And I noticed some resistance bubbling up at the idea of using a potty with tiny babies. What came to mind first was the image of over enthusiastic parents putting pressure on children to preform before they are ready.

Thankfully, I have come to realise now that embracing my resistance always opens doors into new delights. So I ordered the book ‘The Diaper Free Baby’ and during the pregnancy got stuck in.

 I liked the ideas behind Elimination Communication. The intention is not to toilet train your baby. Rather is it about tuning into your baby’s communication and responding to that. I loved the gentleness of it and we both felt excited about trying this approach with the girls. However, following the cesarean, I didn’t have the energy for anything ‘extra’. Apart from the physical recovery I had to learn the very basics about being a mum to my lovely girls. From day one though the girls peed when we were changing nappies so we made the ‘pssshh’ sound bringing their attention to what was happening.

A few weeks ago I decided to order the potties. And on St. Valentine’s day we presented them for the first time.When they woke up (which invariably happens at the same time for both), we placed them on the potties. Most of us relieve ourselves soon after waking up. Babies are the same. Within a couple of minutes we could hear them urinating. I was in shock. I never thought it could be that easy.

 At the moment we usually present the potty first thing in the morning and at nappy changes. We use the American Sign Language signf or potty when we do so. We also give them an opportunity to use the potty when we see them pushing. Indeed most poos now take place in the potty. Such dignitiy for these tiny bums. They love it too. If they indicate that they want to get off we oblidge immediately.It doesn’t matter to me when they are toilet trained. I just love the idea of helping my girls tune into their bodily functions and to feel comfortable letting go of what they don’t need with ease and freedom. These are messages that I really want them to have in their cells.  

This experience has made me reflect on our expectations and I began to wonder are there other ways in which I have underestimated my girls and babies in general.

My intention now is to make decisions that honour their wisdom, intelligence, unique rhythm, path and love of discovering this world.

Click here for more information on Elimination Communication.

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

This fear is very real for many of us and often rears its head when we are due a scan, amniocentesis or tuning into baby’s developmental milestones.

But maybe we don’t need to fear.

Watch this thought-provoking video and let me know what you think.

In joy,

Deirdre Morris 

So what about the law of attraction? How, with my all my preparation, did I manage to create cesarean instead of an orgasmic (or even ordinary …as if that is possible), natural birth experience?

I have had lots of time to reflect on this and the answer lies in the question.

I SO did not want a cesarean section.

I mean, I REALLY, REALLY, REALLY did not want cesarean section.

And with the benefit of hindsight, I can see now that I was far more focused on ‘NOT HAVING CESAREAN’ than on having a natural, vaginal birth.

For example, I was so thrilled to have a doc who did not assume that a cesarean was needed even though I was having twins one of whom (at the time) was in breech.

I wrote a post on ‘the myth that breech babies required cesarean’.

I used many healing techniques to avoid cesarean.

And I so DID NOT WANT CESAREAN. I resisted it at every level of my being. I hated the idea.

And that is why I attracted it. Because I was far more passionate about not having cesarean than I was about having a natural birth.

Instead of investing my energy into having a natural birth, I was fighting the possibility of cesarean.

 And each time I said NO to CESAREAN the universe just heard ‘CESEAREAN’….(it doesn’t hear NO..it just brings us what we focus on whether or not we want it).

And with the precision of this amazing universal law, it delivered exactly what I had given most of my attention to and my beautiful girls made their safe, gentle entry into this beautiful world through a very discrete incision in my pubis.

Are you fighting against or flowing towards what you really want in your fertility and birth experience?

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

We are coming into a new phase in the preparation for birth. My wonderful doctor (general practitioner) also happens to be an Acupuncturist and Homeopath. 

How lucky am I? This is proof of the Law of Attraction in my life for sure.

Last week we had a session during which she showed myself and my partner different acupressure points to facilitate the birth process…to reduce back and abdominal pain and to support delivery of the placenta.

This means that my partner can play an active part in helping his babies be born…..and this in turn will support me. How empowering is that?

I also love the idea of being able to tap into this ancient healing technique during the birth of our twins.

There is so much assistance available to us when we ask for it!

What are you asking for? Perhaps you already have resources (like your partner) that could be utilised in an even more powerful way during birth.  What steps can you take now to allow that to happen for you?

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

We can easily find ourselves just going through the motions or challenges of fertility, pregnancy, birth and parenting. Sometimes it seems like all we meet are bumps on the road.

But we are here for much more than that.

We were born to be joyful and exuberant as we journey through this life.

Often we are afraid to aim for what we truly want because we don’t feel worthy enough, competent enough or deserving enough.

But your passion for creating new life, enjoying a magical birth experience, thriving in motherhood, sacred family life, and enjoying loving, happy relationship is the pulse of the universe expressing itself through you.

What you love and God’s will for you are the same (Janet Bray Attwood and Christ Attwood).

Hand in hand with every desire we have comes the ability to realise it. We can only ever really want for what is possible.

A newborn does not desire to walk. A 3 month old has no interest in speaking. Their passions lie perfectly in the range of possibility in relation to their abilities, skills and vibration.

The same applies to you.

So whatever you are passionate about, know that having the passion is a sign that you are ready to create that reality and take steps to realise your dream NOW.

Click here to view a short video!

With passion,

Deirdre Morris