Keep the Fire Burning

All is Fair in Love and War, is it?

noreply@blogger.com (Razilaec) — Sun, 11 Sep 2011 04:38:00 +0000

All's fair in love and war, people who usually say these words are the individuals who successfully managed to take the upper hand. Where there is conflict, people can be expected to behave in the most vicious way possible. People tend to become deceitful in the course of gaining personal satisfaction. While it is true in some circumstances wherein the rules don't apply, but doesn't that make "cheating" acceptable to society?

Cheating in a relationship is morally unacceptable in our human culture but still others indulge in the tight grasp of lust and temptation. It often causes a relationship to crash and burn or even topple from it's peak. It is like a computer virus that deletes all your important data and leaves you with infected files that you no longer find useful.

If it is a disaster waiting to happen, why do we still engage in such activities? Why do we take the bait knowing that it's a trap? Why are we digging up our own grave and burying ourselves alive? There must be logical explanations why we do these kinds of things.

In my opinion, here are some reasons which I think can be correlated with such actions:

Immaturity - Thinking that everything is just a game. We should learn to open our eyes to reality and act accordingly.
Trust issues - If you did something terrible before, trust might become an issue, you can try reassuring your partner that you are a changed man/woman. It doesn't really help much but at least it gives your partner a little security.
Personality and character incompatibility - When two persons with totally different perception of things come together, there are times that they clash and argue about their differences and they eventually develop the urge to go out and seek another whom he/she is more compatible with. There is always something that you have in common and there are always things that you don't have in common but help in complimenting each other. Talk your differences out and settle them in a mature manner. If you love a person it shouldn't be too hard to accept who he/she really is.
Lost of interest - Being tired of the way things are and becoming discontent with the way things are going. In these cases all I can say is that you give each other another chance to work things out. Make efforts to make your relationship better. Again, it is never a valid reason for you to cheat on your partner. If there is a will to make things right, there is always a way.
Constant fighting and misunderstandings - Arguments are supposed to help in making a relationship better and stronger but when we allow it to escalate until it reaches a point where we can no longer control it, it becomes poison and does the opposite of the desired outcome. Always learn to yield, give way and lower your pride by just a bit. Accept your mistakes and learn from them rather than arguing about something when you're obviously the one at fault.
Boring relationship - There is no such thing as a boring relationship if you are really into the person you're with. But if you want a more exciting relationship then make the adjustments yourselves. You can engage in things you both find exciting like mountain climbing, snorkeling, scuba diving, bungee jumping, sky diving, water skiing, you get what I mean, be spontaneous and have fun.
Unhealthy sex life - It is said that sex makes wonders in a relationship because it creates a bond not only of the physical aspect but also emotionally. But it shouldn't be a reason to cheat because it is something you should only give exclusively to your partner in life. Try experimenting on different ways to make your sex life more interesting. Show that there is love and passion in doing the deed while attempting other positions that suit you both or better yet, make your own kamasutra book. ;)

Nothing's really fair if it's based on lies and deceit.

Girls/Boys Night-outs - How do you cope with them?

noreply@blogger.com (Razilaec) — Sat, 10 Sep 2011 13:53:00 +0000

What comes to your mind when your partner goes for a night-out with a bunch of friends of the same gender? Are you comfortable that your partner's out there in the open and is probably intoxicated with booze?

There are nights that you just glance at the time every second the clock ticks, waiting for the knob to turn so you could finally breathe easily knowing that your special someone is home safe.

Waiting is a very difficult job and often times during this period things begin to cram inside your head. Things like doubt, doubt can easily cloud our perception of things and will cause us to become overly worried and uneasy. Hypothetical situations begin to pop-up inside your world of imagination like an internet virus that you can't just delete no matter what you do. You begin to think of the million possibilities that could happen in that one night. "If someone tries to hit on her/him what would she/he do?", "If she/he gets really drunk will she flirt with other guys/girls?", " It's a dangerous world out there, what if someone tries to hurt her?", "What if he gets in a bar fight and end up being shot or stabbed or put to jail?"... but didn't you ever stop to think that maybe she's thinking of you too that she misses you and she can't wait to come home to your arms again?

We can't blame anybody because such incidence is normal, we just have to learn to cope with these situations. It could really be a pain to deal with sometimes and I can relate to that. There are things that we need to go through even though we don't really want to, like when doctors stick big needles in our butt cheek, or flushing your gold fish down the toilet. We just have to accept things the way they are and before you know it things begin to clear up and you get a better perception of things.

Build a relationship based on mutual trust and understanding. Trust that you are the only one your partner loves, and understand that there are also things that individuals need to do on their own. Giving them time to work on their own doesn't necessarily mean you abandon them, always give moral support and try to work as a team when the situation requires you to.

Tips on how to cope:

You can try to keep yourself busy with something you really like doing like playing video games or watching movies or listening to music.
Reassure yourself that he/she won't do anything stupid because you both trust each other and that you won't do things that would compromise your relationship.
Go on a night-out too.. ^^ but be sure that you won't be doing things that would make your partner unhappy. Never forget the rule of Karma.
Call your partner if you want reassurance coming from him/her.
Trust your partner.

The way to any man or woman's heart is through the stomach! ^^

noreply@blogger.com (Razilaec) — Sat, 10 Sep 2011 06:22:00 +0000

This photo was taken in a restaurant here in the Philippines.
Click on the image to enlarge.

I don't quite remember what they call this but it goes something like "Spicy Seafood Pasta". It is also quite delicious but not really that spicy if you ask me but that's up to you to decide.

It's actually quite easy to whip up...at least I think so but I've never actually made this myself. You could try performing experiments and create your own Frankenstein. Get your pasta and a couple cans of tomato sauce and a bunch of assorted seafoods and you're good to go. You don't have to buy the most expensive ingredients you can get your hands on, be practical and utilize your resources well.

If you're not a good cook and your food didn't taste like the way it should, your partner will surely still be satisfied. It's the thought that counts, go for that extra mile and you're sure to be rewarded. You might have messed up the kitchen but cleaning up the mess is nothing compared to the pampering you might receive after dinner. ;) TOUCH DOWN!

I would recommend this to seafood lovers like my girlfriend but unfortunately most seafood lovers are also allergic to the food they like...like my girlfriend. haha! So don't go around feeding this to people who are allergic to shrimps, clams, etc. if you don't want them to have anaphylactic shock and perform tracheostomy due to constricted airway in your living room.

If you're really desperate in getting this food to touch your taste buds, better have anti-histamine injectables and tablets in hand or you can also pop a couple of anti-histamine tablets before you chow down on this delicious treat. Goodluck! ^^

Photo Gallery

noreply@blogger.com (Razilaec) — Sat, 10 Sep 2011 05:38:00 +0000

I'm not an expert photographer so bear with me. ^_^ Only few photos are available at the moment but I will be posting updates once I've added to the collection. Thank You!

Click on this link to go to the gallery.

Simplicity and the Element of Surprise

noreply@blogger.com (Razilaec) — Thu, 08 Sep 2011 12:06:00 +0000

To make someone happy does not necessarily require you to buy them lots of great merchandise. Sometimes being the simple old you can yield even greater results. Being grand is nice but being simple just equals the same. Most people say that the simple things really count but we tend to forget or often times ignore the importance of the little things around us.

If you try to take into account the small things that revolve around you and mix it up with the element of surprise, it could just be your ultimate weapon in pleasing your partner.

By just simply telling her that she's beautiful or just by complimenting on how she looks great with her new haircut could really make her day and it has even greater impact once you've found a way to bring it up to her when she least expects it. It also helps to be updated with the current lingo, I'm not saying that the old is no good. I'm just saying that it might sound a bit cliche if you use those lines, don't you think?

Try to be spontaneous and do things that are out of the ordinary, but don't overdo it since you might look a little too strange and she might think she made a huge mistake by dating or even marrying a schizophrenic psycho. XD

Try sending her flowers not because of a special occasion but just send it because you just want to make her smile. Most men would stop sending flowers after they've officially became a couple which is not supposed to be. You don't have to pay for expensive flower arrangements, one lovely rose is actually more than enough to make her smile and even love you more. By the way, a woman can also give her partner flowers if she wishes to, there's no shame in that.

This goes out to both genders - Remember that the little things you do matter too. If you think you've made a small bad decision that unintentionally hurt her, you should try to fix it right away. Small or big, you should swallow your pride and apologize because there are cases wherein minor issues escalate then things get out of hand.

Small and simple things matter, be it good or bad.

Tips on How to Keep the Fire Burning

noreply@blogger.com (Razilaec) — Wed, 07 Sep 2011 06:09:00 +0000

Communication

Communication is always number one because it is necessary in every step of the way. Through communication you can find out more about your partner, the things he/she likes and the things he/she detests. Communication plays a crucial role in a relationship because it defines what the next step will be. Think of it as a compass that you need in looking for the right direction to take whenever you're lost and hopeless. If you stay stationary, your relationship would become stagnant too. You have to make a decision, one way or the other. You just need to know which paths to take.

If you have misgivings, doubts or misunderstandings, you need to talk that out in a mature manner. Always take into account both sides and come up with a solution that suits you both.

Remember that communication can also appear to be non-verbal. A simple smile or frown is a cue to your next step. Be observant!

If you see her frown or if you notice that she/he's become too silent, something is definitely wrong. Talk to him/her and ask him/her what's wrong and if all else fails, try giving her/him a big hug and a kiss on the forehead or cheek and whisper to his/her ear that whatever's bothering her/him, he/she can always count on you.

Verbal and non-verbal gestures are your cues to the next step so be sure to pay close attention to those. Never ignore simple words and actions because those simple gestures can mean a lot to someone. ^_^

If you want to read about our own personal love story CLICK HERE!