The UNCOMMON Women's Blog Spot!

2012-09-16T19:10:00.000-04:00

Feeling Inadequate SUCKS...

I meet so many people that are gifted, talented and smart beyond their awareness. Most of them don’t even see their gifts! I believe they are not aware of them for many reasons, but here are just a few of my thoughts...
1. Growing up as a kid they never heard, "Good job!", "You're so good at that!", "Wow, who taught you how to do that?". It's more common for us to hear all the things that we've done wrong and not enough of the things we do that are right.
2. Maybe when they were kids they were picked on for being different, so they chose to be like everyone else to avoid the negative comments.
3. As adults, I just don't believe we spend enough time by our self getting to know who we really are to our core. We are all busy taking care of the kids, spouses, working and making sure we have food on the table.

While taking care of the kids, our spouses and making sure there is food on the table and roofs over our heads is very important, it’s also very important to get to know the YOU you’re with everyday. I’ve never flown in an airplane but I’ve heard that one of the safety rules is that, in case of an emergency, you have to put the air mask on YOUrself before you can help others. That goes for life as well. If we are taking care of everyone else and not taking care of ourselves first, it’s no wonder we feel inadequate.

I remember many years ago, about fifteen years ago, I felt like I had no purpose here on earth. I emailed one of my best friends at the time and was almost crying to him about how I was feeling. He sent me an email back that I have NEVER forgotten. It read,
“Angel, there is a purpose for you on this earth, there is a purpose for all of us on this earth. It’s up to us to find it though…” Then he listed all my siblings, he said, “ There’s
1. Gary
2. Norman
3. April
4. Angel, out of all of your siblings you got the most prestige name of them all…you’ll find your purpose, ANGEL!”

I will never forget that email from him, never!

I actually looked the word angel up in the dictionary, and I got so excited and I have never looked back, never! Now, don’t get me wrong, there are still times when I can feel inadequate, but I bounce back a lot sooner than I used to.

I know the feeling of inadequacy. After failing the ninth grade three times, getting pregnant at the age of eighteen, being on welfare and living in public assistance housing for years did not add to my confidence! I know the feeling of wanting to move forward with my dreams but not feeling like I know enough. Thinking to myself, maybe I need to read another book, or go to another workshop, or think about this a little bit longer…

What I want you to know is that YOU have enough information in you right now to help other people. Stop waiting until you feel smart enough to get that .com for your business or setting up your blog and blogging about the things that you are passionate about. You are enough right now! You know enough right now! People want to hear your take on the issue right now! You don’t need to read another book or take another class. As a matter of fact, don’t wait until you feel adequate enough to take control of your life and start making the moves you truly desire. Know deep down inside that the feelings of inadequacy are straight from the pits of hell! The mere fact that you have the idea, the passion, and the dream is a clear indication that it’s your time to make a move!

This is what I want you to know and DO…

1. Write down the things you are good at.

2. After knowing what you’re good at…be yourself, people will LOVE and ADMIRE you for it!

3. Think HAPPY THOUGHTS about YOURself! Stop looking in the mirror saying mean and ugly things about YOURself!

4. Believe in YOUrself!

5. Know that you are MORE than enough!

6. Still feeling inadequate? Remember: it’s a feeling not a fact!

7. And most important, always remember…

2012-09-02T22:30:00.001-04:00

Uncommon Woman Habit #1: Eye Contact

This is us walking down the street, just chatting away, updating our social media statuses, not paying attention to the people, places and things surrounding us. Today, I see so many of us doing this, looking down at our phones just to avoid saying hi, or acknowledging the person passing you. This is such an epidemic. We see it everywhere. I want to challenge you NOT to talk on your phone while in the checkout line at the store and walking in the mall. Don’t look at your phone to avoid people, say hi to them. You will become so UNCOMMON that people will want to help you and bless you. Can you imagine being the cashier while trying to check someone’s items out and they’re busy talking on the phone? That would be kind of challenging, especially if you’re committed to giving customers the exceptional service they deserve. Next time, excuse yourself, step to the side then make or receive your phone call.

What are you willing to do that will create a habit of making eye contact, saying hello and giving a smile? Can you commit to leaving your phone in your purse while in the grocery store, at the dentist, in the mall or walking down the street?

Uncommon Woman Habit #2: Meditation

If you just realized you have a pantry full of cereal but NO milk. But you want a bowl of cereal so bad. Would you get up and go to the store and get your milk? Probably. Can you get from your house to the store without stopping at any red lights or stop signs? Nope. So don’t run your life like that. If you desire to be an UNCOMMOM woman, you must meditate daily to hear what your spirit is guiding you to do, or not do. Meditation is much like stopping at the red lights and stop signs. With all the gadgets that we have today, cellphones, iPods, television, chain emails (I never open them), conversations with co-workers, kids, husbands, bosses, the lady at the checkout counter—all those voices and noises—we NEED to turn off at some point in the day. Just like you turn your television off, you have to do the same thing with your mind. You do this through meditation. Sitting still. Listening to that still small voice inside your head. That voice that is always whispering sweet nothings in your ear, like, “You can do this.” “I believe in you.” “You were born to do this, so do it.” “Everything will be OK.” The more you shut off the world, the louder and clearer that voice will become in your life. But, it CANNOT happen if you don’t make time each day to BE STILL AND KNOW THAT HE IS GOD! (Psalm 64:10). I prefer to do my meditation in the morning. It’s kind of like getting driving directions to the destination I’m going to before I get into my car. We really want to be guided throughout our day by this still small voice. It’s in stillness that we tap into our authenticity and confidence. We hear straight from the “horses” mouth, God!

How many minutes a day do you plan to meditate?

Don’t be afraid to start off small. Just because your friend and Deepak Chopra meditate hours a day doesn’t mean that has to be your starting point. You don’t want to set yourself up for disappointment, so start small.

Uncommon Woman Habit #3: Gratitude

Do you understand the fact that you woke up this morning is reason enough to be grateful? Being grateful helps you put life into perspective. Gratitude helps you remember that your time here on earth is precious. When you are grateful for your very own life, the trees are greener, the sky is bluer, the flowers are more radiant and your life begins to look like you’re watching a movie in HD. High Definition! If you don’t live in the house you want, be GRATEFEUL for the one you do live in. If you don’t drive the car you want, be GRATEFUL for the car you do have. If you don’t like the job you’re on, be GRATEFUL that you have a job. If you don’t like your thighs, be grateful that you have the power to re-shape. Being grateful for where you are increases your awareness of the possibilities of creating the life you dream of!

For the next 7 days, in the morning before you get out of bed, journal seven things for which you are grateful. In seven days, you will have created a list of 49 things for which you are grateful! That’s exciting! You can print that list out onto a beautiful piece of paper, frame it and place it on your desk. Seeing your GRATITUDE list everyday will help keep your life in perspective. Please send me a picture of your framed GRATITUDE list on your desk and receive a FREE gift! A copy of my book, It’s Not a Secret to Success: 5 Principles to Finding Your Purpose and Creating Success - in e-Book format.

Send photos to AngelRichardson@LifeCoachesRock.com

Uncommon Woman Habit #4: FAITH

We have more faith in us than we realize. What is faith anyway? Webster describes faith like this, “trust or confidence in a person or thing; a strong conviction, especially a belief in a religion; any system of religious belief; fidelity to one’s promises, sincerity.”

So many of us think we need to have a lot of faith to go for our dreams. No, no, no! All we need is a little faith. Do you believe, even a little bit, that you can create the life you’ve been dreaming about? Then that’s where you start, small. What do you believe you can do, right now? What do you have the faith for right now? Is it sending that email? Making that phone call? Setting up that meeting? Sending a Tweet to connect with someone you admire? What small thing can you do right now, with the belief you are working with in this season of your life? Everything BIG starts SMALL. Everything.

You may have a strong belief that you can’t write a book, start a business, find peace within yourself, get your sexy back. Whatever it is for you, wherever you have small faith, in any area of your life, write on a Post-it note an affirmation that declares where you want to be. When you continuously think about a thing, in a positive or a negative way, you’re going to experience it that way. So start thinking about the things you want to experience in your life instead of the things you don’t want to experience. You get what you think about the MOST. I’m not saying it’s possible to clear your mind and never have to deal with a negative thought ever again. No way. But what I am saying is that if MOST of your thoughts are negative you’re going to create a lot of negative things in your life. Your negative thinking will create a fog around your belief system and have you thinking you cannot have whatever it is your little heart desires.

Example: If your feelings and thoughts are things like, “I wish I had more time to do the things I love.” Your Post-it might say, “I have more than enough time in my life to do the things I am most passionate about.”

What this does is increases your faith and moves your belief system in the right direction. This will help you see that you have the power to create anything you want in your life.

It can be so easy to look at other people and say, “WOW, if I had more faith in myself I would do more with my life.” Here’s the thing, you have too much faith in the belief that if you had more faith you would do more with your life. Why not try this, act on what faith you DO have. Start where you are. And your FAITH and belief in yourself will grow. Faith can go in any direction we want it to go. We can use it to work for us or against us.

What area of your life will you choose to use your faith?

Uncommon Woman Habit #5: CLARITY

Does this sound like the conversation in your head? It is for all of us. This is why meditation and being still are so necessary, so we can be guided from the inside out. Do you often think to yourself, “If I knew what to do I would do it.” We all want to know we’re making the right decisions. But nothing gives us more clarity than taking action.

Here are three tips to help you gain more clarity:

Tip #1. Always follow peace from within. Think about your options and choose according to the peace that comes over your body. You know those “goose bumps,” yeah, I call them “God bumps,” God’s way of allowing us to FEEL His presence. Do you feel it right now? I did!

Tip #2. Make sure your actions are in alignment with where you see yourself. If you see yourself paying all your bills on time, but you’re at the mall shopping with your light bill money, you’re going in the wrong direction. No worries, you can turn it around RIGHT NOW and head in the right direction!

Tip #3. Or if you’re a rebel, write your options down on little pieces of paper, put them in a hat, shake it up and PICK ONE!

Uncommon Woman Habit #6: EXPECTANCY

Get excited about your life coming together! Do you remember when you were a kid and it was Christmastime and you were EXPECTING that gift that you asked for? Maybe it was Barbie—it was for me—and you knew it was on its way. So you happily waited for your present. You were EXPECTING it to be under the tree! Well, the same is true for your dreams. You have to EXPECT them to be on their way. When you are expecting something, you look out for it. So if you are expecting good things to come into your life, you’re going to be looking for the good things. Bring back your childlike faith and start expecting great people and things to come into your life!

Go ahead, take five minutes to dream about your wonderful life! Create EXPECTANCY in your heart because great things are coming!

What great thing(s) are you expecting to come into your life?

Uncommon Woman Habit #7: ACTION

Take ACTION! Even if it’s “imperfect” action. Imperfect action beats no action any day of the week! Oftentimes we sit around and wait for the “perfect” opportunity and conditions to take action. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but there are no PERFECT conditions. You have to CREATE them! Understand this, the moment you take action is the perfect time, the prefect opportunity and the perfect conditions. When you take action in the direction of your dreams, it’s like the universe aligns with you and starts to drop the right people, places, things and ideas right in you lap. Every little action that you take creates a snowball effect. You’ll get the clarity and courage to take another step, then another one, and another! What I’m about to say might sound extreme, but this is an exercise that I use to push me into action: I LITERALLY think about being on my deathbed, going over my entire life in my head. I imagine all the things I would regret not doing, and I get busy in some shape or form doing them!

What five actions might you take in the direction of your dreams?

Turn your accidents into a fashion statement!

2012-08-19T13:45:00.001-04:00

As I was walking to my car, I look down and realized the strap to my shoe broke. I turned that broken strap into a fashion statement! A pair of unique earrings...right in MY CAR! I had EVERYTHING I needed to create the perfect pair of earrings!

Do you see the missing strap? lol

This bag was made out of an empty CEREAL BOX! Don't throw that Frosted Flakes box away!

There she is!!!

2012-07-30T10:29:00.000-04:00

It's Your Passion Now Make It Your Business The world is waiting for you... I want to share with you 5 simple steps to turn your passion into profit. My passion is to help women turn their passion into a business. I've never been a big fan of working at a job if there is a business inside of you. Not everyone is called to be a business owner, but if you are...the time is NOW to get started. There has never been a better time to start a business than NOW! With just the touch of a button your product or service can go clear across the world in a matter of seconds. This hit me like a ton of brings when I was at the post office last week shipping out some products to California! I've never even been to California but because of the web...my products are there! My 16 year old daughter Kiara, has been passionate about taking pictures for some time now. So, my husband and I invested in a really nice camera and equiptment for her and she started her own photography business and already has clients! Here is her logo

We are so happy for her! Her website will be up soon. www.KiarasPhotography. com What are YOU passionate about? Don't you think it's time to make money and a difference at the same time? 5 Simple Steps to Profit From Your Passion 1. Identify what you're good at. 2. Find out what kind of license you'll need in your state to start your business. 3. Write down who will benefit from your product or service. 4. Secure your .com (your website address) 5. Do what Frank Sinatra said, "start spreading the news" let people know what you're doing. I would LOVE to hear what you're doing about your business! Here are some photo's my new photographer (Kiara) captured over the weekend.

2012-07-20T11:24:00.001-04:00

Got Confidence...Now What? Welcome to the new subscribers! I'm glad and honored you are here! Last week I taught a confidence class. Confidence is one of my favorite topics to learn and teach because I know what it's like to want to do something so bad but not feel confident enough to actually TAKE ACTION! What if you now have the confidence, but you still have not taken any action? Now what? Check on your energy. More often than not we will do or not do something depending on how we feel. What I have learned over the years is that success comes when you take action especially when you don't feel like it. But, I want to get you in the mood! I want you to get your energy levels high so you can finally live the life you often day dream about. Here are five ways to feel good NOW, and raise your energy, so you can TAKE ACTION! 1. Meditate. Meditate on the things you want to experience in your life. Get clear about what you want to experience and see it in full color in your mind! Smell it. Taste it. Experience it. Sit with it for a couple of minutes each day. This should immediately put a smile on your face. When you meditate on the things you want in your life it gives you energy and the momentum you need to make it happen. Meditation should be a daily practice. 2. Journal. Journal often. Writing out your goals and dreams helps to solidify them. Meditating and thinking about our dreams is very powerful but when you take that next step to write them down, now you're talking Gods language! 3. Exercise and Eat Well. Having a healthy diet and moving your body at least 30 minutes a day, or 3-4 times a week, will shoot your energy through the roof! You will feel like moving mountains at that point. For one week exchange all your soda's and juices to water. Take a walk after dinner. Don't look for the closest parking spot at shopping malls. Take the stairs instead of the elevators. All these little actions make a HUGE difference in your life. I have released 15lbs in four short months from doing this along with eating better! Just this past Monday, I had the privilege of getting a grocery store tour to learn more about eating organic foods.

4. Keep a Clean, Organized and Beautiful Home. If you have taken any of my classes you know how I feel about being organized. Being in an unorganized space can literally drain all the energy out of you. You can't even think clearly. Take it one room at a time. One dresser drawer at a time. One kitchen cabinet at a time. I think we avoid getting organized because we look at it in its totality, forgetting that you can take baby steps. Get your favorite color paint and PAINT SOME WALLS! Switch it up a bit! This will really get your energy flowing. 5. Sex. Having a lot of sex can make your energy go up. Good sex. Healthy sex. Equally benefiting sex. Married sex. Did you know that having sex and reaching climax is the highest vibration/energy you can feel? Having sex can make you feel more creative, more confident and quite frankly, it just makes you feel GOOD! Feeling good is equal to having great energy, and you're going to need a lot of energy to take control of your life and do the things you have set out to do. So, have lots of good married sex! If you were not able to take my CONFIDENCE class- it is available for a short time to buy one set of classes (3 classes and a journal) and get a second set of classes FREE for a friend! You can get them here by clicking the photo below.

2012-06-08T00:20:00.001-04:00

5 Mistakes UNCOMMON Women Make #2

1. Not knowing your financial status

2. Not getting cute before you leave the house

3.Thinking your talents and natural gifts mean nothing

4. Calling each other the B word

5. Talk like a lady

2012-06-04T15:10:00.001-04:00

5 Mistakes Every UNCOMMON Woman Makes

No clarity
Don't believe in who they are
Friendship circle
No acting skills
Do not invest in their mind

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2012-05-17T11:11:00.004-04:00

I LOVE what I get to do for a living! God is GOOD!

"Good Girls S.U.C.K"

2012-05-08T23:24:00.001-04:00

I had the awesome privilege of working with a group of tween girls this weekend! I did a workshop with them called "Good Girls S.U.C.K"

*Succeed at everything they do!

*Uncommon- because they choose to listen and be respectful!

*Cute- every girl wants to know how to really be cute!

and

*Kind- when you're kind to others, other people want to be kind to you!

We talked about how being a "good girl" has gotten a bad reputation.

It seems like listening to your parents, being respectful to your teachers, and being a good friend is not the COOL thing to do...but we made if FUN again! And we're committed to bringing "good girls" that S.U.C.K back!

My two teem members helped me make the journals...my daughters, Kristian and Kiara!

Kiara sharing her story of being in middle school!

2012-04-04T23:37:00.002-04:00

4 WAYS TO GET AND STAY ORGANIZED

1. Make The Decision.

Decide clutter is a way of living you are choosing not live anymore. Clutter makes you feel unfocused and unproductive. It literally sucks the energy out of you. You're probably always running late to work and to your other appointments because you're looking for what you need in all the chaos. Sound like you? Well, this is how I lived for years. I had to overcome the clutter in my home because it was getting in the way of my dreams. I had a vision for my life but I always felt tired and uninspired when it came to taking action, due to the clutter I lived in. Being disorganized leads to procrastination on our dreams. Make 2012 the year you DECIDE to live clutter free and really get your house together!

2. Take one room at a time.
DE-cluttering can be very intimidating because we look at the project in its totality. When you look at it in smaller steps, one room at a time it becomes less intimidating. You have to get excited that you are getting started and not how long it's going to take. Take it one room at a time and don't worry about the rest of the house right now or you will get overwhelmed and give up. Start in your bedroom. Your bedroom is the most sacred place in your home. That's where all your sleeping and dreaming takes place. When you wake up in the morning you want to feel refreshed, clear, energized and clutter free!

3. Make four piles.
Pile 1 Trash- clothes and items that are broken or worn out .
Pile 2 Keep- clothes and items you are going to use.
Pile 3 Give Away- clothes and items that are gently used.
Pile 4 Cash Pile- things you want to sell.$$$

4. Repeat steps 1-3 in every area of your beautiful home.

Angel is truly heaven sent. After speaking with Angel I felt very confident in the path I am taking. She is very encouraging and inspiring! The energy that she gives you is enough to make you feel like Superwoman! The Declutter CD is so awesome, I listened, smiled and took notes. Not only did I do all of that, I actually took action and I plan to do everything she spoke on. I have accomplished some goals all because of Angel. I look forward to working with her and sending other people to her that would love some life coaching. She is truly a Life Coach that Rocks!

Learn more about organizing your space in this audio class.

http://www.lifecoachesrock.com/day-8-get-your-house-together.html

2012-03-10T23:27:00.004-05:00

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2012-03-10T23:20:00.004-05:00

If you're not writing your visions, you're not getting the most out of life. That simple...

2012-03-10T23:17:00.003-05:00

Why I changed my bedroom in two days!!

What my eyelash glue taught me!

2012-02-29T23:48:00.001-05:00