One of my favorite things to do when I meet couples is to ask them how they met.  Every time I hear their stories, I feel enchanted.  The way they tell their stories is always so vivid!  They remember every detail as if it was yesterday and share it with such enthusiasm and passion that you can’t help but smile.

When I hear excitement in their story from both the man and the woman, that’s when I know their marriage will probably last.

However, I’ve always been curious about a much bigger question.  After you’ve been dating someone for a while, how do you know if he or she is the one?

How do you know it’s time for you to take it to the next level?

The Seduction Community never really addresses relationship questions.  They only teach you how to meet and attract the girl… but what do you do after that?  How do you know if someone is good for you?  How do you maintain the relationship?

Is marriage just the natural progression of “we’ve been together for a while so it just felt right for us to get married” or is it more about “I absolutely love this person and can’t imagine living and growing with someone else”?

Every time I’ve asked one of my friends who recently got married that question, I get a different answer.

Seriously, how do you know?

For once, I think I have my own answer.

You see, I have a friend who’s been dating a guy for at least 5 years now… maybe longer.  She just bought a house and is planning on allowing her boyfriend to move in with her.  From what I hear, she has a lot of doubts about the future of her relationship with him.

After moving in with him for less than a week, she’s discovering sides of him that she’s never known… for example, she’s discovered how he’s very obsessive about making everything match in the house… or how he wants things a certain way.

When I heard that, I couldn’t help myself get frustrated:  how could you not know that about him?  You’ve been dating him for 5+ years!

However, my blog today is not about whether or not you truly know a person after an x amount of time.  It’s about knowing if he or she is the one.

And let me tell you, looking back at my friend, I don’t recall her ever being truly excited about him.  Every time I asked about her relationship, she always tells me it’s going alright or good… but there was always something seemingly missing.  He always had something that was not good enough for her.

That’s when it dawned on me.

Listen to your feelings more.

Listen to your heart more.

Knowing if someone is the one is not about logic.  It’s a feeling, it’s almost an urge.

It really doesn’t matter how long you’ve been dating someone to know if he or she is the one.  For my friend in question, she’s giving herself more time to figure out if he’s the one by letting her boyfriend move in with her… but the reality is… it doesn’t matter how long she’s been with him.

When you think of that person today, do you feel excited about him or her every day?

When you think of a future together, do you care about whether or not he/she is in the picture?

When you look at the past together, do you look at it with fondness and gratefulness?

When you think of that person romantically and sexually, does your mind wander into wild happy naughty la la land?

All in all, do you feel at the same time cherished and grateful to have that person in your life?

I guess the saying is right.  ”You’ll know when you find him or her”.

So let me ask you, how do you know if he or she is the one?

If you have been dating someone for a long time, is your relationship moving forward towards something or are you just wasting time because you are comfortable with each other?

There’s one thing we can’t teach you at David Wygant, it’s getting that feeling.  But we CAN teach you to be honest with yourself, to be genuine, to be powerful and attractive to people… so that when you do meet the one, you’ll know.

I thought I heard it all…  from weird, to funny, to sad to inpsiring but I got to say, my clients sure know how to keep me entertained.  This one definitely takes the cake!

So here I am, talking to a former bootcamp client on the phone.  He’s updating me on his progress since he took coaching with us a few months back.

When he came to us, he was successful in his career but like many men, he wanted higher quality women in his life.

First thing I taught him was to not be so funny.  I know I know… women say they like a man with a sense of humor… but there’s a difference between being funny like a clown and just being fun.

I prefer my clients to be fun, not funny.

If a woman was to laugh, I’d rather have her laugh because of the great chemistry and tension you two share rather than because you used the latest joke or tease on her.

With him, he was TOO funny.  He would turn many regular conversations into something humorous.  Being funny was good for the first 5 minutes but after that, it distracted women from actually connecting with him on a more real and genuine level.

The second thing I taught him was to develop the lover side of him.  The way he spoke was too platonic, not flirty enough, not sensual/sexy enough.  I told him to work on his voice and speak with a more sexually mischievous undertone.  I also told him to work on his eye contact and smile.

At their core, women respond to what they feel when they are with you.  They choose to go out with you if they feel you are an exciting man.

If the first thing that comes out of their mouth when they think of you is “nice guy,” then you aren’t doing a good job showing your personality.

You want to be memorable!

So based on these 2 suggestions alone, my client started to have an abundance of dates.  Women were just responding to him much more positively than before and going on dates with them was becoming simpler and simpler every day for him.

He was having a blast, but little did he know that the most fun part of dating is that you never know where things may end.  So here comes our story.  Today’s modern tale of romance starts on the fourth date, with a girl he met at a friend’s wedding.

Hit the jump button to read the story.

The date started off with some tea at the Huntington Rose Garden Tea Room.  We arrived close to closing time.  She didn’t believe that we were going to go there, even though she claims she suspected it.  She seemed rather surprised that I actually made reservations.  While we were waiting, we talked about how she just knew all along what we were going to do.  The hostess overheard us and made a comment on how she’s always a step ahead of her husband too.

So I turned to my girl and said, “Be careful what you wish for baby…” with a sly smile.

Little did she know I was foreshadowing the next part of the date.  How would she ever guess I had a 1980’s theme party in mind?  I was taking her back in time to the days when people had afternoon tea with the Huntington Rose Garden Tea Room and now I was going to make her come back to the present, but not after making a little stop along the way — circa 1986.

As I’ve learned… dating is about creating memorable and fun experiences together… and we needed outfits!

So I took her to a thrift shop.  Although she kept on asking: “Are you sure you want to do this? Don’t you just want to see a movie?,”  I knew she was secretly into it.

She tried on at least 10 dresses and even went into getting the details of the outfit right — trying on bows, insisting on having red stockings, or wearing shoes that she found uncomfortable (“Oh great, they’re a Cinderella fit”).  And of course, she had her fun dressing me up in ridiculous moon pants and a priceless, green Members Only Jacket.

We were finally ready for the party!

Surprisingly when we got there, no one else was really dressed up with the exception of the host and hostess.

WTF?!?  We looked at each other with dumbfounded faces while walking in with our big bags of clothes.

“Hey, we’ve already got the outfits.  We’ve got to do this!”

She went along.

The house was sort of loft style with a big living room at the ground floor and a dramatic staircase that ascended to the second and top floors, both of which looked out on the living room.

She went upstairs to the top floor while I went to move the car.  When I returned, I went upstairs to find her with her sexy 80’s style black prom dress already on.   I changed into my ridiculous moon pants and jacket and downstairs we went, holding hands, to make our grand entrance.

I was happy.  I was having fun.  She looked stunning but apparently, her beauty was no match for my moon pants.  Everyone, and I do mean everyone… came up to compliment me and inquire on where on earth I got those “awesome” pants.

Throughout the course of the party, I found myself more attracted to her.  We mingled, had some drinks and I liked seeing how she interacted with my friends.  It didn’t hurt that I really enjoyed having her by my side holding my hand and caressing my back.

As the party wound down, I took her back upstairs to get changed… except, not much changing got done.  I wanted her so badly.  I could just feel the tension between us just wanting to be released.  As she and I sat down on the floor sorting our clothes, I pulled her close to me and kissed her.

Awwhhh, the feeling of her lips on mine…

As our lips interlocked, I climbed on top of her and laid her down on the floor.  We wrestled furiously — 1980’s style.  She took a breather to use the restroom.  I went to close the bedroom door.  As she came back, I grabbed her and pulled her onto the bed.

“You’re crazy,” she told me, noting the door got closed.

That didn’t seem to deter her either way.  Within a few minutes, someone walked in on us.  I couldn’t believe it!  It felt so high school!  We laughed, gathered our things and rushed back to the car, still in costume.

“You know, it may look small… but the back seat of my car is really comfortable!”

She shook her head, “You’re crazy!”

“Come back here with me,” I softly suggested.

“No way…” she laughed, yet she joined me back there anyway.

“I just want to lay here next to you,” I told her.  I wanted to feel her body tightly pressed against mine.  She could see the glimmer of desire in my eyes.  As she climbed back, the look on her face was priceless —  I can’t believe I’m doing this.

I have a two-door car and it’s not exactly the size of a Cadillac back there.  Good thing she was on the petite side.  She fit snugly on top of me and placed her head on my chest.  We lay there fairly motionless for about five minutes until we started kissing.f

Things were getting more intense.  When being so close to someone, you can’t help but feel an immense rush.  I could sense the raw energy flowing through our bodies.  As the kissing continued, I started to feel my way down through her stockings and into her panties, only to discover how wet she was.

I got so excited.

I pulled her stockings off and flung them away, putting my hand back to feel the warmth between her legs.  I continued to play.  The heavy breathing began.

“What is it that you want?” she moaned.

“I want to turn you on.” I told her in a mischievous and sensual tone.

“You’ve already got that,” she replied.

I soon couldn’t take it any more.  Playing with her made me so hard and so desirous of her.  Our heavy breathing fogged up all of the windows.  Although it was cold outside, it was warming up inside.

There she was, lying down across the back seat.  Her legs were gently open and her moan was the most inviting sound I’ve ever heard.  I had to have her.  I had to have her now…  I put my hand down my pants, ready to whip out my cock.

This was going to be the moment, the moment we both were yearning for, the moment we fully indulge in our romantic passion.  At the exact moment that I clenched it, I felt the need to blow my nose.  There was no way I was going to stop to get a Kleenex from the front seat.

Without much thought, I wiped my nose on my white t-shirt.  Out of nowhere, from the corner of my eye, I see…

BLOOD!!!  A lot of it!

FUUUUUUUCK!!!  What perfect timing!  It was starting to gush.  I couldn’t let it get on everywhere, and definitely not on her!  I leaped to the front seat glove box to get a tissue and propped the front door open.

I needed some air… badly!

“What’s wrong?,” she said.

After about of minute of me holding my head back and squeezing my nose to stop the bleeding, I just started laughing.

“What’s so funny?!?”  she asked.  ”Actually, what’s not funny about this situation?”  She continued.

She was right.  As much as I wanted her, there we were,two people in our late 20’s and early 30’s,  in 1980’s costumes, in the back seat of my car, her panties off, the door propped open and blood on my shirt.

What’s not to laugh about?

I’ll never forget this night.

HAHHAHAHAHAHA!  I hope you can stop laughing after reading this story.  I sure couldn’t when he told me what happened.  Dating is definitely an adventure.  If you are not having your own dating adventures, what are you waiting for?

If you’ve read my blog for a while, you know I am all about demystifying incorrect beliefs.  I’m all about thinking and living life in a way that helps you achieve the things you set yourself to achieve.

So today, I decided to share with you my raw self.  You get to see me chat honestly about life and dating.  You get to see a side of me that not everyone gets to see unless you know me for a while… or unless you do long-a coaching with me.

Manuel is a friend of mine I’ve mentioned in a previous blog.  He was the jock who needed help with dating.  I’ve helped him for a few months and boy oh boy, he has come a long way since then.  Let’s just say he’s been having some fun.

A lot of the concepts I teach in bootcamps or in private coaching sessions are stuff I’ve experienced and studied myself… and more importantly, stuff that I have experimented with by teaching it to friends to see how it affects their lives.  That’s how I know whether the stuff I talk about works or not.

Grab yourself a cup of coffee or whatever your favorite drink is before reading.

It is a long post but you have plenty of time!!!  You have all the time in your life actually because…  well… we ARE talking about life.

1:16:18 AM Manuel : we tend to get lazy
1:16:22 AM Manuel : in relationships
1:16:23 AM Manuel : men
1:16:30 AM Manuel : don’t you think
1:16:30 AM Khiem : no… I typically don’t
1:16:37 AM Manuel : hmm
1:16:39 AM Khiem : b/c I put a high emphasis on always appreciating
1:16:52 AM Khiem : if I keep the idea of rewarding her behaviors by showing appreciation in various forms
1:16:55 AM Khiem : it keeps her hooked
1:17:04 AM Khiem : so I may get lazy on initiating sex
1:17:08 AM Khiem : but I don’t get lazy in the relationship
1:20:35 AM Manuel : yes, I meant in terms of sex
1:20:45 AM Manuel : sometimes I feel like the fact that it is guaranteed
1:20:52 AM Manuel : makes us take it for granted a little bit
1:20:57 AM Khiem : well maybe for you
1:21:01 AM Khiem : I try to not take it for granted
1:21:01 AM Manuel : in relationships
1:21:03 AM Khiem : b/c I told you before
1:21:07 AM Manuel : hahaha
1:21:08 AM Khiem : if you don’t do the effort to keep her happy
1:21:09 AM Manuel : i know
1:21:14 AM Khiem : her eyes and heart will start to wander
1:21:19 AM Khiem : it’s your job to keep her hooked
1:21:19 AM Manuel : YOU are the Supafreak
1:21:31 AM Khiem : just as it’s her job to seduce us with her femininity
1:22:19 AM Manuel : makes sense
1:22:35 AM Manuel : do you feel that requires a lot of attention on the man’s part?
1:22:49 AM Manuel : to where it interferes with other parts of his life?
1:23:04 AM Manuel : HELL, that is a great topic to write about
1:23:07 AM Manuel : on your blog
1:23:23 AM Manuel : So You Have HER…now WHAT?
1:23:41 AM Manuel : i would imagine lots of guys are just as stupified as me
1:23:43 AM Manuel :
1:25:16 AM Khiem : that’s a good topic
1:25:25 AM Khiem : I like that title too
1:25:31 AM Khiem : well what do you think?
1:25:36 AM Manuel :
1:25:50 AM Manuel : its an excellent topic that you have mastery in
1:26:10 AM Manuel : I particularly enjoy the part about wandering eyes
1:26:49 AM Manuel : and it would be great if you talk about how its your job to keep her interested through your masculinity
1:27:03 AM Manuel : much like it’s her job to seduce you with her femininity
1:27:18 AM Manuel : (I imagine that is what you meant as far as the masculine side)

1:28:17 AM Manuel : one good piece to address is the fine line between taking her for granted…and being overly caring
1:28:33 AM Manuel : not being masculine about how you desire her I suppose?
1:29:06 AM Manuel : ie. the guy that does anything and everything a.k.a the nice guy
1:29:18 AM Khiem : yes
1:29:27 AM Manuel : versus the masculine guy who treats her very well and keeps her wanting more and more
1:29:50 AM Manuel : i feel most men do not understand this distinction
1:30:02 AM Manuel : but the few that do understand it…
1:30:08 AM Manuel : oh, you can tell
1:30:20 AM Manuel : heck, I see it all the time, as rare as it is
1:30:25 AM Manuel : you are a fine example of it
1:30:37 AM Manuel : and I have known some guys that are able to do just that
1:30:43 AM Manuel : there is a way to them
1:31:04 AM Manuel : how they go about appreciating the woman without sacrificing masculinity
1:31:44 AM Manuel : its not about “giving up the power” as the PUA self proclaimed guru’s would call it
1:31:57 AM Manuel : I think it’s about not giving up your masculinity
1:32:11 AM Khiem : well… it’s simple
1:32:18 AM Khiem : it has nothing to do about giving or not giving
1:32:28 AM Khiem : it’s the simple act of staying true to yourself
1:32:39 AM Khiem : it’s not the “act” of trying to be masculine
1:32:44 AM Khiem : it’s the act of BEING who you are
1:32:48 AM Khiem : you are masculine at your core
1:32:51 AM Khiem : you know what you want
1:32:54 AM Khiem : you know what you care about
1:33:13 AM Khiem : if you always ARE that way… and don’t compromise that core identity when in relationsihp with a woman
1:33:18 AM Khiem : she perceives you as very masculine
1:33:28 AM Khiem : it’s not an act… it’s a way of BEING
1:34:54 AM Manuel : makes sense
1:35:09 AM Manuel : hell, you should just blog our discussion!
1:35:32 AM Manuel : that in itself would be a unique way to present the information
1:35:59 AM Khiem : maybe I will
1:36:00 AM Khiem : not sure yet
1:36:09 AM Khiem : I like to present my points well, if you know what I mean
1:38:39 AM Manuel : haha
1:38:43 AM Manuel : take cuts
1:38:48 AM Manuel : like a producer
1:38:50 AM Manuel : haha
1:38:58 AM Manuel : director, should i say
1:39:06 AM Manuel : i def see what you mean though
1:41:52 AM Khiem : cuts….
1:41:53 AM Khiem : geez
1:41:58 AM Khiem : what do you think I am?
1:42:06 AM Khiem : I can’t do “cuts” of the same writing?
1:42:13 AM Khiem : it’d be like… super gay!
1:42:21 AM Khiem : or I actually coined a new term today… “way gay”
1:42:26 AM Khiem : it’s “way gay”
1:42:29 AM Khiem : it has a nice ring to it
1:45:25 AM Manuel : haha
1:45:28 AM Manuel : way gay
1:45:46 AM Manuel : just started reading your new entry
1:45:52 AM Manuel : adam lyons
1:46:52 AM Manuel : wicked shit
1:47:14 AM Manuel : “When you make people feel comfortable around you, when you make people feel desired… and when you focus on giving people a good time, there is a feeling of magical-ness.  People just follow.”
1:47:26 AM Manuel : (I absolutely love this)
1:48:45 AM Khiem : why do you like this, huh?
1:52:08 AM Manuel : its something I experienced in college my friend
1:52:16 AM Manuel : when I led my student organization
1:52:25 AM Manuel : this quote just captures it
1:52:36 AM Manuel : brought back a memory of who I once was
1:52:41 AM Manuel : deep down I still am
1:53:03 AM Manuel : I have just not found how to reapply what I use to do in college
1:53:09 AM Manuel : to the realm of life after college
1:53:28 AM Manuel : this quote is not just about picking up women…its about life in general
1:55:50 AM Khiem : well yes
1:55:58 AM Khiem : a lot of what I teach can be applied to broader things
1:56:06 AM Khiem : I just teach it THRU the medium of picking up chicks
1:56:51 AM Manuel : HA
1:56:56 AM Manuel : great entry
1:57:09 AM Manuel : I really enjoyed that!
1:57:17 AM Manuel : so even at the end…
1:57:24 AM Manuel : he failed to swallow his pride
1:57:28 AM Manuel : and say hello
1:57:36 AM Manuel : these guys lack something my friend
1:57:45 AM Khiem : oh the PUA guy lol
1:57:50 AM Khiem : well I don’t know if he recognized her
1:57:50 AM Manuel : not sure if its inner confidence
1:57:52 AM Khiem : so i dunno
1:57:58 AM Manuel : oh ok
1:58:01 AM Manuel : funny though
1:58:02 AM Khiem : I only heard the girl’s side
1:58:21 AM Khiem : I mean … as bad as your memory is.. you usually remember face don’t you?
2:01:42 AM Manuel : yes
2:02:00 AM Manuel : who was he an instructor for?
2:02:04 AM Manuel : what company?
2:02:17 AM Khiem : [Editor's note:  information edited out for privacy reasons]
2:04:37 AM Khiem : so you tell me!!!
2:04:44 AM Khiem : all I can think about is… it’s funny
2:04:53 AM Khiem : you tried to hit on my g/f’s sister a few years back
2:04:57 AM Khiem : she ignored you
2:05:04 AM Khiem : you tried to then hit up my g/f a few years back
2:05:10 AM Khiem : she was somewhat attached… and she didn’t go out with you
2:05:14 AM Khiem : and now.. I date her…
2:05:19 AM Khiem : and she’s attached to me like glue
2:06:03 AM Manuel : haha
2:08:38 AM Khiem : you should check some of my other blogs if you want
2:08:41 AM Khiem : it’s fun stuff [Editor's notes:  Manuel hasn't read my latest blog entries for a while]
2:09:00 AM Manuel : def
2:09:04 AM Manuel : i normally do
2:09:23 AM Manuel : Khiem, its hard for me to believe how clueless i was at this man
2:09:39 AM Manuel : i was just thinking back to costa rica 3 years ago
2:09:59 AM Manuel : one girl, I failed to kiss and ended all the magic that night with that little move
2:10:29 AM Manuel : and this other lady, who was married, (granted I was not attracted to her)
2:10:52 AM Manuel : she took me up to her room while she called her husband “real quick” to check in before we went back down for some beers
2:10:56 AM Manuel : and I thought nothing of it
2:11:05 AM Manuel : wow…unbelievable
2:12:10 AM Khiem : b/c you weren’t “ready” to see the real opportunities
2:12:16 AM Khiem : guys who are good with girls SEE the opportunity
2:12:22 AM Khiem : just like good business men smell opportunity
2:13:30 AM Manuel : yes, i see that now
2:13:40 AM Manuel : hell, even as late as last year
2:13:46 AM Manuel : already in the community
2:14:04 AM Manuel : I had no idea how to pick up on women’s innuendo’s, etc..etc..
2:14:09 AM Manuel : twice i can remember..
2:14:36 AM Manuel : once with Jack, when i first wen out with him a girl is out with a guy, and another “couple”. I assume they are together
2:14:40 AM Manuel : so think nothing
2:14:44 AM Manuel : i head to bar
2:14:59 AM Manuel : say hi, she is quite welcoming, offers me a drink
2:15:02 AM Manuel : gets one for Jack too
2:15:05 AM Manuel : i’m thinking cool
2:15:36 AM Manuel : got to the “where are you from?” she responds with, “Oh, i live in Jersey, I am actually here for one night.”
2:15:51 AM Manuel : I respond with “oh okay”
2:15:56 AM Manuel : completely oblivious
2:19:21 AM Khiem : and… how does that make u feel now?
2:19:48 AM Manuel : it def gives meaning to that damn saying…
2:20:01 AM Manuel : If I only knew then what I know now
2:20:30 AM Khiem : exactly what I say all the time
2:20:42 AM Manuel : I feel slightly down about all the missed opportunities
2:21:09 AM Manuel : but very thankful for the knowledge I was fortunate to learn
2:21:27 AM Manuel : better to know now than 20 years from now
2:21:29 AM Khiem : hahaha ok
2:21:40 AM Manuel : I see so many guys that just settle for “a girl”
2:21:49 AM Manuel : not a girl they love or have great chemistry with
2:21:53 AM Manuel : just “a girl”
2:22:12 AM Manuel : because they honestly don’t know any better
2:22:23 AM Manuel : and have left this dept of their life completely to chance
2:22:51 AM Manuel : they are glad to simply have “a girl”
2:23:03 AM Manuel : much like the people who are just glad to have “a job”
2:23:15 AM Manuel : heck, maybe that’s another good topic to address
2:23:33 AM Khiem : ahhaah
2:23:39 AM Khiem : are you on an inspiring kick or what?
2:23:39 AM Manuel : write about the guys that never find “this”
2:23:49 AM Manuel :
2:23:54 AM Khiem : well Manny… sometimes ignorance is bliss
2:23:57 AM Khiem : b/c you don’t know about it
2:23:59 AM Khiem : you don’t miss out on it
2:24:07 AM Khiem : and therefore you don’t get miserable for it
2:24:14 AM Khiem : same thing with developing countries
2:24:16 AM Khiem : they are overall happier
2:24:20 AM Khiem : b/c they don’t know what they miss out
2:24:19 AM Manuel : deep down inside
2:24:26 AM Khiem : so they just enjoy the simplicity of things
2:24:32 AM Manuel : i do think some are completely unaware
2:24:48 AM Manuel : but I also believe that many of them know
2:24:52 AM Manuel : deep down inside
2:25:02 AM Manuel : just like many people know they settled for a job in accounting or whatever
2:25:13 AM Manuel : sure things turn out nice
2:25:22 AM Manuel : and you can get pleasure from other areas
2:25:31 AM Manuel : but many of us know
2:26:13 AM Manuel : i think too many people focus on the getting laid part of learning this stuff
2:26:24 AM Manuel : but in reality, there is a deeper level
2:26:39 AM Manuel : learning this stuff is about more than just getting laid
2:27:28 AM Khiem : well you get that
2:27:31 AM Khiem : not everyone gets that
2:27:42 AM Manuel : its about obtaining the knowledge to understand yourself , women, and attraction, so that you can be fully confident to go for what you really want
2:27:44 AM Khiem : and b/c they are at a different level of emotional maturity
2:27:49 AM Manuel : what you are passionate about
2:27:51 AM Khiem : it’s all about understanding yourself
2:27:58 AM Khiem : women is only a reflection of your understanding of yourself
2:28:03 AM Manuel : the woman and/or women that really make you tick
2:28:19 AM Manuel : and the one’s you make tick
2:29:26 AM Manuel : you always have the greatest little quotes
2:29:28 AM Manuel :
2:29:32 AM Khiem : hahaah thanks
2:29:37 AM Manuel : i need to start putting those on my wall
2:29:41 AM Khiem : I don’t try to come up with catchy phrases
2:29:48 AM Manuel : i know
2:29:52 AM Manuel : that’s the beauty
2:29:54 AM Manuel : haha
2:30:04 AM Manuel : i know you well enough to realize that
2:30:23 AM Manuel : to the point where I have to stop you on the phone and say “Khiem! write that down!
2:30:28 AM Manuel : its good stuff
2:30:52 AM Manuel : with your responding “what was it i said again”
2:30:54 AM Khiem : well I’m still learning to recognize my own genius at times
2:32:55 AM Manuel : you and I, we would never work out
2:33:04 AM Manuel : you’re like my cocky little brother
2:33:13 AM Manuel : I am sooooo not your type [Editor's note:  this is a joking reference to my previous post about the PUA using that cocky and funny line to talk to my girlfriend's little sister]
2:33:15 AM Khiem : I had lunch with an former client today… and he was reminding me of the stuff I said that he found valuable during his bootcamp
2:33:19 AM Khiem : and I still dont’ remember what I told him lol
2:33:28 AM Manuel : hehe
2:33:59 AM Manuel : you have a profound way to you man
2:34:04 AM Manuel : my buddies told me that
2:34:08 AM Manuel : when you did that speech in NYC
2:34:17 AM Manuel : I have always known that
2:34:25 AM Manuel : I honestly think of you as a life mentor
2:34:27 AM Manuel : haha
2:34:44 AM Khiem : thanks… but as profound as I was… I don’t think I got any of them kickstarted to do something about it
2:34:49 AM Khiem : they think it sounds cool
2:34:52 AM Khiem : and they go on with their merry life
2:34:57 AM Manuel : comes from within
2:35:11 AM Manuel : you have to want it
2:35:16 AM Manuel : or recognize it
2:35:24 AM Manuel : recognize the value
2:36:02 AM Manuel : ha….I tell Candice about you
2:36:18 AM Manuel : i always think it would be funny as hell for her to meet you
2:36:28 AM Manuel : especially if you tell her what you do
2:36:32 AM Khiem : why’s that?  she probably wouldn’t see that side of me
2:36:32 AM Manuel : LoL
2:36:39 AM Khiem : like she’d get the whole dating coaching
2:36:46 AM Khiem : but not the profound stuff you and I talk about
2:36:49 AM Manuel : yeah
2:36:57 AM Manuel : right, i mean the dating coach stuff
2:37:03 AM Manuel : profound side is diff
2:38:44 AM Khiem : talking to you makes me want to write
2:38:47 AM Khiem : I hate you for that sometimes
2:38:52 AM Khiem : b/c it’s late at night and I should go to bed!
2:39:00 AM Khiem : but then again, I enjoy it
2:39:04 AM Manuel : LoL
2:39:26 AM Manuel : honestly, I am inspired right now
2:39:39 AM Manuel : i noticed that learning from you always does that
2:39:52 AM Khiem : honestly, if you feel inspired, write me letters LOL… or emails…
2:39:52 AM Manuel : I need to get my ass up to L.A. just to hang with you guys
2:39:57 AM Manuel : it would do me good
2:40:02 AM Khiem : b/c those are the things that puts my creativity in high gear
2:40:13 AM Khiem : when I hear that from someone, it puts me in a writing mood
2:40:19 AM Khiem : or in a mood to talk/explain/discuss
2:40:25 AM Khiem : when someone tells me write a book
2:40:29 AM Khiem : and I sit by myself on the comp
2:40:32 AM Khiem : I get a blank mind
2:40:39 AM Khiem : b/c there’s a lot to say… but where do I start?
2:40:51 AM Manuel : makes sense
2:40:56 AM Khiem : if I had your questions… or your inspirations… or anyone who found some of the stuff I say useful
2:40:59 AM Khiem : it gives me a starting point
2:41:02 AM Khiem : and that’s really all I need
2:41:08 AM Khiem : that… starting point
2:41:11 AM Khiem : and then I start writing

2:42:00 AM Manuel : maybe I do need to move to L.A. for a bit
2:42:28 AM Manuel : for some reason you inspire me to do great things with my life
2:42:36 AM Manuel : not just with women
2:43:23 AM Khiem : really?
2:43:29 AM Khiem : I didn’t know I had that effect on you
2:43:30 AM Manuel : yeah man
2:43:39 AM Manuel : yes sir
2:43:54 AM Manuel : i take most of the stuff we talk about and apply it to everything in my life
2:44:00 AM Manuel : it has profound meaning to me
2:44:03 AM Manuel : like you said
2:44:14 AM Manuel : you teach it through attraction and seduction
2:44:34 AM Manuel : but your principles go beyond that
2:44:45 AM Manuel : some guys don’t “get it”
2:44:47 AM Manuel : i do
2:45:33 AM Manuel : comments like this…
2:45:35 AM Manuel : “When you make people feel comfortable around you, when you make people feel desired… and when you focus on giving people a good time, there is a feeling of magical-ness.  People just follow.”
2:45:44 AM Manuel : carry much weight with me
2:45:55 AM Manuel : probably more so than many other fellas
2:46:09 AM Manuel : because i know and have experienced exactly what you mean
2:46:41 AM Khiem : well that’s the thing… you recognize it b/c you experienced it
2:46:47 AM Khiem : I write about it… but not everyone sees it
2:48:05 AM Manuel : you know Khiem, without sounding “way gay”
2:48:46 AM Manuel : for as little time as I have known you, my relationship with you is what I imagine it feels like to have a big brother
2:48:56 AM Manuel : deep down, I know you care
2:49:01 AM Manuel : i fell it
2:49:03 AM Manuel : i feel it
2:49:18 AM Manuel : and I am sure you are the same way with your clients and your other friends
2:49:32 AM Manuel : that to me, is what makes you a stand out in my book
2:50:17 AM Khiem : awww … thanks man!
2:51:17 AM Manuel : thanks to you, buddy

Well, there you have it!  This is a glimpse of the kind of stuff I talk to friends and long-term clients.  If you have a topic idea or a question you really want to know my take on, shoot me an e-mail.

I love to hear from you guys.

Cheers!