Love Guides

3 Step Success Formula For Helping Peoples

2008-02-16T07:02:00.000+07:00

The formula for success is not complicated. Get things done (that relate to your goals) by either doing them yourself, getting help, or helping others. Doing things yourself will get the job done the way you want it done, but the price to pay is your valuable time. Youc an only become as successful as your time allows. Most of those who have achieved outstanding success have done so by expanding their efforts through others. That means they didn't do everything themselves. Giving help is a concept that is often overlooked. Although it may not seem like it in theory, you do become successful by helping others. Employees become successful when they help the company or their bosses. This works the same for the home based business owner who is his or her own boss already. I've narrowed this down to 3 simple rules. Follow them, and your on your way to success.

1. Remove All Negative Thought

Clear your mind of jealousy, envy and fear tha tothers will get ahead of you and reach your goals first. The worst that can happen if they do is that they will take you along with them. Don't be envious of someone if they seem above you. Help them achieve and that same work ethic will rub off on the people you signed up into your business. You wouldn't a friend to move forward and leave you behind just because you let your jealousy keep you at a distance. Your interest in helping them, however, must be genuine. To achieve a sincere attitude in helping others, do not use your own selfish gain as a driving force. I know this may not seem possible since your ultimate goal is for you, yourself, to succeed, but when you focus on people instead of money or position, your goals will begin to follow you. Also, do not help someone just because you think they will do something for you. You always want to take responsibility and credit for all that you do, and not be depend on someone else.

2. Expect Other People To Be Successful

A doctor who expects his/her patients to survive has a higher survival rate than doctors who take a pessimistic approach to practicing medicine. The coach who expects his team to win has a better season than the coach who doesn't believe in his/her players. Are you getting the picture? We ultimately achieve and acquire all that we focus on, and if you want people to succeed then you will untilmately succeed with them. If you focus on how difficult a person is to work with, you'll never make enough money to pay your bills. Your attitude comes across on the phone and to the people you speak with. These are the people who will make or break your business and your goals. Always hold in your mind the worthwhile characteristics of an individual and treat them accordingly. Always focus on what they can do. People will remember you for always complimenting them and they will think of you when it comes time to advance ahead.

3. Become A Talent Scout

Give encouragements to the people around you. Compliments will stimulate them to keep moving forward and make the best possible use of their talents. Always pointing out a person's fault will ultimately make them feel as though they are always making mistakes, and the may give up. You don't want to be the person they blame their failures for. Instead, be the person who helped them build a successful life. I had a job once where a co-worker only talked to me when he wanted to point out small mistakes I was making. He never offered one word of encouragement. When I was promoted to a manager and was asked to choose someone to assist me in my new position, you can be sure that I did not choose him. My decision was not made out of spite, but because I knew I did not want to work with someone who had a negative attitude to bring me down with. Be a talent scout and put your discoveries into words of encouragement. People will remember you for it.

These rules and concepts of helping others ultimately boil down to one thing. You must acquire the attitude of believing in others and have faith and confidence in their characteristics. If you do this, people will return the gift ten-fold, and they will enrich your life with friendship, joy, recognition and priceless contributions to your own success and happiness.

Simplicity of the Success

2008-02-16T07:01:00.001+07:00

Are you determined to become a mega success story?

Then this article will show you the simplest formula for reaching heights of success you've only dreamed about.

Remember that simplicity is not the same thing as ineffectiveness, for true power lies in simplicity. As the saying goes, "Common sense is not always common practice."

Let's begin.

Psychologist Arnold H. Glasgow has said, "Success is simple: do what's right, the right way, at the right time."

That's a simple concept, yet very profound.

The quote lays out three easy steps to simplify success, but those steps must be integrated to work effectively ' you can't afford to skip even one of them.

The first step is to do what is right. If you skip the FIRST and most important step, you're eliminating your chances to succeed.

But how do you know what is right for you?

Simply put, the decisions you make every day must match with your true purpose in life. Every action you take must enhance and solidify who you are and what you were meant to accomplish in this life.

When you have a purpose, your actions naturally become more powerful because they are focused and united to fulfill a sole objective. Consequently, you achieve faster and better results.

The second step is to do it the right way. If you skip this step, you'll find yourself in a never-ending loop of trial and error where you'll just keep re-inventing the wheel, instead of re-inventing yourself.

It has often been said that the easiest way to become successful is to find someone who is already successful and follow in his footsteps.

Take that advice and learn from the best. Look for successful people who have reached the same level of success you want to reach, and learn from both their mistakes and their accomplishments. Imitate their lives, learn their methods, and discover their secrets.

The third and last simple step to success is to choose the right time. Take small actions every single day that lead you toward fulfilling your purpose. Prepare yourself so that when the right opportunity presents itself, you'll be ready to seize it and ride it to unimaginable levels of success. The right time to start taking action is NOW. Even the smallest action can make a big difference. Don't worry about the magnitude of your every move; focus instead on the collective power of all your small actions combined.

"Success is simple. Do what's right, the right way, at the right time."

Do what is right by discovering your true purpose in life.

Do it the right way by learning from the best.

Do it at the right time by taking small actions and preparing yourself to seize opportunity when it presents itself.

Can success be that simple?

It can be if you start NOW!

10 ways to make the most of your treasure

2008-02-16T06:59:00.000+07:00

I believe that the work force of any organization represent their true wealth for without them the organization is going nowhere.

If you are the owner or Managing Director of any organization you will know what the assets of your company are worth. Your Financial Directors and accountants will no doubt provide you with balance sheets of your net worth, those assets which are depreciating and those investments which are growing in value.

What value do you put on your staff?

For many organizations the monthly staffing bill is the major expense of the organization and yet they appear to undervalue the amazing resource they have at their disposal.

The collective intelligence, skills, expertise, energy and enthusiasm of your staff is so much bigger than the sum of the individual parts. Optimising the potential of your staff can lead to a competitive edge and a more settled contented workforce it is well worth the investment in time and money.

Ten ways to ensure you maximise the staffing treasure you have at your disposal:

1) Have a clear strategic vision which is shared by everyone

It is particularly important in times of change or difficulty. Uncertainty and lack of clarity creates huge amounts of stress for the majority of people. Having a shared strategic vision enables all staff to understand what the organisation wants to achieve. It works like a light house in stormy waters.

2) Create effective systems of communication which work at every level within the organization. This is vital as the “Chinese whispers” and “Rumour” style of leadership are ineffective and divisive. Involve staff in creating a system of communication which works for everyone.

3) Ensure your decision making process has integrity

Where people have faith that decisions have been made for the right reasons they are much more likely to accept them willingly. There are still too many managers who opt for the easiest decision rather than the right one or they base their decision on the last person they spoke to.

4) Create a culture where everyone feels their ideas are welcomed and valued

Encouraging everyone to do their best is good business. Giving credit for the contribution that they make is a great way of achieving a culture of contribution.

5) Have high and explicit expectations of yourself and your staff.

These should be set out from the outset and provide the measure of performance. Where people are doing well ensure that this is noticed and that staff are made aware that their efforts are valued. Where people are found wanting they should be given constructive feedback and training if necessary. The “hard conversations” should take place in a professional and supportive way.

6) Encourage your staff to be solution finders rather than problem givers

This has a number of incredibly positive spin offs. You minimise the role of the “victim”, and encourage everyone to take responsibility for their contribution, it shares the work load and encourages a positive approach to the future.

7) Train everyone in good team behaviour
Leaders and managers should model the behaviour they want to encourage. The role of “ego” should be minimised and people encouraged to listen actively and contribute willingly.

8) Create a reward system which encourages collaboration and co-operation rather than competition

Encouraging staff to see each other as competition rather than as a useful resource may have short term benefits but in the end encouraging everyone to engage the customer or client to provide the best possible service will protect your future market and enable you to grow consistently.

9) Look for ways to grow and retain your staff.

The cost of recruiting Middle and Senior Managers is extremely high. Ongoing professional development leading to promotion will act as an incentive to improve performance and facilitate effective delegation and succession planning. Of course there will be times when you need fresh blood into the organization, then your track record for ongoing training and treating your staff well will become a great encouragement for others to join you.

10) Never take “good will” for granted.

Staff will give their time and energy willingly when they feel that their efforts are appreciated and valued. Take them for granted and they quickly become resentful and start to think “Why should I bother?” A simple thank you for a task well done goes a long way but be aware the simply going through the motions of showing appreciation has the potential to do harm to relationships.

Improving Life Efforts

2008-02-16T06:58:00.000+07:00

The general belief among most people is that human beings are limited in terms of how they can affect the universe. In other words, a human being can do some things to alter their world, but certain barriers are in place that humans simply cannot pass through, no matter how much they should want to do so. This is not to say that humans are utterly powerless to shape their existence, because this is clearly not the case; but most of us presume that we humans are limited in terms of what we're able to affect.

Ways of thinking that contradict the belief that humans are limited are often viewed with a skeptical eye. The Law Of Attraction, for instance, advocates that people can and do make their worlds what they are simply through thoughts. So then people are where they are and are what they are because they've thought a certain way. And this approach isn't figurative: The notion of Law Of Attraction is essentially that humans can bring things of a material nature into their lives by the power of thought. It's probably no surprise that Law Of Attraction and its belief system of thoughts creating one's world has many critics among the general public.

A belief system that also advocates humans as active creators of their own reality is ho'oponopono. Ho'oponopono, unlike Law Of Attraction, does not advocate the idea of people being able to attract whatever they choose by thought alone; ho'oponopono instead states that people can change their lives for the better through submitting a proposal of sorts to a higher power and asking for positive change. Though this description may sound as if ho'oponopono is some form of religious practice, it truly isn't, at least not in the classic sense. Ho'oponopono does believe in a higher form of existence, sometimes referred to as God and sometimes referred to as something else; but there isn't any belief system within ho'oponopono that embraces an idea of sinful behavior and resulting punitive consequences.

The most vital question for most people would be whether ho'oponopono as a form actually results in a better existence. Evidence is certainly available that ho'oponopono gives one an improved outlook and a greater sense of optimism, so in that sense it could be said that ho'oponopono does indeed work. This sort of evidence almost certainly wouldn't appease all those with doubts about ho'oponopono's legitimacy, but ho'oponopono absolutely has a committed core of followers and their numbers get larger as more people become aware of ho'oponopono.

Stress Effect

2008-02-16T06:54:00.000+07:00

What is stress

Stress is a part of daily life. Everyone has stress. Some people appear to have more stress than others. Stress is one way we react to specific events in our life. There are times when you might feel that too much is happening at once and feel overwhelmed. Other times, you feel the pressure of time or a deadline and realize you need to take care of something before it is too late. Having been in a similar situation before will create anxiety. How we perceive a situation will effect how we respond to it. There is good stress and bad stress.

Good stress can be a motivator. Knowing that you have an obligation to address and a timeframe. That type of stressor puts you into action in order to meet a deadline. Or you might be in an unexpected situation where you need to make a split second response in order to avoid danger. This could be slamming your foot on the brake to avoid an accident. Anticipation of a competition or performance will cause tension and nervousness prior to the event. This nervousness is due to an increased flow of adrenaline going through your body. Your body is preparing for the “fight or flight” syndrome. The release of adrenaline prepares your body to take the steps to deal with the situation, including improved focus, strength, stamina and heightened alertness.

People also have bad stress in their lives. Whether we perceive a situation as being stressful or not depends on previous experiences. One person might see being in a multi tasking job as very stressful, feeling overwhelmed and becoming anxious about their work. Another person might find multi tasking enjoyable because they continue to stay busy and time goes by faster. Your body is capable of dealing with stress for short periods of time. When the stress is ongoing i.e. dealing with a divorce or bankruptcy, this can wear a person down. Long term stress contributes to feeling tired, overwhelmed and contributes to lowered immunity.

The body’s reactions to stress

Once you view something as being stressful, whether positive or negative, your body reacts to that perception. The response is a survival technique and a defense mechanism. The reaction is referred to as the “fight or flight” response. Either you are going to fight the attacker or you will choose to flee from the threat. This includes increased heart rate and blood pressure, perspiration, hearing and vision become more acute and hands and feet might become colder since blood is being directed to larger muscles in preparation for a fight or to flee. Your body is being prepped to handle the situation. When the threat is over, your body will return to normal.

If your body has difficulty returning to normal, then you would experience stress overload. This is when you stress out too much or have ongoing stress in your life and never get a chance to relax. Pressure in your life might be too intense or go on for too long without a break. People that have experienced trauma are likely to have stress overload. If trauma is not resolved then you might become hypervigilant, a sense of being overly aware of possible danger. You might always be “on guard.” Stress overload has an emotional and physical effect on the body. This could include panic attacks, depression, sleep problems, physical pain i.e. headaches and allergies as well as abuse of alcohol or other drugs. Having unresolved trauma will effect your perception. Situations that might not have caused tension prior to the trauma can have the ability to create anxiety after the trauma. Becoming aware of how your perception has changed and seeking support to address the trauma issue can be helpful to reduce ongoing stressors and to reduce anxiety. Seeking counseling that focuses on cognitive perceptions will help to decrease hypervigilance and will help to reduce the likelihood of continuing to be retraumatized. In addition, your body has memory of the event as well. Being able to release that reaction to the memory of the event from your body will help to reduce stress overload and triggers.

Stress and control

Stress is contributed to the desire to be in control. This not only includes control over yourself, but control over other people and your environment. Trying to control others and your environment, however, is impossible. You only have control over your own thoughts and actions. In order to relieve stress and anxiety it is important to let go of trying to control things outside of yourself. We are unable to foresee the future and cannot control what events will happen next. Focusing on future potential problems contributes to anxiety. On the other hand, people are able to prepare for things that might occur and have a plan of how you would like to respond to events. This could be as simple as having a repair kit in your car for getting a flat tire or preparation for an interview and the questions that might be asked during the interview process.

Part of living life is that things always change. Change is normal. How you perceive something will impact how you react to it. This is where the fight or flight reaction occurs. You can decide to be proactive and address the situation. Making a choice to take care of things when they occur. Or you can expend a lot of energy avoiding issues and letting them build. Taking action will actually help to reduce stress and anxiety in the long run. In addition, there will be a feeling of empowerment as you begin to deal with problems as they arise. Trust your intuition and creatively think of all ways you could resolve the issue at hand. Even if you try to tackle a problem and don’t succeed, you could then view this as a temporary setback. Review what happened and try to approach it differently. Setbacks can be temporary. Find who your friends are and develop a support system. Another option is to seek counseling in order to have someone that is impartial as part of your support system. You don’t have to always take care of problems by yourself. Ask your friends, counselor or other support persons what they think about a situation. They might have ideas that you would not think of on your own. Learning to address problems as they occur will help you to change your perception of things from problems to challenges. Doing so will continue to help you build your sense of self esteem and empowerment. Identifying challenges as they occur, developing a plan to deal with the challenge, asking others for their point of view, taking action and keeping focus on the goal you are working toward will help to strengthen your resiliency.

Steps to reduce stress

Each one of us is a unique individual and we all have different experiences throughout our lives that affect our perception. What might be a stressful event for one person, might not be viewed as stressful for someone else. In addition, some activities are more stressful than others. Self care including eating well and getting enough sleep are important for stress reduction. Making time for doing activities that are relaxing is preventative to reducing stress overload. Relaxation is important, but there is no one right way to relax. Some people find that sleeping or going to the beach is relaxing. Others choose to be involved in an enjoyable activity or hobby as a way of relaxing. The goal is to find an activity that allows you to escape from everyday worries and problems. There is no right way to do that. Relieving stress can be done by meditation, exercise or doing an activity. Making the time to care for yourself is a priority that helps to reduce stress overload.

As you focus on making positive change in your life that will help to reduce stress and anxiety, be forgiving of yourself if you don’t resolve your problems immediately. Being critical of yourself is very easy to do, especially when people close to you have been critical of you for a long period of time. That critical voice can be very loud when you don’t get it right the first time. A suggestion is a positive response to the changes you are trying to make and to be forgiving of yourself when things don’t go perfectly as planned. These are some suggestions that might work or to come up with your own.

 “As things develop, I will, through listening to guidance from my unconscious, adapt to changing circumstances and grow with them.”

 “I may not get what I want when I want it; I trust that things will work out in their own good time, for my ultimate benefit, as long as I remain calm and peaceful.”

 “I may not get what I want at all, and yet, in remaining calm and attentive, I may discover something else that I need even more than what I thought I wanted.”

How you perceive a situation will affect how you respond. Whether you choose to address the issue or to avoid it. If you have a negative perception then you are more likely to experience anxiety and not be able to effectively take care of the problem. This will then reinforce that you have no control over the outcome and reinforce the perception of being helpless. On the other hand, a positive perception will help you to find a way to deal with the challenge you are presented with. If you choose to take responsibility for your feelings and actions then you are more likely to have a positive outcome. This will reinforce the sense of resiliency and empowerment. Breaking old patterns of behavior is difficult, especially when trying to do it by yourself. Being willing to look at yourself and to identify changes you would like to make takes a lot of energy and time. The more effort you put into making a positive lifestyle change, the greater the feeling of accomplishment you will experience. Develop a support system, whether family, friends or a counselor. Having someone that helps you to make positive change will increase the likelihood that the change will be long term instead of temporary.