–by Richard Henry Thomas (Glitterricky)

If there is one person who I can absolutely trust to tell me the truth of how they felt about a dance experience, it’s Jim Hauck. The man behind The Juice Box (www.juicyfruitjim.com), Jim started off writing feedback on the dance scene for a Yahoo Group called Dancing BearsDescribes a subculture and community of gay men of a specific physical type, generally more hairy and more heavyset, often projecting a working-class or hyper-masculine image through their grooming and personal style. Debate abounds as to what constitutes a true bear, and many offshoots have emerged, including wolves (lean but masculine), cubs (young bears), and otters (hairy but lean). The term bear can also be used in conjunction with many qualifiers that further subdivide the subcommunity, including LeatherLeather culture is found in all lifestyles, but among gay men it refers to practices and styles of dress organized around hedonism and eroticism ("kink"). One way this culture consciously distinguishes itself from mainstream sexual cultures is through a specifically homoerotic aesthetic that draws from post-World War II biker culture as well as military and police uniform. Leathermen art, such as Tom of Finland, represents the hypermasculine ideal. Literature like The Leatherman’s Handbook speaks to the culture and the code. The International Mister Leather organization speaks to the community. Bear, Muscle Bear, DaddyAn older gay man. He may or may not prefer the company of younger men, but if he does and if he is moneyed, he is likely to be the dominant or top in the relationship. Also, “Leather Daddy.” Bear, Panda Bear (Asian) and Polar Bear (white hair). Also see “GoldilocksA fag hag who enjoys the company of bears.,” and “Woof.”. What began as producing a list of events that were flagger friendly evolved into Jim’s own blog covering other events as well; thus, The Juice Box was born.

As Jim prepared to get ready for the 2012 Allure CruiseA term used in verb form to refer to checking out another gay man, perhaps in a sexually predatory way, but primarily characterized by nonverbal signals for sex. Also can be used in noun form to refer to the person being cruised, i.e. “Don’t eyeball my cruise.” Not to be confused with a floating bathhouse of a boat chartered by Atlantis Events (see “gay cruise”)., he tells me how gay nightlife has changed in San Francisco. “It is still reminiscent of a small town. We have gone up and down on the number of events we have, and I have experienced times of famine here in the SF nightlife. We are currently experiencing a true abundance of night events, almost too many, where people start to stay home knowing they will have something to do next week instead. San Francisco does not seem to be able to hold on to large weekly parties anymore similar to those of the Universe and Pleasuredome days. We barely can sustain a monthly event with large numbers. Small events thrive at small venues, but they also come and go.”

The economy was one of the biggest factors of change. “When business was big and SF was bulging at the seams with people, the scene was amazing and packed, but after the bust, it never seemed to come back as strong,” Jim explained. “During that time a generation of guys changed and got older and the younger crowd seems to have a different take on dancing and partying. I think they are more comfortable integrating in SF into any event. It is not unusual to go to a ‘straight’ party at Ruby Skye and see a whole group of gay folks dancing, too.”

In the international scene, it’s mostly positive. Jim tells me that while “Sydney has seen a decline over time from the heyday of large weekly dance parties, there has been a surge of events in Spain. London has held onto a strong gay crowd and maintains a weekly dance event focused on bearsDescribes a subculture and community of gay men of a specific physical type, generally more hairy and more heavyset, often projecting a working-class or hyper-masculine image through their grooming and personal style. Debate abounds as to what constitutes a true bear, and many offshoots have emerged, including wolves (lean but masculine), cubs (young bears), and otters (hairy but lean). The term bear can also be used in conjunction with many qualifiers that further subdivide the subcommunity, including LeatherLeather culture is found in all lifestyles, but among gay men it refers to practices and styles of dress organized around hedonism and eroticism ("kink"). One way this culture consciously distinguishes itself from mainstream sexual cultures is through a specifically homoerotic aesthetic that draws from post-World War II biker culture as well as military and police uniform. Leathermen art, such as Tom of Finland, represents the hypermasculine ideal. Literature like The Leatherman’s Handbook speaks to the culture and the code. The International Mister Leather organization speaks to the community. Bear, Muscle Bear, DaddyAn older gay man. He may or may not prefer the company of younger men, but if he does and if he is moneyed, he is likely to be the dominant or top in the relationship. Also, “Leather Daddy.” Bear, Panda Bear (Asian) and Polar Bear (white hair). Also see “GoldilocksA fag hag who enjoys the company of bears.,” and “Woof.” called XXL, which, by the way, is men only, something you could never do in SF.” Other things you also can’t do in SF nightclubs? Drink all night long. Jim does not hesitate to share his love for the UK. “In some countries you can drink at a nightclub all night long. London is certainly the scene I really like and the place I choose to let my hair down. The London men are nice, fun, sexy, and I guess a bit more raw and masculine, which really works for me. London men are not obsessed with body image, but have a natural sexy vibe.”
But with so many wonderful parties on land and in the sea you’d wonder what the perfect party would be. The Juice Box features a five water bottle rating system. The term was shared by a dear friend of Jim and soon it would become a circuit partyA dance event with historical origins in the gay community’s response to the AIDS crisis. Originally conceived as fundraisers and a means to celebrate life amidst loss, today’s circuit is global and extensive, with highly produced parties that sometimes have a community outreach component and sometimes are commercialized ventures. Circuit events are an expression of freedom as well as a statement of the power and strength of the gay community, but they are not without controversy, as they are often identified with a high degree of superficiality, promiscuity, and drug use. Some of the larger circuit parties are the White Party in Palm Springs, the Black and Blue Party in Montreal, and the Winter Party in Miami, each of which attracts attendees in the thousands to tens of thousands. See “Gay CruiseA term used in verb form to refer to checking out another gay man, perhaps in a sexually predatory way, but primarily characterized by nonverbal signals for sex. Also can be used in noun form to refer to the person being cruised, i.e. “Don’t eyeball my cruise.” Not to be confused with a floating bathhouse of a boat chartered by Atlantis Events (see “gay cruise”)..” buzzword. Jim enlightens me.What about a ship full of sexy men? “The cruiseA term used in verb form to refer to checking out another gay man, perhaps in a sexually predatory way, but primarily characterized by nonverbal signals for sex. Also can be used in noun form to refer to the person being cruised, i.e. “Don’t eyeball my cruise.” Not to be confused with a floating bathhouse of a boat chartered by Atlantis Events (see “gay cruise”). circuit from Atlantis has changed how people party. Rather than traveling city to city to attend White Party, Black Party, Red Party, Purple Party, you can board a cruiseA term used in verb form to refer to checking out another gay man, perhaps in a sexually predatory way, but primarily characterized by nonverbal signals for sex. Also can be used in noun form to refer to the person being cruised, i.e. “Don’t eyeball my cruise.” Not to be confused with a floating bathhouse of a boat chartered by Atlantis Events (see “gay cruise”). and get an entire week’s worth of dancing and parties and be done for the year or do it several times a year.” And while Jim is still young at heart he continues to travel and search out the latest and greatest dance events.

“A perfect party is a blend of the elements of the rating system. I like to look at everything a party offers from the ground up. First, it’s how you get in, how hard is it, how friendly and welcoming is the door staff or how aggressive is search and pat down. This impacts the view of the space. Once you get in what is the location like, how is it laid out. I like spaces that have something to explore and places to check out and see. Next, I look at the production values on décor and lighting. Are extras in place? Was décor added? Was a theme applied or implied? Those extras take time and effort and add to the experience of the event. After that I look at the community at the event. Are people friendly, having fun, enjoying themselves, dancing and smiling, or is everyone standing around, sitting at the walls staring at the DJ. Finally, the overall experience of the event if wrapped together – what is it like? How much fun did you have? Did you watch the clock or not? The perfect party is one that embodies the above experiences to a point where when it is over you are amazed and the experience leaves you happy and fulfilled.”

Jim has been blessed to experience a few of these five water bottle experiences. One of them was the ToyBox party in Sydney. “It was over the topCan be used as a noun or a verb to describe someone who is dominant in a partnership, in a sexual relationship, or in life in general (See “Bottom”). in all levels with fun creative outlets, music and décor plus amazing lasers and lights and rigging.”

The Juice Box Presents wishes to deliver a five water bottle experience in San Francisco. During the 2011 San Francisco Gay Pride Jim joined forces with his business partner and best friend Steve Mueller to create the REACH Pride T-Dance. The vision was to create something happy and uplifting with lots of fun dancing. They are again at it this year with additional parties as well such as Anthem. God knows vocals reign supreme in gay San Francisco, but looking into the future is always in plan. “We are constantly looking for new ideas to try on the SF dance scene and to give them something different with different talent. We enjoy partnering with the other promoters in town to work out how we fit in and compliment the scene and I think that is working well. I love the events that Luke, Gus, Tyrone and Matt do. Each of us is creating special opportunities for the community to gather and celebrate and work it out on the dance floor. Each of us hires different talent and brings a different feel to the dance scene. I love that about the nightlife here in SF.”

With his cruiseA term used in verb form to refer to checking out another gay man, perhaps in a sexually predatory way, but primarily characterized by nonverbal signals for sex. Also can be used in noun form to refer to the person being cruised, i.e. “Don’t eyeball my cruise.” Not to be confused with a floating bathhouse of a boat chartered by Atlantis Events (see “gay cruise”). packing almost done, Jim tells me what he’s got in store for the future. He recently has started to work the lights at 525 Howard (Club NV). This would also be his first time working for the lighting crew on the Atlantis Allure of the Seas CruiseA term used in verb form to refer to checking out another gay man, perhaps in a sexually predatory way, but primarily characterized by nonverbal signals for sex. Also can be used in noun form to refer to the person being cruised, i.e. “Don’t eyeball my cruise.” Not to be confused with a floating bathhouse of a boat chartered by Atlantis Events (see “gay cruise”).. If you know Jim, you know he loves lighting since his first trip to Burning Man. A dance experience is never complete with just music – “Getting the chance to program lighting and operate them during the pa

rty really helps me add those production and emotional values to a party.” Jim is eternally grateful to have been taught by two of the best in the industry – Guy Smith of New York and William Brown of San Francisco. He is also writing more for Edge Media. Needless to say, Jim is enjoying his life and is living out his passions. That by far is the tastiest bottle of water one could ever have.

The Juice Box Presents has two parties left this year (www.juiceboxpresents.com) called Anthem (April 22) and REACH (Pride Sunday) and those should be great high energy vocal dance parties at 715 Harrison, which has great lights and sound. We really look forward to those. We are going to grow The Juice Box Presents more as we go too.

San Franciscans may be hedonistic, but it’s hedonism with heart, which is most clear to us when we host visitors, especially our families from “back home.” When we witness their exposure to an authentically San Francisco experience, we realize that conversion to the spirit of San Francisco doesn’t require much convincing. It’s impossible not to see the splendor and feel the love that fuels our decadent lifestyle.

It did take a little convincing to get my 81-year old Turkish Jewish mother to join San Francisco’s irreverent Easter celebration recently, mostly because this year it happened to coincide with Passover. I promised her all due respect to her Jewish springtime tradition, and arranged Seders in her honor, even though my childhood memories of the ceremonial dinner weren’t particularly inspiring.

I turned to my beloved San Framily for help, and fortunately many of them, like me, were Jewish before they were gay. I realized that, in our own way, we’re extremely familyCode used to describe one’s own gay kind, i.e. “Do you think he’s family?” or “Don’t worry, he’s family.” oriented in San Francisco. Together with my mother, my extended chosen familyCode used to describe one’s own gay kind, i.e. “Do you think he’s family?” or “Don’t worry, he’s family.” reinvented a ritual born thousands of years earlier, and revived it with the joy of our San Francisco values.

Eloquently closing the Seder, my wise friend Jeremy Hough shared a quote that bridged the cultural and generational gap as gorgeously as the Golden Gate shines to serve as a beacon of freedom:

“The most beautiful people we have ever known are those who have known defeat, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”

United as one merged familyCode used to describe one’s own gay kind, i.e. “Do you think he’s family?” or “Don’t worry, he’s family.”, our birth familyCode used to describe one’s own gay kind, i.e. “Do you think he’s family?” or “Don’t worry, he’s family.” and our chosen familyCode used to describe one’s own gay kind, i.e. “Do you think he’s family?” or “Don’t worry, he’s family.” transformed the Haggadah – the story of the Jews being liberated from bondage in Egypt – into a timely and poignant parable, one that resonates deeply with the gay struggle for equality. And we did it in a way that represented the very best of San Francisco’s beautiful history of peace and love.

Our chosen familyCode used to describe one’s own gay kind, i.e. “Do you think he’s family?” or “Don’t worry, he’s family.” and our cherished community has had more than its share of struggle, yet we celebrate freedom so fully and so sincerely that some on the outside can’t help but declare us crazy. But when an outsider gets an opportunity to share the “only in San Francisco” experience with us, they see our heart and soul from the inside out. From that vantage point, all they can see are truly beautiful people.

Rosabel’s upcoming appearance at Factory will bring the flavor of Alegria to one of their favorite cities in which to spin, giving San Francisco much cause for Ceremony, as is the party’s namesake.

What’s it like working together when you’re such bad-asses by yourselves?

Ralphi: I’m more of a producer than a DJ, and I’ve been doing more producing than anything else since 1985. It’s my medicine. I started remixing in the early 90s, and I’ve been writing more music over the years. I’m recording all the time.

Abel: I did remixing back in the day, and would spend 12 hours locked up in a studio, but that was too much for me. I did 2 or 3 records and called it quits. I got a big name as a DJ and just kept on doing that.

Ralphi: Abel is definitely a multi-tasker. I call him “Eddie Pie Hands” because he always complains about how stressed out he is, but then he has to be busy all the time.

So it’s a yin-and-yang thing, and you play off one another’s strengths?

Abel: We’re twin brothers cut apart, from other worlds. We have the same experience because we started out at the same time. When we’re in the studio, it works so perfectly because we think exactly the same. We know what’s gonna click.

Ralphi: What I share with Abel is that, for both of us, it’s all about being in the moment. Whatever I have, I bring it to the table, and I just go with the flow.

Abel: I have no set list at all when I spin. I just go with the feeling in the room. There’s nothing planned, nothing written. It’s all live.

What is it about Abel that he can go with the flow for so many hours? Before my first Alegria, I never would have guessed I’d still be dancing past noon the next day, but now I know that if Abel’s at the decks, it’s a marathon not a sprint.

Abel: Till noon? Honey, that’s a short night! We used to stop spinning at 4 in the afternoon. And that’s pure adrenaline. I don’t do any drugs or alcohol, it’s pure love for my fans. If you don’t feel that, you won’t be able to do it. There’s no other way.

When Ralphi and I first started out, there wasn’t such a thing as 15 DJs in a single night. There was something called “the journey,” and it’s like Tina Turner says: “We’re gonna start off nice and slow, and then we’ll let them have it.” It’s a ride.

How did you enjoy the ride of working the red carpet at the Grammy’s this year?

Ralphi: It was surreal, the longest ride I’ve ever been on. I’m a very low-key person, so I wasn’t very comfortable. I like to be behind the console, or podcasting or whatever, not have my name in lights.

Abel: We were both terrified to death, just staring and sweating bullets. It was an experience. I’m not gonna deny that it was a nice thing, something that reminds you that you’ve worked hard, but the real prize is what you’re doing already. A statue isn’t gonna tell me I did a good job. For me, a packed house and the vibe on the dancefloor when people are having a really good time is enough. When I get great comments on my Facebook page from my fans, that’s my Grammy.

But it’s cool that dance music is getting nominated, and that remixers are being recognized.

Ralphi: That’s been an uphill kind of thing, but it is definitely happening. More artists are writing original material as dance music, and it’s being embraced more and appreciated more, but it’s not like Europe, where dance music is all you hear on the radio and it’s a way of life. In America it’s all hip hop, so thank goodness for satellite radio.

Abel: With the Rihanna song, we were excited about it and just had a good feeling about it. The song itself was a dance track, so it was easy to flow with, which helps a lot. When a song is a ballad to begin with, you basically have to re-create the song, but this song really came together, and Rihanna loved it right off the bat.

Can you explain why your music is so damn sexy? Is it a Latin thing?

Abel: The Latin blood is definitely a part of it, but a lot of people don’t understand the roots of our music. Anyone from the old school in SF or New York will tell you the same thing, that disco was created in the two big gay places, by people who knew about rhythm. You had to have soul. That’s our history.

Ralphi: Times have definitely changed, and people are different. There are so many people doing things that come and go, but I like music to be timeless. There’s a history behind it, with classics like Sylvester. He’s someone who has left a mark with producers and DJs like us. It’s because of him that I’m doing what I’m doing, and I’ll never forget it. San Francisco has always had a huge impact on dance music.

Come to Ceremony at Factory on April 28 to hear Rosabel make their mark on San Francisco, as a pair of world-class DJs who don’t duel, but instead spin together as a dream team, merging their masterful talents into a huge sound based on huge history.

When the White Party Palm Springs first came into my consciousness, it went head-to-head with one of my favorite San Francisco holy days, Irreverent Easter in Dolores Park, a fabulous Party With Purpose put on by do-gooders the Sisters of Perpetual IndulgenceAn order of queerGay. Can be used interchangeably as a term of pride or as a derogatory term, depending on context. A term intentionally and politically reclaimed by some, in protest of the term’s historical use as a slur. nuns to community service, ministry and outreach to those on the edges, as well as to promoting human rights, respect for diversity and spiritual enlightenment. The sisters believe that all people have a right to express their unique joy and beauty, and they use humor and irreverent wit to expose the forces of bigotry, complacency and guilt that chain the human spirit. They vow to promulgate universal joy and expiate stigmatic guilt while serving their respective communities. Although the San Francisco House, founded in 1979, is often referred to as the "Mother House," the Sisters have no central seat of power and no single ruling body. Houses now exist around the world, and each is an autonomous, unique group with its own Habits, culture and rules.. How could I possibly leave behind a perfect gay soiree in my own backyard (Dolores Park, lovingly referred to as BoyA younger gay man (see “Twink”). Also used to refer to the submissive in a relationship, i.e. “DaddyAn older gay man. He may or may not prefer the company of younger men, but if he does and if he is moneyed, he is likely to be the dominant or top in the relationship. Also, “Leather Daddy.” and Boy.” Beach), to brave an unknown desert in the foreign land of Southern California?

For an extremely fun five-year run, I no longer had to make the difficult choice. Both Easter and White Party became an annual San Framily ritual. Over time, I refined my approach to each, and fell deeply in love with both.

But this year, the conflict of the calendar returned. The highlight of the Palm Springs lineup, the epic Sunday T dance, will peak just as Hunky Jesus is crowned. I feel like Tyra: “I have two beautiful parties before me, but only one can be San Francisco’s next topCan be used as a noun or a verb to describe someone who is dominant in a partnership, in a sexual relationship, or in life in general (See “Bottom”). Easter weekend celebration.”

Just like on America’s Next TopCan be used as a noun or a verb to describe someone who is dominant in a partnership, in a sexual relationship, or in life in general (See “Bottom”). Model, everyone in the running goes home a winner, and fortunately, judgment was made for me this year, when I decided to spend my circuit dollars on a return to New York City, thus eliminating the possibility of attending the White Party.

Planning out my sleepless hours for the long weekend in the Big Apple, I fully intended to skip The Black Party, having checked it off my bucket list years earlier. Then, an epic adventure unfolded unexpectedly, when a ticket landed in my hand and my plans were gloriously hijacked in a way that perfectly fit the Saint at Large’s sexy and subversive Yakuza theme. The samurais had their way with me and I left feeling like a disco ninja.

My strategy was to save all my circuit energy solely for Alegria Xtreme, a divine clubland release on the very next night after the legendary leatherLeather culture is found in all lifestyles, but among gay men it refers to practices and styles of dress organized around hedonism and eroticism ("kink"). One way this culture consciously distinguishes itself from mainstream sexual cultures is through a specifically homoerotic aesthetic that draws from post-World War II biker culture as well as military and police uniform. Leathermen art, such as Tom of Finland, represents the hypermasculine ideal. Literature like The Leatherman’s Handbook speaks to the culture and the code. The International Mister Leather organization speaks to the community. ball. My intention was pure, to celebrate the birthday of my personal Jesus, DJ Abel Aguilera.

Alegria Xtreme is the triumphant culmination of a globally dominant dancefloor brand built by a beautiful big-hearted Brazilian named Ric Sena, with whom I had the pleasure of closing the party (after 12 hours, at 10:30am!). In perfect accordance with plan, Abel had brought us to tears of joy (“Alegria” is Latin for “joy”).

Upon my return, I’ll worship the saints of San Francisco at Easter by showing just how we “bring it” right here at homo, with spirit, sisterhood and salvation in our beautiful bubble, at parties that are never black or white. Here in Oz, we repeatedly resurrect our souls in vivid and vibrant rainbow.

Imagine if the only drag queens you ever saw were on TV, on RuPaul’s Drag Race. Here in our gay mecca, the drag queens that have become household names arrive weekly to genuflect in The GlamaZONE with Pollo Del Mar. We know they’ll all make their way here eventually, and we’ll welcome them with a casual “Hey girl!”

Imagine if you had to pay to see porn stars online, or lurk in the back roomAlso, "Dark RoomAlso, "Back Room." Any area in a gay bar, party, or club that is designated or overtaken for cruising and sex. Often a feature of sex clubs and bathhouses, they can be simple or grand, sometimes with mazes, glory holes, private nooks and fantasy scenery.." Any area in a gay bar, party, or club that is designated or overtaken for cruising and sex. Often a feature of sex clubs and bathhouses, they can be simple or grand, sometimes with mazes, glory holes, private nooks and fantasy scenery. of an obscure video store far from home, rather than seeing all these insanely hot boys at the gym every day, or on the dancefloor every weekend? (Oh hey, Race Cooper! Oh hey, Tristan Jaxx!)

Imagine if you had to order your gear by mail, and it arrived in an anonymous brown paper bag, instead of just dropping in at Mr. S LeatherLeather culture is found in all lifestyles, but among gay men it refers to practices and styles of dress organized around hedonism and eroticism ("kink"). One way this culture consciously distinguishes itself from mainstream sexual cultures is through a specifically homoerotic aesthetic that draws from post-World War II biker culture as well as military and police uniform. Leathermen art, such as Tom of Finland, represents the hypermasculine ideal. Literature like The Leatherman’s Handbook speaks to the culture and the code. The International Mister Leather organization speaks to the community. to see if anything new tickled your fancy (What up, Atom?). Or imagine if you had to buy lube and poppers in a store full of women’s lingerie, rather than seeing a wide selection on display in the shop windows lining your main street?

Here in our homotown, our main street greets us daily with an oversized rainbow or leatherLeather culture is found in all lifestyles, but among gay men it refers to practices and styles of dress organized around hedonism and eroticism ("kink"). One way this culture consciously distinguishes itself from mainstream sexual cultures is through a specifically homoerotic aesthetic that draws from post-World War II biker culture as well as military and police uniform. Leathermen art, such as Tom of Finland, represents the hypermasculine ideal. Literature like The Leatherman’s Handbook speaks to the culture and the code. The International Mister Leather organization speaks to the community. or bear flag flying proudly, a reassurance that our lifestyle is not only supported by the city, but truly celebrated.

I recently got to revisit the idea of gay as a touristRefers to anyone just passing through, rather than engaging with, gay culture. A gawker, not a participant. attraction or curiosity, in a pair of events that opened my eyes and made me appreciate our gayborhood all over again. If you’ve never been to Sunday’s a Drag hosted by the one-of-a-kind Donna Sachet at Harry Denton’s Starlight Room, you should make a point of it. Bless the touristRefers to anyone just passing through, rather than engaging with, gay culture. A gawker, not a participant.’s hearts that come to San Francisco to be shocked and enthralled by what we get to take for granted.

Or try a change of pace by attending an event in Fisherman’s Wharf, like the Gay Night at the Wax Museum I recently attended with some of my favorite drag divas, like Sister Roma and Bebe Sweetbriar. You’ll feel like a pioneer on the Barbary Coast, exploring strange lands and delving into foreign cultures, while forging freedom and setting a course for a new and better way of life.

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Find out more about the Sisters of Perpetual IndulgenceAn order of queerGay. Can be used interchangeably as a term of pride or as a derogatory term, depending on context. A term intentionally and politically reclaimed by some, in protest of the term’s historical use as a slur. nuns to community service, ministry and outreach to those on the edges, as well as to promoting human rights, respect for diversity and spiritual enlightenment. The sisters believe that all people have a right to express their unique joy and beauty, and they use humor and irreverent wit to expose the forces of bigotry, complacency and guilt that chain the human spirit. They vow to promulgate universal joy and expiate stigmatic guilt while serving their respective communities. Although the San Francisco House, founded in 1979, is often referred to as the "Mother House," the Sisters have no central seat of power and no single ruling body. Houses now exist around the world, and each is an autonomous, unique group with its own Habits, culture and rules. at their website: thesisters.org

When intention only gets me so far, I try instead to think about prevention. Even an ounce of it, they say, gets most of the job done, particularly when it comes to personal responsibility and my personal favorite virtue, harm-reduction.

I love harm-reduction in concept because it’s essentially a set of golden (glittery?) rules. The simple best practices (“know thyself” and “handle your business” are great ones) are easy to remember, which is essential for those of us who go to a lot of parties, all the time.

That our epic celebrations feel like they blur together is a very nice problem to have, but it can still be problematic. Even while the good times roll, I try not to lose sight of the fact that being self-sufficient is its own rush.

As party professionals, we’ve all seen what can happen when the best laid plans don’t go as planned. We’ve all overdone it, but if we can at least try not to, it’s comforting to know there’s a legitimate school of thought that goes with our perspective, along with some nonjudgmental folks who also happen to be lifesaving professionals, and who enjoy our scene every bit as much as we do.

I get warm and fuzzy every time I see the presence of MedEvent (“Informed decisions are the difference between a good time and a not so good time,”), and it was love at first sight when I first laid eyes on Mr. Friendly (“The new face of HIV awareness”). Catchy phrases like “Eyes open and upright” or “You’re only as negative as your last test” are earworms that never get tired.

I know I’m more inspired to lend a hand to someone who needs it when they don’t usually, and even more so to someone has let me lean on them when I needed it and shouldn’t have. Living life at sleep-when-we’re-dead pace is a risky business, but we wouldn’t have it any other way.

Let’s all do unto others as we’d have done unto us, and join hands in evangelizing the gospel of harm-reduction.

His name just rolls off your tongue. Danny Dan.

Two things immediately come up to my mind when I think of Danny Dan: the successful and sexy Asian Men Redefined calendar and the even sexier Shangri-La party at The EndUp which he works side by side with his best friend Michael “Papasan” Daniels.

Asian Men Redefined (http://asianmenredefined.com) calendar is a fundraising project Danny Dan started in 2006. The calendar profit benefits the Asian & Pacific Island Wellness Center (http://apiwellness.org), one of the oldest non-profit organizations in North America. It is based in San Francisco Bay Area that focuses on A&PI health and wellness being as well as HIV-prevention, testing, and mental health, but not exclusively just for A&PI.

Danny Dan’s interest in photography started in his second year of college. “My boyfriend at the time did some modeling and a photographer asked me to model for him. He thought I looked ‘exotic.’ After the first shoot, I received the black and white prints that blew me away, not because I was in them, but because I loved how he used the lighting. That semester, I took my first black and white photography beginner class. The final project of the class was to do whatever we wanted to do. I chose to do a black and white project on Asian men who were mostly my close friends. I took several photo classes afterwards, then finished college with a Molecular Bio degree.”

After graduation Danny Dan moved to San Francisco to join a publication company. This would soon mark the beginning of his relationship with the Gay Asian Pacific Alliance (http://GAPA.org). At that time, GAPA came up with a calendar project and Danny volunteered as a photographer. This would lead to new opportunities as he began to work for a friend who owned an event company. Danny would be able to live out his dreams as a professional photographer doing event, editorial, wedding, portrait, physique and commercial photography. Because GAPA had done so much for Danny, he decided to do Asian Men Redefined calendar fundraising. “GAPA helped me put out my Asian Men related photography work to the public in my early years. For me, this project means something from the community, by the community, and for the good for the community. The 2012 calendar is the sixth consecutive year we are doing it and we never used the same models for the past six years. We have had sixty two Asian men from all over the United States from various Asian ethnic backgrounds and ages. I wanted to show that Asian men don’t come in one size or one look.”

As for the party scene, Danny Dan works really hard with Papasan to make sure the Shangri-La party at The EndUp (www.theendup.com) is the ultimate destination for API LGBT and beyond. There is apparently more in store this year as well. Danny tells me, “This year Asian Men Redefined will be coming with an extra wonderful project. So stay tuned!”

NYC DJ superstar Sean McMahon returns to spin for Shangri-La at The EndUp on February 25, 2012! 

For someone who has never really been to church, I recognize a lot of life’s best times as “come to Jesus.” And from what little I know about him, Jesus sounds like the kind of free spirit who would feel right at homo in San Francisco.

In those precious moments when the DJ plays the perfect song, and all your friends are with you on the dancefloor, and your mood and swirl are humming in harmony, there’s no better feeling in the world. It occurred to me recently — while I was pouring sweat in a hot yoga practice the way I only do when I’ve been dancing for hours with abandon, and in a class I took on the random that just happened to be a 90-minute Madonna tribute — that this is what religious ecstasyMethylenedioxymethamphetamine or MDMA. A party drug known for its empathic, euphoric, and stimulant effects. The trip is often known as the “roll” or “rolling.” Ecstasy is often the drug of choice on the dancefloor (See “Circuit”). must feel like.

So many cultures center around a tribal ritual that involves music, dance, heat, mind-alteration, exhaustion and release, and for me the circuit is no different. It’s my shamanic sweat lodge and my healthiest addiction, a hunger that seeks to achieve balance between mind, body and spirit.

Even when I struggle with the mysteries of the universe, and question whether there’s a higher power, I can still connect with the concept of revelation. Being “in the zone” in a way that inspires epiphany always seems to happen when I’m out of my head and in my body, breathing heavily in a full and flawless flow.

On those rare occasions when life seems to be in idyllic equilibrium, I can relate completely with what it must be like to be a holy roller or a whirling dervish, entranced by the beauty of life and grateful for its gifts. It’s an amazing perspective when everything is finally in synch, and when you can actually reflect for long enough to realize it.

It’s magical and mystical when you get the opportunity to appreciate — whether on the dancefloor or in life — the influence of a spell under which it feels like the universe is actually showing you the way, and like every song is being spun just for you, affirming your story. It makes me wish the beats would go on forever, and energizes me in a way that faithfully keeps me coming back for more.

Can I get an amen up in here?

Born and raised in San Francisco and Marin, Janine is a true local girl. She tells me how the Fresh T-Dance began: “(Fresh cofounder) Mike Lane and I were on the Working Board of Hellball, an annual Halloween fundraiser for various AIDS organizations. At the time, I was Managing Partner of a venue called Backflip, and also worked with Audrey Joseph at Club Universe. Mike and I became good friends over conversations on the dance floor at Townsend, and the idea was born to do a Sunday T-Dance at Ruby Skye. George Karpaty, the owner at Ruby Skye, had been asking me to do something there for a long time, so the three of us got together in the VIP room at Ruby, and what started as an idea became a once-a-month living room where we could have a dance party for our friends.”

One of the most wonderful things about FRESH is that each month it donates a portion of its proceeds to a different local charity/non-profit organization, such as the Human Rights Campaign, STOP AIDS Project, Project Angel Food and the AIDS Lifecycle. As it comes to a close, FRESH has donated more than $138,600. Janine tells me that giving back has always been a part of the party’s DNA. “It is always a great feeling to know that each party creates smiles for people coming in: memories, love, drama, laughs, community and intimacy – with a bit of naughty cruising!” she says. “And while they are dancing, they are giving to someone, somewhere. How fun is that?”

Janine gives props to what she calls the “ultimate” San Francisco Party With Purpose, Real Bad, which has donated nearly $1.5 million to community nonprofits in 23 years. “It’s why we have never done a Folsom Sunday party. We always wanted everyone to go there and be a part of that huge event and huge donation.”

As with all high-production events, there are challenges to running FRESH. Janine confesses, “In a strange twist of fate, Mike and I may be introverts in a very extroverted business. It can get a bit overwhelming at times, a bit of sensory overload.” But what keeps Janine going are the people involved. “Everybody brings their talents and passions to collectively make the party what it is. And the back of the house is always fun-fun. Feeling blue? Hang out in the lighting/video booth with Allan, or with Mane and Max or in the dancer green room. It’s always a good time! When we call it the “Fresh FamilyCode used to describe one’s own gay kind, i.e. “Do you think he’s family?” or “Don’t worry, he’s family.”,” and it is really true. The familyCode used to describe one’s own gay kind, i.e. “Do you think he’s family?” or “Don’t worry, he’s family.” feeling that Louie Marco and Patrik Gallineaux bring to the birthday suite, the photographers that capture the moments, and the fabulous boys that bring it on every time they come out, they get me going.”

Janine says the inspiration behind Fresh was that “It just felt “wrong and stupid that in one of the gay Meccas of the world, the boys didn’t have a stake in the ground in the downtown area of San Francisco. Ruby Skye is gorgeous, and the boys deserve nothing but the best.”

One of her favorite FRESH moments, she says, was during Pride. “Our lighting guru Allan was there with a smile on his face when he put out the huge Pride flag on the outside of the theater marquee. Ruby Skye has been a great partner in this, and is dedicated to keeping the venue in the familyCode used to describe one’s own gay kind, i.e. “Do you think he’s family?” or “Don’t worry, he’s family.”.”

So what’s next for the First Lady of Fresh? “I will keep doing some events, and maybe a specialty concert here and there. I love the stage at Ruby Skye and would love to bring in a great singer. Any requests, I am all ears!”

Sound out to Janine – Janine@FreshSF.com

See you guys at the Final FRESH!

Perhaps there are better things to enjoy in life than an Atlantis cruiseA term used in verb form to refer to checking out another gay man, perhaps in a sexually predatory way, but primarily characterized by nonverbal signals for sex. Also can be used in noun form to refer to the person being cruised, i.e. “Don’t eyeball my cruise.” Not to be confused with a floating bathhouse of a boat chartered by Atlantis Events (see “gay cruise”)., but I’m hard-pressed to think of any. Sure, I’m a special case who believes there’s no such thing as “too gay,” but a week frolicking aboard a floating fantasy island with thousands of sexy seamen never fails to validate my mantra of “gayer is better.”

Thoroughly gay experiences are getting harder to come by as acceptance of gay culture goes mainstream, so it’s a life-affirming privilege to inhabit a world that is a round-the-clock circuit partyA dance event with historical origins in the gay community’s response to the AIDS crisis. Originally conceived as fundraisers and a means to celebrate life amidst loss, today’s circuit is global and extensive, with highly produced parties that sometimes have a community outreach component and sometimes are commercialized ventures. Circuit events are an expression of freedom as well as a statement of the power and strength of the gay community, but they are not without controversy, as they are often identified with a high degree of superficiality, promiscuity, and drug use. Some of the larger circuit parties are the White Party in Palm Springs, the Black and Blue Party in Montreal, and the Winter Party in Miami, each of which attracts attendees in the thousands to tens of thousands. See “Gay CruiseA term used in verb form to refer to checking out another gay man, perhaps in a sexually predatory way, but primarily characterized by nonverbal signals for sex. Also can be used in noun form to refer to the person being cruised, i.e. “Don’t eyeball my cruise.” Not to be confused with a floating bathhouse of a boat chartered by Atlantis Events (see “gay cruise”)..”, cabaret, bathhouse, resort and reality TV show – or whatever else fits your fancy. There’s something for every gay, guaranteed, and the joy of creating and cultivating an ideal community – a “gaytopia” at sea – is always palpable.

I had precious reunions with chosen familyCode used to describe one’s own gay kind, i.e. “Do you think he’s family?” or “Don’t worry, he’s family.”, and pushed myself to the limit at endless dance parties with legendary DJs. I saw friendships form and romances bloom. I watched from the delicious comfort of my poolside perch as those seeking adventure and athleticism got their fix, and I was deeply moved watching gentlemen in their twilight observe all the out-and-proud antics while being very much included in the rituals of their next generations.

I ate exquisite meals and saw exclusive shows and drank too many cocktails, and even found myself in a naughty flirtation or two (always a thrill as one of few women on the ship). I lived the very best of gay life, and was showered with appreciation and chivalry just for participating.

Even a tragic turn of events that resulted in an early-morning safety drill and a devastating outcome had the effect of galvanizing our diverse community on board, with an outpouring of respect and civility. A few days later we were brought together in the church of Idina Menzel, who grounded us in the reminder that “there’s no day like today,” and together we were healed. She gave us permission to carry on, and with our collective spirit we defied gravity.

I reflected many times on how I simply couldn’t ask for more from the universe, and a dear friend managed to put the universally acknowledged feeling of being blessed and completely content into wise words for anyone on the fence about whether an Atlantis cruiseA term used in verb form to refer to checking out another gay man, perhaps in a sexually predatory way, but primarily characterized by nonverbal signals for sex. Also can be used in noun form to refer to the person being cruised, i.e. “Don’t eyeball my cruise.” Not to be confused with a floating bathhouse of a boat chartered by Atlantis Events (see “gay cruise”). is a good idea: “Satisfaction comes from spending money on experiences, not things.”

It was my 4th Atlantis cruiseA term used in verb form to refer to checking out another gay man, perhaps in a sexually predatory way, but primarily characterized by nonverbal signals for sex. Also can be used in noun form to refer to the person being cruised, i.e. “Don’t eyeball my cruise.” Not to be confused with a floating bathhouse of a boat chartered by Atlantis Events (see “gay cruise”)., but the maiden voyage of my cabinmate, and we were equally in awe, sharing the permanent smile that permeated the ship, ever grateful for the unforgettable experience of a gaycation that was, quite literally, flawless.

And as if living the dream for seven solid days wasn’t enough to win over even the most jaded of queens, Royal Caribbean employees told us constantly that we had won over their hearts. They likewise considered the week a vacation because, compared to their typical cruiseA term used in verb form to refer to checking out another gay man, perhaps in a sexually predatory way, but primarily characterized by nonverbal signals for sex. Also can be used in noun form to refer to the person being cruised, i.e. “Don’t eyeball my cruise.” Not to be confused with a floating bathhouse of a boat chartered by Atlantis Events (see “gay cruise”). crowd, we were fun, happy and fabulous, finding no reason to complain. It was clear that each and every person who embraced the Allure journey was changed, for the better and for good.

When is something a tried-and-true tradition, and when is it truly tired, a ritual ready to be retired? How are we who really get around to know whether it’s time to turn over a new leaf, or when it’s time to regroup and try something totally new?

Even the best things in life have life cycles. Fabulous festivities do jump the shark eventually, and knowing when to hold ‘em and when to fold ‘em can make or break your year.

Girls and gays on the go suffer from wear and tear just like everything else, and while we’re all haunted by the fear of missing “the” party that everyone’s raving about, there’s something to be said for conserving your energy and enthusiasm so that you can strike strong when the time is just right.

I may not have the means to jet-set with the A Gays, but the events I once dreamed of attending are now my regular circuit. So now how do I step up my game?

More and more, I think it’s the stolen moments, and those unexpected parties-within-a-party, that get me excited and keep me inspired. Sometimes it’s the pre-party or the afterparty that proves to be the most memorable moment, the time when we’re really connecting because we’re not preoccupied with making something happen.

It’s not my style at all to be a wallflower, but standing on the sidelines every now and again can be enlightening. New energy and uncharted territory are what make our world go round, and sometimes stepping out of the way is the biggest contribution a person can make when a scene goes stale.

I hope I get some unexpected opportunities to bring it this year, to places and with faces that take me by surprise, and that push me beyond my comfort zone. I’ll always return to my essence, which is dancing under the disco ball, but as I peer into the crystalMethamphetamine in its crystalline form, a highly addictive stimulant also known as Tina. ball in search of where this new year will take me, it’s kind of exciting that I honestly don’t yet have any answers.

Here’s hoping that serendipity and spontaneity come into play, and that double rainbows will delight along the way.

A NOTE FROM THE PUBLISHER: At press time, Suzan received an unexpected opportunity to BRING IT aboard the Atlantis Allure of the Seas, as a correspondent for Gloss Magazine. She’ll report back in the next issue about her encore experience on the world’s largest gay cruiseA term used in verb form to refer to checking out another gay man, perhaps in a sexually predatory way, but primarily characterized by nonverbal signals for sex. Also can be used in noun form to refer to the person being cruised, i.e. “Don’t eyeball my cruise.” Not to be confused with a floating bathhouse of a boat chartered by Atlantis Events (see “gay cruise”).Exclusively gay vacations on chartered cruiseA term used in verb form to refer to checking out another gay man, perhaps in a sexually predatory way, but primarily characterized by nonverbal signals for sex. Also can be used in noun form to refer to the person being cruised, i.e. “Don’t eyeball my cruise.” Not to be confused with a floating bathhouse of a boat chartered by Atlantis Events (see “gay cruise”). ships (Atlantis Events, RSVP) that often feature circuit-style dance parties, weddings, showtunes, and Speedos., and about her spontaneous adventures with sexy seamen.

Allured by the named Tristan, then borrowing the name of his cat, Jax, Tristan Jaxx added an extra “x” to create a persona that hints at the sexy edge he brings to his beats.

Initially drawn to downloading music – no vinyl in his history – Jaxx found himself passionate about acquiring the best tunes, which eventually paved the way for him to become a DJ.

Name recognition from porn got him noticed. “People know who I am, and it makes selling me to the clubs much easier because of my porn following.” He admits that there is a downside, however. “People assume because of my porn past that I can only sell sex and not musical talent.”

The doubters have only encouraged him to work harder. “I really had to push my music to prove I could sell people music just as much as sex,” he says. “Now, more people come up to me and recognize me for my music. It’s funny because in the beginning I thought being a porn star would advance my DJ career, but the irony is it’s working more the other way around.”

Regardless of who recognizes him for what, Tristan Jaxx’s following packs dance floors wherever he goes, and in return, Jaxx creates magic, and occasionally, at the BeatBox, he creates Chaos.

“Chaos is my baby. It’s everything I wanted in a club to share with San Francisco,” Jaxx says. “I wanted a space to show what I can bring to the table musically and to give SF something different – a musical journey that encompasses vocal house to afterhours music, but always with high energy.”

Jaxx prides himself on his ability to read into the hearts of his fans.

“I always observe who is leaving the dance floor during which song, and I make sure the crowd is always happy, by mixing together the bar and circuit crowd to create a whole scene for our city,” he says. “Alongside myself, I try to bring in various other DJs who share a similar sound to what I want for Chaos. It’s all about everyone having fun and coming out of the night with sweat and smiles on their faces, because in the end a club is all about fun.”

Amen. Tristan Jaxx definitely delivers a new dance vision with an X-factor.

Experience DJ Tristan Jaxx at The EndUp’s “FEVER” early Saturday morning at 5:30 a.m. January 14, and at Chaos with DJ Freddy Agredano and renowned DJ/Producer Alex Acosta on January 28.

Suzan Revah writes about gay nightlife, culture and lifestyle in a regular column for Gloss magazine called “Bring It!”

Published biweekly, Bring It! covers the full spectrum of the glittery rainbow that is San Francisco’s gayborhood, and chronicles all the reasons and ways Suzan loves her gays!

Mesmerized by music since he was young, Berini shifted from classical piano lessons to sound-smithing on his synthesizer. In high school, he sneaked into gay bars, where he discovered the power of dance music. This led to a full-blown obsession with 90s house music as he studied abroad in London while he was in college. When he returned back to the US, his best friend introduced him to the gay party “circuit.” Soon Berini followed the icons of house music, such as Junior Vasquez, Frankie Knuckles and Susan Morabito. His friend DJ Julian Marsh inspired him to get his own turntables in fall of 2001.

Berini entered SF’s Next Hot DJ contest in 2008. He scored a regular happy hour gig at Lookout in the Castro and headlined a new party at Mecca called “Swank,” produced by Mike Lane and Janine Shiota (creators of the legendary Fresh T-Dance at Ruby Skye). “These two big breaks helped me realize that I could truly pursue my passion as a profession,” Berini says. “And I’ve been doing just that ever since!”

When Berini joined forces with his buddy DJ Grind and the guys at Lookout in the fall of 2010, the party PLΣDGΣ was be born. “PLΣDGΣ was designed to honor and support the organizations that help our community thrive, while creating a vibe I can best describe as ‘flirtatious camaraderie.’” With that, Berini winks and smiles and I’m automatically a supporter of his cause.

It’s no surprise the signature PLΣDGΣ paddle gets as much action as it does. “We often joke that we beat donations out of our friends if necessary, but as you’ll see from the paddle photos on our Facebook page, everyone involved is totally into the party.”

On a more serious note, Berini says “PLΣDGΣ means bringing my friends together, dancing to the music we love, and generally having a blast… all while helping our community thrive.”

The power of PLΣDGΣ is very real. “Having worked with many nonprofit organizations in San Francisco,” Berini explains, “I know how much they need the type of unrestricted funding produced by parties like this – so I know they make a difference.”

And PLΣDGΣ is about to make an even bigger difference with its new location at Rebel. “PLΣDGΣ got off to an excellent start at LOOKOUT and we are incredibly grateful for their partnership in making it such a success over the past 15 months,” Berini says. “While leaving is bittersweet, moving to Rebel and going weekly will allow us to grow in some exciting ways, and it means we can raise much more money for our beneficiary partners.”

“For one thing, REBEL has a great dance floor. And I’m excited about working with a new fellow PLΣDGΣmaster, DJ Brian Maier, who is as talented as he is gorgeous,” Berini says. “Plus we’re making big improvements to the party, like adding more hot gogo dancers, ‘shot masters’ passing Absolut shooters, and a crew of hot PLΣDGΣ brothers running the show. They’ll form “frat” teams that will compete in fundraising challenges at each event.”

PLΣDGΣ’s kickoff party at its new location will feature a drinking game Olympics. Get into it this Friday the 13th at Rebel.

Here in San Francisco, we are blessed by the fact that every weekend brings another opportunity for an excess of party, dance and joy. The only downside to this nightlife renaissance we are experiencing is that one person couldn’t possibly attend every fabulous party. So, my advice? Don’t even try.

I can honestly say that behaving reasonably never got me anywhere, but as the New Year brings with it a chance for a fresh start, I’m giving some thought to the concept of moderation.

Average folk outside the bubble live their whole lives without experiencing a single day of what we experience every day. We need no excuse to break the chains that bind and let loose, and when we do, we are celebrated for it.

Appreciating rather than abusing the freedom we have is our fitness challenge. Setting limits, or at least acknowledging them, is how we stay healthy and avoid getting messy in the face of limitless dates with decadence and debauchery.

In the race to do it all and have it all, we’re well-conditioned to go the distance, but we need to remember that it’s a marathon and not a sprint.

Let’s support one another when we want to rest up and take a night off, just as much as we do when we encourage each other to bring it hard and heavy. And let’s definitely not fake when we’re not feeling it. There’s no need, because there’s no doubt that we’ll make up for it, and likely sooner rather than later.

San Francisco isn’t for amateurs. Our lifestyle has longevity, and we look, feel and act better for it. It’s not “go big or go home” so much as go big and go happy, then go home, turn around and do it all over again.

My resolution this year is to start understanding that there’s no crime in calling it a night once you realize you’ve gone from being the party to chasing the party.

Why force it? There will always be another party, and when your San Framily is your posse, it’s a given that the next party – and the next one and even the next one – will raise the bar yet higher. That’s something that’s worth toasting every weekend of the year – within moderation.

Taken by total surprise, Suzan Revah is forever proclaimed to be “Saint DaddyAn older gay man. He may or may not prefer the company of younger men, but if he does and if he is moneyed, he is likely to be the dominant or top in the relationship. Also, “Leather Daddy.” Suzan, Mother Superior of the San Framily Home for Wayward Castro Boys” by Sister Phyliss Withe Litaday and Sister Mora Lee D’Klined, “for upholding and promoting the ideals, beliefs and convictions held sacred by The Order. For creating positive changes in our world by honoring The Mind, The Body and The Spirit. For perpetually dedicating untold hours of freely expended energy in service to The Order and to The Community. For promulgating Universal Joy and expiating stigmatic guilt.”

Suzan is humbled and thrilled by this dream come true.