Trust and good communication are two of the most important aspects of a successful marriage. In fact, it could be said that you can’t have one without the other. Without these things, marriage can be an uphill battle. There can be niggling doubts in the back of your mind about your spouse. Where are they? What are they doing? Similarly, you can also wonder if what they say to you when you talk to each other is true and that they are being honest about your relationship. And because there is a lack of good communication, you may find it difficult to express yourself properly to them.

Lack of trust in a marriage doesn’t necessarily mean that one or both partners are untrustworthy, or have said or done anything to make the other wary. Other factors outside of the marriage, and indeed prior to the marriage can contribute to it too. Upbringing, previous relationships and self esteem issues to name but three can all factor into things.

What is the best way to go about building or regaining trust?

Being able to communicate properly is absolutely vital. Getting to a place where you understand where the other is coming from is half the battle when it comes to making marriage work. Of course, marriage should never be ‘a battle’. There are always times when it is going to be challenging though. And that goes for every single couple out there. I have been married almost 10 years and we’ve had our fair share of trials and tribulations. That’s life. Striving for perfection in fine, as long as you accept that you will never reach it.

Truly knowing each other is a great feeling. Yes, there will always be things about each other that we aren’t crazy about and would maybe like to change(for example, I wish my wife would pick up after herself a bit more! On the other hand, she wishes I wouldn’t nag so much!) but these things are part of what makes us who we are.

When the subject of trust comes up, it might conjure up thoughts of people wondering if their partners are being unfaithful, whether they lie to them, whether they are who they say they are. That is all quite extreme(although one could be forgiven for thinking like that, with the way marriage can be portrayed in the media and on TV etc.) No, what I’m talking about here is more a case of “do I trust this person to do the best for me, the best for our marriage?”. Getting to that point is a fantastic thing, because it doesn’t always come naturally. And of course, you can be at that point, and something can set you back again, so regaining that mindset is a great achievement and means you have both done really well.

I am of the opinion that good communication precedes trust. I’d even go as far to say that positive communication is the number 1 skill required in marriage. Certainly in my experience, anyway. If you get that right, everything falls into place and the rest will follow. Even if right now you and your spouse don’t communicate as well as you’d like, it’s something that you can work on. Here are a few tried and tested tips:-

1. When explaining your feelings on something specific about your spouse and/or their behaviour, say “I feel” instead of things like “You don’t….”, “I really wish you would….”, “Why can’t you?…” etc.

2. Take on board what your spouse says, try not to be offended or frustrated by it. Once you have identified any problem areas together….you are on the way to resolving them.

3. This one should go without saying, but don’t raise your voice or use profanities. There really is no upside to this. Yes, it shows them that you are frustrated, and even passionate, but there are better ways of expressing yourself that can get the same message across.

If you do have some internal issues and insecurities(which may or may not be to do with your marriage) then try your best to overcome them. Answer the ‘what ifs’. Like this:-

Q “What if our marriage doesn’t work?”

A ”As long as we both gave it our best shot, then I guess it wasn’t meant to be. I will have no regrets and will still be capable of living a happy and fulfilling life.”

Q ”What if they cheat on me?”

 A ”If they are going to cheat on you….then they are going to cheat on you. Worrying about it won’t make it not happen. But why think like this? Cross that bridge if you ever come to it…and the chances are, you won’t anyway.”

Q ”What if they fall out of love with me?”

A ”Even if, at some point, they say that…it may not be the case and you can work on things together. If it IS the case, then you are a strong person and will move forward.”

Those examples are quite dramatic, but it can be difficult having those kinds of thoughts running through your mind. We are all human, and we all worry from time to time.

It really is better to trust. That doesn’t mean you should think your spouse can do no wrong and the sun shines out of their behind, but that you are safe in the knowledge that you are both doing your best for your marriage, and making the most of your life together. Again – good communication precedes trust. A marriage with both is something you should be immensely proud of if you have one, and something to strive for if you don’t.

Admitting there is a problem is the beginning. Just by doing this, you have immediately created the possibility of fixing things. Things haven’t been going well between you and your spouse recently and you have decided that enough is enough. Well done for being honest with yourself. It might sound silly, but so many people find it so difficult just to do this. Now, wouldn’t it be great if you could walk up to someone, say to them “Help me save my marriage” and they handed you a key and it was magically fixed? In your case, you have maybe looked online to see if the help is there for you. Well, I have some good news. The help IS here for you. The bad news is that you are going to have to take some important steps first so that you are in the best position possible to eliminate the possibility of divorce and wake up next to your spouse every day with a smile on your face all over again.

Step 1 – Take Responsibility

You have already partly done this by admitting there is a problem and seeking some help. In addition though, looking back and seeing where you think YOU have gone wrong in the marriage will be of great benefit. Sure, we all fall into the ‘it’s their fault!’ way of thinking, no matter how happy we are in our partnership. This is especially true when things really aren’t going well and the d word begins to enter your head. Yes, you can wait for your spouse to change their negative behaviours, to improve their communication skills, to stop doing things that are contaminating the marriage but you may be waiting a long time, and playing the waiting game is only going to lead to frustration.

It’s extremely likely(almost guaranteed, in fact) that you have BOTH contributed to the current state of your marriage so if only one of you(for now) can look back and identify what they have and haven’t done then it is going to be a massive step in the right direction. It can be very difficult to look within and pinpoint where we have fallen short, but unless we do so, then we can’t improve on these things. Think about how you have approached your relationship with your spouse. How have you communicated with them? How have you tried to meet their emotional, physical, spiritual needs? How much time have you spent with them? How much support have you offered them? And on and on. If you can do this and come back with a solid list of things you know you can improve on, then you are firmly heading in the right direction.

Step 2 – Decide To Work On Your Flaws

Admitting we have flaws and areas we need to improve on is tough, there’s no getting away from it. But that’s how we become better. Maybe you feel that you raise your voice too much when having a conversation with your spouse about your marriage. Next time….try your best NOT to raise your voice. Easier said than done, maybe – but small changes like this can have a massive impact. Maybe you feel you don’t make enough time to spend with your partner. You can try and make that little bit more. They will most likely see this, and appreciate it.

You might be wondering what your partner’s role in all this is. What are THEY doing to make things better? Well, somebody has to make the first move and it might as well be you. Think about it, if they were doing all this soul searching and trying to improve on things, would YOU be receptive to it? Would you appreciate it? Of course you would. Only one of you needs to get the ball rolling at first. If we can work on ourselves first, we can then come together and work on the marriage as a whole. Another way of looking at it is this – you go to your spouse and say to them “We need to save our marriage! What are you going to do about it?”. Maybe they would respond “Yeah, I agree – let’s get to work!”. In my experience, that’s quite unlikely though. More likely is that they might possibly get defensive and be unsure of just HOW to go about making things better. By all means, let them know that you feel things aren’t good at the moment, but you want to work on it and are working on your own part in things right now. That will surely go down a lot better with them.

Step 3 -  Get Some Professional and Practical Help and Guidance

You’ve admitted there is a problem, you have taken responsiblility for your part in things and you have decided to work on your flaws. Those are MASSIVE steps towards saving your marriage already….and your partner hasn’t even been involved in any of it yet. Marriage doesn’t come with a manual, so seeking some professional help and guidance is often a very wise option when things go pear-shaped. Professional counseling is always one such option, but that costs money, can be irregular and you have to go through the whole process of convincing your other half to do it. If you feel this is what you and your partner need, then by all means look into it. This type of guidance can be especially useful if your marriage is a volatile one, or if one of you has been unfaithful.

Another option is private, detailed help that you have access to at any time – online help. You came here to Marriage Advice Online and we hope we have been some help to you. You can go to the next level if you want to though. Amy Waterman’s Save My Marriage Today helps couples like you each and every day. A revolutionary and groundbreaking e-course, it can be yours almost immediately and you can put the massive amount of practical help and advice to work straight away. We own this course ourslves have written a detailed text review of it and also have a video review so you can see just exactly what it is and how it is so powerful that it literally can save your marriage today.

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Step 4 – Work On Your Marriage Together With Your Partner

You are now ready to put everything you have learned into practice. By now you have taken responsibility, decided to work on your own flaws, and have seeked some practical help and guidance. You are now in a great position and a lot of the weight should have been lifted off your shoulders. The chances are that your partner will have seen the positive changes you have made, and will be making positive changes themselves. You could even both be working together to save the marriage already. If you aren’t, then you surely will be soon. Your partner needs to go through the same process and steps you did. If you can do it, they can do it, right? Of course they can. Once you are both making that conscious effort to improve your relationship, things can go from strength to strength. You can be laughing together again. You can be spending quality time together again. You can have the amazing physical relationship you once shared back again. You can be looking to the future together again.

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There may be no more important day in your life than the day that you got married. You can remember the nervousness and excitement of that day when you finally promised to always love and be faithful to your spouse.

Thinking back on that day, it can be very disheartening when, just a few years(or even months/weeks) later, you are seriously contemplating divorce. For many newlyweds, the intensity of those initial emotions inevitably wear off after a few years of marriage when the excitement of those early days give way to the minutia of everyday life. The first thing to realize is that these are common emotions that everyone goes through. Every marriage goes through a progression and you can’t expect to have the same relationship on your five-year anniversary as you did on your honeymoon night.

But this does raise an important question about when to end a marriage. The first thing to realize is that this is not a decision that should be made lightly. As long as there has been no infidelity or physical abuse, you should do everything possible to make your marriage better. Thankfully, there are a lot of resources available to you that are designed specifically to help an ailing marriage. Marriage Advice Online is of course one such resource and we are very happy to have you here, and hope we can help.

If your problems are very serious, you may want to consider going to a professional marriage counselor. These people are trained in helping spouses reconcile their differences and build stronger marriages. Given their vast experience, it is pretty likely that they will be able to help your marriage. Alternatively, they will also know when to end a marriage as well. And for such a big decision, it is important to get an outside, expert opinion on the matter.

If you do use a marriage counselor, it is important to be completely open and honest in your sessions. Often times, a failing marriage is due to a lack of communication when spouses fail to properly state their thoughts and feelings. This can be particularly difficult for husbands who may fear feeling vulnerable when they open up about how they feel. Thus, it is very important to make him feel comfortable and to not be judgmental. It is only in this way that the root causes of a failing marriage can be discovered. And once they are discovered, the healing process can begin.

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Given the importance of your marriage, you should avail yourself of every conceivable option that may be of use in solidifying a bad relationship. Only if both you and your partner have done everything possible should you even contemplate the possibility of a divorce. The problem is that most people give up before reaching this point. But most marriage problems that are not a result of either infidelity or physical abuse can be saved. And you owe it yourself to do everything in your power to save it.

Most wives would immediately feel upset and disappointed when their husband says he is unhappy. As someone that has been on the receiving end of this admission, you are probably no different. In actual fact though, this can be a positive thing. Why? Because he has been honest with you.

It’s much more worrying, and far more difficult to overcome problems when one(or both) of a couple pretend things are OK and keep going through each day not facing up to the actual reality of the situation. At a quick guess, I’d say 60-70% of married couples go through the motions without facing up to the truth, at least for a while – so being in the other 30-40% isn’t a bad thing.

Where To Go From Here

How your husband actually expressed that he is unhappy could be important. Did he say it during an argument? Did he sit you down and tell you? Did he blurt it out out of nowhere? If it was during an argument, he was probably on the defensive and his emotions got the better of him. If he sat down and told you, that shows great maturity and willing to be honest. If he blurted it out out of nowhere, it’s probably been heavy on his mind for quite some time. The second one of those would be the ‘best’, but whichever one it is, you need help getting to the bottom of things and hopefully moving forward.

Firstly, it would be really helpful to try and ascertain why he is unhappy. Perhaps he even told you. If so, that’s a great starting point. If not, you can either ask him directly(that’s what we’d recommend) or reflect on the last few weeks/months/years and try and figure out why. Think about all the different areas of your marriage, and even areas outside of your marriage that could be contributing to the way he currently feels.

Just because he is unhappy, doesn’t mean it is your fault. First and foremost, we are all responsible for our own happiness. With that said, it would be really beneficial to take a close look at the areas you have identified that are causing him to be unhappy, and see if you can improve them. Maybe you can encourage him to spend more time pursuing his hobbies or try and make more time for physical intimacy(let’s be honest here – that’s one of the keys to male happiness!), or just try and make the time you spend together more enjoyable.

You Are Equally As Important

Are YOU unhappy? Maybe you felt things were going well between you and your husband and this has come as somewhat of a shock. Or maybe you feel slightly relieved because you were feeling the same as he is. Take some time to think about what you want from the marriage, and life in general. Ideally, both of you will be happy and will grow together. It can take some work to get to that point though. If you are both honest about how you feel, and why you feel that way – there is absolutely no reason why you can’t claim that happiness you both crave – and deserve.

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-It will immediately lift some of the stress you have on your shoulders. Why? Because it will help you to answer questions about yourself and your marriage, and as soon as a problem arises you will be able to open it up and get help and advice.

-It will enable you and your partner to start talking again. No, not arguing and scoring points – talking. Communication is so important, and the way you have both been approaching it has probably been damaging your marriage. You will gain a new approach.

-It will help you to improve the physical side of your marriage. Maybe you aren’t having sex. Maybe you don’t even sleep in the same bed. That can all change for the better if you know how, and Save My Marriage Today has all the answers.

-It will help you to deal with cheating. Have you been cheating? Has your partner been cheating? Are you worried about them cheating? Have they cheated in the past? Is guilt eating you up? Everything you need is right here.

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What is Save My Marriage Today and Why Should it Interest Me?

Save My Marriage Today is what’s called an eCourse. That term might sound a little daunting, but don’t worry. All it means is that it is a digital information product that you can go download, read and follow. If you decide to buy it, you will pay for it as you would something on Amazon or wherever you shop online, but instead of it being delivered to your door, it will be delivered to your E-Mail and you will be able to save it to your computer in PDF format! This means you can have access to it instantly, you can go through it in the comfort of your own home and you can even print it out so you can read it wherever you like in your home, or even outside if you prefer! Oh yeah, and of course there is no shipping fee!

The Save My Marriage Today eCourse consists of  2 main eBooks(digital books), 3 huge additional books full of questions asked by people just like you including the actual answers given, and some awesome bonuses. We’ll talk about those bonuses later on in this article. Firstly though, let’s look at the author of the main eBook – Amy Waterman.

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Who is Amy Waterman and How Can She Help My Marriage?

Amy Waterman - author of Save My Marriage Today

Amy Waterman was born on the coast of Oregon, USA, but now lives in New Zealand. During her life she has run a marathon, served as a Peace Corps volunteer, earned a masters degree in writing from the University of Wales, and studied agriculture in the U.K., South America, and Australia. She is a professional writer specializing in attraction, dating and relationships. In addition to Save My Marriage Today, she has written/co-written numerous other books and courses in the relationship niche. Quite simply – this lady knows what she’s talking about and is someone who is well worth listening to.

The level of depth in Amy’s eCourse is nothing short of astounding. No stone is left unturned, no area left uncovered. She will help you to identify exactly what is wrong in your marriage and will give you the solutions to eliminate those problems that are currently contaminating it. You might be thinking to yourself, “well, I could just buy a Dr. Phil book from the store!” and that’s a good point. We are Dr. Phil fans ourselves, but I can guarantee you that you won’t find this much detail in paperback books from the store. The fact that you will also have instant access to what people just like you have asked the experts behind this product, and the exact advice given to them, makes it highly unique.  On that note,  there is a special bonus in this eCourse that separates if from any similar products out there, more on that later!

Let me put it like this. If you are sick, you are of course going to want to see a good doctor that will be able to immediately identify what is wrong with you, and will give you what to need to make you well again. The same applies here, infact that analogy is quite apt. Your marriage is sick, and Amy Waterman  is the doctor that will tell you what is wrong and help you fix it. You will be in the best hands.

Why Doesn’t Marriage Advice Online Offer a Product Like This?

Excellent question. We are a couple, who in almost 10 years together(in June 2012!) have been through almost every up and down that you can possibly have in marriage. We have also observed our friends and family and seen what they do that helps their marriages, and what they do that hinder them. We built this site in the hope of helping others overcome the problems we once faced. However, as owners of Save My Marriage Today ourselves, we don’t mind admitting that it’s extremely doubtful that we could put together an incredible product like Amy has. Maybe we could, but it would take a LONG time! Although we are professional writers, we aren’t of the caliber of someone like Amy. Instead, we populate our site with articles we have written especially for it that are designed to help our visitors, and point them in the direction of resources we feel will help them.

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OK, What Is Included In Save My Marriage Today?

The main 2 eBooks(Save My Marriage Today and Save My Marriage Today – Book 2, For Marriages In Extreme Crisis) are organized in a way that will first tell you what you are going to get from them and then tell you how to go about identifying the problem areas and in turn fixing them. Every single area of marriage is covered in great detail, including:-

-What you are currently doing wrong, and how it could be contaminating your marriage
-How to get your spouse to change their attitude
-How to be at ease and calm
-How to stop cheating dead in its tracks
-How to pinpoint exactly what is wrong using unique strategies
-How to save your marriage if you have cheated
-Anger management
-Parenting
-Sex
-Finances

Next, you have the consults. This is a huge(and we mean huge!) set of questions asked by real married people and the advice that was given to them by renowned and highly experienced relationship expert and member of the Save My Marriage Today team, Andrew Rusbatch. These questions and answers are split into 3 volumes, as together they would amount to one massive 300-page eBook.

We aren’t talking short 2 line questions and brief replies like you see in newspapers and magazines here, we’re talking people just like you that explain their problem and incredibly detailed, insightful and in-depth practical replies. I personally really like that Andrew’s replies are completely direct and honest. If he thinks someone is in the wrong with their actions and behaviour, he tells them. If he thinks their spouse isn’t behaving the way they should be, he says so.  Basically, it’s like you’re sitting in on a counseling session, but with lots of couples with lots of different problems and situations! That alone is worth FAR more than the money this entire course costs.

That is a very small taster of what is included, if we put everything in you’d be reading this article for hours! You can see for yourself all the many ways this eCourse will help your marriage by clicking any of the links in this article, or the pic at the top.

You Mentioned Some Bonuses – What Are They?

Thanks for reminding me! Here is a quick list of them:-

‘Email Consultation’
‘Stress: The Silent Killer – A Comprehensive Guide To Wellness and Inner Peace’
‘Seven Ways to Live Life to the Max’
‘How to be Happy!
‘The Journey – How to Gain the Life of Your Dreams’
‘How to Cheat-Proof Your Relationship’

Again, each of the bonus guides are incredibly in-depth and will help you to not only make your marriage better than you ever dreamed, you can also make yourself happier than you ever dreamed too. Did your eyes immediately focus on the ‘E-Mail Consultation’ one? We’ll let Amy explain that one herself:-

“I am providing this bonus for a short time only to ensure that your marital problem gets attended to first hand by my specially-trained staff of relationship experts. Email the Save My Marriage Today! team and get real advice for your specific situation. The frank perspective and objective insight from our consultations have made an enormous difference in our members’ lives: will you be next?”

Yes, you read that right. You will have E-Mail access to Amy’s specially trained staff of relationship experts with advice specific to your situation. Cool or what? You don’t get THAT with a Dr. Phil book!

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OK, I’m Really Interested In This – How Can I Find Out More, How Much Is It and Where Can I Buy It?

To find out more and to visit Amy’s site, just click on any of the links or pics in this article, or click here. The eCourse costs $49.95, and although that might strike you as a little costly – think for a moment how much it would cost you to go and see a counselor. Anything up to $120! That’s if you can find one and get an appointment. Save My Marriage Today has our official seal of approval for 3 very good reasons:-

1. We own Save My Marriage Today ourselves and Amy and her team have the same ideas about what marriage means as we do and uses strategies that we know first hand flat out work.
2. We want your marriage to start getting better the moment you enter our site. With our articles to give you a starting point and Amy’s eCourse to give you the focused program you need – we feel you can be well on the right track towards a sensational marriage.  Not merely a happy one, or a good one. A SENSATIONAL one.
3. The results speak for themselves. Don’t just take our word for it – read the testimonials on Amy’s site!

If you are still unsure whether this is for you. Amy and her team offer a FREE 6-part Stop Divorce Course which is delivered to you confidentially via E-Mail. To find out more about that, click here.

The very best of luck and thank you for reading. Again, to watch our 2-part video review, click here – Save My Marriage Today Review

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The most common reasons for a marriage ending include the following:-

Infidelity

Falling out of love

Loss of trust

Not meeting each other’s expectations

Violence

In some ways, the question ‘when is a marriage over?’ is similar to ‘how do you know when you’re in love?’. They’re completely different ends of the scale, yes, but there are literally hundreds of different answers for both of them. The answer I have heard the most, for both questions, is ‘you just know’. Think about that for a moment. Falling in love and ending a marriage are two very big events in anyone’s life, yet this ‘answer’ seems to be so clinical and brief.

In truth, there are a multitude of factors that get you to the point of ‘just knowing’. For the purpose of this article, we’re of course going to concentrate on the latter of the two questions.

Let’s ponder it for a moment. How do you know when a marriage is over?

Maybe your feelings towards the other person have changed. Perhaps you don’t feel as much for them as you once did. What has contributed to this though? It doesn’t just happen overnight. It could be that your partner doesn’t pay as much attention to you as you’d like. Or maybe they have different views on things such as money and kids than they did when you both said ‘I do’.

You really need to ponder the question in detail. Does the marriage feel ‘over’ because you feel let down? Is your pride hurt? Is it easier just to give up, rather than sit down with your partner and figure out what exactly you both want out of the marriage?

Now for the Marriage Advice Online answer to the question. In our opinion, a marriage is over when both partners have put everything they have into it and can look back and say they gave it their best shot. Can you do that? If you are reading this article, my guess is that you don’t know 100% if your marriage is over, otherwise you wouldn’t be looking for answers. In that case, I think there is at the very least a glimmer of hope for you. The big question is – are you prepared to fight for your marriage? If you’re already wondering if it is coming to an end, then what do you have to lose?

As I mentioned early on in this article, things like infidelity and violence are deal breakers for a lot of people, and I completely understand that. Only you know if you could move forward after either of those things have occurred in your relationship, it’s not for us to tell you. If things like that haven’t occurred in your relationship, and your issue is that you don’t think you feel the same, you owe it to yourself and your partner to find out if that really is the case. It could be that you actually don’t know yet.

Here is a list of questions to ask yourself right now, and the answers should give you a better idea of your feelings towards your spouse, and your feelings about the marriage itself. Writing these down, along with your answers might prove useful too. After you have answered them for yourself, you could answer them for your spouse too, as if they were answering them. Be as honest as you possibly can here.

Do you still enjoy your spouse’s company?

Do you still find them physically attractive?

Do you trust them?

Are you honest with them?

Do you spend enough time with them?

Do you feel the marriage allows you to grow individually?

Have you told them exactly how you feel about them and the marriage? If so, have you explained your reasoning?

Here’s another way of looking at things – if you woke up tomorrow and you were no longer married and were living separately, how would you feel? Relieved? Lost? Confused? Devastated? Happy? Now fast forward 3 months, how do you think you’d feel then? Would you still feel the same? Or after having 3 months to clear your mind, would you have regrets about going your separate ways?

If you are struggling with where to go from here, an all in one solution like Amy Waterman’s outstanding  Save My Marriage Today would help you to definitively answer this question. Not only that, but reading through all the practical advice and following it would help YOU as an individual. It’s about much more than saving your marriage, it goes into how to learn what YOU want from like and how to make yourself happy, regardless of your relationship status. It’s not only a marriage saver, it can be a LIFE saver. Perhaps that sounds a tad dramatic, but when you are unhappy in your marriage and in your household, your life just isn’t what it should be. Imagine waking up each day feeling positive and optimistic about your marriage and your life. You’d be at work and would be counting down the minutes until it was time to go home and could spend time with your spouse. You’d be rid of all the stress of wondering where your life is going.

Do you want to stay exactly where you are right now, or do you want to move forward? Taking some definitive action today can and will change things for the better. Even if your marriage IS over, it’s better that you are able to find that out and take steps to move forward with your life. The worst thing you can do is just stay exactly where you are right now. Are you happy there? Of course not. You deserve to be happy. For more information about this incredible eCourse, you can watch our in depth video review of it by clicking here – Save My Marriage Today Review

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As someone who has been through happy and sad times in my marriage, I of course have my own opinions on what contributes to it being good, and what contributes to it being bad. I’m going to share what I personally think makes a marriage a happy one with you, in the hope that it can help your own situation. I hope this advice proves useful to you.

Good communication

Without this, any relationship is doomed. If you can sit down with your spouse, tell them exactly how you feel in a calm and constructive manner, you are actually a step ahead of a lot of couples. More importantly, if you can listen to what they say, then you will both know where you stand and what each of you needs from the marriage.

Trust

This should go without saying, but you’d be surprised how many married people don’t fully trust their other halves. It can be argued that it’s impossible to trust another human being 100%, but with someone you share your life with, your bed with, and your house with – you should be able to get pretty darn close. If there isn’t enough trust in the marriage, you both have to ask yourselves exactly why. Being able to trust someone is a wonderful thing, and should be a part of every marriage.

Friendship

Yes, I’m pretty sure you’re attracted to each other, and that might even be why you initially got together. Never underestimate the importance of friendship though. If you are relaxed in each others company, can freely spend time together and share humor – you almost already know the answer to the question of how to have a happy marriage.

A Healthy Sex Life

Some people claim this isn’t important, and although I’ll actually agree that it isn’t the be all and end all, I think it can really add to an already good marriage. Let’s face it, we all have needs and desires – and we all want them satisfied. There’s nothing better than having an exciting and fulfilling sex life with someone you love. Sometimes this area can be the trickiest to put right, which is why we highly recommend dedicated books like Fix Your Sexless Marriage and 500 Lovemaking Tips & Secrets for those of you in most need of fixing this side of things.

Shared Hopes, Dreams and Goals

If you’re not on the same page when it comes to the future, this can cause tension. I’m not talking about where to have dinner, or what to buy the kids for their birthdays, I’m talking about where you see yourselves in 1 year, 5 years and even 20 years. Do you want more children? Do you want to live in a big house? Do you want to start your own business? Do you want to be rich? Sharing these hopes, dreams and goals and supporting each other is guaranteed to keep you close together.

If all is well in the above areas, I see absolutely no reason why you can’t have a happy marriage for years to come. Adversity and problems will always come, but that’s life. Marriage is something to nurture and cherish, don’t ever forget that.

The general consensus among society seems to be that newlyweds are pretty much all blissfully happy, enjoying their newly formed union. It’s also often thought that this ‘honeymoon period’ is only temporary, and in actual fact is somewhat exaggerated and candy coated.

I must confess, when I think of newlyweds, I think of a starry eyed young couple, madly in love and so wrapped up in one another that they feel invincible and almost oblivious to the rest of the world. Or maybe that was just my own experience.

Maybe some of you even think of Jessica Simpson(don’t be embarrassed!) and Nick Lachey when you hear the term ‘newlyweds’ – they had a reality show on MTV documenting their first year(and beyond) of married life. Despite seeming like a very well-matched and happy couple, they, like many others, didn’t make it. Without knowing them outside of that reality show and media coverage about each of them, it’s quite easy to come to the conclusion that perhaps they didn’t put enough effort into keeping the marriage alive. Of course, we shouldn’t make that assumption – the truth is, we have no idea.

If you have been married a matter of months, weeks, or even days – you are extremely welcome here at Marriage Advice Online. In fact, this is perhaps the best time to seek help and advice to strengthen your relationship. It’s not only people that have been together years that have difficulties – everyone does at some stage, remember that. So let’s get down to the nitty gritty – is the ‘honeymoon period’ exaggerated, inflated, and even false? Is it a temporary window where you both see each other through rose tinted glasses? In a lot of cases, the answer is ‘yes’, but it would be foolish just to write off this time as something that isn’t truly real. Instead, time should be spent considering just what made that time so special, and just what makes the present perhaps more difficult and challenging.

Every single couple has a time where they can do no wrong in each other’s eyes, they are madly in love and madly in lust. The mere presence of the other person is enough to bring a constant warm feeling inside that brightens up one’s mood infinitely. This period is often for the first few weeks and months of the relationships, but there is usually another one that starts from the wedding day. For couples that have embarked on a relationship and got married very quickly, this initial infatuation can last until well after they have said ‘I do’. But just what are the reasons behind this ‘honeymoon period’? Why does it differ to the rest of the relationship or marriage? Let’s try and break it down:-

-A new relationship or marriage creates an elevated and positive hormonal reaction in both partners.

-The acceptance felt when someone you think highly of and physically desire feels the same is a massive boost to your ego and general mood.

-Getting to know each other, both personally and physically is very interesting and exciting.

-In the beginning, shared responsibilities are minimal – even after marriage the ‘newness’ of things such as living together and sharing finances is an exciting novelty.

So what happens when time passes and all of this ‘wears off’? It’s then that you really begin to find out how compatible you are. Most people that get on well and are physically attracted to each other can make a relationship work for a few weeks or months, but to make it work for many years is a different proposition altogether. Reality will set in at some point, bringing with it everyday challenges and obstacles and it’s then that you will both need to work at things.

It doesn’t matter how in love you are, how well you get along etc – EVERY couple has to work at their marriage. It’s impossible for two lives to merge together and for it to be plain sailing for decades. Life just doesn’t work like that. Don’t think just because the magic of the honeymoon period has faded, that it means things can’t work. Far too many people make this mistake. In fact, I’d say that’s one of the most common causes of conflict and eventually, divorce.

I’m sure you know people who were married a matter of months(maybe even weeks) before they decided to throw in the towel. In some of those cases, it was probably the contrast between the initial feelings of love, lust and infatuation and the reality of day to day life that was the catalyst for things to end. Don’t make that mistake – accept that the ‘elevated’ feelings you may have now will actually always be there if you work at things. Marriage is a wonderful thing – but like anything else, it takes some work. If you’re prepared to put in that effort – you can have a sensational marriage for many years. Get to know each other, communicate and be honest about what you want out of the marriage and life. THAT is the best marriage advice for newlyweds.

To summarize, here are 4 things to remember:-

1. The ‘honeymoon period’ is temporary and will end at some point, but that doesn’t mean your marriage can’t go from strength to strength.

2. Marriage takes work, but remember that anything that is worth having does.

3. Communication is the key to a successful marriage.

4. Life is full of ups and downs, and so is marriage – there is no such thing as a perfect marriage. There is such a thing as a great one though.

As we’ve mentioned before, the average counseling session in America today costs $95. That is a lot of money to a lot of couples, particularly those with kids. Our question is this – is paid marriage advice better than free marriage advice? Ponder that for a few minutes.

Our own opinion is that both can be equally effective – it all depends on the couple. If they are willing to implement the advice they receive, it doesn’t matter if they have paid $1000 for it or absolutely nothing – it can have a positive impact on the relationship. It all comes down to whether you want to take action. Are you willing to make behavioral changes? Are you willing to listen to your partner’s point of view? Are you willing to do whatever you need to do to get things back on track again? If the answer is ‘yes’ to these questions, then some gentle guidance in the right direction might be all you need.

The same analogy can be made when it comes to products too. There are some very good E-books and E-courses on the market today, with the very best one being Save My Marriage Today which costs $49.95. It’s around half the price of an average counseling session, but if you download it, skim through it, leave it sitting on your hard drive and never soak up or implement any of the information in there – it’s money wasted. Does it have the power to help you save your marriage? ABSOLUTELY! It isn’t a magic pill though – it’s down to YOU to actually make the necessary changes. You get out what you put in. If you’re willing to put in, a book like that will help you to get where you want to be in a focused way.

Whether you go to counseling sessions, read the info here at Marriage Advice Online, or buy a product – it’s YOU that determines whether you can make things great again. Both of you. Sounds daunting? When things are going well and you are more in love than ever, just remember – that’s because of YOU. You took what you learned, implemented it and created a sensational marriage all over again. We hope you’ll congratulate yourself for a great achievement. Whoever you turned to for help merely guided you in the right direction. To summarize – free marriage advice can be every bit as good as paid marriage advice. It’s more about how good YOU are.