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God is Tickled by Faith Not Perfection

maxafier — Fri, 20 Jan 2012 20:53:01 +0000

Tina Klugman

The Bible, the Word of God has apparent truths and those that must be searched out to understand.

One of those truths is the balance of understanding grace and godly behavior. While all salvation comes by God’s mercy, our gratefulness is shown by the willingness and desire to live a pleasing life before the Lord. Often this ends up becoming an effort to be perfect, but the dilemma is we do not want to seem as if we are trying to be in a mode of earning salvation by trying to live perfectly.

The bible states, “Without faith it is impossible to please God”. This is a famously quoted scripture. Join me on peeling the onion back on this truth so that we come away with a greater understanding.

One way to look at the truth of scriptures in the New Testament is to see the actions of God while interacting with man in the Old Testament. In this case let us speak of Abraham, the most famous ancestor of the twelve tribes of Israel.

When answering the call of God he acted in faith, obediently leaving the country of his relatives to journey where God led him. At that time he was called Abram. That took faith to leave relatives, a comfortable life, and your support. That was great faith; much like those who crossed over seas and countries in search of a better life.

Yet in 12th chapter of Genesis, when fearful that he might be in mortal danger because Pharaoh of Egypt desiring his wife Sarai, he chose to plan a lie to avoid a confrontation by saying she was his sister. Where was the faith of Abram now? Yet God did not require perfection of Abram. In fact in spite of the lie God turned the encounter around test bless Abraham with an increase of wealth. Now I know some will say Abram was being developed and in the process of growing. So we should not be so critical of his actions.

Fast forward to the famous act of faith by Abraham, formerly Abram; in obedience to God Abraham prepares to sacrifice Isaac, his only son of promise. This is Sarah’s only son. When Abraham was about to sacrifice Isaac God prevented death of Isaac by providing another sacrifice. Wow! What great faith. In fact God said He knew now that Abraham trusted Him. God was jazzed and excited by Abraham’s faith. As a side note I was impressed with Abraham because of Sarah, formerly Sarai, because she certainly did not know of this test of Abraham’s faith until the all was safe. Imagine trying to explain all this to the same woman that waited 25 years for the fulfillment of having a child. That was certainly taking your life in your hands. Again this was great faith. Some would say this was Abraham at the height of his development. This still was not perfection.

Soon after, in 20th chapter of Genesis, Abraham found himself in a familiar situation as with Pharaoh. This time the ruler was called Abimelech, king of Gerar. Again Abraham misled the ruler for fear of his own life due to Sarah being found desirous and beautiful. Why was Abraham not trusting of God after so many times God had delivered him. Certainly he was not showing perfection. Here we have a clue about pleasing God. God delights when we believe Him and yet recognizes that we are not and will not be perfect. He was never looking for Abraham’s perfect behavior. God was looking for Abraham’s faith at the time God communicated His expectation of Abraham’s obedience.

Are you trying to be perfect? Is that driving you? I can tell you that is not pleasing God. In fact it is torment because it is a product of fear. The understanding is to seek the expectation of God. When you know God’s expectation you can obey Him with a pure heart. That is what tickles, pleasures, delights, and cause fireworks to go off in heaven. It is your faith, not your perfect behavior. As with Pharaoh and Abimelech God will cause grace and mercy to cover our weaknesses when we are on the path of obedience in displaying our trust in what His word requires of us. Remember then do not make up your own mission. Find your mission from God and walk in faith, tickling the Lord God.

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Keep Your Feet Moving

maxafier — Tue, 03 Jan 2012 02:24:33 +0000

tribute to Jules Marmotte

Dreams are a strongly desired goal or purpose (reference Merriam-Webster online), a reason keep moving forward. Dreams can be awe inspiring, exciting, intriguing, and can only be satisfied by its fulfillment. What is true as well is that pursuit of the dreams can be a little scary.

This wrting is about finding ways to to overcome being sidetracked by timidness, confusion, boredom, or the unknown. You have to move and stay in motion.

All the actions are characterized by a saying I will use throughout this post. It is, “Keep Your Feet Moving“. The last post was about being tenacious, determined, and resolute.

The Effect
Get a good snapshot of what Keep Moving Your Feet means. Have you ever watched ducks in the water? It seems they are tranquil. Gliding with ease as while floating on top of the water. Except for the occasional bending over to catch an insect for a light meal they could pose for a picture.

The Cause
Know that if you were to have visual access to what is taking place right beneath the duck you would find that an amazing amount of actvity that moves the duck in any direction. The ducks moving webbed feet would be reveal an absence of tranquility and a hotbed of work going on.

This post about what to do when you have made a committment to continuning how to not get sidetracked. So here are 8 things you can do to Keep Moving Your Feet

Keep the foundation of the basics going. To illustrate this a fundamental basic of living is breathing. When you get distracted, scared or timid focus on a basic action to take. Make the basics your friend. If writing, put down your thoughts no matter how jumbled. If it is flying, check you instruments. If it is singing, begin to hum. Keep Your Feet Moving
Get around others who are doing what you do. Find a group of people with at like mind. Check on Google to see where such a group exist. This will focus, encourage, and strenghten your resolve.
Read, see, and listen to stories of others that were in the same situation and yet overcome. This is a classic way of to Keep Your Feet Moving.
Dream of your end goal. Imagine, taste, smell, touch, and hear your end goal. Test drive your dream car, visit that open house, eat at the restaraunt, get brochures of the place you desire to travel, or a picture of marrying the person you love and any other goal you may have.
Write a journal of your experiences, thoughts, and encounters as you move toward your goals. Keep it daily. You should write you opinions, others opinions, obervances, conindcidences, and expectations. The movement is that you write everyday to Keep Your Feet Moving.
Similarly take pictures and make a album of all you desire. Have others send pictures to you. Draw the pictures yourself or describe it for a person you know draws well to render a picture of what you are moving towards. Look at the picture everyday throughout the day.
Talk, speak, vocally express your desires. Talk your plans out loud. Record yourself. Make a video that you play back to yourself during a time you are excited about what you seek to accomplish. This becomes an emotional trigger to remind you of how you feel. Keep Your Feet Moving.
Start a blog that allows others to join in your journey. Your sojourners will give you feedback and encouragement.

It becomes a chronicle that can be passed down to others so that they too Keep their Feet Moving.

Don't Give Up Until You Win

maxafier — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 11:02:54 +0000

We all have had times we wanted to let someone know something, that we thought would make them better. In some cases we are timid and decide not to communicate that we felt something was wrong. Other times we moved forward with confidence that certainly the person would see the wisdom of our logic and agree. It stung when

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by Steve Garvie

Have you ever met someone that has the effect that leaves you encouraged by the uplifting, enthusiastic charisma that person able to express optimism in the bleakest of times, someone who seems as if they could win at anything? Would it not be great to have that person there with you whenever you need a boost? Someone who knows how to win?

While there are those that are predisposed to being encouragers just as others are to athletics, designing, or cooking, you too can learn be an uplifting and optimistic person. A person who knows how to win!

Never underestimate the ability of humans to adapt and adjust to anyway that will lessen pain or increase pleasure. Very rarely does anyone remain unchanged if there is enough of an inconvenience or incentive. So most change becomes triggered by these two things; one finds that there are some primary things that will cause a person to adapt to have that winner attitude. I encourage you to Don’t Give Up Until You Win!

First, know what you want. Ask the question what would you do with a million dollars? Believe are not most people are stumped by this question past a car, house, and getting out of debt. The answer of invest it just doesn’t cut it because most have not educated themselves to be savvy investors. The point is being able to imagine, explain, describe and experience the feeling of what you want. Create a pre deja-vu experience. This brings you closer to the win.

Second, know why you want it. When you answer this question it is a win for you if you are truly moved by your purpose. This is creating pleasure for yourself or removing pain. Both can give you a reason. Both hold thought based on some emotion. Without this a win that sustains you to the end is not going to happen. You have to know your motivation to when and it must be an internal response.

Thirdly, put a plan together. Now this is a place where complications can take place. You have you destination, the what. You have your purpose, the why. The plan is what steps do I take to reach my destination?

Do I know anyone else who did it? What did they do?

Give the level of planning you would give on taking a long trip. Then begin to assemble what you need to make the trip.

Fourth, work it, work it, work it. This is where obstacles are overcome, you build a habit of winning. Fears are faced. Disappointments are many. This is what separates those who give up from those who don’t quit until they win. You must be willing to do what others are not willing to for obtaining what you desire. This is the reason your purpose must be worth seeing the journey to the end. This is where you win not because you obtain but because of whom you become as you win.

Lastly, make sure you keep up positive relations with others.Do You Cherish Your Relationships? It is just no good not to be able and celebrate your success without those you care about enjoying your win as well. Whatever happens Don’t Quit Until You Win!

Just Because

maxafier — Mon, 05 Dec 2011 06:50:59 +0000

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I am a redistributing this post in consideration of the season in relationships should be strengthened. For those of you who have read it before welcome back. Those of you who are new to this post I hope you enjoy!

I would like to write some thoughts about cherishing relationships. As I get older (funny

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Here are a few Just Because nuggets of wisdom readers may find handy. As with anything observed the perception is based on the beholders background, experience, emotional state, and any biases. My hope is if you do not find the wisdom of the saying at this time, you will place it on a shelf and see if it fits a need later.

So here you are, Just Because

On love…
A harvest of love is on guanrateed by making a deposit first and giving it time to grow!

Love always invest first before expecting a return. Anything else is just a business transaction.

Love is felt through emotion but not caused by it, love trancends dissappointments to hope again, love seeks to give as opposed to gain, love not returned will be love lost.

Please share. Why? Just Because!

attributed to Parvin

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On Frienship... Just Because
A friend is one who will wound you to save your life and stick around to make sure you are healed again.

When the dust of trouble clears a friend is still found standing.

Cultivation of friendship is much like a bee pollenating flowers. You only use the sting to protect against the interruption of the process of life.

Friends do not have to agree with you, just when disagreeing a friend is not disagreeable.

Friendships are like gardens they grow best by diligent attention, left alone weeds will grow and choke the life of that which was cultivated

Please share with someone else Just Because your are friends.

On politics...
When someone says, "I don't talk about politics" they are for fulfilling the first act of a poitician; to set the stage for invluencing by sharing ones opinion

Seek to use your influence for good, just make means and ends are both justified

Vote, talk, work, share, believe, but whatever you do please do something

Why even tallk about politics? Just Because.
On women...
You can't choose your relatives, but thank God I can choose my wife

All women are not made the same, have the same expereiences, or think the same. Yet I notice the all seem to get better with genuine and consisten appreciation

Guys, your wife, she will be your greatest cheerleader when you become her greatest hero

If you don't why you should share this. I can't help you!

On Natural disasters…
Nothing unfies people like a commone enemy, peril, or hardship. Don’t wait until the crises to build relationships

We learn the most valuable things are those we love and others when all else is gone. Value what’s important before the disaster

Never be to far removed in your mind watching the distress of others. Mark my words your turn is coming

On Living…
Life is much like the ocean. You were meant to ride the waves even if you wipeout sometimes

Be careful of harsh words and rash judgements. It only take a second for your life to change forever

Impress others by being so much who you are that they will feel free to be who they are

We are given a measure of time to be alive among others. Make sure your presence is felt and leaves a fond memory for those who encounter you

I wrote this because you are important in they way that makes you as unique as your fingerprint. If that is not enough, then enjoy it Just Because!

Some New Sayings for a New Day | wisdom

maxafier — Sat, 12 Nov 2011 07:53:11 +0000

Here are some more original thoughts that I hope spur the minds of my readers to do the best thing that should precede all action. That is to think! So here are Some Sayings for a New Day! I hope you enjoy them.

When pursuing goals, answer the internal echoes of fear by speaking new messages that will begin to echo faith

Rely and exercise your strengths, then nurture your relationships with others where you are weak, that is when teamwork begins

Create a picture of what you desire with your mind because with the imagination everyone can be a master artist

Stop speaking what you don’t want, because being occupied with those thoughts still takes up too much real estate in your mind. They are like residents who will not pay rent. Evict them.

Positive speaking, positive attitude, and a passionate desire are all powerless without a consistent willingness and action of WORK

Some say you are what you eat. This is speaking about the body. I say you are what you think. Reading is like eating food and thinking is digestion. Only a change in behavior shows the results

Work for what you want, but don’t forget why you work, work not just to survive or soon it will just be a mindless habit taking you nowhere

Work for a lifestyle. Make sure the seed of your desired lifestyle is included in your work. That is work with a purpose

In life’s journey know at times you walk with others and at times alone. How will you know? The road will widen or narrow accordingly.

Wisdom is knowing the difference between unchanged persistent action, and when persistent action requires change

Searching for “why” in things out of your control is the enemy of taking action of things within your control

The more “right” you want to be is the more you must be willing to change

Questions from the heart will bring you to answers that will challenge your willingness to change

Activity without purpose of reaching an end goal is like shooting an arrow without having a target

Ignorance is comfortable. It is like being unconscious. You are not dealing with life until you wake up

Working with relationships is like banking transactions. Only continue transactions if deposits out weigh withdrawals

In an economic storm real money is like rain. It does not disappear. It evaporates, falls back to earth, to be collected by those who are prepared

Let me know if you enjoy the sayings!Some New Sayings for a New Day

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Embrace a Season of Change | changing

maxafier — Wed, 28 Sep 2011 04:59:57 +0000

by theilr

Autumn is a time of reflection. A time of harvest from sowing that occurred in a previous season. The beauty in nature’s changes is breath taking. While we are aware of the signs of the changing seasons , it is a shame to not realize a personal season is changing and Embrace the Season of Change.

Like the changes in nature there are times of change in your career, economics, relationships, physical state, thinking, and spirituality. These too have signs of a changing into a new season.

There are signs your personal seasons have changed. Do you recognize them? If you do not, how will you Embrace the Season of Change?

Let me share some of the signals that indicate a change in one’s personal season.

To prepare you to recognize the signals a certain mind set should exist.
Remember the following.

There are no coincidences or useless information. Everything has a meaning.

Accept this by faith. You have nothing to lose and all to gain.

Here are some the signs your personal season is changing.

People exit your life. This changes the dynamic of your relationships which can have an affect on you.

New people enter your life. This brings new variables because of the adjustments one makes to insert someone new into their life.

You are no longer challenged. This is a sign that you may not be learning or growing any longer.

You are no longer curious. This is where the desire to learn may no longer be present. No hunger for thought, action, or information.

A feeling of restlessness. All can seem okay and you should be content and yet you are not.

Your long standing beliefs are questioned by you and you find yourself seeking fuller answers.

You are calm when all around you is in alarm mode

These are things we take for granted and may find that a season has passed us and we walked blindly through it, as if nothing was going on. Signs are an indication to be alert, observe, think, and analyze.

Use prayer and meditation to calm yourself, to focus on being prepared for the new season. You will find that as you become more cognizant of the signs, you will be better prepared to take of advantage of the season you are entering.

Remember Embrace a Season of Change.

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maxafier — Tue, 27 Sep 2011 05:44:32 +0000

by Paul Bica

How often we look over life and it seems that you are standing still, back at where you first started, or worse losing ground. This is one of the optical illusions of life. What feels like repetition is often just finishing lessons not learned. I want to encourage you to use the power of perception and attitude to start anew, refresh, take a new run at life because Starting Over Is Really Continuing.

So the concept comes from the thought that you cannot change the past of your memories, experiences, or relationships of the past. No matter how hard you they are now a part of one’s history. Exhilarating highs, excruciating lows, boredom, depression, excitement are all things that let us know we are in life because we are still changing for the better or worse.

One may hear, “You can create a new start today and begin the rest of your life”. It is true you can. Much like a book you can start another chapter but the book, or series of the book remains about you. It is continuity. The power is really you deciding, behaving, and focused on what comes next. You can embark and make the future different from the past by deciding where your story breaks, changes, or remains the same. Even remaining the same is different in that you conciously made the decision to and not by ommission.

Never forget this is really a continuation of who you are or decide to be. Know that you can dilute good experiences by wrong future decisions or dilute bad experiences by positive future decisions. It is what one decides to do one min, hour, day, week, month at time that speaks the outcome. This starts with thinking differently.

For those who decide not to fade into the woodwork and become both forest or trees I salute you. Your story can still be decided by determined, focused, and persistent actions to change the course and continue a new chapter in your life by declaring a new start, in specific direction.

If you are standing still do something that you control and move.
If you are declining do something that is consistent no matter how small and the decline will stop.
Should you find yourself back to where you are started look at yourself and your surroundings and acknowledge changes as proof that you are not where you were before.

Begin to focus on what is happening as opposed to what is not. Be contrary to what you don’t want to be by proactively deciding what you will be. Reformulate, reeducate, re-associate, refresh and goodness sake start over again if you must; because in all reality in your gut you know that Starting Over Is Really Continuing.

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Give Dignity With Your Handout | honour

maxafier — Mon, 12 Sep 2011 01:10:05 +0000

During this time of economic downturn there has still been a commendable outpouring of aid toward those less fortunate. This is great and virtuous. Yet it does not work for ongoing aid to those who find themselves in a continuous need of help.

Giving the same aid without a fundamental shift in understanding and a subsequent change of how to render the gift will in fact create an even greater negative situation for those receiving the gift.

Problem
Gifts to those lest fortunate are given from a place of concern, compassion, sympathy, and in some cases emphathy. The gratification that comes from contributing is liberating, gratifying, and causes a sense of well-being.

Result
Many times the gift is accompanied by more that just the gift itself. A result of the gift can be the feeling of gratefulness, happiness, and joy. Unfortunately embarassment, dependency, resentment, and anger at feeling helpless can be byproducts of the gift as well. No one likes feeling that they are at the mercy of another person. The feeling that one feels beholden to another person. In other words the feeling a lack of dignity which impacts ones self-esteem.

This is not to blame the giver in any way but this a mixture of feelings both positive and negative. Left uncheck it can lead to resentment by both parties. Yes. Even the giver may sense the uneasiness and iterpret it as a sign of ungratefulness.

My goal is to help the giver protect the act of charity from any downside by Giving Dignity With Your Handout.

Solution
Here is my solution that I copied from a man I admire very much, Robert Lupton, author of the book Renewing the City:Reflections on Community Development and Urban Renewal. I was in a seminar where Bob spoke about a better way to give charity. Bob blieved that many times our charitable acts strip a person of dignity because they are not in someway contributing or partnering in the act except by recieving.

The lesson I walked away with was that in giing charity to remember and allow someone to reciprocate with a gesture that allows them to walk away with their dignity. That may mean I give a person a TV but they will have to pick it up. It may mean one’s children recieve toys at Christmas but then the Dad is enaged to help me paint a room for someone else. A teenager recieves a loan but must tutor another child. The key is to not forget to allow the flow of goodwill to be extended by the reeipient of the gift to towards someone else.

By doing this you are Giving Dignity With Your Handout.

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Think Intentionally

maxafier — Mon, 05 Sep 2011 07:19:46 +0000

tribute to Ravindra Ghandi

This is a challenge to all. Make sure you are not just drifting through life. Take time to deliberately think, make decisions, and carry out those decisions with optimism and faith. In other words Think Intentionally.

  Here are several things that are in conflict with active thinking and living life in the present to create a future that you desire.

1. Let no one make a decision for you about your life.

Though we have relatives, friends, and acquaintances in our lives that are more than willing to give you an opinion about what you should and should not do with your life, it is important to not give up your right to make a decision about how you want to live.
Remember you will have to live with the consequences and therefore should decide what risk you are going to take.
Those who want to help may have information worth listening to and may have even faced a similar situation. Remember that they are not you. Retain your right to decide. Are you thinking intentionally?

2. You can question anything.

This is one of the signs of a healthy mental condition. Many messages come through the media, grapevine, and we are presented with propaganda daily to influence our outlook on life.
However compelling do not feel that you must accept what you are being told. The beauty of truth is that it welcomes the questioner, skeptic, and one who reexamines with open arms. The truth does not change based on whim, weather, time, or seeker.
Question your premise, assumptions, “facts”, and thoughts to see if they remain consistent under all conditions. Anyone who says not to question what is communicated, as truth, is knowingly or unknowingly an obstacle to intentional thinking. Are you thinking intentionally.

3. Not thinking about an obstacle removes its impact on your life.

This could not be further from the truth. Facing an obstacle is the best way to not be blindsided. Remember being less knowledgeable about what you are facing ill equips you to deal with the obstacle. Ignorance is to be in a state of not having knowledge and the root of the word is to ignore. This is willingly not knowing. It is better to know and to deal with the obstacle. Are you thinking intentionally?

4. This is the way it has always been.

This is giving an excuse for not thinking to figure something out. There is an element of laziness, irresponsibility, and unwillingness to think in this statement. This is the excuse of one who does not believe improvement is necessary, but that the status quo should be maintained.
Do not fall for this illusion of comfort. If one is not improving or looking to do so, then one is moving backwards and losing ground. Do not settle for the lowering of a standard. Think Intentionally.

5. Intelligence is the ability to speaking back what is taught.

This could not be further from the truth. A CD or tape recorder can do that. Intelligence is the ability to understand information and apply it to accomplish a desired end relative to that knowledge. Use your ability to think by applying knowledge and not just being a human parrot.
Though a memory ability may seem impressive it lacks the ability to bring about a result beyond its on repetition. There is the absence of understanding. It has to do with figuring something out.

Live your life intentionally by using your ability to think deliberately towards a desired end. Take control of your own mind. Test the premise of others arguments. Engage in continuous learning and trust your heart. Think Intentionally.

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5 Ways To Transform Your Behavior | transformation

maxafier — Mon, 08 Aug 2011 06:52:56 +0000

Abulic Monkey

Hear are some truths that may seem abstract until you apply them to real life. Check it out. Share with friends and then let me know if it strikes you in a way that shouts “You Can Say That Again“!

I would rather have a friend tell me something is wrong with me because afterwards they are
Continue reading You Can Say That Again | say again

It is easy to become occupied with finances, appearances, relationships and life in general. We look to improve our status in each of these areas. Improvements are based on the changing of our behaviors; actions and responses to events in life. In this case just getting up in the morning would qualify as an event.

Behavior are actions based on one’s attitude, outlook, and thoughts you take in life to cope with each event. If your behavior is not the one you desire take a look below at 5 Ways To Transform Your Behavior.

Change how you think by changing what information goes into your mind

To do this you need to get thoughts from others than yourself. This is done by changing what you read and with those whom you associate. Expressions of words, pictures, emotions, and knowledge from those who behave as you desire to behave. Pick a person or group and study them. Try their actions, words, and thinking. This transformation allows you to work out the changes through another’s help. What will come out on the opposite side of the transformation process will be not who they are but a new and improved you.

tribute to Mei Teng

Change what you eat

What you eat can determine all of the following and more: mood, self-esteem, health, wardrobe, finances, and relationships. Don’t go with the fad diets. Educate yourself on what is a good lifestyle diet. Food is one of the most tampered with items today through artificial means. There are ingredients added that are not at all healthy.

Make sure you decrease eating what is not so good for you and increase that which is good for you. Certified organic plant proteins, fruits, grains and vegetables should make up the greatest of your caloric intake in a day. Meat proteins should be a now and then thing. Eat less, more times in a day. Count your calories. Limiting calories is a sure way to positively changing your dieting behavior. The less active you are means the fewer calories you normally need. Make sure to see your physician before drastically changing your diet. Take it a day at a time.

Exercise your body

Walking briskly is a basic exercise that increases your oxygen intake, clears the mind to be alert, causes muscles to stretch, helps prevent negative results due to aging, and overall is healthy. This is a way to get back to or begin exercising if you need a place to start. A 30-45 minute stroll in your neighborhood 3-4 times a week will aid in your health with an added benefit for you to become aware of things that normally go unnoticed when driving in a vehicle.

Eventually running, biking, weightlifting, swimming, dance or any other physical activities on another level can be obtained through consistent practice. Who knows you may run the Boston Marathon.

Build healthy relationships

Interact with others. Find a mentor, companion, or friend. Have someone that pours good thoughts, actions, and energy into you and you into them. We are social beings and only negative states of mind cause us to not be social. Anger, bitterness, embarrassment, and fear are some of the things that prevent us from building healthy relationships.

Please allow me to state this very clearly, NO relationship is better than an unhealthy one.

The reason is an unhealthy relationship poisons you for future relationships. It is better to cut it off than to use it as a sham and fake for the real thing. It is like sabotaging your future relationships with a time bomb.

Make a decision to be happy

Decide every day that you are going to be happy. Make a pact with yourself to be grateful for the things that positive. Pinky swear (use both hands) with yourself, that when you are down you will began to recount your blessings. Sure you could complain but that just would attract complainers. You know “birds of a feather…”.

When you wake up give thanks that you are given another day. Make a decision to think about what makes you happy and dream about it. Learn to treat down times for what they are; seasons that change. Don’t force your happy outlook on others; bless them with the display of seeing you act out your decision to be happy.

If this is helpful to you let me know. Agree? Disagree? Either way I would love to hear from you!

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