Dr. Mikel Brown

What Is Your Inspiration?

Dr. Mikel Brown — Fri, 04 May 2012 22:24:24 +0000

Shattering The Mold of Mediocrity

Inspiration can come from so many different sources, but can you muster the kind of inspiration from within to propel you towards achieving your goals while facing discouragement? Can a person inspire him or herself?

Self motivation is something that originates from within and helps you to overcome barriers while you pursue your goals and aspirations. The quickest killer of pursuit is discouragement and the quickest killer of discouragement is pursuit. In other words, the end result will be either pursuit or discouragement; depending on which one a person will capitulate to. To be inspired from within increases your greatest potential to succeed.

Knowing what you have to do and how to do is a sign of mental clarity. Without focus, you have nothing to work toward except what you don’t want. Learning how to mentally file your brain’s information is the key to organizing your life. People often struggle in the area of mental stability because their thoughts are unorganized. Fear and shyness comes from uncertainty and uncertainty comes from being uninformed.

A person will have little or no confidence without information and understanding the dynamics of mentally filing the information for peak performance in life or business. Instead of pushing towards excellence, which is the after effect of performing foundational principles at a high level, focus your efforts on gaining mental clarity. Or else you may find yourself slowly building toward an ultimate goal that is more difficult to achieve without understanding the prerequisites, and you end up working on a bunch of small negative goals which has nothing to do with your dream. This will eventually end up creating confusion, discouragement and worst of all, failure. If your inspiration comes and you set an ultimate goal, it will be easy for you to develop a clear plan of action on how to get there.

“To dream anything that you want to dream, That’s the beauty of the human mind.
To do anything that you want to do, That is the strength of the human will.
To trust yourself to test your limits, That is the courage to succeed.”

~Bernard Edmonds

When your thoughts are organized and you are not moving forward, you will feel like exploding. While others dare not to move, you are compelled by mental clarity to move in areas where most people wrestle with fear. This is when you know exactly what you want to do, and you are able to pull all the resources together, even the ones that are not readily accessible, because you have inspired ideas on how to do it.

Inspiration is a powerful force. However, action inspired by a specific inspiration is one of the most powerful ways to motivate you. SEE YOU AT THE TOP!

How You Can Help A Liar

Dr. Mikel Brown — Fri, 27 Apr 2012 21:22:57 +0000

Can You Help A Liar?

Have You Ever Met A Compulsive Liar and If You Did, How Did They Make You Feel?

For people with integrity, it is extremely uncomfortable to not fully trust someone because they have a serious problem with speaking the truth. Is it possible for a person to be a chronic liar? Absolutely! Most compulsive liars don’t see themselves as lying. Usually, these people believe their good intentions are valid enough and reason enough to not see themselves as intentionally misleading someone. However, they are blind to the realities of a liar.

A compulsive liar is defined as someone who lies out of habit. Lying is their normal and spontaneous way of responding to questions. Compulsive liars will bend the truth about everything, large and small. For a compulsive liar, telling the truth is nervy and uncomfortable while lying feels right. Compulsive lying is usually thought to develop in early childhood, due to living in an environment where lying was a way of life. For the most part, compulsive liars are not overly manipulative and cunning. Rather they simply lie out of habit—an automatic response which is hard to break and one that takes its toll on a relationship.

Can you help a liar to stop lying? No! Get this nonsense out of your head because this will never happen. I feel for the people who have to live with a chronic liar. Unfortunately, there is not much to be gained by confronting a compulsive liar. They will just keep lying and an already strained relationship will most likely take a turn for the worse. On the other hand, no one is above lying altogether. However, if a person is sensitive to the considerations of others, he or she will feel shameful in their heart about lying and most likely correct their wrong. Then again, what hope do chronic liars have who lie without any feelings for those whose lives were negatively affected by their deceit?

In fact, most people are situational liars. It can be difficult to effectively deal with a spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend, a friend, a boss, or co-worker who only lies on occasion. It becomes hard to believe people who have no reason for lying. In either case, people who lie under any circumstances have what I call, ‘I can’t help it!’ syndrome. To be in business and lack integrity is a bad combination. It’s like drinking and driving. If they continue in this vain, they will eventually destroy not only their business, but will destroy their business affiliates.

There are no specific assessments to uncover a compulsive liar. Nonetheless, you need to watch for certain warning signs to be sure of a person who has an obsessive compulsive lying condition. They are attention seekers; they usually have poor self-esteem, tell creative stories, they are always trying to get ahead or look good in the eyes of their superiors at the expense of others, or they have a bi-polar disorder. Make no attempt to become acquainted with such personalities because they will secretly destroy your good name. If you have friends or relatives that you doubt their integrity, you are probably right in your assessment. Nonetheless, you are probably like most people who become privy of such information—you just do not want to believe that is true. However, make a firm decision to stay as far away from them as possible. They will always, somehow, pull you into their web of deception.

My encouragement to the reader is to open your mouth for the truth, and close it when you don’t know the truth. This will keep you from lying!

The Prerequisite for Mental Toughness

Dr. Mikel Brown — Tue, 24 Apr 2012 22:13:17 +0000

Mental Toughness

How do you think you would do in the area of exercising mental toughness?

It is easy to sit back and analyze another person’s performance, and say what you would do if you were in their situation. The truth of the matter is, if you have never been there or been trained for certain situations, you have no clue as to how you would respond under such severe mental pressure. Sometimes we are unable to change our environment to manage stress – this may be the case where we do not have the power to change a situation. Therefore, a person must learn to adapt and improvise in order to overcome the mental challenges and to have the best possible chance of succeeding. This is only accomplished with training.

The military trains soldiers for war, boxers are trained to fight in the ring, racecar drivers practice driving at great speeds, and football players practice being tackled and hit on the field. What do you practice that causes you to believe you would respond better than those you watch on television? Mental toughness is absolutely needed when you have been knocked down, mentally frustrated, or physically worn. It is during these times that you discover what you are really made of.

Light travels faster than sound. This is why some people appear bright until you hear them speak. A person who understands anything about boxing realizes that boxing in the ring against an opponent will cause you to use muscles you never thought you had, make you feel like your heart is about to burst out of your chest, and you will be sucking for oxygen that you will think left this planet. Stamina is the ability to endure or hang in there when everything in you is shouting, “Quit!” These boxers are trained to fight through being battered and tired.

Though virtually everyone experiences stress or mental pressure, sometimes the way we react to stress amounts to self-sabotage! We’ve all found ourselves being impatient with people or taking out frustrations on innocent bystanders, or causing unnecessary conflicts and mental stress because stress is clouding our judgment. And while some people find themselves creating this type of drama in their lives occasionally, others make this self sabotage a way of life, continually creating additional mental and emotional stress for themselves without being aware of their own role in this!

The real enemy to your ability to overcome is inside your head in the form of negative self-talk. The way we talk to ourselves during challenging times can follow us through each experience like a ray of sunshine or a dark cloud surrounding us and blocking our vision. When you communicate to yourself negative possible outcomes instead of positive events, you miss the important benefits of creating a great result as an alternative of a self-fulfilling prophecy by believing that your stress level is more than you can handle.

If your habit has been to use negative self-talk in your daily life, it is not too late to learn positive self-talk. One principle must be followed under all circumstances; and it is this, ‘Never speak out of your frustration.’ What you say usually influences what you do. So, if you want to overcome the negative effects of mental pressure, instead of managing it, learn to speak positive words. Your words are the material to create a better situation for you instead of allowing the situation to dictate to you.

The Challenge of Perseverance

Dr. Mikel Brown — Wed, 04 Apr 2012 05:08:08 +0000

...you should see the loser!

There is but one major quality that works alongside of one’s faith. I regard this quality as being most greatly associated with success, whatever the field. It is the quality of persistence. Determination to endure to the end after facing horrific and discouraging situations, demonstrates perseverance.

“I do not think there is any other quality so essential to success of any kind as the quality of perseverance. It overcomes almost everything, even nature.”
~John D. Rockefeller

Perseverance only occurs after value has been determined. In order to succeed, a person must want more of what is on the other side of perseverance, than on this side of capitulation. The fear of what it takes to succeed in life, business, or sports is oftentimes too demanding for a person to overcome. Most people would rather live with the pain of never living out their dreams than to live with the scars incurred while achieving them.

I do not know all of the dynamics about this extraordinary power of perseverance. However, I do know that it exists, and that it is available only to people, even children, when a person’s state of mind knows exactly what is personally desired, and is fully persuaded that quitting in the process is not optional. Perseverance is the quality of a form of determination that has no cavity to embrace fear, love, or hatred. It is neutral in every respect. The only characteristic perseverance possesses is forward mobility. Perseverance is the terminator of challenges.

Fear is an emotion and it causes a person to alter or surrender their push for excellence. Oftentimes, when a person quits due to opposition, it only proves that their determination is not strong enough to overcome their fears or apprehensions. This is why the most talented and gifted person can be among the poorest in this country. After signing a long-term contract and experiencing fame and some fortune, the most gifted singers usually discover that they are not living their dream, but rather someone else’s dream.

We often compromise the pursuit of our personal dreams by taking shortcuts that lead us away from our true aspirations. Usually while taking these shortcuts, we are detoured from our dreams into the arms of devious characters and compromising situations. Trying to avoid the long, heart wrenching, and sometimes painful journey of reaching and accomplishing your dream, is like pawning a million dollar ring when you have millions in the bank. This is why perseverance is the price paid when weathering the storms of opposition. The prize, however, is worth the fight.

Perseverance, when made applicable, gives you the fortitude to rather fight than switch!

The Power to Make Decisions

Dr. Mikel Brown — Wed, 07 Mar 2012 20:58:05 +0000

“If the right choices are made, then the appropriate rewards must be given.”
~Dr. Mikel Brown

Decisions

There was a Doctor who was at his wit’s end about making decisions and seeing all the patients he had in the waiting room. His nurse came into his office and said, “There’s a patient in the waiting room who claims to be invisible.” The Doctor replied, “Tell him I can’t see him!” (LOL)

Most of us would love to be invisible when it comes to making very important decisions, especially when they can adversely affect someone we know and love. There are so many decisions to be made during the course of a week that many people avoid making them. Their hope is that their much needed decisions can be made without their assistance or postponed for eternity. There are decisions that are not as important as other decisions, life threatening decisions, and decisions that must be made now rather than later. Although we would love to escape this process, it does not eliminate the fact that decisions must be made.

I firmly believe that whatever you decide today will determine your tomorrow. An old maxim says, “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.” I say, if you fail to make a decision today, one will be made for you tomorrow. Decisiveness is one of the keys to a successful life. Some people will never achieve their dream because they are waiting for the right opportunity to decide if the price is worth the prize. In truth, the worth should have been predetermined before any consideration.

Some years back, I owned an insurance agency and would have to train my sales force on how to get appointments and make sales. One particular note of information I would often tell my sales agents is that having a license to sell insurance and commodities is not the same as knowing how to sell them. People generally want to prepare financially for their future, but they also need help in making the right decision. Sometimes, it is not the product holding them up from making a decision; it is that they need the extra push to make a decision. This is when knowledge supersedes having a license to sell. Therefore, asking the right questions can help people make a decision.

Most people have not been trained mentally to make decisions habitually. Due to the lack of training, these people procrastinate or waver in their decision making process. Choices, decisions, and/or determinations are all a part of your human make-up. No one enjoys being forced to do something. Ask any of the tens of thousands of men and women living out their years incarcerated. I am sure they will tell you how it feels to be told when to wake-up, when to eat, when to bathe, and when to sleep. It is literally being stripped of one’s basic right to make one’s own decisions. Everyone soon learns that with the power of choice comes responsibility and repercussion. When wrong choices are made, eventually a price has to be paid.

Making a choice is better than making no choice at all. At least, by making a choice, you exercised your right to choose.

Dr. Mikel Brown

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