Sometimes the man is outside our educational level. Sometimes he might not be buff but melt our heart with his sense of humor. And, sometimes he’ll be nearly perfect in every way – until we get him into the bedroom.

That’s when we’ll discover he has a tiny penis.

When that happens, we’ll probably still love him. Sure, we may respect him a little less as a man, and sex won’t be that exciting, but if our feelings are strong enough for him, we may decide to stay and see if we can work things out. After all, when it comes to love, little things can mean a lot.

That’s why I decided to put together a set of tips of what to do when you find yourself dating or married to a man who looks like a little boy as soon as he takes his pants off.

• Try to focus more on oral sex and less on traditional sex. Remember it’s much easier to give a blow job to a small guy than a large dude. Also, when he’s going down on you, it won’t matter if he’s Tiny Tim.
• Joke about his size with your girlfriends. Laughter will make you feel less ashamed about having a sexually inadequate partner.
• Find out if you can cultivate a cuckolding fetish. A cuckold wants you to tell him his penis is too small and will want you to play with more well endowed men once in a while. This becomes a win/win situation for both of you.
• If he doesn’t have a cuckold fetish, cheat on him when you can get away with it. Face it, as a woman you deserve a real cock attached to a real man every so often. If the Bill of Rights were written by a woman, this would have been included as the 11^th Amendment.
• Experiment with different positions. If you allow his small penis to penetrate you, try doggy style. He’ll feel a little big bigger. Of course, if he’s really small, and you don’t want him to penetrate you with his penis at all, I fully understand. In that case, you might want to consider keeping his teeny weeny locked in male chastity.
• Consider a penis extender. Available in most sex toy shops, these devices go over his penis and make him man sized. Many of them feel very realistic, so you can just close your eyes and pretend he’s a real man.
• Have him shave his pubes. This way, he’ll at least look bigger.
• If you are bisexual, fantasize that he’s your lesbian lover. If you feel like you are having lesbian sex, you won’t expect your partner to have a huge wang. If you need to, make him put on panties and a camisole before you start to enhance the illusion.
• Anal sex. He’ll feel bigger to you, and you’ll seem tighter to him when you take it in the back door. Anal sex is one of the only times when it’s a good thing if a man comes up short. Many women report “deeper” orgasms from anal sex. This could be your chance to find out if you are one of those frisky females.
• Lots of fingering. With three fingers inside you and his thumb on your magic button, you may not care if he has a penis at all.
• Avoid penetration or go on hormonal birth control. The sad fact is that if he’s small, the odds of the condom slipping off are fairly high. You don’t want to face an accidental pregnancy from bad sex simply because he’s not very manly below the waist.

This frees him from the temptation to masturbate, or waste time with online porn like a teenage boy. It also encourages him to do things to please you both in and out of the bedroom, so he will be able to earn his release. Remember, a man’s primary desire is to achieve orgasm. This is more important than food – so he will be willing to do anything for you, as soon as you get him under lock and key.

But, there is much more to the male chastity lifestyle than simply locking him up and throwing away the key. You need to tease him. You need to make him feel loved. And sometimes, when a man is in male chastity, you will need to punish him.

Male chastity is a training exercise that you are doing for his own good. Think of him as a child – he needs rewards when he’s been a good boy, and punishment when he’s been naughty. Over time, this will allow him to learn not to be naughty and to become the best husband possible.

In short, you can’t have the carrot without the stick! Which brings up the question of, what punishments are appropriate for a bad boy who is in male chastity? The truth is that the answer will depend on the couple and the severity of the infraction. But, here are the punishments I generally give my husband for various infractions:

• If he asks to be let out of male chastity or complains about male chastity. In this case I simply add another week in the device for every complaint or request that he makes. This shuts him up.
• If you find evidence that he has tried to tamper with or escape the device. This is a more serious infraction. In this case I add a full month to his chastity and spank his ass with my hairbrush 10 times.
• If you catch him looking at porn. This cannot be tolerated at all. For this I get a bowl of ice, and then I unlock him from his chastity device. I provide him manual stimulation until he is just about to orgasm. At that point I put ice on his penis and lock him back up. Ruining his potential orgasm this way is a lesson he will not soon forget.
• If you catch him flirting with another woman either online or in real life. Obviously this is a big no-no. In my opinion, a woman has two choices here depending on how dominant she feels. If you are a dominant woman you can unlock him, stimulate him and then pour hot candle wax on his penis. If you are less dominant you can simply tell him he has earned a full six months in chastity. If you are very, very dominant you can make him choose between the two punishments.
• If you catch him having cyber sex. Since he can’t have real sex, this is the closest thing to cheating he can do. There is only one acceptable punishment – a full year without a single orgasm.

The only way to protect against these very real dangers to your marriage is to make it impossible for him to masturbate or cheat on you in any other way. This is accomplished by locking him up with a male chastity device, and hiding the key or keeping it on you at all times.

When done correctly, this will not only make it impossible for him to get an erection or ejaculate without your permission; it will also turn him into a better husband! He’ll be more likely to help out around the house, he won’t want to waste time with his friends and he will become more romantic.

Of course, this doesn’t happen simply by locking him up. You have to also take action to train him. This process is often called “tease and denial” and it works on a very simple principle. You see, when a man is very sexually excited he is naturally programmed to do anything he can to achieve orgasm and ejaculation.

This means you can get him to make the responsible choices every woman wants her man to make, instead of the childish ones men tend to make on their own, as long as you are using tease and denial.

So, how do you do this? The first thing you need to do is wait until he is locked up, and then become as sexy as possible. Rub your breasts by his shoulders when you pass him in the hall. Walk around the house wearing sexy underwear. Kiss him deeply often.

Ask him to go down on you and tell him that if your orgasm is satisfactory in intensity, you might let him out of his male chastity belt. All of these things will keep him in a constant state of arousal that he can do nothing about.

When he’s in this state, every part of his psychology will tell him to do what you want him to do if it even gives him a small chance at sexual release. So, you can ask him to do the dishes, mow the lawn or take you out to a nice dinner – and he’ll eagerly agree!

Of course, there is a reason this is called ‘tease and denial” and not simply teasing. The vast majority of the time that he does things for you, you need to say “no” when he asks for release. Tell him it just wasn’t quite good enough – but that you are sure he will do better next time.

You do need to release him every so often – just enough so he always knows there is a chance that this time, he might not have to face the denial afterwards.

Most wives start out by only denying for a couple days at a time while they are teasing him. Then they work it up to longer and longer periods of time as part of his ongoing training. Of course, the tease and denial tasks he will be given will also become more difficult to accomplish over time.

I’ve found that the end goal of tease and denial should be to allow him to get his “little reward” every six weeks or so. With my partner, I make sure he ends up with less than 10 orgasms a year, though I have friends who are indulgent and allow them men up to 14 a year.

You’ll figure out what level of tease and denial works best for your wonderful male chastity belt relationship with a bit practice and experimentation.

It is always better if a woman keeps her man under lock and key. Otherwise, he’ll end up cheating on her – either by masturbating while thinking about other women, or by giving into temptation and letting some hussy seduce him.

Once a male chastity device has been put in place and locked up, the wife literally holds the key to his heart, sexuality and their relationship. But, of course, there are practical considerations.

One of the most important ones is the need to have a spare male chastity key. The truth is that life is unpredictable. If you were to end up in the hospital or get into a bad accident, that could leave him locked up for much, much longer than expected with no way to get out.

This would be particularly problematic if he was in a steel device that would require a welder for him to get out of. But, what do you do about the spare key? If you give it to him, you know he’ll use it to cheat and get out of the device. You don’t want to hide it. What if something were to happen to you?

The solution is to find a trusted friend or family member to give it to. For most women, the best person to choose is your best gay friend.

Gay men are generally non-judgmental about sex. Plus, if you give it to a female friend, she may decide she wants to sample your husband and unlock him for her own selfish desires. Your gay friend may have similar ideas, but your husband probably wouldn’t be willing to service him just to get out! And if he does, you can punish him and humiliate him for months afterward!

If you don’t have a gay male friend, a trusted lesbian friend will work as well.

Of course, you don’t need to tell him whom you gave the spare too. Otherwise he might bug them for ages. And if you want to be particularly naughty, you could threaten to give it to his mother or his sister if he misbehaves! The last thing any man would want is for his mom to know the family jewels are locked up!

Another possibility is to rent a safe deposit box and put the key in there. Then you could give the key to the safe deposit box to one of your friends, and tell him or her to give it to your husband only in the case of an emergency.

All of this is moot if you decide to take a lover while your husband is locked up. In this case, it should go without saying, your lover should hold the emergency male chastity key. This will help your husband psychologically understand that your sex life is no longer under his control, and let your lover know that you trust and respect his judgment. And, your lover is not likely to want to help your husband out of his beautiful enslavement unless he absolutely has to.

That’s why although many women want their man in chastity and under lock and key, they worry that he’ll find some way to pick the male chastity lock and escape without telling us. That would defeat the entire point of male chastity, ruin all of our training efforts and put him at risk for being seduced by some hussy!

You know you don’t want that. But, don’t worry; the truth is it’s harder for a man to get out of a male chastity device without your key than you would think. Of course, it’s not impossible; but with a little bit of preparation, you should be able to lock him up in male chastity and hide the key without worrying about him being a bad boy.

• The only way a man can really get out of a male chastity device is if you’ve purchased the wrong size for him. If he’s poorly endowed he might be able to use ice to shrink his penis, slip out and then slip it back on. That’s why it’s important for you to be honest with yourself about the size of his equipment and order one that will fit him. When it doubt, err on the smaller side.

• The locks on male chastity devices are designed so that they will break if they are tampered with. And, best of all – the locks are numbered. That means that he can’t simply buy a similar looking lock, break his own and then lock himself back up with the new one. When you get your man his male chastity device, the number will be printed on both the lock and the key. Whenever you unlock him, make sure the numbers match!

• He probably could break a plastic male chastity device with tools in his garage. But, the damage would be way obvious and he’d get caught. If you buy a steel one, he won’t even be able to do that. He’d have to go to a professional welder to get it off – and do you really think he’s going to admit to another man that you have him locked up? I think not!

• If you are really worried about him having no self control at all and getting the thing welded off, you can always go all the way and get a chastity piercing. These piercings attach his penis directly to his testicles. If he tried to rip this off without the key, he’d severely damage his manly bits – and no man is going to risk that.

• Most chastity devices come with keys that are labeled, “Do Not Copy.” That means even if he tried to sneak the key away for an afternoon, most locksmiths will refuse to make a copy of it.

So, there you have it! With a little bit of patience, you can improve your marriage by keeping your man in chastity and under lock and key without ever worrying about him getting out!

Obviously, some devices are more secure than others. But, once you get to the point where he’s comfortable being locked in steel – which should be every woman’s goal – it will be virtually impossible for him to get out. That means you can train him and never have to worry about him cheating.

And, of course, if you ever notice him trying to get out, you could always enforce an extra month of chastity – which is a lesson he’ll remember for the rest of your wonderful married life!

In that case, it’s fairly easy to become a male chastity mistress. Here is just a brief synopsis of what it takes to be a male chastity mistress.

You will first of course need to make your wishes known to your partner. You can simply lock him up while he is sleeping and allow him to discover your “surprise” when he wakens. It’s important to find a way to break the ice and get your partner comfortable with the idea first. I suggest that you try reading a few male chastity stories together.

Once you are both comfortable with the idea and realize the benefits to both of you, you will need to measure your husband’s penis. Purchasing a male chastity device is not a difficult or embarrassing procedure as you can simply go online to order a correctly sized male chastity device and have it delivered to your home. When it arrives, make the event of placing it on him special and memorable.

Once that’s done, your next step is to become a seductress. Tease him while he is in male chastity – when he can no longer get an erection or achieve ejaculation. Wear sexy clothes around him. Kiss him on the neck. Make him watch you undress. Do all the things that would normally give him an erection, so he’s constantly reminded of what you have taken away from him.

The next step is to start giving him goals that he has to meet if he wants to be released from his male chastity device for a period of time. Trust me; once he’s locked up, he’ll do anything you ask. Insist that he use his mouth to give you three orgasms a night for a week. Ask for back rubs and foot massages. Be reasonable but be firm.

Encourage him to do more chores around the house; tell him you need to be romanced with intimate dinners out and flowers. He’ll do all this and more just for a few minutes of sexual freedom once in a while.

Finally, insist that he refer to you as “Mistress” at all times when you are alone together. This will remind him of his new and proper place in your loving, committed relationship.

Over time, you will find that your husband will become sensitive to your needs. He will no longer be a selfish lover wasting his time with porn and masturbating while thinking of other women. Instead, he will all of his spend his energy pleasing you, thinking only of you – his Mistress.

Of course, it’s not only women in relationships who want to become male chastity mistresses. Some women do it for the cold, hard cash. That’s right – there is real money in being a male chastity mistress.

The first step is to set up a website advertising your services. Before you do this, decide what type of male chastity mistress you want to become and how much you want to charge.

A popular way of being a male chastity mistress is to advertise yourself as a long distance key holder. That means that the man will mail you the key to his device. Then, you’ll send him emails giving him instructions as to what you want done. If he proves that he has completed his task, you’ll mail your key back to him. Of course, it’s understood that he pay you before you put the key in the mail. A good long distance key holder can charge hundreds and sometimes thousands of dollars a month for her services.

A more lucrative, but also more time consuming, way of becoming a male chastity mistress is to offer phone sex male chastity services. Under this method the man locks himself up, calls you on a special phone number you’ve set up, and then begs you to allow him to unlock himself. You can be as strict and demanding as you want. A good idea is to make it as difficult as possible for him to earn permission, because that will keep him on the phone longer. You can easily charge anywhere from $5 to $10 a minute as a phone sex male chastity mistress. Setting up your phone line and website is easy – and there are many companies out there who will do it for you in exchange for a share of the profits.

While it does take a woman with somewhat dominant qualities to be a male chastity mistress, it is certainly not difficult. Remember, many men have secret fantasies about being dominated by their women. It is certainly something to consider!

Enforced male chastity may be the best thing that can happen to any marriage. When a man is locked into male chastity, he can be trained to be a better husband and lover, more romantic and much more helpful. Plus, you will never again have to worry about him wasting his time on porn; and silly, selfish things like masturbation are a thing of the past.

Many men deep down inside know they would be much better off in a male chastity lock. Many women, once they hear about locking a man up in male chastity, see it as a perfect solution. But, one thing that holds many men back from agreeing to the lifestyle is that they wonder what will happen once they put the device on and are locked up. How will it change their lives? This makes sense. We all have a fear of the unknown. That’s why I want to let men get a better understanding of what will happen to them once they’ve made the right decision and given up control of their sexuality to their wives.

• First off, your wife will become more loving and attentive. She’ll dress sexier around you, give you more kisses and flirt with you more. Because you are now safe, she’ll want to tease you. Plus, because she’ll be so happy that you’re making this brave choice she’ll want to shower you with tons of affection.
• You’ll be intimate with your wife more often. Now that she doesn’t have to worry about sex being over as soon as you orgasm, she’ll be a lot friskier. You may find yourself giving her two or more orgasms a night. Won’t that be fun?
• Your orgasms will be much more intense. Right now your masturbation is desensitizing your penis. That means you are not getting the strong orgasms you should be. Once you are on a reasonable release schedule you’ll discover that you have the most amazing orgasms you’ve ever felt. Don’t you want that?
• You’ll discover new ways to please your wife. In fact, you’ll probably become the best lover she’s ever had. You’ll have to – because that’s one of the only ways you’ll earn your way out of your male chastity lock!
• Spending time with your friends will seem less and less important to you. Your main focus in life will become finding nice ways to make your wife or girlfriend happy. You’ll discover new levels of romantic love you may have never before thought possible.
• Over time you’ll be let out less and less often. For most couples, offering the man release once every four to six weeks is about right. But, don’t worry, you’ll always be sexually excited and you’ll learn to love how great it feels to be constantly turned on!
• You’ll discover you have a lot more free time on your hands. You probably don’t realize how much time you are currently wasting with masturbation, porn and sexual fantasies. You’ll be able to get a lot more done at work and around the house. You’ll feel so useful!
• Your wife will find ways to reward your good behavior and punish your bad behavior. Over time this will result in you becoming the husband of her dreams.
• You’ll no longer feel guilty about your silly little masturbation habit. You’ll feel like a real man who satisfies his woman rather than a little boy who plays with his pee-pee. You’ll finally be a grown-up!

See, now that you know what to expect it’s not that scary, is it? In fact, it’s perfectly natural and soon you’ll thank your wife for making this decision for you, because she knew it was the best thing for your relationship.

Both husband and wife end up having more respect for each other than ever before, and the level of trust grows in their marriage. Of course, this takes time – you need to start small and build up before you can get to your goal. That’s why most couples start out with simple, inexpensive, plastic male chastity devices. You don’t want to scare him off by jumping right into steel devices or male chastity piercings.

There are two main types of plastic male chastity devices – cages and tubes. Cages are mesh and surround the penis and testicles. The advantage is that your husband can clean himself in the shower without your help. Tubes are sheaves that surround the penis and make it impossible for him to touch himself or get an erection. He’ll even have to sit down when he pees – which makes bathroom clean up a lot easier.

Now, your first decision is easy. Don’t ever consider a plastic chastity cage for your male chastity needs. The fact is that men can get desperate during their initial chastity training, and the plastic mesh is really easy to rip off.

Yes, he’ll get caught; but at that point he won’t care – and you’ll have wasted money on a device that didn’t meet your goals. Cages are great for when he’s ready to wear steel, but until then should be avoided.

Instead, you want to use a plastic male chastity tube. Of the ones available, the most popular is the CB line of products. The CB-3000 is the most popular plastic male chastity device in the world. It contains several locking rings and is fairly secure. It’s a great starter model.

Another popular model is called the Male Chastity CB Curve. It’s similar to the CB-3000, but forces his penis to be constantly curved so it’s facing the ground. This is great for psychological emasculation, but is nowhere near as secure as the CB-3000.

If the CB-3000 seems a little pricy to you – or if you are using male chastity as play and not a lifestyle – you can choose the CB-2000. It’s not as secure as the CB-3000, but it will work for short-term chastity games and can be a wonderful starter model. Many women choose this when they just want to lock their man up for an hour or two while he focuses on her pleasure. It does not come with locking rings, so you have to trust the security of the small padlock.

One of the downsides of the CB-3000 is that while it works well for average or well-endowed men, some men with smaller equipment found they could slip out of it by icing down their genital region.

That’s why the CB-5000 and CB-6000 were born. These are much more serious versions of the CB-3000, and have been designed to be secure even if your husband has the smallest pee-pee on the block. Both are great; but the CB-5000 only works with a male who has a penis piercing that it can be attached to. The CB-6000 will work with any male and is also available in designer colors and styles.

My advice is to start your man off with the CB-3000 or The Curve, and then after a couple months build him up to the CB-6000. Eventually, of course, you’ll want him in steel; but this is a lifestyle and a process, not a race to the finish line.

First, you need to understand that there are several different options when it comes to male chastity – tubes, cages and piercings. The tubes and belts can be made of either steel or plastic, but the piercings should obviously be made of surgical steel.

With tubes and cages, the difference between choosing a plastic or steel device rests with how serious you are about male chastity and how much you trust your husband. To be blunt, if your husband gets desperate he can probably use the tools in his garage to break a plastic chastity cage or tube – but if he’s locked up in steel, he’d have to pay a welder to get out. That’s not very likely, is it? This is why I highly suggest steel chastity over the playtime plastic variety.

Now, lets talk about the differences between chastity tubes and chastity cages. Steel male chastity cages are shaped like wire baskets and lock around the penis and testicles. The advantage of a male steel chastity cage is that the space between the wires allows him to wash his private parts in the shower while remaining locked up.

The downside to a male steel chastity cage is that it does allow some sexual stimulation. Simply by running water over the cage in the shower, he will get sexual pleasure. The cage will prevent erections but it won’t stop all levels of sexual self-stimulation. And if your man is a premature ejaculator, he might be able to have a no-erection orgasm. This is rare – but it is a possibility that makes me shudder deep down to my core.

Steel chastity tubes are an entirely different matter. They wrap along the length of his penis, only allowing his little pee hole freedom at the tip. There is no way for him to stimulate his penis at all as long as he is locked up in the tube. The downside to the steel male chastity tube is that once a week or so, you will have to unlock him and wash his penis yourself so as to prevent him from getting infected.

I cannot stress this point enough – do not unlock him and let him go in the shower and wash his penis himself. He’ll masturbate instead and probably lie to you about, which is bad for your marriage and his natural male submission.

The question now is, how do you choose between a steel male chastity cage and a steel male chastity tube? My advice is that your long-term goal should be to get him in a tube, but in the short term it’s probably better to start off with a steel male chastity cage.

Men don’t have the same levels of natural endurance that we do, and the tube may scare him off at first. It’s better to give him the illusion of some level of freedom with a male chastity cage. Once he’s started to learn his place, you can give him the tube as a birthday or Christmas gift and make your control over his sexuality more naturally complete.

It should be noted that there is one great benefit to both male chastity cages and tubes: Both require him to sit down to pee – which means you’ll never have to deal with any messes from his little squirter.

That’s why this edition will be dedicated to the basics of male chastity punishment. Don’t be scared. Remember, men are happiest when they are submitting to the woman they love. They are at their most miserable when they have freedom. But they live in denial and will try to get that freedom, even though they know deep down inside that they were born to submit.

You need to instill male chastity punishment as a way to correct this behavior and guide them to the incredible bliss that a man can only achieve when he has completely given up his sexuality to his partner.

The first question you will probably ask is, what exactly is male chastity punishment? At its most basic level, it is correcting your husband when he misbehaves in chastity. The easiest and most common male chastity punishment is to simply extend his chastity for extra days or weeks for each infraction. Because he will be desperate for release, this will work fairly well.

If he has been particularly bad, a more harsh form of male chastity punishment is the “ruined orgasm.” For this you need your key and a bowl of ice. Take him out of his cage and start masturbating him. Then, when he is very close to orgasm, take the ice and apply it to his cock. Then, lock him up again. He’ll have gotten close to orgasm but missed his chance. His frustration level will go sky high!

The ultimate form of male chastity punishment – and one that should only be used when there are serious infractions – is to show him exactly what he is missing. Find an ex-boyfriend or another man you want to make love with and bring him home; make your husband watch him penetrate you while he remains helplessly locked up. If you do this, it may be weeks before he misbehaves again!

Your next question will be: When do I institute male chastity punishment? This one is tricky, because, face it: Men are only human, and very weak creatures. There will probably be – especially at the start – many things he does every day that annoy you. You can’t waste time punishing him for every little disappointment.

But there are some things that always need to be punished, so let’s go over the basics:

• If he asks to be let out of his cage early. He shouldn’t be asking at all! That’s up to you! If you let him whine once, he’ll whine forever. Each time he complains, you should add at least one more day to his chastity.
• If you catch him looking at porn. This cannot be tolerated at all. If you catch him once, add at least a week onto his confinement as part of his male chastity punishment.
• If a specific chore is not done and he does not have a valid excuse. Again, if you let him get away with this once, he’ll never be a good boy. This should add a week of chastity onto his schedule.
• If he tries, but fails, to give you an orgasm with his mouth and fingers. He needs to learn how to please you without his cock. Any day he can’t is an extra day he should be kept in chastity.
• If you discover any attempt on his part to escape from the device. This is a big sin, and is one of the times I highly recommend giving him a ruined orgasm.

There it is – the basics of male chastity punishment! To learn more, please consider ordering my book, Beautiful Enslavement. It’s quite simply the right thing to do if you are serious about your relationship.