If you’ve ever wanted to set a machine on your lap and have it do all the jerk off work for you, I’d love to introduce you to Kaotik Lab’s flagship penis sex machine. This SVAKOM Jetpack review will walk you through everything you need to know. Is the Svakom Jetpack worth it?

Designed for effort-free pleasure, your shaft slides into the Jetpack as you set the Jetpack’s size on your lap. You grip both handles of the Jetpack to hold it stable as it does its business. Conveniently placed thumb buttons are right next to your thumbs, ready for easy control. As this penis sex machine sits on your lap, your thumbs control the intensity of the stroker that slides up and down your shaft. A built-in screw mount at the very top allows you to add a phone holder if desired (not included), making it an all-in-one jerk off station right in your lap.

Running laps around the competition, the Jetpack provides more than simple up-and-down stroking. You can pick the speed and zone where the Jetpack strokes. Prefer super-fast strokes on just your tip? You can do that. If you want it to bop between full-shaft strokes and base-only strokes, it can do that too. Your thumb – on those easy-grip handles – easily allows you to adjust the depth, location, and speed of each stroke.

The Jetpack is equipped with 5 different stroking “zones” with 7 speed intensities in each zone. It can go from 600RPM to 1,400RPM.

The majority of the machine is made from plastic, and the stroker itself is a removable TPE stroker for easy cleaning. The Jetpack takes up 8.2″ of width on your lap with a height of 9.37″. It weighs about 3 pounds.

Freeing you from cables, the Jetpack is entirely rechargeable. With all the power this thing puts out, it has a hefty battery that needs full 4 hours of charge time to reach a full charge. You’ll get one hour of cord-free playtime off that full battery. At the loudest settings, the Jetpack still operates under 65dBs.

The Jetpack comes equipped with Travel Lock. The toy is a big boi to “travel” with, but if you’re willing to devote the luggage space to something that’s the size of a small coffee machine, the toy can lock itself out to prevent accidental turn-ons.

Adding more options for use, the Kaotik Labs Jetpack can also sync with your cell phone via the wireless KooSync app. This lets the stroker synchronize with various online functionalities (more about that later!).

Let’s Talk Manual Control of the Kaotik Labs Jetpack

It takes a bit to figure out how to control the Jetpack. The buttons, themselves, are easily accessible. The button placement, right on both of the handles, makes manual control of the Jetpack a literal seamless dream.

Now figuring out what those buttons do takes a little bit. Even with my experience of reviewing thousands of sex toys, I had to spend awhile looking at the instruction manual (with its 14 noted locations).

The thumb of your left hand controls: (shown above)

• how high the sleeve is positioned
• the “position” mode: long strokes, mid-to-max strokes, mid strokes, shortest-to-mid strokes, and shortest strokes
• an increase in stroke speed
• a decrease in stroke speed

A battery-like LED light system here also will showcase the current battery level of your Jetpack.

The thumb of your right hand controls: (shown above)

• whether the Jetpack is on or off
• an increase in the current mode
• a decrease in the current mode
• whether the stroker enters Edging Mode

A small screen here displays the number of the current mode that you’re on, making it easy to figure out which modes you do (and don’t) like.

This is a lot to figure out at first, but once you know where everything is (and there’s a LOT to figure out!), the Jetpack’s button system turns into a control board of precise pleasure. You can easily swap the intensity, stroke location, stroke speed, and more with a few presses. Everything about the sensations is entirely electronic, allowing you to hit a few buttons and let the toy do all of the adjustments.

All of the buttons press down smoothly, with a nice, comfy “click”, and are extremely easy to access with your thumb. On some app-controlled sex toys, the manual control is a secondary afterthought. Here, it was clearly one of the primary factors in the design, and it’s an absolute dream to use (once you figure it out).

Stroke Length Patterns

Out of all of the automated penis sex machines we’ve ever reviewed, the Jetpack is the only one that offers variable up-and-down patterns. It replicates a human hand or blowjob WAY better than any other automated stroker we’ve ever tried. I love some of our other automated options, but they simply go up and down to the machine’s full length capacity.

The Jetpack can easily go up and down to a shorter length than its full capacity.

That means some of the patterned modes actually swap up how far up the shaft the Jetpack strokes. Confused? Let me try to explain it better.

The Jetpack can focus its stroke length into three different quadrants: the tip, the middle, and the base of the shaft. If you choose to utilize those shorter lengths, the Jetpack can swap between them on-the-fly. That means it may only stroke the 2″ of your shaft at the very bottom, doing super-short but full-shaft strokes. You can also stroke only the 2″ at the top, entirely ignoring the bottom of your penis.

In practice, with its patterned modes, it swaps between these quickly. So the Jetpack will do one or two strokes of just the top 2 inches before doing a full length stroke all the way up and down the penis. It might then up the speed a bit to do 3 or 4 super-short strokes full-length of your shaft before swapping up to a different spot on the shaft. Rinse and repeat.

It really replicates a blowjob or handjob more naturally than anything else we’ve ever tried. Just like a human partner constantly swaps things up to keep things interesting for themselves, the Jetpack can continually pleasure different parts of the shaft. While I’d never say any sex machine really feels “mundane”, the constantly-changing tempo and stroke length really “energizes” the entire Jetpack experience.

App Control of the Jetpack

Honestly, the buttons built into the Jetpack are probably my first-choice for controlling the stroker. Their ideal thumb placement means controlling the stroker is seamless. You can easily adjust things on the go without jostling the Jetpack or interrupting your jerk off session.

If you want to add functionality, though, the Jetpack is also Bluetooth enabled, allowing you to connect it to your cell phone (and the free KooSync app) for cell phone control of the Jetpack.

The cell phone app unlocks a ton of ways to play, including:

• Press-to-swap large buttons that easily swap between text-named modes your Jetpack is equipped with
• A visual playing field where you can drag and drop your finger to increase or decrease intensity
• The ability to control the intensity of multiple toys at once
• Create a one-off link to send to someone that gives them instant control the Jetpack
• Create your own patterned modes for the Jetpack to stroke to anytime you’re in the app
• Sync the stroking on the Jetpack to a built-in cell phone game called Peeling Master (I have quite literally no idea why anyone would do this. It’s an unarousing, relatively mindless, non-sexual game about cutting a fruit, and it requires a constant hand, making your Jetpack unstable while you’d play the game.)
• Sync the Jetpack to a speedometer which will speed up the faster you shake your phone OR the faster your phone is currently moving (like in a car). I don’t see this having much use for most people with the giant Jetpack (versus a public play friendly Svakom toy)
• Sync the stroker to videos on compatible porn sites on your cell phone. Currently, this is compatible with PornHub, XVideos, FeelXVideos, and ErikaLust.
• Sync the stroker to videos on a PC (not on your cell device). This requires downloading another program and app to your computer as well.
• Sync the stroker to any MP3s saved on your phone from music to audiobooks.

Most of these functions do NOT require you to sign up for an account. During my SVAKOM Jetpack review, I was up and using these functions for the first time within seconds of turning on the Jetpack. It connected in seconds, without any sign-up or account creation, and with zero hassle. The hardest part was finding the KooSync app in the Google Play store.

Many of these modes also let you turn up (or turn down) the sensitivity to the function you’re on. Let’s say you wanted to give a femdom control over the Jetpack, but you didn’t want to cum too quickly. You could reduce the highest allowable setting. When the femdom controls your stroker and sets it to intensity 100, you could have programmed “Intensity 100″‘s maximum allowable number to be only 20% of the device’s capacity. This helps you last longer for any marathon play. She gets to have fun controlling all the Jetpack from 0 to 100 while being unaware that you’ve turned down the highest capacity to help yourself last.

You can also turn off the display light – or decrease its intensity – if you’re playing in the dark or find the futuristic blue light to be annoying. I personally like the under-toy blue light.

The stroker connects to the app in seconds and with zero fuss. While I have some notes about its functionality to sync to live content (like videos or music) later in this SVAKOM Jetpack review, it responds to manual commands via the app flawlessly and with zero complaint.

How Does It Feel?

The Jetpack goes big.

That is, the Jetpack’s lowest stroking speed is above-average in speed, and it only goes up from there.

And we have never had a single lock up, freeze, or stuttering of the motor.

Unyielding in intensity, the Jetpack goes from “medium-fast strokes” all the way up to “jackhammer” level stroke speeds.

That isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but it’s important to note because it’s very difficult to use the Jetpack if you’re sensitive to orgasm and trying not to cum as soon as you slide inside of it. Whether that’s a biological sensitivity or premature orgasm training, the Jetpack’s lowest speed is already impressively fast.

If you’re someone who is frustrated by slower-stroking penis sex machines, you’re going to love the Jetpack. It has impressively fast speeds that are extremely stimulating – especially if you tighten up the suction for even more pull against your shaft.

If you’re someone who is sensitive and wants to draw out the sensation of the Jetpack as long as possible, the Jetpack is going to be way too stimulating.

It’s wild that “feels too orgasmic” is my complaint about the Jetpack, but here we are.

It feels like the penis version of the “Hitachi” Magic Wand Original. You know, the one with two speeds that only has “Power Tool” and “Power Tool on Turbo Mode” settings.

That is, the Jetpack only really has extremely stimulating stroking. If you’re sensitive or trying to draw things out, the Jetpack isn’t the penis sex machine for you. It’s simply too fast with no way to slow it down. You can loosen up the suction to reduce how tight it is, but for those who are sensitive, it just won’t be enough; it’s still way too fast and will bring on orgasm pretty freakin’ quick.

For our SVAKOM Jetpack review period, we’ve found that time and time again. If it’s been a few days since he’s cum, he pops himself into the Jetpack to end up in an orgasm within 30 seconds on the lowest setting.

We’ve only been able to get some extended time in the Jetpack by doing our SVAKOM Jetpack review testing as his second orgasm of the day. He’s then able to enjoy a good three minutes with the stroker.

To be fair, my “review subject” has an average-sized (in length and width, the machine glides more easily over thinner widths) shaft and is sensitive to stimulation.

If you’re someone who can last during jackhammering sex sessions and want to replicate that intensity with your stroker, the Jetpack is pretty much a god-send.

Not only does it have the motor and capability to replicate all of that intensity, but the dual-handled system gives you a lot more stability to keep the toy on your lap while it does it. The fast jackhammering thrusts can be a bit unwieldy on other toys. With the two handles on the Jetpack, jackhammering has never felt so stable.

Amazingly enough, with all of this constant movement, we’ve never had the motor lock up. It has never stuttered or slowed itself down due to encountering too much friction. When the lube starts to dry up, he has to pause and relube to get back into it; the reduction in lube doesn’t seem to affect the Jetpack’s ability to stroke at all. Compared to other penis sex machines that regularly froze up during use, having a worry-free, stimulation-constant experience with the Jetpack is really nice. (Also, even more orgasmic, not helping its overly-orgasmic issue.)

Let’s Talk Noise

A toy that powerfully shoved a stroker up and down a track isn’t quiet. It just…isn’t.

The SVAKOM Jetpack makes a shucking sound that sounds pretty in-tempo with someone jacking off. You know the meme for “fap fap fap” noises.

The Jetpack is not discreet-sounding, and the noises it does make are an interesting enough tempo that someone would assume a solo penis-owner in a bedroom would be doing….things.

Add this to the fact that the Jetpack is so large on your lap that it’s pretty impossible to quickly hide or provide any plausible deniability, and you end up with a sex toy that’s really not designed for discretion. It doesn’t need to be, but it’s something to be aware of.

That being said, the noise level isn’t horrific. I’ve used other strokers (looking at you, Lovense Max) that were so loud that it was frustratingly impossible to orgasm because it was so loud. I’ve used others that were just loud enough that I had to turn up my porn.

The Jetpack is neither. It makes noise, and it’s audible, but it’s a constant whirr that’s easy to plan around, and that doesn’t change much. You may initially need to turn up your porn a bit more to hear it over the Jetpack’s stroking noises, but that Jetpack noise remains pretty constant, making it something that easily fades into the background once you get all of your audio levels adjusted for your jerk off session.

Edging Mode!

According to the marketing information, the Jetpack is equipped with “Edging Mode”.

We were unable to find a single mention of “Edging Mode” in the instructions. (I even did a Control+F on the PDF version of the instructions for “Edging” to make sure I wasn’t just missing it.) There’s nothing in the instruction booklet about the Edging mode.

An email to a Kaotik Labs rep let me know that I could double-press the Power button, once on, to engage Edging mode.

After doing that, it does seem to engage a different mode. We just aren’t quite sure what, exactly, the mode is. As far as we can tell, it’s a full-length, base-level stroking that looks (literally) exactly the same as Mode 1’s stroking. Only, once you’re in Edging Mode, it seems to turn off the ability to press any of the Jetpack’s other buttons, so we weren’t able to find any way to customize Edging Mode or otherwise change any of the sensations.

This base-level Edging Mode stroking speed is already pretty fast. We’re struggling to reconcile this with edging play. If you watch most “gooners” or “edgers”, they usually will moderate their pace – all the way down to a snail’s pace – in order to keep stroking and avoid early orgasm.

The slowest stroking mode on the Jetpack is simply too fast for edging play. Without any way to crawl it down to ultra-slow, even this slowest speed will be an instant orgasm for anyone who is edging.

I’m not sure if we’re missing some way to engage or slow down the motor any further; through all of our SVAKOM Jetpack review trials, we’ve never seen the stroker go any slower than this base setting. I’m not sure if it currently has the capacity to do so.

That being said, for gooners out there who tend to play at a fast pace, the Jetpack is the only stroking machine I’ve ever seen that provides a 24/7 visual indicator of the battery life. Under your left thumb, you’ll see an LED bar that constantly displays the toy’s exact battery life. Perfect for edging and gooning lovers, you can time your session to work within the Jetpack’s own battery life. You won’t have any “surprise” turn-offs; you’ll know exactly how much juice is left.

That’s such a quality of life improvement for anybody who tends to want marathon stroking sessions – especially on a machine that offers an edging mode.

Customize the Sensations

The Jetpack is designed to fit different penis lengths and widths with two customizable option. The Jetpack offers adjustable height and adjustable interior suction.

When the toy is off, double press the Position button (on your left hand) to lower the stroker’s default starting position. This lets you adjust for penis length.

Like standard Fleshlights or KIIROO strokers, the end cap of the Jetpack’s stroker can also be tightened or loosened. When tightened up, the TPE stroker provides more of a “vacuum”, making everything feel much tighter. Fully loosening this cap will allow more airflow through, reducing how snugly the TPE stroker holds onto your shaft. While this doesn’t physically change the dimensions of the TPE material itself, it will give you a bit of leeway when it comes to a wider (or thinner) shaft.

As of right now, the Jetpack does not have any other purchasable sleeves to swap into the Jetpack. You can repurchase the original sleeve (which is nice as the TPE material will likely degrade faster than the electronics), but there aren’t any other varieties that could offer longer, shorter, tighter, or looser stroker fits as of this point.

All customization, for your shaft, will need to be done via the screw-on vacuum tightness cap and the machine’s ability to change in height. People with extra-long or extra-wide shafts will want to reach out to SVAKOM to determine if they’ll be comfortable.

SVAKOM Jetpack Review: Sex Positions

The Jetpack is somewhat limited in sex positions. That isn’t necessarily the end of the world; I’d guess that most people primarily jerk off while lying down, seated, or standing up, and the Jetpack comfortably supports two of those.

That is, the Jetpack is easiest and most comfortable to use if you’re sitting down. It lets the Jetpack’s weight rest on your thighs while simultaneously using gravity to stabilize all of the stroker’s heft onto your thighs. It’s so much easier to hold onto and stabilize than pretty much any other automated stroker on the market. Sitting also makes it easier to see and control your phone, temporarily holding the Jetpack with one hand to touch your cell phone, if you’re watching videos with the stroker’s built-in cell phone holder mount.

The Jetpack can be used while lying down. Through our SVAKOM Jetpack review tests, we found it a bit more unwieldy, but it’s possible. A pillow under the head helps a lot. It’s still easy to grip the handles, and the toy still stabilizes itself on the thighs, but using a cell phone becomes more of a trial. It can be hard to tilt the cell phone’s angle far enough downwards for your view, the phone is much further away from you, and it can feel like more of a reach to actually get your fingers onto the phone screen with precision.

Lying down use of the Jetpack is possible though – you just might want to plan for a different screen for any desired porn. The phone screen’s small size isn’t as immersive when your head is so far back from the Jetpack.

A standing sex position is…doable, but it’s a challenge. You’ll need to firmly hold onto the Jetpack’s two handles, supporting its 3 pound weight with your own body. Gravity isn’t assisting any longer, so you actively need to hold the Jetpack and push it into your body to help stabilize its movements with every stroke. It’s very difficult to let go of a handle to control your cell phone while standing if the Jetpack is on a higher speed. It makes the entire Jetpack feel unwieldy on your shaft.

Standing is doable, though. I just wouldn’t call it a great experience. Through my Svakom Jetpack review tests, though, the cell phone stayed solidly on the Jetpack though – even as the only thing holding it on was the mount of the cell phone holder. (The Jetpack doesn’t come with a cell phone holder; just the mount possibility for one. Make sure you get a high-quality cell phone holder if you plan on utilizing it often while standing.)

The Jetpack was clearly designed for seated use. It offers the most seamless cell phone control and the least effort for physically gripping and keeping the Jetpack on your lap.

If you don’t plan on using a cell phone, you can use the Jetpack at a computer desk – just make sure to note the height. If your computer desk has a slide-out keyboard that normally sits on your lap, you’ll need to keep the keyboard pushed in. The Jetpack has a height of about 9″, so you’ll likely be sitting further back from your desk and computer monitor than usual. During our SVAKOM Jetpack review trials, he would sit perpendicular from the desk, allowing him to use the mouse and one-hand-peck the keyboard while giving the large penis machine enough space to be usable on his lap. It was comfortable enough.

I will say: of all of the penis stroking machines on the market, the Jetpack is the most comfortable to hold. The “handles” require very little grip strength, and the light curvature of the base of the machine really anchors it between the thighs super comfortably. It barely feels like you’re holding anything; unlike some of the other machines that feel like gripping a small watermelon between your legs, the handles (and their natural button placement) make the Jetpack feel like a seamless masturbation treat.

SVAKOM Jetpack Review: It Moves with Online Videos!

The Jetpack is one of the few automated penis strokers on the market that can sync with mainstream porn tube sites. That is, if there’s a video on PornHub, XTube, or other tube sites that has toy control built into the video, the Jetpack can “sync” up to it.

(it’s important to note: the video ITSELF needs to have toy control built into it on the tube’s porn site. Not all tube site videos are equipped with toy synchronization tracks. As these Bluetooth enabled sex toys get more popular, quite a few videos are, but it isn’t all of them. Expect to see the sync tracks more often with vanilla, mainstream porn – both lesbian, gay, and hetero. Niche and fetish stuff is still pretty rare.)

If you’re struggling to find those videos, the Kaotik Labs app has links that lead you directly to playlists of videos that have the toy control built in. Here’s their PornHub options.

The synchronization to porn has been…okay. I wouldn’t say it’s the Jetpack’s strong suit. Realistically, I think the Jetpack’s lowest setting is simply too fast to match up with the slower pace of the “foreplay” of most sex videos. The Jetpack isn’t capable of slow, lanquid, lazy stroking. So when you’re seeing that on the sex video, the Jetpack is going its slowest speed….which is still a lot faster than what you’re seeing on the video.

This can feel a little jarring. As you start watching the video, the Jetpack will start up at a pretty intense speed while the video is still in its introductory slow phase. You know, she’s giggling and doing one light stroke every few seconds, and the Jetpack is already set into its slowest “fap fap fap fap fap” speed.

Once the video gets to the intense/rough/jackhammering part of the video, the speeds tend to match up better, and it can feel like the Jetpack is following the action.

If there’s no “shaft going into hole” action on the video screen, the Jetpack tends to sit still.

Mind you, throughout our SVAKOM Jetpack review trials, it still doesn’t sync perfectly. It’s a solid-enough approximation, but it’s not matched up well enough to the video to call it fully “synchronized”.

(It’s important to note that all of this sync information is built into the video itself. The Jetpack is simply following a built-in “sex toy control” track of information that overlays on top of the video. Someone, somewhere, programmed this sex toy control track, and the Jetpack follows along with these pre-made instructions as the video plays alongside it. This means, outside of the lowest speed issue, your Jetpack immersion experience is largely based on whoever programmed this “sex toy control” track. If the track does a poor job of matching up with the movement, the Jetpack will as well. It’s just following instructions. It does not have a thinking mind of its own.)

Still, the Jetpack has a loose “sync” to most of the videos we’ve watched. Accessing this sync doesn’t require any additional purchases or monthly fees, and it can move alongside a lot of mainstream videos on tube porn sites. There’s a lot to be said for having a wider range of videos – and those videos being free – even if the synchronization between the porn and the toy itself isn’t as good as other options I’ve reviewed.

The Jetpack can also sync to music. It has the same issue as it does with the porn; it really struggles with slower beats.

It looks like it uses an internal “equalizer” type of recognition system for determining when it’s going to stroke or not. So, think of it as a physical output of the equalizer screensavers built into music players. This means music with clear rests alternated with strong beats will perform best for music.

If you load a talking-only track into it (ASMR, audio porn, erotica audiobook, whatever), it seems to just kinda stroke constantly. It will pace on occasion, but it doesn’t have any idea between the swells or build-up the words might be communicating. It’s just listening to the physical noise of the words.

It uses the music saved onto the device where the app is loaded. It does not connect to external music services at this time. You’d need to save an MP3 track to your device to sync the Jetpack to it.

As a nice added bonus, if you’re someone who doesn’t want to deal with the phone, KooSync also can work on a PC by downloading some Chrome apps and settings things up that way. Kaotik Labs keeps instructions here.

Final Thoughts: SVAKOM Jetpack Review

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Welcome to my BDSM Advice series on the iconic BDSM paddle. Let’s walk through everything you need to know about kinky paddles, including how to use BDSM paddles, important safety info, and the pros/cons of the different types of sex paddles.

Why Would You Use Kinky Paddles?

A BDSM paddle’s primary purpose is for spanking. (No surprise, right?)

People love impact play for a variety of reasons. (“Impact play” is our fancy phrase to describe spanking someone for fun – whether that’s with a paddle, flogger, riding crop, or other kinky item.) Some love the naughtiness of being bent over. Others want to act out hot scenes and visuals they associate with spanking. Lots of people are into light spankings because all of those delicious sensations are so close to their favorite erogenous zones. Some people are simply into the pain of a well-taken spanking.

While spanking is all fun and games, you might be wondering why you don’t, simply, use your hands instead. After all, your hands are always there and don’t cost any money.

Remember how much a spanking can hurt the receiver’s butt? Turns out, that same amount of pain applies to the hand that is spanking that butt. Hitting two pieces of skin, repeatedly, against each other can be painful for both sides – only most of us don’t find the frictioned, burning pain in our hands all that sexy.

That’s where a BDSM paddle comes in! It allows the person giving the spanking to continue to give the spanking for as long as the receiver would like while simultaneously protecting their hands from any pain.

While bare-handed spankings are a kink to themselves, a lot of people also find the paddle itself to be hot. After all, it’s essentially a sex toy designed just for your pleasure. That “only made for sex” design can be a turn-on all by itself, and some people will find themselves aroused just by the sight of their partner holding a paddle. Talk about simple (and fun)!

Finally, kinky paddles aren’t just for spanking and impact play. Paddles can be used for other sensations too. Drag its surface along the skin to set your receiver’s skin on fire (in the best of ways!) Simply hold it in your hands as a threatening tool before sliding the handle inside someone like a dildo. (We’ll get to those options later!) For people who aren’t into the pain of spanking but find the idea of spankings hot, there are ways to incorporate a paddle without the slapping of pain.

How to Paddle in BDSM?

Using a paddle is honestly really simple. In terms of impact play toys, it’s, by far, the easiest spanking toy to wield. While I generally recommend some good time spent practicing if you’re going to be using a flogger or riding crop, a BDSM paddle feels intuitive in most people’s hands, and you can usually swat your partner seconds after picking it up.

That means how to use kinky paddles looks like:

• Pick up BDSM paddle.
• Spank person in safe spot.

Realistically, though, while using kinky paddles isn’t complicated, using them well IS. It requires good handling of the paddle, good scene pacing, and good communication with your bottom. That’s why I’d realistically recommend this comprehensive list of how to paddle in BDSM:

• Sit and try the paddle on your own thigh ahead of time. Tap lightly. Tap heavily. Understand how the force you use, on this very particular paddle, affects the resulting sensations. Repeat this process any time you pick up a new paddle.
• When you’re ready to play with your partner, give one very light swat on a safe spot on your partner.
• Ask them how it felt. This doesn’t have to feel clinical. Something disguised as dirty talk like “Oooh, did you like being my naughty girl/boy?” can work. If you both are just trying this out and are unsure if you’ll like it, though, you may want to be more upfront with something like “Was that okay? Too hard? Too soft?”
• If they liked that intensity, use the same force to spank them again. In general, watch their body language. Most people will press their being-spanked area closer to you if they desire more, and they’ll pull their body away if things are too painful.
• Continue that intensity for less than five minutes. At that point, give that paddle and that intensity a break, allowing your bottom some time to process the pain and allow the feel-good hormones to come in. While you’re waiting, some things you can do:
  • putting down the paddle to rub their butt
  • spanking different (but still safe!) areas
  • taking pauses for dirty talk when they won’t be distracted by the spanking
  • touching other erogenous zones (if negotiated as okay!)
  • swapping to other gentler toys like feathers, softer paddles, or fur to give the person’s pain tolerance a bit of a chance to reset.
• When you’re ready to restart spanking, continue at a lower intensity than you had previously been at. It’s never a good idea to surprise someone when coming back into the spanking. For good measure, this can be a good time to check back in verbally as well.
• Every time you add a bit more intensity, check back in verbally – especially as spanking is still new to the two of you.
• Add in breaks regularly, at least every 5 minutes. We want the endorphins to get flowing while avoiding overwhelming our bottom. Add dirty talk, oral sex, or anything else you want during those 5 minutes. We just want to give the body a bit of time to process all the sensations.
• Continue increasing and decreasing the intensity of the spanking until you both are ready to be done. If you don’t desire any bruising or marks, quit if you see little dots of red on the skin. Before the skin bleeds, a bottom’s skin will generally look like they have goosebumps, so keeping an eye out for piloerection (goosebumps’ official term!) in your spanking area can be a good starting point, regardless of skin tone. On pale/white skin, you can also look out for lots of redness or the start of skin discoloration from developing bruises.

When you’re done, don’t forget to clean (and sanitize, if applicable) your BDSM paddle too. Even if you don’t draw blood, skin still has oils on it that can negatively impact BDSM gear materials and eventually lead to a gross build-up too.

How to Use a Paddle Safely in BDSM?

Using a paddle safely in BDSM is all about location.

There are spots on the body that are unsafe to hit. The face, neck, spine, joints (like knees and elbows), and small body parts (like fingers and toes) are always a no-go. Direct impacts to any internal organs are also a no-go (like spanking directly onto the kidneys).

In general, the thicker and fattier the area, the safer it is to spank. Those squishier areas feel better to spank too, so it’s a win-win.

Autostraddle’s Guide to Safe Spanking Spots can be a great visual reference.

For the lowest risk possible, keep all of your spankings to the thighs and the meatiest parts of the butt. Luckily for us, this tends to be a sensitive, desirable zone for its proximity to everything between the thighs.

When playing around the butt and thighs, however, make sure you stay on the meatiest parts of the butt. Direct strikes to the kidneys (which reside right above the butt) can be very, very dangerous. Do a bit of an anatomy check to determine where your partner’s kidneys are (they’re above the hip bones and may slightly poke out from underneath the lower-most ribs), and avoid any swats to that area.

If you’re worried, this can be a great place for “pulled to the side” clothing to have a job. A thick denim skirt flipped upwards, towards the back, to expose the butt can help protect that area. If your partner needs to pull off their boxers to expose their skin for a spanking, “discard” their boxers on their lower back, giving you a visual reminder to ensure you don’t spank that zone.

Why Do BDSM Paddles Have Holes?

Some paddle manufacturers add holes throughout the surface of the BDSM paddle. Since the paddle now allows air to travel through its center (and isn’t just a flat board trying to push air around it), this allows for easier and faster handling.

Some bottoms say they can’t necessarily “tell” a difference between a paddle with holes and a paddle without holes in a kinky blind test.

Whether you choose a paddle with holes or a paddle without will mostly be personal preference.

There are a few things to note between the two though:

• A paddle with holes will be easier for the top to handle. Since it has less wind resistance, it takes less force to hit with it. This can be especially helpful for those who find swinging a regular paddle to be problematic or fatiguing for whatever reason.
• A paddle with holes is easier for the top to handle. This means your “usual” strike strength will need to be adjusted or else you risk causing pain you didn’t intend to. Make sure to test this one out on your own thighs to get a feel for the paddle. If you’re a top who likes to swing with your full strength to get into your role, a paddle with holes may be a poor fit.
• A paddle with holes has, well, holes. This can make it more difficult to clean. If any blood or bodily fluids get on the paddle, you need to clean within the holes too. For sanitization purposes, this can make it pretty difficult (if not impossible) to confidently sanitize.
• A paddle with holes has spots for the bottom’s skin to “go”. A paddle with holes will be more likely to cause marks on your bottom. Since the paddle’s surface isn’t flat, every hard thwack will cause the bottom’s skin to travel into these holes every-so-slightly. This can cause more wear and tear on the skin or cause the skin to abrade against the edges of these holes. Paddles with holes are more likely to cause marks, cuts, and blood – especially on fleshier, squishier bits, so play with extreme caution if marks are on the no-go list.
• Paddles with holes provide a different visual. If you’re not into the feel of these paddles but love the look, don’t forget about the magic of a mindfuck. You can easily purchase a paddle with holes and leave it out for your bottom to see. When you spank, however, just add a blindfold and swap over to the paddle without holes. Best of both worlds. ;)

Learn More about the Types of BDSM Paddles

Like pretty much any kink toy or activity out there, the kink community couldn’t just leave it with just one type of toy. Nope. Kinky people are crafty and love their different sensations, and kinky paddles are no exception. Different types of paddles have been crafted for different scenarios – and sensations – to ensure you always have the right “tool for the job”.

So let’s talk about the type of BDSM paddles with their pros and cons to give you an idea of what exists out there.

Faux Fur Paddles

This is where I recommend everyone start. A faux fur BDSM paddle offers all of the fun of paddling and spanking without all of the “ouch!”. You get the sensation, the sound, and activity of paddling but without a hard, firm material that feels like a painful slap across the ass.

If you had to compare it to a household object, I’d say that being spanked with a faux fur feels a bit like being spanked by a firm cardboard roll (like from paper towels or wrapping paper). You can feel the sensation, but it doesn’t leave that intense stinging that a “slap” does. (Faux fur paddles are much more durable than cardboard rolls, though, don’t worry!)

If I was allowed to use the term “household object” liberally, I’d say that the closest approximation is a sturdy poster shipping tube.

Your biggest downside of a BDSM faux fur paddle is that it’s made from faux fur. Faux fur can be particularly hard to take care of, and it can show “age” (via its matted surface) a lot faster than other paddle materials like wood. Faux fur paddles are also going to be a no-go for any sort of messy play that includes bodily fluids or blood. Not only is it going to be near-impossible to sanitize, but those types of messes can clump up the faux fur which is not the “sexy faux fur look” you’re going for!

Even if you turn into a pain slut who wants the most painful sensations possible, a faux fur paddle can still function as your warm-up paddle, serving you years down the line. I can honestly say I use my trusty faux fur paddles way more than my other specialized paddles. A faux fur paddle can be the introduction to any spanking, and most bottoms can take a lot of swats of them. The other paddles on this list need to be used more sparingly because they cause more “ouch”.

Pros
Softer sensations without much pain
Deliciously loud “thump” noise without accompanying pain
Surprisingly affordable
Workhorse paddles that can become the full scene or function as a warm-up option

Cons
Softer sensations without much pain
Can be impossible to clean/sanitize – especially from bodily fluids
Might not feel very “badass” to wield or photograph

	Sportsheets S&M Amor Paddle	Rouge Leather Paddle with Faux Fur
Mistress Kay’s Notes	Simple and straight to the point. One side of the paddle has a cute, faux fur material that feels fantastic against bare skin. The other, faux leather side has a bit more of a bite. Swap sides on the fly as needed.	If you want to cover more ground, the Rouge Leather Paddle has a similar premise: faux leather on one side with faux fur opposite. As a long, narrow paddle, though, it covers more ground. This one is better for spanking across both cheeks or for anyone with a bodacious bum.
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Leather and Faux Leather Kinky Paddles

Your next stop after faux fur paddles will be leather (faux or otherwise) paddles. These paddles are your middle-of-the-road paddles that can go as hard (or as gentle) as you want them to. Use a faux leather paddle with force, and you’ll get a painful, stingy sensation. That same faux leather paddle can be used gently, and you’ll get a nice “tap” on the skin that feels a bit like spanking someone with a cereal box. It’s the best of both worlds!

Avoid the most budget-friendly options here. Some of the lowest-priced faux leather paddles lack a rigid internal core. They flop around all wiggly-like with every swat. Since faux leather paddles are one of the most common types of paddles out there, bottom-of-the-barrel manufacturers will skimp in order to sell them at the cheapest price point. While this can make it easier to get ahold of on a very limited budget, it also makes for a paddle that is harder to handle and will fall apart in just a few uses.

Middle of the line paddles (in the $20 to $40 range) will have the highest likelihood of a nice, sturdy design. This can make them easier to handle, aim, and predict the exact sensation you will cause your partner. All of that is vital when you’re giving a spanking!

It’s worth noting that high-end, REAL leather requires special care. Real leather was once the literal skin of an animal. While genuine leather can feel (and smell!) luxurious, it can be difficult to care for. Harsh disinfectants, unsurprisingly, are harsh on skin – living or otherwise – and lots of thorough sanitization of your real leather paddle can leave the material brittle and broken. As genuine leather paddles are so expensive, people who need to sanitize their gear often may prefer a different material type.

“Faux” or “Fake” leather is a manufactured, synthetic material, and it retains some of the “look” of genuine leather without the same care considerations. Many a faux leather BDSM paddle is also vegan, making it a good fit if that’s important for you.

Pros
Easy to find; most common type of paddle out there
Faux/Fake leather options can be vegan
Can feel extremely painful or gentle, depending on how it’s used
Can be a very affordable option
Available in a gigantic range of sizes/shapes because of its popularity

Cons
Lowest priced options may be hard to wield
Lowest priced options may be low quality and break down
Because this material makes up the majority of paddles out there, it can be hard to narrow down a good quality one
May be difficult/impossible to sanitize genuine leather without hurting the leather

	Sportsheets Saffron Ping Pong Paddle	Sportsheets XOXO Paddle
Mistress Kay’s Notes	The Ping Pong Paddle is a quintessential plain-ass paddle. Lightly padded and rigid, this paddle is exactly what it looks like: something to swat butts with. No frills but built with a strong core, this paddle is budget-friendly and does exactly what you need: hit butts.	If you like the idea of imprinting “XOXO” onto your partner’s skin, this vegan leather paddle gives you that option. Just be aware that it takes a really hard, single swat on fresh skin to get those letters to show up. Lightweight with a semi-firm core and very budget-friendly, this paddle is easy to handle.
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Double-Sided Paddles

A “double-sided paddle” offers a different material on each side of the paddle. Most commonly, one side is fully covered in faux fur while the opposing side is a leather (faux or real) material.

This allows you to hop between the benefits of faux fur and leather within seconds! These paddles, alongside my full faux fur ones, tend to be the most used paddles in my entire toybox because they’re so versatile. It’s, essentially, two paddles in one!

While faux fur and faux leather tend to be the most common, any two different materials can make up a double-sided paddle. For example, a leather paddle may have a side with metal spikes and a flat, plain-leather side. For super nerdy kinksters, double-sided paddles, complete with “LEGO bricks” on only one side, can also be found.

Pros
Two different sensations in a single paddle with one purchase!
Easily swap between hard and soft sensations mid-swing
Great for people who don’t have a lot of space to store tons of toys
Fantastic for traveling where a heavy bag is undesired (hotel takeovers anyone?)

Cons
Each side requires its own dedicated care; using leather care products on the faux fur side may destroy the faux fur
Harder to find in the artisan community; most double-sided paddles are made by large manufacturers
May break down faster depending on how the two layers were fastened to one another
May not be suitable for play with lots of bodily fluids; a more-sensitive side may indirectly get stained even if you were primarily using a sturdier side

Silicone BDSM Paddles

A relatively new addition to the world of BDSM paddles, we have silicone paddles. These are paddles made out of the same type of body-safe, sterilizable material that some of your favorite sex toys are made from.

This, essentially, means that you can sanitize it entirely! Especially if you’re someone who tends to play hard (with lots of blood) or with multiple people, the ability to ensure your toys are perfectly clean between uses is huge. Most other materials don’t offer this.

However, because silicone feels like silicone, silicone paddles can really, really hurt. They can feel a bit like being spanked by a part of a rubber tire. This can be compounded by the fact that most of the silicone paddles on the market don’t have a plastic/metal core inside of them. This makes the paddle extremely flexible (note my photo that shows it easily bending back on itself). This flexibility allows the tip of the paddle to gain a lot of momentum with each swat for some serious pain potential.

We enjoy spanking, but we rarely pull out the silicone paddles unless we’re really into pain that day. For those of you who want the most painful spanking possible, though, silicone paddles will be your BFFs.

Pros
They fucking hurt. A lot.
Can be immaculately sanitized between uses.
They can handle (literally) any mess or fluid you throw at them.
Many have insertable/penetratable handles.

Cons
They fucking hurt. A lot.
Many are floppy and may require a bit of a learning curve to use.
May not be compatible with silicone-based lube if you’re spanking over an area that has been lubed for any reason.

	Temptasia Governess with Insertable Handle	Temptasia Ardor Dual-Sided
Mistress Kay’s Notes	The coolest thing about silicone paddles is that they can be sanitized. That means you can insert them places and fully clean them afterwards. ;) Take advantage of that fact with the Temptasia Governess paddle. The uniquely-curved handle makes it a bit harder for your Top to handle, but it also doubles as an insertable dildo. That’s worth a slight loss of easy handling.	Your silicone paddle doesn’t have to be plain ol’ black. The Temptasia Ardor features black lettering on a red background on one side with a plain, smooth opposing side. If you’re playing with silicone paddles to reduce disease transmission risk, you may want to skip this one as the “BITCH” lettering is raised, making it harder to sanitize.
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Wood BDSM Paddles

Wood paddles have the benefit of owning the “classic disciplinarian” roleplay look – and a lot of kinksters choose them just for that.

However, if you pick up a wood BDSM paddle, you have to be ready for quite a bit of pain. There is no softness to a slab of wood. It hits, and it hits heavy – even without much effort from the person wielding it. This can be a benefit for the wielder; it takes less physical force to elicit some intense reactions from the bottom.

As you could probably guess, though, wood paddles are made from natural wood. Because wood is known for having holes and splinters, most wood paddle crafters use coats of sealant on the wood. If that sealant gets scratched up, it can be impossible to sanitize all the cracked crevices of your wood paddle, requiring it to be fluid-bonded to whomever you’re using it with.

If you like supporting small businesses, you’ll find many kinky artisans craft paddles from wood or leather, so you may find yourself with these materials if you aren’t going for mass-produced kink gear.

Pros
Yeowch! Usually lands with a sting – even on the lighter swats
Very easy to wield; goes exactly where you expect it to go
Can be very environmentally-friendly and sustainable, depending on the crafter
Popular material choice for artisan BDSM crafters; wood can be easily personalized

Cons
May not be a good fit if you don’t like at least a bit of pain
May not be sanitizable if the wood isn’t entirely sealed

	Master Series Tread Boot Paddle	BDSM Gear Small Oak Paddle
Mistress Kay’s Notes	There’s nothing subtle about this one. It’s a (literal) rubber shoe sole that’s been adhered to a wooden paddle. One side of the paddle offers (ouchy) wooden sting while the rubber-soled side offers (ouchy) rubber spanking. There’s nothing “nice” about this one, but it makes a statement. That’s for damn sure.	Made in the USA by a kinky artisan, you have the BDSM Gear Small Oak Paddle. Solid and lightweight, this paddle travels fast – and leaves a very intense, stingy sensation anywhere it spanks. It’s straight to the point, perfect for any of your roleplay fantasies.
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Acrylic and Plastic Kinky Paddles

A relative newcomer to the world of paddles, acrylic paddles offer a lot of the same sensations as wooden paddles but in a lighter, see-through material. This can make for a fantastic, travel-friendly alternative for kinksters who love the stingy, painful sensations of wood but don’t want to weigh down their toybag on just paddles.

However, be careful when tossing that acrylic paddle into a busy toybag. Its plastic surface is sturdy, but it can be scratched, and scratches will be visible on its clear surface.

As an added bonus, just like a silicone BDSM paddle, acrylic paddles can be sanitized as well. +1 for people who like to go hard and might break skin!

As resin-based DIY crafts have exploded the past few years, there are a lot more acrylic, plastic, and resin BDSM paddles made by small, independent kink artists. While their quality can vary based on the crafter’s experience, acrylic paddles are becoming a common choice if you’re buying small.

Pros
Lighter to travel with than wood
Most acrylic can be sanitized after use – in seconds with the right wipes
Has a unique, modern look that other paddles don’t

Cons
Very stingy, pain-forward sensations
Can get scratched, and scratches will be very noticeable on its surface
Thin, cheap options can break or snap during a spanking

	Sportsheets Acrylic Spanker	“Yes Mistress” Paddle from Miss Mackenzie
Mistress Kay’s Notes	If “hard plastic” didn’t already sound painful enough, this Acrylic Spanker adds a holed texture to the entire paddle. This one is going to HURT.	Made from rigid plastic infused with silver sparkles, this artisan BDSM paddle is made by a single kinky person. A hole at the base gives you the option to add a hanging or wrist strap, and the black clipart woman adds a sultry flair.
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What BDSM Paddle is Best for Sharing?

If you’re a kinkster who regularly takes their toybag (with the same paddles) to play parties, some materials are better than others. You want a kinky paddle material that can be easily sanitized. As impact play can regularly draw blood, it is vital you don’t accidentally bring the blood of one partner to a completely-unexpecting partner the next time you play.

With that in mind, I’d recommend sticking to texture-free acrylic and silicone paddles. Both can be easily cleaned and sanitized. Acrylic can even be fully sanitized with industrial disinfectant wipes right after play, allowing you to use it again in 20 minutes on a completely different partner in the same night.

The big downside? Both of them tend to hit like a train. They both are stingy, pain-filled heavy-hitters.

With the low cost of faux fur paddles, if a softer touch is desired, I’d recommend picking up a unique faux fur paddle for each individual partner you have. Alternatively, if you have basic sewing skills, you could buy cheap faux fur from the craft store and sew it into a “sock” that will fit overtop of the spanking surface of one of your silicone/acrylic paddles. Swap out your “sock” for each individual partner. Everybody gets their own sock. (teehee) This will provide some of that softer touch without endangering your casual partners.

(Important note: Textured paddles add risk. If there’s anything on your BDSM that has hidden crevices or may make it harder to sanitize every centimeter of it, it carries additional risk. The safest options will have completely smooth, scratch-free surfaces free of any texture or crevices.)

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If you have questions, please feel free to send me an e-mail at the.mistress.kay@gmail.com . I’m always happy to help or recommend toys. :)

Updated: August 2026, July 2026, October 2025, April 2025, May 2024, November 2023.

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As sex toy tech improves, the sex doll industry is utilizing those same improvements. Today’s Salorein Sabrina review focuses on a brand new brand that’s making sex dolls equipped with automated sucking and vibration. Not just an inanimate object, Salorein’s dolls have built-in electronics that add even more pleasure on top of the “standard” love doll experience.

The Sabrina is the company’s flagship sex doll and squarely middle of the line in size, as of July 2026. It isn’t their smallest, and it isn’t their largest. The doll’s 27-pound weight and 19″ height make it noticeably larger than a mini sex doll but nowhere near the size of most torso pleasure dolls.

Unlike most torso sex dolls, the Salorein Sabrina only has a single penetratable tunnel: a vagina with a length of 6″. To make space for all of the electronics, the anal hole is a zero-depth hole that’s only there for show.

It’s made from TPE, and it’s fully rechargeable (that feels weird to say about a sex doll). Because of this electronic component, the Sabrina is NOT waterproof; it is splashproof only and ZERO water should get near the control panel on the doll’s left arm. (The tunnels are isolated from the electronics, though, and can be freely cleaned with as much water spray as you need; just not submerged.)

The official manufacturer’s decibel rating says the doll operates under 45dB in noise level. This is impressive considering the “standard” for many standard vibrators is a noticeably-louder 55dB. The doll is noticeably quieter than some vibrators.

Official measurements put the Salorein Sabrina at a height of 19″, a breast circumference of 30″, a waist circumference of 18″, and a hip circumference of 32″. That puts the Sabrina squarely smaller than the smallest sizes at Victoria’s Secret by multiple inches. If you’re going to grab lingerie for this sex doll, aim for XXS sizes with adjustable bands and designs. Tie-on swimsuits or bralettes will give you the best flexibility for making the smallest lingerie sizes fit this doll.

READ: More Sex Doll Tips for a great experience

Salorein Sabrina Review: That Discreet Shipping

I know how it goes: you’re getting a big package delivered to your house, and you don’t want your neighbors to know exactly what it is.

The Sabrina takes that into account.

The exterior-most shipping box of the Sabrina is a plain, boring brown box with nothing but shipping labels on it. It has the typical “This side up” and “Heavy box”.

In case something happens to get through that exterior box during shipping, there’s another box inside that brown box. This blue “SALOREIN”-branded box is plain blue and only has their logo on it. We easily broke these boxes down and carried them out to recycling without any worry about anyone seeing what’s on them; they’re pretty boring boxes.

If, somehow, shipping manages to tear through both of THOSE boxes, the next layer is the free, included black nylon, pvc/polyester storage bag. This black bag has zero markings on it; it’s just a heavy-duty black bag with handles. So even if it did make it through the two outermost layers, they still wouldn’t be able to see into this bag.

If you somehow have a shipping gremlin who made it through all THOSE boxes AND unzipped the black storage bag (that comes zipped), the sex doll itself is stored inside of a styrofoam shell that’s fully taped up. You have to cut through all of the tape fastening the styrofoam lid to the base before you can see the sex doll.

So, long-story-short: a heavy, boring box is going to show up at your house, and even if the mail system manages to let a dinosaur partially eat it, your neighbors still won’t know what’s inside of the box.

Controlling the Sabrina

On the doll’s left arm, there’s a control panel with a single button. This control panel houses everything about the powered functionality. It has the air suction hole, a single button, and the two magnetic charging prongs.

When you want to activate the suction or the vibration, you simply lean forward and press the button on the doll’s left arm. This turns on the powered functions of the doll.

This is a very comfortable lean for us. The sex doll isn’t too tall, so it’s honestly a shorter reach than trying to figure out where the TV remote went. It feels a bit like reaching for a glass of water at dinner; it’s a reach, but it’s a comfortable one.

The button presses down easily, with a satisfying click, to pop on the intensity that you want.

The Sabrina is controlled by the single button. Both the suction and the vibration intensities are mapped to this single button with 5 modes to choose from.

That means, when you turn on the sex doll, you turn on both Level 1 Vibrations and Level 1 Suction. Another button press is Level 2 Vibrations and Level 2 Suction. The two functions are paired to one another with no way to control them individually.

This is unfortunate as the higher-level suction intensities border on painful for us, but we’ll get to that in a little bit. Just be aware they’re controlled together.

Salorein Sabrina Review: Charging

All of that means, yes, the Salorein Sabrina sex doll will need to charge.

I’m really salty about the included charging cable. It’s proprietary, so you’ll need to use it, but it’s much too short for a sex doll.

However, when I pointed this out to Salorein, they’ve already said that they’ve taken the feedback into account, and future charging cables will be 50% longer with a stronger magnetic connection to reduce accidental disconnections. (I’d honestly really even prefer to see a 100% length increase, but the 50% will help dramatically.)

If you’re worried about this, check with Salorein before purchasing your Sabrina to ensure it has the upgraded hardware.

Otherwise, if you’re okay with the first generation, be aware that your sex doll will need to be very close to the outlet with nothing touching it. A gentle brush can dislodge the magnetic connection and stop the doll from charging.

Let’s Talk Suction

The suction can be a lot. If you are someone who picks up a Fleshlight and leaves the cap fully tightened on, you’re going to fall in love with the Salorein Sabrina. At its highest suction settings, it feels like a fully-enclosed suction chamber with some of the most impressive suction we’ve ever felt.

In theory, this is amazing. On the first and second intensity levels, we like it. He says it feels like being squeezed by someone’s pelvic floor muscles; the 2nd intensity feels closer to the tightness of someone as they’re having an orgasm with strong, intense contractions.

Where we start having an issue is on the 3rd, 4th, and 5th intensity levels.

The 3rd suction intensity level is borderline painful for him. The suction strength is so strong that he can feel the plastic/firm walls of the Sabrina squeezing the tip of his head. If he’s actively thrusting, he ends up shoving the sensitive tip into this wall of firm plastic.

Through our Salorein Sabrina review tests, we’ve found the 3rd setting can be workable if he’s only half-way in. This ensures the suction mechanism can’t touch the tip of his shaft, and he only feels the squeeze that the soft TPE tunnel makes around him.

We’ve both slid fingers into the doll to experience the suction mechanism and see what it feels like, and it does feel like two rigid “plates” on either side of the tips of the fingers, squeezing together very firmly at the deepest spot in the doll.

The 4th and 5th are just unusable for us. It squeezes so hard that it hurts him, and he ends up having to pull out, already soft from how painful it was.

We’ve tried this quite a few times now for this Salorein Sabrina review, and the upper intensities of the suction are just too much.

I think how tightly this grips you will depend on your shaft size. He has a relatively average shaft diameter at almost exactly 1.5″. If you’re smaller in thickness, you’ll find that you have more “space” in the doll, making those really tight squeezes feel less intense.

The opposite is also true. If you’re thicker than average, you might find that the 2nd intensity level is already too tight for you.

Penis length may matter as well. If you’re not going all the way into the back of the tunnel (the vaginal tunnel is 6″ in length), you may never run into the suction’s physical mechanism. If you’re only feeling the “results” of the suction on the squishy TPE material throughout the outermost parts of the vagina, this may avoid this problem entirely.

After bringing this feedback to Salorein, they say there are changes in the works to tweak the intensity levels, and they’re looking into the feasibility of whether it’s possible to independently control the vibrations from the suction.

It Has Vibrations Too!

That’s because the Salorein Sabrina has vibrations too! With each suction level increase, you also get stronger vibrations.

We enjoyed the vibrations on levels 1 through 3, and when we attempted 4 and 5, the suction issue was too uncomfortable to pay attention to the vibrations.

It’s a shame the two functions are partnered with one another; we both agree that we’d love to be able to keep the doll on its lowest suction level while simultaneously increasing and decreasing the vibration intensities to suit our needs. We like the idea of the sex doll becoming “even more intense” through added vibration stimulation.

The vibrations aren’t the strongest in the world, but they add pleasure to an already-pleasurable experience. The doll’s base texture is already enough for an easy orgasm, so the vibrations are just a cherry on top. If he slides inside the doll and stays still, the vibrations + suction are enough for an orgasm without even needing to stroke in and out.

If the vibrations existed outside the sex doll on a clitoral vibrator, I’d say they were on the lower end of moderate. Inside of a sex doll that’s already really stimulating and partnered with suction, they add even more sensation to something that’s already really stimulating and hot AF.

When we’ve left the doll on levels 1 and 2, we do find that, eventually, the vibrations start to become numbing. After about 20 minutes of steady vibrations, you lose some of that pleasure reward as the skin gets used to the shaking. While this is another reason I wish I could unpartner the vibrations from the suction, it does also mean that you’ll probably want to finish sooner rather than later if you turn on the doll’s vibrations and want to leave them on.

(Though once you turn on those vibrations and suction, it becomes extremely pleasurable, and you’re going to find that you want to cum pretty fast. Only those kinky nerds who are intentionally trying to avoid orgasm are probably going to be the ones not-cumming once the electronic functions are popped on.)

If you’re someone who’s going to use your sex doll for edging or JOI, you’ll probably want to play with the Sabrina like we do: often turning the doll on and off, popping onto the lowest intensities for a few minutes then turning them back off. This prevents your body from getting used to the sensations while simultaneously adding a few minutes of “holyshit this feels good” before you get too close.

Salorein Sabrina Review: How Orgasmic Is It?

The Salorein Sabrina is orgasmic, regardless of whether you want to use the suction and vibration functions.

The tunnel itself is already really stimulating. Even with his eyes closed during some of our Salorein Sabrina review tests, he could still easily cum within a minute or two of sliding inside of this sex doll.

If you add the visuals of the doll to the equation, it gets even more pleasurable.

That is, the breasts bounce beautifully. Any faster thrusts into the doll will get the breasts bouncing up and down, naturally following the motion of the thrusting in a way that’s honestly hard to take your eyes off of. This can be more-than-enough to make the Sabrina overly stimulating, making you shoot off quickly.

Anytime you want to add extra stimulation, the suction and vibration intensities are there, just waiting. It’s easy to lean over the doll, pressing and holding down the button to pop on the electronic functions. (It’s not even much of a reach)

The first setting adds quite a bit to the experience. If we’re not careful, just turning it on is an instant orgasm for him (paired with the thrusting he was already doing).

As a trial for our Salorein Sabrina review tests, we also wanted to see if he could orgasm from just the electronic parts. Turns out, yep! If he was mostly (but not fully) into the sex doll on the 2nd suction intensity, some squeezing of the breasts, despite staying completely still, would eventually milk the orgasm out of him. It wasn’t even too “hard-fought” of an orgasm. It came on pretty naturally for him, and he compared it to when he’s had the same thing done by biological partners (staying still while the vaginal muscles just squeeze around his shaft).

That’s to say: you’re going to have orgasms with Sabrina. The tunnel feels good, the firmness of the thighs feel realistic against the abdomen, and the suction and vibration can add even more stimulation. The breast physics help a lot too, with breasts that bounce and squeeze really well.

(To be fair, they don’t look “realistic”. They’re too perky and huge for that. But they look like a fantasy version of extra-large breasts, and they do that job perfectly.)

The Noise?

I really thought this would be louder than it is.

It’s not “whisper quiet”, but it’s not uncomfortably loud either. I’ve owned clitoral vibrators that made more noise than this one.

That being said, it doesn’t make a constant “thrum” or “hum” that’s easy for a passerby to ignore.

The suction makes a “WHIRRRR” while it tightens, then it’s a light “woosh” of air as it releases the tightness it has pulled in. It then repeats that noise, varying the noise just enough that someone might get curious enough to investigate through a closed door.

The vibrations make your standard “buzz” that remains constant. It’s a light vibration noise, and it’s easy to forget it’s even happening as the backdrop for the sex doll’s suction.

Neither sound – even on the highest settings – are loud enough to be distracting. Neither needed us to turn up the porn or speak up over it during our sex doll scene. It makes noise, but it’s slightly quieter than a wand massager, and it makes less noise than most of the automated penis stroking machines (like the KEON).

I doubt you’re using a giant-ass sex doll in public or trying to use it at home with family (if family is out, the zippered, lockable storage bag does make for possible storage!). But if you have respectful roommates who don’t go into your private bathroom while the doll is drying, it’s possible to use this in a shared home as long as the bedroom door is shut, music is on, and the other occupants are not in adjoining rooms or in the hallway next to your bedroom door.

Let’s Talk Design

The Salorein Sabrina might be one of my favorite “all in one” sex dolls. That is:

• It feels compact. Because of the internal electronics, the doll feels very compact and less like Jell-O. This makes the doll much easier to handle. I don’t worry about picking it up; a grip around the hips, and the doll lifts with relative ease.
• It’s actively lighter weight too. It’s less than 30 pounds, making it a lot easier to carry around for cleaning and use. (I still wouldn’t try Cowgirl with it; it’s heavy for that!)
• That light weight is due to the less-than-life-size ratio. The Sabrina is NOT life-size. However, it maintains realistic adult ratios…just in a shrunk-down form. This means the doll can be used on virtually every surface of our house. It’s “there” enough to press against the body with every thrust in an arousing way while being heavy enough that it doesn’t slide on surfaces.
• The breasts bounce beautifully. The breasts behave wonderfully during play; they bounce all over the place with a nice “jiggle” with every thrust. They feel super squishy and rewarding to put your hands on them. (“Paw at them” is realistically how I’d describe my default motion to grab at them.) The breasts don’t look realistic (they’re way too big and too perky), but they’re rewarding in a primal, “I like boobs!” kind of way.
• The vulva is well-designed. It looks realistic with longer inner labia and a clitoris. It has a light blush to it. That being said, the “vaginal entrance” is actually positioned underneath the vulva itself (it’s a bit of a weird placement) and not in-between the labia themselves.

It doesn’t go above-and-beyond in any of those facets, but when all of them are put together, it makes a solidly, overall, well-rounded doll that happens to have a ton of features that are perfect for me.

We’re Still Uncomfortable with Cleaning

One of the big downsides of putting anything electronic in a sex doll is that sex dolls tend to be a bit ol’ pain in the ass to clean.

That’s not necessarily the doll’s fault. You have to drag your own body into the shower or bath to clean it; IT needs a full-body bath to clean it too, but it can’t do it itself. That means you have to do it.

This is where having electronics in a sex doll scare me a bit.

After double-checking with the manufacturer, I have the definitive answer:

Salorein Sabrina is NOT waterproof, but the only water-sensitive part is the control panel on the doll’s left arm. Ensure the doll is off before cleaning it.

The fuckable tunnel is in a completely different area from the electronic bits, and you can spray water up there as much as you’d like.

The doll can NOT be submerged in water, and you should not get any water near the control panel on that left arm. As you get closer to that control panel, swap from water streams (like a shower head) over to a washcloth or something easier to control to ensure you don’t accidentally drip water where you don’t want it.

For all of our Salorein Sabrina review tests, we’ve dumped the sex doll onto the floor of our shower and used a handheld showerhead, turned down to low, targeted pressure, to spray the doll where cleaning is needed. We actively avoid the control panel on the sex doll’s arm, but we still spray the water up inside the doll’s only fuckable tunnel. We’ll wash off the hips and waist (we usually get lube there).

Cleaning the breasts is usually when we have to have a lot more caution; the chest is near the arm. Ruining a brand new sex doll because water got into the control panel is not something I want to do.

I’d caution you to watch for the same. Understand that the Salorein Sabrina will require more careful cleaning than your average sex doll; because it has electronic components, we don’t want to get water where it shouldn’t go. Having a handheld showerhead with adjustable pressure and spray size will help tremendously, but you can also use an enema/douche bulb and a gentle washcloth to spot clean as an alternative.

That being said, Sabrina’s size makes the doll easier to clean than some of our other dolls. Because of all of the electronics and the doll’s slightly-smaller size, the Sabrina doll is easier to pick up and move around. It feels like a cohesive, soft-but-compact doll, and it isn’t a “prepare to pick up a heavy package” feel like some other dolls. It’s still not light, but it’s much easier to move around, making it less of a hassle to maneuver around water sprays.

We’ve used and cleaned this doll about 25 times in preparation for this Salorein Sabrina review, and it’s still doing a-okay! (We did accidentally dye some purple streaks on it – we literally have no idea what fabric did it – but the electronic components are still functioning fine!)

That Storage Bag!

I’m seriously getting spoiled from these complimentary storage bags; these “comes free with your doll” black storage bags are the fuck doll storage method of my dreams.

The Salorein Sabrina comes with its own storage bag. This black bag is made with PVC with some pretty solid features:

• It has zero exterior markings. Not one. Not a brand, nothing. It’s plain and black and boring.
• It has two sewn-in handles. These nylon handles feature a padded, velcro-fastened gripping point if you hold them together.
• It has two zippers. You can easily thread a lock between the two zippers, locking the bag closed.
• It has a single, large exterior storage pouch. This pouch is large enough to fit multiple other sex toys if you want. For more immediate concerns, it easily fits all of the sex doll cleaning supplies, the manufacturer’s manual, Sabrina’s charging cable, sex doll drying sticks, and more.

Inside this black storage bag is the styrofoam shell. There’s a lid and a bottom. Put the sex doll inside its styrofoam shell, ensure the shell’s pieces align, and you can zip the black PVC bag around the shell, entirely protecting the doll.

I LOVE this storage method, and it’s worth its weight in gold. Moving the sex doll around is so much easier with this storage bag; we literally took this doll to a hotel takeover with zero issues. It was entirely discreet, surprisingly easy to tote around, and kept the doll protected through the entire journey. Then we took it to a romantic hotel getaway. Still no problems. It’s definitely a “luggage cart” type of item, but getting it into the car and through the hotel is easy with this bag.

My only wish is that it had a shoulder strap as I’m more comfortable carrying things around my shoulder. That’s a minor complaint, and I love TF out of this storage bag.

This beats carrying around the shipping box (ridiculously annoying and hard) and putting it in a plastic storage tote (awkward handles) any day.

The only thing to note: the black storage bag is made from fabric, and the interior shell is styrofoam. You shouldn’t stack anything too heavy on top of this. Whereas I can stack my other sex dolls, stored in plastic totes, on top of one another due to the plastic bin’s sturdy walls, you can’t do that here. You’ll end up cracking the styrofoam shells under heavy loads.

You can easily put lightweight things on top; just avoid anything over 20 pounds or so.

Final Thoughts: Salorein Sabrina Review

Thanks for reading my Salorein Sabrina review!

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Sugar dating is one version of that model. The behavior itself is old, and only the openness about it is new. The interest in it has grown for reasons rooted in how people now approach relationships. They want directness, stated terms, and no pretending.

What is Sugar Dating?

“Sugar dating” is a dating dynamic between a “Sugar Daddy/Mommy” and a “Sugar Baby”. Traditionally, the “Sugar Daddy” has been an older, financially-comfortable man who is looking for a woman who is interested in having a good time and being spoiled with gifts and money.

Nowadays, however, with the rise of women in powerful careers, “Sugar Mommies” are increasing in popularity.

“Sugar” relationships are not escort dynamics, and the Sugar Mommy/Daddy does not pay per date. Instead, it’s easiest to think of Sugar dynamics as a set-up where one person has comfortable financial resources at their disposal, and they’re agreeing to “spoil” the Sugar Baby financially in exchange for the Sugar Baby’s time, attention, and ease of access.

In reality, here are some examples of Sugar Dating dynamics:

• A CEO of a company becomes a Sugar Mommy because she’s tired of going on poor first dates with men who are uncomfortable with her income. Instead, she finds a Sugar Baby who is unthreatened by her income. In fact, when she has to travel for business, he makes himself available to housesit her cat.
• An Engineering Manager decides to become a Sugar Daddy because he’s moving to a new city to open a new manufacturing plant for the next two years. He doesn’t plan on staying in the area after he’s done. He still wants companionship, but his work schedule is erratic. After trying a few dates to try to find a connection in the everyday dating pool, he finds that people looking to date are looking for a commitment he doesn’t want to make right now. Instead, he decides to give Sugar Dating a try to set up a clear dynamic where his date knows this is temporary and won’t be upset by his erratic availability.
• A married Sugar Mommy in an ethically non-monogamous relationship is forced to go on an extended work trip to a new country. She doesn’t want to spend every night alone, but she’s only going to be there 6 months, making “dating” more of a pain than a stress release. She chooses to set up a Sugar dating relationship so both of them know exactly where they stand, and she can have the short-term stress relief she wants now.
• An average-looking programmer looks into becoming a Sugar Daddy because he wants to experience a new thrill. He’s not particularly interested in dating; he just wants to make a connection with someone who provides an easy escape from the demands of his everyday life without requiring much time or mental energy from him in return. He doesn’t really have any schedule or life obligations that prohibit him from a romantic relationship; he’s just not interested in putting in the time or effort for that right now.

Every Sugar Dating arrangement has its own rules and expectations. While I always encourage couples to make these rules and expectations as explicit as possible, some dynamics may rely more heavily on gentle suggestions or teasing comments. Some of the usual “expectations” in a Sugar Dating arrangement may be:

• The Sugar Daddy/Mommy pays for all dates.
• The Sugar Daddy/Mommy often buys gifts, experiences, and other thoughtful gestures for the Sugar Baby.
• The Sugar Baby is easily available at a moment’s notice while maintaining minimal requirements from their partner.
• The Sugar Baby is well-kept when they’re together. They dress up, put on heels, and wear lingerie. They remove their body hair to the Sugar Daddy/Mommy’s preference, and generally keep up a clean, “first date worthy” appearance on every outing.
• The Sugar Baby wears or undergoes procedures that the Sugar Daddy/Mommy is willing to pay for. This may be as simple as wearing a suit on a date that the Daddy/Mommy has purchased. It can also go further in long-term Sugar Dating dynamics with someone choosing to get breast augmentation or other surgeries on their Sugar partner’s dime.
• During outings and time together, the Sugar Baby is primarily upbeat, fun, engaging, and without problems. They do not bring negativity into the dynamic; they are there as a stress outlet for the Sugar Mommy/Daddy.

There are no age requirements to being a Sugar Daddy, Sugar Mommy, or Sugar Dating.

However, you’ll often see that Sugar Mommies and Daddies are older in age while Sugar Babies are younger in age. This reflects the finances required to be in a Sugar dynamic. Usually, someone doesn’t have the finances to be a Sugar Daddy/Mommy until they’ve settled at a higher place in their career. There’s nothing stopping an 18 year old from becoming a Sugar Mommy if they happen to have the finances to go with it.

The Benefits of Sugar Dating

As you read through this, you’re already probably starting to see the benefits of Sugar Dating dynamics on both sides.

Just in case, let me go into a bit more detail:

In Sugar Dating, You Can Be Entirely Upfront

Sugar dating fits this preference almost too neatly. It is built on stated terms, where both people name what they want from the start and skip the long stretch of guessing. Someone who wants this kind of relationship can now look into how to find a sugar baby as openly as any other dating goal, with none of the need to be coy about it.

For people who are tired of dating in a world where politeness dictates friendliness and certain responses regardless of whether your first date is going anywhere useful, having everyone state exactly what they want – and what they want to get – before dealing with in-person interactions can be a breath of fresh air.

Nowadays, Sugar Dating sites specifically exist for couples looking for this non-traditional relationship. Putting this expectation at the forefront of all communication means sifting through fewer profiles of those looking for marriage or kids.

Everybody Knows Where They Stand

A large part of the appeal is knowing where you stand. Conventional dating can run for months on hints and the slow work of figuring out what the other person actually wants. A model with named terms removes that guessing. It is a form of being intentional about what each person wants from the start. Both people agree on the kind of relationship they are in, how much time it involves, and what each expects, before feelings are deeply invested.

This suits people who are short on time or patience. A professional in a demanding job may not have spare months to spend decoding mixed signals, and a defined relationship answers the main questions up front. The honesty protects both sides.

When expectations are spoken at the start, the gap between what one person thought was happening and what the other intended mostly disappears. Picture the usual alternative. Two people spend three months reading into texts and managing the fear of looking too eager, and they still end up unsure.

A relationship with named terms trades that whole process for one honest conversation, which is a large part of why busy people gravitate to it.

They Each Provide the Strengths of their Age

Getting older (generally) comes with wisdom and stability. As you get older, those “spur of the moment” things tend to happen less. After all, you have a busy day tomorrow, and you need your full night’s sleep and access to all of your vitamins and pills that are sitting at home to make your body function.

Youth doesn’t have those same problems. Being younger usually offers a wider sense of adventure – but you don’t have the money or life experience to back up those creative desires. You haven’t been tossed out onto your ass in 60 different ways, so you’re more open to new experiences, and fewer life obligations offer spontaneity.

Older partners love how adventurous, unjaded, and spontaneous a younger partner can be. They don’t tend to be bogged down in the details or planning for 6 months out. Why not do it now?

Younger partners love that older partners offer stability and life experience that their youth hasn’t offered them yet. (Plus, while it may not be a sole factor, many younger partners also love an older partner’s sexual experience. Experience tends to make for better sex!)

Age Gaps Become More Accepted

Acceptance changes behavior. When a pairing no longer invites a lecture, more people are willing to try it and to say so out loud. Census data from 2021 shows that 20% of same-sex married couples have a gap of 10 years or more, alongside 8% of opposite-sex couples.

Sugar dating benefits from the same loosening. While age gaps are not required for sugar dating, they’re common.

From an outside perspective, sugar dating relationships can make visible a clear explanation for why age gap relationships benefit everyone involved. While financial stability is not the only (or even the main reason!) an age-gapped couple may get together, sugar dating opens the door for outsiders to view all age-gapped relationships more positively.

Younger generations are driving most of this newfound acceptance. The same Gen Z cohort that popularized the undefined situationship also fuels demand for its opposite, a relationship with terms stated plainly. A defined, age-spanning relationship is one outcome of that mindset, and it draws people who put honesty about what they want before arbitrary numbers.

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Customize your rabbit vibrator experience with the innovative design of this unique toy. My AVIDLOVE PLAY Four-Attachment Rabbit Vibrator review is going to walk you through the interchangeable, customizable, fun design of this vibe. Plus…how well does it really work?

The Four-Attachment Rabbit Vibrator‘s claim to fame is its interchangeable clitoral attachments. Choose from four different attachments to match your desires on any given day. The tip of the shaft provides independently controlled vibrations, while each one of the attachments provides a unique movement, vibration, or shape.

This swappable clitoral attachment design allows you to easily adjust the depth of penetration, making it easy to maintain clitoral contact – regardless of how deep or shallow penetration is. If your needs change mid-session, the clitoral attachments can be slid further up (or down) the shaft, customizing your penetration options in seconds. Plus, each attachment changes out at a moment’s notice as well.

Body-safe, all of the attachments and the base vibrator itself are fully made from silicone. This design makes for a vibrator that’s splashproof. It’s IPX6 water capable; i.e. it’s only splashproof and should never be submerged. I strongly recommend keeping the vibrator away from too much water; water damage will void the warranty.

The base vibrator is the only piece that needs recharging. The clitoral attachments pull their power directly from the base vibrator. The magnetic charging cable will charge up your vibrator in 2 hours, providing over 60 minutes of playtime.

This Four-Attachment Rabbit Vibrator comes with a 1-year sex toy warranty.

A Uniquely Modular Design

The AVIDLOVE PLAY Four-Attachment Rabbit vibrator has a super cool design. Instead of a single immovable shape, this sex toy comes in five parts:

• The long, insertable shaft.
• A rabbit ears clitoral attachment that vibrates when turned on.
• A rotating wheel clitoral attachment that spins when turned on.
• A broad, swelled, bean attachment that vibrates when turned on.
• A cactus-head massage tip that rotates (like a car buffer) when turned on.

Every one of these clitoral attachments can be slid onto the long, insertable shaft for a DIY rabbit vibrator.

That means this single toy turns into FOUR different rabbit vibrators AND it can also function as a standard g-spot vibrator when you take all of the attachments off of the long, insertable shaft. So, you essentially get five toys in one.

It’s important to note that each one of these clitoral attachments isn’t just a shape; each has movement/sensation built into it. They’re powered. When kept along the marked track on the insertable shaft, the toy transfers powers, and the attachment will be able to move/vibrate if you have it turned on.

For example, the rotating tongue attachment literally spins. When it is turned on, the tongue attachment spins in circles while you simply hold the toy. The cactus-head attachment swirls in circles, as if it’s buffing your clit. The rabbit ears and the bead-shaped attachment will vibrate with their own vibrational motor.

That isn’t the only thing. Because you get to slide the clitoral attachments onto the toy, YOU get to choose where the clitoral attachment is located on the shaft. If you like deep penetration, push the attachment all the way down to the base of the handle to enjoy the full insertable length of the shaft while still getting the clitoral spot where you want it. If you only enjoy an inch or two of penetration, you can slide those attachments up towards the tip, reducing how deeply you need to slide in the shaft while still maintaining the ability to make contact with the clitoral portion.

(Note: The connective design of the clitoral attachments requires a minimum penetration depth of 2.5″ – 3″, depending on how tightly you want to press against the clitoral attachment.)

Each one of the attachments has two arrow designs embedded into the silicone. Both of these arrows must be within the arrowed line drawn onto the insertable shaft for the attachment to receive power. If one end of the attachment is fully outside of the line, the attachment won’t have power. You can still use the insertable shaft’s vibrations, but the clitoral attachment will not have power. If the attachment is slightly outside of the line, the attachment will still have partial power, but it won’t be as powerful as if both sides of the attachment are fully within the line.

With this adjustable design, this AVIDLOVE PLAY vibrator shines for coupled use. The person who is about to experience the rabbit vibrator can adjust the clitoral attachment to a spot on the shaft where penetration depth is comfortable. Now, with the clitoral attachment as a “stopping point”, it’ll be impossible for a partner using the toy on them to push it “too deep”. It, essentially, adds a penetration limiter with the toy’s built-in design, making for stress-free coupled use. And it’s a design that can be changed on a day-to-day basis, depending on how deeply you want to go on any given day.

With multiple AVIDLOVE Play Four-Attachment Rabbit vibrator review attempts trying to specifically dislodge the clitoral attachment during use, I haven’t been able to. The only time it even moved was when we had lubed up the entire insertable shaft before adding the clitoral attachment.

Avoid lube under the attachment area to help the attachments stay in place really well. This lets a lover use this toy on you pretty roughly while maintaining the same “stopping point” you both set with the clitoral attachment ahead of time.

If you wanted to, for whatever weirdly odd reason, the toy will operate multiple attachments at once. You slide on multiple attachments, they all will function at a slight loss of power as long as all added clitoral attachments within the two arrows embedded onto the base vibrator’s shaft.

AVIDLOVE PLAY Four-Attachment Rabbit Vibrator Review: Control

This unique DIY rabbit vibrator doesn’t just have a single button to control its functions. It actually, impressively, offers independent control of both the shaft and the clitoral attachment. This means you can turn on the vibrations of the clitoral attachment while leaving the shaft’s vibrations off – or visa versa – depending on your mood and what you like.

It’s a really neat design.

Press and hold either button, and the toy itself turns on. (Either button functions as a power button).

Once the toy has given you two “buzzt” vibrations to let you know the toy is on stand-by, you can single press either button to turn on the function that button controls.

A single press on the insertable shaft button will turn on the vibrator of the insertable shaft. This vibrator is located at the very tip of the insertable end, intentionally located for g-spot sensation. There are three steady vibration intensities, each accessed by that single button press, and then some patterns to scroll through before you end back up on the steady vibration settings again.

A single press on the attachment button will turn on the attachment’s functionality. The attachment doesn’t have any patterns: just 3 steady intensity levels: low, medium, and high. For vibrations, that’ll be softer vibrations, medium vibrations, high vibrations. For the two rotating attachments, that’s a slower rotation, medium rotation, and fast rotation.

Whenever you’re done, a press-and-hold on either button will make the toy “buzzt” twice and then turn itself off.

I really love it. It’s easy to find the buttons during use, and they pop on and off with a satisfying click. It’s impossible to tell the buttons apart by touch alone, but once you get used to where each is located (one closer to the bum, one closer to your clit, on opposite sides of the handle), you’ll be able to control the toy with ease. It took me a couple of tries during my AVIDLOVE PLAY Four-Attachment Rabbit vibrator review to really get used to it, but once I did, it was second-nature.

Attachments can be swapped in and out while the toy is still on. If the attachment end was turned on and set to a setting, the new “attachment” you add will resume at the same intensity that the last attachment had been on when you removed it.

If, for any reason, you want noise and stimulation to stop, double-pressing either button will pop the toy into “Pause” mode, where all stimulation has stopped. If it isn’t resumed within 10 minutes, it’ll turn itself off to preserve battery. This is a pretty neat feature most sex toys don’t have, and it also works great if you need an quick-stop for any reason.

Lining Up this Rabbit Vibrator

Like all dual stimulation toys, this AVIDLOVE PLAY vibrator aims to pleasure two different erogenous zones at once. This means that the toy needs to work with your specific anatomy.

Unlike most dual stimulation toys, this Four-Attachment Rabbit Vibrator allows you to adjust how those two spots fit together. Being able to slide the clitoral attachment up and down the shaft will give you a better chance of finding that perfect angle that hits both your g-spot and your clitoris.

This rabbit vibrator is going to work best if you know you have a g-spot that isn’t too curved inwards. Depth won’t matter as much; if you have a deep – but not curved very internally – g-spot, the rabbit vibrator’s adjustable clitoral attachment is going to be a win for you. Since the toy can adjust for depth, deeper (or shallower) doesn’t matter for the Four-Attachment Rabbit. It can do both.

What it doesn’t have is a deeply curved g-spot tip. This g-spot tip’s curve is extremely shallow. It only protrudes a little bit away from the toy’s base shaft design. It offers a swelled, broader surface for making lots of firm contact with the g-spot, but that broad surface isn’t on top of a really deep curve.

If you’re someone who has a g-spot that requires a strong curve, internally, to hit it, the Four-Attachment Rabbit Vibrator is not likely to do so.

That’s, unfortunately, the camp where I fall in. My Bent Graduate is my go-to g-spot toy, and all of my other successful g-spot toys require a very curved shaft to hit it. I find it impossible to hit my own g-spot with my own fingers; they don’t have enough length and curve to get them where I need it. I just have a very “tucked away” g-spot; it needs a strong sex toy curve to hit it.

While it felt good, despite multiple attempts for my AVIDLOVE PLAY Four-Attachment Rabbit vibrator review, I was unable to get the toy to get anywhere near my g-spot. Even when I removed the clitoral attachments entirely, the shaft simply didn’t have the curve to hit my anatomy’s g-spot.

If you know that your g-spot isn’t “off the beaten path”, you’ll find it much easier to hit your g-spot with this.

As a final note, the clitoral attachment can be adjusted left and right; it can spin entirely around the main shaft, 360-degrees, and it will still maintain power to the clitoral attachment. If you’re someone who happens to have an off-centered g-spot, this is going to be a god-send. It’s a function that’s entirely unavailable on any other rabbit vibrator out there.

Let’s Talk Pleasure

I really love how rigidly they designed the insertable shaft. The toy has a very rigid interior (I’d guess plastic, to transfer vibrations) that’s covered with this thin layer of silicone. This means the insertable shaft has zero flexibility to it. I love that. The g-spot responds well to pressure, and if you get this vibe onto your g-spot, it won’t bend as you push the toy onto your spot. All of the pressure your hand provides will go directly into your g-spot with a firm toy that applies every ounce directly inside of you.

That’s A+. I’ve had so many g-spot vibes that bend under pressure, and it can really make it difficult to get broad strokes onto that inner-most spot.

The vibrations built into the insertable shaft are pretty buzzy. When using this vibe clitorally, I found that I’d need to orgasm within 15 minutes or so, or the vibrations would desensitize me to the point where it’d be difficult to orgasm.

However, I didn’t necessarily find that problem with internal use. As long as I popped the g-spot vibrations into a pattern instead of a steady mode, it added a bit of extra internal “oomph” that felt good. As previously noted, I can’t get this toy into my g-spot, so I’m not sure how my g-spot would respond to the vibrations, but it did feel nice when used internally. It wasn’t enough for a g-spot orgasm (as the toy wasn’t able to hit that spot), but it felt good.

Clitorally, the attachment’s vibrations are pretty good. They’re moderate; they lean buzzy, but the vibrations continue at the same intensity if you apply a ton of pressure to the toy, allowing you to push firmly enough into it to feel like it’s a bit more deep tissue than it is.

If you like clitoral pressure, you’ll want to stick with the two vibrating clitoral attachments. If you apply pressure to your clitoris with either of the vibrating attachments, the vibrations continue at the same intensity.

If you apply anything beyond the lightest pressure with the rotating tongue or the buffering attachment, the movement will stop entirely. This is designed as a safety feature to avoid pinching or skin getting caught in any of the attachments.

With all of that put together:

I was unable to orgasm if I was using the tongue attachment or the buffering attachment – regardless of whether I was using the vibrations on the insertable attachment at the same time. They just stop providing sensation as soon as I apply pressure, and I’m someone who needs pressure to orgasm.

I really struggled to orgasm if the insertable shaft was turned off while only using the clitoral attachment’s vibrations. It was possible, but it only happened once out of a few attempts.

I was able to orgasm with fast micro-thrusting while both the clitoral attachment’s and insertable shaft’s vibrations were at least on medium intensity. I found that if I kept doing this too long, the orgasm would become elusive, so it really was an experience of “Oh, right now? Okay!”. If I tried to edge with it, I wouldn’t be able to orgasm later.

I’m just not sure that I’m the target audience for this one. I love the innovative design, and I love how personalized you can make your experience. I just don’t think that it was designed for my own anatomy, in the typical problem of rabbit vibrators.

Let’s Talk Noise

If you need to be really discreet, some of the Four-Attachment Rabbit Vibrator’s attachments are probably going to be off-limits for you.

The toy is quietest when used with the bean-shaped attachment while the insertable shaft is inside the body. With moderate music or TV on, it’s difficult (but not impossible) to hear the toy outside of a closed door. It sounds like a two-motored vibrator with a distinct “hum” that’s not annoying or distracting, but it is audible.

Both of the moving attachments make more noise. They have an audible “WHIIIIRRRRRR” as the motorized components move the wheels. Since these motors are outside of the body, they’re easier to hear. These were definitely audible outside of a closed door with music on. That being said, it was still quieter than a wand massager; it’s audible, and I wouldn’t use it with roommates on the other side of the door, but if your roommate’s room was across the apartment, you’d be fine.

If you’re using the insertable shaft externally as a clitoral vibrator, the toy still has some noise to it. It’s more than when it’s inserted but less loud than when you’re using the moving attachments. Again, it’s quieter than a wand by a huge margin, but you can hear a bit of the noise through a closed door with music on.

In case of emergency, a single press and hold of any button will turn the toy’s noise off within 2 seconds. It does have two “buzzt” noises that signify it’s turned off which may make plausible deniability a bit harder if someone walks in mid-use. Utilizing “Pause Mode”, which is two double-click presses on either control button, will instantly turn the toy’s sensation off. It will still have a blinking light (which will draw attention to the toy under blankets), but the noise itself will stop in case of discovery.

Clitoral-Only Use

I tend to be someone who likes to warm up with clitoral-only vibrations. During this AVIDLOVE PLAY Four-Attachment Rabbit Vibrator review period, I tried to figure out what clit-only options I had.

The clitoral attachments do still work if you put them on upside down, as if the clitoral arm is facing away from the insertable end.

That being said, the track that powers them doesn’t extend far enough towards the base to allow you to use the toy backwards for clitoral-only sensation.

If you’re hoping to warm up with a bit of vibrations before sliding the toy inside, you can use the insertable shaft’s tip as an external vibrator. I’m not really fond of this; the buzzy vibrations tend to leave me feeling a bit desensitized. But it is an option, if you want it.

I just leaned towards warming up with my fingers or a different toy to get turned on enough to want to insert something.

I don’t count that against this toy. A rabbit vibrator is designed for dual stimulation, and it’s no surprise that it doesn’t do single stimulation easily. It’s something to note, however.

Storing the Rabbit Vibrator

Unlike most sex toys, this rabbit vibrator has a lot of pieces. You have the 5 pieces of the “rabbit” itself in addition to the charging cable and instruction manual.

To help, the Four-Attachment Rabbit Vibrator comes with a white satin drawstring storage bag. All of the pieces will fit into the bag, but it’s a tight fit. With how tight it is, I have to make sure to tie the top of the bag. If I don’t, the overfull bag can start to loosen, and pieces can fall out. The bag is small enough that it feels like an odd place to skimp; a few more inches in size would have made this much more reliable for storage.

Personally, if you don’t need to be discreet, the original packaging, with its foam cut-out storage tray, really works best. It keeps all of the attachments available and viewable AND makes it so you can stack the toy in a closet. Just be aware that the box clearly displays the sex toy. If you have a deep bookshelf, you can store it sideways, with a purple-only side showing, as if it’s a book until you want to use it. I even took a picture of that view:

Final Thoughts: AVIDLOVE PLAY Four-Attachment Rabbit Vibrator Review

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No-strings sex dating is very popular these days, thanks to the magic of the internet. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Sex and kink can be a really enjoyable activity all to itself while getting into and maintaining a relationship takes a lot more time and mental energy.

But what happens if you start developing desires for more than just fun and pleasure?

What is a Casual Kinky Play Partner?

The root of the agreement between two playmates is that they don’t expect a long-term commitment. In polyamorous speak, casual sex partners are not looking to ride the “relationship escalator“.

That isn’t to say there isn’t, necessarily, a level of commitment. Because of the kinky things we do, a certain level of trust may be required from our partners. Jumping into a scene with your new partner right after meeting them at a bar on Saturday “night” at 1AM may not end well. Dominant/submissive dynamics also require a level of negotiation that just isn’t possible if nobody will ever agree to commit to anything.

In the world of kink, “friends with benefits” arrangements may be more specifically negotiated than in the “let’s leave it vague” world of non-kink. However, those negotiations, commitments, and agreements typically focus more on the safety and boundaries of all participants instead of an expectation to get married or “meet the parents”.

Your kinky playmate agreements might look something like this:

• You will come to my house every Thursday at 6PM, dressed in the lingerie I like, for a BDSM play session. (This requires a commitment of time and effort.)
• We will let one another know if we engage in any activity that exchanges bodily fluids outside of our dynamic. We will then decide if the two of us will need to use safer sex barriers or stop playing together. (This requires a level of exclusivity and disclosure.)
• You will bring your own sex toys to every meet up we have. We’re both still playing with other people, so having your own toys that are “unique to you” will reduce risk and STI concerns.
• We agree to only meet up when my wife is out of town. She knows and is okay with us, but she doesn’t want our meet-ups taking away from time she could otherwise have with me.

All of this is to say: commitment, negotiations, and agreements are a staple of casual BDSM arrangements. This makes it a little easier to discuss falling in love with your playmate because we’ve had some of these discussions ahead of time, but it still isn’t fun.

Options if you Fall in Love with a Sex Playmate

If you look at this logically, there are only two ways this can go. What you choose to do within those options is up to you.

Option 1: Tell Them How You Feel

It’s important to note that disclosing how you feel does NOT have to end your arrangement.

Especially in kink communities or for people experienced with polyamory, people may continue to play and have arrangements within unrequited love dynamics. I’ll offer some tips on bringing that to life below, but it’s important to note that disclosing how you feel does not have to end the arrangement.

Option 2: Don’t Tell Them How You Feel

There’s a lot to be said about keeping your thoughts to yourself.

For one, feelings and emotions can be fleeting. You may not actually be in love with your FWB; you might actually just be lonely, and they’re your primary outlet for human connection and socialization. You might share your body and mind in a way that you don’t share with anyone else, and that simple act of intimacy can lead to feeling like you’re in love. (This is something even professional therapists have to deal with, and they’re not having sex with their clients!)

If you think that might be the case, try to branch out and make some new friends. Finding other outlets for human connection and emotional intimacy often will soften some of those affectionate feelings you had towards your play partner.

For another, disclosing your feelings to your casual play partner may dissolve your arrangement. If you both already have a good thing going, the idea of ending it might be enough to encourage you to keep your feelings to yourself. If you’re able to continue with your arrangement without putting undue pressure on your FWB, that can work.

For many people who are in love, though, it can be difficult to keep from wanting “more” from your arrangement. While you used to hang out after sex because you were too tired to move, you might find yourself hanging out longer because you want more skin-on-skin time. While you might have previously offered to spank your partner because you wanted to make sure the quid-pro-quo arrangement left you both satisfied, you might find yourself craving a spanking just to see them smile back at you.

Finally, you can keep your feelings a secret, hoping they will disclose their feelings for you. This usually doesn’t work out. While mutually falling for close friends or casual sex partners is a plot point you’ll see in virtually every romcom book or movie, it doesn’t usually happen that way in real-life. It’s unlikely that your casual play partner is harboring the same thoughts and waiting to make a move on you. I know, that’s not very fun, but it’s likely the truth.

If you’re going that route, consider setting a deadline for yourself. If your play partner doesn’t confess their feelings for you within X months, you’ll tell them about yours.

Is This Moral?

If you choose not to disclose how you feel, you also have to decide where your morality line lies. Some would say that secretly being in love with a play partner – without disclosing it – is placing them into an immoral, uncomfortable position. It falls outside of the kink communities’ accepted acronym for consent: “Risk-Aware Consensual Kink” (RACK).

If your partner isn’t aware that there’s a risk of higher emotional entanglement, they aren’t fully aware to consent to the relationship and the activities you’re doing.

You have to decide if this line of thinking mirrors your own. If so, even if it leads to the dissolution of your kink dynamic, the “right” thing to do would be to confess your feelings.

Making a Play Partner Arrangement Work with Unrequited Love

Even within romantic relationships, one partner “loves” the other partner more than the other. In healthy romantic relationships, that balance tends to tip backwards and forwards, hopping between partners, as life keeps us busy and our day-to-day annoyances build up.

It’s possible to set up a power exchange dynamic or friends with benefits arrangement when unrequited love is involved. It’s just hard to do. “Hard”, however, isn’t “impossible”.

You have some options:

Get Into a Romantic, Escalator-Climbing Relationship

You might confess your feelings to your play partner, and you might be surprised to find that those feelings mirror your own.

I want to be clear: this rarely happens!

But sometimes, it does. If that’s the case, and you’re both on the same page, you can both choose to deepen your dynamic with one another!

If that isn’t the case, though, here are some other ways to continue your dynamic even if one of you feels deeper feelings than the other.

Set Boundaries on Your Relationship

If you think you’re in love, you can find yourself craving more time, attention, and intimacy with the person you’re in love with. If that other person doesn’t share those feelings, this can be where your dynamic starts to become a problem. You want more, more, more while they were quite happy with where you both were.

To avoid this, set boundaries on your playmate dynamic. One of the best things about this solution is that it doesn’t require disclosing your feelings to your partner; you can intentionally set limits for yourself without necessarily negotiating this with a partner.

Those boundaries or limits will vary based on what you’re currently craving and what you know about yourself. Some common examples might be:

• I will only see my playmate once a week.
• I will not kiss my playmate on the mouth.
• I will not exchange bodily fluids in any way, and I’ll use safer sex barriers to avoid that happening.
• I will intentionally ask my playmate about their other partners to remind myself that they are not seeking a monogamous relationship.
• I will not enter into a power exchange dynamic with them.
• I will not allow any commands/requirements/restrictions that affect me outside of our scheduled play sessions. Any Dominant/submissive play we do will be during our specific play date times to reduce how encompassing this relationship feels.
• I will meet up with my partner’s wife/husband/etc. once a month for coffee, reminding myself of their other responsibilities and ensuring their partner doesn’t see me as a threat.

It’s a bit like your favorite food. Some people might only pick it up once a week from the supermarket, so they’re not tempted by having it in the house every day. Other people might choose a day ahead of time (“Donuts are only for Friday”). Other people might only allow themselves their favorite foods during certain activities (“I’ll only have a drink if I’m out with friends”) or as a reward for other activities (“If I get my workout in, I’ll add some flavor to my coffee.”) Some people intentionally portion control their favorites ahead of time, automatically putting half of their food into a to-go container at the restaurant as soon as they receive it to ensure they don’t eat all of it now.

We all have things that we crave and want, and if you sit and think for a bit, you might be able to apply your “moderation strategies” to your relationship too.

Explore Polyamory

Polyamory is a lot more common in BDSM communities than it is in the world at large. If you and your partner are open to some form of polyamory, this may be a solution. This one is especially common when the two people have mutual feelings but external entanglements or relationships had previously prohibited anything more from developing between the two of you.

I want to be honest: this kinda feels like the “have your cake and eat it too” option. Not only does your playmate get to keep all of their other relationships, but you both get to explore one too. And it is; it is a bit like having both.

But it’s rarely as smooth as that. Everyone’s current romantic partners need to agree. Even then, if everyone has previously operated as monogamous, there are going to be some pretty big drama-filled evenings when jealousy pops up.

Jealousy in polyamory is normal, but when you’re new to poly, you haven’t developed the tools to handle ongoing jealousy. In monogamous relationships, you might get a bit jealous if someone hits on your lover at a bar, but you know that it’s temporary and your lover will be leaving this transient person soon. That won’t be the case with a polyamorous relationship; everyone needs to develop the tools to handle and work through jealousy as these relationships are expected to continue.

If you want to go down this route, I highly recommend some very open conversations as well as diving deep into some books and articles on polyamory. (“Opening Up” by Tristan Taormino is one of my favorite books on it!)

Keep in mind that polyamorous relationships vary widely. Some people in polyamorous relationships only see each other once a year (we call those comets!). Others may live between two different households. Don’t assume that becoming poly requires changing how often you both see each other; adding polyamorous overtones simply means that everyone involved in intimate relationships is okay with more intimate/romantic/ongoing contact happening between you and your playmate.

Be Honest When It Pops Up

There are probably certain activities or feelings that really “bring on” feelings of romance and intimacy.

If you and your casual playmate agree to it, you might find that being open and honest when those feelings come up can really help you both work through it. This might look something like:

• “When you spank me while I’m bent over your knee, I feel really subby and makes me want to do more with you.”
• “When you call me your “Pet”, it really makes my brain feel like we’re in a romantic relationship.”
• “Locking me into a chastity cage feels really permanent, and every time we do it, it starts to make me think of you owning my bits for the foreseeable future.”
• “When I’m away from you and writing your name on my body before work, it makes me think of you all day. It’s hard not to want more when I’m thinking of you all day, every day.”

Once those things are out in the open, you have a few options.

• Choose not to do those activities. If certain things are triggering those desires, you both can agree that they aren’t a good idea. This doesn’t have to be a permanent solution: you can always revisit these things later.
• Modify those activities. By making a few changes to the activities you’re already doing, you might still be able to do those activities without triggering those cravings. Taking one of the above examples, you might still do spanking – but you might intentionally avoid any over-the-knee positions.
• Do those activities but do them intentionally and change your aftercare plans. If you both know that a certain activity makes you really crave some public declarations of love, go into those activities with awareness of the feelings you’re building up. This may mean taking some time during aftercare to verbally and physically re-establish where you both are as partners. This can be an awkward conversation (“I really enjoy the scenes that we do, and they help me explore sides of myself I never knew I wanted to, but I want to reiterate that I’m not looking for a committed romantic relationship right now”), but making sure everybody is on the same page is one of the best ways to keep a different-desires relationship going.

Find Another Playmate

If you remember, we talked about your love for your playmate may not actually be “love” at all. It may be a solution for your loneliness or an endorphin high – and your new casual playmate just happens to be the “source” for all of those feel-good feelings.

If you think that may be the case, an easy solution can be to find another casual play partner. With another play partner around, it can be easier to see what feelings for your first play partner are genuine desires for “moving up the escalator” and what ones are simply happening because this person is your sole outlet for other needs.

Just make sure finding a new casual play mate is within the negotiated limits of your current relationship!

Originally Posted: May 25, 2017.
Updated: July 2026, July 2025.

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