Life's a BEACH - lot's of sand, fish, water and little else... But the view's great!

Life's Road Map - An Elixir of Wealth

2011-08-31T21:17:00.000+01:00

I have found the elixir of wealth...
*Pauses to savour the ensuring silence that prevails.*

Everyone seems to have ideas and everyone thinks they may just luck it out but the truth is that it was never a secret to begin with - it was there all along hiding in plain sight.

I remember an adage that goes (and this is me paraphrasing of course so I don't expect you to get your knickers in a twist if It doesn't come out the right way...) the best way to hide something is to conceal it in plain sight - that's the first place where NO one will think to look.

Alas that's the same principle that has been at work with man - we always think that the more complex an issue/idea is the surer the answers and that form of thinking is what causes many brains and brain cells to heat up and boil away into mist.

Wealth, power and fortune are all principles.
They can be learnt and applied judiciously and the best way to do this is to look at people who are successful and emulate them - THAT'S IT!

There is no need re-inventing the wheel; even though that form of learning has its own advantages but in the long run - there is the loss of precious time (another scare resource that is gradually corroded away).

Stand on the shoulders of giants as often as you can and gain the perspective needed to see the bigger picture.
Solve the problem of the rat race - that mindless run that convinces you that your effort is the key to success.

While you're on it here's another adage thrown in for free: Work Smarter; Not Harder!
Why you ask?
Because results are rewarded NOT effort.

Don't spend time wishing - spend time dreaming.
After fixing your focus on those dreams - WORK to actualize them - use as reference people who have done something similar - by all means borrow ideas and concepts as often as you can - evolve them to suit you plan but keep evolving with what already exists - proceed from the known to the unknown - one step at a time with an eye on the future where the reference of the past provides a sure foundation.

I hope that you go to bed today with a head full of dreams and wake up with eyes lit up with determination, focus and drive! Let your Future Start now.

Contemplations - ME, MINE

2011-07-24T19:36:00.000+01:00

This is my birth month and perhaps I didn't get all my wishes granted but it has bought me some time to contemplate on what i want for myself...

I could possibly list all the positives that read like a Christmas list:
Wealth
Fame
Fortune (money by another name - notice the repetition)
A good Husband/wife (sub qualities included - beauty, charm, humour, creativity, passion etc)
Connections (social, emotional and economic - notice the subtle reference again...)

In the end - it is really all about the good life and what I want for myself - who doesn't?

These are the broad requirements and if you really look at the list above - it probably reads like every other human's list on the face of the earth (with a few variations here and there of course)

The point is that we most of the time want the same things - however the specifics and the REAL requirements are rarely filled out...

So even though we think (operative word is think) we know what we want - we rarely have a clue of what WILL really make us happy or fulfilled...

To find the true purpose or meaning behind our lives - rendering service, giving hope, providing support, helping without the expectation of reward...

I've always been in the quest of finding a bigger meaning behind my life and what I can give back - what can I do that will outlive my life on earth as a legacy (not wealth and not momentary fame but a true long lasting legacy...)

I'll leave this idea to stew for awhile

ALL is NOT as it seems

2011-06-13T14:14:00.001+01:00

You guys all know me (at least to a fair degree).

I'm not one to waste time doing posts that don't add some value in thoughts or actions.

However I will draw the line at the means that some writers adopt of trying to "blackmail" people to send content to others. There is the gift of free will and anyone is entitled to use his/hers in anyway - i will not be made to feel guilty - I would instead prefer to be made to think and judge then exercise my own free will to act as my thoughts dictate.

I will thus share this message because it made me think and to consider that sometimes THINGS are not as they seem or WHAT they initially seem. There is more to this story.

This story was circulated and of course it means that I DID not write it nor do I make a claim to knowing who wrote it (if I knew the author i would share that fact with you)

I've said too much already - here it is - read and judge for your self what the morals are and if there is perhaps something you can learn beyond the seemingly simple story...

2 BEAUTIFUL STORIES TO SHARE

STORY 1

There was once this guy who was very much in love with his girl.

This romantic guy folded 1,000 pieces of paper cranes as a gift to his girl.

Although, at that time he was just a small fry in his company, his

future didn't seem too bright, they were very happy together.

Until one day, his girl told him she was going to Paris and will never come back. She also told him that she cannot visualize any future for the both of them, so they went their own ways there and then...

Heartbroken, the guy agreed. But when he regained his confidence, he worked hard day and night, slogging his body and mind just to make something out of himself.

Finally with all the hard work and the help of friends, this guy had

set up his own company ..

Lesson no. 1 You never fail until you stop trying.

One rainy day, while this guy

was driving, he saw an elderly couple sharing an umbrella in the rain walking to some destination. Even with the umbrella, they were still drenched. It didn't take him long to realize they were his girl's

parents.

With a desire to get back at them, he drove slowly beside the

couple, wanting them to spot him in his luxury sedan. He wanted them to know that he wasn't the same any more; he had his own company, car, condo, etc. He had made it! What he saw next confused him, the couple was walking towards a cemetery, and so he got out of his car and followed...and he saw his girl, a photograph of her smiling sweetly as ever at him from her tombstone and he saw his paper cranes right beside her...

Her parents saw him. He asked them what had happened. They

explained, she did not leave for France at all. She had been ill with

cancer. She had believed that he will make it someday, but she did not want to be his obstacle or a liability to him... therefore she had chosen to leave him.

Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to,

doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have. She had wanted her parents to put his paper cranes beside her, because, if the day comes when fate brings him to her again...he can take some of those back with him...

Once you have loved, you will always love. For what's in your mind may escape but what's in your heart will remain forever.

The guy just wept...The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting

right beside her knowing you can't have her, see her or be with her

ever again.........

Find time to realize that there is one person who means so much to

you, appreciate them for who they are because the opportunity may never present itself again.

STORY 2

KINDNESS Pays !

One day, a poor boy who was selling goods from door to door to pay his way through school, found he had only one thin dime left, and he was hungry.

He decided he would ask for a meal at the next house. However, he lost his nerve when a lovely young woman opened the door. Instead of a meal he asked for a drink of water. She thought he looked hungry so brought him a large glass of milk. He drank it slowly, and then asked, "How much do I owe you?"

"You don't owe me anything," she replied

"Mother has taught us never to accept payment for a kindness." She said.... "Then I thank you from my heart."

As Howard Kelly left that house, he not only felt stronger

physically, but his faith in God and man was strong also. He had been ready to give up and quit.

Years later that young woman became critically ill. The local doctors were baffled. They finally sent her to the big city, where they called in specialists to study her rare disease. Dr. Howard Kelly (gynecology) was called in for the consultation. When he heard the name of the town she came from, a strange light filled his eyes.

Immediately he rose and went down the hall of the hospital to her room.

Dressed in his doctor's gown he went in to see her. He recognized her at once. He went back to the consultation room determined to do his best to save her life.

From that day he gave special attention to the case.

After a long struggle, the battle was won. Dr. Kelly requested the

business office to pass the final bill to him for approval. He looked

at it, then wrote something on the edge and the bill was sent to her

room.

She feared to open it, for she was sure it would take the rest of her

life to pay for it all. Finally, she looked, and something caught ;

her attention on the side as She read these words.....

"Paid in full with one glass of milk." (Signed) Dr. Howard Atmond Kelly.

Tears of joy flooded her eyes as her happy heart prayed: "Thank You, GOD, that Your love has spread abroad through human hearts and hands."

Please note the comment below - this is the reason i disagree - people should make their choices of WHAT to do next. - These words below are not mine.

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At the edge of the ropes

2011-01-29T21:14:00.002+01:00

I seem to be very thoughtful these days - I'm reviewing my life alot and i must be candid - It doesn't feel so good to me with the garbage that I'm discovering. I guess some spring cleaning is needed - i need to take stock of myself, my life and my choices.

The year's still early but I figure it's never too early to start - 2011 has so many hidden surprises.
Great potential on all fronts.

I just concluded my appraisal for the last half of 2010 and it didn't look good - I guess the subjective judgement of the man who welds the big stick determines the final score and in this case this is not an adequate representation of me - this is someone trying to stick a label on me.

He says and I quote: this is not you - you can do better than this...

I've done a few "better things" and nothing came of it thus far -I've learnt my lesson (never expect praise for some good work - do it because you're interested and love what you do)

On the relationship front - there have been some major changes - I'm at the crossroads and i sense change in the near future.

This is me stating the obvious - I will be coming out of my corner with all intents to fight and I will not be taking any prisoners.

Good nite folks

2011 - The First day...

2011-01-01T11:49:00.000+01:00

Its a new year - 2011. It feels like a script for a new movie.
I left my office yesterday and got home at about nine pm. The celebrations for the new year were gradually picking up some steam. Fireworks were going off in different directions. Meanwhile the threat of danger still ever present - as the Nigerian elections draw close, we start to notice how the bombs have become the new tool of choice - what in GOD's good name have we become....

back to the topic under discussion:
I was feeling a little down and decided that there was to be no mid-night service for me. I just wanted to be with myself and catch up on some ME time. I grabbed my bible after peeling off my clothes and kept it for standby duty... I wanted to do some introspection and define me for 2011.

I found a couple of interesting passages - a bit of genesis which spoke about the creation of man and woman.
Then i kinda drifted to proverbs where i read something that stuck: something about the bold man getting the rewards of his acts.

That was the moment: 2011 required BOLDNESS from me.
I would expand my horizon and GOD help this year - it had more to fear from me than I had to FEAR from it. This will be my coming out. This is where i make my stand.

Welcome 2011 - prepare to be subjugated and tamed.

I walk hand in hand with my GOD to face the unseen.

God bless you all

O! Christmas

2010-12-24T18:46:00.000+01:00

Christmas and all it entails.
I'm in the office and most of the work force has dissolved into the ethers of the holiday mood. they have mostly left for home and I'm trying to catch up on my writing and provide skeletal support for any issues that may arise.

Tomorrow will be spent indoors after attending a church service and I hope to make myself as happy as i can afford to be. Perhaps a few glasses of red wine and the television.

To those of you out there I say: a merry Christmas and a happy new year.
God Bless you all!

Living my dream

2010-05-09T13:02:00.000+01:00

I didn't wake up in a suite in Eko Le' Meridian - I didn't have a view of the ocean front nor see the rise of the sun in brilliant colors to denote the beginning of a new day. Instead, I woke up in a small room somewhere. I was buffeted by my own pool of sweat and the murky odors of a body drenched in its own effervescence.

Was i living my dream?
By a far cry no! But I had started in the right direction with so much ambition and hope. Four years down the line it is pretty easy to say that I have probably lost the thread of discussion.

It wasn't that i had or have given up - it was simply the feeling that time was peeling away from me and i could do little to catch up. Everywhere I look, I am exposed to success stories that show me that others are indeed living their dreams or in the mist of achieving it.

Don't get me wrong - we all see the other sides of the coin everywhere we go. But most don't focus on that side of the coin to begin with. We all want the flashing bulbs and the fame and success that comes with doing living the dream. Do we see the measure of preparation or the toils and suffering that are often hidden from view - these are probably the training fields that most go through during their rites of preparation.

There are so many ideas and dreams that have been nurtured with a full view towards success. Even when one is aware of the requirements and one makes every effort to pay the dues - something utterly unplanned has to materialize and spoil it.

It is not for a lack of trying and yet I have squandered many dreams on the pathway towards my independence. I detest my working environment and my working conditions. I hate the seemingly unplanned and un-coordinated approaches.

I hate the fact that my decisions depend on others and that often times - we are simply following rules that are no longer valid in today's working environment.

I hate that my ideas are squandered and left to die and that I can seem to do nothing to change the outcome.
Where are my failings? What can I do to amend them. Where and how can i improve my situation that I no longer feel like a failure?

I no longer wish to live by the rules of the un-informed.
I wish to live my dreams here and now.

The Heart is a fragile thing

2010-04-15T18:41:00.002+01:00

Wise words or just plain common sense - I would wager that it is plain common sense based on the hard hands of experience. Experience is a teacher that tends to leave a mark during your educational intern-ship.
If you learn your lesson well, you can avoid all such pit falls in the near future that she may have pointed out but if you set yourself up as a slouch, she can be very unforgiving and a punisher of the wrong choices.

We're always victims of ourselves and our emotions - sometimes you are the aggressor and other times, you're the victim. regardless of your role - we all have our turn in the playground.

Don't think that you can guard your heart and don't think that it is a foolish thing to love - where would we be without it? what would we be without it. It is the single purpose that GOD has kept in store for us - to discover the bounties of HIS love given freely and only requiring that we accept willingly. To equally learn to give this gift freely and openly is our sole purpose on earth.

Do i hear a scoff in the background (yeah, Right!)?
Well, I know I can't force the idea on you and it would be meaningless for me to try - I have much better things to do with my time - I will however advice that your skepticism be reviewed.

We live to love - it is a primary function and purpose of our lives and it doesn't matter what we love - it just matters that we loved and that it changed US as well as the object of our vast affections. It provides drive, purpose and a meaning to our existence.

Like everything else in our lives, we have attempted to master this elusive emotion - imposing upon it some sort and measure of control. It was not meant to be controlled or measured. It was meant to be experienced and felt. It is not always pure when we do give in to its lull but at least we can say we felt that sense of freedom imposed and the fright and glee and joy and pain that it granted to us.

I am here in hindsight looking at my choices - at what I cannot have but want.
At what I have chosen to give in to it knowing fully well that it is a one way street - no matter what I said or the brave face I tried to put up - I wasn't ready for what its has done to me and how it ravishes my thoughts. But i wouldn't trade places in the world.

I made my decision and now I face the consequences and yes it hurts like hell - this too shall pass.
As a motivational speaker (Paul McGee) - apply the SUMO principle: Shut Up, Move On.

My heart is heavy with this perceived loss and it suddenly is like going back to what I have always felt previously: Lonely.
I will probably keep a memory of this moment and probably laugh at my reactions at a alter date yet unspecified but i wouldn't trade places and I wouldn't undo anything that had happened. I can scoff at my small and petty antics now and yet I cannot disregard the gift to have felt this way for this person.
There's this invisible load that weighs heavily upon me and now the weight leaves me feeling bereft, like I've lost the one thing I value the most.

Without this feeling of loss - I will not appreciate the gift I have received or the blessings that have come my way - without it, I will not be a better man - a better person.

I cannot trade places and would not change any choices I have freely made. I have opened up hedge and now it is broken - I will feel the pain of every invasion like salt on a raw wound.

Oh how i cherish this pain...
When i was still carrying weights, I looked forward to the pain and aches - they where an indication that I was shaping my body and it was protesting but it would obey - it had no choice - the pain was an indication of change taking place underneath and i used to revel in this pain. It was an indication of success.

I have been hit but by GOD, how i love this pain and raw feelings that coarse through me - what better indication that I'm alive?

What better lessons can I ask for?

I want my friend

2010-03-12T17:41:00.003+01:00

I've been left on the road for dead - my travel partner has suddenly decided that travelling with me could be more dangerous than initially anticipated. Perhaps there is a smattering of truth to this thought process.

I've had the typical withdrawal symptoms - the craving for company and other other means of communication that just vanished just like that - one moment we're tight as skin the next: it just stopped.

I think I might know the reason but I doubt it very much. I might just know some of it - some very small insignificant portion of the reason.

Looking back now - I guess I should come to expect that such things happen and often serve a purpose.

Personally - I've always wanted to break away from the mold of rules and regulations and to become perhaps a maverick of sorts.

I thought I had found someone to accompany me on this journey of self discovery - i think I must have pushed too hard and caused doubts to surface - exposed this party to danger.

I'm at that point where I'm left guessing at the "what-If's" - if i didn't do this would that happen?

I shouldn't have done... I should have done this instead...

Regardless of the consequences - I want my friend.

Time curreny & investment

2010-01-19T17:53:00.002+01:00

its a new decade...

we're here. Now and irrevocably in the present.

the past is done with - we are all advised to learn the lessons taught, extract the nuggets of wisdom from our mistakes and move on. There is no reclaimed moment. There is only here and now.

This very moment.

I got a very enlightening email with regards to the greatest investment for most human beings everyday: 86,400. unbelievably this amount was a constant for us all, except we were already dead.

We are allowed to spend it any way we say fit and invest it in endeavours that would reap multiple gains now or in the immediate future. For as long as we live, this investment in nearly constant except you expire before (note the use of the word) before the day ends.

This investment is the time available to us in one day!

That is available to any human who is alive and who will NOT perish before the end of that day.

the investment amount is time and it equates to: 24 * 60 * 60

We are allowed to spend it anyway we can but we cannot retrieve any of this once spend and once the day ends any under-utilized or used portion is taken away.

there are no do overs with this investment vehicle.

the bottom line is to make the best of this in all and anyway that we can.

No day must be spent without some form of self improvement to self and others around you. No time must be wasted without learning more about your innate talents and you.

there is no refund and there is no rewind.

make the best use of today as you possibly can.

Last day of the decade

2009-12-31T19:44:00.002+01:00

We have come upon one of those rare times in a human's life time. It is rare because we don't witness the regularly and yet in this seeming ordinariness of our lives we are made to understand the significance of the little and small things that truly make life worth it.

I went to bed yesterday with a heavy heart. Something in me rebelled to impart my pain in such a way as I felt it to the supposed cause... I was tempted to respond via the vast electronic ether of the mobile fone but i decided that my current state of mind would not communicate objectively...

I have since come to learn a few lessons:

You control the ability to be happy or unhappy by what you allow to affect you.
Nobody influences you unless you allow them to do so
Don't put your fate or feelings into the hands of another unless you believe they have earned that right.
Never forget the power of an apology.
To fear is to limit yourself to that which assumes power over you.

Of course we can all agree that there is the one saying the words and one acting upon them.
With these parting words for 2009 - I wish you all the best with sincerity.

Welcome 2010 with open arms and better expectations for yourself.

Against the ropes - Breathe easy...

2009-11-26T08:45:00.003+01:00

Doing some time away from home.
Not for bad behavior or anything - the tenets of work require that I go and utilize my expertise in a setup and deployment project.

It was fun to get out of NIGERIA for awhile. It was exciting to be a sole traveler (apart from GOD for company) - dispatched to Zambia.

My mother after being told I was going to Zambia kept asking if it was GAMBIA. Of course I said no - "I'm going to ZAMBIA" My colleagues ask if I'm going to NAMIBIA - I equally say: "No, It's ZAMBIA."

Regardless of the inherent confusion - it was fun to get out of the daily grind and dust.

Here we are almost to weeks later and I feel bad that I ill b returning to the cesspit and daily grind.

This trip was my time on the ropes - where I could honestly look at my situation and try to determine the best way to change my circumstances.

Clear thinking moments - about my life. How far I have gone and how much further I have to go towards achieving my dream.

That dream is really simple: Self independence.

I need to seize opportunities - to make a way for myself.

I have been blessed on this trip by meeting friendly people who have shown me so much in so little time - many oppurtunities.

It has been a time spent against the ropes - sizing up the situation and making the relevant changes to strategy. I am forever grateful to GOD for those unspoken moments that seem to characterize this trip.

It is my sincere hope that I will take full advantage of this opportunity and run with the moment - It is my duty to myself, to my beliefs and my aspirations.

I love these moments of self clarity - I crave these moments against the ropes.

Aspire

2009-10-03T08:39:00.001+01:00

A single word title: "ASPIRE"
The verb form would have you "ASPIRING" towards a goal or greater objective.

But before we launch off into our typical tirade and practiced rant - I want you to calmly look at this humble word and try to connect to it.

What does this word mean to you?
How do you see and treat this concept?
What and where do you find yourself moving towards?

I aspire to be more than I am (that is almost a given for most of us except those who might have suicidal impulses). I aspire to be effective in what I do, I aspire for excellence in any field of endeavor that I find myself in...
I aspire for fame and fortune, for happiness and content.

However when the accolades in our heads have died down - where are we along the ladder of our aspirations? Are we really aspiring to move and propel ourselves towards a greater good?

What are those dreams that propel you? Do you even know?
The better question for me would be what my dreams and "Aspirations" (another use of aspire) are worth? Beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder and my eyes have beheld the grand place held for me should my aspirations be achieved.

We are all success stories waiting to be written and even if our "books" read like a testament of hardship (the human animal detests pain and suffering) the lessons learned are worth the investment in pain, sweat and blood...

I regret not believing in myself earlier - I regret the lost time spent wishing about better situations but I will not be held back because I arrived at the party "late".

If it comes to that I'll start a party for myself all alone.

When it looks the most like success seems impossible that's when I should stubbornly refuse to yield and focus - aspire and aim towards those goals that drive me...

Reality is after all the here and now and since I control that by my beliefs and what drives me - I control the direction of my fate and life.

We all aspire for success in our chosen endeavors - we all want the inner acknowledgment that comes from deep within particularly when we have attained all or part of our aspirations.

Success has a lot of bedfellows but before it got there it was often a lonely journey.
The deeper and inner conviction that we can is part of the chain of aspiration - that which binds our dreams and goals to our purpose to attain.

Remember that to aspire is to inch towards that which we truly seek - our dedication and commitment and perseverance is required for true success.

Aspire towards that dream.

This thing called: LIFE!

2009-09-14T19:47:00.002+01:00

When you slowly rise from the deep mists of sleep and slowly become aware of yourself and your environment - your thoughts are slowly pulled through the fine filters of coherence as you become aware of yourself - it is almost like a computer coming online.

In the mist of this boot up sequence you might be unfortunate to load those pesky files we refer to as the baggage of yesterday. You know what I'm referring to of course: those problems or challenges in your life that seem to stick to you like a leech on skin - they are obvious and painful and often unwanted (except of course you fall into that peculiar category that love "leeches")

Often times the greater challenge for us is the WILL to face the day and give it the "rude finger" - this is of course not to say that our problems magically disappear after this so brief moment but rather that we generate the attitude required to stay ahead of our problems and situation.

I love to read quotes of people who have defined their fates and destinies and have a few words to say on the subject - each has demonstrated a personal philosophy that seems to summarize the "ATTITUDE" required to hold life by the short and curlies regardless of how it seems to look to you right now.

By way of introduction, i give to you a few wise words from: Maya Angelou (pronounced /ˈmaɪ.ə ˈændʒəloʊ/;^[1] born Marguerite Ann Johnson on April 4, 1928)^[2] is an American autobiographer and poet. (quote from: Wikipedia)

(Once again these quotes are not mine and i make no claim to them except as a means to buttress my point of view)

Find below a few of her quotes - find in them something that resonates within you and maybe this will set you towards that which we all seek - freedom to be as we are destined to...

We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.
I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.
There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.
There is a very fine line between loving life and being greedy for it.
The ache for home lives in all of us, the safe place where we can go as we are and not be questioned.
Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.
I want all my senses engaged. Let me absorb the world's variety and uniqueness.
If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude.
Courage is fear that has said its prayers.
Talent is like electricity. We don't understand electricity. We use it.
One isn't necessarily born with courage, but one is born with potential. Without courage, we cannot practice any other virtue with consistency. We can't be kind, true, merciful, generous, or honest.
I know why the caged bird sings.
"I've learned people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel".
History, despite its wrenching pain, cannot be unlived, however, if faced with courage, need not be lived again.
When you learn, teach. When you get, give.
The need for change bulldozed a road down the center of my mind.
Life loves to be taken by the lapel and told, 'I'm with you kid. Let's go.'

The crime is not when we stumble and fall for without stumbling/falling where would we be on the ladder of life's experiences - the crime is rather when we stumble/fall and chose to stay down in defeat - take as much time as you need while on the ground but when you get up - PLEASE GET UP!

when you are not "YOU"

2009-08-22T15:59:00.000+01:00

Funny title but one that rings true in alot of our lives.
When do we cease to really be ourselves?

Is it when the expectations made on us by circumstances and situations cause us to live outside our comfort zone - how do we even know "WHO we are"?

How can we tell what we really represent - what we really desire?
When is the you who you are currently not the real you?

Why do we wear so many faces? What are we really here for?
What do we really want in our quest to live life to the fullest?

In this regard I will introduce you to an note sent to me by a colleague (for the fear of legal action: I AM NOT the author of the attached piece and make no such claim) - the words of wisdom spoken in true context - to be taken in the dose required.

Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland , Ohio.
"To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me.
It is the most-requested column I've ever written.

My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:

1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.
8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first pay check.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.
12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks.
16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.
19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: 'In five years, will this matter?'
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive everyone everything.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.
35. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
36. Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood.
38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.
41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
42. The best is yet to come.
43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
44. Yield.
45. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift."

I hope this means something to you - particularly as we live through this journey we call life.

and then there was silence....

2009-07-05T19:13:00.001+01:00

for so long... these pages have stood as a testament to my wandering thoughts.
They mark the ramblings that pursue me or that make an entry into my thoughts like a familiar stranger.

I am occasionally lost as i wonder on what to write about. My past? My present? The future?
All questions that await an answer.
I miss the ability to quickly throw my words down and watch their impact.

The joy of expression is with the attendant reactions but after penning so many words a few thoughts have been formed as some sort of conclusion - temporary at this stage...

people connect mostly to stories that resound with their lives, emotions or memories.
We are shaped by what we read and our thoughts on those words. We are a sum total of our experiences as these provide the blue print that most of our decisions are based on...

what would happen to me and you without words? Would we wilt and die or simply find that one of the many facets that define us has been terminated.

What would the ensuring silence mean? Would i be less of me?

Each word; spoken or written is a nugget of power a means to entrench your ideas in someone's mind.

A means to propagate your visions and ideals - thus silence would be seen as "death"

I have a dream...

2009-04-19T23:29:00.001+01:00

The Slogan for one of the banks is: Think imPOSSIBLE...

maybe that should be my personal motto - in fact I will be adopting this because it is truly the only way to break free of my current self accepted shackle...

I am the only one standing in the way of my own success - I am my own greatest barrier - I am my own limitation...

I no longer allow the great gift of wonder and "thinking without barriers" to guide me through the various stages of my life...

No wonder the current state of affairs in my life - no wonder the reason for doubt...

I can still feel the pulse of my dream - it is still alive and questing for expression and when I have given birth to this dream - I will nurse it to full term and move on to having another dream...

That is the true purpose of my life - that is my defined destiny, that is my fate...

To go where my dreams boldly go

Jay Leno or Jay-Lo (In his words...)

2009-03-05T21:12:00.002+01:00

Hate him or his guts (which i have never considered apart from his mentioning the word Nigeria and Scam in the same sentence)

Still nothing gets the truth home faster than humor - the approach is accurate but puts it in such a light that you would be forgiven for laughing (that is after all the anticipated result!)

I just got this email - an extract of his insights on the credit crunch (yes, the sound underfoot when you step on an unsuspecting mouse which mistimed its movements)

Please note: these are not my words - I never said they were (lawyers beware... I am not game to be sued!)

That said, I present to you: Jay Leno (In his words)

1. The

has made a new weapon that destroys people but keeps the
building standing,. It's called the stock market
-Jay Leno

2. Do you have any idea how cheap stocks are? Wall Street is now being
called Wal-Mart Street
Jay Leno

3. The difference between a pigeon and a London investment banker. The
pigeon can still make a deposit on a Ferrari

4. What's the difference between a guy who lost everything in Las Vegas
and an investment banker? A tie

5. The problem with investment bank balance sheet is that on the left
side nothing's right and on the right side nothing's left.

6. I want to warn people from Nigeria who might be watching our show, if
you get any e mails from Washington asking for money, it's a scam. Don't
fall for it
Jay Leno

7. President Bush's response was to meet some small business owners in San Antonio last
week. The small business owners are General Motors, General Electric and
Century 21.-
Jay Leno

8. What worries me most about the credit crunch, is that if one of my
check is returned stamped 'insufficient funds'. I won't know whether
that refers to mine or the bank's.

A few terms to come to grips with so that when you hear such titles or buzzwords - you can strangle the person before proceeding with the day...

NEW STOCK MARKET TERMS

CEO--Chief Embezzlement Officer.

CFO-- Corporate Fraud Officer.

BULL MARKET-- A random market movement causing an investor to mistake himself for a financial genius.

BEAR MARKET-- A 6 to 18 month period when the kids get no allowance, the
wife gets no jewelry.

VALUE INVESTING-- The art of buying low and selling lower.

P/E RATIO-- The percentage of investors wetting their pants as the
market keeps crashing.

BROKER -- What my broker has made me.

STANDARD & POOR-- Your life in a nutshell.

STOCK ANALYST-- Idiot who just downgraded your stock.

STOCK SPLIT-- When your ex-wife and her lawyer split your assets equally between themselves.

FINANCIAL PLANNER-- A guy whose phone has been disconnected.

MARKET CORRECTION-- The day after you buy stocks.

CASH FLOW-- The movement your money makes as it disappears down the toilet.

YAHOO-- What you yell after selling it to some poor sucker for $240 per share.

WINDOWS-- What you jump out of when you're the sucker who bought Yahoo @ $240 per share.

INSTITUTIONAL INVESTOR-- Past year investor who's now locked up in a nuthouse.

PROFIT-- An archaic word no longer in use.

Friday the 13th - In my own words

2009-03-05T21:12:00.001+01:00

Nothing...

Just the silence and certainty that life is as is...
No sudden terror attacks, no slashers looming around the corner.

Just a typical day with an uncertain end - we're none the wiser to its final outcome.
However, today is NOT Friday the 13th...

I face the obvious challenges that a new day brings. One is often left to wonder what the outcome is and how it will end eventually.

We are all creatures of habit - then there are those habits that mark us up as individuals and yet we're more than the sum total of our habits - we are infinitely more.

Humanity's major problem is memory...
Funny the way that came out but that's the fact or summary - we fail to draw upon the lessons in life except they have consistently wounded us, then and only then do we learn our lessons.

The same set of circumstances occur that cause war or strife or discord and consistently we have failed to draw the morals and parallels from these events.

Instead we match blindly into the same set of situations and finally yield to the same fate but on a much larger scale...

I'm just rambling as usual...

My laws or rules are very simple and I would love to share them:

Define the common denominator - that which affects the most or bring the most gain to the most number of people.
Determine how to aid others achieve their dreams and objectives without sacrificing your morals and ethics.
Play the silent counselor in the background.
Compromise is the name of the game - what matters is the final outcome not the present situation
Align yourself with like minded people and multiply the effects of your actions
Be determined and focused

Just a few rules to lead one down the path of greatness...

I would rather be quietly acknowledged than to be loudly ignored...

In my words...

Fatigue's call

2009-02-23T08:05:00.001+01:00

Bone weary and tired...

How I manage to keep this cycle up is any one's guess - it is damn right unhealthy!
Just because one has to earn his/her daily bread - do you have to die to earn it?

There is no life - you work to eat and work to live...

Work has been a daily struggle but that mantra is sung by many - who depend on it for sustainance but there are the wise few who have managed to find a balance and have decided to enjoy themselves when they can, where they can...

There are no apologies - this is the price we pay for growing up and accepting responsibilities - there is no shortcut... No escape route apart from death.

There are days when I am so tired I could fall asleep on my toes and yet here I am again back to the grind the very next day...

It sucks but that's life...

an adrenaline fueled few moments...

2009-01-27T13:31:00.001+01:00

I got a little excitement today...

The smoke detector and fire alarm on my floor went off and discharged the automated fire extinguisher system - if this sounds logical then it is because my heart rate is now back to normal and my logical faculties are obviously working... I can even laugh at it now but i kid you not - it wasn't funny when it happened and I hope this kind of hing never occurs again.

When this happened - the entire office tried to fit through one door and it might have been funny in hindsight but funny was the least of our worries when it occurred.

In a tense situation - a calm mind tends to produce better results than a frantic, panic clogged one.
At no time was this lesson driven home than when this event transpired - people first raced out then finally allowed some sentiment of logic to operate when bits and pieces of the story started coming out.

The adrenaline for the fight or flight syndrome is finally wearing off, I'm feeling tired and sleepy and worn out - perhaps the ill effects of coming down from my "adrenaline" high...

In all - it was an exciting few moments...

The New year's promise and prospects...

2009-01-15T09:43:00.001+01:00

We are here...
As always. There is nowhere else we can be.
Otherwise we would have been there instead of here.

It begins - like a factory reset and yet I get the feeling that I'm not yet working as expected. It is too early to tell and yet this certainty that I am drifting through life on a non-charted course persists.

I like the view and enjoy the adventure but wonder how long I can keep up with this meaningless drivel - maybe it is the lack of something to direct my passions to...

Maybe it is the feeling that my youth is sailing away - never to return.

Maybe I am just - sober...

Whatever it is - it will be dealt with and life will as usual move on.

word power

2008-09-26T19:14:00.003+01:00

To promote the written word - to breathe life into it and watch it become something else. A man once said: the moment your creation leaves the confines of your mind and becomes alive - it ceases to belong to you.

Maybe that's the history behind words - for as long as I can remember, I have loved them and marveled at how they have come to shape our thoughts, our views and our actions.

They are by and large passive creatures - sitting in the cool shade of our minds, shaping themselves by the events and happenings - gaining momentum and weight until they emerge to take form and substance.

They are motivators and actuators - moving us inevitably in the direction that begets action.
They are like that unattainable mistress - they tease you with their silver tipped promises of greatness and wealth - they seduce you with guise and visions of grandeur all for that elusive moment of brief enlightenment - when you feel you are the peers of the gods...

They can create desire and ambition - they shape and commit men to paths of greatness of doom. They can maim and wound deeply - causing scars that are difficult to heal...

Words are the life force of ideas and the means of destruction - their purpose as messengers cannot be forgotten or down played.

the golden silence

2008-08-11T10:27:00.002+01:00

Imagine the oddly quiet moment.
You know the one I'm referring to - yes you do! That's when you have absolute solitude to allow your mind to roam without distractions. It appears so odd because these days there are rarely any quiet areas for contemplation and solitude.

To suddenly encounter quiet will often leave you more confused and worried than relaxed.
However to each man his own.

A new week starts and with it - new challenges.
We have four more months left in the year to play around with and as indicators of the passage of time we are apparently more aware of the tide of time and the effects on our bodies.

The rule of silence can become a guide for life - to allow ourselves room to rest from the strain of the environment and the persistent chatter - all that noise cutting out our concentration and focus.

We have become victims of our environment and noise has become the background chatter and static that pervades our everyday life.

To attain the highest state of mind: one must attain the state of Zen (a state of mental discipline) to consider opposing points of view and hold them in your mind as boundaries.

I'm sure there are health benefits when one can reduce this noise pollution that attacks us from all sides - honking horns, revving engines, raised voices...

imagine...

A silence so profound you would hear your heart beat or breathing...
You would hear a pin drop and the attendant echoes.

Silence is golden indeed.

ambiguity is the name of the game...

2008-07-08T17:15:00.002+01:00

I love the fact that words can be mis-interpreted...
Consistently time and time again I have seen this fact proven. Today was one of them - it involved a French phrase of questionable meaning...

Nothing out of the norm but between my friend and colleague in the office (Muyiwa - Ogunmodede) and myself we managed to create a little dazzle of curiosity...

We had people asking themselves and making international calls just to confirm - this phrase...

What a day! if only life could take on a consistent light note and we could laugh and be this happy for awhile...

The month of July is already well on the way - I get to hit the big 3-0 in a couple of days...
What that translates to is any body's guess - I'm still wondering what it all means and what the bottom line for me should be...

My two brothers are back and that makes for a slightly overloaded house but we're use to that I guess - I look forward to pushing out of here for a few days to get some bearing and probably to get some R & R...

I have been bad, very bad and naughty -- however this fact is for me to know and for you to find out!

The last half of 2008 has started and we're trying to hit a bench mark of performance...
There's still so much to do but gladly we're up to the task!