What are important leadership qualities that you value in rising leaders? What are the qualities you hope to develop in those you serve in desiring that they take on greater leadership responsibilities in the future?

The following are 3 leadership qualities taken from ‘snapshots’ of everyday life here in Albania, essential for cultivating in an aspiring leader’s life.

PATIENCE:

In order to truly thrive in Albania, one needs patience. The best snapshot of necessary patience can be seen in these days following May 8th’s local elections as the results are still being tallied as of today– 3 days later. There was no point in staying up all night on Sunday, watching the news, waiting for a victory celebration for one political party or the other, since the ballots are counted by hand. One box at a time.

As I scanned the newspaper headlines today trying to determine who won, I realized that each newspaper, depending on their political slant, declared different winners for the same position– simply because the final results have yet to be sorted.

CREATIVITY:

Another key leadership quality gleaned from living in Albania is that of creativity. With the massive amounts of cars on the roads and limited parking space throughout the city– some open spaces, not quite designed for parking, are turned into parking lots– thus showing creativity in dealing with this urban dilemma.

WISDOM:

If you were to be visiting Albania this week, you’d be sure to notice posters draping city buildings and dotting the sidewalks that advertise local elections to be held on May 8th.

Two campaign slogans have stood out to me:

• Slogan #1: “E vetmja rrugë për Tiranën, e vetmja rrugë për Shqipërinë.” Translation:
  “The only way for Tirana, the only way for Albania.”

• Slogan #2: “Ju jeni të parët. Tirana është e para.” Translation:
  “You are first. Tirana is first.”

Very bold declarations, don’t you think? Especially claiming to be “the only way” for Tirana.

And, it is a rare event in Albania to see Slogan #2 put into action. (“You are first, Tirana is first”).

In fact, if you ask most Albanians, they’d readily agree that politicians seem to have only one thing in mind—personal advancement resulting in material gain.

As Christians around the world reflect on the meaning of Easter this week, I too, remember the One who did not paint the city with gutsy campaign slogans or empty promises, but who demonstrated what it truly means to lead by serving and to love by sacrificing.

Jesus claimed in John 14:6, “I am the Way, the Truth and the Life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.”

Those are radical words. Even for Jesus. Many people today balk at that statement.

Yet Jesus bodily and painfully demonstrated that He put:

You,
Me,
Tirana,
Albania,
and the whole world

FIRST

when He died on the cross in our place,

taking our sins upon Himself,

experiencing the worst kind of death,

so that we could fellowship with the Father

and experience eternal life.

The Apostle Paul describes this radical kind of ‘putting others first’ in Philippians 2:3-8:

“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus:

Who, being in very nature God,
did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage;
rather, he made himself nothing
by taking the very nature of a servant,
being made in human likeness.
And being found in appearance as a man,
he humbled himself
by becoming obedient to death—
even death on a cross!”

It wasn’t just a slogan for Jesus.

He embodied true humility, servanthood, unconditional love, & sacrifice. In doing so, Jesus became the only Way, the only Hope for our broken cities and our sin-marred lives.

Imagine thinking each day that this may truly be your last day on earth. Imagine kissing your wife and kids goodbye in the morning with a lurch in your stomach as you wonder if you’ll be alive to hold them again in the evening. Imagine looking over your shoulders and wondering if you are being followed as you go to the store, to church, or to pick up your kids from school. Imagine risking your life every time you dare venture outside your home, all because of another man’s actions, whether intentional or accidental, that left someone dead.

This was Pastor Dritan (Tani) Prroj’s daily reality, as he stepped outside of his home in order to preach the Gospel, shepherd his flock in the church he was pastoring and serve his fellow citizens in the northern city of Shkoder. He found himself in these circumstances not because of anything he himself had done, but due to a bar room brawl five years ago which resulted in his uncle killing a young man. The uncle’s actions automatically brought the 23 male members of his extended family, including Tani, into a ‘blood feud’, making them a target of reciprocation for the victim’s family.

The majority of those who are involved in a blood feud choose the route of isolation and self-imprisonment at home, the only safe place dictated by blood feud codes (Kanun) where a person cannot be harmed or hunted down. Women and children are also exempt from the blood feud, though they still fear for the lives of their beloved fathers, husbands, brothers, and sons over the age of 15 who are explicit targets should they leave the safety of their home, even for an errand like buying milk from the store. Dreams of a normal life are shattered for these families– many children are kept home from school regardless of the code and their childhoods are void of friends, social events, sports and normal activities that every child longs to take part in.

Yes, it is the 21st century and yet blood feuds are a tangible experience for hundreds of familiies throughout Albania. It is estimated that there are 1450 families literally captive in their own homes because they are caught in the middle of a blood feud and have no way to escape its grip until the score becomes even. But ultimately it is a vicious cycle, one that never ends because with each life taken there is more ‘blood’ to avenge and little chance of families ever becoming free.

Initially, Tani too remained in isolation the first few years when the blood feud enveloped him and all his male relatives, though he continued to minister to his congregation from home. Given an opportunity to serve as pastor in England, Tani moved his family there but as they started to settle in, Tani sensed God calling him to continue to minister in his hometown back in Albania. Though limiting his time in public where he was an open target, Tani was active in serving the community and this past winter he led the distribution of humanitarian aid provided when floods encompassed the villages near Shkoder,causing many to be without homes, food, or clothes.

Tragically, three weeks ago, on October 8th, Tani was gunned down in broad daylight in a populated market and cafe area after leaving the church office to pick up his children from school. His 9 and 7-year old were left waiting, not knowing that the morning hugs and kisses with their daddy were to be their last embrace from him, this side of heaven.

Tani had his Bible in one hand along with his briefcase, which inside contained a written plan with ideas on how to combat this blood feud Kanun that has ingrained the idea of ‘rightful’ revenge in many Albanian minds who believe that following the code somehow supercedes waiting for 21st century law to hand out justice. The code is so strong that there is pressure on young men to take revenge for a family member’s blood (death) even if they themselves don’t want to. It is all about a family’s honor.

Last week on a TV program highlighting this archaic phenomenon, a local pastor involved in prison ministry told of a young man who was serving a prison sentence for having avenged the blood of his brother. When asked how he could kill someone at such a young age, his answer was shocking and heartbreaking. “For all these years, every single day my mother would curse me while eating, saying that I was having a homemade meal while my bother was ‘eating’ dust in the ground. Though in prison, somehow I feel I am more free.”

Pastor Tani’s death has been a wake-up call for the church in Albania and everyday citizens to stand up and bring attention to this code that still dominates the land and leaves hundreds of individuals cut off from society and fearing for their lives.

Last Saturday hundreds of evangelical Christians gathered at Mother Teresa Square on the main boulevard of town to peacefully rally on behalf of those who are entrapped in this violent cycle of revenge. In a solemn service several pastors spoke beseeching the government to open its eyes to this crisis and take action. Prayers were offered and 2 hymns were sung—the Albanian national anthem and the best-known Christian hymn, Amazing Grace.

Especially powerful and heartwrenching were the words of Tani’s wife, Elona, who spoke eloquently and passionately, emboldened by God’s grace and strength to implore all those listening to put an end to the tragedy of blood feuds through forgiveness. “True revenge…is in forgiving.”

Those words signify that with Tani’s death, this particular blood feud has come to an end, bringing release for the other male members of Tani’s family that were in hiding. Forgiveness is the only way to break the cycle of revenge.

Philip Yancey states in his book, What’s So Amazing About Grace: “The strongest argument for forgiveness is the alternative, a permanent state of unforgiveness.”

For Albania’s blood feud crisis – that quote could read—“The strongest argument for forgiveness is the alternative, a permanent state of blood feuds and vendettas, leaving lives shattered & broken and people hurting, hiding, fearing… not truly living.”

In one sense, Tani’s death is reflective of the Savior he loved and lived for, because in death, he set the male members in his family free from the blood fued cycle so that they can now live in the open. Similarly, Jesus’ death sets us free from the cycle of sin and isolation from God, and we no longer fear death, but rather experience true life in Him.

May God bring many stories of redemption through Tani’s example in both life and death, and may thousands of Albanians experience the freedom that he had found through a personal relationship with Jesus.

For a better understanding of Blood Feuds from Tani’s perspective in an article published just before his death, click here.

The Butterfly Effect, by Andy Andrews

Have you ever wondered if what you do day in and day out really makes a difference to the world around you? Do you seek to be purpose-driven in your work or family relationships, but then view the rest of life as hit and miss, or as of seeming insignificance?

Andy Andrews, throughout 109 colorful pages of this gift book, bases his inspiring message on the “Butterfly Effect”: “A butterfly could flap its wings and set molecules of air in motion, which would move other molecules of air, in turn moving more molecules of air—eventually capable of starting a hurricane on the other side of the planet”.

Applying this principle of cause and effect to our words and actions each day, we have the potential to alter history and powerfully impact peoples’ lives by even the smallest choices we make today.

Providing several provocative examples from the past of intertwining lives, choices made and how our world is different today as a result, Andy highlights the truth that we’ve been created with a unique purpose and that what we do with today matters, having the potential to dramatically shape unborn future generations.

A quick, motivating read Andy’s book would make a great gift for anyone who needs to be reminded of the value of the present moment and the eternal significance of their unique life’s contribution in the overall scheme of things.

The Boy Who Changed the World, by Andy Andrews

With vibrant colors splashing across each page comes the story of the boy who changed the world by inventing the seeds to grow ‘super plants’ that have helped to feed over 2 billion people over the course of time.

Was it really just one boy who altered the course of history forever through his actions? You’ll have to read the book to find out, but the message is an important one for children to embrace, that their individual lives are of great value to God and that every action they take, whether good or bad, has an impact on the lives of those around them.

As children read about the choices of former Vice President Henry Wallace, George Washington Carver (the inventor of the sweet potato), Nobel laureate Norman Borlaug and others, they will come to understand that our lives are intertwined in sometimes surprising ways with others and how God gives every person the amazing potential to change the world for good!

(Note: I reviewed these books as part of Thomas Nelson’s Blogger Review program called, Book Sneeze. In exchange, I received both books free of charge. )