Medical Coverage

Discussing medical coverage may not seem important as you’re contemplating facing a lifetime together, but in today’s society when medical expenses are skyrocketing, you need to discuss your approach to health care. Does one of your employers provide insurance? Will you be able to add your new spouse to that insurance policy? If not, are there any temporary health insurance plans you can use until you find work or get settled in together? If your employment situation changes after you’re married, will you need health coverage between jobs?

If your future plans involve children, make sure to consider maternity coverage as you talk about insurance. Individual policies often don’t have this coverage. Many couples get married and don’t realize their coverage excludes maternity care. Some may have maternity coverage, but need to wait until they’ve had the policy in place for a set period of time before that coverage will set in. Knowing this ahead of time will help you make wise decisions about family planning.

Money

Money can be a source of major conflict in a marriage. Right now, you and your partner have separate incomes and can make your own decisions about how to spend money. Once you’re married, those incomes will be combined, and you’ll need to make joint decisions about how to spend the money. When there’s not enough money to meet all your desires, you’ll have to make a determination as a couple regarding the best ways to allocate funds.

To ensure you’re both on the same page prior to your marriage, sit down together and work out a budget. You may not know all of your expenses at the moment, but you can guess what many of them will be. Even if the budget changes once you’re actually married and living together, the exercise will pave the way toward a discussion about money.

Children

Do you want children? If so, how many do you feel would be ideal? When do you think you should start trying to have a baby? What alternatives would you seek if you couldn’t get pregnant on your own? These are all important questions to ask before you get married because the two of you need to be on the same page. While you don’t know what the future holds, having similar goals will help avoid conflict about this serious question.

In addition to talking about whether or not you’re going to start a family, you should talk about how you plan to discipline any children you have. This can be a contentious point, especially if one parent feels strongly about something like spanking. You want to avoid a surprise when the situation presents itself; once the children arrive, the two of you need to present a united front in raising them.

Talking through each of these three topics will give you not only the chance to make some plans for your future, but also to learn to communicate better. As you discuss these vital points, be sure that you listen to your future spouse’s point of view. If the two of you can come to some form of consensus on these three vital, yet sometimes controversial points, you’ll be setting the stage for a lifetime of open communication and a marriage built on mutual understanding.

One of the first transitional decisions is where to live after the wedding. In most cases, you should choose the most affordable option, which can be emotionally challenging. How will it feel if you have to give up your dream condo and move into his man cave? Will he take over your house with his sporting goods collection? Can you afford a totally new house that fits both of your needs? No matter where you choose to live, make a rational housing decision while acknowledging feelings as well as budget. If you decide to give up your home, talk with your fiancé about feelings of nostalgia. Work together to create a new home that meets both of your needs and includes design elements that fit both styles.

After choosing a new home, interview moving companies that can help you get settled before the wedding. Coming home from your honeymoon to piles of boxes that need to be unloaded will just add to stress. Part of the engagement period consists of creating a new home together, and moving in before the wedding is one less stress to face after the big day.

Next, discuss finances – this should really be a part of every discussion! Paying for a wedding can be expensive with a budget that includes a dress, flowers, reception and other details. Talk about what your bank account will look like after the wedding. Who will manage the checkbook? How much will you contribute to retirement accounts? How many vehicles can you afford to own? As you answer these questions, talk about spending habits as well. If you are a saver and your fiancé is a spender, identifying and discussing these facts before the honeymoon will ease the transition to marriage. Consider test-driving a joint bank account before the wedding as incentive to work through any financial issues you may face as a married couple.

In addition to these logistical transitions, address fears you may have about losing your individuality. Marriage means you no longer hold responsibility only for yourself. You must now accommodate your husband’s schedule and hobbies along with extended family, friends and hobbies. Maybe you fear losing your identity or giving up your weekly girl’s night out. In this case, take a few proactive steps to maintain your identity as the transition to marriage begins. Agree to take regular breaks. After all, your new husband will need time away too. View marriage as the birth of a new family and decide together how often you will visit extended family, meet up with friends and take trips. These decisions help ease the transition and set up an environment for discussion and compromise.

After agreeing to marry your beloved, recognize the reality of logistical and emotional uncertainties of the transition. Decide where to live, discuss how money will be handled and plan to retain individuality. With these three transitional needs out of the way, you can buy a dream dress, enjoy the celebratory bachelorette party and shop for a honeymoon wardrobe with confidence as you prepare to marry prince charming.

Care Packages                                                           

Care packages are a great way to help you feel connected to the person you love. Even if they’re in a completely different country, it can be fun to put together packages of items that make you feel closer, especially if you include things that are native to the place where you live. Then you can each share in your daily lives, despite the distance between you two. Your packages are just a worldwide express trip away so you can keep sending things back and forth.

Communication

When you’re dealing with any relationship, communication is an important key to staying together. This is even more important for long distance relationships. With the advances in technology today, you can stay in touch with each other easier than ever before. Long distance phone calls no longer cost more than most local calls. If you’re in the same country, a cell phone allows you to call with no long distance fees at all. In addition, you can stay in touch with video chats and instant messaging. Staying in touch on a daily basis can help you to maintain a level of intimacy in your relationship.

Letter Writing

Though many people are now using email and other electronic forms of communication, old-fashioned, hand-written letters can be a great tool in a long distance relationship. There’s just something even more personal about a hand-written letter you receive in the mail. Even though this form of communication takes longer to get from you to your lover, you’ll love having these letters in your hand to read over and over. You can even use perfume or some other method of scenting the letters to remind the love of your life of you when the letter is received.

Travel

In a long distance relationship, it only makes sense that one or both of you would travel to the other person’s location for a visit, ranging from a typical weekend visit up to a week or two for vacation. Spending time together becomes even more precious because of the distance. However, you can shake things up by choosing different destinations to visit together. You will both get new experiences, as well as share the cost of travel so neither one of you needs to bear the brunt of the travel costs or time. Many couples go on vacation together; when you are in a long distance relationship, that travel becomes even more special.

Keep Things Intimate

All relationships go through stale periods that can make one feel that you two just aren’t connecting. In long distance relationships, those periods can happen more often due to the distance. They key to overcoming these dilemmas is to keep things intimate. Send text messages, letters and emails that contain intimate subject matter. Even though it’s important to talk about casual and sometimes bland normalcies of your day, you need to establish intimacy in your relationship so it can grow and thrive.

Long distance relationships take a lot of work. Even though all relationships require you to work hard, it can be even harder to connect when you don’t see each other in person. However, if you make an effort with solid communication, travel together and send packages and letters, the two of you can connect just as well as couples who actually live together. Focus on keeping things intimate and special and you will reap all the benefits.

The practical implication of this is profound. If you’re both partners in the marriage, and if you’re both partly responsible for the relationship’s outcome, then neither husband nor wife can play a passive role. Neither partner gets a pass for sitting on the sidelines; making your marriage work requires both partners to be active and involved!

This is a point we must stress for husbands, in particular. Far too many husbands, in this day and age, think it’s okay to be a spectator in their own marriage. That couldn’t be further from the truth. Husbands, your involvement in the marriage relationship will have a tremendous impact on how the marriage turns out.

The quickest way for a husband to see his marriage deteriorate is to think that a happy relationship is just going to happen. Or, perhaps even more commonly, that healthy marital intimacy is just going to happen. These things don’t just come to you. You have to be active! And that means showing some real creativity and passion in how you pursue your wife.

Yes, pursuing your wife is something you must do even after the marriage is several years old; it’s not just the province of newlyweds! As the husband, you’ve got to stay ready and alert when it comes to cultivating romance. Here are just a few practical suggestions for doing just that:

1 Set the stage for a healthy, intimate, romantic marriage. And there is no better stage than a clean house—preferably one that your wife doesn’t have to clean! Show her your appreciation by either cleaning the house yourself, or hiring a maid service to do it for you.
2 Cook up some romance in the kitchen. Taking the time to find your wife’s favorite recipe, and then to make her dinner, will mean a lot—more than just getting her takeout, even.
3 Show some spontaneity. Let her know that you’re thinking about her. One of the best ways to do this is to leave her a sweet love note—in her car, her purse, or wherever she’s sure to find it. That will, in turn, get her to think about you all day long!
4 Buy her flowers or candy. Yes, this is a clichÈ—but it’s clichÈ for a reason! A romantic gesture like this will mean even more if it comes apart from Valentine’s Day, or her birthday.

The point is that a husband can be intentional and proactive in showing his wife how much he cares—and this is ultimately the best way to keep that spark of romance alive! What’s more, while a marriage does take some real work, the gestures noted here are fairly easy ways to move your marriage in the right direction.

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An Embarrassing Gift

Here’s an example of a thoughtful gift gone wrong. Mary found out her new boyfriend Mick’s birthday was coming up. She knew he loved items with the Jesus fish insignia on them so she decided to buy Mick a necklace and a keychain. Mary was so excited about her idea that she didn’t pay attention to the details of the necklace. The religious-themed keychain was perfect, but when Mick excitedly tried on the necklace, they discovered the chain was extra-long like a disco chain. It would’ve been perfect in the 1970s, but not 40 years later. Fortunately, Mick had a good sense of humor and they still laugh about the incident today. Mary has since learned some effective tips for stress-free gift giving that can help you when it’s time to give gifts in a new relationship.

• Know Their Likes and Dislikes. You and your date probably connected because you share a common interest, hobby, belief or goal. Capitalize on this knowledge when choosing the right gift. The bonus in this situation is that the common interest you share can be used to help you find a gift you know your date will like.
• Listen. When a person talks about himself or herself, he or she will often reveal their likes, dislikes and interests. Listen to what your date says. Write down your ideas or store them in your memory for future gift-giving occasions.
• The Element of Surprise. Surprises can be the catalyst for delight or disaster. If you really want to surprise your date with a special gift it’s a good idea to ask someone close to him or her, such as a friend or family member. They’ll know whether to confirm your idea or gently steer you in a better direction to avoid awkwardness and present your date with a gift he or she loves.
• Gifts to Avoid. The wrong gifts can ruin a great dating relationship by insulting your date or scaring him or her away. Personal items such as breath mints or scented products might make them wonder if you think they stink. It’s also wise to avoid gifts that focus on your likes and interests, rather than your date’s. You might enjoy playing video games, but if your date’s not a fan don’t buy him or her the latest popular game.

Gift-Giving Becomes Easier

The excitement and pleasure of enjoying “firsts” together as a new couple can occasionally be sprinkled with embarrassing and awkward moments…after all, you’re only human. But you can keep them to a minimum on gift-giving occasions by considering these techniques for choosing the right gifts and avoiding the wrong ones. Time and experience are the best teachers when it comes to picking out a gift for that special someone. As your relationship grows, you’ll get better at it and might even enjoy it more.

Game night

Some people completely change when they get into a competitive situation. Having a game night is one interesting way to see how your significant other acts when a win or loss is at hand. If you want it to be just the two of you, find a hall or bar with a pool table and shoot a few games, or play classic two-player card games like Gin Rummy, German Whist or Canasta. If you want a bigger gathering, find some other couples and play party games like Catchphrase, charades or Scattergories.

Training for a race

If you’re both athletically inclined – and even if you’re not – sign up for a race together and spend time training in the months leading up to it. Whether you want to run a 5K, train for a half marathon or participate in a triathlon, you’ll have to spend considerable time preparing for each race. Use the opportunity to run together and keep motivated to stick to your training schedule. The feeling of accomplishment when you finish your race will definitely bring you closer.

Charity work

Rather than doing something that’s focused on just the two of you, get out and do some charity work. There are plenty of volunteering opportunities in your city, from helping at a homeless shelter or food kitchen to participating in neighborhood clean-up projects. If you want to go a little farther, consider building a home with Habitat for Humanity or going on a mission trip with your church. Seeing each other in action can be a great way to grow closer and shared experiences are always a plus.

Hometown tour

You can learn a lot about someone by seeing where they grew up. One interesting date is going on a hometown tour. Of course, this may not be feasible if you or your significant other grew up on the other side of the country or overseas, but if your hometown is close, spend an afternoon giving a guided tour. Show off the house where you grew up, the schools you went to, where you played with friends, practiced driving before getting your license and favorite places you hung out at on the weekend. Numerous stories will inevitably surface during the tour and you can learn a lot about each other’s families and childhoods.

Regardless of the date idea you choose, focus on something interactive that gives you something to do alongside each other while you talk and interact. You can really get to know what someone is like when you take your dates beyond candlelit dinners and a newly released romantic comedy.

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1. El Santuario de Chimayó, New Mexico, draws pilgrims throughout the week preceding Easter Sunday. Local Christians and foreign visitors travel north of Santa Fe to the sacred Pueblo Indian site. This pilgrimage started in 1810 when a Chimayó friar found a burning crucifix buried in a sand pit on the hillside. The miraculous crucifix of our Lord of Esquipulas launched the building of a small chapel and caused many healings. A large mission, the Chimayó Shrine was built in 1816 to accommodate the growing number of miracle healings. Today’s visitors walk up to 100 miles to see the shrine and carry away a bit of sand from El Posito, the “sacred sand pit.” Photos of cured physical handicaps and diseases document the healing powers of this destination.
2. Travel to the monastery of Lindisfarne on Holy Island in Ireland for a journey to the center of early Christianity. Originally founded around AD 635, the ruins contain evidence of a medieval monastery dating back to 1083. Carry a cross during the Holy Week while camping under the stars and walking along the pilgrim pathways near Ireland’s famed seas, fields and woods. On Good Friday, walk barefoot across the ancient causeway from the mainland to the island where pilgrims transform their crosses with flowers in preparation for Easter Sunday. Following the Saturday evening service, join the procession along the beach. In addition to commemorating Christ’s death, celebrate the spirit of love, gifts and fellowship that characterize Christ on this pilgrimage sponsored by Northern Cross.
3. Walk for a week or a weekend across England when you join Student Cross. Eleven different legs provide pilgrims with a variety of choices for an unforgettable Easter celebration. Choose the leg that fits your time schedule and fitness level. Carry a cross as you walk to Walsingham and experience meals and sleeping accommodations in private homes. Meet travelers from other legs during the Easter weekend Paschal Party and the Saturday evening vigil. Christians of all denominations are welcome to experience this life-changing experience that hundreds of pilgrims have traveled since 1948.
4. Visit Jerusalem for a pilgrimage led by Franciscan tour guides and participate in daily Mass while experiencing the power of the Holy Land. On Good Friday, proceed along the Way of the Cross to re-enact Christ’s Passion and pray at the 14 stations along the Via Dolorosa and in the Church of the Holy Sepulcher. Participate in the Gethsemane Holy Hour where pilgrims from around the globe worship and commemorate Christ’s agony. Upon completion of the pilgrimage, receive a special certificate issued by Jerusalem’s Franciscan Pilgrimage Office.

When participating in one of these pilgrimages, remember to pack travel essentials. In addition to sturdy walking shoes, protective socks and comfortable clothing, make sure you always carry your passport and international medical insurance. Be sure to pack other items recommended by the pilgrimage site organizers. In most cases, you will need to pack light since pilgrimages can involve frequent moves from one site to another.

More than a sightseeing tour, a pilgrimage connects you to your faith in a real and powerful way. Make this year’s Easter season a special time. Celebrate Christ’s life and resurrection while meeting people from around the world who share your devotion.

Do you lie awake at night thinking about Mr. Right? Do fantasize daily about the Prince Charming you have yet to meet? Do you wonder where all the good guys have gone to? If so then let me reveal to you how to attract a man and keep him.

Physical appearance. They say that love is blind but although this may be true people don’t fall in love at first glance. First, there is physical attraction. That’s why you have to pay attention to your appearance. This includes make-up and manner of dressing. With make-up, keep it light and casual in the day. Don’t put on too much make-up. Most guys can’t stand a woman who is too made up. Too much make-up may only smother you. Enhance your natural beauty. Keep it light. With regards to clothes don’t be a fashion victim. A fashion victim is someone who wears the latest trends even if it doesn’t look good on her. Wear clothes that look good on you and you are comfortable in.

Know how to carry a conversation. Being old and boring is the fastest way to turn off a guy. He’ll be looking around the room five minutes after meeting you if you can’t hold your own in a conversation. Being a good conversationalist can reel a guy in and then you can hook him. When I say this I don’t mean that you do all the talking. A huge part of being a good conversationalist is knowing how to listen.

Know his interests. We are naturally drawn to people who are most similar to us. People who have the same interests, think in the same way we do and are basically like us. We also like talking about the things that we are passionate about. In order to hook a guy find out what his interests are. Engage him in conversation and talk about the things he likes best.

Make him feel special. Who doesn’t want to feel special? No matter how wealthy or powerful we already are we always want to feel special. This is why we value people who value us. Once you have hooked your man, you can keep him by making him feel treasured and loved.

Know your worth. A guy won’t appreciate a woman who is willing to drop everything for him. Make your guy feel special but always know your worth. People will value you only as much as you value yourself. No one wants to be with a person who has low self-esteem. Be confident and place high value on yourself. Never allow your man to treat you like dirt.

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1. Strengthen your bond

The stronger your bond with your partner, the higher your commitment will be. Therefore, you should always strive to strengthen the bond between you and your partner. You can do this by having enough time together with your partner and giving your utmost attention to her. You can have fun with your partner together by doing fun things in your spare time. Talk more, communicate more, and share more things with your partner.

2. Understand your partner

Know more about your partner, know about her feelings, and know about her likes and dislikes. Try to understand your partner more. Understanding is the key of success in your relationship. Once you understand your partner better, you will love her more. If you have huge love for her, you will automatically strengthen your commitment to her.

3. Make a strong intention in your heart

If you want to strengthen your commitment, you have to start from yourself. Make a strong intention to strengthen your commitment in your relationship. If you don’t have strong intention and willingness to strengthen your commitment, you will be easily distracted and you will have to experience difficulties in dealing with the distractions in your relationship. This will make you to easily “betray” your partner.

4. Support your partner

Keep supporting your partner no matter what happens. Whenever your partner needs your support, always be there for your partner. Support and encouragement are important things that you must have in your relationship. With enough support and encouragement, you can overcome the problems and obstacles in your relationship.

5. Trust your partner

There will be no commitment if there is no trust between you and your partner. A healthy relationship is a relationship that is founded with strong trust. So, learn to trust your partner. This will strengthen your commitment in your relationship. Strong trust will prevent relationship breakup as it will prevent big relationship conflicts triggered by jealousy and infidelity. When you trust your partner, you are strengthening the bond in your relationship.

6. Keep finding the positive sides of your partner

Everyone has their own negative and positive sides. It is just a matter of what is prevalent in each person. To strengthen your commitment with your partner, it is good for you to keep looking for the positive sides of your partner. Find your partner’s positive traits and remember them in your mind. It will increase your affection toward your partner. And of course, the more affection you have, the stronger your commitment will be. Just determine yourself to discover more positive sides of your partner and keep them in mind.

Those tips will help you to strengthen your commitment in relationship, and once you apply the tips above in your life, you will be able to prevent relationship failure. As previously stated, most relationship breakups are caused by lack of commitment. So, if you can strengthen your commitment, you will be able to keep your relationship stro

Kelly is a freelance writer that contributes to http://wish.co.uk where you can get some useful information when it comes to choosing gifts for your loved ones.

That’s usually coming from a person of mediocre looks, a dumpy figure, a number of personality quirks and no money. They are always quick to point out that once someone gets to know them, looks won?t count. Don?t get me wrong, you can usually see some good qualities in that person, knowing them as a friend. And princesses do kiss toads from time to time but let’s get realistic.

If you are truly looking for a great partner to share your life you have to take an honest look at yourself and really consider what is important to you. Really, honestly look at yourself. I just heard a 350 pound slob of a man say he would never go out with a woman who is overweight. Now when you get to know this guy you learn he?s hard working, smart and funny. But he isn?t rich or well known. And for him to dismiss a whole bunch of women based on their weight and then say he is looking for the right soul mate is very hypocritical.

While there is a saying that opposites attract the reality is that people who are alike, who have things in common are more likely to be happy with each other. Most people end up marrying someone whose looks would be rated similarly to them, whose personality has some quirks that can be lived with and whose economic situation is similar to theirs. We hear it all our lives and many of us spout the words- ?its what?s inside that counts? but then we end up sorting potential partners into categories by what they look like instead of getting to know them.

If you truly want to find a partner to share your life try giving the person with the dumpy figure, the odd personality or not so great job a chance. Go into any dating experience with an open mind, maybe the person that doesn?t fit your ideal partner profile at the beginning will become the light of your life.

The person who sticks rigidly to looking for a prince or princess will probably never marry and they are probably deep inside afraid of finding a person who wants to marry them anyway. Do you really, truly want a life partner? Then open your heart and close your eyes!

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