Living the Dating Life

Being Single in a Dating World

2013-03-02T06:21:00.000-08:00

Being single in a dating world is sometimes tough. It seems like everyone else is paired up, either dating or married. Me I am single now, and well do not have plans to change that anytime soon. I mostly like being single.

I have tried the dating sites, and it seems like most of the males who write to me only want one thing. That would be good, if I was only looking for that one thing. Sex is highly overrated, and well after the last three boyfriends, I would rather skip it all together. Yes, perhaps all I need is to find a male who is good in bed to change my mind, but there is more to life then sex.

What about companionship? I miss having a male around to do things with outside the bedroom. Things like watching television, taking a walk or a drive heck even occasionally going out to dinner would be nice. The one thing I do miss the most is just having someone to talk to, other than my kids or my friends. I miss the simple, ‘hey how was your day at work’ type of conversations. I have to admit its also nice waking up next to someone as long as he is not clingy or has been stealing the blankets all night.

Until I find what I am looking for, I am not settling for a half-baked relationship. I want a man who works hard and plays even harder, he needs to know how to take care of himself, and be intelligent. Oafs do not need to apply! It is not that I wish to be spoiled with clothes, jewelry, or other gifts; it is that I wish to be respected in a relationship. I wish to be respected for the person I am, I will be and until then I will remain single.

Males who are not Dating Material

2012-11-10T11:29:00.000-08:00

How many times have you started dating mister perfect only to discover a few years down the road he was mister so not perfect? I think we have all been there, done that and some of us women keep going right back for more of the same stuff. Here are three types of men you never want to date.

We need to break that cycle and learn how to not date these guys! Yes, I am fully aware that guys also face this dilemma but this page is for the women! The first step is breaking the cycle is to figure out what type of men are out there and then learn why they are not good to date.

This guy thinks he knows why the sun sets, why the boss is doing everything wrong and he even knows when the world will end. He will go to great links to tell you why you should apply for a new job, how you should dress, and how to decorate your house. He knows everything and when you first begin dating, it appears he is well educated and very knowledgeable about life.

After a while of dating, the woman soon realizes that things are not adding up and tries to tell him. That is when the battle begins. Most men who think they know everything think a woman is dumb.

Mr. Competitive

He is doing all types of sports, and he pushes himself to extreme to be the best he can be.

Women see the sexy abs and lust wants a piece of that action.

After awhile you see he is too far into himself.

Mr. Let me help you

This guy wants to help you every way possible. He offers to mow the lawn, help with getting you a different job and wants to make other changes in your life that seem on the level at first.

He is actually trying to mold you into his own likeness. He prefers his woman to be very dependent on him. This is a form of control.

Run for the hills if one of these guys comes around. No man should ever change you or control you and for that matter no woman should change a man into her likeliness either.

Cheating Songs

2012-11-03T11:26:00.000-07:00

Those cheating songs may bring some folks laughter, while others cry. Yet to others it gives us empowerment after our heart begins to heal. I am one of those people who found empowerment in a cheating song after my husband cheated on me, many moons ago.

Patti Loveless released a song, ‘Blame it on your Cheating heart’ in 1993 and it was not until almost a decade later that this song became my own personal motto. I sung it loud, I sung it proudly, and it helped me get over my lying, cheating husband. With every note, I sung I pictured him. I knew what he threw away without thinking of the ramifications.

There are so many cheating songs that can be found on the Internet and most of these songs can be heard on the Internet. Some of these songs are funny, some are sad, and it seems as if they are in every genre of music. That is simply because cheating occurs in every culture!

Here are some well-known cheating songs that might help you feel better.

"Your cheating Heart" Patsy Cline

"Before He Cheats" by Carrie Underwood

"Blame it on Your Heart" by Patty Loveless
"Smile" by Lily Allen
"Does he love you (like he loved me)by Linda Davis & Reba McEntire

Goodbye to You" by Michelle Branch
"My Happy Ending" by Avril Lavigne
"You were meant for me" by Jewel

"You must not know bout me" by Beyonce

"Im not suppose to love you anymore" by Bryan White
Sexed up by Robbie Williams
"Your Cheatin Heart" by Hank Williams
"Oh Girlfriend" - Weezer.

"Don't Speak" by No Doubt
"Let it Be" by The Beatles
"I miss you" By Incubus

If you have ever been cheated upon, if so what is your favorite cheating song?

Committed Relationships

2012-10-27T11:23:00.000-07:00

Are you tired of being the bad ‘guy’ in the committed relationship when it heads south? Perhaps the word commitment scares you and you high tail it out of the relationship when you hear those words. You are not alone as commitment scares many people out of good relationships on a daily basis. However, please know the word commitment means different things to everyone.

The number one reason marriages or committed relationships flounder or break entirely is the lack of commitment and open honest communication within the relationship. How is one to know what type of commitment the other is looking for if it’s not communicated about.

So exactly what is commitment? That answer depends on whom you ask the commitment question. The answer varies from male to female and even person-to-person. There are different answers between people who are dating long term, living together and marriages. About the only type of romantic relationship where there is no commitment is casual dating.

There seems to be several levels of commitment for couples. Couples who are dating long term but do not live together have one type of commitment, while couples who live together have another type. Each type of relationship has its own level of companionship but the one thing that ties them together is open honest communication. Without that, a relationship is nothing.

It’s hard for dating couples at times to reach that level of open communication. However hard it might be, it needs to be done or you will find your self in a troubled relationship which if not rectified does spell the end of the relationship.

Talk with the one you love and see what commitment means to them. Once you are on the same page so to speak, the relationship may get better.

Aviod Break Ups

2012-10-20T11:22:00.000-07:00

Everyone who is in a romantic relationship wishes to feel as if he or she is a priority rather than an option. Once you let friends, family, hobbies, or work become more important than your significant other the relationship begins to flounder.

How do you save a relationship once it begins to crumble?

Sit down and have a heart to heart talk with the one you love. Begin spending quality time together.

Spending quality time together is very important, and quality time is much better than quantity in this case. Quality time is time when you are spent enjoying being together and sex is optional. There are many things a couple can do together that are free to low cost such as taking a walk together, sitting down and watching a movie or going to a concert in the park.

Quantity time is great if you get along, however a couple does need time apart from any relationship no matter how good it is. Taking time away from each other gives the couple a chance to be themselves. This does not mean that couples should spend days or weeks apart, but after an absence, it makes the heart grow fonder.

Remember

1.) Seeing your significant other once a month even thought you live close by and talk to her or him daily does not mean its quality time.

2.) Putting work, friends, hobbies, etc above your significant other does not cut it either. Even if your significant other tells you, they understand chances are they are simmering in the background.

3.) If you have a problem with your significant other chose to talk with them rather than talking to mutual friends.

4.) If you work a lot be sure to spend quality time with your significant other as you can. Do not allow 3 or 4 days to go by without physically seeing them or the relationship will go south.

5.) Sit down across from each other and talk, it will do wonders for your relationship.

Aviod Serial Dating

2012-10-13T11:21:00.000-07:00

Some women get right out there and begin dating while their heart is still reeling from the shock of the failed relationship. Instead of jumping back in the frying pan, find yourself once more. There are plenty of ways to keep yourself busy while your heart is mending.

1.) Get out and enjoy a new hobby. This works wonders for your sense of well being after you experience a breakup. Crafts are always a good idea!

2.) Read a book or better yet write one! Anyone can write a book and once completed they can publish it online.

3.) Go to church if you like that sort of thing or begin to volunteer at a local organization, which needs volunteers. Food banks, libraries, habitat for Humanity, and local community agencies can always use volunteers.

4.) Sit down and write out your feelings. This not only allows you to vent but seeing your words in black and white will show you why the relationship failed and why it’s better to leave it alone. Venting also is good to keep stress levels down.

5.) Figure out what it is that you enjoyed pre-him and do it again. That will help heal your heart and help you get over him.

6.) Join an online forum to talk with others about a hobby, work or simply to make new friends. The Internet is full of forums on a wide array of topics that can help on mend a broken heart.

7.) Throw yourself into work. If that does not keep you busy, I do not know what will.

8.) Get out there and start dating when you feel like it, but take the time to find yourself and figure out what you want out of a relationship before you jump back in.

9.) Pack his crap if anything is at your house and set it on the porch. Give him a few days to remove it and if he does not remove it, take it to Good Will.

10.) Get out into the world and have some fun. Go parasailing with friends, take a class at a community college, or simply go out for a few drinks with the girls.

Do not sit and cry over that man. Chances are you’ve already cried enough over his antics and wasted enough time that way.

Romance, its the little things

2012-10-06T22:44:00.000-07:00

Keeping the romantic spark alive when the one you love goes out of town on business frequently is a necessity. With so many personal relationships requiring work related time apart from each other, the necessity of inventive thinking comes into play.

While some of the tips and tricks in this article may seem silly, they could very well keep alive that loving spark that tends to fade when part of your heart leaves town. If you are ever faced with the prospect of your loving partner, leaving town on business these could mean the difference to your sanity.

Keeping the romantic spark alive by calling the one you love. Frequent calls back to the one you love are most welcome because it shows you care. These do not need to be long calls; during the day, a few minutes here and there will do the trick, but there has to be at least a long call once a day just to talk about how the day went and to catch up. It keeps the two of you connected, and in tune with each other, because if one of you should begin to feel neglected then problems begin.

Keeping the romantic spark alive by sending quick emails or text messages to the one you love. Emails about funny jokes or a quick email just to say hey I am thinking about you does wonders as does text messages on the cell phone.

Keeping the romantic spark alive by taking couple time with the one you love. Spending time with the family is nice but alone together is vital to any dating relationship. When a dating couple spends time alone together, catching up on the week's events it brings you closer and keeps the relationship strong.

Remember the most important way to keep the spark burning with passion is to take the time for each other and be there for one another. Keeping the romantic spark alive is always important no matter if you are dating or married.

How to Avoid Being Clingy in a Loving Relationship

2012-09-29T22:42:00.000-07:00

Avoiding the urge to be clingy in a relationship is hard, at times but how can we figure out how not be the clingy type? We all tend to be a bit needy at different times within your relationships but it is not fair to the other person if we act like a spoiled brat.

I am going to discuss why it is very important in a loving relationship not to be clingy and overwhelming. There is a huge difference between loving someone and controlling his or her actions, and control should never happen in a relationship.

The first thing you need to do in order to avoid being clingy is trust the other person totally. They are not like your ex, and will not do the same thing to you. Not every man or every woman is out to break your heart or steal your money. Relax and do not blow a good relationship because you feel selfish.

The second thing you need to do in order to avoid being clingy is realize that the one you love is in love with who you are. That will not change unless you continue to be selfish and that will only serve to drive that person away. Be yourself, the person they fell in love with and not the person who clings and is selfish.

The third thing you need to do in order to avoid being clingy is keep yourself busy. When you feel like being clingy usually, it is because you are lonely and keeping busy will eliminate that need. Find a hobby, read a book, visit a friend, or clean your house from top to bottom do anything you can do to avoid being selfish.

The fourth thing you need to do in order to avoid being clingy is realize that one you love has a life which you are a part of. You are not that person's whole life and you should not consume them, for that only brings heartbreak to both of you. Do not try to consume their every waking moment of their life; they have jobs and a life outside of you.

The fifth thing you need to do in order to avoid being clingy is allow the other person to be themselves. You fell in love with that person because of whom they were, and if you cling to them for life support then you are changing them from whom you love. You should never want to change someone you love.

The sixth thing you need to do in order to avoid being clingy is realize that if you try to control the actions of the one you profess to love, you will lose that person. Let that person be him or herself. For if you try to control they will high tail it out of the relationship, as no one likes to be controlled.
There are a lost of reasons not to be clingy or selfish in a loving relationship and I hope I have convinced you not to be either.

Fairy Tale Love

2012-09-22T22:37:00.000-07:00

Falling in love is the most wonderful feeling in the world, but it has to come naturally, if we try to rush love along or make it into something it is not, then it cannot be a fairy tale romance.

Love is never resentful, arrogant, or self-seeking it just is the perfect sensation in the world. Those people, who have this type of fairy tale romance, work hard at communication between each other, never allowing another to come between them in matters of the heart. Those who do not have it, often wonder why they do not have it, the answer is simple my friend, you simply have not met your soul mate yet and once you do, you will see yourself falling in love.

When you do find your soul mate, you will no doubt spend hours talking about everything and nothing, perhaps you will just sit quietly together and contemplate life lost in your own thoughts. You soon learn that with a soul mate, life is beautiful once more, and the dark clouds have seemed to fall away, and you wonder how it is that you have made it through life thus far, without them. That funny feeling in your stomach when you make eye contact means you are falling in love.

To be in love is the great feeling in the world, but to find that one true love which is a fairy tale romance is an indescribable feeling of utter bliss. It is like having sunshine every day, and knowing that when you do have a bad day there is someone there to hold you as you cry. It is also wonderful just thinking that someone besides your children thinks you hung the moon.

Trust me a fairy tale romance is not a figment of someone's imagination it does exist, and once you find it you never want to let it go.

Importance of Saying I Love You

2012-09-15T22:32:00.000-07:00

Do you know why it is very important to say I love you to those people you love? Too many times, we just take it for granted that those we love know we love them so we feel as if we do not need to say it.

Those people we love need to know it everyday, because there may never be another time to say it. How would you feel if someone you loved died tomorrow and you did not take the time to tell him or her today that you loved him or her?

Perhaps if more couples told each other daily that they loved them, there would be less affairs, or divorces. When spouses or partners feel loved, it only makes sense that they would be happier within the relationship and not feel the need to cheat or leave. Therefore, it is imperative that you utter those three simple yet heartfelt words every day in a marriage or any type of relationship.

As parents, we often tell our babies we love them and we watch their smiles, yet most parents forget to tell their children that, as they get older. Instead, some parents show their love by buying all types of material goods, which is just showing the children that your love has a price tag.

My children often tell me they love me, because I have done that through out the years with them. I choose to take the time to say I love you to each of them very night, because I felt the need to. As my children grew into the teenage years it became difficult at times, we know how teens can get. However, I choose to do it 'Walton's style', Goodnight Amber, I love you, and I repeated it inserting her brothers' names.

They also heard it as they walked out the door to go to school each morning; in public schools, you never know when the next chance to say I love you will come so it was important to me. This not only let them know they were loved, but it began their day a bit better perhaps because they knew someone loved them.

Perhaps my boys as they will grow up and say the same to their children as their families grow, as my daughter is doing with her children now. This is a wonderful tradition to help spread the love in families and perhaps if more people said those words it would strengthen families. Lord knows this world could use less broken families.

We are all guilty of not saying I love you enough to those we do cherish at some point or another. When you take the time to utter those precious three words, it shows those people you love that they matter in this hard cruel world.

Even if you tell those you love everyday how you feel, it is important to show them just how much you love them by giving them a pat on the back as needed but hugs are a wonderful way to say hey I love you as well.

Creative Ways to say I love You

2012-09-08T22:27:00.000-07:00

How many ways can you think of to say I love you to the one you married or to the special person you want to spend an eternity with without sounding redundant? The proof as they say is in the words and the actions of how you say I love you.

There are many ways to say I love you, including different languages so you can be creative but nothing beats the simple I love you baby! You can also say it with your actions everyday and that is the focus of this article for all of us who are so deep in love that it makes our heads spin

A simple unexpected touch on the arm or shoulder as the one you love in reading or doing housework shows much more then you think. It not only shows that person you are thinking about them, it says hey I love you as well. Next time your loved one is busy or looks frazzled give them a quick pat on the shoulder or a simple touch, it works wonders.

Some woman like flower arrangements but not all of us do, so why not grab a mini rose bush plant she can sit in a window and enjoy. As the rose bush blooms, she will be reminded just how much you love her, this also works for those men who enjoy flowers or plants.

Go have professional photos of yourself taken, and pick up a frame and just set it on the desk of someone you love.

There are so many ways to say I love you, both verbally and non-verbally. Get up from your computer and go tell someone you adore, that you love him or her; it will bring a smile to both of your faces.

Can you make someone fall in love?

2012-09-01T22:24:00.000-07:00

I do not think you can ever truly make a person love you, but you certainly can be everything that person desires and that would make you very love-able for someone else. You cannot change your self into what that person wants you to be if it is to be a loving relationship, for we all know that we need to be ourselves in any relationship.

You can make a cake that someone will love but that love will only last as long as the person is eating the cake. When the cake is gone, so will the love of that cake, until you of course make it again.

Making someone love you works the same way, once you stop being what the person desires the love is gone. Except of course, you keep up inventing your self, as you would bake a cake and that is not healthy relationship.

It would be exhausting for you to say the least this is why it is always important to be your self as it is less work. I am not saying do not change yourself, I am saying compromise goes a long way in a relationship, as long as the compromise is a two way street.

If the one you love is a racing fan, agree to disagree that it is the best sport. If you enjoy skiing but he does not, then again agree to disagree that this is the best sport. He fell in love with who he thought you were do not change your self to try to make him love you, as that is not what he fell in love with.

Falling in love is like a beautiful flower that needs sunlight, water, the right nutrients, and the desire to grow. Falling in love in a natural thing, and cannot be made to happen no matter how hard you try, love needs the right natural conditions as well, and the desire by both people to allow it to grow from a friendship to a love.

Just as you cannot force the flower to grow, you cannot make love grow. True love, like a flower needs to be natural in order to grow, sure you can pull weeds around a flower as you can pull bad situations from a person but that is not going to make the wild natural flower any prettier, as it will not make love any stronger. The wildflower needs weeds to be beautiful, for without the weeds it is just another flower.

You cannot make a person love you no matter how hard you try, but it seems as if this society if full of those people who believe that common myth. You can make many things within the world such make babies, make supper, make love but you can never make someone love you because humans have a thing called free will.

Free will enables us all to make choices good or bad that affect our lives and the lives around us. Free will is given to all humans and this is why you cannot make someone fall in love with you.

There is the saying that you cannot hurry love, and this is true, but so it the saying that you cannot make a person fall in love with you, free will allows us all the choice to fall in love or not fall in love.

Love or Lust - What is Your Relationship?

2012-08-25T22:16:00.000-07:00

Is your relationship true love or could it be just lust, and does it have lasting power to endure a lifetime? People often ask this question once they begin a new relationship, and unbelievably there is a simple answer for this age-old question.

The first truth is if you are specifically looking for love all you will find is lust, sadly for everyone actually seeking a true love that is a reality. True love will discover you, and it will not let a person go no matter how firmly the person attempts to shove it away, that is a fundamental truth.

True love feels like magic, while lust will only make you wish you had the magic, if you have to push a relationship hard it is lust without a doubt. True love it will come easily over time it is a magic that cannot be pushed, and true love and lust will both leave you craving more, but what you desire is different.

True love will discover you even when you are not searching for it, and it will blow you off your feet and turn the world, as you know it upside down. While lust will make you breathless for an hour or so if you are fortunate, true love with leave you breathless with each kiss or touch over the lifetime of a relationship.

True love will leave you breathless, and as if you want to learn about your partner on every level, lust on the other hand will leave you feeling like you need to quench the thirst in your loins.

In true love, the sexual gratification is part of the relationship while in a lustful relationship is the only thing that is sought. You deserve the whole enchilada and should never reconcile for just lust, when the real magic of true love is out there for every one.

Lust is looking at someone whom has attractive qualities, you want those qualities, while with a true love, you look at your partner, and you want the whole package faults as well as the golden qualities.
Lust is waking up with some one who is a transient fancy, and true love is as waking up beside your best friend for the rest of your life there is no contest there.

True love is unconditional, and needs no words, while lust is all about excuses, conditional and very little words from the heart. With true love, there are no requirements to make excuses to ourselves or to others regarding the actions of our partner. A person who is truly in love with us while never just blow us off, or put the needs of others before us at any time.

True love is something we all want and sometimes we can actually find it, but it is always found accidentally. Love is not something you will discover as if you were seeking a misplaced set of keys, or a lost dog no matter how extraordinary that dog is.

True love knows no restrictions it will discover us when the conditions are right, and not when the planets are lined up properly and it is everlasting, ever changing, and ever growing.

True love is sitting quietly without words and enjoying time spend watching the world go by, it is walking hand in hand in the suns warmth, and under the moon's glow, love is always present and never falling by the wayside when something better comes along.

Finally yet importantly, lust is for a small amount of seasons, while true love is for the duration of the seasons omnipresent and enduring.

What Really Defines Cheating Within a Relationship?

2012-08-18T22:13:00.000-07:00

What really is the definition of cheating on a spouse or a partner within a personal relationship? That topic has as many answers as there are people debating it in any given situation. There are different types of cheating in a romantic affair including, emotional, physical and both types of cheating combined.
If you put a thousand people in a room debating cheating you are bound to get a thousand different answers, some similar and some quite different no doubt. What do you consider cheating to be within a personal relationship between spouses or partners?

Cheating in a Chat Room
Is going into a chat room and having a personal chat with someone of the opposite sex who is not a relative considered cheating? If the two were discussing computer, a book or the weather it would not be considered cheating but sooner of later the chat becomes of a more personal nature is heads into the gray area of cheating.

Once the chat becomes of a more personal level and feelings of an intellectual attraction are discussed is this considered cheating? This is where there is a gray area of sorts. You can like someone strictly platonically for his or her intellect and it can be an honest to goodness friendship. It is not considered cheating in most social circles.

This is not considered to be cheating in the true sense of the word, but some people would consider it cheating on a spouse or partner simply because you are in fact forming an emotional bond with someone other then your spouse or partner.

We all know that when the topic of discussion involves playful cyber sex then that gray area disappears for most people, yet some people will say it is just innocent fun. Tell that to the wife who walks in on her husband typing 'romantically' to some one named 'hotstuff694u". Now if that husband is a sweet talker he more then likely will get away with this cyber cheating.

I am not implying that only men do this type of thing, as I have personally seen both males and females engage in this particular behavior. Take this example, a man comes home unexpectedly and sees his wife sitting naked in front of her computer with an assortment of toys, he will have one of two reactions. Either he will enjoy what is taking place before him or he is going to get angry and evict her. If he partakes any form of enjoyment it is not considered cheating to him, but it sure is if he evicts her.

What would you do if you were in his shoes? Do you consider that cheating or playful fun? Would it make a difference if the person your wife were talking to male or female?

Unbelievably some people consider cyber sex with a same sex partner not to be cheating at all. I do not agree with them, if it is something that you would not do with your mother or dad in the room it is cheating. If you have to hide the relationship or even aspects about it, it is considered cheating.

Chat rooms are notorious for getting a bad rap about cheating. Yes, there is cheating going on within chat rooms I will not dispute that for a minute but there are also many people making healthy and non-healthy relationships in chat rooms every second of the day. Not every one is cheating in those rooms, but chat rooms are off limits to some simply out of the fear of chat rooms and their reputation.

After Hours Entertainment
There is nothing wrong with going a few hours to mellow out with your friends after a hard day at work when you are single. However when a husband goes out with the boys after work when he is a family man, that usually means he is cheating to most people especially if he works with a lot of women.

Technically, it is a gray area because it is a group activity or more then three or four people. Unless he is pairing up with one female, it would not be considered cheating by most accounts.
When that husband pairs up with a female for activities within the group, then it slides further into the gray area and things may be getting blurry. As long as no personal information or touching is, taking place it is not considered cheating. All bets are off once the topic turns personal or touching happens by chance. An affair is in the works and cheating will be occurring unless the two people take responsible steps to curb the mutual attraction.

Personal Meetings
Personal private meetings between two people who are married to other people often mean cheating is occurring. That is just plain common sense and if your spouse if doing this then you need to take your stand and stop it. Perhaps you cannot stop the affair, remember this, it will not be an affair if you end the marriage right there.

In an emotional affair, cheating is defined when personal issues come forth to create an emotional bond, and we all know the physical cheating affair. Both types of cheating can be deadly to a marriage or relationship.

Living Together Vs. Getting Married Right Away

2012-08-11T22:10:00.000-07:00

Couples who have dated for more then 6 months and are thinking about marriage in the future should live together first for many reasons. This trail period allows them to see if they can get along on a day-to-day basis. They see the little quirks firsthand and can determine if they can deal with it before its nuptial time.

Couples who live together before they are married have a great opportunity to see exactly how their future spouse will be like after the wedding day beforehand. Perhaps he leaves the cap of the toothpaste or she squeezes it from the middle, while those things will not bother most people, some couples will fight over this. There are no surprises like that if a couple lives together first.

It used to be frowned upon to live together acting as husband and wife if you were not married but times have changed. Times have changed and many people cannot live on one income, so pooling those incomes as early as possible helps everyone involved. Money is a huge thing married couple's fight over, and by living together first, you are giving this aspect of married life a trail run as well.

Too many single parents realize it is not just them dating; they are in a way dating the children involved. If those children do not like the other adult, they will create problems with in the relationship. By living together first single parents can have a trail run to see if things will work out with the children who are very much part of the equation.

Couples who live together before the wedding have stronger marriages in my opinion because they truly know each other and do not go into the marriage blindly, as those couples who do not live together often do.

When couples do not live together, everything is a surprise after the wedding. Too many of us try to change our spouses' habits if we do not like this and this sets up for a bad marriage from the start. A neat freak cannot live happily with a slob, and if you are married, you have either to deal with it or be miserable.

Too many times when we settle into a day-to-day routine with a spouse without having lived with them first, problems arise. At times, these problems are easy to get over yet at other times they are insurmountable.

This makes for miserable people who feel stuck in a relationship with nowhere to turn. Had they lived together ahead of the nuptials they would not have those awful surprises.
I believe a couple should live together before marriage so if the differences between the two are too great they can get out of the relationship without having to go through a messy divorce.

Hot Sexy Men American Women Love

2012-08-04T22:06:00.000-07:00

These are some sexy actors! What better thing to do when you are single then to curl up and watch a movie or two feauring these studs.

Patrick Swayze, Mel Gibson, Sam Elliott, Richard Dean Anderson, Kevin Costner, and John Travolta are all hot sexy men. If there were ever a movie that starred them all it would be hard to choose the sexiest leading man in this group. These are six of the hottest sexy men in the United States in my opinion.

Patrick Swazye, here is one hot sexy man! We loved this man in Ghost, Roadhouse, and Dirty Dancing he is a fine looking man. How many of us would love to be held in his arm instead of Jennifer Grey in Dirty Dancing or Demi Moore in Ghost? Ghost was a romantic movie and it is one of my favorites.

Mel Gibson here is a hot sexy man with a sexy accent. He was the sexiest in Mad Max, Brave Heart, and Lethal Weapon. He is one hot sexy man who could rescue me anytime day or night. I have a thing for sexy accents, and his natural accent is so dang sexy!

Sam Elliott, now that is a long tall drink of water, his voice is unforgettable. He is extremely a hot sexy man with a moustache and a cowboy hat. Roadhouse Tombstone, Buffalo Girls are just a few of that many movies he had a role. He's been lighting up the big screen since 1968.

Richard Dean Anderson, here is a hot sexy man who played the eldest brother of seven brothers. He was married to Hannah in seven brides for seven brothers, and how many of us females wished we were Hannah? You can count me among the millions! He is confident and just looks very nice. His attitude and style in MacGyver made him a hot sexy man in my mind, and in the minds of thousands of women around the United States.

Kevin Costner is very hot sexy man and I like many women around the United States find him sexy. He has beautiful eyes and a nice smile. He was hot in Water World, though a bit crass, but that was how his part was written. He was hot and sexy in Dances with Wolves and of course the Post Man.

John Travolta is also a hot sexy man, wrapped up in a cool dark exterior. He was sexy in the wings when he played Michael; he was also quite sexy dancing around in Saturday night Live. We cannot forget how cute he looked in Look who is talking with those dimples.

I have written my list to Santa for years now asking that he put these six hot sexy men under my tree but they are never there. Whom would you want under your Christmas tree or in your bed if it were only occupied by yourself?

Greatest Love Songs Perfect for Anytime

2012-07-28T22:00:00.000-07:00

Eighteen of the greatest of all love songs are included here. Make a CD of these songs to express your love.

Beautiful - Amy Grant, this song like the voice of the singer is truly beautiful.

Because I Love You - Jewel tell your special someone who much you love them.

Born To Give My Love To You - Martina Mcbride did you ever find a lover who completed you well this is the perfect song.

Can't Help Falling In Love With You by Elvis Presley. This is wonderful song by the King it will help you declare your love to your sweet heart.

Endless Love - Lionel Ritchie this is the type of love we all want.

Heart And Soul - Air Supply baby I want your heart and soul, perfect song when you want to share how you feel to the one you love.

Hold Me, Thrill Me, Kiss Me - Gloria Estefan nice song that expresses the feelings of many people who just want to tell it like it is, when they are deeply in love.

Glory Of Love - Peter Cetera the glory of love is enchantment, completeness, and fulfillment.

Perfect Love - Trisha Yearwood, yeah this is something we all seek in a relationship.

Your Love Amazes Me - John Berry what a better way to say I love you then with this song?

Greatest Love Of All - Whitney Houston is the epitome of the type of love we all want.

You And I - Eddie Rabbit And Crystal Gayle perfect love song about becoming one with your love.

You Light Up My Life - Debbie Boone great song to let your lover know how they make you feel.

I Just Want To Be Your Everything - Andy Gibb Nicely written song about how this guy wants to be his lover's everything.

Open Arms - Journey Opening your self to the possibilities of love in a relationship.

This Kiss - Faith Hill the perfect kiss ends in a great feeling of utter bliss.

Crazy For You - Madonna Perfect song to express how you feel, when this one first came out I was crazy for my first boyfriend a GI named Tom those were the days.

Safe In The Arms Of Love - Martina McBride a good love will make you fell safe and sheltered.

There Is Love - Paul Stookey is a wonderful song for a wedding, or simply to show your lover how you feel about them.

Top Love Songs

2012-07-21T21:48:00.000-07:00

Once in a lifetime we find that special someone who makes our life complete and makes us feel special. Love is hard to find in this world but once you find that special someone you feel that you search is over.

These are special songs to let your sweetheart know that you are so deeply in love with them. These are the love songs that make us go mushy inside and sometimes express the feelings we just cannot find the right words to express.

Its your love Faith Hill and Tim McGraw, is the song that this real life married couple sings about how there love send a shock right through them, and makes them complete.

The love they share is undeniable to everyone who listens to that song.

The song feels so right by Alabama is the song about two lovers whispering in the deep of the night and expressing their love. Spending time quiet time together is so needed in this crazy world when stress is so much a part of this our lives.

Love in the first degree also by Alabama is the perfect song for those couples who have been hurt in the past by others but have decided to give love another chance. When the man in the song finds this love, he wants to his lover to lock him away inside her love and throw away the key.

The closer you get also by Alabama is a song about how love is pushing him over the edge in a good way. He thinks he must be dreaming because it feels right, almost like a dream. The love of a good man or woman whichever the case may be does make us feel loopy and as if it is a dream.

Listen to the radio by Don Williams is a song about a man who is having a hard time expressing the way he feels so he tells his love to listen to the radio. Who has not been in love and had a hard time expressing the right words or having the fear of sounding goofy.

Stuck on you by Poverty Neck Hillbillies, I know this is a new band to some people, but once I heard their version I was beyond hooked I listened to it again and called Ray and played it for him. Stuck on you, got this feeling down deep in my soul, and I just cannot lose. It is a song for those loving relationships that began as friendships. When those relationships blossom into a real deep satisfying love, it is the ultimate kind of love.

Time with you by Billy Carrington is another mushy song that tells your loved one just how you feel. The song is about a man who is missing his love, because of the daily grind. He just wants to spend more time with the one he loves, because life is always taking them away from each other.

Lay you down, by Conway Twitty is an older song but it is a perfect song for expressing your feelings toward the one you love. Lay you down and softly whisper pretty love words in your ears, tell you all the things a woman wants to hear. He appreciates his woman and loves her deeply. He says he will love her even when she is old and will still want to lay her down and whisper those words of love in her ear.

Turn out the lights and love me tonight by Don Williams is a great song to express the love a man has for a woman.

Still the one by Steely Dan is a perfect song for those couples who have been together forever and the love they share still goes on. They are still having fun, enjoying life but remain faithful to each other.

Forever and ever amen, Randy Travis is a beautiful song about how this man loves his woman and will love her forever. We all want a love that goes on and on forever.

Long slow kisses by Trace Atkins, is the song of a man who heads to work and his love says she does not feel as if she is important enough in his life. He makes the decision to call in sick and show her that he loves her. It is a great song for those of us who love songs like this and want to rekindle the relationship or keep it fresh.

Sex Before Marriage? Immoral or Good for the Soul?

2012-07-19T22:23:00.000-07:00

Everyone seems to debate the question about having sex before marriage, and yes, I think this is fine as long as it is done with someone you love; therefore, you are making love and not just having sex. Sex is sex, but making love adds a completely new dimension that that is acceptable before marriage.

There is a huge difference between making love and having sex according to the general populace of the world. Anyone who just goes out seeking to be laid is looking for sexual gratification; this includes single as well as married people. These people seek sexual gratification from others in their community for the thrill of it, and most of it has something to do with sexual addictions or unfilled wants at home.

If you love someone completely you are making love and not having sex, and that is the big difference. Having sex is a wonderful part of any loving relationship, so it is acceptable to have sex before marriage in my views if you are in a loving relationship with the person. Making love is merely another way of spending quality time together; it is restful, peaceful, and exhilarating.

If sex was just sex, that would be different but making love before marriage is a great way to express to the one you love, just how much you care for them. In many ways, it does say I want to spend the rest of my life with you, and I need you.

When children see a loving couple married or not they are being sent a strong positive message about the benefits of a healthy happy relationship. As long as the sexual part of the relationship is not being shown to, the child everything is fine and a loving couple married or not is sending the right message to the children.

In today's society with so many broken marriages caused by infidelity, many dating couples who care deeply for each other are not willing to take the legal steps and find them selves back in divorce court. Does this mean they should not express the love the feel for each other? Of course, not they should express love any way they choose to express it. Just because they are scared of the past does not mean they cannot move ahead with their future.

In marriages where the couple is staying together only for legal reasons or the children, making love becomes sex, which is wrong of course. It is wrong because those parents clearly do not love each other, there for it is merely sex.

When those parents seek sexual gratification, outside the marriage, it is called and it is wrong of course. However, it does happen at alarming rates creating broken marriages etc. When those parents are out seeking sex everywhere it causes a huge problem for the children and sends many mixed messages.

Welcome to Living the Dating Life

2012-07-19T21:34:00.001-07:00

When you are alone, it seems as if the rest of the world is paired up with someone. After a few of the relationships I have been in I am glad I am single, but on the other hand I am jealous of those people who seem to have found their soul mate.

In two of the relationships I have had, I thought I found it. I was sadly mistaken. However that does not stop me from looking for the man who will make my heart sing and make me glad to be alive.

Granted I don’t need a man to make me glad to be alive, but family and friends can only do so much. There have been a few times in my life when it felt so good to be held by someone who loved me for me. Unfortunately it has been a few years since I have felt that way. The last relationship ended in a heartache like the others.

I know that heartache comes for a reason. Perhaps the people were not right for each other. Perhaps one tried too hard to change the other. Such a shame when one tries to change the other. After all they fell in love with the person how they were at first. It makes no sense to me why some people forget that and try to change them.

Anyways on this blog you will see all aspects of dating and relationships. The good, the bad and ugly along with the romantic and messed up stuff. Welcome to my blog.