I’m so ashamed to say… but I couldn’t help it.  It was so hard for me to resist.  How can you say no to a woman like Miranda?

She’s so sexy in her tight white and black outfit!

When she walks around next to me, my mind just wanders.  When she runs around blasting through enemy territory covering my ass, she makes my heart beat faster.  Thump, thump, thump…

Just look at her!  How can I resist her fierce, confident demeanor?  After all, she WAS designed to be the perfect woman!

In some ways, she even looks like my girlfriend…

Admit it, you are a geek at heart.

Football season is over.  Valentine’s Day just passed around the corner (but that was such “not a guy thing” to get excited over).  So what’s to keep a man busy until baseball or baskteball season start?

Mass Effect 2 of course!  For the XBox 360 and PC.  In this Sci Fi role playing game, you assume the role of Commander Shepard, soldier extraordinaire on a mission to save humanity from evil evil Collector and Reaper aliens.

More importantly, you get to flirt with a bunch of beautiful human and alien females of your choice.  Hmmm… I get to play with big guns AND flirt with women, what’s not to like?

Just have your pick:  M-15 Vindicator assault rifle, M-98 Widow sniper rifle, Miranda Lawson the fierce, M-300 Claymore shotgun, Jack the psycho bitch, M-6 Carnifex Hand Cannon pistol, Kelly Chambers the naive, Samara the rightous, M-4 Shuriken machine pistol, Tali’Zorah the shy nerd, Geth pulse rifle or Morinth the dangerous…

Oops, I think I just mixed my women with my guns again.

After spending a week exploring and saving the galaxy so that you can all have better lives, I had to ponder:  is this what young men have come to:  romancing virtual girls and sexing them on our computer screen?  Is this the next generation of soft core porn?

What does Mass Effect 2 really teach us when it comes to flirting and “scoring” with the opposite sex?

For goodness’ sake,  let’s be honest, how many of you guys rubbed one out as you watched the lovely “romance” scene play out with the lady or man of your choice?

Unfortunately for you, if you were planning on getting yourself a copy of the game just so that you can go straight into making your virtual sexual fantasy a reality, your journey won’t be easy.  Even in the game, these women (or men for that matter, in case you picked to be a female Shepard at the beginning of the game) won’t be throwing themselves at you anytime soon.

When it comes to romance, the developers of Mass Effect 2 got it right.  Even a hero needs to know how to flirt.

So what can you learn from the game about attracting love into your life?

As I scoured the galaxy for these evil evil aliens, I found myself doing the exact same thing I would do in regular life.  I ended up chatting women up in between missions and listening to their stories.

With some of them, like Kelley Chambers, I flirted with her right off the bat.  She didn’t seem to mind.  I was a hero after all!  I had a reputation that preceded me… which did most of the work for me in terms of attracting and intriguing her to me.

However, with other women like Miranda, Tali or Samara, I had to talk to them.  I had to get personal with them.   I had to get curious about who they were and where they came from.  I had to connect with them.

Even as I connected with them, they wouldn’t see me as more than “just friends” until I embarked on their loyalty mission.

That’s right guys, even in the fantastic world of Mass Effect 2, I had to show the girls that I cared for them by taking on a personal mission with them…. which in itself is really interesting to me:  who wrote the script for this game, huh?  Does he know anything about dating and attraction?  Maybe we should try to learn from him!

That’s what I liked about Mass Effect 2.  In between the crazy fun of blowing stuff up, it depicted romance in a rather realistic manner.

I have guys always ask me what are the steps to attracting women… and it always makes me cringe a bit when I hear that question.  In some ways, you do have steps to take to connect with a woman… but the problem is most guys want a fail-safe step-by-step guide on how to do that.

The reality is… there is no guarantee in anything you do and attraction is a process but most guys only think of the end.  Instead of thinking on what to do to create that process, try to BE that process by leading her into the great adventure of meeting you.

When you allow yourself to go through the process of chatting a woman up,  listening to her, finding commonalities and common things/values to agree on, you connect with her.  That’s really all it takes!  Don’t think so much of the right thing to say or do.

Stop being afraid of what to do.  Think of attracting someone of the opposite sex more as opening yourself up to him or her  Most of the time, I feel that guys are just afraid of the “sharing yourself” part of the process.  They feel vulnerable when they do that.  Maybe they don’t know what to say about themselves… because deep inside, they don’t really believe in themselves, they don’t believe themselves to be worthy of love.  But who you are is what makes you unique and great!  It’s what makes you worth loving… or for the more carnally inclined of you, it’s what makes you worth hooking up with.

It really isn’t that hard!

Just like in the game, you have to put some effort in getting to know the girl… but allow her to get to know you too.

There is something that we ask our members on the David Wygant membership site to do.  We ask them to record themselves on videos.  We want them to see what they project to the world.  By watching yourself, you see yourself in the way others perceive you.

From the way you behave, do you really convey anything positive about  yourself to the women around you?  If you aren’t saying/doing anything interesting, memorable or attractive about yourself, why would women want you?

In the game, it was clear that Shepard did that through action.  He showed the women the kind of man he was by taking on certain missions, making certain kind of decisions for her and the team.  When you took on your love interest’s personal loyalty mission, you showed her what you were made of, what you stood for.  Through your action, you showed her that you cared about her.

That’s what unlocked the future romancing option in the game.

I heard somewhere before that women don’t fall in love with a man.  They fall in love with the idea that the man represent.  I really liked that.  Can you make women fall for the fantasy of you?

So let me ask you guys now, what are you doing today to really attract women to you?  Stop thinking of what to do to get her, to chase her.  How are you living your life to attract the kind of women you want?  What kind of idea are you embodying for the women out there to love you?

Obviously, playing Mass Effect 2 isn’t going to attract the girl you want, unless you meet a video game chick but in the end, what kind of energy are you putting out to the world to attract people to you?

The sex part will come after you put out the “right” behaviors to market your unique coolness factor.  The sex part will come once you decide to take charge of the romantic nature of your relationship with a woman when she starts showing interest in you.  The opportunity for sex always presents itself.  Can you see it?

To be honest with you, that’s the difference between a guy who gets the girl and a guy who doesn’t.  I see more romantic opportunities than most of you guys see from a casual conversation.  I see ways of turning her on all the time.  I see ways to seduce her all the time from the way she tells me about herself, from the way she looks at me, from the way she touches me.

I see little opportunities that are waiting for a guy like you to fully take advantage of.

If you haven’t played it yet, play Mass Effect 2.  You see it clearly.  After the loyalty mission, you have the option to tell your love interest upfront that you didn’t embark on the loyalty mission because you are “friends”.  You embarked on the loyalty mission because you like her.

Do you have the balls to really follow through with your romantic intent for someone?  If not, what are you waiting for?  What are you afraid of?

The reward is so big.  Come on… look at her again.  Look at how beautiful Miranda is.   You can find your own Miranda out there in the real world too!

I have…

Or would you prefer fantasizing after my home made porn of my sexual escapade with her?

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One of my favorite things to do when I meet couples is to ask them how they met.  Every time I hear their stories, I feel enchanted.  The way they tell their stories is always so vivid!  They remember every detail as if it was yesterday and share it with such enthusiasm and passion that you can’t help but smile.

When I hear excitement in their story from both the man and the woman, that’s when I know their marriage will probably last.

However, I’ve always been curious about a much bigger question.  After you’ve been dating someone for a while, how do you know if he or she is the one?

How do you know it’s time for you to take it to the next level?

The Seduction Community never really addresses relationship questions.  They only teach you how to meet and attract the girl… but what do you do after that?  How do you know if someone is good for you?  How do you maintain the relationship?

Is marriage just the natural progression of “we’ve been together for a while so it just felt right for us to get married” or is it more about “I absolutely love this person and can’t imagine living and growing with someone else”?

Every time I’ve asked one of my friends who recently got married that question, I get a different answer.

Seriously, how do you know?

For once, I think I have my own answer.

You see, I have a friend who’s been dating a guy for at least 5 years now… maybe longer.  She just bought a house and is planning on allowing her boyfriend to move in with her.  From what I hear, she has a lot of doubts about the future of her relationship with him.

After moving in with him for less than a week, she’s discovering sides of him that she’s never known… for example, she’s discovered how he’s very obsessive about making everything match in the house… or how he wants things a certain way.

When I heard that, I couldn’t help myself get frustrated:  how could you not know that about him?  You’ve been dating him for 5+ years!

However, my blog today is not about whether or not you truly know a person after an x amount of time.  It’s about knowing if he or she is the one.

And let me tell you, looking back at my friend, I don’t recall her ever being truly excited about him.  Every time I asked about her relationship, she always tells me it’s going alright or good… but there was always something seemingly missing.  He always had something that was not good enough for her.

That’s when it dawned on me.

Listen to your feelings more.

Listen to your heart more.

Knowing if someone is the one is not about logic.  It’s a feeling, it’s almost an urge.

It really doesn’t matter how long you’ve been dating someone to know if he or she is the one.  For my friend in question, she’s giving herself more time to figure out if he’s the one by letting her boyfriend move in with her… but the reality is… it doesn’t matter how long she’s been with him.

When you think of that person today, do you feel excited about him or her every day?

When you think of a future together, do you care about whether or not he/she is in the picture?

When you look at the past together, do you look at it with fondness and gratefulness?

When you think of that person romantically and sexually, does your mind wander into wild happy naughty la la land?

All in all, do you feel at the same time cherished and grateful to have that person in your life?

I guess the saying is right.  ”You’ll know when you find him or her”.

So let me ask you, how do you know if he or she is the one?

If you have been dating someone for a long time, is your relationship moving forward towards something or are you just wasting time because you are comfortable with each other?

There’s one thing we can’t teach you at David Wygant, it’s getting that feeling.  But we CAN teach you to be honest with yourself, to be genuine, to be powerful and attractive to people… so that when you do meet the one, you’ll know.

I thought I heard it all…  from weird, to funny, to sad to inpsiring but I got to say, my clients sure know how to keep me entertained.  This one definitely takes the cake!

So here I am, talking to a former bootcamp client on the phone.  He’s updating me on his progress since he took coaching with us a few months back.

When he came to us, he was successful in his career but like many men, he wanted higher quality women in his life.

First thing I taught him was to not be so funny.  I know I know… women say they like a man with a sense of humor… but there’s a difference between being funny like a clown and just being fun.

I prefer my clients to be fun, not funny.

If a woman was to laugh, I’d rather have her laugh because of the great chemistry and tension you two share rather than because you used the latest joke or tease on her.

With him, he was TOO funny.  He would turn many regular conversations into something humorous.  Being funny was good for the first 5 minutes but after that, it distracted women from actually connecting with him on a more real and genuine level.

The second thing I taught him was to develop the lover side of him.  The way he spoke was too platonic, not flirty enough, not sensual/sexy enough.  I told him to work on his voice and speak with a more sexually mischievous undertone.  I also told him to work on his eye contact and smile.

At their core, women respond to what they feel when they are with you.  They choose to go out with you if they feel you are an exciting man.

If the first thing that comes out of their mouth when they think of you is “nice guy,” then you aren’t doing a good job showing your personality.

You want to be memorable!

So based on these 2 suggestions alone, my client started to have an abundance of dates.  Women were just responding to him much more positively than before and going on dates with them was becoming simpler and simpler every day for him.

He was having a blast, but little did he know that the most fun part of dating is that you never know where things may end.  So here comes our story.  Today’s modern tale of romance starts on the fourth date, with a girl he met at a friend’s wedding.

Hit the jump button to read the story.

The date started off with some tea at the Huntington Rose Garden Tea Room.  We arrived close to closing time.  She didn’t believe that we were going to go there, even though she claims she suspected it.  She seemed rather surprised that I actually made reservations.  While we were waiting, we talked about how she just knew all along what we were going to do.  The hostess overheard us and made a comment on how she’s always a step ahead of her husband too.

So I turned to my girl and said, “Be careful what you wish for baby…” with a sly smile.

Little did she know I was foreshadowing the next part of the date.  How would she ever guess I had a 1980’s theme party in mind?  I was taking her back in time to the days when people had afternoon tea with the Huntington Rose Garden Tea Room and now I was going to make her come back to the present, but not after making a little stop along the way — circa 1986.

As I’ve learned… dating is about creating memorable and fun experiences together… and we needed outfits!

So I took her to a thrift shop.  Although she kept on asking: “Are you sure you want to do this? Don’t you just want to see a movie?,”  I knew she was secretly into it.

She tried on at least 10 dresses and even went into getting the details of the outfit right — trying on bows, insisting on having red stockings, or wearing shoes that she found uncomfortable (“Oh great, they’re a Cinderella fit”).  And of course, she had her fun dressing me up in ridiculous moon pants and a priceless, green Members Only Jacket.

We were finally ready for the party!

Surprisingly when we got there, no one else was really dressed up with the exception of the host and hostess.

WTF?!?  We looked at each other with dumbfounded faces while walking in with our big bags of clothes.

“Hey, we’ve already got the outfits.  We’ve got to do this!”

She went along.

The house was sort of loft style with a big living room at the ground floor and a dramatic staircase that ascended to the second and top floors, both of which looked out on the living room.

She went upstairs to the top floor while I went to move the car.  When I returned, I went upstairs to find her with her sexy 80’s style black prom dress already on.   I changed into my ridiculous moon pants and jacket and downstairs we went, holding hands, to make our grand entrance.

I was happy.  I was having fun.  She looked stunning but apparently, her beauty was no match for my moon pants.  Everyone, and I do mean everyone… came up to compliment me and inquire on where on earth I got those “awesome” pants.

Throughout the course of the party, I found myself more attracted to her.  We mingled, had some drinks and I liked seeing how she interacted with my friends.  It didn’t hurt that I really enjoyed having her by my side holding my hand and caressing my back.

As the party wound down, I took her back upstairs to get changed… except, not much changing got done.  I wanted her so badly.  I could just feel the tension between us just wanting to be released.  As she and I sat down on the floor sorting our clothes, I pulled her close to me and kissed her.

Awwhhh, the feeling of her lips on mine…

As our lips interlocked, I climbed on top of her and laid her down on the floor.  We wrestled furiously — 1980’s style.  She took a breather to use the restroom.  I went to close the bedroom door.  As she came back, I grabbed her and pulled her onto the bed.

“You’re crazy,” she told me, noting the door got closed.

That didn’t seem to deter her either way.  Within a few minutes, someone walked in on us.  I couldn’t believe it!  It felt so high school!  We laughed, gathered our things and rushed back to the car, still in costume.

“You know, it may look small… but the back seat of my car is really comfortable!”

She shook her head, “You’re crazy!”

“Come back here with me,” I softly suggested.

“No way…” she laughed, yet she joined me back there anyway.

“I just want to lay here next to you,” I told her.  I wanted to feel her body tightly pressed against mine.  She could see the glimmer of desire in my eyes.  As she climbed back, the look on her face was priceless —  I can’t believe I’m doing this.

I have a two-door car and it’s not exactly the size of a Cadillac back there.  Good thing she was on the petite side.  She fit snugly on top of me and placed her head on my chest.  We lay there fairly motionless for about five minutes until we started kissing.f

Things were getting more intense.  When being so close to someone, you can’t help but feel an immense rush.  I could sense the raw energy flowing through our bodies.  As the kissing continued, I started to feel my way down through her stockings and into her panties, only to discover how wet she was.

I got so excited.

I pulled her stockings off and flung them away, putting my hand back to feel the warmth between her legs.  I continued to play.  The heavy breathing began.

“What is it that you want?” she moaned.

“I want to turn you on.” I told her in a mischievous and sensual tone.

“You’ve already got that,” she replied.

I soon couldn’t take it any more.  Playing with her made me so hard and so desirous of her.  Our heavy breathing fogged up all of the windows.  Although it was cold outside, it was warming up inside.

There she was, lying down across the back seat.  Her legs were gently open and her moan was the most inviting sound I’ve ever heard.  I had to have her.  I had to have her now…  I put my hand down my pants, ready to whip out my cock.

This was going to be the moment, the moment we both were yearning for, the moment we fully indulge in our romantic passion.  At the exact moment that I clenched it, I felt the need to blow my nose.  There was no way I was going to stop to get a Kleenex from the front seat.

Without much thought, I wiped my nose on my white t-shirt.  Out of nowhere, from the corner of my eye, I see…

BLOOD!!!  A lot of it!

FUUUUUUUCK!!!  What perfect timing!  It was starting to gush.  I couldn’t let it get on everywhere, and definitely not on her!  I leaped to the front seat glove box to get a tissue and propped the front door open.

I needed some air… badly!

“What’s wrong?,” she said.

After about of minute of me holding my head back and squeezing my nose to stop the bleeding, I just started laughing.

“What’s so funny?!?”  she asked.  ”Actually, what’s not funny about this situation?”  She continued.

She was right.  As much as I wanted her, there we were,two people in our late 20’s and early 30’s,  in 1980’s costumes, in the back seat of my car, her panties off, the door propped open and blood on my shirt.

What’s not to laugh about?

I’ll never forget this night.

HAHHAHAHAHAHA!  I hope you can stop laughing after reading this story.  I sure couldn’t when he told me what happened.  Dating is definitely an adventure.  If you are not having your own dating adventures, what are you waiting for?