Looking for bondage cuffs that are hardier, stronger, easier to clean, and more friendly to messy play? This MEO.de Lockable Chicago Neoprene Restraints review is exactly what you’re looking for.

While leather can be an extremely erotic material, it’s also finicky. As a natural material, it is easier to harm by improper cleaning and use. Leather can be strong, for sure, but it isn’t designed to be covered in bodily fluids and then cleaned with abrasive, sanitizable cleansers.

This is where the magic of neoprene material can come in. Created in 1920s by DuPont, neoprene was designed as a more accessible alternative to natural rubbers and materials. Fun fact: It used to be sold under the trade name “Duprene” – but now is sold as a material type called “neoprene”.

Those abilities are accurate, too. Neoprene is much hardier than leather. It’s more resistant to water, oils, heat, and solvents than natural rubber or leather. That almost sounds like more than you really “need” for sex, but if you think about it: oil-based lubes, bodily fluids, lots of friction from bondage struggles, and sanitizing chemicals are all commonplace in kinky scenes.

The MEO.de Lockable Chicago Neoprene Restraints are made entirely from neoprene. A softer, plushier neoprene layer makes up the innermost, wearable surface while the outer layer of neoprene is firmer to help hold the cuff’s structure. Black, color-matching metal hardware allows for the cuff’s adjustability while maintaining that “serious bondage gear” look.

And since this is all neoprene material, everything is water-friendly, vegan, hypoallergenic, and easier to clean.

Plus, as the name MEO.de Lockable Chicago Neoprene Restraints review implies, these bondage cuffs are lockable. The locking mechanism features a small loop that fits one of the included small locks into the hole, making it impossible to remove the fastener post from its hole, “locking” them onto the wearer.

To make this locking function as easy to play with as possible, these MEO.de bondage cuffs come with the two cuffs themselves, two locks, four keys for the locks, and a large, black drawstring bag that holds all of the pieces together.

MEO.de Lockable Chicago Neoprene Restraints Review: Neoprene Cuff Uses

In BDSM, “leather” tends to be the standard. It does have that sultry leather smell that’s hard to resist. However, leather is also more expensive, can be damaged by moisture, and can be impossible to sanitize because of its natural, porous material.

That’s where neoprene material comes in. It’s hardier against some harsher kinky “elements” of play.

We’re talking about stuff like:

• Bondage in the water. Water (especially chlorinated water) will destroy leather. Neoprene is common for wetsuits because of its water-friendly properties. That’s the case here as well.
• Super sweaty sessions. If you plan on getting really sweaty, neoprene is a better choice than leather or faux leather. Not only does it clean more easily from skin oils and sweat, but its material is lighter weight. Getting tons of sweat and oils on leather sends it to an early grave without in-depth care. Neoprene wipes up easily, and it can handle harsher cleansers for deeper messes.
• Bondage with make-up. If you’re someone who uses concealer on your wrists, ankles, or neck, getting that off of leather can be really, really difficult. Neoprene can handle harsher cleaners to get make-up off of your kink gear. (This is most important for collars which get near lots of face make-up.)
• Watersports play. If omorashi bondage and other wet play is on your favorites list, neoprene gear handles liquids and cleans up from liquids much, much better than leather. After watersports play, you can literally hold these cuffs under running water to ensure every crevice and fold of the cuffs is free of pee before you place them back in storage. That’s the type of activity that would ruin leather.
• Messy play. Whether we’re talking “messy” from solid bodily functions or “messy” from buttercream frosting that smears into every crevice, neoprene can clean up easier after.

Their Durability As Cuffs

These neoprene cuffs are impressive! They inhabit that perfect place between “too flexible” and “too rigid”. They bend with ease to wrap around a wrist while simultaneously maintaining enough structure that they’ve held up to most of the bondage that we’ve thrown at it. The inside of each cuff features a lightly-grippy neoprene while the outside of each cuff is a smoother, pettable neoprene.

There isn’t a single thread out of place. Honestly, I don’t even see any rough or uneven stitching. The quality for these is impressive.

Throughout every test we’ve thrown for this MEO.de Lockable Chicago Neoprene Restraints review, they’ve held up. Rough play holds up great. Gentle play passes all tests with flying colors. The single D-ring on the surface of both cuffs is connected with two rivets that fasten through every layer of the cuff, providing really good support.

We have yet to even manage to make them look like they’ve been used. These bondage cuffs are very solidly built.

(They even went on the beach for beach bondage!)

MEO.de Lockable Chicago Neoprene Restraints Review: Locking These Cuffs

The MEO.de Lockable Chicago Neoprene Restraints use a predictable, easy-to-understand system to lock the cuffs.

The tip of the fastening buckle has a small circle on it. The lockable buckle slides into the fastening hole like usual, and it’ll work like a belt buckle if you don’t want to use your locks.

However, if you want to make it impossible for your captive to remove the cuffs, you can slide a small lock into this circular hole. A lock makes it impossible for the fastener to slide out of the fastening hole, essentially locking the cuffs onto your captive’s wrists. Until the bulky lock is removed, the cuffs will remain.

This is how a lot of locking BDSM cuffs function. If you’re familiar with locking kink gear, you’ll be comfortable here.

Most locking kink cuffs do not include their own locks and keys. The MEO.de Lockable Chicago Neoprene Restraints include two gold mini locks and four silver keys. The locks are etched with the MEO.de logo, and they fit perfectly into the holes of the fasteners.

I won’t say they match the cuffs. The gold locks and the silver keys don’t match the all-black, svelte vibe of the neoprene cuffs themselves.

BUT the gold and silver colors actually make the locks pretty easy to find – even in the dark – so I almost appreciate the stand-out color choice. If you’re going to be enjoying the visual of being locked, the gold locks are also very eye-catching, making for a hot visual and stand-out locks if you’re going to take photos of these cuffs being worn.

These are a set of universal locks and keys, so all four keys work in both locks. I tried it with another set of MEO.de mini locks and keys I had from another product, and all of those locks and keys were interchangeable as well.

I really appreciate that; if I lose a set of keys, I can use my keys from any other MEO.de mini lock set that looks the same. I’m not actually trying to make it impossible for my partner to ever escape the cuffs. Having back-ups (and knowing I can repurchase another lock and key set if I lose the keys) makes me feel more comfortable locking my partner into these cuffs.

But Are They Comfortable?

The only big downside of these wrist cuffs is that they’re not particularly comfortable for long-term wear. They’ll wrap around the wrists – and hold up great to whatever play you throw at them – for short sessions, but these are not the cuffs you’ll probably want to use for hours-long marathon play.

For one, they get warm. Neoprene material, despite its benefits, is not known for being breathable. These cuffs trap sweat and oil underneath them. This compounds the longer your bottom wears the cuffs. (Luckily, as noted, that sweat and oil cleans off really easily.)

This is exacerbated by the fact that the rivets for the D-ring were fastened through all the layers of the material. Not only that, but for some odd reason, the material around the rivet hole, on the inner layer, is extremely scrunched up. It resembles an anus, honestly. (You can see it on the photo underneath here.) Once this ribbed area gets sweaty, it gets very irritating on the skin. It feels itchy.

(This, by the way, is its own form of predicament bondage hell if you’d like to use that to your advantage. Having your wrists itch underneath your bondage in a way that’s impossible to itch while it’s impossible for you to move is a serious level of sadism.)

Adding fuel to that fire is the fact that the innermost neoprene layer tends to slide around. You can see this best on the display photo below. This innermost layer tends to separate from the outer wrap relatively easy, making for a ribbed surface that’s sweaty and regularly moving and rubbing that itchy area along different parts of your wrist. Really, it’s just waiting to be the centerpoint of a sadistic BDSM scene.

While it’s a minor downside, both of these cuffs are also missing a strap keeper. If your wearer is on the smaller side, and you have to fasten cuffs at their smallest settings, you’re going to have a lot of excess “strap” just hanging off the side of the cuffs. There’s no loop to help keep that excess strap near the cuff’s surface. You can definitely “cut” the excess if you want to, but this will likely mess with the stitching security throughout the entire strap.

These are downsides my submissive and I are happy to “deal with” in exchange for cuffs that are waterproof, easy to clean, and can be used with wet and messy play in a way that more-sensitive leather cuffs cannot. But they are downsides you should be aware of.

Final Thoughts: MEO.de Lockable Chicago Neoprene Restraints Review

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When you’re with a human partner, the other person pulls their weight in some fashion. They may not be able to hold all of their weight, but they’re actively participating, taking some of the weight off of your plate.

In addition, human bodies are firmer than sex dolls. Sex dolls can feel a bit more like Jell-O than a human body complete with thick muscles and solid bones. This super-squishy sex doll material makes for lovely jiggling and erotic visuals, but it isn’t the easiest material to move around.

(And if you’re brand new to sex dolls, I have an entire category of sex doll tips to help! Just FYI.)

So today, I’m going to introduce you to some of our favorite sex doll positions. In many of these, the doll holds its own weight, letting you focus more on enjoying yourself and the visuals of sliding into your new toy.

From “easiest” to hardest, here are some of my favorite sex doll positions:

Kneeling with your Doll at the Edge of a Surface

By far, the easiest way to use your sex doll is by kneeling while it’s on a flat surface next to you at hip height. Place your sex doll on that flat surface, pulling its tunnel up against the edge of the surface, and you’re ready to slide inside.

To pull this off, though, you’ll need to find a surface that’s at penis height when you’re kneeling. Ideally, this surface will be on carpet too (to cushion your knees), but you can always toss a pillow or folded towel under your knees to add some staying power to this sex doll position. Some common options for the right kneeling height:

• A foot-of-the-bed ottoman
• A coffee table
• The seat of a chair
• The seat of a couch

This is one of my favorite sex doll positions because the doll is perfectly balanced on a flat surface, simply sitting there and waiting for you to use it. Because you’re entirely upright, you have full view of the doll, giving you eyefulls of bouncing cheeks or breasts. The doll’s butt or thighs can still press against you.

For those of you with mini dolls that might slide with the momentum, you can easily grip the doll’s “hips”, adding realism and helping the doll stay in place at the same time.

If you like to get messy, this can also be a great doll fucking position. Pick a surface that’s easy-wipe (like the seat of a chair), and you can paint the doll’s chest when you cum, easily wiping up anything that got on the surrounding area without much hassle. It’s a win-win!

Standing with your Fuck Doll at the Edge of a Surface

Adding a bit more intensity, you can take the same idea behind the kneeling position and choose to stand. Now, as you enjoy yourself and approach orgasm, you’ll have to hold your own body weight, but you won’t have to hold the doll’s weight.

As an added bonus, it can be a lot easier to get better thrusting momentum while standing. If your doll has jiggly butt cheeks or breasts, every thrust can release more of that visual.

Like the kneeling position, you’ll need to find a surface that’s at the correct hip height for your body. Some common options:

• A bed
• A dining room table
• A couch end table
• A countertop
• A bondage table

Titty Fucking

If your sex doll has breasts and you’re excited to slide between them, a standard kneeling position can work great.

Press the doll’s breasts together with a bit of lube, and slide between them.

Kneeling on a bed (or a couch, as shown) can be gentler on the knees.

If your doll is lightweight or small in size, you might find that your doll slides on the surface you put it on. If so, you can try to “sit” more of your weight on top of of the doll (i.e. go between the breasts from the stomach side versus the neck side) or experiment with new surfaces or locations to see if another option is less slippery.

Just make sure to prepare if cumming is in your future. You don’t want to spurt all over your couch cushions without any protection. At least, not if you want easy clean-up.

Sex Doll Positions: The Classic Spooning

While spooning is considered an “easy” sex position in general, it’s a bit harder than the sex doll positions above it because of the friction of your bed. Spooning, in general, is going to be easier for your body to hold than standing (you’re literally just lying on your side!), but the sex doll doesn’t have the ability to tilt its hips, scoot back into you, or otherwise adjust itself. A human partner, whether Chicago escorts or someone you met at the bookstore, has their own core muscles to maintain a sideways position. A doll does not, and it will just go wherever momentum takes it.

That means that spooning can require some manual labor on your end. Depending on how slippery your bedding is and how heavy your doll is, this may mean manuevering a 75 pound slab of material into the correct “position” and simultaneously holding it there, ensuring it doesn’t tip forwards.

This can take more conscious attention and muscular endurance than simply putting your sex doll on a flat surface.

To help you out, I’d recommend stuffing pillows on the other side of the sex doll. These stuffed pillows can help prevent the sex doll from rolling away from you, reducing how much you need to muscle the doll to keep it in place.

If you can get the positioning down, though, sex doll Spooning can be an easy position to maintain for long, drawn-out, intimate sessions.

As a quick tip, if the doll is too low for easy, comfortable penetration, fold up a thick blanket and stick it underneath the doll. It can be a little “bolster” to give the doll extra height.

The Cross

This doll sex position is even more difficult than Spooning. In Spooning, one side of the doll still rests against your torso. In the Cross, the sex doll is at a 90-degree angle from your hips, meaning it can tip over to either side. Yay, unpredictability!

On the bright side, entering the doll can be a lot easier. It’s less difficult to get the angles to line up if you want to use the anal/vaginal hole if you’re at a 90-degree angle. Just pick your fave and have a great time.

To help prevent the doll from falling forwards or backwards, you have a few options. You can put the sex doll on its back, making it more stable. This can make the holes harder to access though (put a pillow under the doll if it will help!). Alternatively, stuff pillows in front of (and in back of) the doll, helping hold it in place while you enjoy yourself.

(Depending on where you get your info, this doll sex position is either the Cross, the Crossed Spoon, or the Spork.)

Sex Doll Positions: The Classic Missionary

Missionary is more physically strenuous than simply kneeling, lying, or standing upright, but it’s generally considered a more “approachable” option than other sex positions.

To explore this common sex doll position, lie your sex doll onto a bed or the floor. Crawl over top of it, sliding inside, supporting most of your weight on your knees and your arms.

If you have a lightweight doll, you may need to experiment with location to really enjoy this. If your doll is very lightweight or on a slippery surface, it can slide forward, millimeter by millimeter, with every thrust. Eventually, it’ll be so far forward that you’ll need to readjust all over again.

If you’re finding that, try a less slippery surface (cotton sheets vs satin, for example), stuff a pillow between your arms to give the top of the doll something to press up against instead of moving forward, or consider using a heavier sex doll.

While this is one of the common sex doll positions, I wouldn’t call it one of my favorites. It can be hard to really “see” the sex doll like this – especially if your doll isn’t a full-sized torso. You’ll still get the feel of its flesh firm and trapped beneath you, and that can be hot, but some of the visuals may not be there.

Still, it’s personal preference, and you may find that Missionary ends up being one of your favorite sex doll sex positions.

Sex Doll Over the Arm of your Couch

If you’re looking for something a bit more adventurous and “primal” without feeling too stressful, a couch with arms can help.

If you have one, simply lay the hips of the sex doll on the arm of the couch while the chest of the doll lies on the couch seat itself. This, essentially, props all of the doll’s holes upwards, making it easy for you to slide inside.

You can then lean forward, sliding into the doll, with a “I’m taking you vibe” that feels hot but simultaneously doesn’t require you to grip any of the doll’s weight.

Use the back of the couch to help prop yourself up, or use your core while gripping onto the sex doll’s hips. If your couch arm is really low, you can also put your arms onto the seat of the couch, next to the doll’s neck.

Standing with the Doll Against the Wall

Fucking a heavy sex doll that can’t hold its own weight can be hard.

But standing sex positions can be hot.

Using your sex doll up against the wall can help a little bit.

Instead of fully relying on just the strength of your arms, you can push the doll’s weight into the wall, partially trapping the doll’s weight between your own body weight and the wall. This can take some of the pressure off of your arms.

Even so, this is a serious workout, and it’s really only accomplishable by some of the lighter-weight sex dolls.

Make sure your hands are free of lube, and make sure to put down the doll, safely, before your arms fatigue too much. Having 50 pounds of sex doll weight fall to the floor, with your dick inside, is REALLY going to hurt.

This sex doll position is really best if it’s meeting a current fantasy. It’s not going to be the most efficient or pleasurable, but if you’re craving a workout with your doll, it can work.

Big caution with this one: Your sex doll doesn’t have human skin. If a human lover rubbed a spot raw from the friction, their skin will regrow. Your sex doll’s will not. Ensure you aren’t pushing the doll TOO firmly into the wall, the wall is as smooth as possible, and you’re holding up as much of the doll’s weight as possible. Otherwise, you might find that you’ve rubbed off some of the TPE material, leaving a less-smooth, visually broken look on your doll. The same goes for your fingernails! Make sure you’ve trimmed your fingernails ahead of time; if you accidentally dig your nails into the doll’s flesh to help hold it, you WILL leave fingernail holes!

Sex Doll Positions: Lying Cowgirl

Oooooh, this is a HARD one.

You’re going to have the best success with this if you have a firm, lightweight doll. Every single thrust you want to do with the doll will require you to pull the doll up and slide it back down. If your doll’s difficult to grasp or too heavy to do this on repeat (like if it’s a 50 pound doll), this will be extremely difficult. Even if you can pull off sex doll cowgirl position, you’re probably going to find that you transition into an easier position for the bulk of your fun.

To help, while in this lying down position, you do have access to your legs. Do a hip thrust with each “thrust” to help propel the doll away from your shaft, letting your arms and legs share in the effort here. It’s still hard, though. Don’t get me wrong.

Keeping the lube on your hands to a minimum is vital for success here. If your hands are slipping and sliding on a 50 pound “weight”, you’re going to be frustrated – not feeling fun. You might consider using disposable gloves to lube up your shaft and the doll’s interior. That way, you can strip them off before the “main event”, making for dry hands that can better grip the doll’s surface.

If you have access to it, something like a sex bench can help support some of the doll’s weight for you. However, again, the sex doll doesn’t have human skin. If any of the sharp edges press into the doll’s flesh, it may slice the doll permanently.

Seated Cowgirl

You can make Cowgirl even harder by sitting upright (in this case, you can see it’s on the couch).

Whereas you could use your legs and hips to help the thrust in a lying Cowgirl, you lose that possibility with the seated version. You’re just straight up picking the doll up – and down – with every thrust. This is hard – probably the hardest doll sex position you’ll ever try to accomplish.

*The sex doll show in the majority of these photos is the Salorein Sabrina.

Update: October 2026, September 2026, July 2026.

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GITM Playbook is an educational and retail store focused entirely on education and sex toys for beginners. Today, we’re looking at one of their wand massagers in this GITM PLAYBOOK Bowing-Bowing review.

The Bowing-Bowing wand is a rechargeable wand massager equipped with an adjustable-angle head. Two buttons, built into the handle, allow for easy and straight-forward adjustment of the 3 steady vibration intensities with patterns accessible through a few more button presses.

The head and button panel of the massager are made from silicone, while the majority of the wand is made from plastic.

The wand is over a foot long (12.4″!) and weighs less than a pound (extremely lightweight in the world of wand massagers!). It has a run time of about 2 hours off a single charge.

This wand massager is NOT WATERPROOF. There is an open charging port at the base. However, the head of the wand is water-resistant, and you can easily submerge and place the head (and only the head!) underneath water for easier cleaning.

A Guide to Your First Sex Toy Experiences

True to its name, GITM PLAYBOOK is focused on beginner-friendly, information-forward sex toy use.

That is, if you’re relatively new to sexual pleasure, their playbook for vulva owners is definitely a great first stop. Not only does it offer basic anatomy to help you understand what spots are going to be most pleasurable, it also talks about how to match your “ideal” stimulation to what sex toy you plan on buying.

As you can imagine, the Bowing-Bowing wand massager is one of their recommendations for people who are looking for external clitoral stimulation.

All of the information in that guide is extremely helpful – though reading it start to finish can feel a bit overwhelming. Still, it’s one of those pages you can easily bookmark and come back to later when you have questions like “Should I be buying this glass toy?”

If you’re someone with a penis, they have a similar sex toy playbook for penis owners, walking you through your sex toy options as well.

What Makes the Bowing-Bowing a Beginner Wand Vibrator?

GITM PLAYBOOK markets the Bowing-Bowing as their wand vibrator for beginners. It has a few things that lend itself well to someone new to sex toys:

• Straight-Forward Button Design: The controls for the Bowing-Bowing couldn’t be more straightforward if they tried. There’s a power button, and there’s an intensity button. Multiple presses on the intensity button will increase (and then decrease) the intensity through 3 vibration intensities. i.e. (1, 2, 3, 2, 1, 2, 3, 2, 1)
• “Hidden” Patterns: If you want to use vibrator patterns, you can, but they aren’t a focus. That is, if the vibrator is on and you single-press the power button, the Bowing-Bowing will slide into the patterned modes. Each patterned mode allows for individual control of the intensity via that intensity button. This is not intuitive, and I didn’t find this out until I was reading the GITM PLAYBOOK Bowing-Bowing review instruction leaflet inside.
• Easy-Grip Handle: The wide, angled handle makes for easy understanding and control of the vibrator.
• Angle-Adjustable Head: The usable “head” of this massager stays in a straight line with the handle, or it can come down to a 90-degree angle from the handle. Not only does this make it more accessible (more on that later!), but it also means you can potentially use it for grinding and get creative with positioning.
• A Silicone Head: The part that touches you is made from silicone. The handle is plastic. These phthalate-free materials mean you don’t have to worry about bacterial buildup as long as you clean your toy thoroughly.
• Included Storage Bag: While the Bowing-Bowing vibrator is going to be a great fit if you need to be discreet, the sex toy does come with a drawstring, plain black bag that can store the vibe, the instructions, and the charging cable for easy storage.

That being said, the Bowing-Bowing‘s vibrations start at pretty powerful and go up from there, so while this has a beginner-friendly physical design, if you’re brand new to vibrators or are sensitive, you may find this massager is painfully strong. If you’ve never tried a vibrator and/or know you like lighter stimulation, go with a different clitoral toy instead.

I’ll also admit to being a little disappointed by the included instruction manual. A small piece of paper with very-basic info isn’t quite the level of instructional help I’d want to see if this was someone’s very first vibrator. It doesn’t mention how to clean the toy, how long the battery lasts, or answer any of the usual “This is my first toy, help!” questions.

GITM PLAYBOOK Bowing-Bowing Review: That Appearance Though

The construction on the Bowing-Bowing does feel surprisingly cheap. If you had told me that the wand massager was $50, I would have believed you. The vibrations themselves? Powerful. The design of the toy? Also great. However, something about this fully-plastic, visible-seamed handle, complete with giant, square-shaped hole for charging just doesn’t do the wand justice.

Neither does this color scheme. The beige head (which looks more yellow in-person), extra-thick handle, and multiple shades of white are not helping. The yellow shade looks like a smoker’s house wall. It’s a super-odd, really-not-attractive color scheme.

It’s also a pet peeve, but the Bowing-Bowing has 3 vibration intensities. I have no idea why the button, built into the vibrator itself, shows four. It’s a minor gripe, but…why?

A Seriously Accessible Wand Massager

That being said, that overly-bulky appearance does have some really awesome benefits. Namely, the extra-thick plastic handle will make for much easier handling of the vibrator by anyone with gripping concerns. Because the toy is made from a lot of lightweight plastic, this wand weighs virtually nothing compared to its competitors, making it much easier to handle if holding heavy objects leads to arm fatigue.

Even better, the adjustable head angle means that you can find an angle that feels good for your vulva while maintaining a grip on the vibrator that feels neutral on your wrist. Just take advantage of the head’s ability to change angles, and you can have a wand that’s still targeting your spots while the wand’s handle remains at a neutral angle.

There are only two buttons on the wand’s handle. Because there are fewer buttons, each button is bigger and easier to understand. For anyone who may have precise motor control concerns, these larger buttons help a lot.

So while I’m not necessarily in love with the color scheme of the wand, I do think the design choices – which I’m not fond of – actually do offer some pretty awesome benefits that are hard to find in wand massagers nowadays. Most mainstream wand massagers nowadays are built with heavier materials, a stationary head, and multiple buttons that can increase confusion and/or are harder to press with their smaller size.

The Bowing-Bowing Wand is now, officially, the top wand I’d recommend for anyone looking for a more accessible wand massager.

Let’s Talk Vibrations

Honestly, the vibrations are pretty powerful.

Like, I’m really impressed by the strength on this.

I will say that they start at moderately strong and go to pretty strong. If you’re a beginner, per GITM PLAYBOOK’s ideal customer base, and haven’t tried a vibrator before, go for a different vibrator before you jump straight into a wand massager.

This one is decently powerful – even at its lowest setting – you may find it entirely overwhelming if you don’t already know that you need some decent power to start.

For people who like stronger vibrations, you’ll likely want to warm up (or already be aroused) before you use this sex toy. Even the lowest setting is overwhelming on unaroused flesh.

The vibrations don’t reach the same top intensities as expensive, mainstream wands, but I’d say they make it to about 65% of some of the most powerful wand massagers on the market. That’s well above most standard clitoral vibrators.

The vibrations remain the same in intensity no matter how much pressure you apply. They also keep the same intensity regardless of wand massager head positioning. If you have it angled, the vibrations feel the same as if you had the wand massager’s head entirely flat.

With this reliable intensity level, you’re free to experiment with pressure (do you want more or less?) and wand head angle (do you like it at a specific angle?) without impacting the resulting sensations. It’s a good constant to give you some space to explore exactly what you want out of your vibrator.

GITM PLAYBOOK Bowing-Bowing Review: How’s the Noise?

It’s a wand massager. It’s kinda loud.

This is not a vibrator you’re going to want to use with roommates in a quiet house. The light plastic handle does nothing to soften vibrations, but the noise level isn’t grating or annoying. It’s just a pretty loud HUMMMMMMMMMM that can easily be heard in the same room. It’s also relatively easy to hear outside of a closed door – even with music in the background.

With great power often comes a decent chunk of noise. That also holds true with the Bowing-Bowing vibrator.

The Angled Tip?

Adding to the accessibility and functionality is the angled tip of the Bowing-Bowing. The head of the massager has a “press to unlock” button right at the base of the head. Press the button down, and you can adjust the angle of the wand massager’s tip. Once you get it to one of its pre-set angle slots, it “locks” into place, and it won’t move again until you press down the unlock button. If you’re familiar with gym equipment, it’s the same vibe as when you adjust the height or angle of any gym bench.

The wand goes from a default/standard “straight line” all the way to a 90-degree head angle in either direction for a full 180-degrees of adjustment. It has 7 built-in stopping points. There’s one for the default/standard “straight line” stopping point in addition to two stopping points at 90-degrees in both directions. The other 4 possible angles are spots in between the 90-degree and the “straight line” set-up, giving you a multitude of angles.

Not only is this fantastic for function and positioning, but it’s also really accessible. If your wrist prefers to hold the massager from a certain angle, you can adjust the head of the massager to keep that wrist in a neutral, comfortable position instead of using your wrist to do the work of angling.

Plus, once you put it where you want it, the wand really locks into place. Even when applying full pressure with the wand in any position I’ve thrown it in for my GITM PLAYBOOK Bowing-Bowing review, it stays exactly where I put it.

The head itself, on top of the locking joint, does have some bend to it. If you apply pressure, the yellow head will move a bit, offering a slightly flexible experience without undoing the angle you’ve placed the wand at. The yellow silicone head you see in photos will flex a bit. The metallic and white plastic underneath that yellow head does not move in the slightest.

The angled functionality is a fantastic addition. Zero complaints.

Charging and Cleaning

The product page claims the toy is IPX7 waterproof. This seems odd, considering there’s a giant hole at the base of the wand massager that functions as the charging port.

After discussing with the manufacturer, the handle can not be submerged or used near water, meaning the toy is not waterproof, nor should it be used near water. Only the head can be placed near water.

If you can ensure your after-use cleansing keeps the water only on the toy’s head, you’ll be golden. Do NOT use the toy in the shower, in the bath, or even get careless with water during clean-up. It will destroy the toy.

Keep the handle fully dry while you wash the head of the toy, avoiding getting any water flow directly on the head (it may run down the handle on accident). The silicone head can be cleaned with warm water and mild soap, making it pretty easy to keep up.

Straightforward to charge, you can simply plug the charger into the base of the handle to top up the battery. With the open charging port at the base, there’s no mystery here; just simple charging.

Final Thoughts: GITM PLAYBOOK Bowing-Bowing Review

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A quick search for a “femdom pegging party” brings up a ton of results – all of them clearly written by male submissives who have fantasies and zero interest or experience in actually creating a safe space for femdoms to want to peg.

And that sucks.

I want your femdom pegging party to be a great time, and the quickest way to make that happen is by providing real, actionable advice that’s going to help your party run smoothly for both dommes and subs.

So today, let’s talk about how to host a femdom pegging party with some of my favorite tips and tricks:

(This guide assumes you’re hosting this domme pegging party in a personal space that you have control over. Modify and change around suggestions, as needed, if you’re hosting in a rented venue.)

First…

Femdom Pegging Party #1: Set Clear Expectations Ahead of Time

An entire party focused on a single kink requires a bit of a “guide” for anyone attending. The reality is: there are more bottoms who want to be pegged than there are femdoms looking to touch the inside of a butt of a complete stranger.

That means, to help this party run smoothly and avoid alienating any femdoms in attendance, you’re going to have to set expectations ahead of time AND be willing to enforce them during the party.

It’s not a fun job, but it can drastically improve the enjoyment of everyone in attendance.

Pre-party, I recommend sending out a list of rules that everyone agrees to. You can include anything you’d like in this rule list, but the important thing is: everybody knows what the rules are ahead of time. You may even require any potential attendee to specifically email you a “code word” hidden in the middle of the document before they are sent the address, ensuring they thoroughly read the rules.

Some of the things I’d think about including, if you want, to help manage some of the downsides of a femdom pegging party while increasing the upsides:

• Providing wristbands at check-in. Femdoms looking to peg someone new can put on these wristbands. Rules state subs can not request pegging from any femdom who isn’t wearing this wristband. This lets pre-established couples (and pre-negotiated friends) peg and enjoy the festivities while reducing the stress a femdom might have about being hassled.
• If you want to go the other way, you can do the same thing with subs. People who want things in their butt can wear their own wristband to show their willingness to bottom for someone they don’t know. Everyone who isn’t wearing these wristbands is assumed to be socializing-only or just pegging with familiar faces or partners.
• Alternatively, make it a rule that only femdoms may approach bottoms to request play. This can reduce femdoms being hassled, but it may simultaneously lead to some bottoms feeling neglected or uncomfortable as well.
• Specify a “seeking” room. Let it be known that if someone is in that room, they are actively seeking someone to do pegging with. (This can only work in huge parties; at a smaller scale, it’ll usually look like 2 or 3 men just hanging out in a room by themselves for the night, and that’s actively working against their chances of getting comfortably known and socialized with people attending.)
• Requiring a certain level of butt upkeep before the party. You can ask them to keep an anal-friendly diet (state what that is), do enemas ahead of time (provide the instructions), and/or trim anal hair. Assume anyone attending has never done anal before and provide very specific, step-by-step instructions for anything you want done.
• Requesting attendees do their butt prep ahead of time. A bunch of people trying to do enema clean-outs in your home is going to take up bathroom space and quickly. If you have the single bathroom, make note of that and request that people do any of their toilet-intensive prep before they arrive. In traditional play, a lot of people might do their clean-out right before penetration, and bathroom logistics of a party may not occur to them until you mention it.
• Requiring people to bring their own dildos or harnesses. You may require that any bottom in attendance brings their own dildos; this might make femdoms more comfortable pegging new people as they don’t have to use their “own” sex toys on an unfamiliar person. This also ensures bottoms (hopefully) bring dildos that they can actually “take”, reducing a femdom’s worry that they might injure a stranger.
• If you’re providing “rental” harnesses or dildos, you might request that anyone looking to borrow one wears underwear or pants.
• Requesting attendees to arrive freshly showered. This is generally a given for most social and sex spaces, but it never hurts to add it to the list.
• Requiring people to attend an anal 101 quick class before the event. Most of us have the best of sexual intentions, but that doesn’t mean that everyone knows how to do anal safely. To help prevent tears and injury, this quick class could focus on using lots of lube, not playing above your already-stretched level, and how to take penetration slowly. I have a ton of pegging play articles here on Kinky World with some of that info, but you can always use whatever is important to you.
• If you want to make a couple’s only dedicated play space, requiring that any bottom be “invited into” the space by a femdom at the party. This is common at swinger’s events to avoid people “just” watching and/or keep play areas less heavy with watching-only foot traffic. This would require having a door guard for your “play” space, but depending on the crowd you invite and whether you vet, this can prevent a lot of horny lookie-loos from showing up for inappropriate behavior.
• Providing a list of unacceptable/banned activities. You might be okay with pegging, but you might not be okay with breath play. If you’re uncomfortable with the liability or idea of it going on in your home, you can provide a list of things that aren’t okay.

Part of being a safe space for these types of sex-forward, niche parties is ensuring femdoms know what to expect from you and that you’ll help enforce rules in case of an issue. Enforcing rules sucks, though, especially if someone is getting belligerent. Consider having a small “team” of attendees/friends you can request as back-up if you need to eject someone for your party for any reason. It can be harder for people to argue, fight, or get physical if they see the “odds” are against them – though god forbid, I hope this would never happen to you.

Vet the Attendees

I’d assume you’d vet the attendees of any private party to an extent. Nobody wants complete strangers to have their home address.

You may want to vet more thoroughly if you’re hosting a femdom pegging party though. We’re not necessarily only looking for trustworthiness here, but you might also be looking for cleanliness and experience with pegging.

While everyone can always make their own personal choices about how “cleaned out” they want to be before anal play, having large groups of people doing pegging without that clean-out can get…uh…stinky, uncomfortable, and not very femdom-friendly.

Even if a sub is hot AF, most femdoms don’t want one of the first experiences they have with them to be one that has them covered in the submissive’s fecal matter.

This isn’t necessarily a bottom’s fault. Newbies to pegging may not have enough experience to know how to properly clean out with an enema or how to watch their diet for a few days before playing.

This is where that vetting policy comes in. It can be difficult and awkward, but part of your invitation questionnaire can inquire about what they intend to do ahead of the party, ask for their experience with pegging in the past, or request references from tops they’ve done anal things with.

Having a liberal “bow out” policy can help here too. If someone finds that their stomach suddenly decides to be an asshole that day, allowing them to bow out of the party without penalty can help reduce people showing up who otherwise, on a different day, would be A+ pegging partners. Consider a liberal refund policy if you had entrance fees.

Vetting the attendees also reduces the likelihood that you’ll have hassling or consent issues. Someone familiar to the kink community is more likely to be familiar with graciously accepting “no” compared to a random person no one has heard of who plans on getting pegged that night no matter how many femdoms they make uncomfortable in the process.

While it will drastically reduce your party participants (which you may not mind!), you can also limit or prohibit invitations to solo bottoms entirely. Your invitations may be to the femdoms who are allowed/encouraged to bring a bottom or two. This way, any given bottom likely has a femdom who is more comfortable with an expected mess OR a femdom to help walk them through the experience and expectations.

This vetting process can also apply to femdoms. At a femdom pegging party, you’ll (hopefully) have women doing anal activities with people they’re unfamiliar with. You want to ensure any top at your party respects boundaries and has a basic understanding of anal safety.

Regardless of what you do, I still very much recommend setting clear expectations, though, as stated in the tip above.

Plan for Femdom Pegging Party Scents

Butt stuff occasionally comes with some scents. Even the best-laid intentions and clean-outs occasionally lead to some undesired scents.

Take some of this concern out of the equation with some scent neutralizers, candles, incense, or essential oils in your space.

I, personally, find most mainstream, 24/7 scent options (like plug-ins or scent blocks) to be too strong and headache-inducing when I first use them, but they’re usually comfortable after 2 or 3 days of use. If you have those types, you might consider using your scent ahead of time for a few days just to get the most intense bout of scent out of the way in case you do end up with party goers with scent sensitivities.

Sprays, candle warmers, and candles can be used day-of to help cover up temporary scents.

Used condoms and butt-stuff-covered toys can contribute to the “smell” problem even if someone isn’t actively pegging. If you have a trash can, consider one with a lid to help trap scents from butt-laden condoms. If you can, offer a sex toy-safe cleaner and encourage people to wash their toys in your sink afterwards to reduce residue just sitting around in the air.

(You can find more info about ways to prevent pegging poop mess here.)

There’s also the smell of sweat, but this can be a hard line to walk. If you make the room too cold, people won’t want to play. If you make the room too hot, they’ll sweat even more. The room has to somehow be comfortable for people standing around and socializing while simultaneously being comfortable for people in the middle of physical activity. (This is eternally an issue at any play party.)

One potential workaround is to have a “play party” area that’s cooled with fans or a “social area” that’s heated with space heaters. This can give your temperature-sensitive guests a way to go to the appropriate area if they’re getting uncomfortable with the temperature.

You might also consider spray-on deodorant in your bathroom. While the idea of sharing a deodorant stick with a room full of people – even if they’re friends – sounds gross, being able to spray on a deodorant after play doesn’t carry the same skin-to-skin contact. This, along with mouthwash and disposable cups, can be a good refresher for people who want to stay fresh smelling.

Have Bountiful Femdom Pegging Party Supplies and Protection

Do you want lube all over every surface of your house? Probably not.

Make it easy for people to grab the supplies they need to protect themselves AND your house from any resulting lube and butt mess.

At a minimum, I’d recommend:

• Paper towels
• Puppy pads / Medical “chuck” pads / Bath towels that have been washed in hot water
• Condoms
• Water-based Lube (compatible with all sex toys and safer sex barriers)
• Disposable gloves
• An extra-large trash can to handle those paper towels/chucks

You can also provide other lube types (like silicone-based or oil-based), but they may not work for everyone. Oil-based, for example, will be great if someone is doing any fisting, but it can destroy most sex toy types, and at a femdom pegging party, you’re probably going to have a lot of sex toys! Just make sure every bottle is clearly labeled at a quick glance. Duct tape, with marker-written “oil”, “silicone”, or “water” can be great.

You can set these supplies up in “stations” if you have specific spots where you want people to peg or you can have a central “sex supplies” area with the expectation that your femdom pegging party participants will grab what they need before they scatter to fuck.

Either works – though setting up little “stations” can provide some clarity on where you do (or do not) want people pegging one another in your space.

Don’t forget to stock up your bathroom too. For that post-pegging clean-up, I’d recommend:

• Way more toilet paper than you’d usually need that is easily accessible by strangers
• Signs near/on your toilet about flushing limitations (or flushable wipes!) if those will hurt your plumbing; a lot of bottoms may try to use flushable wipes for post-sex clean-up
• Dildo-safe sex toy cleaner with an open sink
• A trash can with liners to handle all of the used condoms

If you know you don’t have enough OR want to encourage people to reduce their impact on your home, list what you recommend people bring in your initial rule list. (Harness, toys, safer sex barriers, their own towels, etc.)

If you want to go above and beyond, you can also supply some pegging gear for people who may not have their own. Providing a few strap-on harnesses and dildos can make your femdom pegging party less stressful for people who are new to strap-on sex or may have been on a tight time crunch. If you choose to do that, I recommend a few things:

• Choose harnesses that are easily machine washable. After someone uses that harness, it goes into a future laundry load, reducing contamination between users. This can be a great use for “beginner” harnesses that you or your attendees no longer use now that you’ve bought other harnesses you like better.
• Primarily pick dildos that are smaller in width and length. People who have been doing this awhile will likely have their own gear and dildo preferences. You’ll find that people still new to pegging are likely the ones without gear, and they definitely will overestimate how big of a dildo they “need” for this.
• Ideally, have one or two extra-long (but thin) dildos for plus-size strap-on players. This extra length can really help navigate sex with thicker thighs and tummies.
• Write out a clear list of rules for anyone borrowing gear. At a minimum, I recommend a wearer leave their clothing on for less bodily fluid transfer. Write out how you want someone to clean the harness and the dildo and where you want them to put it when they’re done. This will drastically reduce needing to answer questions during your party.
• Put all of your harnesses and dildos into baggies. Print the list of rules and put it into the baggie. Now, if someone wants to borrow something, the rule list comes with them. Make an announcement during pre-party announcements with a quick summary.

You may not have all of this sitting around at your place. If you’re picking it up online, don’t forget to check for an online sex toy store coupon to help save you money. Using Carnal Coupons can really help if you’re placing an expensive order. It’s easier to find sales by buying your sex supplies online. Just make sure you’re buying from a reputable store.

Optional: Have Multiple Bathrooms

We’re gonna get real here for a second: sticking things up a butt tends to involve more bathroom time than other kinks.

Bottoms coming to the event might want to do a final pre-clean before playing if you haven’t prohibited it. Honestly, that’s not necessarily a bad thing; it’ll drastically reduce any “smell” that can sometimes come along with anal play.

Even if they don’t plan on doing a final clean-out on-site, shoving lots of air and lube into a butt tends to make it feel like it needs to “go” afterwards. Frequent restroom trips can be par for the course for anal play, and with a larger group of people, having multiple bathrooms can be very helpful.

That being said, this isn’t necessarily a must-have. It’s just helpful. So if you were only planning on cleaning up the guest bathroom for femdom pegging party use, consider cleaning up the master or an additional bathroom just to help with traffic flow. At a minimum, you can always use those bathrooms on an invite-only basis if someone comes to you “in an emergency”.

Cover Any Surface You Care About

If this is your own home, you probably have furniture you treat delicately. It might be an expensive couch or a rug that’s hard to clean.

If you’re letting people peg anywhere at this femdom pegging party, cover any surface that you don’t want lube on. For real. If you expect a lot of activity in a spot, you can use plastic floor coverings. Painter’s plastic tarps are cheap and disposable. If you want to provide less obnoxious coverage, you can cover with blankets or towels.

If you’re worried about stains or hard-to-clean spots, you can also set out rules ahead of time. Water-based lubes are the easiest to clean out of anything. Oil-based or silicone-based are a bitch to clean up.

“Hybrid” lubes TEND to fall under the “bitch to clean up” category, so I’d recommend banning them as well or putting them on a “please ask first” category.

Arrange for a “Starter Couple”

A femdom pegging party can go a few ways. It can either:

• Be an amazing experience where people are pegging and socializing all evening.
• Be a good experience where people mostly socialize but “pegging” doesn’t really happen. You’ve just thrown a good party instead!
• Be a poor experience where femdoms feel pestered, don’t feel comfortable pegging anyone or sticking around to chat, and may bow out early.

I’m hoping to prevent that last one with some of the tips in this femdom pegging party article, BUT we also want to try to avoid that second one too.

Even if your group really knows one another, a domme pegging party is different than a standard BDSM party. If you pop your head into a standard kink party, you’ll likely see a lot of spanking and bondage. There might be some sensation play or foot worship. On occasion, you’ll see someone getting oral sex or a handjob.

Pegging, an involved type of intercourse, isn’t a common activity at most parties. Even if you’ve invited a vetted group of individuals who you see constantly at play parties, actual intercourse isn’t super common at most kink parties. That means your lovely group of femdoms and friends may still be kinda nervous just…doing it right there. And everyone is always nervous about being the first one to do something in public.

That’s why I’d recommend talking to a trusted, comfortable couple ahead of time. You can ask this couple to be the “sacrificial lamb” ahead of the party, asking if they’d be comfortable being the first couple to start pegging if no one else has done it yet.

This takes stress off your plate. You can focus more on hosting, as you “know” some pegging will eventually start at a time you choose, and it can help other people feel more comfortable jumping into the pegging meet-up too.

It isn’t necessarily a bad thing if everyone comes to your femdom pegging party and has a great time chatting with one another, but that isn’t necessarily what you set up a strap-on sex party for.

To Charge Money or Not to Charge?

Some people request donations or charge for “tickets” to a femdom pegging party. This does have its benefits. Not only does it prevent random people from showing up, it drastically reduces no-shows. When people have money on the line, they are MUCH more likely to show up, helping you keep your numbers and domme-to-sub ratios reasonable.

BUT be aware that this is a legal gray area (or illegal) in many places. Since people are paying an entry fee in order to have sex at this location, you can see how, legally, someone could claim that someone is “paying for sex”.

Many kink play parties avoid this connotation by being a place where paid entry gets you a place to do *kinky* things (not have sexual intercourse), which is not illegal in the same prostitution way. Other BDSM parties ban sexual intercourse or penetration entirely to avoid this issue.

Since you’re having a party specifically for the purpose of penetration, it’s a lot harder to claim people weren’t paying to have sex. This can get even harder to argue in a court of law if any prodommes were in attendance and offering their services. (which may be something you want to prohibit in your rules)

You may want to consult a lawyer if you plan on charging money or reach out to local swingers’ groups to see how they handle this. Some of the classes that Attorney Lady Steele offers may also give you some good food for thought before hosting.

Updated: September 2026, May 2026, September 2025.

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Does your sex toy have its own patent? This one does (Patent No. US 11,833,100 B1). (This is the patent for this brand and product’s product’s patented suction technology.) Let me introduce you to this air suction toy in my AVIDLOVE PLAY Ergonomic Max Suction Clitoral Vibrator review.

With a built-in hollow tip, this ergonomic toy is designed to surround small, ultra-pleasurable areas in small vacuums of suction, offering a light, gentle pull on the sensitive tissue. Once you have this toy in place, it provides 3 levels of steady suction and 7 air suction patterns to experiment with, all controlled by a single button. It does not have vibrations; every ounce of this motor power is devoted all to air suction (yay!).

A solid runtime, the vibrator lasts for longer than 60 minutes on a single charge. A magnetic charging port lets you top up the battery’s juice within 80 minutes. The magnets are comfortably strong, and the toy doesn’t easily roll itself off the charger.

Slightly over 4″ in total length and coated in silicone (where it touches your body) and plastic paneling for a futuristic appearance, this vibe offers air suction stimulation that’s focused in the hollow tip of the toy. Although the AVIDLOVE PLAY’s product name calls it a “vibrator”, this toy focuses on its patented dynamic air suction instead of traditional direct vibration.

If you think this toy is for you, the AVIDLOVE PLAY discount code “MISTRESS25” will save you 25% off of your total purchase.

Here are the quick specs:

• Stimulation type: patented dynamic suction
• Intensity levels: 3 suction levels + 7 patterns
• Material: silicone + ABS
• Waterproof rating: IPX6 (Splashproof only; not waterproof)
• Charging time: 60-80 minutes
• Usage time: 60+ minutes
• Noise level: <52 dB

So let’s jump into this AVIDLOVE PLAY Ergonomic Max Suction Clitoral Vibrator review.

Let’s Talk Tip: AVIDLOVE PLAY Ergonomic Max Suction Clitoral Vibrator Review

The built-in air suction tip is oval-shaped. It is 2cm in length on the tall side, and it’s about 1.5cm in length on the shorter side.

This fits my clitoris, but it’s a tight fit. I’m really comfortable with using air suction toys at this point, so I’m better able to “aim” where I’m going than when I was new. If this is your first toy, though, it may take a bit of trial and error to figure out exactly where you want to place the air suction tip.

(This guide for how to use an air suction toy will provide tips if you’re still new to them.)

Users with bottom growth or larger anatomy will likely find the opening too small for comfortable clitoral use, though it may still work for nipple play.

How Intense is the Air Suction?

At 1/5th of the price of some of the high-end air suction toys, how well does the AVIDLOVE PLAY Ergonomic Max Suction Clitoral Vibrator hold up?

It’s solid enough.

I’d say it’s pretty good for its price point.

Like all suction toys, a lighter hand tends to showcase the air suction sensations better than firm pressure. If you press the toy firmly into your body, the motor of the air suction gently vibrates the toy. With a really firm push, this can make the air suction toy feel a bit more like a traditional, gentle vibrator – not quite the gentle “sucking” you might be expecting.

A light (but not featherlight!) touch lets that suction shine. Hold the toy lightly enough that it has enough presence on your skin to let the rim make full contact to establish the suction seal but not so firmly that you’re filling up a ton of the usable space inside of tip. You’ll feel the suction most if there’s space for your flesh to be “pulled”.

The AVIDLOVE PLAY Ergonomic Max Suction Clitoral Vibrator has those three steady suction speeds before it goes into different patterns. Each one of the patterns is a-okay, but as with any other sex toy, I really only utilize the steady settings if I’m actively trying to reach orgasm.

AVIDLOVE PLAY Ergonomic Max Suction Clitoral Vibrator Review: The Pleasure

If orgasms are what you desire, this vibrator works. It doesn’t have a huge range of intensities, but on the highest setting, it has enough power to pull out an orgasm without having to work too hard at making it happen.

Even the lowest setting is inching closer to “moderate” in intensity, so if you’re hoping to use this to warm up unaroused flesh, I’d recommend using one of the patterned modes. Those patterned modes have a lot of pauses and breaks, making the suction intensities much easier to enjoy when you aren’t turned on yet.

If I’m not already turned on or it’s a day where I’m struggling to orgasm, the highest intensity of the toy is not quite enough. Attempting to inch out more power turns the vibe directly into the patterned modes, and that will automatically lose the progress I’m on. I have to mentally prohibit myself from attempting to squeak out more power and simply try to use the highest setting I’m already on.

It’s pretty good power at this price point, but it isn’t as powerful as toys with more expensive or larger motors.

What about the Noise Level?

This air suction toy isn’t quiet, but it isn’t loud. For the stimulation it delivers, it’s louder than competitors at the same intensity. To be fair, though, some of those competitors are 5 times as expensive, so when you’re shopping budget, the resulting product has to work within the manufacturing cost.

While setting up my AVIDLOVE PLAY Ergonomic Max Suction Clitoral Vibrator review tests, I could hear the toy through a closed door. I can hear the “hum” of the vibrator even with music on – though if I didn’t know what was going on, I wouldn’t automatically assume it was a sex toy.

The noise level stays about the same regardless of whether the toy is pressed up against your skin or it isn’t. When it’s pressed up against your body, the noise level is deeper, whereas the noise of it in free space sounds a lot higher in pitch. Neither is really “louder” than the other, but one may blend in better with music, depending on what you’re playing, than the other.

It is not the quietest suction toy I’ve tested, so it may not be ideal if privacy is a top concern or someone is right outside the room. As long as people are across the house, though, it’s not wand massager loud, and you can get away with enjoying it.

Easy Handling

My favorite aspect of the Ergonomic Max Suction Clitoral Vibrator is its overall shape. It isn’t a circular, huge, palm-sized object that requires a strong grip and awkward wrist angle.

The slender, oval-shaped body allows for much easier grasping of the vibrator. It fits between my pointer finger and thumb like holding the spine of a book, an easy feel that seamlessly moves exactly where I want it.

While my fingers are wrapped that way around the toy, my thumb is right next to – but not on top of – the single control button. When I want to change the intensity mid-use, it’s a small, 0.5″ scoot of my thumb to align with the button. This button is etched into the silicone material, a tactile presence I can “feel” without having to look down between my legs.

After I do that little thumb scoot, my thumb can easily press the single button with a satisfying “click”. Throughout my AVIDLOVE PLAY Ergonomic Max Suction Clitoral Vibrator review, I’d occasionally just leave my thumb in that spot. It was easy to scoot away from the button, too, to be able to grip the toy with full strength.

All of this happens (for me) as a single-handed endeavor, never requiring me to bring in my second hand or look in-between my legs to figure out where everything is.

It’s an A+ vibrator design that’s extremely intuitive and easier to maneuver than most of the beginner-aimed air suction toys.

Cleaning this Air Suction Toy

This air suction vibrator does not have a removable or interchangeable tip. That means the built-in design is the exact design you get; there’s no way to easily remove the tip for cleaning or to swap it out.

This isn’t necessarily ideal as the AVIDLOVE PLAY vibrator is only splashproof. That means you’ll need to avoid submerging it in water to clean it. Since the tip is attached, though, the entire toy must be near water when cleaning it after use.

To clean this sex toy, rinse with warm water and a mild soap. Do not let any pouring water get directly into the air suction hole, and do not submerge it. Let it air dry completely before storing.

Final Thoughts: AVIDLOVE PLAY Ergonomic Max Suction Clitoral Vibrator Review

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Here we are with another BDSM Scenes Step-by-Step post. Today, we’re focusing on making DIY sex robot fantasies come to life with help of some sex machines. This simple, step-by-step outline gives you everything you need to make a fantastical robotic sex scene come to life with the reasoning behind it, how to modify it to fit your vibe, what stuff you need, how to prepare for it, how to do it, and safety concerns.

This BDSM scene outlines series exists because I remember what it was like when I first stepped into kink. It was terrifying to identify as a “Domme“. That’s where I felt like my heart was, but it simultaneously meant that I was supposed to know what the fuck I was doing despite being brand new myself. It was so much anxiety!

I remember doing tons and tons of Google searches, hoping to find someone who had made something prewritten for me to follow. I just wanted something to alleviate my nerves. I wanted to be the one in charge, but the idea of doing everything, from start to finish, in an activity I barely knew anything about, felt terrifying.

Now that I’m a less-baby Domme, I’ve been writing out these BDSM scene outlines for the past few years. Think of them as a quick scene starter to get your inspiration moving. Take what works for you and dump out what doesn’t. Let these outlines help you grow your confidence with being in charge until you, someday, are writing your own!

Now, let’s get into how to bring a DIY sex robot fantasy to life…

This Scene Is….

A real-life way to bring a fantasy about being fucked by robots (or machines) to life. We’re trying to remove as much of the human element as possible while playing up the “at the mercy of these robot” vibes.

Since we’re humans, we’ll never “really” remove all of the human aspects or truly be at the mercy of sex robots who just want to hump us. We can do some things to roleplay the scene, though, bringing some of those fantasies as close to life as possible. Just like using a Sugar Daddy website to try to find a sugar baby relationship, we’re using the tools at our disposal to bring desires to life.

The biggest hurdle for this kinky scene plan is the fact that it requires a sex machine. I have an entire article (Are Sex Machines Worth It?) that I highly recommend reading, but the basic gist is that super-cheap sex machines can be more frustration than fun. If your budget doesn’t work for a medium-cost sex machine right now, consider some of the automated toys I mention in that article as alternatives.

When I have played out this scene in my own bedroom, I’ve used two separate sex machines. As long as you still do the work with dirty talk and scene setting, you can really make this work with any type of human-removed toy. (dick on a stick, wand massager vibe, hands-free insertables, etc.)

This scene is very focused on overwhelming your bottom with sexual pleasure alongside a small bit of bondage. You’ll want to be sexually intimate with anyone you do this with.

What Do You Need for a DIY Sex Robot Scene?

To do this scene, I’d recommend:

• A spot where your bottom can kneel for a long period of time
• At least one sex machine – code HISMITH10 will get you 10% off a Hismith option (I use a sex machine to thrust a dildo into the butt AND a sex machine on the front to thrust a penis stroker onto their shaft. You can easily get away with one sex machine doing the thrusting and a wand massager saran wrapped onto a piece of furniture for hands-free holding if you’re playing with someone who prefers external vibrations)
• Sex machine dildos/attachments
• A lube for your partner to ease the friction of the sex machine (even if they rarely use lube!)
• A pair of easy-to-move-in gloves for yourself. Get multiple pairs if they’re disposable (i.e. you might tear them mid-scene)
• A blindfold
• Wrist cuffs
• Fastening gear (rope/tethers/chains) to attach your wrist cuffs to a bondage point somewhere
• Other bondage gear to match your “vibe”
• A container to catch semen (if applicable and matches your vibe)

You’ll really want to flush out the backstory of your DIY sex robot scene. Why are you, this human, involved? After all, a DIY sex robot wouldn’t really need a human around. Your backstory will vary based on what flavor of robotic sex you and your kinky lover are into. Some examples:

• If you both are turned on by robotics in medical settings, a human as a doctor in a clinic makes perfect sense and requires no further explanation.
• If you’re turned on by a sentient, futuristic robot “doing things” to humans, it might make less sense for this sentient robot to need a human. In that case, you may wish to build in backstory like “we have seen that humans respond better to faces that match their own. Please meet my assistant”.
• If we’re going for “romantic robot who wants to make you feel good things”, you might want to plan for a backstory like “I brought in an assistant to help make sure you feel comfortable. I care a lot about making sure you feel safe.”

How Long Does It Take?

This is not a scene you really want to rush. Plan for at least an hour of active “scene” time with at least 45 minutes prep time for getting your house ready.

Realistically, this is just not a scene you’re going to want to do if you’re on a time crunch. The whole point is overwhelming your bottom with lots and lots of overwhelming sensations with the help of automated sex toys. It’s hard to really build that fantasy world (and let them relax into it) if we’re worried about having to make a dinner reservation in 3 hours.

How Do You Prep for a DIY Sex Robot Scene?

We’re going to send your partner out of your house to give you time to set up your BDSM scene.

This scene will not have the same immersive qualities if your lover can watch you set up the whole thing. Instead, send them out and make sure they know they’re coming back to a sexy activity to ensure they’re in the right headspace.

To set up, I’d recommend:

• Picking a spot in your house where you want to set up and want your partner to kneel for a long period of time
• Setting up one sex machine (or a wand vibrator) to rest in front of them
• Setting up a second sex machine (if applicable) to rest behind them
• Ensuring both controls for the sex machine are in the same spot for you to easily control
• Ensure your bondage point is ready and accessible. I use an overhead bondage point. You may wish to put a chair on top of the front sex machine, giving them a sturdy surface to lean onto. (like this)
• Get the blindfold and wrist cuffs out.
• Clear out the walkway between the front door and your sex play space, removing any clutter or visual distractions. (i.e. If there’s a pile of clothes on a bedroom chair, put away the clothes. Visual clutter is going to mentally distract your captive away from the scene.)
• At a minimum, change clothes. Ideally, change into a costume or outfit that matches the vibe you’re going for.
• Slip on your gloves. We do not want your partner to feel the warmth of any human skin.
• Set the house’s ambient factors as mentioned in the “What’s the Vibe?” section right below.

I’ve primarily done this scene in a spot in my house where I can bind my partner’s wrists above their head as they kneel. For good measure (and to allow them to really sag and get lost in the sensations of the sex machines without pulling on their shoulders), I also reinforce this with a rope chest harness attached to that overhead bondage point. You may not have an overhead bondage point. Mental bondage, or other types of bondage, can also work too.

Remember: if done “right”, your partner is going to be extremely overstimulated and exhausted by your DIY sex robot. Make sure they have a way to relax into the position you’re going to place them in.

What’s the “Vibe” of your DIY Sex Robot Scene?

There are lots of erotic ways a DIY sex robot scene can go. The exact way you want to set up your apartment will depend on the vibe you’re going for. Is this an autonomous sex robot who kidnapped the bottom and needs to milk them for sustenance? Is this a medical appointment where the nonplussed doctor uses multiple machines to apply a “treatment”? Is this a romance-seeking sex robot who is utilizing its limbs to make someone feel good?

The roleplay you’re looking to replicate will really make a big difference in your initial setup. Some ideas:

• Change the temperature. A medical, torture-focused, unforgiving vibe works best with colder temperatures. A warm, romantic vibe works better with warmer temperatures.
• Change the lighting. Harsh, rough lighting (like a medfet scene!) is great for that clinical vibe while dimmed lighting with some neon undertones can give you more of a “sexy” vibe.
• Swap up the attachments. A sex machine doing super-slow thrusts with a rigid, plastic “dilator” (i.e. a dildo, but swap up the name for headspace purposes) will work for your doctoral vibes while a pre-warmed realistic dildo might fit better for sensual vibes.
• Change the location. If you’re lucky enough to have multiple places to play, you don’t have to play on the bed. Doing this on a paper-covered massage table can be great for clinical vibes. For “robotic overlords who don’t care about your comfort”, you can easily swap to doing things on a hard tiled floor.
• Choose your outfit. Are you a professional assistant wearing business casual? Are you a “human sex toy” the robot has used to try to make the “captive” feel comfortable? (If so, lingerie or kinky gear might make more sense) If you’re in a hospital setting, that Halloween clearance doctor’s coat might come in handy.
• Pick a soundtrack. This one can be harder to “nail”, but if you think there’s a specific vibe that would work best for your DIY sex robot scene, you can grab some background music to help really drill it in. Keep it low for best effect; someone should easily forget it’s there, but it’ll work subconsciously. Medical scenes can have hospital background noise. Futuristic scenes might benefit more from “empty space” type of noises.
• Contemplate pre-recording robotic voice commands. If you really wanna go balls to the wall on this, avoid using your own voice, instead utilizing voice-to-text robotic voices to give you all of the phrases you want. You can save, title, and load these voices as .mp3 files on your phone and hook your phone’s sound up to a home sound system. You can then utilize these files to make your DIY sex robot feel like it’s actually “there”. Keep the voice-to-text website available to type out any additional commands if needed. At a minimum, using this can be helpful to explain your backstory when your partner first walks into the room. You’d then only need to pre-record a single message as a story introduction.

Step-by-Step Instructions for a DIY Sex Robot Scene

1. Spend the weeks preceding your scene date by hyping up the idea of a sex robot. Presumably, if you’re doing this scene with a partner, you (or your partner!) are already into the idea of robotic sex. We really want to get them fantasizing about it, though, so mental images are fresh in their mind for the scene. Find some animated porn or erotica that features robotic sex. Since there’s only so much we can do in the “real world” in our bedrooms to replicate this, we really want their imagination to do the bulk of the work.
2. The day of your scene, ask your partner to go out for a bit while you set up. We want them to go out and do something relaxing. Ideally, they may know that they have a “sex appointment with you” when they come back, keeping them turned on. You can assign some hot robotic sex erotica for them to read while they’re out if you want. When they come back, ask them to knock on the door.
3. While they’re out, get your house ready for the scene. Set out the machines, set out the restraints, prepare your house, and get yourself dressed into whatever costume or vibe you’re going for. I have that checklist above in “How to Prepare”.
4. When they knock on the door, prepare to greet them in a way that matches your scene vibe. A cold doctor would succinctly welcome their patient. A warm robot who is thankful for your “donation” would be robotic…but they’d also be friendly and patient.
5. Without much delay, request that they remove their clothing. Again, match your vibe. A cold doctor will say a few phrases and say “I now need you to undress”. Whether your doctor leaves the room is up to you. A warm robotic lover would patiently wait or make notes about how “they can only make you feel good if you get naked”.
6. Now that your bottom is naked, place the wrist cuffs on them. You can add additional bondage gear, as desired, but this scene outline only really requires a single set of wrist cuffs.
7. Lead your bottom to the area where the machines and bondage gear are all laid out.
8. Request your bottom to get into position, using phrases that best match the vibe you’re going for.
9. Once your bottom is in position, bind their wrists to the bondage point you’ve selected when setting up your space.
10. Blindfold your bottom. Again, utilize phrases that help best sell your vibe. A doctor may say something like “We’ve found this treatment is more effective if a patient is able to focus on the machinery.” while a DIY sex robot focused on milking its captives may say something like “The human mind provides itself with better fantasies when its eyes are closed. We’ve found that fantasy fulfillment provides a larger resulting collection.”
11. Now that they’re captive and bound, this is a great spot for any words, robotic or otherwise, that help explain your backstory. We, quite obviously, are not robots. So your only way to really “sell” this roleplay is by utilizing your captive’s imagination. Give them as much fantasy fodder as possible to hold onto. Why’s the robot holding them there? What’s the robot’s end goal? What’s going to happen to them now? Use that robotic text-to-voice we set up earlier, or use your human voice as the robot’s “assistant”.
12. This is where you would perform any other additional things that help sell your backstory. If your robot is a warm, sensual lover who wants to see what human sexuality is like, they’d probably start with foreplay, rubbing and squeezing parts of the human. If you’re in a medical setting, you probably need to take some measurements, ask the patient’s date of birth, and receive “consent” for these treatments. A DIY sex robot that is just here for ejaculation extraction won’t bother with much foreplay, and they’ll probably just start stroking the patient’s shaft so that semen extraction may begin.
13. When you’re ready, start by getting the “front” sex machine in place. Penetration vaginally or anally is going to feel best if your partner is already turned on. We can utilize this front sex machine (or wand/vibrator), focused on the penis or clitoris, to get the captive’s arousal higher.
14. Feel free to move/adjust your captive, as needed, to get them into the place you need to get the sex toys in place. For a penis owner, that may mean getting them to spread their thighs (to get to a lower overall height) or bend over (to accommodate an upward pointing penis). For clitoral owners, you might need the same adjustments to get the toys in the right place. Again, you can do this within the vibe of your roleplay. A doctor may ask the patient, matter-of-fact, to move. A romantic robot may gently pick up and move the limbs.
15. If you have another toy you’d like to use instead (or in addition) (a Lovense Lush, for example), this can also be a great place to get that set up. We’re aiming to add as much hands-free, automated pleasure as possible.
16. Once you’ve set up the single machine, sit back and let your partner enjoy it for a bit. I recommend keeping the speed settings low, letting them get accustomed to the sensations without going over-the-top (yet). Feel free to pepper in more words that reinforce the DIY sex robot vibe that you’re going for. Add lube as needed.
17. When you think they’re ready, get to work setting up the second sex machine (if applicable). In my outline here, we set up the first machine to do a lot of external pleasure while this second one will be used for vaginal or anal penetration. Of course, feel free to adjust things as needed.
18. I recommend turning off the first sex machine/toy and using some dirty talk or phrases before sliding the second machine inside. This may be medical speak with “We need to use another machine to improve our accuracy.”. This might be “I want to see if humans can feel even more pleasure at once”. Reinforce your captive’s mental picture by giving them a reason this kinky robot wants to add even more.
19. This is also a great time to add more lube.
20. When you’re ready, get that second one slid inside, and start up only the second one. Especially as getting penetration angles can be a bit more finicky when sliding inside than with your first item being external-only, you may need to adjust the machine or your partner’s positioning.
21. When they’re settled into that second one, start the first one back up, keeping them at low settings.
22. Give them time to enjoy themselves before ramping up the intensity. Add some words (if desired), giving them reasons the robot wants them to have more pleasure. Alternatively, if you find your captive is already getting close to orgasm, you can also have reasons that your DIY sex robot doesn’t want them to orgasm, ceasing stimulation.
23. Bring the intensity up to medium, and gently back down, for a few cycles. Don’t forget to add lube as needed!
24. At this point, if you have any additional sensation play items you want to add, you can add them by hand. Try to avoid touching the person with your own warm hands. Quick ideas: nipple clamps, ice along the skin, wax play (do NOT get it on the machines), clit or testicle clamps, wartenburg wheels (be careful if they’re squirmy), additional vibrators.
25. With all of that going on, they’re going to get overwhelmed with sensation here. Be prepared to turn down (or turn off) the machines as needed to control the pace of the scene. If you have something vibrating, be prepared to turn it off entirely (or turn it to a pattern) to avoid numbing the area from over-vibration. Expect them to sag or lose the ability to easily support their body weight as well; we don’t want them to fall or tear a shoulder joint.
26. When you’re ready, start prepping your captive to orgasm with words. Why is your DIY sex robot going to let them cum? Is it the culmination of the medical treatment? Are they milking them for their own needs? Do they want to see what happens when a human has an orgasm? Even more intense, do they want to see how many orgasms a human being can experience? (you sadistic orgasm torture robot you!)
27. After you’ve set the scene with your words, start to increase the intensity of the machines and toys. Let them climb up to that orgasm, and make sure to add in words about the robot’s intentions to really drive home the fantasy and visual they have in their head.
28. Once they’ve had an orgasm, you can either consider the scene done OR you can ramp them up for more orgasms or sensation. If you want someone to have multiple orgasms, you need to continue some form of primary stimulation (usually clitoral or penile), but they’re going to be very sensitive. We have to prevent them from going into the resolution phase. So make sure you pull down the sensation to very light while still having it there. Give them a minute-ish of variable, light primary stimulation while changing up stimulation elsewhere before ramping back up intensity to see if you can draw out more orgasms.

Pre-Written Dirty Talk

It’s going to be really hard to give you generic dirty talk sentences that’ll work for every vibe of DIY sex robot scene out there. It’s really going to depend on whether you’re going for degrading or loved, whether your robot is sentient or not, and whether your robot is part of a fantastical futuristic scenario or something a human being is “using for a treatment”.

Instead, I’d really, really, REALLY recommend sitting down before you do this scene to figure out what you want the backstory to be. Why does your sex robot want to have sex with this person? How did your bottom end up at the mercy of this sex robot? What role do you (the human) play to the robot? Is your robot a generic robot with no personality that’s purely acting on orders, or is it a robot with sentience that’s getting to explore something that it wants to do? Does it view its captive as an interesting science experiment, a new play toy, or something it just has to get it over with as part of its 9-to-5?

Once you have that, start thinking about phrases that might work within the context of that story.

To make it easy, I’ve tried to note spots in the outline where you can really play up the contextual scene you’ve made. In general, just think about why your robot would be doing what they’re doing, and verbalize it to your partner when you’re changing things up.

Why would the DIY sex robot want to increase the intensity of the sex machines? Why would they want to add nipple clamps?

You can also come up with a few phrases that essentially mean “good captive” but work within your roleplay scenario. For example, a doctor may say something like “You’re doing a great job. This treatment can be intense, but I promise it’s almost over.” A robot that is trying to extract as much semen as possible may say something like “It looks like your balls are getting even fuller. Good subject. We need maximum extraction.”

It can be easy to pepper in those phrases when you’re at a loss for something else to say.

Add-on Fun for a DIY Sex Robot Scene

As always, the world is your oyster when it comes to whatever you want to add within my scene outline. Please, take my outlines as inspiration and add in whatever cool stuff makes you and your captive happy.

Some quick ideas:

• The DIY sex robot had such a great time that they now have no interest in “sharing this human” with anyone else. They introduce a chastity cage or chastity belt to lock the human in afterwards.
• For gooning fetishists, you can easily skip the blindfold and play hentai or animated porn of sex robots having sex with their captives. If someone tends to depend more on visual images than their own brain for this type of stuff, this can be a really easy way to really “drive home” the DIY sex robot theme. Try to preview the porn and get all of the movie’s “vibes” to line up. i.e. If you are jumping from clips that are really sadistic to really romantic or sensual, you’re going to have a hard time keeping up with one cohesive “vibe” for your dirty talk during the scene.
• If someone has an ignore kink, you can fit this into your robotic vibe as well. The robot is a bored factory-line worker, and they have yet another human being to milk. Yawn. You’ll get them all set up, but the vibe will be very detached and bored, going for extreme efficiency.
• Feel free to get creative if you don’t have two sex machines. We’re really just here to add a whole lot of intense stimulation at once while removing you, the “human” lover, from the equation. This may mean that the robot sets out a sex doll for the captive to have sex with while the sex machine does its job from the back. This may mean that the captive is told to hump or grind up against a pillow or firm surface while a sex machine does some work from the back.

In general, I really recommend having a vague understanding of what gets your partner off about robotic sex before jumping into this one. Usually, it’s some specific feeling of helplessness they want to feel. Is it degrading to be forced under a robot’s arms? Is it exhilarating to be underneath a “lover” that doesn’t have physical limitations? Are they turned on by being more thoroughly used than a human being can capably provide? Are they simply turned on by robots, as a thing, and want to have sex with that thing?

Having that information really helps guide how to personalize the scene and make it unforgettable.

Cautions

Your biggest danger here is friction burn and residual soreness afterwards. Really. Machines give zero shits about lube, and they will keep thrusting and humping regardless of how unpleasant it feels to your captive. Make sure to apply lube often to keep things slippery instead of painful.

You may also want to warn your captive that they might feel sore the next day, and you probably want to avoid penetration for a few days afterwards to give any sore tissue or microtears a chance to heal. Again, sex machines do not have a human touch. They can be rough, and as you’re not the one “feeling” them, you may not realize it when it’s happening. Your captive may not either, as they get lost in the scene you’ve built around them instead of laser-focusing on sensations.

There’s also a light risk of your partner tipping over. There’s going to be a LOT of intense sensations happening at once, and it can lead to slumping or forgetting to hold yourself upright. That’s why we’re doing this scene from a kneeling position on the ground. Even so, ideally, find a way to support most of their body weight so they can really focus on the sensations. I mention that chair to lean onto (which can be really helpful!). You can also use an overhead bondage point to help support the chest upright. It’s up to what you have available and what your vibe is.

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