Smart relaxing life

2012-05-09T16:35:00.002+09:30

Happy Change Quiz

What I think life is about
Happiness
Love
Loving each other
Helping each other
Forgiveness
Doing what we love
Progress
Motivation
Overcoming failures
Learning
Comfort zone
Using our limited time and energy well
Security
Emotional security
Getting to know people around us
Respect
Appreciation
Image
Hypocrisy
Respecting others
Health
Listening to our body
Freedom of choice
Consequences

How I think our mind works
Our thoughts
Habits
Emotions
Anger
Worry
Fear
Pride

Risks and benefits of this approach to life
About me
Why I'm writing this blog

Risks and benefits of this approach to life

2012-05-09T16:33:00.001+09:30

I’m not a mental health professional but I’ve experienced number of dramatic ups and downs in my life that urged me to take some time off and analyse the reasons for my successes and struggles. I’ve experimented with and researched very large number of different believes from very different cultures that helped me to clarify my thoughts and understand of what is happening to me and other people. As I have notices couple of unhealthy results of some philosophies, I decided that it’s very important for you to consider the effects of my life approach. I believe that every belief system, self-help or life coaching material should have a similar analysis.

I believe that when we change the way we think, we change the way we act and therefore our life. Because our thoughts can have this very powerful effect on every individual that takes on different ideas, it is very important to know what new thoughts can cause before we start believing in them. We need to consider all consequences when we decide to change our thoughts. Based on my life and observing others, if you belief in my thoughts and apply them to your life, the following extremes may happen. Please note that we are all different and the most likely outcome is in-between these extremes. I still believe that we do need to consider the risks and benefits before we start any new venture. Ultimately, it’s up to each one of you to decide whether you’re happy to give it a try.

All the risks listed bellow can be avoided with right precaution and security measures in place. Also following the whole approach rather than parts of it will avoid the listed risks. The following doesn’t cover all the risks and benefits, there can be other risk and benefits depending on your life and circumstances. Also my material is not intended to be a parenting advice.

Topics	Extreme good influences	Extreme short-term side effects

Loving each other	We experience what true love is all about.	We can eliminate all unhealthy relationships in our lives that might result in being lonely.

Helping each other	We make a big difference in other people’s lives while getting back all the good things that we deserve.	We refuse to help people that do not appreciate our help. We can stop helping people that do need help but we don’t know how to help them.

Forgiveness	We become very kind and tolerate other people’s mistakes while helping them not to do them again. Our influence makes people around us better.	We give people number of chances that can result in being hurt again.

Doing what we love	Success comes easy and we make our dreams come true.	We can lose our current livelihood when we risk too much.

Progress	We make every day better without trying too hard.	We don’t feel good when we’re not progressing and we start pressuring ourselves.

Motivation	We have a very strong drive to act and make our dreams come true.	It can be very disappointing when our efforts don’t work the way we would like them.

Overcoming failures	Our failures don’t stop us from trying to get what we want.	It creates sadness when we’re facing our failures and trying to learn from them.

Learning	We spent whole life constantly learning new things. Learning becomes easy.	We can spend a lot of time researching new ways and analysing our mistakes.

Comfort zone	We constantly keep changing and adapting. We make the best out of our circumstances.	There is not much stability in our life and it can make us feel quite uncomfortable.

Using our limited time and energy well	We only do things that are important to us and people around us.	We get pressured by time and can get quite impatient. We might lose respect when we neglect things that other people find important.

Emotional security	We know who we can trust when we need help.	We can stop trusting people.

Getting to know people around us	We learn how to read people very quickly and know how to deal with them.	We can jump to conclusions and make wrong judgements about others.

Appreciation	We only do things that we benefit from or other people appreciate and get highly respected for our valuable efforts.	We can upset number of people by refusing to do what they expect us to do.

Image	Our personality will become more important than our image.	We can receive some disrespect from people that consider image very important.

Hypocrisy	We admit and see that we are wrong much earlier and our mistakes will cause very little damage.	We become more open about our mistakes and some people can lose respect for us.

Respecting others	We attract very little hostility from others.	Some people might consider it weak that we treat everybody with respect.

Listening to our body	We become healthier.	We can become quite sensitive and overreact to every little pain.

Freedom of choice	We don’t let anybody to stop us from trying to get what we want.	It can create some short-term anxiety.

Consequences	We become good at influencing our future.	We might use wrong actions to create good consequences.

Our thoughts	Our actions will become subconscious and we’ll be able to make quick decisions. We’ll become smarter.	We can become quite honest and some people might not handle it.

Habits	We are able to change our habits very quickly and do not create any more bad habits.	If we’ve created a lot of bad habits in the past, we might feel bad before we change our bad habits.

Emotions	We know exactly why we feel certain way and can deal with our emotions very well.	If we haven’t dealt with our past yet, we can initially feel very sad before we accept our past.

Anger	We don’t get angry at all.	We create sadness when something is not going the way we would like it. This can interfere with our happiness.

Worry	We don’t worry about our future at all.	We can focus too much on security and prevention.

Fear	We aren’t scared of anything but we know what is worth doing and what is not.	We can become too focused on safety.

Pride	We only focus on the good things about us and accept that we aren’t perfect.	Some people might lose respect for us when we become tolerant of our mistakes.

Happiness	Every day brings happy moments that make us to love life and give us energy to get the most out of it.	Extreme excitement can have a negative influence on our health; especially on our heart, sleep and energy levels. Our happiness can also make other people jealous.

Respecting others

2012-03-05T13:17:00.001+10:30

I believe that we all are valuable human beings. We all deserve respect. We might not be valuable to everyone or give value all the time, but we all are worth respect from everyone because we all have a potential to add value to the world around us. It would be nice if we all treated each other with respect as a minimum. I believe that respect is about good manners, freedom and appreciation.

Everybody likes to be treated with courtesy. It’s good to have pleasant manners when we deal with people around us. It’s also good to know what fitting behaviour in certain situations is.

I also believe that we need to accept that we are all free to do what we want to do. This is valid for our opinions too; we are all entitled to our own opinion. All we can do is to create consequences in case we don’t like someone’s actions.

Also when we receive something that we value, we should appreciate it by giving back what is valued to them if we can. We cannot expect favours from anyone unless we give something valuable, it's up to the other people how generous they want to be. I believe that we all should help each other rather than using each other.

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Contents

Risks and benefits of this approach to life

Respecting others

Comfort Zone

Hypocrisy

Our pride

Fear

Consequences

Overcoming failures

Worry

Our thoughts

Anger

Loving each other

Emotional security

Forgiveness

Progress

Listening to our body

Image

Appreciation

Freedom of Choice

Doing what we love

Helping each other

Getting to know people around us

Emotions

Learning