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wifeinmidlifecrisis — Mon, 20 Feb 2012 08:51:29 +0000

Manifestation is a really important word at the moment. Whatever you find in your life has been immediately manifested by you. If you are not happy with what is going on in your world at the moment and you would like to change it, all you have to do is think differently!

Simple – or is it?

In order to see things manifest differently you first have to be conscious of what you think.

Since you think on a constant basis, being actually aware of what you think can be difficult, unless you stop throughout the day and pay attention to what you think and make notes.

Even when you have the information in front of you, its all too easy to give in and go back to old ways.

Unless they find someone who can understand and help them.

You can find help even at midlife!

If you go to my other web page you will find a free gift there, a seven day plan that will help you create the world you want to create.

Its free! Enjoy and let me know what you think.

Also take a look at the kindle post whilst you are there you may want to enter!

Valentines and being Sensibly Selfish

wifeinmidlifecrisis — Mon, 13 Feb 2012 12:09:01 +0000

It is that time of year again, the 14th of February and Valentines Day. It is the time many of us rush out to buy that special someone in our life, a card or gift. Perhaps we prepare a special meal or book a favorite restaurant yet, how many of us actually stand in front of the mirror and send loving thoughts in our own direction first?

In order to get the best out of Valentines Day the first person you have to be prepared to love is yourself. If you are happy, content and truly appreciate all your fine qualities, skills and talents, remember you are actually easier to love in return.

If you don’t love yourself first and foremost, it can be very hard to love others in the right way. You may doubt their intentions and this may leave a void in your relationship. In fact it may even leave you without a relationship!

Be Sensibly Selfish of February the 14th, spend a little time getting in contact with who you truly are, make sure you are not hidden underneath the impressions others have of you. Sieve through all those opinions and negativities until you find yourself again.

Make sure it is you who is putting the sparkle into your life, not anyone else!

Put yourself first so that you can be what you want to be. If you need help to do this, now is a perfect time to contact me. Sessions for this week are €50 only!

The Next Ten Years and What You Believe

wifeinmidlifecrisis — Wed, 08 Feb 2012 15:09:11 +0000

We are reaching an important stage in our worldly development, whether you are 20 or 40 or 60 years old it does not matter, we are all in this together. Yet, just maybe, just maybe at midlife we have a chance of getting this at last…

No matter who we are, no matter what sex or age, or where we live we all need to let go of our old stories. Every time we hold onto an old attachment which causes suffering we are sharing that suffering with everyone else. What we do effects everyone else, what we believe, see, perceive will become our world and everyone else too.

If we want to turn our dreams into reality we can do so immediately, we create our reality. If we do not believe this, we need to find out what is stopping us and work on it 100%! It is stopping all of us! Just remember, whatever we see with our minds eye, we will immediately manifest. We all need to take care of our thoughts anywhere at anytime.

Whatever you believe you will manifest immediately.

Find me at Sensibly Selfish to discover more

Helping Others Without Time or Cost

wifeinmidlifecrisis — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 18:30:32 +0000

When you do something to help another human being you can achieve a great deal of satisfaction. It does not have to be costly in either time or money, just an extra big smile for the person who serves you coffee on a morning, or to help someone pick up something they have dropped, to open a door or say a few kind words.

The problem is that in today’s world we are often too wrapped up in our own life, short of time, often engaged in two or more things at once and we never give the other person a second glance. When you’re emptying your shopping trolley and talking on the phone to a friend what chance does the cashier have of receiving a smile or kind words?

So how can you help others?

By breathing and pausing for just one single second longer than you have today.

So let’s say you take in a deep breath and stop what you are doing for just one extra second. You create the space in which to see, smell and hear things as your attention is brought back to the now. As you do this not only do you connect to your surroundings, you will also connect to yourself.

Taking a deep breath will fill your body with energy and in turn you can energize another person with a smile. Smiling is infectious, smiling at everyone you meet will change your surroundings.

Come on, help others, it does not need to be a costly exercise in time nor money.

Just breath deeper and smile more!

If you would like help to smile more please contact me!

Blaming Other at Midlife

wifeinmidlifecrisis — Tue, 24 Jan 2012 09:22:45 +0000

Listen to any conversation in a bar, at the bus stop, a group of best friends, work collegues and you’ll hear blame come into the conversation at soon enough. It is so easy to blame an outside force for whatever situation we find ourself in. Often at midlife we have fallen into a trap…

It may be the fault of the economy that our business is not doing so well. Perhaps our relationship is not working because our partner is not being attentive. Maybe our illness is due to the government adding chemicals to the water.

We are even great at criticizing ourselves and blaming our actions on the way things turn out in our lives. If we hadn’t done this… if we hadn’t done that…

So if we cannot blame someone else, or blame ourselves then what can we do?

What would it be like if you lived in a world where no-one blamed anything or anyone? What would it feel like if everyone was able to live without blame, judgement or criticism?

Is this really impossible?

It is not impossible. It does mean changing lots of though processes and watching the language you use. Be patient with yourself we have had blame, judgement and criticism engrained in us from a very young age. Be Sensibly Selfish and keep the energy you waste from falling into these types of conversation for yourself.

First be aware of what you say in every day conversation, watch those around you and learn how to speak in a different language. Stop a conversation when it begins to come from a place other than love.

Why not start today and begin to change the world.

Goals and Mole Hills

wifeinmidlifecrisis — Thu, 12 Jan 2012 20:06:07 +0000

We are all aware how easy it is to make New Years resolutions and then break them by about this date. A few blimps or excuses and we humans are so quickly off track.

Yesterday I hosted a Business Effective Workshop Clinic which was facilitated by Dr James Rieley, I was facinated by the different ways in which we all take on and use information, how we set ourselves goals and then follow through.

From the meeting it was obvious that some people had taken on bard the training from November and really applied it to their lives, others had done the work and found their comfort zones a stopping point, others had not applied the work to their own life but had used the material to help others, some had done nothing at all. At least they all showed – others didn’t even make it to the free clinic!

When ever I think of applying new information to my life, or decide to set goals, I always think of my recipe for making Mallorcan Almond cake. Living on 10,000mtrs of land here in Mallorca, means we have a few almond trees. I know the real work involved in making just one cake…

In order to make Almond cake you first have to grow, regularly feed and water an almond tree – about 10 years. Then in the heat of the summer, around August, the nuts are ready to pick.

You must first knock them out of the tree, remove their husk and then lay out to dry in the sun. Next the outer shell must be removed my banging each almond with an hammer. Followed by a blanching session to remove the skin, a drying or roasting period followed by a grinding period.

Next the cake must be baked, about an hour of work and then you can eat it.

Fifteen and a half years of labor for fifteen seconds of ultimate Sensibly Selfish gratification.

Whatever you set your mind to do, whatever tools are in your tool box, it is only the constant work and continual re-assessment of your goals that will eventually bring them to fruition. You may have to take a few detours along the way, you may have to climb a few mole hills, yet if you are passionate enough – get there you must! Just think of the rewards!

Business Effectiveness Workshop Series – Event 2

wifeinmidlifecrisis — Mon, 26 Dec 2011 19:52:34 +0000

Learning to Juggle

Most of us spend much of our lives in a state of what feels like perpetual juggling. We have multiple balls in the air, and seem to be in an eternal struggle to make sure that we focus on the right stuff, for the right reasons, and at the right times.

Often we miss the mark and even more often, find that somehow we have managed to have even more balls in the air with little or no chance of achieving what we set out to achieve.

Being able to survive the stress and seemingly never-ending turmoil of juggling everything in your life requires that you know what you would like to achieve

for your own life. It also requires that you have a plan of how to make this vision real.

In this session of the Business Effectiveness Workshop Series, you will learn how to:

- Put clarity around your personal vision

- Learn how to identify what you need to do to realise that future vision

- Distinguish between the things that appear to be urgent that can take you off track, and what is important to be able to stay on track

- Map out a plan that you can use to realise your potential.

This session will be facilitated by James Rieley. Rieley was the CEO of a successful business for over twenty years; holds a Ph.D. in Organisational Effectiveness, and advises the CEO’s and senior teams of organisations from all business sectors. In addition, Rieley is the author of “Gaming the System;” “Leadership;” “ Strategy and Performance;” “Change and Crisis Management;” and the “Plain Talk about Business Performance” newsletter.

Rieley is a Certified Facilitator for The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People.

Note: Learning to Juggle is a highly interactive participant workshop and will require course pre-work, but does not have anything to do with working in a circus.

Workshop date: 25 January 2012

Workshop location: The Respiralia Centre – St Agustin

Workshop fee: €125,00, including lunch

Workshop level: Intermediate

For further information or registration for this session, or any of the other information for the Business Effectiveness Workshop Series. For more information contact me Kay Newton – 00 34 617 482 462.

Be More Selfish at Christmas

wifeinmidlifecrisis — Wed, 21 Dec 2011 14:22:44 +0000

What do you think of when you read the title of this article? Did you perhaps imagine a scrooge type character, who nobody likes and everyone avoids at Christmas? Yet to be selfish at Christmas does not mean that people will dislike you or avoid you but rather the opposite.

Being Selfish will allow you to have a great time and more importantly, those you love will enjoy your company too. Being Selfish at Christmas means allowing yourself space in which to decide exactly what you want from the festivities.

Just be Sensibly Selfish…

You may have to negotiate with those you love and create a compromise over the real sticking points. Yet just by doing this you are able to arrive at a place of peace within yourself. When you are happy and content those around you will also be happy and content.

You may have different ideas and plans than the rest of your family and friends. Just make sure they really understand what you want and expect from Christmas. It’s too late on the day to realize there has been a lack of communication.

If there is really something you do not want to do. Do not be afraid of stating this. Just do it with love, with no excuses and you may be surprised to see how much they understand.

If you have committed to something that you now realize was a mistake for whatever reason, then de-commit. Again just do it from a place of love and without excuses.

Be The Star That You Are.

Have a wonderful Christmas.

Post-Its and Midlife

wifeinmidlifecrisis — Fri, 09 Dec 2011 12:26:09 +0000

The story of post-Its is remarkable in itself. Apparently the inventor took 15 years to persuade someone that they needed a glue that didn’t stick. The rest is history as they say – Post Its are now one of the most used items in day to day life. So how can you use Post-Its in Midlife?

Take my week for example. Post-Its were put to use at the ‘Business Effectiveness Workshop Series’ here in Mallorca. Where they were use to show local business people how to make decisions. You do not even need to have a business to use these techniques, you can resolve any issue with this simple technique.

Here’s what you need to do

1. Choose something that you wish to resolve. This could be starting up a new business, time management, relationship issues and so on.

2. Take a pack of Post-Its and begin brainstorming. Write down everything on separate Post-Its, the only rule is that each post It cannot have more than six words and one of them must be a verb.

3. Take as much time as you need and explore all issues, getting help from a second source will also make the task more fun and give you other ideas.

4. When you have finished begin to sort them into different categories. You choose what makes sense to you. You may not be able to put all your post Its into categories at first, leave those that do not seem to fit. Stack each Post-It below the next until you have numerous columns. You will probably end up with around six logical groups.

5. Next decide upon a title for your categories. When you read your Post-Its you will know what to call each group. These are the main issues that you need to tackle to solve your problem.

6. These are now the areas you will need to tackle in order to solve your problem. You may need to decide upon what is the first category to start with and break down these tasks into step by step plans. You may need help to do this as sometimes it is not obvious what comes first.

The Hoshin planning methodology can be used to help see the way forward. Use it and become Sensibly Selfish at midlife!

If you need further help please do not hesitate to contact me.

Midlife Connections

wifeinmidlifecrisis — Mon, 28 Nov 2011 18:09:22 +0000

How many people do you know? When we reach midlife the number of people that have touched out lives is really astounding. Have you ever really sat and thought about this? It is a worthwhile task to take time out and think about how your life changed as these people came into your life.

A paper and pen are useful tools for this exercise. Write down all those you keep in contact with and also those who you no longer meet. Think about all the places you have visited in your life, think of all the groups you have been involved in, the places you used to frequent and those you now frequent on a daily basis. Think of all the people your partner knew or knows, the connections made through your kids at the school or after school activities.

Look again at your list and to each persons name add a list of contacts of people they also know. This list may include people you have in common or people you would like to connect with. Take time to do this it is, come back to the list often, add when your memory allows!

Now take time to look at the list again and ask yourself what can this person do for me? What is it that I need in my life today and how can I achieve it by asking this person to help.

Your life has changed, now at midlife it may be the perfect opportunity to reconnect with certain people, just as it maybe the perfect time to disconnect with others around you. Be ‘Sensibly Selfish’ at this point – what is it that you really want?

The final, yet most important question of all is to ask of your now amazing long list… what can I do for this person? Who can I introduce them to? How can I be of service? What bit of information would they like to hear from me?

As the end of the year approaches, taking time out to connect to those who make you who you really are, will bring endless rewards in the New Year. Give it a go and let me know your results.