Asha is in Holland

A New Year.. 2011

noreply@blogger.com (Asha) — Fri, 31 Dec 2010 18:22:00 +0000

We are about to brink on the new decade of this century. Hard to believe that 10 years have passed by so relatively quickly. I remember how everyone was freaking out about all computers crashing and possibly the world coming to an end. Maybe it did on some level, maybe some major things shifted within the last ten years that we can reflect upon and appreciate. I think every day can begin as a new beginning and there need not be a new year to occur. However I will say there is a significant shift that occurs as the calendar rolls into another year. As I sit here and listen to the bombardment of fireworks blasting off, I wish for everyone much peace,love, happiness and clear vision. I wish for everyone to be healthy, prosperous and more conscious in the way we live our lives. Take care of one another more and show more compassion and love.

Enjoy your New Year's Eve evening wherever you may be and will be in touch in the new year.

In gratitude,

Asha

Dedicated to SGB

noreply@blogger.com (Asha) — Sun, 12 Dec 2010 12:23:00 +0000

This is a friendly reminder to one of my dearest friends in the whole world.

Please remember that when times get tough and you can't see a way out or a solution.. there always is. Look within yourself, believe in your strength, love, compassion and integrity to get you through your day. You deserve the utmost happiness, peace, love and support in this world. There are people around you that are happy to give that to you, just ask. I know things have been rough lately and continue to be so. Don't worry you are not given anything more than what you can handle. Take your happiness into your own hands and make a change for the betterment of yourself. I promise those around you will be better for it. You give so much to people around you and I am fortunate to be one of them.I admire you for your integrity, strenght, poise and determination. I pray that you are given enlightenment and solutions to your current situation. I am just a phone call away ready to give you any support you need. Take care.

With gratitude and love for friends like you. Thank you for your pressence in my world.

Asha

Time is precious

noreply@blogger.com (Asha) — Sun, 12 Dec 2010 12:18:00 +0000

Lately I have been getting alot of messages from loved ones stating that they themselves or their loved ones are ill or have passed on from this world. It seems to be alot of people lately.. at times like this I often get reminded of just how precious time is and how fragile life can be. From one moment to the next life can change. And whatever that change is the important point is that we don't waste our time. Don't live with regrets. Say what you want to the people you love and care for. Don't worry about what tomorrow will bring or won't bring, the present is the here and now. Be kind to those you love, yourself is included in that. Be patient with yourself. Learn to balance the different aspects of life. Life is sweet and so are each and every one of us...

In gratitude and love,

Asha

Quiet time of the year

noreply@blogger.com (Asha) — Wed, 01 Dec 2010 18:49:00 +0000

As we wind down in the last month of this tumultous year it is a perfect time to take a little 'quiet' time. The year of 2010 has been filled with ups and downs. Lots of extremes, truths ,lies, darkness, light, give and take, all in all it has been about learning more balance. We are finishing the end of the first decade of this century and the question I am asking is 'where do we stand now?' Where do you personally stand in your life, are you where you want to be? Are you doing the things that you want to do? Are you surrounded by love and support? Are you inspired to be a better citizen of the world?

Where does the world as a whole stand? What direction are we going to? Are we really healing the true cause of the financial state of the global economy as a whole? Or are we just trying to patch things up with old ideas that just won't work this time around? We are going through a change, individually as well as collectively. Some of us are listening to the call to be committed to being better contributors to the world, while some of us are floundering around trying to figure out if it is really worth the effort and transformation or not.
This is a heavy conversation to be blogging about as I speak of this being the 'quiet time of the year' :) But for me my life has reached yet another pinnacle and it is my committment to take some introspective time to see what I feel, think and will do about some of the topics I mentioned. It is time for a real transformation on a deeper level of the meaning of life.
I am just wondering who in my surroundings are going to walk forward with me and who is going to choose to stay behind as we walk into the next decade of this century....

In gratitude and love

Asha

Is there such a thing?

noreply@blogger.com (Asha) — Tue, 30 Nov 2010 23:04:00 +0000

Is there such a thing as wasting time? Can anyone waste your time for you? I don't think they can. We make our own choices on whether we are going to do something or not. If we are giving that into someone elses hands that means we are disempowering ourselves. If we in fact empower ourself and choose actively what we are doing with our 'time' than there is no such thing as wasting time... Well that is how I see it up until this moment. I guess maybe it is time to get more proactive and productive about what I am doing with my time.. Time is precious, whether you spend it relaxing, working or just loafing around. Do it consciously and don't be afraid to sit in limbo or transition for a while. It just might do some good.

In gratitude,

Asha

Waiting.... for the right time.

noreply@blogger.com (Asha) — Mon, 29 Nov 2010 22:58:00 +0000

W-Wisdom. Sometimes the act of waiting gives you more wisdom about the situation or answer that is needed.

A-Answers. Waiting sometimes bring the answers to you rather than you searching for them.

I-Ingenuity. Waiting for something or someone gives your mind the ability to be ingenious.

T-Tiredness. Sometimes waiting can you make one tired. This can serve a positive purpose as well for some much needed rest.

I-Independence. Sometimes waiting for something or someone makes you have to do things on your own. So you gain an intense amount of independence. It can be quite liberating.

N-Numerous. Waiting for something to happen or change in a situation can allow you to get numerous options. These options may not have come so quickly towards you if you had jumped at the first decision to begin with. Numerous options allows you to use your newfound wisdom to make a better decision.

G-Goal!! The process of waiting always ends at a goal. Now it may not be the goal you initially had in mind but all in all it always ends on a good note for all parties involved.

The right time to act is precious. Don't ever worry about having to 'wait' for something or someone. It might just prove to be well worth the process.

In gratitude,

Asha'

The Frustrations of Status Quo..

noreply@blogger.com (Asha) — Sun, 28 Nov 2010 22:41:00 +0000

Sometimes in our lives we feel as if we are in 'holding' pattern. That can be so frustrating at times and we can lose our patience. And at the same time these slow periods of time are well needed. Sometimes we know for why and sometimes we don't know why but it serves some bigger purpose.

Usually when we try to force things rather than allow it to flow freely and naturally it ends up being not what we wanted to begin with. During these slow 'status quo' periods I like to try to just chill out. Do something relaxing, read a book, not think too much and allow the answers to come. The Universe has a way of working itself out for the best. A little faith and patience is needed at times like this.

In gratitude,

Asha

Learn to ride the waves of life.............

noreply@blogger.com (Asha) — Sun, 28 Nov 2010 12:29:00 +0000

the path of least resisitance is indeed the best way to go...

Insomnia

noreply@blogger.com (Asha) — Sun, 28 Nov 2010 01:15:00 +0000

I had a really relaxing day today and for the first time in a very long time I just can't sleep. All of the sudden alot of thoughts and feelings have come over me that are just preventing me from getting some good shut-eye tonight. It is 2:18am, I haven't stayed up this late in a very long time...What exactly is on my mind at this hour? Well just the usual things, which direction to take things, what is next..all sorts of unnecessary things to contemplate at this hour anyway.

Well I will give it another shot at trying to go to sleep.

In gratitude

Asha

Asking Questions

noreply@blogger.com (Asha) — Thu, 25 Nov 2010 22:06:00 +0000

Just ask straight questions with the intention of getting straight answers in return. If someone or even yourself pause... it might mean there is lack of clarity or an untruth being expressed..

In gratitude for being able to put this into practice more and more these days...

In love and gratitude

Asha

Another quote by Oprah :)

noreply@blogger.com (Asha) — Wed, 24 Nov 2010 18:36:00 +0000

"Follow your instincts. That's where true wisdom manifests itself."

This is something I am learning everyday. Your gut feelings will never steer you incorrectly. Trust them and just go with them. Listen carefully and than act appropriately.

In gratitude and love

Asha

Quote of the month!!!

noreply@blogger.com (Asha) — Fri, 12 Nov 2010 17:01:00 +0000

"Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down."
---Oprah Winfrey

Takers... they are everywhere if you let them

noreply@blogger.com (Asha) — Sat, 06 Nov 2010 20:51:00 +0000

I have been experiencing some serious case of 'takers' in my life this week. Sometimes I just can't believe how when you give an inch people want to take a mile. I know we all have experienced this in our lives and most of the time we let it go and just move on from it. But for some reason I am just saying No More!! It is enough. I realize that when you allow others to take advantage of you and take you for all that you have to give, you are disrespecting yourself. The recent experiences have taught me that I am no longer wanting to invite those kind of relationships in my life for the long haul. Enough is enough.
If your relationships,friendships or partnerships are not balanced in the give and take department, take another look and make sure that you are really wanting to be in that connection. Because the outcome of that can be alot of heartache and unfulfillment. Nurture the relationships that thrive not the ones that drag you down.

In gratitude for this weeks lessons

Asha

Self Respect

noreply@blogger.com (Asha) — Sat, 23 Oct 2010 09:07:00 +0000

It is quite an opportunity for us as humans to constantly and consistently be conscious of our behaviors and how that effects another. However, I am learning more and more each day that it is imperative to learn how our behavior impacts someone else. Sometimes some people expect you to just 'go along' with EVERYTHING that they do or say or the way that they act: even if it is hurtful towards that other person.
There is a fine line of self respect that needs to come into play here. And of course if you don't have self respect it is difficult to respect others as well.

Lately I have been faced with some people who are being hurtful with their behavior expecting me to just go along with whatever they 'dish out'... I know it may not be intentionally meant or consciously meant however it has to stop. What I realize is that we don't have to subject ourselves repeatedly to 'painful' situations and environments. What is the point of that? Just to please another, when not pleasing ourselves and respecting ourselves?? No more... We have the right to be conscious in our decisions and protect and care for ourselves. Because those that are making these unconscious actions and decisions repeatedly are at the root only thinking about what is best for themselves. Nothing wrong with that, however that puts things in a different perspective. Communicate what and why these actions are necessary as many times as you need to towards someone you love, because if you miss that opportunity it may be something that will hurt them deeply and cause core damage to the relationships you have.

Always learning something new about those I care about and myself...

In love and gratitude

Asha

'Stuck'

noreply@blogger.com (Asha) — Thu, 21 Oct 2010 22:10:00 +0000

Sometimes the 'stuckness' of life feels too comfortable. We get so use to our environment, the people around us, our daily routines.. that we don't dare to step out of the box. We just keep going and going only to be left to think, " I wish this or I wish that.." Why do we do this? What keeps us from taking a chance on the unknown?

Over the last 6 months, I have been feeling pretty 'stuck' in my life and circumstances. It is through deeply searching, sitting, and the peeling back of the layers that for the first time in the last several months, I am actually feeling some leaps forward. Some movement towards my personal goals, desires and wishes. There are stages that one will go through to achieve great things. First you have to be willing to face your inner wishes and dreams and believe that you can make them come true. Dreams can come true practically over night if we truly believe in them and follow what it is that we need to be and do.

I am starting to feel the effects of getting 'unstuck'.. it is a little scary and at the same time very exciting.

It is getting late here.. dream time..

Till next time

Asha

Love them and let go..

noreply@blogger.com (Asha) — Mon, 11 Oct 2010 19:53:00 +0000

Have you ever loved someone that you just could not be with? Whether close to you or far away in another city, let alone country... Sometimes it is a matter of distance, sometimes a matter of different opinions and sometimes it is a matter of it just is not meant to be. But still you miss them like crazy, long to sit and just laugh with them, share the daily mundane things with but still the tides don't seem to flow together in synch.. It can be quite frustrating at times... really frustrating. So much you just want to pick up the phone and call them and tell them exactly what is on your mind but you just don't because you know that it would be unfair to disrupt their life as it is.

In my recent 'rocky roads' I have realized that you can love anybody in this Universe whether they are near you physically or far far away. Thinking of them, holding them close to you in mind and heart and allowing your heart to smile at the very thought of them. And as you do that there is a certain sense of peace that can fill every cell of your being... and in this feeling is when you can let go of that persistent need to cling on to them so tightly and just let go...

Try it, I know it may be challenging but see it as an opportunity to practice the power of unconditional love.

In love and gratitude,

Asha

Listen to yourself first

noreply@blogger.com (Asha) — Sun, 10 Oct 2010 16:31:00 +0000

There will always be people who have something to say about the way you are conducting your life. It is our choice to either 'hear them' or 'listen to them'. We can hear all about how others want us to live our life and what we 'should' be doing all the time. But it is a total different experience to 'listen' to what they say and take it to heart. When you take these things to heart it can cloud the internal guidance or intuition which is strongly guiding you to what is important for YOU. This is no easy task at all because our society is built upon the 'shoulds' and 'have to's' of life. I invite each of you for one day to just 'hear' what others are saying to you and 'listen' to your own advice and guidance. And when someone says something to you that may be hurtful or judgemental try to take a moment to ask yourself if what they said resonates with the truth of You. I know this is not an easy task, but this gives us an opportunity to practice listening to ourselves first and learning to trust ourselves first. This defintiely has the chance to enhance the relationships you have in your life with everyone... but most importanlty yourself!

In love and gratitude,

Asha

6 months of transformations.....

noreply@blogger.com (Asha) — Sat, 09 Oct 2010 20:59:00 +0000

It has been 6 months since my last post.. half a year!! I have to tell you the last 6 months have been a whirlwind of 'stuff". I have been going through some major changes and growing pains.. but now I can say as we are well into the last quarter of the year, I can begin to breathe fully again. It is a time to reflect and I would like to share what I have experienced and learned.

There is no true way to define an 'internal journey' of oneself. Actually for most people around you they think that you have stayed the exact same.. and that is where the friction filled discussions can occur if you allow them. I have been ecstatically happy, sad, angry,disappointed, overwhlemed,in love, in rage.. and every other imagineable emotion a human is meant to feel over the last half year. It hasn't been the easiest of times, however I have enjoyed every step of the way. Isn't this is what life is about? Learning how to acheieve some sort of balance and deep inner peace so you can go out into the world each and every day and contribute something to the greater good of All?

Ok sure our society has become a "ME" based existence. And there is some truth to taking care of the "ME" to help the "WE". It is just that sometimes we bury our heads in the sand to far to ever come out to see that there is even a "WE". I am beginning to see another level of the "Big Picture" I am calling my life these days. It is nice to finally get some clarity. This is an ever changing process for sure, life keeps us awaiting the next adventure.

I just wanted to check in and make an entry now,I feel I am ready to be back online a bit now. Thank you loyal readers for being patient and I appreciate your emails.

In total gratitude and love,
Till next time,

Asha

Dare to Love

noreply@blogger.com (Asha) — Sat, 10 Apr 2010 07:50:00 +0000

“In love, it is better to know and be disappointed, than to not know and always wonder.”

The above quote caught my attention in a recent book I have been reading.

Sometimes as normal human beings, we get so stuck in our fear of not loving or taking a chance in life again and again. We would rather be stuck in the known and only daydream about something that we desire in our lives. Whether it is the dream job, dream house, owning a business, starting a new relationship or whatever it may be. All in all "knowing" something is always more rich in experience than just "wondering" about something. Lots of times our imagination fantasizes and creates things that may not be true about what we are dreaming about. In my experience it is always better to know how things are at face value. You can spend a lifetime wondering around , wondering what if this and what if that. But I say just go for it. So what if you get disappointed by the situation, yourself or by someone else. That is the richness of the experience of life. Live it and love it. Fall in love with your life and embrace the disappointments. For out of those disappointments comes the appreciations of the happy miracles that warm you heart and soul. That makes living all the more enjoyable.

In love and gratitude,

Asha

My least favorite chore...

noreply@blogger.com (Asha) — Tue, 30 Mar 2010 19:16:00 +0000

I just finished the last pant and shirt in my 'ironing room'.. Whew.... that was a bit painful. I hate to iron. I consider myself domestic in so many ways, but ironing is not and probably never be a forte of mine. As I was making my way through a pile of pants and shirts that I need for work I asked myself 'who on earth invented ironing' and ' do I really need to iron everything including undergarments just because the natives do that as well here. Well not to much surprise it just so happens that the Europeans did invent ironing according to what I found on the internet. Well of course the Chinese used hot metal for ironing before anyone else and before the electric iron was discovered the Northern Europeans used stones for smoothing clothes out. I did not realize there was so much history to a process that we all do mostly once a week or if you are from around here you do it practically everday and EVERY single garment gets ironed....

Well I am happy to say that I am finished for my weekly chore and will find new ways to make it more fun and interesting. I guess when you are in a new land you must do like the natives to a certain degree.. i still however refuse to iron undergarments! :)

In gratitude and love

Asha

noreply@blogger.com (Asha) — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 19:00:00 +0000

Sometimes it is just best to take something that someone says at face value and try not to figure out the meaning behind. It saves alot of time and effort that may not even need to be used.

Ah still learning more and more each day. Ain't life grand ? :)

In love and gratitude

Asha

Gratitude

noreply@blogger.com (Asha) — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 16:59:00 +0000

I am grateful for the life I have been given to lead.
I am grateful for the many experiences that come my way.
I am grateful for the ability to share my ideas with others and be creative.
I am grateful for all that I have and will acquire in this lifetime.
I am grateful for the abundant health and peace I have in my life.

Most of all I am grateful for all those that I get to share this maginificent life with. For without these great souls this journey might seem pointless.

I ask all you to take a moment to find the things that you have gratitude for no matter how big or small. It matters.

In love and gratitude,

Asha

The Beautiful Rain

noreply@blogger.com (Asha) — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 16:46:00 +0000

It is another rainy, rainy day here in Europe. I think I have actually seen the sun twice in the last week. It is really a different life here. I noticed something today, everyone that I came across today complained about the weather. They were saying it was too cold, too wet, too rainy, and on and on. I decided to have a different answer today. I said that "I only see the bright sun shining with warm temperatures" Of course I got the crazy foreigner look for the millionth time :) It was fun to do this today to see the reactions. I had about fifty percent that agreed with me and quickly took a brighter stance and perspective on the day and I had the other half that refused to see the light. It is possible to change our perspective about our days and our lives in an instance. It is all a matter of making the choice. What kind of a day do you want to have? A good one, a great one or a gloomy, grumpy day? It is your choice? It doesn't matter if we are talking about the weather, or that colleague or spouse that is driving you crazy. Make a choice and try it out. Sure people will think you have lost your mind.. but so what! Those are the same people that are unhappily walking around in their lives and maybe just maybe you can be a bright and positive influence for them.

In gratitude and love,

Asha

Song for a Saturday Afternoon

noreply@blogger.com (Asha) — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 19:38:00 +0000

"How Could Anyone"
By Libby Roderick

How could anyone ever tell you
You were anything less than beautiful?
How could anyone ever tell you
You were less than whole?
How could anyone fail to notice
That your loving is a miracle?
How deeply you're connected to my soul?

In love and gratitude,

Dedicated to SB, You are deserving of so much in this world and I hope and pray each and everyday for you to be at peace and to only experience love each and every moment. Thank you for giving so much and teaching me so much about life. Asha

Many Expressions

noreply@blogger.com (Asha) — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 09:25:00 +0000

There are many kinds of people in this world. Or at least many groups that we categorize people into. Some people are kind, generous and loving. While others are loving and peaceful. And there are some that are stingy, mean and have a tendency to use others. I have encountered the last type far too often over the last few years and am just realizing that if someone or a group of people are draining you and only taking and insist on not compromising, why are you still allowing them to be around you? I know this lesson has come up time and time again for myself and i have talked to friends who experience the same thing with friends, lovers and family. If someone isn't supporting your better good and really following up with their words, than there might be some kind of deciept underlying their intentions. And maybe it is the fact that they really do like things the way they are , especially if they are benefiting the most from the friendship or relationship. Cut the ties, let go and make room for those who will respect, honor and really follow up their words with their actions. It makes life easier, lighter and you can sit back and take life less seriously and have some well deserved fun.

In gratitude for all that is being shown to me presently.

Asha