Interventions Inc., Making a difference in a difficult world

Characteristics of Love

shaw@gapper.us (Gordon Pilet) — Fri, 14 Sep 2007 13:02:00 -0700

One of the main challenges we see with men is that they confuse bonding with love. They tell me that they love their partner, despite a lot of conflicts, and when I ask why? The answer is usually well, I miss her when she's not around, we've been together for a few years, etc. In the next few weeks we are going to post a video series on 9 characteristics of Love.

the video can be found here. Any questions? email us.

GAP

Reflective listening made easy

shaw@gapper.us (Gordon Pilet) — Tue, 17 Apr 2007 10:18:00 -0700

This will teach you a method called reflective listening that will change the way you interact with people. It is extremely powerful and works better than any other method Ihave ever run into. Don't be surprised on the impact it has on others as they change their perception of you as a listener.

Listen here

Emotional Intimacy for Men

shaw@gapper.us (Gordon Pilet) — Tue, 20 Feb 2007 10:42:00 -0800

Emotional intimacy can be difficult for men to grasp. This audio track deals with men and how we can get better in touch with our emotional identity.

Listen here

Positive motivation with children

shaw@gapper.us (Gordon Pilet) — Wed, 31 Jan 2007 13:35:00 -0800

Kids need positive motivation too. The use of rewards for good behavior rather than just using punishment for bad behavior is more motivating for the child and encourages a positive bond between the parent and child. Dr. Pilet speaks about establishing a system of rewards for your child and why it is so effective. This works

Are you a people person

shaw@gapper.us (Gordon Pilet) — Fri, 26 Jan 2007 12:11:00 -0800

Are You a People Person? 6 min mp3
So many people really do not understand what it takes to be a people person. Unfortunately, too many people are lonely through their misunderstanding of what it takes to be a "People Person".

shaw@gapper.us (Gordon Pilet) — Wed, 24 Jan 2007 13:43:00 -0800

When it is time to say NO! 7 min MP3
Often people that are taken advantage of have a difficult time telling the difference between when they are being appreciated "or" being used. Be a part of the Solution and Not part of the Problem!

Listen to the short discussion about setting limits and establishing boundaries, here

What to do when life gets you down

shaw@gapper.us (Gordon Pilet) — Fri, 19 Jan 2007 08:42:00 -0800

Dr. Pilet gives some great tips on how to deal with life as it comes. You can find it at the website InterventionsInc.com.

Listent to the audio seminar here.

We hope you enjoy.

Positive effects of Motivation

shaw@gapper.us (Gordon Pilet) — Fri, 12 Jan 2007 08:03:00 -0800

Hey everyone, we hope you had a great holiday. Now, back to work. The second edition of the book is now published and available here you can check out the first chapter and scan the table of contents, and of course purchase it online.

This weeks audio clip is from Dr. Pilet in the anger management class and we were talking about stress and positive motivation. We hope you enjoy!

Postive Effects of Motivation: Distinguishes constructive and destructive stress; makes suggestions that detail how to self-regulate and promote prosperity.

shaw@gapper.us (Gordon Pilet) — Mon, 16 Oct 2006 06:27:00 -0700

Dumpers versus Dumpee: Explains the difficulties in recovering from a broken relationship. The challenges of the person "jolted" by the "Secret Dumper" are huge at times. Yet, the reckless Dumpee continues their destructive path with little remorse. Dr GAP

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You make me so angry!!

shaw@gapper.us (Gordon Pilet) — Mon, 9 Oct 2006 13:20:00 -0700

The Idiots Around Me Make Me Angry?

"If you knew the people I dealt with you would understand why I am crazy." So many of people I work with express their frustration that it is "others" that force them into being Angry. See what I have to say. Dr GAP

LIsten here

shaw@gapper.us (Gordon Pilet) — Fri, 29 Sep 2006 08:29:00 -0700

Parenting Styles: Many parents confuse discipline with punishment, while others confuse generosity with enabling. I would like you to gain an understanding of both extremes, and see what I believe is the middle ground. This lecture briefly discusses the range of styles from Autocratic, Emotionally-Enmeshed Parent to the Permissive, Emotionally-Disengaged Parent.

11:20 Minutes Downloadable MP3

shaw@gapper.us (Gordon Pilet) — Fri, 29 Sep 2006 08:28:00 -0700

Is this the Right Person for Me?: Finding the right person for you is a challenging and difficult task. However, there are questions you can ask yourself, and your partner, that will help you gain an understanding of where the relationship is heading. This audio is in response to an email.

11 Min MP3 Listen HERE

Change

shaw@gapper.us (Gordon Pilet) — Mon, 25 Sep 2006 06:09:00 -0700

Why is Change So Difficult? Briefly describes the Challenges of being different. 3 Min

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Criticism

shaw@gapper.us (Gordon Pilet) — Fri, 22 Sep 2006 10:35:00 -0700

Four Types of Criticism: How people distructively manipulate the emotions of others via Direct, Indirect and Non-verbal Criticism. Tells you how to Identify it, how to correct it and how to use Positive Constructive Cricism. Once you catch on to the Indirect and Non-Verbal you can make real changes in your life as you assertively set limits and do not allow people to do these.

Listen here

shaw@gapper.us (Gordon Pilet) — Fri, 22 Sep 2006 10:34:00 -0700

BELIEVE: Summarizes the philosophies we teach regarding growth and uses the word "believe" as a framework. Dr GAP

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Am I in Love?

shaw@gapper.us (Gordon Pilet) — Thu, 21 Sep 2006 13:59:00 -0700

Am I In Love? Too many of our clients are confused about what love is. Typically they misundestand their own emotions and assume they have a Love relationship because they misinterpret their own feelings. In a society that has a Divorce rate approaching 50 % I offer some suggestions that might help you to understand what you are feeling. Dr GAP

Listen here

shaw@gapper.us (Gordon Pilet) — Wed, 20 Sep 2006 06:41:00 -0700

Trust and Support: The foundation of a healthy relationship begins here! Love is never easy. It is challenging to maintain relational quality with someone you love. The distractions of careers, children and chores adds to our stress -- the most devoted couples lose track of what is important. Listen to these guidelines. Dr GAP

http://www.InterventionsInc.com

Why is love such a challenge?!

shaw@gapper.us (Gordon Pilet) — Wed, 20 Sep 2006 06:38:00 -0700

Why is Love such a Challenge?: Briefly works through the 5 levels of relationships and parallels the maturing process of Commitment, Disclosure, Values & Beliefs, Collaborative Lifestyle, Positive Sexuality, Enhanced Problem Solving, Vison of the Future, Shared Emotional Identity, Shared Spiritual Understanding. (Page 12 in Book) 12 Min

The book is: Love, lost and found.

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shaw@gapper.us (Gordon Pilet) — Tue, 19 Sep 2006 07:56:00 -0700

Scorecarding: Selectively bringing up past failures for the purpose of winning a argument, beating someone down or pointing out other failures. Tends to be damaging to relationships as it only rekindles past arguements, hurt feelings and failures. It derails from maintaining a positive "solutions" oriented approach to a moving forward. Contact me at profgap@tampabay.rr.com if you have questions. Dr GAP

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shaw@gapper.us (Gordon Pilet) — Tue, 19 Sep 2006 07:54:00 -0700

Couples Communications: 90% of all the couples that come to Interventions report they do not communicate well. This recording develops 5 reasons they don't communciate well and recommends 6 things they can do to improve their ability to communicate. Dr GAP

listen here

shaw@gapper.us (Gordon Pilet) — Wed, 13 Sep 2006 18:16:00 -0700

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Problem Solving

shaw@gapper.us (Gordon Pilet) — Wed, 13 Sep 2006 16:25:00 -0700

What does it mean to problem solve? Don't I already solve problems?

There's a lot more to solving problems than just solving the problem. Huh? First you hve to know what the problem is and sometimes it isn't what you like to hear. Then you have to know how to implement a problem solving attitude.

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Interventions Inc., Making a difference in a difficult world

shaw@gapper.us (Gordon Pilet) — Mon, 11 Sep 2006 07:36:00 -0700

** Interventions Inc., Making a difference in a difficult world**

Question: I like the way you explained why none of us are good listeners. The concept of business/work relationships and how the work environment teaches us to get the point and leave out the emotions. I see what you mean when you relate that to family relationsips. Can you upload that section from last week?

Answer: No problem. I am sure you recall me saying "Work Relationships are 90% Facts and 10% Feelings --while Love Relationships are 90%Feeling and 10% Facts. Pay attention to how I explain this metaphor. Tell me what you think, you can listen to the broadcast here, then send me an email. profgap@tampabay.rr.com

Thanks, Dr Gap

Active listening

shaw@gapper.us (Gordon Pilet) — Sun, 10 Sep 2006 19:31:00 -0700

Client Request: I recently attended a seminar where you spoke of "Active Listening". I have been doing this with surprizing results. Will you replay the section on "Active Listening" so I can help my brother understand what I am attempting to do. By the way, until I learned the Reflective Listening Technique you taught me, I never realized how poor a listener I was. Mike J.
Dr. Gap: Here is 15 minutes from the last lecture I did. It is not the one you attended, however, I think you will get a lot out of it.

Active Listening MP3

Interventions Inc., Making a difference in a difficult world

shaw@gapper.us (Gordon Pilet) — Thu, 31 Aug 2006 18:07:00 -0700

** Interventions Inc., Making a difference in a difficult world**

Conflict style pt 2

Question: "OK, I've done the conflict scale, now what?"

Answer: Now in part two I will help you interpret the scores a little better. you understand the styles, now let's apply them. I'll even use my example to show you how we can understand our partner better. I was having a conflict with Mrs. Eberhardt, so I did the sheet myself for the first time in a while. BAM! it nailed me.

Conflict style pt 2