Love chats - Tips for finding a date

How to Pick Up Mature Women

noreply@blogger.com (Mr.LoNely ς੭) — Sat, 05 Nov 2011 10:45:25 PDT

In today's society, more people of all ages, in all stages of life are finding themselves single. More older women are single today, and are interested in dating. However, picking up a mature woman will require more than just buying her a drink. Whether you are younger, more mature, or just feel a little out of practice, there are a few things to keep in mind if you'd like to pick up a more mature woman.

Attracting an older woman :

    1. Be able to carry on a mature conversation. An older woman has probably been in the work force for many years and may be well-educated. She isn't likely to be interested in simple sentences and beer. To better your chances, be aware of current events, be well read, listen to modern and classical music. Make eye contact and speak intelligently. Find out what she is interested in, and if you don't already know much about that subject, ask about it or learn about it so that you can have a conversation. Mature women are interested in what you have to offer them. Don't assume they are desperate to get you; you have to get them.

     2. You must have a good job, a decent income and future prospects. A mature woman isn't interested in a starter kit; she wants someone who is somewhat established and confident. You don't have to be at the top of the food chain, but you need to be on your way up. She doesn't want to support you financially, and no matter how old a woman is, security still matters. If you are a more mature man, let her know about your career, but don't brag. If you are unstable, you're unlikely to stand a chance.


   3. Many mature women expect good manners at all times. If you need to, brush up on your etiquette and practice before approaching that mature woman you have your eye on. Holding open doors, please and thank you, pulling her chair out for her, and offering assistance in any way are usually very attractive actions to women, but especially to a mature woman.


   4. When you are ready to approach her, smile warmly and extend your hand as you introduce yourself. A mature woman should expect a strong handshake and will not shy away. Make eye contact, ask her about herself and engage her in conversation. Be sincere. A mature woman is likely to smell a fake from a mile away, and she won't waste her time.

   5. After the first encounter, offer her your card. She may offer hers; she may not. By giving her your card instead of asking for her number, you are showing that you are confident she will call, and that you aren't needy. Be warm, friendly, make eye contact again, smile and tell her you can't wait to see her again--and odds are that you will.

How to FLIRT with An Older Women

noreply@blogger.com (Mr.LoNely ς੭) — Sat, 05 Nov 2011 10:37:46 PDT

It takes a certain bit of finesse to flirt with an older women, mostly because mature woman know what they want and don't respond to cheap stunts and gimmicks. The key to attracting women that are older is to have confidence.

MAKE HER FEEL YOUNG,
                                                by downplaying her age in a clever way. Pretend she's too young to drive or something along those lines. Use your environment to help you brainstorm.

COMPLIMENT HER MATURITY.
                                                              This one is tricky because some women are sensitive about their age. Say something like: "you don't like younger women because their immature,". Basically find a way to make her feel better about being older without making her feel old to avoid turning her off.

HAVE INTELLIGENT CONVERSATIONS,
                                                                            as that may make flirting with some older women easier. Some women want to make sure you're more than just a vegetable, so do your best to hold down an interesting and intelligent conversation.

COME OFF AS A STUDENT.
                                                 Some older women like to be a little more dominating and instructive than their younger counterparts. If you are attempting to attract a woman that loves to teach new things, be receptive and you might win her over.

How SEXUALLY Attract Women

noreply@blogger.com (Mr.LoNely ς੭) — Sat, 05 Nov 2011 10:32:33 PDT

Attracting a woman sexually is an art, at which not everyone is an expert. In fact, majority of the guys will find the task to be quite intimidating. While it is true that rules of attraction are different in case of women, when compared to men, discerning them is not so difficult also. By highlighting certain aspects of your personality and making just the right moves, you can get almost any women attracted towards, that too with a sexual inclination. Need some more help? Go through the tips given in the following lines and know how to sexually attract women.

How To Attract A Female Sexually

Look Good
One of the basic requirements for attracting a woman sexually comprises of looking good. Though certainly not the only deciding factor in the game of attraction, your looks do play a crucial role in making someone notice you, in the very first instance. It is true that if you dress up well and carry yourself with flair, people end up looking at you. So, don't lose the chance of attracting a woman by looking shabby all the time.

Personality Does Matter
Along with the looks of a person, it is his overall personality that can make a woman glance at him the second time. Your manners i.e. the way you walk, talk and even stare should convey how comfortable you are, in your own skin. You need to show off the chivalrous aspect of your personality as well - open the door for her, offer to mover her seat, let her be the first to be offered something, etc. This will surely make you stand out from the crowd.

The Approach
When the issue is about 'sexually attracting women', making the right approach is half the battle won. Remember, most often than not, 'first impression is the last impression'. In fact, if you fail the first time, you might not even get the chance to make the second impression. So, you need to make yourself an expert at 'approaching a woman'. Approach her in a way that doesn't make your intentions too obvious, but surely expresses your interest in her a bit.

Conversation Is The Key
When it comes to attracting women, especially in a sexual way, remember that conversation is the key. It will tell her all about your nature, you way of thinking as well as the kind of person you are. It also serves as one of the ways to intrigue her and make yourself all the more attractive to her. You should try to find out topics of mutual interest and be able to hold a conversation well. If you have the ability to talk and listen, you will surely feature high on her list.

Humor Will Help You Get Your Way
By now, you must have impressed her quite a lot. Now, is the time to use the last weapon in your arsenal, to seduce her completely. One of the quickest and the most effective ways of gaining a woman's approval is to make her laugh. If you can bring a genuine smile on her face, you can make her do anything (well, almost). However, make sure that the humor is subtle, and not too loud or in the face. You need to be funny, but not a clown, so don't go overboard.

Eye Contact & Light Touch
You have played all your cards by now (almost). Now, allow the conversation to take its flow, letting her lead you. However, make sure to maintain eye contact with her throughout the exchange. Once in a while, let your gaze linger to other areas of her face, especially her lips. But, do not stare. Have a friendly smile on your lips and indulge in a light touch (by accident of course), but not more than twice or thrice. Then, wait for her to guide you the rest of the way!

·٠• ς੭ A touching story

noreply@blogger.com (Mr.LoNely ς੭) — Tue, 18 Oct 2011 16:49:28 PDT

• A GiRl wanted a RING.
But the bOy gave a teddy bear Instead.
In anger the GiRl threw the bear onThe road.
The bOy want 2 take it back but
Was hit by a coming car and died.
At his funeral,

• The GiRl hugged the bear and the
Machine in it spoke:"Will you marry me?
Guess what she found a ring inside it. :(
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50 Things a girl wants but will NOT ask for!

noreply@blogger.com (Mr.LoNely ς੭) — Fri, 26 Aug 2011 06:53:47 PDT

1 . Touch her waist.
2. Actually talk to her.
3. Share secrets with her.
4. Give her your jacket.
5. Kiss her slowly.

·٠• ς੭ Are you remembering this?

6. Hug her.
7. Hold her.
8. Laugh with her.
9. Invite her somewhere.
10. Hangout with her and your friends together.

·٠• ς੭ KEEP READING

11. Smile with her.
12. Take pictures with her.
13. Pull her onto your lap.
14. When she says she loves you more, deny it. Fight back.
15. When her friends say i love her more than you, deny it. fight back and hug her tight so she canâ€™t get to her friends. it makes her feel loved.

·٠• ς੭ Are you thinking of someone?

16. Always hug her and say I love you whenever you see her.
17. Kiss her unexpectedly.
18. Hug her from behind around the waist.
19. Tell her sheâ€™s beautiful.
20. Tell her the way you feel about her.

·٠• ς੭ One last thing you need to do to show her you actually do mean it.

21. Open doors for her, walk her to her car- it makes her feel protected, plus it never hurts to act like a gentleman.
22. Tell her sheâ€™s your everything – only if you mean it.
23. If it seems like there is something wrong, ask her- if she denies something being wrong, it means SHE DOESNâ€™T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT- so just hug her
24. Make her feel loved.
25-kiss her in front of OTHER girls you know!!!!*

·٠• ς੭ THEY MIGHT DENY IT BUT THEY ACTUALLY LIKE

AND KINDA WANT YOU TO TICKLE THEM

26-donâ€™t lie to HER.*
27-DONâ€™T cheat on her.*
28-take her ANYWHERE she wants
29-txt messege or call her in the morning and tell her have a good day at work {or school}, and how much you MISS her.
30-be there for her when ever she needs you, & even when she doesnâ€™t need you, just be there so sheâ€™ll know that she can ALWAYS count on you.*

·٠• ς੭ ARE YOU STILL READING THIS? YOU BETTER BECAUSE, ITâ€™S IMPORTANT

31. Hold her close when sheâ€™s cold so she can hold YOU too.
32. When you are ALONE hold her close and kiss her.*
33. Kiss her on the CHEEK; (it will give her the hint that you want to kiss her).*
34 . While in the movies, put your arm around her and then she will automaticall y put her head on your shoulder, then lean in and tilt her chin up and kiss her LIGHTLY.
35. Dont EVER tell her to leave even jokingly or act like youâ€™re mad. If
shes upset, comfort her.

·٠• ς੭ REMEMBER ALL THESE THINGS WHEN YOU ARE WITH HER NEXT

36. When people DISS her, stand up for her.*
37. Look deep into her EYES and tell her you love her.*
38. Lay down under the STARS and put her head on your chest so she can listen to the steady beat of your heart, link your fing ers together while you whisper to her as she rests her eyes and listens to you .
39. When walking next to each other grab her HAND.*
40. When you hug her HOLD her in your arms as long as possible*

·٠• ς੭ MAKE SURE SHE KNOWS SHES LOVED

41. Call or text her at night to wish her SWEET DREAMS*
42. COMFORT her when she cries and wipe away her tears.*
43. Take her for LONG walks at night.
44. ALWAYS Remind her how much you love her.*
45. sit on top of her and tell her how much u love her and then bend down to
her face and kiss her while sitting on her.

yo uâ€™ ll never know when she needs just a lil more love ..!!

love poems

noreply@blogger.com (Mr.LoNely ς੭) — Fri, 26 Aug 2011 06:15:26 PDT

You Are The One For Me

Your the one for me
In my heart I feel like we were meant to be
No one has ever made me feel the way I do
But thats was way before I met you
I've never fallen in love so fast
I just hope this feeling will last
Your the one I've been searching for my whole life
And one of these years I wish to be your wife
I hope you feel the way I feel
Because all of this just seems
to wonderful to be real.
Author: Jessica Lee-anna Mckinney

Promise

I will love you with all my heart,
To have forever - never to part.
This is a promise engrained in me,
Take my hand and let it be.
I will go to the ends of the earth if that is what you need,
Just say yes and let your soul take the lead.
This is a promise at the core of me,
Kiss my lips and let this be.
I will wipe your tears with no questions asked,
No more will your feelings be masked.
This is a promise I make to you,
Look into my eyes and follow through.
I will know how to hold you just by the look in your eye,
I will never forget - not even on the day that I die.
This is a promise of my passion for you,
smile at me and make it true.
I will support you even when I cannot support myself anymore,
I will dig deeper and find the hidden strength at my inner core.
This promise means I sacrifice all of me for you,
Understand this- and make our lives anew.
I will love you with everything so deep inside,
And to only you - this gift I shall confide.
This is a promise so incredibly real,
kiss me my love and you shall feel.

Author: Diana Lynn

Perfecton in My Eyes

All I ever wanted was to be part of your heart,
And for us to be together, to never be apart.
No one else in the world can even compare,
You're perfect and so is this love that we share.
We have so much more than I ever thought we would,
I love you more than I ever thought I could.
I promise to give you all I have to give,
I'll do anything for you as long as I live.
In your eyes I see our present, our future and past,
By the way you look at me I know we will last.
I hope that one day you'll come to realize,
How perfect you are when seen through my eyes.

Author: Ashley Borden

On Dreams of perfect Love

A misty sunrise fills the east
With yellow, gold and red.
The bowl of space a palest blue,
Sheds light upon our bed.
The warmth beside my soul, a feast
Of love for only you.
So let the birds, with song, remain
Within the morning hours,
To pour upon the crisp, new day
A hope, like cleansing showers.
For you I send refreshing rain
To wash the past away.
A quiet breeze so warm and slow,
Has drifted ‘cross my face.
It brings the scents from flower climbs,
And leaves without a trace.
It stirred this battered heart, you know,
To love this perfect time.
Like whispers lost at sea, we soar
Beyond the sky of fire.
Together. Lost together, free
To claim our each desire.
Like leaves we float to earth, once more
To close our eyes and be.

Author: David Ruble

Our Specal place

When the sun falls on your face,
my world is lost in yours,
for we go to our special place,
there are no walls, windows, doors.

When the moon glows on your face,
the darkness around me flees,
for we go to our special place,
it wimpers and begs, cries and pleads.

When sunlight glimmers on your face,
my eyes become heavy with tear,
for we go to our special place,
where we can have no fear.

For you, my love, are with me,
when love shines from your face,
I love you forever, just you and me,
for we go to our special place.

Author: Luke

No One can take Your Dream

There will always be a heartache,
and often a silent tear,
but always a million wishes,
wishing you were here.
There will always be your reflection,
in my lonely saddened stream,
and there will always be a 'you and me',
as long as I can dream.
By: Azrelix

My Promse to You

I'll never forget,
The first that we met,
I remember it like it was yesterday,
It's stays deep in my heart,
The day you found me.
~*~
We have promised that we would give
To each other all there is to give
For as long as we both shall live.
~*~
I never want wealth or fame,
I only want to have your name,
I only want to wear 
That tiny band of gold
And always have to you hold.
~*~
I will keep my promise to you,
I will never be untrue,
Even though sometimes I  will be
Away from you.
~*~
I will never break your heart,
I've always loved you from the start,
I must say to you this very special day,
I won't let it take my pride,
I want to be your bride.
~*~
I will never let you feel empty inside,
I will never break the ties that bind,
I will never leave you behind,
I will never let our love die.
~*~
So I make another promise to you, my love,
We will live and we will learn,
And where ever you may go,
My heart will always follow.
~*~
And now it's plain to see,
The the promise's that I have made to thee,
Will show in time, you see,
That you and I will never be lonely,
I love this you and me.

Author: Sherri Emily Avery

My Heart & Soul Claim You

Author: Jhonny Thermidor

You have promised a new life to me,
You have promised to satisfy my needs,
Humble flower of all my dreams,
The most essential deed of my dreams!

Even though sometimes I could be sad,
I can be impressed by your aimless furies,
But I'm still attracted by your smooth love.
Assuage me with your romantic words!

Cajole me with your soft, tender voice,
Remain always very close to me.
Allow me to judge my reactions.
I'm still waiting for your forgiveness.

Thus, I'm imploring you painfully,
Honourable Rose of my worships,
The one who makes my heart vibrate,
The only one my restless soul claims,

So far, I'm running out of options.
My heart is craving for your love,
My soul, in other hand, is questing for you
Will you think of returning close to them?

My Painful Love

Why does it have to hurt inside?
Why do I have to cry each night?
I think I have to walk on by...
Cuz I'm starting to lose my sight...

What is it that changed your mind?
Who is it that keeps you blind?
Why did you change so fast?
Did you really have to leave me behind?

I start to think about all we had
And how it turned this way...
I guess I'll have to leave your side,
And turn my face away...

Although my soul will die...
Although my heart will cry...
I've got nothing else to do,
I'm hurt deep inside

But although I'll leave your side,
You'll be always on my mind...
My heart and soul will ache for you,
Every day and every night...

You're my never-ending love,
The love that keeps me alive...
You're the one I'll love forever,
Although it hurts inside...

Author: Layla S.

Our Love

I want to spend my life with you
These feelings inside I know are true
Being away from you is hard to take
A wonderful life with you I'll make.

You and only you is what I live for
Enjoying all of you yet wanting more
Selfish at times, I can't let you go
Loving you always this I tell you so.

Some days are easy while others are hard
The hand we play from dealing the cards
I'll stand by you no matter how long
Our love is like the notes to a song.

Creating a melody for everyone to hear
Bringing with it laughter and tears
An inspiration for what love can be
A shining beacon for all to see.

Author: G. Hollis

Love I could Never Ask for More

Gazing at the stars in a dark cold night
Uttering sweet words beneath pale moonlight
 I wish you can see I wish you can hear
I wish you can kiss and hold me tight

 I close my eyes and shed those tears
Thinking how far you are from me
 Then I look above and see the stars 
How they light, they glitter and sparkle
 Despite how far they are by sight

 I find myself smiling as I realize 
That though distance between us
 Kept us apart but only in body 
And never in heart

 You gave me reason to smile 
You gave me reason to hope
 You gave me so much and
I can never ask for more

 And if I have one thing to thank right now
That's when you came into my life!

Author: Angel Joy

A New Life was Waiting

Inviting - exciting - emotion
with power I had never known,
a world of unchained devotion
because you were my very own.
I had fallen in love with you.

Together we sailed in springtime
to an isle beyond seas of blue,
and when we returned, a new life
was waiting, in a valley of dreams
where I first fell in love with you.

                                                                   Author: Joyce Hemsley

ANgeL of My Life

I love you so much that words can't explain
this joy that I have for you.

When I am at the weakest point of my life
you are there encouraging me to run this race
because I am not only cause you are there with me.

You are on my mind day and night.

When we are apart I picture you gracious smile and gentle hug.

I can let my feelings out to you and won't regret it
because no matter what is you are always on my side.

I thank God for sending me someone like you who is precious and loving.

So I can truly say that you are the Angel of My Life!
                                                                               Author: Manuel

Every Sunset

Meeting you 
was pure destiny,
You and I 
were ment to be.

Maybe not now
but someday soon,
We'll meet not under the sun
but beneath the moon.

We'll watch the stars
'till they fade away,
but we won't fade
together we'll always stay.

This is the day 
I'm waiting for,
from that day
I'll love you more and more.

I can't wait to watch
the sun set with you,
every sunset from that day
'till the rest of our lives are through.

Author: Jessica Voyles

Life How YOu Make Me FeeL

When I am wrapped up in your arms,
I feel safer than ever before.
When you stare into my eyes, its a feeling I can't ignore.
I know this isn't just a game,
because, what I feel for you,
I never felt with anyone else.
When I am close to you I am overwhelmed with happiness.
You're what I've been waiting for my whole life.
You're someone I can share my love with,
you take away my fears.
Words can't express how much I love you.
But, through this short amount of time,
I hope you realize that my love for you is real.
I'm not with you to play games,
and I know you feel the same.
With you, is where I want to be
because I found someone who loves me just for me.
You give me all the reason in the world
to believe that you won't hurt me in anyway.
And if I ever lost you,
I don't know what I would do.
You probably think I am crazy,
but truthfully I'm not.
Every time that were together,
it's a whole new experience for me.
All I see in this world,
is no one else but you and me.
Author: Julia Erdan

How Heavenly Promises On Mended Wings

The sweetest melodies are those sung from the heart. 
The softest harmonies are when two souls mend together. 
Why then do people say it's love that tears them apart? 
When it's with love that you can stand the stormy weather. 

When I met you, Spring was here, and the birds were nesting. 
I looked into your soft eyes and saw the prettiest smile. 
Heaven pulled down her vail and offered her most sacred blessing. 
I've met an angel, I couldn't help but to smile. 

Sittting by the pool of life, reflecting upon it's surface, 
I think of others and I get a little ripple. 
I think of you, and a wave swells, spraying my face. 
You said you wouldn't cry, but I see the tears start to trickle. 

Some people don't believe in love at first sight, 
Obviously they haven't seen you. 
Drifting on love's endless blissful flight, 
I'm so glad I met you.

Author: Mike Lewis

LOVE YOU IN SILENCE

You came into my life
Quietly, simply, tenderly...
The world stood still
I could not say a word
Nor a single gestured showed.

The feeling kept in my heart
So I've loved you in silence
Worshipped ypu from a distance
And dreamt of you so often.

I want to say I Love You,
But I'm afraid...
Afraid that you'll just take it for granted.
In silence then, I'll just love you.
In silence I'll find...
The fulfillment of my dreams.

Author: Honey Cai

LONELY HEART

If I had a heart I'm sure it would say
How lonely its been since you went away,
With no one to snuggle and no one to hold.
I guess I'll adjust, or so I've been told.

It's hard to sit back as the line seems to grow
And watch all the flirting, when deep down I know
There's nobody there who can know your heart
Or feel your thoughts even though apart.

To know your thoughts with just one word
Without the others being heard.
To feel your heart and share what you love
Like some magic secret from up above.

The music flows and so do the smiles
From you to them across the miles.
Even our songs that were special there
Are followed by smiles for all to share.

I guess it's me... I just don't understand
You told me you loved me and held my hand.
How can I trust anything you say,
When I'm yesterdays news the very next day.

If I had a heart it would beat in place
Instead of having this empty space.
And yours would beat along with mine,
And I'd be yours til the end of time.

Author: Lady Of Knight

LAST KISS

As I looked into your eyes
I knew something was wrong
And then you said goodbye
We had been together too long

You said you didn't feel for me
The same way I did for you
And after years of our love
We were actually through

I said you won't go
You said you can't stay
But how was I supposed to know
It would all end that day

I told you how much I would miss
Each and every day
And that was when we kissed 
And you turned and walked away.

Author: Amy M. Kurtz

HOPE IS A THING WITH FEATHERS

Hope is a thing with feathers
That perches in the soul
And sings a tune without words
And never stops at all.
And sweetest, in the gale, is heard
And sore must be the storm
That could abash the little bird
That keeps so many warm.
I've heard it in the chilliest land
And on the strangest sea
Yet, never, in extremity
It ask a crumb of me.
Author: Emily Dickinson

Beating Of Hearts

.thump thump, thump thump .
One heart alone, makes but a single beat
A sound so low and incomplete
A heart all alone, waiting to be heard
Knows not the beauty or songs of singing birds
One heart all alone, knows not love or tenderness
It feels nothing, but has emptiness
A heart alone, searches for its mate
It waits, trust fate, contemplates
Until by chance another beat it hears
That sound it has longed for all these years
Like the timbre of a bass drum
It hears an answer, another thrum

Two hearts are beating, strong and true
The sound grows louder, waiting is through
Two hearts are beating, within one another
Searching is over, they have found that lover
Two hearts are beating, they grow and grow
Together forever, never wanting to go
Two hearts are beating, as the sun goes down
A love true, a love strong, both are bound
And as the sound gently fades into night
Two hearts are beating, this they know is just right
thump thump, thump thump ...

Author: Inpa

ALWAYS AND FOREVER

Basking in the warmth of your smile 
And the music of your laugh 
I feel your tenderness 
And your oh so witty style 

I don’t know why god blessed me 
With such a friend as you 
But it makes my pleasure complete 
And very happy too 

The way you always know me 
And exactly what to do 
When my loneliness gets me down 
And I’m so very blue 
The way you see into my soul 
And looked behind my eyes 
And I don’t have to hide my feelings 
And put on a disguise 

With you I learned to trust 
And as I person I have grown 
Who could have possibly told me 
How could I have known 
That you would come in to my life 
And my beauty would start to bloom 
And like a pretty butterfly 
Come out of my cocoon 

To share your tender heart 
The warmness of your smile 
The courage of your wisdom 
For these I’d walk for miles 

To be thinking of a time 
When you’d no longer be there 
For me to gaze upon in delight 
And all our feelings share 
Is not acceptable to me 
Because in my life 
Is where I want you to be 
Always and forever.

Author: Freida Martinez

A Gentle Touch

A gentle brush of his fingers,
Sending shivers down my spine.
In the love I see in his eyes,
Is a love that equals mine.

He greets me with a smile,
And leaves me with a kiss.
If he were to ever leave me,
I couldn't imagine what I'd miss.

Maybe it's his touch,
Or the way he makes me feel.
But whatever it is,
I'm head over heels.

Author: Danyka A. Hoover

THE SORROW OF LOVE

The quarrel of the sparrow in the eaves,
The full round moon and the star-laden sky,
And the loud song of the ever-singing leaves,
Had hid away earth's old and weary cry.
And then you came with those red mournful lips,
And with you came the whole of the world's tears,
And all the sorrows of her labouring ships,
And all the burden of her myriad years.
And now the sparrows warring in the eaves,
The curd-pale moon, the white stars in the sky,
And the loud chaunting of the unquiet leaves,
Are shaken with earth's old and weary cry.
Author: William Butler Yeats

To Someone Special

Old memories are coming back to me
They're making me feel truly happy
Each little memory I treasure dearly
For they are about you, 
a person I cherish ever so deeply.

In my sleepless solitude tonight,
I can't seem to keep you off my mind
I want to hug you with all my might
Oh, what I'd give just to have you 
here with me through the night
If it's wrong to love you, 
then I just don't want to be right.

Life is much better with you around
To my ear, your name is such a sweet sound
I was confused until you, I found
You lifted me up high from the ground.

My world was so lonely without you,
I haven't noticed the sky's shade of blue.
Everything seemed ordinary before you
But now that you're here, 
I see the world in a nice different view

And now, all I want to say is Thank You

Author: Femi Escalante

WHEN THE GAZE OF MY EYES MEETS YOURS

When the gaze of my eyes meets yours,
My heart starts bleeding and my eyes start weeping,
For in it I see an emptiness,
Only a reflection of me look at you,
When the gaze of my eyes meet yours,
The pains and sorrows of the world I feel,
Like a mother losing a child would,
I feel it when I look at you,
When the gaze of my eyes meets yours,
I let myself go into the memories of the past,
I cloud the reality of my life,
And live that moment as we were before,
When the gaze of my eyes meets yours,
I feel both joy and sorrow,
Both the past and the present,
And yet tomorrow is what I have,
When the gaze of my eyes meets yours,
I see a day in life where you’ll be mine again,
Where the memories of the past no longer brings pain,
But the joys for the love that forever remained.

Author: Robert Kyle Newton

The Magic Of Love

Love is like magic
And it always will be
For love still remains 
One of lifes sweet mysteries.

Love works in ways
That are magical and strange
And there is nothing in life
That love cannot change

Love can transform
The most common of place
Into beauty and splendor
And sweetness and grace

Love is never selfish
Its understanding and kins
Because it sees with its heart
And not with its mind

Love is the answer
That everyone seeks
Love is the language 
That every heart speaks

Love cannot be bought
It is priceless and free
Love is pure magic
It is lifes mystery.

Author: Michelle

How to Know when Your Girlfriend Wants to Break Up? what should I do?

noreply@blogger.com (Mr.LoNely ς੭) — Thu, 18 Aug 2011 18:00:38 PDT

Breaking up is difficult for both persons involved. Some break-ups are sudden and unexpected. Some break-ups can be predicted by taking notice of your girlfriend's behavior and other clues.

Pay attention to subtle body language : Does she make eye contact or avoid it? Does she stay close to you or pull away? Does she refuse to return your affection? Body language speaks louder than words. If she consistently shows negative body language around you, she may not want to be with you anymore.

Pay attention to how she acts around you and other guys :Is she always complaining about something with you? Does she act neglected, or does she seem to victimize or isolate herself around you? Do you get into arguments more often? Does she seem to enjoy hurting your testicles? Has she recently begun fondling other guys? Another indicator that she wants out of the relationship is if she is hard to please and refuses to cheer up around you. A stronger indicator is if she seems happier in the company of her friends or other guys than alone with you.

Ask her what's wrong : If she gives you an honest, direct answer about the relationship, perhaps you can fix it and save the relationship. However, if she repeatedly gives you random, unimportant complaints or no answer at all, she may be hiding the fact that she simply wants to break up with you.

Ask her friends : You can ask them directly if your girlfriend wants to break up, or you can ask them indirectly about how your girlfriend feels about you and what she's been saying. You should also ask if she's been having any other problems, in case you're mistaking the stress of her life for her dissatisfaction with you.

Express maturity and understanding : Your girlfriend may be having trouble getting the courage to break up with you. Understand that she's probably going through as much emotional strife as you are, especially if she's been putting it off. Let her know that she should do what makes her happy. If you are sure she wants to break-up, make it easier for her and make it a mutual break-up, even if you didn't want it to end. Make sure you respect her decision.

Tips

If one person is unhappy with the relationship, eventually the other one will become unhappy too.
If she is being negative, maybe she just needs a little more attention. A random expression of love or a thoughtful surprise may be the solution.
She might just be having a bad day or a bad week. You can always give it time, but letting a bad relationship drag on is not fun.

Warnings

Negative body language and emotions may indicate that she is depressed. Be careful not to mistake her dissatisfaction with the relationship with other problems or a mental disorder.
Avoid asking her friends that may not like you or those who are not loyal to her.
If you want to break-up mutually, you have to know for sure if she wants to break-up. You should also let her know how you truly feel, but encourage her to do what will make her happier.

friendship day msessage

noreply@blogger.com (Mr.LoNely ς੭) — Sun, 07 Aug 2011 06:00:13 PDT

Illumination
A single candle can illuminate an entire room. A true friend lights up an entire lifetime. Thanks for the bright lights of ur friendship.
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Sweet SMS
A friend is sweet when it is new. And it is sweeter when it is true. But you know what? It is sweetest when it is u.
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Coin
A coin is easy to earn, a friend is hard to find. The coin depreciates but a friend appreciates. I lost a coin when I smsed u, but it's okay because I got u.
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Open My Heart
If you open my heart, guess what u r gonna see? It's U. True friends are hard to find so I kept u.
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A Friend
What is a friend? She looks out 4 u, inspires u, laughs with u, cries with u, understands u, guides u and walks with u. That's what a friend is... u.
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How Long
How long shall v b friends? Do u want a clue? As long as stars twinkle in the sky, till the water runs dry & till the day I die. We will b friends.
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Cares
I might run out of cute graphics to send u, but I'll never run out of this: care 4 u.
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Friends
A friend is a push when you have stopped, a chat when u r lonely, a guide when u r searching, a smile when u r sad, a song when u r glad.
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I'll B There 4 U
When ur down, I'll be there to cheer u up. When ur tired, I'll be there to lift u up. I'll be ur friend no matter what!
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Mango
Friends are like mango... you'll never know which is sweet and which is not. Well I'm lucky coz I was able to find the sweetest mango in U!
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Always in My Heart
Time & distance are important between friends. When a friend is in ur heart, they remain there forever. I may be busy, but I assure u, u are always in my heart!
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I Won't
50 years from now, I'd be so old I might forget u. I might not remember ever knowing u, or might forget I once cared for u. I might.. but I won't.
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I Cherish You
Do u ever recall the first day we met? R first hello? The day we became friends? Well, I do and I will always remember. For that very day, I knew I'd cherish u.
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Nice To Remember
Some friends are remembered because of their smile. Some friends are remembered because of their style. But u are remembered because u r so nice to remember. Take care.
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As Long as I Live
I won't promise to be ur friend forever, coz I won't live that long. But let me be ur friend as long as I live.
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A Perfect Friend
I admit I'll never be the perfect friend. I'll never be there always. I may not make u smile at times but there is one thing I admit I could do. To be the person I could be for u.
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Thanks
Thank you for touching my life in ways u may never know. My riches do not lie in material wealth but in having friends like u - a precious gift from God!
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Never Lose True Friends
I always thought loving someone is the greatest feeling, but I realized that loving a friend is even better. We lose people we love, but v never lose true friends.
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I'll Cry With You
If one day u feel like crying, call me. I can't promise to make u laugh, but I'm willing to cry with u.
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One Friend
1 tree can start a forest, one smile can start a friendship. 1 touch can show u care, one friend can make life worth living 4.
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Diamonds
True friends are like Diamonds... they are real & rare. False friends r like leaves... they r scattered everywhere.
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If
If u need advice, text me... If u need a friend, call me... If u need me, come to me... If u need money... ........... THE SUBSCRIBER CANNOT BE REACHED!
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Like a Computer
A good friend is like a computer; me 'enter' ur life, 'save' u in my heart, 'format' ur problems, 'shift' u 2 opportunities & never 'delete' u from my memory!
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My Best Friends
I believe in angels, the kind that heaven sends. I'm surrounded by angels but I call them my best friends.
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Trust
We gain & lose things every day. But trust me on 1 thing: U WILL NEVER LOSE ME! I will always b there as a friend!
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True Friend
A true friend is someone who reaches for ur hand & touches ur heart.

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Ring is Rund
A ring is round & has no end.... & that's how long I'll be ur friend.
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Friendship Between Us
A friend is never a coincidence in ur life, they r meant to enter ur life to bring u joy & laughter. So, i will treasure the friendship between us.
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Stars
Friends r like stars. u can't always see them, But u know they are always there 4 you...
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Older & Better
Never abandon old friends. They r hard 2 replace. Friendships is like wine: it gets BETTER as it grows OLDER. Just like us... i get BETTER, u get OLDER.
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ME
Handsome, Sweet, Intelligent, Spontaneous, Good Looking, Nice Friends, Charming, Funny, well... Enough about ME! How about u?
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1st step
If U need a friend and there are a hundred steps between us, u can take the 1st step to get near me and i will take all 99 step to be there for u.
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Rules
6 rules to be HAPPY: Free ur heart from hatred; Free ur mind from worries; Live simply; Expect less; Give more & Always have ME as UR FRIEND
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Dear Friends
Side by side or miles apart, dear friends r always close 2 the heart.
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Best Friend
A best friend is somebody who knows every last thing about u, yet still manages to like u anyway.
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Tolerate
A true friend is one who overlooks ur failures and tolerates ur successes.
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Sun
Life without friendship is like the sky without sun.
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Books
Books, like friends, should be few and well chosen.
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Encircle
The world is round so that friendship may encircle it.
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Friendship and a Rose
There is a big difference between friendship and a rose... Roses last only a while ... but friendship is for ever
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God's Angels
Wherever u go, whatever u do, may God's angels watch over u.
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Silver & Gold
Make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver the other gold.
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I Miss My Friend
My girlfriend ran off with my best friend after a relationship of 4 years....Oh how I miss my friend.
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Lack of Friendship
Not the lack of love, but the lack of friendship makes marriages unhappy.
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Feel Best
Feel good when somebody Miss u. Feel better when somebody Loves u. But feel best when somebody never 4gets us.
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Chocolate
If u r a chocolate ur the sweetest, if u r a Teddy Bear u r the most huggable, If u r a Star u r the Brightest, and since u r my “FRIEND” u r the “BEST”!!!!!!!!!
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I'm Your Friend
If you are in trouble, If you need a hand, Just call my number, because I'm ur friend!
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The Best is U
There r many stars but the moon is u, there are many friends but the best is u,, To forget me that’s up to u,,, To forget u I will never ever do.
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Wish U Were Here
On a silent night when friend r few, i close my eyes and think of u, a silent nite, a silent tear, a silent wish, dat u were here!
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Friendship Has No End
Stars have 5ends, squares have4 ends, triangles have3 ends, lines have2 ends, life has1 end, but i hope r friendship has no end.
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Sometimes
Sometimes, I forget to say hi,
Sometimes, I even miss to reply,
Sometimes, my msg doesn't reach u,
But, it doesn't mean that I forget u,
I’m just giving u time to miss me!
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Love Messages

noreply@blogger.com (Mr.LoNely ς੭) — Sun, 07 Aug 2011 05:52:54 PDT

Love Messages 1 :

Love can touch you just one time but it can last for a life time.

Love Messages 2 :

Love is not about finding the right person, but creating a right relationship.
It's not about how much love you have in the beginning but how much love you build till the end.

Love Messages 3 :

Love is two hearts beating as one.

Love Messages 4 :

I love you from the bottom of my heart. Be mine forever..

Love Messages 5 :

It's hard to find someone whom you truly love, much less to find someone who loves you as much.
When the chance comes, don't ever let go.

Love Messages 6 :

Love is when you don't want to go to sleep because reality is better than a dream.

Love Messages 7 :

I looked at a flower and thought it was the most beautiful thing I've ever seen till I met you.

Love Messages 8 :

Love doesn't make the world go round, it just makes the ride worthwhile.

Love Messages 9 :

Love Is like war... Easy to start... Difficult to end.

(published at 09/09/2008)

Love Messages 10 :

You brighten my day with the sound of your voice, you bring so much laughter and love, you are everything to me and I was so blessed when god sent you here for me.

Love Messages 11 :

Love knows no reasons, Love knows no lies, Love defines all reasons, Love has no eyes..
But love is not blind, Love sees all but doesn't mind.

Love Messages 12 :

Love is a journey not a destination.

Love Messages 13 :

Love is in your heart not to stay, but to be shared.

Love Messages 14 :

If you love someone, you give everything you can and don't expect to receive anything in return.

Love Messages 15 :

No one is too young for love, because love doesn't come from your mind, which knows your age, but from your heart, which knows no age.

Love Messages 16 :

Love is to think about someone else more times in a day than you think about yourself.

Love Messages 17 :

Don't fall in love with someone you can live with, fall in love with someone you can't live without.

Love Messages 18 :

When you love someone, it's something. When someone loves you, it's another thing. When you love the person who loves you back, it's everything.

Love Messages 19 :

Love is like the wind you can't see it but you can feel it.

Love Messages 20 :

True luv is hard 2 find. Special 1-1 of a kind.But the luv inside of me is true.It appeared the day i met you!

Flirting Tips On How To Make Women Beg For Your Attention

noreply@blogger.com (Mr.LoNely ς੭) — Sun, 12 Jun 2011 15:12:05 PDT

Some men are called 'natural' for being able to get numerous females' in just a shot of their smile. What can be their secret for the 'magical effect' these men have on women? Well, it is simple; they know how to use the powerful flirting tool they possess.

Their practice on the process of getting women's attentions developed it to be something natural and impromptu. This is also the same reason they are so confident in their approach on their female prey. Not all these men were born natural flirts; some of them just developed it over time. Gradually, they started feeling comfortable and started moving on towards the type of women they like.

You must be tired of getting too many refusals from the women you try to lay your eyes on, right? Do not despair, just study the women's ideology and you will get going into the sexual success with your conquest.

No, it may not be as easy. Nevertheless, if you want women to see that you are enigmatic than other men, then you better learn how you can show them this without being an airhead. For men to be effective in flirting they must learn how the women's mind works and what these women think; it can result to easy enticement of the female when you know what you are up to.

The men who can easily get women to be comfortable with them are those who got to learn from their past connections and failures with different women. That is the ingenious men's mind working; you must learn to understand the body language of your female prey. Catch her attention with few words and give signals with your body language like brisk hand touches. Men must also try to face that they are not the gift of God to women so that you will not over-impose yourself to the woman you like. Any man who is trying to flirt and is emitting an air of too much confidence is a big turn-off for women. You surely will need confidence but not over-confidence.

Successful men in the art of flirting show women that they are confident and are strong leaders. That is one reason why most men who get the women they like are followed around and almost being stalked by a big mob of women everywhere they go. The secret on getting the women run and beg for your attention is by always showing them competitions.

Women love to compete and you are the alpha-man in their sight, you will surely get women fighting over you. You will not even get the blame for being the flirt! Women woo men who they see have something special and by showing the confident air emitting from your personality anywhere you go is a signal that says: "I got something for you, come and get me if you can". When you get your style and personality whipped up, then you are heading for successful sexual conquests.

Sad love quotes and sayings for lonely times

noreply@blogger.com (Mr.LoNely ς੭) — Sun, 12 Jun 2011 14:58:57 PDT

Sad Love Quotes "Love has immense repercussions. For us it has that importance, that mingling and linking with all our impulses and aspirations.. We confuse it with religion, with magic."

Sad Quotes - "If I should die tonight and the reason remains unknown, tell not the whole world, but the one I love that I died of a broken heart, not because he loved me too little but because I loved him too much."

"I am in love - and, my God, it is the greatest thing that can happen to a man. I tell you, find a woman you can fall in love with. Do it. Let yourself fall in love. If you have not done so already, you are wasting your life."

A wise girl kisses but doesn't love, listens but doesn't believe, and leaves before she is left.

Love is a promise, love is a souvenir, once given never forgotten, never let it disappear.

Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well

"Romanticism has never been properly judged. Who was there to judge it? The critics!"

Sad love quotes - "All of our young lives we search for someone to love, someone who makes us complete. We choose partners and change partners. We dance to a song of heartbreak and hope, all the while wondering if somewhere and somehow there is someone searching for us."

"I have found the paradox that if I love until it hurts, then there is no hurt, but only more love."

I love you not because of what you can give me, its because how my heart warms up whenever I am near you

Sad quotes - "Whenever I have knocked, a door has opened. Wherever I have wandered, a path has appeared. I have been helped, supported, encouraged and nurtured by people of all races, creeds, colors and dreams."

The more clearly you understand yourself and your emotions, the more you become a lover of what is.

"To love someone deeply gives you strength. Being loved by someone deeply gives you courage."

It always seems that we find something we like from different people, each. But we cant seem to find it all in one person.

To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.

"They say, 'Time heals all wounds.' If that is true, then I guess mine go deeper than pain. There are no words to choose over losing you. I guess I found out out too late, and now all I feel is heartbreak that only hurts when I breathe."

"To love a person is to learn the song that is in their heart, and to sing it to them when they have forgotten."

Sad quotes - I never thought I would meet someone like you. Until I met your eyes, my heart jumped. But then, I never thought you would leave. Making me look at my own eyes in the mirror, seeing nothing but hurt.

"You will find, as you look back upon your life, that the moments when you really lived are the moments when you have done things in the spirit of love."

"The greatest happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved -- loved for ourselves, or rather, loved in spite of ourselves."

How to attract a girl with eye contact

noreply@blogger.com (Mr.LoNely ς੭) — Sun, 05 Jun 2011 03:53:02 PDT

How To Use Eye Contact To Turn On Women

If you want to meet more women, you have to take the initiative to approach them. If you are afraid of rejection, so do the girls. The idea of being rejected is even more embarrassing for the girls than for men. The least that you can do is to use a very powerful body language to start the initial attraction and that is establishing eye contact with women you fancy before approaching them.

If you sit there shyly hoping women will approach you, then you are probably going to end up being single for a very long time. The fact is even if a girl is interested in you, not many of them will approach you for a chat. Hey, girls are brought up not to approach men that way lest they are being looked upon as desperate hussies.

However, if a girl is interested in you, she will give off some signals, most of the time subconsciously. Unfortunately most men don’t have a clue what these signals are. The secret to being successful with women is to know what these signals are and so be on the lookout for them and when you see one, you must swing into action immediately.

Let’s go back to the subject of eye contact. You can make yourself very attractive to women if you master the art of flirting with your eyes. So, the first step to scoring with women is to make confident eye contact with any girl you fancy. It doesn't matter if you are not handsome or good looking, if you can give her a good and confident gaze, it can very well turn her on.

When I said eye contact, I meant literally gazing into her eyes. This is where most men get it wrong. Instead of gazing at the woman’s eyes, they tend look at her bosom or her legs. If you do just that, will come across to her as lecherous and that will convey a very negative image of you and we all know that first impression counts a mighty lot and it lasts for a long time.

The moment you walk into a venue, start looking at any girl you fancy even if you think she is far too gorgeous for you. Just gaze confidently into her eyes give her a smile at the same time. Remember, your eye contact body language speaks volumes about you and so never leer or glare. In this way, you are subtly telling her that she is under your scrutiny and she has no alternative but to react to your gaze.

As said earlier, never be afraid to establish eye contact with beautiful girls. Most men don’t know this, but now you do. Many of the best looking girls are often short on dates because few men dare to make eye contact with them. Therefore the better looking she is the more likely she is to warm up to you when your eyes meet hers.

When your is gaze locked onto her eyes, this is the time to know if she is interested in meeting you. If she is, she will look straight back at you, then shyly look away, and then turn to look at you again, perhaps with a smile thrown in. Now is the perfect time to approach her and chat her up.

If she fixes you in a steely glare or she does not look back after the initial eye contact, then she is probably uninterested. When this happens, it is time to establish eye contact with another girl.

Remember, flirting with women using eye contact is a very powerful way to seduce and turn her on. It is one of the most powerful and attractive weapon in a man’s seduction arsenal.

How to Attract Girls Without Talking

noreply@blogger.com (Mr.LoNely ς੭) — Thu, 02 Jun 2011 11:29:40 PDT

Initiating a conversation with a woman can be one of the most daunting steps of connecting with the opposite sex. For men who aren't natural talkers, or for situations when talking isn't an option, attracting females can be frustrating. Luckily, there are ways to attract women that go beyond the words you say. By focusing on the other means of interaction beyond conversation, you can send amorous signals to the women you meet, to increase your chances of making a love connection.

Dress your best. Many men gravitate towards neutral shades such as black, gray, khaki and dark blue. These safe, uniform colors will blend you in with a crowd rather than make you stand out to the fairer sex. Select wardrobe colors that are eye-catching, such as red, blues and greens. Play with shades of each in front of a mirror, selecting the ones that make your eyes stand out and your skin look healthy. Accessorize your outfit with a few key pieces, such as a nice watch, belt or jacket layered over your shirt. Women tend to notice nice shoes as well, so invest in a pair of mid-range black or brown shoes in suede or leather that can easily go with any outfit.

Fix your hair. Ask your barber or hair dresser to show you how to style your hair, or guide you as you do so at the end of an appointment so you can learn to recreate an attractive look. Ask a trusted female friend for opinions on various hairstyles.

Make eye contact. Look in the direction of a woman you seek to connect with and then quickly and nonchalantly look away. Wait several minutes before repeating the attempt at eye contact, but make your glances short so that you are not mistaken for incessantly staring.

Work your body. Make sure your posture is straight and that your shoulders are relaxed. Make your gestures and movements count by moving your way through a room with an air of authority. Anticipate your next move to exude confidence. For instance, walk across a room with strident, purposed steps and ensure that when motioning for your tab or ordering a drink you eliminate indecisive motions or nervous tics. Hit the dance floor without worrying about your appearance, as people attribute dance skill most to those with playfulness and abandon.

Be chivalrous to everyone. Stop to hold doors for other patrons, including other men. Aid those in need of change for a phone call, help cleaning up a spilled drink, or step in to break up a fight. People, specifically women, respond to kindness and selfless acts. Demonstrate your character by focusing on others around you.

Mind your manners. Ensure that you do not commit a public faux pas, such as burping or passing gas audibly, cursing, chewing with your mouth open, or performing other actions that are socially unacceptable. These behaviors tend to communicate more than a lack of manners and tend to turn off potential mates.

Smell enticing. Use one drop of cologne behind each ear, allowing half an hour for the scent to settle before going out in public. Make sure not to drench yourself in cologne. A good rule of thumb is that only those within arm's reach should be able to detect your scent.

Flex your smile. Studies show that people are perceived as more attractive when they smile. Keep a breath spray or mints on you to ensure your breath is not offensive. Make sure to brush your teeth and floss after a meal to avoid particles sticking between your teeth.

Practice good grooming. Wash daily with a medicated cleanser to eliminate blackheads and acne. Use a lightweight moisturizer to make your hands and face soft to the touch. Keep your fingernails trimmed so that they do not protrude beyond your fingertips and file them gently to eliminate rough edges.

Head out with your female friends. Sending the message that you are comfortable with and liked by women can draw in the attention of other women as well. Be kind and respectful to your female friends, as other women in the room will study your interactions.

How to Attract Your Dream Girl

noreply@blogger.com (Mr.LoNely ς੭) — Fri, 26 Aug 2011 06:59:54 PDT

Getting a girl to like you may be the hardest thing for a boy especially when the girl is your dream girl. Some people may consider the pleasant physical aspect or a large amount of money leads to successful love. But they are not as important as they believe to be. Although there are so many girls who have different taste, there can be some easy rules for nearly every boy to follow so as to attract and win her heart.
Keep in good image

Keeping yourself in good image does not mean you must wear dear clothes nor have luxury dressing. You even do not need to be depressed for not being the most handsome. What I mean is that you should keep your clothes clean and match your characteristic and show your taste as well. It is the most effective to leave a good impression for the first time.
To be confident

If you want to get to know something about the girl you like, you should be confident about yourself and directly ask her. It is very essential when you try to get to know a girl who you never met before. You should be brave to say hello and ask her for something like telephone number or something else. In this way, you will get the noticing of the girl and also the chance of inviting her out through the phone.
Flat her sometimes

Most of the girls are found to be vain and some proper compliments will sure make them feel pleasant. For example, you may give her some good comments on the dress she wears or the hairstyle she has. She may think that you have the same taste as her and feels vey good, thus you successfully flatter her and get closer to her.

Be her best friend
Having known the girl very well, you should try to enhance the relationship between each other by becoming her best friend. A good friend is who can share the happiness and sorrow of the opposite one. Every time she tells you something she is wondering or the feelings of her, you should listen to her carefully and show your patience and concern as the things had happened on you.

Generally speaking, no matter what kind of girl you adore, if you can follow the rules above, you are possibly to capture her heart. What's more, you should be sincere and friendly and let her getting a better knowledge of you can also enhance your possibility in getting love success.

Remembering Gina - Love Message

noreply@blogger.com (Mr.LoNely ς੭) — Thu, 02 Jun 2011 11:12:02 PDT

Many years ago I met a girl of such shocking beauty, my breath stopped every time I looked at her. My heart ached at such a sight as she presented.
She stood, slim and short at about five feet two. Her pixie like features and high cheekbones were framed by a shock of jet black, curly, long hair. Her dark eyes seemed to be tunnels that went deep within her for miles and which radiated joy and happiness. Her mouth was small, with perfectly formed lips. Not too thick and not too thin.
I first saw her in the half light of a disco at the Penventon Hotel in Redruth, Cornwall. When the lights went up in the interval her full and staggering loveliness was revealed in all of it’s glory. As I watched her and tried to summon up the courage to go and speak with her, I was enchanted by her smile and her bird like laugh. It was the realisation that someone of such beauty would soon be surrounded by men seeking her company, that gave me the prod I needed to approach her.
As I approached her on that dance floor, she was laughing with a friend. I watched her head throw itself up and back. As if in slow motion, her hair swirled and tossed like a restless, black sea, of tight curls Her shining eyes filled with the love of life, that I was soon to find, had filled her heart from a very young age.
My heart was hammering with anticipation and not a little fear as I drew up close to her. She did not notice me at first, engrossed as she was in the conversation of her friend. When she did see me beside her she turned and with a friendly smile cocked an inquisitive eye towards me. I took a deep breath.
“I have been watching you. You are the most beautiful girl I have ever seen and I wondered, could I buy you a drink and get to know you better?”
Her face seemed to beam with pleasure at my clumsy words and she nodded. As I turned towards the bar she whispered something to her friend and then turned to follow me.
We drank our drinks and found a quiet spot in the lobby to sit and chat out of the clamour of the brash disco music and crowds.
She was a mine of questions and soon had my whole life story in her heart. I did not want to talk about myself. I wanted to know her; all about her; but her questions forced me to reveal myself in deeper and deeper ways.
As the evening sped by, I got to know as much about her as she was willing to reveal. I found a girl filled with hope who wanted to be a nurse. A girl filled with compassion and excitement. She came from a good and stable family and loved her parents deeply. She was smart, clever, delicate and yet deep in thought and emotion. Every revealing sentence she uttered made my heart fall deeper and deeper for this treasure.
At the end of the evening I took her home by taxi and kissed her on her doorstep. By the time I got home, I was in love, but also deeply troubled. Those fears that took root in my heart that day were to grow irresistible in the coming weeks.
To me, Gina was perfection. There was nothing about her that did not thrill me. I, on the other hand, was somewhat less than perfect and that realisation was the seed of the fears I carried. As those seeds germinated into serious thought within me, my path with Gina became ever more clear.
Gina and I met and talked and kissed and flirted and almost, became physical together. I forced myself not to make love to her, though my whole being screamed in protest. The opportunity was there, often. Gina wanted it to happen, but I could not — would not — allow it. I knew if we made love I would not be able to let her go from me, ever. She was just too lovely. Too much of a vision of perfection. Had we made love, I would have proposed within minutes. We would have married within months. I just could not let that happen. I loved her so deeply and in such an all encompassing way that at the slightest provocation I knew I would commit my whole life to her. I also knew, with a deep and crushing sadness, that it would be dangerous for her if I did so.
I was not stable enough and good enough to take someone like Gina and make her happy. I was young, foolish and a fighter. My character was weak and still unformed. My thinking almost entirely focussed on the day at hand and almost never beyond that day. Yet, when thinking of Gina, my thoughts of our future were detailed, deep and entirely pessimistic.
Sometimes I tried to talk myself into seeing a brighter side. I would try to convince myself that my fears were foolish and that I could grow up enough, quickly enough, to become the man Gina needed, but I always snapped out of it and faced reality again. I was just not right for her.
I had kept this thinking to myself. Just having time with Gina was very precious to me and I wanted to enjoy every moment of it. However, I also knew that Gina was falling in love with me and I could not delay telling her the truth of the way I felt much longer.
One damp summers evening we met in the bandstand of a local park. The sun was setting as we held hands and kissed. After a while Gina placed her head against my chest and spoke softly, almost in whispers of her happiness. I knew the time I had been dreading had arrived.
“Gina. I have something to tell you. Something I don’t want to say because I love you so very much, but it is something I must say because of that love.”
Gina did not reply but I felt her body stiffen slightly against me, as if she was preparing herself for a blow. I remember staring off into the distant trees searching for the right words to say. I was stoking her delicate face and running my fingers through her long hair and trying to hide the fact that underneath my calm voice a heart was breaking and filled with the fear that I might break her heart also.
As I gave voice to the fears in my heart a tear was stinging in my eyes but I forced myself to swallow my emotions and forge on. I explained to her that I knew I was not the man she should spend her life with. She needed someone more mature that I. More dedicated to the future. More grown up and responsible than I was capable of being at that time. I told her of the long hours of agonising I had gone through about this matter. How incredibly painful it was for me face these things and how, because she was so very perfect, I could not dare risk leading her into a life where my own foolishness might hurt her. I ended my sad little speech by telling her that she should walk away now and not look back and that I would do the same.
For a long time she said nothing. Her head remained against my chest and the gentle heaving of her body told me she was crying. I dared not look down at her. I knew if I did I would weaken and cast all I had just said to the wind. After a long time, maybe a little more than twenty minutes, she stood and slowly walked away. Her last words buried themselves deeply into my heart.
“Thank you George. I love you.”
I also stood and turned away. Two people, in love, but destined never to let that love grow, walking into the dusk in different directions.
About five years later I saw Gina again when I was hospitalised in Truro general hospital. Now a nurse and happily married with children of her own.
We met only briefly and both of us were shocked to see each other again. She was still wonderfully beautiful and motherhood had only increased the wonder of that beauty.
She asked me how I was and I asked her. Then as we parted again for the final time she took my hand, squeezed it gently and said, “Thank you George. Thank you so much.”
I kissed her hand and said nothing. Instead, I watched her walk down that long hospital corridor in her crisp uniform and wondered, briefly, if I was right to let her go. Then, with a kind of internal shudder, it finally settled into my heart that I had done the right thing and that it was good to have done it.
Strangely, I also realised that on that evening under the bandstand in the park I had grown up and become a man. Even though my life was a long way from being stable, it’s maturity seeds were planted on that day.
Wherever you are now Gina. I wish you now, as I ever have, every happiness and all the joy you deserve. For a short time, I shared in your beauty and you gave me memories I shall treasure forever.
Thank you.
George Rolph

Does she likes me

noreply@blogger.com (Mr.LoNely ς੭) — Wed, 12 Oct 2011 10:13:14 PDT

"Does she like me, or are we just good friends?". If you happen to be a guy who is constantly in a dilemma regarding this question, then read on to know the answer.

Does she like me? (pluck!)

Does she not like me? (pluck!)

Does she like me? (pluck!)

Does she not like me? (pluck!)

Does she like me? (pluck!)

Does she not like me? (pluck!)

Stop! Even if you pluck away all the petals of all the flowers of all the trees in all the parks, it still won't provide you with the elusive answer to the above question. So guys, please spare the poor flowers, and for a change, put your brain cells to use. There are a few ways of deducing whether or not a girl likes you, and trust me, plucking petals or flipping coins is not one of them! So if you're just back from a first date with a girl, how do you know if she likes you? Can it be done through some sort of 'does she like me' quiz? Well, let us find out!

Does She Like Me - Unraveling the Mystery

Scenario #1

Let us consider a scenario in which both you and the girl in question happen to know each other and are friends. If, at a certain point of time, you find that there is a change in her behavior towards you (in a good way), i.e. your male brain will start ticking more than usual. You will begin to wonder whether she has started liking you, whether she is interested in dating you, etc. Well, for starters, of course she likes you! Why else would she befriend you in the first place? Sadly, that is the not the type of 'like' that is being questioned here. You need to know whether she 'likes-likes' you, i.e. whether she has started experiencing feelings of affection or romance towards you. Well, the simplest way to find that out would be to walk up to her and ask her! But no guy ever does that, and no guy ever will. So the only option that remains is to watch out for signs, signals, hidden clues and any other thing which might give you the answer that you're looking for. Watch out for her body language.

Does she secretly glance at you from time to time?
Do her eyes give her away?
Does she roll her fingers round her hair and play with it to catch your attention?
Does she dress up differently in an effort to make you notice her?
Does she stand up for you and defend you stoutly in any argument?
Does she laugh at your jokes regardless of how poor they are?

Observe all these things keenly. They can at times, help you in finding out the answer to your question. Read more on:

Dating Tips
Dating Tips for Men

Scenario #2

Consider a scenario wherein you and the girl in question happen to see each other regularly in a common place; for example, the bus, train, school, tuition class, office, etc. The both of you know each other by face, but not personally. You catch her eyeing you on more than one occasion, and you ask yourself, "does she like me?". Well, since in this case you don't know the other person, you would naturally have to rely on all possible signs and signals to find the answer. In addition to all the points mentioned in the earlier paragraph, here are a few signs or behavioral characteristics that you should watch out for:

She tries to catch your eye and smiles when she does.
She dresses attractively (not necessarily provocatively) and tries to get your attention.
You find her regularly passing by your desk for no apparent or logical reason.
She stands with a group of friends nearby, playing with her fingers or her hair, and glances at you fleetingly.

These were some things that you need to be on the lookout for while finding the answer to the question, 'does she like me'?. If you are new to dating, then you could read more on:

7 Breakup Tips For A Broken Relationship

noreply@blogger.com (Mr.LoNely ς੭) — Wed, 30 Mar 2011 01:40:08 PDT

When a relationship is on its last leg and a breakup is inevitable, who ends it? Recognizing that her habits have become annoying instead of cute is just the start. Her rude cell phone calls mid-meal, the way she thinks she's always right and her complete lack of respect for your opinion should all be sending you a clear message.

Relationships often go bad -- and stay that way. Even when both parties know that they would be happier with someone else, it's human nature to procrastinate about difficult decisions. So rather than riding inertia's wave, use these seven breakup tips for a broken relationship and move on.
1- Make her the first to know
Out of respect for her, never tell your friends you're going to break up before telling her it's over. It's a simple thing women consider sacred. The all too connected grapevine is not the place she should or deserves to be told that you're no longer interested. You could discuss some relationship problems you're having with your buddies, but your final decision to break up with her should remain private.

Use your judgment to decide which day would be best to break the news to her. If she's very emotional and you think that you'll break her heart, try to do it on a Friday. This will give her the weekend to recover and spend time with friends. But if she's the type to plow through full steam ahead, then perhaps Monday would be best. This will ensure that her busy workweek will keep her mind off the breakup and you.

Remember that there will be no "perfect time" to end the relationship. The best thing to do is set a random Monday or Friday to break up -- and stick to it.
2- Find a neutral zone
Our second point in our list of seven breakup tips for a broken relationship is for you to know and remember that it's not fair to end the relationship at your place, and neither should you be forced to see a picture on her fridge of you and her hugging. Try to find a neutral locale where both of you would be comfortable to express your feelings, like at a park. At least there you can walk and talk, or maybe even find a more secluded spot.

A restaurant, on the other hand, is a bad choice. If she makes a scene, there's no respectful recovery and no quick way out. However, fear of embarrassment is never a reason to leave her in the middle of nowhere. No matter how emotional and heated the conversation gets, there's no excuse for risking her safety or yours.
3- End it in person
If you've lost that loving feeling, be courteous and tell her face-to-face. Phone calls and e-mail are fine for small talk, but this is a big issue. It's natural to want as much distance as possible between you and her when you break the bad news, but in this case, fight your instincts and have the decency to say it to her face. The fact that you're reading our seven breakup tips for a broken relationship tells us that you're a bigger man than the guy who dials and dumps.

4- Keep it simple
There's no need to put her through the history of your decision to break up. She does deserve an explanation, but save her (and yourself) the long-winded reasons of exactly why and how things went sour. Be clear about the fact that you feel the relationship is at an end, but pepper that crystal-clear reality with a significant dose of regret.

It's important to let her know that the decision to split up is difficult for you too. By letting this be known, you make a soon-to-be-ex-girlfriend a friend in mutual sorrow. A few words to the wise: Don't say you're going to call if you're not going to. Part of keeping it simple also includes ending it smoothly -- be fair to both you and her.

If you're unclear about how you're ending it with her, it could result in a dragged out breakup. Don't break up in stages -- if you want to sever the ties, there's no time like the present.
5- Get her to see your point of view
Who can argue with logic? You're probably not the only one that's been feeling the relationship going downhill. A dose of reality might be just what the doctor ordered to get her to accept what it is you need to say -- and do -- about it. A good way to get her to understand why the two of you aren't best-suited for one another is through a simple example. But make sure you get her to start the ball rolling.

Ask her if she's been feeling the lag in your relationship. She'll probably have quite a few examples about why things haven't been working out. Letting her talk it through will help her see why you brought the topic up in the first place.
6- Don't change your mind
There's a big reason why you made the decision to confront her with the end of your relationship. She may argue, cry or even "not understand why you're doing this," but be sure and stick to your guns. There's nothing worse than a flip-flop relationship -- you're either in or you're out. So make sure you have rebuttals for all her potential comebacks.
7- Be ready for tears
Whether she's glad you said something or not, chances are tears will be shed. Ending a relationship can bring intense emotion and she's not about to save you from seeing it all pour out at once. When she does start to cry, be sympathetic but don't be drawn in by an overflow of powerful emotion. Be an emotional rock. If your new ex is the stoic type (saving her emotions for a later time when you're not around), don't try to cajole a reaction from her. Let her be and tell her that you're ready to talk when she is.

Make sure to have plans set with friends later that day. This will ensure that the breakup process isn't dragged on longer than necessary and that you're not alone if you feel bad about what just happened. Don't be one of those guys who wants to prove one last time that he cares by breaking off his plans with his friends; that's amateur stuff.
know when to fold 'em
Ending a relationship is never easy. But having the courage to follow through with your decision will make both you and her happier when the relationship has already passed its "best before" date. Be true to your emotions and do what's best for you and her.

How to know if you really in love

noreply@blogger.com (Mr.LoNely ς੭) — Mon, 22 Aug 2011 00:02:33 PDT

It is a very common question, "How can I tell I'm in love?", but it is not an easy question to answer. What feels like love to one person may be nothing more than attraction to another. Some people fall in and out of love quickly and often while others are never really in love as much as they are in lust. This can get confusing when you are a teen because romantic love is a relatively new concept for you and you don't know what to expect. You are overwhelmed with all sorts of new feelings and social pressures. They are confusing. What is love? What makes you want a romantic relationship with one person and not another? How does your heart choose a partner? Why does love end? These questions can't be easily answered.

One of the most confusing quasi-love feelings is lust. Lust is a very powerful, very intense feeling of physical attraction toward another person. Lust is mainly sexual in nature - the attraction is superficial based on instant chemistry rather than genuine caring. Usually we lust after people we do not know well, people we still feel comfortable fantasizing about. It is very common for people to confuse lust for love. But why? What is it about lust and love that make them so easy to mix up? If lust is all about sex, how can a relationship without sex be about lust? Teens struggle with this because they see lust in the Biblical sense, but lust isn't that sinister. Lust is about physical attraction and acting ONLY on physical attraction. Love is about much more than that. Yet many teens (and to be fair, many adults) confuse an intense attraction for some sort if divine love. For teens, since feelings of attraction are still new and since pop-culture sells sex and love as one package, it is very easy to get the two mixed up.

Lust is clearly not love. Love is based on more than just physical attraction. Sure, attraction is a factor, but love goes deeper than that. Love is based on caring, friendship, commitment and trust. When you are in love it is as if you have your best most trusted friend at your side AND you feel physically attracted to them. It is the best of both worlds! Love is a shared feeling between two people who have a vested interest in one anothers happiness. Love is not about jealousy. It is not about conflict. It is not about testing. Love is a positive feeling. If it is tainted by mistrust, jealousy, insecurity or spitefulness it is not really love but merely a pale copy. Love is the total surrender of your heart to another person with the security of knowing they will treat it better than you will. Love should feel good. It should not feel bad. Love should make you want to be a better person, it should not lead you to do something self destructive. Love is not demanding of your spirit but lifts it and makes it glow. Love is a good thing. Anything less is lust, deep friendship or attraction. So the sappiness aside, the question remains, how can you tell you are in love?

There is no easy way to find the truth behind your feelings or the feelings of another person but there are some tell-tale signs that love is blooming (or growing deeper). If you agree with 7 of the following 9 statements you are probably in love.

1. You know, because you have been told by your significant other, that your deep feelings are returned in kind.
2. The object of your affections makes you feel special and good about yourself.
3. If/when you feel jealous it is always fleeting; you trust your partner not to betray you or hurt your relationship.
4. Nothing makes you feel as serene as when you and your partner are together.
5. When you fight with your partner you usually make up within a few hours and you always agree that nothing is more important than you both being able to express your true feelings (even if they sometimes cause conflict).
6. Your partner never asks you to choose between him/her and your loyalties to your family and friends - if you do choose him/her over them you always have a good reason and it is always YOUR decision, and your decision alone.
7. Neither you or your partner feel the need to test the other's loyalties or feelings.
8. You are more yourself when with your partner than you are with anybody else.
9. If sex is part of your relationship it is by mutual desire and agreement without the slightest hint of commitment testing or persuasion.

How to Get a Girl's Number

noreply@blogger.com (Mr.LoNely ς੭) — Thu, 25 Aug 2011 23:14:11 PDT

How to get a girl interested in you? How to get a girl's number? Read on to find all the answers here...

In today's competitive world, even to get a girl's number, one has to compete with a lot of other guys around! Guys these days really need to pay a lot of attention to the way they look or talk to get a girl interested in them. So, for all those guys who are wondering, "How to get a girl's number?", given below are some dating tips for men which will guide them in how to go about the whole thing.

Tips on How to Get a Girl's Number

Be Well-groomed
One of the things that you should always be careful about is to look your best when approaching a girl that you like. That in no way means that you should look like Brad Pitt! Not all of us are lucky enough to have those kind of looks. But certainly, you can appear well-groomed and polished by getting a nice hair cut, wearing polished shoes and dabbing on some good cologne! Researches show that women get more attracted to men who smell good. So, be well groomed and smell great when approaching a girl.

Say it with Confidence
The best way to get a girl's number is to approach her with confidence. Your body language should scream out that you are someone who is very sure of himself. One of the ways to feel like that is to forget all the times in the past when you were rejected by girls. Start from a fresh mind, walk towards her confidently and most importantly, smile!

Make Small Talk
One of the important steps in how to get a girl's number is to make small talk with her. There are innumerable guys who get all nervous and tongue tied in the company of girls. So, if you are one of them, practice a few times in front of the mirror some conversation starters before actually approaching a girl in person. You can say some things like, "How are you doing?" or "How is your day going along?" Most probably she will say "good" or "bad" and ask you the same. To this you can reply that you wish you were at a theater watching movie. If she smiles and replies something like "Yeah, it's a good idea", you can immediately ask her if she would like to watch one in the evening or over the weekend. If she agrees, you can ask for her phone number or give yours to her, whichever way she wants it to be. In case, you do not get a positive response, keep an open mind as there are plenty of fish in the water!

Get her Interested
Sometimes, just plain conversation will not get you anywhere. So, you should learn a few methods to catch her attention. One of the ways to do that is to flirt with her. Make her laugh, give her a few compliments, perhaps even argue with her a bit, pull her leg, in short do anything that you think will make you stand out from others and get her interested. Take help from these flirting tips.

Keep some Pick-up Lines Handy
If you do not know the girl at all and have seen her for the first time, then you can always try to get her interested in you by saying some cute and flattering pick up lines such as , "I am pressing charges against you for stealing my heart.", "I'm addicted to yes, and I'm allergic to no. So what's it gonna be?", "I'm not drunk, I'm just intoxicated by you.", etc. To know more of such fun one liners go to pickup lines.

Call Her
Besides knowing how to ask a girl for her number, you should also know certain things about getting in touch again. When you call up the girl again, she might still be interested in you or she may not like to see you again! Either ways always end the conversation on a polite note. There is no need to feel dejected as every one has a right to choose whom they want to hang out with.

Here's hoping that these tips on how to get a girl's number work for you the next time you approach a girl. In the end, all I can advice is not to take this whole dating thing seriously. Do not take it to heart if you do not succeed a few times initially! Just like everything else, a little more practice will make you perfect and successful in getting the girls whom you want as well as their numbers!

Internet Dating advice 3 ways to super charge your photo

noreply@blogger.com (Mr.LoNely ς੭) — Mon, 22 Aug 2011 00:15:39 PDT

The words you write in your online dating profile or online chats may be beautifully written and undeniably sincere. But like the old saying goes a picture is worth a thousand words.

Last year Thomas Enraght-Moony the Ceo of Match.com told the Times Online, "There are 93m single people in America - only 3m use online dating services." Those numbers have grown considerably since last year but not anywhere near ninety three million.

But no matter how you look at it, life is good right now for the online dating industry. By the end of this year internet dating is projected to gross over one billion dollars in revenue.

So it seems kind of strange that so many people report having no luck when it comes to meeting someone in cyberspace. There could be a myriad of reasons for this but key make or break element that can determine success is the profile photo. Sure the words you write may be beautifully written and totally heartfelt but like the old saying goes a picture is worth a thousand words.

So to increase your chances of success here are some suggestions to help with your overall internet dating strategy.

1. Dress Up

No you don't have to put on clothes that make you look like you just stepped out of some glossy fashion magazine (although it would not hurt your chances any) but don't look to be so down to earth in your approach that you come off looking slovenly. The whole point is you are trying to make a good and lasting impression so dress accordingly.

2. No Brooding

Yes it's a given that you are trying to keep it real. You have never been a phony so putting up a photo showing you with a fake smile is not your style. Besides if your online dating prospects are the "real deal" they will like and respect what they see.

Maybe they will. More than likely they won't. Unless you are a rap artist trying to sell your latest CD or a direct descendant of James Dean, go ahead and post a photo of you smiling.

You are not in a bad mood all the time are you? If so then the last thing you should be getting into is online dating. Worried about it looking insincere? Then think of some things that make you happy just before the picture is taken. It's not necessary to have all thirty two teeth showing to make a nice impression. A pleasant genuine smile can work wonders.

3. Who's Da Haps?

Okay, you're looking good. You are dressed sharply without over doing it and the smile on your face is sincere without looking like an advertisement for the American Dental Society. Now take that photo with you in your element; surrounded by some good looking people of the opposite sex.

Hold it. This is one of those common mistakes that you see over and over again when it comes to online dating photos. It's not a problem if you are on social networking sites but for internet dating it sends out a couple of messages:

- We got a player here

- If they have got it like that why are they doing online dating?

They maybe just friends or an ex but whoever they are get rid of that picture and take a new one with only you. This is not a group personal ad. If you want to show a picture of you with your favorite pet then so be it. But the only human that should be in the picture is you.

Sure online dating should be easy. After all the abundance of people you have to choose from is unmatched by anything in the offline world. But like anything in this world, to succeed you must have the right approach. Improving your online photo is one way to do just that.

Article written by Daryl Campbell
Don't go any farther with online dating until you find out the 3 questions that can save you time and trouble.

Romantic Question to ask your girl friend

noreply@blogger.com (Mr.LoNely ς੭) — Thu, 25 Aug 2011 23:18:46 PDT

Are you caught up in a situation where you don't have any romantic questions to ask your girlfriend (really dumb!)? It may be the phase in your relationship when you finally need something new happening between you and your girlfriend. So why not surprise her with some romantic questions! However, if you are just not able to decide what those million dollar questions are, just read this article and end all your dilemmas!

The mission 'do you love me' has been accomplished! She has said a big and emphatic yes in response to your proposal to go out! (congrats!) You guys are now meeting regularly and your relationship boat is sailing smoothly in an ocean of love! (great going!). While you enjoy these personal moments, do take care that things don't turn out to be monotonous. Boys, I understand you (in fact, sympathize with you!) because girls can talk about anything and everything under this sky while boys are believed to be the relatively silent species (though we are not dumb, girls!). Your girlfriend is now directly or indirectly expecting you to bring the conversation starter to your every meeting. However, every time you begin something, you seem to be getting your foot stuck in your mouth. Regular symptoms of this 'stuck-in-the-middle' syndrome can create some heavy relationship issues that will surely not be what you want. Before any such problems arise, here I present an exhaustive list of romantic questions to ask your girlfriend. Remember not to cram these questions like a programmed robot and play a rapid fire quiz round with her. Every question has a right time, so do wait for the time. Remember the age old saying, strike the iron while it is hot!

Romantic Questions to Ask Your Lover
Once you are cozily together, you have the perfect time to ask her your romantic questions. Neither be too cautious nor too stupid, be yourself and ask as if her answers really matter a lot to you. Don't just ask for the sake of asking. Be genuine with her for that will make her feel wonderful.

Do I make you happy?
This is a very cute question that will reveal your care and concern for her. No doubt, she will definitely say yes to this question but besides being a romantic and sweet question, this will also let you both know each others' deeper feelings and expectations.

What did you think about me when you first saw me?
Well, she might have thought something very weird or may be something very good, let her be open and frank. If she says "I thought of you as a dumb guy", even then it may sound sweet, rather than if she says, "I wish I would have loved some one else". Well don't be serious, she must be kidding (let's hope!). It is the most common reply girls give, "just as a joke". This question will set a platform for some other good conversations.

Which song comes to your mind and heart, while you think of me?
If music is a passion or liking for both of you, then she will definitely love to answer this question. Request her to sing few lines or better still, you sing for her!

If God comes to you and says you have 5 minutes to choose any one thing in this world, what would you choose?
Don't underestimate your girlfriend, she'll definitely get your question. Though a really tough question to answer, she should surely be able to manage it (otherwise she wouldn't be your girlfriend, would she?). The idea of asking this question is to let her say whatever she feels from the bottom of her heart. Enjoy the answers!

When did you first fall in love with me?
This is a sweet question. Test her memory and gray cells? Was it when you gifted her the first red rose outside the library building or was it while partying in a friend's house? Surely, she must be knowing the first reflection of your love in her heart and she will proudly share it with you. Read some more good questions to ask your girlfriend.

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Secrets to Understanding the Opposite Sex

noreply@blogger.com (Mr.LoNely ς੭) — Mon, 22 Aug 2011 00:20:33 PDT

It has been eight months or so since that fateful springtime morning when I opened my inbox to find a “nice” message from a young woman somewhere in Canada. The missive was a simple one, reading: “You understand women better than most women do. It’s like you are The Chick Whisperer, or something.”
Obviously, that particularly catchy phrase soon became the name of the podcast for men that we already had in the planning stages.
But is this really some sort of special or even downright supernatural gift that I have? Nah, understanding MOTOS (Members Of The Opposite Sex) is really not as hard as it’s cracked up to be.
In fact, the simple notion that most of us BELIEVE it is next to impossible to really get inside the head of MOTOS and figure out what is going on is probably, and disarmingly, the most basic reason why we don’t even bother to try.
Yet, the fact remains. In all seriousness, there really is no more foolproof a way to rocket your success into the stratosphere when it comes to dating, attraction and seduction than to understand the opposite sex.
Put in plain English, if you want to “get dates” you have to “GET” your dates.
So where do we start?
The baseline is as follows: Contrary to the message conveyed by the titles of books like “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus”, we as men and women are actually more ALIKE than different.
In fact, I’ll be so bold as to say this. When it comes to EMOTIONS, I believe men and women feel things very similarly. Cut us and we all bleed red. When something exciting happens, were all excited. When someone cuts us off in traffic, men and women both feel frustrated and slightly violated.
Further, I think we all have largely similar needs and want similar results in life. Maslow didnt have “his and her” hierarchies, now did he? We all breath the same air, drink the same water, and would like to get the creditors to stop calling and the boss to start promoting.
But you’d think that the opposite sex wasn’t even classifiable as “human” the way we are trained to think. Lots of guys believe if you follow a certain formula (which, perhaps ironically, is typically devised in house at Men, Inc.) then well get what “we want” from women.
Meanwhile, at Women, Inc. all you do is follow “The Rules” and men become your willing automatons.
Most of this brand of scheming is born of the notion that we as men and women are essentially powerless when it comes to truly understanding MOTOS. The natural flow from this mindset is respectively assuming that we are somewhere higher on the food chain than the opposite gender. Therefore we become twisted into believing that they’ll somehow fall for our tactics.
But the problem is I wasn’t kidding earlier. We’re ALL human, and more ALIKE than DIFFERENT. And whoever your MOTOS are, you aren’t going to “get what you want off of them” until you DESERVE WHAT YOU WANT as a human being.
To demonstrate this, here’s another piece of “the puzzle”.
Much of what we perceive as “differences” between men and women are ACTUALLY 100% purely driven by social dynamics. That’s psycho-babble for “we all buy into the pressures of the culture we live in”.
For example, men think women don’t like sex. Wrong. Women like sex as much if not more than men do. The “difference” is that women are stigmatized as “sluts” if they demonstrate that, whereas men are pretty much heroes to their peers if they “get laid” a lot.
Similarly, (and this is my personal favorite example) most guys freely suppose that women are the “choosers” and men are the “chasers”, implying that women have all the power. Not true. She OR he who has the highest quality options when it comes to dating/procreating/etc. is the one who calls the shots.
I happen to know two guys who are roommates. They literally have so many options with women that they hold parties inviting 20 or so women from MySpace to their place all at once, none of whom they’ve met yet. Why? Because there aren’t enough hours in the day to evaluate the dating potential of that many women separately. It has to be a “bulk assessment”.
Tell me–what did that last example do for your vision of the stereotypical “hottie” at a bar rejecting guy after guy after guy who tries to approach her?
But surely there are indeed REAL differences between men and women, right? Of course, but the point here is to first build the foundation that the similarities between genders FAR outweigh the differences. She doesn’t want to be “used” for sex any more than he wants to be “used” for his money. Yet, we have to respect that women want a “provider” and men want a woman who is physically attractive. And this is all perfectly reasonable. MOTOS aren’t “shallow” for having their preferences in that regard. The differences between genders, you see, tend to base themselves on differences in reproductive roles and/or archetypal gender characteristics.
Shockingly, the differences themselves are even less complex than most of us imagine. Have you ever noticed that both men and women like to believe that their OWN respective gender is easy to “figure out”? Well, that’s because it’s, um, true.
Really it comes down to this, women want to feel secure and want a man to LEAD. When you ask a woman what’s wrong and she says “nothing”, you KNOW as a man that its SOMETHING. In her mind, its your job to figure it out without her having to take your hand and spell it out for you, thats all there is to it. You must LEAD, and then you must be able to hold her and tell her its all going to be okay, and she has to be able to believe you. You must PROVIDE in every way, not just materially but emotionally as well.
And us guys? We want APPROVAL from women (without asking for it, which you see as weakness anyway). We want you to think we’re great. We want to be your “heroes” as much as you want us to be. And we also don’t want you to humiliate us. Oh, and you really do need to be physically attractive to us, which–fortunately–is more subjective a concept to us than you think. Thats all.

How To Create An Eye-Popping Online Dating Profile!

noreply@blogger.com (Mr.LoNely ς੭) — Mon, 22 Aug 2011 00:13:39 PDT

Are you considering the possibility of using an Online Dating Site to find the Date or Love of your dreams? Yes? Well, did you know that the most important part of finding your special someone through online dating is your profile. As explained in my book “the Ultimate Online Dating Handbook” even if you plan on being proactive in your search, you will still need a stellar profile. Why? Mainly because anyone you email, wink or nod will most likely use your profile as a way of deciding whether or not they wish to respond to you. So, how do you create an eye grabbing profile? Here are 6 steps that will get you on your way to dating ecstasy.

Talk about Yourself

Be Specific

Be Positive about Personal Ads

Be Honest about Yourself

Use a Spell Checker!

Include a Photo

Well, what you have above are the basics. You’re ready to get started. Hope these tips will help you to create an eye (date) catching profile.
Good Luck!

How Women Select Men

noreply@blogger.com (Mr.LoNely ς੭) — Mon, 22 Aug 2011 00:25:23 PDT

Women have two, conflicting instincts when choosing men. On the one hand, women want superior men, a.k.a. "alpha" males. On the other hand, women want men who can materially provide for their families, commit to a long-term relationship, and enjoy interacting with children, a.k.a. "good relationship skills."

"Alpha" Males

What kind of "alpha" male are you?
If you're a gorilla, you're big and strong. You're twice the size of a female. You fight any male you meet. You live with your harem of two to five females. Your females are monogamously faithful to you. Your penis is one inch long. Sex is quick.
If you're a gibbon, you mate monogamously for life. You live with your mate and your children. You sing to your mate. She sings back to let you know where she is. You and your mate are the same size and look identical. You start each morning with a half-hour of loud hooting to frighten other gibbons away from your forty acres of forest.
If you're a chimpanzee, you live in a group of fifty individuals. When a female is ovulating, she has sex with every male in the group. You have a large penis, large testicles, and ejaculate lots of sperm. You reproduce not because you dominate females or other males, but because your sperm is more active than other males' sperm (i.e., you're healthier than other males).
If you're a baboon, you live in a troop that varies from 10 to 200 individuals, depending on habitat, time of year, and predation.^[1] You make friends with other males. When another male threatens you, your friends back you up. You avoid fighting. Fighting leads to injuries, and lions eat injured baboons.^[2] You also make friends with females. Female baboons mate with their male friends. They like males who have many friends.

Women Go For Tail Feathers

Among the Aché hunter-gatherers of Paraguay, the men hunt big-game animals. They bring home a big animal about one day in ten. They return empty-handed the other days. Men, on median, bring in 4,663 calories per day.
Aché women gather plants and small animals, and care for their children (see How Our Ancestors Lived). The amount of food a woman brings home depends only on how many hours she spends laboriously picking and processing foods. Women, on average, bring in 10,356 calories per day.
When an Aché man brings home a deer, he shares it with other families, not only with his wife and children. Why do Aché men hunt large animals, only to give away this relatively rare food? Why not help their wives gather food? Such a man could easily bring home enough plants and small animals for two wives and their children.
Aché women view big-game hunting like peahens view peacocks' tail feathers. Big-game hunting shows that a man is physically and mentally fit. Giving away meat shows that he has more than enough strength and skill to survive. Women like men with many friends, and giving away meat maintains friendships. Men give meat to lower-status individuals to show their superior place in the social hierarchy (see The Great Male Hierarchy).
Extramarital sex isn't unusual among the Aché. When asked who had fathered their children, Aché women named, on average, 2.1 possible fathers for each child. On the list of possible fathers, the best hunters' names came up most often.

Status

Women prefer high-status men.^[3] In workplace affairs, men are equally likely to have sex with a superior or subordinate woman. Women, in contrast, are seven times more likely to have sex with superior, rather than subordinate, men.^[4]
Many societies expect the sons of leaders to become leaders. Women who want "alpha" sons marry "alpha" husbands. E.g., the 2000 presidential election was between the son of a president, the son of a senator, the son and grandson of four-star Navy admirals, and the son of a wealthy banker (George W. Bush, Al Gore, John McCain, and Bill Bradley).
To attract women, improve your social status. Give away stuff to make friends. Help less-fortunate individuals, to show that you're above average. Lead groups, e.g., captain your softball team. Dress well. Speak well, perhaps by joining Toastmasters International.

Money

If money attracted women, Bill Gates would be sexier than the Beatles in 1965.
Women are conflicted about money. Women want "alpha" males who show off their money like peacocks show off their tail feathers, e.g., buying a round of drinks in a bar. But women also want "relationship" men who put their paychecks into a mortgage.
Show off your money to attract a woman's attention. Then talk about the home you're buying to make her want a relationship.
Our hunter-gatherer ancestors owned nothing but what they could carry to the next campsite. Accumulation of wealth wasn't possible. Women's cerebral cortexes have learned to appreciate accumulated wealth, but their brains aren't hardwired for this. In a conflict, women tend to choose their more basic instinct—love—instead of their newer appreciation of wealth.

Confidence and Stress

Aché men gamble on bringing home a deer one day in ten, instead of choosing the safety of helping their wives gather food. Gambling—and a man's life in general—is stressful.
Mammals produce glucocorticoid hormones in stressful situations. Too much glucocorticoid causes health problems. In male and female primates, high-status individuals produce minimal glucocorticoid in stressful situations. Low-status individuals produce too much glucocorticoid.^[5] Stress—"the fear of fear itself"—physically hurts low-status individuals. Stress doesn't affect the health of high-status individuals.
Confident men—who believe that their powers or circumstances can handle stressful situations—attract women.^[6] To attract women and improve your health, take a stress-reduction class. Learn to handle stressful situations with confidence.
The common belief that men are hardwired to be alone ("go to their caves") after a stressful day and that women are hardwired to talk to a supportive partner is a misconception. The former is the avoidant attachment style and the latter is the secure attachment style. It's true that attachment styles are hardwired in adults, and it's true that this distinction is of paramount importance in relationships (mismatched partners have more relationship difficulties, and avoidant individuals have more relationship difficulties in general) but the hardwiring is from the individual's early childhood relationship with his or her mother. Men and women can have either attachment style.

Looks, Height, and Strength

Women rate tall, strong, athletic males as "very desirable" marriage partners. Women are almost twice as likely to value physical strength in men, as men are to value physical strength in women.
However, women prefer men with feminine-looking faces. E.g., women prefer Leonardo DiCaprio to Tom Selleck.^[7]
American women prefer men 5'11" (180 cm) or taller.^[8] Tall men receive more personal ad responses than short men.
If you're short, study Japanese. Then vacation on Guam, the Hawaii-like American island where Japanese women vacation.
Never-married women are more likely to prefer physical attractiveness. Conversely, divorced and widowed women are more likely to select good character over physical attractiveness.

Language Skills

Men with good language skills attract women. The language area in women's brains is better developed than in men's brains. Women love talking. To improve your language skills, take a creative writing class. Or memorize a few romantic poems.
Or learn a foreign language. The words conjugate—to form variations of a verb—and conjugal—relating to marriage—come from the same root word. Foreign women will think that a man who can conjugate verbs correctly in their language will make a good husband.

Age

Women select personal ads primarily by age.^[9] Women select men who are, on average, three and a half years older. Older men, in general, have more social status and emotional maturity.
The worldwide average age difference between brides and grooms is three years. Americans marry closer in age.^[10]
In 1890, the average age at which men first married was 26. Women married at 22.^[11]
Figure 1: Age At First Marriage During the first half of the twentieth century, increasing affluence enabled younger men to support families. Secondary education and increased leisure time facilitated dating. Dating sometimes led to sex, pregnancy, and early marriage. In 1956, men married at 22, women at 20.
The FDA approved oral contraceptives in 1956. The Supreme Court legalized abortion in 1973. Women delayed motherhood to start careers.^[12] In 1998, men married at 27, women at 25.
Couples now live together from the age that their parents' generation married. The average man now first lives with a woman, either in marriage or as an unmarried couple, for the first time at 22. The average woman moves in with a man at age 20 or 21.^[13]
Couples that marry younger than 25 have dramatically higher divorce rates.^[14] Our brains' prefrontal lobes don't mature until 25.^[15] This "executive decisions" brain area is where we make good judgments. Automobile insurance rates drop at 25 because drivers with mature prefrontal lobes get into fewer accidents. Similarly, men and women make better relationship decisions after 25. (If you want to marry younger than 25, ask your parents to arrange a marriage for you. That idea sounds radical but it has worked for thousands of years.)

Relationship Skills

Women want men who'll stay in a faithful, long-term relationship. But a woman can't predict a man's behavior twenty years in the future. Women instead look for signs that a man is relationship material.

Predictability

Women prefer men who have a steady job, are dependable, and are emotionally stable.^[16] A predictable man may be boring, but a woman feels that she can predict his behavior twenty years into the future. Unpredictable, "flighty" men turn off women.
E.g., if you want to date a certain waitress, eat at her restaurant every day for months, at the same time each day, ask for the same table, and order the same meal (and leave the same big tip).

Home Ownership

One of the highest factors correlating with likelihood of a man to marry is home ownership.^[17]
If you own a home, when asking a woman out, give her your business card and write your home address on the back. She'll drive by and look at your home. On a date, talk about your home.
If you don't own a home, say that you've been looking at homes to buy. Women enjoy talking about buying homes.

Family Relationships

Another sign that a man will be a good husband and father is his relationship with his family. Show women photos of yourself playing with your nieces and nephews. Invite your date to meet your siblings or cousins and their nieces and nephews (meeting your parents and grandparents is less effective).
Men positively interacting with children attract women. Men who ignore a child in distress turn off women. Women's favorite pinups show bare-chested, muscled men holding smiling babies.
In contrast, men have no preference for women interacting with children versus women alone.^[18] E.g., men like pinups of bare-chested women, but not holding babies.

Astrology and Personality Types

Astrology and personality types fascinate women. They hope to predict the future of their relationships. Talk about personality types on dates (see Personality Types).
Or put astrology software on your laptop computer. If a party is boring, sit down at the kitchen table and offer to do astrology charts.

Emotional Connection

The prefrontal lobes (part of the cerebral cortex) enable affect-regulation, or the

ability to regulate our emotional reactions, control our impulses, or moderate the survival reflexes of our ancient reptilian system.^[19]

— Joseph Chilton Pearce, The Biology of Transcendence (2002)

The prefrontal lobes are our most recently evolved brain area.^[20] This is also the last area to develop in each individual—maturing between the ages of 15 and 25.^[21]
Women want emotionally mature men. An emotionally mature man changes his emotions as situations change—or to change a situation. Although his limbic brain experiences a wide range of emotions, his higher self (his prefrontal lobes) stays constant. Such an individual is capable of a long-term relationship.
E.g., in Roxanne (1987), a man insults Steve Martin. Martin at first shows anger at the insult. But then he switches to humor. Martin first makes jokes about himself. Then he switches the subject of his wit to the other man, making a crowd laugh at the man. The other man shows only one emotion—anger—in response to each of Martin's changing emotions.
Imagine that your emotions are like a car with a standard transmission. To shift from one emotion to another, you shift through neutral. In neutral, you quiet one emotion before shifting to another emotion. When you quiet your own emotions, you can feel your partner's emotions. Buddhists call this state egoless. Christians say selfless. When you feel your partner's emotions, you can select the best emotion for the situation.

Fear Reduces Us to Reptilian Responses

You meet an attractive woman. Your cerebral cortex imagines your friends' envy if she goes out with you.
Your limbic brain fears that she'll reject you.
Your reptilian brain wants to have sex with her.
In a conflicted brain, the older brain area wins. You're capable of having sex with her. Your reptilian brain is perfectly functional.
Your limbic brain is warning, "Don't emotionally connect with her! You'll get hurt!" You're unable to feel her emotional state. She seems like a beautiful statue in a museum.
You've locked out your cerebral cortex. Language is a cerebral cortex activity, so you can only stare at her breasts and mumble incoherently.

When integrated, [the triune brain] offers us an open-ended potential; an ability to rise and go beyond all constraint or limitation. But when that integration fails, our mind is a house divided against itself, our behavior a paradoxical civil war—and we become our own worst enemy.^[22]

— Joseph Chilton Pearce, The Biology of Transcendence (2002)

Developing Awareness of Choices

Cerebral cortex activity won't get you out of an internal conflict. E.g., repeating positive statements (affirmations) while blocking awareness of your emotional state won't help.
Instead, connect to your limbic brain. Feel your emotional state.
Slow down. When you react quickly, your brain selects myelinated or habitual responses. Instead of going with your first reaction, pause and breathe.
Imagine your choices. Imagine alternative responses.

No one needs to be completely hemmed in by circumstances; no one needs to be the victim of his biography.^[23]

— George Kelly, The Psychology of Personal Constructs (1955)

Think through your general fear to specific fears. E.g., you fear that she'll say that you're too old for her. Imagine different responses you could make to that rejection:
When Hugh Hefner first asked Barbi Benton out, she said, "Well, I've, uh, never dated anyone over 23 before." Hef responded without hesitation, "That's okay. Neither have I."^[24]
You'll no longer feel fear. What seemed like an insurmountable problem now looks like a variety of choices, each leading to a positive conclusion.
Imagining different possible futures is a cerebral cortex activity. Feeling emotions is a limbic brain activity. Imagining your emotions in various scenarios connects your cerebral cortex and limbic brain. You unblock your internal conflicts.

Play a Game

When an unexpected event upsets you, the problem isn't the event. The problem is that you don't know how to respond. When you're upset you fail to see positive opportunities. You see only that your plans are blocked. Instead, stay flexible and look for opportunities in unexpected events.
E.g., a man sees a woman sitting in a bar booth. He walks over, bends down to talk to her, and bonks his head on a lampshade hanging over the table. Momentarily stunned, he stands there while the lampshade swings back and bonks his head a second time.
He says, "Excuse me. Let me do this again." He returns to his bar stool. He comes back to the woman, puts his hand calmly on the lampshade, bends down, and introduces himself.
This happened to one of my friends. He and the woman dated for several months.
He managed his fear by playing a game. Play boosts emotional experience, and develops relationships with other individuals.
Children play obvious games. Adults play subtle games. Let's make my friend's game more obvious:

Shift to a pretend world.: He said, in effect, "I'm going to pretend to meet you." In pretend worlds we're less afraid of showing emotions.

Focus on a bipolar construct.: Psychologists call a pair of opposite ideas a bipolar construct. A literature major would say irony. Whatever you call it, when an individual does two, opposite things at the same time, we laugh. In this game, the bipolar construct was being cool vs. being clumsy.

Exaggerate emotions.: If my friend had played the game to entertain a child, he would've amplified his emotions. E.g., he returns to his bar stool. Then he pretends to see the woman for the first time. His eyes pop open and his jaw drops. His hand shakes and he nearly spills his beer in his lap. He exaggerates preening in the bar mirror, then swaggers over.

Repeat the game: If he were playing the game to entertain a child, he'd bonk his head on the lampshade—three times. Then he'd repeat the skit. He could repeat it thirty times and the child would laugh every time.

Exchange roles.: If he were entertaining a child, he'd trade places with the child. The child would pretend to be clumsy Joe Cool.

Make your game physical and unstructured.: Children play physical, unstructured, non-competitive games. Adults play abstract, non-physical, structured, competitive games, e.g., spectator sports, casino gambling, ballroom dancing, and board games. My friend's game was physical (bonking his head on the lampshade) and unstructured (he didn't hand out a sheet of rules).

Schedule playtime.: For your next party, tell your guests that the first hour will be games, e.g., Twister.

Laugh to Connect Your Limbic Brain and Cerebral Cortex

Only humans laugh. Other animals express emotions as they occur. Our emotional regulation stops us from suddenly expressing unexpected emotions.
Our cerebral cortex sends emotions it doesn't know how to regulate to our speech area, and we laugh. We associate laughter with humor because humor is always unexpected. But humor isn't one emotion. Humor is any emotion we can't regulate. Because different individuals regulate different emotions well or poorly, different individuals laugh at different events.
A sense of humor attracts women. Laugh in emotional situations, e.g., when you do something embarrassing. Laughing connects your limbic brain and cerebral cortex, enabling better awareness of your emotions.

Reveal a Secret to Emotionally Connect

In 1957, a young man arrived in Nashville. He stuttered, but played guitar, and could sing without stuttering.
Soon he had a job performing with Minnie Pearl, the country comedienne. Pearl encouraged him to talk on stage. He refused, afraid that the audience would laugh at his speech.
Pearl replied:

Let 'em laugh. Goodness gracious, laughs are hard to get and I'm sure that they're laughing with you and not against you, Melvin.^[25]

The singer developed humorous routines about his stuttering. Audiences laughed. His career took off.

Word began to circulate around Nashville about this young singer from Florida who could write songs and sing, but stuttered like hell when he tried to talk. The next thing I knew I was being asked to be on every major television show in America.^[25]

— Mel Tillis

Don't be afraid to share a secret. Women share secrets with girlfriends to emotionally connect (see Women's Support Circles). But don't whine about your problems. Instead, talk confidently about a secret to show that you've turned a weakness into strength.

Entertainment Skills

Entertainment expresses emotions. Effective entertainers emotionally connect with their audiences.
Entertainment integrates limbic brain emotions with cerebral cortex imagination. When an entertainer expresses an old emotion in a new way, we applaud.
Other animals do the same mating rituals generation after generation. E.g., peahens never get bored watching peacocks show off their tail feathers. Like peahens, older women enjoy 300-year-old operas. But young women want only new music, the latest clothes, and the coolest actors. Their greatest put-down is "that's so ten minutes ago."

Mankind might well be a tool-making and tool-using species, but nothing so separates us from the lower animals than our almost comic enthusiasm for the new, new thing.^[26]

— Nick Schultz, editor of TechCentralStation.com

Effective entertainers have integrated brains. Conversely, to improve your brain integration, develop your entertainment skills.
Entertaining men attract women. When a man's performance makes a woman feel emotionally connected, her limbic brain tells her that she's in a long-term relationship with him.
A woman with an integrated brain responds, "I want a long-term relationship with this man. I'll buy his CDs (or watch his movies). I'll feel as if I've known him for years."
A woman with a poorly integrated brain might try to have a physical relationship with the man, even though her cerebral cortex tells her that he'll never commit to a relationship with her. In a conflicted brain, the older area wins.
Entertainment skills can make women ignore a man's faults. E.g., Woody Allen's sense of humor attracts women, even though he's small, scrawny, and married his stepdaughter.^[27] (At least he's a family man.)

Women's Entertainment Skills

Male entertainers, in general, have both male and female fans. Female entertainers, until recently, had only female fans, and had fewer fans than male entertainers. E.g., your local ballet company has fewer fans than your professional basketball team.
Masculine individuals (generally, but not always, men) use entertainment skills to attract sexual partners. Feminine individuals (generally, but not always, women) use entertainment skills to keep a partner in a long-term relationship.
E.g., a woman who makes her husband laugh each day, and makes his heart ache when she sings lullabies to their children, has a husband who's not going to leave her.
Legendary King Shahryar took a new woman to bed each night, and then killed each woman in the morning. One woman saved herself by telling a story with a cliffhanger ending. Shahrazad kept this up night after night, spinning Ali Baba and the Forty Thieves, Sinbad the Sailor, and other stories into One Thousand and One Arabian Nights (circa A.D. 1000).

Truth and Lying in Art and Entertainment

Entertainment skills increase reproductive success so effectively (i.e., get women to have sex with men, and get men to stay with women) that sexual selection for entertainment skills may have driven our ancestors to evolve larger cerebral cortexes.^[28]
Art and entertainment are lies, from the point of view of the liar. E.g., when an actor playing Hamlet says that he's going to kill his stepfather, the actor isn't threatening his stepfather's life. A painter creates an image that looks real, but isn't. A poem makes us visualize a scene we don't see. Novels and movies take us into a worlds we've never experienced.
But art and entertainment are truthful, from the point of view of the audience. Effective artists and entertainers communicate emotions that "strike a chord" in the listener or viewer. They tell the truth not about themselves—e.g., you don't want to know that an actor is afraid of forgetting his lines, or is hoping that a movie producer might be in the audience and offer him a better-paying job—but instead quiet their own emotions and emote the audience's feelings.

Religion and Evolution

Art, entertainment, religion, and reproductive success are entwined. Religious men and women sing in church or synagogue, dramatically recite Bible stories, dance at rituals, etc. Most societies encourage religious men, e.g., rabbis, to marry and produce large families. Men prefer to marry religious women, because they're more likely to be sexually faithful.
Our ancestors' sexual preference for partners with deeply moving emotional skills may have driven them to evolve brains capable of spiritual thought. I.e., evolution enabled humans to think spirituality, and, conversely, spiritual thinking may have driven human evolution.

Consumerism as Runaway Sexual Selection

For our ancestral fathers, entertainment was "do it yourself." Dinner was killing and roasting an animal. After dinner, they played music, danced, or told epics of their heroes.

Now consider what happens in modern courtship. We take our dates to restaurants where we pay professional chefs to cook them great food, or to dance clubs where professional musicians excite their auditory systems, or to films where professional actors entertain them with vicarious adventures. The chefs, musicians, and actors do not actually have sex with our dates. They just get paid. We get the sex if the date goes well. Of course, we still have to talk in modern courtship, and we still have to look reasonably good. But the market economy shifts much of the courtship effort from us to professionals. To pay the professionals, we have to make money, which means getting a job. The better our education, the better our job, the more money we make, and the better the vicarious courtship we can afford. Consumerism turns the tables on ancestral patterns of human courtship.^[29]

— Geoffrey Miller, The Mating Mind (2000)

I can't stand dinner and a movie.^[30]

— Julia Schultz, Playboy centerfold

Onstage, I make love to 25,000 people—then I go home alone.^[31]

— Janis Joplin

Consumerism hotwires our brains' relationship circuits. Cars, shopping malls, television, and Julia Schultz's Playboy poses hit these neural circuits.
Women are especially susceptible to consumerism. E.g., on eBay, women described 11% of their shoes as "sexy." Men described only 0.005% of their shoes as "sexy."
Consumerism makes us work longer hours to buy more stuff for our mates. Women have less time to exercise and look attractive. Men have less time to practice entertainment skills. Couples have less time together.
The effects of consumerism range from environmental destruction to anti-American hatred. Runaway consumerism—not war, crime, or disease—is the greatest threat to human survival. Focus on relationships, not buying stuff. You'll be happier and your grandchildren will have a planet to live on.

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