Kathy Butryn

Pause Devotional: Check Your Connection

noreply@blogger.com (Kathy Butryn) — Mon, 26 Sep 2011 08:55:38 PDT

"Are you kidding me?" I thought as I glanced up at the screen at the front of the conference room. "Why me?"

Just moments before, the introductory slide of my power point presentation shone brightly--everything seemed to be fine.

I'll be honest. I hate technical difficulties--especially on this day--in front of the 45 pairs of sceptical eyes that made up the audience before me.

I wanted badly to leave a "good impression" with this new team.

I was pretty sure that seeing me fumble with the equipment would not be the best start.

My mind raced. How could I present an hour workshop without my slides?

Sending a workshop participant to the Conference Centre desk to request help, I boldly started to speak--as if nothing was wrong.

Within minutes, a nice man from tech support arrived. While still addressing the group, I caught a glimpse of him calmly bending down to pick something up from the floor.

Of course! The cord.

The slide presentation wasn't working because somehow the cord from the LCD projector to my laptop computer disconnected.

Why didn't I think to check that?????

Now fast forward.

"That's weird," I think to myself.

The first thing I do upon my arrival at my office is fire up my computer.

Within seconds of pushing the "on" button, my laptop would turn off.

Did I mention I hate technical difficulties?

"Why me?"

Annoyed and hurried, I called the Help Desk. After navigating all the prompts, I finally heard a "real person's" voice.

Patiently he asked me questions, created a ticket, and assured me that Desk Side Help would be dropping by very shortly to take a look at the problem.

"Before you go Kathy, could I get you to check the power source your laptop is connected to?" asked the nice man from the Help Desk.

"Sure," I replied.

I rolled my chair back, and bent down under my desk to get a better look.

That's when I saw it.

Yep. You guessed it. My laptop was not connected to a power source. It was turning off because it was drained of all it's stored power. It needed to recharge, and in order to do that, it need to be connected to a power source.

More than slightly embarrassed, I told the nice man to cancel my ticket, that I was sure I had discovered the issue and would not need Desk Side to drop by.

"Why," I asked myself, "is the power connection the last place I seem to look to find a solution to my technical issues?"

A reality.

Why, indeed. Seems to be a theme in my life.

I often find my soul, the very essence of my being, overwhelmed with my self-inflicted/overloaded schedule; unloving to those who mean the most to me; impatient with a simple question; agitated by what I view as inaction, mediocrity or incompetence; and exhausted by the demands in my life--real or imagined.

"Why me?" I pout.

Until I hear the whisper.

Not from the Help Desk or the tech guy from the Conference Centre.

Not a chiding or "talkin' to."

But an invitation.

To connect--again.

To THE Power Source.

To spend time with Him. To listen to Him as I read His Word. To confess and repent of my heart attitudes. To pray.

Yet, often it's the last place I "check."

You see:

His power is all we need for life - (2 Peter 1:3)

By His power we are strengthened (Colossians 1:11)

It is his power that is at work within us. (Ephesians 3:20)

Feeling hurried, overwhelmed, agitated--just downright powerless. Need to recharge?

Have you checked your connection--to THE Power Source?

Why not accept His whispered invitation to connect...today.

An Ordinary, Everyday Opportunity for Transformation

noreply@blogger.com (Kathy Butryn) — Mon, 12 Sep 2011 10:49:06 PDT

It was annoying. Doesn't he get it? How many times did I have to say "no" before he gets the message: I just don't want one.

The same man. Morning after morning.

Like watching my kettle slowly reach the boiling point for my morning tea, I was aware of that feeling of irritation deep within me rising to a "heated bubbling" state before even being dropped off at the subway.

I'm not sure why I was so annoyed. He was only doing his job.

Everyday he offered me a free daily newspaper.

Everyday I said no.

But that day, I walked right by him without acknowledging his free offering.

Looking back, I'm kind of suspicious I had a fairly grumpy look on my face too.

"Have a good day, Ma'am." he said with a thick accent.

"Did he just speak to me?" I thought. It caught me by surprise. That was the first time I had ever heard him speak.

In the split second that I turned my grumpy-looking face toward him, our eyes met, and he smiled.

Not a "lady-if-you-want-to-have-an-attitude-with-me-then-I'll-show-you" mocking kind of smile.

No, it was a genuine smile.

I half-smiled.

But I also got to thinking.

Standing on a crowded subway platform with my fellow-commuters, I asked myself, "Is that how I always treat people who annoy me? What could I learn from this?"

Settled into a seat, I pulled out my notebook and wrote down the following:

Lessons Learned So Far Today (and it's only 6:50 am)

1. Keep things in perspective: I was annoyed and irritated day after day about being offered a newspaper. Like, hello? What was the big deal, really???

2. Look at it his way: After all, he is only trying to do the best job he can at his job.

3. Treat others with respect: I had disrespected him in thought and action.

4. I can choose my attitude: Yep, I had made a choice to be annoyed and irritated long before arriving at the subway station. If I made that choice, I sure could make another choice too--to be pleasant.

5. I had an opportunity to help make someone's day better: I may not have wanted the newspaper, but I still could have offered a smile and a cheery "good morning!"

6. Keep my eyes wide open - everyone can teach me something: Even the guy passing out the free newspapers. Think about it. He taught me #1-5 today. And it's only 7:00 am!

Closing my notebook, my mind wanders.

"Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others."

-Philippians 2:3-4

What would Jesus have done?

I'm not sure, but the above verse speaks to what we must do to align our own attitude to Jesus' example of humility in Philippians 2.

Out comes my notebook. I add number 7 to my list above.

7. God loves me so much, that He gives me ordinary, everyday opportunities that allow Him to transform me into the image of His Son, Jesus: God is in the heart changing business, and He wants to change me from the inside out. In His grace He allowed me to see an area of my current "state-of-heart" that needed His adjusting touch.

The Next Day:

Man: (passes me a copy of the newspaper)

Me: "No thanks."

Man: (smiles) "Have a good day, Ma'am!"

Me: (full-on smile) "And right back at ya!"

Me: (walking toward turnstiles) "Father, may he get even a small glimpse of You and Your love through our tiny interaction today."

What is annoying you today? What are you irritated about? What can you learn? Is it an opportunity God is using to transform you from the inside out?

Go about today with your eyes wide open. He is always teaching us!

Remember, God loves you so much that He gives you ordinary, everyday opportunities that allow Him to transform you into the image of His Son, Jesus.

love you,

A Sabbath Pause - Is This Your Prayer?

noreply@blogger.com (Kathy Butryn) — Sun, 04 Sep 2011 04:12:28 PDT

I just can't put into words what is stirring in my soul.

I need help.

I reach for my Celtic Daily Prayer Book.

Slowly turning the pages, my eyes scan words. I am looking for just the right words.

I find them.

Yes, this is is it.

The right words. For right now.

Lord, help me now to unclutter my life,

to organize myself in the direction of simplicity.

Lord, teach me to listen to my heart;

teach me to welcome change, instead of fearing it.

Lord, I give You these stirrings inside me,

I give You my discontent,

I give You my restlessness,

I give You my doubt,

I give You my despair,

I give You all the longings I hold inside.

Help me to listen to these signs of change, of growth;

to listen seriously and follow where they lead

through the breathtaking empty space of an open door.

(Page 220, Celtic Daily Prayer: Prayers and Readings from the Northumbria Community)

I wonder.

Could these be the right words--for right now--for other women?

The words that escape defining the stirring within their own souls?

So I share it with you...and ask.

Is this your prayer?

Then let's pray it again. Together.

Together, we boldly give Him our longings, our despair, our doubt, our discontent, our restlessness.

Together, we learn to listen.

And we hear Him. Through His Word.

Your Word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.

Psalm 119:105

He will teach us. Through His Word.

Because this is our prayer.

To Help You PAUSE:

ONE: If this is your prayer, write it out on a 3X5 card. Put it in your purse or daytimer. Or if you prefer all things digital, copy it to your phone or computer.

This week, pray your prayer--with a surrendered heart--throughout the day...while you are waiting for an appointment; during your commute; before you get out of bed in the morning; while you are making meals; while you are in the bathroom (we like to make the best use of ALL our time!!!).You get the idea.

TWO: As you pray your prayer, read His Word. He leads us, speaks to us, guides us, and teaches us through His Word

THREE: Ask Him to show you the breath-taking space of an open door that He may be leading you through.

A Sabbath Pause - God Is Our Refuge In the Storm, Don't Be Afraid

noreply@blogger.com (Kathy Butryn) — Sun, 28 Aug 2011 12:55:31 PDT

Praying today for my American friends, colleagues, and blog readers who are in the path of hurricane Irene.

Pause to remember that...

..."God is our refuge and strength,

a very present help in trouble.

Therefore we will not fear though the earth gives way,

though the mountains be moved into the heart of the sea,

though it's waters roar and foam,

though the mountains tremble at its swelling."

Whatever storm is blowing through your life right now,

pause to remember that God is your refuge.

Do not be afraid.

Be still, and know that He is God.

Psalm 46: 1-3, 10 ESV

A Sabbath Pause - Only One Thing Matters

noreply@blogger.com (Kathy Butryn) — Sun, 21 Aug 2011 05:00:57 PDT

"There is only one relationship that matters, and that is your personal relationship to a personal Redeemer and Lord. Let everything else go, but maintain that at all cost, and God will fulfill His purpose through your life. (This includes meeting the needs of your heart.) One individual life may be of priceless value to God's purposes, and yours may be that life."

-Oswald Chambers

Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. - Matthew 6:33 (ESV)

What really matters to you?

Your job? Your home? The internet? The latest technology? Your kids? Pursuing youthfulness? Recreation and leisure? Protecting your time? Your stuff? Your (fill-in-the-blank).

Only one thing matters: A personal relationship with Jesus.

Everything else comes second.

Steep your life in God-reality, God-initiative, God-provisions. Don't worry about missing out. You'll find all your everyday human concerns will be met. - Matthew 6:33 (The Message)

Take a Sabbath Pause.

Decide today what really matters.

Because, the truth is, only one thing matters.

My View of the Workplace is Changing...Daily. Is Yours?

noreply@blogger.com (Kathy Butryn) — Fri, 19 Aug 2011 07:04:31 PDT

My view of the workplace is changing. Daily.

At times through the years, it was a place to be endured. At other times, an means to an end.

Sometimes I rather enjoyed it. And sometimes--well, not so much.

At all times, it was a place to fulfill a commitment to contribute financially to our family.

But it wasn't the place I lived my real life.

Coaching. Women's ministry. Church life. Speaking. Writing. Preparing.

Now we're talkin'.

Those were the life-giving ingredients to my real life. They fed my soul.

"Lord, when can I finally just do the life-giving things instead of the workplace things?" I would lament. "It's ministry that I want to do. Can't you see, Lord? Ministry."

"Kathy," He quietly whispered. "The workplace is ministry."

This time, I listened.

You see, my view of the workplace is changing. Daily.

Sure. I get to be a Learning Specialist and Coach. I get speaking/facilitating/presenting opportunities every week. I get to coach individuals within our organization--to walk with them as they close sabotaging gaps in order to grow more effectively to their potential--and more.

I love my role...the things that I get to do.

But I didn't always have this role. I've had roles that I didn't particularly love.

In my listening, I learned it's not about my role--or if I love it or not.

It's about this:

I get to join God where HE is at work in my workplace. In the lives of people in my workplace.

He chose me for such a time as this in such a place as this. Isn't that amazing?!

Will you allow me to encourage you today?

My friend, it's not about your role--whether you love it or not.

It's about this:

That you get to join God where HE is at work in your workplace. In the lives of people in your workplace.

People, listen to me. God is alive and well in the workplace. How cool is that?

My view of the workplace is changing. Daily.

"Ministry Lord, it's Your ministry that I want consuming my brief life on this earth. Why aren't you allowing me to 'do ministry'?" my heart cried out.

"My sweet Kathy," He whispered. "Open your eyes. Look around. I've given you your heart's desire. For this season, it looks like this. Will you join me?"

God is changing my view of the workplace. Daily.

Will you allow Him to change yours? He chose you for such a time as this, in such a place as this.

In the Workplace: What I Know About Starting A Workplace Small Group

noreply@blogger.com (Kathy Butryn) — Wed, 17 Aug 2011 16:28:50 PDT

Every Wednesday at noon we meet. For about 30 minutes or so.

Sometimes there are 10 of us. Sometimes 3. Sometimes 6 or 7.

Just depends if it is month end, quarter end, or summer vacation time.

All together, there are 18 of us.

The "us" I am referring to?

The amazing women from our Workplace Small Group.

That's what we affectionately call it.

All on a faith journey. At different spots along the way, but same desire--to know God more.

We share prayer requests. I pray. I give a devotional. We share. We care. Sometimes, we cry. Lots of times, we laugh.

We took a picture of our hands today representing our support and care of each other.

Someone recently asked me how to start a Workplace Small Group.

So, here's what I know about starting a Workplace Small Group.

1. I don't know how to start a Workplace Small Group.

Yes it's true. The first thing I know is that, well, I don't know. Truth is, I was rather resistant to the whole idea. Who would come? Where would we meet? And wouldn't it be a bit weird to teach a Bible Study at my place of employment?

2. Pray

The nudge just wouldn't go away. I'd pray, "God, if you really want me to step out and do this, you've got to confirm it in some notable way." He would. Until one day I sensed Him saying enough with the "confirming." Time to do something about it. This is literally months after the first inkling of starting a Workplace Small Group.

3. Watch

Watch, because you will be surprised and delighted to see how God allows your path to intersect with other people's path in the workplace. Those who are on a faith journey. Those who are seeking.

4. Be Bold

Make a move. Be bold to connect with the few that cross your path. Be bold to ask for a place to meet. In our case, the news travelled quickly, because the "few I connected with" were boldly spreading the word among their colleagues. They were awesome!

5. Have a Support Team Praying For You

My Workplace Small Group doesn't know this yet (they will after reading this post), but there are a group of seniors from my church praying for us each week. So is Sharon, my sweet friend and prayer partner. So thankful for all of their "behind the scenes" ministry to our little group.

So, that's all I know so far about starting a Workplace Small Group.

Just to keep leaning into God's grace and learning as we go.

Maybe, just maybe, God is nudging you to start a Workplace Small Group? I'd love to hear about it! Why not leave a comment.

Before I go, just want to send a shout-out to the special women who's hands you see in today's photo...I love you all! It's a joy being on this journey with you!

I am recording our series on "How to Listen to God" as podcasts and posted them here. You are welcome to listen in!

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Pause Devotional - What To Do When Tears Fall

noreply@blogger.com (Kathy Butryn) — Mon, 15 Aug 2011 05:23:25 PDT

She sat in the temple. Infertility had caused great distress of soul. Hannah prayed. She cried. (I Samuel 1:10).

She's in my workplace small group. The cancer had returned. She wasn't sure "how long" her sister-in-law had. And last week her father-in-law was diagnosed with cancer. The same cancer. A family suffering. In our workplace small group, we share tears.

She comes to my cubicle and through her tears, she asks me to pray for her. No one knows. They are getting a divorce.

She suffered in silence all those years. "Virgin birth? Yeh, right," she felt them say. Misunderstood and judged. How did she feel when she watched her beloved Son beat and broken and nailed to a cross? (John 18-19). I wonder how many times Mary cried?

Suffering. Pain.

It comes in all sizes, ways and intensities.

Infertility, misunderstanding, watching a child suffer, walking through a serious or terminal health condition, broken relationships, divorce, financial stress, loss of a loved one, miscarriage, emotional/mental/physical pain.

None of us are exempt. The tears will fall.

What do we do when the tears fall?

Take a quiet 4:49 minutes to listen to Tim Hughes' song "When the Tears Fall."

The tears will fall. We will have questions without answers.

Will we praise Him? Will we trust Him?

"As the heavens are higher than the earth,

so are My ways higher than our ways

and My thoughts than your thoughts."

- Isaiah 55:9

Love you,

A Sabbath Pause

noreply@blogger.com (Kathy Butryn) — Sun, 14 Aug 2011 04:13:04 PDT

I am not what I ought to be.

I am not what I want to be.

I am not what I hope to be.

But still, I am not what I used to be.

And by the grace of God, I am what I am.

-John Newton

PAUSE

Take a moment to still your body and quiet your mind.

PONDER

Who do you ought to be? Who do you want to be? Who do you hope to be?

PRAISE

Bow before Him. Thank Him that He is constantly transforming you and has brought you where you are.

"And I am sure of this, that He who began a good work in you

will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ."

-Philippians 1:6 (ESV)

A Sabbath Pause.

A time to remember that He is still at work in us.

We humbly thank you Lord.

Yesterday: Four Things I Learned

noreply@blogger.com (Kathy Butryn) — Fri, 12 Aug 2011 08:07:30 PDT

Four thousand women.

Awesome speakers: Ellen DeGeneres. Suzanne Somers. Jill Bolte Taylor. Loretta Laroche. Amilya Antonetti. Leigh Anne Tuohy.

Each with stories.

Stories that made us laugh. Stories the touched certain parts of our core that reminded us that "we--the ordinary" are no different from "them--the famous."

I watched. I listened.

And I learned (again)...

that everyone has something of value to offer, and that I can learn from them
that adversity is a thread that weaves through everyone's life, but the people who look it in the face, deal with it, learn from it, and grow through it, are the people who are the world changers and influencers
that I have an opportunity to be a world changer everyday--I can make a difference in someone's life
that I am responsible for the choices I make each day, and those choices will effect who I am and my quality of life and health one, five, and twenty years from now

Then I left. Full.

Full of ideas. Thoughts to filter. Questions to pursue.

I also left grateful.

Grateful to have been able to spend yesterday with 3 most awesome women from my work.

Grateful that God uses anything and anyone to teach us when we are willing to look, learn and pay attention.

That was my yesterday at Power of Women.

How was your yesterday? What did you learn?

Keep your eyes wide open today--pay attention. God is up to something to grow you--and it might come from a surprising place!

What Will You Be Most Disappointed About 20 Years From Now?

noreply@blogger.com (Kathy Butryn) — Wed, 10 Aug 2011 05:00:27 PDT

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do.

So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbour.

Catch the trade winds in your sails.

Explore. Dream. Discover.

-Mark Twain

Pretend you are 20 years older than you are right now.

How old would that make you?

Sit there for a while. An older you.

What does the older you wish you had done over the past 20 years?

Is the older you disappointed that you didn't do it?

The good news: There is still time to do something about that.

But you have to start...today.

The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago.

The second best time is today.

Live wise. Make today count. For God's glory.

If you do, you will likely be less disappointed 20 years from now.

Making my list now. How about you?

Thoughts?

Meal-planning-preparing-cooking can make today count!

noreply@blogger.com (Kathy Butryn) — Tue, 09 Aug 2011 05:00:24 PDT

I really admire people who cook.

Actually, let me rephrase that.

I really admire people who love to cook.

I can cook. I just don't love to cook. Never have.

Fact: The whole meal-planning-preparing-cooking thing has always been a bit of a struggle for me. I'd rather be, well...reading. Or browsing through recipe books. Go figure.

Reality: My kids will tell ya and so will the Rev. There have been many times that home cooked meals were trumped by pizza delivery.

I am working on this area in my life. Why? Because even meal-planning-preparing-cooking plays a part in making today count.

Around the table, memories are made. Days are shared. Relationships are strengthened. You know, the stuff that makes our day count.

Enter: My best kitchen friend.

Secretly, this is the one I would like to be my best kitchen friend. (One day!)

Anyways...I love my slow cooker.

I also love this site. I get so many ideas there. Like this one.

Even though it was a hot summer day--which might be a bit unusual for a hot soup, I decided to try it.

Plus, to be quite honest, I was kinda hankerin' The Olive Garden. Can't find one of those in Toronto anymore.

The best part? My family says..."it's a keeper." (aka "you can make this again, Mom")

There's even some left over for lunches at work tomorrow.

Conclusion: For a good part of my life, I thought it was the BIG things that make our day count.

As I grow in wisdom (and age), I understand it's the little things--the simple things--that make our day count.

Things like a family meal.

So I'm going to keep working on it.

How about you?

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Pause Devotional - God Loves You

noreply@blogger.com (Kathy Butryn) — Tue, 09 Aug 2011 02:08:00 PDT

I heard about it while I was at work and felt immediate concern.

Not that a call like that is unusual. Being a ministry partner with the Rev. for most of our married life, we'd often get these kinds of calls.

It's just that this time it was a baby only in the first weeks of her wee life.

I met the Rev. at Sick Kids Hospital several hours later. Together we went to Baby Bea's room.

The crib seemed gigantuous in proportion to her tiny frame; her little head covered by an oxygen tent.

Monitors surrounding the head of the crib where somehow--somewhere--connected to that sweet girl. They made constant noise while recording data way beyond my understanding.

And every once in a while, an alarm would sound.

It was an ugly noise.

The kind of noise that puts every nerve ending in your body on high alert. Like you should be doing something, but you have no idea what.

Yep, I had made the right decision not to be a nurse.

Since I was a young girl, I could picture myself proudly wearing a crisp white uniform and cap with a black velvet ribbon on it, floating from hospital bed to hospital bed, tucking patients in for a good night's rest.

A modern-day Florence Nightingale so to speak.

That fantasy ended when I discovered that apparently nursing includes bodily fluids and functions.

And it includes--computers, monitors, oxygen tanks, and machines. Too much stress. What if I pushed the wrong button? Pulled the wrong plug?

But what stood out to me was all of that didn't seem to even phase Jon--Bea's daddy.

Could it be because he is a Paramedic?

Maybe.

He stood by Bea's crib, his fingers gently stroking Bea as if to assure her of his presence. Although engaged in our conversation, his eyes traveled from monitor to monitor, observing each "beep."

When the "ugly" noise happened, he knew exactly what to do.

The Rev. asked me to pray for Bea, Becky and Jon. And even then, Jon was vigilant in watching over Bea and her condition.

I know. I peeked.

I left Bea's room with a knowing.

A knowing that I had just witnessed an amazing example of a father's love.

A knowing that if this earthly father could demonstrate such love and protection over his child during this vulnerable, scary and uncertain time, how much more does our Heavenly Father demonstrate His love and protection over us...His children...in our vulnerable, scary and uncertain times. More importantly, in all times.

A knowing that I was gifted with a tiny--yet tangible--glimpse into the vastness of God the Father's love for me...His daughter.

Starting with the gift of His Son, Jesus.

Listen, and let the words of this song wash God's love over your heart.

I pray you have a knowing.

A knowing that as vulnerable as you may be right now, as scary or uncertain things are for you right now, God loves you.

The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; His mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is Your faithfulness. "The Lord is my portion," says my soul, "therefore I will hope in Him."

Lamentations 3:22-24

Remember, His steadfast love never ceases...

love you,

Here is a picture of Bec, Jon, and their sweet kids not long after Baby Bea came home. We thank you Lord for her continued health!

Look At It This Way - Just finished this great summer read

noreply@blogger.com (Kathy Butryn) — Sat, 06 Aug 2011 11:15:33 PDT

"I just couldn't put it down."

At least that's my story for spending a whole Saturday morning in bed reading from my KOBO.

The book that captured my attention?

Look At It This Way...Straightforward Wisdom to Put Life in Perspective by Jan Silvious.

Here's an excerpt from the final pages of the book that help to sum it all up:

"When your grid is straightened with the truth, and you are living life with a clear perspective, you'll begin telling yourself and your friends to "look at it this way." You will know that:

This is one event in a lifetime of events
What might have been does not exist
"They said" doesn't make it true
If something doesn't work, change it.
Fretting only destroys you.
Don't tell everything you know.
Feeling guilty doesn't mean you are.
There is a God, and you are not Him.
Attitude is everything.
The last chapter has not yet been written.

Jan continues:

"There's no magic in these words, but the truth indeed does set us free (John 8:32). I assure you that if you will practice theses maxims--and make them part of your thought choices no matter what is going on--you'll be a changed person. You'll enjoy a healthy, peaceful mind, emotional well-being, and spiritual confidence. In turn, you will experience ever-improving relationships."

(taken from the "Conclusion" of Look At It This Way by Jan Silvious)

Why did I enjoy this book so much?

It is full of practical strategies for everyday living.
Jan is very straightforward and to the point.
Jan hits my "yeh, but..." excuses with poignant truth.
The examples from Jan's own personal and professional life substantiates that she walks her talk.
I recognized gaps from each of the above maxims where I was sabotaging my own emotional health and well-being...some of those gaps have been there most of my life. Oh my.
I feel inspired and courageous to choose to straighten the grid of my bent perspective--with God's truth, His help and in His power.
The truths in this book are helping me to better make my today count!

What can I say...this has been a great summer read...that will have a lasting influence in the seasons of my life long past summer!

Make today count...read a great book that builds into your life--heh, maybe it will be this one!

What have you been reading this summer?

Four Dangerous Mindsets That Waste Our Day

noreply@blogger.com (Kathy Butryn) — Fri, 05 Aug 2011 09:00:55 PDT

I desire to make each day count.

But more times than not, I struggle to make each day count.

It's not that I don't have the intention to make it count.

But good intentions alone a well-lived day does not make.

I must fight.

Become a warrior.

A warrior against dangerous mindsets that quietly encroach their agenda upon my intentions, my plans, my prayers, my desires.

By nature, I am not a warrior. But I am finally understanding that if I want fewer regrets; if I want to live out God's purpose for my life, then I must hone my warrior skills.

Starting with some dangerous mindsets.

THE "BURY-MY-HEAD-IN-THE-SAND" MINDSET

In other words, what I don't see, I don't need to own or be responsible for.

I can always fall back on the "well, no one told me" or "I had no idea" excuse.

THE "IT-CAN-WAIT-UNTIL-TOMORROW" MINDSET

Just stepping off the battlefield after a war with this one.

The post you are reading right now almost got written tomorrow. Maybe.

You see, the content for this post has been on my mind for several weeks now.

Today, the warrior won.

It wasn't easy.

Easy is heading out to my backyard and sitting for a while, dreaming about what my "perfect life" would look like.

Easy is picking up my KOBO and making myself feel good about reading something amazing and motivating that will help me make my day count.

Actually, easy is anything that distracts me, keeps me from my calling, yet gives me the false perception--and comfort--that I am actually accomplishing and being productive.

Productive? Maybe.

Effective. No.

THE "WHO-EVEN-GIVES-A-CARE-WHAT-I-DO-ANYWAY" MINDSET

Every toilet-cleaning, diaper-changing, laundry-folding, lunch-making, nose-wiping, shoe-clearing, taxi-driving, homework-motivating, bake sale-baking mamma is at war with it.

Every employee at some point--to some degree--fights it.

"Do I really make a difference doing the same thing over and over again?" "Does anyone even notice, let alone care what I do?"

Weighty questions that lead to heavy souls.

THE "I'LL-DO-JUST-ENOUGH-TO-GET-BY" MINDSET

Just enough.

Enough to meet the "basic requirement." Enough to stay "under the radar." Enough to look like I finished.

Just enough--before it becomes complex or complicated.

When it requires my best.

HOW IS A WARRIOR TO FIGHT AGAINST THESE DANGEROUS MINDSETS?

This warrior has tried many things.

She still comes back to one thing.

A new mindset. A life-giving perspective.

The WHY.

The FOR WHO.

"So then, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you may do, do all for the honour and glory of God."

I Corinthians 10:31 (Amplified)

Engage in the war my fellow warriors. Fight the dangerous mindsets that threaten to steal your day...and life.

Today can count for eternity when we remember the WHY, the FOR WHO, and most importantly, when we keep our eyes on THE ONE.

praying,

What dangerous mindsets do you battle?

my desire today - an undivided heart

noreply@blogger.com (Kathy Butryn) — Fri, 22 Jul 2011 07:22:45 PDT

So many distractions...

..and, so many good things.

To make today count, I must choose.

Choose the best from the good.

Chose the one thing from the growing multiplicity of distractions that constantly yank at me for my attention.

I want this prayer to be my choice today:

Train me, God, to walk straight; then I'll follow Your true path.

Put me together, one heart and one mind; then, undivided I'll worship in joyful fear.

Psalm 86:11-12

Praying. Meditating. Trusting.

Desiring to make today count.

How about you?

What verse spurs you on to make today count? Why not leave a comment below...

necessary evaluations

noreply@blogger.com (Kathy Butryn) — Wed, 20 Jul 2011 05:32:41 PDT

Vacation is over. For now, anyway.

Back at work today. And glad to be.

I am blessed. I work part time. Doing a job I absolutely love.

First thing on my to-do list tomorrow: finish preparing my 6 month performance review for a meeting with my boss on Thursday afternoon.

Can I just say--six months goes by real fast!

It seems like just yesterday I set my business goals for 2011. Now we are over half-way through 2011.

How much have I accomplished so far? What still needs to be done? In what ways can I improve?

All questions I am reflecting on. Questions that remind me (oh my, how quickly I can forget!) what my original goals were anyway.

That helps me grow professionally.

That challenges me to dig in and focus in the next 6 months.

Funny, I very much welcome the evaluation process; yet, sometimes find myself squirming uncomfortably through the process.

In another season of my life, I squirmed because my greatest concern was whether my boss "liked" me or not. I needed the affirmation.

Not so much now. Probably because with age comes a deeper confidence. Maybe.

But I still squirm--because I see the gaps. The places where I lost focus of my goals--because quite honestly, I just didn't feel like giving my best. The places I "fudged" because I was lazy.

That's why I NEED this evaluation process. I NEED accountability in order to be the best me I can be. I NEED to see where I can improve. I NEED to be reminded of the why I am doing what I am doing.

I also NEED to celebrate the successes. Those places where growth has taken place. Those times when what I do does make a difference.

Times of evaluation help me see all that. And more.

Socrates said, "An unexamined life is a wasted life."

Can I just say--six months goes by real fast.

Is it time for you to ask yourself the hard questions? Both personally and professionally.

"What goals have I accomplished so far this year?"

"What still needs to be done?"

"How can I improve?"

Because the next six months will go by real fast.

And an unexamined life is a wasted life.

...wisdom to make today count!

timely quote about time

noreply@blogger.com (Kathy Butryn) — Mon, 11 Jul 2011 04:00:12 PDT

Time is the coin of your life.

It is the only coin you have, and only you can determine how it will be spent.

Be careful lest you let other people spend it for you.

– Carl Sandburg

A well-lived day is anchored in well-made choices.

How will you choose to spend your time today?

Let's choose to choose wisely!

take today moment by moment

noreply@blogger.com (Kathy Butryn) — Sun, 10 Jul 2011 07:38:07 PDT

It might be a Sunday that is packed with non-stop ministry demands from early morning to eight in the evening.

Or it could be on a workday, keeping up to the fast-pace of teaching workshops and coaching, with very little "thinking time" to get ready for the next hour, let alone the next day.

I know for sure it has happened regularly as a wife and mommy. Those ordinary at-home days throughout the years and the stages of our family life. In fact, it still does.

Here's what I am talking about:

I can't even begin to count the times I get up/gotten up in the morning, reviewed a demanding to-do list captured in my Planner Pad, only to feel tired--and at times, stressed--about what the day holds. "How am I ever going to get through today?" is the literal cry of my heart.

Have you ever felt like that?

Here's our invitation today: To pause. To be reminded of and reflect on the truths below:

"REMEMBER that your work comes only moment by moment, and as surely as God calls you to work, He gives the strength to do it. Do not think in the morning, "How shall I go through this day? I have such-and-such work to do, and persons to see, and I have not strength for it." No, you have not, for you do not need it. Each moment, as you need it, the strength will come, only do not look forward an hour; circumstances may be very different from what you expect. At any rate you will be borne through each needful and right thing "on eagles' wings." Do not worry yourself with misgivings; take each thing quietly."

 PRISCILLA MAURICE

Whatever it is you or I are facing today, may we know "in quietness and trust is our strength" (Isaiah 30:15), and that the Lord stands by our side and gives us strength (2 Timothy 4:17).

My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is made perfect in weakness. Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me.

2 Corinthians 12:9

So what's up for you today? Take it moment by moment.

After all, a well-lived day is anchored in well-made choices.

love you and praying for you,

looking forward to another new normal

noreply@blogger.com (Kathy Butryn) — Thu, 07 Jul 2011 04:00:03 PDT

What more could I add? This picture says it all!

a new kind of normal

noreply@blogger.com (Kathy Butryn) — Wed, 06 Jul 2011 04:58:06 PDT

Here is the devotional I told you about yesterday. Although I wrote it several years ago, the truth--from God's Word--remains the same. I trust it will be a blessing to you today!

This week, I've hear the word "normal" a few times. It started when my precious girlfriend sent me an email describing her desperate desire for everything in her life to return to "normalcy" as they adjust to new family situations.

Over tea with another girlfriend this weekend, we bonded at a deeper level as we discussed the difficulties of having children with disabilities - in this case visually impaired and hearing impaired. We talked about how life has never really been "normal" as we have walked through challenges with our children...and how we have had to loosen our control over them as they face the challenges on their own. Sometimes, quite honestly, there was/is a place in our heart that longs for them to experience "normal."

Then, Sunday, during a visit to the cemetery to water the flowers at my dear father-in-law's grave, Alan's mom and I sat on a bench in the warm sunshine discussing her frustration with a recent change in the pace she can now move at. "This is much slower, and just not how I 'normally' am," she said.

All this talk about "normal." It's a rather subjective term, don't you think? In other words, what's normal for me may not be to you, and visa versa. What exactly is "normal?"

Without visiting my friend, Mr. Webster to look it up, I came to the conclusion that when we want life to get back to normal, we are really saying we want the way of life back that we are most familiar and comfortable with.

Many things can shake up our "normal worlds." The death of a loved one; the consequences of an affair; illness; the birth of a baby...or babies in some cases; children leaving home - and moving far away; the special, ongoing challenges of family members like autism, physical disabilities etc.; accidents; job loss; marriage; divorce. There are umpteen things that can blind-side us unawares and knock us right off our feet. In other cases, we can see the warning signs of impending change coming at us...just like watching the storm clouds rolling in above us, warning us of a change in weather.

In talking to these women over the past few days, and in contemplating the seasons in my own life where my heart cried out for some "normalcy" or getting my life back to the place where I was most familiar and comfortable, I realized there was a common word that keeps creeping up in every scenario. That word is CHANGE.

Funny how we are anxious for others to change - but we don't want anything to upset the delicate balance of our own definition of "normal." However, if we are going to be truthful...and realistic, change in our lives is inevitable. So how do we deal with it?

1. Surrender:
Beneath the surface, we have this inborn determination to run our own lives, and an unwillingness and deep resistance to being mastered by Christ...the King of kings. One of the results of "going it our own way" is a growing frustration and anger brewing deep within us. Surrender is really a re-alignment of our allegiance...from our own way to God's way. It's about giving up our right to control the situation with tight-lipped resolve. Is it time to say "no" to yourself, and "yes" to God? Do you need to wave the white flag of heart-surrender today?

2. Be Courageous
Psalm 31:24 spoke deeply to my heart this past week during a "surrender struggle" of my own. Here's what it says...

"Be strong and let your heart take courage all you who wait for and hope for and expect the Lord."

Without a doubt, it takes courage when we are faced with uncertainties, to let the courage replace the fear that sometimes paralyzes us when our life takes a turn off the "familiar and comfortable" road. How will you take courage today?

3. Trust:
Easier said than done, right? My mind keeps taking me back to Proverbs 3:5..."trust in the Lord with ALL your heart." Are you feeling like life is "abnormal" right now? Are you trusting the Lord with ALL your heart? Take a moment right now and ask God to show you those places in your heart and life where you are not trusting. Are you willing to surrender those areas to him today?

4. Share:
I am so fortunate to have a handful of godly women in my life that I connect with weekly at a deeper level than "how are ya?" It has taken time to find these like-minded women and cultivate the trust in our relationship. They are truly an answer to prayer. I especially need these gals during times of change because they bear my burdens, they pray for me, they cheer me on, and they help me keep perspective on my life. Galatians 6:2 describes this kind of relationship when it says "bear one another's burdens." Are you surrounded with godly folks that will will "bear your burdens" especially during times of change? Are you open to this kind of accountability relationship in your life? Are you willing to ask God to bring these kind of people into your life?

I'm not sure where you are today. Perhaps you are wishing for your "normal" life back? Ask God what it is he wants you to learn in this less than comfortable and familiar season in your life. Ask him to help you to wave the white flag of your heart in surrender, to help you face each day with courage, to give you a greater trust...and trust that includes ALL your heart, and ask him to bring into your life trusted relationships to share your burdens with.

One thing never changes...

"Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever." (Hebrews 13:8)

That, my sweet friends, we can count on!

until next time,

navigating a new normal

noreply@blogger.com (Kathy Butryn) — Tue, 05 Jul 2011 04:44:08 PDT

The birds are singing. The leaves are dancing to the tune of a gentle and welcomed breeze.

I look over my backyard--and my to-do list for the house, and, well--not all is done. There's SO much more to do in our new-to-us home.

But for now, all is well. That's my choice for this moment. To be content.

Content. To sit. Ponder. Write. Read. Reflect. Plan. Pray. With gratitude. And with tea, of course!

Remembering the past few months of transition. Where "all is well" seemed to avoid me, and I wondered if it would return.

packing up our previous home

That's what transition does. It is unsettling. Pushes us out of our comfort zone. And at times, it confuses us. We wonder if anything will ever be normal again?

It will be. Maybe not the old normal we are used to, but a new normal.

Like washing my sheets on Monday morning--an old weekly routine that has finally made it's way back into it's regular time slot in my weekly schedule.

Or seeing our "old" stuff in a new setting.

The simple, ordinary, familiar things. It's all beginning to feel like normal.

I'm glad. I like feeling "normal" again.

But sometimes it's not so simple, so ordinary, or so familiar.

It's complex. It takes far more time to feel "normal" again

Things like...

a journey through breast cancer treatments
loss of a loved one or friend
depression
separation from loved ones due to a move or relational difficulties
the consequences of a decision you/someone else poorly made
the consequences of a decision you/someone else rightly made
job loss
career changes

Are you navigating a new normal today? You aren't alone.

Drop by tomorrow to discover specific ways to navigate our new normal, whatever that "normal" may be.

But for now...

The birds are singing. The leaves are dancing to the tune of a gentle and welcomed breeze.

All is well.

That's my choice for this moment.

To be content.

How about you?

the here and now: live for today!

noreply@blogger.com (Kathy Butryn) — Wed, 29 Jun 2011 15:33:25 PDT

"How was your day?"

Not an unusual question to be asked around most dinner tables. The usual response here at the Butryn house is: "Good. How was yours?"

But I wonder how we would answer if we were asked, "Did you live for today?"

Now that's a whole other story.

"Multitudes of people have failed to live for today.

They have spent their lives reaching for the future.

What they have had within their grasp today they have missed entirely,

because only the future has intrigued them...

and the first thing they knew, the future became the past."

-William Allen White

Let me ask you. Did you live for today?

One way for us to determine the answer to that question is to ask ourselves:

1. "How much of today did I spend fretting about what happened yesterday or worried about what is going to happen tomorrow?"

2. "What has my fretting and/or worry caused me to miss out on--today?"

Sweet times being present to the needs of my hubby, kids, and friends. Opportunities for personal growth and learning. Times of service and ministry. Recognizing how God is supplying every need.

These are the things that I can have within my grasp today. The here and now. The things that allow me to "live for today."

Yet, they are the things that I can miss entirely.

What things were entirely in your grasp today, yet you missed them?

Live for today!

a necessary way to begin our day

noreply@blogger.com (Kathy Butryn) — Mon, 27 Jun 2011 07:12:27 PDT

I'm first to admit it.

There's been slight--but noticeable--shift in the way I get out of bed each morning. The days of "hitting the floor running" have been replaced with an awkward shuffle while I wait for my stiff joints to loosen up.

Uh-huh. I am getting older.

Sometimes my complaining joints lead to a complaining heart. Not a great way to begin a new day.

I believe the following words describe well the secret to beginning our day, regardless of how we are feeling.

"In the morning hours of a new day we take a moment to give thought to what this day may mean for us. What is a day in a person's life? Isn't it the most precious treasure that can be given to us? If we were denied this day in which to live, you know full well, all of our possessions would mean nothing, our fondest hopes and plans would be of no avail. First and foremost, therefore, is the gift of a new day, one more day of life. Therefore, let us begin the day properly.

Let us thank God for this wonderful gift.

Let us resolve not to waste one hour of it.

Let us resolve to share happiness with those who are closest to us- our family; our neighbors; our associates.

This is the greater meaning of the verse we read in the Holy Bible: "So teach us to number our days that we may get us a heart of wisdom."

Morris Goldstein

Pause...

...and thank God for this wonderful gift of a brand-new day.

...and ask Him how to use every moment of it for His glory.

...and ask Him how He wants you to share it with others that cross your path today.

It's a necessary way to begin our day if we desire the compounding results of a day well-lived!