LOVE <3

What Love Really Means

noreply@blogger.com (aikamaru) — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 16:54:00 +0000

When couples come to me for pre-marital counseling, I sometimes ask: "Why do you want to get married?" Whatever else, they say, they always give me the big reason; and the big reason is always the same. What do they say? "We love each other." Then I ask a very unfair question: "Tell me, what do you mean by that?" There is silence. Then, one will say, "Oh... you know!"

I guess maybe I do know. I think they are talking about a euphoric emotion that makes them oblivious to reality. They are the happiest they have ever been. What they don't know is that the euphoric feelings will last for two years and then they must find another foundation for marriage. Wouldn't it be better to explore that foundation before they get married?

Love is a choice.
What is love? One definition says, "Love is the feeling that you feel when you feel a feeling like you've never felt before." If that is your definition of love, I can tell you, that kind of love will never lead you to a life-long marriage. The euphoric feels are temporary. It is interesting that in Eph. 5:25 husbands are commanded to love their wives. If the intense feelings of love were permanent, why would God command a husband to love his wife?

The fact is, they are not permanent and love is not a feeling, but an attitude, with appropriate behavior. Love is the attitude which says, "I'm married to you, so what can I do to help you? Love is choosing to be kind, and supportive. Is that your attitude?

Love is a way of life.
Most people get married based on love. However their concept of love often focuses on feelings. I read one definition which said, "Love is a four-letter word composed of two consonants, L and V; two vowels, O and E; and two fools, you and me." There is some truth to that, and fools often make poor decisions.

In the Bible, love is not a euphoric feeling, but a way of life. In Titus chapter two the older women are instructed to teach the young wives to love their husbands. This implies that love can be learned. It is not something that happens to you. It is something you choose. Once you choose to love, then you look for appropriate ways to express it. This kind of love will lead you to a life-long productive marriage.

Love is powerful.
Would you like to know what love looks like in a marriage? Then, turn to I Corinthians chapter 13. Listen to these words: "Love is patient and kind; is not arrogant or rude; it does not insist on it's own way; it is not resentful; Love does not bring up past failures, but chooses to forgive." Does this describe your attitude and treatment of your spouse?

This is the kind of love that makes for happy marriages. Love focuses on meeting the needs of the spouse; helping them succeed; listening to their thoughts and feelings. In short, it is giving your life away for your spouse. That is precisely what Christ did for us, and it is what husbands are instructed to do for their wives. Love is powerful.

Love can be learned.
"I don't love her anymore." How many times have I heard that in my office! What is that supposed to mean? Usually, it means that he has lost the euphoric feelings he had for her when they got married. And that their differences have emerged and ended in arguments. The fact is, everyone loses the euphoric feelings. They usually last for only two years.

Then, we must learn to love. We must choose to treat each other with respect. We must listen to differences of opinion and try to find a solution. We must learn to work together as a team; using our differences for the benefit of the team. This attitude is commanded by God. To say, "I don't love her anymore," is admitting that you are breaking God's command.

Love - How To

noreply@blogger.com (aikamaru) — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 07:25:00 +0000

Love is a strange feeling that can be one of the most amazing in all the world. Sometimes the emotions associated with love are blissful, and there are times when they can really hurt. In the end, love is something most of us, if not all of us, will encounter. While there are many different ways to define love and there are many different ways to love someone (or even yourself), here is a general guide to loving.

Say it. When you say the words "I Love You", they should carry with them the desire to show someone that you love them, not what you simply want to feel. When you say it, make sure you really mean it and are willing to do anything for that special person.
Empathize. Put yourself in someone else's shoes. Rather than impose your own expectations or attempt to control them, to understand how they feel, where they come from, and who they are. Realize how they could also love you back just as well.
Love unconditionally. If you cannot love another person without attaching stipulations, then it is not love at all, but deep-seated opportunism (one who makes the most of an advantage, often unmindful of others). If your interest is not in the other person as such, but rather in how that person can enhance your experience of life, then it is not unconditional. If you have no intention of improving that person’s life, or allowing that person to be themselves and accepting them as they are, and not who you want them to be, then you are not striving to love them unconditionally.
Expect nothing in return. That doesn't mean you should allow someone to mistreat or undervalue you. It means that giving love does not guarantee receiving love. Try loving just for the sake of love. Realize that someone may have a different way of showing his or her love for you; do not expect to be loved back in exactly the same way.
Realize it can be lost. If you realize that you can lose the one you love, then you have a greater appreciation of what you have. Think how lucky you are to have someone to love. Don't make an idol of the person you love. This will place them under undue pressure and will likely result in you losing them.
Never stop loving. Even if you have been hurt before you should not stop giving love.

main credits to: wikihow

Massage How To

noreply@blogger.com (aikamaru) — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 11:48:00 +0000

Beauty and love can be shown in many ways but none quite as personal and loving as a massage. Many times, a massage can lead to better communication and understanding with your partner. Other times, it's just the knowledge that someone is devoting their time to making you feel incredible that make's it extra special. Massage has been said to be a dance of love with your fingertips. Given correctly it can be one of the most intensly sensual moments you can share with your partner. And not surprisely, since the skin is the largest sensory organ in the body! For your next gift, why not give the gift of massage?

Massage Ingredients:

You'll need some type of oil or lotion. Fragrant oils are fine, but keep in mind your partner's sensitivity to smells or skin irritations. Also check to see if they are allergic to any kind of oil or lotion. If you'd rather not use the oils or lotions, try cornstarch. It truly works wonderfully. :)

Next, you'll need to decide on a location. Obviously not many have access to a massage table so you can create the next best thing!

You Will Need:

*a willing recipient
*a quite place
*a warm place
*oil or lotion
*a towel
*a padded area
*gentle music
*props

A sturdy tabletop padded with foam or blankets works great. Otherwise, try a padded floor or, for the more adventurous, a large towel on the beach or secluded park. If you plan on doing the massage outside, take precautions against insects, excessive heat or coldness.

If staying inside is more appealing, then allow for no distractions! This means unplug the phone and arrange for no one else to be in the house, including children. Wherever you choose, make sure you have easy and comfortable access to both the right and left sides of your partner's body and that the temperature is warm. If need be, cover the areas of the body you're not working on with a light comfortable blanket, or use a portable heater.

You'll also need a towel or two to wipe your hands or your partner. A towel can also come in very handy in the case of a spill. :)

For your covering cloth, make sure to select something that is OK to be oiled. A sheet works perfectly.

The most enticing part of a massage can often be the atmosphere in which it is presented. If quality time is spent on setting the mood, you both will reap the rewards! Play some soft relaxing classical, jazz or "mood" music in the background. You can play anything without any harsh rythms or words. Candlelight, incense and flowers are wonderful mood setters as well. Try to make the setting evoke a feeling of sensuality and comfort. Take some time and make sure you have plenty of pillows and comfortable blankets. Consider it your temple of love.

Props are a wonderful addition to any massage. Anything that is soft to the touch, but not too light so as to tickle is wonderful. Feathers, a silk scarf, flowers, flannel strips, etc. work beautifully. If using a feather, make sure not to do it too lightly. :) If you decide to use props, keep them within easy reach.

Massage Tips:

Before starting, make sure your partner is comfortable and doesn't need anything. (i.e. they don't have to go to the restroom, aren't hungry, etc.)

To start, you might want to give them a simple back rub or a head massage (an often overlooked sensual area). This will get you and your partner into communication with each other as well as let your partner get used to your touch. Once you're both ready, have your partner lie down on their stomach. Stradle your partner's body (a leg on each side) and begin to let your fingers stroke lightly, starting from the neck down. Each stroke should begin from the spine and roll off the sides of your partner's body. Remember that continous movement is the key. Always try to keep even pressure between each hand.

When you place or remove your hands, use a glide on, glide off style of touching. Glide on in the direction your hands will be moving on or off the body. Maintain a continous flow while massaging. Make your movements blend together, each one enhancing the preceding one and preparing for the next. Your strokes should be fluid, never jerky. Always take your hands around or out of the body rather then stopping in mid-flow.

Keep the massage varied. Often change the tempo, rythm and pressure. While the point is to relax your partner, you don't want them to fall asleep! :)

If you're unsure of how much pressure to give, lighter is usually better. Although, it is best to go by what your partner prefers. Also, if there are two of something, massage them both equally (i.e. both legs, both arms, etc.).

Make sure your recipient is enjoying what you are doing. You can usually tell, but if you're not sure, ask them.

Be comfortable and confident with yourself and what you're doing. This is your gift to your partner - let that show. From here, let your heart be your guide and your instincts rule your fingers.

credits to: lovingyou.com

10 Most Romantic Hairstyles

noreply@blogger.com (aikamaru) — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 13:29:00 +0000

Flawless makeup and a great outfit just don’t seem complete without a hairstyle that can really pull your look together. And if romance is what you’re trying to achieve, the hairstyle you choose can often be your most important accessory. We compiled a list of 10 of the most romantic hairstyles for a variety of occasions, be it a formal affairs or casual weekend dates.

1. Loose chignon

A loose chignon is a romantic hairstyle for almost any occasion. Because it’s loose, rather than tight, it provides a softer look which is always sexy. Leaving a few loose strands of hair to frame your face is also a nice touch. Wear this hairstyle for a casual brunch date or lingering evening on a patio.

2. Long, loose waves

There’s something about long hair that’s always romantic, but long hair in lovely loose waves is even more so. It’s a particularly feminine hairstyle that brings to mind effortless glamour and allure. While you can dress down this hairstyle, its best accompanied with a more formal look.

3. Glamorous updo

The updo has long been a staple of romance. How many proms and weddings feature elaborately designed hairstyles piled and pinned to perfection? The updo is both glamorous and romantic and can be both formal and more casual depending on the occasion and the outfit you choose.

4. Long and side swept

There is something timelessly sexy about long hair with a deep side part. There’s a certain mystery this hairstyle adds to your face while flattering almost any outfit. Start with long, loose waves, part hair deep down the side and pull hair over one shoulder. The result is pure romance.

5. Half up and half down

This is a classic romantic hairstyle and one that doesn’t require too much effort to achieve. Pull half of your hair up towards the crown of your head and fasten with pins or clips. Leave some strands loose around your face for a sexy softness.

6. Wavy retro glam

Think 1940’s glamour when visualizing this look. Deep side parts meet ultra-wavy hair glossed to a high shine. This look is romance at its most glamorous and works best with formal attire and lots of attitude.

7. Long layers

Long layers do a great job of framing your face, which adds softness and romance to any look. This is also a hairstyle that can easily take you from day to night and works with any outfit.

8. Low, elegant ponytail

If you want to keep your hair out of your face and but also feel elegant, the low ponytail can be a good option. This hairstyle works particularly well if your hair is parted on the side. Combine this hairstyle with smoky, sultry eye makeup for a low-maintenance, romantic look.

9. Grecian braid

Taking some of the hair on either side of your head and braid it around the back of your head for a youthful, romantic look. Fasten the braids together and leave the rest of your locks long and wavy. If you’re really feeling romantic, place some fresh flowers (like baby’s breath) in and amongst the braids. This look works best with a sexy off-the-shoulder dress.

10. Soft ringlets

Nothing says romance quite like soft, sexy ringlets. If you can manage to create them, either with a curling iron, hot rollers or by coaxing your natural waves into ringlets, you will surely be the belle of the ball. Ruby red lips and pale, matte skin will complete this romantic look.

All photos are © copyright of it’s authors.
src: lovingyou

Online Dating: 6 Rules to Stay Safe

noreply@blogger.com (aikamaru) — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 09:21:00 +0000

When entering the world of online dating, it’s sad but true: A little paranoia goes a long way!

Rule #1: Don’t give out your address

Back on Top: Fearless Dating After Divorce (Globe Pequot Press, May 2009). “My number-one rule is: Do NOT let someone you just met – online or otherwise – pick you up at your home. You do not want a stranger – and yes, no matter how many times you’ve emailed, talked on the phone and viewed his profile, he’s still a stranger – to know where you live!” says Ginger Ema, author of

Rule #2: Meet on your turf

So, where should this first date take place? Meet somewhere convenient for you, in a public place, hopefully where you know some of the wait staff or bartenders. “I probably took forty-five first dates to the same little café a few miles from my home, in a busy retail area. They knew me there – heck, I think they had a betting pool in the back about which guy I would end up with. But I felt safe!” Ginger says.

Rule #3: Drive yourself
The safety doesn’t end there. When going on this first date, be sure that you take your own car and you tell a friend where you are going and the name of the person you are meeting (hopefully it is his actual name), and you have an exit strategy. This can be something like telling your date ahead of time that you’ve got a meeting or have to pick up the kids. “When you meet a guy out, you can leave at any time. This is incredibly important when there are 20 million guys online, and you’re not doing an Intelius.com report on each one. If something feels awkward, off, or it’s simply not a match, you say thank you and get in your car and go home,” Ginger says.

Rule #4: Keep personal info personal
Another important safety tip before even getting to that first date is to create an anonymous email account for one that does not include your first name or last name and that doesn’t have your birth date as part of the user name. You don’t want to give out all that information to people you are just meeting, it’s how they can stalk you!

Rule #5: Block your number
It’s also a good idea to learn to block your number when you are calling someone from your cell phone. You may not want a new guy to have your cell phone number yet – maybe never!

Rule #6: Don’t bring a new date home
Ginger also suggests never bring a new date to your home to meet your children. In fact, experts recommend that your kids not meet anyone you are dating until it is a serious, exclusive relationship – long enough for you to feel very comfortable about who this man is, and to know that this is something long-term.

Your kids have already had disruption to their lives, no matter how amicable a divorce is. And children can be funny – they may tell us they want us to date; they may tell us they want us to go out, but they are affected by anything that rocks their world. Your kids just don’t need to be in on your dating stories, or who your ex is dating, either. On the other hand, once you are serious with someone, slowly introduce him to your child(ren). “Nothing surprised me more than having a relationship that integrated with the rest of my life. I seriously thought I would only date every Wednesday and every other weekend – when my son was with his dad. And that’s how it went for years – I didn’t date on ‘my son’s time,’” Ginger says. “But once I was in a long-term relationship that I knew was going to last, I introduced him to my son. I never imagined a holistic post-divorce relationship where my son likes my boyfriend, my boyfriend likes my son (this is saying a lot – he is, after all, a teenager). My ex likes my boyfriend and vice versa – I am the Demi Moore of my neighborhood!”

“While not everyone who dates online loves it, it is still the best place to meet more men per minute. I mean, I’ve been viewed 48,000 times on one site! Where else would I have a pool of 48,000 interested men? “

credits to: Aly Walansky of lovingyou.com

10 Ways to Spot A Liar

noreply@blogger.com (aikamaru) — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 15:26:00 +0000

It should be said that women were given a sixth sense for a reason. “Women’s intuition” is not just an urban myth so if your gut is telling you that your man is lying then he most likely is. But if you’re looking for a little more justification than just a funny feeling, here are some experts’ tips:

1. “Good liars will often have a quick and smooth response and use tactics that will redirect attention back to you or incite some kind of emotional response in you that can divert attention away from them and the lie,” said Manhattan-based clinical psychologist, J.Cilona. “Most other people might fumble a bit or show embarrassment. This is sign that they are not so sophisticated a liar and perhaps just made a bad choice.”

2. Dr. Eddy Kloprogge of FreudTV says you can detect lies by the way a person is smiling. “Forced smiles are easy to spot since they involved the muscles around the mouth,” said Kloprogge. “In a real smile, more facial muscles besides the mouth are involved. A dead giveaway is tightening around the eyes, which sometimes causes crows’ feet.”

3. Dr. Eddy also believes the behavior of other body parts can be a dead giveaway on whether or not a person is telling the truth. If their arms, legs, or hands are stiff and self-directed then they’re most likely lying. “The hands may touch or scratch their face, nose or behind an ear, but are not likely to touch their chest or heart with an open hand.”

4. “Be aware that sometimes men lie because their lady forces them to,” said Daylle Deanna Schwartz, author of Nice Girls Can Finish First. “If you’re overly possessive or jealous or have rules he doesn’t agree with, he may lie to avoid an unpleasant situation.”

5. Be a pseudo detective and check out his story – not by stalking him but by taking time to think through what he tells you. “Many liars are big at making up stories and they believe in being very dramatic. In the end, though, their stories just don’t add up,” said Coy Long, CEO oh Hotlanta Matchmakers.

6. Long also warns that a person who is lying will often times rapidly change the topic of conversation to try and throw the other person off. “They also get really defensive and their tone of voice is inconsistent with their body movements.”

7. Dr. J. Cilona tells people to be very aware of the other person’s answers and body language. “Many people pick up on subtleties without being totally aware of them and new research even shows that we can actually smell fear in the perspiration of others. These kinds of cues are often out of our awareness and get labeled as a feeling or intuition. Consider this to be one of the most important reasons for concern.”

8. Language and word usage can be a telltale sign for liars, according to Kloprogge, who tells clients to be conscious of the other person’s word choice. If they’re repeating your own exact words when answering a question or avoiding direct statements and answers they’re probably not being honest.

9. Answers drenched in humor or sarcasm is an indication that they’re trying to avoid a subject – a big no, no.

10. Silence truly is golden. Kloprogge advises to allow total quiet into the conversation as it will give you a chance to observe their reaction. A person who is lying will most likely become very uncomfortable and restless when there is a pause in conversation.

credits: lovingyou.com

Romantic Birthday Ideas

noreply@blogger.com (aikamaru) — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 04:58:00 +0000

Birthdays are the perfect occasion to be romantic. While everyone else is giving your boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse something silly, sentimental or related to their hobby, you can give them a romantic gift that lets them know that you care. Here are some romantic birthday ideas from which you can draw inspiration.

For Women

Jewelry: This romantic gift is appreciated by women from all walks of life. You can honor the time you’ve spent together with a necklace, a pair of earrings or even an engagement ring. Before you go out and purchase a piece of jewelry, pay attention to what she likes to wear. Does she wear gold or silver? Does she like gemstones, pearls or no stones at all? If you’re stumped for ideas, try asking her best friend or mom.

A romantic evening in: Start out with a candlelit dinner and then draw a bath for her complete with scented bubble bath and rose petals in the water. Play some relaxing music and then treat her to a massage with essential oils. End the night with a decadent dessert and some special snuggle time.

A poetry reading: Write her a romantic poem and read it for her after presenting her with a dozen roses. If you’re not the poetry type, you can find plenty online to print out and read. Print out the poems on fancy parchment paper so she can use it as a keepsake of your romantic birthday present.

For Men

Cologne: What man doesn’t like to smell nice? Even if your man isn’t the cologne type there are clean, fresh scents that he’ll appreciate and you will too. Pay attention to the type of deodorant he likes to buy and you’ll have a clue about the type of fragrance he likes. Is it musky, fresh or sweet? Find a cologne with the same tones in scent and you’ll be able to pick something that he likes.

A customized CD: This is an updated version of the old mix tapes that young sweethearts used to share. Make a CD of his favorite songs and ones that remind you of him. You can include songs that were popular the year that you met and be sure to include “your song” if you have one. A is one of the best ways to his heart.

A romantic dinner cooked at home: If you’re too busy to cook most nights, he’ll appreciate a home cooked meal. Make his favorite dinner and serve it complete with a complementary wine and dessert. He’ll appreciate the effort that you put into making him a special meal.

romantic birthday ideas

A Kiss

noreply@blogger.com (aikamaru) — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 12:24:00 +0000

1. on the FOREHEAD says

I care for you.

2. on the HAND says

I respect you.

3. on the NOSE says

I missed you.

4. on the EYES says

I want to cherish our wonderful memories

5. on the EARLOBES says

I want to baby you.

6. on the NECK says

I like your natural scent.

7. on the FINGERTIPS says

I treasure you.

8. on the HAIR says

I pray for you all the time.

9. on the PALM says

I want to succeed.

10. on the BACK says

I'll follow you now and forever.

11. on the CHIN says

I wish to be rich.

12. on the KNEES says

Forgive me coz I'm crazy for you.

13. on the ARMS says

I adore you

14. on the LIPS says

I love you, you're mine forever.

10 Cute Love Quotes

noreply@blogger.com (aikamaru) — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 08:08:00 +0000

1. Richard Bach

Can miles truly separate you from friends... If you want to be with someone you love, aren't you already there?

2. James Baldwin

Love does not begin and end the way we seem to think it does. Love is a battle, love is a war; love is a growing up.

3. G. Moore

Other men have seen angels, But I have seen thee, And thou art enough.

4. Thomas Moore

Came but for friendship, and took away love.

5. Leo Buscaglia

Love is life. And if you miss love, you miss life.

6. Montaigne

If I am pressed to say why I loved him, I feel it can only be explained by replying: "Because it was he; because it was me."

7. Kyle Schmidt

I have said nothing because there is nothing I can say that would describe how I feel as perfectly as you deserve it.

8. Joan Crawford

Love is a fire. But whether it is going to warm your heart or burn down your house, you can never tell.

9. Henry Ward Beecher

I never knew how to worship until I knew how to love.

10. Rabindranath Tagore

I seem to have loved you in numberless forms, numberless times, in life after life, in age after age forever.

ref: http://quotations.about.com

Relationships

noreply@blogger.com (aikamaru) — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 14:42:00 +0000

Relationships pave the way for us to recapture our wholeness by correcting the distortions of caretaking and socialization that distanced us from our original selves (when just born).

It is in unconditional loving our partner, making it safe for them to open to love, letting that love sink in over time so that trust can build, that allows their fullness to come back into being, so they can feel their oneness (like the baby in the womb), their totality. ...love is the answer. It is the love we give that heals our partner, and the love we receive that heals us.

Oh, the comfort - the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person - having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are, chaff and grain together; certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then with the breath of kindness blow the rest away.

~Dinah Craik, A Life for a Life, 1859

LOVE

noreply@blogger.com (aikamaru) — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 14:40:00 +0000

Proactive people make love a verb.
Love is something you do: the sacrifices you make, the giving of self, like a mother bringing a newborn into the world.
If you want to study love, study those who sacrifice for others, even for people who offend or do not love in return.
If you are a parent, look at the love you have for the children you sacrificed for. Love is a value that is actualized through loving actions.
Proactive people subordinate feelings to values. Love, the feeling, can be recaptured. - Stephen R. Covey

I know you'll meet someone better
But would still think of me
If he can't hold you like I did
Would you run back to me?

lyrics from urbandub.

AIKA, Herself and She

noreply@blogger.com (aikamaru) — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 09:17:00 +0000

Name: Galleca E. Baylon
Born: August 24, 1989
Email: louieaika@yahoo.com

You can call her aika for short.She lives in Cebu City, Philippines. Taking up Bachelor of Science in Computer Science at Cebu Institute of Technology.Learning programming a lot. Outgoing and open to all criticisms. Reading, blogging and going to many places specially at the beach are her favorites. She has a my myspace account www.myspace.com/galleca come and visit to know her better.

noreply@blogger.com (aikamaru) — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 08:32:00 +0000

"When you are in Love you can't fall asleep because reality is better than your dreams."

Love and Infatuation

noreply@blogger.com (aikamaru) — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 07:16:00 +0000

Infatuation

1. is often based on nonsensical attributes, such as the way a person walks or laughs. Little things "send" you.
2. often depends largely on physical attraction- the chills, thrills, heartthrobs, and goosebumps felt when touching the other person.
3. often has a destructive and disorganizing effect on the personality, causing you to forget the realities of life.
4. often ends rapidly-- if you are not sexually involved. If sexually involved, this is not a valid sign.
5. often keeps you idealizing the other person so that you are unwilling to admit any faults might exist.
6. often causes family and friends to disapprove of your choice.
7. often dies quickly when the other person is gone.
8. often includes frequent quarrels, arguments and misunderstandings as a consistent part of the relationship
9. is more interested in what you can get from the relationship
10. often includes frequent and severe feelings of jealousy
11. is generally used to describe past relationships
12. often focuses on unsuitable persons.
13. often includes frequent feelings of guilt, insecurity, and frustration.
14. is most frequent among young adolescents and immature persons
15. can recur easily immediately after a previous love relationship has ended.
16. is often followed by boredom once sexual excitement dies off.
17. requires that the couple must depend on external amusement in order to enjoy themselves.
18. changes relationship very little even though you go together for a long time
19. is often accompanied by shallow feelings and sensations the simply "send" you.
20. often lasts only a short time.
21. often exploits the other person to your advantage
22. is always a poor basis for marriage.

LOVE

1.looks deeply into the compatibility of character traits, shared values, and common interests.
2. considers other factors besides physical attraction. Physical attraction will make up a smaller portion of the total relationship
3. brings out the best in you, promotes personal growth, self-respect, ambition, and improvement.
4. takes time to develop and mature. Just as it takes time to grow, it also takes time for genuine love to end.
5. recognizes fine qualities, but also recognizes qualities that are less then perfect.
6. brings approval of family and friends. they can see what your relationship does for both of you
7. can survive a separation
8. reduces tension as you work toward open discussion for solving problems without arguing.
9. is interested in sharing and giving to bring happiness and security to the other.
10. promotes trust and security which enables you to release the other person
11. usually describes present relationship
12. is more often directed to suitable persons.
13. is characterized by feelings of self confidence, trust and security.
14. grows over a period of time and comes with emotional and biological maturity
15. will develop slowly following a previous love affair
16. produces an ongoing sense of interest and joy when together.
17. sparks interest in each other and commonly shared activities.
18. charges and grows deeper with ongoing association
19. provides a climate of deepening feelings and growing intimacy as you share more of life with your lover
20. tends to last for a long period of time.
21. protects, nurtures and cares for the other person
22.is enough to build a marriage on- if all other factors are right.

credits to nancy pelt.author..the compleat courtship

Saying I Love You In Many Ways

noreply@blogger.com (aikamaru) — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 07:07:00 +0000

Afrikaans: Ek het jou lief or Ek is leif vir jou
Albanian: Te dua or Te dashuroj
Arabic: Ana behibek(to female) and Ana behibak (to female)
Armenian: yes kez shat em siroom
Assamese: Moi tomak bhal pau
Assyr: Az tha hijthmekem
Bangladeschi: Ami tomake walobashi
Bulgarian: Obicham te
Burmese: Chit pa te or Chitte
Cambodian: Kh_nhaum soro_lahn nhee_ah
Dutch: Ik hou van jou or Ik hou van je
English: I love you
French: Je t'aime or Je t' adore
German: Ich liebe dich
Greek: S'ayapo
Hawaiian: Aloha wau ia oe
Hebrew: Ani ohev otach (to female) and Ani ohevet otcha (to male)
Hindi: Mujeh tumse pyaar hai
Indonesian: Saya cinta padamu
Italian: Ti amo
Japanese: Aisheteru
Javanese: Kulo tresno marang sampean
Korean: Sarang Heyo
Latin: Te amo
Lebanese: Bahibak
Macedonian: Sakam te
Malaysian: Saya cintakun mu
Mandarin: Wo ai ni
Norwegian: Jeg eisker deg
Pakistani: Kujhe tumse mahubbat hai
Persian: Aseketem
Philippines: Iniibig kita or mahal kita
Portuguese: Eu te amo
Romanian: Te iubesc or Te ador
Russian: Ya tyebya lyublyu
Serbain: Volim te
Spanish: Te quiero or Te amo
Swedish: jag älskar dig
Srilankan: Mama oyata arderyi
Tahitian: Ua here vau ia oe
Thai: Chan raak ther
Tunisian: Ha eh bak
Turkish: Seni seviyorum
Vietnamese: Em ye^u anh (to male) and Anh ye^e em(to woman)

Love

noreply@blogger.com (aikamaru) — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 09:44:00 +0000

Love is any of a number of emotions and experiences related to a sense of strong affection[1] and attachment. The word love can refer to a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes, ranging from generic pleasure ("I loved that meal") to intense interpersonal attraction ("I love my boyfriend"). This diversity of uses and meanings, combined with the complexity of the feelings involved, makes love unusually difficult to consistently define, even compared to other emotional states.

Love is an extremely powerful emotion; it can be irresistible and people are often bound to pursue their love interests. Love is a major theme in literature, poetry, and film.
ref: wikipedia