Kindness and Kisses

#DivinelyLatina, New Love Resolution, & Knee Surgery for the heck of it!

2013-02-12T09:00:00.000-08:00

Some point between January 3rd and January 7th, it dawned on me that I had a pretty serious knee injury and I really could not do all the things I imagined myself doing- yeah I was down in the dumps... I mean, we are talking New Year - I had a boat load of plans.

When I signed up for Cynthia Santiago's Divinely Latina 12-week Program, it was before I had an injury. It was so I could transform myself into a more amazing me- one that stayed guided with divine wisdom, one that was committed to exercise and overall wellness.

How could I be that person now that I had to tend to a knee injury that prevented me from getting up, going, and doing?

Cynthia quickly re-assured me- there's always a way, Vicky.

Latina Wellness: One of the reasons, I have loved partnering up with Cynthia in this way is I fully believe in her message and her work. I wanted to start and complete her program because I wanted badly to do the inner work I was called to do next (since I have done lots over the years). So, when she said there was a way, I let go and trusted that this was possible.

Now, three group coaching sessions since, I am so appreciative and feel so blessed.

The funny thing was, the knee almost kept me away, and it's the program which has opened the door to my most resolute conviction in my faith- that all will be well. I feel positive and happier despite the knee!

If you are interested in experiencing the Latina Wellness process and sample the Divinely Latina 12 week program, please click here. Don't miss the Feb18th event date!

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Yesterday, I lived another dream- I hope I keep living more and more!

I was part of the New Love Resolution Tele-summit! I talked about dating, love, and relationships!
I am so thankful for all of you who were able to tune in and to those who had me in your thoughts!

The New Love Resolution will go until Friday, February 15th, don't miss it!

Also, you can purchase the whole set of presentations giving you massive insight and tools for your next or current relationship. Click here.

Happy dating and loving!
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This is the morning of my surgery... yesterday in the morning I cried out of anxiety and today I am making sure to keep my thoughts positive, to keep breathing, and to know all is well.

because it is.

xoxo

Update: Re-Cap on Life... #NYC

2013-02-11T23:17:00.000-08:00

RE-CAP on LIFE since November 2012

The last few months have been a bit of a roller coaster for New York City. Ok, maybe a little bit for me too.

I should say there hasn't seemed to be new posts published here since my return from Latism 2012 in Houston, but in reality I have written a number of posts that due to some Blogger tech glitch, were unable to be saved or posted. Before I could address this annoying issue, I was then confronted with an internet domain issue... *sigh... By the time I got the domain issue squared away, I was just too occupied with other life things to spend what I thought would be an unreasonable amount of time situating the handful of posts that should have been up! *double sigh!

So, although I will (eventually back-post these blog entries to where they belong- finally) post everything, I did want to give a quick re-cap here and get everyone up to speed!

NOVEMBER:

Sandy hit NYC hard. It's hard to believe that something that happened at the tail end of October is still present in the New Year. In fact, we are still recovering. Some folks don't feel the effects, since I haven't seen one of my closest friends primarily due to the flood destruction of her home and the aftermath- it is clear to me that Sandy is not over.

It took a while for me to shake out of the sad haze of Sandy and the effects of her aftermath.

I rejoiced on November 6th, when my President Barack Obama was re-elected! I also went on a new 1st date with an old Ex. Speaking of exes, on a related note, some drama ensued with a former best friend and the aftermath of which was challenging due to the impact it was having with my best bestie ever... thankfully, my Best Bestie is My Person for Life- we understand good times and bad times and let's figure this out times!

DECEMBER:

I attended the "Proud to Be Latina Conference" and it was exactly what I needed! I was getting academic work done and feeling good about registering for the next semester.

Just when I was finding my groove again, the horrific news of the Sandy Hook Elementary School children in Newtown, CT shocked me insides and my guts came out in endless heart-wrenching tears. I think we felt that way as a country.

Christmas was an adventure with a quiet time at home, then visits to the Bestie's place and my Godmother's home. I opened my presents at midnight as I always do!

JANUARY, New Year 2013

Vision Board part a few days earlier meant starting the year off on the best foot!

January 3rd- my right knee gives out on me. My ACL tears. Now, I have a damaged ACL and a torn Meniscus.

After a very painful week and a half, a visit to the Ortho Doc, and being ordered to stay on crutches for the length of my recovery, surgery was scheduled for the following month, February.

I spent the last two weeks of January fighting (eg. writing) to be a student again- reasonably so, it was first felt maybe the knee and recovery would get in the way of getting my academic work done.

FEBRUARY

The course I am taking, "Human Development and Globalization" has been off to a good start and I am loving the readings and class engagement.

February 12, 2013 - Surgery scheduled.

Lots of love,

Vicky

ReCap of #Latism12, Special Thanks #ToyotaLatino #Latism #LoveSujeiry & Donate to #Sandy Relief #SandyHelp

2012-11-02T22:55:00.001-07:00

The Latism Awards Gala night sponsored by Toyota
(l)Sujeiry Gonzalez, great friend & author of Love Trips
(r) Yours truly, Vicky B, MSW or @DocSabia on Twitter

What happens when a few New York City girls make their way to Houston, Texas to fully embrace the Latism '12 experience?

They do as Texans do, take the bull by the horns!

The Latism '12 Conference that took place from October 25th to October 27th was a fast-pace, content rich, and people full experience!

Thanks to my friend and best roomie ever, Sujeiry, my time at the Latism '12 conference was made even better. That's probably because she has a great big ol' heart, a persistent spirit, and a truly caring nature. Thanks to our other amazing friends, the only way we could have had a better time was to have more time there!

Not only did I get to sit in on informative sessions, eat yummy food, and socialize with the best of the best, but I had been nominated for Inspirational Blogger! While, I did not take home the award, I was honored to have been nominated in the first place. That night after the awards and fiesta, I also acknowledged and shared with my Latism Besties that they are part of my special crew of inspiration and for that I am so appreciative- yes, I would have said that in my acceptance speech! I did tell them that night but thank you again, Sujeiry and Helen Troncoso! I love you very much.

I've been wanting to share the love and experience of the Latism '12 Conference, but being from New York and being hit with Super Storm Sandy on October 29th had halted much of my conference high and had effectively changed the course of the normal life we knew here in NYC. I feel blessed that my home in Queens was simply rattled and lights flickered. Scary though it was to live through a storm like that, I can't even imagine what others went through and the nightmare that exists still for many. There has been so much destruction, devastation and so many people in need that it has been heartbreaking. What has been beautiful is how New York has come together for the most part. We are strong. We are resilient. We are compassionate. We are recovering. We will rebuild.

Latism- Latinos in Tech and Social Media cares about its members. In fact, the way that LATISM rolls is really family-style. We are like extended family members. That's why LATISM is collecting relief funds for its family! All those affected by Sandy and for those who incurred expenses from having been stranded in Houston and unable to return to the East Coast can apply for a portion of these funds.

***You can donate using the button to the right on this blog! Please consider helping out! Also, if you would like to give to broader relief efforts, please donate to the Red Cross. ***

LATISM is about inspired action. We like to uplift with positive messages, but more importantly actions speak louder. The thing is, to be able to do a lot, requires deep pockets. Latism partners with awesome sponsors who believe in what LATISM is and what it can do. In turn, Latism leverages its message and responds with actions that support individuals, projects, initiatives, and whole communities. In that vein, there's a lot of folks I would like to thank and will do so over twitter and hope to write more about these brands that give so much.

In the meantime, I especially want to thank Toyota for sponsoring the Latism Awards Gala, for its Toyota Ride and Drive test drive activity throughout, and for its Litera-Seeds Mini-Grants opportunity for 2013.

Thanks to Ezzy for your post, pics and vid. Check her post here.

I actually missed this part of the Awards Gala so I am really happy I found this vid on Ezzy's blog!

This post, Vavooooom at LATISM 2012! shows some of what we experienced with Toyota's efforts. You can also find and follow Toyota on Twitter by using hashtag #ToyotaLatino.

"Toyota... They were gracious enough to host the big [LATISM] Red Carpet Awards Gala. Complete with guest star, Johnny Lozada and feathered dancing ladies parading Toyota’s latest hybrid car, the Prius V. Have a look." - Imagine Videos

Thanks Toyota for partnering with Latism and joining our family!

Thanks LATISM for being part of my extended family and thank all of you awesome people who visit my blog and think I do something a little special here. I hope you get a chance to donate to the Sandy Relief effort. We need your help, please.

Wishes of Resilience & Love,

~Vicky B.

Disclosure: LATISM sponsored my stay during the conference. I write what I wanna write. I speak the truth, cause I like being authentic. :)

Fall In Love with Latism [& Awards] in Houston, Texas Oct25-27 #LATISM12 (Part2)

2012-10-23T01:46:00.000-07:00

[Check for flights & book your room! Latism '12 is any day now- Oct25-Oct27!]

"Congratulations to all the nominees! You made it to the top among hundreds of thousands of nominations. You are already a winner.Now it’s time to vote for the one you feel deserves to be recognized at the Gala."

Say what?! Was I just nominated?!

Yes. Yes, I was!! Now, I am almost wordless!

I don't even know how to begin to express how honored I am with the news that I was nominated for a Latism Award for "Best Latin@ Inspirational Blogger"- and that I have the real possibility to accept such an award! Vote for Me!

This blog started out as a place to capture my life as a female PhD student attempting to get her PhD done and also attempting to create a life full of love and happiness.

My greatest message was to bring kindness forward and through my stories, whether it was an academic dilemma or a dating mishap.

The blog has definitely evolved and is still evolving, but the message remains the same.

Choose kindness- even when it's challenging. Choose kindness- as a choice towards your self-care. Choose kindness- as the way to communicate with the closest people in your life. Choose kindness. Is it possible all the time? Well, maybe a monk would say yes, but has that monk met my twin sister? ;)

Just the other day, I had posted on the Kindness and Kisses FB page what was to come for Kindness and Kisses, the Blog.

It's a good time for Kindness and Kisses!

New content & helpful information and resources will be rolling out in Nov

ember!

...Self-Care has always been important to me, especially as it relates to mental health so there will be more of that.

Also, like anything else- dating and marriage can have its ups and downs. There's definitely more content to come on how to handle aspects of dating. And having worked with a number of married couples and having a distinct philosophy about commitment and endurance of marriage, has allowed me to bear witness to marriages on the brink of ending to becoming healthier and happier (not fixed! marriage is an ongoing and growing process).

My many many years in Social Work as a Trauma Therapist, Family Therapist, and Mental Health Worker as well as receiving great care and treatment from my own support systems, therapists and life coaches, has reinforced my gifts in serving others in this way.

Soon I will be completing what has been a very long and comprehensive training in rape counseling and advocacy. I will serve the Survivors of sexual assault with the best care I can.

This work shows me that even after the very worst thing possible, there can be hope!

Inspired? Vote here!

Receiving this nomination is an affirmation for me to be way more inspiring- the kind of inspiring that makes couples stop in the middle of an argument and remember that they love each other more than they need to be "right". I want to be the kind of inspiring that ends with an act of paying it forward. I want to see more people treat each other so much better- maybe I can inspire that. In the meantime, this is the kind of inspiring that has brought me here.

Thank you for nominating me- my name and my blog crossed your mind and I was placed on this very important list! I am truly appreciative of that. Please Rock the vote! ;)

Now, I said I was sharing my plans and goals for Latism12 and here goes:

I will be attending as many of the Education panels and workshops as possible.
I will be attending, if possible the panels where superstars (some are my good friends) will be speaking.
I will attend the Adelante Movement sessions.
I will network and build on old and new connections.
I will let loose, laugh, socialize, relax, eat, and dance.

Every good conference will have great takeaways. I mean something to sink your teeth into, some solution to a problem you are having right now, and or some way to integrate what has been shared into a plan you can work on to grow whatever project you have right now. That's what goes on. Also, community sharing is happening and the In-Real-Life stuff is going on. There will chatter, laughter, and the all important networking! There will also be the common frustrations that exist at any conference from my experience. Where is my workshop? How come it hasn't started yet? Is that the correct information? Who do I talk to if I have this question?

  Latism'12

Latism is known for wanting to be both an example of the good that can happen when many of the best people unite under one roof and share their expertise in community as well as being just like familia where there might be disagreements, but there is always love- something like Kindness and Kisses. xoxo

Wishes of Inspiration & Rocking the VOTE,

~ Vicky B.


Disclosure: Latism is sponsoring my attendance as a blogger at Latism 12. I only speak the truth so I hope to see you in Houston!

Fall In Love with Latism in Houston, Texas Oct25-27 #LATISM12 (Part1)

2012-10-20T23:30:00.000-07:00

[Time is Running Out! Get your Latism'12 Tickets and book your flight to Houston ASAP! See you there!]

Fall in love with Latism!

What's Latism?

Latism stands for LATINOS in Tech Innovation and Social Media.

For short, many of us still simply say, "Latinos in Social Media", but the tech innovation component helps describe some of the activities we are involved in as Latinos in Social Media.

Do you belong here? Are you a Latino in Social Media?

Have you ever wanted to be part of a collective group that was both inclusive and progressive with their vision, efforts and campaigns?

Have you ever wanted to make a mark in the world and have no idea where to begin in social media or have been spinning your wheels with your attempts thus far?
Latism'12

Have you ever thought, is there anyone else out there in social media that cares about the really important things that matter to me?

Latism is it! And the Latism '12 Conference is a must!

Latism is not alone in being an organization I can align myself with, but there is so much that sets it apart. Comparing Latism with other groups or collectives or initiatives is really like comparing apples and oranges for the most part. Latism has made itself the umbrella group for all Latinos that engage in the social media world. Not only is that a big responsibility, but can be a challenging prospect. That's one of the reasons I have high regard for Latism. All Latinos are not the same nor do we believe all the same things etc. Yet, Latism brings many Latinos together, provides information, and offers opportunities that many of us would never have had access to otherwise just by virtue of willingness, participation and initiative. Am I putting Latism up on a platform? No! Latism is made up of regular folks (albeit, amazing in their professions and gifts) and people are just that, people. We are not talking perfection, but we are talking pure passion, conviction, inspired-action and giving, when it comes to Latism.

Latism'12

The conference is literally days away! I am hoping that you can get yourself together and make it to Houston, Texas on October 25th to the 27th. Consider what it means for you now to join in on Latism12. Where is your social media game at? Are you an emerging small business needing to focus on a social media strategy? Are you growing your business and need to network with real movers and shakers of your industry?

This is YOUR TIME to be there, MAKE IT YOUR CONFERENCE.

Look over all the conference information and review possible options to help defer conference costs, like the one for Educator and Students below.

From the LATISM Houston Chapter

#LATISM Conference Scholarships for Educators and StudentsLatinos in Social Media is pleased to provide educators and students with an opportunity to receive scholarships to attend the national conference.LATISM’12 will be held in Houston (at the Hyatt downtown) October 25-27, 2012.

Topic tracks include Business, Technology, Health andEducation. In addition, there are top-name speakers and great hands-on workshops offered in a variety of topics.

Please apply for this #LATISM'12 scholarship now- your event ticket could be just an application away-->Student and Educators Application

Check out the Latism'12 Tracks below! Hope to see you in Houston! Comment and let me know if you're going to make it!

Part 2 of "Fall in Love with Latism" will focus on my personal goals for Latism'12! So get your KindnessandKisses via email so you don't miss it! Sign up on the right hand tool bar! :)

Wishes of Latism Love,
~Vicky

FROM Latism.org:

Business Track

Business Empowerment With the increasing access to new technologies, resources, and ideas, business opportunities are flourishing for Latino entrepreneurs now more than ever. On this track, Top Latino executives will share marketplace best practices and culturally relevant approaches for supporting small businesses and aspiring entrepreneurs. The track sessions will cover a wide-range of topics including: [...]

LATISM12

Technology Track

Technology Leadership: This track is about social-change: as Latinos continue to make strides in developing new and cutting edge technologies, it is essential to prepare ourselves with the skill sets, professional development and networking opportunities to become technology leaders in the current global competitive environment. Top leaders from the private and public technology sectors will [...]

LATISM12

Health Track

Health Innovation: Information and resource-sharing can undoubtedly make an impact in the health and quality of people’s lives within our community. This track will feature top researchers, health practitioners and organizations who will explore the key health issues faced by our community, the individual and community barriers to health education, the need for advocacy in [...] LATISM12

Education Track

Transforming Education: Our education track will explore the adoption of strategies and channels that embrace the principles of openness and reusability in new and transmedia within the context of educational institutions. Top educators will discuss the need for policy advocacy to ensure high standards and quality in our public education system and highlight innovative instructional [...]

LATISM12

#DoveInspired Initiative: Identify your Real Beauty because it's Pretty Special

2012-10-08T23:30:00.000-07:00

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” -Buddha

The other day, I got a message from a boy. He wrote to me saying that I looked like a fun girl, but maybe some boys are overlooking how pretty I am because of my weight.

Wait, did he mention that I'm overweight?! This is a true story.

I was a little shocked, but he wasn't coming from a bad place. He just seemed inexperienced with communicating with girls. Of course, right away it made me think some negative things about myself. Then, I started wishing I was thinner (already) and how I do want to look better in pictures.

I also laughed it off pretty quickly. Why was I even thinking about what this guy said?! Then, I remembered when I was in high school, I didn't appreciate my special qualities, I didn't know I was a pretty girl, I thought I was so fat, and I didn't think any boy could like me.

Basically, I could not identify my real beauty when I was a young girl in high school. For all the reassurances my mother gave me about my looks, I couldn't take it in. No matter how much she told me, "you're fine, you're beautiful, you're special", I didn't really believe her. Still, her words at least comforted me with the idea that maybe it could be true.

It took me a while to truly believe I was good enough. I was okay. My looks were fine. My body was normal. Beyond that, I was way more than just my looks and body. I was actually a bigger spirit living inside that body. A spirit that had a whole lot of awesome to contribute to the world.

So, that's what I wrote back to that boy. I thanked him for writing and told him how, "I know my worth so I'm not worrying being 'overlooked' and he shouldn't worry about me either, since I'm doing perfectly fine."

That's the thing about having a positive self-image and high self-esteem, it is easier to bounce back from some outside negative experience to the core of your real beauty, knowing and feeling just how pretty special you are always. It's an everyday job to be committed to being good to ourselves and reminding ourselves that we are pretty special, but that is what it takes to be our best selves and reach our fullest potential.

If I could have a conversation with a young girl right now about what beauty means, I would tell her this story that made me think back to my high school days. I could also tell any one of my other stories where I learned to love myself more and recognized that the best love I can seek is the one that I can give to myself.

I would tell this young girl that choosing kindness for ourselves and others is a great gift towards seeing our own beauty and the natural beauty of others. Reminding ourselves of this beauty through affirmations, like "I am good enough" and "I am lovable" is also important. Finally, I would remind any young person that deep down she knows her heart well and if and when she taps into the strength of her heart, mind, and spirit, she is able to trust herself more and know more fully that she is full of real beauty- and that is pretty special!

Dove believes beauty should be a source of confidence, not anxiety. Girls are listening – women just need to start the conversation. A simple act, such as starting a conversation about beauty, can make a world of difference. Dove is committed to inspiring all women and girls to reach their full potential. The Dove Movement for Self-Esteem opens up a world of opportunities for women to make a difference.

You can be part of this conversation by learning about Dove's initiative Vive Mejor Hablemos "Let's Talk" (In Spanish):

Visit Vivemejor.com to access free tools to motivate and inspire a girl in your life.

Download the “Let’s Talk” Toolkit: A discussion guide developed by Dove Global Self-Esteem Ambassador Jess Weiner to help moms and mentors start a conversation on beauty and self-esteem.

Dove has reached over 9 million girls with self-esteem programming so far and with your help we can reach our goal of 15 million by 2015 Visit Dove.com to learn more about our partners Girl Scouts, Girls Inc, and Boys & Girls Clubs of America

Wishes of kindness,

~ Vicky

*Disclosure: the post is compensated and in collaboration with Dove and Latina Bloggers Connect

Long Time No See, #LatinaWellness Celebration, and Moving Towards my Dreams!

2012-10-07T23:00:00.000-07:00

It's been a while since I've posted, but I have been getting my life more together!

If you jump a few post back in time, you know I was sick at the beginning of 2012 and spent a lot of summer keeping medical appointments while trying to enjoy the gifts that summer offered. At the end of summer, I was doing so much better that the Gastrointestinal Specialist told me I wouldn't have to come back for a year. That was great news, but at almost the same time period, I was informed that I needed knee surgery (I'm in the process of getting a second opinion). Oy! Needless to say, I was feeling disheartened. I was definitely feeling a bit sorry for myself. I was stuck in my mind thinking why was my body falling apart, betraying me, and not working?

When I could see past my own negative thoughts, I could see I had power over my health and wellbeing and I was in control. If you have read posts in the past, you know that I believe in getting the right kind of help when it is needed. If I didn't have a comprehensive support team of friends, family, and professionals then I might not have been able to feel as good as I do now.

I am back on target academically- kinda sorta! What I mean by "on target" is that I have monthly academic goals and I have been making steady progress. My PhD mantra, "I, Vicky, will have my PhD by June 2014."

I continue to plan, work towards and build my business plan, brand, platform, and savvy social media experience. I was honored when Cynthia Santiago welcomed me on board her team as her Social Media Consultant to come up with a heart-centered social media strategy and to manage the Latina Wellness twitter account about 75% of the time as the Twitter Account Manager. What is amazing is how in sync, Cynthia and I are when it comes to her brand. I think that comes from truly appreciating who we are as women and for myself, 100% trusting her mission and vision.

I would love for you to meet my friend, Cynthia Santiago, at the She Creates Change Center in NYC on Wednesday, 10/10/12, as she celebrates the official launch of "Latina Wellness" and her birthday! It will be an amazing time to share in community and celebration.

RSVP for this FREE event here:

EVENT DETAILS:

Come join me on October 10^th for two incredible reasons to celebrate! First, it’s my birthday, and while that is enough reason to celebrate, I will also be hosting a community gathering to officially launch Latina Wellness.

This celebration will allow me to have all of my beautiful mujeres (women) around me on a special day, and it will also serve as a forum for me to tell all of you about my upcoming plans with Latina Wellness including the launch of my new programs and my new website. I am excited beyond measure, and I cannot think of a better way to celebrate both of these auspicious occasions than in the midst and company of my grand community of amazing women!

All women are welcome, and please bring your friends. This event is for Latinas and all the women that know and love Latinas!

Snacks and drinks will be served.

RSVP required.

Seriously, don't miss this event!

Bring a friend and get started on the journey to authentic happiness and wellness!
[More Info: Eventbrite RSVP, Latina Wellness website, Latina Wellness on Twitter]

I have to say these days, I feel really blessed and always so appreciative of my best and close friends and family. I am thankful for moving past the era of having friends who were sketchy, toxic, or inauthentic. It has been a very long time since I have experienced questionable friendships- having one, is one too many! I can acknowledge too, that we all go through ups and downs in life and sometimes challenging times can make us into people we don't even recognize or like. I know because I have been on both sides. In fact, that's one of the reasons I am a very forgiving person, because my wish is that if a friend knows my heart, they might forgive my error in our friendship should a disappointment, slight, or misunderstanding occur. We all make mistakes. We do try our best. Still, sometimes we fail each other. That is a reality of true friendships. I am happy that my friends want to keep me! I am happy to keep them too! ;)

Wishes of Kindness and Kisses,

~ Vicky B.

{Follow me on Twitter here}

PS I promise I will have some real kisses to talk about soon! ;)

Hispanic Heritage Month: Honoring my Dreams and Día de tus Sueños

2012-09-11T20:33:00.001-07:00

The greatest lesson I have taken away from 9/11, is that life is short and if there is a dream that lives inside you, you must go for it! And that's how I want live. I want to lead with my dream.

For Hispanic Heritage Month, I will be making sure to honor my dreams!

I want to share my story with you and tell you about a dream-come-true opportunity below!

Over five years ago, I applied for the Developmental Psychology Program at the Graduate Center, CUNY. I was told that it was a long shot, because a) it was a competitive program and b) it was the City University of New York - lots of very good candidates would be applying.

What were my chances?

My "safety schools" didn't pan out. Rejected from the two schools I thought I had a good chance of being accepted into, I was devastated.

A distinct feeling of fear crept into my heart.

What if this doesn't work out? What if I didn't get this? Would the dream be dead?

I have always been that kid that had a vision of what my education path would look like since my years at my high school, St. Francis Preparatory, or Prep.

I knew I wanted college. I wanted a master's. I wanted my PhD.

I even remember telling myself, "I want the highest degree there is."

Some people say that I am very lucky.

They know my life and the ups and downs (even now) that I have managed and the times I have triumphed.

I mean I believe I'm lucky too, but I also know that everything I have in front of me, I have created and set in motion- the good and the bad.

So, I have created a path where even if I didn't get accepted into the PhD program, I would eventually shake off that let down and move towards making the dream work, again! It had to!

The dream wouldn't die!

And when I did get accepted into the PhD Program at the GC, it wasn't luck!

I made it!

A dream born in high school was finally materializing.

I entered the PhD Program in Psychology feeling that I was living my dream- finally.

And boy, now five years later, as I look back, I am so appreciative of that young girl at Prep, who told herself, "I want the highest degree there is." I am so appreciative of the young woman who entered St. Joseph's College and graduated even when it became harder to stay focused on the dream. As I live this dream of obtaining my PhD, the dream has grown into wanting to serve the world with my gifts in the best way I can.

The dream encompasses what it means to be the kind of person I want to be and become in this world.

I want to lead with my dream and live the biggest dream I can every day.

Thanks to the brilliant people of LATISM, "Latinos in Social Media", I have models of how my dreams can keep growing and evolving. Also, because of special partnerships, Latism can bring its community a chance they might not have had before!

Have you got something you've always wanted to do?

A dream that lives inside of you?

Here's your chance to shine some light on your dream!

Read about the special contest below & sign up for your chance for a special day with a celebrity, $1000 in your pocket, and a Verizon Wireless 4G Tablet!

What’s Going On? In celebration of Hispanic Heritage Month, Verizon Wireless is hosting an exciting sweepstakes to win a day with celebrities that inspire Latinos to keep thinking BIG and keep working towards careers that fulfill their dreams.
From NOW until October 15, enter to win the Día de tus Sueños Sweepstakes at www.verizoninsider.com/dreamday and you might get a dream-come-true experience! Adding to the excitement, is can be a little easier to get closer to your goals with the additional cash prize of $1,000 and a Verizon Wireless 4G Tablet to help record your thoughts and plans through a video diary.
Are you following your dream? Go towww.verizoninsider.com/dreamday and take a step closer to your dream.
Check www.verizoninsider.com/dreamday for complete rules including eligible zip codes. Prize package includes bringing a friend for the experience - join now!

I am living a few dreams right now, but there's more than enough room to grow and change!

Have you given your dream a chance?

Why not give it this chance!

Make sure to comment below that you will be giving your dream a chance and sign up!

Lead with your dream!

Wishes of Dreaming Big,

Vicky B.

*Disclosure: This is a sponsored post in collaboration with LATISM and Verizon Wireless.

A Stretch Limo, Best Friends, and McDonald's in Times Square: My #MeEncanta #Chillbreak Adventure Thanks to #Latism

2012-09-10T03:17:00.000-07:00

Hello, my Kind Hearts! Happy September and happy 4 months left to 2012!

Let's make them count!

I've been in and out of my cave lately working on my academics and quietly working on possible opportunities and some new projects that I will hopefully be able to speak more about later.

In the meantime, Even while getting work done, I've made some time for hanging out with my family and friends!

It's important to nurture the relationships we value. The first relationship to pay attention to is the one you have with yourself! So, I believe in making time for fun, relaxation, and coming back to center with myself.

Also, I feel blessed that I have the kind of support system that I do have in my life!

I know not everybody has that so I am that much more appreciative. Not only do I have the best besties a girl could ask for, but I have a handful of people in my corner that I can count on. Thank you my people.

You are truly mi gente.

An awesome testament to this was when I won the LATISM #Chillbreak Contest with my #Chillbreak post and tweets!

I entered the contest after reading this LATISM post:

Can you really really really use a Chill Break? -AnaRC, LATISM Founder

Mi gente, I don’t know about you. But I can really really really use a summer chill break now! The good news is that we have a fantastic opportunity to give one of you a huge regalo! Picture this… you and 14 of your friends together, picked up in a limo to just chill out, have fun and drive around the city or wherever you want for up to 5 hours. That’s exactly what McDonald’s is bringing to us this weekend. The outing will include a V.I.P. stop for a Cherry Berry Chiller Break. cont.

Could I use a chill break? Absolutely! Imagine my joy and surprise when I was informed that I indeed had won the official chill break!

UPDATE: Vicky B., a Latina that makes us all proud as a PHD student won the well-deserved #Chillbreak with this entry. Help me congratulate Vicky and wish her a fantastic time in that fancy limo with her family and friends.. cont.

Amazing! I didn't quite know what to expect but with the help of Latism's Founder and Chair, Ana Roco Castro and Latism's Conference Sponsorships Leader Elma Placeres Dieppa, I was finding out that I had won a unique adventure!

It really was! On Friday, August 31st, ten of some of my closest and best friends came together, traveled in a Range Rover stretch limo, went to McDonald's in Times Square, got the VIP treatment with fanfare, and had lots of belly laughs! Thank you de todo corazon mis amigas preciosas y mis hermanas!

It really felt like we were on our own reality show complete with cameras flashing and filming! In fact, when we reached Times Square, since we rolled up in a limo and the crew awaiting our arrival was ready with their cameras, people on the street really thought we might be famous (or almost famous) so they were taking pictures and videos of us! Talk about unreal experience! So, yes, quite an adventure!

Here are some pictures of our incredible edible unique adventure!

Inside the limo. Looks like a club. ;)

Our own Reality Show! :-P

Thanks to Aimee Dueñas of VPE Public Relations and crew as well as the workers at McDonald's Times Square. Also special thanks to Eddie Sakaki Photography responsible for all the pictures below.

Must tweet that I am on my #CHILLBREAK!!!

I can have anything and everything
on the menu?! Wow, where do I begin?

yummy!

refreshing Very Berry Chiller!

A toast for... :)

ME ENCANTA!!!

"Me ENCANTA", we said!

Good times and time to call it a night!

Thanks for a really really really amazing chill break time, Latism Familia!
Me Encanta!

Disclosure: I was not compensated for this post. I just wanted to share my awesome adventure and properly thank the folks who were part of the process.

Turn Back Tuesday: Midnight Snack: No Date, Pizza Bites & Cousin Time

2012-08-28T23:54:00.001-07:00

When I started the "Midnight Snack" segment of this blog I didn't realize a) how organic it would be b) that I would really be recording actual snacks I was having in the middle of the night (I thought I would only be using metaphors, which don't have any calories) c) that I would be compelled to write spontaneously around this time! Except for gaining a few extra pounds, I'm pleasantly surprised!

A week or two ago, I was supposed to go on a pre-date.

Hmmmm... What's a pre-date you ask? It's the brief meeting, like the classic coffee date, you have with a new person so you can establish that there is some chemistry between the two BEFORE you an invest time on a full date.

I don't mind 1st date horror stories and I'm willing to take my chances so I love the idea of a dinner date, evening out, or your classic dinner and a movie. The issue is, my academic writing has been a priority and my time is especially precious these days. This is why I opt for the quick and dirty pre-date meet and greet with a new guy!

I'm basically going out with an open and welcoming energy and at the same time sizing up the person in front of me- does he have a good heart, shows care and concern for the people around him (including servers and maintenance), and does he radiate the kind of vibe that I dig on a primal level (yes, that's chemistry- owww)!

Well anyway, I was digging this guy. We met on OKCupid and we moved from online to offline smoothly. We were on the phone and were already in love with each other's voices. I was looking forward to experiencing him live!

I tell women all the time (as I remind myself, of course) try to move smoothly from online to phone to an in real life date efficiently (read: as soon as possible- yes, be cautious and safe but get offline already).

No, there's no formula for how best to pace yourself (actually that's another post for another time), but if you're emailing for a month then texting for another and then planning a first date six months down the line, well I'd imagine you probably had other priorities (or were super shy, or inexperienced, or busy with other men, or any number of reasons for why you were building a bigger wall between yourself and someone who you could truly love and who could truly love you back etc).

The reality is, it's hard not to have feelings for someone you're contacting and sharing with a lot, but he's not your boyfriend and you don't even know if there will be any magic there! I mean you could fall in love with his words over messages, texts, and emails. Then you could fall in love with his voice and his tone, his personality over the phone. You can fall in love (okay maybe lust, maybe infatuation, maybe love of making the fantasy dream come true, "It's finally him- The One!") but those feelings won't guarantee even the slightest SPARK, when you do meet.

It's good to be open nonetheless and approach all of this as a desire to affirm what you do want.

Well I was smitten with my OKC guy. But, long story short, we were set to meet, but never confirmed plans. And by "never confirmed", I mean he didn't get back to me (rejection is part of dating- another post for another time). Ever. That's that.

Funny enough, my cousin, was close by and seeing as how I hadn't see her in a while she scooped me up in her ride and off we went into the sunset (ok not quite). We went to a swanky Billiard lounge in Queens, where we sat on comfy couches and I got tell her about the pre-date that wasn't.

We ate pizza bites, laughed and talked about men, of course!

So, there was no date, but I had a great time with my Sister-Cousin.

Happy Dating & Loving,

VickyB

Take a Stand this Election 2012: I Decide. You Decide. #WeDecide

2012-08-19T16:59:00.001-07:00

We Decide: Speak up & Make a Difference

So many of us think and feel that the politics that go on OUT THERE have nothing to do with us.

The truth is for our daily lives are actually affected by the politics OUT THERE. What I do with my body, who I marry, and my quality of life are all issues that are impacted by the politics OUT THERE.

The truth is,
the politics you see OUT THERE (the politicians making speeches, community and board meetings, town hall meetings, and campaign commercials) is really about YOUR LIFE RIGHT NOW.

Many of us have full lives, whether we have jobs or we're looking for a job. Many of us are busy with people in our lives that revolve around the people we care about and whom we work with. Many of us want to live and lead happy and successful lives. Many of us want to make sure that we all have a fair chance at the kind of life we've always dreamed about. Many of us are more alike than different. Many of us know that our differences are to be celebrated because it is an asset.

This is your life right now. The politics is NOT OUT THERE. It is right HERE.

Let's use the power of the VOTE to take a stand on YOUR LIFE RIGHT NOW.

I decide. You decide. We DECIDE!

We Decide Gives Latinos a Voice

Join the conversation on Facebook & Twitter #WeDecide

Other really important reasons why politics are not just for the politicians.

FACTS:

Latino Poverty Rate
2006 – 20.6%
2010 – 26.6%

Greater increase than any other ethnic group.
* Pew Hispanic Center

Children Living in Poverty
African American – 4.4 million
White – 5.0 million
Latino – 6.1 million

* Pew Hispanic Research

No High School Diploma
Adults 20 or older

White – 14%
Asian – 15%
African American – 23%
Latino – 41%

* Pew Research

2008 Presidential Election
Eligible Whites who voted – 66%
Eligible African Americans who voted – 65%
Eligible Latinos who voted – 50%

My hope this election season is that we will recognize that politics is actually part of how we live our lives, what matters to us, and what will make a difference in our health and happiness. The poverty rates, the rates of high school diplomas, and the rates of who voted in the last presidential election, speak to just how much power we do have if we use the power!

Voting means that you are taking an active part in how you want your life to be and it says you care about your community.

Every person matters and every vote counts.

Take a stand!

Let's stand together and VOTE in 2012.

This post is compensated and in collaboration with Latina Bloggers Connect and nuvoTV.

(Almost) Wordless Wednesday: What a #Chillbreak looks like. #LatISM

2012-08-14T23:39:00.000-07:00

I need a #ChillBreak because it's hot & humid in#NYC! #LatISM

#LoveSense: Twitter 2 cents Tweets on Conscious Dating & Empowered Relationships

2012-08-09T11:02:00.000-07:00

If you missed my first #LoveSense session yesterday, 8/8/12, on Twitter, you can read the tweets here as well as see the meme (poster picture) that ignited some thoughts on Conscious (mindful and aware) Dating and Empowered Relationships.

Actually, I think if we are awake to our experiences and understand our feelings, actions, and decisions, this is being conscious which is empowering. In some ways, it's possible to use these interchangeably.

If you are new to Twitter, the tweets are read from the bottom to the top, but feel free to read them here however you wish. Also, if you have questions, please comment below and I will try to answer as soon as I can (give me at least 24hrs- I am a Tortoise in that way)!! I love your comments as well- so comment away!

Another note: we don't have to agree on this relationship stuff, but I do expect we can disagree lovingly ;) What do I know about healthy relationships and successful partnerships? I have loads of training and practice and tons of real life horror stories with relationships as well as priceless joyful experiences in relationships. Also, for the last two years, I have only dated amazing (goodhearted, caring, respectful, ambitious & authentic) men!

Do I want a life long partner- YES! Why don't I have one yet? Because I need to be the woman that he can show up to. Do I worry that it won't ever happen? Not these days... It's in my hands. I have complete confidence (because better and better men keep showing up... see I'm so excited for my next date!) that when I am truly ready for him, he will be showing up to me. This system of practice is also known as the Law of Attraction.

The key is just be the BEST YOU possible. That person (you) knows just how worthy they are of love that is reciprocated, abundant, and expansive. That person DESERVES. period.

Midnight Snack: Cozy Shack Pudding & Deep Thoughts

2012-08-06T23:58:00.000-07:00

I had one of those days where things start excellently, but then you get news you don't like, and then it feels like things have gone horribly wrong! Oy! Anyhoo, alongside managing my IBS and the GI doctor trying to figure out what affected my colon back in February, I was told by my orthopedic doctor that my X-rays and MRI of my right knee showed some damage to the meniscus as well as an abnormality. The doctor strongly suggested I move forward with surgery but warned me that I might have ACL damage that would make the surgery and recovery even more serious if they were to discover that once they got in there. Double Oy!

So, I cried today for all the frustrations...

I ate some Cozy Shack...

I meditated...

I prayed...

It will be ok.

Midnight Snack: Something to Chew On

2012-07-30T23:57:00.001-07:00

I'm up late... I read somewhere that 2am is a magical time for creative thinking. I think any time after midnight, I am apt to get some creative thoughts or just start pondering some questions. So, I thought, every once in a while I might share these random and short thoughts and call them, "Midnight Snack" when I do post them here.

Tonight's Midnight Snack:

I was sharing with one of my girls how way back, a guy that I had started dating was impossible to make plans with, but he would love to call me and "just talk"- I felt this not a romantic dating scenario, this is turning into we're just friends or something. So, I confronted him over the phone, gently.

He told me, for him to feel compelled to make plans he would have to feel something stronger and deeper.

I responded, we make plans so we can spend time so we can possibly begin to develop stronger and deeper feelings.

He then told me maybe he just didn't want to do this "serious" thing with me, but he was happy to do the non-serious thing and "just hang out whenever we could hang out."

Umm yeah, not the guy for me. NEXT.

Moral of the Story: A guy knows when he FEELS something and that guy DOES PLAN with you and wants to SPEND TIME with you because he knows he can LOVE YOU.

Dare to Bare: Confessions of a Girl who Showed Some Skin [Part II]

2012-07-22T08:49:00.002-07:00

This post is sponsored by Dove® ClearTone™ Deodorant - designed to visibly reduce underarm dark marks and even skin tone.

Confession:
Being a big girl with curves, pretty much every part of me is big! It is now, in my 30's, that I'm the most comfortable I have ever been in my own body! I feel sexy most days and want to get fit for my best health! It has only been at this time of my life that I actually fully came to understand why self-care in the form of pampering myself was a really good thing for me. Before my 30's, I used to think that it was a waste of time!

Why were my girlfriends spending extra time primping, applying, and worried about how to protect their skin?! I wasn't into make up, accessorizing, spending time lathering my body with scented lotions or protective Sun screens! Also I thought, there's so much body on me, what takes them a few minutes to do would be an endless process for this sexy mama! ha!

I had revelation that pampering myself is crucial to my self-care. Now, I try to make pampering a part of my health and wellness plan.

Revelation:

Creating a beauty ritual helps with maintaining daily self-care.

My lotion lathering ritual helps me tap into and appreciate my physical body by being mindful about the act of hands to skin.

Heads, shoulders, knees, and toes! And elbows, cheeks, and face! A good way to create a ritual of care is to name (and connect) with the areas of your body that need the care. It's easy to lose track and not give your pinky toe any attention, but you'll be set if you create a ritual of care for your toes!

Over all skin care is key because your skin is what comes in contact with everything outside of you- treat it with care by actually being active in its wellness! Coming from having had severe acne in my 20's and into my 30's, I have a greater appreciation for the necessary time and energy it takes to keep my skin clear!

You are not too young for facial cleansing, exfoliating, using toner, moisturizing and protecting yourself from the Sun.

Glam up your pampering by highlighting your natural beauty with your makeup routine. I never really appreciated the awesomeness of makeup - until my 30's. It's like magic. I can have the girl next door look one day and party like a rock star diva look another day.

Smelling good is not only good for you, but everyone else around you! The key here is your bathing, deodorizing, and perfuming ritual that you keep!

Feeling good helps you look your best and show off some skin!

Over a year ago, I had no beauty rituals and thought my friends were wasting their time with all that stuff, but now I know just how important is and just how good it makes me feel when I take care of myself!

I was compensated for this post by the Clever Girls Collective.com. All the opinions expressed here are my own.

Dare to Bare: Confessions of a Girl who Showed Some Skin [Part I]

2012-07-22T05:31:00.001-07:00

This post is sponsored by Dove® ClearTone™ Deodorant - designed to visibly reduce underarm dark marks and even skin tone.

Confession:
Being a big girl with curves, it took me a while to get used to myself in my own skin. For a long time I was hiding most of my body parts! I used to hide my booty and be embarrassed about how it jutted out. Then, thankfully, when I was in my 20’s, I actually appreciated it. By the time I was appreciating my backside, I found another body-issue to contend with, my big arms!

I envied girls with lean arms who could wear whatever arm-baring tops and shirts. When Summer came around, my tanks and arm-baring tops were worn when I went away somewhere to tropical paradises. On vacation, I felt so free and uninhibited. I would wear mini-skirts like I had business wearing them! Talk about showing skin!

I had revelation that I am living now in baby steps, especially during the Summer heat wave temperatures that NYC has been experiencing lately.

Revelation:

The more beauty from the inside that I can tap into, the more confident I feel.

The more I take care of my mind, body, spirit, the better I feel about myself.

The more I feel better about myself, the more I feel good in what I wear.

The more I feel good about what I wear, the easier it is to show off some skin.

The more I free myself from thoughts like, “I have big arms”, “I have too much going on there”, “the jiggly bits were cute but now I can’t even call them ‘bits’ can I?”, the more I can just BE. I can just wear whatever fits me well, showing off skin or not.

The more I can just BE, the better I can find the best look for me and feel great about showing some skin!

Where a year ago I would not show my arms off if I wasn't on a beach somewhere, this Summer I have been baring my arms for the world to see!

To make sure I am feeling excellent showing off some skin, I have a few rituals I do as well! Read Part II to find out what they are!

I was compensated for this post by the Clever Girls Collective.com. All the opinions expressed here are my own.

The Power to Change through Education: Engage. Motivate. Inspire. #WaveForChange

2012-07-20T23:56:00.000-07:00

Education is a currency. It is like money (spent wisely). You can be rich with education and you will never be poor (of mind). Education offers a chance to experience the world through many different lens and then asks you to be brave and move toward the strongest force of your personal inclination- a passion, a purpose, a mission! That sounds powerful to me!

That's probably why I am on one of the longest roads of education. I am student of life, but also a student in school- STILL! Every level of education brought me closer to where I am right now. I went from my elementary school in Queens, PS66 to Holy Child Jesus School (for 7th and 8th grades), to St. Francis Preparatory High School to St. Joseph's College (for my BA), to Hunter College School of Social Work (for my Master in Social Work), and presently to the Graduate Center City University of New York (for my PhD)- where I am still a student! I am humbled by the fact that my parents made their way from Colombia (a bit of education: Today is Colombian Independence Day: Colombia declared independence from Spain on July 20, 1810) when they were teenagers with their respective families. They have been blue collar workers ever since and making their way in the USA wanting to be able to have their kids get the best education possible and be successful. I am proud of their journey and my own and I do see it as being a part of a wave for change!

See Wave for Change Video

It's not only my own journey that shows me the power to change through education. It is the role models in my life that champion education and it's the stories of students who are champions in their education journey! My cousin-in-law, Shawadeim Reagans, is a KIPP school leader, and one of the most hard working educators that I know! That is why it was exciting to see that Neutrogena® Wave for Change® campaign is giving back to KIPP and programs like it!

Be the change- The Wave for Change: Just view the video!

For third year in a row, the Neutrogena® Wave for Change® campaign is helping rebuild the lives of thousands of kids in need. For every Wave for Change® video view on http://www.neutrogena.com/waveforchange or on http://www.facebook.com/neutrogena , $1 will be donated to GlobalGiving to support U.S. educational organizations: Knowledge is Power Program (KIPP), Para Los Ninos, and Education Through Music.

For each participating Neutrogena product purchased, another $1 will be donated to GlobalGiving. Simply visit http://www.neutrogena.com/waveforchange or http://www.facebook.com/neutrogena to activate the purchased products with one simple click.

You can be part of the story of a new generation of students, teachers, and educators that engage, motivate and inspire by sharing about the power to change through education!

View this video below which activates the $1 donation! Pay it forward by sharing widely!

KIPP Voices

"More than anything, I want our kids to be the pilot not the passenger on their journey." - Shawadeim Reagans, KIPP school leader.

Samuel Alsobrook, Valedictorian Class of 2012
picture credit: KIPP: TEAM and FAMILY BLOG

"I now know that I am a tough person who is “possible.” The support KIPP has given me has allowed me to pursue scholarship opportunities and apply and be accepted to college." -Samuel Alsobrook, Class of 2012

"I had been fighting my whole life making choices—and changes—that didn’t seem possible. There was no reason to stop choosing the best possible future.... I felt like the change I was making for myself was also a change for KIPP, and maybe a change for education. Here at Yale, just like at all the other schools I’ve been to, I often focus on the basics: Word hard. Be nice. But I try not to forget the bigger picture: Make Change." - George Ramirez, KIPP Alumnus NYC, Yale student

"Before coming to KIPP STRIVE Academy, writing was foreign territory to me."- Jolisa, Published Author in the 5th Grade, begins 8th grade in the Fall

Powerful statements and testaments which makes clear the power to change through education! Are you inspired?

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Have you seen the video yet?
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Have you told your friends to view it? Shared it on your wall?

Every view is a $1 towards KIPP and organizations like it!

Share widely and be a wave for change!

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Disclosure: This is a sponsored post in collaboration with Neutrogena® Wave for Change® through Latina Bloggers Connect.

Are You Over Senseless Tragedy? I am. I Send Heartfelt Prayers to Colorado

2012-07-20T13:35:00.000-07:00

Gunman killed 12 people and injured many more
in a Colorado theater of midnight showing of, "Dark Knight".
*Google image

I woke up today and saw that it was rainy and gloomy outside. It also was colder than usual here in NYC.

When I saw the news this morning of the massacre in Colorado, I felt an even colder chill run through my body, but then I felt nothing. I was kind of numb. De-sensitized. It almost felt like maybe I didn't care.

Did I care? Yes, but when it's hard to make sense of something and when it hurts when you think about it deeply, sometimes it feels better not to care instead of worrying and getting angry and enraged.

It's all very normal, especially as we are a country that has seen and experienced its fair share of senseless crimes, tragedies, and losses.

I am over senseless tragedy. I am also over retaliation and more of the same kind of responses to senseless tragedies.

The tragedies won't end, but I am hoping that we take care of each other as people, more and better. That way more of these tragedies do not occur and we can better cope with them if and when they do.

Here's, "A Moment of Silence" in light of the events that took place today, July 20th, 2012 in Colorado.

A Moment of Silence
by Tom Hoefner

Excerpt:

...

Today is not about gun control, it is not about justice, and it is certainly not about comic books. It is about loss, tragic loss, senseless loss. The dialogue and investigation that follows may forget: evil needs no motivation. Evil can exist in a vacuum. When a good man does bad things we can ask ourselves, “Why?” When evil men do evil things, asking “Why?” is a fool’s journey.

We know this. So if and when the sentinels come and point their fingers, again, and blame the expression of art for the actions of an evil man, we will not blink. We will not shout back. We understand that some will always need to point a finger, some will always need to lay the blame as far and wide as they can throw it, even if their aim is not true. We will not get angry. We will not shout back. We will shoulder the blame that some need to throw, that some need to dish out so they can heal in their own way.

...

What’s important is this: twelve dead. Thirty-eight hurt. For no reason at all.

Please read, " A Moment of Silence" in its entirety, here.

What Tom wrote really resonated with me. I've tried to support most of his life endeavors and this guy won't so much as "Like" my Kindness & Kisses FB page, but when he writes something like this, I forget that I love/hate this freind and all I want to do is share his really amazing insight and writing. It's definitely worth the full read. If you go, let him know who sent you- maybe he'll visit here... one day! ;)

People are important. All people matter. Yes, even the ones that can very well hurt us. They're important, they need help, they need care, and they need a world that won't forget that.

Choosing reflection, insight, and compassion as we sort this tragedy out as a nation,

Vicky B.

Thoughtful Thursday: Kindness Meets Activism at Planned Parenthood

2012-07-19T23:59:00.000-07:00

Thoughtful Thursday: To Be Beautiful Means What To You?

2012-07-12T13:23:00.000-07:00

Identity Magazine posed this question to its exclusive contributors. Check out the full article here to discover how self-love, appreciation, and assertiveness bring out the most beautiful you. Here's my answer, but you can read it on Identity Magazine as well! Stay Beautiful!

Beautiful = YOU + LOVE

Being Beautiful Means: Beautiful is who you are on the most deepest level. You are beautiful at your core. Because at your core, you are love itself. You are love come alive!

The stuff (clothes, possessions, professional titles, etc) and the actual physical nature of ourselves- what we look like and how we show ourselves to the world, are not the things that define you, but they can either make you radiate more beauty or less.

How can a woman feel beautiful?
You can feel beautiful by CHOOSING:
1. Your HEALTH
2. Your HEART
3. Your SPIRIT

Beauty is a natural bi-product of LOVE.

It goes great with your favorite dress and most comfy flats or highest heels!

You choose the color of how beauty looks on you!

~Catch Vicky B. on Twitter: @DocSabia ~
"Choose Kindness and Kiss often!" -VickyB

When You Don't Want To Write... Tell the Truth.

2012-07-07T11:07:00.004-07:00

Write about how you don't want to write. I'm not in a writing slump, I don't have writer's block, and I have plenty of material write about- both blog-related and academically. I just don't want to write. I said, I'm not in a slump, but maybe what I am in, is a funk.

A mini-funk.

I've been doing a lot of soul-searching, personal research, and accessing resources in the last two weeks. This was brought about by my progress letter in my PhD program. The problem? I'm not making progress- after five full years of being the program I haven't reached the last few milestones that I SHOULD reach.

I'm being should-ed on! I'm should-ing on myself! What a piece of SHOULD! ugh!

Ok, enough. That's what happens when you put a world of "shoulds" on your shoulders- it's too heavy and the only place to go is into a funk. Here I am.

For the record, I am working on the tasks that need attention so I can reach these milestones, but it's a little bit of an uphill battle right now. So, I am doing the best to keep my spirits up, but lately, I have some dark moments that take the spotlight in my mind and heart. I'm still me- happy and positive, but I am having moments of sadness, frustration, and even loneliness during this time. Wow- and I haven't had a combination like that in a long time.

I'm a big proponent of getting help when you need it so remember I said if things feel like you need extra support and ways to cope you might consider going to a therapist, life coach, or other professional that will be there for you in a constructive, proactive, and guiding way.

That's what I did. Plus, I am blessed with an incredibly supportive network of friends and family. Some more supportive than others and I am appreciative of it all.

That's the the truth.

Thoughtful Thursday: My Goal

2012-06-28T10:28:00.000-07:00

Wordless Wednesday: A Girl Can Dream Can't She?

2012-06-27T21:06:00.000-07:00

There's nothing wrong with fantasizing...
It's even the saftest sex you can have.
Oh, speaking about sex, make sure it's the good kind!
The Good Kind of Sex:

A. You mutually care and have respect for each other.

B. You protect each other by having safe sex (condoms are a must)!

C. You encourage health and wellbeing by getting tested

for STI/STD's regularly (annually or when with a new partner).

D. You have fun and feel free when you romp together. :)

E. It feels great to be together even when you're not romping.

*Thanks Google for the movie poster picture of Magic Mike! Bought my ticket already!

Some Kids Sell Lemonade, I used to Sell Comic Books

2012-06-25T20:56:00.000-07:00

I have Super Powers
of Entrepreneurship & Innovation!
What's your super power?

When I was in 8th grade, my dad brought home stacks of new comic books that were left behind in a dorm room he was in charge of cleaning. My sisters and I rarely cared about comic books, but needless to say, here they were and we started reading them!

I'm not sure at what moment I would think up a brilliant idea, but it might have been in the middle of me enjoying a special series of comics, "The Punisher". Oh my gosh, this comic was crazy good. Wait, is this what other kids were reading? Wait, do they have this comic already? They would probably want it?

Brilliant idea: Lots of comics + tons of boys

at school= Money in my pocket

My first little business.

Some kids sell lemonade. I was selling quality comics at a discount price.

Who knew that I was a little entrepreneur in the making.

What's an entrepreneur?

A person who is willing to launch a "business" (product, service, etc), has final responsibility for it and who will get the benefits of that venture.

What's entrepreneurship?

The act of making an idea into a sell-able product or service.

What's innovation?

The creation of better or more effective products and services (as well as more effective processes, technologies, and even ideas) that can be used widely.

When I was in 8th grade, I wanted money so I could have money to buy something I wanted for myself. I didn't love comics. I didn't love selling comics. I didn't like being a sales type person. And I don't particularly remember even having that much fun negotiating with the boys when they told me that the price I set was too high even at a discount price! How rude! ha!

Still, what was great about what I did back then was how I was thoughtful in sitting with my possibilities. I was creative as I considered strategies of how I could have something I wanted and I loved. And even though, there was nothing particularly innovative about what I did back then, it's the creative stirrings that speak to successful innovation. My "business" didn't last too long and then I would become a regular working girl, but every job had its lesson.

When you're young and it's the Summer before you head off to college, any job is a good job, because even if you don't like it, you work it to get to the next step to something better. Whether a job is paid or unpaid, there are skills that you are learning or mastering that will serve your growing entrepreneurial and innovative spirits. I worked at my church rectory and then as a Summer Day Camp worker for my Summers before college. Later, when I was in college, as I learned more and more about the world and my place in it, I would think back on these Summer jobs, not only from the perspective of what my exact job was, but I would wonder about all the people who made that job a possibility and what happens behind the scenes. Who runs things? What is the service? What is the product? Who makes all the money?

You have the opportunity to use any job now to be a thoughtful planner with your future possibilities.

You have the opportunity to be creative with strategies. Ask yourself, "If I could go outside the box of what is expected, what would I do? What would it look like?"

Currently, I think about my strengths, my skills, what I have to offer others and what do I want my legacy to be in this world. I think about how making money for something I want to have (whether it be for a vacation or anything new I want or to provide for others), is a good step towards making money DOING SOMETHING I LOVE. That is the ideal and the awesome possibility. So, personally, I am always moving in that direction, dreaming big INNOVATIVE ideas, and attempting to bring it together to form a beneficial product (whether it be information or services) for others- ENTREPRENEURSHIP!

How do you think up the brilliant idea? How do you find the thing you love? How do get the tools you might need to launch an idea or project you've been dreaming about? How do you jump out of the box?

Here's my two cents and then I hope you share yours with me:

Make it your personal business to read about people who are doing what you want to do in life and are successful. READ!
Pick up a book for pleasure because if you want to come up with ideas, you must feed your mind/brain. The food it needs is mental stimulation and that is an easy food to get. So, eat it every day. READ, I SAY!
Fit body =more energy= more time to think creatively. Mind and body are connected. Move yours at least once a day! BE HEALTHY!
Write a note to someone who can be a mentor. Build this connection (relationship). This person will be a great asset as you become the person you dream of being and when you need a reference letter for the next job that brings you even closer to your dream opportunity. MAKE CRUCIAL CONNECTIONS!
Take more out of your classes, your work, and your experiences with family and friends than the average person- Ask yourself what did this experience teach me? What did that interaction (good or bad) teach me? How can I be a better person after the kind of day that I've just had? Be A STUDENT OF LIFE!
Ask yourself questions and find solutions to them. Be A SUPER PROBLEM SOLVER.
Share what you know you know! There are things that you are sure of. This is a strength. Share what you know. Be A TEACHER OF LIFE.

If you do these things, you are going to find out a lot about yourself and when you do know yourself more, the ideas about what you really want and what you really love come to you more easily and then then the journey has really begun- Hi there, Entrepreneur! Hi there, Innovator!

If you are a budding Entrepreneur, please share your two cents about what keeps you motivated? What helps you? What would you say to other budding Entrepreneurs?

If you are a launched Entrepreneur, please share your experience with how you began? What was the breakthrough for you?

If you are a veteran Entrepreneur, what are your unique words of wisdom for newbies?

Wishes of Entrepreneurial Spirit,

~Vicky B.

Disclosure: I am a Latina Smart Bloguera.