Personality Grooming

Soft Skills and the Core Keys

noreply@blogger.com (Mehar Bhagat) — Wed, 04 May 2011 08:51:00 +0000

Soft Skills is not a rocket science but a very crucial part of our daily conversation, it reflects your behavior, communication and an approach towards people.

Even a three year old can speak English or mother tongue the point it how is it said, my 2.5 year old niece says me good morning and so does every kid in my block says it, but the way she says it makes me give a chocolate every time.

There are few core point to be looked at when working on your Soft skills ;

* Develop I-Can-Do It Approach.
*Increase the confidence & boost the self image.
*To enhance communication skills.
*Ability to present oneself effectively.

Common Communication Mistakes

noreply@blogger.com (Mehar Bhagat) — Tue, 03 May 2011 08:47:00 +0000

Communication has its own importance in all aspects of life. Communication becomes easy only when the information is exchanged. Many of us make several mistakes in communication. Such mistakes are always unnoticed by us so we never get a chance to correct these.

Some very common communication mistakes that we make every day

1. Talking fast and rapidly:
This is the most common mistake a person makes while communicating with others. While talking too fast makes the listener gets impatient and confused.

2. Talking too much:
The proverb “empty vessel makes more noise”, will be the best match for this mistake. Usage of short verbal conversation is always appreciated and welcomed every where when its to the point.

3. Basic verbal etiquette:
While conversing with others basic manners and etiquette has to be followed. The conversation will loose its values if it does not have mannered words in them, like using slang and short abbreviated form.

4. Negative body language:
Negative body postures and signs make the listener irritant and unease to listen or communicate with. So to make the communication more brilliant negative body languages should be avoided.

5. Avoid Monologue Conversation:
While having a conversation, avoid dominating your partner or listener. Give him/her the opportunity to share their opinion. Never go for a monologue way of conversation.

6. Interruption:
For a good communication, avoid interrupting in the middle when one person is talking. When a person is talking try to listen and understand and then ask excuse for the interrupting and then tell your suggestions or comments. Otherwise wait for him/her to finish and then share your thoughts.

7. Contradicting talks:
Never bring in contradiction during a conversation, especially when talking with the higher authorities or your own boss. This may cause unnecessary troubles and misunderstanding.

8. Poor contribution:
There are few people who listen and take information from others, but never contribute their suggestions. This is also a big communication mistake, because the communication again turns to monologue patterns.

9. Undesired advices:
There are people who give immediate advices for any problem told by others. So, the listener may again get restless and the communication is finally end. So, even while suggesting advices see that whether it is really required or not.

10. Loose talks:
Avoid talking unnecessary matters. Talk only to the pertained topic. This saves time and energy for both conversing people.

11. Vocabulary blunders:
Its also good to keep your vocabulary skills updated, so its not advisable to use words for which you do not know the meaning.

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Do comment, so that these similar topics can be shared in future also.

Quotes - Child Brain

noreply@blogger.com (Mehar Bhagat) — Tue, 03 May 2011 00:58:00 +0000

A child brain is as fragile as an egg shell, only the shell does not have written on it "handle with care" - MB

Hr Real Life Experience Questions

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 02:10:00 +0000

I have been into many interviews and taken too..we do certain questioning to the candidates, and there are many question we prefer not ask and some times even candidates does not prefer to talk about those questions.. and we judge them on the answers of those questions.................... Do you think HR questions are questionable?

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WHAT IS THINKING?

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 09:24:00 +0000

Thinking begins with-
A question
A need
A problem

Good thinking uses the skills of-
Analysis
Association
Classification
Comprehension
Comparison
Deduction
Evaluation
Flexibility
Fluency
Forecasting
Generalizing
Hypothesizing
Interpretation
Observation
Planning
Predicting
Questioning
Sequencing
Synthesizing
Theorizing AND MORE!

Good thinking results in-
New skills, concepts, decisions, actions,
discoveries, ideas, or methods; new
questions or needs.

ASSOCIATIVE THINKING

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 09:22:00 +0000

1. Identify basic attributes of the first item,
event, or group.
2. Identify basic attributes of additional items,
events, or groups.
3. Identify those attributes similar to both
items, events, and groups.

DEDUCTIVE THINKING

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 09:22:00 +0000

From Generalization to Supporting Data
1. Examine the generalization.
2. Seek supporting data, cases, or evidence.
3. Seek sources of additional supporting data.
4. Find supporting data in the sources.
5. Apply to the generalization.

DECISION-MAKING

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 09:21:00 +0000

Deciding among objects or alternatives.
1. List objects or alternatives to choose from.
2. Establish critria for selection.
3. Check each alternative or object to see if it
meets the criteria.
4. Select the action(s) or description(s) that
best meets the criteria.

CRITICAL THINKING

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 09:21:00 +0000

The ability to appraise ideas, proposals,
points of view, procedures, activities,
behaviors, statements, positions, or
issues.
1 Decide what is to be judged.
2. Use appropriate standards.
3. Gather evidence showing the extent to
which the standards are met.
4. Consider evidence and make a judgment.

CREATIVE THINKING

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 09:20:00 +0000

PREPARATION
Collecting background information for the
problem under consideration.
INCUBATION
Relaxing, allowing images from the
unconscious to surface.
ILLUMINATION
Comes sudddenly and unexpectedly: The
“aha!” stage.
VERIFICATION
Testing, proving, or carrying out

ABSTRACT THINKING

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 09:15:00 +0000

Expressing a quality apart from an object
displaying it

1. State the abstract concept to be developed.
Example: Freedom
2. Give positive examples of the concept.
These characters are free:
Peter Pan, Mary Poppins
3. Give non-examples of the concept.
These characters are not free:
Hansel & Gretel in the witch’s cottage
4. Examine and list only those attributes
which apply solely to the concept.
Freedom of choice, of speech
5. Define the concept.
Not subject to the control or outside
domination of another.

A FACT

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 08:51:00 +0000

If one is willing to spend four to six years learning a profession, why not take another week
or two and learn a few principles about clothes, manners, and the art of conversation? Even if
there has been no formal education, why not learn some of the fundamental rules of society
that might readily assist your landing a job in the first place, or moving up the corporate
ladder in the second place?

Resume Tips

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Sun, 08 Jun 2008 08:13:00 +0000

A résumé, also known as curriculum vitae (CV), is a document containing a summary or listing of relevant job experience and education, usually for obtaining an interview when seeking employment. "Curriculum vitæ" is Latin meaning "course of life." Often the résumé or CV is the first item that a potential employer encounters regarding the job seeker, and therefore a large amount of importance is often ascribed to it. In other words, a curriculum vita is a marketing tool of a person seeking a job.

Most people underestimate the importance of a CV (resume). Many of us put off writing our CV until last moment and do an inadequate job. Others feel that they know it all and treat the job of writing a resume far too casually. Actually, you would be well advised to ensure that both your resume and covering letter are so well prepared that they stand out among a thousand others, not only in content but also in presentation. Any compromises at this stage and you may not be short listed for the interview.

CV - Crucial in getting an Interview
Your CV is your first communication with the perspective employer. It serves as personal advertisement for you and must therefore, be organized in such a manner to make it interesting, attractive, brief and informative. If you wish to be one of the few to be called for an interview, you must ensure your CV is distinct from the hundreds of other CVs of candidates who may be as experienced or as well qualified as you. There are some golden rules to be followed while preparing your CV -

*Remember you are advertising about yourself. So, highlight your strong points and try to shield your weaknesses. The prospective employer will call you for an interview if your strengths are highlighted.

*Shielding your weaknesses does not mean that you lie. No, do not indulge in misrepresentation of facts. It does not pay dividends.

*Essential information including phone number (if possible, mobile) must be included.

*Try to keep your CV as brief as possible. At the same time, it should include all vital information about you.

*It should contain relevant information about the job, experience etc.

*Make sure there are no grammatical errors in your CV. It leaves a bad impression.

Moreover, your perspective employers do not have the time or the inclination to meet all the people who may be interested in an opening, that makes it more important that among the other thousands of CVs, yours must stand out; not only in contents but also by the way it is formatted.

Essential Information must be mentioned
There are certain items which must be included in every CV. Other items may or may not be mentioned depending on whether they are relevant or not. The items which must be included are given below :
Personal Information : Name, date of birth, marital status, language known, address, telephone number.
Educational Background : Institutions attended with years, marks obtained, qualifications, achievements, computer literacy.
Employment History : Name of organisation(s), years, designation(s), responsibilities, achievements and training programme attended. Include any part time or summer employment if you do not have any full time experience.

Stick to the Basic Rules
Stick to these proven guidelines for writing a CV : The term "Bio-data" is out. Curriculum Vitae (CV) has replaced it. Make sure that your CV is not longer than two pages. It should, at the same time, not be so short that your prospective employer does not know anything about you after going through it. It must be concise and should be informative.

Presentation
Make sure your CV looks good. Presentation is of utmost importance. You must :
*Avoid spelling mistakes.
*Use good quality paper.
*Do not send curriculum vitae with spelling errors corrected by whitening fluid or by hand.
*Use proper margins and spend time formatting it properly.
*Send the printed laser outputs instead of photocopying. It may cost you more but it says a lot about you.

Don't lie even if it is a small lie. Usually such lies are about achievements, grades and marks or summer projects. The personnel departments in most companies do take pains in verifying claims.

References
You may include references at the end of your CV. These are names, addresses and phone numbers of two or three people who could vouch for your character, competence and commitment. Ideally, these should be people who have worked with you, or your college professors. Many job seekers starting out in their careers feel that important people's references will impress prospective employers. Nothing could be further from the truth. A big name will communicate that you are a name-dropper who gets by on his father's contacts rather than achievements. An experienced interviewer will be far more impressed with the references of people who know you professionally. In any case, your prospective employer will check with referees, so make sure you ask your referees' permission before putting their names in your CV.Use one or at best not more than two typefaces while preparing your CV. If you are looking for visual relief and highlighting then you can use block capitals, italics, bold type, underlining, varying font sizes, or any combinations of these. Choose a font that is simple and easy to read. Do not go in for a fancy typeface. It will take away legibility of your CV.
Don't leave gaps in your CV. If you have lost some years between your +2 and graduation or after your graduation, explain the gap.

A final word : - Be honest in preparing and presenting your CV. Any manipulative presentations are bound to reflect back badly at some point in your career. Do not give any false information about your skills or experiences anywhere in you CV.

Stop negative thinking !

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Fri, 19 Oct 2007 11:22:00 +0000

Negative thinking can make all sorts of things incredibly difficult.

It is like a leak in your confidence bucket - constantly drip-drip-dripping away your confidence and self esteem.

We all know that we should think more positively, or avoid too many negative thoughts, but it is notoriously difficult to stop.

NOTE* Negative thinking can be useful to help assess the possible pitfalls in a potential plan of action, but you need to be able to turn it on and off at will.

Otherwise,

negative thoughts will sabotage your self belief, your confidence and your achievements.

TIPS -- PUBLIC SPEAKING

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Fri, 19 Oct 2007 11:07:00 +0000

Public speaking - you know the feeling... you work for weeks, prepare your presentation to the best of your ability, try and ignore the nerves building up, then... Get on the platform or stand up at the meeting and POW!

Dry mouth, shaky legs, blank mind...

What the heck happened?

You did everything the public speaking books say: You prepared well, got to know your audience, used all sorts of learning tools to reduce uncertainty and fear... But somehow your brain tripped you up.
This is what happened...
For one reason or another, your brain has learnt to provide you with the wrong unconscious response when you speak in public. Instead of appropriate levels of adrenalin and excitement to optimise your performance, you get a fear response like you're being attacked by a wild animal. Everything in your body and mind is saying "run away!!!". But you can't, you have to ignore your 'fight or flight' response and stay put. And what's more, you have to sound eloquent and informed at the same time. Not easy. Impossible in fact.

So here's what YOU are suppose to do about it...

Your brain simply needs to be re-educated into the right sort of reactions for public speaking.
The Public Speaking Confidence TIPS will retrain your brain to:

get rid of your old public speaking fear
Provide yourself with the right level of adrenalin and excitement
Allow yourself to actually enjoy giving presentations (sounds impossible doesn't it?)

help YOURSELF as this is the only way to get rid of fear that holds you back from the the real you..!!

remain true to your vision

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Fri, 19 Oct 2007 11:06:00 +0000

Single mindedness, determination, dedication, self-belief and the inability to ever give in are what distinguish people who do great things with their lives from those whose dreams die with them. When you have great perseverance you take into account what others say but you don't let it rule you. You remain true to your vision.

A Great Saying

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Fri, 19 Oct 2007 11:04:00 +0000

"Patience and tenacity of purpose
are worth more than twice their weight of cleverness."

persistence and perseverance

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Fri, 19 Oct 2007 10:59:00 +0000

People have always known that
" persistence and perseverance "
are a key ingredient in success.

Hence the old saying

"If at first you don't succeed, try, try again".

And recent psychological research has backed this up.
Studies of successful entrepreneurs show that the
millionaires in this world possess a tremendous level of perseverance -
" they stick at it not just when the going gets tough,
but even when others tell them to stop ".

A Thought

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Fri, 19 Oct 2007 10:56:00 +0000

"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up.
The most certain way to
succeed is always to try just one more time."

by : Thomas A. Edison

"An agreement is more valuable than money."

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Mon, 17 Sep 2007 16:44:00 +0000

Tips for Slowing Down

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Sat, 11 Aug 2007 22:59:00 +0000

Slowing Down

To guard against hurrying through the day, start the day early.

Devote half an hour every morning for meditation, or for inspirational reading and reflection. Do not let anything intrude on this most precious period of your day.

Take time for a good breakfast.

Allow yourself time to get to every engagement a little early.

Simplify your life so that you do not try to fill your time with more than you can do. Start by listing your activities. Then prune the list, striking out anything that is not truly necessary and anything that is not beneficial.

Don’t try to do everything you can, or even everything you want to. Keep sight of the most important things each day, and use the mantram to remind yourself to keep coming back to them.

Allow time for all your meals. Sit down and enjoy your food with others. Repeat your mantram before you eat and eat slowly.

Don’t let yourself get pressured into hurrying. Whenever you find yourself beginning to speed up during the day, repeat your mantram to help you slow down.

Cultivate patience.

Don’t rush those you live and work with. Give them time; you will be giving yourself time as well.

Cultivate personal relationships in all your activities. It will help to reverse the depersonalization of our world.

Reduce the time you spend watching television.

Reduce the time you spend on activities that hurry your children. It will help them to simplify their lives and enjoy what they do, and it will give you more time for them too.

It is important not to confuse slowness with sloth, which breeds carelessness, procrastination, and general inefficiency. In slowing down, attend meticulously to details. Give your very best even to the smallest undertaking.

Men and Women Communicate Differently

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Thu, 09 Aug 2007 13:56:00 +0000

Each Gender tends to Express itself quite Differently.

Most philosophical teachings agree that the soul is neither male nor female.

As souls, we incarnate into a gender in order to learn through that experience.

Through our experimentation with the various qualities of each sex we are seeking to experience our true whole self. Until we do experience our inner fullness, we seek to find completion externally through a love partner.

This effort towards attunement with the other sex brings stability, joy, security and affirmation but is not without problems and challenges.

One main challenge is being able to understand, respond to and find solutions for the need differences when they occur.

Some of these main conflicts are differing needs for:

a. Cleanliness - order

b. Affection, sex

c. How to use money

d. How to bring up children

e. Social activity

Most of these conflicts actually have to do with:

1. Freedom vs. control = power

2. Who is right = self-worth

COMMUNICATION DIFFERENCES:

In addition to these differing needs, men and women have different ways of and motives for communicating.

Both, of course, use communication as a means to express needs, prove they are right and affirm their self-worth. Whatever we will say here is of course a generalization and there will be numerous exceptions.

Studies have shown, however, the women use communication in order to create an emotional connection or bond. Thus the communication itself is the purpose. Men seem to perceive communication as a means towards some result such as solving a problem.

Thus, we often have the situation in which a woman will start a conversation about a subject, not because she wants a solution but because she experiences a connection through the communication itself.

The man however, feels that communication has only one purpose, to arrive at a conclusion or solution and then there is no more need to communicate.

""Thus the universal problem that women feel men are aloof and men that women are interrogators.""

MEN DO NOT FEEL COMFORTABLE TALKING ABOUT EMOTIONS:

If they are talking about the woman's emotions, then they are likely to feel that they are to blame and are being criticized since the woman is not happy. If a woman expresses an emotion, she usually wants recognition of that fact that she feels that way.

The man usually does not realize this and seeks in the least possible words to convince her that there is no reason for her to feel this way. He seeks a solution. She then loses her vehicle of connecting.

If she wants to talk about his emotions, it is even worse.

First of all he seldom knows what his emotions are. He has been trained a whole lifetime to suppress, hide or shut off what he is feeling.

Secondly, even if he has some awareness of what he feels, he feels totally demeaned if he has to admit that he feels self-doubt or fear. Men in general do not like to admit their fears or weaknesses.

All of the above are of course generalizations, and there will be exceptions. We have here a serious problem in communication in which each sex will need to understand the other.

WE NEED TO UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER:

Women need to understand that when men are aloof or do not communicate their feelings and thoughts, it is often simply because they function differently and not because they do not love their love partner. They experience unity, not so much through words but rather through action, such as working to make money and take care of the family.

Men on the other hand need to understand that women need to generate feelings of unity and love through verbal communication. Men need to acknowledge women's feelings rather than find reasons why they shouldn't have them.

The Art Of Persuasion

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Thu, 09 Aug 2007 12:38:00 +0000

The saying "No man is an island" is an undeniable truth. We need the support and cooperation of other people to help us in reaching our goals.

Successful people know that one of the most important abilities to possess is the ability to persuade and influence others.

Here are some hot tips to do this effectively.

1) Enter Their World

Try to put yourself in the other’s shoes and understand the situation from their point of view. Set aside your personal interests and concentrate on them.

Ask yourself if you are them, what would you do? What would be your opinion? Then take the appropriate action that would be beneficial to them.

2) Mirror Their Body Language

People feel comfortable with those who are like them. Copy the person you are trying to create a connection with.

Observe how they act, how they speak, and how they think. If they rub their forehead while they think, act like them. If they speak at a clear and slow pace, try to do the same thing. This is called mirroring.

In due time, the people you're mirroring will subconsciously feel more comfortable with you. It's as if they see themselves in you.

Proceed with caution, however. Do not let them be aware that you are copying them. They might interpret it as mockery and you'll just get into trouble.

3) Be Cheerful and Nice

Did your mother tell you to be nice to people? She was right. People like others who brighten up their day.

Make a sincere compliment to raise their spirits. Little things like these go a long way to breaking the ice and setting the relationship off to a good start.

4) Be Sincere and Trustworthy

Make them feel that whenever they need help or just someone to look up to, you'll always be there to lend a hand. People tend to be more receptive to those they trust.

If you have a boss or client you are trying to please, over deliver and exceed their expectations. Soon, they will notice your efforts and will be more than glad to grant your request.

5) Provide Them With Compelling Evidence

Explain to them how your ideas or suggestions could be the most effective techniques to implement.

Show them undeniable proof that you have the best product by way of testimonials, before and after scenarios, and detailed comparisons against your competitors.

Just make sure that all your claims are true and verifiable. Always maintain a good reputation.

6) Show Them “What’s In It For Them”

This is the most important thing to remember when persuading anyone. People are self-centered. They always put their own well-being before others.

No matter how close you are to becoming like them or how overwhelming your evidence is, if it does not satisfy the "What's In It For Me?" test, your persuasion efforts will not produce satisfactory results.

If you can prove that your proposal will provide more advantageous benefits to them than to you, they are more likely to accept it.

7) Genuinely Care For Them

Focus more on their interests, desires, needs, and expectations, so you can satisfy their craving for attention, and establish mutual trust and respect.

It also shows that you really care about them and that will make them more likely to trust you and want to work with you.

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Choose What You Want In Life!

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Thu, 09 Aug 2007 00:26:00 +0000

"You don't have to buy from anyone. You don't have to work at any particular job.
You don't have to participate in any given relationship. You can choose."
-- Harry Browne

Choice. It's all about freedom--the freedom to pick one thing over another.

Are you choosing what you want from life????

"Oh no," comes the reply. "I can't because... I haven't got enough education. ...I need to look after my family. ...I don't have enough money. ...I don't have the time."

What's your excuse?

The truth is that we have choice in every single moment of our lives. For those who are destitute, the choices in life are fewer. But the rest of us often think we don't have freedom when we simply haven't claimed our power to choose differently.

How do you typically make decisions? Do you do so based on:

"shoulds" - doing what you believe you should do.
pleasing others - doing what others want or expect you to do.
fear - choosing the safe route for fear of doing something different.
habit and reaction - you don't even think about what you're doing--you've always done it this way?

On the other hand, you own your power to choose when you decide on the basis of:

desire - choosing something you want
need - responding to deeper desires
authenticity - you know who you are and what you stand for
creative expression - you strive to be more.

So how can you open to choosing differently?

Be clear about what you want. Have a sense of purpose. With a target to aim for, you'll know what will serve you best.

STOP and ASK yourself questions. "Why am I doing this? What do I want to achieve?" WRITE down your answers. Be more conscious of how you are spending your precious time, because this is your life passing by. This will help you say, "Wait! I don't want to do this anymore!"

Never allow yourself to play the victim. Victims have given away their power. You alone are responsible for your life. When you fully accept this, you will claim your inner power to make better choices. Change often comes from nothing more than a shift in perspective.

Be open to possibilities for yourself. Select one area of your life where you are unsatisfied, and choose something new, something more for yourself. Do different things and do things differently. Risk more.

Empowerment arises from the three Cs: choice, courage and change.

They are yours to claim. You'll be astounded at how easy it will be to take charge once you've made up your mind to do so. You have the opportunity to create a future that's very different from your past. And remember: not choosing is also a choice.

DON'T FORGET

"It is always your next move." -- Napoleon Hill

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4 Magical Ways To Build Self Confidence

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Wed, 01 Aug 2007 12:23:00 +0000

You have probably noticed those people at work, school, and in your daily life that always appear to be self confident and on top of world.

Everything seems to go right for these people and they always seem to present themselves as calm, collected and successful in everything they do.

If you are paying attention you have probably noticed that these self confident people usually are successful in every area of their lives.

Is this because they are smarter? Or is it because they have more money? Maybe they are just lucky?

The reality is that none of these things are necessarily true.

Self confident people understand the impact of believing in themselves and relying on their abilities.

This confidence ultimately creates opportunities for success and with each new success another self confidence building block is put into place. Success builds upon success reinforcing self confidence with each new achievement.

Self confident people perceive themselves as able to achieve those things they set out to do and this perception creates reality in their lives.

Yes, perception creates reality. You can become the person you want to be. You have heard it said that if you can believe it you can achieve it.

So start believing in yourself, acting on that belief and you will start building self confidence in your life.

Here are some helpful tips to build self confidence one success at a time,

"" The Magical Ways ""

1. Make a list of your strong points.

All the positive things about yourself and the things that you are good at doing. Think of compliments you have received or things that come easily to you. It doesn't matter what it is, if it's good, write it down.

2. Choose two of those things that you want to work on to improve even more.

It's important to succeed and by concentrating on the areas you are already good at you will have a better chance of becoming even more sure of yourself. Remember that success builds upon success.

3. Exude confidence even if you don't feel like it.

Talk to yourself in an encouraging way and stay away from negative thoughts and people as you can.

Instead surround yourself with positive, confident, and successful people. This will become a habit and one that will build confidence.

4. Look at yourself in a different way than you are used to doing.

It can change your life and help your confidence level to rise. See yourself as the self confident person you want to be and before you know it you will become that person.

If you have a set-back do not let it get the best of you. Remember the times when you exhibited self confidence and how good it felt and then try again and each time will help you to build confidence and confidence building will become a way of life.