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16 Non-sexual Touches To Feel Connected and Loved

2014-01-25T16:48:00.000+01:00

Non sexual touches in love are a sign of trust. They reduce anxiety, and they bring two lovers closer and helps them bond better. It even helps you stay healthier and feel happier in your everyday lives. And when you touch your lover, you’re creating a connection that makes them feel better and more loved, and in return, you’d feel better about yourself too!

Here are 16 non-sexual touches that you can indulge in with your own lover. Try any of these touches and both of you will feel closer, bond better and feel more connected in no time!

#1 Playful wrestling. Do you ever fight each other in jest with pillows or with your hands while playing on the bed? This may seem immature, but it’s a great way to feel closer and relieve stress at the same time.

#2 Kiss on the forehead. A kiss on the forehead is a perfect way to show your affection. Lean in and kiss your lover on their forehead when you’re sitting with them. Chances are, your partner will close their eyes and smile because they can’t help but feel good about what you just did!

#3 Tickles. A tickle can be annoying at times, but it’s still a lot of fun. It’s a great excuse to touch each other non-sexually, and make each other laugh and feel good at the same time.

#4 Stroke their hair. Run your hands through your partner’s hair while cuddling up. You’ll feel great and your partner will feel a lot more loved.

#5 While walking past them. Give your lover a naughty pat on the butt while walking past them, or interlace your fingers with theirs for a second as you walk past each other.

#6 Wandering hands. Let your hands wander over your lover’s body when both of you are watching the telly. Run your hands against their palms or over their arms, or just about anywhere else. It doesn’t have to be sexual at all, and it’ll still make both of you feel more connected.

#7 Dance together. It doesn’t matter if you don’t know how to dance. When your favorite tune’s playing in the background, hold each other’s hands and dance along. Your boyfriend or girlfriend may laugh about it, but they’ll feel good about it too!

#8 Hold hands. Hold your lover’s hands now and then when you’re with them. It doesn’t matter if you’re at a restaurant, in public or lazing a home.

#9 Sit on their lap. Sitting on a lover’s lap or resting your head on their lap will make your partner want to cuddle you back instantly.

#10 A hug. A simple hug could seem meaningless, but it’s something that’ll make both of you feel really good. Just hugging each other for about half a minute releases feel-good chemicals in your body that’ll make both of you feel loved and connected, and it’ll have an uplifting effect on your mood too.

#11 Driving. Place your hand on your lover’s thigh when they’re driving the car. If you don’t want to make your gesture obvious and feel awkward about it, place your hand on your partner’s thigh while saying something to them or while emphasizing about something. It’ll feel natural, and yet, it’ll make your partner feel good about being in love with you.

#12 The stroll. Do both of you hold hands while strolling down a park or while walking down a flea market? Place your arm around your girlfriend, or wrap your arms around your guy while talking a leisurely walk together.

#13 The hand on cheek. Hold your lover’s face with your two hands, or place your palm on their cheek while saying something. It’s an endearing gesture that’ll always make your partner feel good.

#14 Massage and rubs. A massage always feels good. Give your partner a shoulder or back rub at the end of the day now and then, when you feel like it. They’ll feel relaxed and grateful at the same time.

#15 Playing with the feet. If you’re lazing on the couch with your partner, place their feet on your lap and run your fingers around their toes. You could tickle it or massage it, and it’ll still feel just as playful and good.

#16 The kiss. Just how often do you kiss your lover? Has the kiss just turned into a move you do during foreplay? A kiss is a powerful connection. Kiss your lover often, even if it’s just a casual peck on the lips. As long as you feel like kissing your partner often, your relationship will grow stronger, and both of you will feel more loved too.

Remember, non-sexual touches are just as important as sexual touches in a relationship. Indulge in them often, and both of you will feel more loved, connected and happier every single day!

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Why Did He Say All Those Nice Things to Me and Then…

2014-01-06T08:13:00.002+01:00

Develop an Attitude of Positive Neutrality

What the heck is positive neutrality? This is a protective dating strategy I developed for myself while looking for love and today share with clients. The basic idea is that you take a “wait and see” position on any man you date. Instead of getting your hopes up, practicing Positive Neutrality prevents you from getting prematurely attached to a guy before he has proven himself as “The One” for you.

How Positive Neutrality Works

When you catch yourself thinking too much about a guy or falling for him fast, say to yourself, “He’s nice, but we’ll see.” Yes, your date might look promising and you want to be positive. But you also need to stay relatively neutral and objective to avoid getting emotionally attached before you know his intentions or if you are a good match. This really works!

Dating Advice that Helps You Stay Objective

Here are a few other options to help you be smart about falling too quickly for a man:

Remember talk is cheap and words don’t necessarily have true meaning behind them
Pay attention to his actions, not his words, to better understand his intentions
Date more than one man at a time before you become exclusive to avoid putting all your eggs in one man’s basket so to speak.

Try “Who Is Next?”Thinking

My last suggestion for getting over a man who says nice things and disappears is to ask yourself, “Who is next?” That single question can help you face the future with optimism. There are loads of single men out there and many are quality guys who want a relationship. You just have to meet enough men to find the right one for you. So, the next time a guy disappears on you, don’t despair. Face the future knowing that you are one man closer to the love you want and deserve.

Give Yourself THIS for the Holidays (It’s Beautiful and Free)

2014-01-05T14:36:00.000+01:00

You’re deep in the perfect storm of Merry Mania, and everybody expects you to look fabulous, fizz with energy and laughter, and enjoy perfect inner and outer harmony for at least another week.

Shopping insanity, horrible traffic, worse food choices, crazy people (including relatives), ridiculous expectations…
It’s enough to make you take your stack of romance novels and a bag of powdered donuts and hide in the nearest storm cellar until it’s all over, including the clean-up. (Especially the clean-up.)
But what if there was a way to build yourself an inner storm cellar (complete with a lush, peaceful inner garden) that not only made you able to withstand the sheer insanity of the holidays, but also helped you feel calmer, happier, and more in control of your life than ever before?
What if it even caused you to be a quietly flowing river of serenity that others could feel and take comfort in, too? Now THAT would be a gift.
And the best part is that you don’t have to wait for someone else to give you this gift, and it won’t show up on next month’s bank statement, either. It’s right here and waiting for you to accept it…

Ready?

Take three deep breaths. Inhale peace, and exhale tension. Open your heart to receiving love. (The universe has been waiting joyfully for you to open this gift!)

Now. Slowly let yourself take in the calming, centering mantras below…

1. The universe is working on my behalf, pouring a never-ending stream of beauty and peace into me. I don’t need to create, manipulate, or hoard the world’s refreshment. It pools within me, nourishes and grows what is good within me, and flows gently out to replenish others.

2. I don’t need to figure out or understand what everyone else is thinking and feeling. Peace comes when I release my desire to control everything outside of me.

3. The biggest battles I face are all internal. They have nothing to do with the people or events around me. And I am strong enough to meet those challenges, and gently, patiently loosen the knots and tangles within. I am entirely in charge of myself.

4. No fear or worry is bigger or more powerful than I am. I choose to act out of love, rather than let the fears and mistakes of my past drive me. My heart smiles.

5. I don’t have to be perfect. My life is messy. My life is beautiful.

Stay strong and steady, friend. You deserve all the love the world has to give you.

Are You Stuck In the Waiting Game?

2014-01-05T00:49:00.001+01:00

It’s like waiting at the bus stop, tapping your foot, glancing annoyingly at first then anxiously after awhile at your watch.

We’ve read the timetable and according to the program our man…err… I mean bus should be here to take us on a fabulous journey that we’ve planned for in our head, life and schedule!
I’m sure we’ve all had moments when we feel like we’ve missed the “man bus” and are just sitting there hoping and waiting for it to turn up sooner rather than later, it can be a little disheartening and we can even start to feel like our entire future happiness depends on him arriving.
So what do we do whilst playing the waiting game?

Well here’s 3 Quick Points to get you on the right track :

Get Busy

Since when should life be done waiting on the side lines until your hero charges in?! Get up and start refocusing on what YOU want and start creating the future that you desire. Start new goals and finish old ones, take up a hobby or set yourself a new challenge to accomplish. Yes you have a desire to share your life with someone and in no way does that make you needy but you can’t let life just pass you by waiting for that dream to be for filled.
Waiting for a man to complete your happiness or existence is like eating a Big Mac and expecting it to make you skinner; it’s an unrealistic expectation that only ends in disappointment (dammit!) Get excited about your life so much so that when your man waltzes into it you have to check your diary to see if you have time for him in between Pilaties, coffee with the girls, dancing, writing a book and curing cancer!

Get Proactive and Practical

Alas whilst we may be able to have our groceries delivered to our front door it doesn’t work the same for husbands (hmm I have been meaning to look into mail order grooms!) So it makes sense to start creating your own opportunities to meet someone.
Thanks to technology trying to find a date has never been more convenient, so if you aren’t a social butterfly or time poor then why not try online dating or dating apps? They aren’t as scary as they seem and once you weed through the masses you’ll find there are some great perspectives just waiting to meet you.
If online isn’t your game then get back to basics, ask your friends if they know of someone, join a local community group or a gym, maybe even try speed dating…whatever takes your fancy just don’t sit there on your couch twiddling your thumbs expecting him to knock on the door with flowers in tow.

Get Realistic

You aren’t going to die alone with 72 cats and eaten by Alsatians …so relax and stop labelling yourself and your future just because you are in this season of singleness. It’s time to start changing your words and mindset to one that’s positive and affirming of your dreams.
It doesn’t mean you have to start burning your bra and chanting in front of your mirror or walking on hot coals, but it does help to start taking control of your emotions, mindset and words. The thing is there is a time for everything and meeting someone, falling in love and then getting married is a progression that will just happen naturally with the right person without you trying to force it.
So walk away from the bus stop and continue doing what you do best , I guarantee once you start focusing on what makes you happy and whole, you won’t be getting on any bus, you’ll be getting picked up in a Ferrari (figuratively speaking of course)! =)

Does Good Chemistry Mean He’s Your Soul Mate?

2014-01-03T15:52:00.000+01:00

Perhaps nothing derails women from deliberately attracting her soul mate more than “chemistry.”

I’ve had discussions and debates about this topic with girl friends, I get asked about it frequently, and my clients often bring it up during sessions. Personally, when I was younger I learned the hard way that going by chemistry alone can get one invested completely in the wrong person – fast.
So how can you know if someone is the right person if you don’t have chemistry right away?
And how can you know if someone is the right person if you DO have a lot of chemistry right away?
This may not seem like the most enticing idea but it worked for me and other couples I know – it’s best to hold off on getting too physical with someone until you know him better and he’s allowed his true colors to show.

This has nothing to do with what old world religions might call sin, personal ethics, or certainly not any “rules”; it has everything to do with you being able to see a person for who he really is (and for him to see who you really are) and not for the chemical bond being intimate will create prematurely.
Worried that taking your time will turn off a potential keeper? Here’s the deal:

Your soul mate will wait as long as you want and will want to get to know you better first, too.
A player will be out the door – good riddance, buh-bye!
You will be able to keep your head about you and totally be yourself. Ever notice how you change around a guy you’re crushing on once you’ve had intimacy?
There are no rules as to how long you should wait only that it’s in alignment with you and allows you to get to know each other. So what is right for you and your desires for a soul mate partnership?
It’s helpful to go into dating with basic clarity and a plan. Here are a few questions to help you get started:

What do YOU need to have in place before you get physical with someone? What do you need to know about him and what do you want to have discussed before then? Is it important for you to know that you’re a committed couple beforehand or not? What “bases” (to use middle school terminology here) are you okay with him going past before you’re in a relationship? And absolutely what do YOU need in place before you go all the way?

Though it doesn’t have to be written in stone but I find that setting the intention and having clarity around this is an extremely powerful statement to the Universe, and everyone else, that you are serious about attracting your soul mate and that you are worthy of attracting a partner that loves, cherishes, & respects you (and your boundaries) completely.

A soul mate relationship has a solid foundation and connection in the spirit, the mind, and the heart before it’s in the body. And when you DO get physical, the attraction and chemistry you create with your soul partner continues to build and grow as your relationship does.

Make 2014 the Year He Falls Back in Love With YOU

2014-01-02T12:39:00.001+01:00

You know how it is; we women can literally feel him turning away from us.

It’s a gradual thing…one moment you’re holding hands; the goodwill that flows back and forth astounds your heart. You are in love with him. He would do anything for you and you know it. You’re top of his list, and you feel very loved and very special. You glow.

And you love him. You want to give back to him and so over the years you’ve continued to put his needs first. What does this mean? Well, sure your work life and children are in the mix too, but you know him better than he does and pre-empt what he needs often before he does! It’s just the way you’re made and you know he appreciates it…
…Only somewhere along the way you’ve noticed that although you’re still committed to buying your mother-in-laws Christmas present (as if from him) and being thoughtful when it’s his birthday, he’s turned away from you and buried himself in work/a project/golf.
And when he returns? He’s distracted. You want his full attention – you want to grab his big bear of a face, take him by the shoulders and shake him and yell: “Wake up and look at me – I mean really look at me!” But it’s like he doesn’t see you anymore.

He get’s anxious when you cry. Sure, but apart from the big dramatic things, he’s pulled away from you, always got his nose into something else. And because he’s always got his nose into something else – TV – sport – everybody else, he misses stuff like all the time. Which is enough to piss any gal off after the zillionth time! So you find yourself being angry at him – not in a big way, but when he gets home tonight you’ll tell him what he missed and instead of him saying “I’m sorry;” he’s going to end up saying “here we go again, always criticizing me.” To no one in particular. As if he has an audience. Only it’s just you. Hurting.

You want to feel desired by him, that nothing is more important than your happiness like it used to be. You want to be his No.1 and you want to feel that glow in your face again because it’s going to infuse you with lightness and your whole day, your work, your success and everything else with happiness. You haven’t felt alive in such a long time. You’ve been just kind of sucked dry.
And that’s so NOT you! What would it do for you if you could turn this all around in 2014? And what would be the best part? Would you like to make 2014 the year he falls back into love with you? But how much more can you give?
Exactly.
STOP.

Stop giving to him. Stop trying to make everything all right for him. It turns him off. You as a woman are made to receive. (Woohoo!) And he knows it and will genuinely respond to it in you when you genuinely decide that receiving is important for you, everyday. But you have to drop your anger and focus on you.

Darling, you can do this! 2014 is your year! If you:

• Ask him for what you want today in a way that sounds pleasurable to you and him and make this your new daily habit.
• Focus on how you sound when you ask him. He is really sensitive to your tone. More than you will ever realise.
• Appreciate him for all the little things he does. He will want to do more for you no matter how much you doubt this.
• Put your fun above getting it all done all of the time.

2014 is your year for him to fall back in love with you.
And it begins when you decide to focus on your happiness.
Yes there is room for you to do that.
Watch his responses. With regular dedication on your part to your happiness, he will turn back towards you and give you his full attention. You are about to be desired like never before – OOO!

Are You Dating to Mate or Dating to Date?

2014-01-01T21:32:00.001+01:00

Coaching women over 50 about dating, I’m often asked why dating has become so damn hard?

I believe it’s because dating has become an activity we endure versus one we enjoy. We treat dating like we treat a job interview. We exchange resumes. We look the person up and down and in less than 10 minutes – the time it takes to drink a cup of coffee – we decide whether or not this person is our next spouse or committed partner.
What a pressure cooker this is…ultimately leaving us with the feeling there is no one out there to date. Yet there are millions of men and women looking for partners daily, so what’s going on? Why can’t men and women find each other?

It’s simple. They are dating to mate versus dating to date.

I can’t begin to tell you the number of times I’ve heard, “I just know whether he’s the one within the first three minutes of meeting him.” There is no way this is possible. You may know whether you’re initially attracted to him but that’s it. And by the way, for women, attraction can grow over time when you get to really know a man even when it’s initially not present on a first date. Using this philosophy, you can end up missing a lot of good, quality men.
Dating can be a lot of fun if you can switch to the idea of Dating to Date. This means go on dates with the only objective being having fun getting to know a new and interesting man. We did this as kids when we hung out with our potential mates. We didn’t sit around thinking, “Is he the one?” We just enjoyed each other’s company and let it flow into the relationships we created.

When you Date to Date, you may not end up with a mate but you could end up with male friends who offer you companionship when you want it. And you may, over time, fall for a man who has become your friend because the foundation for any relationship is friendship.
It could end up being the best relationship and one you’d have missed by making that quick three minute decision on your first date.

The other reason dating can make you so miserable is because often you don’t give men a chance unless they meet your standards of perfection. I’ve heard so many women describe their ideal man as one who is fit, one who eats a certain way, and one who has a particular job. A fit man may look good but it doesn’t mean he’ll make a good mate for you. The guy with the belly could stand to loose a couple of pounds, yet he might be the guy who could light up your life every day and make you very happy if you’d give him a chance.

Instead of just using physical characteristics as the sole basis for finding someone, think about how you want to feel around a man because ultimately you want to feel happy inside when you’re with the one you finally choose. And that has nothing to do with how he exercises or eats. It has to do with how he treats you.

10 Important Dating Tips for Men seeking Asian women.

2014-01-01T18:32:00.012+01:00

If you've got a preference for Asian women and want to learn the secrets of dating Asian women, join the club. There are many reasons why beautiful Asian women make us feel a powerful attraction, and why they can be ideal partners.

Here are ten tips that will help you make the right first impression on Asian women, and move the relationship towards romance.

1. Before you get serious about dating Asian women, understand that the term "Asian women" is very broad, and contains a lot of sub-categories. Most Western guys think the "Asian women" label refers to Japanese or Chinese women. The term Asian actually includes over include 40 different nationalities and ethnic groups. There are many variations in the Philippines alone, where there's been a lot of mixing of different cultures over the centuries. Some filipinas you meet will have a more Spanish look, or a more Japanese look.

If you aren't certain where she's from originally, don't try to guess. This could make you seem ignorant, or even worse, offensive. Instead, you can say to her, "you have a very unique, beautiful look, where are your parents from?"

Also, on this subject, you should never mention to her that you are familiar with dating Asian women. Telling her you have are experienced with dating Asian women in the past is not going to make her feel like you "understand" her. Actually, there's a good chance that she will feel jealous and resentful. She needs to feel that she is unique and special to you. Also, Asian women who live in Western countries are very sensitive to the idea of "yellow fever" — Western guys who have a fetish for Asian girls. If she gets the sense that you're only into her because of her race, you've got no chance.

2. The stereotype that Asian women are meek and submissive is generally false, however Asian women do want a masculine man, one who can play the role of the provider and protector. This is a big reason why so many men, who are miserable in our "feminized" culture where women want to wear the pants, find the idea of Asian women so attractive. This means that with Asian women, you can't be codependent or clingy. Asian men don't behave this way and if you do, it's going to make the women uncomfortable. In my Dating Asian Women program I'll show you ways to make an excellent first impression, capture her interest and make her feel curiousity and attraction, and then play it cool and laidback so that you never give off those nervous, clingy vibes. Instead, you will project confidence and masculinity.

3. Be a gentleman with a bit of a "bad boy" edge. Cool Hollywood movie stars are worshipped in Asia — the guys who are strong, masculine and can take care of business, but have a boyish charm and a softer side. Think about the onscreen personnas of Harrison Ford, Keanu Reeves, Leonardo Dicaprio, Matt Damon, Brad Pitt, and George Clooney. (All of them are revered in Asia.) You must be confident and emotionally stable. Asian women are turned off by insecure, angry or jealous men.

4. You must be intelligent and preferably well-educated, since Asians put a high value on education and wisdom. Also, have various passions and pursuits that you can share with her. You want her to get the sense that she will become a better, more knowledgable and well-rounded person by being with you.

5. Always behave yourself in public. Guys who are loud, rude, or "show off" in public aren't going to get anywhere with Asian women. They also appreciate proper manners, such as helping them to remove their coat, or pulling out their chair and helping them to sit down in a restaurant.

6. Demonstrate some familiarity with her country, its culture, and her religion. Having an appreciation for her native cuisine is also very helpful. If she is Westernized, she probably eats Western food, generally—but when she's with her family, they surely still cook their favorite exotic dishes. Learning to cook one of her favorite ethnic meals for her will score you big points.

7. A tip for all you guys who are communicating over the Internet with women from Asian countries: get her to chat with you on a webcam as soon as possible. There are a ton of girls on the Asian dating sites who are looking to find a foreign boyfriend, which is great, but there are a lot of games being played. Some women will post misleading pictures in their profile, or in some cases they'll use a picture of another person entirely. If she has an excuse why she can't appear on webcam, you can assume she's trying to hide something. Every scene I've visited in Asia, from the big cities to the poor provinces, now has Internet cafes everywhere — and if the computer she's using doesn't have a webcam, there is surely one down the street.

8. A key tip for dating Asian women: you cannot come across as a player, a playboy, or a guy who isn't interested in the possibility of a serious relationship. When you're getting to know an Asian women, she has to know that you have the capacity to be serious and committed. They're thinking of their future, and for a lot of Asian women their dream future involves having a half-Caucasian child. You don't need to talk about your desire to get married on the first date, but you can mention how you're interested in this someday.

9. Asian women will be impressed if you own some of the latest high tech gadgets — a cool phone, mp3 player, digital camera, and so on. Asian guys tend to be really up on this stuff. And it also helps for you to be literate with computers, because to an educated Asian women, this is a sign that you are a smart, upwardly mobile person.

10. My final tip on dating Asian women: you must understand that Asian women have very strong ties to their family. In some Asian cultures the woman is expected to support the rest of the family, even though they're perfectly capable of making their own money. Even though you might be tempted to, never tell her to grow up and be independent and turn her back on her family. This will only drive a wedge between you and her. In my program, How To Date An Asian Woman, I explain how to deal with this issue, so that her family never creates an obstacle.

If you're interesting in meeting, attracting and dating the beautiful Asian women of your dreams, visit the website Get Asian Girls and be sure to sign up for our free five-part e-course. We'll send you lots of free information about how to be more attractive and successful with Asian women — including the specific techniques that will turn you into a true Asian babe magnet.

7 New Years Resolutions for Dating

2014-01-01T17:24:00.002+01:00

Has your dating life gotten stale over the winter?

Spice things up (and at the very least, meet some interesting people) with some of these New Years resolutions:

1. Get Rid of Mr. Wrong

Let’s start with taking out the garbage. If you’re still in a go-nowhere, unfulfilling relationship, it’s time to say goodbye and start the healing process. You know deep-down if you’re trying hard and getting nowhere. Cut the cord. There is no time like the present to end a relationship with the wrong person.

2. Hit the Eject Button Slower

While I realize that I just said to get rid of Mr. Wrong, it’s important to think about your behavior on dates up to this point.
Have you been really quick to judge the guys you go out with?
Do you go on a first date and decide that the guys isn’t for you right away?
This is the time to start accepting second dates. Make it a priority to just get to know people. Try not to judge them too quickly.
While it should go without saying that you shouldn’t accept a second date from someone who was rude or bizarre, give the slow starters more of a chance. If I hadn’t given my fiancee a second date after feeling strongly like I never wanted to see him again after our first date, I wouldn’t have an amazing relationship now.
Resolve to give the slow starters a chance to get to know you and get a little more comfortable. Often people aren’t their best on a first date.

3. Pledge to Slow Down

If you’ve fallen into the cycle of just “hanging out” with guys or hooking up with them too soon, start making them actually date you. Suggest day time activities to do together. It’s even better when these dovetail with your hobbies and interests.

4. Date Outside Your Normal Type

Step outside your comfort zone with the guys you go out with. If you’ve always gravitated towards a certain type of guy, this is the time to broaden your horizons.
Accept dates with guys who are totally different than the ones you normally go out with. See if different could be better. Even if you don’t make a total love match, it’s always interesting to meet different people than you would normally date.

5. Broaden Your Dating Pool

This year, try widening your pool of potential dates. Is there a Meetup group you’ve wanted to join? Is there a new restaurant or hobby you’ve been wanting to try? Have you been going back and forth on making an online dating profile but never had the guts to actually do it? The time is now.

6. Enlist Help

Has your mom, best friend, etc, been begging to set you up? This is the time to stop rolling your eyes and take them up on it. No harm in giving it a shot, right? At the very least, you’ll have someone who knows both people to talk to about how the date went.
In the same vein if someone who knows you well offers to take a second glance at your dating profile or has a suggestion for you, take them up on it.

7. Put Yourself First

Last, but not least, resolve to start putting your needs on the forefront. Put yourself on your calendar for pampering, spa days and regular trips to the gym. Make regular girls nights. Reignite your interest in your hobbies.
It’s really easy to get caught up in dating and start clearing off your schedule for it. Make sure that you keep doing whatever you’re most interested in. Guys report finding women who have passions outside the relationship very attractive.
While it may seem on the surface like drawing inward doesn’t really increase your pool of potential mates, how you treat yourself is a mirror of how other people will treat you.
Tell me what you think in the comments!

The Top 5 Reasons Men Get Rejected

2013-12-28T16:45:00.000+01:00

Top 5 Reasons You Keep Getting Rejected
In the game of love, everyone is rejected at some point. Of course, knowing exactly why you’ve been turned down isn’t always clear and if you don’t know what you did wrong, how can you improve your chances? Luckily, you aren’t the first man to be turned down. As long as men have been chasing women, they’ve been being turned down. Why? For starters, the way a man presents himself is key to attracting a woman’s attention, and it’s something most men overlook. Most men think that the clothes they wear or how much money they have is what is primarily going to attract women, but it is actually much simpler than that. You are not the problem; the way you present yourself is. You can improve your odds in the dating game and finally feel like you know what you’re doing by simply addressing the most common mistakes.

1. Understanding Body Language
While it’s true that confidence is something women find sexy, it takes more than boasting and flirting to portray that you are comfortable in yourself. Body language is key. You want to show your prospective date that you feel good in your own skin and feel in control of the situation. Stand up straight and make eye contact. Humans communicate primarily through body language; your words will mean next to nothing if you present yourself in an alluring way. But remember: Women can often tell if you are actually confident in yourself or just faking. Work on your self esteem and approach women with an air of ease for best results.

2. Matching Energy and Atmosphere
Society tells us that a man should be solemn and serious, a grounding, powerful force, but women want someone they can connect with. Before asking a woman out, gauge her energy levels and the general atmosphere of the people around her. A woman is going to want you to meet her on her level: Be charming and attentive but always note her reactions so you can adjust your approach. Make it hard for her to turn you down by engaging her and showing her that you can understand her body language and meet her needs and wants.

3. Choosing Positive Body Language
Here we go again with the body language. Yes, it’s really that important. Dating and flirting are just evolution’s way of helping two people determine if they are right for each other. Those basic instincts from hundreds of thousands of years ago are still alive in us. Facing a woman head on will make her feel confronted and uncomfortable. A successful man makes a woman see he is powerful enough to keep her safe and gentle enough to protect her. Practice embodying confidence without aggressiveness.

4. Walking the Thin Line Between Too Much and Too Little
Since being socially appropriate is always a must in dating situations, knowing just how confident and assertive to be is a conundrum for many men. Being loud and obnoxious won’t gain you the attention you seek and neither will sneaking into their social circle and waiting for her to notice you. There’s a balance between these extremes. Harness your true confidence, address her with interest but don’t be overbearing. You want to appear highly interested, not obsessed or desperate.

5. Committing to Your Mission
You will not get a yes from your prospective date if you have decided ahead of time that she will never say yes. You will also not get a yes from her if you walk into the situation eager to get out of it. If you really want to go out with this lady, you’re going to, at some point, spend time with her. Go into the situation with the mindset of wanting to know more about her and asking her out if things go well. Harness your confidence, remind yourself that the way you portray yourself is key, and be prepared to stay in the interaction until it has come to its natural conclusion.
Don’t run away. Whether she answers yes or no, sprinting away from her to hide behind the nearest curtain isn’t going to comfort her about her decision to say yes or inspire her to change her answer from no.
If you have gotten rejected a lot in the past, it’s likely you are trying to exact same approach over and over and expecting different results. Change it up a little. Try something new. Think about what your body language is communicating about yourself and the way your prospective date’s body language is asking you to connect with her. Stick with your original mission. Stay confident. And remember: You are an eligible bachelor; it’s the way that you present yourself that turns women away.
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Best Ways to Stop a Woman on the Street

2013-12-26T19:48:00.000+01:00

We’ve all seen a woman pass us on the street that catches our eye and intrigues us to the point of entrancement. How do you step out of your comfort zone and approach her, right there on the street and completely out of the blue? It’s not something that many people would even consider doing, but it can be incredibly romantic and can save you from missing what could be the opportunity of a life time. Here’s how to catch her eye, make sure she sees you and engage her in a conversation that will make the situation romantic instead of awkward.

1. Eye contact
Nearly every book, list or website you read about how men can connect better with women will mention eye contact. And they’re right. With the pretty lady you see on the street, make eye contact as soon as possible. Keep your eyes locked, too, so she knows that it wasn’t just chance that your eyes met. Once eye contact has been made, make sure she knows you are trying to get her attention. Wave, nod – something obviously attention getting.

2. Use your voice
If you’re on a loud street, you’ll need to speak up. Make sure the ends of your sentences aren’t getting lost in the noisy bustle around you. This is particular important if she’s a distance away and not near enough to hear you talking at a normal volume. Stay calm and keep your words simple so she can understand.

3. Don’t follow
You don’t want to rush after her. This displays neediness and might scare her. Instead, hold your ground and make sure she has heard you and has seen your eye contact. Compliment her so she’ll have a reason to slow down and engage you. If you need to, try complimenting a few random people throughout the day and seeing what kinds of responses you get. Note what works best so you’ll be prepared when the woman of your dreams strides past.

4. Use your hands
Incorporating hand gestures into your conversation will not only help her follow your conversation if you’re somewhere busy, but it will also keep her attention on you. On the street, it will be easy for her to get distracted, particularly if she isn’t totally convinced that it was worth stopping to talk. Use your hands to keep her eyes focused on you. Using your hands will also display confidence. Don’t keep them in your pockets with your shoulders slouched. You know what you want and you think she’ll want it, too. Make that clear.

5. Smile
There is nothing as welcoming and nonthreatening as a smile. You want to show her how excited you are by seeing her but also maintain a calm that assures her that you aren’t a nutcase. Just smile. Express your excitement and attraction to her with your grin. It will calm her down, welcome her to you, and engage her in conversation.

The trick with stopping a busy lady on the street is accessing your confidence and then, of course, not losing it. You have to stand your ground. Don’t run after her; your eye contact and waving should be bold enough to convince her to stop. From there, you know what to do. Flirt, compliment, engage. Make her so intrigued by you that she wants to know more. Don’t get too casual too quick – remember that you just met on the street and you don’t even know if she’s single – but if her body language is saying “yes,” go ahead and ask for a chance to see her again. Stopping someone on the street who catches your eye can seem a little trashy if you don’t handle yourself correctly. The trick is getting her attention and then letting her know how honorable and honest your intentions are. Click Here! for more dating guide.

Best 5 Ways to Pass a Woman’s Congruence Tests

2013-12-24T15:57:00.000+01:00

Society sees women as riding a constant emotional roller coaster. Men are afraid of women they see with this sort of inconsistency, but what they don’t realize is that some women portray themselves as more flighty than they really are. Why, you ask? To see how you, their prospective date, reacts. If you can put up with her exaggerating her fluctuating opinions and emotions, you can surely handle her in real life. And that’s the assurance she needs. Basically, it’s a test. Here’s how to pass it.
If you approach a woman you have your eye on and she throws you some fussy comment like, “Who the hell are you?” believe me when I say this doesn’t necessarily mean she’s not interested. There are five easy ways you can turn her rudeness into a flirtation and show her that you can handle a woman who is a little bitchy sometimes.

1. Flip the script
Getting a little catty, in a playful way, is more common among women than men, so saying something like, “Are you flirting with me?” will surprise and probably amuse her. It takes a little nerve but give it a try. If nothing else, it’ll soften her up.

2. Misinterpret
Few women are actually that rude, so just assume she’s testing you – teasing you, even. Purposefully take the statement as a come on. Respond with something like, “So you want to get to know me, huh?” She’ll be surprised and maybe taken aback at first, but ultimately she will be impressed by your smooth recovery and your playfulness.

3. Redirect
Instead of taking offense to the statement, take it for what it is: a little game. Respond with a compliment and tell her you think she’s cute or feisty. Again, she’ll be surprised and impressed. She’ll also be taken off guard so you can start flirting with her real self, not her testing self.

4. Ignore
Just brush it off. Continue with whatever plan you had. Or, pretend she said something different. “Nah, I don’t feel like dancing right now. I’d love to buy you a drink, though.” Don’t get caught up in her game; she really just wants to know that you won’t be scared away by it, she doesn’t need a sparring partner.

5. Play along
Another way to surprise her and turn the conversation onto a more positive road is to simply make the comment playful by playing along. “I could ask you the same!” meets her at her level of intensity and acknowledges her reluctance to engage you but turns the confrontation into something fun.
When you approach a woman with all the confidence you are able to summon up and she responds with a jagged comment, it is easy to get deflated. Just remember that she is testing you. Bounce back two or three times before giving up. Chances are that after you have proven you are up to the task of handling her emotional ups and downs, she’s going to be much more interested in you.Click Here! for more dating guide.

How to Overcome Your Fear of Approaching Women

2013-12-24T15:56:00.001+01:00

It’s natural for even the most confident man to be intimidated by approaching a woman they find attractive. In fact, the very fact that they intimidate probably has something to do with your attraction to them. Here are five simple ways to overcome the common fear that cripples many men on the dating scene. It takes practice, but achieving the confidence to approach a woman with a swagger and ask her out is something all men are capable of if they put their mind to it.

1. Mayor walking
How do you usually walk down the street? Looking in shop windows or down at your feet, talking on your cell phone or with headphones on? Try something different. Walk down a street in your town and say hi and smile to everyone you meet. Greet people you recognize and exchange a few words. With strangers, just say hi and give them a smile. There are no strings attached to this exercise. You will probably never see most of these people again and, if you do, it’s unlikely either of you will remember meeting. Use this exercise to inspire your confidence in approaching people.

2. Uncomfortable situations
Make a point, just once or twice, to put yourself in a situation that is a little awkward or downright uncomfortable. Start small if your fears are big. You will learn how you tend to handle this kind of social stress and you will learn what you need to do differently before and during the encounter to gain confidence. Don’t attach any outcome to the situation; just do it as an exercise.

3. Talking for the sake of talking
What intimidates men about approaching women is not the actual encounter – the greeting, the hello, the conversation – but the expected outcome or the unspoken assumptions about that outcome. It’s the risk, basically. By practicing approaching people with the intention of just chatting, with no strings attached and no assumptions about how the conversation will proceed, you can build your confidence for more stressful situations.

4. Practicing in daily life
Along with exercises like mayor walking and chatting with no strings attached, try bantering with waiters and servers and other employees at places you visit. They are used to customers chatting them up and it will give you more structured practice.

5. Get out and about
In general, one of the best ways to overcome shyness is simply getting out of the house and out of your regular routine and into the world where you will undoubtedly meet and talk to new people. Volunteering is a good way to do this, in fact. Whether you choose a food bank or an animal shelter, you will be meeting and talking with new people every day. Some of them will be women and some of these women you will be attracted to. The entire set up is perfect for easing yourself into approaching women with new found confidence.Click Here! for more dating guide.

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How to Make a Woman Approach You

2013-12-22T18:53:00.001+01:00

How many chances with a beautiful woman have already passed you by because you were either too afraid to approach her or were waiting for her to approach you? Too many, regardless of the number. If you’re a man who plays the suave card and makes a point of presenting a detached, aloof air, you’ll know all too well that your technique most often requires women to approach you instead of the other way around. To maintain your hip posture and still get dates, just make yourself known among everyone at the party or bar that you are at. It’s as simple as that. Once you are no longer socially mysterious, women can approach you with confidence.

1. Be on the move
Looking like you’ve got some place to be will help you move around the room and meet all who have arrived. Act as though you are hosting a party: there is always something to be checked on, somewhere to be, someone to greet. A casual greeting or a flirtatious joke with everyone you meet will make you well known throughout the room and easier to approach.

2. Keep yourself likable
Being gregarious can be obnoxious if not done correctly. Make sure you are proceeding with respect for each party you encounter and that your aim is to make sure you and everyone else is having a good time. If you arrive early in the evening, build up a rapport with the staff. Later on, they’ll remember your friendliness and the favors they toss you will be appreciated by all the patrons and attributed to your social prowess.

3. Find an advantageous location
It might seem foolish, but simply consciously choosing where you spend most of your time standing in the bar can make or break your social status. You want to be the friendly guy that everyone recognizes and likes by the end of the night. You can do this while maintaining your sexy charisma and, soon, the women who have had their eye on you all night will finally feel comfortable enough to approach you.

4. Talk to everyone
Remember that your goal is to be well known throughout the bar or party, regardless of whether there are groups or people who you usually wouldn’t talk to or would even actively avoid. Talk to anyone and everyone. While you might think the lady in the red dress is smokin’ and will never even notice you, if you are gregarious it is likely she will find you equally attractive and yet unapproachable. The key here is to demonstrate that while you are friendly, boisterous and hot, you aren’t elitist or snobby. Look too cool for school but make sure you include everyone in your rounds so that the women you have your eye on feels you are approachable.

5. Make your appearance notable
All the running around and greeting and socializing in the world won’t get you truly noticed if your appearance blends in. You want everyone to notice you and you want everyone to recognize you easily. Don’t go overboard: stay within your comfort zone fashion-wise and pick an outfit that suits and communicates your personality. Play up your good features. Maybe dress a little more formally than everyone else will be dressed so you look sexy and stand out from the pack just a little.
The most important thing you will need to become the life of the party is confidence in the spotlight. Whether you need a few practice runs to get into your groove or a few shots to set you on fire, once you are on you need to be ON. Done right, with confidence, swagger and friendliness, every woman in the room will want you. Then, of course, all you have to do is take your pick.

Play the game: Once you have gotten the attention of women in the room, flirt to build tension and make them want you more. Keep up your rounds and your gregarious personality, making sure to send a few favors when you have them to the particular woman you are interested in. If there’s not one woman in particular, don’t sweat it. You’ve got the social sway to keep a few women going. Enjoy your brief celebrity status as the go-to guy for curious partiers and the next big thing for all the single ladies. Click Here! for more dating guide.

Top 5 Ways You Can Tell if a Woman is Attracted to You

2013-12-22T18:49:00.001+01:00

It’s easy to tell when you are attracted to someone: the quickened heartbeat, the bodily stirring, the sudden desire to talk, to touch, to know her. But how can you tell if she likes you back? Some women are teases and like to lead men on. Other women simply are flirtatious and like to joke around with a lot of guys, regardless of whether they are attracted to or interested in them. All this makes it hard for a guy to figure out if the woman he has his eye on is checking him out, too. If you’ve ever thought of women as an entirely different species, here’s a little field guide to help you determine whether she’s interested in you or not.

1. Touch
Female friends touch each other often in conversation. Male friends, too, touch each other, sharing a pat on the back or high five now and then. In contrast, male/female friends rarely touch each other. Because of this, if the woman you have your eye on has been physically affectionate towards you – whether mussing up your hair or touching your hand lightly to draw your attention to something – this breach in male/female friendship behavior is a sign she is interested in more than just friendship.

2. Pupil Dilation
This one is entirely biological and can be backed up by science. One of the first symptoms of attraction and arousal is dilated pupils. If you notice her pupils grow when she sees you or when you are flirting, take it as a sign she’s interested.

3. Leaning In
The way a woman interacts with you is full of clues to her level of attraction. Leaning towards you or against you is a good sign. With leaning, a woman can initiate closeness and physical contact without making a blunt move. One of these times when she is leaning towards you, just slip your arm around her shoulders.

4. Buying Drinks
Buying a lady a drink is the quintessential way a male expresses his interest in a woman. Now and then, a woman will take this practice into her own hands but turn the tables on you. While it’s counter to tradition, the implication is still the same: She’s got her eye on you.

5. Seeking Attention
Put simply, a woman who is interested in you will want your attention. Few women will try to get your attention obnoxiously, so look for subtlety.
Don’t underestimate the shyness some women might have, though. If a woman isn’t reciprocating but simply staying neutral, don’t take it as a negative sign. Consider it for what it is: neutral. Keep at it until you either see a negative sign, in which case you know she is not interested, or a positive sign, in which case you’ll know exactly what to do. Click Here! for more dating guide.

Ways to Get that First Kiss

2013-12-22T18:48:00.001+01:00

Men and women alike have plenty of horror stories to tell about their very first kiss. By the time we reach the dating scene, though, we’re well past the initial awkwardness of two people’s lips touching, and the main worries are what her reaction will be and if it’s the right moment. Trust your gut. Be aware of her body language and analyze your own desires. Chances are, you’ll know exactly when to kiss her. Now here’s how to do it.

1. Man up
Boys shuffle their feet and avoid eye contact before darting in for a surprise kiss. Men look into a woman’s eyes, knows she wants him as much as he wants her, and takes that little risk to lean in and kiss her on the lips. Man up. Women don’t want a boy, too timid and unsure to get what he wants.

2. Watch her eyes
One of the telltale signs of a woman waiting to be kissed is if she is glancing from your eyes to your lips. The moment a woman realizes she wants to kiss a man, she becomes fascinated with his lips and entranced by his eyes. Her eyes will dart from each of your eyes to your lips and back again, in a triangular shape. Watch for the signs. You’ll know when.

3. Hold her hand
Kissing is a very intimate form of touch. To ease that first contact, make sure you have touched her hand or shoulder sometime before or during conversation or flirtation. If you haven’t touched her much yet, take her hand before looking up into her eyes. You don’t need to do anything special with that hand; just hold it softly, and then look her in the eye. You’ll be able to tell if she wants it.

4. Start with a cheek kiss
If cuddling and closeness has preceded the kissing moment, placing a kiss on her cheek or temple is a good way to ease into the more intimate mouth kiss. Because a kiss on the cheek is seen as a casual and adorable act, it will lighten the mood and help her relax, too. It’s a display of gentleness and will show her that you are into her specifically, not just into what might happen later on.

5. Whisper in her ear.
Like kissing her on the cheek, a quiet whisper in her ear will tell her in a gentle, romantic way that you want to kiss her more intimately. You don’t have to say anything particularly romantic during the whisper; in fact, you don’t actually have to say anything at all. Simple placing your mouth close to her ear and breathing softly will, if she’s into it, send shivers up her spine and make her want that kiss as much as you do.
The thing that stops most men from leaning in for that first taste of sweetness is the fear that once rejected, they will be forever in the doghouse. For most women, though, this isn’t how it works. If your lips land on a woman’s cheek the first time you lean in to kiss her, take it in stride. Read her reaction. Is she disgusted or just unsure for the moment? Often times, if she doesn’t excuse herself right then and there, she will be ready for your first kiss just a little while later. Stick around, continue being gentle and loving, listening attentively and accustoming her to being touched.

Remember, always, that a kiss, while just the first step in what will hopefully be a very exciting night, is a very intimate action. An evening of flirting and casual touching will help ease the transition to suddenly touching lips, but it will always be a little nerve wracking. Isn’t that what makes it thrilling in the first place? Ease your lady into being touched by you, make sure she knows you can and want to be gentle with her, and don’t get scared away if she’s not quite ready the first time you lean in.

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The Best Ways to Keep a Conversation Going

2013-12-20T14:55:00.002+01:00

Guys, here’s the bottom line: If you can’t keep a conversation going, you can’t be a badass with women. The good news is… with consistent effort and practice, you can master this skill. Don’t worry if you don’t have a natural “gift of gab.” With consistent effort and practice over time, you can get better results with women than your silver-tongued brethren. That’s because you’ve developed a core foundation of skills for any situation you’ll encounter.

If you have multiple ways to sustain a conversation, it creates more curiosity in the mind of a woman. She’ll be thinking to herself: “I wonder what he’s gonna say next?” This keeps her guessing, and wards off the biggest enemy and attraction-killer for a woman: Boredom. You may not be “The Most Interesting Man In The World” from the Dos Equis commercials, but you’ll be a lot more interesting than most guys who don’t practice these conversation keys.

Let’s get started – here are the top 5 ways to keep a conversation going:

1. Ask genuine, non-threatening questions
Most women are wary of PUA games, tactics or weird language from guys. If you try any of these tricks and they aren’t congruent with your personality, at the best you’re probably off to a bad start – and at the worst, she’s mentally blown you off. The best way to set yourself apart from other guys is to ask authentic questions… without an agenda or hidden motive. A woman needs to trust and feel safe around you before she’s willing to spend more time in a conversation. Real badasses don’t rely on canned lines, they have the confidence to express genuine opinions and questions.

2. Observe and be perceptive
When you get in the habit of paying attention to your surroundings – people, places and things – you’ll almost never run out of things to say. It’s a rare man who actually does this, and it’s a very attractive trait to women. Just make sure whatever you say is accurate and genuine, and you don’t have an agenda behind it. Women have built-in, finely-tuned BS detectors, and if she feels you’re not being truthful with her (or you’re saying something just to get her into bed)… it’s game over, and you’re done.

3. Don’t let her see you sweat, keep it light
Most women spend a lot of time worrying about any number of topics. A guy who can keep her mind off the worries of the world is someone she’ll want to spend more time with. Big-screen badasses like Clint Eastwood, Sylvester Stallone or John Wayne never looked worried, and were able to handle whatever situations that came up. And they added an occasional dose of good humor to show they were in control. A woman will follow your social lead, based on how you come across and make her feel. Women like being around guys who make them feel safe and secure – and you can do this by staying calm, cool and relaxed.

4. Be an active listener
One of the best ways to keep a conversation going isn’t by being the smoothest talker, or monopolizing the conversation – but instead, being the best listener. This may not come easily or naturally to you at first – especially if you’re an extrovert, or are nervous in social situations. Even if you have to bite your tongue waiting for someone to finish their thought or ideas, do it. People like other people who let them talk, and women will respect and appreciate you more. When you practice being an active listener, you’ll become more relaxed in all social situations.

5. Stay “present” and in the moment
As guys, we think about a lot of things: The idiot that cut us off in traffic… what time tonight’s game starts… or what band is playing this weekend – and we don’t focus on the person or situation right in front of us. We tend to be “up in our head,” or nervous, thinking about what has or might happen – or what an attractive woman might think of us. This mental chatter prevents you from being truly focused on the person or conversation at hand. For women it’s called being “present,” and it’s absolutely HUGE.

A female friend of mine said: “Being present is EVERYTHING.” This means you’re truly engaged in a conversation, contributing and giving genuine feedback. You aren’t nodding like a bobble head doll, or mindlessly saying “uh-huh” or “yeah” every so often. Women aren’t fooled at all when you do this. You’ll appear lazy or apathetic, and she definitely won’t think you’re a badass.

Like anything, you’ll have to put in time and effort to develop this skill – but the payoff in better business and personal relationships is HUGE. It’s the social equivalent of hitting a million-dollar jackpot in Vegas.

Conversation is just one of the skills needed to be a Badass with women. If you try to learn these skills and attitudes on your own without any guidance, you’re in for a long, ego-bruising journey (like I went through). Don’t try and “re-invent the wheel” when it comes to your social life. I don’t believe in gimmicks, games or PUA tricks (which always fail in the long-run). I do believe in good, solid information that can help you become the rare man who can attract – and keep – a quality woman in your life. Click Here! to check out the Tao of Badass book and members area, and give yourself the well-deserved gift of great relationships with the opposite sex.

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How to make out with a girl in 40 seconds or less – for real

2013-12-20T14:34:00.002+01:00

If you've ever seen a guy in a bar walk up to a girl he didn't know and make out with her almost immediately, it can be a completely mind-blowing experience. It may seem like it's magical or out of reach - a special ability or super-power that someone is born with.

But it's not. And it can be broken down into a few simple steps you can follow in order to make the same thing happen for you. In this article, I'm going to break down those steps.

The first step is to realize that about 90% of the difference between someone who's really good with women and someone who's not so good or mediocre with women, is the ability to spot a woman who's ready to make out.

I know it sounds kind of crazy at first, but it's true. If you walk into a bar and go up to any woman without knowing what signs to look for, your odds of success go WAY down.

You must know how to spot that woman who's already in this "make-out ready" state, so you can walk up and be "that guy."

Don't buy into the myth that women don't want this to happen.

Women are as sexual (if not more sexual) than guys are. Most of the time, this "turbo" make-out session never happens, because so many guys are afraid to go for it. And when this doesn't happen, the girls end up going home alone or worse.. staying being kind of mean to a lot of guys in the bar/being resentful and angry because no one's approaching them.

By putting this technique into practice, You want to discover how to see the women who you're able to make out with in 40 seconds or less in the first place.

There are a few excellent indicators that will (especially in a bar atmosphere) tell you if a woman is game, or ready for an instant make-out session.

What To Look For

The first indicator is a woman looking down often. When a woman looks down often, she is accessing her emotions.

Let me explain... When we look in different directions, we access different parts of our brain. These are called "Eye Accessing Cues." When a woman is in a bar setting and looking down, she's accessing her emotional brain.

If she makes eye contact with you, looks down then back up again, she's saying: "I have an emotional response to you looking at me and I'm looking down." And if she tilts her head down as well (and doesn't just use her eyes to look down), she's physically dropping herself a little bit lower and showing submission.

This gives you the ability to walk up and be the dominant man.

Now, if she looks at you, smiles and doesn't look away, this could be a lot more difficult situation. Socially, she's meeting you head on, and not showing immediate submission.

Women who you're going to be able to walk up to and make out with in 40 seconds or less should automatically take the submissive role as a woman. That's one quality which shows you'll be able to quickly make out with her.

Another quality is that she's actively looking around to make eye contact. This is crucial. A woman who is engaged with someone specifically and she's not looking away is not going to be as easy to seduce in 40 seconds or less. It's going to take much longer.

Again, you're going to have to play a totally different kind of game when you walk up. You can't just walk up and make out with her.

So instead, if you see a woman who is in a conversation but she's constantly looking around and trying to make eye contact with a lot of people, this is probably a very, very likely opportunity for you and that's a woman you can walk up to and immediately become sexual with.

Other traits are revealed in the way they're moving and how they're dressed. Let's say she's standing with her feet about shoulder-width apart. It's less likely that a woman standing like this is going to be available for you to walk up and dominate. That's because she's standing in a dominant position, with stronger body language and she'll probably be a lot more resistant.

Instead, you want to find a woman who takes up less space. She has her legs closer together and seems to be outside of a group, looking around a little bit.

Another thing is the way she's dressed. If she's dressed in a way that's super flashy and attracting lots of attention, she probably isn't the kind of girl you can walk up to and make out with in 40 seconds.

This kind of women is looking for attention - not for someone to dominate them. What you want is someone who's in between "I don't care" and "Stare at my tits, bitch!" Somewhere between wearing sweatpants with an elastic waistband to the bar and done up really, really beautiful and sexy with a really low-cut shirt. You want to find someone who's in between those two extremes.

A lot of women who are on vacation fall into this realm. They don't want to over dress or under dress, and don't know how the bar atmosphere is going to be. They'll usually come in open-minded, and start looking around trying to make connections. This is an excellent situation for you (and her, of course).

That's what to look for and how you spot her in the first place. If you see some of those, you want to watch her for a second. If you think that she is the kind of person you can walk up to and do this, then proceed.

If not, I'd actually suggest you proceed anyway, just to see what happens.

Next, right after you get that done and you've seen your girl (there are probably three or four of these girls in a bar at any given moment) you're going to walk up and start the scary part.

What To Do

This is where the most powerful kind of frame control comes in. It's very, very important that you understand how to control someone else's frame if you want to come across like you're a pro at this.

By "frame," I basically mean their "reality." You're controlling what they experience. You have to be able to stay in control of that experience in order to really bring her to the level where she feels comfortable making out with you immediately.

I'm going to give you a very quick, punchy, fast way of doing this. I'll explain as quick as possible; that way you can go straight out and try it...

Here's what I would say, word-for-word... Walk up to a girl, when you get up to her and right when she makes eye contact with you, I want you to SLOWLY put your finger up by your lips and say this, "Shhh…"

Then slow your speech pattern down and deepen your vocal tonality. And immediately say, "Wait just one moment."

You can also say, "Stop for one minute." I suggest using a bit of NLP here. Whenever someone hears "stop," "wait," or "don't," they immediately register whatever comes after that.

So if I say, "Don't think of a black cat," what do you do? Immediately, you think of a black cat and whatever version of one you have in your head.

So if I said, "Don't try to make out with me," or "Don't make out with me right now," girls are going to be consciously hearing, "Don't make out with me," but their subconscious minds will be hearing, "Make out with me right now!"

You're attempting to sort of use real-life Inception to get making-out with you to be HER idea. She should be thinking, "I should make out with this guy."

Now, during frame control you'll be using a lot of these subconscious triggers in order to get this to go as fast as possible. Please only use this for good. There are lots of evil ways to use this.

Don't try to seduce women who don't want to be seduced. Again, that's one of the reasons why it's important that you notice a woman who really does want to be seduced by a man.

So to recap so far: you walk up, you put your finger over your lips and you tell her to "Shhh" for a second and then you say a sentence that starts with "don't" or "wait" or "stop."

My typical is "Don't worry... right now." That's all I say. And I slow that speech down – "Don't…worry…....... right now."

Then I go right into the next statement, which is, "You and I are going to have a secret. We're going to secretly kiss and no one will know."

And as I'm saying this, I'm leaning in... and you'll be doing the same when you do it. You're leaning in ever... so... slowly. At the same time, you're looking from her eyes down to her lips and back up to her eyes again.

This is called "Triangulating." Count to three looking at her eyes, then look down to her lips and count to two, look back up and count to three, look down and count to two... etc. Do that about three or four times as you're talking.

This can be a lot to remember, so you may want to practice it a little bit. I wouldn't expect you're going to get it perfect the first time.

So again, you say, "We're going to have a secret. We're going to kiss and no one is going to know." From here on out, you're really just filling up space with words as you're leaning in so you're still controlling the interaction.

So you're going to very, very slowly, take your right or left hand – whichever one is more accessible – and reach around her back. You won't pull her in toward you or anything yet, just touch her very lightly.

Signs That It's Working

Is she looking at your lips? If she's looking at your lips, you have a green light to go forward. If she's looking at your eyes, you may want to wait a second, or turn around and turn back again and try it again.

This resets the meter in her mind, so to speak. When you turn around and turn back again, most people consider this to be a fresh start in a conversation. It's a strange loop-hole in psychology.

For some reason, that's how we are as humans. When someone turns away then turns back, we give them another chance moving forward. So if you're getting some resistance, turn around, turn back, smile, and continue. If she gives you resistance again, you probably should back off and find another woman.

If she's looking at your lips and seems to be very comfortable and excited, then proceed. You'll move in very closely and speak almost directly into her ear.

!Important!

In a loud environment like a bar, you'll want to speak louder, but don't raise your voice. Make your voice very low so that you have to be very, very close to her ear for her to hear.

Then you're going to keep talking... What I usually say is, "No one is going to see this. It's just going to be our little secret. I promise I won't tell anybody only if you promise that you won't tell anybody either."

As I'm saying this into her ear, I make sure that she's feeling my breath on her neck. So I'm sort of breathing out a little bit more than normal as I'm speaking so she can feel that hot air on her neck.

This usually gets a very visceral, deep, sexual response from women when you do this.

As you're speaking really close to her ear, you'll, very slowly, press your cheek against hers as you're talking. Then you'll move you head over so that your mouth is closer to hers, and then... you'll start kissing her.

And if you do this right, you start out with just one soft peck... then go straight into making out. It may not seem like it in this description, but 40 seconds is a long time. This process can happen in a lot less than 40 seconds - I've done it in less time, and I've seen other guys do it, too.

Practice It

What I want you to do is practice this approach. Maybe go for a minute or two at first, and then get to where you can do this in about 40 (or even 30) seconds.

You won't use this tactic all the time. But when the opportunity is right, it's really good to have this in your seduction arsenal. You want to make sure that you have the right kind of tools for the job, so to speak.

Whenever you see a girl who's in that state and ready to be seduced, if you beat around the bush, engage in small talk or generally waste time, she'll be turned off and you've lost a golden seduction opportunity.

Instead, when you spot this, you want to be able to see her, know that that's what she wants, go in, and give it to her immediately. This is the major difference between guys who are rock stars at walking up and seducing a woman... and guys who wish that they were great at quickly seducing a woman.

There are a lot of other success factors as well. There are techniques on how to speak with the right tonality... how to touch her that allows her to feel comfortable and doesn't turn off any of her weird alert switches... specific NLP triggers that you can use to connect and make sure she's totally in your zone.

What's taken me from a normal dude to a well-respected dating coach, is knowing a lot of short-cuts like this and knowing when to bring them out. And these short-cuts can also improve your game with women.

Remember these characteristics in women who want to be seduced, and remember – it is possible to make out with a woman in 40 seconds or less.

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What makes an average looking guy instantly become "hot"?

2013-12-20T14:32:00.003+01:00

If you talk to any number of super hot girls and approach them, you will start to see one thing over and over - she is going to test you. If you fail these tests, you will not not hook up with her. Period. You will join the piles of men she's had to reject because they weren't confident enough.
The GOOD news is, that there is a way to pass these tests nearly 100% of the time.

Most really hot girls' tests are enough to make men run away with their tails between their legs. If you know the technique to passing, then you are going to be in the VERY small percentage of guys who make it through her defenses and are actually a sexual candidate.

If you don't know this one secret technique, you will fail these tests and never gain entrance into the world of attracting and sleeping with truly beautiful women.

These tests can be one of two types: compliance tests or congruence tests. Today, we are talking about compliance tests. First, let me explain a bit more about these tests and WHY hot women NEED them.

A compliance test is an act or a statement that checks to see if you are going to do whatever she wants. If you comply, she will have gained control over the conversation, the interaction, and you. It seems like they want you to fail these tests so they have the power, right?

Fortunately, that is not the case. When women give compliance tests, they really do want you to pass them. It is their way of filtering out a truly confident, attractive guy from the rest. It may sound strange, but beautiful women honestly can't just look at a guy an say "he's good looking, therefore he's attractive." They need much more because they are approached by so many different types of guys. A really attractive girl will get hit on 10-15 times A DAY.

That's 3,650 times a year (conservatively) that an attractive woman is hit on. She will start to see patterns in the ways guys behave if they are actually confident or not, and that has nothing to do with looks.

The compliance test is really a test to see whether or not they're going to be able to get away with whatever they want. Why you want to test this? Well, they want to find out whether or not you're used to beautiful women hitting on you or whether or not you're used to being with beautiful women.

This is a very crucial concept. If you are used to being with beautiful women, you will not bend over backwards for a beautiful woman just because she wants something. Instead, you will respond in a way that sort of puts the compliance back on her.

Beautiful women are guaranteed to give you compliance tests and if you fail the compliance tests, you are guaranteed not to attract them. So it's very crucial that you learn this.

How do you recognize compliance tests? Basically, look for any demand that she gives you within a short time of meeting that seems small, but gets you to follow.

One very classic compliance test is "buy me a drink."

Women go for throat here when you're in the bar because they don't have a whole lot of time to figure out who is attracted and who is confident, who's not. How you respond to "buy me a drink" is very crucial when you're in a bar.

There are other small things like "why don't you wait here while I go to the bathroom." or "give me a kiss on the cheek" or even "will you take a picture for us?"

Anything that seems kind of harmless is typically a compliance test especially if it's from a really beautiful woman and you don't want to deny the compliance test, what you want to do is take control over it and add your own terms.

For example, if someone says, "Take our pictures." Then you will say, "okay, I will but I want you to take one picture for you and one picture of how I ask you to take it." So if they refused to do this, and you go, "Alright, well find some other guy."

You will actually find some other guy to take the camera and say, "Hey man, can you take their picture?" And you just have them take your picture.
But usually they will say okay fine, you take the picture and you go "okay, now I want you to give me a sexy look." Then take their picture. "Okay now, make a silly face", take a picture. And continue to make them do different pictures as long as you can think of them.

Essentially what you're doing now is you are getting compliance from them. This is crucial. This is called flipping the script and you will hear a lot about this. Flipping the script is one of the most powerful things that you can do to a woman that you don't know and it will create a massive amount of intrigue and a massive amount of attraction that will be built.

So from now on, know and recognize when women is giving you a compliance test. Don't stop and don't reject the compliance test. Add your own terms.

When you start doing this, you are going to see the truly beautiful women in the bar start to treat you in a completely different way. You can actually watch other guys approach, get shot down and see it ruin their nights as you can easily navigate the sea of compliance tests and come out looking like a rockstar, making her more and more attracted to you since you're the kind of guy who won't just do exactly what she wants.

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Avoid Any "Awkward Silence" With This 1 Bizarre Trick

2013-12-20T14:28:00.003+01:00

"I've heard this tragic story far too many times..."

You can feel this excruciating moment coming on from a mile away.

The conversation with this cute girl started off great. She's smiling, laughing, clearly becoming more interested and more attracted as you continue.

Then...it happens.

Call it a brain fart, a blank mind, a loss for words. The only thing that matters is, it brings the conversation to a complete hault and you can feel her attraction levels for you dropping faster than a drunk girl in stilletos.

So what can you do to pull the conversational nose-dive back into the high flying interaction it was?

You dig into your toolbox. Your social toolbox, that is.

I'll share with you my absolute favorite conversation-saving tool.

This is a guaranteed way to save any conversation with a girl, PLUS it's so perfectly constructed, that it easily allows for sexual innuendo to get her mind "in the right place" while still being in the context of pure, NON-NEEDY and FUN banter.

It's a little game I like to call "FMK" and it will be your new best friend.

When you deploy the FMK game, any drooping conversation will instantly be turned around.

You will leap beyond the average lame guys who approach her with the same old boring pickup lines and dull conversations.

So it goes like this:

When you start to run out of things to say, just as you can feel that her attraction is about to start dipping down...

You turn to her, and you say:

"Hey, let's play a game real quick."

Watch as her eyes sparkle with curiosity. This is a departure from the normal night-time drivel she's used to dealing with. She will almost certainly invite you to proceed.

Continue to the game. Start to glance around the room, assessing the other guys you see and start to point them out one by one, and asking her "ok, so would you fuck, marry or kill him?"

She'll laugh at first. Then she'll look over at your target and size him up.

Choose different types of guys representing the spectrum of personality types and behaviors.

A jock. A douchebag. A nerd. A handsome debonair type. A bad-boy rocker. A business guy.

This will do a few things:

1) You will get an insight into what she values in a man, and how she operates. She will give very direct clues to how she wants to be seduced.

If she says "fuck" to the rocker dude, "marry" to the nerdy guy, and "kill" to the guy in a suit...then you can guess that she's got a wild side, she doesn't like guys with a lot of structure, and she's a secret nerd.

Think about that... she'll basically be giving you a HUGE hint into how to seduce her.

If you know the 4 things that every girl needs to know before she thinks about sleeping with a guy, it will pretty much be deal-closer.

More on that in a few...

2) You can continue bantering and teasing her. This is so crucial to the first stage of the interaction.

Keep conversation light, non-needy (teasing her playfully) and fun!

Make fun and silly projections about who you guess she'd fuck, marry and kill.

It will be remarkably easy as she's alternating between giggling at her own qwerky tastes, cringing at the dopey guys, and switching to her "ooh la la" voice with the guys that turn her on.

3) Which brings me to my next point...SHE WILL GET TURNED ON.

Remember, you are asking her to bring the thought "who do I want to fuck?" into her mind, and all in the context of an experience that was generated by and shared with you...and only you.

4) Finally...she will see that you are 100% confident in your sexuality and your ability to attract women. You can confidently discuss the theoretical thought of her sleeping with other men, and that doesn't threaten you.

99.99% of dudes would be terrified to even suggest that she even look at another guy when he's talking to her!

Your confidence here will be very, very sexy to women.

After playing this game for even a few minutes, she will be extremely turned on by your creativity, your playfulness, and your confidence...

This sets you up PERFECTLY to transition into the next stage of interaction, build upon the sexual energy in this game, especially if you've been properly mixing in the right "sexual triggers" that all women have.

This is part of the 4 things that every girl needs to decide to sleep with a guy.

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Cheers,

Joshua Pellicer

PS FMK is a great tool to have in your toolbox. There are several others that will absolutely make meeting women a breeze when you go out.

"The Free Drink Technique" and "The Kiss Technique" are a couple that changed my life forever when I discovered them.

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Kiss Technique

2013-12-20T14:26:00.004+01:00

You're about to learn, hands down, the best way to successfully get a girl to kiss you without fear of rejection. In the advanced version of this technique, you can even get the girl you're talking to to lean in to kiss you!

So if you've ever been afraid of getting rejected going for a kiss OR you've gotten "the cheek" you know why having a rock-solid technique to moving in for the kiss is 100% crucial.

Going in for the kiss is probably the worst place to face rejection in an interaction with a girl because:

1) You've invested a lot of TIME by this point in the interaction, and there simply isn't enough time in your night to get this far and then hit a brick wall and have to move on.

2) Screwing up this part of the interaction can ruin all chances of moving on from here to seduction.

Most guys don't have the chance to learn how to perfect going for a kiss because it happens so infrequently!

Even on a good night, most guys will typically find one girl they hit it off with at the bar where a kiss is probably even a possibility.

So normally, you'd have to face a lot of these rejections one by one to learn the best way to successfully go in for a kiss.

But luckily, I've already gone through all those failures for you (until I discovered this killer technique), and can present the best way to avoid failure and shortcut right to success.

Sound good?

The Kiss Technique makes it so that when you're speaking to a woman, you can intentionally give off subconscious triggers that will make her think about kissing you!

Pretty powerful stuff...

If you use this technique, suddenly making a woman want to kiss you will be something you have control over.

If you decide to "wing it" in the stage like most guys, however, you're going to run into problems...

First, you won't know how physically receptive she is to kissing you. A tried and true rule to go by is this:

Your hesitation = Her reservation

So the more you hesitate, the worse your chances get, because she starts to build up all sorts of red flags and reservations.

When you go to lean in for the kiss and you don't do it the right way at the right time, you'll come off as needy (like you don't have a lot of options with women) because if you did have a lot of options, you wouldn't be worrying about the kiss with this girl.

So how do we show that you are absolutely NOT needy (even if you kind of feel like you are) and provide a way so that you will not fear rejection because you will know for sure ahead of time that she is wanting to kiss you?

We use what's called The Kiss Technique.

This involves combining two psychological concepts into a perfect recipe for mastering the kiss.

The first concept is called triangular gazing.

This will happen while you have built rapport and are looking to move into seduction. It involves looking from one eye to another, then looking at her mouth.

When you start looking at her mouth, you will subconsciously start to think about kissing her, because this action is already anchored to the thought of kissing someone.

Even if you look at a woman you're not attracted to and look at her mouth, you can start to think about kissing her, and you will become MORE attracted to her.

The good news is...the same happens for women.

The even BETTER news is...you can lead her to subconsciously start to do this and feel more attracted. How?

By using the second half of the recipe...another psychological concept called Mirroring.

Whenever we are in conversation with someone, we will mirror the leader of the conversation in an attempt to build subconscious rapport with them.

When you perfectly combine triangular gazing and mirroring, you have a combination that will make her subconsciously think about kissing you.

After talking with her in rapport, start to look at her mouth. At first, only for 2 seconds, then look back to her eyes. Switch between her left and right eye, then back to her mouth for a few seconds longer.

Continue to go from left to right eye and back to her mouth for 2 seconds, 3 seconds, then 5 seconds.

Eventually, you want to be mostly looking at her mouth.

When she begins to look at your mouth as well, you know for sure that she's ready to kiss you.

Voila! The Kiss Technique takes all of the guess work out of "making a move".

You will now know with confidence when she wants to kiss you, and get to be the fully assertive but perceptive man that women find irresistibly sexy.

She will feel like you know exactly how to treat a woman and feel safe and confident moving on with you.

Now, if you want to take this technique to the next level and make it so that girls will be leaning in to you and basically begging you to kiss them, you only have to know one magical sentence.

Learn more about the Kiss Technique and the bizarre, magical sentence that activates her "sexual triggers" and makes her lean and practically beg you for the kiss.
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Top 5 Ways Men Kill Attraction

2013-12-20T12:57:00.002+01:00

Just as important as knowing what to do in flirting and dating situations is knowing what not to do. You can follow every piece of good advice you get about how to act around women, but if you just add those to your repertoire and don’t weed out things that are dragging you down, you’re not going to see much success.

1. Don’t talk in depth about past relationships
Mentioning your ex is okay if it’s applicable to the conversation but avoid getting into the past relationship conversation at all. Stay present! Do you want to hear about all her past lovers?! Neither does she!

2. Don’t avoid eye contact
Eye contact is the way humans connect. By avoiding eye contact, you are giving up one of the oldest signs of confidence and even dominance. This is primal stuff – evolutionary even. Looking her in the eye when you ask her questions and when she responds shows her that you are confident in yourself, that you’re truly interested in her and that you are a big enough man to engage emotionally.

3. Don’t keep your hands to yourself
While we’re taught that touching other people should only be done in intimate settings, friendly touch is a great way to portray confidence and connect with your prospective date. Keep it nice and platonic; rest assured that if you play it right, you’ll get to the sexual touching later. Shake her hand when you greet her. Touch her on the arm to point something out. Tap her on the shoulder to emphasis a punch line or a compliment.

4. Don’t devalue yourself
If you go into the situation believing she is too good for you, you’ve already lost the game. No matter how much you swagger, she’ll be able to sense that you are unsure of yourself and lack confidence. If you can’t even summon up the confidence and self worth to approach an attractive woman to ask her on a date, you need to be working on your self image, learning to appreciate and value who you are, and taking a break from the dating scene.

5. Don’t ignore her body language and reactions
Barreling forward with your carefully planned flirtation strategy might make you feel truly prepared for once, but you’ll fail for one simple reason: Attraction is about both you AND her. If you try one technique and it falls flat, don’t just reach into your toolbox and try something else. Note her reaction to your first attempt. What went wrong? Did she pull away? Did she give you a look? Determine whether you came on too strong or didn’t portray enough confidence, or if you have offended her or simply not piqued her interest.
So, remember, no matter how many tricks and techniques you learn, if you aren’t present in the moment, observing and connecting with her, you aren’t going to have any luck. Men who have a long history of failed flirtations sometimes grab onto what they believe will be miracle fixes. This list of things to avoid doing will guide you in the right direction, but if you aren’t relaxed and gauging her body language and the way she is reacting to your come-ons, you’re going to go home alone tonight. No woman wants a man who is so caught up in himself and his own plans that he forgets to engage in the moment he is sharing with her.
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How To Get Girls To Do ANYTHING You Want

2013-12-12T12:41:00.000+01:00

I want to talk about the Rule of Reciprocity today: an extremely powerful sales technique that plays on our nature as human beings.

Basically, the Rule states that when you give something to someone for "free," they're going to feel OBLIGATED to do something for you in return ... even if it's something of much greater value.

There are many ways to apply this Rule to women, and to make them feel "indebted" to you (in a good way).

The problem is, most guys do things for women CONSTANTLY and get NOTHING in return.

A student of mine, Gary, recently returned to the dating scene after breaking up with his girlfriend. He's a smart, funny guy.

He didn't have a problem with meeting new girls, getting phone numbers, and lining up dates ...

But Gary had a pattern of being blown off by girls AFTER the first or second date.

This always surprised him. He thought these dates went pretty well, and that he was laying solid groundwork. He expected to see the girls again.

But when trying to line up the second or third date, he would run into resistance.

The girls wouldn't return his calls, or they would make up an excuse about how "busy" they were.

Worst of all, some girls hit him with the dreaded line, "You're a really great guy, but I just like you as a friend."

(Which is chick-speak for, "you might as well give up, buddy, I'd sleep with my brother before I'd ever bang you.")

So, I asked Gary to tell us what his idea of a typical date consisted of.

He told us about his most recent effort, with a girl named Mandy. On the first date, he spent $100 taking her to lunch at a nice sushi restaurant.

On the second date, he took her to dinner and a movie. He chose one of the best Italian restaurants in town, ordered them a bottle of wine, and spent $250 on the evening.

At the end of the night she just gave him a hug goodnight, but Gary figured he was IN with this girl.

He assumed that on the NEXT date he would seal the deal... he just had to "play it cool."

But when he called her to schedule date #3, she told him she was "really busy" and wouldn't be able to see him that week. So he called her the week after that and left a message.

Two weeks later, and she still hasn't called him back...

Gary was confused and disappointed. He was racking his brain trying to figure out if he did something wrong. It just didn't seem to make sense ...

"You'd think she would be appreciative!" he complained to us. Gary knew that her ex-boyfriend had been broke all the time. His idea of "dining out" was taking her to Taco Bell.

And now along came generous Gary, taking her to fancy restaurants, spending money on her...you would think she would be grateful, right?

WRONG.

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Put it this way. Have you ever gone out for a meal with an acquaintance (not a close friend), and at the end of the meal, they grabbed the check and insisted on paying?

It's a pretty hefty bill, and you expected you would be splitting the cost ... but they insisted on paying, and wouldn't take your money.

When someone does this for us, we feel appreciative, but we also feel slightly uncomfortable -- because we feel indebted.

You feel like you want to buy THEM a meal, or something, as soon as possible.

Owing someone is an uncomfortable feeling.

This is where Gary went wrong. He was spending hundreds of dollars on a girl he was just getting to know.

He thought he was impressing her with his generosity, but it had the opposite effect. After that $250 date, she gave him a hug goodnight and got out of there, because the fact that Gary was spending that much money on her made her feel uncomfortable.

When a guy shells out a substantial amount of money on a first or second date, and he hasn't hooked up with the girl yet, it can backfire on multiple levels.

She's thinking, "If he's spending this much money on dinner, he probably expects me to put out at the end of the night..."

Or she's thinking, "There's no way I'm sleeping with him tonight. If I do, he'll think I can be bought and paid for... and that would make me slutty ... "

By the way, this a woman's "ASDM" (Anti-Slut Defense Mechanism) kicking in...

And meanwhile, he's thinking, "I better get more than a kiss on the cheek after all this. She just ordered a $40 entree!"

And so, underneath the pleasant dinner conversation, neither person is totally comfortable with the situation because it's been burdened with expectations.

As a Mack, you've got to keep women in a comfort zone. You never want her to think you EXPECT anything.

You project the sense that you are a man with many options. You send the message that SHE needs to impress YOU if she's going to deserve more of your time in the future.

Spending more than $50 on a first or second date, or taking women to elaborate places, suggests that YOU are the one who is trying to impress.

It also telegraphs your interest, and when you do this, women stop viewing you as a challenge.

So instead of taking her to dinner on a first date, meet up for a drink or coffee. Hang out. Let her grow more and more comfortable with you, stimulate her attraction triggers, and work the process.

Once you've hooked up with her, and decided she might be a "keeper," THEN you can take her out to a nice dinner. Think of it as "rewarding" her.

When it comes to spending cash on women -- whether it's paying for a drink at the bar, or buying an expensive gift for a girl you're in a relationship with--always think of it as a reward.

She has earned it because she has proved herself WORTHY of your time and money.

This is just one aspect of creating the new MINDSET that is going to make you incredibly confident & successful with women.

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Remember: Guys who flash money to women doesn't make you original. To women, you're just a dime a dozen. In fact, it's the guys who know how to cut through the small talk, and stimulate a woman's emotions and imagination, who never go home alone.

Increase Your Chances Of Getting Laid By 97%

2013-12-12T12:36:00.000+01:00

When you're trying to score with a woman, you've got to eliminate her feelings of UNCERTAINTY.

Women have all kinds of reasons to NOT talk to us, to NOT give us their phone number, to NOT go on a date, and to NOT have sex with us.

And a lot of this is because they don't feel SECURE with you yet.

So here's a real fast tip if you want to take a woman on a date...

Don't offer to pick her up. This might set off "red flags" in her mind. If she barely knows you, she might not want you to know where she lives.

This is understandable. A lot of guys (not like you) have stalker-ish tendencies, and maybe she's been through this with a guy before. Or maybe she knows a girl who has.

So if you barely know the girl, but you got her phone number, and now it's time to take her out, don't suggest picking her up.

Here's what you do instead. Tell her to meet you out in front of your place. Give her your address, tell her to meet you out front at a certain time, and tell her that the two of you can "roll together" to the spot.

(The bar, coffee shop, restaurant, party, etc -- wherever you plan on taking her tonight.)

She'll go for this suggestion because of two reasons:

A) It eliminates her fear that she's going to have to try to find the date location, and she might get lost. You're making it easy on her by suggesting that the two of you go there together.

B) She's probably going to be curious to see where you live. You didn't tell her that she'd be coming INSIDE your place. You only asked her to meet you out front. But still, she's curious to at least see the exterior of your pad.

So now, here's what you do. When she pulls up outside your place, you go outside, as if you're all ready to go on the date, and ask her if she wants to take two cars, or if she wants to ride in your car.

Either way she answers, here's what you do next: you tell her that you forgot something back inside your place. You tell her you need to do back inside for a minute.

And then you INVITE her to come in -- "just for a minute," you tell her.

So, you bring her into your place, and you let her hang out in the living room for a few minutes while you go into the other room and pretend to be getting the item that you forgot.

And then, you go with her on the date.

What was the purpose of this exercise? It's actually SUPER important. You showed her the inside of your home and you let her get familiar with it.

It is no longer a strange environment to her.

There is no longer a "fear of the unknown."

At the end of the date, when you invite her back to your place, this doesn't feel SCARY to her because she has ALREADY been inside your home, and knows that it's comfortable and inviting.

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This sounds like a simple Tactic, but it really works. I ALWAYS try to show a woman the inside of my home, just for a few minutes, before I take her out on a date.

And you know what?

NOT using this Tactic, when I would invite her back to my place at the end of the night, I'd be successful around 43% of the time.

When I DO USE this Tactic, girls come home with me around 90% of the time. (And when they come home with me, I know how to close the deal -- it's all in the Persuasion Program.)

It all comes down to FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN.

Women are big on this. Guys are not!

(If a girl was HOT, I would drive in the middle of the night to the WORST part of town just to get laid! I wouldn't care where she lived -- I was going for the sex!)

But if you invite a woman back to YOUR place... and she has never seen it before...maybe she worries that it's filthy, or that you have a bunch of roommates, or that it's too far away, or whatever...there all kinds of little "red flags" popping off in her mind about why maybe going to your place is NOT a good idea.

And that's when she'll say, "Umm, thanks, but not tonight, I need to be up early tomorrow..."

Well, you AVOID all of this, and set her mind at EASE, when you "preface" the date by inviting her inside for a few minutes.

Then, at the end of the night, when it's time to invite her home...it feels to her like a MUCH safer and more comfortable scenario, because she's already been inside.

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How To Bond With Women & Create Emotional Connections

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If you've followed my newsletters for quite a while, you know how I often stress that ORIGINALITY is the most important quality that you can convey to a woman -- from the way you dress, to how you approach the ladies and engage them in conversation.

On the other hand, when you fail to make a unique impression, she's going to automatically lump you in with the last 37 chumps who tried to talk to her -- and within three minutes of you paying for her cocktail, she'll be excusing herself to "go find her friends."

The key to building a bond with her is to engage her attention and get her to share information about herself.

Then you'll tell her how much you relate and establish rapport with her. One of my favorite conversational tactics for accomplishing this is using COLD READS.

This technique, which is used by psychics and palm readers, is a way to make the other person feel like you understand what makes them tick, and what they're going through, without them telling you.

The trick with Cold Reads is that the "observations" you're making apply to virtually anyone. Yet there are psychological reasons why they work so effectively.

Human beings are self-centered, and we generally accept claims about ourselves that reflect how we wish to be.

Also, people are vain. We want to be seen as unique. Even though Cold Reads are usually vague generalizations -- which would apply to your sister, just as they would to the hottie in the VIP room at the club -- we want to agree with the person who skillfully "reads" us, and we'll believe they have unusual powers of perception.

So forget about asking the generic "job interview" questions. ("So what's your name," "where are you from," etc.) Get ORIGINAL with your strategy in order to capture her attention and impress her with your charm and confidence.

If I'm in a club, talking to some babe who's acting hard to get, I'll use a Cold Read:

"Y'know, Andrea, I get the sense that a lot of guys get the wrong idea when they first meet you. They think you're stand-offish and a bit cold. But you're actually a lot more sensitive, and funny, than people realize."

Another example: "I get the sense it takes you a while to trust people, because you've been hurt before by someone who was really close to you. But the people that do earn your trust, you're always there for them."

Or, "I can tell that you're someone who usually plays it safe and doesn't take chances, but sometimes you've regretted it because you missed out on an opportunity. But then other times, you're spontaneous and adventurous, and you do take chances...and that's when you've had some of the best times of your life."

If she agrees with my "read"--and honestly, I've never had a woman totally disagree--I'll follow up by telling her that I can relate, because I'm the same way.

This builds a bond between me and her. In order to solidify the bond, I'll tell a quick story -- one that illustrates how I'm the same type of person.

(If you've got five Cold Reads ready to use, you should also have five short stories to illustrate how you embody those same qualities.)

Here's another cool one: "I can tell something has been weighing on your mind. You're on the verge of making an important decision in your life, aren't you."

Pretty much all of us, at any given time, are contemplating a big decision (or one that is big to us, at least). Regardless, she'll be surprised and impressed that you knew that about her.

She'll volunteer more information about herself -- and now you're engaged in a deep, authentic conversation instead of trying to fill awkward silences.

Much of what a cold reader does is simply repeating back what the subject has said. If she affirms that she's on the verge of making a big decision, you should nod wisely and say, "Yes, that's right, and you're really having a hard time with it."

Act as if you already KNEW what she was going to say!

Some other Cold Reads that are vague yet "profound":

"I can tell you have a strong need for others to like and admire you, but you also have a tendency to be critical of yourself."

"You've got a hidden talent, or a passion, that most people don't know about, and you want to pursue it-- but something is holding you back."

"At times, you're really social and outgoing. But other times, you're reserved and introverted."

Once you add Cold Reads to your conversations with women, you'll get a feel for which ones work best.

This is just one example of an original, thought-provoking conversational tactic.

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