Max's Maxims

Why Women Cheat?!

2008-09-12T13:11:00.000-07:00

Oprah is doing a show this week on “Why Men Cheat” with a ‘relationship expert’ named M. Gary Neuman. This guy has done extensive research with loyal and disloyal husbands trying to identify reasons that men go outside of their marriages. What shocked me about this entire thing is that women were completely left out of it. What about the women that cheat? Are there just too few to do a study? I seriously doubt it. It just seems odd to me that the focus is always on men when it comes to the topic of infidelity. The world is not that segregated… women cheat also and after being on the wrong end of that situation I just think maybe a study needs to take place that poses the question, “Why Women Cheat?”

Losing streak...

2008-07-15T09:18:00.000-07:00

I watch a lot of sports and I feel like my life has become like that of a terrible team. Just when I decide to turn things around and attempt to do things another way so that our family could be happier, it comes back to sucker punch me. I planned a picnic at the beach as a surprise to only be informed a few days earlier that Jenevive was leaving for some alone time. I was so angry that I couldn’t say anything. I didn’t tell Judy because I knew she wouldn’t understand and would be sad. She found out that her mom wouldn’t be there on that day. I couldn’t look at her sad eyes and just spaced out towards the water. When and how does one come off of a losing streak?

“Dog days…”

2008-07-09T10:12:00.001-07:00

Just what I needed. Woke up to find that the dog puked and shat all over the house. I don’t even let the dog lick me because of its germs – my wife didn’t even stop the dog from licking our daughter as if his drinking toilet water wasn’t enough to get her to stop him! So – ok – it was a big fight and then she tells me there’s a $400 vet bill and that I’m overreacting! What did I do to deserve this morning?!

I just can't help it..

2008-07-07T14:49:00.000-07:00

A few days ago, I attended my niece’s wedding. I watched the ceremony with my soon-to-be-ex-wife at my side. Memories of our own wedding flashed in my mind as vows were made and rings were exchanged. It was a struggle to keep my thoughts from straying to the unhappy times of our marriage. I guess past experience caused my perspective to become jaded. Sometimes I had the urge to yell, “Hold on! Have you really thought about this?” Will I ever feel completely comfortable at weddings – or will they always feel like funerals?

I need guidance..

2008-07-02T12:47:00.001-07:00

This divorce has shaken the foundation of this entire family. Sure, I'm in pain, but my daughter Judy is who I worry about most. She's visibly less happy. I’m trying not to be angry at Jenevive for creating this mess. How do I help Judy when I too am angry and upset?

Opposites Attract??

2008-06-26T13:56:00.000-07:00

Opposites Attract??

I've always liked order, maybe a little too much. I have a hard time getting used to the idea of not having things done my way - the right way. I don't understand why my wife can't put things back where they belong. Is it really that hard? I never thought that this would cause so many problems in my life. I was organized and systematic when she met me. Why is it such a big deal now?

If I were a character in a story. . .

2008-06-23T14:09:00.000-07:00

I don’t think I would read it. I don’t read much. I’m more of a TV guy. My key phrase in life has been “Why bother?” Now that my divorce is finalized, I have to ask myself, “Why didn’t I bother?” How many regrets must we live through in order to not live with regrets?