LOVE AND DATING

WHAT REGULAR SEX DOES TO YOUR HEALTH - Oladapo Ashiru

2016-07-26T18:25:00.001+01:00

According to Oladapo Ashiru, A Professor of Anatomy/Consultant Reproductive Endocrinologist,Men who have sex at least two times in a week can almost halve their risk of heart disease, a new research says. The study, which was conducted with over 1,000 men, describes sex as an activity that involves intense physical and emotional elements. Sexual intercourse may be a marker for a healthy heart because sex can be a form of physical activity, which, like exercise, gives your heart a workout.

Those who desire frequent sex and are able to get it, are likely to be healthier than others. Men who have regular sex may also be in a supportive relationship, which offers stress reduction and emotional benefits.

Regular sex is so beneficial that when you see a doctor he is likely to ask many questions about your sex so as to find out about your overall health condition. Apparently sex is not only good for your heart; it also keeps many diseases at bay.

For example, sex can actually cause you to get fewer colds.

Research has shown that couples who have sex weekly have a 30 per cent increase in immunoglobulin A, which is an antibody that fights infection. Sex can also help women have a more predictable period schedule, as a result of being exposed to male pheromones.

In addition, having sex reduces stress – for physiological as well as emotional reasons. Anything that will reduce stress is good for you as too much stress can lead to many diseases including cancer. Sex activates a nerve that has a calming effect. Having sex also lowers blood pressure, which reduces the risk of heart disease.

Sex can even reduce LDL (“bad”) cholesterol and increase HDL (“good”) cholesterol.

These are the good results that a healthy sex life can give you:

Fewer colds because of an increase in immunoglobulin A, an antibody that fights infection.
Women can get more predictable periods because of exposure to male pheromones.
A better physical response to stress
Lower blood pressure, which lowers your risk of heart disease.
Lowers your bad cholesterol and increase your good cholesterol.
Helps to tone your abs, gluts and pretty much any muscle in your body.
Naturally increases estrogen level which improves the appearance of your hair, skin and nails.
Helps to improve your memory because of increased blood flow to your brain.
Increased feelings of motivation because of the release of endorphins.
As you can see, a good sex life is one way to stay happy, healthy and fit. So if your doctor starts grilling you about your bedroom habits, you will know why. And this is only the tip of the iceberg.

Sex has also been found to boost self-esteem and improve intimacy in your relationship. This is because sex and orgasms result in increased levels of the hormone oxytocin — the “love” hormone – that helps you to feel bonded to your partner.

As oxytocin increases, so do hormones known as endorphins, which in turn lessens feelings of pain related to everything from headaches and arthritis to symptoms of menopause. It can also help you to get a better night’s sleep.

Further, for women, having sex can help strengthen the muscles of your pelvic floor (the same ones used to stop urination). As you age, having strong pelvic floor muscles reduces your risk of accidents.

Of course, these benefits are assuming that you’re having sex with a mutually monogamous partner – otherwise you risk catching a sexually transmitted disease.

Sexual pleasure begins in your brain

Your brain and nervous system control your sex glands and genitals. This is why they also control your sexual desire, as well as orgasms. It explains why, for example, visual images trigger sexual desire in both sexes.

Your brain stem also emits nerve impulses that control erectile function. These nerve impulses navigate through the Attention center of your spinal column to the erectile tissue of your joystick where they trigger a chain reaction in the membranes of your vascular muscle cells.This sophisticated chain reaction depends on a messenger molecule called cyclic guanosine monophosphate, or cGMP.

However, this works in reverse as well. An Attention softens as soon as another enzyme called phosphodiesterase starts to degrade the cGMP molecules.

Drugs like Viagra, Levitra and Cialis work by inhibiting phosphodiesterase, which may help maintain your Attention. But, these pills will not lead to an Attention. Your initial Attention still has to be triggered psychologically. Without that initial impetus, potency pills will have no effect whatsoever. This is also why these pills are ineffective for many men who take them hoping for a magic jack-in-the box effect.

As you might suspect, because your sexuality is so intimately tied to your mind, anxiety, defensiveness, fear, and failure of communication are all destructive psychological forces that can take a heavy toll on your libido, whether you’re a man or a woman. They are road blocks to desire. So handle them.

According to Professor Gert Holstege of the University of Groningen in the Nederlands, “Fear and anxiety need to be avoided at all costs if a woman wishes to have an orgasm.”

How to improve sexual desire naturally

If you would like to take advantage of some of the health benefits that regular sexual activity has to offer, yet find that your desire just isn’t what it used to be, there are many natural tips that can help.

Your sexual fires may also be fanned simply by eating less sugar. High levels of sugar in your bloodstream can actually turn off the gene that controls your sex hormones.

Four other tips to give your libido a big-time boost include:

Getting physically active. Studies have shown that men who engaged in regular physical activity lowered their risk of experiencing sexual dysfunction. Remember, when using exercise as a drug, it’s important to vary your routine.

9 Clues You Are Not The Main Girl But His Side Chick

2016-04-23T08:32:00.001+01:00

Most guys are known to keep multiple partners either because their real bae as they call it is not around or because of promiscuity.

Either ways, there would have been some handwriting which the lady who they often refer to as side chick often fail to spot. Love And Dating has put together signs that suggest that you may not be the main person in your his life.

1. most of his discussion with you is about s*x or romance.

When he invites you to his house and the first 10minutes he is reaching out for your goodies; you are not even done with the fanta and gala he offered you.

2. You’re Never Invited To A Family Gathering

If you have never met a guy’s parents and siblings or haven’t been to any events that include his friends, this is an indicator that you’re his Side chick buh not the “Main Chick”.

3. He Hates Surprises

Your man doesn’t want you to come unannounced, without notifications. So if he constantly says he hates surprise visits, it’s time to get concerned.

4. Protective Of His Phone

He has a password on his phone and makes sure to lock it after every time he uses it.When the phone rings, it either goes into another room to take the call, ignores it completely, or turns the volume down super low so that you can’t possibly hear a thing that is being said.

5. Refuses To Show Affection In Public

If you grab his hand and he pulls his hand away, or you never get a kiss or hug, or you never get too close when you’re out together, this could be a sign that you’re 100% side chick.

6. Avoids Having Selfie With You

If you notice that your guy is dodging selfies like “Bullets” whenever you tilt your phone to take a picture..He’s afraid his Main chick might see the pic.

7. Strange Calls

He dials or receive calls from a strange number. He always has to pick it, he never tells you who it was.But you know that it is not his mom or sibling. Sometimes the number might not be stored in his phone contact.That’s a sign to check it all up, because it can be the second(Main Chick).

8. He’s Not Calling You His Girlfriend

When it’s time to introduce you to his friends, colleagues or even relatives, he just introduces you with your name.And he never calls you his girlfriend or sweet words like “Dear, Honey, Bae. Etc among his circle.

9. Never Talks About The Future

Asking him about his views on the future of your relationship is like “Pulling Teeth”.In his mind he’s probably well aware that keeping you as the other woman won’t last long, so why plan on a future at all?

Fascinating Facts About Sex You Probably Don't Know

2016-04-20T22:59:00.001+01:00

Most psychologists and marriage counselors will agree that sex is an extremely important part of every romantic relationship arguably the most important even though few wouldn’t dare admit it openly. Sex is something you engage in with your partner that you don’t do with anyone else. Of course, you can also embrace, talk to, and kiss your partner to express your love, but you usually do these things with your mother, your siblings, and even your friends. Sex, on the other hand, is the definitive act that draws the line between the kinds of relationships we have with people. Further, sex as a unique expression of intimacy appears to have numerous benefits for one’s life and health, as many studies have shown: it’s a stress reliever, it reduces the risk of cancer (especially prostate cancer in men), reduces pain in many cases, improves sleep and can even cure insomnia in some instances, it even enhances skin and overall health. Most importantly however, sex between a man and a woman is the natural means of reproduction, perpetuating the human race. In other words, one could claim that sex is life. Here are Shocking And Fascinating Facts About Sex You Probably Didn’t Know.

According to The State University of New York study, Fluid can help fight depression. Fluid contains chemicals that elevate mood, increase affection, and induce sleep. It also contains cortisol, which is known to increase feelings of affection in the brain.
The average female orgasm lasts twenty seconds - fourteen seconds longer than the male orgasm.
Good looking men have stronger sperm. During a study in Spain women were shown pictures of men and asked to rank them according to their attractiveness. The men that the women found to be the best looking were most often the best sperm producers.
It takes two tablespoons of blood to get the average joystick erect.
Studies have shown that eighty-five percent of men who die of heart attacks during intercourse were cheating on their wives.
Despite many people using headache as a common excuse to avoid sex, sex can actually relieve a headache since it releases the tension, which restricts blood vessels in the brain.
A teaspoon of Fluid contains approximately five calories. Half an hour of intense sex burns off an average of one hundred to two hundred calories.
The earliest known illustration of a man using a condom during sexual intercourse is painted on the wall of a cave in France. It is dated between twelve thousand and fifteen thousand years old.

HOW TO GET YOUR MAN TO LAST LONGER IN BED - FOR THE LADIES ONLY!

2016-02-10T14:00:00.000+01:00

How do you get your man to last longer than two minutes in bed?
It’s simple…at least for those who follow my posts.
Now pay attention especially if you haven’t had sex for the first because it is in such discussions that you understand how to overcome such problems whenever they hit you in the future.
The Sex may be pleasing at first but will definitely lose its pleasure if you rarely reach an orgasm like your man does every night. This leads to a situation I call Sexual Frustration…which I talked about in my eBook; it is the major cause of all those irritation you get about every small and irrelevant stuff.
This is the major cause of breakups and divorces…
Okay, if you’re a man reading this post, imagine sleeping for a week with your babe/wife, you get sexually intimidate but she never lets you come. Imagine how devastating it will be if this happens for a month. Imagine how your life would be? That’s the same way it is for women when you don’t make them climax during sex.

Now, lets get down to the solution…

1. Get him to drop some unhealthy lifestyles: get him to quit smoking, drinking and junks. Get him to hit the gym, and eat healthy. In my eBook, I listed so many natural foods that we don’t even know helps a man increase his sexual stamina and libido.
2. Get to blow him off before the main event: every man knows that it takes longer to come a second time during sex if he has already gone one round. When you’re in bed with him, give him orals, hand-jobs, anything apart from the real intercourse just to make him come for the first time.

Then, when he’s flaccid, you guys should go into smooching and caressing again, this is the time you take to get not just him but yourself aroused again. In the next 5-10 minutes he should be up and strong again and he tends to last longer then.
3. Never allow him to start with the Missionary style: whenever a man start in this position, it makes him to come faster than usual because pressure is being applied to his groin and bladder. You can start from any other position like the doggy or wheel barrow but notmissionary.

4. Change your style: you must make sure to never maintain a particular sexual postion with him for more than 1½ minutes if you want him to last longer. The aim of this is that you break the flow every now and then.
REMEMBER, if you let him have his way and lash you nonstop like he always does, you’ll never get him to last longer in bed. You have to take control.

Get him to change positions. You guys are in bed, and he’s going too fast, slow him down. Change the position and let him start all over again. Stop. Go into caressing. Repeat the cycle all over again just like that. The point here is not to tease him but to put a wedge to the premature sexual pressure which increases with increase in stimulation.

When you must have changed positions for like four or five times, you find out that you guys have spent close to 20 or 30 minutes in bed and he’s not even close to coming yet.
I want you to know that it is possible to live a sexually fulfilled life.
It is possible to take control of sexual events in bed.
Your man mustn’t always be the pilot. This is not something that fasting and praying will not do for you. It is not something faking an orgasm will do for you.

IT IS EASY. All you need is a little coaching.

Most times, you wonder why there are so many troubles in your once romantic relationships. The reason is an unfulfilling sex-life. Sex is usually under-rated, it is not emphasized on enough. Porn circulation has messed up our minds and we all have a wrong conception about how to lash.
No matter how bad your sex-life is, you can still turn it around only if you follow my lead.
It is possible for your man to last more than 5 minutes in bed all you have to do is take real cognizance of the facts that I’ve laid down here.

4 EASY STEPS ON HOW TO AVOID BECOMING JUST A FRIEND WITH HER

2016-02-10T10:55:00.000+01:00

We all know that the friend zone is one of the most populated places on earth when it comes to dating and relationships... Getting in is quite easy but getting out and elevating to the status of boyfriend requires not just trial and error but pre-planned masterful approaches,which most guys lack. You may have been trying for months to get this girl to notice you; she finally starts paying you attention but you want to get close enough to her in order to tell her how much you like her and maybe get her into your bed; but one day amidst all your efforts to woo (chyke) her she turns around and tells you that you’re such a good friend to her, or worse, “you’re like a brother to me. Your world shuts down as you watch your all efforts trashed... For those of us who dont know what FRIEND-ZONE means...Simply put, a Friend Zone is when a girl decides that you’re her friend,just friends and nothing more, you’re no longer a dating option. You become this complete non-sexual entity in her eyes, like a brother.Maybe a confidant or a chat pal.
You may get a few cuddles, a full 360 degree hug every now and then but you’re always going to be ‘just like a brother to her’ while she dates every other guy. And I know this is not where you want to end up.

Below are a list of wrong moves you may be probably making with that girl that will surely get you into her Friend Zone in less than week:

1. Getting too close: if this is what you are doing right now in an attempt to win the girl over then I’m sorry for you. It’s wrong! Avoid this like you avoid LASTMA in Lagos highways. Most guys go to the extent of letting the girl go through the chats on their mobile phones just to get the girl comfortable with them. With time, she’ll start seeing you as one of her girlfriends.

2. No attraction: if after meeting her you don’t spark off any chemistry/feelings in her, then, Friend Zone awaits you. Whenever you hear a girl describe a guy as “just there” or “just an ok guy,” you should drop everything you’re doing then and start praying for the guy because that is the beginning of the end for him.

3. Becoming her best friend: so, you watched this movie where a certain guy who was always there for a girl never gets to date her. The girl gets hurt, gets advice from this dude who is her bestie and goes back to her boyfriend. At the end of the movie, something romantic happens and the girl finally falls in love with the guy who used to be her best friend. Wow! What a super story! And that’s why it’s called a movie.

In reality, you will always remain her best friend and nothing more. You can never get into a girl’s pants or become her boyfriend by becoming her best friend. You’re not Majid Micheal and I bet she’s not Yvonne Nelson.

By now the question probably going through your head is:

HOW DO I AVOID BECOMING JUST A FRIEND TO HER AND GET HER TO SEXUALLY DESIRE ME?
This can be very tricky especially if you’re already into the dreaded zone and knowing that your friendship is at stake here. Well, here are a few guaranteed pointers that will keep you out of the Friend Zone today:

1. Make the right first move: the first moves are as important as the finishing moves. When approaching a girl or talking to a girl you like very much, you need to make calculated moves. Falling in love/lust is not by fate. All happily married couples and players always plan their moves ahead of time.

When meeting her for the first time, be confident, make sure you make her laugh and when she does, get her number and leave at once. Don’t linger for too long. And try as much as possible to avoid her when friends are around her. You can’t really hit on a girl when she’s surrounded by friends.

2. Pass your message the right way and on time: In my former post, I said something about adding sexual-connoted words in your discussions with any girl you want to get intimate with. Now is the perfect time when such conversation is needed.

When you find her alone, show up and talk with her. If any of her friends comes around when you’re with her, jokingly say something like, “just when I thought I could spend some time with you, she comes up out of nowhere!” and make a funny face. This will get her confused and wondering if you’re really joking or serious.

The point is to give her a hint that you like spending time with her alone. Now, that’s sexy and indicates some serious interest. It will get her thinking as you haven’t told her anything yet about how you feel.

Another example is to flatter her creatively while passing your point at the same time. If she dresses up nicely, tell her she’s hot. If she catches you staring at her hips or cleavage, just blush, say you’re sorry and tell her that you tried but couldn’t resist it. Keep it light and funny but pass a sensual connoted message just as I explained earlier .

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3. Act like a man: in your attempt to get her to sexually become aware of you, make sure not to become her puppy and do everything she wants. This will have the opposite effect and give you a straight admission into the friend zone.

Make her feel special only when you’re with her. Hold her hands when you cross the roads, hold the doors open for her. Buy her small special gifts not because she asked for it but because you want to surprise her.

I remember once when I got a small cute book of nursery rhymes for a girl, I bought crayons and customized the write-ups to suit her, putting our names in appropriate lines and gently cancelling parts that didn’t match and drawing smileys on the pages. I read it for her when we were all alone in her room…the rest is history.

The point I want you to get is that women will always rant about how they want a caring man who responds to their every wish but if you become that man, they will lose every respect for you and put you in the zone.

4. Never tell her how you feel: don’t think that was a mistake or a typo. On no account should you go about ranting to a girl about how much you love her and can’t sleep at night because of her. This will put the girl on a defensive and will make her want to say no and automatically start avoiding you.

Before you even start thinking about telling her all those sweet stuffs you’ve memorized, always make sure that she has in more than 5 ways revealed or told you that she’s falling for you first.

The Friend zone is where no man ever wants to end up with a woman. I know because I’ve been there.So i dont want you to make the very simple but deadly mistakes most guys make,thats why i brings you this article. Every man should be ahead of his game!

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3 Reasons Why Women Fall For Bad Boys

2016-01-29T13:46:00.000+01:00

Bad Boys are all around us and guess what, they are almost irresistible, that is why characters like Charlie Boy and Terry G is fascinating to a lot of people.

The is the same reason why most people will support Olamide instead of Don Jazzy any time, any day.

They smoke, they have tattoos, they are alcoholics. There are so many negatives attached to Bad boys, yet there are women who want and seriously desire a bad boy in their life.

The question is are they just trying to attain the unattainable of they just like the challenge of making him fall in love.

Here are Three reasons why women fall for bad boys

GREAT SÉX

In a recent study conducted by the University of Michigan’s School of Public Health in 2007, women were asked to judge potential mates by how masculine their features were. It was discovered that men with masculine traits are seen as good short-term partners, while those with more feminine traits such as a rounder face and fuller lips are perceived as better long-term mates.

Women usually get turned on by the full muscles and the $exiness bad boys elude. For some reason you just know that he is great in bed and this is the key to a great relationship.

THE CHALLENGE

The possibility of converting a Bad Boy from a serial playboy into a loving, supportive, feeling man is a strong pull for Bad Boy-addicted women, but it’s also the reason some women left them.

One woman said “My motivation for dating bad boys is the fire of attitude they bring to the table. The challenge is what brought me to them, but the fire of never knowing what’s next, and them being great in bed is what keeps you with them…. for a short period of time. I could never stay with him for long, because what attracted me to him is inevitably what made me leave him in a few weeks. Who wants a challenge forever?”

THE THRILL

Doing something that was against the norm (or against parents’ wishes) was also cited as a key motivating factor. Doing the wrong thing has an appeal, even if it’s only for a short time.

Society in general—and the media in particular—LOVE to paint the Bad Boy as the black hole of masculinity. That is to say, that nothing can escape them… no woman can resist their magnetism, no Nice Guy is nice enough to keep a woman away from their pull.

In truth, it’s up to women to realize that they not only should be wanting more than what the short-shelf-life Bad Boy can provide them, they deserve more

5 Sure Ways To Stop Feeling Insecure In Your Relationships

2016-01-26T14:39:00.002+01:00

Do you often feel inadequate and “not good enough” to be friends, lovers, or business partners with certain people? You simply can't understand what others see in you. You are very insecure. You end many promising relationships because of insecurity. In your mind, it feels easier for you to end it before they did. Walking away rather than risking the heartbreak of rejection is how you justify this behavior to yourself. I have also been through this in the past. But after awhile, as I grew emotionally, I began to realize that I wanted and needed the comfort and support of long-term relationships (I am not referring to only romantic relationships)

So what did I do, and what can you do if insecurity is damaging your relationships? You need to understand that a good relationship is about sharing ideas and enjoyable moments with another, to help each other grow in healthy ways, both together socially and as individuals. If someone really does treat you poorly or lies and cheats you out of something, feeling insecure is a natural and reasonable response. However, if you’re actually in a generally good relationship with someone, then it’s time to…

1. Stop trying to read minds.
Most relationship problems and associated social anxieties start with bad communication, which in turn leads to attempted mind reading. Mind reading occurs when two people assume that they know what the other is thinking when they don’t. This process of wondering and trying to guess what someone is thinking is a rapid route to feelings of insecurity and stress.
If someone says one thing, don’t assume they mean something else. If they say nothing at all, don’t assume their silence has some hidden, negative connotation. Likewise, don’t make the people in your life try to read your mind.
Say what you mean and mean what you say. Give the people in your life the information they need, rather than expecting them to know the unknowable. It’s also important to remember that you aren’t suppose to know every little thing going on in the minds of others, even the people closest to you. When you stop trying to read their minds, you really begin to respect their right to privacy. Everyone deserves the right to think private thoughts. Constantly asking, “What are you thinking?” can provoke a person to withdraw from a relationship to find space.

2. Stop looking for perfect relationships.
You will end up spending your entire life hopelessly seeking the right lover and the right friends if you expect them to be perfect. Even worse, the process of doing so will drive you mad, as you feel more and more insecure with every failed relationship that doesn’t live up to your fantasy of perfection.
We’re all seeking those special relationships that feel perfect for us, but if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to realize that there are no “perfect people” for you, just different flavors of imperfect ones.
That’s because we are all imperfect in some way. You yourself are imperfect in many ways, and you seek out relationships with people who are imperfect in complementary ways. It takes a lot of life experience to grow fully into yourself and realize your own imperfections; and it isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest imperfections, your unsolvable flaws – the ones that truly define who you are – that you are able to proficiently select harmonious relationships. Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for. You’re looking for imperfect people who balance you out – the perfectly imperfect people for you.

3. Stop judging current relationships based on past ones.
Think about those times when you passed an unfair judgment on someone merely because they reminded you of someone from your past who treated you poorly. Sadly, some people pass judgments like these throughout the entire duration of their long-term relationships. Simply because they were once in a relationship with someone who was abusive, dishonest, or who left them, they respond defensively to everyone else who gets close to them, even though these new relationships have been nothing but kind and supportive.
If you carry old bricks from the failed relationships of your past to your present relationships, you will build the same flawed structures that fell apart before. So if you suspect that you have been making unfair comparisons between your present relationships and a negative one from the past, take a moment and consciously reflect on the hurtful qualities of this old, negative relationship, and then think of all the ways your present relationships differ. This small exercise will help you let go of the old bricks and remind you that past pains are not indicative of present possibilities.

4. Stop inventing problems that don’t exist.
Inventing problems in our mind and then believing them is a clear path to self- sabotage. Too often we amuse ourselves with anxious predictions, deceive ourselves with negative thinking, and ultimately live in a state of hallucination about worst-case scenarios. We overlook everything but the plain, downright, simple, honest truth.
When you invent problems in your relationships, your relationships ultimately suffer. Insecurity is often the culprit. If you doubt yourself and you don’t realize your own worth, you will pass on any opportunity to let others care for you, and you will remain stuck with the insecurity issues that weigh you down.
The insecure passenger does not trust anyone else to drive. They feel out of control. They imagine that the driver is not paying attention. Or they may even fantasize that the slight jolting of the driver stepping on the breaks is a sign of doom via an impending collision.
They freak themselves out by assuming that the visions they have invented in their mind represents reality.
What you need to realize is that there are normal idiosyncrasies to any relationship. There are ups and downs and mood changes, moments of affection and closeness and moments of friction. These ups and downs are normal. Wanting to be absolutely close and intimate all the time is like wanting to be a passenger in a car that has no driver.
Next time you feel insecure, and you catch yourself stressing about problems that don’t exist, stop yourself and take a deep breath. Then tell yourself, “This problem I’m concerned with only exists in my mind.” Being able to distinguish between what you imagine and what is actually happening in your life is an important step towards self-confidence.

5. Stop focusing on the negatives.
There’s no such thing as a perfect relationship. Even if it seems perfect now, it won’t always be. Imperfection, however, is real and beautiful. The quality of the happiness between two people grows in direct proportion to their acceptance, and in inverse proportion to their intolerance and expectations. It’s how two people accept and deal with the imperfections of their relationship that make it ideal.
Of course, this doesn’t mean that you have to accept everyone into your life even when it is obvious that they are not right for you. But it does mean that if there are occasional difficulties in your relationships, you don’t have to jump to the bold conclusion that the entire relationship is bad, and become so distressed that the relationship ends, or so insecure that the other person questions your intentions.
No meaningful relationship will always work flawlessly all the time. Being too black and white about the quality and health of a relationship spells trouble.
There will always be difficulties present, but you can still focus on the good. Insecure people constantly look for signs of what’s not working in their relationships. What you need to do is look for signs of what is.
Having an appreciation for how remarkable the people in your life are leads to good places – productive, fulfilling, peaceful places. So notice their strong qualities, cheer for their victories, and encourage their goals and ambitions. Challenge them to be the best they can be. Every day, acknowledge just how amazing they are.

These are things you should apply in your life everyday. Keep on practicing (as I am still practicing) until it becomes part of you.

The 4 Types Of Guys You Should Not Play ‘Hard-To-Get’ With

2016-01-23T15:39:00.001+01:00

There is always this misconception among our young Nigerian ladies of today that playing ‘hard to get‘ is the sure way of identifying a guy who truly desires and cherishes them.

This notion is not only fallacious, it also stands on a sinking foundation! There are guys who would play along with you to the end just to ‘get down with you’ and eventually show you the EXIT SIGN when it is time for them to take a leave cool It doesn’t matter the method you use in playing the so-called ‘hard to get’. If you like, do it in a Chinese style or Zimbabwean style!!! Dat nor be dia concern!!! wink

On a serious note, that a guy doesn’t have time to start running after you like a kindergaten child doesn’t mean he never desired you or liked you in sincerity. Different strokes for different folks, they say wink Below are the types of guys that find it difficult to tolerate ‘hard to get’ in romantic affairs:

1. Intelligent guys: These set of guys find it difficult to tolerate all the unnecessary rigmarole that comes with a lady playing hard-to-get. Do you think an intelligent person doesn’t know he is? You cannot be the one to tell him; he knows it. He probably has some real brain-storming stuffs to do that can create wealth and help others as well other than chasing you up and down the road or calling your line several times without any response on daily basis!

2. Ambitious guys: When I say ‘ambitious’, I’m not talking of guys who wake up in the morning with huge wraps of indian hemp in their hands with loud talk of ‘I go hammer, I go hammer’!!! I mean guys who have concrete dreams and are working towards it. They probably won’t have time to chase you here and there when they know they have lot and lot of work to do. There’s a difference between chasing women and dating a girl; you probably don’t expect the latter to slow down his dreams! He might need you sincerely; he doesn’t want to chase women wink

3. Guys that are emotionally strong: It takes an emotionally strong bloke to turn down the unreasonable request of a woman in a reasonable way. This means that guys who are emotionally strong have a greater possibility of saying ‘NO’ to the ritualistic torture or torment that goes with playing hard-to-get. They might easily back up. That doesn’t mean they lacked sincere desires or are feeble-minded; it could mean that they are just too emotionally upgraded to start playing the role of a primary school boy in a movie directed by the lady!

4. Introverted guys: These people think very deeply because they spend much time alone. When a lady plays hard to get, it irritates them often times and they quickly dump her matter!!! Now, what’s the stress? Since he is a deep thinker and probably a melancholic, he might paint a beautiful picture of love for you in his heart and when you mess up with your hard-to-get stunts, he quickly gives up because you not only burst his bubbles; you spoil the beautiful picture he employs his creativity painting.

8 Perfect Ways To Boost A Boring Relationship

2016-01-22T12:24:00.000+01:00

You struggle so hard to get this your dream girl. Along the line, after the sexual exploits day in day out, the hanging out and other things. Both of you have run out of ideas and the relationship is becoming boring. Breakup is all that comes to your mind.
A relationship, as we all know, is the connection between two or more people, But in this case, the relationship is between you and your partner; when you are in a relationship, you are emotionally involved or connected to your partner.
And of course, every relationship needs refueling and it also needs re-boosting to spice up the atmosphere at a point in time.
Here are 8 simple ways to boost your relationship:

1.Surprise your partner by doing a task you do not normally do: this task may be taking out the trash or cleaning the bathtub etc.

2.Compliment your partner’s parent: “I love how your Dad makes friends wherever he goes”; “I love how your Mom always asks after my family.”

3.Compliment one of your partner’s friends: “I really admire how smart Kunle or Dolapo is.” Why? It shows you think your partner has good taste in friends.

4.Use a nickname you have stopped using: Think back to the start of your relationship to any affectionate nicknames you used to use but have stopped using.

5.Do something fun you used to do together that you have stopped doing: Maybe you used to play Monopoly when you first started dating, or maybe you used to take a walk outside for ice cream after dinner. (The activity may take longer than a minute, but the suggestion won’t; it will take less than a minute.)

6.Thank your partner for something you usually take for granted: “Thanks for cleaning off the plates again, sweetie.”

7.Bring up a positive memory of something you did together: “I was just thinking about how fun it was to pick out plants together last weekend.”You know the positive memory you have had with your partner. Try and bring them out once again to spice up your relationship.
All this act goes a long way in the relationship and it will definitely make your partner appreciate you much better.

5 Ways To FINALLY Let Go Of Someone Who Doesn’t Love You Back

2016-01-20T13:03:00.001+01:00

So while we’re huge proponents of following your heart, here’s a crash course in outsmarting the romance novel in your head with our favorite five of Brochard’s tips.

1. Schedule your obsessing.

While a true crush is the lifeblood of morning, noon and night, Brochard suggests you quiet the violins in your head and set aside a time to think about that special person. Like, say, during breakfast or while you walk around the block on your lunch break.

Admittedly, we’ve never tried this. It sort of reminds us of attempting to avoid a blinking, beautiful bowl of chocolate candy when we’d sacrifice our first born for a single M&M. Yet, Brochard suggests you have a dialogue with yourself that goes something like this: “Thought, I appreciate your coming, but I’ve scheduled you for seven this evening, at which time you can totally distract me if you want.” You tell those thoughts who’s boss!

2. Replace your crush with a hobby.

This one kills two birds with one stone. Distract yourself from the sick, delusional white wedding with Crush X in your head, and sign up for that kickboxing class you’ve been wanting to do for months. Brochard thinks this should be a “challenge,” so the more draining the better. Time to train for that marathon or become fluent in Spanish. No slacking!

3. Accept that you’re lonely.

While, yes, the person you’re obsessing over may very well be Dreamy McDreamboat, the sheer fact you’ve allowed the fantasy to absorb so much valuable brain power is a red LONELY flag flapping in the wind. As Brochard says, “It’s the emptiness within you that you have to be willing to experience, not the one who could temporarily take it away.”

4. Realize that it’s all in your head.

The adrenaline rush of love at its very basic level is nothing more than just a few brain synapses gone wild. Infatuation is the brain’s own personal cocaine party. A few extra bumps of dopamine and suddenly the entire world is a rose-colored long walk on the beach. The sooner you realize love is as powerful a drug as anything black market, the quicker you can take control of it.

5. Write out your feelings.

If you’re too ashamed to admit to anyone you’ve lost it hardcore for someone so utterly uninterested, try a nice, long journal session. Writing out one’s emotions has been scientifically proven to help speed up the healing process.

8 Things No One Tells You About Falling In Love With Your Best Friend

2016-01-20T12:42:00.001+01:00

When you start to date your best friend, you gain a lot: a protector, undeniable confidence, and a feverish determination to make your relationship work. But you also lose a lot and learn a lot. Read on to find out why taking on the challenge is a tough feat, but at the end of the day, totally worth it.

1. You’ll Know Exactly What the Other Person’s Thinking, All the Time

You don’t need to bother trying to read your own best friend’s mind because you already know what he or she is about to say. So while a relationship with somebody new often involves a lot of overanalyzing and sending nerve-racking texts, you won’t have to play the guessing game this time around.

2. You’ll Wish There Were More Hours in the Day

Time: you’re going to want more of it. At first, you won’t be able to get enough of each other. Now you can do the things you’ve always done as friends and things people do as more than friends. While you’ll want to spend the whole day together, there are other people in your life who need your lovin’ too, like family and the rest of your buddies. Don’t forget it.

3. You Won’t Stop Making Fun of Each Other

If you’ve always made fun of his obsession with that one childish video game and he’s always picked on you for wearing that “weird” man-repelling top, it’s not going to stop now. The only difference is that the teasing will probably end with a kiss on the forehead instead of a playful punch in the arm.

4. There’s a Constant Fear You Live With

You could lose the most important person in your life — the one who plays the part of your best friend and boyfriend or girlfriend. If you’re fighting with him or her, you might have to tap your mom or another friend for advice. You try not to think about what would happen if this all doesn’t work out, but sometimes you do, and sometimes a mighty pang of anxiety comes along with it.

5. Dinner Plans Will Be Incredibly Easy

Planning your first dinner “date” will go something like this: “Wanna get pizza from that place we tried that time?” “Yeah.” And you’ll probably split the bill, just like you always have. And you’ll feel totally comfortable stuffing your face in front of each other, just like you always have.

6. You’ll Fight a Lot Sooner Than You Expected

You’ve never been afraid to tell this person how you feel, and that’s not about to change now that you’ve entered a romantic relationship. If you’re angry about something, there’s less of a chance you’ll hide it and more of a chance you’ll lay it on the line. Your best friend already knows what irks you and when to stop pushing your buttons. And you won’t hesitate to remind them, lest they forget.

7. You’ll Start to Care About How You Look in Front of Them, Even If You Didn’t Before

Your best friend’s probably seen you in your sweats with no makeup on plenty of times. Because really, you never put a second thought into how you looked. But now, you’ll have fun getting dressed up and feeling sexy in front of your SO. There’s a newfound level of attraction there, and you’ll really enjoy it.

8. It’s Worth It

No one ever tells you to go ahead and fall in love with your best friend because of the risk factor. If all goes wrong and things end badly, there’s the chance you’ll lose someone who’s a very important part of your life. But you’ll also never know a bond as strong as the one you share with someone who truly cares about you, supports you, laughs with you, and also happens to be in love with you. There are a lot of crazy decisions you’ll make in life. If you get the chance, you should totally let this be one of them

Why women love your penis just the way it is

2016-01-16T22:45:00.000+01:00

It is a known fact that men are weirdly obsessed with their penises. They worry about the size, shape and even girth.

We have news for you: if your woman keeps coming back for more, even though you find your penis unappealing, it might be because she loves it for the reasons below.

MensHealth presents the hidden benefits of the 'imperfect' penis below;

Penis Predicament: Too Small

The Advantage: There are two positives to having a small dick. One, it may make anal easier on her. And two, it can make her more enthusiastic about oral sex.

“I love anal, but I’ll only have anal with small guys because I’m not a freaking masochist,” says Michele, 37.

And small wieners are easier to fellate. “Giving a normal size penis a blow job is hard on your neck, jaw, and lips,” adds Michele. “But I can go down on my small guy for as long as it takes.”

Penis Predicament: Too Thick

The Advantage: Your massive man-meat may intimidate her at first. But if you spend enough time in foreplay, not only can you fit, but you may actually feel better to her.

Girth is perhaps the most important part of the penis when it comes to pleasure in women. More girth leads to more vaginal satisfaction, as the extra girth increases pressure on the vagina walls.

Amy, 34, couldn’t agree more. “The first time I saw my boyfriend’s penis—it was like water-bottle thick—I said, ‘No way is that going inside me,’” she says. “Then once we eased it in, it was the best feeling ever.”

READ: 10 fascinating facts about the penis

Penis Predicament: Slightly Curved

The Advantage: Having a slight curve to your penis can actually be fun, because it’ll take some exploring to find the perfect angle. And that means attempting positions you might not have tried otherwise.

When the penis is curved either to the left or to the right, it can contribute and enhance some internal stimulation, such as stimulating the G spot.

Some positions to try include the Side Saddle, where he’s lying on his back and she sits on him, facing the side in which the penile angle occurs. She has a lot of control and can guide her body up and down in the same motion as the angle of his penis.

Penis Predicament: Uncircumcised

The Advantage: Your uncircumcised dick will make her wetter.

"With circumcised men, I would need a lot of lubricant, but with Brad—who was uncut—I didn’t need any,” says Joanna, 42. “I’ve only been able to have a vaginal orgasm with an uncut penis.”

Chris Donaghue, Ph.D.—a sex therapist and sexologist, and author of SexOutside the Lines—says this is true because “foreskin helps the penis glide in and out of the vagina in smooth movements, keeping it moist. Unlike with a circumcised penis, which can create a pull or drag on the vagina that can cause pain.”

There are two other upsides for the lady. “When Brad’s foreskin bunched up inside me, it rubbed against me and my G-spot in a way that made me very tingly,” remembers Joanna. “And I think his foreskin made him last longer too, because the head of his penis wasn’t so sensitive.”

It also makes handjobs easier on her. “Most uncut guys do not require lube for a hand jobs, because the skin acts like a lubricant,” says Donaghue. “Therefore she doesn’t need to grab any lube and it can be more spontaneous.”

This is why your partner does not want to have sex with you

2016-01-16T22:13:00.001+01:00

A recent study has found that level of sexual satisfactioncouples feel in relationships drops after just a year, TheIndependent reports.

Researchers set out to find how long couples are sexually fulfilled over the course of a relationship.

The team assessed data from a study involving 3,000 people, focusing on heterosexual people in committed relationships aged between 25 and 41.

Participants were asked to report how happy they were with their sex lives.

The study, published in the 'Archives of Sexual Behavior'journal, found that sexual satisfaction rises in the first year of a relationship – but then declines from this point onwards.

However, the evidence did not suggest that marriage and cohabitation affect sexual satisfaction, which went against previous studies. Children also did not seem to have an effect, researchers found.

Instead, arguments and domestic disagreements were the root cause, with a decline in sexual satisfaction showing links with a rise spats.

On top of this, lovers tended to stop learning about each other’s needs after the one-year mark.

"We did not find that having children played a major role in a couple’s sexual satisfaction, which is remarkable as research has shown that sexual frequency is heavily influenced by the existence and age of children," study author Claudia Schmiedeberg told The Telegraph in an interview.

'17 Ways To Treat A Woman Right' - John Dumelo Writes

2016-01-11T21:51:00.000+01:00

Handsome Ghanaian actor John Dumelo has shared his views on her to treat a woman to ensure .her happiness

After going to the 17 points he laid down, I wondered if Nigerian men can do them.

Read and form your own opinions

My view on how to treat women.

1.Don't compare your wife to other women. You don't know what their husbands are going through.

2. NEVER expose your wife's weakness to your family or friends or run to them whenever you have issues. Problems are best solved between you and your woman.

3. Don't think you are man so you can use intimidation, shout or violence to communicate your moods. Aggressive men don't make a happy home.

4. Speak gently and calmly to your wife. Never raise your voice at her, it demeans her and shows you think she is stupid.
5. Do your responsibilities as man...don't leave every to your woman.

6. Never blame your wife if she doesn't take care of the home everyday. She is swamped with house work and helping you raise the kids.

7. Don't be wasteful spending money on drinks, friends and extended family.The wife and children are your first responsibility.

8. Sex is also important to women. Her pleasure should be considered before your own.

9. Never compare your wife to your ex-girlfriends. If you loved them so much why didn't you marry them instead of your wife.

10. Never shout down your wife or challenge her in front of the children. The children are watching. They won't listen and obey her too.

11. Tell your wife she's beautiful even if you know she's looking normal. Women love compliment.

12. Don't forget that women also want attention and someone to share their thougts with. Never be too busy for your wife.

13. A prayerful man is a better equipped husband. Pray always for your wife and family. Don't leave the prayers to your wife.

14.Treat your wife like a queen. Buy her gifts, take her shopping and once in a while, cook for her.

15.Please don't forget your these anniversary dates. Wedding ,engagement,the first time you kissed. I beg you. These dates mean a lot to women. (Don't ask me why). I also don't know.

16. Your mother should not have the final say in your marriage. You married your wife, not you and your mother. Let her talk in her own husband's house.

17.There are 5 days each month that you have to say "I'm sorry", "yes baby" and "I love you" more than 7 times a day. That's when she's menstrating. #jmelo

Sex Benefits You Did Not Know 18+

2015-12-16T20:30:00.001+01:00

I doubt we need to define sex, but for the sake of those who might not know, Wikipedia defines Sex thus:

Sexual intercourse, or coitus or copulation, is principally the insertion and thrusting of a male’s penis, usually whenerect, into a female’s vagina for the purposes of sexual pleasure, reproduction, or both. This is also known as vaginal intercourse or vaginal sex. Other forms of penetrative sexual intercourse include penetration of the anus by the penis (anal sex), penetration of the mouth by the penis or oral penetration of the female genitalia (oral sex), sexual penetration by the fingers (fingering), and penetration by use of a dildo (including a strap-on dildo). These activities involve physical intimacy between two or more individuals and are usually used among humans solely for physical or emotional pleasure and commonly contribute to human bonding.

So apart from the physical pleasure, what other benefits are there?

1. Lowers Your Blood Pressure

So benefit number one is that you are less likely to die of a High Blood Pressure. Research suggests a link between sex and lower blood pressure, says Joseph J. Pinzone, MD. He is CEO and medical director of Amai Wellness.

“There have been many studies,” he says. “One landmark study found that sexual intercourse specifically (not masturbation) lowered systolic blood pressure.” That’s the first number on your blood pressure test.

2. Improves Strength of Immune System

Yes, you are less likely to fall sick. “Sexually active people take fewer sick days,” says Yvonne K. Fulbright, PhD a sexual health expert. People who have sex have higher levels of what defends your body against germs, viruses, and other intruders. Researchers at Wilkes University in Pennsylvania found that college students who had sex once or twice a week had higher levels of the a certain antibody compared to students who had sex less often.

3. Prostate Cancer Less Likely

Having sex frequently will prevent prostate cancer. Men who ejaculated frequently (at least 21 times a month) were less likely to get prostate cancer during one study, which was published in the Journal of the American Medical Association. You don’t need a partner to reap this benefit: Sexual intercourse, nocturnal emission, and masturbation were all part of the equation.

4. It is a form of Exercise

“Sex is a really great form of exercise,” Pinzone says. It won’t replace the treadmill, but it counts for something. Sex uses about five calories per minute, four more calories than watching TV. It gives you a one-two punch: It bumps up your heart rate and uses various muscles.

5. Heart Attack Risk is Reduced

A good sex life is good for your heart. Besides being a great way to raise your heart rate, sex helps keep your estrogen and testosterone levels in balance. “When either one of those is low you begin to get lots of problems, like osteoporosis and even heart disease,” Pinzone says.

10 Categories Of People That Womanize A Lot

2015-12-13T09:25:00.001+01:00

Though, anybody can be caught in the act of womanizing but the traits are mainly and specifically peculiar among the categories of the enlisted people.

Note This is NOT a maximum generalization that all the categories of stated people are womanizers. It’s just to let you know that an average or sizeable number of them are guilty of the charge levied against them.

We do not have all day. Lemme keep the ball rolling.

10 Categories of People That Can’t Do Without Womanizing

1. Yahoo Boys

These ones deserve a standing ovation for womanizing cos they are naturally stereotyped “womanizers”. (though I take exception to those that will come in contact with me and will prove otherwise). Since they hold ladies attention like nobody else, all out of an conscious/unconscious desire to prove constantly that they are financially buoyant by extravagantly and wastefully spending their earnings from scam, all in a bid to take off the panties of the greedy, narcissistic and nefarious ladies who worship money to buy perishable parameters and boost their self serving ego, just in a few minutes of knowing these guys. Yahoo guys !, I throway salute oooo.

2. Lecturers

It takes the grace of God to find a lecturer in our tertiary institutions who doesn’t at least womanize. The larger percent of lecturers who are unnecessarily strict to students are nothing but womanizers. They however use unlawful pressure upon a lady to coerce her to perform an act that she ordinarily would not perform without the treat of carry over/extra year. Even though some of them pretend to be S.U, they are green snakes under a green grass that would parley and strike a deal with the Class Rep asking him to link them up with babes to they would bleep. They would solemnly promise to upgrade her CGP to 4.50 just to have her attention but once their true nature as sodomizing bastards is uncovered, they would be the one to award her a carry over in their own course. They are common in GNS/GENS department

3. JAMB/GCE Tutorial Teachers

This list is incomplete without these categories of people. I know that some of us might at a point attended JAMB coaching classes and we must have however noticed the gimmicks played by these proclaimed JAMB/GCE teachers. They are always very accommodating to the female students pretending to be helpful in making their admission dream come to reality. Don’t underestimate them, cos they have the phone numbers of many female students ringing them up odd hour at night. (Xtracool things). Womanizing is in their gene

4. Politicians

This is common with those pot bellied politicians. When they spot a pretty lady from their cars, they will wind down the car window and start saying the sleaziest pick up lines you can never think of, such as sweetie, baby, angel, honey, darling; you shouldn’t be walking in this hot sun. Hop in lemme give you a ride. These romantic pet names are the perfect way to make a girl feel special without mixing up real names. *Hailing to our politicians*

5. Male Corp Members

Though I’m not yet a corper but I know what’s up. Some of them will be praying that they should be posted to Secondary Schools so that they will be having secret affairs with those young female students whose bosoms are still under infantile stage of development.

6. Bank Managers/HRM

While I would not say that this assertion is 100 percent valid, but it is valid more often than not. Don’t be surpirsed that these ones are also not exempted from the act of womanizing. Since they are respected for the position they occupy and are responsible for the intake of employees, they use this position to coerce female job seekers into getting under their skirt, provided they dance to their tune. Ever wondered why ladies find jobs easily in Nigeria, unlike the male folks?

7. Fake Pastors in Sheep Clothing

The Bible already predicted that many fake pastors will use Jesus’ name to cast out demons and peform signs and wonders. A fake pastor will always womanize no matter what. Today, you will hear the story of a pastor bleeping the memeber of the choir and ushering unit, etc. I’m glad God has been exposing them in recent time.

8. Alhajis

They share similar characteristics with the fake pastors. Don’t be deceived by the “Alhaji” they are being called. Many of them are hypocrites in “Alhaji” clothing, they are always twising the Holy Quran giving 1,000 reasons as to why it’s right for a man to marry 100 wives provided he can take their responsibilites and love them equally(even the poor ones who can’t cater for a wife dwell in this same notion and adopt a second wife cheesy ). As a matter of fact, a man who marries more than one wife can never be a faithful man, cos his sexual sincerity is next to nill. As a result of this, they go about chasing young ladies despite having five wives at home.

9. Policemen

Sincerity and honesty are not the watchwords of most policemen, and this affect their marital life. A larger proportion of policemen keep extra marital affairs outside. After a strenuous day at work, you will spot them at beer palour such as mama Ngozi cool spot, Mama Ijeoma beer palour squandering money on another lady.

10. Students

I used to be in this category before deliverance had its way. However, some students who can’t boast of two square meal a day, will cohabit with a lady for a whole session. They can even give their school fee to a lady they are cohabiting. This reminds me of how a cohabiting friend who was chased out of the exam hall for not paying his school/department fees. Roflwkmd.

By Tosyne2much

10 Things You Shouldn’t Do When You Meet a New Guy – By Joro Olumofin

2015-12-12T23:56:00.002+01:00

Some Ladies today wonder why after a guy has shown interest in them or after 2/3 dates he disappears or doesn’t return their phone calls, text, whatsapp or bbms, a celeb writer has answered this question…a must read!

1) Don’t take your friends along when he invites you on a date:
Some Nigerian Ladies for some reason that is beyond me, take their friends on a date with a guy they just met. I can attest to this because it has happened to me before. No positive outcome can come out of this but some of the negatives are: (i) The guy will be turned off (ii) He may start liking or prefer one for your friends to you (iii) He will never get the opportunity to know you as much as he wants because of the 3rd wheel (iv) He may think you don’t have a mind of your own (v) He may turn you and your friends back

(2) Don’t go to his house unannounced:
One thing a man hates the most is for you to show up at his house unannounced or invited especially when he just met you. That’s a “NO NO” because he’ll just think you’re a stalker or a psycho and he’ll act out.. Some ladies out of emotions and lack of trust show up at a guys house, what they don’t know is they are pushing him away or giving him reasons to leave

(3) Don’t ask him for Money:
Some Ladies meet a guy and in less than 2/3 weeks the demands start rolling in. Please pay for my Brazilian hair, buy me birkin / Chanel bag for my birthday next week, my rent is due, or plain & simply, I need 500k or 1 million. Most guys would take off when they meet a Lady like this. They would say she’s opportunistic and compare her to the ladies who are not asking them for a kobo or dime.

(4) Don’t compare him to your ex or talk about your ex, only if he requests:
Some Ladies compare and contrast their new guy to their old one, not only in their mind but to his face as well. They say things like my Ladi used to take me to KFC you’re taking me to Mr Biggs, Jide bought me Prada for my birthday last year you’re buying me Zara? . Guys hate being compared, it punctures their Ego so allow him be the Boss and take you out, don’t compare or dictate terms of dates or gifts.

(5) Don’t be to quick to upload his pictures on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter (Social Media):
Ladies, you just met a guy, a new flame, the relationship is at its early stages, there’s still so much you don’t know about him why upload his pictures for the world to see? The relationship may not even be defined yet.. By doing this, you’re giving people room to influence and alter your infant relationship. Also you don’t want to be like those people who have to cleanse their instagram and Facebook pages of a guys picture every 6 months because of a breakup. Some ladies have a new boyfriend on Instagram every 3 weeks, after a heartbreak they delete old pictures and add new ones.

(6) Don’t wear see through or exposing outfits on your first date:
Guys are very Impulsive and instinctive by nature, by wearing a dress or gown that’s says “s*x” that’s all that will be on his mind and nothing else. He won’t want to hear anything about you anymore; your personality, your job, your family etc. All he’ll be thinking about is how he’ll take you to his house or hotel room because you’ve sent him a signal saying you want s*x.

(7) Don’t bore him with your Family issues:
Some ladies carry their personal or family problems out with them on dates, instead of making waves and progress with their new guy, they talk about how their house got burnt last week, or how their friend always borrows money or clothes from them, or how they hate their sisters or brothers.. All these are TMI (Too Much Information) Focus on him and let him Focus on you.. Don’t allow extraneous variables creep in and take over your conversation.

(8) Don’t talk about marriage or the future:
The number one thing guys are scared of after God is the “C” or “M” word. “Commitment or Marriage” so if you just met a guy and you’re already talking about marriage or children he is definitely going to take off and say you’re putting him under pressure and he can’t keep up.. Let him be the one to bring it up not you because he’ll say you’re desperate.

(9) Don’t pry about his pocket, earnings or the car he drives:
A friend of mine went on a Blind Date at Radisson (Lagos) to meet a Lady who his cousin had introduced him to through Instagram. He complained he had not even ordered a drink when his date asked him: What car do you drive? That was her first question.. “What do you drive?” He said he wondered do you want to date me? Or date my car? Most guys would be offended by this and even have a negative impression about you immediately, because a guy would wonder do u like me or my car?. Focus on him, his future plans etc

(10) Don’t get drunk on your first outing with him:
Firstly Ladies, this is for your own safety a lot of ladies have been taken advantage of because they were intoxicated. You also don’t want to embarrass yourself and say or do things that you can’t defend or verify.

The 50 things every woman needs to know about sex

2015-12-09T22:59:00.000+01:00

Found this interesting article on UK Daily Mail written by Sexpert Tracey Cox, who revealed the 50 things females need to know in bed. Read below and share your thoughts...

1. You’ll have your first orgasm by yourself. Few of us are lucky enough to start our sexual lives with a lover who’s so patient and skilled he can teach us about our own body.

2. Enthusiasm and being willing to try (almost) everything once is what makes you sexy. Looks, breasts, legs up to your armpits – they’ll only take you so far.

3. A vibrator is the quickest, easiest, most effective way to stimulate the clitoris, which is how most women have an orgasm.

4. You won’t become ‘addicted’ to your vibrator.

Using it often won’t put you off having the ‘real thing’ - quite the opposite!

Women who regularly use sex toys have higher libidos, orgasm easily and report less sexual dysfunction. About the only ‘bad’ thing that can happen is feeling a bit numb from having it up too high. Panic not - It’s temporary.

5. Only 20 per cent of women can orgasm purely from intercourse.

His ex-girlfriend who used to climax every time, effortlessly, within minutes of him penetrating, was lying.

6. If he can’t kiss, he’ll be useless in bed.

Especially true of men who stick a stiff tongue down your throat the second you lock lips.

7. The male sexual system is join-the-dots stuff. The female sexual system is complicated and not terribly well thought through.

Who thought putting the clitoris outside the vagina would be a good idea?

8. Anyone can be good in bed. But you do need a good working knowledge of your subject, experience and be willing to take and give feedback.

9. It’s obvious if you don’t like sex. All the tips and tricks in the world can’t teach you how to fake I’ll-die-if-I-don’t-have-you-now desire

10. The chances of you both climaxing together is extremely unlikely. So let’s all stop pretending and stop faking just because that’s what couples do on telly and in the movies.

11. If you fancy a threesome, do it with someone you’re not in love with. It goes a lot smoother in your head than in your bed and not much fun if you’re a frothing mess of jealousy and insecure paranoia throughout.

12. You’ll have a much better sex life if you match up with someone who has the same libido. Everyone’s sex drive spikes at the start but about eight months in, you’ll get a good idea of how much sex you both naturally crave. Mismatched sex drives are the main reason couples fight about sex. If you can possibly manage it, stick with your tribe.

13. No one is born a brilliant lover. Sex skills can be taught and brushing up on the basics, just to check you’re on the right track, is something everyone should do. We can all improve.

14. It doesn’t mean you’re boring in bed if he wants to try something new. Let go of the concept that ‘you should be enough’.

It’s hard enough making love happily to the same person for the rest of your life. If you don’t have variety, you’ve lost the game before it’s even started.

15. Men are visual. They like looking at sexy things. This is the main reason why men watch porn.

It’s usually that innocent.

16. Both men and women like foreplay. Quickies are great now and then but dreary and unsatisfying if that’s all you’re offered.

17. Don’t confuse love and lust. You spend a tiny proportion of your lives having sex.

It helps if you quite like hanging out together the rest of the time.

18. Men generally like to be touched twice as hard as women do. Their skin is thicker. This doesn’t mean you should be rough though.

19. Giving oral sex without using your hands is about as effective as bobbing for apples in a bucket of water with your hands behind your back.

21. The more different ways you can orgasm, the more orgasms you’ll have. This means forcing yourself to try a new way to climax if you can only do it one way.

22. The first time you have sex shapes you forever.

If losing your virginity was a positive experience, you’re more likely to view sex as something that’s healthy and enjoyable and lovers as nice people who can be trusted.

If your first time still haunts you years later, consider working it through with a good sex therapist.

23. Men aren’t just out for sex. But it’s easy to spot the ones who are. They won’t hang around past date three if you don’t put out.

24. There is such a thing as bad oral sex. And not all men adore oral sex.

25. Erections come and go during sex. It doesn’t mean he’s not enjoying it, it means he was focusing on you and not receiving any physical stimulation.

26. It’s often easier to orgasm solo than it is with a partner, especially when it’s with someone new.

27. The most likely time you’ll fake it is at the start. You don’t want to seem anything less than perfect. It’s later on, when you start teaching each other what really does it for you, that you’ll have your first real orgasm.

28. All men watch porn. But that’s OK because lots of women do too. Don’t read too much into it.

29. Stop worrying about your weight.

Men are far more forgiving of your wobbly bits than you are. He’s not looking at your thighs and thinking ‘Ew! Porridge’, he’s thinking, 'Let me get my hands on those'. Sexy is a state of mind, not a body size.

30. All sex positions are a variant of the basic five: him on top, her on top, side-by-side, from behind and standing.

31. If you never initiate sex, your partner will feel like you only have sex to please them. Besides, initiating sex makes you feel powerful which is an aphrodisiac.

32. Women feel like sex a lot at certain times of the month and are repulsed by the idea at others. This is normal. The female libido fluctuates wildly during the monthly cycle.

Let your partner know this information so they don’t take it personally – and where you’re at right now.

33. Real men don’t always get erections. Stress, age, alcohol and lots of medication all affect them.

You don’t need an erect penis to have a good time in bed. Most women have their best, most intense orgasms through oral sex.

34. Genitals come in all different shapes and sizes. Don’t compare yours to the porn stars: they’ve all been ‘tidied up’, bleached and waxed.

35. If you’re thinking of getting a ‘designer vagina’, you are barking mad. Vaginal tightening after a particularly horrible birth is one thing but opting for a ‘labial face-lift’ is as risky as the above-the-belt version.

Except worse because there’s a risk of permanent loss of sensation if too much skin is removed or ultra-sensitivity if a nerve is exposed.

This effectively means your ability to orgasm is compromised - or removed. You look fine as you are. Really.

36. Having sex purely to get the cuddle at the end isn’t healthy. If that’s what you’re really after, go see a friend or your Mum instead of a lover. Better still, get a dog.

37. Some men ask for sex when what they really want is love.

Women aren’t the only ones who use sex to get affection. Having sex is a sneaky, ‘manly’ way of getting close to you.

38. Sex long-term is very different than sex short term. It doesn’t mean you don’t fancy your partner because you’re not spontaneously gagging for it every day, six years in.

39. He’s not a mind reader. No-one knows what it is you feel like, at any given moment, other than you.

40. Mouths are good for lots of things but telling your partner what you like and don’t like is the most important use of all.

41. Refuse to feel guilty about your fantasies. What you get up to in your imagination is your business.

42. Sex is smelly, noisy, sweaty and unflattering. Leave your ego at the door and replace it with your sense of humour. If you haven’t broken wind at the worst possible moment, you’re probably playing it too safe.

43. The more you have sex, the more you want sex. Stop having it and you’ll forget how good it feels.

44. Think before you share your sexual fantasies. Make it clear what you’re doing it or you may come home to a ‘surprise’ you definitely didn’t expect.

45. It’s OK to stop having sex from time to time.

Sometimes life is too stressful (work worries, death of a parent) or children too demanding. Taking a sex break takes the pressure off and stops either of you freaking out because you know it’s not permanent.

46. Kids kill your sex life. But you can wrestle it back again once they’re hit age two.

47. If you can talk though your sex problems you can nearly always solve them.

48. Don’t try to put yourself in a box. Women are far more erotically plastic than men and much more likely to be aroused by the person, rather than their gender.

49. If you’re feeling bad after sex you’re sleeping with the wrong person.

50.Sex is about give and take. You don’t have to reciprocate in the same session but if you’re constantly lying back and taking, you’re a selfish lover. Not sexy. Not lovable.

Guys, See 11 Most Ridiculous Lies Women Tell While Dating

2015-12-05T14:00:00.000+01:00

In this informing write up, Jeremy Glass exposes the numerous uncountable lies women tell while dating to cover either their past or to secure their future relationships.

Women are good with lies when it comes to securing their relationship and past. Here are 11 mostly harmless lies that every woman (and sometimes man) seems to say before, during, and after $ex.

1. “I don’t usually do this.”

Who do you think you are? R. Kelly? You do this all the time and you like it, that’s why you’re doing it right now and will continue doing it in the future. Whether that “it” is involves something kinky with candle wax and food or that certain special position that can only be achieved by a step-stool, claiming ignorance with $ex won’t get you anywhere.

2. “I’m not that kind of person.”

Come on. What are people so afraid of letting their freak flag fly? There’s nothing wrong with being the kind of person who sleeps with someone on the first date or the kind of person who doesn’t mind a little backdoor action.

3. “I won’t tell anyone!”

What’s the first thing you’re going to do after you finish with a mind-blowing $exual encounter in which your whole body got rocked up and down like the bridge of the Titanic? Tell your friends, put up a cryptic Facebook status, and maybe even do a little subtle somethin’ somethin’ on Instagram. Commendable behaviour? No. Do we do it anyway. Oh yes.

4. “You’re the best I’ve ever had.”

The best I’ve ever had since the last best time I ever had and until the next best I’ll ever have.

5. “I’ll call you.”

No, you won’t – if anything, you’ll text them. Which leads us to…

b. “I’ll text you.” No, you won’t. You’re not going to get a text from a member of the generation that invented the act of “ghosting.” At most, you’ll get an Instagram like a few months after the initial hook up and then maybe a stray emoji a year or two later.

6. “I came.”

Sorry, buddy, but you probably did not give her an orgasm – at least, not on your first try. But wasn’t it nice of her to say?

7. “My roommates won’t mind”

If you hook up with someone with roommates, which you probably will and probably have, it takes a huge luck of the draw to end up with a girl whose roomie is cool with hearing her housemate explicitly knocking boots with some random dude she met on Tinder. Speaking of which…

8. “I hate Tinder.”

For those 50 million people on Tinder, swiping literally 1 billion times per day, blaming Tinder for the source of their anxiety is a commonly heard complaint. However, numbers don’t lie – so, ask yourself: Do you really hate Tinder or do you hate striking out of Tinder?

9. “I’m not sleeping with anyone else.”

Unless you’re in a full-fledged relationship with someone else, it’s hard to believe you’re putting the ancient belief of “going steady” into practice with someone you only swiped right with two days ago. Half the fun of random $ex with multiple partners is the “multiple partners” aspect.

10. “I always keep things tidy.”

Ha! One of the biggest misconceptions about men and women is that women are the only ones who like to tidy up down there when down there is expecting company. Guys do it too, but we certainly don’t spend an hour shaving and spritzing every single week. An HD picture of any guy’s trash on an off-month will spell a far different stories than the garbage coming out of his mouth.

11. “That was so good.”

Yeesh, the caveat to this house of deceit. We’ve all heard the “$ex is like pizza” argument – what people don’t talk about is the difference between how we talk about good $ex and bad $ex. When the pizza is bad, you tell the chef… when the $ex is bad, you lie about it and then avoid the person like a disgraced pizza chef who got the anchovies all wrong.

6 Things she wants you to do with her ass in bed

2015-12-05T13:44:00.002+01:00

Most women find it pretty difficult to verbally express what she likes in bed, especially if they are unconventional. Knowing how to take advantage of the sensitivity of the buttocks might be the hottest thing she has ever experience. Here are the things she wishes you would do to her bum.

Light spanking: Lightly spanking a woman (i.e., nothing that could cause a bruise) can feel amazing for both of you: I’ve Lots of women have said that getting spanked sends lots of tingly feelings to their vaginal and anal areas and lots of men say spanking a woman makes them feel like they are physically demonstrating their lust.

Anal teasing: While inside her, try using your finger to tease her ass hole without actually going in. There is a reason why anal sex feel so good, nerve endings in the anal region can provide really intense levels of arousal for her.

Squeeze and pinch: Like mentioned above, most women like a little bit of pain to go with the pleasure. Try grabbing her ass and lightly digging into it with your finger, as you penetrate. It can help increase the excitement.

Licking: Now this is only for the brave, but if you are up for it, a few women have reported that they love having their ass licked in bed. This sex act is quite becoming very trendy.

Fingering: For women who might want to try anal sex but not ready to take the plunge yet, this is a good way to show her what she is missing. Using your smallest finger, lightly and gently insert it into her anus. Make sure you gently increase the depth until she lets you know you have gone deep enough. Maintain that depth as you steadily use your finger to move in and out.

Massage her: This can be a hot foreplay move. Before the actual sex begins, use some lubricant and gently give her an ass massage. Drive her wild as you slowly move towards her anal region, without actually reaching it. Continue oiling, rubbing, and caressing her until she can't take it any more pleasure and begs you to enter her.

For Men : how to improve your sex drive

2015-12-05T11:15:00.003+01:00

There a lot of reasons why your sex drive could take a hit. We all have lives and it is understandable that you might not be in the mood for sex every single time. But if you notice that your downtime is becoming more frequent, then these tips will help you boost your libido.

Sleep: Your body lacks energy when you do not sleep well. Since you need energy for sex, you will find yourself feeling a lot more tired and a lot less 'in the mood' if your sleeping pattern is out of whack. There are many studies that show only sleeping 4 hours versus 8 hours for one night can reduce your total testosterone levels as much as 60% the next morning.
Eat: It is important to have your proteins and healthy fats early in the day to keep your energy up. Go for proteins like beef, eggs, fish, or poultry along with fats like coconut oil, olive oil and avocado, to name a few. These approved foods will help keep you energized throughout the day and ready for sex.
Relax: Stress can destroy a man’s libido. When we feel stressed, our sex hormones are affected and produce a dip in testosterone. When testosterone dips it not only decreases our sexual desire, but also the ability to get it up. In order to obtain and sustain an erection you need to be calm.
Watch sports: Watching your team sweat it out spikes testosterone in men.
Exercise: Working out is a great way to boost your sex drive because physical activity increases blood flow, which makes sex more pleasurable. Exercise also boosts endorphins, which gives you more energy and makes you feel good.
Get stimulated: Erotica and porn are great ways to get in the mood. Sexting works, too, for the same reasons. Mentally stimulating yourself with sexual activities will improve your libido. The brain is the most powerful sexual organs.

Dangers of Dating Men Who Kiss and Tell

2015-12-01T23:08:00.001+01:00

Generally, feminism is associated with gossip; this has been illustrated over-time in local dramas as well as in award winning movies. Some women lack the ability to hold certain information and are known to spread tales whenever chanced.

However there are men who are worse off than women when it comes to relating information and spreading tales of events. As shocking as this is, the men even tend to divulge information about their sexual escapades in boastful bids. Women particularly find it embarrassing when they hear comments being passed about them as a result of their engagement with these men. Not only do they find this embarrassing, it’s a humiliating experience for many. It is easy for men to kiss and tell when the lady in question is a fling.

Some aspects of a relationship are meant to be kept private. Not everyone is interested in knowing what goes down and at what point it does. But some men these days find it absolutely normal to share information about the ladies in their lives over a few bottles of drinks. At these gatherings, they analyze the ladies and mock them. Over-time, it becomes a habit and these men may find it difficult to keep some aspects of their ‘serious’ relationships personal.

Find below some dangers of dating men who kiss and tell:

Inability To Keep Secrets

It is definitely important for women to study and know the kind of men they go into relationships with. Men who kiss and tell most times want to be the life of every gathering. They want to be able to drop a line whenever topics are being discussed. Dating men like that makes one prone to all sorts of hazards as everyone knows what goes on in one’s life easily. Also, some family secrets could be shared in those moments of pride.

Your s*x-life Is A Joke

In a bid to be the center of attention, men often spill the beans about their s*x life. While it could be a fun circle with everyone laughing hard, it would be totally unfair on the women’s part. Men could be so annoying when it comes to that aspect, they may mention names and give numbers to authenticate their stories. Lewd remarks could be passed about these ladies and in some cases; the stories spread and reach the ladies in question.

Low Level Of Maturity

Men who often kiss and tell are men with s*x challenge issue. They want to announce to the whole world the feat they have just attained. Just like a circle of bullies, a man wants to show off and tell everyone he’s man enough to be there. Basically, he assumes what makes him a man is his ability to use that which lies within his legs. Until he grows out of that thought and behavior, whoever dates him is in jeopardy. Such men are likely to display a low level of maturity. Finding a relationship where they are more committed help them outgrow the kiss and tell syndrome.

Potential Virgin Predators

Men who kiss and tell in addition to the above seem to have insatiable appetites. Having s*x with regular girls may bore them at some point and make their boasts dry to the people they are trying to impress. Thus, they tend to go in search of girls holding tight to their virginity. Being able to sleep with virgins give them a different satisfaction and allow them tell the story in a different way.

Lack Of Respect

Dating men who kiss and tell puts a lady in a compromising situation. During the men’s boisterous comments, derogatory remarks are also made about the women in most cases. The bottom line is a man who loves and respects a lady would keep quiet about their encounters. The lady is not a fling in this case and he would try as much as possible to protect her feelings. This way, he gains the respect of his partner.

12 Reasons Why Nice Guys Don’t Get The Woman Of Their Choice

2015-12-01T22:33:00.002+01:00

The truth behind why nice guys sometimes finish last!
It almost seems like most men fall into either the bad boy or the nice guy category. In my opinion, the ideal man is neither, but walks that fine line between the two. While some women say they want a nice guy, they usually end up dating bad boys. Here’s why!

1. Their Personalities Don’t Seem Genuine.

Nice guys are too nice. No one can always be that nice unless they’re a saint. They are busy being nice instead of being real and women instinctually don’t trust that. Bad boys “keep it real.” Nice guys don’t want to upset the apple cart.

2. They Don’t Have Self-Respect!

No one respects a doormat. Nice guys don’t set boundaries or make any real demands. A bad boy doesn’t let a woman walk all over him or control him. Women can’t respect a man they can control. No respect equals no attraction.

3. They’re SO Predictable—Which Is Just Boring!

Most people lead boring, predictable lives, so they’re attracted to people who are exciting and a bit unpredictable. Bad boys are always a challenge. Nice guys are never a challenge. Predictable plus no excitement plus no challenge equals I prefer a bad boy.

4. Loving A Bad Boy Is In Our Genes.

Women are designed to nurture. However, instead of doing this with children, they often end up doing it with bad boys. They think their love will save them. Nice guys rarely need to be saved.

5. Women Like To Feel Needed.

Nice guys don’t usually need “to be fixed”. Bad boys usually do, so they become a project. Some women think if they can “create” the perfect man, he will never leave them. Also, if they’re busy fixing someone else, they don’t have to look at what needs to be fixed in their own lives.

6. Their Sperm Is Weak.

Women are designed to procreate with the strongest possible genes. Bad boys are sending an unconscious message that they have great genes, so they’re not afraid of losing the woman by misbehaving. Nice guys are sending a message that they don’t think their genes are good enough, so they won’t misbehave.

7. They Have A Fear Of intimacy.

If a woman is afraid of intimacy, she subconsciously knows she can avoid it with a bad boy, since she can never get close enough to him to have to go there. A nice guy will eventually want a commitment, and that’s scary.

8. They Sometimes Have Low Self-Esteem.

We don’t feel comfortable with people who treat us better than we treat ourselves. If you don’t think much of yourself, the bad boy is simply reinforcing your negative belief. A nice guy is treating you in a way you’re not familiar with.

9. The s*x Isn’t As Mind-Blowing.

Women feel a nice guy won’t be good in bed. They sometimes like to be manhandled and think a nice guy won’t be able to take control and get the job done. A bad boy comes across as being able to deliver, even though that may not always be the case.

10. Bad Boys Are Totally Sexy.

Have you ever seen a bad boy who wasn’t hot? I’m sure there are a few, but they wouldn’t be able to get away with half the stuff they did if they didn’t look so good. Meanwhile, when a woman describes someone as a nice guy, she means, “He’s not hot.”

11. They Aren’t As Charming.

Nice guys don’t always know what to say and are sometimes at a loss for words. Bad boys can be very charming and know exactly what women want to hear. However, they eventually switch over to being selfish. By the time they reveal their true colors, the woman has fallen for them and has a hard time letting go.

12. They’re Not As Strong Physically.

Historically, men have protected women — physically and otherwise. Bad boys give the illusion of being able to protect women, while with nice guys, women aren’t so sure. Life is all about balance. Until men learn how to do that, more often than not, women will choose the bad boy, until they realize that his bad qualities outweigh his good ones.

Source: YourTango

Top 10 Lies Men Tell Women

2015-11-27T16:19:00.001+01:00

It is not just women who have something to hide, men too have their reasons for keeping a few things from their partners.

10 men reveal the top lies they tell their women.

1. I love you: “I was sexually attracted to my girlfriend long before I fell in love with her. But at that time, when she asked me, I told her I loved her because that was what she wanted to hear.” – Mark, 24.

2. I am single: “One lie I tell most women is that I am single. I am not in a serious relationship but I have a few women I see from time to time. I have not found ‘the one’ yet, but when I meet a potential girlfriend, I have to tell her I am single.” Benji, 24.

3. I am not into looks: “I have a picture in my head of my ideal woman, and my girlfriend does not exactly look like that. I tell her it does not matter to me, but I know I will be way more attracted to her if she looked a certain way” – OC, 26

4. I make X amount of money: “My wife does not know exactly what I make. I do not want her to feel entitled and start making demands if she finds out, so I keep my real earnings from her.” – Nnamdi, 32

5. I want to get married: “I am not completely ready to be married right now, but I know if my girlfriend knows this, she will leave. So I make her happy by not being totally honest about it.” Jafar, 32.

6. I am not looking for a serous relationship: “I say this to women I really do not want to date anymore. I do not want to break up with them so I tell them I am just not looking for a relationship.” – Bayo, 31.

7. It’s not just sex: “I tell women this before we get intimate. No woman wants to feel used so I try to convince them it’s not just sex I want from them. But most times, it is, at least in the beginning.” – Martin, 28

8. I don’t find her attractive: “My wife will get mad if I ever tell her I found some other woman attractive. So, whenever she asks, I always say she is the only one I am attracted to.” Yinka, 36.

9. You are the best I ever had: “My fiancee is not the best sex partner I have had, but there is not reason she should know that.” Joseph, 29.

10. My friend’s opinion don’t matter: “Although I don’t always take their advice, I do value my friends’ opinion. I take most of my issues to them and they have to approve a woman before I date her. I cannot tell my woman this.”

7 Signs She Is After Your Money!

2015-11-25T09:25:00.002+01:00

These are 7 signs she’s dating you for your money. If she is dating you for your #money, then you need to do something about it. You can’t continue living and letting her suck off of you.

1. YOU JUST HAVE THAT FEELING

I always say that you should trust your gut instinct as it always knows best. When someone is only dating you for your money, you can just feel it.

2. SHE’S CURIOUS ABOUT YOUR MONEY STATUS

When you go on a date, she asks you about your money status. #Boy, she is fishing in your finances. If you have a lot of money, she is going to show a lot of interest in you. Why is this? It’s because she likes money!

3. TEMPER TANTRUM

When you decline from giving her money or buying her something that she wants, she gives you a temper tantrum. Wow, shouldn’t she leave those tantrums for the kids in the back seat on the way home from the toy store?

4. YOU HAVE TO PAY BEFORE YOU CAN PLAY

No, I’m not saying she is a prostitute, but I guess in a way, she is if you have to pay before you can play. Before you are able to have s*x with her, you have to buy her something that is expensive. I know, this is sad, but there are #people out there like this.

5. SHE ASKS YOU FOR MONEY

Okay, she just comes out and asks you for money. I think it is okay to ask for money if she is in dire need for rent or something, but if she is constantly doing it, then you need to find out how to draw the line.

6. SHE THINKS OF DATE NIGHT AS SHOPPING

When you ask her where she would like to go, she tells you that she wants to be shopping. Now, I am all for shopping and taking the #guy around too, but if you are the one that is paying, then she is definitely using you for your money.

7. SHE HAS EXPENSIVE TASTE

Even though she does not make very much money, it seems she has a lot of expensive stuff sitting around her house. Is this signs that she has used a guy before? However you stack it, if that girl has expensive taste, then you better watch that wallet and watch for those puppy eyes!

Source: AllWomen’sTalk