You’ve decided that you want to enjoy some anal play beyond your current level. There’s only one big problem: you have no idea how to choose the best toys for anal stretching. With thousands of anal toys out there, what ones should you be looking at if your end goal is stretching out the anal entrance?

But that’s what I’m here for! There is no “one size fits all” to this process, but there are features and designs we want to look for when picking up anal toys specifically for the best toys for anal stretching. It doesn’t matter if you work in the field of carpentry or Orlando escorts, we all have a butt with sphincter muscles, and we all need to stretch them if we want to play past their current capacity.

I want to be clear: “anal stretching” isn’t just something you do when you want to fit the largest fantasy dildo you’ve ever seen. Anal stretching can be used for any type of play where you’re trying to gently relax the anal muscles to comfortably accept something larger than it currently does.

This means that prepping for anal sex with a biological penis also counts as anal stretching, and it follows many of the same principles as-if you were stretching for that fantasy dildo!

Why Is Anal Stretching Important?

Okay, this is going to be a bit of dry medical knowledge, but just stay with me for a few minutes. We’ll get to the good stuff, but understanding why we don’t just shove an eggplant up there and call it a day is important to know.

When you put something up the butt, you have to go through two separate sphincters. If you’re unaware, a “sphincter” (your body has a couple!) is essentially just a tight ring of muscle.

(Credit to TeachMeAnatomy for that solid diagram)

As you could guess by the phrase “tight ring of muscle”, this ring tends to be relatively tight and relatively closed up. They’re like gatekeepers. If these sphincters weren’t closed up, everything they were controlling would flow freely through those gates. (You have sphincters all over your body, but we’re talking about butt stuff today.)

As the diagram foreshadows, we have two spinchters also at your anal entrance.

It’s important to understand that these rings of muscle are just that: rings of muscle. They operate similarly to other muscle on your body.

If you were under a mind control spell, and I told you to drop into the splits right this second, you’d likely tear multiple leg muscles. Those muscles are too tight and unstretched to safely achieve the splits.

If you’d been doing daily splits stretching practice, however, you might safely achieve those splits (and then flip me off for doubting you).

That’s the exact premise behind your sphincters too. They’re just literally muscles – like any other in your body. If you, gradually and often, stretch them out, they become accustomed to stretching out to this large, stretched-out size, and you don’t tear muscles or skin when you push them to that level.

This doesn’t give you a “loose” asshole any more than doing splits training lengthens your legs or makes your legs turn into spaghetti noodles. It’s a muscle; when done safely, it simply allows your anal entrance to stretch to wider sizes without breaking. (If you break or rip your anal entrance, though, that CAN give you a loose asshole.)

The final point in this anatomy lesson:

The sphincters are located at the entrance. Once you’re past those sphincters, you’re chilling in the pretty-stretchy rectum area. This area has nerves for pressure, but there’s nothing, necessarily, in the rectum that we really need to “train” for wider anal stretching. (There’s some argument to be made for depth-training or S-curve training, but if you’re on this article, you’re not-even-sorta worried about trying to take a 12″ dildo.)

So all of this fanfare is happening entirely to help train the anal entrance to gently accept wider dildos.

Now you know what we’re up against though. When we’re trying to pick the best toys for anal stretching, we’re specifically trying to train the body’s anal entrance to gradually open up.

First, Some Toy Design Terms

If we’re going to talk about how to find a great anal stretching toy, we first need to talk about what to look for in the best toys for anal stretching. To do that, being on the same page about what we’re calling the parts of the toy will be really helpful.

Let’s talk sex toy terms.

Insertable Length: This is the part of the sex toy that makes up the bulk of the part that goes inside of your body.

Retention Area: This is the part of the toy design that rests right at the anal entrance. In dildos, this might be virtually indistinguishable from the rest of the toy. That’s because dildos aren’t really designed to just “sit” in the butt. In butt plugs, this area, smaller in diameter, is what helps the plug stay in the butt.

Base: To make something anal safe, a portion of the item needs to remain outside of the body. Because the butt doesn’t have an easily accessible “end” like the vaginal canal does, we need to make sure there’s an easy way to grip a sex toy and remove it after inserting it into the butt. We call this part of the sex toy the “base”.

*Image shown above is the Hush 2 with more info here.

How to Find a Great Anal Stretching Toy: Get a Tapered Tip

If you’re going to be inserting something that’s near the edge of your body’s limits, you need a way to gently, and gradually, insert that toy.

This is where tapered tips come in. It’s easiest to explain a tapered tip sex toy with another image:

(Left: Laphwing Tentacle. Right: Split Peaches Unicorn.)

See how the sex toy on the left starts really, really small and gently gets larger the further you insert it? The other sex toy just starts huge and stays at that size.

Getting a tapered tip can be really helpful for anal stretching sex toys and your wallet. A tapered tip gives you multiple sizes to insert in a single toy.

For example, if your dildo caps out at 1.75″ in diameter – BUT your tapered tip starts at 1″, gently grows to 1.25″ and then 1.5″. This means that you, essentially, can partially insert your dildo to stretch anywhere from 1″ to 1.75″ with a single toy.

So if you’re only at a point where 1.4″ of width is comfortable, you can slowly insert through 1″ up to 1.25″ – then pause as you approach the 1.5″ diameter point. Even better, for future anal stretching sessions when your body has relaxed enough to take larger sizes, you can still use this same sex toy to stretch out to 1.75″ in diameter.

In addition to offering multiple sizes in a single anal toy, tapered tip toys are just easier and safer to insert. Because the toy gradually grows in thickness, you can slowly acclimate your body to larger sizes, reducing the likelihood that you pop it in too quickly and tear something.

It’s a win-win!

If You’re Using a Butt Plug: Get a Thick Retention Area

Butt plugs are pretty cool. You simply slide them into the butt, they “pop” in there, and then they hang out while your hands are free to do other things.

This is partially why butt plugs are such a popular anal warm-up option: you can slide an anal plug into the butt and enjoy other foreplay or masturbation activities while your anal muscles slowly relax to the large intrusion.

However, this may not be as effective as using an anal dildo or other type of anal toy. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t use butt plugs, but it does mean that you should have a bit of knowledge when choosing what to use for anal warm-ups.

Essentially, the process of anal stretching is focused on stretching and gently relaxing the sphincters of the butt. These sphincters are located at the entrance. (Remember our anatomy lesson?)

When you slide in a butt plug, the thickest area stretches these entrance muscles, but once the butt plug is fully inside the body, the sphincters generally are at rest against the retention area of the plug.

Just look at this image below: the toy on the left has a really thick retention area. The toy on the right has a really thin retention area. If you were using the toy on the right as one of your best toys for anal stretching, once the toy was fully in the body, you’d only be “stretching” the muscles that tiny little stem portion.

That means that your 30 minute long anal stretching session had 3-ish minutes of active stretching for those muscles. The other 27 minutes, those sphincter muscles were relaxed and chillaxing on one of the thinnest parts of your butt plug.

This is why butt plugs may not warm up the anal area as well as you’d like. Though something was in the butt that whole (teehee) time, it wasn’t actively stretching out the muscles to your desired thickness. The thickest part of the plug was well-past those muscles while those muscles gently rested on one of the thinnest part of the plug.

That brings me to my point: if you’re using a butt plug for anal stretching, you have to pay attention to the size of the retention area. If the retention area is ultra-slim, that’s what you’re going to be “actively stretching” while you wear it.

That isn’t necessarily a dealbreaker. But if you’re primarily using butt plugs as a hands-free option to “warm up” the muscles, keep this in mind. The majority of your time using a butt plug may not be doing much stretching. The inside of the body (the rectum) already does pretty well with width. We’re trying to stretch out that entrance.

*Toys shown in image above: Left: Square Peg Toys Egg Plug. Right: b-Vibe Snug Plug in 5.

(Sidenote: That’s not to say using a butt plug with a small retention area isn’t helpful. Things in the bum help bring blood flow to the area. More blood flow = better safety and resiliency for stretching. But a butt plug with a small retention area really isn’t actively stretching those entrance muscles.)

Best Toys for Anal Stretching: Consider a Dildo for Activities Near Your Limit

So, we just went over why most butt plugs may not be a great fit as the best toys for anal stretching.

If you know that you’re going to be playing near the limit of what your butt can take, I really recommend warming up with a dildo. That butt plug can be the warm-up to your warm-up, but the thicker size of most dildos will provide a safer, more comprehensive warm-up.

Yes, it will require using your hands to hold it in. Sorry. Enjoy some thrusting and delicious sensations while you’re there.

But when you’re playing near the limit of what your body can handle, there are higher risks than when you’re only inserting something that’s just in the range of “I could take this mid-Brunch without a second thought”.

Risks of Anal Stretching and Anal Play

Just to make sure we’re all clear here, the risk of suddenly inserting something that’s too large for you includes:

• Pain. Anal play isn’t painful by default. It can have a bit of pressure, but any pain (for most! Pre-existing health conditions can change how the body interprets sensations!) is a sign that you’re doing damage. If you’re getting lots of pain, the toy is too large, or you don’t have enough lube.
• Anal Fissures. This is a nice, doctor-friendly way to say “you tore your butthole”. Yeah, when you say it like that, that’s not so nice-sounding.
• Anal Bleeding: As part of your skin, your butt hole also has blood inside of it. Only, well, if you tear it, now it’s coming outside of you.
• Anal Infections: Your butt handles poop on a (at least) weekly basis. Turns out poop smears near open wounds actually has a high chance of infection. …yay?
• Anal Fistulas: About 30% of people (in this study) who got an anal infection got something called an anal fistula. This is when the tear in the entrance is so deep that it allows infection to spread to the surrounding, non-entrance skin. It likely requires surgery to fix.
• A Long Healing Time: So, uh, the anal entrance stretches out to allow you to poop. Turns out stretching open skin tears causes them to retear. Anal fissures have longer-than-average heal times because bowel movements can tear them right back open.

I want to be clear: while these are all risky things that should be taken seriously, in most cases, they are things that can be helped by a doctor’s visit. Your doctor can’t magically fix your breaks and tears, though, so if you go too hard, you’ll be dealing with the pain, discomfort, and potential infection risks for awhile. At least weeks.

People around the world poop on a daily basis, and they make it through okay. Not as many (but a ton) of people also enjoy anal play on a daily basis, and we don’t have a revolving door of ER visits for them.

But the way to ensure you don’t have to deal with any of this is to make sure you’re safely stretching in the first place!

My Best Toys for Anal Stretching Recommendations

Too long, didn’t read?

Okay, I get it. Sometimes, I really do not care about the finer points of something (like how a washing machine works), and I just really want something that the expert recommends. I got you.

That being said, please take these best toys for anal stretching recommendations with a grain of salt. They are my recommendations that have worked well for my anal stretching partners over the years. As we’ve noted, anal stretching is a very personal experience, and what’s great for me may not be perfect for you.

So, if you have the time, I really do recommend at least skimming the above guide on how to choose the best toys for anal stretching.

My Absolute Favorite: Square Peg Toys Egg Plugs

I don’t even have an affiliate relationship with Square Peg Toys, but my god, their Egg Plugs are always my first recommendation for the best toys for anal stretching. I’ve already turned a couple of my friends onto them.

They’re great for a few reasons:

• They’re uniform in design. You can, quite literally, move or down sizes and have the exact same, controlled experience but in a different size.
• They’re the perfect mix of soft and firm silicone. Each one of these Egg Plugs feels like a hulk of squishy silicone. Because it’s such a dense silicone, it doesn’t collapse at your entrance when pressure is applied, but it also remains squishy enough that it doesn’t feel like sliding plastic into yourself.
• They have wide retention areas. We’ve never taken the Square Peg Egg Plugs in public because they’re just monsters (we only have the XL and up), but this is enough of a retention area to keep the plug inside of the body, hands-free, while lying down. Plus, the retention area is still extremely thick, continuing the stretching as the plug stays inside.
• They have a slightly tapered tip. The tapered tip could be more noticeable, but it’s slightly there, giving you a gentler first push-in compared to some other plugs. The extra-soft silicone helps too.

On a Budget: Mr. Hankey’s Cone

If you’re trying to stretch to a particular diameter, you generally will pick up multiple toys, in incremental sizes, that’ll help you make it to that diameter. Buying multiple sex toys, as you can imagine, can get pricey.

If you’re trying to keep things as cheap as possible, though, you can pick up a single toy that will function as the diameter of multiple toys. That single toy is a cone. This cone-shaped toy will allow you to incrementally stretch to wider diameters. If you get the right cone for your needs, it will start at the diameter where you’re currently at and ever-so-slowly get wide enough to stretch to your “desired” diameter.

I’m featuring the Mr. Hankey’s Toys Traffic Cone sex toy above – purely because it’s made from body-safe silicone and is available in different sizes to get the size you need. They also, thank god, make it in non traffic cone colors if you want something normal looking.

If you’re looking for something at a lower price point and find that their sizes happen to be what you need, Tantus also makes the Cone Small and Cone Large. Since theirs are mass-produced (versus the made-to-order design of Mr. Hankey’s Toys), they’re lower in price.

Both are solid companies, though, and I own multiple toys from both.

One big caveat: Because of the ever-increasing size of a Cone sex toy, it’s easier to accidentally push past your comfortable, safe limits. Make sure you’re always clear-headed and risk-aware when using a cone sex toy. Especially if squatting over it, eagerness and gravity can make it easy to “push past” where you should reasonably be stretching.

Hands-Free Stretching: Tantus Severin

Remember when we talked about how the retention area of your plug is the most-important spot to consider? That’s true, but if you don’t want to spend the entire time you play with your toy holding it into your body, you still need a retention area that’s smaller than the plug’s insertable length.

The Tantus Severin helps bridge some of that gap. It has an extra-wide retention area that’s going to help stretch out your sphincters, but the insertable length is still wider than the retention area. This helps keep the plug inside of the body on its own.

The Severin’s multiple waved/ridged increases in diameter help make it easier to insert with natural “rest points” for your muscles as you slide it in.

Tantus makes the Severin in both a Medium and Large.

The Severin won’t be a particularly functional plug for walking around, jumping, or heading out on the town, but it will likely be solid enough to stay inside of the body, hands-free, while simply sitting or laying around.

Tantus also makes the design in a Soft silicone density. These will be easier to insert, but will not provide as much rigidity/resistance against the sphincter muscles. Their softness can make them much more pleasurable-feeling when they’re inside though.

Prostate-Focused Stretching: Nexus REVO Extreme

The Nexus REVO Extreme isn’t actively a “stretching” toy, but due to its large diameter, it works to stretch out the sphincters while simultaneously pleasuring the fuck out of the prostate. It’s a win-win! With a diameter of 2.13″, it’s a big toy, though, with virtually no taper, so make sure you’re comfortable with a toy of that diameter before picking it up.

(If you aren’t stretching into the large diameters, that’s fine too. ANY of the Nexus REVO line will provide similar movements, and there are quite a few in smaller diameters.)

This massager is going to work best if you don’t plan on moving. As long as you’re in a comfortable position while seated or lying, it manages to stay within the body hands-free.

It does have a physical remote to control the vibrations and rotating head. We’ve used it for public play a few times, but the remote’s capabilities (and the sheer size of the toy) are definitely designed for bedroom use.

You can pop into my Nexus REVO Extreme review if you’d like. (This one made it onto the list of sex toys we wouldn’t live without, though.)

Updated: March 2026, December 2025.

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Are you someone who loves form and structure? Do you love an easy excuse for kinky fun? Are you turned on by the idea of slowly modifying your partner’s habits, behaviors, and skills? A BDSM training plan might be exactly what you’re after.

A BDSM training plan is exactly what it sounds like. In it, the dominant creates a plan, complete with a schedule, to slowly train a submissive to adopt new behaviors or new skills. The idea is relatively straight-forward, but you’ll find that really specializing your plan can have much better results. (It’s less sexy, but a lot of business project best practices can make sure we actually achieve our goals instead of just thinking with our metaphorical dicks.)

Today’s article is written by a lifestyle femdom, for lifestyle femdoms to read. However, if you’re a submissive or a professional, you can still use this advice to train yourself or your clients.

BDSM Training Plan Examples

The BDSM Training Plan will vary by your needs, your submissive’s needs, and your desires for your dynamic.

Especially in femdom relationships, some common examples might include:

I want my submissive to….

• learn to give pedicures.
• be able to walk well in heels.
• be able to take my strap-on dildo easily and on-command anytime I want.
• be locked into a chastity cage for weeks on end.
• to follow my demands for orgasm control and use self-control to avoid touching themselves.
• orgasm on demand when I count down from 10.
• be able to last longer during intercourse.
• ejaculate faster (even prematurely) for my entertainment.
• be turned on by the sight, smell, and use of condoms.
• learn to make my favorite cocktails.
• have a higher pain tolerance for spanking.
• be comfortable and more proficient at talking dirty.

But really, the world’s your oyster! If you can imagine it, you can make a BDSM training plan for it!

Let’s hop right in and learn how to build your own BDSM training plan. First…

Really Flush Out Your BDSM Training Plan Goal

You’re going to struggle with crafting a full plan if you don’t actually know what you’re trying to achieve.

And this one can be more insidious than you’d think.

Let’s say you want to train a submissive to give a good blowjob. But…what does a good blowjob entail for you? If you’re a huge fan of deep throating, it might entail working on their gag reflex. Maybe what makes a “good blowjob” for you is actually the erotic visuals. Maybe you actually think a blowjob is hottest when they take the initiative instead of asking for one.

The training plan for the different facets of that would look different.

For example, if you wanted to improve their gag reflex, you’d likely spend time requiring them to go down on dildos, slowly making progress on decreasing their sensitivity over time.

If you wanted better initiation and visuals, though, your BDSM training plan might include scheduled blowjob days where your submissive is expected to dress hot and initiate a blowjob. It might even include sending your submissive to dirty talking classes to help build out those brain-zappingingly hot phrases you want to hear.

So before you get too deep in actually creating our BDSM training plan, let’s try to narrow down what we’re, exactly, trying to train for.

An easy thought exercise: If you were going to try to tell an AI BDSM chatbot exactly how you wanted them to describe or “perform” that action for you, what description would you give it? What aspects would be important enough that you would write them out to ensure the chatbot included them in its behavior?

If you find that the AI chatbot isn’t behaving or focusing on the aspects that you would find hot about their training, consider what isn’t quite landing for you, and adjust the prompt.

Brainstorm the Smaller Steps that Make Up the Bigger Goal

Now that you have an end goal, you’ll want to do exactly what I just did: figure out what smaller steps would improve the submissive’s performance at this larger “goal”.

Let’s say I want my submissive to walk in heels. Since we’re working on making our goal very specific, I specifically want my submissive to walk in stripper sandal heels I bought him at play parties.

With that discrete goal, I know that training him in tiny kitten heels wouldn’t achieve my fantasies. Since I know I want him to wear these at play parties, I also need to get him comfortable with changing flooring types, low lighting, and lots of obstacles and potential things on the ground. Since we’re at play parties, he might also be carrying my heavy bags or other kink gear.

With that in mind, my “mini” kinky training goals might look like:

• Be able to walk our entire house, from bathroom tile to hardwood floor to living room carpet, in the heels for at least 30 minutes.
• Be able to comfortably step over obstacles on the floor – including in low lighting.
• Be able to walk the aforementioned house while carrying a heavy bag of gear on one side of his body.
• Be able to stand, stationary, in the heels for at least an hour (as we often stand still while talking to friends we know at parties or hotel takeovers).
• (Bonus) Be able to perform these skills with grace and fluidity, looking comfortable in the pair of heels that he’s wearing.

Schedule Out Realistic Deadlines

If you’re anything like me, you’re busy. You probably have a day job, a daily shower, and have to keep your house looking somewhat respectable. And that’s before you even include any kids or other dependents.

Even though this kinky training is supposed to be “fun”, it can be easy to overdo it and overschedule yourselves. Especially when you’re turned on, the idea of having to do your training, every day at 5PM, can sound deliciously demanding.

Reality is rarely as kind to our fantasies, though, and I want you to plan that way from the get-go. Realistically, as soon as you start missing 4 or 5 days of that 5PM training, you’re going to find that the entire training session stops being a priority, and you just don’t worry about it going forward. After you’ve had that happen with 3 or 4 training plan attempts, you might even just write off kinky training entirely out of frustration. And that’s no fun.

Instead, try to plan for a schedule that works well with you (and your submissive’s) lifestyles.

Some tips for trying to fit BDSM training plans into a busy schedule without making it stressful:

• Allow for a flexible period of time when you expect the training to be done. For example, expect a training session once a week or once a month instead of “4PM on Tuesday”. This gives everybody more flexibility in making it happen.
• Attach the training onto another activity that only happens when the submissive has extra time. For example, if the submissive only sits at a coffeeshop for coffee when they have a night off, you might also say they need to wear their plug to the coffeeshop to work on their anal training goals.
• Specifically “give up” something optional that’s in your schedule to make time or energy for the training. Gym nights might be every Monday, but you might give up some time at the gym once a month to have more time and energy to make some kinky fun happen.
• Make something in your busy schedule more efficient. If you usually go out to dinner for date nights, have someone grab take-out on the way home, saving you an hour’s worth of time that you can devote to kinky training instead. If you’re worried about food warmth, choose refrigerated foods (sushi, sub sandwiches, salads, etc.) for eating after the training is over. (This can be a good excuse to get healthier take-out for an evening too!)
• Devote specific weekends to the training. It can be hard to make time during the work week. If that’s stressful and you’re willing to make “slower” progress, consider simply devoting a weekend, once a month, to more focused, kinky fun and training. This might look like some play first thing in the morning before you leave the bedroom or specifically coming back home after dropping the kids off at a friend’s instead of staying to socialize like you normally would.

Remember: all of this BDSM stuff is supposed to be fun. Give yourself a little grace. Give yourself extra time. If something big comes up, prioritize your kink…but within reason. The whole point of doing this is an improved (but optional) sex skill. It shouldn’t be a large point of stress or contention.

Provide Rewards for Continuing with your BDSM Training Plan

Some of the fun of a BDSM training plan is the constant back-and-forth you get to have in your dynamic. The dominant makes a goal, and the dominant supervises and plans to make sure the submissive is training to “meet” that goal. As the submissive does the training, the dominant provides positive feedback and encouragement, making it enjoyable to undertake what is (essentially) extra work.

Make sure you’re rewarding your submissive as they make positive strides in their training. The “exact” reward will vary based on your own dynamics and what everyone finds important.

For example:

• Keep a calendar, and color-in any weeks/months/time periods where the training was completed.
• Provide verbal feedback, giving compliments about improved skills as the submissive works on them.
• Attach the training to another enjoyable thing the submissive does – like only allowing them a few scoops of ice cream on the days where they’ve completed their training.
• Keep a “chore calendar”, allowing the submissive to earn points that can be redeemed for prizes of your choosing. This can work great, especially if the submissive has a Little streak.
• Doing part of their training alongside some of their favorite kinks. For example, if your submissive loves being pegged and you want to see them get better at giving pedicures, you might occasionally wear a strap-on dildo and harness and allow them to ride your strap-on while their pedicure paint job is drying.

Feel free to mix it up, keeping the “rewards” for undertaking your BDSM training plan fresh for constant motivation. Everybody likes to feel accomplished.

Updated: March 2026, February 2026.

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You’re looking for the holy grail of strap-on sex: today, you want to learn how to cum from pegging p-spot play.

If you’re like most people who happen upon this article, you’re probably specifically looking for hands-free prostate orgasms. Luckily, whether you’re with a lover or with a professional eros escorts, the process is the same.

I will caution you, though: hands-free orgasms (for anyone, of any gender!) are difficult. There’s a reason that a lot of vulva-owning people don’t orgasm during intercourse alone; they require additional external stimulation to make orgasm happen! The same can be said for a lot of people looking to learn how to cum from pegging; you may simply require a bit of extra penile stimulation to make that orgasm happen.

That being said, there are some things you can do to increase your chances of having a prostate orgasm from strap-on sex.

If your strap-on wearer is on board (you did talk to them about this, right?), here are some of my best recommendations if you’re trying to learn how to cum from pegging p-spot play:

(Author’s Note: This article is specifically written for prostate-owning bottoms who are looking to receive strap-on sex from their partner. If that doesn’t describe you, please take whatever advice is helpful here and apply it to your own configurations!)

Enjoy Some Denial Ahead of Time

If you’re not into orgasm denial, this one is probably going to be a bit of a rough one, but it’s so much easier to have prostate orgasms when you aren’t fresh off an orgasm. Pent up arousal makes it easier to hit the p-spot and heightens sensations, making everything feel more sensitive and pleasurable.

You know this. There’s a reason that the most-recommended advice for lasting longer during sex is to orgasm regularly beforehand. Sensations feel less intense when you’ve recently had release.

We can use this advice to our advantage with prostate pleasure, too, though. By not having an orgasm, you’re making all of the bits more sensitive and easier to stimulate. You’re reducing that orgasmic threshold, making it easier to tip yourself over the edge with levels of stimulation that would not, necessarily, normally make you cum.

To do this, simply….don’t orgasm. That’s it.

I’d recommend at least a week, but 2-4 weeks is probably better if you’re really trying to make these how to cum from pegging tips most effective.

If you want to increase the effect here without the longer timespan, you can add in some edging sessions in those no-orgasm breaks. Simply masturbate to the edge of orgasm – but don’t actually orgasm. Do this as often as you’d like, ramping up your sex drive without ever actually letting it enjoy some relief.

Come into your pegging session with this ultra-sensitive state, making it more likely that the prostate play you do enjoy will tip you over the edge.

How to Cum from Pegging: Know Your Body

Can you verbalize where your prostate is? Do you know what angles hit it best? Do you know what toys or toy shapes tend to do best?

If not, you can’t really expect a pegging partner – who can’t what you feel or even the dildo they’re sliding inside of you – to magically create orgasms from thin air.

Having internal orgasms (g-spot or p-spot) requires knowing what those internal spots require for orgasm. This is doubly important when you’re asking someone else to hit all of those spots for you. This is triple-y important when you’re asking someone else to hit all of those spots and somehow do it with a toy they can’t see nor feel.

Knowing where your own prostate is (and how you need to pleasure it to get those p-spot orgasms) will allow you to communicate with your top during pegging to get the best chances of a prostate orgasm during pegging. Things like:

• “Can you please go a bit faster, Ma’am?”
• “Oh, a little deeper please!”
• “Get the dildo to go a little more towards my belly button if you can.”

Are absolute gold to your top.

Most tops want to see you deep in the throes of pleasure. This is a whole lot of physical exertion (with minimal physical benefit to the strap-on harness wearer), so you’re doing yourself a huge favor by having this info ahead of time. Not only does it give the top what they want to see, but it also makes it easier to give it to you, making it more likely they’ll want to do more pegging in the future.

If that info is still a mystery to you, consider playing with prostate toys and anal dildos until you figure out what configurations feel best for you.

How to Cum from Pegging: Get Creative with Positions

Just like your g-spot owning counterparts, you’re going to quickly realize that not all sex positions are created equal. Some positions will hit your prostate better than others.

READ: Best Pegging Sex Positions for Beginners

Think about where your prostate is and visualize how the dildo will travel in any given sex position. Will it be at the right angel?

In general:

• It’s easier to hit the prostate if the receiver’s knees are pulled up towards their shoulders in a Happy Baby-esque position.
• A posterior tilt of the hips (think of tilting your hips so that you’re trying to touch your penis to your head) makes it easier to hit the p-spot.
• Your sex position needs to be easy enough that your giving partner can maintain it and provide the sensations you need for long periods of time. If you find a level 100 sex position that hits your prostate perfectly, it won’t matter if your partner can only sustain it for 30 seconds.

The exact sex positions that are going to make it easy to learn how to cum from pegging are going to be very individual to you and your partner. In general, partner-on-top positions or missionary positions where the receiver is folded in half are going to provide p-spot pleasure for most people. Whether or not those are comfortable positions for you and your partner is very unique to the two of you though.

Especially if there’s a large height or weight difference between you and your partner, you might be more limited in “traditional” sex positions than you might be with vaginal sex. That doesn’t have to mean the end of your fun, though! Continue to experiment – and preferably check out some of my favorite pegging positions that I’ve found great for couples of discordant heights and sizes.

How to Cum from Pegging: Experiment with the Dildo

Strap-on sex has one very awesome benefit: the penis is interchangeable. When playing with a biological penis, the penis you have is, well, the penis you have. With pegging, that’s not the case. You can swap out dildos at any point.

Use that to your advantage!

Not all dildos are built the same. Some dildos may slide into your prostate with pinpoint accuracy and others may do nothing for your p-spot.

Dildos with a nice curve near the tip, when worn to point that curve towards your belly button, are going to be some of your best chances at hitting the prostate. How deep that curve needs to be is individual to your own body. Your prostate might be shallower or deeper.

Partner your dildo swapping with some of the other tips on this page for the most effective plan. If you know that Dildo A feels amazing when handheld when you’re laying in the fetal position, it might be a perfect fit for Spooning sex positions. If you know that Dildo B only feels great when you’re standing up and leaning over a table, it might be great for that standing sex position.

Take “Control” During Strap-On Sex

Yeah, yeah, I know that the appeal of pegging for a lot of bottoms is that they get to be the “receptive” partner and enjoy simply receiving sensations.

But, not to harp on the same subject, but your strap-on wearer has zero sensation in their strap-on dildo. They don’t know if it’s hitting your thigh, inside of your body, or hitting your prostate. They also don’t know what feels best inside of your bum like you do. You can make on-the-fly adjustments to help everything feel more explosive in a way that someone who isn’t you just can’t.

There’s a reason that Cowgirl/Partner on Top positions are the most-recommended positions for g-spot owners to have g-spot orgasms. Turns out, if you can simply wiggle and adjust your body on-the-fly during penetration, you’re more likely to have an orgasm from slamming into that innermost spot! You control the depth, speed, angle, tilt of your hips, and everything to make it all fall into place.

If you’re trying to learn how to cum from pegging, take some time during your next pegging session to be the person who does the movement. You can make this happen in most sex positions – even Missionary. Explore different angles, speeds, and depths to see what best hits your prostate in that position. Since you’re in control, you can swap things up in seconds.

Since most prostate orgasms only happen after building the same sensation, over and over and over, this lets you build that orgasm in a way that can be very hard to get if your strap-on harness wearer is controlling all of the action. If the dildo slips into the wrong angle on a thrust, you can do all of the course correction yourself and continue that ascent to orgasm.

Even better, if you’re in a femdom or power exchange relationship, you can frame this as an act of service. Something like “May I do the work for you, ma’am?” can be hot AF for your top while still keeping you both within the power exchange headspace you’re going for.

If you need other ways to frame it that help it fit into the submissive vibe you’re going for, here are some statements that might help:

• “Lay back and enjoy, ma’am, as I pleasure myself on you.”
• “Please let me use your cock to get off. I love feeling you inside of me!”
• “I’m so horny for you, Mistress.”
• “Let me show you my devotion through my body. I want to show you how much I appreciate you letting me have your cock!”

Train Your Body with Your Penis

You’ve been having orgasms from your penis for, what, 5, 10, 30 years?

And you just expect to stop touching your penis and the orgasms will still happen?

When you put it like that, it seems awfully unrealistic to assume that something slid up your butt will magically make the orgasms happen – and that’s true! Even if the sensations are out-of-this-world, your body has simply learned to take its orgasmic cues from touching your shaft. You may not even realize how ingrained it is.

You may need to “train” your body to accept your bum as an orgasm creator.

Luckily, the “training” for this is not exactly a hardship.

Next time you’re doing anything anal-related, pair the anal pleasure with strokes on your penis. Masturbate (or peg) like usual up until the point of orgasm.

Once you’re there, I want you to cease all penis stimulation, allowing the anal sensations to be what tumbles you over the edge.

This is going to feel like an “incomplete” orgasm (or ruined orgasms, for the kinky among you). P-spot orgasms do not feel like penile orgasms, and if your body is expecting a penile one, this might feel like a large let-down.

Don’t let that dissuade you. Orgasms are a renewable resource, and you can always have penile-only ones later.

Continue to do this practice. Each time you get closer to orgasm, try to cease penile stimulation a little bit earlier.

For example, the first time you do this, you might stop stroking your penis for two strokes before you have an orgasm. The next couple of times, you might try to stop stroking your penis for three strokes. On and on and on.

This helps retrain your body to recognize anal stimulation as a potential orgasmic trigger.

Down the line, you might find that you really love the anal sensations as they are, and you just pepper in a penile stroke or two, as desired, while trying to chase most of your orgasmic build-up from the anal play.

Finally, Give Up on the “Sex with Harness” Idea

The act of pegging can be hot AF. Feeling your partner’s bodyweight behind you as they push into you can feel absolutely amazing and ridiculously intimate. But it also is, literally, your partner pushing into you, over and over, with all of their body weight and subsequently getting very minimal physical stimulation for themselves.

All of this means that the best way to learn how to cum from pegging might be, y’know, to not be pegging.

Pegging is physically demanding, and the fact that human bodies are so large limits how fast and deep penetration can go. There’s a stopping point where your strap-on wearer will be unable to continue and/or unable to get the depth or speed you want. Your strap-on wearer may also be unable to tilt or angle the dildo where you want it to go without it falling out.

Those limitations are really nicely removed if you’re hand-holding a dildo. A single hand can move a lot faster than a whole body. As the dildo holder will now have eyesight on the dildo, they can also get much more creative with more extreme angles that can really target the prostate.

(You can reduce some of that physical exertion by using a thigh strap-on harness, but it doesn’t eliminate the other issues.)

If orgasm from pegging is high on your bucket list, I highly, highly recommend enjoying your pegging as you normally do – and then swapping over to having the strap-on wearer use their hands to use a dildo on you. Not only does this give them a break from all of the physical exertion, but it’s much, much, much more likely to result in prostate orgasms.

If you need another great reason: this helps teach the strap-on harness wearer what you like. As they see and control what angles you need with their own eyes, they’ll better be able to make on-the-fly decisions during strap-on sex to help hit those spots.

Update: July 2025, May 2025.

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Innovation in action, the Luxus couple’s vibrator set is designed to seamlessly sync vibrations with the natural rhythm of your movements. How well does it do that? Well, let me explain everything you’ll want to know about this new couple’s vibrator brand in this Luxus review.

The Luxus set includes two separate toys: the LuxHer and LuxHim. Together, sensors within both toys synchronize the vibrations in the LuxHer clitoral vibrator to the movements made by the LuxHim ring.

Luxus Review: How Is It Different?

The Luxus is billed as a couple’s vibrator, designed to offer “pleasure in perfect sync” better than other couple’s vibrators.

It does this via its unique magnetic vibration system.

The pink LuxHer vibrator (which provides clitoral pleasure) has a motor that can respond to a magnet’s presence. The blue LuxHim cock ring (which wraps around the shaft but has no moving/vibrating function) is equipped with a strong magnet.

As the magnet from the LuxHim cock ring gets closer to the LuxHer vibrator, the LuxHer vibrator can vibrate with different functions. Essentially, the two of them have distance-sensing technology, allowing the vibrator to respond to the presence of your lover’s shaft versus your hand needing to control things via a physical remote or app.

A quick showcase of that magnetism:

The Luxus set uses this distance-sensing functionality as the basis for most of its modes.

“Distance Mode” will offer stronger vibrations the closer the two toys get to one another while the vibrations get softer (or turn off) if the two toys are spread apart. The intensity range is customizable. You can set Distance Mode to:

• Provide intermittent vibrations from off to 60% based on distance
• Provide intermittent vibrations from off to 100% based on distance
• Provide continuous vibrations from 15% to 60% based on distance
• Provide continous vibrations from 30% to 100% based on distance
• Provide pulsing (dot-dot-dot-dot-dot patterned) vibrations that activate only when the toys are in close proximity

The “Distance Mode” is definitely the largest selling point of the Luxus set.

“Speed Mode” (which I have yet to get to work) is supposed to increase the vibration intensity based on how quickly the two items are moving towards – and away – from one another.

When you don’t want to deal with fancy distance functions, Luxus has “Single User Mode”. This is two different, continuous vibration modes. One provides constant vibrations at 33%, and the other provides constant vibrations at full power (100%). This, essentially, just turns the LuxHer into a standard, non-smart vibrator. It just vibrates with the button press.

The Luxus is also equipped with “Bluetooth Mode” that allows the vibrator to be used with the free cell phone app, providing wireless control over the toy’s functionality.

For Heterosexual Intercourse

Luxus doesn’t pretend otherwise: the Luxus set is designed for heterosexual couples who identify as male and female. All of the instructions and marketing information are very clear about the “man” and “woman” using the LuxHim and LuxHer.

The set could be used by two clitoris-owning people, but you’d still probably want to wrap the LuxHim ring around something for penetration. The ring technically stretches enough for me to wrap it around my wrist, but the distances don’t quite match up. While trialing it for this Luxus review, I was only able to experience the lightest vibration setting (and only very rarely) while he was using his fingers for penetration. The wrist is just decently far away from the clitoral vibrator when you’ve got the entire palm separating the two.

Now if you’re regularly fisting, that may be a different experience. The cock ring and vibrator would be in much closer contact when wrapped around the wrist like a bracelet.

For those who are looking to put a penis into a butt, I’m not sure if the Luxus is the right set either. The LuxHer can technically be placed anywhere externally, but you’re not likely to get much use out of the vibrator on the anal entrance. For two-penis couples, the LuxHer could technically be wrapped around the tip of the receiver’s shaft for vibration pleasure during intercourse, but the Distance functionality would be useless; the receiver’s bum is simply too far from where the receiver’s penis is.

The functionality of the Luxus has a set audience, and the company focused on it. I would have loved to see less gendered language (i.e. not every couple with a penis and vagina identifies as cisgendered), but it’s definitely designed for penis-in-vagina intercourse.

Luxus Review: Wearing the LuxHer

The LuxHim ring is pretty simple. It just wraps around the base of the shaft.

The LuxHer, however, offers multiple ways to help keep it in place.

Your initial Luxus toy purchase already comes with a few of them. The Luxus base box includes:

• LuxHer
• LuxHim
• 2 Adhesive Stickers
• 1 Finger Grip
• Charger
• White Drawstring Storage Pouch

This automatically gives you two different ways to keep the LuxHer in place: a finger grip and adhesive stickers.

The Finger Grip is a silicone “handle” with an attached loop. That silicone loop fits snugly over the LuxHer vibrator, and it keeps the vibrator within the handle’s grip. Throughout the entirety of my Luxus review, I have not had it slide out while using it. The gripping band of the Finger Grip is also strategically placed away from the strongest vibration point, so it doesn’t disrupt much of the vibration intensity either. When the LuxHer is in this, the Finger Grip handle slips between two fingers, making it so you don’t have to “grasp” the small toy between the pads of your fingers.

The 2 Adhesive Stickers are just that: stickers that match the shape and size of the LuxHer and allow the vibrator to “stick” onto your body. The underside of the LuxHer vibrator has four little empty holes. There are four stick-out “posts” built into the Adhesive Sticker. You push the vibrator firmly onto the Adhesive Sticker, and it snaps into these “posts”, attaching the vibrator temporarily to the Adhesive Sticker.

Once you’ve done that, you unpeel the Adhesive Sticker’s backside, and it allows the vibrator to “stick” to any area of skin.

According to Luxus, each one of these Adhesive Stickers is reusable for 5 to 15 uses. They sell additional 5-pack sets if that’s your preferred way to use the LuxHer hands-free.

The Adhesive Stickers stuck just fine to my laser-hair-removal’d skin with a few notes:

• Depending on how long sex lasts, peeling them up afterwards can feel about as pleasant as you imagine peeling a sticker off your skin would be. If sex goes awhile (and you both get sweaty), it peels up easier.
• It peels up easier the longer you’ve restuck the same adhesive. The first use hurt quite a bit. The sixth time wasn’t that bad.
• I haven’t gotten a single Adhesive past 8 uses. I’ve been using the adhesive on dry, clean skin, usually a few hours after my last shower without any lotion, shaving cream, or pubic hair in the area.
• The Adhesive Stickers adhere to your Mons Pubis – NOT the actual clitoris. It does not stick to the clitoris, but instead, right above.
• It’s a bit of a time to figure out the right placement. Follow the instructions, and fasten the vibrator onto the sticker before use. From there, get the tip of the vibrator in place, nestling the vibe where you want it before rolling the rest of the sticker onto your skin.
• Even with plushy (fat, to be honest) outer labia and mons pubis, the sticker still held fine.
• If you have plushness or fat around the area, the vibrator’s 0.6″ protrusion may not directly hit the clit when passively held with the sticker. Essentially, the vibrator is just resting on top of the squishy fat pad of your mons pubis. If your mons pubis area is decently far from where you like clitoral pressure, this can make it difficult for the toy to make contact. The pressure I talk about below (with my partner’s weight) during intercourse helped it make better contact.
• Make sure to keep the original plastic backing for the sticker. This protects the adhesive in-between uses. You’ll want to put it back onto the sticker when you’re done.

The Adhesive Stickers do not work with pubic hair. That means, out of the box, if you have pubic hair, you’ll need to handhold the LuxHer or use the Finger Grip attachment. Otherwise, (as we’re about to cover), you can use the strap-it-on harness.

If you want other options, Luxus also sells a strappy Luxus harness that, essentially, uses straps to strap the vibrator onto the body. (It reminds me of the old wearable Butterfly Vibrators.)

Luxus Harness Review

I really, really love the idea of hands-free pleasure during intercourse. Judging by the industry and people’s demands so does everyone else.

That’s why I really love the optional LuxUS Harness you can pick up. Luxus was kind enough to send me one alongside the toy for this Luxus review. This simple harness provides a silicone holster for the LuxHer vibrator, allowing you to strap the vibrator around your hips (and onto the clitoris) for hands-free pleasure. No one needs to hold the LuxHer in place; the harness does it for you.

Essentially, the Luxus Harness is made up of two parts: a silicone holster and rubbery/silicone-feeling straps. There are two straps that wrap around the hips, similar to a crotchless jockstrap. Each one of these straps is adjustable via a slideable strap that folds over excess strap (like a bra strap adjuster).

Making it easier to get on and off, as you can see in the photos, the Luxus Harness straps each feature a small slide-in hook onto the main silicone holster. This offers a lot more accessibility, allowing you to wrap the straps around the thighs if stepping into the harness isn’t an option.

Technically, I think it “could” allow you to put the Luxus harness around the body when you’re already lying down, but I haven’t had any success getting that done. The straps never get under my booty like they need to without doing a glute bridge to move the straps underneath the bum cheeks, reducing some of the ease of just “clip it around the legs and go”.

The LuxHer vibrator pops really easily into this silicone holster. It’s more of a pain to get out of the holster once it’s in, but I prefer that over the alternative where it flops out of the holster mid-use. Instead, it pops in pretty easily, and with the silicone holster’s edges sealed around the vibe, it stays in place really nicely too.

As noted, getting it out is a bit more of a pain – especially if you have lots of lube on the holster area. I’d recommend bringing the full harness and LuxHer to the sink, washing off all the lube, then using a fingernail to get under an edge of the holster. Once you can get that fingernail under to break the seal, the holster pops off the edges, allowing you to retrieve the LuxHer.

(As a note, because of the edges around the Luxus harness and the LuxHER vibrator, if you intend to keep your vibrator in this harness 24/7, you’ll still need to remove the vibrator for sex toy cleaning. This seam is much too large and allows too much bodily fluids to get underneath it to just leave the LuxHER in it 24/7 without cleaning.)

The Luxus harness is my favorite option, out of all of them, for holding the LuxHer vibrator. This is for a few big reasons:

• It’s hands-free.
• It provides pressure.

That’s it.

The Adhesive stickers are also hands-free, but they passively stick onto the skin. With my plushier/fat in the area, this doesn’t necessarily get me the pressure I need from the vibrator.

The Finger Grip allows me to hold onto the LuxHer, but that’s not hands-free.

The Luxus Harness is the best of both worlds. I can tighten it as tightly as I need to really “shove” the LuxHer vibrator in-between my labia as best as possible. This pressure really helps the vibrations get where they need to go.

It requires putting on the harness to a tightness, where, with my squishy body, the straps are definitely digging in. But, it’s also getting the LuxHer in a spot where I can orgasm from it, so it’s a nice trade-off.

The Luxus harness is also the most resistant to micro movements, so if we’re doing something rough (or the LuxHim magnet keeps tugging at the LuxHer vibe), it seems to keep the vibe in place better than the alternatives.

Luxus Review: The Distance Mode Works!

At its core, the Luxus is really designed to showcase this hands-free, vibrating-by-distance functionality. At this price point, you should be picking it up for its unique distance-focused functionality. If you just want a standard couple’s vibrator or clitoral vibrator, you can get a pretty solid one at a fraction of the price.

So for this Luxus review, we’re really going to focus on the unique function that the Luxus offers. That is, as the LuxHim cock ring gets near the LuxHer, the LuxHer responds with vibrations. Ideally, using the accessories, Luxus wants LuxHer to be hands-free, providing constant stimulation to the clitoris-owner during intercourse in a way that other vibrators can’t do.

And the Distance Mode does that pretty darn well.

As the LuxHim cock ring gets closer to the LuxHer, the LuxHer responds with vibrations. When you’re moving the two towards one another at the ideal angle, it responds flawlessly, seemingly perfectly reading the distance and responding virtually instantly with a change in vibrations with the LuxHer.

That being said, it’s important to note that bolded function: “When you’re moving the two towards each other at the ideal angle”.

As you use the LuxHer, it’s very, very clear that the LuxHer has its magnetic sensor built into a very specific spot. It’s about an inch below the single button, at the curved “clitoral tip”, but not directly on top of the clitoral tip.

If the LuxHim taps the top of the vibe, near the single press button, nothing. The LuxHer will not respond. If the LuxHim taps at the clitoral tip, again, nothing. The LuxHim needs to make its proximity contact in this specific range for the vibrations of the LuxHer to respond.

This isn’t, necessarily, the end of the world, but it does limit some of your sex positions and/or require some forethought on your end. Since the LuxHim ring can be worn any direction on a penis shaft, you can occasionally just twist the ring around to best match the sex position to help hit that proximity.

So, something like Missionary tends to line up without a second thought. The LuxHer will be in the 12 o’clock position, and the LuxHim will probably, by default, be worn in the 12 o’clock position. Since the penis-owner is on top and the vagina owner is probably lying on their back on a bed, the penis will be coming in from a top-down angle, placing the LuxHer and LuxHim in close proximity with every thrust.

That isn’t the case with all positions. Take Doggy. If the LuxHer is attached to the receiver’s clitoris, it’s in the front/underside of the wearer’s body. If the penis owner is wearing the LuxHim in a 12 o’clock position, they will not get anywhere near one another, meaning the Distance Mode will not activate. The penis owner will need to wear the LuxHim in the 6 o’clock position to attempt to get the two items close enough.

For another scenario, let’s say everybody is still in this Doggy position. Only, in an effort to bang into the g-spot, the penis owner is taking a top-down approach, squatting in something that looks like the Bulldog. In this case, the LuxHer and LuxHim will be too far apart – even if the penis-owner wears it in a 6 o’clock position, for the toys to make contact enough to control the vibrations.

Luxus Review: Hard Measurements for Distance Mode

These are hard measurements to help you determine if the LuxUs Distance Mode is a good fit for your favorite sex positions.

(I literally measured the two as they came close to one another on top of a measuring tape on my desk.)

The Distance Mode will not kick in until the LuxHer and LuxHim are 4.5 centimeters apart. At 5.5 centimeters, they do not recognize one another.

This is REALLY close together.

The strongest vibrations are enabled at the 1.5 centimeter mark, and they do not get any stronger if the toy goes any closer.

If your sex position doesn’t get the LuxHer and LuxHim at least this close together, the Distance functionality (which is probably what you paid for) will not work.

And keep in mind (and this is part of the sex position selection struggle):

It’s 4.5 centimeters from a very specific spot on the LuxHer vibrator. It’s not 4.5 centimeters from the clitoral tip that’s on your clit.

It’s also very important to note that, if the two toys actually touch one another, they will magnetize onto one another. Anything within a 0.25″-ish distance range makes the magnets pull hard at one another, and it’s extremely surprising when it happens. With your whole body weight behind the LuxHim, we’ve never had an issue with the ring, but we have found the LuxHer to slightly wiggle itself away from its initial placement if we make too much direct contact between the two sex toys.

Speed Mode on the LuxUs Sex Toy

I have yet to get any part of the Speed Mode to work. The LuxHer just sits and occasionally vibrates apropos of nothing every time I try the Speed Mode. I’m not sure if the Speed Mode is just that unsensitive, we’re terrible at moving during sex (this seems unlikely), or what.

Luxus Review: Working with Sex Positions

I can orgasm with the LuxHer during intercourse. It requires multiple factors to all come together to make it happen, but it’s possible.

First, the vibrations are not strong enough or rumbly enough for me to orgasm via a light placement on my clitoris alone. When we’ve just tried to gently let it rest on my clit (via the Adhesive) during this Luxus review trial period, the vibrations end up temporarily numbing me before I orgasm.

The magic, however, happens if we pick a sex position where everything is aligned AND we have some body weight pressed down onto the LuxHer on occasion. The vibrations, plus the pressure of it rubbing against my clit, has been orgasmic (and hands-free, yay!) on multiple occasions. This can be challenging because of the magnetic connection between the LuxHer and LuxHim. Too much magnet drag onto the LuxHer may dislodge it from the happy place, making the orgasms difficult again. Using the Luxus harness, fitted very snugly, helps a lot.

When we get that magic to happen, everything feels perfect in the world. The vibrations time up with his thrusts, ensuring I’m constantly riding new waves of vibration without overstimulating. When he’s all the way in, and the LuxHer’s pressure really pushes it into my clit, it adds even more intensity to it, and the whole thing can drag me to very awesome hands-free orgasms that I’ve (honestly) never had with another couple’s vibrator. Like…ever.

When everything aligns, the Luxus genuinely feels like it has “unlocked” what an intercourse-focused sex toy was supposed to be during sex. We go about enjoying sex like we normally would, only with added pleasure that fluidly matches the cadence of sex, rolling into our bodies without any extra effort on our parts.

That being said, as we’ve been working on this Luxus review, we’ve had as many misses as we have “hits”. Some sex positions just simply don’t line up between the LuxHer and LuxHim. They just don’t get close enough to make Distance Mode work.

This is even more frustrating when the sex position did, initially, work with Distance Mode. We’ll be having a grand ol’ time, and he’ll readjust his arms to rest his weight in a new spot or to get some pressure off his knee, and it’ll be enough readjustment that the two toys won’t be in good alignment anymore. We need to pause what we’re doing, “recalibrate” how to get the two toys to make close contact, before continuing again.

Standard-ass Missionary works pretty flawlessly. If that’s your sex position of choice, Distance Mode will probably work as seamlessly as it’s advertised. If you’re a CAT (Coital Alignment Technique), we haven’t been able to get that one to align well enough for Distance Mode to work. The LuxHim seems to hit too high up on the LuxHer, missing that magnetic spot.

Doggy style is hit-or-miss. If I get g-spot pleasure from the position, the vibrator tends to be too far from the LuxHim to work. That’s frustrating.

Cowgirl actually works pretty flawlessly, but I have a harder time getting the LuxHer vibrator to stay in place. We almost always have to utilize the harness (and readjust it a couple times) if doing Cowgirl. Gravity, and all of my body’s wiggling around, tends to dislodge the toy a bit more easily than other positions.

Spooning is mostly a miss. If he slides down the bed and comes in at more of an upward angle (I know this as the Spork position, but this Wrapped Spoon has a bit of the vibe), we’ve managed to get Distance Mode to work. If his penis is traveling more in the “Traditional” Spoon at a 90-degree angle to my vagina, we haven’t gotten them close enough.

(You’ll see a pattern here. A lot of “from behind” positions don’t put the base of the shaft close enough to the clitoris to get the LuxHer to activate with Distance Mode.)

Solo Pleasure from the LuxHer

I can also use the LuxHer as a standard clitoral vibrator. To be honest, in a house full of sex toys, I just simply wouldn’t. I have other clitoral vibrators that do the basic “vibrate on clit” better than the LuxHer.

It isn’t necessarily the LuxHer’s fault. It’s a relatively small vibe, and it has to stay small in order to be used hands-free and stick comfortably onto the clitoral area.

However, using the LuxHer as its own, standalone clitoral vibrator is a value added proposition. You already have the Luxus set, so if you need/want to use it as a clitoral vibrator, it will work.

When purely hand-holding the LuxHer and using it clitorally, I can orgasm from it. I usually need around the 80% power mark, and it works best if I haven’t had an orgasm in a bit and I’m feeling sensitive. I also am someone who needs pressure, so I’ll find that I “push” the LuxHer into my body as I’m using it. Wiggling it back and forth, using the curved tip of the vibe as if it were a finger, stroking back and forth, also helps a lot.

If I’m struggling to orgasm for whatever reason (alcohol, I’ve been using the LuxHer too long, came earlier that day, etc.), the LuxHer does not have enough power to get me to orgasm.

I’ll admit, though, again, getting through all of the functions on the LuxHer to actually get just to steady clitoral vibrations is aggravatingly difficult. Even after I do all of that, I only get two speeds with the built-in settings. I either get 33% of power, or, if that’s not enough, I get 100%, full-send. There’s no in-between built into the basic manual use of the LuxHer. (More about the manual control is below.)

(Extra sad: If you were at 100% and find you’re not cumming and you want to go back to the 33% intensity, you have to rescroll through the entirety of the toy’s functions again. That’s 9 button presses. You’re almost there when you see the Purple light.)

This means, if I want to use any steady vibration setting that isn’t 33% or 100%, I have to use the app with the LuxHer. The app allows you to drag and drop your finger to access any power range between 0% to 100% as needed. But now I need to handle a distracting phone and handle the vibrator at the same time.

The LuxHer just really wasn’t built for manual, solo, clitoral-vibrator-only use. It’s pretty clear in the design choices that were made. However, it gets easier to use if you pair it with the app, so again, if you’re someone who wants to get as much versatility out of your sex toy as possible, it’s there.

The LuxHim Fit On His Shaft

It can be hard to tell from photos, but the LuxHim is literally just a silicone ring with a hefty magnet attached at the top.

The silicone is a thinner type of silicone, and it has a decent stretch. As noted above, I can get this on my wrist, but it’s VERY snug when I do so.

At rest, with zero stretch, the diameter of the internal ring is about 1.15″. It’ll stretch out to 2.5″ without too much issue, but it’s constricting for anything above a 1.5″ shaft diameter.

That can be a good thing. The LuxHim, essentially, provides the usual benefits of a snug cock ring: it can help increase endurance, make for a firmer erection, and make for more powerful ejaculations.

But it’s worth noting that it will likely be constricting on most. It isn’t just casually wrapped around there. It’s an intentionally snug fit designed to provide cock ring benefits while wearing it.

Application is definitely a two-handed affair. Silicone can “snap back” to its at-rest size pretty easily. Using both hands, stretch out the LuxHim to a wide circle, and then use those two hands to slowly move it into position where you want it on your shaft. When you have it in place, very gently release that pressure, allowing the cock ring to rest on your shaft.

I highly recommend a dab of lube on the shaft where you’re wearing it. It’ll make it easier (and less likely to pinch or grab hair!) to do the final spot adjustments when you have it where you want.

Minimal Pleasure for Him

Unlike many couple’s vibrators and vibrating cock rings, the Luxus set up provides virtually zero pleasure for the penis-owning partner. According to some of the marketing info on the Luxus website, this is by design, helping to even out the intensity between two partners.

That may actually be a good for you and your partner. At least with us (and the premature ejaculation training I’ve done with him), when we use vibrators to enhance “our” pleasure, it often gets him too close, too fast, making it hard for me to reap the benefits.

The Luxus doesn’t have that issue. The cock ring is just a cock ring. The wider “tip” of the cock ring simply makes space for the distance-sensing technology (a magnet) that lets the two toys communicate. It snugly squeezes the shaft, and provides some of the stamina-enhancing benefits of a snug cock ring, but it doesn’t provide extra stimulation for the penis owner.

If you and yours are finding that the penis-owning partner doesn’t need additional stimulation, the Luxus set focuses all of the pleasure on the clitoris.

Manually Controlling the Luxus

The Luxus vibrator is packed full of a ton of vibration functions. This is the first time that I’ve ever said a vibrator just has too many. The only saving grace is that the Luxus is equipped with an LED light right on the vibrator itself, and each one of the modes has its own color.

Just LOOK at this.

That’s 8 different button presses to get it to a full-speed vibration intensity, and if you accidentally double-press a button too quickly (i.e. you’re trying to scroll through really fast to get to the function you want), you can just activate pause/unpause mode, causing it to just sit there.

But if the vibrator is literally adhesived onto your clit, the wearer can’t see the LED light. This can make it really impossible to use manually for solo play – though if you’re using it with a partner, as designed, they can help you “see” with what mode you’re on.

It doesn’t help that the LED light only blinks for a second. If you miss the LED’s color, you’ll be unaware of what setting it’s now on.

But really, the manual control of the vibrator is overwhelming at best and frustrating at worst. When I’m not horny and just trying to get it all set up, it takes a bit to get it to anything aside from Bluetooth, Custom Mode, or Distance Mode (luckily, you’ll be using those the most). If I’m mid-play and trying to give up on Distance Mode and swap over to the continuous vibration modes because I can’t orgasm from Distance Mode, it takes quite a few button presses at a time where I’m already annoyed that it didn’t do the thing I wanted it to.

It’s too much. Unless I’m using the Luxus for Distance Mode, I’d probably access all other modes via Bluetooth instead. It really streamlines control. (But it’s also frustrating to go find a cell phone just to have sex.)

Luxus Review: Long-Distance and Cell Phone Control via the App

The Luxus, as part of the KIIROO network, also offers a free app to control the vibrator via cell phone.

This gives you more ways to use the vibrator, essentially, turning the LuxHer into a standard smart vibrator. It has the usual app-controlled functionalities, but you probably purchased the Luxus set for the unique distance functionality. Still, it lets the LuxHer function as a solo or long-distance play vibe, giving you another way to play.

The nicest feature of connecting the Luxus to an app is the “Custom Mode”.

This “Custom Mode” functionality essentially lets you add a favorite “mode” to the manual, button-only control of the Luxus.

Essentially, when using the manual buttons on the LuxHer, when you first turn the toy on, it will go into blue-light Bluetooth mode. The next button press will go into this Orange mode, which will be your Custom Mode when you set it up. This doesn’t eliminate the issue of way-too-many modes when I’m struggling to orgasm and want to easily go to a steady intensity at the bottom of the list of modes, but it does make it easier to shortcut into a type of pleasure that works for you. (Right after this Orange Custom Mode will come the Purple Distance Mode.)

Depending on how you like to use the toy, when setting up Custom Mode, you’ll either be routed towards choosing your favorite patterned vibration settings (for solo use) or able to customize the Speed Mode or Distance Mode to best fit your preferences.

Within the app, as a Custom Mode, I still can’t get Speed Mode to work at all.

Getting the Distance Mode set up as a Custom Mode, and setting the vibration intensity to what I wanted, was probably the best part of the app controlled functionality for me. It drastically makes manual control of the vibrator much, much more pleasurable.

(Fun fact: You don’t have to sign up for an account with the Feel Network KIIROO app in order to make this Custom Mode. All you have to do is download the app and pair the LuxHer. For this Luxus review, I already had the app from my KEON, but it’s really a very easy set up.)

Speaking of, pairing the LuxHer was easy as pie. Like all KIIROO experiences I’ve had with this app, it pairs flawlessly and in seconds as long as your Bluetooth is on. Zero frustration and the majority of the functionality on the app is available and ready to use without creating or logging into an account.

Like most app-controlled vibrators, pairing the LuxHer to the app also will allow you to:

• Control a steady vibration mode’s intensity, using a finger to drag and drop anywhere from 0 to 100 in intensity
• Create custom patterns ahead of time then letting the LuxHer follow those custom patterns during use
• (Uniquely KIIROO!) Watch a selection of porn while the LuxHer’s vibrations sync to the porn action on the video. There are a few “free” videos built into the app, but you have to subscribe to the FeelX website for a full range of options. (All free options were all heterosexual, very-straight, male gaze porn.)
• Make the LuxHer’s vibrations synchronize with ambient noise, providing vibrations that match the noise the cell phone is picking up. (Great if you have a speaker system playing music or listening to an erotic audiobook out of the speaker. This requires the cell phone’s mic to pic up the noise, though, so it must be played on an external speaker of some sort.)
• Adjust the brightness of the LED light and change around its colors (I could not get this to work. It led to an error page and crashed the vibrator every time, shown above.)
• Grant permission to a partner to control the vibrator intensity via an online interface on the cell phone app (requires account)
• Provide a texting, photo, and video chat functionality for sexting while the person is controlling the sex toy (requires account)
• Pair the LuxHer vibrator with the functionality of a KIIROO stroker or other KIIROO toy, allowing the two toys to sync up their sensations for mutual shared pleasure while apart

All of this provides new, app-full ways to use the sex toy you already own, and it offers “value added” fun if you’re getting the Luxus, but none of it really builds on top of the LuxHer-to-LuxHim unique selling point that the sex toy set is built with. It, essentially, starts treating the LuxHer like a standard app-controlled vibrator. That’s not necessarily a bad thing, but if that’s what you’re after, you could also just pick up a KIIROO vibrator at 2/3rds the cost AND get more power from it.

As previously noted, the LuxHim (cock ring) has no online functionality or motor, and it does not gain any benefit from any of this app-controlled stuff.

As part of the KIIROO network, camgirl functionality is built into the toy, and if you’re someone who also does shows for work, the Luxus allows that.

That being said, for the average couple, I’m not necessarily sure this was an important add-on. Bluetooth tech (and app development and security) requires regular upkeep, and it definitely raises the cost of the set. It’s there whether you want it or not, so you might as well use it, but I hope I can eventually see a “No Bluetooth” version of the Luxus for couples who want to save some money and don’t need the functionality.

Lux Review Product Details

Both the LuxHer and LuxHim toys are made from silicone and are waterproof for easy cleaning. The LuxHim does not have a battery or motor, and the LuxHer has a rechargeable Lithium battery with 5 hours of playtime (oh, that’s nice!) with a charge time of 2.5 hours.

The Luxus set comes with the LuxHer, LuxHim, 2 adhesive stickers, a finger grip, a charger, and a white drawstring pouch for all of it. At this current time, you can only repurchase the Adhesive Stickers. It does not look like any of the individual other items can be repurchased on their retail store.

Final Thoughts: Luxus Review

The Luxus is going to be a good couple’s vibrator set for a select group of couples. If you fall into that group, you’re probably going to find the Luxus life-changing. It’s going to provide hands-free pleasure that rises and falls with the natural rhythm of penis-in-vagina intercourse in a way that (literally) no other vibrator on the market does. It literally doesn’t exist in any other toy. (Hence why this sex toy review is offensively long.)

The couples who are going to love the Luxus the most will:

• Want to have penis-in-vagina sex. Penis-in-butt sex will not work with the Luxus.
• Not want any added stimulation for the penis owner.
• Want to have hands-free clitoral pleasure.
• Primarily have from-the-front intercourse, as it works especially well in Missionary.
• Have mapped out some of their favorite sex positions, and they can see ways where a clitoral vibrator would get in close proximity to a cock ring worn on the base of the shaft.
• Be open to adding the Luxus harness to their purchase. Not only reusable, but it’s also studier and more reliable than the hands-free adhesive.
• Be willing to experiment with positions and uses to get the most out of the Luxus. You are not likely to have easy orgasms straight out of the box with the Luxus. You have to learn some of its tricks.
• Like the idea of playing with the value-added app-controlled functionality. They may occasionally be apart from one another and love the idea of long-distance play.
• (Clitoris owner) Enjoys/prefers/needs to have constantly changing vibration intensities.
• (Clitoris owner) Don’t need wand massager power or rumbly vibrations to orgasm.
• (Optional clitoris owner) Enjoys/prefers/needs to have regular breaks from vibration in order to best enjoy vibrations. Some of the Distance Modes completely turn off vibrations (for a quick break) on the outer-most part of the thrust. This is pretty unheard of in sex toys.

However, if you don’t fit into that ideal audience, the Luxus may not be a good fit. What it does, it does well, but “what it does” is also a relatively small box.

Thanks for reading my Luxus review!

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Step 1: Remove the Stroker from Its Case

If your pocket pussy comes in a plastic case, remove the soft, squishy part of the stroker from the case. Especially if your sex toy is motorized in some manner, most of the electronic parts will remain with the plastic case.

Leave the plastic case behind as you follow the rest of these instructions to clean the soft, squishy material of your pocket pussy sex toy.

How to Clean a Pocket Pussy: Use Your Sink’s Water Pressure

One of the biggest benefits of pocket pussies is the fact that they’re waterproof. You don’t have to worry about ruining them by getting them wet.

Use that to your advantage. Continuously running water provides pressure and movement that can help dislodge lube and bodily fluids from your stroker.

Using both hands, hold the opening of your pocket pussy open underneath the sink’s spigot. Allow uncomfortably hot (but not burning level!) water to pour into your stroker. Do this before adding any soap or other cleansers. This initial pre-rinse can do a bulk of the cleaning for you.

If your pocket pussy is open-ended on the back side, the water will pour through the stroker like a funnel. If your penis-focused sex toy is closed on the other side, though, expect the water to bubble back out from the opening.

If you don’t have access to a sink right now, you can temporarily use a bottle of water to run water through the pocket pussy, allowing the water to drain into a bowl. This can work as a temporary, stopgap solution until you’re able to get to a sink to fully wash your stroker. The pressure of continuous running water can really dislodge a lot of the gunk, so get to the sink for that full cleaning as soon as you can.

Now Use Your Fingers

Now that your pocket pussy is all wet and you’ve used the sink’s water for the initial rinse, slide your fingers inside and apply pressure and movement to all of the sides of the internal texture.

We’re trying to use the pressure of your fingers to dislodge any ejaculate or dried lube that may have caked on the intricate crevices of the texture inside of your sex toy before we pour the soap in.

Feel free to do this while still holding the masturbator under the water.

How to Clean a Pocket Pussy: Use Soap AND Read the Instructions

Some manufacturers have created a pocket pussy material so delicate that household hand soaps can ruin it. If your pocket pussy was expensive (more than $50), it may be in that category. Fleshlights are particularly famous for this.

In that case, read the manufacturer’s instructions for adding soap here. If you use any soap on the toy’s material when it can’t handle it, you can ruin the super-soft, plushy, life-like feel of the material, and that’s probably why you bought the sex toy in the first place.

If your pocket pussy was cheap and/or you’ve checked the instructions with no prohibitions against it, you’re probably free to use soap on the stroker.

Using a mild soap that’s alcohol-free, scent-free, and lotion-free, drizzle the soap onto the orifice of your pocket pussy, aiming to get the soap inside of the tunnel. If you purchased a sex toy cleaner, that can also work, but sex toy cleaners may not be necessary (to save you money down the line!).

Squish the Soap In

Once the soap is inside the tunnel, gently “lather” your pocket pussy like you would a washcloth.

Gently push the sides of the stroker against one another, trying to work the soap all along the inside of the tunnel.

From there, use those fingers to make sure the soap is really in there. Slide your fingers back inside, lathering and shoving that soap all along the internal textured tunnel of the penis stroker.

How to Clean a Pocket Pussy: Rinse the Soap Out

Once your stroker is all soaped up, you need to rinse the soap out.

Hold your pocket pussy sex toy back under the water spout, allowing it to rinse itself with water.

Again, slide some fingers in there, dislodging any excess soap, bodily fluids, or lubricant that may remain.

Allow the water to run through the toy until you no longer see any bubbles or soap escaping from the toy.

Letting soap dry inside of your toy can harm the material, adding hard or poke-y spots when you try to use it next time. Make sure to rinse out all of the soap when you’re done.

Most Importantly: Allow Your Pocket Pussy to Dry

You did all of the hard work of cleaning a pocket pussy. Don’t allow that hard work to go to waste by skimping on the drying.

A moist, dark, wet environment is the perfect breeding ground for mold. You don’t want mold inside your penis sex toy. Worse yet, it’d be pretty difficult to see if you had mold before you went to use it, so you might slide your shaft against mold next time you go to use it. That’s a mental image I didn’t need.

That’s why it’s vital to allow the pocket pussy to fully dry before placing it into storage. Most people’s place of “storage” tends to have minimal airflow. Airflow is what helps dry the stroker, so placing it prematurely into storage can be the catalyst for mold.

Instead, allow your pocket pussy to sit out on a sink or table where air will move through it. Shake it occasionally, seeing if water droplets still drop out of the toy. If droplets are still shaking out of the toy, it’s still moist, and it still needs more drying time.

We have some pocket pussies that take a (literal) 4 days to dry on the sink. (Our sex dolls can be even worse.) It’s a long time.

If you can’t allow a sex toy to sit out that long, there are a few ways to speed things up:

• Place the stroker in front of a fan. This will blow air directly into it.
• Shake the stroker after you’re done cleaning and often while it dries. The less pent-up droplets inside of the stroker, the faster it will dry. In practice, this might look like shaking the stroker after every time you pee. It’s an easy habit to build.
• Find a way to prop open the pocket pussy’s orifice, allowing air to better flow inside the stroker. This can be hard (or impossible) to do without harming the stroker, so I recommend caution here.
• Buy a few penis stroker drying sticks. If you can set a timer to pull out the sticks, this is your most time-efficient option. These drying sticks are basically long, insertable silica “don’t eat” moisture-removing packets. Slide it into your stroker, and then take it out 30 minutes to an hour later. However, if you forget to take it out, it can wick ALL the moisture and destroy your stroker. Make sure to set a timer.

Why Is It Important to Clean a Pocket Pussy?

I’ve saved this for last because, in the age of the internet, I, too, have gotten tired of scrolling through “bonus” information before I actually can make it to the information I wanted.

But I really think this is important for you to know. I might be preaching to the choir here, though, as you’re already the type of person who looked up how to clean a pocket pussy in the first place.

Essentially, after using a penis stroker or pocket pussy, you leave lube and bodily fluids inside of it. This isn’t a big deal as long as you clean it. When you clean it, you flush out all of those contaminants, keeping your stroker in tip-top shape.

If you don’t flush out those contaminants, though, not only will your pocket pussy reek to high heaven, but it will also become an easy breeding ground for bacteria. Plus, I gotta be the honest: the idea of shoving your shaft into a stroker that was used – but unclean – from a few weeks ago sounds PRETTY gross.

Keeping your pocket pussy dry is equally important. Once you get it squeaky clean, you need to make sure the pocket pussy is fully dry before you put it into storage. You know that moist, wet environments grow mold. A tight, squishy internal chamber that receives minimal airflow is ripe for that problem. Allow the pocket pussy to sit out for a few days (and get as much airflow in it as possible) before putting it away. (More options to speed things up are above)

If you know that you’re going to suck at clean-up or drying, reusable pocket pussies just may not be the best fit for you. While they’ll cost more on a per-use basis, Tenga and Lovense both make disposable penis strokers.

You simply use it (most even include the lube!), have a great time, and toss it when you’re done. If you want to squeak out a little more money from it, you can usually wash/reuse it once. This can prevent any build-up of poor pocket pussy maintenance. The stroker simply isn’t around long enough to actually build up a problem!

(I also recommend disposable strokers as a solution for someone who wants to travel with toys. They come with everything you need, and they make a bit of extra space in your luggage – after they’re gone! – for the trip back.)

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There’s something about casinos. Just watch how they’re portrayed in any movie. They’re this mecca of opulence and luck with this surprising undertone of eroticism. The well-dressed man gambles at the high-roller’s table, an enchanting woman leans over to encourage his choices. The couple who discover one another over a squabble at a table, and they spend the rest of the night locked in a game of sexual tension and increasing bets, only heightened by the spending.

The reality is a little less over-the-top (especially if you’re near the penny slot machines), but even so, your average, everyday casino still offers that getaway oasis that’s so appealing to all of us. If you live in an area where casinos can be attached to hotels, these hotels are always a bit on the sexy side. With their adults-only set-up, casinos don’t worry much about kid-friendly rooms in their King suites, and you can find gorgeous glass showers and sex-friendly interiors for the same price as your everyday room in the same city.

Plus, there’s something just hot about the unknown. Games of chance leave the results up to chance, building anticipation without really trying too hard to do so. This can feed into your BDSM scenes, making it feel like there’s always the potential for something “unexpected” to happen.

With enough exposure, some of those common things we see in casinos may still trigger erotic feelings when we get home.

So today, let’s talk about some common casino gear, how to get ahold of it without spending a casino’s budget, and how to add it into some kinky sex play.

Author’s Note: Gambling, and an addiction to gambling, are real, life-changing issues for many people. If you know that gambling and games of chance are triggering or potentially destructive for you, this type of play is not for you. If you know this is part of yourself, at a minimum, I’d recommend disclosing this to your partner during negotiations before play. Ideally, avoid this type of play altogether.

Poker Chips

One of the cheapest and most iconic casino accessories, poker chips can be used as game pieces or to signify money. Cheap pieces of plastic, they’re plentiful (and you won’t care if you lose one), giving you a fun casino play prop you don’t have to worry much about.

You can usually pick up poker chips cheap AF right after December. For some weird reason, most “gifts for men” gift displays will have a poker set in there somewhere. Once it goes on clearance after Christmas, you can pick up a large set (usually with a case) without the expense.

These poker chips can be used like usual poker chips in your kinky games, signifying monetary amounts. You can also use them as part of an overarching “casino” vibe, letting someone “cash in” for chosen rewards when they hit a certain number of poker chips.

For long-term play, you can utilize these poker chips as a reward system, providing your lover with a poker chip when they go above-and-beyond your expectations on a day-to-day basis. Think of them as a physical “rewards” chart with a monetary system.

(i.e. A 5-minute kiss “costs” 5 poker chips or doing your favorite sex position to orgasm “costs” 25.)

Fun idea: Tossing poker chips all over the bed like rose petals, letting you fuck on top of your “wealth”. If that’s your thing.

If you’re primarily an online casino player, you might have to get a bit creative. When you can get 500 no deposit bonus, you may not have the same arousal triggers to the physical poker chips. But hey – if you want to come up with some sexy text notifications that signify you “loaded” your account with tokens that gives you the same erotic thrill, have at it.

Dice and Dice Cups

A set of nice dice is the forefront of many table games. You probably already have a dice set you can kidnap from an unrelated board game, making this an easy one to add into bedroom play on a budget.

If you really want to emulate that sexy casino experience, though, add a dice cup along with it. You probably don’t use dice cups at home, and having that (surprisingly cheap) but new addition can help elevate a set of dice into something that feels more erotic.

Craps is one of the most common casino dice games, but you can also run with Hazard, Chuck-a-Luck, Sic Bo, or others. Or, y’know, just invent your own.

(Bonus points: If you want to purchase a set of sex dice from an adult store, you can use these as “game dice” as well. If you use your sex dice like they’re supposed to be used, you roll them and you do the actions indicated on the roll results. You can use it “like usual”, or you can play Craps or other games by swapping out what the iconography on the sex dice means.)

Deck of Cards

A simple deck of cards is the basis of so many different games of chance at a casino.

There’s no reason you can’t do them at home.

You can play some of your standard casino games (blackjack, gin rummy, poker, etc.) and add sensual bets to the outcome of the game.

Since these games can run through pretty quickly, I’d recommend a simple bet for each round. Some examples can be:

• Give me a kiss.
• Let me massage your shoulders.
• Sit on my lap for the next game.
• Take off your top for our next games.
• Come let me stroke your hair.
• Take off your boxers for the next game.
• Stroke yourself hard before the next game.

If you want to streamline the prizes (as you might start going “ummmm” after the 4th game), you can both come up with a list of things you’d enjoy ahead of time. Before each round, you can reference the list and pick a prize off of it. Not only does this build anticipation for your sexy casino night, but it also speeds the game along day-of.

Cash

While most casinos intentionally avoid the literal view of money being thrown onto the table by “disguising” amounts as chips, we all know what pushing chips onto a game table means. Lots of money gets thrown around at casinos.

You can use that same idea in your play. If you want to hassle with heading to the bank, you can pull out a stack of small bills (like dollars or fives) to toss around. If heading to the bank sounds aggravating (or if you have any reason you don’t want to get near a money kink experience), you can pick up faux money in most children’s toy sections.

If you’re the nerd variety, you could technically also use a video game’s currency system like bottle caps. It might be hard to take it seriously as an everyday currency, but it could be a great tie-in if there’s roleplay involved.

Scratch-Offs

Not quite “in a casino”, but if you want to spend the money, there are quite a few “DIY scratch-off” sets out there. You simply buy the stickers, write the different “results” on a piece of paper, and place a sticker on top of the results. Your partner can then scratch off the film on top of the sticker, revealing the result you wrote underneath.

If you’d rather go for something cheaper, you can head to your local scratch-off vendor and purchase a scratch-off game. You and your lover can then decide what sexy rewards you get if you happen to get a certain result on the non-sexualized scratch-off cards you bought.

Accessories for Your Favorite Casino Game

So far, we’ve focused on adding general “games” to your bedroom play.

But if there’s a special game you hold near and dear to your orgasms, why not focus on that instead?

For example, if the sight of Craps always gets you going, you can buy a Craps rubber mat kit with curved chip rails for a genuine casino-looking play space. If Poker is my jam, I might pick up a poker table or save some space by having a roll of green felt I can lay out on my existing table when I want something more realistic. If I love Blackjack, I might purchase a roll-out mat I can put on my table with Blackjack detailing on it.

What Is It That Makes a Sexy Casino?

If you find a casino visit to be sexy, pay attention to what “does it” for you next time. What are the small details that come together to really bring out that arousal? Whatever they are, you can try to emulate them at home in your play.

If you’re turned on by the fact that tensions and money run high before taking that energy straight back to your hotel room, consider playing your casino games in the living room – potentially with “high stakes” – before heading back to the hotel room (your bedroom) to release that tension.

If you really love how laid-back and “away from it all” you get to be when you’re at a casino, you might consider looking at other sexy experiences that let you escape everyday life like spas or hotels specializing in relaxation.

If it turns out that you’re turned on by everybody in formal wear, you might also enjoy high-protocol dinner parties or non-kinky galas.

Maybe you’re into the fact that most casinos let you smoke, and something about being handed that branded matchbook and smoking as you enjoy yourself does it for you. If that’s the case, you can always DIY your own unique matchbooks to help replicate some of that at home.

When thinking about it, you might discover that you actually just enjoy that you get to sit there while service staff provides everything you need (like drinks or food). If that’s the case, you might want to consider a service night at home to see if you can replicate some of those same feelings.

Finding your local casino visit to be kinky and arousing is just fine, but exploring why those things feel arousing to you can help you replicate everything at home (and avoid paying the big bucks at the casino at the same time!)

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