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		<title>Sic</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Jo]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 15 Nov 2018 14:51:28 +0000</pubDate>
				<category><![CDATA[Failure to Communicate]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Writing About Writing]]></category>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>The good news: The rise of the Interwebs means that anyone can publish anything at any&#160;time, with virtually no bar at&#160;all. The&#160;bad news:&#160;Ditto.</p>
<p>As a writer, I’ve benefitted directly from this easy access. As&#160;a reader, I&#160;find in cyberworld frequent cause for literary despair.</p>
<p>I really miss editors.</p>
<p>Almost every day, I find glaring examples of absent editors. One&#160;writer <span style="font-size: 90%"><a href="https://www.shelbajo.com/2018/11/sic/">&#133;[MORE]</a></span>]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The good news: The rise of the Interwebs means that anyone can publish anything at any&nbsp;time, with virtually no bar at&nbsp;all. The&nbsp;bad news:&nbsp;Ditto.</p>
<p>As a writer, I’ve benefitted directly from this easy access. As&nbsp;a reader, I&nbsp;find in cyberworld frequent cause for literary despair.</p>
<p>I <em>really </em>miss editors.</p>
<p>Almost every day, I find glaring examples of absent editors. One&nbsp;writer says ‘passed’ when he means ‘past’; one uses &#8216;reign&#8217; when it should be &#8216;rein&#8217;. One mixes metaphors. One buries the lead. All seem to think that any objective review of their composition is quaintly&nbsp;archaic.</p>
<p>They come off looking careless, if not downright ignorant. The impression this sloppy presentation makes on the reader: “I&nbsp;don’t know; and I&nbsp;don’t really care that I&nbsp;don’t know.” Somehow, I&nbsp;don’t think that’s the message they hope to&nbsp;convey.</p>
<p>I once read a blog post intended to reach small business owners. Its&nbsp;purpose was to stress the importance of good business communications. It&nbsp;was poorly written and completely unedited. Whatever market they were attempting to reach should have run screaming from the building after the first paragraph.</p>
<p>Before you ask, no, this blog is not edited. I’ve made every kind of mistake and no doubt will again. But&nbsp;any error that is pointed out will be corrected without the least offense. <em>Please </em>point it out. Such mistakes usually arise from the haste of first draft, but occasionally there’s something I&nbsp;need to&nbsp;learn.</p>
<p>You can be sure, though, that when I write something of import, it is always carefully proofed and edited by&nbsp;me, at&nbsp;the very least. I&nbsp;know how often I&nbsp;omit entire words, mix metaphors, misspell certain words or conflate my thoughts incoherently. If&nbsp;the writing really matters, my&nbsp;own revision is never enough. The&nbsp;material gets passed on to someone else for review and comment before sending. Shop&nbsp;rule: No&nbsp;one proofs their own typesetting. And&nbsp;no good writer serves as their own&nbsp;editor.</p>
<p>You may disagree with what I say, but I hope it’s not the way I&nbsp;say it that leaves you shaking your&nbsp;head. I&nbsp;know the difference between good writing and&nbsp;bad. More importantly, I&nbsp;really care. I&nbsp;hope it&nbsp;shows.</p>
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		<title>An Unexpected Gift to Myself</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Jo]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 13 Nov 2018 16:31:31 +0000</pubDate>
				<category><![CDATA[The Flotsam of Existence]]></category>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>I found a hidden treasure this morning.</p>
<p>Several months ago, I treated myself to a second-hand copy of The Essential Ellison, the 35-year retrospective of one of the most prolific authors ever to put pen to&#160;paper. He’s&#160;a life-long favorite of mine and I&#160;wanted this volume quite&#160;badly. It’s&#160;a 1012-page tome that was out of&#160;print, and buying used <span style="font-size: 90%"><a href="https://www.shelbajo.com/2018/11/an-unexpected-gift-to-myself/">&#133;[MORE]</a></span>]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I found a hidden treasure this morning.</p>
<p>Several months ago, I treated myself to a second-hand copy of <em>The Essential Ellison</em>, the 35-year retrospective of one of the most prolific authors ever to put pen to&nbsp;paper. He’s&nbsp;a life-long favorite of mine and I&nbsp;wanted this volume quite&nbsp;badly. It’s&nbsp;a 1012-page tome that was out of&nbsp;print, and buying used books online is something of a crap&nbsp;shoot. This&nbsp;time I got lucky. The&nbsp;copy I received was in excellent condition and everything I hoped it would&nbsp;be. Pleased with my purchase, I&nbsp;briefly daydreamed about getting the opportunity to meet Harlan Ellison someday and present it for signing. What&nbsp;I actually did was put it on a&nbsp;shelf. Life&nbsp;went&nbsp;on.</p>
<p>Today, I chose this book for my morning reading hour. In the end, I&nbsp;read very little and almost nothing of Harlan’s. First, I&nbsp;got distracted by the very beauty of the book itself. Its&nbsp;production was of the finest quality—heavy, acid-free paper, sewn signatures, full trim, the works. Even&nbsp;the dust jacket was a thing of artistry. As&nbsp;a lover of books AND a professional graphic artist, I’ve&nbsp;rarely seen such a nice&nbsp;edition.</p>
<p>I read the book jacket blurbs, front and back. I&nbsp;even learned a couple of things about Ellison I didn’t&nbsp;know. </p>
<p>The copyright page had an issue date of 1987. Then I discovered a surprise. FIRST&nbsp;EDITION. Nice. Didn’t&nbsp;expect&nbsp;that.</p>
<p>The gobsmacker waited on the cover page, though. There, right under the printed title, was a brief inscription, “Good wishes, John, from” and just above the imprint, a large, sprawling signature: Harlan&nbsp;Ellison. At&nbsp;least, I’m pretty sure that’s what it&nbsp;says.</p>
<p>Wow. A top drawer, signed, inscribed first edition for the price of a quality used book. I’m&nbsp;feelin’&nbsp;lucky.</p>
<p>The editor provided a brief Foreword, so I read that. I spent some time perusing the table of contents, and thumbed through the entire book, just getting a feel for its organization and structure. About then I&nbsp;discovered that I’d spent a good deal of time admiring the book and didn’t have much time left to actually read&nbsp;it. I&nbsp;decided to reserve that pleasure for&nbsp;tomorrow.</p>
<p>But before I put the book aside for the day, I&nbsp;flipped to the end. After 1012 pages of magnum opus, Ellison himself provided an Afterword. This&nbsp;fiercely succinct wonder offered up just one&nbsp;sentence:</p>
<p>“For a brief time I was here; and for a brief time I&nbsp;mattered.”</p>
<p>You did, sir. You did.</p>
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		<title>Sabbath</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Jo]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 04 Nov 2018 15:00:20 +0000</pubDate>
				<category><![CDATA[Future Shock]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Nothing Humble About It]]></category>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>Early this morning, I decided to declare today a personal day of prayer and fasting. The&#160;idea of the fast came first, and&#160;it’s going to be&#160;tough, I&#160;won’t&#160;deny.</p>
<p>Oh, I’m still eating and drinking and such. But for today, to&#160;whatever extent I am&#160;able, I&#160;plan to abstain from any and all touch of politics. I&#160;won’t obsess over news clips <span style="font-size: 90%"><a href="https://www.shelbajo.com/2018/11/sabbath/">&#133;[MORE]</a></span>]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Early this morning, I decided to declare today a personal day of prayer and fasting. The&nbsp;idea of the fast came first, and&nbsp;it’s going to be&nbsp;tough, I&nbsp;won’t&nbsp;deny.</p>
<p>Oh, I’m still eating and drinking and such. But for today, to&nbsp;whatever extent I am&nbsp;able, I&nbsp;plan to abstain from any and all touch of politics. I&nbsp;won’t obsess over news clips and editorials. I&nbsp;won’t listen to election predictions or dire speculations. I&nbsp;won’t expose myself to Facebook skirmishes. I&nbsp;am unplugged.</p>
<p>I am so exhausted from hearing that name on every pair of lips. I&nbsp;fondly remember—oh, several ages ago it seems—going days, sometimes weeks, with no mention of the president from either newscasters or neighbors. I&nbsp;really miss those&nbsp;days.</p>
<p>I’ll be quick to admit that I’m as guilty as all the rest. Way back during the run-up to the election, I&nbsp;became aware of my own contribution to what I saw as a national aberration. I&nbsp;tried to stop clicking those headlines, but I just couldn’t help myself. The swaying cobra held me in&nbsp;thrall. I&nbsp;knew then, and I&nbsp;know now, that I am the one feeding the monster. Still, I&nbsp;click.</p>
<p>What I really want is peace of mind. And I know that that has always been mine to&nbsp;command. The&nbsp;world didn’t take it from&nbsp;me; I&nbsp;ceded&nbsp;it. Now&nbsp;I reclaim&nbsp;it, at&nbsp;least for one&nbsp;day.</p>
<p>It may not be easy. Already I feel an itch to check the headlines. I’ve&nbsp;made a plan to support my resolve and I’ve lashed myself to its&nbsp;mast, but&nbsp;that doesn’t silence the siren&nbsp;call. Its&nbsp;torment permeates the very air I&nbsp;breathe.</p>
<p>The fasting element of my plan may be difficult, but the prayer part is&nbsp;simple. I&nbsp;pray we all survive this with our spirits, our friendships and our nation intact. I&nbsp;pray that most of my fellow Americans share my bright dream of an abundant land that will embrace us&nbsp;all. I&nbsp;pray that voters turn out in numbers that will merit historical astonishment, and&nbsp;begin the business of putting this dark dream behind&nbsp;us.</p>
<p>Just for today, I resolve to resist thinking about the worst and fill my heart with thoughts of the&nbsp;best. It&nbsp;won’t change a&nbsp;thing, but&nbsp;it can’t hurt. And&nbsp;I need a&nbsp;break.</p>
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		<title>To the Stranger from a Strange Land</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Jo]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 30 Oct 2018 15:42:12 +0000</pubDate>
				<category><![CDATA[The Flotsam of Existence]]></category>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>I am not your enemy.</p>
<p>I may be quite different from you in many ways, but you have nothing to fear from&#160;me. If&#160;I question you about the distinctions between&#160;us, it&#160;is due to my curiosity and interest in&#160;others. I&#160;want to know about you, and the more I&#160;know, the&#160;more I see that we are more alike than different.</p>
<p>You <span style="font-size: 90%"><a href="https://www.shelbajo.com/2018/10/to-the-stranger-from-a-strange-land/">&#133;[MORE]</a></span>]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I am not your enemy.</p>
<p>I may be quite different from you in many ways, but you have nothing to fear from&nbsp;me. If&nbsp;I question you about the distinctions between&nbsp;us, it&nbsp;is due to my curiosity and interest in&nbsp;others. I&nbsp;want to know about you, and the more I&nbsp;know, the&nbsp;more I see that we are more alike than different.</p>
<p>You may come from another nation. You may worship in a way I&nbsp;do not understand. Your&nbsp;native tongue is probably different from mine, so&nbsp;I hope you forgive my lack of comprehension and limited education. But&nbsp;I will keep trying to communicate, because&nbsp;I really want to know more about&nbsp;you.</p>
<p>You do not frighten me. I see the love in your eyes when you speak of your child. Your&nbsp;hunger is something I&nbsp;understand and can remedy. Your&nbsp;laughter sounds just like&nbsp;mine. When&nbsp;we speak of our dreams, we&nbsp;become children of the same&nbsp;family. We&nbsp;need no more common tongue than&nbsp;that.</p>
<p>I am so happy you came into my life. You brought me a richer understanding of our&nbsp;world. You&nbsp;showed me that what really matters in this life is the same for everyone. We&nbsp;both rejoice in the triumph of justice, and&nbsp;we grieve alike when the weight of the world’s sorrows would crush&nbsp;us.</p>
<p>But we survive, because we are stronger together.</p>
<p>You are not my enemy. And nothing will convince me otherwise.</p>
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		<title>Minding the Civics</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Jo]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 18 Oct 2018 15:09:10 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>I am both eager and tense when I contemplate the upcoming midterm elections. I&#160;can’t remember ever being more anxious to cast my&#160;vote, and&#160;to see how it all comes&#160;out.</p>
<p>I have a neighbor who regularly works the polls at election times. While&#160;I think that’s an honorable thing to do, I’ve&#160;never been tempted to join&#160;her. Simply&#160;put, it’s&#160;just more <span style="font-size: 90%"><a href="https://www.shelbajo.com/2018/10/minding-the-civics/">&#133;[MORE]</a></span>]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I am both eager and tense when I contemplate the upcoming midterm elections. I&nbsp;can’t remember ever being more anxious to cast my&nbsp;vote, and&nbsp;to see how it all comes&nbsp;out.</p>
<p>I have a neighbor who regularly works the polls at election times. While&nbsp;I think that’s an honorable thing to do, I’ve&nbsp;never been tempted to join&nbsp;her. Simply&nbsp;put, it’s&nbsp;just more commitment than I&nbsp;want to make. One&nbsp;day I&nbsp;may feel differently; for&nbsp;now I’m just not&nbsp;ready.</p>
<p>Last week a call went out for local poll watchers on election day. This&nbsp;is voluntary duty, and only for the one&nbsp;day. That, I&nbsp;decided, wasn’t too much to&nbsp;ask. I&nbsp;signed up for the training.</p>
<p>This is something I’ve never done. My only involvement with the election process so far has been to cast my ballot. I’m&nbsp;curious about what the training will entail, and what the long, long day will be&nbsp;like. I&nbsp;have a few misgivings, but over&nbsp;all I’m excited about the new&nbsp;experience.</p>
<p>Who knows? Maybe I’ll turn into one of the ancients who preside over the voter rolls one&nbsp;day. All&nbsp;I’m sure of is that my personal vote will be cast early and with great&nbsp;zeal. On&nbsp;election day, I’ll&nbsp;just be&nbsp;watching.</p>
<p>I’ve never been more excited about an election before, but I know there’s a future election coming that will get me even more motivated than this&nbsp;one. I’ll&nbsp;bet you can guess what year that will&nbsp;be.</p>
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		<title>Stirring the Soup</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Jo]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 11 Oct 2018 16:36:33 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>I watch enough videos on YouTube that my algorithm gets stuck in a rut. I&#160;watch a lot of news, but&#160;even I&#160;don’t want to watch headlines from last week, much less from months or years&#160;ago. Sometimes, to shake up my searches and produce a new range of suggested videos, I&#160;just go randomly surfing all over YouTube. <span style="font-size: 90%"><a href="https://www.shelbajo.com/2018/10/stirring-the-soup/">&#133;[MORE]</a></span>]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I watch enough videos on YouTube that my algorithm gets stuck in a rut. I&nbsp;watch a lot of news, but&nbsp;even I&nbsp;don’t want to watch headlines from last week, much less from months or years&nbsp;ago. Sometimes, to shake up my searches and produce a new range of suggested videos, I&nbsp;just go randomly surfing all over YouTube. I&nbsp;leap from one weird link to&nbsp;another, and&nbsp;do so long enough to generate a whole new selection on my home&nbsp;page.</p>
<p>This process has taken me to some strange places. Sometimes they’re interesting, sometimes compelling, and sometimes just downright&nbsp;weird.</p>
<p>Recently I came across an entire series of videos basically titled “Irish People Eat [<em>fill in the blank</em>]”. It’s&nbsp;just what it sounds&nbsp;like. A&nbsp;handful of Irish people are in a setting reminiscent of a marketing research laboratory. They&nbsp;are offered a series of dishes which they’ve never tried before, and&nbsp;their reactions and comments about the tasting experience are shown as raw&nbsp;footage.</p>
<p>Not all of the food offerings were of an American variety, but many&nbsp;were. I&nbsp;watched Irish people eat Southern food, American sandwiches, comfort food, American desserts, etc., and found it inexplicably interesting.</p>
<p>They often liked the American foods, though sometimes their comments weren’t all that flattering. I&nbsp;found it a bit odd that they seemed to find the whole concept of peanut butter particularly disgusting, except for one man who did enjoy his classic peanut butter and&nbsp;jelly sandwich.</p>
<p>I did some more surfing just last night, to stir the mix once&nbsp;more. Today I&nbsp;have several episodes of <em>Super&nbsp;Nanny </em>in my feed. Where&nbsp;in the hell did that come&nbsp;from?</p>
<p>Oh well, at least it’s not old news.</p>
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		<title>&#8230;and Senator Collins Respectfully Can Go Fuck Herself</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Jo]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 09 Oct 2018 15:40:59 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>We’ll get back to it in a minute, but for now I’d like you to put aside all thought of the recent Supreme Court agitation and participate in a little thought experiment. It&#160;is intended for everyone—male and female, Democrat and Republican, conservative and progressive. It&#160;will take only a few minutes and doesn’t even have to <span style="font-size: 90%"><a href="https://www.shelbajo.com/2018/10/and-senator-collins-respectfully-can-go-fuck-herself/">&#133;[MORE]</a></span>]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>We’ll get back to it in a minute, but for now I’d like you to put aside all thought of the recent Supreme Court agitation and participate in a little thought experiment. It&nbsp;is intended for everyone—male and female, Democrat and Republican, conservative and progressive. It&nbsp;will take only a few minutes and doesn’t even have to be written down, though you might want&nbsp;to. The&nbsp;results might surprise&nbsp;you.</p>
<p>First, think back over your entire life and the people you have actually, personally known. List&nbsp;the names of every man you can think of who has paid an actual price as the result of accusations of sexual assault or abuse, proven or&nbsp;not. I&nbsp;mean a real price, like prison time, a court judgment, a financial penalty. Loss&nbsp;of career counts, loss&nbsp;of job or reputation doesn’t. Write&nbsp;down every single&nbsp;name.</p>
<p>Now, write a list of every single woman you’ve known who has been accosted, assaulted, insulted, harassed, groped, mauled, or had vulgarities hurled at her or whispered in her ear by strangers. If&nbsp;you’re female, this might not be too hard a&nbsp;task. Your&nbsp;list might be long. If&nbsp;you’re male, you&nbsp;might want to think twice about how many women you’ve actually had this sort of conversation with over the years before you consider your list complete.</p>
<p>You see, most of us don’t talk about it readily. In the whirlwind of the Kavanaugh hearings, I&nbsp;heard many men express their surprise when their own wives and daughters offered up tales of their personal experiences, many of them held secret for&nbsp;years. Men&nbsp;just don’t&nbsp;know. </p>
<p>And they shouldn’t ask, not unless the relationship is really intimate or heading in that direction. This&nbsp;is not a conversation for a man to strike up lightly with a coworker or the lady on the&nbsp;bus. Women carry deep wounds, and their reactions are unpredictable. They&nbsp;may freeze, break into tears, fly into a rage, or call the cops on&nbsp;you. I’m&nbsp;just telling it like it&nbsp;is. Beware. Just&nbsp;don’t assume that the answer is no if the question has never been&nbsp;explored.</p>
<p>Once you have your two lists, consider the difference in their respective lengths. Consider that most women don’t tell. Consider that most don’t lie. Then consider the logical conclusion: that virtually no woman ever gets to experience a moment of&nbsp;justice, not&nbsp;even the simplest validation of her&nbsp;pain. We&nbsp;carry that burden all the days of our&nbsp;lives.</p>
<p>So here are my questions, Senator Collins. If you believe women are telling the truth and their awful experience was&nbsp;real, but&nbsp;men are innocent, then&nbsp;who, exactly, is&nbsp;doing all this assaulting? Who&nbsp;is this faceless, passive “someone” who is really to&nbsp;blame? How&nbsp;have we, as&nbsp;a society, decided that since all men aren’t guilty, then&nbsp;none of them&nbsp;are? And&nbsp;while it might be cynical but easy to understand why any man would be comfortable with such a conclusion, why&nbsp;are there always complicit women like yourself who will smile at their sisters while cutting them down?</p>
<p>I’ve known one man who went to prison, Senator. One. How about you?</p>
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		<title>The Pyrrhic War of the Sexes</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 03 Oct 2018 14:37:16 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>The current brouhaha in Washington, to my way of thinking, is something of a distraction from a deeper, more profound drama that is playing out across the&#160;nation. These hearings have served as a kind of seed crystal around which a writhing spirit is rapidly coalescing into physical being. And&#160;it ain’t&#160;pretty.</p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The current brouhaha in Washington, to my way of thinking, is something of a distraction from a deeper, more profound drama that is playing out across the&nbsp;nation. These hearings have served as a kind of seed crystal around which a writhing spirit is rapidly coalescing into physical being. And&nbsp;it ain’t&nbsp;pretty.</p>
<p>There are accounts of all kinds of organizations being overwhelmed with phone calls from women telling tales of abuse and harassment. Torrents of&nbsp;them. Women are calling their representatives, their TV&nbsp;stations and newspaper reporters, hotlines and help&nbsp;lines all over the country. They&nbsp;are talking, crying, marching, and registering to&nbsp;vote. Turn&nbsp;off the sound for a minute and look at the&nbsp;faces, the&nbsp;throngs, the outpourings of&nbsp;emotion.</p>
<p>I see a sort of female beast, comprising all of us scarred sisters and mutilated mothers, arising from the masses and howling in&nbsp;pain. She&nbsp;thrusts out her&nbsp;arms, cries&nbsp;out in&nbsp;agony, spills&nbsp;her tales of&nbsp;woe. She&nbsp;is wounded, and&nbsp;her deepest gashes never heal but follow her through all her&nbsp;days. She&nbsp;cries out for validation. She&nbsp;cries out for justice. She&nbsp;cries out to be&nbsp;heard.</p>
<p>If the embodied national male beast does as he has always done—that is to say if he dismisses her pleas outright or pretends to listen and nod, then pats her on the head and tells her to never mind and let us get on with business—then a true crisis may&nbsp;erupt. This&nbsp;society might well rip right in&nbsp;two, but&nbsp;not along partisan lines. And&nbsp;it will have nothing to do with a&nbsp;judge, but&nbsp;a lack of&nbsp;justice.</p>
<p>Too many women are crying out that we are not being heard. And&nbsp;too many men are still not&nbsp;listening. What&nbsp;will it&nbsp;take? And&nbsp;where will it&nbsp;end?</p>
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		<title>The Reader in the Shadows</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Jo]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 02 Oct 2018 14:56:06 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>Recently I’ve been spending time with some ancient horrors which lurk in isolation. No,&#160;I haven’t been visiting relatives in&#160;Amarillo. I’ve&#160;been reading H.P.&#160;Lovecraft.</p>
<p>I became enamored with horror, science fiction and monsters in early childhood. I&#160;watched all the scary movies, from Frankenstein and Wolfman to the Things that came from outer space, beyond Mars and beneath the&#160;sea. <span style="font-size: 90%"><a href="https://www.shelbajo.com/2018/10/the-reader-in-the-shadows/">&#133;[MORE]</a></span>]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Recently I’ve been spending time with some ancient horrors which lurk in isolation. No,&nbsp;I haven’t been visiting relatives in&nbsp;Amarillo. I’ve&nbsp;been reading H.P.&nbsp;Lovecraft.</p>
<p>I became enamored with horror, science fiction and monsters in early childhood. I&nbsp;watched all the scary movies, from Frankenstein and Wolfman to the Things that came from outer space, beyond Mars and beneath the&nbsp;sea. Almost nothing really frightened me or gave me nightmares. Fright&nbsp;was my&nbsp;element.</p>
<p>I didn’t start reading a lot of science fiction, though, until college, and I&nbsp;completely missed out on the Tales from the Crypt offerings of horror and gore. I&nbsp;read Stephen King and Dean Koontz, but somehow Lovecraft completely escaped my&nbsp;radar. Many of my college friends knew Lovecraft and I&nbsp;have hazy recollections of some discussions of his works, but&nbsp;still I&nbsp;never read anything.</p>
<p>Years later, when doing some reading on literary analysis and writing techniques, I&nbsp;came across other references to Lovecraft. Finally, my curiosity sat up and looked around. I&nbsp;bought a few of his works and read them with great&nbsp;joy. Later,&nbsp;I bought a few more. My&nbsp;last foray into Kaboom! Used Books (“Houston’s least eponymous book store”) turned up three more volumes to&nbsp;explore. I’m&nbsp;in&nbsp;heaven.</p>
<p>So when I might be blogging each morning, instead I’m mentally tramping through the darkened hollows of rural Massachusetts, seeking the source of the nightly rustlings that disturb my sleep and visit strange dreams upon&nbsp;me. Instead of crafting words, I’m&nbsp;floating on their surface, diving below, peering deep into the murk, sensing the strange vibrations that resound even more deeply&nbsp;still.</p>
<p>I don’t have time for composition. I think there are rats in the walls.</p>
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		<title>Rainy Day Woman</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Jo]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 23 Sep 2018 14:46:17 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>Houston is not exactly Seattle, but it is one rainy-ass place. Recently we’ve had a couple of weeks that were more wet than&#160;dry. These conditions have caused a few of my pluviophilic friends to revel in the incessant rainfall.</p>
<p>I do not share their affection for rain. In&#160;fact, I&#160;consider rain an inconvenience at best and, if&#160;you <span style="font-size: 90%"><a href="https://www.shelbajo.com/2018/09/rainy-day-woman/">&#133;[MORE]</a></span>]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Houston is not exactly Seattle, but it is one rainy-ass place. Recently we’ve had a couple of weeks that were more wet than&nbsp;dry. These conditions have caused a few of my pluviophilic friends to revel in the incessant rainfall.</p>
<p>I do not share their affection for rain. In&nbsp;fact, I&nbsp;consider rain an inconvenience at best and, if&nbsp;you have to get on a Houston freeway, a&nbsp;deadly menace at&nbsp;worst. My&nbsp;most common use of the weather forecast is to plan my errands and appointments so as to avoid going out in the rain altogether, if&nbsp;possible.</p>
<p>I do have a strange trait, though, that is sometimes brought out by rainy days. There’s probably a word for this state, too, but I don’t know what it&nbsp;is. I&nbsp;experience a deep-seated comfort and satisfaction during any sort of inclement weather as long as I&nbsp;can remain safely indoors, warm and&nbsp;dry. It’s&nbsp;not the weather itself that produces this Zen state in&nbsp;me, it’s&nbsp;an animal-level appreciation of the basic comfort of shelter. It&nbsp;is the warm electric light juxtaposed against the dark and stormy sky outside the window. It’s&nbsp;the snugness of a good roof in a downpour. It’s&nbsp;a warm oven and a cup of cocoa during an ice&nbsp;storm, or&nbsp;a simmering pot of homemade soup on a&nbsp;raw, windy&nbsp;day.</p>
<p>Whenever a spell of bad weather is forecast, I do my best to be prepared for some quality indoor time. I&nbsp;pick up a few groceries for some comfort cooking. I&nbsp;make sure I&nbsp;have some movies on hand and a new book to&nbsp;explore. I&nbsp;prepare for nesting. The&nbsp;rougher the weather, the&nbsp;sweeter the&nbsp;shelter.</p>
<p>There ought to be a word for that, but I can’t find&nbsp;it.</p>
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