Lesbian, Black and African

They still don’t see you!

2018-03-15T12:32:00.002+02:00

I recently experienced a change in my life, I saw it coming and saw the foundation being laid but I never anticipated the level of deceit and devious ways that people turn to when they want their own way. If there’s one lesson I’ve learned in my adventurous life – it’s that every curve ball thrown at you, turns you onto a

Why ‘Coming Out’?

2009-02-24T09:15:00.002+02:00

Just the other day I was thinking about the whole idea of coming out and how I broke the news to my parents about my sexual orientation.I let my memories take me all the way back to my childhood and the games we played as kids. I was always so jealous and overprotective of my female friends, some would say possessive but to me it was just caring and loving my friends too much, maybe just a little

Why women might never rule the world

2008-12-05T18:29:00.003+02:00

I used to get angry when I heard the saying “This is a man’s world” and when guys at tertiary would tell us that women would never be leaders because we’re too emotional and think with our hearts instead of our heads, ‘til just this past Saturday, I refused to listen to this notion.I set in a room packed with women of all classes and prominence and yet sitting in that room I felt ashamed and

The lost Continent

2008-05-21T10:43:00.003+02:00

Ten days ago, sitting in my flat, I would have never thought that the country I was once proud of would spin out of control in the way that it has.The hatred and barbaric behaviour that South Africans have shown, is quite clear to me that we’ve lost respect for each other and the personhood. Why do I say the ‘personhood’? It’s because if we saw each other as human beings first, all these crimes

Cry my beloved Country

2008-05-19T14:08:00.001+02:00

What has happened to this once beautiful country and its people? I’m asking this with my head hung in shame; it is painful and heartbreaking to see our people being reduced to animals like this.I was once a proud South African but now I’m even ashamed to be called one or be associated with this country. As a person that travels a lot to other African countries, I’ve never as a foreigner in their

The existence within me

2008-04-18T15:47:00.003+02:00

Ever wondered what this thing called love is? Many times I’ve set and wondered and ended up more confused than I was when I began thinking about it.I look at all the people I’ve been with in the past and that I’ve loved or atleast I thought. I’ve toyed with the feeling for years searching for goosebumps, my heart to skip a beat, my knees to go weak or to think about nothing else but the person

Life’s mysteries

2007-03-26T04:57:00.000+02:00

Ever wondered what life was all about or what the purpose of this rollercoaster is? I do it all the time and as expected, I never find the answer. At times I think that’s exactly the point, for us never to know the answer to this question and to live life to its fullest trying to find answers.A couple of months back, after the break up with my fiancée. I found myself asking myself this elusive

My Birthday!

2006-12-05T11:08:00.000+02:00

Today is my birthday, I’m turning 28! What a year it’s been…and here I am still alive and going strong. I’ve had my share of up and downs, lost friends and family and loved ones but then again that’s just life and the show must go on.My first birthday wishes at exactly 12am came from my two sisters (my babies)…I was so happy and excited, It took me a while to get back to sleep ;-) Only these two

Chapter 5: Making new friends

2006-10-09T14:28:00.000+02:00

After my break up, I spent a lot of time visiting my friend Ndu in Newcastle. We had a great time together, he was a brother to me who knew of my sexual orientation, my ups and downs with women and was very accepting and supportive. I could talk to him about everything, even the nitty-gritty details of my sex life.When we met at technikon we were just friends and had gone through a lot together,

Chapter 4: Back in JHB

2006-10-09T14:25:00.000+02:00

Here I was back home, jobless, still missing my ex-girlfriend from Durban but because I had told myself I needed to go on with my life, one Sunday morning I decided to go to a gay church and there she was this beautiful mature woman, singing in the church choir. Needless to say I went to church every Sunday after that. I was told she had a partner already so I tried to back off but the urge was

Chapter 3: Religion and my sexuality

2006-05-12T10:26:00.000+02:00

I grew up in a catholic church, went to a catholic Primary School and never missed Sunday Mass. I used to spend my spare time reading the bible at times because I found it very intriguing. Here is a book that most people claim to live by and those that don’t, are basically doomed to hell. The bible is no.1 when it comes to instilling fear in people.Now as a young girl growing up in Soweto and

Chapter 2: Enter Adulthood

2006-05-04T12:13:00.000+02:00

That relationship lasted for a year.It was an experience I will never forget. The beauty of a woman does not necessarily make her a beautiful person inside and sometimes even though she is beautiful inside…that beauty is concealed by a lot of baggage. I learned the hard way, had my heart broken in the process but emerged a stronger woman and even more determined to find my queen.There I was

My life's story

2006-04-25T15:37:00.000+02:00

Chapter 1: When I was a young girl12, 13 or maybe 15…can’t remember clearly how old I was but I do remember that it was around that age. I’ve always been a dreamer and from a young age I started thinking about how I would treat my woman, and what a good lover I’d be when I was older. Whenever we went to the mall with my parents, I’d watch beautiful, young couples walking by and imagine I was the