What a fun piece of bondage gear! Today, in my Liebe Seele Punishing Harness review, you’re going to see an innovative, playful way to cause pain to the harness wearer. Honestly, it’s a blast!

See, the Liebe Seele Punishing Harness is a circular harness that can be worn anywhere on the body that’s cylinder-shaped. The waist, hips, or a thigh will all probably be common spots.

Pulling that harness tightly around the body pulls the six built-in elastic strings tight on the harness. These elastic strings rest against the skin. At any point, anyone can pull one of these elastic strings away from the wearer’s body, and when the person lets go, the elastic string “snaps” back to where it was, causing a stingy “ouch” on the wearer as it does.

It’s, essentially, the kinky, adult equivalent of snapping someone’s bra strap!

This Punishing Rubber Band harness is made from top-grain leather while the “rubber bands” are made from elastic.

And let me tell you, it’s lots of fun. Let’s get into this Liebe Seele Punishing Harness review.

What Size Does It Fit?

Really, the Punishing Harness can be worn anywhere you can wrap and fasten a 32″ harness around.

This makes it suitable for body use for some “straight” sized individuals, with a wider use range if you’re going to use it around a thigh. It won’t fit the waist or hips of a plus-sized individual unless you craft or purchase an extender for the buckle (which is very doable! The buckle is 1.25″ in width with gold colored hardware. The leather itself is slightly under 1″ in width. It looks like this one would work, but I haven’t tried it.)

If you really wanted it to fit a spot it currently doesn’t fit, you could leather punch additional holes to make the harness narrower or larger. Taking measurements, I’d say you have 1.5″ of extra space to make it narrower and 1″ of extra space (if you pierce the logo) to make it wider.

The harness takes up 6″ of vertical room. It won’t fit short areas like a neck. It needs at least 6″ of vertical clearance. The elastic strands are, well, elastic, though, so you can “fudge” the required height a bit as long as the stiff leather ends aren’t bumping uncomfortably into skin. The leather that holds the elastic strands in place is very firm (to keep the strands in place!), and it doesn’t bend with skin in the same way that collars or other BDSM gear can.

This limited size range is probably the biggest downside I’ve found throughout my Liebe Seele Punishing Harness review period. A maximum size of 32″ just…isn’t very big. If we use a standard American size chart (let’s go with Victoria’s Secret), it might fit the hips of an XXS person, and if worn around the waist, it would only fit someone up to a size Large. If you’re beyond that Large, you’ll be limited to thigh wear or need to modify or buy extenders for your harness. That’s just….really, really limiting.

I’d love to see Liebe Seele offer those extenders or make this harness in multiple sizes. Right now, it feels like the only size they have is “Small”, and it’s the default.

The elastic bands do give you a bit of flexibility on the sizing, though. Since they stretch (and we want them taut), you can squeeze out another couple of inches by simply stretching the elastic bands as you put it on. To be clear, though, on the shots you see on my submissive’s hips, we’re on some of the loosest settings, and he only weighs 145 pounds.

Let’s Talk Use

I freakin’ LOVE this thing! I absolutely love it.

I’m someone who really loves doling out small amounts of pain to anyone who has agreed to it. I’m not necessarily into the pain itself; I love the level of control it represents. I can hurt someone just because I want to, whenever I want to, to whatever level I want to. It’s a level of control I adore.

The Liebe Seele Punishing Harness is pretty much tailor-made for that exact experience.

Your bottom wears the Punishing Harness, and anytime you feel like it, you pull a cord, and it snaps back onto their skin.

In your wake, you leave a very noticeable stinging sensation. My submissive likens it to the snap of a very-well-snapped rubber band. He says it’s much stingier than a bra strap snap, and it’s impossible to ignore. That makes sense. The elastic bands are much smaller in circumference.

Every time I do it, it instantly brings his attention to me, and he says it’s unexpectedly more painful than he thinks it will be every time I do it. He’s a well-behaved pet, but he still pulls away from me (and the sensation) every time I do it. Again, I find this pretty entertaining.

Where you wear it is also really important. We found this most pleasant to wear around the hips, snapping the elastic bands on his butt. His butt felt pleasurably “ouchie”. It hurt, but his brain translated that ouch into a sexual, spanking-like sensation. His thighs were equally enjoyable in a good way, though sliding the elastic bands to snap on the inner thigh made for much larger jumps in his body when I’d snap them.

When we tried wearing it around the waist during our Liebe Seele Punishing Harness review testing period, it wasn’t as good. He says the pain hurt in a not-fun way. The elastic bands being snapped around the front of his torso (like on the stomach) brought on some nausea. He was worried about having the elastic bands snap on the backside because of the proximity to the kidneys – and it just didn’t feel great on his back and spine. He said he’d likely place a soft limit on the Punishing Harness if we could only use it on the waist; it didn’t feel like sexy-pain, and it made him anxious.

This is an important distinction to make, as many people – especially in the US – will be unable to wear it around the hips at its current default size. Waist or thigh use may be the only spots where it will fit.

Through our Liebe Seele Punishing Harness review, we’ve tried to figure out how to best modify the sensations to meet a happy medium between fun and “too much”:

• The wearer can wear the Punishing Harness more loosely. The tighter the harness is, the more the elastic bands cut into the skin. They also snap more forcefully if the harness is tight. Wear the harness on a looser setting to reduce how intense the sensation is.
• Reduce how far you pull the elastic band. The further the elastic band is pulled from the body, the more forcefully it returns back to the body. For less “ouch”, the top can use a lighter hand when pulling the elastic band. A shorter travel distance makes for less rebound for less “snap” on the skin.

Important to note: Because of how this harness sits, if you get the harness tight, it will leave the wearer’s skin looking a bit like a can of biscuits. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing; I think squishy bits pushing through the elastic strands look hot. But if someone is wearing this on an area they’re self-conscious about, this squishy appearance through the elastic bands may make them uncomfortable.

CBT Potential!

Due to medical issues, my submissive and I don’t play much with CBT, but the Punishing Harness could easily be used for it. We set it up that way and everything. It was such a good threat. ;)

Have a penis-owning submissive lie down. For easiest use, an erection, pointed up towards their belly button, will be most efficient. Place the Punishing Harness around the hips/waist, letting the elastic bands criss-cross across the erection. Fasten it behind their back.

Now, you can easily “snap” any one of these elastic bands directly onto the erection. As long as you can keep any resulting ejaculate away from the leather harness itself, you also have an easy-clean CBT toy as well. Elastic bands are pretty easy to wipe up after play.

This really works best if the penis-owner is lying down. If they stand or sit, the penis tends to simply jut out between two of the bands instead of staying at rest underneath all six of them. This might be one of those sex positions where spread-eagle bondage can be really helpful. ;)

Just remember to start this slow. There’s a lot of force behind a snapping elastic band, and you don’t want to actually break the penis.

A Femdom Party Addition?

We haven’t used this at a femdom party, but it’s on my to-do list.

I really love the idea of having a submissive in this Punishing Harness as part of the “dinner service” team. They’ve consented to be “punished” for any mistakes via this harness.

If they make a mistake (or, y’know, don’t make a mistake), any femdom can snap one of the elastic bands on the harness.

The same premise could be used for any type of service experience – whether that’s cocktails at home with just the two of you or someone in an administrative position at a pegging party.

It feels less cumbersome than having to find an impact toy or using a hand to slap bare skin. Instead, the “punishment” option is constantly worn on the submissive’s body, reminding them to do a good job. If they’re a “stellar” employee, you could make up some fun party games. Choosing numbers 1 through 6 could correspond to elastic bands on the harness, meaning the submissive is constantly being snapped in different spots all night.

It sounds like a blast, and it’s currently top of my list for group kinky games.

Durability: Liebe Seele Punishing Harness Review

We spent a lot of time trying to break this as part of our Liebe Seele Punishing Harness review testing. The red marks on his skin are a definite testament to that.

It’s very sturdily made. The structured, reinforced leather panels that hold the elastic bands provide a sturdy grip on the bands. Despite all the times I tried to pull the elastic to its max, the panels held the stringy toys tight. I don’t foresee the leather ripping or tearing; it’s a thicker leather, closer to the thickness of a pants belt than the thinner leathers of some decorative leather gear.

I think time may be your biggest downside here. Over time, elastic and rubber will break down. In five or ten years, some of the elastic bands may be more prone to breakage because their material has simply gotten more brittle with time.

That, or you’re going to get TOO gung-ho with the elastic bands and end up pulling one past its elastic limits. One of the two.

Until that happens, we’ve thrown this one through the ringer, and we don’t seem to be able to pull out the elastic strings, snap them, or tear any part of the leather. It’s very durable.

Final Thoughts: Liebe Seele Punishing Harness Review

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Two decades ago, when the only place to get a sex toy was a seedy store in the corner of town, penis sex toy options were laughingly barren. Most penis owners were ushered over to the DVD section where they could enjoy a complimentary bottle of lube (to use their own hand)

Nowadays, as people with shafts look for new sensations and ways to pair their favorite content with sex toys, manufacturers are taking notice. Where there’s a place to make money, innovation will follow, and that’s the case here as well.

If you’re hoping to pleasure a penis, there are many more penis sex toy options out there than there used to be. From simplistic toys that are more budget-friendly to toys that push the scope of the term “teledildonics” to the fullest, there are lots of pretty cool ways to experience pleasure at the hands of a very orgasmic inanimate object. Let me introduce you to some of them:

Penis Strokers & Masturbation Sleeves

Masturbation sleeves are just long, tight tubes that slide around your penis. The inside of this tube is usually textured, allowing the skin of your shaft to push along different surfaces that pleasure the nerve endings of the penis. Since dry penetration isn’t pleasant, you lube up your shaft (and the interior of the tube) ahead of time, making for a slippery surface as you slide inside of the toy.

These toys are controlled by your hand. You use your hand to move the toy up and down your shaft, mimicking penetration as the toy slides up and down.

Fleshlights are one of the most popular brands of penis strokers.

READ: Should I Buy a Fleshlight?

Some penis strokers are only made from squishy materials. When you grip the exterior of the stroker, you’re touching the squishy part. If that’s the case, how tightly you grip the stroker around your shaft will change the resulting sensation.

Other penis strokers hide their squishy bits inside of a rigid plastic case. While this can reduce lube getting all over and make it easier to grip the stroker, it also means that you can’t squeeze the squishy bits to make them feel tighter. The pre-set width of the stroker will determine exactly how tight the toy feels.

Part of the enjoyment of a penis stroker will also be the visual of using it. The orifice (that’s what we call the entrance of the stroker) will stretch around your shaft, providing something very stimulating to look at. This orifice may look like a mouth, a vulva, an anus, or something else, depending on what kinks you’re into.

The durability of your penis stroker will vary widely based on the price. Cheaper materials are cheaper, and they’ll rip more easily. More durable materials might be nearing the $100 price point, but they tend to be thicker, feel more lifelike, and have more complex, pleasurable interiors.

Since most penis strokers are made from TPR or TPE material, however, they’re not designed to last forever. Expect material breakdown (it’ll start to become stickier or brittle, depending on the formulation) before the 5-year mark with regular use and perfect care history.

Male masturbation sleeves and penis strokers tend to a penis owner’s first experience with sex toys.

Recommendations: If you’re on a budget, I tend to recommend Tenga sex toys; they’re solid quality without a high price point. They are, however, non-realistic. If you want realism, I always recommend Fleshlight strokers. There’s a reason they’re known as the best out there.

App-Enabled Penis Strokers

Worth their own callout, manufacturers have figured out that people who masturbate to porn love having sex toys that can synchronize to that porn. Checks out, right?

App-enabled penis strokers connect wirelessly to your cell phone. If the stroker and app are equipped with it, the sex toy can then use the data from the porn video you’re watching to synchronize your sex toy to the action on the screen.

As you could probably guess, these app-enabled options are much more expensive than their non-electronic counterparts. These toys are equipped with motors (to move the stroker), transmitters (to provide data to the app), and receivers (to receive data from the app) that come with a much higher upfront cost.

Recommendations: Some common examples of this would be the KIIROO KEON 2 (the 1 is pictured above), The Handy, or the Lovense Solace Pro. I’ve used the KIIROO KEON and love TF out of it. If you want something more hassle-free (and away from the “big names”), the Fleshy Thrust Sync works in-browser and has become our go-to option for super-quick play sessions to “tube” videos. If you’re someone who loves fast thrusting (and doesn’t want/need slow thrusting), there’s also the SVAKOM Jetpack.

Male Masturbator Cups

You’ve probably seen these around, marketed with names like “The Male Rose”. They essentially look like a plastic handle (you hold onto) while a cup attached to the handle does all of the work of swirling and thrusting onto your shaft.

It kinda looks like a washing machine for your penis, essentially.

These have become popular because they do all the work for you. You simply hold a handle and push buttons, and the toy itself does all the movements while you hold it in place.

Wider or longer shafts beware, though: in order to function, the male masturbation cup must be able to spin and swirl around the shaft freely. This requires a happy medium. If the toy spins too freely, you probably won’t get much sensation. The texture won’t really be pressing into your skin. If it doesn’t spin freely enough, the toy gets stuck, and the motor gets jammed, and it just stops moving.

This is the concern for wider or longer shafts. If you’re wider or longer than average, the toy may simply be too narrow for you, and you’ll find that most penis masturbation cups like these will lock up or freeze under the friction.

If you’re in the market for a male masturbation cup, please note that you’ll get what you pay for. Moving a surface across the shaft, with constant friction (because that’s what feels good), requires some decent power. Cheaper masturbation cups are built with cheaper motors. Cheaper motors will freeze when they meet resistance. More expensive masturbation cups make for stronger motors that can push through that friction, providing the sensation you’re looking for.

Even so, this constant resistance can be hard on the motors of these toys, and early toy death is relatively common. While I like that the technology exists, it’s still in its infancy, and as of October 2026, I’d say that it’s generally not worth buying one of these yet. The durability still hasn’t been ironed out. If you still want to buy one, make sure it’s from a responsive company, and that company offers a decent sex toy warranty for you to make a claim with.

Recommendations: Common examples of male masturbator cups include The Male Rose, Alive One (pictured above), and more. The Male Rose brand notably has Quality Assurance factory issues, so make sure to reach out to the retailer or use that aforementioned sex toy warranty if you have issues shortly after buying.

Penis Sex Toy Options: Cock Rings

The cock ring category is, essentially, split into two different categories: vibrating and non-vibrating.

For the wearer’s pleasure, a non-vibrating cock ring can provide a firmer-feeling erection. With its tighter squeeze, it helps keep your focus on your shaft, and it kinda brings “awareness” to the whole area. Plus, some people find the “look” of them to be extremely hot, and it can be a bit like your own kind of lingerie.

Vibrating penis rings can also provide a lot of pleasure to the wearer. The vibrations from a vibrating penis ring can shake the whole shaft, providing pleasure from base to tip.

There’s a happy middle ground, though: if you play with some timbres of vibrations for too long, they can temporarily reduce the sensitivity of the nerves in the shaft. It’s not permanent, but you might find that your hand doesn’t feel as intense as it normally does for the next 30 minutes or so. Cycling the vibrations on and off (or using vibration patterns) can help mitigate this.

These can be particularly fun because cock rings are traditionally worn around the base of the shaft. That leaves the rest of the penis open for business. You can pop on a vibrating cock ring, and enjoy the vibrations, while still using a stroker or your hand on the rest of the shaft. It’s like having your cake and getting to eat it too!

If you’re primarily purchasing a cock ring to pleasure yourself, the wearer, look for cock ring designs that stay close to the wearer’s body. Vibrating rings designed to nestle against your balls or against the taint will provide even more sensation. Many vibrating penis rings are specifically designed to pleasure a partner’s clitoris; if you aren’t trying to do that with this purchase, look for options that’ll focus more of the toy’s design on pleasuring you.

Recommendations: If you’re going to go with a non-vibrating cock ring, I genuinely recommend going with a cheap, super-stretchy one. This is one of those instances where I really have no problem recommending cheap: it’ll be stretchy, easy to get on and off, you won’t care if you freak out and have to cut it off, and it’ll still do its job of restricting blood flow to the shaft. TPR or TPE will be much stretchier than silicone. With all that in mind, the favorite non-vibrating ones I’d recommend would be the Commander Cock Ring (has little handles), Performance Silicone Go Pro (holds very firm), or the Alpha 3-Piece Beaded Set (you get three!)

If you’re going with a vibrating option, I’d recommend leaning towards ones designed for the wearer’s pleasure. They’re definitely harder to find, but they’re out there. Some great examples are the Lovense Diamo, Svakom Benedict, or the Zero Tolerance Nutty Buddy.

Penis Vibrators

Penis vibrators are, literally, vibrators shaped to pleasure a penis. If you’ve spent your entire life stroking up and down to cum, penis vibrators are going to have a bit more of a learning curve than most penis sex toy options.

Essentially, you place the penis vibrator onto your shaft, and you literally leave it there, allowing the vibrations to do all of the work. That’s it.

Using a penis vibrator is going to be about the same as using a vibrator on a clitoris. The sex toy’s power is designed to do all the work for you. You just hold it in place, and enjoy the ride.

That being said, penis vibe manufacturers know that quite a few penis owners aren’t used to vibrations as a primary method to orgasm. Because of that, quite a few penis vibrators feature internal ribbing or other internal textures that allow you to also stroke up and down when you add a bit of lube to the toy. It can be the best of both worlds!

If your end goal is hands-free orgasms, I’d recommend viewing vibrations as a primary pathway to orgasm. There are quite a few penis sex toy options that offer hands-free orgasms if you can set them on your shaft, lie back, and enjoy the vibrations until you cum.

(If that’s your end goal, you can train yourself into this. With your penis vibe, use vibrations and stroking to get yourself to the edge. Once there, stop the stroking but increase the vibration intensity, seeing if you can orgasm from just the vibrations themselves. When you start, you’ll likely need to get really close to the edge before this will be successful, but over time, you can reduce how far away from the edge you need to be before you can cum with vibrations alone.)

If you’re in a couple, remember: penis vibrators are just regular vibrators but shaped for a shaft. If you’re with a lover who has their own vibrator you can borrow, you can easily borrow their toy, trying it on your shaft, to see how you respond to vibrations before you purchase a whole other toy.

Shown above is the Lovense Gush 2, but the Hot Octopuss Jett is a lower cost option. For anyone who needs a ton of power, there’s the Slubb. The Lovense Gush 2 Motion is the only one of the three that offers online control and Bluetooth connectivity.

Penis Sex Toy Options: Sex Dolls

I’mma be honest here: inflatable sex dolls have not gotten any better than their gag gift days of 20 years ago. They still have visible seams, are laughably unrealistic, and tend to puncture relatively easily.

That being said, the world of non-inflatable sex dolls has morphed into something unrecognizable from the penis sex toy offerings of 10 years ago. Innovations in factory creation have allowed TPE and TPR sex dolls to be mass-produced at a scale that was unheard of.

Sex dolls are surprisingly popular now. The TPE and TPR material is soft, jiggly, and squishy, allowing you to squeeze all of your favorite parts of a sex doll. These dolls feature built-in channels you can slide into with tight, textured designs that squeeze the shaft.

If you’re open to getting a smaller “mini sex doll” that only portrays the hips, you can get a quality small-table-sized one for around $100. It’ll only be about 10″ wide, but it’ll have the weight and heft to help simulate the feeling of skin slapping against yours as you pound into it.

If you want a doll that has human proportions, but you’re open to just the hips or just the torso of a person, you’re looking at a price point between $250 to $500.

Full-body, full-face sex dolls that actually look like human beings are still well-beyond most people’s price points, starting around the $2,000 mark and going up from there. But if you’re open to a smaller size or a “partial” part of the body, you can get something that’ll be more friendly to most people’s wallets.

If you’re looking for stereotypical bodies, I tend to recommend Tantaly. If you’re looking for mini sex doll hips at a budget-friendly price, I’d recommend the Isskis or the Sohimi generic hips. If you want sex dolls that portray niche kinks and fetishes, MRLSexDoll (their Marissa doll is shown above) is the place to go. (I have a full ranking of the different sex dolls I own here if you want to explore your options.)

“Air Suction” Penis Toys

Have you heard of The Rose toy? Y’know, that toy that’s gone famous on TikTok for providing new and innovative pleasure for the clitoris?

While the options are relatively limited right now, a few manufacturers make that exact same technology available for penis owners. In it, the sex toy sucks and pulses on your frenulum, one of the most sensitive spots on your shaft. At the same time, many of those toys offer full-shaft sensation on the right of the shaft with vibrations or squeezing sensations.

I’ll be honest: this is a very unique type of sex toy. It may not be for you. Air suction toys must be left in a single spot to work their magic; you’ll be missing any sort of up-and-down stroking on your shaft. If you’ve always needed that up-and-down stroking, air suction toys like this may not work for you. If, however, you’ve found some success with penis vibrators (or other stationary toys) OR really just want to try something new, these air suction penis toys can be a new journey to approach.

If they work for you, reviews have been phenomenal, saying it’s a deeper, more intense, full-body orgasm than they’ve ever experienced. If it doesn’t work for you, reviews have been frustrated, stating they just didn’t find it enough stimulation.

It’s really on a case-by-case basis.

One of the few versions of this out there right now (because they own the patent) is the Arcwave Ion 2. The 1 is pictured above.

Stroker Sex Machines

If you’re here, I’d guesstimate you’ve seen a sex machine. It’s a machine that pushes a dildo forwards and backwards.

You can take that exact same premise and apply it to penis stroking toys. Instead of pushing a dildo, the machine holds a penis stroker toy, pushing and pulling it up and down your shaft.

Unlike those app-enabled penis stroker machines we talked about above (like the KEON), these sex machines, quite literally, just swap out a dildo for a penis stroker. They don’t just sit on your lap for handheld pleasure. They’re full-ass sex machines. (This also comes with the reality of positioning. Are you open to standing, laying, or sitting in a position where the machine can reliably stroke your shaft?)

It does fall prey to many of the downsides of sex machines, though, so I recommend reading my Are Sex Machines Worth It? article to make sure it’s worth spending the dough for you.

Shown above is the Robo Fuk from XR Brands. For more power, reliability, and ability to swap out strokers, I’d probably look at the Motorbunny Grip series. It comes at a higher price point, but it lets you swap Fleshlights, KIIROO strokers, or Doc Johnson strokers in or out as you please.

Penis Sex Toy Options to Explore Ball Sex

A few years ago, awards were being handed out left-and-right for the new-to-market Balldo. This “Ball Dildo” (i.e. Balldo) holds your testicles inside of it, adding a tapered tip to the “tip” of your balls. Essentially, it makes it possible to slide your testicles INTO an orifice with some patience.

The skin of the testicles have a LOT of nerve endings (as many as the vulva), and this can feel absolutely amazing. People have been having ballsex for a long, long time now, but this is the first product that was really designed to help make it more approachable for people.

The Balldo (and its “upgrade” that adds vibrations, the “Viballdo“) is a unique sex toy all in its own category. There are no competitors that offer anything else like it.

So if you want innovation, it’s entirely innovative.

That being said, there are some things to note about it:

• It’ll require patience and experimentation. When you slide your balls taut into the Balldo, it makes them firmer and easier to penetrate with, but it is NOT a hard shaft. It will not be a simple “slide it in” endeavor. Plus, balls are sensitive, and pulling too much one way may be more ouchie than pleasurable. Expect to experiment with sex positions to find one you like.
• You have to get a good fit. The Balldo has “Spacer Rings”. Essentially, these Spacer Rings function as ball stretchers, shoving the balls further away from your body. As the balls get further from their body, they squeeze up against the base of your testicular sack’s skin, making them taut. As they get taut, it makes it easier to pleasure the nerve endings AND makes them easier to slip inside a hole. You may need to buy extra Spacer Rings to find a good fit if you got lots of balls hanging around.
• The Balldo and Viballdo virtually require a shaved surface. Their silicone material can and WILL pull any hair it finds. This includes on your partner’s hole for super-close, grinding contact. Plan for this.
• In order to offer enough space to slide the balls comfortably inside the Balldo, the Balldo is a THICK boy. It’s about a 2″ diameter. An average biological penis is only about 1.5″ in diameter. Make sure your receiving partner enjoys thick toys or it might be a non-starter due to size and not logistical issues.

If you like it, though, the Balldo does not give two shits about whether you’re erect or not, so it can offer penetration on demand, regardless of erection strength. If you’re trying to pleasure your package, this is one of the few penis sex toy options that works just as well flaccid.

That being said, it has a steep learning curve, and it probably won’t provide effortless, pop-your-balls-in-it orgasms. You’re going to have to experiment.

If you already know you don’t like your balls being stretched away from your body OR have dealt with testicular torsion or other testicle health issues, the Balldo and Viballdo may not be a good fit for you.

NSFW: If you’re curious about this in action, this is a VERY EXPLICIT clip showcasing how the Balldo works.

Penis Pumps

Traditionally, penis pumps are not necessarily considered one of the penis sex toy options. Many people use penis pumps as a simple way to achieve erection, and that may (or may not) be how you use them too.

However, some manufacturers are starting to craft penis pumps to be more of a pleasure-filled experience than a simple in-and-out design. Look for penis pumps with stroking mechanisms, vibrations, warming, or other features if you want to take your penis pump experience beyond the typical “erection achieved” design.

Bathmate penis pumps tend to be known as some of the most reliable if you want to simply achieve an erection.

If you’re looking for something with more sensations attached, you might prefer the Blush Performance VX4 system.

Be aware: anything that might shake the penis pump (like vibrations) will make it less effective at achieving a good suction seal, reducing the efficacy of how firm of an erection the pump may provide. You might consider this a happy trade-off (sensations versus penis hardness), but you should be aware that it’s a factor before buying a penis pump with some of these pleasure-focused designs built in.

Penis Sex Toy Options: Ball Stretchers

If you have balls alongside that shaft of yours, you might enjoy ball stretchers. Ball stretchers are designed to replicate a light, gentle squeeze and tug on the sack. They, essentially, look like weighted rings that are worn around the sack, gently weighing down the sack with the help of gravity.

Some people like to wear their ball stretchers out and about (like to the grocery store) for hidden sensations that are impossible to ignore. Others like to simply wear them while jerking off. Keep in mind: ball stretchers will feel best if they actually can “stretch” away from the body. Sitting down and letting your ball stretcher rest on the chair underneath you won’t provide as much sensation as standing up and letting it hang.

If you’re new to ball stretchers, start with lighter weights to ensure your first attempts are pleasurable instead of painful.

Recommended: Something that simply pulls the balls away (without any additional weight) can be a great place to start. The super-stretchy Master Series Ball Stacker or Fort Troff Swing ‘n’ Hang can be approachable for newbies. Down the line, if you like the sensations, something like the a Parachute Ball Stretcher will let you add even more weight.

Ball Vibrators

If the idea of stretching your balls isn’t doing it for you, that’s okay. It’s not for everybody.

However, if you like testicle stimulation, you might prefer ball vibrators instead.

These toys look like ball-shaped vibrators anchored onto a ring that wraps around your cock. You slide the ring down your shaft, setting it at the very base, and the vibrators cup your testicle skin, providing a little bit of weight alongside vibrations to your balls.

Ball vibrators can be extra-fun because they still leave the entire penis shaft available for play. You get bonus stimulation on the extra-sensitive flesh of the sack while you can do whatever you would normally do on your shaft.

I’d probably recommend playing more with the vibration patterns than steady speeds of vibration. Steady vibrations, left in a single spot for long periods of time, can eventually start to blend into the background. Using the patterned modes gives you constant breaks and intensity changes, keeping those vibrations at the forefront of your mind.

There’s some preliminary evidence that shows that vibration can reduce sperm motility, though, so you may wish to avoid ball vibrators if you’re actively trying to get someone pregnant.

Recommended: The Dorcel Fun Bag (shown above but now discontinued), Zero Tolerance Nutty Buddy, or Zero Tolerance Vibrating Ball Cradle.

Lubricant!

While not technically one of the “penis sex toy options”, lubes deserve an honorable mention. If all you do is pick up a bottle of $10 lube, your typical jerk-off sensation is already going to be transformed. Slippery, sliding sensations feel entirely different from friction-filled, firmer sensations. It can feel “goopy” in the best of ways.

Lubricant is also required to have a good time with virtually all of the penis sex toy options on this list. Sex toys do not make their lubrication. Makes sense, right? They’re not alive. As such, you gotta provide the lube to make the toy slide comfortably against your own shaft. If you want any given sex toy to feel better, simply add lube!

I recommend finding a basic water-based lube you love. Water-based lubes are compatible with (literally) everything. They can be used with safer sex barriers AND every sex toy material. They wash off easily without needing to use strong soaps. Technically, if you’re in a tight spot, you might be able to simply use a slightly damp washcloth to clean up water-based lubes without too much residue left behind.

Their only downsides: water-based lubes dry up faster than other types of lubes, and they wash away in water. That makes for easier clean-up, but it makes them useless if you’re trying to jerk off in the shower.

If you want to get creative, you can also start to experiment with sensation play lubes. These lubes use chemical formulations to provide heating, chilling, tingling, or other skin effects. They can change up the feel of your “typical” lube experience. If you’re someone with sensitive skin, however, be aware that these formulations have more chemicals, and therefore, are more likely to set off any sensitivities.

Our absolute favorite water-based lube for jerking off is Wicked Jelle. The thicker, gel-like consistency helps it stay in place. For long edging/gooning sessions, we swap over to the Wicked Jelle Simply formulation for its lower osmolarity.

READ: How to Find the Best Lube for Hours of Edging (more about that osmolarity here!)

Originally Published: July 15, 2013
Updated: October 2026, August 2026, June 2026, April 2026, February 2026, December 2025, November 2025, October 2025, September 2025.

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With a pair of luscious lips wrapped around a hollow air suction hole, this vibrator has a really unique design. How does it work? What pleasure can it offer? Join me for this AVIDLOVE PLAY Kiss Air Pulse review to find out!

Designed as an approachable option for newbies, the lips of the Kiss surround a hollow air suction hole. According to AVIDLOVE PLAY, everything that’s red uses 20-degree solid silicone and ABS components. The base is a painted metallic plastic with a gold-tone finish.

A single button to control all of the sensations is located right behind the “top lip” of the toy. This button controls the air pulse’s 3 steady intensities and 7 patterned modes.

The Kiss is about 4″ in total height. The lip face is slightly under 2.25″ in height with a width of 2.25″. The circular (not oval!) air pulse hole is built-in and is not interchangable. It is an impressively exact circle at 0.5″ in diameter in all directions.

If you think this toy is for you, the AVIDLOVE PLAY discount code “MISTRESS25” will save you 25% off of your total purchase.

How Does the AVIDLOVE PLAY Kiss Pleasure You?

The AVIDLOVE PLAY Kiss has a lot of material near its tip. Its real claim to fame, though, is that circle in the center of all of the material.

That hollow circle in the middle is the Kiss’s air suction hole. That means that hollow opening at the center of the tip is the workhorse of this toy. Place that opening around any small, sensitive area, and press down lightly to create a light “seal”. Once you do that, the toy uses suction to gently “pull” at the area inside of that hollow tip.

It’s designed to replicate the feeling of a lover wrapping their lips around your clitoris and providing light suction.

(If you’re new to air suction toys, my How to Use a Clit Suction Toy guide can help!)

The lips around the hollow air pulse hole provide a firm pressure point to grind against. Through my AVIDLOVE PLAY Kiss Air Pulse review, I’ve experimented with different ways to hold the toy and see what sensations the “lips” can provide.

The lips don’t move, and since the toy isn’t equipped with vibrations, they don’t vibrate either. They simply sit, at rest, around the air suction hole.

If you’re someone who likes to grind to orgasm, the lips’ semi-firm silicone provides a great surface for pressing up against. If the visual of a pair of lips pressed between your legs does it for you, those lips hold the perfect firmness for grinding against. (I wish my partner’s mouth could always be this firm!)

Made from semi-firm silicone, the lips do not flex away from the hole. If you need more space around the air suction hole to get a good seal, this can be a problem.

Let’s Talk Pleasure: AVIDLOVE PLAY Kiss Air Pulse Review

The Kiss focuses on air suction sensations. Place the tip around a small, sensitive area, and it’ll lightly “suck” on the area, providing pleasurable sensations.

Unlike some competitors, the Kiss does provide suction. It isn’t just a vibrator in disguise. I can feel the gentle pulsing on my clit and on my hand. You’re experiencing genuine air suction sensations with the Kiss.

However, I struggle to orgasm with the Kiss. The highest intensity just isn’t strong enough. It doesn’t help that the next level, after the highest intensity, is a patterned mode. If I get focused on trying to orgasm, watching some porn, and I forget that I’m already on the highest setting, I push the button, trying to squeak out a bit more power and…it moves onto a patterned mode that has lots of pauses in it, pushing me even further from orgasm.

If you accidentally push into patterned modes and want to go back to steady modes, you’ll need to click through all 7 patterned modes OR press-and-hold the toy to turn it off and then press-and-hold the toy to turn it back on. When it pops back on, it goes back to the softest level of steady air suction sensations. Two more clicks will get you back to the strongest setting of steady suction again.

Getting a good seal with the Kiss is also a bit of an endeavor. The large silicone lips that surround the hole are wide. 2.25″ in width, to be exact. The air suction hole for the toy only protrudes away from those lips a couple of millimeters. That means I need to make space for the air suction hole and those toy’s lips in-between my labia. It’s definitely a two-handed, “spread the labia” endeavor, and I’m limited in what motions I can make with the Kiss because of the lack of space.

That being said, the toy’s silicone lips don’t hurt. They’re made from a plushy (but rigid; they won’t fold in) silicone that doesn’t have any sharp edges. I don’t feel any pain on the labia as the lips keep them spread, but it’s definitely a pressure. If you’re into that pressure, this is actually going to be a positive for you.

After all of those AVIDLOVE PLAY Kiss Air Pulse review trials, I was a bit curious: how does that wide face plate compare to “the” standard Rose vibrator? The lips are wider and taller in footprint than a standard Rose. That being said, they’re similar to a Rose. If you’ve never had an issue getting a “good” fit with the Rose, you’ll probably find the same success with the Kiss.

The Kiss’s Button Placement

I’ve spent a lot of time trialing this one for my AVIDLOVE PLAY Kiss Air Pulse review. I really wanted to figure out how to fit it into my masturbation routine.

I’ve found I naturally want to hold the vibrator near its gold-plated base with a duck-bill-like grip. This feels really comfortable, gives me a bit of extra “length” to reduce the strain of holding everything in place, and feels natural. Every time I pick up the toy, my hand naturally wants to go there.

Unfortunately, the button to control the modes on the opposite end of the vibrator, far away from where my fingers can reach. No matter how I try, I can’t get anywhere near the buttons while using a single hand. If I want to press the button, I need to pull in a second hand to push the button, or bring in that second hand to hold the toy temporarily so I can hold the Kiss differently for regular button pushing.

Every time I pick up the Kiss, it remains a two-handed toy. It’s not a dealbreaker, but it’s something to be aware of.

If you have larger hands than I do, or prefer to use your air suction toys with a heavier hand, you might not experience the same thing.

Can I Use It With Roommates Around?

The Kiss’s noise level sits on the borderline between “okay for roommates” and “better if they’re out”.

With the door shut and moderately loud music, I can drown out the noise of the Kiss from anyone outside of the room. I wouldn’t use the Kiss in a room with someone else, and you need moderately loud music (not “background music” volume). If you get that music going, though, it’s hard to hear outside that closed door.

Making it easier to plan for, I didn’t notice the Kiss‘s noise changing in volume as you use the different intensities. It stays at about the exact same noise level whether you’re using the softest intensity or the strongest pattern. If you use it in different areas or on different body parts, though, you might find some variance.

The Kiss is ever-so-slightly louder if it’s not pressed into skin. It’s a minor difference. For the most discreet experience, don’t turn the toy on until it’s already pressed into your skin.

In case of an emergency discovery, though, a quick press-and-hold on the single button will turn off the toy within a second. It’s a very intuitive set-up for anyone with sex toy experience, letting you fall back on the first thing you’ll think of if someone walks in.

Final Thoughts: AVIDLOVE PLAY Kiss Air Pulse Review

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Looking for bondage cuffs that are hardier, stronger, easier to clean, and more friendly to messy play? This MEO.de Lockable Chicago Neoprene Restraints review is exactly what you’re looking for.

While leather can be an extremely erotic material, it’s also finicky. As a natural material, it is easier to harm by improper cleaning and use. Leather can be strong, for sure, but it isn’t designed to be covered in bodily fluids and then cleaned with abrasive, sanitizable cleansers.

This is where the magic of neoprene material can come in. Created in 1920s by DuPont, neoprene was designed as a more accessible alternative to natural rubbers and materials. Fun fact: It used to be sold under the trade name “Duprene” – but now is sold as a material type called “neoprene”.

Those abilities are accurate, too. Neoprene is much hardier than leather. It’s more resistant to water, oils, heat, and solvents than natural rubber or leather. That almost sounds like more than you really “need” for sex, but if you think about it: oil-based lubes, bodily fluids, lots of friction from bondage struggles, and sanitizing chemicals are all commonplace in kinky scenes.

The MEO.de Lockable Chicago Neoprene Restraints are made entirely from neoprene. A softer, plushier neoprene layer makes up the innermost, wearable surface while the outer layer of neoprene is firmer to help hold the cuff’s structure. Black, color-matching metal hardware allows for the cuff’s adjustability while maintaining that “serious bondage gear” look.

And since this is all neoprene material, everything is water-friendly, vegan, hypoallergenic, and easier to clean.

Plus, as the name MEO.de Lockable Chicago Neoprene Restraints review implies, these bondage cuffs are lockable. The locking mechanism features a small loop that fits one of the included small locks into the hole, making it impossible to remove the fastener post from its hole, “locking” them onto the wearer.

To make this locking function as easy to play with as possible, these MEO.de bondage cuffs come with the two cuffs themselves, two locks, four keys for the locks, and a large, black drawstring bag that holds all of the pieces together.

MEO.de Lockable Chicago Neoprene Restraints Review: Neoprene Cuff Uses

In BDSM, “leather” tends to be the standard. It does have that sultry leather smell that’s hard to resist. However, leather is also more expensive, can be damaged by moisture, and can be impossible to sanitize because of its natural, porous material.

That’s where neoprene material comes in. It’s hardier against some harsher kinky “elements” of play.

We’re talking about stuff like:

• Bondage in the water. Water (especially chlorinated water) will destroy leather. Neoprene is common for wetsuits because of its water-friendly properties. That’s the case here as well.
• Super sweaty sessions. If you plan on getting really sweaty, neoprene is a better choice than leather or faux leather. Not only does it clean more easily from skin oils and sweat, but its material is lighter weight. Getting tons of sweat and oils on leather sends it to an early grave without in-depth care. Neoprene wipes up easily, and it can handle harsher cleansers for deeper messes.
• Bondage with make-up. If you’re someone who uses concealer on your wrists, ankles, or neck, getting that off of leather can be really, really difficult. Neoprene can handle harsher cleaners to get make-up off of your kink gear. (This is most important for collars which get near lots of face make-up.)
• Watersports play. If omorashi bondage and other wet play is on your favorites list, neoprene gear handles liquids and cleans up from liquids much, much better than leather. After watersports play, you can literally hold these cuffs under running water to ensure every crevice and fold of the cuffs is free of pee before you place them back in storage. That’s the type of activity that would ruin leather.
• Messy play. Whether we’re talking “messy” from solid bodily functions or “messy” from buttercream frosting that smears into every crevice, neoprene can clean up easier after.

Their Durability As Cuffs

These neoprene cuffs are impressive! They inhabit that perfect place between “too flexible” and “too rigid”. They bend with ease to wrap around a wrist while simultaneously maintaining enough structure that they’ve held up to most of the bondage that we’ve thrown at it. The inside of each cuff features a lightly-grippy neoprene while the outside of each cuff is a smoother, pettable neoprene.

There isn’t a single thread out of place. Honestly, I don’t even see any rough or uneven stitching. The quality for these is impressive.

Throughout every test we’ve thrown for this MEO.de Lockable Chicago Neoprene Restraints review, they’ve held up. Rough play holds up great. Gentle play passes all tests with flying colors. The single D-ring on the surface of both cuffs is connected with two rivets that fasten through every layer of the cuff, providing really good support.

We have yet to even manage to make them look like they’ve been used. These bondage cuffs are very solidly built.

(They even went on the beach for beach bondage!)

MEO.de Lockable Chicago Neoprene Restraints Review: Locking These Cuffs

The MEO.de Lockable Chicago Neoprene Restraints use a predictable, easy-to-understand system to lock the cuffs.

The tip of the fastening buckle has a small circle on it. The lockable buckle slides into the fastening hole like usual, and it’ll work like a belt buckle if you don’t want to use your locks.

However, if you want to make it impossible for your captive to remove the cuffs, you can slide a small lock into this circular hole. A lock makes it impossible for the fastener to slide out of the fastening hole, essentially locking the cuffs onto your captive’s wrists. Until the bulky lock is removed, the cuffs will remain.

This is how a lot of locking BDSM cuffs function. If you’re familiar with locking kink gear, you’ll be comfortable here.

Most locking kink cuffs do not include their own locks and keys. The MEO.de Lockable Chicago Neoprene Restraints include two gold mini locks and four silver keys. The locks are etched with the MEO.de logo, and they fit perfectly into the holes of the fasteners.

I won’t say they match the cuffs. The gold locks and the silver keys don’t match the all-black, svelte vibe of the neoprene cuffs themselves.

BUT the gold and silver colors actually make the locks pretty easy to find – even in the dark – so I almost appreciate the stand-out color choice. If you’re going to be enjoying the visual of being locked, the gold locks are also very eye-catching, making for a hot visual and stand-out locks if you’re going to take photos of these cuffs being worn.

These are a set of universal locks and keys, so all four keys work in both locks. I tried it with another set of MEO.de mini locks and keys I had from another product, and all of those locks and keys were interchangeable as well.

I really appreciate that; if I lose a set of keys, I can use my keys from any other MEO.de mini lock set that looks the same. I’m not actually trying to make it impossible for my partner to ever escape the cuffs. Having back-ups (and knowing I can repurchase another lock and key set if I lose the keys) makes me feel more comfortable locking my partner into these cuffs.

But Are They Comfortable?

The only big downside of these wrist cuffs is that they’re not particularly comfortable for long-term wear. They’ll wrap around the wrists – and hold up great to whatever play you throw at them – for short sessions, but these are not the cuffs you’ll probably want to use for hours-long marathon play.

For one, they get warm. Neoprene material, despite its benefits, is not known for being breathable. These cuffs trap sweat and oil underneath them. This compounds the longer your bottom wears the cuffs. (Luckily, as noted, that sweat and oil cleans off really easily.)

This is exacerbated by the fact that the rivets for the D-ring were fastened through all the layers of the material. Not only that, but for some odd reason, the material around the rivet hole, on the inner layer, is extremely scrunched up. It resembles an anus, honestly. (You can see it on the photo underneath here.) Once this ribbed area gets sweaty, it gets very irritating on the skin. It feels itchy.

(This, by the way, is its own form of predicament bondage hell if you’d like to use that to your advantage. Having your wrists itch underneath your bondage in a way that’s impossible to itch while it’s impossible for you to move is a serious level of sadism.)

Adding fuel to that fire is the fact that the innermost neoprene layer tends to slide around. You can see this best on the display photo below. This innermost layer tends to separate from the outer wrap relatively easy, making for a ribbed surface that’s sweaty and regularly moving and rubbing that itchy area along different parts of your wrist. Really, it’s just waiting to be the centerpoint of a sadistic BDSM scene.

While it’s a minor downside, both of these cuffs are also missing a strap keeper. If your wearer is on the smaller side, and you have to fasten cuffs at their smallest settings, you’re going to have a lot of excess “strap” just hanging off the side of the cuffs. There’s no loop to help keep that excess strap near the cuff’s surface. You can definitely “cut” the excess if you want to, but this will likely mess with the stitching security throughout the entire strap.

These are downsides my submissive and I are happy to “deal with” in exchange for cuffs that are waterproof, easy to clean, and can be used with wet and messy play in a way that more-sensitive leather cuffs cannot. But they are downsides you should be aware of.

Final Thoughts: MEO.de Lockable Chicago Neoprene Restraints Review

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When you’re with a human partner, the other person pulls their weight in some fashion. They may not be able to hold all of their weight, but they’re actively participating, taking some of the weight off of your plate.

In addition, human bodies are firmer than sex dolls. Sex dolls can feel a bit more like Jell-O than a human body complete with thick muscles and solid bones. This super-squishy sex doll material makes for lovely jiggling and erotic visuals, but it isn’t the easiest material to move around.

(And if you’re brand new to sex dolls, I have an entire category of sex doll tips to help! Just FYI.)

So today, I’m going to introduce you to some of our favorite sex doll positions. In many of these, the doll holds its own weight, letting you focus more on enjoying yourself and the visuals of sliding into your new toy.

From “easiest” to hardest, here are some of my favorite sex doll positions:

Kneeling with your Doll at the Edge of a Surface

By far, the easiest way to use your sex doll is by kneeling while it’s on a flat surface next to you at hip height. Place your sex doll on that flat surface, pulling its tunnel up against the edge of the surface, and you’re ready to slide inside.

To pull this off, though, you’ll need to find a surface that’s at penis height when you’re kneeling. Ideally, this surface will be on carpet too (to cushion your knees), but you can always toss a pillow or folded towel under your knees to add some staying power to this sex doll position. Some common options for the right kneeling height:

• A foot-of-the-bed ottoman
• A coffee table
• The seat of a chair
• The seat of a couch

This is one of my favorite sex doll positions because the doll is perfectly balanced on a flat surface, simply sitting there and waiting for you to use it. Because you’re entirely upright, you have full view of the doll, giving you eyefulls of bouncing cheeks or breasts. The doll’s butt or thighs can still press against you.

For those of you with mini dolls that might slide with the momentum, you can easily grip the doll’s “hips”, adding realism and helping the doll stay in place at the same time.

If you like to get messy, this can also be a great doll fucking position. Pick a surface that’s easy-wipe (like the seat of a chair), and you can paint the doll’s chest when you cum, easily wiping up anything that got on the surrounding area without much hassle. It’s a win-win!

Standing with your Fuck Doll at the Edge of a Surface

Adding a bit more intensity, you can take the same idea behind the kneeling position and choose to stand. Now, as you enjoy yourself and approach orgasm, you’ll have to hold your own body weight, but you won’t have to hold the doll’s weight.

As an added bonus, it can be a lot easier to get better thrusting momentum while standing. If your doll has jiggly butt cheeks or breasts, every thrust can release more of that visual.

Like the kneeling position, you’ll need to find a surface that’s at the correct hip height for your body. Some common options:

• A bed
• A dining room table
• A couch end table
• A countertop
• A bondage table

Titty Fucking

If your sex doll has breasts and you’re excited to slide between them, a standard kneeling position can work great.

Press the doll’s breasts together with a bit of lube, and slide between them.

Kneeling on a bed (or a couch, as shown) can be gentler on the knees.

If your doll is lightweight or small in size, you might find that your doll slides on the surface you put it on. If so, you can try to “sit” more of your weight on top of of the doll (i.e. go between the breasts from the stomach side versus the neck side) or experiment with new surfaces or locations to see if another option is less slippery.

Just make sure to prepare if cumming is in your future. You don’t want to spurt all over your couch cushions without any protection. At least, not if you want easy clean-up.

Sex Doll Positions: The Classic Spooning

While spooning is considered an “easy” sex position in general, it’s a bit harder than the sex doll positions above it because of the friction of your bed. Spooning, in general, is going to be easier for your body to hold than standing (you’re literally just lying on your side!), but the sex doll doesn’t have the ability to tilt its hips, scoot back into you, or otherwise adjust itself. A human partner, whether Chicago escorts or someone you met at the bookstore, has their own core muscles to maintain a sideways position. A doll does not, and it will just go wherever momentum takes it.

That means that spooning can require some manual labor on your end. Depending on how slippery your bedding is and how heavy your doll is, this may mean manuevering a 75 pound slab of material into the correct “position” and simultaneously holding it there, ensuring it doesn’t tip forwards.

This can take more conscious attention and muscular endurance than simply putting your sex doll on a flat surface.

To help you out, I’d recommend stuffing pillows on the other side of the sex doll. These stuffed pillows can help prevent the sex doll from rolling away from you, reducing how much you need to muscle the doll to keep it in place.

If you can get the positioning down, though, sex doll Spooning can be an easy position to maintain for long, drawn-out, intimate sessions.

As a quick tip, if the doll is too low for easy, comfortable penetration, fold up a thick blanket and stick it underneath the doll. It can be a little “bolster” to give the doll extra height.

The Cross

This doll sex position is even more difficult than Spooning. In Spooning, one side of the doll still rests against your torso. In the Cross, the sex doll is at a 90-degree angle from your hips, meaning it can tip over to either side. Yay, unpredictability!

On the bright side, entering the doll can be a lot easier. It’s less difficult to get the angles to line up if you want to use the anal/vaginal hole if you’re at a 90-degree angle. Just pick your fave and have a great time.

To help prevent the doll from falling forwards or backwards, you have a few options. You can put the sex doll on its back, making it more stable. This can make the holes harder to access though (put a pillow under the doll if it will help!). Alternatively, stuff pillows in front of (and in back of) the doll, helping hold it in place while you enjoy yourself.

(Depending on where you get your info, this doll sex position is either the Cross, the Crossed Spoon, or the Spork.)

Sex Doll Positions: The Classic Missionary

Missionary is more physically strenuous than simply kneeling, lying, or standing upright, but it’s generally considered a more “approachable” option than other sex positions.

To explore this common sex doll position, lie your sex doll onto a bed or the floor. Crawl over top of it, sliding inside, supporting most of your weight on your knees and your arms.

If you have a lightweight doll, you may need to experiment with location to really enjoy this. If your doll is very lightweight or on a slippery surface, it can slide forward, millimeter by millimeter, with every thrust. Eventually, it’ll be so far forward that you’ll need to readjust all over again.

If you’re finding that, try a less slippery surface (cotton sheets vs satin, for example), stuff a pillow between your arms to give the top of the doll something to press up against instead of moving forward, or consider using a heavier sex doll.

While this is one of the common sex doll positions, I wouldn’t call it one of my favorites. It can be hard to really “see” the sex doll like this – especially if your doll isn’t a full-sized torso. You’ll still get the feel of its flesh firm and trapped beneath you, and that can be hot, but some of the visuals may not be there.

Still, it’s personal preference, and you may find that Missionary ends up being one of your favorite sex doll sex positions.

Sex Doll Over the Arm of your Couch

If you’re looking for something a bit more adventurous and “primal” without feeling too stressful, a couch with arms can help.

If you have one, simply lay the hips of the sex doll on the arm of the couch while the chest of the doll lies on the couch seat itself. This, essentially, props all of the doll’s holes upwards, making it easy for you to slide inside.

You can then lean forward, sliding into the doll, with a “I’m taking you vibe” that feels hot but simultaneously doesn’t require you to grip any of the doll’s weight.

Use the back of the couch to help prop yourself up, or use your core while gripping onto the sex doll’s hips. If your couch arm is really low, you can also put your arms onto the seat of the couch, next to the doll’s neck.

Standing with the Doll Against the Wall

Fucking a heavy sex doll that can’t hold its own weight can be hard.

But standing sex positions can be hot.

Using your sex doll up against the wall can help a little bit.

Instead of fully relying on just the strength of your arms, you can push the doll’s weight into the wall, partially trapping the doll’s weight between your own body weight and the wall. This can take some of the pressure off of your arms.

Even so, this is a serious workout, and it’s really only accomplishable by some of the lighter-weight sex dolls.

Make sure your hands are free of lube, and make sure to put down the doll, safely, before your arms fatigue too much. Having 50 pounds of sex doll weight fall to the floor, with your dick inside, is REALLY going to hurt.

This sex doll position is really best if it’s meeting a current fantasy. It’s not going to be the most efficient or pleasurable, but if you’re craving a workout with your doll, it can work.

Big caution with this one: Your sex doll doesn’t have human skin. If a human lover rubbed a spot raw from the friction, their skin will regrow. Your sex doll’s will not. Ensure you aren’t pushing the doll TOO firmly into the wall, the wall is as smooth as possible, and you’re holding up as much of the doll’s weight as possible. Otherwise, you might find that you’ve rubbed off some of the TPE material, leaving a less-smooth, visually broken look on your doll. The same goes for your fingernails! Make sure you’ve trimmed your fingernails ahead of time; if you accidentally dig your nails into the doll’s flesh to help hold it, you WILL leave fingernail holes!

Sex Doll Positions: Lying Cowgirl

Oooooh, this is a HARD one.

You’re going to have the best success with this if you have a firm, lightweight doll. Every single thrust you want to do with the doll will require you to pull the doll up and slide it back down. If your doll’s difficult to grasp or too heavy to do this on repeat (like if it’s a 50 pound doll), this will be extremely difficult. Even if you can pull off sex doll cowgirl position, you’re probably going to find that you transition into an easier position for the bulk of your fun.

To help, while in this lying down position, you do have access to your legs. Do a hip thrust with each “thrust” to help propel the doll away from your shaft, letting your arms and legs share in the effort here. It’s still hard, though. Don’t get me wrong.

Keeping the lube on your hands to a minimum is vital for success here. If your hands are slipping and sliding on a 50 pound “weight”, you’re going to be frustrated – not feeling fun. You might consider using disposable gloves to lube up your shaft and the doll’s interior. That way, you can strip them off before the “main event”, making for dry hands that can better grip the doll’s surface.

If you have access to it, something like a sex bench can help support some of the doll’s weight for you. However, again, the sex doll doesn’t have human skin. If any of the sharp edges press into the doll’s flesh, it may slice the doll permanently.

Seated Cowgirl

You can make Cowgirl even harder by sitting upright (in this case, you can see it’s on the couch).

Whereas you could use your legs and hips to help the thrust in a lying Cowgirl, you lose that possibility with the seated version. You’re just straight up picking the doll up – and down – with every thrust. This is hard – probably the hardest doll sex position you’ll ever try to accomplish.

*The sex doll show in the majority of these photos is the Salorein Sabrina.

Update: October 2026, September 2026, July 2026.

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GITM Playbook is an educational and retail store focused entirely on education and sex toys for beginners. Today, we’re looking at one of their wand massagers in this GITM PLAYBOOK Bowing-Bowing review.

The Bowing-Bowing wand is a rechargeable wand massager equipped with an adjustable-angle head. Two buttons, built into the handle, allow for easy and straight-forward adjustment of the 3 steady vibration intensities with patterns accessible through a few more button presses.

The head and button panel of the massager are made from silicone, while the majority of the wand is made from plastic.

The wand is over a foot long (12.4″!) and weighs less than a pound (extremely lightweight in the world of wand massagers!). It has a run time of about 2 hours off a single charge.

This wand massager is NOT WATERPROOF. There is an open charging port at the base. However, the head of the wand is water-resistant, and you can easily submerge and place the head (and only the head!) underneath water for easier cleaning.

A Guide to Your First Sex Toy Experiences

True to its name, GITM PLAYBOOK is focused on beginner-friendly, information-forward sex toy use.

That is, if you’re relatively new to sexual pleasure, their playbook for vulva owners is definitely a great first stop. Not only does it offer basic anatomy to help you understand what spots are going to be most pleasurable, it also talks about how to match your “ideal” stimulation to what sex toy you plan on buying.

As you can imagine, the Bowing-Bowing wand massager is one of their recommendations for people who are looking for external clitoral stimulation.

All of the information in that guide is extremely helpful – though reading it start to finish can feel a bit overwhelming. Still, it’s one of those pages you can easily bookmark and come back to later when you have questions like “Should I be buying this glass toy?”

If you’re someone with a penis, they have a similar sex toy playbook for penis owners, walking you through your sex toy options as well.

What Makes the Bowing-Bowing a Beginner Wand Vibrator?

GITM PLAYBOOK markets the Bowing-Bowing as their wand vibrator for beginners. It has a few things that lend itself well to someone new to sex toys:

• Straight-Forward Button Design: The controls for the Bowing-Bowing couldn’t be more straightforward if they tried. There’s a power button, and there’s an intensity button. Multiple presses on the intensity button will increase (and then decrease) the intensity through 3 vibration intensities. i.e. (1, 2, 3, 2, 1, 2, 3, 2, 1)
• “Hidden” Patterns: If you want to use vibrator patterns, you can, but they aren’t a focus. That is, if the vibrator is on and you single-press the power button, the Bowing-Bowing will slide into the patterned modes. Each patterned mode allows for individual control of the intensity via that intensity button. This is not intuitive, and I didn’t find this out until I was reading the GITM PLAYBOOK Bowing-Bowing review instruction leaflet inside.
• Easy-Grip Handle: The wide, angled handle makes for easy understanding and control of the vibrator.
• Angle-Adjustable Head: The usable “head” of this massager stays in a straight line with the handle, or it can come down to a 90-degree angle from the handle. Not only does this make it more accessible (more on that later!), but it also means you can potentially use it for grinding and get creative with positioning.
• A Silicone Head: The part that touches you is made from silicone. The handle is plastic. These phthalate-free materials mean you don’t have to worry about bacterial buildup as long as you clean your toy thoroughly.
• Included Storage Bag: While the Bowing-Bowing vibrator is going to be a great fit if you need to be discreet, the sex toy does come with a drawstring, plain black bag that can store the vibe, the instructions, and the charging cable for easy storage.

That being said, the Bowing-Bowing‘s vibrations start at pretty powerful and go up from there, so while this has a beginner-friendly physical design, if you’re brand new to vibrators or are sensitive, you may find this massager is painfully strong. If you’ve never tried a vibrator and/or know you like lighter stimulation, go with a different clitoral toy instead.

I’ll also admit to being a little disappointed by the included instruction manual. A small piece of paper with very-basic info isn’t quite the level of instructional help I’d want to see if this was someone’s very first vibrator. It doesn’t mention how to clean the toy, how long the battery lasts, or answer any of the usual “This is my first toy, help!” questions.

GITM PLAYBOOK Bowing-Bowing Review: That Appearance Though

The construction on the Bowing-Bowing does feel surprisingly cheap. If you had told me that the wand massager was $50, I would have believed you. The vibrations themselves? Powerful. The design of the toy? Also great. However, something about this fully-plastic, visible-seamed handle, complete with giant, square-shaped hole for charging just doesn’t do the wand justice.

Neither does this color scheme. The beige head (which looks more yellow in-person), extra-thick handle, and multiple shades of white are not helping. The yellow shade looks like a smoker’s house wall. It’s a super-odd, really-not-attractive color scheme.

It’s also a pet peeve, but the Bowing-Bowing has 3 vibration intensities. I have no idea why the button, built into the vibrator itself, shows four. It’s a minor gripe, but…why?

A Seriously Accessible Wand Massager

That being said, that overly-bulky appearance does have some really awesome benefits. Namely, the extra-thick plastic handle will make for much easier handling of the vibrator by anyone with gripping concerns. Because the toy is made from a lot of lightweight plastic, this wand weighs virtually nothing compared to its competitors, making it much easier to handle if holding heavy objects leads to arm fatigue.

Even better, the adjustable head angle means that you can find an angle that feels good for your vulva while maintaining a grip on the vibrator that feels neutral on your wrist. Just take advantage of the head’s ability to change angles, and you can have a wand that’s still targeting your spots while the wand’s handle remains at a neutral angle.

There are only two buttons on the wand’s handle. Because there are fewer buttons, each button is bigger and easier to understand. For anyone who may have precise motor control concerns, these larger buttons help a lot.

So while I’m not necessarily in love with the color scheme of the wand, I do think the design choices – which I’m not fond of – actually do offer some pretty awesome benefits that are hard to find in wand massagers nowadays. Most mainstream wand massagers nowadays are built with heavier materials, a stationary head, and multiple buttons that can increase confusion and/or are harder to press with their smaller size.

The Bowing-Bowing Wand is now, officially, the top wand I’d recommend for anyone looking for a more accessible wand massager.

Let’s Talk Vibrations

Honestly, the vibrations are pretty powerful.

Like, I’m really impressed by the strength on this.

I will say that they start at moderately strong and go to pretty strong. If you’re a beginner, per GITM PLAYBOOK’s ideal customer base, and haven’t tried a vibrator before, go for a different vibrator before you jump straight into a wand massager.

This one is decently powerful – even at its lowest setting – you may find it entirely overwhelming if you don’t already know that you need some decent power to start.

For people who like stronger vibrations, you’ll likely want to warm up (or already be aroused) before you use this sex toy. Even the lowest setting is overwhelming on unaroused flesh.

The vibrations don’t reach the same top intensities as expensive, mainstream wands, but I’d say they make it to about 65% of some of the most powerful wand massagers on the market. That’s well above most standard clitoral vibrators.

The vibrations remain the same in intensity no matter how much pressure you apply. They also keep the same intensity regardless of wand massager head positioning. If you have it angled, the vibrations feel the same as if you had the wand massager’s head entirely flat.

With this reliable intensity level, you’re free to experiment with pressure (do you want more or less?) and wand head angle (do you like it at a specific angle?) without impacting the resulting sensations. It’s a good constant to give you some space to explore exactly what you want out of your vibrator.

GITM PLAYBOOK Bowing-Bowing Review: How’s the Noise?

It’s a wand massager. It’s kinda loud.

This is not a vibrator you’re going to want to use with roommates in a quiet house. The light plastic handle does nothing to soften vibrations, but the noise level isn’t grating or annoying. It’s just a pretty loud HUMMMMMMMMMM that can easily be heard in the same room. It’s also relatively easy to hear outside of a closed door – even with music in the background.

With great power often comes a decent chunk of noise. That also holds true with the Bowing-Bowing vibrator.

The Angled Tip?

Adding to the accessibility and functionality is the angled tip of the Bowing-Bowing. The head of the massager has a “press to unlock” button right at the base of the head. Press the button down, and you can adjust the angle of the wand massager’s tip. Once you get it to one of its pre-set angle slots, it “locks” into place, and it won’t move again until you press down the unlock button. If you’re familiar with gym equipment, it’s the same vibe as when you adjust the height or angle of any gym bench.

The wand goes from a default/standard “straight line” all the way to a 90-degree head angle in either direction for a full 180-degrees of adjustment. It has 7 built-in stopping points. There’s one for the default/standard “straight line” stopping point in addition to two stopping points at 90-degrees in both directions. The other 4 possible angles are spots in between the 90-degree and the “straight line” set-up, giving you a multitude of angles.

Not only is this fantastic for function and positioning, but it’s also really accessible. If your wrist prefers to hold the massager from a certain angle, you can adjust the head of the massager to keep that wrist in a neutral, comfortable position instead of using your wrist to do the work of angling.

Plus, once you put it where you want it, the wand really locks into place. Even when applying full pressure with the wand in any position I’ve thrown it in for my GITM PLAYBOOK Bowing-Bowing review, it stays exactly where I put it.

The head itself, on top of the locking joint, does have some bend to it. If you apply pressure, the yellow head will move a bit, offering a slightly flexible experience without undoing the angle you’ve placed the wand at. The yellow silicone head you see in photos will flex a bit. The metallic and white plastic underneath that yellow head does not move in the slightest.

The angled functionality is a fantastic addition. Zero complaints.

Charging and Cleaning

The product page claims the toy is IPX7 waterproof. This seems odd, considering there’s a giant hole at the base of the wand massager that functions as the charging port.

After discussing with the manufacturer, the handle can not be submerged or used near water, meaning the toy is not waterproof, nor should it be used near water. Only the head can be placed near water.

If you can ensure your after-use cleansing keeps the water only on the toy’s head, you’ll be golden. Do NOT use the toy in the shower, in the bath, or even get careless with water during clean-up. It will destroy the toy.

Keep the handle fully dry while you wash the head of the toy, avoiding getting any water flow directly on the head (it may run down the handle on accident). The silicone head can be cleaned with warm water and mild soap, making it pretty easy to keep up.

Straightforward to charge, you can simply plug the charger into the base of the handle to top up the battery. With the open charging port at the base, there’s no mystery here; just simple charging.

Final Thoughts: GITM PLAYBOOK Bowing-Bowing Review

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