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		<title>Something to Help You and I Make a Difference in the World</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 05 May 2012 11:25:15 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>David Bernard-Stevens</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Sometimes Simply Acting upon an Urge can Fundamentally Change our Lives
Life seems amazingly complex and of course in many ways it is.  Yet, there is a simplicity to it that when understood, makes the reality of our lives simpler and astonishing enough, more meaning and purposeful. Below (in Blue) 10 individuals anywhere in the world [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p style="text-align: center;"><em><span style="color: #993300;"><strong>Sometimes Simply Acting upon an Urge can Fundamentally Change our Lives</strong></span></em></p>
<p>Life seems amazingly complex and of course in many ways it is.  Yet, there is a simplicity to it that when understood, makes the reality of our lives simpler and astonishing enough, more meaning and purposeful. Below (<strong><span style="color: #3366ff;">in Blue</span></strong>) 10 individuals anywhere in the world will get the opportunity to learn this for themselves not in a group but with me one-on-one via Skype!</p>
<p>I was one of the &#8220;slow learners&#8221; as it took me nearly 50 some years to finally begin to understand that complexity of the world around me was mostly created and in some cases made up by me.  I have spent the last 10 years using the talents I was blessed with at birth to serve others throughout the world by helping them learn much sooner in their lives than I did!</p>
<p>I was blessed with the ability to take complex ideas and make them simple to internalize and understand.  I was born with the ability to see connections between seemingly unrelated concepts and see not only how they are connected but how they can relate to people&#8217;s lives in general.  I help business men and women think in ways that allows them to truly discover new perspectives and opportunities.  I help businesses and organizations become sustainable and provide resiliency in what they are trying to do in the world.  And along the way I help men, women and youths find a deeper meaning and purpose in their lives and along with that&#8230;. joy.</p>
<p>Over the past two years I have been consumed with creating a leadership program in Kenya and later East Africa and beyond.  It has been a challenging time, yet also one of the most rewarding of my life.  And though much of my efforts and energy have been devoted to creating this project (dream really) I also have kept firmly in mind that I am here to serve others in the world as well. <span style="color: #3366ff;"><em> </em><strong>So in looking at what I need to do here in Kenya, I have carved out the appropriate time to serve 10 individuals anywhere in the world and engage them in the deeply challenging  value-based leadership program that I developed and am teaching now.</strong></span> It is powerful.  It will change the lives of those 10 individuals  and I do not hesitate to say that they will find more meaning and purpose in their lives and as a result, more joy.  Their businesses and or organizations will become better and their ability to lead will change in that they will learn how to authentically lead with others so that <em>employees, teams, departments, communities or families</em> choose to create things that others thought to be impossible.  I&#8217;m not bragging&#8230; I just know what the program has done for those who have been part of it.</p>
<p><span style="color: #3366ff;"><strong>The ten people will get to engage in the program from where they are via their computer (Skype) at very reduced rate of $1,000 USD each and in return will receive:</strong></span></p>
<ul>
<li><span style="color: #008000;"><strong>A minimum of seven 90 to 120 minute sessions via Skype.  These sessions will be between just the participant and myself and not in a “group”.</strong></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #008000;"><strong>Sessions will be customized to fit each person’s schedule and time zone and needs.</strong></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #008000;"><strong>Priority attention from me to participants via E-mail (and other social media networks) for the duration of each individual’s program.</strong></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #008000;"><strong>A guarantee that life will have more meaning and purpose at the conclusion of the program.</strong></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #008000;"><strong>A promise that you will know what to do to be the leader you were created to be</strong></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #008000;"><strong>A promise you will understand how to lead <em>with </em>other people and be a better person, “boss”, employee and best of all a transformational leader with the ability to create teams of people who together will accomplish amazing things.</strong></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #008000;"><strong>A win/win/win outcome. </strong></span>
<ul>
<li><span style="color: #008000;"><strong>You will have a stronger ability to make a real and sustainable impact in your professional and personal worlds</strong></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #008000;"><strong>Your funds will allow me to be all I can be to those I am impacting and being of service to here in East Africa, and</strong></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #008000;"><strong>The combination of the first two above will help impact a lot of people who will in their turn impact thousands more.</strong></span></li>
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<p><span style="color: #808080;"><strong>The basic course outline will be:</strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #808080;"><strong>Sessions 1 and  2:  How to create reality, mindsets and learning to think differently to allow for new possibilities<br />
Sessions 4 and 3:  The critical essence of leading ones self via core values. Learning to see your world differently.<br />
Sessions 5 and 6:  Finding purpose and creating alignment of thought, choices and action to core values and purpose.  The process of responding and creating as compared to reacting and repeating.<br />
Session  7: Learning how to lead with others and establishing environments at home and  professionally where great teams are formed who create amazing things  that are sustainable and resilient.</strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #840000;"><em><strong><span style="color: #ff0000;"><span style="color: #808080;"><span style="color: #ff0000;">I</span><span style="color: #ff0000;">f you wish</span> </span>to be one of the 10 or would like more information, please contact me at the following E-mails or phone #m or on Facebook, Twitter or LinkedIn.</span><br />
</strong></em></span></p>
<p><a href="mailto:David@leaderdevelopmentgroup.com">David@leaderdevelopmentgroup.com</a> or <a href="mailto:dbs03@q.com">dbs03@q.com</a></p>
<p>+254 724 21 8962  or in Kenya at: 0724 21 8962</p>
<p><span style="color: #ff0000;"><span style="color: #000000;"> </span></span></p>
<p>I wish you all the best.  May you be all you were created to be and have the life of meaning and purpose you have always desired and quite honestly, deserve… David</p>
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<p>Here is the link to one of my two projects that has come from doing leadership training in the Central Rift Valley area of Kenya.  It was produced by A24 Media/Camerapic earlier this year.  If these women can create 20 small businesses from virtually nothing and with no help, think of what you are capable of doing!  The section begins about 2 minutes into the video:</p>
<p>http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yMbfY9LJLRY</p>
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		<title>Is it the Dream Itself or the Creating of the Dream That is So Magical?</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 02 Apr 2012 17:50:43 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>David Bernard-Stevens</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Dreams are are wonderful yet mostly fantasy until actions are taken to make them real.  And make no mistake; dreams can become very real.  But the joy, the passion, and the energy of creating a dream only manifests themselves with actions.  Anything else is just illusion.  
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>Dreams are are wonderful yet mostly fantasy until actions are taken to make them real.  And make no mistake; dreams can become very real.  But the joy, the passion, and the energy of creating a dream only manifests themselves with actions.  Anything else is just illusion.  </p>
<p>That is what I respect about the women of rural Jua Kali, Kenya.  They once told me of their dream of having a Dairy Herd.  Then, with the help of small donations from many around the world, their dream was given a chance to start.  And with that opportunity the women decided right then and there to work hard to make that dream become a reality in their lives.  They instinctively knew it would be hard work, yet until they actually experienced the challenges and difficulties they had no real center for reference.  Now they know and after fighting tick disease, a premature still-born calf, manually cutting 100’s of sacks of grinded maize stalks and grass for feed; they are more “seasoned” on the challenges they are and will continue to face.  </p>
<p><strong>Then came the dreaded “dry season” which everyone knew would be the most difficult test of all.<br />
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<p>This time around the season was very dry with the hot winds like the dog days of August coming with a vengeance.  In no time at all what was green turned brown, dried up and was gone.  The women had the bags of feed they had worked hard to store… many around them did not.  Cows died.  Milk production dropped dramatically and loans taken to buy cows by many around them were unable to be paid as the hoped for income evaporated in the dry season of Kenya.  Yet the women’s efforts paid off and their cows made it through in good shape, although milk production did drop.  They had made it through their biggest test and they were both relieved and grateful.  </p>
<p>Throughout it all they have learned.  Mostly they know how much they do not know and are struggling to learn what they need quickly.  They need to learn the various mixes of feed that each of their cows needs to be the most productive.  They need to learn how to increase their small herd’s milk production as they now know what they will need to cover the upcoming costs of veterinarian bills, medicines, breeding, and grinding of feed.  They know of their need to increase revenue so that they can begin to purchase their own land in order to plant the kind of grasses and feed they need.  They know of the need to increase revenue so that a portion of the income can go to help their own needs of simply surviving until the herd becomes larger and more productive.  </p>
<p><strong>And they are fully aware there are no guarantees.<br />
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<p>So along with the hard work, plenty of prayers and an increase in faith lies a firm belief they will create a better future for their families, community and that their actions will make a difference.   They have learned from their sometimes harsh and brutal past that sometimes hard work and faith is all one has.  </p>
<p>They are amazing and are a beacon of hope for so many who want to desperately believe that their actions matter and the future is theirs to create.</p>
<p>A short video documentary by A24 Media provided a brief update just prior to the dry season beginning:<br />
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yMbfY9LJLRY (The women start about 2 minutes in)</p>
<p><strong>If you find their story compelling, you can help build along with them, their dream.  And with this dream thousands of others throughout the world will see where they too can create a new future by their actions.  Any amount of donation will be helpful.  There are three critical needs:</strong></p>
<p>1.	Earning enough to earn a living AND pay the <strong>school fees</strong> to send their children to secondary school has been incredibly difficult.  Most of the women have the first semester paid (with help from people in the US, Japan and Singapore), but the 2nd half of the year is uncertain.  They know their children’s future will be greatly determined by education and are determined their children go to school.  In fact, one of the reasons for their dream was to have enough money not just to pay secondary school fees, but to fund their children’s university education as well…. something until now that was considered to be impossible.  Boarding at a school runs about 40,000 Kenya Shillings $500 USD.  Add to that another 20,000 shillings ($250) for food, uniforms, books, and bedding and you’ve got it.  The women has six children who qualify for secondary school.  </p>
<p>2.	Revenue to purchase <strong>land</strong> which goes for approximately 325,000 Kenyan shillings per acre or about $4,000 USD.  Being able to grow the types of grass they need AND to have land for their cattle to graze during the next dry season would both reduce their cost of buying feed and increase milk production revenue.  Currently they are using “donated” land which is on a primary school property.  It is always a problem when land used is being donated as it can be taken away at any time&#8230; especially in Kenya.  </p>
<p>3.	They need to purchase a <strong>grinder/tractor</strong> to grind their own feed.  This would save paying for it and would be a revenue generator as they would rent it out to others.  The tractor and grinder would cost approximately 500,000 shillings or $6,250 USD.  </p>
<p><strong>If you feel you want to be part of what these women are creating, please send your donation to:</strong>David Bernard-Stevens, 501 Hazelwood Drive, Lincoln, Nebraska 68510 USA. </p>
<p>Members of my family there will deposit your donation into the proper account where I will be able to access and transfer into Shillings via ATM here in Kenya.  There are no middle men and you are informed all along the way as to the use and outcome of your donation.  You need to know that your donation is not tax deductible.  </p>
<p><strong>I believe in these women.  I hope you do too and are moved to help them just a little.  They will do the rest. </strong> </p>
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		<title>When the Rose Colored Glasses Come Off…</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 06 Jan 2012 16:50:05 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>David Bernard-Stevens</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Many of you have followed from time to time a project that I decided to do while creating an empowerment and leadership program here in East Africa.  The project involved a group of single mothers who were making ends meet the only way they knew how&#8230; by brewing illegal alcohol.  They had a [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>Many of you have followed from time to time a project that I decided to do while creating an empowerment and leadership program here in East Africa.  The project involved a group of single mothers who were making ends meet the only way they knew how&#8230; by brewing illegal alcohol.  They had a dream of leaving that way of life and having a dairy herd.  The project I created was to make their dream a reality.  For those not familiar, a media company here in East Africa did a short 5 minute documentary of their efforts. </p>
<p>http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UCSjudNPoS0</p>
<p>There have been many challenges and they have have made much progress since the exciting days of the cows arriving.   But in my admiration and absolute respect for what these women are trying to do, I sometimes forget what they are truly facing and the real challenges that surround them each day.  <strong>I forget until I take off my rose colored lenses and take a look from a different perspective.  When seeing what they have done and what still needs to happen from a &#8220;non-rosy&#8221; viewpoint, their success is anything but certain. </strong> Here is some of the views from that perspective:</p>
<p>*  One simply cannot ignore that the women are in their society &#8220;just women&#8221; who are not supposed to run large businesses.  They live in a male dominated culture where to be a women, a girl must only do three things: get married, have children, and submit to their husbands.  Women who are &#8220;old&#8221; which is to say older than 40 are considered to be too old to marry with many men (and women) assuming that something must be terribly &#8220;wrong&#8221; with the older woman making her unmarryable.  An older woman might become a second or third wife of a man but probably not a first wife at their age.  As a humbling example, a couple of women in the group are &#8220;standing in&#8221; for older members who are sick, giving birth, or otherwise unable to attend meetings or work for the project.  These women are married.  If they are not home when there husbands come home they are beaten.  If they need to help grind maize for feed for the cow project, their husbands will refuse to give them permission as it is not work suitable for women and as wives, they should remain in their home.  Yet, these women must attend the meetings of the group as &#8220;stand ins&#8221; so it is not uncommon for them to run home after seeing or hearing their husbands heading home so as to be there before he arrives. </p>
<p>* Family alliances are a real issue.  The family structure in many of Kenya&#8217;s tribes are very complex&#8230; at least from my perspective. <strong>And, since most families have been in &#8220;survival mode&#8221; for many generations, there has developed a &#8220;do what must be done to support the family&#8217;s attempt to survive&#8221; mentality.  If one needs to steal, lie, cheat, threaten or force in order to obtain money needed for food or basic needs all is fair and ok since it is for one&#8217;s family. </strong> So imagine what is going through the minds of the women and their family members when they see cows showing up of great value, and money coming in from donors all over the world to further purchase more cows, feed, land etc.  And if you think you can sense the reactive nature of somehow wanting one of the cows or some of the money for themselves or their families&#8230; multiply it by a factor of 10 and you have it.  PLUS the added pressure of family &#8220;elders&#8221; (men) who are asking what is in this new project for them or the children of relatives of family member further removed.  It is a real issue that is being dealt with almost every day.  In another case, a woman of the group received some money from the fund raiser the group held not too long ago.  She was beaten and her home searched by other family members living elsewhere until they found and took the money she had been given.  Such is the way life can be for many women in Kenya&#8230; more in the conservative countryside that in the larger more educated urban centers. </p>
<p>* Thinking in a business sense and for the long term is simply a new line of thinking.  There is no baseline for comparison or for a foundation of what to do as they have always spent each day what was obtained that day in order to get to tomorrow.  The concept of allowing money to accumulate in order to expand the business, have a reserve for emergencies, and to create more capital is simply a foreign concept.  They get the concept easily enough but the pressures to take the money that is &#8220;right there&#8221; NOW for the pressing needs is almost overwhelming. </p>
<p>* The work they have had to do to get enough grass and feed to last through the coming dry season (now here) has been hard.  It is hard because they are working and not being paid (although they know it will pay off in the long run) and because it competes sometimes with the needs of their own personal businesses that they desperately need to create the short term income each need if they are to remain out of brewing.   They have enough time, but managing that time is a very disciplined mindset and the Kenyan sense of time is very laid back.  If one understands the Native American Indian&#8217;s sense of time then you have a good sense of &#8220;Kenyan Time&#8221;.  It is very hard to be time bound when everyone around you are not. </p>
<p>* Finally, the unseen economic pressures have hit them full force&#8230; international oil prices and the International monetary system.  They are on a very strict income where every penny (shilling) counts.  When fuel, kerosene in this case, rises 60% and as a consequence basic food requirements (flour, sugar, vegetables and fruits) rise more than 100% in a few months, that is as close to an economic disaster that one can get anywhere in the world.  <strong>The impact obviously is what they were making with their new businesses to replace their old brewing income is not near enough and school fees for their children are now fast approaching.  Most do not see a way they will be able to pay and they are committed to their children going to school&#8230; boys AND girls.  So the pressures to go back to the &#8220;sure thing&#8221; income of brewing mounts daily and the needs for the women to help each other also increases each day.</strong></p>
<p>This is the real world these women find themselves in today.  It is hard.  They are stretching what has been considered to be the norm and they are having to learn how to think and respond rather than simply react and repeat. They are stretching and expanding the norms of society and culture and in some ways society and culture are pushing back.  Yet, they are committed, focused, and truly want to create a better life for themselves, their families, their community and region.  What the actual outcome will be is anyone&#8217;s guess. <strong> Yet I believe in them and I get a sense that they see what their future can be as they slowly begin to believe it will be if they can just hold on, work hard, and have a whole lot of faith. </p>
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<p><strong>An After Thought:</strong>   The women&#8217;s group has 6 children in secondary school at this time.   Primary school is free but secondary schools have fees attached for attending.  The cost to send one child to secondary school for a year is about 16,000 shillings or approximately $188 USD (assuming the shilling to be near 85 to the dollar).  So for $1,128 dollars the pressure of the fees would be off their shoulders for a year as they work to stabilize and grow their dairy business.  Relieving that pressure will give them some breathing room&#8230; something that they desperately need at the moment.  If you would like to help, please send a check payable to: David Bernard-Stevens (me) and send it to 501 Hazelwood Drive, Lincoln, Nebraska 68510.  When received, family members will deposit it into the proper account and I will withdraw it via an ATM in shillings to give to the women when a meaningful level is reached.  Please put &#8220;School Fees&#8221; in the notation portion of your check.  If you would rather send your donation directly to me here in Kenya via MoneyGram or Western Union, let me know and I will send you the Swift Codes and other pertinent information.  You will be advised when your donation has been received and kept updated on the effort.  Please note that your donation will not be tax deductible.</p>
<p>These women have the potential of changing the very social fabric that has kept women and children &#8220;down&#8221; in most developing countries.  The impact they could have to other women within Africa and the world is infinite in its potential.  The world needs them somehow to find a way.  With your help, the winds of change being sown here may become a gale of possibilities&#8230;</p>
<p>David</p>
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		<title>The Power of a Moment from an Unlit Room in Rural Kenya</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 28 Nov 2011 09:24:37 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>David Bernard-Stevens</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I do not know the words to adequately describe what I experienced the other day in rural Kenya.   It seemed almost surreal yet it was as real as life can get.   It was in a small unlit room that a group of single women with children met to work out some [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>I do not know the words to adequately describe what I experienced the other day in rural Kenya.   It seemed almost surreal yet it was as real as life can get.   It was in a small unlit room that a group of single women with children met to work out some difficult issues that had arisen within the group in their attempt to switch from making and selling illegal “brew” to establishing alternative incomes and leave brewing forever.  </p>
<p><strong>They had done so much already.</strong>  They had created small businesses in order to replace the income they chose to lose when they determined that brewing was not what they wanted for their lives or how they wanted to impact the people and youth of their area.  They had captured the hearts of many in the world with their efforts to create something positive out of virtually nothing.  They had stated to some their dream of one day creating a dairy business to positively change the lives of their children and community around them.  And when people around the world heard of their courage and dream, they responded by donating to buy the first cows for their future herd. </p>
<p><strong>It was at that moment when everything changed. </strong> What was a dream was becoming a reality.   The contempt and being looked down upon of the past had seemingly overnight changed to respect and appreciation of what they were attempting to do and the role models they were becoming for women, youth and yes, even men.  Overnight it seems their lives changed from no one caring to almost everyone watching and caring what they did in their daily lives.  </p>
<p>Of course there were people who did their best to help prepare the women for what was about to happen, yet no one can be totally prepared for something they have never experienced before.  This I know from my own experiences.  I remember people trying to prepare me for the changes my life would have when I was appointed to be a state senator and when I was chosen as a teacher of the year.  Yet as others tried to prepare me I can tell you that the actual experience was nothing I was prepared for.  I struggled mightily, made mistakes, and learned some tough but valuable lessons… just as these women are now beginning to experience, struggle and learn.</p>
<p>So there we all were in that small unlighted room one afternoon as a steady rain came down making walking difficult along the mud roads and pathways.  There had been challenges.  There had been mistakes made.  There was a need to clear the air and find some stable ground again.  And when the sharing began no one held back and the truth of their challenges and lives flowed freely and earnestly.</p>
<p><strong>For me it was an experience in many ways I will cherish forever. </strong> It was in that small unlit room where the insidious effects of inflation, the fact that there was little money in the area and businesses everywhere were down, the increasing challenges of paying school fees for children getting older, children and relatives in desperate need of health care and of the huge tasks and individual effort facing all of them in getting their now six cows through the dry season… effort that was needed immediately but would not bear fruit for another 3 or 4 years.  To a person, every woman knew the value of their efforts to maintain the herd for what the future would hold for them and their families.  Yet how to survive in the prevailing economic conditions until that time was weighing heavily on their minds and hearts.  </p>
<p>It was a sharing I shall <em>never</em> forget.  It was a sharing of individual struggle.  It was a sharing that found comfort and support from the others within the group and it was a sharing where the real challenges of surviving for most of the people in the world came into clear focus and light.  And throughout it all, I grew to respect these women so much more and yes I love each of them for what they are attempting to do.  They are attempting to do the right thing for their lives and for others when everything around them is seemingly pushing them to go against what they know in their hearts to be true.  <em>The survival mentality is strong in everyone and the sense of doing what one must whether right or wrong to survive another day can become overwhelming.  </em></p>
<p>In the room that day there was pain.  There were tears and a sharing that held nothing back.  And in that room was great courage and still a sense of hope.  It was there that the realness of life and the deciding of how to respond and create something new and not just react and repeat the past came front and center.  It was so very real and not just something to write about in theory.  It was as real as it can get. </p>
<p>Yet, these women know what they want for their lives and are doing everything they can to support each other, to be strong, to be firm when needed and to somehow find a way.  It was an amazing thing to see and experience and it reaffirmed within my spirit the true power we all have within our internal spirit if we dare to dream, act to create, and most of all believe that we <em>can</em> change our future and become who we wish to be.  </p>
<p><em>In the end, they all recommitted to where they wished to go, who they wished to be and that it would be by their actions that they would be successful… or not.  They reinforced how they would help each other and put in stronger enforcement of where they are going along with strict accountability for each member. </em></p>
<p><strong>And with that the community also responded.</strong> The District Chief of Law Enforcement, community Elders and many others within the community offered to help the group with a “Harambee” or community fund raiser with the proceeds to help solidify the small businesses the women began almost a year ago.  <em>For it is the view of the community leaders that if these women can succeed, everything will potentially change.  Women will be more empowered, youth will see that just because there are no jobs doesn’t mean jobs cannot be created, and there will be income over time from the dairy farm that will benefit all including education and health care.  </em></p>
<p><strong>The Harambee will take place on December 1st.  If you feel you would like to be supportive of this community in rural Kenya and their fight to create something different for their future, you can send a check to me, David Bernard-Stevens at: 501 Hazelwood Drive, Lincoln Nebraska, 68510.  Put “Harambee” in the notation section and any amount will have an impact.  When your donation is received it will be put into the appropriate account where I will withdraw all proceeds in Kenyan Shillings via ATM services here in Nairobi.  I will then send the proceeds to the women’s group as a contribution to the Harambee from the world community.  Please understand that your donation will not be tax deductible. </strong> </p>
<p>Finally, the women too know that they must show their own support for the Harambee besides what they have already done and are currently doing.  They are assessing themselves and putting that money into the Harambee as they know they must be part of the solution and not just receivers of good will.  In a time where every shilling is valuable, each has pledged 500 shillings or about 5 US dollars for the Harambee.  It may not seem like much, but in life here, it is everything. </p>
<p><em>May each of you have the most blessed of Holiday Seasons.<br />
</em><br />
David</p>
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		<dc:creator>David Bernard-Stevens</dc:creator>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>Here I am posting a thought about leadership and I am cringing a bit.  Not that I am not passionate about leadership, I am.   I cringe, I think, because we (those of us who live and breathe leadership) have gotten lost over the years.  For the more I get into the true essence of leadership, I get the clear sense that all of the hype, the sales, the workshops, books and 7 step processes are more about successful business models rather than helping to build better leaders in the world.  That is not a bad thing, mind you for I too have a business model that I use to create my leadership training throughout the world.  I just think that we get lost somewhere between the hype, sales, and ego and that of truly making a difference for people in the world. </p>
<p><strong>I am finding that the word leadership is sadly overused, abused and blurred to the point where even when one hears the word “leadership” one sees a picture in the mind that is illusion at best.</strong> </p>
<p>I was working with a wonderful group of educated, bright and committed career professionals not too long ago when after attending a two day workshop had had developed for them, they admitted they had attended countless workshops on leadership and team-building throughout their careers and <strong>NEVER</strong> had they had they experienced a concept of leadership that was so deeply personal and meaningful.  <strong>Never</strong> had they been asked to discover their own core values and to ask the tough questions as to whether they were living their lives in each moment in alignment with their values.  <strong>Never</strong> had they thought in a meaningful way as to their purpose in life and how choosing to live within their core values that flowed towards their purpose could bring such joy, passion, commitment and energy in their life.  </p>
<p>That was a wonderful moment as they had begun to learn about what leadership truly is and always has been.  They saw were leadership is simply having the courage and commitment to be whom one was created to be… that leadership is simply leading one’s self.  It is the knowing of what one stands for (core values) and the understanding of the power and joy that comes with choosing to act within ones values and purpose.  They began to see the possibilities of finding shared visions and values from their own lives with those of where they worked and from their colleagues.  They began to see the ways of finding joy both at home and at work in a way that gave their lives meaning, purpose and best of all joy.  They began to learn what true leadership was all about &#8211; and it was not what they had been taught before.  </p>
<p>When one opens their mind to the possibilities of what can be, becomes aware of how reality is created along with the infinite realities that can exist, and the true power and impact of thoughts, intentions and action; then one becomes open to the infinite possibilities of personal leadership.  When one does, they find that leadership is not the managing, administering, or “controlling” events at all.  Rather it is the realization of the power within each of us and our ability make real our dreams and hopes.  It is leading from deep within ourselves and with others in a way that creates sustainable outcomes that most thought were impossible.  It is the power to create lives of meaning and purpose and to change the reality of our world.  Leadership is a personal choice. </p>
<p>So what will you choose to do and to be today?  More importantly, why?  </p>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 06 Oct 2011 12:42:55 +0000</pubDate>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>Here I am posting a thought about leadership and I am cringing a bit.  Not that I am not passionate about leadership, I am.   I cringe, I think, because we (those of us who live and breathe leadership) have gotten lost over the years.  For the more I get into the true essence of leadership, I get the clear sense that all of the hype, the sales, the workshops, books and 7 step processes are more about successful business models rather than helping to build better leaders in the world.  That is not a bad thing, mind you for I too have a business model that I use to create my leadership training throughout the world.  I just think that we get lost somewhere between the hype, sales, and ego and that of truly making a difference for people in the world. </p>
<p><strong>I am finding that the word leadership is sadly overused, abused and blurred to the point where even when one hears the word “leadership” one sees a picture in the mind that is an illusion at best. </strong></p>
<p>I was working with a wonderful group of educated, bright and committed career professionals not too long ago when after attending a two day workshop I had developed for them, they admitted they had attended countless workshops on leadership and team-building throughout their careers and <strong>NEVER</strong> had they had they experienced a concept of leadership that was so deeply personal and meaningful.  <strong>Never</strong> had they been asked to discover their own core values and to ask the tough questions as to whether they were living their lives in each moment in alignment with their values.  <strong>Never</strong> had they thought in a meaningful way as to their purpose in life and how choosing to live within their core values that flowed towards their purpose could bring such joy, passion, commitment and energy in their life.  </p>
<p>That was a wonderful moment as they had begun to learn about what leadership truly is and always has been.  They saw were leadership is simply having the courage and commitment to be whom one was created to be… that leadership is simply leading one’s self.  It is the knowing of what one stands for (core values) and the understanding of the power and joy that comes with choosing to act within ones values and purpose.  They began to see the possibilities of finding shared visions and values from their own lives with those of where they worked and from their colleagues.  They began to see the ways of finding joy both at home and at work in a way that gave their lives meaning, purpose and best of all joy.  They began to learn what true leadership was all about &#8211; and it was not what they had been taught before.  </p>
<p>When one opens their mind to the possibilities of what can be, becomes aware of how reality is created along with the infinite realities that can exist, and the true power and impact of thoughts, intentions and action; then one becomes open to the infinite possibilities of personal leadership.  When one does, they find that leadership is not the managing, administering, or “controlling” events at all.  Rather it is the realization of the power within each of us and our ability make real our dreams and hopes.  It is leading from deep within ourselves and with others in a way that creates sustainable outcomes that most thought were impossible.  It is the power to create lives of meaning and purpose and to change the reality of our world.  Leadership is a personal choice. </p>
<p>So what will you choose to do and to be today?  More importantly, why?  </p>
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		<title>Extraordinary Things Happen When we Stop Doubting The Power of Ideas And Act!</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 08 Jul 2011 13:17:20 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>David Bernard-Stevens</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I want to acknowledge Roshanna Evans for her help and inspiration in putting this article together&#8230;  thanks dear friend.  
Almost a year ago I was asked by a young man to come and speak to four groups in rural Kenya on empowerment and authentic leadership. I stepped into a reality riddled by despair, [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>I want to acknowledge Roshanna Evans for her help and inspiration in putting this article together&#8230;  thanks dear friend.  </p>
<p><em>Almost a year ago I was asked by a young man to come and speak to four groups in rural Kenya on empowerment and authentic leadership. I stepped into a reality riddled by despair, loss, abuse, and impossibility. Yet the dark histories and obvious uncertainties about their future paled in comparison to the vibrant hungry hearts and earnest voices sitting on the ground under a tree listening and asking questions, eager to understand how they could create a new future. </em></p>
<p>Of the four groups, one group stood out. 20 women had banded together to end their nightmare of abuse and alienation, women who refused to be forgotten, who had children to feed and knew, if they had the tools, they could create a life of meaning and purpose out of nothing, and with all odds stacked against them. </p>
<p>They won my heart with their spirit and tenacity. They hid nothing and gave all. Fearless.  Committed. Women who dared to dream of the dairy herd that would allow them to have the money to send their children to school and be educated. Women with motive, heart and backbone, women who made it clear they were ready and capable.  </p>
<p>I left that event compelled to find some way of helping these 20 women jump-starting their dream.  How? Millions of similar stories come from around the world. There are no upfront guarantees, no promises, only dream and tenacity. And, I knew if these women were given a chance they would not disappoint for they had already shown that they could create lives with meaning from virtually nothing.</p>
<p>One month ago, a woman with a spirit that can engulf a universe donated $100.00 and sent out a viral message to friends to match her so the Kenyan women would have their chance. Within five days enough had been donated for 3 cows and building materials needed to start a dairy herd.  That was followed by donations from a group of students I had taught more than 30 years ago who also wanted to make a real difference in the world, a family in the UK, a woman in Australia, a gentleman from Ireland and people within the US from California, to Chicago, Nebraska, New York City and places in between!</p>
<p><strong>It was the jumpstart we needed!</strong>  A graduate of Agrarian Studies donated his services to teach the women about the business of agrarian farming. A school donated 7.5 acres of land and a water supply. With time very limited before the dry season is upon them, the women immediately began to till the land, plant a hay crop, and construct a cow shed and milking stations. As I write they are putting a fence around the land and the motor is being fixed on the well. With so much going on, even the village elders have come to witness the change. </p>
<p></strong>And now thanks to the wonderful crew of A24 Media/Camerapix, there is a brief 5 minute documentary of the women, their efforts to make change and a difference in their lives, and the dairy project&#8217;s jump-start.  That link is:</p>
<p>http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UCSjudNPoS0</p>
<p>The original donors funded this starship enterprise in Kenya. They helped to change the lives of 20 women who, in turn, changed the future of their children and became living testaments to millions of others in similar circumstances. </p>
<p><strong>Now, your donations can help secure that foundation and three things are critical:</strong><em> </p>
<p>     <strong>* The need for three more cows ($1,500),<br />
     *  Feed reserves in case the dry season is severe ($2,500),<br />
     *  And a small reserve fund ($1,000) for the challenges that all upstart businesses will face. </strong></p>
<p><em>The ultimate imperative is autonomy, that these women gain personal and financial independence through dairy farming. These women demonstrate courage, backbone, and tenacity as they move mountains to forge their independent future.  Yet every enterprise has lag time between its inception and surplus revenue streams and because of the extreme poverty surrounding them the first 8 months of operation will be THE most critical time for these women and their children.</em>Your contributions are pivotal in assisting us to strengthen and secure the growth of this enterprise.  </p>
<p><strong>Our challenge is to have an additional $5,000 dollars (US) by the end of this month</strong>… and with that the rest will be up to the women… and I believe in them and I know they will take this chance and succeed as they know they have within their own action, commitment and effort a change to change their world and of those around them.  And with the documentary being filmed, their courage will inspire others and the world will be a better place for our efforts. </p>
<p>Many stepped up to get this project off and running, you can insure it will survive the test of the first difficult year.  The rest they will do and we will be able to see the miracles they will create from our initial effort to jump start their dream.  </p>
<p>Send your donation to:<br />
      <strong>David Bernard-Stevens,<br />
      501 Hazelwood Drive,<br />
      Lincoln, Nebraska 68510 (USA).  </strong></p>
<p>If you are outside of the United States you can:</p>
<p>     <strong>Wire your donation directly to our US bank account or</p>
<p>     Wire money via MoneyGram directly to me here in Nairobi.</strong>  Please E-mail me at dbs03@q.com and I will send you the    SWIFT codes and address information.  </p>
<p><strong>If you are in Kenya, you can send your donation via MPESA to: 0724 21 8962.</strong>  You will receive confirmation of your donation as soon as it is received.</p>
<p>Their dream is now a living reality! Young, strong and driven by the new taste of independence and self governance, the magic has begun!  </p>
<p><em><strong>&#8220;We are facing real issues in real time and your donations will insure a lasting outcome.  Become part of LIVING HISTORY and know that 100% of your contribution will go fully to the project as there are no administrative fees.</p>
<p>Don&#8217;t think just do it and be part of the magic.</strong></em>  Donations of $500 (USD) or more will have either a cow, the milking station or the shed named after them!  </p>
<p><strong>So moooove it and send that donation in right now! </strong></p>
<p>We Thank You!!</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[The Cracks within our Heart and Spirit”  
It did not feel right.  It was a story of a crack that had suddenly appeared within the most beautiful diamond in the kingdom and how it was “fixed” by a poor man as he made the crack appear as the stem of a beautiful rose. [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p><strong>The Cracks within our Heart and Spirit” </strong> </p>
<p><em>It did not feel right. </em> It was a story of a crack that had suddenly appeared within the most beautiful diamond in the kingdom and how it was “fixed” by a poor man as he made the crack appear as the stem of a beautiful rose.  The story simply did not seem accurate even though I was aware of the positive message it was attempting to convey.  </p>
<p>After listening to many individuals speak of their reflections of the story and what it meant to their lives, it hit me as to why I felt so uncomfortable with the story.   Though the crack was made to “look” like a stem of something beautiful and thus not a crack anymore, the truth was that the crack was never changed from what it was… a crack.  The fact that the crack was made to look like the stem of a beautiful flower could not hide the fact that it was indeed a crack.  </p>
<p><strong>Perhaps</strong> it is it a merely a matter of one’s perspective as to what the crack is.  Is the crack a flaw or is it a change in what simply has been that should be seen for what it has now become?</p>
<p>Is the crack something that needs to be “fixed” as the poor man came to do, meaning that it is something bad that needed to be eliminated or is the crack something that has added value?  </p>
<p>Is it possible that the crack is not a flaw that needs to be fixed at all but something that shows simply that all things are fragile and will show wear and tear over time?  </p>
<p>Do I pretend the cracks within my own heart, mind, body and spirit are stems of flowers and thus “fixed” or do I see my cracks a part of who I am and at the same time accept, love, and respect that which they represent… all of who I am after my struggle with the challenges of life?</p>
<p><strong>Perhaps</strong> the cracks are not flaws that need to be made to look like something beautiful but are simply symbols that we have lived. </p>
<p><strong>Perhaps</strong> the cracks are a beautiful symbol in themselves just as they are as they remind us of the struggles the experiences and the learning we have gained through our struggles with life.  </p>
<p><strong>Perhaps</strong> the cracks we see and feel within our hearts, mind, spirit, and body are wonderful reminders that all things are fragile and over time, life itself will create cracks where eventually we will all become once again the dust from which we were created by our creator.  </p>
<p><strong>Perhaps</strong> it is in the seeing the cracks as they truly are that we are reminded that our lives are far too short and that each moment of every day counts.  </p>
<p><strong>Perhaps </strong>if we see our cracks as they truly are, with no decorations or pretending that they are something else, that we begin to fully understand the only time that is important is “now”.  And with that realization the knowing that if we are to create meaning and purpose in our lives,we must take this moment and those to follow to act in ways that will create that beautiful dream that is within is… a dream that is still whole and as perfect as it was the moment it was placed within us at our creation.  </p>
<p><strong>Perhaps</strong> the cracks when viewed with respect and love for what we have become will lead us to ask the critical questions as we sense the fragileness of our lives, “What shall I do today to make a difference in the world?  What change am I going to become in order to bring about the changes I would like to see in the world?  What action am I going to take in these moments that are in alignment with my core values and purpose to create that dream that is within me?”</p>
<p><strong>And perhaps</strong>, when we choose to act from our core values and purpose, it is in that moment we feel the joy, commitment, passion, and the wonder of what our lives can be.  For it is then through our actions of making a difference and creating a life of meaning that we become that which the creator intended us to be.</p>
<p><strong>Perhaps</strong>, when we choose to not hide our beauty and our cracks, we teach by our example that true beauty is in loving and being each moment who we authentically are.  </p>
<p><strong>And perhaps </strong>it is only then that the true beauty of the diamond which is us can be seen and appreciated for the wonder that is has become and will continue to be… cracks and all. </p>
<p>David Bernard-Stevens,                                                                                                                                                                                                          Initiative of Change Conference                                                                                                                                                                                                Nakuru, Kenya – May 28th 2011</p>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 13 May 2011 13:33:40 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[When one takes time to look and observe, they can find the most amazing things in places one least expects.  Such was the case when I traveled to work in leadership development with four groups in North West rural Kenya.  This is the story of one of those groups.  
They were  [...]]]></description>
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<p>When one takes time to look and observe, they can find the most amazing things in places one least expects.  Such was the case when I traveled to work in leadership development with four groups in North West rural Kenya.  This is the story of one of those groups.  </p>
<p>They were  20 women with no hope.  Most were terribly abused, had multiple children, and had husbands who were either killed in recent violence or who simply abandoned them.  They were alone, had no skills, and literally had nothing.  They each in their own way decided to do something that would allow them to survive… they began to make an illegal alcohol or “brew” as it is called in Kenya.  There was never much money left over each month after the bribes were paid to get local law enforcement to look the other way, but they could at least buy some milk and food for themselves and their children.  </p>
<p>Then came the post-election violence in 2007-08.  In a matter of weeks over 1,000 people were brutally murdered.  So many others were raped, had an arm cut off, or were otherwise maimed.  Over 200,000 families lost their homes to angry mobs and police who became out of control.  Kenya is still recovering from those terrible weeks.  <em>Yet for these women a awful truth was revealed.</em>  Many… far too many… of the youth and men who did the violence were drunk due to drinking the “brew” the women had sold to them.  They slowly began to realize they were partly to blame for the violence and deaths.  </p>
<p><em>Because they did not wish to harm anyone ever again, they decided to stop brewing.</em>  It took one women to bravely say she was through and in time the others followed.  Yet in their decision not to harm others it came at a great cost to them as they once again faced survival with their small children with no income.  Many turned to prostitution.  They were surviving but life had little meaning and they simply endured each day. </p>
<p>Then one day a young 24 year old man came and spoke to them.  And though I do not know what was said, they along with his help, decided to form a group and go to work on some land that the young man had somehow received permission for them to use.  They had no skills for planting and growing food to sell, but they learned and they created over time a life that allowed them to feed their children and have a roof over their head once again.  Their lives began to have meaning again even though their income was still just above surviving. </p>
<p>Today they are still hard at it and they know their next step.  They are learning how to care for and work with dairy cows.  They know that the milk sold each day in the markets from just 8 cows would actually allow them to send their children to school, pay the school fees and uniforms and provide the potential for their getting out from under the grasp of poverty.  </p>
<p>So they are learning new skills and now only need the cows of which they do not have the money to buy.  What is making it harder for the women to purchase the cows is what little savings they have is rapidly being used up to meet the rising inflation costs of fuel and food the world oil crisis has created.  These price increases have been devastating to the poor.  </p>
<p><strong>I would be honored if any and/or all of you would donate something, anything, for these women to buy their first two cows.  Each cow costs approximately $471 US.  That would be a great start and as their herd grows and their experience is honed, they will find a way to buy the rest.  They already have created so much from nothing and I truly believe there is nothing these 20 women cannot do.  Of course if enough money comes in to buy more than two cows we would gladly do so. </strong> </p>
<p>There is nothing magic in how to donate.  You will need to make your check out to Leader Development Group.   Send your check to Leader Development Group, 501 Hazelwood Drive, Lincoln Nebraska 68510.  Put in the notation: Cows.  Those at the office will receive the check, deposit it into the proper account and notify me.  I will then shift the funds from dollars into Kenyan Shillings via ATM here in Nairobi and directly wire the funds to the the young man who would purchase the cows for the women.  You will receive recognition of receipt of your donation and a picture of the women with their cows when they are finally purchased.  </p>
<p>That’s it.  You should know that this will simply be a contribution from your heart and that there will be no tax deduction available as my company is a for profit business.  Those that know of what I am doing in Kenya know that my small company has put all of its assets into developing an authentic leadership program for women and youth in Kenya, the slum of Kibera and later into all of East Africa.  My funds are totally committed but there are times when something comes across my path that simply needs to be done.  This is one of those and I am asking for people to help make this happen.    </p>
<p>In the end, those who do not know me will simply have to take a leap of faith and trust that I will do as I say. For those that know me you already know I will.  For me let me just say that it is in the taking of that leap of faith that miracles happen.  So please consider taking that leap and I will make sure your leap will give your heart great joy for what your donation will do for 20 single women, their children, and their future.  </p>
<p>When we add together each small step taken in helping the poor of the world escape poverty, we over time will change our world.  </p>
<p>You can read more about the leadership program by going to the blog archives is you wish…</p>
<p>Blessing to you all…  David</p>
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		<dc:creator>David Bernard-Stevens</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I was recently asked by Friday Magazine out of Dubai about the differences I saw in leadership and management issues today and their relationship to gender.  Here is what I said&#8230;
Leaders and managers are totally different in my view.  Most today perceive the two as being the same as it is what the [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>I was recently asked by Friday Magazine out of Dubai about the differences I saw in leadership and management issues today and their relationship to gender.  Here is what I said&#8230;</p>
<p>Leaders and managers are totally different in my view.  Most today perceive the two as being the same as it is what the western culture has created over time.  For example to become a business person one usually is encouraged to get an MBA degree which is learning how to administer and/or manage.  We have also confused over time the concepts of leadership with those of being successful at achieving certain things&#8230; position, money, status etc.  Whenever people today say they are going to bring leaders together, they look to certain positions and invite whomever has that position at that moment in time&#8230; mayors, politicians, business executives, etc.  We have been taught to think of leaders as those who are winners or those who have successfully obtained what they were after.  </p>
<p><em><strong>Leadership is much different than that.</strong></em>  Leadership is finding who one is (core values), knowing one&#8217;s purpose and making choices in every moment that are aligned with those values and that purpose.  Leadership is being who one was born to be and finding a way to create that dream that is within each of us.  Leadership is helping others lead from their values and purpose so that they can be and create their own dream.  Leadership is helping people who share common purposes and dreams create a life that has meaning and that makes a true difference in the world.  Leadership is leading WITH people in such a way that together, people build things that others thought to be impossible because they believe they can and because they are deeply committed to their efforts, actions, values and purpose.  Leadership is helping people create the impossible out of nothing if need be because believe they can and choose to.  </p>
<p>As far as gender, I believe in the bigger (macro) picture there is no difference in their ability to both lead and/or manage.  They both are capable of getting from point A to point B.  What many do not understand is that there is no one formula that is the correct way of getting from one point to another.  <em>Men and women may use different routes, different talents or different processes to get to another point in the distance but there is no question they can both get there.</em> </p>
<p>Yet, in the micro picture of gender many things have created a perception that one gender is better at managing than another.  Religion has had much to do with this.  Cultural norms have had a lot to do with this.  The willingness of so many to turn a blind eye when gender violence and rights are trampled upon has played a role in this.  It is in this micro world where people have been trained to think in a particular way about men and women in regard to managing and leading.  And yet, even with all of the pressures keeping women from having positions of authority in policy-making areas, there has been a steady movement forward into leveling the playing field over the centuries.  In time I believe the world will look upon men and women as being brilliant managers and leaders&#8230; in other words the perceptions will change in time.  <em>They will change because deep within us we know that though there are differences between gender, the ability to manage and lead is not one of them.</em>  </p>
<p>I work with men and women to help them realize their own true potential, to see each others potential and to guide them in their understanding of what leadership truly is versus the roles of managing and administering.  Everyone is a born a leader as everyone has the ability to lead themselves to be who they were born to be.  Yet this is very hard work and in the end, not everyone will choose to lead and be who they were born to be.  Yet for those that do, they will find great power from within themselves that has been their from the moment of their creation, they will find great meaning and fulfillment in their everyday lives no matter what their social-economic position in life, they will find that the impact of their choices will make a difference in the world, and they will by their example and choices, help others be all they can be as well.  <em><strong>And when people choose to create together that which they share in common in passion and purpose, miracles will happen.</strong></em>  Those who understand this will be the leaders the world needs&#8230; and it could be any of us and hopefully, all of us.   </p>
<p>If you wish to know more or start your own personal leadership journey to find more meaning in your life contact me at: <strong>David@leaderdevelopmentgroup.com  </strong>Making a meaningful difference is just a choice away&#8230;  David</p>
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