tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4121507305948011210Fri, 16 Oct 2009 07:37:16 +0000Judi's Relationship AdviceI've been told I give great relationship advice.<br><br>So here I am to give YOU great relationship advice.<br><br>Married or dating, gay or straight, communication or (gasp) sex,<br>whatever you need advice on I'm here for you!http://judisadvice.blogspot.com/judis.advice@hotmail.com (Judi)Blogger13125JudisAdvicehttp://feedburner.google.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4121507305948011210.post-3876533761275173296Sun, 07 Dec 2008 21:10:00 +00002008-12-28T06:51:11.483-05:00Respecting the relationship's boundariesBack in September I wrote Fulfilling Desires vs. Respect and Love. Doug had come into the forums upset that his wife would not do something for him sexually that he wanted. He pushed and pushed and she still wouldn't do it, despite saying she would consider it. I advised Doug that it was unloving and disrespectful of him to push his wife to do something that she clearly was not comfortable http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JudisAdvice/~3/NJWCVICV2Jo/respecting-relationships-boundaries.htmljudis.advice@hotmail.com (Judi)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JudisAdvice/~4/NJWCVICV2Jo" height="1" width="1"/>http://judisadvice.blogspot.com/2008/12/respecting-relationships-boundaries.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4121507305948011210.post-1582996583511011Thu, 04 Dec 2008 20:26:00 +00002008-12-04T15:44:08.722-05:00I shouldn't have to tell you, you should just knowHey everybody! I know it's been a while since I wrote, and I'm sorry about that. I just haven't been able to come up with any good topics. Today I stumbled onto one at one of the relationship forums I participate in.A woman came into the forum wanting to know how to better please her husband. No, not like that! Just little stuff. He's complained that she isn't affectionate enough. He says http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JudisAdvice/~3/VD_yeEqm8yg/i-shouldnt-have-to-tell-you-you-should.htmljudis.advice@hotmail.com (Judi)2<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JudisAdvice/~4/VD_yeEqm8yg" height="1" width="1"/>http://judisadvice.blogspot.com/2008/12/i-shouldnt-have-to-tell-you-you-should.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4121507305948011210.post-6986421717506199700Mon, 29 Sep 2008 18:46:00 +00002008-09-29T14:46:16.968-04:00Long term loveThis week marks the 9th anniversary of my marriage to Mitch. So I thought I'd take a break from writing advice specific to relationship problems, and try to write something about what makes a long term relationship so wonderful. Too often those who give advice focus on the bad things that go on in relationships and how to get past them....today I'd like to focus on the good things about http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JudisAdvice/~3/TCqAm1hNc8o/long-term-love.htmljudis.advice@hotmail.com (Judi)1<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JudisAdvice/~4/TCqAm1hNc8o" height="1" width="1"/>http://judisadvice.blogspot.com/2008/09/long-term-love.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4121507305948011210.post-8094600149440158261Tue, 23 Sep 2008 12:00:00 +00002008-09-24T08:18:45.110-04:00The selection processA woman came into the forums I post in complaining that her boyfriend of 4 months didn't want sex nearly as much as she did, and any time she brought it up he got upset. In every other way he was perfect. She wanted to know what to do, whether she should just get over it and deal with less sex than she wanted because he was so great in every other way, whether he should see a doctor because hishttp://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JudisAdvice/~3/o6R7aETjZOY/selection-process.htmljudis.advice@hotmail.com (Judi)2<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JudisAdvice/~4/o6R7aETjZOY" height="1" width="1"/>http://judisadvice.blogspot.com/2008/09/selection-process.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4121507305948011210.post-4325011052419315269Tue, 16 Sep 2008 14:21:00 +00002008-09-16T13:14:07.865-04:00Abusive relationshipsOn the relationship forums that I participate in we get a lot of people coming in wondering if they should end their abusive relationship. They give us tales of verbal abuse, sometimes physical abuse, certainly a lack of anything resembling loving behavior, and wonder if they can make their partner treat them better. They make excuses for why they can't leave.....they don't have any money, he/http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JudisAdvice/~3/DdCSsrt-YRM/abusive-relationships.htmljudis.advice@hotmail.com (Judi)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JudisAdvice/~4/DdCSsrt-YRM" height="1" width="1"/>http://judisadvice.blogspot.com/2008/09/abusive-relationships.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4121507305948011210.post-4708989254125446596Sat, 06 Sep 2008 14:09:00 +00002008-09-28T08:40:20.660-04:00Fulfilling desires vs. respect and loveI have recently been involved in a discussion about the balance between fulfilling desires and respect. A gentleman who I'll call Doug was wondering how important women find it to fulfill their man's desires even if they may find the particular activity that he's requesting uncomfortable and/or dirty.In reality, however, what Doug really wanted to know was why his wife kept saying she would givehttp://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JudisAdvice/~3/0U7C3Hcr-ac/fulfilling-desires-vs-respect-and-love.htmljudis.advice@hotmail.com (Judi)6<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JudisAdvice/~4/0U7C3Hcr-ac" height="1" width="1"/>http://judisadvice.blogspot.com/2008/09/fulfilling-desires-vs-respect-and-love.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4121507305948011210.post-2351563877213817525Tue, 26 Aug 2008 12:50:00 +00002008-08-26T09:00:28.425-04:00Who wants some?My friend Lily is back with another issue she is having some trouble with.Often I am the one initiating sex, about 90% of the time (my husband disagrees). I actually asked him last night if I didn't initiate sex, how long would we go without having it. He said "maybe a couple of days" I laughed and I said "Well, it's been a couple of days"...and I mentioned that we've gone long amounts of timehttp://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JudisAdvice/~3/RDuIGTDEBio/who-wants-some.htmljudis.advice@hotmail.com (Judi)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JudisAdvice/~4/RDuIGTDEBio" height="1" width="1"/>http://judisadvice.blogspot.com/2008/08/who-wants-some.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4121507305948011210.post-2866327463120647575Thu, 14 Aug 2008 11:09:00 +00002008-08-14T08:25:26.585-04:00Looking for marriageHi Little introduction. I have completed my MSc intelligent software systems from Blekinge Institute of Technology Sweden. Currently I'm in United Kingdom and working in a British Airways Company as a Audit Executive. I have little plan, in which marriage is also very important for me. We can find many girls or boys in normal routine at different location like pubs clubs, but how can I find truehttp://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JudisAdvice/~3/eQr4FelqXo8/looking-for-marriage.htmljudis.advice@hotmail.com (Judi)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JudisAdvice/~4/eQr4FelqXo8" height="1" width="1"/>http://judisadvice.blogspot.com/2008/08/looking-for-marriage.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4121507305948011210.post-4940079273731177462Mon, 11 Aug 2008 12:48:00 +00002008-08-13T14:35:13.633-04:00To tell or not to tellOne of my readers wrote in and presented a scenario for discussion. Names have been changed to protect the innocent. ;-)Sally and her husband, Mike, have a friend, Chris, who has been smoking behind his wife, Jane's, back. Sally doesn't understand how Jane doesn't know, how she doesn't smell it, but according to Mike Chris has smoked up to 7 cigarettes on a short trip to the store just to get http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JudisAdvice/~3/LZeqpyl-cjo/when-to-tell.htmljudis.advice@hotmail.com (Judi)2<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JudisAdvice/~4/LZeqpyl-cjo" height="1" width="1"/>http://judisadvice.blogspot.com/2008/08/when-to-tell.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4121507305948011210.post-323172127339524962Sun, 10 Aug 2008 13:48:00 +00002008-08-13T14:32:51.985-04:00The question of pornRecently my dear friend Lily discovered that her new husband, Rick, was surfing porn, and it upset her a great deal. Here is the gist of the issue:Basically the specifics are that Rick left his inbox on the desktop and when I went to minimize it, I saw an address for the sex and fun forum. Curiosity got the best of me, so I looked at it and was just shocked I guess. The forum offers links to http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JudisAdvice/~3/3aqVY0weWpM/question-of-porn.htmljudis.advice@hotmail.com (Judi)2<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JudisAdvice/~4/3aqVY0weWpM" height="1" width="1"/>http://judisadvice.blogspot.com/2008/08/question-of-porn.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4121507305948011210.post-865815287827832631Mon, 28 Jul 2008 15:58:00 +00002008-08-13T14:25:53.765-04:00Sexual compatibilityIn response to my advice to "Jim" I've received an e-mail from "Steve." I'm going to respond to Steve's e-mail one part at a time, because he makes several different points.Ok here is a question...Why does it always have to be the man who initiates?First of all Steve, it doesn't. And frankly it's pretty insulting to both men and women to use such stereotypes. It also doesn't help you in your http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JudisAdvice/~3/Uvh0G4fXu20/sexual-compatibility.htmljudis.advice@hotmail.com (Judi)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JudisAdvice/~4/Uvh0G4fXu20" height="1" width="1"/>http://judisadvice.blogspot.com/2008/07/sexual-compatibility.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4121507305948011210.post-5478759796258324007Sun, 27 Jul 2008 13:38:00 +00002008-07-27T10:03:04.170-04:00Does she think I'm good enough?OK, since nobody has written in to ask for advice, I have to get this thing started on my own.I've mentioned that I participate in online discussion forums about relationships and sex. A few weeks ago I offered advice to a man who was concerned that he wasn't turning his wife on enough. Since I don't have his permission I won't copy his post here, but I'll try to give you a summary of his http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JudisAdvice/~3/lo08lHRx_ZE/does-she-think-im-good-enough.htmljudis.advice@hotmail.com (Judi)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JudisAdvice/~4/lo08lHRx_ZE" height="1" width="1"/>http://judisadvice.blogspot.com/2008/07/does-she-think-im-good-enough.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4121507305948011210.post-4519880929582599123Tue, 22 Jul 2008 18:56:00 +00002008-07-24T15:52:53.106-04:00Welcome!Hey everyone! Welcome to Judi's Relationship Advice column!Let me first tell you how this place came to be:For years now I've been involved in a number of online discussion forums pertaining to relationships and sex. I've thoroughly enjoyed discussing relationships and offering advice to those who come seeking it. So an advice column is something I've always been interested in.Recently I had http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JudisAdvice/~3/Ax7zAx0pciw/welcome-to-judis-relationship-advice.htmljudis.advice@hotmail.com (Judi)7<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/JudisAdvice/~4/Ax7zAx0pciw" height="1" width="1"/>http://judisadvice.blogspot.com/2008/07/welcome-to-judis-relationship-advice.html