Love for Relationships

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Communication that Imparts Love.

2011-12-19T16:23:00.000+08:00

Communication, the art of relating, saying what we feel and mean. It is the easiest process to connect and share, listening and understanding what others will say to be sure that we have heard and get his message accurately.
The development of communication system in our time enables man on earth to relate with other man in the moon. But it is sad that mother can't talk and understand her daughter, father can't guide and get the opinion of his son, some culture won't accept other culture, labor can't reach the management, and democracy can't grasp the demand of our fellow who idealize communism.
How can love be imparted through communication when we seldom talk about it? It is very rare that we discuss about it, we discuss business, life of other people, our goals, and what happen to our place and in other places. But we don't talk about love that connects the relation. In a relationship, blood or friendship, the aspect about love often disregarded. Sometimes, we give more value and time to our pets and things compared to relationship we have to our fellow.

We are ashamed to say I love you, sometime we can only say it when it is too late, when our love one is dying or died already. Why we're ashamed to say when we really mean it? Are we not inspired to love and to be loved? You know, its is a very rare opportunity and time that we could say I love you to our love ones and most beloved one.
Don't wait till its too late to let them know and hear from us the sweet word, I love you. Don't be a shame to say it, say and do it with pride and feelings. The tears that rolls down from our eyes are not all guilt, anger, or joy. But it is a feeling of love that could not be express in our lips.
We can give without loving, but we can't love without giving. The expression of love that we say to the one we love is an enough gift that is more valuable than material, to give and share for our love one. "I love you!"

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Communication is Love Indicators

2011-10-20T14:11:00.000+08:00

One of the greatest complaints among the young today is that though they are given so much in terms of objects, money, and physical comforts, they feel deprived of close communication. They miss the type of talk which helps them to hear their own voices, discover their own resources, make their own mistakes and seek their own solutions in a supporting environment. They often feel that true communication between themselves and those they love is, if offered at all, of limited value.

A sensitive student of mine came to see me regarding a very personal problem. When I suggested that she discuss this with her parents she told me she never could, that they would never understand. i persuaded her to
"give it a chance" because her problem would require family support. She return several days later to report that she had sincerely tried but even when she confessed to her confusion and despondence, they minimized it and change the subject, assuring her that she was "making a mountain of molehill," that "she'd outgrow it," etc. They actually refuse to discuss it, as if to ignore it would make it go away. It was only a suicide attempt on her part that her parents reacted. "Why didn't you tell us you were having problems?" they asked! "Why didn't you listen when I did?" she said simply.

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With You in a Loving Relationship

2011-10-14T15:30:00.000+08:00

Most of us have never felt compelled to examine our relating and explore that we feel, what we say, what we do, affects it. It is imperative that this is done. Our relationship influence our mental health, our role in society and the family, our friends and lovers, and the groups to which we belong.

It is interesting to note how easy and very human it is to put off such challenging concepts as love and relationships as being natural phenomena which will take care of themselves and which require no real serious
thought.

In a relationship that you are involved, try to experience and feel it, not only in joy but through thick and thin. Never move out when things get out of tune, instead, go together with respect to each other and fulfill what you've promise to each other.

It's obvious and rather exciting that, as with all things, we define our own relationships. What is important is not so much what the definition includes, but what it is defined in our mind and agreed upon by the individuals forming the relationship. For some, a relationship will require total honesty, trust and commitment. For others a less restrictive involvement will be essential. It would be well to think about the constellation of possibilities suggested when we say "Come into my life. I love you."

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Ideas About Loving Each Other.

2011-10-06T18:02:00.000+08:00

A loving relationship is a choice partnership. Loving someone in which even imperfection is seen as possibility and, therefore, a thing of beauty; where discovery, struggle and acceptance are the basis of continued growth and wonderment.

A loving relationship is one of which individuals trust each other enough to become vulnerable, secure that the other person won't take advantage. It either exploits nor takes the other for granted. I t involves much communication, much sharing, and much tenderness.

A loving relationship is one in which the individuals involved grow in their understanding and loving acceptance of each other's differences and encourages each person to reach out and share as much beauty and love as is possible to find.

A loving relationship is one of which you accept the other person at the moment as a whole and receive that same acceptance.

A loving relationship is one of which the distinction of personal rights, possessions, thoughts, emotions and even actions become blurred, and it doesn't matter, because we share as much as in humanly possible with the same ultimate goals.

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Loving the Kids

2011-09-14T12:56:00.000+08:00

We we're walking along the seashore, looking at the waves as they splash on the sand in the bank. It was so nice to look and watch at some flying birds with the presence of smooth wind from the sea. We walk from east to west because we have seen that at the west side of seashore was more better, considering the direction of the wind that goes south west. We encountered a tahoo vendor, feel like our stomach was very much empty so I decided to buy some for us. We enjoined eating the tahoo in a plastic cup sipping it with a straw, when it is about to get empty, I feel like having more but the tahoo vendor has gone away. We continued walking, on the seashore we have notice some holes, to our curiosity we get neat at small holes, probably one and half inch in
diameter and observe what is inside, you know we observed some creatures and we supposed that it is crab.
Not far away from us going further west, we notice some kids having plastic jars and white cellophane, it looks like they were digging in the sand while the other kids is getting water from sea, and the third kid hold the cellophane. We get near to them to see what they are doing. We have seen that they were digging a hole, same as the hole that we have seen a while ago with crab, we learn from this kids that they were getting the crab inside it. Their task is not easy, because they can't catch the crab that easy. They need to dig the hole with their bare hand using a water to get the sand soft, then if they can find the crab, they need to be careful for the crab clamp, it is so pointed that it may tear the skin of hands when it attacks. At that point, about eleven in the morning, they have only catch five crabs, two small and tree medium size.
We have found that this kids were supposed to be in school, we don't ask their names, they are about eight and nine years old. My broke when I learn that their parents can't support all their needs in going to school. That is why they prefer to be on the seashore playing and hunting for crabs, after that they will swim. Before leaving those kids, I reach from my purse a little money for them, I have seen their smile and heard their words of thank as we handed to them the small amount, that in our way leaving them we could hear the sound of thank you from them, we smile and wave our hands to them saying good bye. I see that it is very dangerous for their age to stay along the seashore with no parent and elderly person with them. I wish that their parent or relative would do something for this kids to save and bring them up as better citizen of our country.

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Relationship is a living thing

2011-04-08T07:30:00.000+08:00

The life of human is very much colorful and complicated, it is continuous relating and associating with others. We can't go alone without companion or can't maintain the process of being single, we all need companion, we need someone to care and share our thoughts, possessions, and our self. We're not intended to live alone, that we we're inspired of living because there are people who cared for us, that there are those people who loved us and shared us their joy and their possession. But relationship won't last or stay long if we won't nurture it, it is a living thing that gives life to human, "relationship don't die, they just wither in process of not giving time and value into it."

If the life of human needs constant relating, we need to maintain and nurture our relationships. If human needs human, can you find reasons to give up or stop relationships.
We don't win in giving up relationship, we lost . We can't replace human, because they are not commodity or thing that can be discarded.
In the process of relating, we always win. So don't give up in a relationship.

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