adopting their husband's names.

A bride who wishes to take her husband's last name may retain her given middle name or, more commonly, use her own surname as a middle name. Linda Beth Graham may become Linda Graham Richards or Linda Beth Richards.

The only law governing the name chosen by the bride (or by the groom, who has the option of changing his name as well) is that the name is used consistently and without intent to defraud. Any name change is effected simply by entering the new name in the appropriate space provided on the marriage license, as long as the new name consists of one of the following options:

the surname of the bride (or the groom)
any former surname he or she has had
a name combining into a single surname all or a segment of the pre-marriage surname or any former surname of each spouse
a combination name separated by a hyphen, provided that each part of such combination surname is the pre-marriage surname, or any former surname, of each of the spouses

If, at the time of the marriage, a bride (or groom) does not change her name and later changes her mind, she can file a petition for change of name with the court. The marriage license and certificate, however, cannot be changed to record the surname she decides to use after she is already married and registered with a different name.
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Premarital Counseling

2012-06-20T06:14:00.000-07:00

In her book Weddings, Emily Post explained premarital counseling:
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Premarital counseling, whether mandated or merely recommended, is a short-term way to work through important issues ahead of time and avoid conflict over the long haul. The purpose is to raise issues that might not have been considered, to discuss potential sensitive areas, and to give words to some of the concerns a couple may have but may not know how to express.

Most couples feel that by the time they are engaged, they know pretty much everything there is to know about each other. It is very likely, however, that they have not seriously talked through a range of issues, including their own physical and emotional needs, their respective goals and desires, and their thoughts on problem-solving and compromise. It's a good time as well to compare notes on having children, work and home priorities, coping with sickness or a crisis, money matters, and spiritual beliefs. People of different religious backgrounds often find clergy counseling extremely helpful, especially if they are planning to have children and raise them in a religious household.

This is also a good time to discuss with your future mate how family matters may best be resolved. A bride or groom might be entering into a marriage with children from a previous marriage or face parental disapproval or a divided family. They may have been on their own for a long time and aren't used to shared decision-making.

When premarital counseling is completed, it would be thoughtful of the bride and groom to write a thank-you note or a letter to their minister, priest, or rabbi to express their appreciation for the guidance they received.
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Driving 5000 ducks on street

2012-06-19T07:20:00.000-07:00

Mr. Hong and his three assistants were driving 5,000 ducks on street in Taizhou, Zhejiang province, China on June 17 to a pond one kilometer away to feed them. Where they appear, the pedestrians and vehicles were stopping to watch or give way. Mr. Hong said, he always drive the flock through street to find food for them in more than half a year, and doesn't loss any duck.