Live by design not by default

2012-01-26T13:51:00.000-08:00

Many of us have fallen under the spell of buying nice sparkly new stuff that we just did not need, then we bought more, and more until the day came when eeek! The funds WERE there then but they are not their now, so what do we do? Normally panic. I have devised a way to help people get through the dark byways of debt and find the steps back into the light pathways of financial freedom, and I promise it is a great path way to be on. For More Information Click Here

OK, you may not like what you are about to read as it seems so obvious, be warned. But one thing you could do to stop yourself from getting into debt, or further into the pit of debt, is to inspect the reasons to how you created the situation in the first place. Are you an emotional purchaser ie someone that buys something they don't need to make them feel better? Are you just an impulse buyer? Do you buy things on a credit card and think resolutely that you will pay it back at the end of the month, then, forget?

Knowing the actions you have taken in the past to create a situation will be the key to the actions to avoid to remove the problem, as the little meerkat man says 'simples'.

A great piece of advice I took was never to feel at home with your debt, never let it become a silent partner that constantly hums in the background as let's face it that is not exactly a SILENT partner, as you always know the thing is there. So, start to snub debt, and its very ethos and start taking steps, nay, huge great moon walking strides to eradicate it. There are so many ways in which you could turn to find new avenues of income. One of the biggest trends on the internet to make money is affiliate marketing, selling for the likes of Ebay, Amazon, Toys R Us and many more. It costs nothing to become an affiliate and you will have your own little commission based cash cow! Start your own mailing business. Write an e-book Once you start looking for a new direction and start paying heed to the little voice in your head called inspiration you will find paths start opening up all over the place, all you have to do is teach yourself not to ignore them and start taking a stroll down them.

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A great way to keep yourself out of debt, is to have a day-to-day system of tracking your spending. The NeatReceipts gadget is a brilliant handy tool to keep with you, although, if you are already in debt I personally would opt for the old tried and trusted accounting pad and pen.

My friend Pat was a brilliant inspiration to me with her housekeeping ways. She would just take five minutes (quite literally) when ever she had been out, to tot up what she had spent at the shop and jot it in a notepad she had for this very job. At first I laughed at this and told her it was a bit over board, it was then she pointed out that I was the one with the overdraft, not her. You know the saying she who laughs last . . . . I have since that day done the same. I always keep track of my spending and balance it with my bank account. It gives you back control again.

I would also say that having an on-line account was such a boon to being able to see what was going on. I know some people say it will be hacked in, stolen from etc., but the banks have all systems go on this one and if you check with the terms and conditions, they will refund stolen money. It is worth reading the terms and conditions to ensure that little one is in there.

It may also be worth taking a little course in book keeping, trust me it helps. Not only will it help you in your personal finance it can also lead to getting work.

If I told you, you could have, be and do anything you wanted in life all you had to do was spend some time each day thinking about it, would you believe me? More to the point if I told you it was a "guaranteed" way ahead, would you even consider it? If you said No to each or both question mine to you is, why not? What do you have to lose?

There is a proliferation of books, videos and articles based on just this. So why not give it a go. All you have to do is believe in your idea, believe in yourself and trust in the fact that everything you give your utmost attention to will, at some point turn up. The warning being, focusing has no right or wrong direction and if you constantly flick your mind to the problems and difficulties that life throws your way, guess what will stay and keep coming right back at you in your life. Take some time tonight to quiet yourself and think of one thing that you want, write it down, visualise it in your head, and believe it is going to happen. From that moment on keep doing the same positive visualisation and over the next few days and weeks see if you can notice the changes you are creating.

If you have decided you want a yacht, do not focus on the statement "no yacht yet?" more on the "I am getting my yacht". Start listening to the inspirational voice in your head, and keep listening to it.

Enjoy, the game and start living by design and not by default.

Free your mind and follow your bliss

2012-01-01T13:29:00.000-08:00

Focus on what you want and everything will fall in to place to make it yours.

Enjoy

Let's Lose Weight

2011-12-15T14:14:00.000-08:00

For some reason certain ages give us a kick that it's either now or never so at 39 I decedid that I wanted to be 'Fit For Fourty', so, I started on my pathway to fitness, it took me about four months to do but every day I felt more envigorated and it just kept getting better and betterI lost over two stone and went from a size 14 to a between a size 6 and 8. I loved training, adored it, but, never had the figure that was my ideal, even when I got down to a size 8 (not sure what that would be in the US)!!!

Then I met my new partner he too lovedall things fitness and had done all his life, but when we started living together, training stopped and loved upness began. The thing is that the loved upness didn't stop, and still hasn't, but the size 6 has receded back and realising my new clothes were no longer fitting AT ALL I decided to go back into training. So got the picture of the body I wanted in my mind, even off pulled one off the internet so I would have something to properly aim for and off I set.

Week 1 gave up, kept looking in the mirror size 8 never mind 6 was still far into the future. Then I became totally fed up and very down and dismal on myself about how I had sunk back into not training again. Told myself and my partner I would restart next week, then, next week came I would start then give up, same old reason.

Looking in the mirror seeing the spare tyre just made me so despondent. It did not help matters that I became jealousy of my partner's ability to lose weight in the blink of an eye, and to me it did not seem fair.

My partner has always been into weights, martial arts etc., since the age of . . . . I think it must have been birth. Now, the only way I can describe his ability to tone much quicker is a) he actually gets up and does something and b) his body is so used to training the muscles have retained memory and they seem to rejoice everytime he restarts, even though, unlike myself his lapses never last more than 4 weeks.

Then I put on more weight and recently I have been trying to figure out where my mojo for training has gone and why I am so hell bent on avoiding it at all cost. I am not happy with my figure or the fact that if I eat I feel guilty. Then like a club round my head I realised what I was doing and through some blogging hope to help anyone else who is going through the same or a similar problem.

Looking through an abs building site it dawned on me that there are two groups of people. The first gauges their progress against how near they are to attaining some kind of an ideal goal. The second group measures their progress from the place where they started.

Measuring your progress against an ideal is like trying to travel to the horizon. You can never get there because no matter how much you move toward it, the horizon will always be a long distance off, as it was with me, no matter how fit or slim I became it was never enough, so my goal always seemed to be an equal distance away from where I was when I started. To make matters worst I realised I was so busy being jealous of other people's fit bodies and telling myself constanty that I was fat, not as good as them and always would be that way that guess what auto-suggested message was staying in my head.

Now if we look at the first group of people, I think most of us will fall into this trap. We get half of it right ie the goal setting, looking for pictures of bodies we would like to have and having an aim, then we totally destroy any chance of this by constantly trying to reach the end goal.
Where as the second group of people are those that also get the pictures, realise where they want to get to and note where they were when they started. What they then do is way more productive as instead of the “I will never get there, I will never get there, this is too hard, this is taking too long” message, after a couple of weeks they just look back and notice how far they have come in their progress, and rejoice that even if it is only a small amount the message to the brain has been put into motion and IT'S WORKING. When they look back, it is obvious that they have made progress - even if it is just a little progress.

The problem that I encountered, and have since recognised, is that I did not stop to celebrate my success. Instead I kept looking at where I was and where I wanted to go and felt a sense of disappointment when I should have been celebrating my progress of how far I had travelled.

So for anyone and everyone who is trying to do anything. Learn to measure your progress from where you started. If you measure your progress any other way - you will always feel deflated and despondent. You ARE making progress. Make sure you celebrate even the smallest success. If you are trying to make go of a new business venture celebrate anything even down to just one person looking at your site/shop/etc. If you are on a weight losing journey celebrate the small things ie giving up sugar in coffee, an ounce of weight loss anything and everything. If you will just do this one small thing, you will notice that more success will come to you faster.

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Stop The Stress and Dissolve the Debt

2011-12-13T03:33:00.000-08:00

Spend, Spend! Is this the norm for you? Are you spendthrift that does not realize that your spending is driving you closer and closer to a huge pile of debt? Has realisation struck and you're now faced with financial despair. This process happens to countless of people everyday and before we even realize it we start getting into arrears. How could I ever repay these debts you ponder? Well believe it or not the answers lie within the creditors themselves.

Unfortunately, most of us aren't going to pay off our debt because a rich relative dies or we win the lottery. It's more a step-by-step process. First, people who have paid down their debt simply make sure to budget. They recognize their financial standing and they live within it - and more often than not, they live under it. This ensures that they have money to pay on their debt! Second, they come up with a financial plan. They write out necessary spending and then subtract that from what they can have for spending, saving, etc.

Stories abound of people who were hundreds of thousands of pounds deep in loans - mortgages, credit cards, education, you name it. Being this deep in debt not only damages your credit rating, but it substantially affects your personal and family life. So how did people so mired in debt manage to make their way out?

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QUESTIONS, QUESTIONS, QUESTIONS

2010-05-17T09:00:00.000-07:00

Have you ever asked yourself . . .?

Why do you read a newspaper? Why do you listen to the news? Why do you read people’s scribbles on Facebook and other such social networking sites?

Hmmmmm....

Why? Can you change what the newscasters/tabloids are reporting? Is any of it actually relevant to your life? Is it not just differing and intensive gossip mongering and, or, propaganda? Are the news casters telling exactly the same story across the globe? If not, why not? If it is that important and unbiased all news would be exactly the same. Wouldn’t it? Why would we need more than one newspaper or one news broadcaster if everything were so factual, true and non-self serving?

Does hearing about a war, a death, a rape, a disaster or the fripperies of the life of the famous few really bare any relevance to your life? Would your life be better without this news? Would your life be happier without a constant background noise of disasters, unfair governments, bad criminals, broken down lives, and other sad happenings?

Does looking regularly at the sick, sad, mutilated, distraught and dying add to your life in any way? Or does it give you a constant sense of sadness and helplessness? Does it help to know that someone’s life is falling to pieces in another country, someone that you do not even know?

Wouldn’t it be better to concentrate your attention 100% on your own life?

Did you know that many, many successful millionaires and indeed billionaires ensure that they do NOT read the papers or listen to the news? Did you know the reason why was because they are aware that they cannot solve anything?

What difference would it make to you to think of what you want and concentrate on obtaining it? How would your life change once you did obtain it? Do you think it would be a better thought process if you only thought of the good in people? Would you feel a sense of contentment when you concentrated on the bounteous beauty in the world? Would it make your life more enjoyable if all you strove for, listened to or read was for and about happiness? If all you read were subjects that elated your heart? Would you not be more interested in reading things that did not bring you down but brought you a sense of personal awareness and empowerment?

Do you not think it far better to live your life by design rather than default?

Only you can answer these questions.

By Cathi Gaughan

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A PARENTAL GUIDE TO: HOW TO RAISE YOUR CHILD THE CORRECT WAY

2010-04-19T09:13:00.000-07:00

There are many people who ask “What is the right way to bring up my child”. Worried mothers and fathers fretting about this wide ranging topic.

Well here is the answer that you have all been looking for, the definitive knowledge, the golden chalice as it were. So, buckle up and read on . . .

There may be a sentence in this next paragraph that will either elate you or deflate you but you have to stand by it as the answer to the question. There is no correct way.

Yup, that’s it. Your mother/father did it her way, got a couple of things wrong. Your local shop keepers mother/father made mistakes. That bloke across the street looking at jewellery in the window for his wife, his mother/father, now and again, got lost and confused. The leader of your favourite political party’s mother/father sat in total frustration not knowing why their baby was crying. The great leaders of the world’s mothers or fathers worried about whether they were doing the right thing. Am I getting this across yet?

On the whole as one body of parental beings, we worry about our little people. Even if the perfect parent exists out there they may be trying to bring up the most imperfect child thus making their little person have the most unhappy childhood.

The best advice I have ever taken is . . . let your child be who they want to be. Trust in the fact that they are quite capable of becoming that which is best for them. This may be quite the opposite of what you desire or expect but, at the end of the day this is not your life it is THEIRS. By all means love, care and guide but guide only if requested.

The truth of the matter is us parents as a whole sometimes forget that children are after all sentient beings that will learn to walk, talk and just be, all in their own time. There is no medal or badge of honour given to those babies that crawl the earliest or talk their words at the youngest age, they just . . . . do and good for them. On the flip side there are some children that don’t crawl until well after 8 months . . . but they do.

Yes, of course at a young and tender age they will want to be Superman, Fairies, Knights, Princesses, Wrestlers, Ballet Dancers or just invisible and why not? I have a friend whose daughter wanted to go to playschool in her fairy outfit every day, so rather than making her conform to what everyone else dressed like, she let her daughter do just that. This little girl has now grown up and guess what, she does not walk around in a fairy outfit, she is a wonderfully artistic little being who is at peace with the world and does not judge as in her mind everyone has the right to their own individuality and, if they so choose to wander round the streets in a fairy outfit then good for them!

Having faith in your child’s personal ability is one of the greatest gifts you can give them. I met a man in Australia many years ago who had disabilities from birth, his parents were told that he would never be able to walk and would never reach past the mental age of a 5 year old. His parents refused to believe this, and always trusted in the fact that their son, despite his disabilities, would grow up to have a normal and fulfilled life.

I met this man at a friend’s house. He was in his early thirties and was sitting next to the pool his walking stick to his left. He had become a molecular bio-chemist, well that was his second degree he was in-fact working in the hospital as their leading gynaecologist. Not only was he a brilliant man, but incredibly funny and wonderful company. He sat and told me how much respect he had for his parents as they refused to put him in a “special” school and insisted he went to the local mainstream school even though they knew he may get bullied because of his deformities, but trusted in him and trusted in the fact that he would be fine. And, he was.

The famous author Napoleon Hill wrote about the story of his son Blair, who was born without ears they were told their son was a deaf mute. He describes how

. . . . . . “the outlook was far from encouraging but DESIRE BACKED BY FAITH knows no such word as impossible. . . .”

And through a series of events he learnt to hear and speak. Blair went to college, stumbled across a hearing aid that worked for him when he was 18, wrote to the company to thank them which lead him to obtain a position within the company reaching out to thousands upon thousands of deaf people showing them the technology which in turn helped them.

So, Napoleon Hill writes that although he was told his child may never hear or speak, through his belief in his son, his son endeavoured and succeeded in doing both. Blair was later tested by Dr Irvine Voorhees, a specialist who was astounded at how well he could hear and speak, even though an x-ray showed there was no opening in Blairs skull from where his ears should be to his brain.

He put faith in his son, and trusted in the fact that his son would succeed.

Another thing to ponder when thinking about your childs abilities to understand is how much information a child learns in one month of school, the maths, English, languages, history, science etc., how quickly they learn to play, skip, draw etc. Then you worry about their ability to walk down a flight of stairs! It just doesn’t add up does it.

Recently I was at a skate park with my daughter, whilst she was whizzing merrily about I heard mothers telling their boys “be careful”, “look out” etc. Instantly when you are told to be careful you are looking out for danger, as soon as you focus on danger, you are going to find it, as soon as you find it, it’s going to hurt. How about just saying “go and have the best fun you can have” rather than taking all the fun out of the skate park! If you are careful whilst learning to BMX or skate or Board you are not going to get very far. You have to trust in the fact your child will learn how to avoid the dangers.

Children by definition naturally take risks, they do this the moment they decide to flip over onto their fronts and crawl. So at the tender age of /XX/XXX amount of months they were allowed to flip over and crawl, so why not let them, when they want to flip about on a bike/roller blades or whatever just let them try it without pointing out the dangers. Babies don’t understand danger this is why they are less likely to hurt themselves when they fall over. Adults expect pain and tense when falling and this is why more adults than children sustain more injury in a fall.

So to sum up, there is no right way to bring up your child, everyone does it differently but one thing is for sure if you trust in the fact your child will be OK, then, they will be. Love them eternally, forgive their mistakes and believe that they will be the best that they can be. Most importantly of all let your child be happiest when they are being themselves.

I hope you enjoyed reading this as much as I enjoyed writing it.

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2010-03-07T14:31:00.000-08:00

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2010-02-04T15:24:00.001-08:00

THE PATH THAT OFFERS THE LEAST RESISTANCE IS THE PATH BEST FOLLOWED

(IRONICALLY IT IS ALSO THE PATH LEAST FOLLOWED!)

Have you ever been in an argument where your point is so valid and true you have to stop the other person speaking so they will understand? Or walked into a child’s bedroom and “hit the roof” at the mess and told them to “tidy this pigsty/mess/Armageddon etc up”? Then gone off to carry on with your jobs? Has, by any chance any of the following ever happened afterwards?

L Your argument lays on the floor in tatters unheeded, and you are left alone/angry

L Found the childs bedroom still in the same mess but it has also acquired a tearful offspring looking more like you have beaten them with the crazy stick than told them to tidy up?

L Asked yourself “why is everyone making this SO difficult?” and “Am I the only one that listens round here?”

I am just guessing that mayhap that this could have happened or if not something of a similar ilk. Now, have you ever tried to move house by pushing your existing one to a new desired location? Ever had a huge tree in the garden that you wanted moving to the other end and just braced yourself and put your back against it and dug your heels in so as to move it with brute force? If the answer is yes, then you really need to read this if no, it is because you know fine well neither will move, as you would be pushing against something that is immoveable and offers back a great deal of resistance.

So it is with people. If you are so focused on your side of the equation that all you do is push against them then their instinct is to push back, put up resistance. If you are a little bit more willing to take a little bit more time to understand someone and how they tick rather than impose yourself onto them, you are more likely to find people starting to flow with you rather than push back, you will find that you are in an amicable discussion rather than a heated argument. This can reach all aspects of life i.e. driving along someone drives up right behind your car, they then overtake, way too close to an oncoming vehicle your reaction may be to madly gesticulate to their vehicle, or even crawl way too close to them. Rather we should think “eek, I remember doing that once, making a wrong call when driving, it scared the hell out of me, poor sod is probably shaking from head to foot”. But if most of us are honest we automatically start raging at them, in so doing whether you have noticed or not, their driving became aggressive, so your driving becomes aggressive and so on and so forth. I have taken special note of this syndrome around my home, from 15:30 till about 19:00 the normal steady flow becomes mayhem, the gentle roundabout into town is suddenly on speed, there are cars being driven way too fast through the village, and inches between one car and another. It is the butterfly effect in play. However, because I have been learning this I have found if someone does creep up too close and overtake dangerously if I just hang back and keep cool their driving seems to do the same thing. Try it.

Now, let us revisit the child in the bedroom that has done a wonderful impressionist sculpture of “Childs Room In Washing Machine”. Rather than demanding them to clear up (pushing against), why not start up a conversation along the lines of “ hey ho you, looks like someone has been having a great time” (starts off nice and happy, therefore putting child in relaxed and happy mood), “come on, let’s see if we can find your bedroom together”. This way you are bending with them, enjoining with them, interacting and chances are done calmly the child will respond positively and it all becomes bonding time rather than war zone. All the child will see when you are positive is a happy, helping and caring person and will want this all the time so the child will end up trying to please you as everyone loves being with helpful happy people. Also, the great thing about young children is they truly understand the words “I’m sorry”, they accept them, they love hearing an adult admitting they too are human and fallible but, unlike adults they forgive immediately. Children are wonderful mirrors of our behaviour and will INSTANTLY react to being pushed against and on the same note they will INSTANTLY react to someone bending with them.

Oh, and the answer to the questions “why is everyone making this SO difficult?” and “Am I the only one that listens round here?” is a) you are included in everyone and b) No.

A great Taoist story that illustrates this article goes something like this:

A group of intellectuals who came across a waterfall whilst strolling through the woods. As they looked into the water they noticed a body of an old man bobbing up and down in the roaring churning water. Horrified they rushed to the edge trying to figure out how they were going to get the body out to give it a decent burial. Their discussion came to a sudden and abrupt halt when the supposedly dead man stands up, walks out of the water, dries himself off and walks away. Astounded the scholars ran after the old man and asked “How did you survive in that water, no-one can survive in there, no-one ever comes out alive!” The old man replies “It’s easy, you just go up when the water goes up, and down when the water goes down”.

In other words you don’t put up resistance and force against something to survive but understand and flow with it.

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DON’T PUSH AGAINST A BRICK WALL, IT HURTS!

2010-02-04T15:17:00.000-08:00

THE PATH THAT OFFERS THE LEAST RESISTANCE IS THE PATH BEST FOLLOWED (AND STRANGELY THE PATH LEAST FOLLOWED!)

L Your argument lays on the floor in tatters unheeded, and you are left alone/angry

L Found the childs bedroom still in the same mess but it has also acquired a tearful offspring looking more like you have beaten them with the crazy stick * than told them to tidy up?

L Asked yourself “why is everyone making this SO difficult?” and “Am I the only one that listens round here?”

*other imaginary sticks/hard metal objects/mitres are available from cathisdementedimagination.complicatedworld@notadotcom

being with helpful happy people. Also, the great thing about young children is they truly understand the words “I’m sorry”, they accept them, they love hearing an adult admitting they too are human and fallible but, unlike adults they forgive immediately. Children are wonderful mirrors of our behaviour and will INSTANTLY react to being pushed against and on the same note they will INSTANTLY react to someone bending with them.

Oh, and the answer to the questions “why is everyone making this SO difficult?” and “Am I the only one that listens round here?” is a) you are included in everyone and b) No.

A great Taoist story that illustrates this article goes something like this:

In other words you don’t put up resistance and force against something to survive but understand and flow with it.

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Live by design not by default: Looking for freedom

2010-02-04T07:04:00.000-08:00

Live by design not by default: Looking for freedom

How To Be Happy

2010-01-26T14:34:00.001-08:00

Some Helpful Hints . . .

1. Be attentive to yourself. Avoid the media ie newspapers, telly etc they just inform you of all the unhappy and negative things that are going on around the world and in other peoples’ lives.

2. Live in the now, the moment.

3. You cannot change the past so do not worry about it.

4. You cannot predict the future so don’t worry about it.

5. Realise you cannot change other people, so either accept them for who they are or gravitate towards those who do make you happy.

6. Exercise. You don’t have to be wonder woman or superman, but exercise releases endorphins that will naturally pick up your mood.

7. Learn to let your mind be quiet for 10 minutes a day. Just sit/lay somewhere quiet and comfy and close your eyes. When a negative thought pops into your mind just mentally ask yourself “what am I thinking now?” move on to a positive thought, and every time a negative thought comes into your mind repeat the process it does not matter whether you have 10 minutes of asking “what am I thinking now” you will be pulling your mind away from negativity. This is training your mind to think what you WANT it to think rather than let it go feral and throw anything at you. Over time you will be able to just sit quietly and literally think of nothing, this enables your mind to become more capable of feeling relaxed and happy.

8. Jump up and down on the spot as many times as you can. I have no idea why but it always makes me giggle when I do it!

9. Listen to music you adore, that lifts your heart and makes you want to dance.

10. Do something that makes you feel good, it doesn’t matter what it is or how small it is just a little something to bring you joy.

11. This one sounds way too easy, but, smile. Simply by letting yourself smile will bring your happy levels up.

12. Read regularly and widely, articles, books anything that has a positive, or happy theme to it, if it makes you laugh out loud, even better!

13. Stand tall, breath slowly and deeply. I am only 5ft 1” and I can manage it. It is another very simple thing but if you stand with your head held high and shoulders back you will look and feel more positive. Breathing deeply and slowly helps relax, and stops panic. Think about it for a moment if you had just been told you had won something you would sit up straight and laugh or smile. So always feel like a winner!

14. Everything is about thought, so only think happy and positive thoughts. Your feelings and emotions are a guide to your thoughts and alert you to what you are thinking. So pay attention to how you feel. If you are not feeling good use technique no. 7 to halt your thought pattern. Then find something nice to think about. You don’t have to trawl your memory for something good that may have happened, just simply stop and look around you and appreciate something in your line of vision or range of hearing maybe someone is wearing a jumper in your favourite colour, or has spikey hair that makes you smile. Maybe you can hear people laughing or even the strange swooshing noise cars make as they whizz past. It’s the simple art of stopping your negative thoughts in their tracks that lifts your mood, then finding something to appreciate raises it further.

15. Appreciate things in your life you want to change, as they give you the direction in which you need to go to move forward. Knowing what you don’t like automatically leads you to know what you do like.

16. Keep your space at work/in the vehicle/at home tidy it will give you a sense of breathing space in your mind.

17. De-clutter your life. If you haven’t used/worn/noticed you owned/not known what something is for, for 6 months or more get rid/throw away/sell/donate to charity/give to a friend who would love it. This will then free up space for you to obtain something wonderful that you do want, will use/wear/play/listen to/read/sit on etc.

18. Write a list of things that really make you happy and try to re-introduce them into your life. Remember this is a list of things that make YOU happy, don’t try to make other people happy, they do that for themselves.

19. Always focus on what you do want and never on what you don’t. Imagine you have a little pixie/fairy/god/goddess/badger that is around you at all times listening in on your thoughts and as soon as it hears a want it goes to sort out getting them to you. So always think positively eg

“Wouldn’t it be great if I had a fantastic day at work”

off it pops to get you a fantastic day at work or

“wouldn’t it be superb if I owned an Overfinched Range Rover*”

(*other dream cars are available that is just mine!)

So off it goes again to get your dream car.

Keep away from the negative listings ie

“my money isn’t going to be in the bank yet”

as off your little dream maker will go to make sure that your money will not be there.
Or

“I don’t want this car it’s awful”

your dream maker has just heard you say “want this awful car”, so off it goes on it
quest for a car with no wheels.

20. Sing out loud. Find your favourite song and sing your little heart out.

To sum it all up finally, remember this is YOUR life and YOUR experience only YOU can live it there is little point in jumping through hoops to please somebody else, only please yourself. This is not a selfish thing to do as when you are happy you make those around you happy, when those around you are happy they make those around them happy and so it continues! So YOU being happy will effect far more people than you ever imagined.

GO FORTH AND BE HAPPY!!

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Boy Racers and Mind Races

2010-01-14T08:20:00.000-08:00

Time to re-think what we perceive.

As I was sitting in the passenger seat being driven down from Cornwall to Yorkshire, I gazed idly out of the window and starting watching the cars, lorries and vans making their way to where ever they were going. Yet another mid range car whizzes past in the outside lane at a fare old kilter, flashing its headlights, driving all over the back end of the car in front, trying to bully his (nothing against the male folk here, it just so happened to be one) way through. Then I noticed the ol' "middle lane lodger" and remembered the previous night on the Yorkshire to Cornwall stint when I was driving, it was well into the early hours of the morning, not a soul on the road but us and still, there they were in the middle lane, so I had to over-take into the fast lane just to get back into the driving lane. I also noticed the scared/insecure/just passed my driving test type of driver, who seems stuck in the driving lane every now and again indicating to come out but always pulling back stopping themselves from making that outward manoeuvre forwards.

As the time rolled by I noticed something you get on the roads, that we all seem to pay no attention to, they never crop up in conversation, they never spark debate in the pub or over the dinner table and strangely it is around a 9:1 ratio in their favour. The good drivers. The ones that go at their own pace, never drive up peoples boot ends, if you indicate to pull out in front of them instead of closing up the gap, they flash you to come out as it is safe to do so. They keep a good safe distance away from you at all times. Pull over to the left lane if you seem to be approaching at a greater speed than they wish to traverse as they noticed you a while back and have been planning the manoeuvre.

Now at this point I thought to have a little inward look and review how I drive. You too, take a little moment and have a think about your attitude behind the wheel. Are you constantly in a temper watching boy racers taunting the dawdlers? Are you that boy racer careering up the boot end of the car in front always seeming to have a slow car in front of you? Do you constantly seem to have cars up the boot end of yours? Are you constantly pointing out to anyone who will listen the mistakes of all the other road users? Do you keep getting trapped behind the dozy sod in the middle lane? Most journeys, you envelope yourself in a little world where only you seem to have the ability to drive properly, everyone else seems to be an idiot.

Time to re-cap and re-evaluate things I thought. I watched my partner drive, never flustered, never angry, happily singing or chatting with me, keeping that safe distance, pulling over when someone wants to overtake. When the traffic grinds to a halt and there is a traffic jam for the next 20 miles, the music gets turned down and conversation is picked up a notch, jokes are told laughs are had. There is NEVER any stress in our car when he is at the wheel, we never seem to be in hurry and never arrive late. However, when I am at the wheel, worrying, stressing about the car up my boot end, annoyed at the way the other driver over there is treating the driver in front of him, pointing out the errors of their ways . . . . . . ahhhh! Now, here is the thing for many months now my partner has been teaching me, very patiently, about the Law of Attraction, how it works and how to get it to work for me. In this little moment of time it suddenly all became very clear, I was bringing ALL of this to me, focusing my attention on all the bad drivers on the road instead of just focusing on all the good drivers. Then like the sun shining through the clouds (like you get in the films when lassie comes home!) I got it.

So, I write this little diatribe and plead with you out there Mr, Mrs and Miss J Public, have a think next time you are behind the wheel, try to stay calm and happy and take note of the little differences that arise on your journey. Think on to the times you have made those incorrect decisions on the road, how grateful you felt when the driver you cut across etc signalled not to worry and smiled. Then think of how you felt when you had accidentally made the mistakes and got shouted at, "v" signs flicked etc., which did you prefer.

Ironically, all of life whether it be in a car or not, is not a race to the finish line it is a journey, so we all might as well enjoy it!

Go safe, be happy, enjoy.

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New Years Revelation - The Art of Positive Changes

2010-01-14T08:15:00.000-08:00

We are told from an early age to think and do in a certain way in order to succeed. To lead a happy and full-filled life you have to start to think right and discipline your mind. Those that have told you to do this are correct they just have not gone far enough.

We have all been there, two maybe three weeks before New Year in front of the mirror taking a deep long look at ourselves thinking where we are in life and making that decision that come the New Year, come the New You. We decide the weight will be lost, the bad habits given up, the early mornings will be met with glee and the progression in our own personal success will be started. We chat with friends/colleagues/family members about our wonderful intentions. We get hyped and excited.

Unfortunately, for most of us, come the 2nd week of January the choccie biscuits are back centre stage, the bad habits are creeping back in and we start settling back into the routine of the year before, and the year before that, and the year before that. Resolutions in a shambolick heap somewhere hidden away from view with a towel over them in the recesses of our minds, to be uncovered again December 10th of this new year. The sense of failure is back and so are the cast , the directors and writers of the play that is called "Your Life".

As with all plays, they obtain reviews which are keenly read by all who are involved, the old hand at the plays will ignore the bad reviews and just get on, however, most will be hurt, demoralised etc., by them, and many give in and give up. So it is with the play that is your life. We take on board all the bad reviews and become demoralised, the only difference being that 90% of the time you are both the play-write and the critic.

Humans are the only living creatures that talk to themselves. Each and every day, every hour giving your critique on you. What we need to ensure is the information we are feeding ourselves is positive. For instance, never be down on yourself about your body, hair even personality, as you have to know what you do not like in order to know what you do like, and once you have the vision of what you do like you then have given yourself the starters gun that will propel you forward towards the point where you want to be. Never be unhappy about yourself as without contrast and desire there cannot be change.

You are right here and now in this moment the sum total of the thoughts and actions that you have taken up to this point, therefore if you change your thoughts and actions from this point forward you will then be the sum total of those thoughts and actions, each step propelling you forward towards your desire.

GO FORWARD, ENJOY YOU, ENJOY CONTRAST, ENJOY DESIRE AND ENJOY LIFE, APPRECIATE THE NOW.

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Looking for freedom

2009-12-19T06:23:00.000-08:00

As I walked with my old friend we talked. It was a good time for me because I was very depressed, and although I was suffering I knew that the depression was purifying (all the depressed parts of me were leaving), even in the middle of that dark night when all I wanted to do was escape, I knew that my experience was ultimately great, one might even say fantastic.
Why was it so fantastic? Because even though I was walking, talking and sleeping in a thick fog of melancholy I knew what I wanted. I knew exactly and precisely what was missing from my life.

Freedom.

I wanted freedom and I intended to get it, at what ever the cost.
When I told my friend that I wanted to be free my certainty was as hard as diamond.
Up until that time I had lead a colourful life, but I had not experienced the free will I craved. And the reason my depression was so fantastic is because I innately knew that my escape lay in the very belly of the feelings that were shoving me around like a playground bully. I wanted to be free, even though I was afraid of being free, in fact up until that moment I had been running away from it. I know that sounds stupid, why would anyone run from their freedom?
I ran because I was scared.

It frightened the living shit me because to grab hold of freedom I had to let go of all the certainty I had grown to love and hate in equal measure.

Certainty may seem reliable, even dependable, but ultimately it is a prison sentence for the weak of will, the blind and the ignorant.

People get pissed because, even though they know they are drinking poison, there is certainty in drink. They know they can come home from a hard day and find a cold welcoming beer or ten in the fridge. I have watched close friends and family members place their bones over a weekend bar, because they want oblivion, because stupor seems easier than sovereignty. They try to thaw their bleak existence with a pint of warm beer. They do not want to remember their life, and the Monday morning alarm is a nemesis best avoided. People use alcohol as a hidey-hole. They also use it to punish themselves. You only have to listen to the language of a drinker to know that much; ‘I’m going to murder myself at the weekend…I’m going to get smashed out of my brains…’ and post assault, ‘I was wrecked…I was mangled…I was out of my face dying with the drink…’

People over eat because there is reliability in food. You are not going to be rejected by an XXL pizza with all the toppings. A large thin Italian is like a wool blanket on a chill night. People literally rub their hands with glee at the thought of a too much good food, even though the consequence bloats their bodies, strains their belts and pops their clogged hearts with all the strain. Excess is the devil, no doubt, but fuck, it is the devil we all know and love. And sexual porn? It’s the best looking person you ever saw, on demand, and they never says no! All they asks is that you come back again tomorrow, and the next night, even and especially if you don’t want to. And they won’t take any money; they are free. All they wants is your soul.

Put all three together - beer, pizza and a good wank - and you have the 21st century family right there. How wonderful. I might sound judgmental, even pious, but if I am it is as much to myself as it is to anyone reading this article (thinking ‘sanctimonious bitch’) because I have spent some time in the company of all three, and they still call out to me at times of stress and worry and stretch. Let me tell you why I am so evangelical in my message. Because the reliability of addictions comes at the cost of our freedom. I don’t know about you but I’d like to get a bit more for my liberty that a fat dripping bread-and-cheese take-away, a barrel of anti-freeze and a two dimensional actor selling fake fucks for bucks.

People think they’re free but mostly they are not. They are imprisoned in the wrong job, the wrong relationships and ultimately the wrong life. Most people look in the mirror and see the wrong face looking back at them. And they crawl to their addiction mistresses for some easy solace. They would like to escape their captivity, they really would, if only they knew how. In fact most people don’t escape their imprisonment because they are often not consciously aware that they are locked up. And if there is awareness, however faint, it is dressed in the lead-overcoat of excess and self pity and thrown in the water to ensure a drowning.

Freedom is scary because there is responsibility attached. When you are free you have to make decisions. Choices. You. No one else, just you. You can no longer blame your husband/wife/partner if things go wrong, or your children because their care keeps you trapped in an unfulfilling universe, or your upbringing because ‘I had it hard’ or the government because they conspire again the likes of us.

Freedom means that you can do what you want, when you want and how you want. You are your own Alpha and you are your own Omega. It means you have to let go of the blame crutch and walk unaided, you have to stop waiting for the nod, and instead give yourself permission, you have to stop waiting to be discovered and discover yourself. It’s all down to you. How scary is that!

You have been telling yourself stories for a long time about what you would do if you won the lottery, where you would go if you had the mobility, and how you would live if you were a free man. Well here’s the news; you are the lottery, you have the mobility, you always had it, and you are free! In fact the space ship you were born into (the body you are sitting in now) is ready and equipped to take you on the most outrageous adventures, if only you will take courage lift off. Og Mandino, in his classic “The Greatest Miracle in the World”, reminds us of what a miracle we all are; our eyes have over a hundred million receptors that allow us to see our freedom, our ears have twenty four thousand fibres to help us hear the truth, our body is equipped for any journey with its five hundred muscles, two hundred bones, and seven miles of synchronised nerve fibre, the heart that feeds those muscles with oxygen beats six million times each year pumping more than six hundred thousand gallons of blood every twelve months through more than six thousand miles of veins, arties and tubes, and within your nine pint quota of sticky red are twenty two trillion blood cells, and within each of those cells are millions of molecules each with its own atom oscillating at more than ten million times a second. And the main computer, the three pound of grey matter we call a brain contains thirteen billion cells – that’s three times more cells per brain than there are humans on this spinning planet.
Often we think of ourselves an unworthy little clods of nothing. Actually we are a walking, taking galaxy of potential. Who ever you are and where ever you come from you get the same basic equipment. The question is, what are you going to do with it? You can’t keep on lying to yourself surely, about the fact that you have no advantages, that you have no choices and that freedom is but a wild fantasy for the rare few? You can’t tell that lie anymore, because the facts against it are overwhelming. And man has already used his freedom to create the most amazing spectacles, and to live the most astounding lives, history tells us this much.

So get off that bed of depression-nettles, and stop wallowing in your supposed disadvantages, you are not inferior, you are not a slug in chrysalis, you are a Butterfly unfolding. Don’t use your multi-billion £ piece of equipment for sweeping yards when there is a whole Universe out there for you to discover.

Be a Business Success: Part II Goal Setting

2009-11-29T13:35:00.000-08:00

Years ago, when this concept first came out, everyone went crazy on it. Everyone talked about it. Many, many tried it. But after a while, most people gave up setting goals because they came to the conclusion that it doesn’t work, or were convinced by someone else that it is a waste of time and only for 70's American car salesmen.

Setting goals works ten thousand times better than not setting them! But what usually happens is that as soon as people start to see a slight upturn, they think

“Oh, I don’t need to set goals anymore.”

and stop. You should set goals. Big goals. HUGE goals, and you should set them every day. Spend at least 5 minutes each day reading your goals, preferably in a morning, to get them into your head as you start the day. And do not stop setting goals just because you don’t see instant results. Setting goals is like turning the rudder of a heavy boat. It takes time to see results and if you ‘let go’ of the wheel, the boat will drift away from your chosen course.

However, sometimes big ‘waves’ come and push you off course. Don’t give up. Keep hold of the wheel regardless of what happens. As a result, you will achieve your goals… but sometimes not as soon as you thought you would. Don’t let anything or anyone stop you from steering your course. Lots of people, on the other hand, don’t just let go of their wheel, they hand it over to someone else! That someone else is usually of the pirate variety wanting to hijack their boat ram it into some nasty rocks, steal the booty and eat the crew … without even an apology!

Do not allow anyone onto your ‘boat’ let alone take hold of the wheel… metaphorically speaking of course…

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Be a Business Success: Part I Never Bragg

2009-11-28T11:06:00.000-08:00

People are always talking themselves up because they are insecure. They spend most of their lives borrowing money so they can show other people what they have. They talk about profits when they mean turnover. They talk about how their house has gone up in value and that they’re worth many thousands of pounds, forgetting that everyone else’s house has also gone up and forgetting that they have to live somewhere and forgetting that they have paid thousands in mortgage payments and rates. Do not delude yourself. You should be totally honest with yourself and your real net worth. If you are broke then admit it to yourself and take corrective action. If you are loaded then celebrate… privately.

Now, because people are insecure, they are also prone to acts of uncontrolled jealousy. So you should only ever ‘appear’ to be slightly ‘well off’. Don’t borrow tons of money to look good, because you won’t feel good. Too many people borrow heaps of money they can’t afford to pay back in order to look good, but in private they are feeling terrible about the crippling debt repayments they have to make. There is another reason why you should not brag…If you brag to people you will notice some very weird things happening. First, they jump. This shock is the beginning of jealousy. They will dream about bringing you down to their level. They have no control over their mind but it still works the same way as in if you dream about something often enough then you will take automatic action to bring it about. (They haven’t figured out that they can use this same mechanism to better their own lives but… whatever) They’ll start saying things about money and watching your reaction. They will talk you into ‘going round’ and when you get there they will be funny with you. They will do whatever it takes to make their dream a reality. They will lure you into a false sense of security and then start withholding approval or something pathetic like that. But it gets worse than that…Because you have bragged to them, you set up a ‘I hope I don’t go broke because they will laugh at me’ feeling. This makes you worry more if things don’t look too good. This in turn will make you think about going broke more. This will bring it about… as the mind automatically moves you towards what you’re thinking about… Bragging is a big no no!

If anyone asks “How’s business?” just say “Oh I’m rattling along. Paying the bills… just.”. Resist the urge to tell them how much you’re earning. If you do, they will smile because subconsciously they know you have just set yourself up for a fall.

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