Life on the Swingset - The Non-Monogamy Podcast

SS74: Tristan Taormino Talks Kink, Anal Sex, Fisting, Pegging & Her New Project

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Fri, 18 May 2012 17:00:49 +0000

Tristan Taormino returns to the Swingset to give Cooper some advice on NRE, discuss her new book The Ultimate Guide to Kink, and talk about her new project, a weekly live call-in radio show called Sex Out Loud on VoiceAmerica.com starting June 1st. Tristan Taormino: @tristantaormino PuckerUp.com Tristan Taormino’s Radio Show: SexOutLoudRadio.com @sexoutloudradio Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa from November 3-10, 2012!

SS73: Sex Positive Education Surrounding Swinging, Polyamory, & Other Non-Monogamy

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Mon, 07 May 2012 20:34:40 +0000

In this episode, Cooper asks for business and Dylan spills about a poly mismatch… and a breach of protocol. We discuss community around polyamory, forming communities around swinging, and moving into Pepper’s experience at various educational workshops and into what’s planned for OpenSF. Pepper Mint: @freaksexual, freaksexual.com Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa from November 3-10, 2012!

SS72: Hard Kink – Needles, Breath Play, Spanking, & More

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Mon, 30 Apr 2012 18:00:21 +0000

Pepper Mint rejoins the Swingset for discussion on hard kink. We open with a discussion about mommy porn and Fifty Shades of Grey and move into discussion about the BDSM and kink communities, plow through into contracts, talk about our actual kinks. Dylan asks about punching, Shira emotes about being punched in the butt, and Cooper cringes when needle play is mentioned, and we end by talking about how wonderful the human body is and how people process histories of abuse and sometimes use kinks to help. Pepper Mint: @freaksexual, freaksexual.com Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa from November 3-10, [...]

SS71: Words Matter – Vanilla VS Swinging, Polyamory, and Open

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Mon, 23 Apr 2012 16:09:01 +0000

We are joined by The Professor and Boris & Doris of the Boris & Doris Podcast to follow-up on a discussion prompted by Gay Rick from Sex Is Fun on his Facebook page. We discuss the uniqueness of the term “Vanilla” as it relates to open relationships, sex positivity, BDSM crowds, and whether it is, in general a positive or negative. Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa from November 3-10, 2012!

SS 70: Ginger & The Professor In Paradise at Desire Resort & Spa

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Mon, 16 Apr 2012 16:43:49 +0000

Shira talks about sapiosexual foreplay. Cooper discusses building an untraditional family and continues his baby phobia. Ginger and the Professor have just returned from the Swingercast Desire Resort & Spa trip and tell us about their time in paradise. (Ginger spends the VAST majority of this episode giggling.) The Professor paints a beautiful word portrait of a nude Shira B. Katz striding along the beach with glistening wet labia. And Cooper insists that geese are bastards. Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa from November 3-10, 2012!

SS 69: Oral Sex, Cunnilingus, Rim Jobs, Oh Yes

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Mon, 02 Apr 2012 19:16:33 +0000

Oral Sex. Cunnilingus. Rim Jobs. Today we discuss anything and everything oral on this episode of Life on the Swingset, The Podcast! We start with the basics, what we prefer, what we enjoy, and delve into different types of oral play. After a rousing instructional segment on how to suck Dylan’s cock, Shira B. Katz gives us both information and directions on better oral play with barriers. We also got a bit distracted thanks to Shira B. Katz. Here’s what was distracting us so much: Andy Warhol Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa from November 3-10, 2012! [...]

SS 68: Ch-Ch-Changes – Swinging, Polyamory, & Non-Monogamy Explorations

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Mon, 26 Mar 2012 17:20:19 +0000

In this show, we talk about one of our favorite subjects… ourselves! We’ve been steadily evolving and felt like keeping all of you up-to-date on where are we going, why we’re moving in that direction, all while throwing in a bit of misdirection with Metroid and Mega Man to keep you guessing. We address two listener questions / comments and all in all have a good time sharing our lives with each other. Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa from November 3-10, 2012!

SS 67: Newly Non-Monogamous – Do We Like New Swingers & Polyamorists?

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Mon, 19 Mar 2012 17:49:29 +0000

After a detour involving Prof Stephen Hawking’s time spent at a sex club, we discuss new swingers, polyamorists, and non-monogamists. Cooper and Dylan both profess their affection with newbies, while Shira and Ginger confess they make them nervous. After the break we talk about our own experiences being newbies, and get sidetracked again by a discussion of Classic Chicago Commercials. Cooper closes the show by reviewing Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide To Pegging. Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa from November 3-10, 2012! Classic Chicago Commercial Links: Eagle Man Celozzi Ettleson Chevrolet

SS 66: Chemistry – Connections, Pheromones, & Animal Attraction in Non-Monogamy

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Mon, 05 Mar 2012 20:02:48 +0000

Dylan launches a custom sexy talk service. We discuss the ethics and reasoning behind wanting or not wanting to date someone you’re mentoring. Cooper and Dylan both want to fuck all their friends. We discuss what chemistry means to us all, the surprise of a chemistry blind side, and the difficulty of getting four-way chemistry in swinging dating. Cooper reviews the Nexus Revo. Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa from November 3-10, 2012! Rock climbing sex

SS 65: Friends & Lovers – Do We Want To Be Friends With These People We Fuck?

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Mon, 27 Feb 2012 16:43:14 +0000

JV Altharas and Shara from Ending The Sexual Dark Age join us to discuss the dichotomy of being friends with your swinging playmates, and how we feel that enhances the value of the sex, but also how that can drift into other ares. We get sidetracked by the idea of writing directions on thighs, Cooper updates his Poly experiment, Dylan rants about politics.

SS 64: Kink-O-Rama – Pegging, Voyeurism, Sapiosexuals, & Comfort

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Sat, 18 Feb 2012 20:23:51 +0000

We cold open with Cooper having a butt plug (hand crafted by Boris at BnDpodcast.com) inserted by Marilyn, then lead into a discussion of our kinks kicked off by a listener voicemail request. We round robin it for a while, discovering some of our surface kinks, resistance play, certain clothes, BDSM and pegging tops the list. Dylan spends much of the show insisting he doesn't have any kinks before realizing time and again that he does. We also talk about being squicked out by some people's kinks, and the difference between kink and fetish.

SS 63: Swinging For Dummies IV – Relationships, Websites, & Sexy Vacations

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Tue, 07 Feb 2012 02:28:18 +0000

We wrap up our "Swinging For Dummies" primer for the swinging lifestyle with the future. We discuss the types of relationships you might want to have with your swinging playmates, how to discuss that with them, how to determine what you're trying to get out of swinging, what websites you might use, and then shamelessly we implore you to join us in Desire this November.

SS 62: Swinging For Dummies III – Rules & Group Sex

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Mon, 30 Jan 2012 19:42:26 +0000

We squick Dylan out with talk of dragon sex. Dylan vindicates himself with a listener voicemail about post vasectomy emptiness, then discusses his gigantic balls. Once we establish that Shira is the Dummy of the title, we begin by discussing the difference between soft swap and full swap, same and separate rooms, and group sex. We discuss developing community, not rushing, and rules, how being drunk is a turn-off. You're dating as a team.

SS 61: Swinky – A Very BDSM Show Length Business

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Mon, 23 Jan 2012 20:49:38 +0000

The Swingset crew gets quickly sidetracked by business that rapidly consumes the show. Dylan wants to be a Dom, Shira is enjoying being submissive. Cooper assigns the listeners the quest for a high quality strap on dildo that can squirt. We talk about being a switch, Cooper reveals his submissive tendencies, and we realize that we've talked far too long to continue the Swinging For Dummies show before next week.

SS 60: Swinging For Dummies II – Talking To Your Partner About Non-Monogamy

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Mon, 16 Jan 2012 18:57:02 +0000

We continue our "Swinging For Dummies" discussion by moving into how to talk to your partner about your interest in non-monogamy. We weigh the idea of non-monogamy being a "deal-breaker" for your relationship and the future. Also on topic is potential for jealousy, the importance of LOTS of communication, and the excellent resources Sex at Dawn and Opening Up. When all is said and done, it's important to remember that you're going to be okay TOGETHER.

SS 59: Swinging For Dummies I – Realizing You’re Non-Monogamous

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Mon, 09 Jan 2012 22:13:01 +0000

We go back to basics in the first of our Swinging For Dummies episodes. But first, returning friend The Professor tells us about Ginger's panty-less New Years Eve celebration. We talk about the moment when we realized we were non-monogamous and how we dealt with that paradigm shift, how it impacted our perception of ourselves, and where we take that. We talk about cheating and deception while trying to be monogamous. We discuss the impact of monogamy on bisexuality, the complexity of polyamory, and how to begin.

SS 58: Bareback or Condoms: A Bad Swinger Sex Party

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Sun, 01 Jan 2012 06:01:39 +0000

After a spirited reading of the suggested uses for the Hitachi Magic Wand, Cooper claims to be the Steward of Gondor, and Dylan and Cooper describe their swing party that went bad.

SS 57: 12 Vibrating Yule Logs – Sex Toys, & The Smitten Kitten

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Sun, 18 Dec 2011 22:44:53 +0000

Cooper & Marilyn talk about their reconnecting hiatus, and their usage of Great Sex Games' Unpredictable. The gang discusses some of their favorite sex toys including the nJoy Eleven, the Hitachi Magic Wand, and more with Clare from The Smitten Kitten, who also tells us all about running a sex positive toy shop, shopping for toys, the evolution of the industry and more. Merry Happy everybody as we close down the second season of Life on the Swingset: The Podcast!

PP 10: Postulant Polyamory – A Roadmap for the Newbs Part 1

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Fri, 16 Dec 2011 01:05:15 +0000

Gavin is taking a stand in this episode of POSTULANT Polyamory. It's time to welcome the newbs.. apparently. First, Shira talks about dating a swinger and Gavin talks about going to a kinky BDSM rope party and learning about Japanese rope bondage and other fun knotty origami ropey things. Then shit gets basic: What is polyamory? Who is polyamorous and who isn't? How do you prepare yourself for entering the world of polyamory? Where do you find a community of poly peeps to get you started? How much does communication help in a relationship? How do you set boundaries? How do you convince your partner to go on this trip with you? What are the pros and cons of polyamory? Should you have veto power? What about tokens? Find out by listening to this episode of POSTULANT polyamory.

SS 56: A Voicemail Gang-Bang – Anal Sex Play, Penis Size, & Pregnant Swingers

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 06:29:57 +0000

After Cooper talks about kissing a boy for the first time, the crew answers voicemails about dealing with penis size concerns while swinging, anal sex play for bi males, reactions to pregnant swingers in a party situation, and our biggest surprises in our time as non-monogamous folk.

SS 55: The Non-Monogamy Umbrella II – Swingers, Open Relationships, & Polyamory, 2gether 4 Eva

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Mon, 05 Dec 2011 06:01:20 +0000

We continue our discussion with poly activist and organizer Pepper Mint, but first Cooper and Dylan blow a "fight" over the word queer out of proportion. We discuss eroticizing jealousy, Ginger gets hot over the idea of "straddling the line," Pepper discusses polyamory and gay men. Cooper becomes militant about coming out and rails against the forces of "old and evil." And of course, we all get silly many times.

SS 54: The Non-Monogamy Umbrella I – Can’t Swingers And Polyamorists Get Along?

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Mon, 28 Nov 2011 06:01:18 +0000

Pepper Mint, polyamory blogger, activist, & organizer joins us for a dialog on why the swinging and polyamory camps still have trouble getting along. We rant about a swing club that has been shut down by the authorities. Cooper doesn't want to "put baby in the corner" but finds it easy to shuffle Shira off to the poly side, but even she is shocked by the discussion of poly sex parties. Dylan is horrified to find that sometimes people want to move in after a month; and Ginger confesses her origin story involving Pepper.

PP 7: Meeting Watson – A study in Virgins and Labels

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Wed, 23 Nov 2011 17:33:18 +0000

Hey, look! Shira found a virgin to interview, but before that starts listen as Shira and Gavin discuss some hate mail they received. Find out where the Katz' stand on the issue of dating people with STI's and figure out what is causing the SEX DROUGHT. (One hint, parents: co-sleeping!) Then off to virgin land. How does one handle themselves before they have the labels of straight, gay, monogamous, or polyamorous? What can we do to facilitate our virginal friend?

B2: Swinging with Jade & Kidder Kaper

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Sat, 19 Nov 2011 17:38:09 +0000

Jade and Kidder Kaper join Cooper & Marilyn on the Swingset to talk about seeing each other with someone else for the first time, moments of jealousy, their swinger bucket list, pegging, and Kidder's seasonal masturbatory patterns.

SS 53: Naked In Paradise II – The Swingset Takes Desire Resort & Spa

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Mon, 14 Nov 2011 06:01:16 +0000

We continue our chat with Jim & Char of CharTravel about lifestyle vacations, focusing more on Desire as a whole as Shira asks a number of nitty gritty questions about passports, cost, and the nudity policy. Cooper rants about the foolishness of booking flights with Travelocity. Ginger gets lost in her own little world of Desire fantasies. We discuss food, alcohol, excursions and other things to do at Desire Resort & Spa.

SS 52: Naked In Paradise I – Sexy Vacations and Desire Resort & Spa

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Sat, 05 Nov 2011 18:52:21 +0000

Have your vacations lately seemed a bit too dull or full of minors? Well tonight we're talking about vacationing the sexy way and taking a lifestyle trip. We discuss the ins and outs of going on a lifestyle or nude vacation at any level of the sexually open lifestyle, about etiquitte, and how to protect yourself and your relationship. We also thoroughly discuss Desire Resort & Spa and our upcoming trip to this fabulous spot in Cancun, Mexico in November 2012.

SS 50mk2: Our Evolution II – Anal Sex & Male Bisexuality, Getting Flogged & Opening Up

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Sat, 29 Oct 2011 05:01:36 +0000

We continue our 50th episode reflection of what we're still learning in the lifestyle when Cooper talks about his first one on one mandate and how he feels it pushed him back to a solid 2 on the Kinsey Scale, and Shira discusses an experience of being flogged, beaten, and spanked and how she's in an exploratory mood lately.

SS 50mk1: Our Evolution – Polyamorous Leanings, Coming Out Sexy

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Sun, 23 Oct 2011 05:01:24 +0000

The Swingset crew celebrates their 50th episode with reflections of how we can still learn new things in the lifestyle. We wish Shira a happy Swingset Anniversary. Ginger sends Prof to a sexy party SOLO! Dylan and Tonia explore polyamory and talk to their son about non-monogamy. Ginger yerns to come out as non-monogamous, so we discuss the levels of being out and the normalization of non-monogamy.

Ep 49: Unite The Clans! Coming Together on Swinging Sites & Sex Clubs

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Sun, 16 Oct 2011 05:01:54 +0000

After Shira horrifies us all by talking about a potential boy-toy's penile subincision, we manage to pull it together and discuss the changing landscape that is online swinger sites and sex clubs along with our special guest Emily from Kasidie.com. We talk a bit about the history of the website, and Emily's role there, but use it as a springboard to discuss the larger themes of how the word is spreading about non-monogamy, and how welcoming and accepting out communities can be.

B1: Swinging With Boris & Doris of BnDPodcast.com

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Sat, 15 Oct 2011 21:04:21 +0000

Cooper & Marilyn sit down with Boris & Doris, hosts of the Boris & Doris Podcast and discuss returning to non-monogamy, getting into bondage and BDSM, airtight, jealousy and compersion, the best and worst times, stainless steel sex toys, bisexuality, gspot orgasms, gushing, and more!

Ep 48: We’re Porn Again – Our Fetishes & Home-Made Porn

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Sun, 02 Oct 2011 05:01:38 +0000

Dylan asks Shira how polyamorists feel about one night stands. We all talk about the kind of porn that gets us going, then each of us admits to what our guilty pleasure porn is; Cooper feels very bad about his and insists everybody is judging him. After the break we discuss homemade porn, what we've all made, and why swingers take pictures and video.

Ep 47: Naked People Doing Dirty Things – Porn All Around Us

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Sun, 25 Sep 2011 05:01:37 +0000

We wonder if pubic hair is making a resurgence, find out that Shira has no tolerance for young people, discuss how we first encountered and discovered porn. We learn that Ginger didn't believe people actually had sex in porn. Shira talks about her past with jealousy over porn. The boys refuse to let Shira go into body negativity mode. Then we all talk about what we've learned from porn.

Ep 46: Burning Man ’11 Pt 2 – Fear & Loathing on the Playa

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Sun, 18 Sep 2011 05:01:21 +0000

Uh oh! You heard the last podcast and were left wanting for juicy details? The second part of our Burning Man shows reveals exactly what happened between Dylan and the Majestic Woman he met at Burning Man 2011. You will also find out if there was love in the air for Shira B. Katz. Emotions run high in this heartfelt episode recorded just one week after Shira and Dylan return home from the Playa.

Ep 45: Burning Man ’11 Pt 1 – Shira & Dylan’s Excellent Adventure

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Thu, 15 Sep 2011 03:00:34 +0000

Cooper & Marilyn take a vacation to visit sexy friends from the Great White North. Dylan & Shira B. Katz haven’t been about to shut up about Burning Man and now you finally get to hear why. Listen as the crew discusses what Burning Man has to do with non-monogamy, who they camped with, and what a non-monogamous person can expect on the Playa. Ahoy! Burning Man; land of The Human Car(cass) Wash, The Snack Food Glory Hole, and a place where even the monogamous have an opportunity to open up a little.

Special – Dylan Crosses The Rubicon from Swinging to Polyamory at Burning Man 2011

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Thu, 08 Sep 2011 22:53:35 +0000

Dylan here - I visited Burning Man this year, and while I fully expected to have a mind-blowing experience, I found myself wrapped up in the loving arms of another woman, and unable to completely handle some of the consequences of that. I had my first little polyamorous experience, a "playawife" for a few days, but I needed to get some of what was on my mind out. So, this recording is me, on-site, at 8am the day after I decided that what I was doing wasn't going to last. Take a listen, and tell me what you think.

Ep 44: Fucking Technology – Sexting, Cybersex & Phone Sex

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Mon, 22 Aug 2011 05:01:08 +0000

We are living in the golden age of sexual communication. There are so many ways to have sexy conversations and interactions online, it's really rather amazing. We talk about our likes and dislikes, our enthusiasms and wants, and how we all get off online.

Ep 43: Flirting as Swingers, Polyamorists, & Non-Monogamists

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Tue, 09 Aug 2011 05:56:42 +0000

Flirting! It's like a gateway drug, and that gateway sometimes leads to all manner of sexual exploits. Tonight we discuss the importance and value of flirting and how it has helped shape the panel's sexual lives, as well as how Ginger & Shira flirted their way onto the show. And speaking of that, this is Ginger's anniversary episode, as she's been swinging on the Swingset with us for a full year now. All this, Cooper has sexy house guests, Dylan almost picks up a woman at a buffet line at a bowling alley, dead flies, bottles of wine, and more on Life on the Swingset: The Podcast.

Ep 42: Kody Brown & the Polygamy Lawsuit – Legislating the Bedroom

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Tue, 26 Jul 2011 16:04:11 +0000

Dylan hosts this episode where we discuss Kody Brown's lawsuit, the fight for polygamy, and "Sister Wives." Shira has learned the power of selfish sex. Cooper rants against religion and oppression, but what else is new?

Ep 41: Breaking Up Is Really Hard To Do For Swingers Too

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Mon, 11 Jul 2011 18:42:19 +0000

Cooper tells the crew about the breakup he and Marilyn went through with a unicorn friend of theirs, their struggle with it, and how they've applied their feelings about polyamory and non-monogamy to the situation. The crew uses this as a jumping off point to discuss breakups in general in non-monogamy and how they differ from monogamous breakups. Then Dylan finally discusses his bisexual leanings.

Ep 40: Slut Shaming and Anthony Weiner’s Penis on Twitter

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Mon, 27 Jun 2011 19:25:44 +0000

The crew discusses the fact that girls need to ask permission to touch too, Shira is rejected for the very first time, Dylan talks about massages at strip clubs, and we get deep into the Anthony Weiner sex scandal, discussing whether this is an example of our society's extreme slut shaming, if it's possible he has an open marriage, and how we feel about this type of scandal in general.

Podcast Special – Ending The Sexual Dark Age Question About Bisexuality

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Wed, 22 Jun 2011 04:52:06 +0000

In this short podcast special, the Swingset crew answer a question sent by a listener of the Ending The Sexual Dark Age podcast about how to transition yourself to being a bisexual male in the lifestyle when you'd previously identified as straight.

Ep 39: Debauchery at a Swing Club – Couple’s Playhouse Swingers Club Near Chicago

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Sun, 19 Jun 2011 05:01:35 +0000

Dylan and Cooper return to Couple's Playhouse, a swing club in the suburbs of Chicago for part two of their discussion and description of their first trip to a swingers club. Shira and Ginger add their own thoughts about swing clubs and other kink friendly clubs. Cooper talks about how odd it is to wander around nude with an erection, and Dylan continues his epic flirt.

Ep 38: Our Swingers Club Adventure – Living it up at Chicago Swing Club Couple’s Playhouse

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Sat, 04 Jun 2011 08:40:36 +0000

After Shira discusses the wonderful world of sex and feeling better that came from having her IUD removed, Ginger talks about the benefits of hers, and Dylan discusses exploring his wife's...for science. Ginger regales us with Prof's solo date with a friend, Cooper and Marilyn take separate dates, and we discuss a wonderful trip to Couple's Playhouse, a swing club in the suburbs of Chicago, and our experiences within in part one of our two part discussion.

Ep 37: Gang Bang The Mailbag – Listener Questions on Swinging, Poly & Open

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Mon, 23 May 2011 06:39:08 +0000

In our first "Listener Mailbag" episode we answer several questions from voicemail and email, tackling such diverse topics as the hotness of swingers, sexual experience and prowess, how to swing when you have kids, going to swing clubs, male bisexuality, the HIV positive military man swinger, and more.

Ep 36: Everybody Loves Orgasms – Swingers, Poly, and Open Cumming Together

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Mon, 09 May 2011 05:01:39 +0000

While Dylan fills his ass with first a vibrator, then a butt plug, we giggle our way through a discussion of our favorite thing in the whole world, orgasms. We discuss the differences in the many "spot" orgasms (G-Spot, P-Spot C-Spot U-Spot) and what orgasms feel like for us.

Ep 35: Safer Sex, The Infections Formerly Known as STDs & Swinging – How Swingers & Polyamorists Handle Safer Sex

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Mon, 25 Apr 2011 05:01:30 +0000

One of the most concerning topics for anyone looking to get into the swinging or other non-monogamous lifestyles is the risk of contracting a sexually transmitted infection, so we invite Gay Rick from Sex Is Fun, a HIV educator, on to discuss the concept of acceptable risk, how we all need to make the decision for ourselves if our lifestyle is worth the risks inherent in it, and ways to minimize our exposure risks.

Ep 34: Breaking it Down – BDSM In The Swinging Lifestyle

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Mon, 11 Apr 2011 04:01:44 +0000

Miss Ami, a full time Domme, returns to The Swingset to discuss how BDSM fits into the swinging and non-monogamous lifestyles, how these worlds collide, and being out as a kinky person. And Dylan's curiosity seems to be moving to full blown obsession.

Ep 33: Spank My Ass! BDSM, Swinging and You

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Mon, 28 Mar 2011 05:45:31 +0000

The Swingset crew invites Miss Ami, a full time Domme to join the discussion about what BDSM stands for, what it means to be Domme/sub, how her lifestyle impacts her life, and why swingers seem to have such difficulty feeling comfortable with those four letters. (Dylan also discovers he might be more interested in exploring this than he thought...)

Ep 32: Cooper & Marilyn’s Excellent Adventure – Swinging at Desire Resort & Spa

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Mon, 14 Mar 2011 05:01:41 +0000

Cooper and Marilyn just got back from Desire, but in between the nonstop playtime and suntanning and hottubbing and drinking and dining, they found time to record a full trip diary detailing their time spent at Desire Resort & Spa in Cancun. (Well, they found time to record two out of the three trip reports, the third was recorded, sadly, in cold Chicago.) So here it is, in its entirety, Cooper and Marilyn's Excellent Adventure!

Ep 31: Sex on the Swingset is Fun – Live From Desire, The Sexiest Place on Earth with Kidder Kaper & Lorax

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Mon, 28 Feb 2011 05:59:38 +0000

In Ep 31, the greatest crossover since The Flintstones met The Jetsons happens as Cooper and Marilyn podcast with Kidder Kaper and Lorax from Sex Is Fun live from an outside bed at Desire in sunny Cancun. They discuss what it's like to be in a world populated by sex positive people, what may be the first publicly accepted bi male blowjob at the resort, the sometimes high tension and heightened drama that can result from such, the sexy times that have been had, first full swaps, newbies, and more!

Ep 30: Love Thyself – Masturbation and Non-Monogamy

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Fri, 18 Feb 2011 05:15:53 +0000

In Ep 30, we discuss masturbation, which Woody Allen called "sex with someone I love," and talk about why, in swinging and non-monogamy, we have all the opportunity in the world for sex and we still continue to jack off and jill off (is that a thing?) We discuss discovering masturbation, techniques, toys, and why we love ourselves.

Ep 29: Porn, Bisexuals, Anal Sex, Opening Up, and Tristan Taormino

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Fri, 04 Feb 2011 06:01:28 +0000

In Ep 29, the Swingset tries very hard not to simply gush over their biggest crush, Tristan Taormino, as she joins us for a discussion of the time writing porn, her thoughts on bisexuality in the lifestyle and in film, her book Opening Up, and putting things in hers and other people's asses.

Ep 28: Sexual Erotic Nutrition and Sex At Dawn – An Interview With Christopher Ryan (Part 2)

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Fri, 21 Jan 2011 06:01:09 +0000

In Ep 28, the Swingset's interview with Christopher Ryan, author of the bestselling book Sex At Dawn which challenges the idea that monogamy is natural and ingrained in human beings, continues. We discuss whether or not there's hope for America's dawning sexuality, tours, future books, swinger parties and more.

Ep 27: Bonobo Porn and Sex at Dawn – An Interview With Christopher Ryan (Part 1)

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Thu, 13 Jan 2011 20:55:37 +0000

On Ep 27, the Swingset interviews Christopher Ryan, author of the bestselling book Sex At Dawn which challenges the idea that monogamy is natural and ingrained in human beings. We discuss bonobos, a species that sexually is far more similar to us than chimpanzees, and the very porn-like videos of this species enjoying themselves. We postulate that the matriarchal societies described in Sex At Dawn are very reflective of the swinging and polyamorous lifestyles.

Ep 26: Auld Lang Syne – An Orgy, A Game, An Epiphany, & A Ritual

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Fri, 31 Dec 2010 02:10:28 +0000

Episode 26 is a time of reflection for us as The Swingset celebrates the end of its first year of existence. We discuss what we've learned along the way, talk about the orgy Cooper and Marilyn threw for Ginger and the Professor where the crew beta tested a new game from Great Sex Games, Dylan discusses his swinger epiphanies, Shira shares a New Years Eve ritual, and we enjoy each other's company thoroughly. Join us for the last show of 2010!

Ep 25: Where Do They Get Those Wonderful Sex Toys? – Part 2

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Thu, 16 Dec 2010 18:01:49 +0000

The Swingset crew discuss their favorite sex toys of the year and the most unusual sex toys they've ever used in our Holiday Buying Guide podcast.

Ep 24: Where Do They Get Those Wonderful Sex Toys – Part 1

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Fri, 10 Dec 2010 06:01:05 +0000

The Swingset crew discuss their first sex toys and experiences and talk about their favorite sex toys of the year in our Holiday Buying Guide podcast.

Ep 23: Coming Out With Kendra Holliday

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Wed, 24 Nov 2010 06:00:11 +0000

In Life on the Swingset, The Podcast: Ep 23, we spend a long evening with our friend Kendra Holliday, who on National Coming Out day, revealed her identity to the world on her website The Beautiful Kind. Over the course of an hour and a half, we talk with Kendra about the time since she came out to the world, the difficulties she's had with her community and her ex husband, and how it feels to be a source of sex positive information in a difficult world. We then move beyond to our own feelings about coming out as swingers, polyamorous, non-monogamous, or even simply sex positive.

Ep 22: Bisexuality and You – Part 2

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Fri, 19 Nov 2010 06:01:19 +0000

In Ep 22, we wrap up our big discussion about male and female bisexuality, crossing our way into pansexuality and omnisexuality and everything in between. We discuss the journey of the bisexual male, the evolution of acceptance (and hotness) of the bisexual female, the stereotypes and biases against both and the growing need for non-monogamy to be its own subclass. On this show: Cooper, Ginger, Dylan, Shira B.Katz, & Kidder Kaper

Ep 21: Bisexuality and You – Part 1

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Fri, 12 Nov 2010 22:45:38 +0000

In Life on the Swingset, The Podcast, Ep 21, we begin the big discussion about male and female bisexuality, crossing our way into pansexuality and omnisexuality and everything in between. We discuss the journey of the bisexual male, the evolution of acceptance (and hotness) of the bisexual female, the stereotypes and biases against both and the growing need for non-monogamy to be its own subclass.

Ep 20: The Sexual Costumes and Masks We Wear

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Sat, 30 Oct 2010 05:01:56 +0000

In Ep 20, we talk about how, even in open relationships, even as sex positive people, we often hide our true interests, feelings, ideas from playmates and our partner. We discuss why this might be as well as talk about moving beyond it. We also talk about fetishes and role playing. On this show: Cooper, Ginger, Dylan, Shira B.Katz, & Kidder Kaper Show notes: Check out our review of cum-like Liquid Silk lube!

Ep 19: Anal Sex & Double Penetration for the Non-Monogamous

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Sat, 16 Oct 2010 05:01:32 +0000

In Ep 19, we talk about anal sex and its place in non-monogamy, how it’s often tokenized for significant other play only, the wonders and joys of double penetration, pegging, and male bisexuality. On this show: Cooper, Ginger, Dylan, Shira B.Katz, & Kendra Holliday (Formerly TBK) Show notes: Buy the Nexus Maximus, our favorite dual dildo! Pick up a copy of Tristan Taormino’s wonderful Ultimate Guide To Anal Sex For Women (2nd Edition) Check out Kendra Holliday’s website The Beautiful Kind

Ep 18: Blurring the Lines Between Polyamory and Swinging – Non Monogamy Cums Together

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Mon, 04 Oct 2010 16:30:39 +0000

In Ep 18, we invite two new friends onto the swingset for our discussion of the blurred line between polyamory and swinging. In this discussion we attempt to define the two terms and then break down our own definitions, we expand further with how we relate to friends and lovers. On this show: Cooper, Ginger, Dylan, Shira B.Katz, & TBK Show notes: TBK’s articles about the sexy bar threesome and her jealous freakout. The best book on swinging, polyamory and open relationships: Opening Up: Tristan Taormino Check out TBK’s website The Beautiful Kind

Ep 17: Guys Have Penises, Girls Have Vaginas IV: The Final Chapter

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Fri, 24 Sep 2010 04:47:37 +0000

In Ep 17, we bring it around with an all guys show for the final installment of our four part Lost Weekendesque bender, separating the girls and the guys and running them through a gauntlet of questions about swinging. For this episode, the guys, led by Cooper, answer questions put to them by the girls. Up for discussion in this episode: Flirting, sexy clothes, imperfections, lifestyle advice, partner’s enjoyment, pursuit & capture, anal play and more. On this show The Guys: Cooper, Dylan, Professor, Rob, & Barefeatz Check out Barefeatz podcast Lifestyle Life

Ep 16: Guys Have Penises, Girls Have Vaginas III

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Sat, 18 Sep 2010 16:08:09 +0000

In Ep 16, we switch things up with an all girls show for the back half of our four part Lost Weekendesque bender, separating the girls and the guys and running them through a gauntlet of questions about swinging. For this episode, the girls, led by Ginger, answer questions put to them by the guys. Up for discussion in this episode: “Why doesn’t size matter?” “What do you notice first about men? About women?” “How should we approach you at swing events without being creepy guys?” “How is it different seducing a woman as opposed to a man?” “Guys love watching bi [...]

Ep 15: Guys Have Penises, Girls Have Vaginas II

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Sat, 11 Sep 2010 16:19:43 +0000

In Ep 15, we continue our four part Lost Weekendesque bender, separating the girls and the guys and running them through a gauntlet of questions about swinging. In the first two parts, the girls and guys answer the same questions and we jump back and forth between them. Up for discussion in this episode: “What are your favorite/least favorite lifestyle moments?” “Can you talk about a time you were jealous?” “What’s a no-play deal breaker?” “What’s the hottest thing you’ve seen your partner do with someone else?” On this show The Girls: Ginger, Sasha, Marilyn, Kylie, & Tonia The Guys: Cooper, [...]

Ep 14: Guys Have Penises, Girls Have Vaginas I

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Sat, 04 Sep 2010 21:50:48 +0000

In Ep 14, we begin our four part Lost Weekendesque bender, separating the girls and the guys and running them through a gauntlet of questions about swinging. In the first two parts, the girls and guys answer the same questions and we jump back and forth between them. Up for discussion in this episode: “When did you first know you were non-monogamous?” “Do you think you could go back to monogamy?” “What’s on your to-do list?” “Full swap/Soft swap? Same room/different rooms?” On this show The Girls: Ginger, Sasha, Marilyn, Kylie, & Tonia The Guys: Cooper, Dylan, Professor, Rob, & [...]

Ep 13: Threesomes, Foursomes, & Moresomes – Number Dynamics

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Mon, 23 Aug 2010 02:38:24 +0000

In Ep 13, we discuss number dynamics in swing environments, from threesomes, to foursomes, to orgies. Sasha extols the virtues of odd numbers and the big pile, and Dylan discusses the house he wants to buy in a swinger friendly neighborhood, his greed knows no bounds, wanting a 10 seater hot tub. On this show: Cooper, Sasha, Dylan, Ginger, & Kylie

Ep 12: Under Pressure – Erectile Dysfunction and Performance Pressure For Swingers

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Sun, 15 Aug 2010 15:54:58 +0000

In Ep 12 we talk about pressure, and how pressuring encounters can be as swingers. The first half of our show focuses primarily on male pressure to perform and erectile dysfunction, in the back half we talk about pressure to move beyond your comfort zone, pressure to not use protection and many other things, and we’re VERY happy that Sasha has returned to us! On this show: Cooper, Sasha, Dylan, & Ginger

Ep 11: Bediquette – In Bed With Swingers

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Sun, 01 Aug 2010 23:20:26 +0000

In Ep 11, we discuss the ins and outs of bediquette when it comes to bringing other sexy folk into your bedroom for playtime. We also introduce the newest member of the Swingset family, Ginger!

Ep 10: It’s Naked Time with a Live Nude Cast

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Mon, 19 Jul 2010 04:15:25 +0000

In Episode 10 of Life on the Swingset the cast is naked! Not that it matters, because you can't see them. But just think of their sexy naked bodies....This episode is about being naked and all that goes with it, the nervousness and fun, the excitement and panic, the boys say that any size boobs are great, and Sasha bucks the trend and says size does matter with penises.

Ep 9: Ins and Outs of Swinger Parties

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Sun, 04 Jul 2010 20:03:48 +0000

In Episode 9 of Life on the Swingset, we discuss attending a swinger party, Kylie admits her nervousness about them and asks questions, and Sasha proves herself to be a swing party guru and gives her hostessing tips. There’s strapon play, stadium seating and more in this episode. On this show: Cooper, Sasha, Dylan, & Kylie

Ep 8: Looking For Fun & Friends on Swinger Websites

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Mon, 21 Jun 2010 05:01:11 +0000

In Episode 8 of Life on the Swingset, we discuss three major swinger dating websites, Adult Friend Finder, Swing Lifestyle, and our personal favorite, and Lifestyle Lounge. We discuss how to decide which site is right for you (despite being biased), how to build a profile, start your search, add pictures and have a great time with online swinger dating. Cooper also talks about using amazon.com to buy condoms.

Ep 7: Swinging Couples, Taking One For The Team, & Erectile Dysfunction

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Mon, 07 Jun 2010 05:01:52 +0000

In Episode 7, we discuss the difficulties inherent in finding a four way connection between two couples, how taking one for the team and playing with someone you’re not interested in can do more harm than good, and going on solo dates. Cooper also discusses a magical pill he took at his birthday party. On this show: Cooper, Sasha, Dylan, & Kylie

Ep 6: Those Are The Rules – Defining Your Rules as Swingers

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Mon, 24 May 2010 05:01:34 +0000

In Episode 6, the team discusses the importance of having rules in the swinging lifestyle, what’s allowed and what isn’t, what needs to be discussed beforehand and what doesn’t. We also talk about what to do when rules are broken, and how to decide you need new rules or have outgrown the old. On this show: Cooper, Sasha, Dylan, & Kylie

Ep 5: Soft Swap VS Full Swap

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Mon, 10 May 2010 05:33:05 +0000

In Episode 5, we talk about the two major terms in the swinging community, soft swap (play but no intercourse with the opposite partner) or full (everybody gets laid) and discuss the complexities in defining each, and the pros and cons. Sasha also talks about her new website: pleasure-parties.com On this show: Cooper, Sasha, Dylan, & Kylie

Ep 4: Compersion VS Jealousy – Swingers Deal With Jealousy

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Thu, 29 Apr 2010 14:19:09 +0000

In Episode 4, we discuss compersion, the term that finds you experiencing pleasure because your partner is experiencing pleasure, versus jealousy, a term we all know. The Swingset gang discusses how to overcome jealousy in many situations, all striving for that nirvana called compersion.

Ep 3: Sad State of Affairs – Swinging in America

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 07:47:49 +0000

In episode 3 we discuss the sad state of affairs American conciousness is at regarding sexuality, from the RNC's new lesbian-bondage-strippergate, to sex ed, to the pros and cons of staying in the closet as swingers, to sex toys, and the fact that everybody's really just jealous.

Ep 2: Birds of a Feather – Finding Other Swingers

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 17:08:14 +0000

In our second episode, we continue our logistics of getting into the lifestyle with a look at finding friends and admitting to them and yourself that you want to...well...have sex with them. We discuss first dates, where to go and most importantly how to be safe when opening yourself up.

Ep 1: Dipping a Toe In – How To Start Swinging

cooper@lifeontheswingset.com (Life On The Swingset) — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 09:54:13 +0000

In our first podcast we discuss the very beginnings of what to do when you think you may want to have an open relationship. We talk in detail about dealing with that idea yourself and deciding if opening up is right for you. We also deal with the first stages of discussing this with your partner, dealing with the inherent issues, and finding your way to that next step. On this show: Cooper, Tyler, Dylan, & Kylie