Knitting at the Guillotine

He Thinks He Is So Clever!

2012-05-31T13:09:00.000+01:00

When we were married, every time the Abuser did or said something to hurt me or my children, I became weaker.
Since I got free of him, every time he has tried to hurt me or my children, I grow stronger.
He is not as clever as he thinks he is, is he?

Never stay or take him back for the WRONG REASONS

2012-05-31T10:08:00.000+01:00

You’ve asked yourself no less than a thousand times, “Why do I stay in this craziness?”
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House of Mirrors: Exposing The Malignant Narcissist

2011-10-04T20:30:00.000+01:00

House of Mirrors: Exposing The Malignant Narcissist: A malignant narcissist mother murders her child and runs free. This is what we’re up against folks: a denial of the reality that a “mother”...

FABULOUS

2011-10-01T03:04:00.000+01:00

This is FABULOUSLY funny:-

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FAvOC3_Ubtk&feature

Things I Love About Being Single

2011-09-30T09:17:00.001+01:00

http://simplysolo.wordpress.com/2010/07/28/things-i-love-about-being-single/

BLOG.THENARCISSISTINYOURLIFE.COM: Married to a Narcissist-Stressed to the Max

2011-09-30T09:16:00.000+01:00

BLOG.THENARCISSISTINYOURLIFE.COM: Married to a Narcissist-Stressed to the Max:

'via Blog this'

Real men don’t cheat | I've Survived! And I'm about to "fly"!!

2011-09-30T09:07:00.000+01:00

Real men don’t cheat | I've Survived! And I'm about to "fly"!!:

'via Blog this'

Futility Part One

2011-09-30T02:54:00.000+01:00

Futility Part Two

2011-09-30T02:52:00.000+01:00

House of Mirrors: The Malignant Narcissist: Death Personified

2011-09-24T08:16:00.000+01:00

House of Mirrors: The Malignant Narcissist: Death Personified:

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clip #2 / FisheadMovie

2011-09-10T01:33:00.000+01:00

clip #2 / FisheadMovie

When Affair Partners Marry: 9 Reasons Why They Might Fail

2011-09-08T23:46:00.000+01:00

When Affair Partners Marry: 9 Reasons Why They Might Fail

Dating A Sociopath (Part 2)

2011-08-23T15:50:00.000+01:00

Dating A Sociopath (Part 2)

Amazing Book

2011-08-14T19:20:00.000+01:00

Amazing Book - I cannot recommend this highly enough.....

WH and OW: Our Love is Real - YouTube

2011-08-11T14:49:00.000+01:00

This video is SOOOO funny! It's my ex-husband and his delightful soulmate to a tee! Haven't laughed so much in ages!

WH and OW: Our Love is Real - YouTube

Coleman averts jury; judge issues life terms

2011-05-10T07:16:00.000+01:00

Coleman averts jury; judge issues life terms

Incredibly evil. How on earth can a man kill his own beautiful children (and his wife of course) just because his extramarital affair would have lost him his $100k job? I hope that before Christopher Coleman dies, he repents and asks God for forgiveness.

Brief Message To My Ex

2011-03-30T21:11:00.000+01:00

If you quit lying about me, I’ll quit telling the truth about you

No Contact-How to End Destructive Relationships book-Author Penny Haider « Ending Destructive Relationships

2011-03-27T11:58:00.000+01:00

No Contact-How to End Destructive Relationships book-Author Penny Haider « Ending Destructive Relationships

We Are One: Facing challenges

2011-03-27T10:58:00.000+01:00

We Are One: Facing challenges: "Some days I am just plain tired. Tired of trying to do all I am supposed to do, all that I want to do, and all that I wish I could do...."

Do Narcissists Know They Are Narcissists? | Psychology Today

2011-03-27T09:59:00.000+01:00

Do Narcissists Know They Are Narcissists? | Psychology Today

Cheating, Incorporated | Ideafeed | February 16, 2011 | Big Think

2011-03-27T09:40:00.000+01:00

Cheating, Incorporated | Ideafeed | February 16, 2011 | Big Think

Joanna Ashmun RIP

2011-02-21T23:53:00.003Z

_____________________________

Joanna Ashmun
16th November 1948 - 2nd November 2009

RIP

'Not ever gone
Just moved on'

With grateful thanks to Joanna Ashmun for her words of

wisdom (www.halcyon.com/jmashmun/npd/)

and heartfelt sympathy to her family and loved ones.

______________________________

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To the OW: My Past Is Not Just My Past - It is Your Future

2011-02-02T10:27:00.000Z

Abusers like to 'compartmentalize' and to 'divide and conquer'.
They create animosity between various parties because they are afraid of the various parties meeting, comparing notes and discovering exactly what the Princes (and Kings, Queens & Princesses) of Darkness have been up to and what lies they have told.
Your ex-abuser is highly likely to create hatred between you and his new narcissistic supply. He will even keep his CHILDREN and his new supply apart if necessary.
During my ex-abuser's latest hoovering attempt, after admitting that he had been lying to people (including the OW) for more than two years, by telling them that I had refused to allow him to see our sons; I asked him why he had never introduced our children to the OW, even though their affair had started four years earlier, we are divorced and he had been living with the OW on and off for two years.
Our sons didn't know anything about their own father's live-in partner, what her name was or what she looked like. They had never been to the home he had shared with her for TWO YEARS and the eldest didn't even know she had two boys of her own......
My ex-abuser replied, "Because she wasn't fit to be around them. She's not even nice to her own kids".
Er...right. So why the heck have you been living with a woman who is allegedly 'not fit to be around' your children??????
"Because you wouldn't have me back and you know I can't live alone"
Hmmm. What he really meant was :-
"I'm afraid that if she gets to know them, she might ask them if I ever assaulted you and treated you like dirt and they might tell her the truth and say that yes, I did do those things and more. And then she would know for sure that you're not the bitter, lying ex-wife I convinced her you are. She would know for sure that you're not the crazy psycho; that I am."

Dingbat

2011-01-29T01:56:00.000Z

Dingbat

Infidelity Is Abuse

2011-01-19T21:41:00.000Z

Infidelity is abuse because the characteristics of the unfaithful are like those of a batterer and the symptoms of the victim are like those of the battered. Sitting in on battered women’s groups, I heard the same things-women wanting to go back, full of anger and rage, saying they'd rather be beaten than wonder where their partner was sleeping at night.

The infidel has a sense of narcissistic entitlement exhibiting a pattern of behaviors that encompass more than just "the incident." The damage he causes-to partner/s, children, family-never seems to hit home for him. He continues to blame her, something, or someone. He feels his actions are not his fault. He uses phrases that absolve him of responsibility and portrays innocence, "I'm holding her but loving you," "She came on to me," or "I need to have my needs met." In actuality, it is all about him. He can only go to his own hurt, not others’. Some feel that infidelity is caused by sexual compulsion…

I recently heard a police psychologist refer to a client's sexual addiction as self-soothing behaviors-a definite euphemism for dangerous acts which expose victims to much physical, psychological, emotional, verbal and spiritual abuse. "Chronic infidelity is abuse," therapist Bancroft (2002) reminds us (I say any infidelity is abuse), and “twenty-five percent of abusive men cheat on their partners."

Jennifer and Burt Schneider (1991) say the sexually addicted person numbs out with sex, blames his partner when she is not sexually satisfied, and his bedroom is usually "a nightmare" for he will not let her sleep until his needs are satisfied. Bancroft disagrees with the label sexual addiction and tells us, "Infidelity is not sexual addiction or compulsion, it is sexual abuse.”

Kay Rutherford, PhD, LPC, NCC, RN

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