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The Benefits Of Your Coffee Addictions

2014-09-14T09:26:00.003+07:00

Who doesn't love coffee? Everybody does. Whether it's because the taste, the brand, the ingredients, everyone loves it. A cup of coffee, could calm your most stressed soul and mind.

The truth is, I blog about this because coffee has been the part of my life, and I want to know if my addictions are really benefiting or not.
There surely are very much stereotypes for coffee, whether it could rise the percentage of your heart disease or even cancer. So I did some research over the internet.

In fact, daily coffee consumption could reduce your percentage of mortality, as well as protects you against diseases such as Parkinson's, type 2 diabetes, liver disease even liver cancer. Although this may not be true for younger people who drinks large amount of coffee.

Here are some of the benefits of drinking coffee.

1. Coffee can help you burn fat.

Many of us doesn't know that every commercial fat loss supplements or drinks contain caffeine.

Actually, caffeine is one of the very few natural ingredients that have been proven to aid fat burning. Several studies show that caffeine can boost the metabolic rate by 3% - 11% as well as specifically increase the fat burning by as much as 10% in obese individual and 29% in lean people.

However there's a possibility that this benefit will diminish in a long term coffee consumption.

2. It improves energy level and make you smarter.

Coffee is known to help people feel less tired and increase their stamina. It's because it contains caffeine which is the most commonly consumed psychoactive substance in the world.

A while after you drink coffee, the caffeine will be absorbed into your bloodstream and travels to your brain. Caffeine blocks and inhibitory neurotransmitter called Adenosine in your brain.

When that happen, the amount of other neurotransmitters like norepinephrine and dopamine actually increases, leading to enhanced firing of neurons.

Coffee improves various aspects in the functions of the human brain, such as mood, memory, stamina, reflex, reaction time, and general cognitive function.

Scientist from the medical university in Innsbruck, Austria, found that the person who drinks a cup of coffee every morning perform much faster in short-term memory test than the guys who skipped the morning coffee.

3. It improves your physical performance.

Caffeine stimulates the nervous system causing it to send signal to the fat cells to break down body fat, as well as increasing the adrenaline levels in the blood.

Adrenaline is designed to make our body ready for intense physical exertion and situation. Caffeine makes your body fat break down into fatty acids and storing them as fuels.

So, why don't you drink a cup of coffee an hour or two before you head to the gym?

4. Essential nutrients

A single cup of coffee contains:

Riboflavin (Vitamin B2): 11% of the RDA.
Pantothenic Acid (Vitamin B5): 6% of the RDA.
Manganesse and Potassium: 3% of the RDA.
Magnesium and Niacin (B3): 2% of the RDA.

This may not look so much, but imagine drinking 2-3 cups a day and slowly adding up that nutrients.

5. You will live longer.

It have been asked frequently whether coffee does actually add years to our life or it will strip it away. Well, the answer is, it'll add more years to our life.

Harvard School of Public Health nutritional expert Dr. Rob Van Dam found that caffeine addicts may live longer than those without. He and a team of researchers studied over 130,000 coffee drinkers over the course of 24 years and found out that the side effects is nothing to be worried about.

6. It can fights depression and make you feel better.

Depression is a serious mental disorder which drastically reduce the quality of life. Often had by young adults (middle-aged peoples).

In a Harvard study (2011), women who drank 4 or more cups per day have a 20% lower chance of having depression.

Another study with 208,424 person found out that those who drank more than 4 cups per day have 53% less chance to commit suicide.

7. It's the biggest source of Antioxidants.

We are living in a world where healthy diet seems impossible to do. We often eat unhealthy foods thus making us need a larger amount of Antioxidants in our body.

Coffee is one of the way of getting it. It is the ingredient that contains massive amount of Antioxidant even more than fruits and vegetables combined.

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Things You Need To Change Or Let Go If You Want To Be Successful

2014-09-07T19:21:00.003+07:00

Everybody has things in their life that pulls them down, preventing them from achieving their goals, preventing them from loving life and loving themselves.

Think about the reason why many birds can fly, it's because they are incredibly light.

Well we are not birds of course,
but by taking the load off your mind can have a similar effects.

Here are those things which may be pulling you down right now :

Your accustomed way of thinking

When you're having a problem at some point in your lives, and you know that you're stuck, the first thing you should stop and examine is your way of thinking. Learn to watch your thoughts in a third person perspective, you'll realize how stupid you was when you're able to do so.

Understanding the way you think and why you think like the way you think is the key to changing your life.

Your reality and perspective of life

The way you think brings about the things you think about, how you view the world, the life, what you believe. The way each person think are different and unique, person from a loving family will have a different views and ways of perspective from those who came from harsh family.

We all learned different life lessons in different manners that have created our own theories about how the life works the way it does. Unfortunately our perspective are't always true or accurate, and it's not 100% helpful.

But with focus we could change our perspective and views our reality in a better way.

Your past failures

Nobody in existence that haven't ever failed at something in their life. Even robots that are programmed so well the AIs could match humans could make an error.

Failing is a part of living as well as the part of existing. There's no need and no reasons to be ashamed of it. It have always been told that we must all learn from our mistakes and failures.

However, the failures itself could continue to pull you down while the lessons lift you up higher. It's all matter of putting thins into perspective. Remember the bow quotes right?

Your habits you love to be doing even though you know it's bad

This habits are hard to get rid, as they brings joy and temporary happiness into your life. It may be more useful if you don't remove those habits from yourselves but by simply limit how much we indulge in them.

Life is meant to be enjoyed, if it brings joy and happiness, why should we get rid of it? But again, it's a matter of perspective. Be honest with yourself and make the right decision.

All those bad people that brings negativity into your life

Most people are simply throwing negativity because they just want it, there're some others doing their best to pull you down and see you fall.

While they're not necessarily bad, but unfortunately these people do not add as much as they take from us. There is no point befriending someone who in the end are going to leave you feel disappointed.

Keep your distance from them since they're not a good addition into your life. Respect your life and leave them out of it.

False beliefs

There are some beliefs that have little to no supporting facts. Then there are others that have plenty of supporting theories and experience that aren't certain yet, that still actually aren't facts.

Neither of those should be taken as facts, instead it should be always questioned.

It's better if you don't believe anything that aren't certain, and maybe you should even question those things that you do believe to be certain.

Always keep an open mind for we don't know what might happen and develops in the future. The things once believed to be impossible are indeed possible, like flying. You can hope all you want, but don't believe blindly as it does you no good.

Unhealthy lifestyle

Most of us have an unhealthy lifestyle, if you have an unhealthy lifestyle and you know that you do, why are you still choosing to continue living in such way? Think about answering this and it should be easier to make a change.

Pointless Fear

Some fears are necessary. The fear of falling a 200 foot drop, the fear of losing someone, fearing someone who's trying to hurt or kill you, fearing of killing someone and yourself. We have fear, simply too keep us alive and living.

But we do not have it to hold us back and keep us down.

There's always a chance of failing, of dying, of pain, but we should not be afraid to gamble. When it's about your life or health, play it safe, otherwise go all in.

Your poor self-image

You are you and you will be you until you were you. You are awesome because you believe you do. That's enough, you don't need to impress anyone else.

Why? because you are living for yourself, not the others.

You can change whatever you don't like about yourself, that need to be changed. All you need is possibility.

Repetitive life

Doing the same thing with the same way on a same time same place everyday surely is a damn hell. Nobody could do something like it without any break and relief, they'll bored to death.

This happen mostly at your job, but it doesn't mean you can't change it at all. Why don't you try doing the thing you usually do with different ways? I'm sure there aren't only one way of doing something, or you quit your job, finding a new one, well it may sounds extreme and crazy but it may open a lot more opportunity for you to be success, you always wanna gamble you know.

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Difference Between Those Who Appreciate Life And Those Who Don't

2014-09-03T18:54:00.001+07:00

What is existence? How could we know we really exist? Well, mathematically, we shouldn't exist. In fact we couldn't even know whether we are really exist or other's existence are the same as our existence.

You shouldn't be alive, you shouldn't exist. yet there will always be a lottery winner. And like most lottery winner, you are probably wasting your winnings. We were given the most valuable things, free mind, body, time, space, intelligence, life.

And yet we're always wasting them, we never worry about money, about anything until the resources start to run dry. It's the same as us, we never worry about our life, until we realize how quickly our time is running out.

When we realize then, usually it'll be too late. Wasting your life shows how unappreciative you are, You were given the most valuable things yet you just squander it away. You are not appreciating the life you are given.

But on contrary, there will always be those who appreciate life, and they greatly differs from those who don't.

They don't work jobs they hate

Hating your job, is to hate the time you spend doing that job. Or in another words, to hate spending your precious time. At some point in our lives, we all have to do things we are not comfortable doing, and it'll happen very often.

That doesn't mean that we have to continuously convince ourselves every day what we do are really making any sense. Remember that we're not doing those jobs 365 days, and we could do many other positive and interesting things.

They don't befriend people that are bad for them

While it's good to befriend people as much as we can, unfortunately most of these people do not add as much as they takes from our lives. If you think logically, why should we even befriend them? Why do we even befriend someone who in the end are going to leave us disappointed?

What I mean here is you're not completely un-befriending them but you keep your distance from them, you don't let them influence you into something terrible and bad. Don't make people thing you're some kind of anti-social freaks.

Well, this is not to say that they're necessarily bad, it's just, it's not a good addition into your life. Respect your life and leave them out of it.

They have their priorities straight

This is probably the most difficult concept to understand and comprehend because the answer differs from one person to another thus making it not having a universal answer. But there is indeed a universal guidelines. But basically you have to understand what's important and what's not.

Life, love, and goodness are the guidelines. How you add to those is up to you.

They don't take lives of others for granted

Don't only appreciate your life, but appreciate what life is. Which means to appreciate lives of those around you, whether it's a living creature, humans, plants and animals.

Be grateful of your life. To appreciate a life is to appreciate the life itself.

They never waste a single day

Like what Bruce Lee quoted,

"If you love your life, don't waste your time, for time is what life is made up of.".

Time is what fuels life. If we run out of it, our life ends (we die). Your time in this world ends. All your hope and dreams, all the things you want to do, all the people you want to meet, all the things you want to accomplish, everything comes to an end.

Those who understand this, do not let themselves live a single day in their life with regret of not fully living it.

They look back, but they are not living in the past

All the things that we had lived through are important to remember. They are filled with life lessons as well as pleasant memories. There's always something to look back to, to make us remember how hard we fall or how hard we try to achieve that little success in our life.

Our past should never be forgotten, but at the same time we shouldn't be spending too much time looking back with disappointment and sadness. We do not have the time for regrets. What was, was and no longer is.

They live in more than one pace

You shouldn't live in one single fashion, following one life motto and purpose. Living fast and dying young sounds fun and challenging, while living slow and meditation sounds peaceful as well as boring. You can't experience those two with just one pace of life.

If you want to experience all that life have to offer, you have to live in both extremes, fast and slow, creating your very own balance. Only by doing so, that you'll be able to get the whole picture.

They understand how amazing they are, and they truly love themselves.

How could you not love yourself? Loving yourself means you are also loving life, because you yourselves are life itself. Realize how amazing you are, how many times have you hit the ground but still manage to stand up.

We are gifted beings, with free mind and soul that we can become everything we want to be. If you happen to not loving your current selves (in terms if you are bad now), don't be afraid of changes, be the person you will love, the person you were supposed to be.

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How To Unlock Your Talent And Greatness

2014-08-28T21:01:00.002+07:00

Some people are born with natural talent, while others must work day in and day out to achieve theirs. We can easily see it in another people, we can recognize their talents, encourage them to take action, to go for their dreams and passion.
Most of us won't have problem identifying what's amazing about the people we care about, or even complete strangers, we'll admire them, look up to them or even becoming their fans.

Somehow when we're looking around us, fuming gifted people with their awesome talent will leave us into a question. How can we do well like them, how to be great at something, how can greatness be achieved?

We were taught from a young age, about talent, that God has gifted us our own unique talents and it's up to us to find it, grow it, and use it. Since all our specialty are unique, we can't follow others on what they're doing. We could be doing the same job but we surely don't do it the same way they're doing it.

In our society, recognizing and admitting our own talent were often treated as an act of arrogance since we have been taught from childhood to be humble, and it's not polite to just go up and say "I'm good at this" , leaving us to deny our own talents, our own greatness.

But there's a big difference between recognizing your talent and bragging about them.

Arrogance in fact is when you believe you're better than all of them, you believe you had surpassed everyone that they couldn't surpass you anymore. But recognizing is when you know you are awesome, so as everyone. You're willing to work and improve with them.

Although each person must find his/her personal talent or greatness, there is a key to help us find it.

Persistence

Some days we'll want to quit. We'll feel pain, low self-esteem. Those time will really suck. Those time will and could take so much out of you when you're consistently working towards your goals and not reaching them. Well, instead of giving up and throw everything away, why not celebrate, look back and see how far you've got, count every small achievements you've got,

Everyone told us to learn from our failures, but why not learn from our successes? learn from the step you took, to made that success happen.

Willingness To Fail

Why are you here? why are we here? It took a very long journey, full of trials and challenge, for us to simply think that we won't be best at anything. But instead, I'm telling you it's truly notable if you can willingly give it your all, even if you know you may fail or won't be best.

Define what you are doing, and why you are doing it. Remind your self, every single day that today you may fail, you may get discouraged, but after that failures you'll stand up and continue to try even if it's painful and uncomfortable. But you surely will learn something, whether you fail or you succeed.

Don't quit. You'll never know what you could've been.

Vulnerability

Each time we go through challenge and experience with our vulnerable selves, we leave the door open to opportunity. Closed minds create small results, but open minds create endless possibilities.

We always convince ourselves that pain is unbearable and we should never feel it. We're inside a ball which is our comfort zones, and neither good or bad things could come inside it. So I'm telling you to break it. Accept things, good or bad it'll always be worth it.

Belief

It's a crucial step toward being your own version of awesome is to identify your goals. You should be realistic in this process. These goals should be the one you actually believe you can achieve. Goals don't guarantee success but it could create a focal point for you to set your beacon or checkpoint.

Once you've set your goals, no matter how small it is, you'll have to start preparing for the journey to achieve this goal.

Believe in yourself. Easy to say, not easy to do. In fact it is the hardest thing to do towards impressing and inspiring yourself.

Welcome The Greatness

Fame, glory, money, successes, etc, won't make you great and awesome all of these are just side dishes towards finding your fulfillment, to make you feel whole and happy.

Greatness is about finding yourself and being able to pour your heart into something you love with acceptance that you might fail and belief that you will stand up again.

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7 Reasons You Shouldn't Be Afraid To Exercise

2014-08-24T21:30:00.001+07:00

It’s not unlike a vicious cycle: You’re feeling bad about yourself, so you don’t want to go to the gym, and you don’t want to go to the gym, so you end up feeling bad about yourself.

Or maybe all the intense juiceheads and soul-crushing skinny betches walking around have gotten you scared of ever setting foot in the weight room.

At some point in our lives, we’ve all experienced “gymtimidation,” or the fear of working out at a gym because everything from the crazy contraptions to the seriously ripped bodies is extraordinarily intimidating.

If you’re struggling to overcome your gymtimidation, you’re not alone: A survey of over 500 men and women conducted by Cosmopolitan Body found that women are twice as embarrassed about exercising as men, especially when they feel other gym-goers are taking notice of them.

But you shouldn't let your gym anxiety prevent you from getting fit and improving your health — it’ll just impede your progress even more.
With help from Ricki Friedman, motivational health coach and founder of Breaktheweight.com(an inspirational business and website designed to guide individuals to live healthier and happier lives in unique and fun ways), here’s why and how you should stop feeling intimidated by the gym

1. You don't need to be fit to go

That’s why you’re going to the gym! Cosmopolitan Body found that 15 percent of women are afraid of appearing out of shape and therefore avoid going to the gym.

But skipping your workout will only exacerbate this self-conscious feeling. The best way to get over feeling flabby is doing something about it.

A lot of people hate the gym because they feel fat or bad about themselves, says Ricki Friedman

She suggests overcoming this by making a playlist of really inspirational songs that get you super pumped.

And I would put my headphones on before I even left my car so that when I walked into the gym [my feelings] didn’t matter as much because I was getting pumped up by my awesome music.

2. You can easily avoid the locker room

If you’re part of the 97 percent of women who feel uncomfortable walking around naked in the locker room, the easiest way to overcome this is by showing up already in your workout gear. You don’t have to change in front of other nude strangers

And if you’re coming directly from the office, the privacy of the bathroom stall is always another alternative, offers Ricki.

3. Instructors will gladly show you how to use the machines and free weights properly.

With big, grunting men and devices that look like they belong in torture chambers, it’s no wonder that 44 percent of those surveyed for Cosmopolitan Body fear the weight room.

But you’ll never know how to use those machines if you don’t ask. That’s what those trainers are there for!

Upon signing up, many gyms also offer a free personal training session, which is an excellent opportunity to learn how to use the equipment and understand what weights you should start with. Classes can also provide you with ideas on movements and exercises.

Remember that the judgments you’re making about yourself are coming from you and not those around you. And here’s something to make you feel less insecure: around 20 percent of men in the weight room have no clue what they’re doing either.

4. You're there to build confidence

It’s completely natural if you’re lacking self-confidence, but instead of letting that deter you from going, channel this as motivation to work harder.

The point of the gym is to get healthier and provide people a space to do so. Just keep reminding yourself of that fact whenever you feel out of place or insecure — you’re actually exactly where you should be, notes Ricki.

Also try telling yourself that you’ll for sure leave the gym feeling better than you would having not gone at all.

5. Everyone is focused on themselves, not you

If people are looking at you, it’s because they envy what you’re doing. Most people, however, are too concerned with checking out themselves in the mirror.

Every single person at the gym thinks that every single other person at the gym are is watching them, says Ricki.

But the bottom line is that we're way harder on ourselves than others are. And although we like people to think people care that much about us, they really don't. So just do your thing.

Also, who really cares what anyone else thinks about your workout? According to Jamie Medeiros, director of marketing at Planet Fitness, 85 percent of people don’t belong to a health club, which already makes you ahead of the game.

And if you’re seriously insecure, bring a friend along to help relax you and make your workout more fun. You’ll be less focused on everyone else around you.

6. The gym is liberating

You can sweat like a complete pig and it’s totally appropriate. You can listen to music and move your body in any way that feels satisfying. You can escape the pressures of work, life and home.

Ricki likes the gym because she gets to tune everybody out, literally.

I don’t take my headphones off the entire time. When you’re excited and in the groove with your favorite songs, you’re less concerned about the girl next to you because Beyoncé is playing.

The gym can’t be too terrifying if the Queen has got your back.

7. Bonus: Here's Ricki's go-to pump-up playlist

1. “Trumpets” by Jason Derulo

2. “I like how it feels” by Enrique Iglesias

3. “Shower” by Becky G

4. “Let the beat build” by Lil Wayne

5. “Work” by Iggy Azalea

6. “Bad” by David Guetta

7. “Radio” by Beyoncé

8. “Stolen Dance” by Milky Chance

9. “Heads will roll (A-Trak remix)” by Yeah, Yeah, Yeahs

10. “Happy” by C2C11. “Bailando” by Enrique Iglesias

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Article originally appeared on : EliteDaily

Article originally written by : Laura Argintar

Sugeban Restaurant And Café Pontianak

2014-08-18T18:15:00.002+07:00

With so many restaurants opening every week, it takes a good restaurant to survive the competitive market, and it takes a better one to continuously stay at the forefront of the industry. Sugeban Restaurant or the locals usually call it Ayam Sugeban (lit. "Sugeban's Chicken) is one of them.

Have been running for more than 20 years Sugeban never fails of catching her customers, there are two Sugebans we visit, the first one which is also the oldest one is located on Jalan Teuku Umar, while this one is on Jalan Alianyang.

The moment we stepped in this restaurant, we were amazed, by how green it was and how neatly the tables are in order,also we noticed that there's 3 parts or 3 types of places here.

The first part is the cafe look alike site, with the sofas and well lit place, it is a good site to arrange/have a meeting or simply talk about business.

Moving on to the second part, it's more family like in here i'd say. You could choose between the classic local "lesehan" style or just ordinary sittings. I don't recommend this one for couples or groupies though, but it might be good for families.

And the last site, the outdoors. It really looks like a lounge, with many plants and a large pond filled with goldfish makes a calm and un-rushed environment to dine at.

Well of course good place is nothing without good foods. They have a large selection of foods from asian dishes like chicken katsu till the locals like sayur asam pedas and of course their most special dishes which is ayam sugeban.

Here are some foods we ordered :

Chicken Katsu. IDR 30k

The chicken katsu they offered was very crispy with large chicken portion on the middle, and the appetizing vegetable salad. The only concern are there are still some chicken bones inside the katsu which makes it hard to eat.

Fish and Chips. IDR 25k

It's very crispy and the fish are very fresh too. The french fries are ordinary though.

Beef Teriyaki. IDR 35k

The teriyaki sauce is a bit disappointing i'd say. But overall it's good, with fresh beef and vegetables.

Fruit Platter. IDR 25k

I've always wanted something refreshing for the desserts, so here it is. The melons are really fresh and sweet, it's really good for a desserts.

It's my personal taste but I'd give a B+ for the food and an A for the place. My visit to Sugeban was really fantastic with the cheap prices and super cozy atmosphere and the ambiance during the night really sets up the mood.

Jalan Alianyang Num. 36
Pontianak
West Borneo 78116
Indonesia

Opening Hours
09.30 - 23.00 weekdays and weekends.

Info and Reservations
0561 - 767128

5 Reasons Why Your Haters Could Motivate You To Be Better

2014-08-08T22:26:00.000+07:00

In life, you'll have goals. On the way to achieving this goal, you'll encounter problems, one of the problems are the haters. Many tell us to ignore these comments but, it's better if you don't.

Listen to your haters, deliberately, every single word. Why? Because it will makes you angry, it'll infuriate you. It will likely irritate you to the point where you find yourself awake, with bloodshot eyes, thinking "How the hell am I going to make all these people eat their words?".

Hates are like bacteria, it's possible the amount of hates thrown at you will be doubled in a single night, and when you wake up tomorrow, you'll have a new bunch of haters.

Don't run from it. In fact, you can't run nor hide from it.

Everyone has haters, if you don't you're probably not doing anything or at least, not anything all that well. Hate will always follow success, like a shadow - always looking to cast some shade. Well, take a deep breath and accept it.

Of course, it's easier said than done, especially if they're going the physical path of destroying you. The thing is, the impact of their action will depends only in your hands. If you get discouraged your will discouraged by them, you'll lose, you'll be defeated.

It's a matter of perspective, and action. If you choose to harness that hate, and project it towards progression, you'll find yourself inspired. Don't limit yourself, never underestimate your own abilities. Others will do it for you. Your job is to prove that ability.

There's reasons why haters can motivate you,

1. They're just jealous.

If someone are hating on you, there's a huge chance they're jealous, in some way, shape or form. Usually, haters are simple-minded people. When they see someone shines brighter than them, but they can't have that light, their next mission is to steal it.

That's what people do when they can't empower themselves. They look to detract on others.

Before letting a hater knock you off your path. Stop and think. Be confident on what you do and tell yourself "He can't and won't be able to trade his place with mine right now".

Think more of yourself, respect yourself. Take their hate as compliments. If they are wasting enough of their time to put a hate on you, you are surely a big threat to them.

2. But a lot of times, they're right.

Other times, the hate you're dealing with may be justifiable. Maybe you're starting something new, like a new job or career, and are still learning the ropes. Or trying to do whatever you're learning to the next level. Maybe you're experimenting with your own personal style.

Be realistic. You're bound to slip and fall, even after achieving a success. Think that this isn't a failure, but learning. As we've been told by now, you learn from mistakes.

Although sometimes others see mistakes as the perfect opportunity to voice their opinions. Remember, while mistakes provide perfect opportunity for hate, these opportunity can't last forever. Mistakes are temporary, they can be fixed.

Try and see the silver lining in criticism. Hate can often ruin days, and you know something. That's fine, as long as tomorrow, you respond.

Accept hate, while it may not be exactly what you want to hear, learning from it might better you in a long run. Improvement is necessary for success, and "needs" should always prioritize before "wants".

3. They always light a fire under your ass.

It's the human nature. To play very well under pressure, or when they're mad.

You only need to click that trait, and start to learn how to do better when you're mad. Use the hate as your fuel. When someone tells you "you'll never make it", make it twice, and thank him for providing the motivation.

Receiving criticism, will provoke a pair of potential responses. You'll either bounce back, or bounce forward. That decision is for you to make.

4. They force a response.

It's fine to let criticism get to you, as long as you respond tomorrow.

Never react to haters, respond. Reactions are based on emotion, and emotions can be irrational. It's like impulses, impulses are never well-thought. In fact it didn't even contain a thought, just like reflexes.

Responses, on the other hand, are planned. They're formulated. They bear a meaning and they have a purpose.

5. You'll soon surpass them.

There's no better feeling than defying the odds. Even if the "odds" where the words of some hater. In that case, there's no better feelings than defying the words of these haters.

Embrace your haters, so that down the road, you can tell them "I told you so".

Even if you never speak like that, you never uttered those words, prove them wrong, while striving to empower yourself, you won't need to victimize others, just by doing so will leave them victim enough.

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What Makes A Good Restaurant?

2014-08-05T21:26:00.001+07:00

Eating out is an expensive business, so we really want to be sure of a good experience. Sadly this doesn't always happen.

Well, what makes us choose a restaurant? the food of course, but what about the location? The surroundings, how far apart the tables are, how fine the services are, the staff in general, the atmosphere, and of course the price?

Restaurants of course have to make us wants to go there, whether it's for a quick lunch, dinner with friends, or special occasion meal. But what makes one better than another? Successful restaurants offer a seamless dining experience, we only notice what a good restaurant do so well when you experience the same thing going wrong in a bad restaurant.

For me, the fun part of eating out is the fact that it's an unhurried social experience, with plenty of time to interact with your dining companions. A good restaurant settings should be able to encourages relaxed conversation and enjoyment of the foods and drinks.

First, the restaurant needs to be appropriately busy and the tables need to be spaced far enough apart so we don't feel we're being eavesdropped in our conversation. But indeed, some restaurant are so keen to squeeze in as many diners as possible that makes us sit so close that we eventually could have joined their conversations.

Talking on noise, it's quite a personal choice but background music has such an ability to colors the atmosphere of an evening too.

Moving on to the services, again it's a question of balance. Usually, we'll notice more if it's bad. Good service is not self conscious, not fussy and not attentive. We don't want the waiter hovering around, being so anxious to interrupt on our single nod, but then again, we don't want to wait for over 20 minutes before we can get someone to bring another glass of tea.

We don't want the staff to engage too much in our conversations or being ingratiating. I personally can't bear it when a staff or the proprietor comes out and pretends i'm his most loyal customers. It's a bit mean but it's true.

Well our number one complain actually is about the timing, the restaurant staff have a major effect on the success of an evening by getting the timing right or wrong. We of course want a gap between courses, but it's got to be right or things will feel hurried or drawn out. Restaurants has a frustrating habits of slowing things down, like it'd take half an hour just to order a coffee.

The last is the most important aspect of experience with the restaurant. The food. Everyone have different matter of taste. But whatever the style, we tend to value simple cooking with good quality ingredients over fuzzy and over-elaborate food.

Most chef mistakes novelty for innovation, mixing in bizarre combinations of flavors.We don't want our food to be too much or not enough. Some restaurants try to impress us with tiny, prettily dressed portions with large expanses of white plate, others go for opposite extreme fill as much as they can on the plate.Our plates should look "Just Fine".

Not many of us really care about this, but authenticity is a must, we don't want to eat a fake Italian stylized food with not genuine ingredients.

Most of all, we want to go to a restaurant where the staff is passionate about food and whose primary goal is excellence, not making a fortune.

Image Courtesy : We Heart It (Fish Tacos and Summer Dishes)

7 Things We Can Learn To Forgive

2014-08-03T00:11:00.004+07:00

When we're mad and our mind are spinning with vengeance, it's natural to wish the worst upon the person we're mad at. At some point, whether your friend betray you or your neighbor stole your cash or even something so simple like your parents forgot your birthday, we've all feel the pain of the broken unwritten promises.

It's really natural for us, for our head are spinning with vengeance, and you just want to curse that damned person, or even wish for the worst upon them. In fact if you could still be angry, it's a prove that you're still a well living human being that have soul and feelings.

But keep in mind, no matter how dirty the mistake or crime was, playing the victim card doesn't make you a better person, nor make your problems go away instantly.

It is how you handle your manners, your resentments, hold your anger that shows how strong your character are.

We all can choose, to hold a grudge and kept that hate bubble inside us poisoning our thoughts and mind. Or we can learn how to forgive.

There's no correct answers for each circumstances but only strong (mentally) people who can overcome their own anger and gracefully show their forgiveness. Forgivers tend to have some insights that allow their minds to overcome the bad doings of someone they had high respect for.

Here are the 7 things we can learn to overcome our anger in order to forgive :

Be Compassionate

Even if we don't agree with the intentions of someone, we must be able to open our mind and think about other's motives. Seeing things with other's perspective will makes it a lot easier to give up all the feelings of resentment.

Be Realistic

Remember that nobody is perfect, and there aren't just good and bad people as simple as black and white. Others make mistakes, so do we. Learn from them and evolve through their lifetime.

Courage

It takes lot of courage, to re-open your heart somebody who has broke your trusts, to believe that the future is bright and to be unafraid of the possibility of your heart breaking again.

See the best in people

Keep in mind, nobody is purely evil. Look for the positive aspects in someone who has wronged you, they must have something good in them. Remember, everybody have a soft spot.

It's your choice

Use your heart. It's essential to take care of yourself as your life tends to swing back and forth in the direction of your thoughts. You don't want a negative mind to drive you away to a wretched life.

There're more things in life that can make you happy

Piece together your heart by doing something you love, whether it's writing a story, cuddling with your puppy, cooking wonderful foods, or even playing video games to get your mind off the way you were unfairly treated. Take a moment of silence and realize that the world is still spinning around.

Let it go

Don't ever hold on the past, it's beyond our control. If something happened, let it be, there's nothing you can do about it. Release all of that unnecessary negative feelings and thoughts. You're burdening yourself by holding on to it.

Remember, shit happens and life goes on.

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. -Mahatma Gandhi

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The Secret Behind How This Guy Balances Rocks Is Very Unusual. Can You Guess It?

2014-08-01T19:30:00.002+07:00

Michael Grab has mastered the art of stone balancing. He explains how he does it. “The most fundamental element of balancing in a physical sense is finding some kind of “tripod” for the rock to stand on. Every rock is covered in a variety of tiny to large indentations that can act as a tripod for the rock to stand upright, or in most orientations you can think of with other rocks. By paying close attention to the feeling of the rocks, you will start to feel even the smallest clicks as the notches of the rocks in contact are moving over one another. In the finer point balances, these clicks can be felt on a scale smaller than millimeters. Some point balances will give the illusion of weightlessness as the rocks look to be barely touching. Parallel to the physical element of finding tripods, the most fundamental non-physical element is harder to explain through words. In a nutshell, I am referring to meditation, or finding a zero point or silence within yourself. Some balances can apply significant pressure on your mind and your patience. The challenge is overcoming any doubt that may arise.”

By paying close attention to the feeling of the rocks, you will start to feel even the smallest clicks as the notches of the rocks in contact are moving over one another. In the finer point balances, these clicks can be felt on a scale smaller than millimeters. Some point balances will give the illusion of weightlessness as the rocks look to be barely touching. Parallel to the physical element of finding tripods, the most fundamental non-physical element is harder to explain through words.

In a nutshell, I am referring to meditation, or finding a zero point or silence within yourself. Some balances can apply significant pressure on your mind and your patience. The challenge is overcoming any doubt that may arise.”

Michael says “it’s a fun way to relax, release stress, play, create… learn… all while challenging my skills and dabbling with countless possibilities…”

Photo Courtesy : GravityGlue

Source : LifeBuzz

This unselfish homeless guy shows us love ! Watch the awe inspiring video !

2014-07-31T10:23:00.001+07:00

The Model Pranksters was going down the street to find homeless people and offer them the opportunity to gain some money of they own by arm wrestling each other.

Well, of course it's a bit annoying and insulting to take people in need till their limits just for entertainment. But, first impression isn't always a successful one, wait until you watch this amazing footage. That literally blew your mind, find out how this people despite they don't know each other, despite the difficulties they're facing, they're still showing that they're human and have the morality everyone would be jealous of!

Let's take a moment and learn from them, despite not knowing each other, they still help each other, showed their love, showed that they are human, shouldn't we all try to be like them? This is the act, that humanity can be proud of.

Video Courtesy : ModelPrankstersTV

Why Caring Less Will Make You Happy?

2014-07-30T18:44:00.002+07:00

Caring is the nature of human, we can't live without caring and it's been said that the greatest motivation comes from the will to do something for someone you love.

But why caring less would make you happier? Well it's simple, we care too much for the little things that doesn't matter and take an important part in our life. We are afraid of being selfish for our self and that took a major part in why we are so careful of other non-important things.

For example, imagine you getting fed up by watching those frustrating television news, you can't help but take a deep breath getting upset about all those bad thing that happens around us. Happy people don't care for that. They don't care about what people think about them, they don't care about their failures, their past mistakes, about them being good enough, after all it all depends on yourselves, the only one you can change are yourself!

You don't need to care about not having something that someone had, if you want it, just work for it. You also need to stop thinking about the "what ifs", "what if i had that car", "what if i look like her", all those thoughts, stop it right now, the longer you think about it, the deeper you're getting yourselves pulled into the endless loop of this thoughts, instead of thinking this way, think about "HOW TO", "THERE MUST BE A WAY", instead of dreaming being someone or having something, WORK FOR IT!

Well of course the "selfish" isn't the other selfish, for example other people have to complete your wish to make you happy or you are prioritizing yourself above other people. The selfishness i referred are the one that actually makes you think more about yourself, that you are more likely to prevent rather than fixing something, you focused your positive mind into your wellness.

We all have to try.. to care less about the things we can't change and start focusing on the things we can change ourselves, start by being selfish for what food you're going to eat everyday, for the clothes and styles are you going to wear today.

Be more proud of yourself. Sometimes you just need to look back, to see how far you've come. Be proud of every little things you do, A little fat won't make you less attractive ;) .Just be more grateful of the things around you.

Be healthy. Watch a book about wellness, about health or about nature and take a time to meditate thinking about yourself, your good or bad actions and the next big move you're going to do. Do not get yourself over weighted, you'll end up hating the way you look and that'll surely makes you dislike yourselves. Remember, great action comes from a healthy mind, and a healthy mind comes from a healthy body, when you got all these, happiness will surely come following.

Be more selfish on how you treat your own body, changing the things you could change like your thoughts, your body, your mind, foods and exercises. Once you start to do it, watch the changes you brought to yourself.

Photo Courtesy : rockfeller

Stop Having These 8 Thoughts To Stay Motivated

2014-07-30T12:43:00.002+07:00

1. Ingratitude

People say it all the times "Be Grateful!". Of course it sounds nice, but the matter of life is relative, you're not even close to starving to appreciate those foods you eat.

When you aren't grateful, you focus on something that isn't there, and why you can't have it. Appreciation and Gratitude shocks you back to respect your life, instead of complaining why you don't have that life you dreamed of.

Well, how to be grateful of yourself and your life?

first, you need to be grateful of every little things around you, force your self to be grateful of it, whether it's just a food you eat everyday, a shower you took this morning or even your ability to breathe every second, Shout your gratitude towards someone who helped you, whether you say thank you or send them a thank you letter.

2. Envy

Your envy affect lot of things in your life. For example, when you're envious, you won't be able to do your work perfectly. Instead of being focused on your job, you are more likely to be focused on why you can't do that someone's job or like, you can't love your girlfriend if you wish you had another guy's girlfriend.

The most dangerous part of having and keeping this thoughts are, you can't find who yourself really are because you are wishing you're somebody else! Envy makes you blind of the opportunity that comes in your own life. You can't spend your energy worrying the things other people had.

To get off this thoughts,

Back to the first point. Be Grateful. You don't need to be envious of the other's if you're grateful of your own life. Do not envy another people's success, congrats them instead.

3. Impatience

We are not Mark Zuckerberg, we are not those geniuses who could be billionaires in our early life. Rome are not built in one night, so as our life.

Just imagine, when you get impatient of something you're working on, you will quit, there's no point in keep going on something that you yourself don't know when you'll reach the goal. Being patient instead, speed up your work and makes your progress even faster.

Focus on the process not the end. The great doesn't instantly succeed. We all have to work and experience failure. Stop obsessing those thoughts of "When'll this end", "When'll friday come" or so.

4. Overwhelmed

How are you going to get the spirit to do something, when you wake up you got like 20 task to finish tommorow?.

Our only option is to do it step by step. You can't do all the things at once don't you. Trying to do all the things at once are only to get you lost.

Simplify your life, you don't have to take all the things at once. Instead Write down alist of what you want to do today and do it. Organize your schedule. Just, Lower the bar.

5. Inaction

Inaction means you're not doing something, instead you are waiting for it to happen. The more you wait, the more hard it become to start something.

Commit to action everyday, and be consistent for it. Make your self to be scared of not doing something than you are doing it.

6. Lost of Meaning

If you feel like your work have no purpose. You are guaranteed to have no motivation to do it. Without meaning and purpose, we are lost. Sometimes when we try to find that meaning, we realize it's not really there.

The truth is, we don't need the explanation from all those motivation quotes or philosophy. All we need is just to get lost in some activity, we don't need a grand purpose to do the things.

We should do what we love and want, aim bigger, express our self with those bad songs or bad singing. Happiness will come following.

7. Nothing To Lose

Just like playing video games. You'll get bored super fast if you're playing the easy mode. There's no challenge. You are superior there and nothing can beat you. Same as our life, you won't be motivated if you're to comfortable in the zone.

Sometimes you just need to put yourself where there's actually something for you to lose. Sports are no fun if you don't care which team wins don't you?

Start to take risks and positions. Break out of your comfort zone.

8. Crappy People

I hate to say this, but if you're surrounded by people who sucks, you're most likely end up sucking, too.

If the people around you are not creative, not motivated, and they don't do something inspiring and motivating, how the hell are you going to be motivated? It's easy to be awesome if you're surrounded by awesome people. It's a mutual symbiosis in our social life.

Actually, this depends on you. You can cut the 3 worst people in your life, start emailing someone online, meet your good old friends. Do it your own way.

What if...

What if we've done all this things and still can't find that motivation? Well, maybe our subconscious is telling us that this isn't the thing for us, or we need to shake things up in a bigger way.

Find what's sucking your motivation, if you can't find it, ask a close friend to weigh in and see how the two of you can change the mindset for the better.

Photo Courtesy : tumblr

Sky Garden At Star Hotel Pontianak

2014-07-30T08:08:00.002+07:00

Lively, Cozy, and full of energy Sky Garden at Star Hotel Pontianak is a fun lounge and cafe to dine at. Upon stepping in we're greeted by the friendly waitress and quickly walk us to the place where we'll be sitting for the next hour.

The cozy atmosphere, refreshing wind and beautiful musics will be another reason we don't wanna leave this place.

They have amazing selection of food and drinks like cakes, mini pizzas, pastas, steaks, beers, and for you guys looking for pontianak's local culinary, you can find it here too!

Tiramisu Cheesecake, many kind of deliciousness in one cake i'd say.

Double Chocolate, Will fill your night with the sensation of both soft and refreshing taste.

Tenderloin Beef Steak.

The city's landscape is hard to resist.

It's been a fantastic experience with the cheap price, friendly service, awesome location and fantastic foods here. we will surely come back for more excitement another time.

Location : StarHotel Pontianak

A Quote From Buddha

2014-07-29T10:40:00.003+07:00

In the end, only three things matter,
how much you love,
how gently you lived, and
how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you.

- Buddha

Photo Courtesy : haikucorner

2014-07-19T16:47:00.001+07:00

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