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Great Quote From Great Mind

noreply@blogger.com (Hicham Sherkaoui) — Wed, 27 Feb 2013 01:41:00 +0000

Take someone who doesn’t keep score,

Who’s not looking to be richer, or afraid of losing,

Who has not even the slightest interest in his own

personality:

He’s free.

Rumi

Life is performance art,

and the ultimate performance

is to play yourself.

Paul Kaye

Talk yourself into being in Soul.

Fantasize about being who you are.

Once you are in that fantasy, it becomes authentic.

I know that in my Soul I am free.

If you don’t know how to do that, pretend you do.

John-Roger

You are not your bank account, or your ambitiousness.

You’re not the cold clay lump with a big belly you leave

behind when you die.

You’re not your collection of walking personality disorders.

You are spirit, you are love.

Anne Lamott

it takes courage to grow up

and turn out to be

who you really are

ee cummings

You can’t help but be who you are:

that’s what breathes you.

Your problems come

when you pretend

to be someone else.

Five Deadly Dating Mistakes

noreply@blogger.com (Hicham Sherkaoui) — Mon, 25 Feb 2013 22:09:00 +0000

It never ceases to amaze me that men tend to make the same five deadly dating mistakes time after time after time. It doesn’t seem to matter if they have been dating for a long time or if they are new to the dating scene. Maybe these mistakes are just genetic. I know they are universal.

If you want to impress a woman and have a second or third or many more dates with her here are three things that you must not to do and two things that you must do.

Mistake #1: You Talk about Yourself Too Much

Most guys try to impress women by talking all through a date. Women have heard it all before. But, if you ask her about herself, shut up and listen, and display a SMALL degree of interest, she will begin to wonder why you’re not slobbering all over her. She will want to discover more about you herself. Now you are a challenge, and women love challenging guys. Why? Because they rarely meet one, that’s why.

Mistake #2: You Don’t Know How to Ask Questions

Asked questions require answers. Come up with a list before you leave the house like: How did you get into that line of work? Where did you go to school? Have you seen the new Tom Cruise movie? And so on. If a woman tells you about her weekend at the yoga center, and you know absolutely nothing about yoga, just ask her what she likes about it, how she got into it, etc.

Mistake #3: You Don’t Show Your Appreciation

Compliments makes a woman see that you are observant and women like observant men. Show some appreciation. Simply find something you like and mention it. You may be freaked out by the idea of complimenting a woman on her soulful eyes, so mention her watch, dress, hairstyle, or even her shoes. No need to go overboard: “Nice shoes,” will do it…just don’t over do it either.

Mistake #4: Quit Trying to Impress Her

Be yourself. Exaggerating or boasting your credentials, successes, etc will only make the woman lose interest. Make her feel at ease so that she does not feel pressured to impress or lie to you. Sincerity is the best policy. Everybody feels more comfortable around people who are genuine and sincere and not “putting on the dog”.

Mistake #5: Treat Her Like Royalty

Open doors and car doors for her. Pull out her chair at a restaurant. Help her take off her coat and hold it for her when she puts it back on. The morning after the first date send her a small meaningful gift or some flowers. Show her that you value her company. Women loved to be showered with attention and pampered by her man. For the subsequent date, Cook up a meal at home and spend the evening watching movies. NOT action packed adventure movies that involve a lot of car chases

Looking for a Better Way to live

noreply@blogger.com (Hicham Sherkaoui) — Sat, 23 Feb 2013 20:29:00 +0000

Happy Girls

You are everything that is,

your thoughts, your life,

your dreams come true.

You are everything you choose to be.

You are as unlimited as the endless universe.

Life for most of us should be the better. We always heard what life is supposed to offer:

Endless opportunities, the fulfillment of our dreams, and a chance to live each day in a way that brings happiness and success. Most of us want and need at least a successful job or career, a good family life, and reasonable financial security. We expect that from life.

We know deep inside that we deserve our fair share and we have every right to attain it. Have you ever wondered, then, why things don't work out the way they should? Why do we not get from life many of the things we would like to have and know we should? Why do some people seem to be "lucky," while the great majority of the rest of us seem not to be?

Why are some people, day to day, happier, more productive, and more fulfilled than others? What makes the difference? Is it Kismet, a kind of fate, which in some mysterious way charts our destiny and leaves little of the steering of our course through life up to us? Is the control of our lives in our hands or isn't it? And if we can, or should control our lives, what goes

Wrong? What holds us back? If we truly would like to do better, be the way we really would like to be, and be happier and more successful every day in every area of living, what is the wall that stands in our way?

Solutions for Building Self-Esteem

noreply@blogger.com (Hicham Sherkaoui) — Sat, 23 Feb 2013 15:37:00 +0000

Why build self-esteem? The benefits of having self-esteem are numerous. Self-esteem is strongly associated with happiness, psychological resilience, and a motivation to live a productive and healthy life.

Those lacking self-esteem are more likely to experience depression, anxiety, problem anger, chronic pain, immunosuppression, and a variety of other distressing physical and psychological symptoms.

Indeed, Morris Rosenberg, Ph.D., the foremost researcher on self-esteem, said it well when he stated that nothing can be more stressful than the experience of lacking the basic anchor and security of a wholesome sense of self-worth.

So self-esteem is essential to our health, coping abilities, survival, and sense of well-being. During my tenure at the University of Maryland, I developed a skills-based course that improved self-esteem while reducing symptoms of depression, anxiety, and problem anger in adults eighteen to sixty-eight years of age (Schiraldi and Brown 2001).

It was very good news to discover that mental health could be improved by employing such an approach. Those self-esteem skills are described in detail in my earlier book, The Self-Esteem Workbook (Schiraldi 2001), which you might someday find beneficial to tackle.

However, if you now lack the time or readiness, or if current circumstances prevent you from beginning that systematic approach, then 10 Simple Solutions to Self-Esteem is for you. It offers a simpler, quicker approach to increasing self-esteem—one that I hope you will find richly rewarding.

Know What Self-Esteem Is

Self-esteem is a realistic, appreciative opinion of oneself. Realistic means we are dealing in the truth, being accurately and honestly aware of our strengths, weaknesses, and everything in between. Appreciative, however, suggests that we have good feelings overall about the person we see. Think of a friend who knows you well and cherishes you, recognizing that there is more to you than your faults, and you’ll get a sense of what appreciative means.

Be Mindful

Our experiences in life and our perception of externals can change the way we feel about ourselves. The wonderful news, however, is that we can learn how to develop self-esteem.

In building self-esteem, effective attempts will target thoughts, images, feelings, and behaviors.

Clear Away Negative Thoughts

Self-esteem enables us to experience ourselves accurately and gladly. What prevents us from doing so? Unreasonably negative thoughts which surround and camouflage the core like a cloud of debris after a storm. Cognitive therapy (CT) is the branch of psychology that helps people identify, challenge, and then replace such thoughts. This well-researched

Approach is considered a mainstream treatment for depression, anxiety, and problem anger. Because self-esteem is so strongly related to these conditions, CT is also very useful for self-esteem building.

Be Aware of Your Strengths

People with self-esteem are not necessarily brighter, more attractive, or more skillful than those who lack self-esteem. The difference really lies in the way we view ourselves.

Dwelling on our negative aspects prevents us from enjoying our core worth and what is presently right about ourselves. Thinking “I can’t like myself with this or that fault” also blocks self-acceptance, since it makes eliminating our faults a condition for worth. There will be a time to polish the rough edges and to grow. But for now let’s focus on a more essential skill: doing an inventory of your strengths in order to view your core worth more accurately.

Use Mindful Meditations

Love is essential for mental health and self-esteem, and the lack of love seems to contribute to anxiety and low self-esteem. Young monkeys who do not bond with their mothers become very anxious. In humans, children who form loving bonds with their parents tend to demonstrate the benefits of self-esteem, and adult anxiety and low self-esteem are

strongly associated with each other (Brown, Schiraldi, and Wrobleski 2003).

Appreciate Your Body

Have you ever noticed what you see when you look in the mirror? Do you view your overall appearance and countenance cordially and kindly, or do you home right in on your body’s flaws? One approach leads to a satisfying feeling; the other results in a feeling of disappointment.

Care for Your Mind by Caring for Your Body

Because the mind and body are interactively connected, taking care of the body is a way to strengthen mental health and self-esteem. Stated more emphatically, we can’t expect to feel our best psychologically if we neglect our physical health. The good news is that (1) we now know how to optimize physical health, and (2) the investment of time, money, and effort required to accomplish this is not excessive. Physical health is like a three-legged stool, which topples if one of the legs is missing. The three legs of physical health are sleep, exercise, and nutrition.

Develop Your Character and Spirituality

Self-esteem, much like happiness, is cultivated from within, and the process benefits from consistent nourishment and constructive effort. It’s a common belief that we are born

with an upward reach, a desire to grow and progress toward our potential, and that we feel better about ourselves as we do so. This chapter will explore pathways to inner enrichment,

drawing upon themes that are common across diverse cultures and spiritual traditions.

Look ahead

Optimism, which correlates with self-esteem, lets us look forward to a satisfying life. Life satisfaction is built upon emotional intelligence skills (such as healing and taking care of ourselves emotionally), persisting in doing what is working, personal growth, and cultivating meaning and purpose, among other things. This chapter will explore three remaining processes related to self-esteem and life satisfaction: personality development, cultivating meaning and purpose, and relapse prevention.

Know How You Spend Your Time?

noreply@blogger.com (Hicham Sherkaoui) — Tue, 19 Feb 2013 18:47:00 +0000

How you spend your time is how you spend your life so If you're not sure where and how all your time spended , Make a note of everything you do on your normal day.

Include work and personal time, start with when you wake up, how long you take for meals until you return to bed. There is no right or wrong answers, at this stage you're just getting an idea of where your time goes.

Now, answer the questions to see where and how you are spending your time in your normal working week.

· When do you start using a plan to what you're going to do... today, this week?
· How do you prioritise your tasks?
· Do you use to-do list to manage your tasks or do you do them as they come up?
· Do you usually finish what you planned to do each day?
· How much of your time is spent on your tasks dealing with crises or unexpected matters?
· How do you manage disturbance from upsetting your work?
· How much time you spend each day on paperwork?
· Do you choose how to use your time, or other people manage your time?
· Are you able to say "No" to your colleagues/boss?
· What tasks do you tend to delay or put off?
· What tasks do you tend to avoid completely?
· When is your most/least productive time of day?

If you had an extra hour every day, what would you do with it? What can you change about the way you live and work to get an extra hour in your day .

Look at how and where you're spending your time and decide what changes you need to make in order to use your time more effectively.

Could you get up an hour earlier or go to bed an hour later.

Spend a few minutes at the beginning of each day to plan your working day and you'll be able to do more tasks and be more productive. Look at where you potentially 'waste' time and decide what you can do to change it.

Make sure you're getting enough breaks during day. It's all very well working hard but how productive is that working time? If you're getting tired, you won't be as effective, take frequent breaks.

In sequence to make the most effective use of your time you need to make sure that you're focusing on what's more important things. Prioritise your tasks in order of importance or urgency. Make sure that you spend most of your time focusing on the essential to avoid them becoming urgent later on. Get the high priority tasks done first and break larger tasks down into smaller ones.

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Great Time Management Tips

noreply@blogger.com (Hicham Sherkaoui) — Mon, 18 Feb 2013 00:48:00 +0000

10 useful tips To Manage Your Time

You can't Stop the Time but you can manage it; you manage the events in your life related to time. You may often wish for more time but you only get 24 hours, 1,440 minutes or 86,400 seconds each day. How you use that time depends on skills learned through self analysis and experience , planning, evaluation, and self-control.

People who practice good time management techniques often find that they:

Are more productive.
Have more energy for things they need to accomplish.
Feel less stressed.
Are able to do the.
things they want.
Get more things done.
Relate more positively to others.
and Feel better about themselves.

Finding a time management strategy that works best for you depends on your personality, ability to selfmotivate and level of selfdiscipline. By incorporating some, or all of the ten strategies below, you can more effectively manage your time.

Analyze where most of your time is devoted job, family, personal, recreation, etc.

Know How You Spend Your Time

Keeping a time log is a helpful way to determine how you are using your time. Start by recording what you are doing for 15-minute intervals for a week or two.

Set Priorities

Managing your time effectively requires a distinction between what is important and what is urgent (MacKenzie, 1990).
Experts agree that the most important tasks usually aren’t the most urgent tasks. However, we tend to let the urgent dominate our lives.

Use a Planning Tool

Time management experts recommend using a personal planning tool to improve your productivity. Examples of personal planning tools include electronic planners, pocket diaries,

calendars, computer programs, wall charts, index cards and notebooks.

Get Organized

Most people find that disorganization results in poor time management. Professional organizers recommend that you first get rid of the clutter.

Schedule Your Time Appropriately

Even the busiest people find time for what they want to do and feel is important. Scheduling is not just recording what you have to do (e.g., meetings and appointments), it is also making a time commitment to the things you want to do.
Good scheduling requires that you know yourself Using your time log, you should have determined those times during the day whenyou are most productive and alert. Plan your most challenging tasks for when you have the most energy. Block out time for your high priority activities first and protect that ime from interruptions.

Get Help from Others

You need to select someone with the appropriate skills, experience, interest, and authority needed to accomplish the task. Be as specific as possible in defining the task and your expectations, but allow the person some freedom to personalize the task.

Stop Procrastinating

You may be putting off tasks for a variety of reasons. Perhaps the task seems overwhelming or unpleasant. Try breaking down the task into smaller segments that require less time commitment and result in specific, realistic deadlines.

If you’re having trouble getting started, you may need to complete a preparatory task such as collecting materials or organizing your notes. Also, try building in a reward system as you complete each small segment of the task.

Manage External Time Wasters

Your time may be impacted by external factors imposed by other people and things. You can decrease or eliminate time spent in these activities by implementing some simple tips listed below.

Avoid Multi-tasking

Recent psychological studies have shown that multi-tasking does not actually save time.

In fact, the opposite is often true. You lose time when switching from one task to another, resulting in a loss of productivity (Rubinsteim, Meyer, and Evans, 2001). Routine multi-tasking may lead to difficulty in concentrating and maintaining focus when needed.

Stay Healthy

The care and attention you give yourself is an important investment of time.

Scheduling time to relax, or do nothing, can help you rejuvenate both physically and mentally, enabling you to accomplish tasks more quickly and easily. Learn to manage time according to your biological clock by scheduling priority tasks during your peak time of day, the time your energy level and concentration are at their best.

Poor time management can result in fatigue, moodiness, and more frequent illness. To reduce stress, you should reward yourself for a time management success. Take time to recognize that you have accomplished a major task or challenge before moving on to the next activity.

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